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25

It's still a numbers game in the end. Don't be threatening with your approach, and take the hint if you get turned down. At the end of the day, they're at a bar, which is an acceptable place to be approached.
/r/seduction21/03/25 11:08 AM
1

O yhink that's the biggest lie of seduction. It's a good marketing ploy, but honestly if people realized this from the start, things would be so much easier for everyone . The equivalent would be that you would sleep with any girl if she knew a bunch of techniques and worked on self improvement, but that's not true
/r/seduction11/02/25 11:59 AM
3

It could be reasons completely outside of op's control as well. Not every girl will sleep with you. But kino will increase your chances of getting girls that want you.
/r/seduction11/02/25 12:36 AM
1

"Men can logically assess good and bad qualities quickly and judge if she’s worth pursuing. " This is some serious bs. Women have more options than men, so choosing will take more time. Also the risk for women is a lot higher than men, from unwanted pregnancy to physical violence if they end up with the wrong guy.
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:45 PM
65

It's better to be thought of as a player than a lover loser, so you're doing a lot right. The girls probably think you're out of their league. If a girl specifically calls you a player, it means she's interested and testing you as well as seeing if she's just a notch in your belt. You could easily just respond and say "don't let reputations fool you". If you're looking for something serious, say you're open for it, but you haven't found the right girl
/r/seduction09/01/25 07:44 PM
1

She's done you a huge favor. She's disqualified herself from a serious relationship. If you want fwb, then just keep doing what you were doing and remember not to catch feelings. If you wanted something serious, then it's time to look elsewhere.
/r/seduction05/01/25 04:58 PM
9

Just have a get together where hopefully Becky brings Keisha again
/r/seduction02/01/25 05:58 PM
3

Ok, then that's fine. You said you were looking only for a few months, that's not a long time. I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for.
/r/seduction31/12/24 02:52 AM
5

He's not saying date down, but just because you're in to goth chick's doesn't mean they're into your lifestyle.
/r/seduction31/12/24 02:39 AM
2

Absolutely correct. The key takeaways from this sub should be how to increase your chances of having a girl like you, how to tell if a girl likes you, and how to proceed I'd she does. If she's not into you, than the best thing to do is move on to someone who is.
/r/seduction28/12/24 12:44 PM
2

You're right, I'm confusing this with how well the person you're flirting with reacts to your escalation. Does she pull back when you approach them, engage in conversation, allow you to touch them, etc.
/r/seduction14/12/24 02:05 PM
4

In some ways yes. If she's not willing to do something simple with you, she's not dtf, and it's better to focus your energy elsewhere
/r/seduction14/12/24 01:08 PM
2

It's valid, but not something that will work if you keep using it.
/r/seduction14/10/24 02:03 PM
1

Don't be, the first time is awkward and that's normal. You'll get better with experience.
/r/seduction06/08/24 02:01 PM
5

A good tip would be ro change the "shy" personality mindset. You're not shy, this is an area you lack experience in, so you're rightly nervous because you don't know what to do. Treat it as a skill you're working on and that you'll need practice and training to improve .
/r/seduction01/08/24 12:52 PM
4

Meetups, especially with activities you like. Fond the social able people, befriend them, propose activities that will attract people you're trying to find. It will take time and won't be easy unfortunately.
/r/seduction01/08/24 11:02 AM
8

They don't need to be attractive though it doesn't hurt. But they do need to be chill and it helps if they're doing interesting things where you can meet their friends or new people. And if you're friends with these people, their friends will have a higher chance to be friends with you.
/r/seduction01/08/24 03:10 AM
72

I always viewed game as not messing up with the who is into you as well as increasing that number. Getting fit, improving your social circle, dressing better, speaking and behaving constantly all help you get that chance
/r/seduction31/07/24 04:21 PM
34

The man is going out, getting dressed well, taking care of his body and also making himself available. Yes, there is luck, but there's a lot of work behind the scenes too.
/r/seduction24/07/24 12:11 PM
1

“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life.” - Jean Luc Picard You're misinterpreting the quote. You can do everything write and lose sometimes. Depending on what you're trying to do, you can lose a lot too. With cold approaches, even pros lose a lot. Game helps you lose less. It also helps you identify girls who might be into you and weed out the ones who aren't. If a girl's not into you, no amount of game will change that.
/r/seduction04/07/24 11:11 AM
1

If she knows your height, she doesn't care about it. She probably likes your energy, and having an attitude where you don't care about your height is what's hot for her.
/r/seduction23/05/24 05:08 PM
13

Hah, I turn video off cuz I'm wearing a tank top or pajamas half the time
/r/seduction04/08/23 10:13 AM
1

Is that an updated version. I have a pdf, but don't recall any dronk buying
/r/seduction10/07/23 08:55 PM
3

It isn't. Another 10-15% is actually making approaches
/r/seduction31/05/23 08:28 PM
3

I agree, most nyc women are not smoking hot.
/r/seduction09/05/23 11:30 PM
4

She may legitimately want to settle down. But you guys have skipped a lot of steps before even discussing having kids.
/r/seduction04/07/22 02:45 PM
20

I totally understand where you're coming from. Now you need to get to the point where you confidence can come from within and independently.
/r/seduction05/06/22 02:16 PM
1

There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have similar values. Guys definitely want that from there relationship partners. The problems arises because men don't understand that shit tests are about identifying these values, not being annoying/bitchy. I get why women do it, it's an crude, quick way to see how a guy acts in a demanding situation, when women have little time to filter out lots of men. But it feels manipulative, and too many shit-tests become a deal-breaker.
/r/seduction19/05/22 08:07 PM
2

Sometimes shit tests are legit. They're not meant to harm the guy, but for a woman to see how you react under a difficult scenario. Will you stand your ground or abandon your values, and if you're not able to stand your ground, how will she know you are a reliable partner going forward.
/r/seduction19/05/22 05:49 PM
2

If they've talked to you for 30 minutes and given you there number, the chance that they're not interested is much lower though.
/r/seduction17/05/22 11:55 AM
1

It's not, look uo di Carlo escalation ladder. It used to be in the far fir this sub, not sure if it still is
/r/seduction21/04/22 02:13 PM
1

Hey OP, it's awesome to see you're making choices to improve your life. That is attractive, and it's even more attractive if you're doing it for yourself instead of for ladies. You mentioned that you'll start approaching after you've gained the weight. While improving your physical stature will give you better results, there's a mental component to it as well. Keep working on your health, but keep approaching. There's parallel skill sets to work on, and you can definitely do both! Being more soc…
/r/seduction13/04/22 01:06 PM
1

When you see her in person, at a time where she's not super horny, tell her she was really hot when she was being submissive. Then ask her what she was into and have some of your own suggestions and preferences too.
/r/seduction03/04/22 06:33 PM
17

This seduction stuff is to make sure you don't fuck it up when a woman is into you.
/r/seduction26/03/22 11:51 AM
5

People are horrible at guessing this kind of stuff. Are there any studies on adultery rates by gender/age/income/country that you can site before accusing half the population of being more promiscuous because they're more emotional?
/r/seduction26/03/22 11:49 AM
2

Let her have her fun, as long as she knows the dangers of too much time on social media and can handle it, it's fine.
/r/seduction10/03/22 11:04 PM
34

Actually, there's really good advice here, you just need to parse it correctly. Men, your success rate on approaching will be much higher if the girl is interested in you to begin with. Look for these indicators of interest and approach those ladies. But don't get disappointed if it doesn't work, the girl may legitimately not be available.
/r/seduction31/12/21 04:37 PM
0

Yes, when women say they want guys to make the first move, this is it. Alternatively you get what happens now with a majority of blowouts and women posting TikTok vids of creepy guys.
/r/seduction18/12/21 03:20 PM
-2

You missed a key point here though. Women want guys, who they are interested in, to approach them, when they are in the mood to do so. Now that's a lot of caveats, but I don't blame them for it. I don't want a stranger trying to sell me something if I'm not interested, and I definitely don't want to have it happen every time I'm outside. People advocating for cold approach to be normalized are basically advocating unwanted sales calls, and people are so fed up with that, that governments are ban…
/r/seduction18/12/21 12:36 PM
1

There's a book I really liked that discussed this. "Undercover Sex Signals" and despite the clickbait title, it does a good job at highlighting if a girl is interested in you. The image examples they give are definitely over the top, but the main point is that in many ways it's actually the girl that makes the first move. Except the move they give to show they are interested is very, very subtle. But basically that gives you a sign she's interested in at least making the approach. 99% of the stu…
/r/seduction18/12/21 12:31 PM
2

Unless you're at the beach, a six pack won't matter at all.
/r/seduction26/07/21 02:33 PM
4

Why does 5 seem weird. You should have other things to focus j besides dating.
/r/seduction22/07/21 01:43 PM
1

This used to be in sidebar and FAQ and should be required reading. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlmra/dicarlo_escalation_ladder_concise_and_emphasized/
/r/seduction30/06/21 09:49 PM
13

This post is about not putting girls on pedestal. Black Lives matter is about police killing people due to the color of their skin.
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:18 PM
2

No, those guys are jerks and only dominate the week. Your goal is to not be dominated and keep your frame.
/r/seduction02/04/21 09:49 PM
6

"I'm not sure if something like this can be practiced or if this is something you just are born with." Of course it can be practiced. Yes, the first time you do it, it can come across wrong. That's why you recalibrate and adjust. It is a lot easier to do this if you tease everyone, not just girls you like, because it becomes more natural, fun and laid back.
/r/seduction15/01/21 04:52 PM
10

Better rule, exercise. Whatever you wear will look better if you're fit
/r/seduction21/12/20 05:23 PM
2

You seem to have a strong desire to learn and improve and that will serve you well! Attempting to reach your goals is where the real growth and improvement will be.
/r/seduction27/11/20 04:56 PM
2

Exercise is one easy way. It will improve your health and your mindset. Try meditating. It's basically exercise for your brain. Engage in a hobby you like, particularly if it involves other people as well. Build these habits, carve out time for yourself to do them.
/r/seduction27/11/20 03:48 PM
2

These questions are ridiculous and show your mindset is fundamentally wrong. 😪 Listening to her or not listening to her will not make you confident. I know there us a fake it to make it approach fir being confident, but this isn't the way to do that. At the very least, stop being worried about your value in a woman's eye. Focus on building value for yourself.
/r/seduction27/11/20 02:50 PM
1

Right, and if you try to force her or somehow convince her to do it, it will make the situation worse. The more you fail, the shittier you will feel and the shittier she will feel. Is couples counseling an option for you?
/r/seduction10/10/20 09:54 PM
1

I think this is somewhat the right answer. Your self-esteem isn't broken and doesn't need to be fixed. It us weak though and you just have to build it up again using methods others suggested in this thread. You wouldn't say your body is broken because you can't squat an insanely high amount, you would just gradually train it to increase its max.
/r/seduction17/09/20 01:26 PM
2

Why are you confused, she wants the D.
/r/seduction11/09/20 03:27 PM
3

I was in the same boat as you. Start with hand shakes, high fives, body posture. Also, don't worry about things not coming naturally. You CAN get better with practice. Touching isn't creepy, it is caring <though with covid, it is a bit tougher >. I feel your challenges are far more mental than technical. You do deserve success, you are attractive, women like you, and it isn't a big deal.
/r/seduction11/09/20 03:14 PM
3

https://www.scribd.com/doc/202670438/Kino-Escalation-Ladder-2nd-Edition-Vin-DiCarlo
/r/seduction11/09/20 02:51 PM
2

Physical contact is great for escalation. I think the faq has an escalation ladder which is really good.
/r/seduction11/09/20 02:29 PM
1

if you're comfortable with it, it isn't a problem.
/r/seduction11/09/20 02:27 PM
5

True, but you can still exercise and get in shape, this is one place where it us easier for guys than girls.
/r/seduction11/09/20 02:26 PM
1

Help if you want to. Mostly this won't be an issue because people don't buy more than they carry.
/r/seduction09/08/20 11:06 PM
2

Yes, different women like different cologne on different men. If there was one wonder cologne every side would wear it.
/r/seduction29/07/20 09:39 PM
6

I mean if you cold approach daily, its going to be more natural... That's how habits are formed. So there is definitely value in overcoming the approach anxiety. He's found out that nothing bad happens from it and the world doesn't end in rejection.
/r/seduction10/07/20 05:35 PM
1

That sounds like a pretty obvious reaction...
/r/seduction16/03/20 03:14 PM
51

It's not chess, it's a dance.
/r/seduction20/12/19 03:43 AM
25

Being fit and boring still hotter than just boring.
/r/seduction08/12/19 12:43 PM
6

Because poor people can't afford therapists or enough drugs to do on...
/r/seduction30/11/19 01:01 PM
2

Maybe you should just move on... It sounds shallow, but sometimes NEXT is very solid advice.
/r/seduction21/11/19 05:02 PM
5

Maybe she had a bf and had second thoughts... She is the crazy one, not you. Why are you trying to use logic to identify the actions of a crazy person.
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:59 PM
6

Maybe she found someone else. Maybe she got back with her ex. Thousands of reasons having nothing to do with you
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:52 PM
1

Alternatively, try physical group activities like hiking or rock climbing.
/r/seduction11/10/19 11:31 AM
10

Would you be happy being approached by gay dudes who want to fuck you, who are physically intimidating, multiple times a day, regardless of your mood... Calibration is important.
/r/seduction09/10/19 07:31 PM
2

More keno / touching. If she's interested, she will recip8, if not she will pull away and you have your answer.
/r/seduction20/09/19 01:26 PM
1

Think of it like any process. You're not going to be a great musician the first time you play an instrument.
/r/seduction16/09/19 03:07 AM
1

Chicks dig scars! If they're chatting you up, then they're interested. Them being friendly is because you're not indicating romantic interest in them. You can do this by more touching, more body language
/r/seduction15/07/19 03:58 PM
2

If you're in good shape, you're attractive. The other stuff is all in your head. As for girls seeing you as a friend, you really need to up your knee (touch) game. Don't worry about rejection, at some level, this us all a numbers game.
/r/seduction15/07/19 11:25 AM
0

3% man book is a good guide for game and frame while in a relationship.
/r/seduction27/03/19 05:59 PM
2

Could you go to gym and lift and put some work into you. As the gains improve, your face will look better too.
/r/seduction27/03/19 05:47 PM
15

Excuses, excuses. Just lift and eat bro.
/r/seduction25/02/19 12:22 AM
1

So this is more of a guideline for sex on first date than ingeneral?
/r/seduction12/02/19 03:58 PM
2

"Currently I keep reminding myself that I am valuable and that I love myself, even if deep down I don't feel it a 100%. Is this the appropriate way to go about it?" I don't think you need to take this. You are valuable, you have to love yourself, but at the same time, you can have a bad day and that's ok.
/r/seduction03/02/19 09:37 PM
9

Kids pay attention to EVERYTHING
/r/seduction16/01/19 06:29 PM
3

Good list, but the first 3 points can really be grouped together into, exercise and get fit. Your posture will improve, and even your cheap clothes will look much better on you (though it's worth getting a new wardrobe if you got fit, but do this after getting fit.) Definitely agree with showering everyday and wearing deoderant. Don't know if cologne is necessary, but definitely be clean. Eye contact, really good tip in the video, especially with the examples!
/r/seduction02/01/19 05:21 PM
13

Kind of. OP should have been dancing with girls and having lots of fun even before going to formal. Also, his crush might have already been asked by someone else before.
/r/seduction17/12/18 04:50 PM
18

Maybe she's fed up with receiving random numbers while working...
/r/seduction12/12/18 06:46 PM
22

Shows op is considerate of himself as well.
/r/seduction13/10/18 03:38 PM
5

I used to be like you, and at many times, still am. One thing I would advise is to say "Hi", immediately. Forget 30 second rule, it has to be a 5 second rule. You don't say hi to someone 30 seconds after saying next to them. On the plus side, it puts you in the front foot. She might be caught off guard and will have to respond. You can gauge your next response from if she seems attracted to you. You can improve your attractiveness by improving your own fitness, style, body language, and this ove…
/r/seduction25/09/18 04:35 PM
21

Shyness is just lack if experience and practice mixed with fear of failure. You're not shy, you're afraid to fail because you believe if you get refected, you will be mocked in your sociy group and excluded. Being afraid of getting kicked out of a tribe is a valid fear as for our ancestors it would mean literal death. You need to embrace rejection as a learning method. You very well will fail with your approach. Don't get down on it, just try again with a goal of improvement. It's not easy, but …
/r/seduction25/09/18 01:59 PM
7

Because a lot of dudes are going to skip lifting and over applying cologne. It's the male equivalent of lipstick on a pig
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 11:00 PM
4

Nervousness is more lack of experience than anything else.
/r/seduction12/09/18 12:15 AM
2

Not a boss / manager situation. I can deal with that (and if you do manage to be a boss / manager, you generally need some leadership skills). I'm stuck dealing with an assistant organizer at an event I go to. My aim is to avoid him and just do my own thing when possible, but it's not always possible.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 12:55 PM
1

What is the strategy to take if they have some position of power / responsibility that they use to fuck with you though...
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 09:50 AM
2

Women don't want to be assholes, but it's the most efficient way to get a guy to fuck off, and sometimes the only.
/r/seduction30/05/18 10:25 AM
1

Imagine average and ugly girls approaching you every day while you're doing mundane shit. You also have hot girls approaching you. The average and ugly girls will get annoying and you will be rude just to get rid of them.
/r/seduction30/05/18 03:23 AM
1

Very little in the book goes on how to get them interested. He clearly mentions that if a girl views you lower than a 5, don't even bother wasting the time. If the girl isn't crazy interested, then you need to move on to someone who is. In the mean time you can work on yourself overall (diet / gym / clothes / career / hobbies / friends).
/r/seduction01/05/18 02:29 PM
2

A lot of people are minimizing this fear, but it is a valid one based on evolution. Getting rejected by the tribe could mean death back in the caveman days, and that's why this fear has stayed with so many for so long. Now that you know why this fear exists, you don't have to feel inferior about it. You can actually work to counteract it by owning who you are and learning to be unfazed by rejection, a very useful skill.
/r/seduction25/04/18 10:51 AM
2

You're not a loser, you're inexperienced and confidence isn't going to fix that so don't let it take your confidence away.
/r/seduction18/03/18 11:53 AM
11

Cold showers build up immunity to cold showers. Approaching makes you better at approaching. Approaching doesn't let you with stand cold showers
/r/seduction11/03/18 01:30 AM
7

The discipline you develop from exercising regularly is even more important than the gainz 😀
/r/seduction17/02/18 03:37 AM
25

You lost 30 pounds in 2 months...
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 10:19 PM
2

Why do you say shallow? Human evolution is designed for us to find mates that will lead to healthy children. It's basic survival and explains why men are more turned on by a model than Angela Merkel.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/17 11:49 AM
1

Fitness isn't primarily based on genetics and wealth, especially for a guy.
/r/seduction27/01/17 07:39 PM
1

You're right, it's not his aggression rating, it's the likelihood he'll use a nuke that skyrockets.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/10/16 05:47 PM
3

Nah man, if they wanted to make his stats real, he wouldn't nuke civs, they'd lower the aggression rating, but code it properly so that if it goes below zero, it doesn't flip to the highest rating. This was a very funny quirk from civ 2, and kept in place because people loved it.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/10/16 05:42 PM
20

The 30s career women in NYC are nothing special either. The issue is that they think they are and the real world is sex in the city
/r/TheRedPill27/09/16 12:50 PM
12

France was the country that banned paternity tests. It's also the country where having a girl on the side while married us not an issue
/r/TheRedPill13/09/16 12:42 PM
5

Planned Parenthood and Sex-ed courses, these two things need to be more funded, not less. Still, there's a lot of personal responsibility involved, and people need to realize the consequences of their actions.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/16 09:30 PM
0

How about actually working in corporate....
/r/TheRedPill27/08/16 12:30 PM
0

That's not true. Promotions aren't provided by your peers but by your managers. As long as the manager is not threatened by you than you will be able to move up on merit and skills (including people skills).
/r/TheRedPill27/08/16 11:23 AM
2

Being mad at yourself isn't the worse place to start. It means that your problems are entirely within your realm of control to solve. As long as you don't stay mad at yourself , but rather start working on yourself than you took the right first step. The people that say life isn't fair and blame everyone else rather than work on themselves are the ones who are in trouble.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/16 10:59 AM
1

Smoker, 36, bad with money, yeah OP dodged a bullet there for an LTR. Dumping her is the kick in the but he needs to go and get another girl.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/16 08:04 PM
2

NYC is a bit of a different beast, but with 100k and no family to support, she should have a lot more saved.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/16 08:02 PM
4

The great thing about keto is that it's sustainable and delicious.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/16 08:39 PM
1

They're not pretending... women really do live rich famous alpha men ...
/r/TheRedPill15/07/16 07:22 PM
5

How is having a kid zero investment in time and money...
/r/TheRedPill15/07/16 07:18 PM
2

And who knows what his mental state will be in his last few years. It's great that he's still banging a 20 year old at his age, but having kids is a big deal.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/16 07:17 PM
2

You can do both. No need putting chicks off while doing it otherwise your game will still be zero.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/16 11:13 AM
3

While there is an element of luck, OP improved his chances the best he could. He had something worth selling, and he also used his marketing skills to make it more alluring. There was thought and effort behind it, all factors under OPs control.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/16 11:54 PM
3

Yup. The author does a great job explaining why women want validation rather than support in a logical way. They aren't doing it because if vanity but because of evolutionary forces it's their best chance to remain with the tribe
/r/seduction04/05/16 10:46 AM
3

NYC is a big place though. Compared to Montreal, the chicks aren't nearly as hot and its all lipstick on a pig regardless of their cash. The ratio of women to men is favorable but that may be because most women who can keep a man move out once they do due to expenses in raising a family
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 09:13 AM
1

Yeah, like Ellen Pao....
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 02:51 PM
2

If your dad really is making that much money, have him talk to a financial planner and ask him what he needs to do for a marriage and protect himself, his work and his business. He may be BB with women, but if he' s making that much cash, then he's definitely alpha in the business side. Try leveraging that.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/16 03:08 PM
53

Fracking's a great way to be a millionaire, if you're a billionaire.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/16 02:29 PM
6

I thought he was on Conan? His skit in Hawaii was hilarious. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-TfZslHKoo
/r/TheRedPill05/03/16 12:25 AM
46

Milf or teen, no in-between
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 07:41 PM
22

There is absolutely no valid reason for a guy to get married in today's age, considering you can get fucked with even an iron clad prenup.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/15 06:12 PM
1

Exactly. Something cheeky like, I can't make you best man, but could get you with the groomsmen would demolish that test. OP, girls will always give you shit tests, so you need to be able to deal with it.
/r/TheRedPill22/09/15 12:23 PM
1

Possibly, they frequently lose to boys U-15 teams.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/15 11:54 PM
3

Biggeek's advice is right for dealing with AMOG, but not for best friends. Cut the cock blocker out and keep improving
/r/seduction02/07/15 11:32 AM
4

The Joker is a fake and unrealistic character. Having him as any sort of model is as bad as having a Disney Princess as a model.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 10:06 PM
1

It all goes south and he then smears her on his webzine. She sues for a cool billion dollars and ends up winning 23 million. " It all goes south and he then smears her on his webzine. She sues for a cool billion dollars and ends up winning 23 million. " The CEO was dumb, dumb, DUMB
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 01:11 AM
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Remember, the idea of crushes are as bad for you as it is for the girl. Imagine someone thinks you're perfect, even though you know you have so many flaws. How can you have any sort of healthy relationship with a person like that?
/r/TheRedPill07/06/15 05:40 PM
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Because someone in someway pointed TRP out to us. Yes you have to have the desire to be able to look for it, but when someone is looking for it, then point it out to them. Besides, competition is one way to challenge and push yourself further.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 12:26 PM
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Random links to cat, upbeat happy ending. Yeah, you're right, looking at it with a more critical eye it does seem very fake. They're dating for 7 years and suddenly she becomes pregnant and he suspects its his?
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 09:10 PM
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So like karma points except with real negative consequences?
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 10:30 PM
2

There's a lot of hate towards jocks from bluepillers. A lot of people don't realize / appreciate the discipline and work needed for an athlete or even someone who is just trying to stay in good shape. It's also really poor people are classified as jocks / nerds when it is very possible to be both smart and fit.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/15 01:01 AM
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Exactly. OP has oneitis and is not at a level where he can spin plates. This post shows it. OP your next field report better be about you starting to lift more and trying to pick up other chicks.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 11:26 AM
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Especially when you're on a work visa, such a dumb move. If you think with your dick, don't be surprised when you're fucked.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/15 08:39 PM
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Not sure how moving to Asia is gonna help OP get over his problems of relying on others for validation...
/r/TheRedPill17/03/15 02:47 PM
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You can want children and still want to avoid possibility of divorce rape
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 11:49 AM
1

Eye contact is important in the initial introduction and key points. Holding eye contact during the entire conversation is awkward.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/14 04:44 AM
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Dumping the article on a 5PM friday, really classy Rolling Stone, really classy.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/14 03:57 AM
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If you're coming for a family you can easily do a lot of prep work before hand making the job easier. Get the rice or pasta boiled and the meats marinated before hand. Have some frozen food for emergency days. Scaling up the cooking isn't that hard, directly if that's you're doing it for years
/r/TheRedPill30/10/14 12:40 AM
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Poor marketing move by Walmart, they really should have done better.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 08:40 PM
4

You don't shame the guy with debt issues, but you certainly don't give him a loan. That's the only lesson to take out of this.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 04:54 PM
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Someone said that if you're not willing to walk away during a negotiation, you have no power at all. Good advice outside of relationships as well.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 07:50 PM
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"It won't be spectacular for you or her, that's how that first time goes for everybody. Don't make a big production out of it or apologize. Just smile and go with the flow." First time was awful for me (and it wasn't even a case of nerves).
/r/TheRedPill17/07/14 06:38 PM
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You're using your moral standards as an excuse. What "moral" standard are you violating here? You're not raping her or taking advantage of her.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/14 06:58 PM
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How can wasting your time to teach her a lesson help you in any productive way? You don't need to spend time to teach her a lesson, she's not your kid. You need to spend your time creating more options for yourself. This will indirectly teach her a lesson that you have other things to do, and if she's not willing to respect your time, you certainly won't respect hers. This is your problem, but it's a good thing, because you can fix your problems, you can't control others..
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 01:30 PM
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if you're out of shape, cardio is good to start with, but you'll need to hit the weights to put on muscle. Regardless, any type of exercise is gonna make u feel much better.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/14 05:12 PM
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No, no, no. Doing any action with the intention of "getting back with your ex" is the wrong thing to do. Op needs to find another girl and get his drinking/smoking under check. He's clearly got dependency / addiction issues he needs to sort out first. Find another chick and see how fast his feelings for the first girl go away.
/r/seduction20/05/14 06:17 PM
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Health wise maybe, but the mental strain of thinking you look like shit is going to destroy your self-esteem.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 02:01 PM
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I thought these were just marketing tactics...
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 09:12 PM
2

Open lots of women will create the familiarity (practice / practice / practice). The first time you do anything, you'll bomb out for sure, except you won't take it personally. That's the only thing that's different between approaching women vs other tasks we take up for the first time.
/r/seduction10/03/14 05:40 PM
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Why do you have such oneitis for her? It doesn't sound like you dated or as if she's anything special from your description. Maybe understanding this will help you get over your problem. What if you succeeded with her and she became your GF, what would that solve.
/r/seduction28/02/14 04:12 PM
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It looks like your physical and verbal actions are not in sync. You've got the kino going which is great, but like someone posted earlier, your text game is weak. Too much permission seeking. Your kino was strong, but your text game sounds like "mind if I touch your boobs". Should have just gone with what happyjerk posted earlier. Alternatively she really could not be into you.
/r/seduction18/02/14 08:01 PM
2

Either way, it doesn't hurt to not play beta. Yeah, confidence is huge to getting ahead. Don't ignore your skills, and don't be afraid to big them up
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 12:12 AM
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or "the only pants she wears are yoga pants" Of course it's easy to come up with a quick one liner after thinking about it for a few minutes. The key is to hold your frame. What happened is that someone just insulted you (and not as a joke). You can either stare them down and not respond or respond very curtly and say that's a sexist and unprofessional comment and just take the piss out of her that way in a tone to let her know you're not one to be fucked with.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 06:00 AM
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You can come in fat and ugly, but just shower and put a suit on when you come in. If you're coming in for an interview, at that point, it's not even HR's decision. On the phone, they're just looking for basic fit.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 03:00 PM
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Yeah, HR doesn't have super user access to Facebook. What you should do is change your facebook name (or at least the last name, and use a very professional photo for linkedin).
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 02:57 PM
3

If you're having problems with feeling, try some lube, or add some lube in the condom as well.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 09:04 PM
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Unless she decides to file a rape charge or he knocks her up It sounds like a satisfying read, but the dude lost all control.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/14 12:58 AM
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I do, a lot of 30 year olds can sound like kids (men and women).
/r/TheRedPill27/01/14 03:20 PM
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"nline I get messages from women out of the blue, but they are all pretty bad looking. They too use the "cute" complement." Do you know how many messages a hot chick gets online. Unless you yourself are a 9 or a 10, you're not going to get messaged from them.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/14 03:30 PM
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I think you mean to say "how easy the hot, young woman has it in this world"
/r/TheRedPill16/12/13 04:10 PM
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The end result of a neg is a smile, otherwise it's not a neg but an insult. That's the key point here and it took me a long while to get the balance of neg/insult right. It shows confidence(with women especially)/humor/indifference/ in one quick action.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/13 10:03 PM
2

Sorry to make it sound like I was criticizing you. It was more of a criticism of someone who would interrupt a lecture.
/r/seduction01/11/13 06:01 PM
2

Who criticizes during a middle of a presentation? Isn't that what Q & A is about (and that's about asking questions as well).
/r/seduction01/11/13 03:34 PM
1

Agree, the more the merrier. Also, she doesn't feel comfortable just yet (and you guys had a messy breakup) so she needs to feel safe.
/r/seduction08/08/13 08:53 PM
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Chapter 5: Polarization  We can divide up all of the women you’re attracted to into three categories: Receptive, Neutral and Unreceptive.  Let’s start with Unreceptive. Women who are Unreceptive are just that: they’re unavailable and/ or uninterested in having a sexual/romantic relationship with you.  The goal with Unreceptive women is to identify them and move on as quickly as possible. They’re time-sinks. Typically, if women are unreceptive, they’re unreceptive for a good reason, and there’…
/r/seduction01/08/13 06:07 PM
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Chapter 4 – The Gift of Truth  The debate of whether to show interest to a woman or to not show interest to a woman has been raging in pick up circles and men’s dating advice for well over a decade now. And as time goes on, the show interest camp is slowly pulling ahead. It’s leading to more success, less effort and more honest interactions.  The debate of whether to show interest to a woman or to not show interest to a woman has been raging in pick up circles and men’s dating advice for well …
/r/seduction01/08/13 06:07 PM
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Chapter 3 – Vulnerability  When most men hear the word “vulnerability,” their immediate reaction is to associate it with weakness. In general, men are raised to withhold their emotions, to not show weakness, and to ignore any hint of introspection. I want you to think of vulnerability in a more broad way. Not just emotional vulnerability, but physical vulnerability, social vulnerability.  For instance, making yourself vulnerable doesn’t just mean being willing to share your fears or insecuriti…
/r/seduction01/08/13 06:07 PM
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Chapter 2 – Emotional Neediness  How attractive a man is inversely proportional to how needy he is. The needier he is in his life, the less attractive and vice-versa. Women don’t judge a man’s status by the car he drives or how many VIP tables he buys. They judge it by his behavior, and the behavioral trait they pick up on is neediness. The opposite of neediness is actually the root cause of female-to-male attraction.  Women are generally only attracted to men who are less invested in them, th…
/r/seduction01/08/13 06:06 PM
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Chapter 1 – What Attracts Women  Women don’t distinguish social status or being an “alpha male” through material possessions – otherwise every guy flashing his expensive watch at the bar would be getting laid - but rather women judge it by behavior, as behavior. Women don’t perceive status only by the words you say, they judge your status by all of your behavior -- towards them, towards others and but most importantly, towards yourself. Most of this behavior is non-verbal. And most of this non-…
/r/seduction01/08/13 06:06 PM
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I really think that's a limiting belief you're imposing on yourself. I know a few Irishmen living in America, one's a natural player, so it's not the accent that's stopping you. Remember, if they think it's "cute", they like you at some level already (girls wouldn't call a creep cute). It's up to you to escalate appropriately.
/r/seduction19/04/13 03:59 PM
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Have you kissed within the first few dates, sex should be a natural escalation. Touching --> hand holding --> kissing --> feeling up --> kissing body parts --> oral --> sex If you've already kissed her, don't be afraid to ask her where she wants to be kissed (side of neck, ear lobes, back are all great areas to work with.
/r/seduction13/04/13 12:13 AM
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Lie about your virginity and don't make a big deal about it. Your first time might suck, but sex is something that gets better with practice, not something with diminishing returns.
/r/seduction12/04/13 12:30 AM
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Think of it as having excellent teachers who can also get you into lots of parties. Also, that menatlity of covering your "loserness" is not going to lead to any success. You're a cool dude with cool friends, got it! :)
/r/seduction22/03/13 03:13 PM
1

What do you mean it takes years to get through career training and to lose weight? How are these related (maybe it's just a wording issue). Please don't wait till tomorrow, nothing ever gets done tomorrow.
/r/seduction17/01/13 03:11 PM
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You can still see chicks during school, but there's huge time crunches. Don't let it stop you from going out, dressing well, and working out. I got an engineering degree as well, so I know about the whole work load situation, but don't use that as an excuse, otherwise you'll start making excuses when you work and say you don't have time.
/r/seduction12/12/12 07:47 PM
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Flexibility is something you work at, just like strength. There are usually beginner classses, and you'll probably get overwhelmed at the start, but stick to it and like any type of exercise you'll get better over time.
/r/seduction11/09/12 04:12 PM
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No, yoga focuses a lot on meditation and calmness. There are some stretches that look simple, but take a great deal of strength to hold as well.
/r/seduction11/09/12 04:09 PM
1

Cross Training (usually running type stuff)
/r/seduction11/09/12 04:08 PM
1

YOu're not the first guy to do stupid things while drunk :p Get over it and don't make a big deal, it's only holding you back.
/r/seduction24/08/12 05:16 PM
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You're definitely getting in your head about this. AFC could be lying about creeper comment as well. Here's a great way to know if you're "negging" and passing shit tests well, if she's enjoying the conversation and laughing about it. When you stole her drink, was it funny, or did it come of as rude. There's a lot of calibration going on to get it right, but if you use the guideline of "is she having fun" then it will help you get it right. Also, translating from book to theory takes time, when …
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:32 PM
2

Dude, you got in shape, got your inner game going, got social, that's a lot of steps forward and a lot of progress. You just need to fine tune your interactions. Give us details on your interaction and let's see what can be improved. That's how you overcome challenges, you don't overcome them by giving up at the first hurdle.
/r/seduction24/08/12 02:42 PM
2

Awesome, definitely stick to activities you like, you'll have fun regardless.
/r/seduction12/08/12 04:42 AM
2

Go to other places besides bars to meet people? Outdoors clubs / activities?
/r/seduction12/08/12 04:35 AM
2

r/fitness and meetup.com Maybe I'm wrong, but if you're a fit and social girl you shouldn't have any problem, unless there's something specific you're looking for.
/r/seduction11/08/12 01:00 PM
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You can have your shit together in many aspects of life, but still not be able to get girls or have confidence in approaching them.
/r/seduction17/07/12 08:40 PM
1

"What discourages me more is when I read Seddit and I see people saying "Hey I discovered Seddit yesterday and I scored with this girl. Thank you so much Seddit!". When I read this, it's like things seem so easy for people, and I can't even do it properly." I really think you're exaggerating this point, but even if they are getting results in a month doesn't mean you will. Anything worth doing takes time, and you've already improved a lot by removing approach anxiety. Now it's time to work on ot…
/r/seduction18/06/12 01:34 AM
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"The other day, an acquaintance of mine introduced me to her friend as "the sweetest guy she knew." I honestly don't know what to make of this and how to properly react." A girl's never gonna introduce you to her friend as a player ("Hey, meet my friend yerpcity, he'll try to pump and dump you"). So your friend is doing a great intro for you at some level. Follow it up with some funny / sarcastic comment (I'm always a gentleman, even when I'm not) and proceed with kino. Her friend won't get cree…
/r/seduction17/06/12 12:05 PM
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If you don't want a friends with benefits situation, then its time to find someone else Also if you have kinod a lot and haven't fucked, then you dropped the ball and she is just trying to get her needs met If she can set up wa hookup over fb, then your excuses for failing to close are just that, excuses So man up, fclose this girl and start working on the next ones as well
/r/seduction31/05/12 11:38 AM
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If he looks like he tries to take care of his health, improve his fashion sense, is the life of the party, has strong boundaries, cool friends, self-confidence, he may be a pick-up artist! Avoid at all costs!!!!
/r/seduction22/05/12 10:09 PM
1

Don't worry about if other girls may be cold, you can't control that, just work on your approach and have fun!
/r/seduction17/05/12 06:28 PM
2

Mind = blown... Time to get my ass out on the field and quit with excuses!
/r/seduction11/05/12 03:22 AM
1

What if you're not a drinker.
/r/seduction10/05/12 10:39 PM
3

Great advice on the protip. Shit tests are generally questions that are meant to throw you for a loop, make you uncomfortable, etc. (it's kinda like a neg in some ways). If a girl asks you a question and it gives you a queasy / uncomfortable feel in your stomach, it's generally a shit test. 90% of questions won't be a shit test, and if a girl is giving you 90% shit tests, maybe its time to move on. You wouldn't want someone answering 90 % of your questions as a shit test, so why would you accept…
/r/seduction10/05/12 10:38 PM
3

You said you made out, but then said you didn't get past the kiss. You may need more keno for the rest of the body (if you're already doing heavy petting, ass grabbing works really well).
/r/seduction06/04/12 07:28 PM
1

You can always go arm in arm, or use handholding if you are going to lead her somewhere briefly Handholding, especially interlocking fingers is almost catnip to women
/r/seduction05/04/12 12:35 PM
2

A fellow lean gains and lift hard redditor, awesome!
/r/seduction05/04/12 12:32 PM
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Can't agree with you on that, Keto is not a fad diet by any means. THere is science to back it up, and if you are really overweight, it is a great way to lose weight. It also encourages you to eat non-processed foods, because a lot of the carby foods are processed. I cut rice and pasta severely from my diet, and lost 30 pounds (155-125), also put on muscle through exercise.
/r/seduction04/04/12 11:58 PM
2

Either she's gaming you or this is going to end in some serious heartbreak...
/r/seduction04/04/12 10:43 PM
1

On the FAQ, there is something called the DiCarlo escalation ladder which is very detailed on getting to hand holding and all the way to sex. I don't think there is any problem with you being flirty with everyone, like someone else said, you are good at opening, but the problem is the inability to escalate. Hand on shoulder, hand on back, high five, pinky swear are all good build ups to hand holding.
/r/seduction04/04/12 10:39 PM
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Sometimes you just need to get some weight off your shoulders! Hope this makes you feel better dude.
/r/seduction04/04/12 10:32 PM
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And as you go about improving yourself, here's a few great guides as well /r/FittitBuddy /r/loseit /r/keto /r/Paleo Also, you don't have to improve yourself to appeal to the female gender directly. Improving yourself for yourself in inherently sexy. I'm fit because I want to be is sexier than I'm fit because I want to get laid.
/r/seduction04/04/12 01:53 PM
0

Good thing you don't have two older bros or you'd be a 28 y/o virgin :p
/r/seduction31/03/12 10:29 AM
1

Yes, a big takeaway from it is that it shows you how to keep your power to yourself without being dependent on others Op said he wonders I'd others like him, but you can't think like that, you have no control over how others react
/r/seduction19/03/12 03:03 PM
2

I really liked David DeAngelo's DVD for Deep Inner game. The main guest on that series is a psychiatrist, and the series really focuses on getting to inner game issues. If you don't have the cash on you, you can always download it and if you like it, you can buy it later.
/r/seduction19/03/12 04:46 AM
2

Surprising how much this happens to guys as well, except we rightly get labelled shy/coward for the actions
/r/seduction11/03/12 12:09 AM
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Yeah, hanging around him actually increases your DHV, but your insecurity is lowering it. Why focus so much on his higher DHV, if being with him gets you into easy sets, than you can move on to kino and other escalation.
/r/seduction05/03/12 01:42 AM
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Girls don't ask guys they don't like to show them their arms. Showing the abs was great, and it wouldn't even matter if you had a big stomach, just the confidence and humor alone were enough. You're getting to the point where girls think you are cute, without you demonstrating personality. Now it's time to amp it up, and as for not shitting where you eat, you're in college, not at work, so go ahead and get your dick wet.
/r/seduction18/02/12 02:33 AM
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The core of this concept is kino Without touching, how will you lead to petting, kissing, making out... There is a vince do Carlo guide on sidebar that is very good inshowing steps to escalate
/r/seduction27/01/12 12:49 PM
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I saw this post just now, and it looks completely opposite to what you mentioned. Most of the people were actually supporting the subreddit and exposing some of the bias against it. Sorry to say it, but this post makes seddit look like the douchebag...
/r/seduction27/01/12 03:25 AM
2

First rule of negging is that it shouldn't be hurtful. Unfortunately this takes a lot of practice and crashouts to get right. I've been guilty of it myself, but once you realize it, it becomes a lot easier.
/r/seduction16/01/12 02:00 AM
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I downloaded it, and while it was a great read, it's not as deep on pick-up material as you would think. It's half biography / half-pick up. You could download it, and if you like it, spend the cash. He also has a 30 day challenge book, which you can download on /r/30dayseddit which is a lot more step-by-step.
/r/seduction12/01/12 03:13 PM
2

Definitely, trying new things is always good and should be encouraged. If you try 5 new things, and love one, you have come out ahead. Also the challenge of dealing with new situations keeps your mind fresh and open to new ideas.
/r/seduction11/01/12 11:38 PM
3

"Be myself" is advice that's given out without a lot of context. To paraphrase a comic I read: "What's the difference between someone who is genuine and someone who is faking it? About 6 months" So the whole "be myself" means being naturally confident and smooth, which if you aren't, others will be able to detect. But if you fake it, for six months, and keep working on it, it will no longer be fake, but real. So you can go from naturally shy to naturally confident through practice, and self-fulf…
/r/seduction11/01/12 11:02 PM
2

Choosing hobbies solely for chicks is not a great idea, if you're not enjoying the hobby, it will show. On the other side, it will get you out and interacting with women which is better than nothing.
/r/seduction11/01/12 10:52 PM
1

So the biggest challenge here seems to be for you to take things to a more sexual level. There's a lot of material to read about this, but the easiest thing I would recommend would be more Kino (or touching). It's probably easier to escalate with this than any type of conversation (I mean if you've got her to go on second dates, than your conversation skills are alright).
/r/seduction11/01/12 10:50 PM
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Yeah, the idea of first kiss, or first time sex being great is weird, because most of the times, your first time will suck, and it will get better with practice.
/r/seduction11/01/12 10:43 PM
1

Hit the gym. A little testosterone, adrenaline will really help your health (body and mind). www.reddit.com/r/fitness www.reddit.com/r/loseit
/r/seduction30/12/11 05:02 AM
1

Your game is fake game. You're going away for 7-10 days to pretend you're busy seeing other chicks. Go away for 7-10 days and actually try to see other chicks, that will work out infinitely better.
/r/seduction30/12/11 05:00 AM
1

I've had oneitis before, never this extreme. Find another girl, trust me, your feelings for this one will go away. Also, if you really do like her, you need to get away from her because you're freaking her out and making her uncomfortable.
/r/seduction30/12/11 04:57 AM
6

The Art of Learning is a great book to help you actually show you how to learn what you read in this subreddit. Also has a great section on how to "get into state"
/r/seduction28/12/11 04:12 AM
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"How can woman see value in a man like that, smart, attractive, interesting...acknowledge how great he is and be completely uninterested in him romantically?" Why would you toss in the word attractive in there, clearly she doesn't find him attractive. Smart and interesting alone aren't always enough to attract someone, I'm sure you know smart and interesting women that you don't find attractive.
/r/seduction27/12/11 04:30 AM
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I think OP meant DiCarlo escalation ladder: http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Escalation%20Ladder%20-%20vindicarlo.com.pdf Kino's critical for her to see you as a lover instead of a friend (it's awkward if you kiss her without holding hands or touching, so the guide is a good way to go from handshake to sex.
/r/seduction27/12/11 04:27 AM
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You need to do this more for yourself than chicks It will help your confidence and sexuality even more
/r/seduction25/11/11 04:59 PM
3

Glad to hear it man, I had oneitis before as well, and looking back at it, it was just stupid on my part. But I'm grateful I moved on and it helped me find the seduction community so I can get a lot of things in my life sorted out.
/r/seduction24/11/11 02:45 PM
5

Just forget the oneitis It gets a lot easier when you have options and perspective Oneutis girl may be hot, but from her description it doesn't sound like she has much else going for her
/r/seduction24/11/11 01:41 PM
0

In terms of method to close, I really like Mystery Method. One of the principles is that a girl has to be with you for about 5-7 hours before you can close her. If you're at a mixer, I'm guessing you're there for 1-2 hours tops with a single girl. You need a bridge, (let's get a bite, or let's meet later) and continue the steps. Also Keno like crazy. How far do you get up the keno escalation ladder (kissing?) If you're not at that point, you're in no position to close either.
/r/seduction29/10/11 07:25 PM
9

He got himself laid, gave back props to the community (giver mentality), and led us with an example of how to do it. +1 Manliness
/r/seduction14/10/11 04:13 PM
1

The material does help, just yesterday I had a first date with a HB7.5 from OkCupid. My game isn't the best, but understanding the importance of keno, kiss approach, being not needy really helped. We made out, and then I got some hard core LMR. Without the material, it would have taken me a long time to understand what was going on, but here it played out almost like a script "wow, I've never done that before", etc. TL:DR Material helps when you are in the field, atleast to recognize what is goi…
/r/seduction10/10/11 06:53 PM
1

Lucky, you're not a girl who lost weight and gets bitched out by friends.
/r/seduction17/08/11 05:54 PM
2

Agreed, oneitis is terrible for your game, OP.
/r/seduction15/08/11 12:29 AM
3

Have you ever read the book: "How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships" It's a great book on building conversations and communicating. Also, if you want to get asked out, not as a date, but just as a group setting, ask: hey, what's the plan for tonight, what's going on this weekend? If you really have build enough comfort with the group, then you will get the invite, but you need to initiate it. It's very rare to get invited just like that. No one is going to invi…
/r/seduction13/08/11 01:27 PM
1

THe most important thing I got out of it was that a) keep approaching (if OP has stopped at 7, the story would have been bad, but he kept pushing though and got better) b) keep going even after a really bad blowout, and stay cool
/r/seduction05/08/11 12:48 PM
2

Meetup.com is great for meeting new people in activities you like. It's great for meeting new people in activities you've never tried ("Hi, I just wanted to see how this was") And since everyone going is out to meet new people, you have to open them. Don't let the fact that you're a virgin affect you, it's probably not an advantage, so the faster you get over it, the better.
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:50 PM
1

The subreddit even has the book in .pdf format
/r/seduction26/07/11 12:35 PM
1

Stop being so cautionary, instead of looking back, look forward. You already got the girl, now go have fun and she'll see how awesome you are.
/r/seduction22/07/11 09:21 PM
3

Props for being able to be so self analytic. It maybe a bit of a hinderance, but the first step in solving a problem is identifying it. Secondly, you worry way too much about the AMOG and it's affecting you too much. The girl already likes you, so relax and the two of you go and have fun. I once dated a girl who'd dated a lawyer from Harvard, a millionaire from wall street and an old money billionaire. If I let that shit get in my head, I'd be screwed. She didn't make a big deal about it, and ac…
/r/seduction22/07/11 12:15 PM
1

Try the 30 day challenge instead. It opens up with smaller challenges each day (small talk with strangers, asking opinion on which store is good, grooming, improving voice, etc.) It's a good mix of theory and practice (and trust me, the practice part is a lot tougher than just reading).
/r/seduction21/07/11 03:28 PM
1

Ask A first. If it's not hers, she won't really care who it belongs to.
/r/seduction21/07/11 01:58 PM
2

Why not try to inject some new points, or play devil's advocate even for a point you don't believe in. But do it in a not too serious manner. It's not as if you're going to settle a philosophical debate in a conversation anyways. Intelligence when shown correctly is a great DHV, so use what you got.
/r/seduction20/07/11 11:55 AM
1

I started developing my inner game at Uni, and encountered the same thing as you. But there was no way I was too arrogant, and I doubt it's the same for you. Unfortunately you may have jealous hater friends and it's time to make new ones.
/r/seduction18/07/11 07:13 PM
1

Agreed, I read both of your FRs, and you're good when you know the group, but not necessarily when you don't. If you can get into that "part of the group" mindset, maybe it will make things a lot easier. Also, the HB9 from the first FR, she may be taken, but she probably has hot friends and is great social proof for you, so it's great you got the #.
/r/seduction18/07/11 07:04 PM
1

Or maybe she's saying that having sex wouldn't be a stupid decision based on the weekend trends. It's all in how you frame it.
/r/seduction18/07/11 06:45 PM
1

Why not a simple, "I'm very busy right now with abc." And just have a plausible ABC in mind.
/r/seduction14/07/11 06:47 PM
9

Great FR, almost textbook stuff here. You overcame the LMR like a boss.
/r/seduction14/07/11 04:07 PM
2

Unfortunately hot girls don't come up to guys to start a conversation. Also, if you're going with the flow, it's unlikely to get you into a relationship. Like someone said, learning to meet girls is like work, you gotta go out and do it every day and get out of your comfort zone. Like ThrowawayPUA said, bar game is like boot camp. I know how you feel, I don't dig the bar scene either. I don't even drink. But if that's where the hot chicks are, than that's where you gotta practice.
/r/seduction14/07/11 01:32 PM
1

I was reading something unrelated and this line stuck out to me: "The only original fear anyone has is of failing. All our other failures are imagined. ... When we were babies, we had no worries about screaming for attention, so why do we have them now". Unless you have a real social anxiety disorder, you are not introverted by nature, but by your own imagined constraints.
/r/seduction14/07/11 12:20 PM
2

You shouldn't get thumbed down for opinions that people don't disagree with. I respect OP for having boundaries, but flipping his shit when they get crossed (when there were better ways to handle it).
/r/seduction14/07/11 12:16 PM
4

I like your roommate's advice, but with a small change: My roommates advice was "forget her, lower raise your standards and raise your dick". She's treating you like crap and you deserve better.
/r/seduction11/07/11 03:38 PM
1

PIed Cochon has the most expensive, with a fois gras poutine... but poutine is meant to be a junk food and you really don't need to pay that much. I personally like poutine from Harvey's (chain restaurant), but la banquise has a huge variety. Go to /r/montreal to get the real inside scoop of what's hot in the city.
/r/seduction28/06/11 09:13 PM
2

Wow, I always thought he was shorter and that's why people teased him about it. Maradona and Roberto Carlos, two famous soccer players are 5'5 and atleast Maradona's got tons of game. He's also a crazy crack head mofo, but the man is all alpha.
/r/seduction24/06/11 12:51 PM
1

Montreal has absolutely gorgeous chicks, and July is the best time to visit. Old Port, St. Laurent, Downtown are always great places to game. Oh, and try some poutine while you are there.
/r/seduction24/06/11 01:55 AM
4

Tom Cruise Tom Cruise and more freaking Tom Cruise.
/r/seduction24/06/11 01:52 AM
1

" I could jump in and be like "OH YEAH, i HATE when professors do that! LOL" but again, it seems sort of forced and needy to me." That sounds like the most normal thing (except the LOL) part. If you got a cool example of it, bring it up. If not, say how glad you are to be out of school and independent (or even talk about how you still get the nightmare that you forgot to study about a test years after you graduate).
/r/seduction22/05/11 07:10 PM
1

In that case, use it as a practice exercise to open up new groups, and get numbers / contact info and improve your communication skills as well.
/r/seduction22/05/11 07:07 PM
1

Excellent advice: you'll get more out of crashing and burning than only looking at theory. "I also hate that my emotions are controlled by success with women. " If you are gonna focus on material, focus on something that helps you get this. I liked Blueprint Decoded and David Deangelo's Deep Inner game for this. A lot of the best material in this has you focusing on yourself and not on girls.
/r/seduction22/05/11 01:35 PM
0

You don't have to ignore the guys, infact be friends with everyone. You might meet some cool guys there who know how to game and you can learn off them. You'll do better with these guys than those who have no clue.
/r/seduction22/05/11 01:29 PM
4

Don't let the fact that you don't know anyone there drag you down. If you believe they'll enjoy your company, it makes it a lot more likely to be reality. Also, massive props for being man enough to get out of your comfort zone and go to the party. Keep going, don't let the fact that you can't drink bring you down, you'll do a lot better without drinking when it comes to your game. Specific tips: Introduce yourself to everyone, tell them you're X's friend. Make sure they tell you their name (if …
/r/seduction22/05/11 01:27 PM
6

My favorite two bits: "we saw them looking around at the bar and not at each other. this is a good sign that the set is open to being approached." This may help some of my AA. When I'm in a set, I do well, but I still need to improve on opening. "the best way to get over LMR is to pre-empt it by giving your own LMR and having enough comfort built. this is how i dont get LMR.. i am the one giving the LMR-setting the frame that she is chasing me.. "
/r/seduction20/05/11 05:58 PM
4

NO, NO, NO!!! When you dropped 40 pounds, did you say, "it's not worth it, I will drop the other 70 pounds once I can get HB7-9?" Of course not, because they're not directly related. If you did, what would happen, you'd just gain that weight. Same thing with dating, you can only get the 4-5s now, do you magically think you'll get 7-9 when you drop the weight. There's a lot of out of shape guys who can score. Even TofuTofu's admitted he's out of shape. There's a lot of rich, in shape guys who can…
/r/seduction20/05/11 03:30 PM
2

You're making a bigger deal out of it than you need to. Just say you gotta use the washroom for a minute. In the end, she'll appreciate you for grooming yourself. If you're going to have morning sexytime, wash your privates as well.
/r/seduction19/05/11 07:14 PM
26

Great inspiration man. No one can have any excuses now!
/r/seduction15/05/11 02:59 AM
3

Exactly, even Jordan hit the rim and had the ball spin out, that didn't stop him.
/r/seduction02/05/11 08:43 PM
2

You can always buy their DVDs first and get a feel for what the do. I'm watching BluePrint Decoded and it's been great so far. They talk about having clients like you (rich, successful, who struggle with women) so it may be worth your while to try it out.
/r/seduction02/05/11 01:07 PM
2

Good luck bro.
/r/seduction02/05/11 12:18 PM
4

DiCarlo escalation ladder, let the kino do the talking. Don't waste time salvaging it either, just think of it like hitting the reset button. I know it's a bit cold, but if you get it stuck in your head, it's only going to hurt more.
/r/seduction02/05/11 12:18 PM
7

Don't do this, I was one of those guys that said I'll get women after I graduate... all it did was cost me time. You have time to do both mate, a guy working hard to pay off his debts can be attractive to a woman. Everything else is just an excuse.
/r/seduction02/05/11 12:16 PM
2

It's surprising how fragile their ego gets over these things. "No, I don't wanna fuck, I'm exhausted" doesn't mean guys are rejecting you.
/r/seduction29/04/11 08:47 PM
3

No love for Tom Cruise?
/r/seduction20/04/11 06:24 PM
1

First time dinner party, new at cooking, yeah. OP made an attempt, which is a lot ballsier than doing absolutely nothing, and now he's attempting to improve.
/r/seduction05/04/11 06:21 PM
3

It was a depressing opener, but you showed that: 1) you can start a conversation with a bunch of strangers 2) you can engage them without them leaving The conversation wasn't bad enough for them to leave, and you opened a set which is very good practice. Even if you do this ten more times, you'll engage people in talking and that will improve your overall game.
/r/seduction05/04/11 05:02 PM
2

"Swingers" was actually a great movie as well in regards to this. Helps you realize that all those memories of your ex will fade as soon as you get the next girl.
/r/seduction22/03/11 06:08 PM
2

I found the Deep Inner Game DVD by David DeAngelo great for inner game. And you can always download from the internet. If you really liked it, you can buy it later.
/r/seduction12/02/11 03:26 PM
3

She's 40 and her biological clock is ticking. This is unlikely a shit test or defense, but a very very accurate description of what is in her mind. And if you're not interested in having kids with her, then let her know. She really hasn't got time to waste.
/r/seduction01/02/11 01:47 AM
1

You need to get your confidence to a point where it isn't impacted by the reactions of others. I found David DeAngelo's Deep Inner Game DVD series to be really good for this, you can download it free of a torrent site if you want to try it first. Just be aware that getting your confidence high takes a long time so don't let it discourage you.
/r/seduction30/01/11 04:03 PM
9

Probably fake, but even if she was what type of relationship would you have? She's a stripper, her job is to make you happy / horny. Consider it a service well delivered and nothing more. Just enjoy the moment and leave it at that, and keep gaming. She isn't the person you want to get one-itis for. Enjoy your night out
/r/seduction30/01/11 02:07 PM
-3

Don't know why you got downvoted, but you're so correct.
/r/seduction30/01/11 02:42 AM
1

/r/sarcasm ---------> This way
/r/seduction28/01/11 10:16 PM
1

Same thing happened to me, but after we broke up I wanted her again. Don't let that mistake happen to you, clearly she isn't the one for you.
/r/seduction28/01/11 10:02 PM
3

"Am I being to pig-headed for wanting sex more than once a week?" No, you're a regular guy.
/r/seduction25/01/11 02:51 AM
1

Did you and her have more sex (or chemistry) when you were courting her? Did you stop doing the things that made her attracted to you in the first place? If yes, then do what you were doing before you got in a relationship. If no, then as someone else suggested, /r/relationshipadvice may work better.
/r/seduction25/01/11 02:51 AM
5

"Somehow I doubt She'll pick up when I call." Dude, get that confidence up, no one ever got anything with a bad attitude.
/r/seduction22/01/11 02:57 PM
4

"body check please.. and remember to keep your head up" :p
/r/seduction14/01/11 07:43 PM
1

I only know because the girl told me it did, but she actually liked facial hair appearance wise.
/r/seduction14/01/11 03:28 PM
2

Yeah, but beards itch, and is not ideal for oral sex.
/r/seduction14/01/11 01:17 AM
1

Jerry pulled a ton of babes before they made it big on sitcoms (Tori Hatcher, Courtney cox, Kristin Davis, Debra Messing, Jane Leeves (Niles' crush on Frasier, Marcia Cross and a ton of other hot models as well.)
/r/seduction11/01/11 06:13 AM
1

Choose a fun spot, museums & exhibits can be great for this.
/r/seduction28/12/10 12:11 AM
8

"I pussy out on the kino escalation; her body language is distant and she drops no IOI's. " If girls were dropping IOIs without any effort from your part, you wouldn't need seddit. Remember you need to work to get those things (show confidence, kino, humor, etc.) But you had a good step with the party and take that as a win and focus on the positive vibes from that.
/r/seduction28/12/10 12:10 AM
1

Check out the inner game stuff, it will help you with more than just seduction.
/r/seduction27/12/10 08:48 PM
2

Was listening to the Wygant.mp3 that's on the basics of seddit. If you don't like bars / night clubs, don't go gaming there. It's that simple. I don't like bars / nightclubs, and earlier, when I would go gaming there, I would always end up regretting it. Like you said, you like going to arts and crafts, then stick with that.
/r/seduction19/12/10 05:37 PM
1

You disappoint me my friend. :p
/r/seduction14/12/10 09:19 PM
3

"girl: "So today I went to the mall with Nicky and we had some muffins for lunch at a cafe." The four main points are mall, nicky, muffins, cafe. you could reply with a question: what mall was that?/is that the one at xxxxxxx? who's nicky? What muffin did you get?/Did you like it?/What's your favourite type? what cafe is that?/was the cafe nice?" The trick here is to find key words being mentioned in a conversation and relating to those (mall, nicky, muffins, cafe). The more you focus on the con…
/r/seduction14/12/10 02:28 PM
1

The perferct plan, from the master himself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esEm67OiOx8
/r/seduction14/12/10 02:23 PM
10

If you focus on one girl, you're going to fuck up things for the rest of your game very badly. Trust me, I've been there. If you want to show her what she's missing out on, date other chicks, because right now, it's at the point where she's showing you what you're missing out on (a girl with emotional problems who lets her friends decide her relationships, not herself). Good luck.
/r/seduction11/12/10 06:29 PM
3

Too much focus on one girl. You made it a make or break rather than a learning experience (and you learned a lot if you think about it.) Not being able to dance with other girls hurt (I'm pretty crap at this too, it's good you realized this, and its something you can work on). Also, you shoud re-evaluate part 5. Things went well until you went to escalate at the club (which you don't have practice in and is pretty difficult) Imagine playing a sports at a pro level where you've never played befor…
/r/seduction03/12/10 02:23 PM
1

"Am I wrong to not take her seriously, because of her sleeping over at ex boyfriend's house and he is not only a friend, but after watching her suck the life out of him, Is it worth it?" Well when you put it that way...
/r/seduction30/11/10 09:37 PM
2

Move on and find something else. If you detach yourself from the situation, you've already invested way too much into something little. Also, exams are a bitch this time of year, so don't take it personally. I wouldn't fret over a girl if I had a shitload of exams, it's reasonable for her to feel the same way.
/r/seduction27/11/10 09:00 PM
32

you avoided a crazy, and all it took was one evening. Look on the bright side and consider yourself lucky man. Also, it's not your fault, so just move on.
/r/seduction20/11/10 04:46 PM
2

I don't drink, but I've heard a lot of others say, don't get drunk when gaming. "and we are dancing and i just pulled her to dance with me. She stood in front of me and i put my right hand on her stomach and started grinding her. after maybe 20-30 seconds she pushed my hand away and walked away with her friend " Seems a bit too aggressive. Hopefully someone has advice on how to do this a lot smoother.
/r/seduction15/11/10 12:24 AM
3

My friends and I call Axe shower in a can. It's great if you're playing sports and don't have a chance to shower right after.
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:20 AM
6

No one scent will work on any woman. I recall reading an article on how important a sense of smell is for women, it helps determine if they are genetically compatible with their mate to produce strong offspring. The result of the report was that the best perfume is one that masks out some of the traits women would find unattractive. On a personal note, I put on some CK OBsession at my ex-gf's place. She hated that smell. Her roommate came into the room a bit later and said, "mmmm, something smel…
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:19 AM
1

view the david deangelo: deeper game services i viewed it originally for pick-up purposes, but it helped round my personality a lot more, negs, and other stuff are all tricks, but the purpose is to have a solid core, and then the tricks will come naturally, (i.e. confidence, humor, etc.) also, the fact that you are looking for just a wife makes you not picky enough. this is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Don't take the first girl you see, check out your options.
/r/seduction11/11/10 01:51 PM
2

Clutch indeed, I wish I had that cool earlier when I was an AFC.
/r/seduction04/11/10 10:42 PM
1

The "who else is coming" line threw me for a loop before too. What's the best way to handle that?
/r/seduction04/11/10 09:42 PM
7

You don't even need to know seddit for the right advice to this one. Hit the gym Delete from facebook Avoid all contact And lawyer up just incase :p
/r/seduction27/10/10 12:48 AM
15

I'm not an expert at this, but the best way to get her is to get over her and meet other people. You might find someone better, you might not, you might find the one you're after is not all you thought she was (the fact you're chasing her makes her seem like a prize to you and makes her more valuable than she is.) Just cancel the trip, work on your inner issues. I know this isn't what you want to here, but it's important for you to get over her.
/r/seduction26/10/10 11:08 PM
1

It's SUPER EFFECTIVE!
/r/seduction26/10/10 06:48 PM
2

It's Dragon Ball, not Pokemon! :p
/r/seduction13/10/10 07:18 PM
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