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Reducing people’s value to their sexual value, or emphasizing sexual value as critically important, is a problem in itself, to be honest. I grew up very religious, and my value as a future wife and mother was emphasized—but that was the only kind of value I was supposed to have. That shit’s harmful. Just because someone doesn’t have “value” in one area doesn’t make them an inherently useless person and doesn’t mean they don’t have value in other areas. Sexual “value” might be nice, but if that’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:32 AM
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“Men, your value to society and as a person is completely within your power. Women, sucks to suck and you’re useless when you’re no longer young and hot. Nothing to be done about it.” Yeah, that’ll solve things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 12:18 AM
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Well, I suppose you’re lucky then that you’ll never be faced with the prospect of an unwanted pregnancy, so you’ll never have to consider an “evil” option.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:24 PM
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It’s also miserable, from what I understand. The pills make you horribly sick, and obviously a physical medical procedure is likely to be uncomfortable and painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:11 PM
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One of those things can be influenced by us regular Joes. One can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:06 PM
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What are your thoughts on ivf then? In order to create a full human baby, they have to fertilize and freeze dozens of eggs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:05 PM
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Exactly. There have ALWAYS been abortions. They were just really fucking dangerous. “Get a coat hanger” is a common saying for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:57 PM
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What about the 80% of men who don’t get any wives in a polygamous society? Polygamy works for a select group of wealthy men, and is disadvantageous to everyone else. People who advocate for polygyny often picture themselves as the man who’d get 5 wives, but not as the men (who are the vast majority) who don’t get any.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 10:46 PM
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I agree. When male sexlessness is brought up, it’s often presented as “how can we, as a society, help these men have sex?” I don’t know that we owe it to sexless men to fix their situation. They’re not deliberately excluded from society, they’re not oppressed by the group, there aren’t systemic policies in place that keep them down. Most often, they just have poor social skills and self-isolating behavior. Their lack of success is a problem for them to overcome, imo. I don’t think we collectivel…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 10:43 PM
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Trader Joe’s employees are all flirtatious and cute for whatever reason, so be careful before asking one of them out. Odds are decent that any signals you’ve received were just her doing her job. If you feel like you must do it, tell her you think she’s cute and would like to get to know her, and hand her a paper with your number on it. Don’t force her into a long conversation, and don’t force her to make a decision or respond to you on the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:30 PM
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Then why don’t you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 03:47 AM
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Again, you have to generalize a whole gender to make your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 03:46 AM
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I think there are certain aspects of emotional maturity that can really only come from experience in romantic relationships, tbh. It’s not the only source of emotional maturity, but platonic relationships don’t necessarily give you the right experience to have successful romantic relationships. You can have emotionally intimate friendships or relationships with family members, but nothing really comes close to the emotional intimacy and vulnerability of an exclusive, long-term romantic relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:43 AM
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Abso-fucking-lutely, dude. The abilities to be self-aware, aware of others, understand and communicate your needs, and understand others’ needs and communication styles are absolutely critical to dating. I’d argue it’s more important in romantic relationships than in any other kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:24 AM
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The only way to not be a “pick me” is to generalize an entire gender and then hate something specific about that generalization? Jesus Christ. You can like a group as a whole and hate traits of specific people, but ascribing one trait to a whole group is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:21 AM
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You weren’t talking about your lived experiences. You were talking about “women these days” like you’ve met every single one. You seem incapable of separating your experiences from everyone’s experiences. It’s one thing to say “I’ve known women who are xyz” and another thing entirely to say “women are xyz.” Even if you were right about “women these days” (since your sample size makes you the authority on all women), why waste the mental energy bottling up rage and resentment against these horrib…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 01:54 AM
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This is a very weird rant to have about your perception of people (half the human race) you don’t know and will never know. Maybe step away from waxing poetic about women for a bit and actually go your own way, as your username suggests.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 01:14 AM
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Yes. The two types of men: confident bad boys and socially awkward nerds. There are no other men. Only two.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 01:08 AM
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You’re right about most men, but OP is right about most men in this sub lol. Like, if these guys were representative of the male population as a whole, I’d be single by choice for the rest of my life. Thankfully, men in the real world are often pretty awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:34 AM
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This sub in a nutshell. Most of the people here can’t see relationships outside of pure economics. Literally had someone imply that I was of lower value to my current boyfriend because I’d once pursued (and been rejected by) someone of “lower value” than him…. Like it needed to be something I disclosed in the relationship lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:26 AM
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So you’re saying that my “Chad” will think less of me because I pursued someone “lower value” than him? Touch grass, dude. We know all about each other’s histories but guess what? We don’t care, because we’re happy together and that’s what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:32 PM
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I mean…. Like most things, it depends. Some women are unashamed gold diggers and are going to care more about how much a man spends—doesn’t matter if it’s cash or credit. Some care about what a man earns from a standpoint of “can he support our family” and are more likely concerned with how much he earns and can contribute to maintaining he family and household once there are kids and she can’t/won’t work. Some women will care about what a man earns because she wants him to be able to match her …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 09:58 PM
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I’ve chased and been rejected by someone basically identical to your so-called “average man” so he could play the field (though he was a ginger, looked nothing like JGL, and was an inch shorter than you describe). All this only for a couple months later to be chased and committed to by a stereotypical “Chad.” The average guy has as rich of a dating life as he pursues and as his personality allows for. Don’t let these guys get you down by telling you that you don’t have a chance. The average man …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 09:16 PM
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Yes, and?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:59 PM
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I was certainly a late bloomer. No interest in dating at all throughout my teens and early 20’s, but then suddenly had my first real crush at 23 and started dating for real at 24. I’m definitely an outlier, but it’s for sure a thing. I also wasn’t ostracized/bullied like the people in the study though. My social skills have always been pretty fine, so when I decided to start dating it wasn’t too challenging to find good dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:04 PM
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Whatever you say. I hope you have 100% intellectually stimulating hobbies and are productive 100% of the time, since you’re out here throwing stones at everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 05:40 PM
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Watching reality tv isn’t mutually exclusive with being mature or intelligent, but pretentious people often refuse to see that and like to look down on people for how they relax after work. Most people who watch reality tv do it in a completely self-aware manner—they know it’s silly and scripted and trashy, but it’s a fun distraction that requires little mental energy, but keeps your mind occupied. Men do the same thing in more male-dominated media-related hobbies—gaming, certain tv shows orient…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 05:37 PM
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I think you’re on the money. A lot of them want to be loved, but to not love the same way in return. And their version of being loved isn’t really how most people see love and relationships. They want someone who will dote on them, raise their children, take care of their home, defer to them, always trust them, constantly have enthusiastic sex with them regardless of what’s going on in her life, and be emotionally supportive and encouraging. In exchange for near complete submission by a woman, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 12:34 AM
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Yeah. Most men I’ve dated have made less than I do. I still favor and prefer men in white collar, professional jobs, but I’ve had some early career gains that have put me ahead of the curve, so I’m making more than most men I date. Current boyfriend makes a lot more than I do working in medicine though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 11:58 PM
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And here we have it, OP exposing himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:05 PM
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That wasn’t the opinion I expressed, but whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 11:05 PM
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Thank you for going through my post history to reply to multiple of my comments—I appreciate that my experience in corporate America has hit such a nerve for you. If my two options are to be a single mother or a married mother whose husband refuses to contribute to raising the child, I know which I’m picking. Thankfully, not all men are like you and I’ve met plenty of wonderful men in my time that give me the confidence that I’ll find the right one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:05 PM
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As someone who works in an “up or out” environment (and who once worked at the Big 4) I know plenty of what I’m talking about, thanks. I never said people at the same level who date are allowed to continue working closely (though I see how you arrived at that conclusion, since I didn’t specify that HR will separate them). It’s just that those relationships are very common and tolerated in these environments when everyone is upfront. And yes, people do figure out when there are inappropriate rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:00 PM
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Keep telling yourself this so you never have to confront the fact that all women around you have experienced creepiness at one point or another, and often at a young age. It certainly is #notallmen but it absolutely is #allwomen, including your mother, grandmother, aunts, sisters, daughters, and friends. Sorry that what half the population goes through make you so uncomfortable that you refuse to acknowledge that it’s true and assume that they must be lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 06:10 PM
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My ex was a doctor, and I asked him once about doctor/nurse pairings. Essentially, he said that the personality differences are generally pretty vast, and most doctors have no interest in dating nurses. PA’s and NP’s get more lenient treatment. They both work in healthcare, but the level of education, knowledge, and dedication to schooling separates them pretty easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 05:50 PM
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Right? Like, it’s not illegal to do any of that… but if you’re gonna be impolite by interrupting a stranger in places where women have said over and over they don’t like being approached, you have to accept that you might get an impolite response. You’re going to interrupt my workout after I’ve had a hard day? Sorry, I’m just probably not going to coddle you to protect your feelings when you were the rude one to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 05:32 PM
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This is absolutely it. I’m 26, and have plans to have kids of my own one day. I have plenty of “potential mates” as RPers would put it, but even with knowing that I have a relatively short fertility window remaining (given family history), I feel no push to hurry and settle with just anyone. I’m still looking for the right kind of husband and father. I have enough money that I can absolutely afford to do the single parent by choice thing, and honestly that’s my plan if I can’t find the right guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:57 PM
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They’re talking down to you because you’re still in school, but you seem to be right on the money to me. Relationships with power differentials are extremely risky and uncommon in 2021, given that you can lose your livelihood over it. I do see relationships quite often between people at the same level/on the same team in a company, and that’s typically allowed as long as they disclose it. 23-year-old new hires just aren’t typically hooking up with and dating 35-year-old managers. It happens, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:47 PM
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Sure, everyone has an opinion about promiscuity as it relates to themselves. I’d consider frequent hookups to be bad for me because of the way my views on sex have been ingrained in me by a religious upbringing, my experiences as an adult, experiences with men, etc. You know what else is also bad for me? Milk, because I’m lactose intolerant. Art class, because no matter how hard I try, I just barely get any better. But does that mean I assign moral value to the people who do like and can handle …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:16 PM
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Because their past is all they bring to a relationship, regardless of their prowess in other traditional areas, got it. I’m not “high n-count” or interested in a trad relationship, but I always find it funny how men like you place such value on what has or hasn’t been inside a woman’s vagina, regardless of literally any other qualities. You have a right to want what you want, just seems priorities are misplaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 01:13 AM
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So you’re looking for a sugar baby, then? And are willing to pay extra for one with a scant past?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 12:59 AM
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It’s risky and potentially unhealthy, but that doesn’t make it morally bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:45 PM
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Hmmm ok. You do you, boo. But what’s the difference between a woman who didn’t build up her career in her 20’s but had several sexual partners and a woman who also didn’t build up her career but didn’t have any partners? You would be resentful of the first but not the second? Even if both of them had the same non-sexual fun in their 20’s? Even if both of them “wasted” their youth by not establishing their career?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:44 PM
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What does this mean? You will only have a traditional relationship with someone relatively inexperienced, but have different relationship expectations for someone who is more experienced?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 10:58 PM
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Especially if it’s someone who you’re not also sleeping with. I can understand being interested in how many people someone has slept with if you’re also sleeping with them—are our values aligned? Are they practicing safe sex? That sort of thing. But I literally don’t care about the people I’m not sleeping with and will never sleep with. Get your kicks however you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 10:56 PM
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Not everything has to be either good or bad. Sometimes people just have interests and preferences without looking down on people with different interests and preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 10:41 PM
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Body language, tone, eye contact, etc. are obviously huge components of social interaction, and are encompassed in “social skills” and “conversational skills.” Two people can say the same thing and it’ll be interpreted completely differently depending on how they say it. Conversational skills isn’t just using the right words, and I don’t think I ever implied that. My point stands that being successful socially is dependent on how you make others feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:38 PM
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Wow. I should’ve known this a few months ago when I thought had my heart broken and was crying alone all the time. Turns out I didn’t actually feel anything and am actually a robot. Would’ve been nice to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:09 PM
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Every man I’ve ever dated has been introverted and intelligent. They weren’t some “extroverted Chad”. But they had the ability to read a room. I loved listening to them talk about things they were interested in that I have no knowledge of, but they knew when it was appropriate to do so and when it was more appropriate to keep things light and fun and make jokes. They never showed up to a first date wanting to give me a 20 minute monologue about chemistry. Humans are social creatures, and being g…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:18 PM
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You’re telling on yourself here, dude. Why is the onus on the women you date to help you discover yourself and improve your social skills? Being decent at conversation is a foundational skill at being successful romantically and socially. You have to make people enjoy being around you. If you’re unpleasant to be around, and expect the women you date to change you and make you better at it, that’s your problem. No one wants to push through all that unpleasantness to see what’s underneath when the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:04 PM
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Coincidentally, the state with the highest marriage, birth, and SAHM rates is also the one with the highest antidepressant usage. It’s not single ladies over 40 driving that stat. It’s almost like traditional gender roles aren’t fulfilling for all women like TRP likes to assert. I sure as hell know it wasn’t fulfilling for my own mother (married at 21, SAHM her whole life, great cook and homemaker)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:05 PM
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What makes it entitled for a lawyer/doctor/whatever to not want to date the cashier at Home Depot? Wouldn’t it be entitlement on his part to expect her to give him a chance? It’s a standard, it’s a preference, it’s a potential incompatibility. Most people date in their socioeconomic class, with good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:58 PM
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Picking and reviewing ALL of the current, popular, highly rated posts is not cherry-picking. You’re being intentionally obtuse and dense. Words have definitions. After a quick peruse of your post history, you’re guilty of making the exact posts people see as hateful. Calling someone you don’t know a “bread-faced river pig”, “miss piggy”, “TradThot” etc. is hateful. No wonder you don’t see the hate that pervades the red pill—you are the hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:16 PM
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What does cherry pick mean to you? Those were straight off the front page, in order. Sorry that I didn’t have time to analyze every post ever. Knowing “some of the guys” irl is absolutely the cherry-picking you’re accusing me of. It’s great that you only know good guys who are into it. But by and large, the community is not the wholesome self-help community you’re portraying it as.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:09 PM
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I mean, the men I’ve dated in the real world have appreciated it. I don’t care if red pillers don’t like it. I don’t want them. You don’t speak for every man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:58 PM
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Lmaooooooooo what kind of comparison is that? And no, getting my booster tomorrow. 💁🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:44 PM
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Why is it any of your business? Check my post history if you’re that curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:42 PM
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How kind and generous of you, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:40 PM
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Well put. Just because someone offers you something and you say “no thanks” doesn’t make you entitled—you’ve just rejected an offer. The man who demands women give him a chance is entitled, not the woman who says no (and vice versa). Anybody demanding something of someone else is entitled. Holding out until you get the offer you want isn’t particularly entitled, but demanding someone give you what you want is. “Entitlement” gets thrown around a lot around here as a synonym for “standard”—they’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:28 AM
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Haha for a female perspective, I'd be mortified if Brad Pitt or anybody tried to correct my form. That's what makes lifting so intimidating to a lot of women--it leaves you open to being judged and critiized by people (esp men) in public. I wouldn't be bothered by a woman helping me with my form, but for whatever reason, my pride would suffer if a man (who I didn't come to the gym with) did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:51 AM
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I think, looking at people I know in their 20s and 30s, it's rare to see any age gaps in a relationship larger than 5 years. Agreed. Out of curiosity, I've always asked the men I've dated what the youngest they'd date is. For context, I'm 26 and was 25 when I met my most recent ex. Most recent ex said that my age of 25 was a bit of a yellow flag when we first met--he wasn't sure how mature I'd be. Guy I'm currently dating is 30, he said 24 would be the youngest he'd go, and that it's dependent o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:46 AM
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I appreciate you proving my point by using the phrase "old hags". For some reason he didn't believe me that the men in this sub show extreme disdain for women "out of their prime". I also never actually criticized age gap relationships--I merely pointed out that TRPers have a habit of fantasizing that college-aged girls will be all over them when they're in their 40's and that actually, such pairings are quite rare. Homeboy took that as a personal attack and got extremely defensive out of nowher…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:36 AM
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You don't have to cherry pick to find toxic redpillers. I was just called a cunt and told to "stop hamstering" because I disagreed with a common red pill idea re: age gaps. At this exact moment, here's a snapshot of the hot posts on r/theredpill: When you take your seat at the head of the simp table - In which Jeff Bezo's girlfriend is being called a bitch and Jeff is called a simp and weakling because Leo Decaprio interacted with and smiled at his girlfriend at an event in which Bezos was in at…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:29 AM
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TRPers say this shit all the time, dude. Literally all up and down this sub. Calling older women “jealous hags” and “used up”. Also, you got super hostile for no reason, dude. Take a walk. I must have hit a nerve, which means you clearly spend a lot of time feeling defensive about this. Also, using buzzwords like “hamstering” just because a woman disagrees with you isn’t the way to win an argument, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:32 AM
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Exactly. If the community doesn’t support the loudest, most hateful voices, then it needs to ostracize them. By continuing to allow misogynistic rhetoric in their spaces, even if it’s not the “cOrE” of the philosophy, they’re endorsing those views. People see these views being posted in their spaces, upvoted, and praised, and so DUH they’re going to perceive TRP that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:26 AM
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Exactly my point, homie. TRPers like to make grandiose claims that once they’re in their late 30’s/early 40’s, these college girls are just going to be throwing themselves at them and they’ll have the pick of the litter. Bonus points for the revenge fantasy that all the women who rejected them in their 20’s will come back desperate for their attention. The fact is, the vast, vast, vast majority of women in that age group are going to roll their eyes at an old man hitting on them. How do I know? …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:18 AM
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Always better off single than with a man who only values your looks and youth and has no interest in you as a person except that you’re “submissive and feminine”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:31 AM
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I agree with this. The need to apply science, data, and economics to interpersonal relationships is telling, as is the need to constantly disbelieve and question people when they say certain things (i.e. attraction) are subjective. Trends can be useful on a societal scale, but won’t do much to help you individually. This sub seems to be obsessed with finding an objective “truth” that’ll explain everything, but that’s just not how people work. There’s a reason studies in the social sciences are n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:46 PM
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100% this. I think we all know or have seen IRL the 40 year old who thinks he’s hot shit and hits on college girls all the time, but I’ve never seen one who was actually successful with the age group they were pursuing. There are some absolutely yoked middle-aged dudes at my gym who, frankly, look great for their age. But I’ll see them try to hit up a young woman on a machine, and they never react positively to it. Even my younger, super unobservant brother has noticed these dudes. Everyone just…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:15 PM
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It’s not self-obsessed to want the person you’re dating/having sex with to make you feel sexy and attractive? Everyone wants to feel desired and wanted. I love being told that I’m hot by a guy I’m dating, and I do the same to him, because I do find him sexy, even if he’s “objectively” average. Nothing would be more off-putting than being told, “I’m horny, so you’ll do I guess.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 09:19 PM
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Wow, I’m hurt. As an average woman, I posted a picture of myself at a concert to instagram the other day and I haven’t gotten a single dm or comment from anyone besides my friends. Guess I’m uglier than I thought. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Or your view is skewed and you need to leave social media for your mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 09:02 PM
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AWALT = the red pill selects for people with certain vulnerabilities and traits, who often aren’t good long term relationship material and need extensive therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 11:25 PM
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I don’t care either way. The dealbreaker would be marrying someone who did care. I had a very religious upbringing and am no longer religious at all, and I find it extremely creepy when people want a virgin for reasons other than religion. Even when I was a virgin (lost it at 25, so later than usual), I would’ve considered anyone who cared or thought I was “pure” to be a massive red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 11:19 PM
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Nope, nope, nope. But I don’t think followers of TRP would be interested in me either—I’m not damaged enough for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:01 AM
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Absolutely. I’m subjectively extremely attracted to my boyfriend (single rn, but I’m speaking based on the past), and will always find him to be the hottest guy in the room to me, regardless of what other people think of what he looks like. If I’m horny, I want a guaranteed good time, and calling my boyfriend who knows exactly what I like and is someone who I feel comfortable around is much more preferable than a rando. This is why people like FWB’s over random hookups—even in the cases where th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:46 AM
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Women do get horny, yes, but they’re not guaranteed to have a good time with a rando the way men might be. If I’m just desperately horny, I’m gonna 100% prefer the guy who I have a history with and who I know I’ll have a good time with. There’s nothing about someone super hot that guarantees I’ll have fun. He could be a total dud, come in 30 seconds, and that’s that. Whereas a guy is almost guaranteed to orgasm with a hot stranger, even if it’s not the best thing ever. A lot of women just don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:04 AM
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Well as an outsider, I’m curious what you see as unhealthy in his relationship? Seemed very happy and healthy on the outside, so I’m not sure it’s “plain to see” for everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:39 PM
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My favorite example of this ever was a guy I had mutual friends with trying to hit on me while I was hanging out with one of my closest, long-term friends (a straight-passing gay guy). He was absolutely RUTHLESS toward my friend—a massive douche, constantly putting him down and making fun of him. It was hilarious because it was so overt and unwarranted. My friends still laugh about it. Never did go out with him 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 09:00 PM
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That’s some weird-ass dystopian shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 03:31 PM
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Yeah, having kids is super easy if you neglect them educationally, emotionally, and materially. Why are all these parents complaining about it? It’s so easy if you just never feed or talk to your kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 04:05 PM
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I’m only 25 and in a great relationship with a mature man right now, but I’m wary of moving in together one day and ending up like you said. I hope to marry and have a family, but I’m unwilling to do it with the wrong man. The cool thing about living now is that if I still want kids, being unmarried won’t preclude me from that. I’d love to foster and eventually adopt, and that’s completely doable now as a single woman. If being a single parent would be easier than being with a man, then I’d chos…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 04:03 PM
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Frankly, I don't know about that... Of course this is going to be anecdotal, so take of it what you will. Both my boyfriend and I are mid-late 20's, both were working full-time when we met. My boyfriend has a more demanding job, and was working about 60 hours per week when we met, while I usually work 45-50 on average. (Although, tbf, I did work a 70-80 hour per week job when I first got out of school, and I certainly had no free time then) Personally, I was too busy in college to ever date regu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 02:22 PM
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Yep, this place is just so interesting to me and I can’t turn away. I guess the only impact on my dating life that this sub has had is that I know better how to recognize RP/PUA behaviors in men. Makes finding the normal, well-adjusted ones much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 09:54 PM
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This sub refuses to get it into their skulls that attraction for women is often not immediate and can build over time. I wasn’t especially attracted to my boyfriend when we first met (not like I thought he was ugly, but I didn’t want to have sex with him right away), but now I’m all about him. I think most dudes that are having regular, enthusiastic sex are pretty safe to assume that she’s attracted to him. If anything, what I read here is just helpful for recognizing men who might engage with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 09:42 PM
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Someone has clearly never been in a bar bathroom around drunk girls and it shows. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 07:13 PM
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In some philosophical way? Of course not. But I would say I consider genuine compliments from women or my partner to have more meaning than from randos who I know are using the same line on everything with a vagina. If only there were a synonym for “something that means something to me”…. Oh well
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:33 AM
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Ehh, money is really the minimum for a stable life. It used to be the minimum for men because women couldn’t earn it themselves, and so needed a man to provide. Now that a woman can take care of herself, standards for men have understandably risen. We all want partners that we actually want, not just need, you know? I can provide a good life for myself, so I want someone who makes it even better, which is why “soft skill” requirements are getting higher. On the whole, women are leveling up in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 01:39 AM
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I’m confused about what makes that narcissistic? I like receiving compliments, everyone does, and they mean more to me when they’re from someone I care about or who I know has no ulterior motive for giving the compliment. I don’t demand them because I’m oh so special, but they always will make my day a bit brighter. Just like a thoughtful gift received from someone important to you means more than the gift card you get at Christmas from work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:36 AM
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I'm not really following how this contradicts what I'm saying, frankly. If height, fitness, "protector ability", or money, is all you bring most people won't be interested in you. Subconsciously, sure, most women are more attracted to men who are physically larger than them. But that doesn't mean it's enough. It's not all about sex, and it never will be. Sexual attraction and libido varies over time, it's the name of the game. If all you want is casual sex and superficial relationships and nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:00 AM
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Liking compliments is narcissism? Do words have meaning on this sub anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:27 PM
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Lmaooooooooo whatever man Smh these redpillers thinking they know more about interactions between women than the ones actually having those interactions. Women know the difference between a genuine compliment and a Regina George “omg I love your skirt” compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:08 PM
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It’s certainly not a bad thing, but if someone is boring, rude, or generally unpleasant, a high salary isn’t going to be a deal maker for anyone who’s well-adjusted and not desperate in dire financial straits. Money is nice, happiness is nicer. I also think that, as a generation, we tend to be less money-driven on average than our parents. As a group, we’re less financially stable, but a lot of that is driven by the emphasis on pursuing passions and interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 10:05 PM
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Just to add—a growing number of women would be fine with a SAHD, I know I would. BUT you expect certain domestic skills from a SAHD, and the dudes you mention aren’t exactly displaying them if they have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:43 PM
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Ding ding ding! Manosphere subs often talk about how it’s women who don’t bring anything to the table anymore, because men are providers, protectors, yadda yadda. Guess what? It’s 2021 and most women don’t need a provider or “protector”. If the only thing you bring to the table is your 6-figure salary, we’re gonna have problems because guess what? I have one too. Most women these days aren’t looking for providers and protectors—those, for the most part, are outdated concepts. If a woman doesn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:38 PM
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This is why it’s much more meaningful to receive compliments from other women, in my experience. If I had to be hit on by someone I wasn’t interested in, and was given the option between straight man or lesbian, I’d go with the lesbian every time. Women know what they’re talking about when they tell you you’re pretty. I will say though, that compliments and attention from your partner are the most meaningful. 🥰 I love hearing he finds me attractive even when I look homeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:43 PM
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Seriously, the dudes here are so dense. Almost everyone is out there going on dates or talking to multiple people at a time. Even if you really like someone, it’s risky to get too involved in them too soon just for them to possibly end things with you. Everyone is hedging their bets to try to protect their feelings. For me, generally around 3-4 dates is when I start getting a clear idea of whether I want to pursue an actual relationship with someone, so if I meet someone I really like, I’ll usua…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:34 PM
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Lmao ok man. Good luck with that worldview anywhere outside of fundamentalist religious circles. This isn’t even a “traditional” thing, it’s a cult thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 01:19 AM
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Well yeah, but usually they become romantic somewhere between platonic friendship and being married. No one is jumping straight from platonic friendship to marriage (except in the case of platonic marriages, but those are a very specific situation and are definitely the exception). I’ve got plenty of platonic friends of the opposite sex who I doubt would mesh with me romantically. Likewise, I think I could have a successful platonic marriage with a few of my friends (mostly same-sex or otherwise…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:56 PM
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How are you supposed to know whether you want to marry someone before having any romantic interaction with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 08:03 PM
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Lmao for real though. It’s like when you learn that people tend to be friends with people on their same level of attractiveness, so you look around at all your gorgeous friends and get a lil confidence boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:43 PM
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Have you ever had a strong crush? If so, why should a woman who’s been saving her “first big crush” for that special someone choose you if you’ve already chosen to give part of yourself away like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:01 PM
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Oh, I totally agree. N-count is meaningless and reductive. In theory, I understand being concerned with it if it’s unusually high/low (I.e. if one partner has only had sex with 2 people within the context of a committed relationship vs. the other partner has had sex with 50 people who are all one night stands), because it can signal that the two partners’ values regarding sex are different. This is fine, but it may signal potential incompatibility issues. What it doesn’t do is automatically make…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:53 PM
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Cause it kind of blurs and redefines “n-count”, making it pretty much useless (not that I think it’s particularly valuable anyway lmao). If your “count” includes everything from hypothetically sending spicy messages to someone you’ve never spoken to, to the “first kisses” you had when you were 4, all the way to penetrative sex, it fails to be an adequate measure of anything or have any real definition at all. Cheating is a completely unrelated concept based around violating the boundaries set by…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:38 PM
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What about romantic hugging? Like it’s a first or second date and you haven’t kissed yet, so you have one of those lingering hugs?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:51 PM
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Also an urban legend in the case of Mormons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:47 PM
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Cheating and just “sex” are generally very different though. Most people would consider kissing or sexting someone else cheating, but I think the people who’d consider these to be “adding to an n-count” are a pretty insignificant minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:44 PM
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What?? Masturbating is an “N”?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:38 PM
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It’s because those men who don’t count lesbian encounters don’t actually care about “pair bonding” or whatever shit they use as an excuse to avoid women who’ve been intimate with multiple people. They just have a weird power fantasy about possessing their potential partners, and they don’t want to “share” them with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:35 PM
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You know what else was a brand for good-looking young people? Abercrombie. How well has that turned out for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:41 PM
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I think the results of this pivot in marketing tone are pretty visible, though not necessarily for VS yet. Aerie (American Eagle's underwear brand) has been marketing using this strategy from its inception. Its schtick has always been that they prioritize comfort and that their models aren't photoshopped. On average, they're quite pretty, but there is a lot of diversity in body size and overall "vibe" in their models. Aerie has been destroying VS for years, and this is anecdotal, but most women …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:37 PM
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Right?! If anything, OP's post proves his own level of entitlement. Even companies that sell almost entirely to women should still cater to his precious preferences. Marketing directly to women in a way that is effective is just women being entitled to have their brands want to sell things to them? But pooooor pooooor OP can't jack off to the supermodels in the catalogue anymore, and he's the real victim here. They're seeing this as a big cultural move (Trying to tell men what their preferences …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:23 PM
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You're making an incorrect corollary between people choosing to be single and being "self-absorbed". And you're making an incorrect corollary between people choosing to be single and MGTOW's. My comment was clearly directed at those who inhabit MGTOW forums and spaces, which overall have an inflated sense of self-importance. It's extremely common to see posts and comments from those members (yourself included), that have a tone of "the world will crumble without us!", without realizing that very…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 08:54 PM
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Shit, you’re right. All I do is eat Cheetos and watch reality tv all day. I guess the solution is just to enslave all straight white men and force them to be plumbers. I’ll let my coworkers, brother, and boyfriend know.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 04:22 AM
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They definitely give off the same energy as the 6 year old threatening to run away because their mom made them clean their room lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 05:46 PM
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South in what way? Please be specific. All women I know would prefer the way things are now, where they have rights and freedom, to the repressive world of yesteryear that incels promote. South for you is not necessarily south for society. Self-absorbed would’ve been a better word, but solipsistic isn’t completely incorrect. Unless you disagree with the dictionary. words can have multiple meanings.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 05:34 PM
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Curious why MGTOW’s always seem to think their desertion of society is catastrophic. Seems incredibly solipsistic to me. A small (and increasing, but not nearly to the degree y’all like to think) proportion of society choosing not to date really has no major effect on women as a whole. Maybe women who want to get married and can’t will be sad, but they can still have kids and do everything else. There have always been hermits and outsiders, this is nothing new.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 04:49 PM
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Source needed. Also…. Wouldn’t that a good thing for feminine men then? Looooads of modern women are on BC.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:23 AM
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The frat boy jock is an archetype that barely exists in the real world. Do charismatic and attractive people have an easier time getting laid? Of course. By people who are equally as charismatic and less attractive also do just fine. The chubby class clowns do just as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 11:56 PM
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I literally give zero fucks about who’s getting casual sex. I don’t have it, most women I know don’t have it. Relationships are the most viable way for consistent sex for 95% of people. And is your life really so empty because you’re not having one night stands? Most people get by just fine without it. Casual sex is set up as the unattainable be-all-end-all by a lot of men here, because they know it’s incredibly difficult to achieve. Setting that as the goal allows people to ignore the true sour…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 11:52 PM
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Clearly I’m not talking about brad Pitt, homie.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 11:50 PM
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I’m not “not like other girls”-ing. My opinions on who would go where are pretty standard and my tastes are consistent with most women I know. I’m saying that the rando man who made this doesn’t get what women ACTUALLY like. It’s very obvious that this is a dude’s version of attractive guys, not a girl’s. All the 9’s are these super chiseled male model types. Women don’t lust over male models, and very often like men with more feminine/softer features. You’ve got your Hemsworths and Jason Momoa,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 10:56 PM
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Yes ma’am, 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:20 PM
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I might be wrong, but I think that might be Eugene Yang. He’s a total cutie. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:02 PM
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These are very obviously made by a man, not a woman. Those 9’s are the kind of guy that gay men are into, not the kind of guy that straight women are into, generally. I’d completely rearrange that entire charts. There are guys on 3/4 that I’d definitely move up to 6 or 7 if they weren’t making goofy faces. And guys on 6/7 that are more attractive than the guys on 9. Likewise, a few of the dudes 6+ I don’t find attractive even a little bit, and I’d move them down. Most straight guys just don’t un…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 06:53 PM
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In addition to what’s been mentioned, a common thing women will do if they’ve been hurt in the past is go for someone who they believe is below their league. They’ll do this because it makes them feel safer in a relationship, and like a less attractive man will seemingly have fewer options and so will be a better partner. This is a common trope in tiktok vids lately, and it holds up in my personal experience. Personally, generally the less attractive guys I’ve dated are the bigger jerks who aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:58 PM
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Honestly, I don’t have a problem with men doing this. If they want to chill at home and play games and their parents are willing to support them, then so be it. I don’t need a partner to support me, but I would like a partner to share my life with. But in the same vein, I don’t want to support a deadbeat by financially supporting us, maintaining the house, and raising our kids. I can do all that on my own, so why would I bring a man child into the equation? Men who choose to exclude themselves f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:44 PM
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Add to that that there’s no guarantee it’ll even be pleasurable, and there’s a decent chance it’ll be painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:08 PM
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Yeah, I don’t think this is inherent to either gender and is a completely personal thing. While I grew up fairly well-off, my parents are super cheap. We always stayed in Hotwire hotels on vacation and ate at inexpensive restaurants. I’ve carried this trait into adulthood—I’m comfortable financially, but I’m always out looking for deals, even when I’m treating myself. My boyfriend came from a similar background financially, but his family was a lot less conservative with their money. He’s always…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:37 PM
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100%. I’ve got fairly limited sexual experience, and I’ve only had casual sex with one person, and had no problem jumping into bed on the first date with him because I didn’t care to get to know who he was as a person first. I didn’t care about an emotional connection or making the sex special, I was horny and he was good enough, and it was clear to me that nothing romantic would ever happen. And this wasn’t some “Chad” either. The dude was short, overweight, balding, etc. and I always paid my h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:09 PM
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I agree. To me, acts of service means things that someone wouldn’t normally have to do, but chooses to do anyway out of love—that’s what makes it special. If for some reason you’re obligated to always perform the task, I don’t think it’s an act of service, just regular division of labor in the household. The way I see it, if you wash the dishes on a night when it’s your partner’s turn, that qualifies as an act of service. If one partner is always expected to do the dishes, that’s just division o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:03 AM
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