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DumpHerAss2021! Seriously, though. I know it is hard, but I promise you that the hardest part is the initial decision. Once you get rid of her, you'll feel infinitely better. I advise warning her first, just like I did-- not because she might change, but to eliminate the chance of this somehow being a misunderstanding. Right now, you can make excuses for her. I know I made them. 'Oh, maybe she doesn't UNDERSTAND that I don't like to get neglected!' 'Well, maybe she hasn't NOTICED she brushes off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:15 AM
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Ooof, I feel you, sis. I had a very similar friend. She'd talk about our bond constantly, how important I was to her, etc. etc., yet she never seemed to listen to me. She never provided any emotional support when I needed it, either, when I was there for her to guide her through her clusterfuck of a relationship ending. I told her directly what was bothering me because that's how I communicate, and she seemed genuinely apologetic-- she was sorry for 'not being a good friend' (her words) and prom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:23 PM
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Hahaha, oh god, I literally dropped a """"friend""" like that like two weeks ago. Like, no, Meredith, I'm not here just to entertain you when you can't find a guy to date. (She moved in with him after one month of them knowing each other, too. The red flags were all over the place.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:43 PM
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I feel you. I was always lonely, too, for various reasons. It's a mix of introversion, mental illness at an age where everyone else got to form lasting friendships, and hobbies that just... don't appeal to most people/are inherently lonely activities. It can be hard. While I was never a pickme for men, I absolutely was a pickme for my friends at one point. You know what helped me? Learning to appreciate myself and being myself, unapologetically. I realized that pretending only made me more miser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:40 PM
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"didn't teach her how to be a girl" Lmaooo, that would be the moment I'd dump his useless ass. As if there's a wrong way to be a woman! Anyway, I'm happy for you :) It's good that you're allowing yourself to listen to your preferences once again. And tbh, to me, the whole feminine/masculine dichotomy is a load of nonsense. I know that I will never be feminine according to the society's standards, but so what? Wtf should I care? That doesn't define my worth. I refuse to let my life be a spectacle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:16 PM
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Lmaoooo, you can tell that she's trying to brainwash herself into thinking this is okay. 'Hahaha, I'm totally fine with this, nothing suspicious here! Can you see how happy I am?' Btw., 50/50 is a scam in a relationship. If you love that person, you'll pay for your expenses proportionally. I make significantly more than my partner, so yeah, I do pay more for rent. I want him to actually have disposable income, and he did the same for me when he earned more. Oh, and with that disposable income, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:15 PM
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I get you, it does sound hard. That being said... it's literally just in your head. It's patriarchal conditioning and you can overcome it if you try hard enough. I literally never wear make-up. I don't even own a single mascara. You know what people say to me at work? Nothing. They're as used to my natural face as I am. Hell, I also don't shave my legs/pits and nobody bats an eye. It can be done if that's something you'd be interested in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:06 PM
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Relationship OCD is a thing, actually. OCD can revolve around pretty much anything that you feel obsessive about, and this type just happens to have a name because it's one of the more common ones. That doesn't mean that she should just take it, though. Like... you can recover from OCD. Most people eventually do. If anything, the diagnosis should help her realize that she's acting irrationally and that she should push back against her impulses instead of being like 'tee hee, that's my OCD, I can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:51 PM
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Tbh, the whole concept of "maintenance" insults me. I am not a machine to be kept in working order; I'm a human. The fact that this high/low maintenance shit became so well-spread only shows how much women have been commodified. But yes, I do agree with the sentiment here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:49 AM
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The fact that he preferred someone else doesn't mean you are 'not good enough'. You were just incompatible. Be glad it ended quickly, without wasting more of your valuable time. You'll find someone else, don't sweat it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:06 AM
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Why do you want to waste your time with LVMs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:51 PM
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"""daily war within himself""" Lmao, what? I can understand wanting to play some videogames from time to time, but playing every day for hours on end? It is NOT normal to have no other hobbies, let alone be proud of your man for 'staying off the streets,' whatever it means. At least she can feel smug for being such a nice girl, I suppose! We all have our little joys in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 05:09 PM
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"""Unpopular Opinion""" Sadly, that's not the case. Not even remotely! Everyone and their mother thinks we're entitled princesses for wanting a man who would actually, you know, respect and cherish us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:39 AM
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My friend was... really nice, but not that bright, and men always preyed relentlessly on her because of it. Her last ex was a real piece of work. He made her cook for him and his friends while they laughed at her together, etc. etc. And she still wanted a child with him! Thankfully, he cheated on her and broke up with her. I spent months, literal months trying to make her feel better about it, but she cried every day that she wanted to return to him. It was utterly mind-boggling. Predictably, sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:34 PM
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Or just... don't give blow jobs at all? Lol. After I explained to my partner how much of a chore it is (trying not to gag, etc. etc.), he doesn't want them from me. Because, you know, he understands I'm not a pornstar, but an actual human being. It is mindblowing to me how many women go along with something that makes them uncomfortable. It only proves how much we have been gaslit as a gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:55 PM
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Men really are babies. When my father got divorced because my mother cheated on him, he spent hours and hours telling me and my little sister how he was just going take advantage of women now, fuck them and get rid of them, etc. etc. Not sure why he thought his freaking DAUGHTERS wanted to hear of his LVM mentality, but yes. Men really do think of women as one homogenous entity, which means that if one of them hurts them, they will take revenge on any innocent woman they stumble upon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:54 PM
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What the FUCK. How do you marry someone who doesn't even have the decency to say they love you? I mean, this is such an important milestone culturally, and it only shows they a) don't care about you, b) can't be bothered to get over their weird emotional hangups. Nah, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:45 PM
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Solid post. Also, as someone who has struggled with mental illness, I would advise not tell the guy in question what you're suffering from unless you're serious about him. Men fetishize the ever living fuck out of mentally ill women. "Crazy chicks are beasts in bed," etc. etc. Protect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:16 AM
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Not true. A LVM won't magically change into a HVM just because they managed to get a hot girl. In fact, many LVM will treat their hot gfs like shit because they won't to feel powerful. The issue with average-looking girls is that they tend to have self-esteem issues and thus they will put up with more. I'm average looks-wise, I think, and my husband falls all over himself to make me happy. Makes coffee for me, cooks for me, whenever I so much as imply that I want something, he'll jump and get it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:18 PM
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Eh. Personally, I'd just reject the man and wouldn't even explain why. I don't want to teach him what is appropriate and what isn't. He should know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 05:28 PM
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For sure! And they do it with the smallest of things, too. Like, I mentioned in front of one of them I liked a certain videogame, and he immediately went: "Oh, yeah? But have you completed it without leveling up and with a broken sword? Because that's what I usually do!" Uhh, good on you, I suppose, but I don't enjoy the idea of wasting half an hour on a single boss fight since I actually have other things to do? Needless to say, I blocked him, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:36 PM
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Distract yourself. It's good that you're improving yourself, but remember to have fun, too. Balance is important!! Treat yourself to a nice dinner, go to a concert, make plans with your friends, hell, buy a new videogame if these things make you happy. Always make sure to be doing something so that you don't have the time to think unhappy thoughts. In time, you'll get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:33 AM
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Not being able to shake my hand properly. The guys who either try to shatter my hand or seem to not want touch it at all are always suspect to me. My experience validates it, too. Treating every discussion like an argument to be won and/or trying to upstage you every chance they get. Not having any real hobby. Being too into sports. (I just can't stand guys whose entire personality is being a football fan.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:43 PM
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Lol yeah, this is very, very common. People are envious creatures, unfortunately. Those women know their men are low value and thus they got triggered. If they were secure in their decisions, they wouldn't have dreamed of messaging you. Anyway, it happened to me often as well. I was very open about my standards to anyone who asked. Few people liked the answer because I straight up told them I want my partner to be at least as educated as me and that I won't even consider anyone who can't hold an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:59 PM
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I guess I just don't get why it's important, lol. I mean, even if we accepted this distinction (which is based purely on gender stereotypes), I don't think we'd be able to judge it accurately based on the information provided. People rarely give unbiased info when talking about themselves. And having kids is something you should totally plan for! Being rational when it comes to these things is the only way to be even remotely prepared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:06 PM
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First of all, your ex bf sounds like trash. The thing about you being too rational? A red flag, and a huge one. A HVM would appreciate your intelligence. Be glad that you broke up, you dodged a bullet. Also, it is not helpful to think of your personality as masculine or feminine. You are you, and you will inevitably find someone who appreciates you for exactly that. You can improve yourself by learning new skills (like bettter stress management) and such, but you can't - and shouldn't want to - …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:16 AM
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One of my classmates criticited me for my big nose. We weren't even romantically involved and I wasn't asking. The funny thing is that when I called him out for being a skinnyfat midget with a receding hairline, suddenly I was being mean and my behavior was uncalled for 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:28 PM
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Seconding everyone who recommends therapy, but I know therapy is not always an option, so this is what you can do in the meantime: stop dating and find a hobby. Something creative and engrossing. Just... distract yourself, stop thinking about dating and learn how to have fun on your own. That is the first step to being fine with loneliness. Boredom is a terrible, terrible poison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:07 PM
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I was a late bloomer, but never a pickme. As a child, I was fat and mentally ill (severe OCD since I was about eight years old), so I had no friends. People made fun of me regularly and guys beat me at school. Fortunately, I was always very smart and stubborn, so I was able to accurately pinpoint that they were the scum, not me, and that I didn't need any validation from them. I spent most of my childhood reading/studying/having fun on my own and discovered that I didn't mind solitude. Then I we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:55 PM
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What is so amazing about this hoe culture? Your ability to sleep with random men who won't even give you an orgasm?? I truly wonder what their motivations are because, statistically, it sure as hell isn't pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:30 PM
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If you know you won't be happy with his dick size, you should break up with him before you get even more attached. It's not shallow to have standards. The 'looks don't matter' propaganda was invented by ugly males. You need to be attracted to your partner!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:40 PM
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Exactly. When you notice men doing this to you, just block and move on. You don't have time for this bullshit in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:34 PM
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Mostly roleplay sites. My favorite is rpnation.com because it bans explicit content and so you won't get creepy males asking you for fetish stuff. I know that roleplay as a concept has... a pretty bad reputation in some circles, but that's mostly due to the aforementioned creepy dudes. With the right partners, it's really just writing, and it's easier to find them on sites like this because they have large traffic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:34 PM
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As far as I am concerned, you have to put the effort somewhere. It doesn't necessarily have to be looks, though. I, for example, do nothing with my looks. I am thin and have good skin, yes, but that's just my genes at work. I never wear make-up and I don't shave, either, because fuck that bullshit. The thing is, I am smart and educated, and I am great at holding conversations, which means I still attract people. You don't need to be a model or a caricature of femininity, but you do have to be va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:05 PM
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I very much agree! I have become so disillusioned with the media written by males where women basically just exist as plot devices. One other thing you can do (aside from focusing on women writers) is to create the content you want yourself. Lately, my biggest hobby has been collaborative writing. I only write with fellow women and I have to say, it's one of the most fulfilling things I have experienced! Getting to bond with them through geeking out over the plot twists and the depth of our char…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:28 PM
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Men are always given the benefit of doubt, that's the reason. Well, that, and women's struggles are always minimized. That's how you get such advice; it is assumed that you are overreacting and he is the reasonable one who will listen to logic. Sad, but that's how misogyny works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:48 AM
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But what if she asked him to do the chores? I mean, think of the horror!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:29 AM
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I pay literally nothing, lol. Okay, I do get a new haircut from time to time to avoid split ends and such, but that's it. I don't own a single mascara or skincare product, mostly because I refuse to alter my appearance. I like the way my face looks naturally. And you know what? My man still spends money on me because he loves me. He wouldn't dream of complaining about it. That's the kind of relationship you should aim for. You are valuable and you deserve someone who acknowledges it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:12 AM
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Oh come on, the wording may have been a bit clumsy at times, but it is obvious what OP meant. Are you really comparing a world where women are able to choose their partners freely, without detrimental outside influences, to The Handmaid's tale? Really? Also, how insanely misogynistic to put the blame for LMV existing on women. Good job. I mean, it's a meme, but we do live in a society that validates LVM and thinking it won't affect your parenting at all is painfully naive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:29 AM
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Nonsense. Even married men can and do make shit fathers. Marriage means nothing, especially since it's so easy for men to divorce you and not pay child support anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:32 PM
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Lol, how delusional! Do they really think their beer gut, pathetic balding patterns and general decrepitness is attractive? The truth is, very few older people are genuinely good looking, but the society only bullies women because of it. I wonder why 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:24 PM
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Why are males so stupid? Do they think we WANT our friends to be raped/molested? Jesus fucking Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:42 PM
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Yeah, they want to have their cake and eat it, too. Most of them aren't even truly conservative because they love their porn and/or don't believe in god; they just want their personal slave because it's just that fucking convenient. Also, note how these men usually can't even do manual work and spend their time playing videogames, lol. Soooo traditional!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:52 AM
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Lmao, I never shave because fuck that bullshit. Men don't shave, either, so why should I have to? And spoiler alert: I'm in a committed relationship and still have sex regularly. Wow, it's almost like it's just another societal standard that doesn't matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:09 PM
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Exactly. Whenever there was someone who seemed really, really off to me, I just distanced myself. Later, I usually found out there was something drastically wrong with them; one of them was a wife batterer, the other a serial cheater and the next one was buried in debts. Your intuition is warning you for a reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:04 PM
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