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Question For WomenPlenty_Patience_5491/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:16 PM
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Oh this is gonna get removed super quickly, just cause of the name. Why comment on this? It's not gonna end well. If I question any intent, I'm walking away, but, because I'm a guy and the bullshit is real, I'm recording the moment I tell you no and me walking away, so no bullshit is made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:53 AM
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Yep, as is life, but I learned something from it so it isn't a total loss.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 02:48 AM
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That comment right there, that's the Patriarchy ;D LOL
/r/MensRights25/12/24 07:46 AM
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BS, my ex wife don't make near that much and (after stealing my home in the divorce with the help of the court system) she "owns" a home.
/r/MensRights25/12/24 06:36 AM
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I'm glad, I'm very medium, a woman won't pursue me because I'm so damn hot, but won't avoid me if I show interest, so I can just have women leave me alone and be fine with it. I have to seek for me to find.
/r/MensRights25/12/24 04:01 AM
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I hope the situation works out for you man because it affects your work, maybe time for some new friends, I had to do that move in 2022. They heard I was moving away from our small town, and were jealous so the hating on me began. One of them tried to wave to me the other day, I ignored it. The other saw me in one of my ex wife's stores (It's in the same town we're from) and tried to talk to me, I looked at that motherfucker like he was crazy and asked "Do I know you dude?" he was like "So it's …
/r/MensRights25/12/24 03:50 AM
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Dude, HERE FUCKING HERE, I had my ex wife live with me for 5 years, and the contract was, you do the house work, dishes, and all that, I'll work. I lived up to my end of the bargain, the bills got paid, but low and behold, the house STAYED nasty. And then, we separate in 2020, her camper she lived in was DISGUSTING, because there she didn't even need the pretext of trying to clean. Dishes piled up, dog crap everywhere, gross. I paid her money all the time, and I paid a down payment of $10,000 fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 01:37 AM
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The zero tolerance thing I learned in my divorce, once I started seeing how my ex wife manipulated me, and now her current boyfriend, yeah, put a full stop to that once you see it forming because then women will see "Oh, he ain't playin, I can't play his ass like a fiddle."
/r/MensRights25/12/24 01:23 AM
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Sound like some suck ass dudes. The ONE thing about the friend group I used to be around, they were on drugs too much though so I had to ditch them, I have kids, I'm not about that, but the ONE GOOD THING about them was, when a woman came around talking that bullshit (because we've all experienced it) we told her to kick rocks. We wouldn't even let her in the group hang out house, our favorite saying while they were pounding on the door was "Take that bullshit on somewhere." I only miss one pers…
/r/MensRights25/12/24 01:09 AM
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Yeah, it sounds like she's trying to work her magic on someone to wedge between her and that abusive ex, like she's trying to have somebody save her. Let me quote a rapper from Memphis Tn (Where I'm from) Project Pat "Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved, don't save her." That's what comes to mind with this.
/r/MensRights25/12/24 12:27 AM
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Yeah the internet is dogshit, most people just use it to bitch about things that people in real life would tell them to go kick rocks about.
/r/MensRights25/12/24 12:23 AM
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Oh my ex wife caught me in a stupid moment because I thought we were turning a page and I put a $10,000 down payment out of my retirement money on our (now her) home. Yeah, when she didn't put my name on the lease, I should have fucking put my foot down and said "No, WTF." That's why you never trust people. Ya know that woman lived with me for 5 years before that and didn't pay a bill? All of a sudden in 2020, she gets a good job and all of a sudden I'M the bum cause I get in an 18 wheeler wreck…
/r/MensRights24/12/24 11:02 AM
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And the thing about the Tik Tok girl, god SHE WAS SO FUCKING FINE, like I WANTED to have something in common with her, but it was just, no, there was no "There" there to work with. Tried for 15 minutes and then I made my exit. Next time I'm gonna have some fun with a date I know isn't going well and I'm gonna just say some off the wall shit, "Yeah, this date has to be quick, My Mommy has to pick me up in a bit." "Did you say you're 'Mommy'?" "Yes. Don't you call your Mother Mommy and drink hot c…
/r/MensRights24/12/24 10:31 AM
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I literally had to do that to this one girl the other day, she had NO FUCKING personality and would only talk about Tik Tok shit, no football, no current events, no Tyson/Paul fight, no Christmas talk, no hey hows your job, JUST Tik Tok shit. So....well, you saw my comment above. Then I ghosted, no thanks. I'm VERY clear though, I'm just in it to fuck, on the up front, my heart is too cold from the divorce to be fuckin around with anything else. I had an ex girlfriend I dated for 5 and a half mo…
/r/MensRights24/12/24 10:23 AM
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Bruv, really? If you said she's pretty, they're all wanting some of that ass, so yeah, the abusive ex is just the enforcer, and really hit people up outside of your friends circle for dates cause the "I've known one of them for 20 years!" Oooooh, I know it's only because I have kids, but I don't let ANYONE know where I live, because I keep that thang, and if someone is knocking who isn't my Mother or the Police, they're gonna meet it face to face, I live in the South I don't play bullshit about …
/r/MensRights24/12/24 10:20 AM
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When you heard about the abusive ex, you should have cut your losses with a "Oh, I have to go to the bathroom, miscuzzi." and dipped like Tostitos.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 10:15 AM
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I see what you did there, top notch bruv.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 09:53 AM
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I'd like to say, modern dating does suck, and I haven't dated in 10 years dude, but I have eyes. Da fuck is this post? Your glean from your experience what you will, and others will what they will. I'm not trying to change your mind, so express your idea, but everyone lives a different reality brother. No Hope, no future, and no mercy. LET THE DOWNVOTES FLOW THROUGH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:47 AM
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Yeah, but that goes into the meat and potatoes of the essence of WHY it's a saying in the first place right? Because, well, you know I can't say it man, I'll get the banhammer, but come on, you know. Internet be really really toilet paper sensitive in todays age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:44 AM
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Something about exceptions not being rules ya know.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:38 AM
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Cliches are cliches for a reason, because there is truth to them. LET THE DOWNVOTES FLOW THROUGH ME!!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:29 AM
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Look, I'm not trying to hate on some of you people, but the world is cold and cruel, if it weren't wars and all that nasty stuff wouldn't exist. JUST BECAUSE it's a cruel world where everyone is selfish 95% of the time, doesn't mean it's hopeless, it just means that for relationships because they involve not just you and the other person, society, media, your families, too many influences of our modern world tip the scales one way or another. I think some of ya'll HAVE to have hope in relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:26 AM
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Sure, hey man, leave $1 million dollars in bearer bonds somewhere someone KNOWS they can get away with it if they steal it and see them be gone ONE HUNDRED PERCENT OF THE TIME. FACTS. LET THE DOWNVOTES FLOW THROUGH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:21 AM
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Lord, so "I'm happily married, thus anyone who doubts marriage is not in good faith." For people who always use the "Oh that's only anecdotal evidence" argument, that's sure some anecdotal evidence logic you're using there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:18 AM
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With due diligence, dude, you're saying basically you can control another persons thoughts and desires. A relationship involves a whole other person who you don't live in their head. No you can't control another persons thoughts and emotions, a person has to choose every day to wake up and feel the same love they felt for you consistently for 20-60 plus years, how many people have that level of dedication? HONESTLY, not the "Oh I want to believe in humanity" version. Like dude, didn't this elect…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:17 AM
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I didn't say most, I said ALL. Now, this isn't ALWAYS the man, but most times it is the man. I know because my Mom is the doormat in her marriage and so is my aunt in hers. My uncles, they're the doormat in theirs, my best friend (the dude one) is the doormat in his. "Oh that's just your life." Really? Feel free to search it up on Google, in a newspaper, ask people on the streets. I know life isn't sensitive to fee fees, poor babies, sorry, life is cruel and unfair, and so why would marriage be …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:12 AM
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No, I'm straight up saying it, fuck that, all married people are doormats, the men who stand up to the tyranny are the divorcees, even if you don't realize it, you are, period. Cope. LET THE DOWNVOTES FLOW THROUGH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:09 AM
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Yeah, but what is the saying "Happy wife, happy life." meaning most of these dudes have had their soul crushed and their will dominated just to appease the other party, that's not a relationship, that's slavery. How would people feel if the saying was reversed "Happy Husband, Happy Life." Oh no we couldn't have that now could we? Ask yourselves, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:07 AM
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Exactly, all women are narcissists, point blank period. There is no thing that they do that isn't some exercise in self indulgence and look at me behavior. People in general are like that, but the thing about women in this society, they are catered to when they act like this, validated, and encouraged to be a nag and in general be difficult people and it's everyone else's problem if they point it out. Case in point? This post WILL be removed, I guarantee it, because people can't handle the truth…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:04 AM
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"Hello, yes 911." She can go ahead and say the cops are harassing her.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 01:02 AM
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No one is getting that. I really don't care that she was a Pornstar either, Riley Reid is so freakin cute, but I like brunettes so, they always get to me. Anywayz, both men and women need to take those stupid ass lists they make of "A guy needs to be this" "A girl needs to be that" and realize, having rigid standards that you MUST stick to (Other than someone not abusing you and them treating you with basic human decency and respect) is ludicrous. It's for young or overly hot people, and even th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:59 AM
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"Todd!!!! Are you not aware that I get farty and bloated with a foamy latte!?" "My mistake Jacobim." "YOUR MISTAKE INDEED!" Goddamn.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:54 AM
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I remember that movie, when he spills the coffee on dude, it was back when I was a pothead and buddy, I almost died laughing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:51 AM
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A balance between not sleeping with everyone you meet and not avoiding sex at all costs, a man should be like that too really. I'm not a Red Piller though. I am 35, and in my older age (relative to aggregate or average age of the internet) I value a woman who makes you wait for it far more. Not that I would judge if a woman wanted to sleep with me on the first date, I wouldn't think lesser of you, I'm just gonna take a hard pass, I did this with my ex girlfriend, hell I never ended up sleeping w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:49 AM
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I gotta agree, I've never seen it, but then again I only have my meager experiences and there's 168 million women in the US, so I assume there's gotta be some. I just haven't seen it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:27 PM
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I'm from the Southern USA, and people from my country are idiots. It's not their faults, the Puritan culture morphed into something that both tries to live up to purity and also has closeted decadence (not Gay people, I don't have a problem with that, I'm talking about people acting like they aren't freaks behind closed doors and aren't assholes behind closed doors to everyone they know), and they act like they're normal and everything is fine. The word of the day for my country is, unsustainabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:24 PM
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That's why I don't have a type (within reason, someone with a completely different, lifestyle, upbringing, and values set is obviously not gonna work out so I wouldn't waste my time, I mean this more for looks, weight, and race as those things I feel for me personally, you shouldn't be judged on). People are people, in a lot of ways, if you've dated one guy, you've dated them all, if you've dated one girl, you've dated them all. Not in the micro sense, but in the macro generalized sense, some th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:09 PM
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I understand the point of everyone wants companionship and love, and you can still go after that, but be realistic about the fact that, someone CAN and sometimes DO wake up and just decide "I don't love this person anymore." To say that's never happened is bias in itself and not having a good faith discussion about the subject. The "Gamble" people refer to are things along those lines, the chance of you finding that good person is MUCH lower than the chance of you not. Echoes about being hurt ar…
/r/MensRights23/12/24 05:16 PM
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That and, I'm sorry I don't mean to rant and bitch, but her and the "Good Mom" thing, yeah sure, a good Mom sits there and just stays on her phone and fakes the times she gets off work so she can hang out and drive around to avoid being around her kids. My mother worked a lot too, but when she came home SHE SPENT TIME WITH ME!!!!!!!!! Hell, my mother felt bad about how much she had to work, my ex wife is glad she works so much so she doesn't have to be a Mom, I honestly think she didn't want to …
/r/MensRights22/12/24 03:49 PM
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I hope your marriage lasts the rest of your life and you and your wife and family are happy. I begrudge no one for their happiness, but I hate to be anecdotal; however, Compare the amount of negative stories, just on this subReddit page, and compare how many people have your experience. I guarantee the divorces outweigh them, just not a worthwhile gamble for a young man to take looking at it like that.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 05:37 AM
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Good on you, hope you stay that way bruv. I got reeled in and fucked over, so I'm called the walking cautionary tale. The only thing worthwhile from my marriage was my 3 kids, but as soon as I had them, I should have just left her ass.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 05:34 AM
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This is gospel. Seriously, you and GDACK, if I could upvote you a million times I would. Was married for 9 years, I know the business, the house I put money in? Hers. The VERY nice car I had. Hers. My kids. Only not hers *****because she knew I would fight her tooth and nail and my kids wouldn't stand for not seeing me, my oldest daughter especially because her siblings are younger, but she was my only child for 6 years and so me and her have a special connection, she's old enough to choose and …
/r/MensRights22/12/24 05:32 AM
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50%, Uh 95%, I don't care what someone says, oh and the 3% is rich people (where both man and woman are rich) and the 2% are people who have given up and don't wanna die lonely so they just take it.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 05:18 AM
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Im one time divorced and nah, the 1 is fine for me, I've learned pretty much my entire ass lesson from that first one. Tons of reason for a woman, once the man makes you mad or deviates from your perceived supremacy, leave him and you get all of his shit, rinse, and repeat. Ew, these women are nasty.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 05:14 AM
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Yeah, it's also until they realize, "Oh these women think I'm one of the good ones." And then they realize, to them there are no "Good ones." Alright guys, I'm about to get ready to watch Tennessee THRASH the Buckeyes.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 12:57 AM
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Yeah, it's nuts, the other way around, the dude would already be dead. Why isn't this the same on both sides? I hate all forms of child rapists, period.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 08:02 PM
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Ew, I would have kicked that ladies ass if she'd touched my son! Sicko.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 08:01 PM
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Hey dude, who were those 919 dudes? I wouldn't sign up for that and imagine being the dude who went last LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:52 PM
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The no accountability and not admitting to mistakes is SOOOOO them.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 07:47 PM
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Yeah, and the blatant double standard my ex wife was about. She knee jerk just always believed women, unless it was a man she wanted to fuck, like the Amber Heard Johnny Depp situation, Oh THEN it's okay to believe the man. How about when the guy is working class? Hmm? I never forget the moment I knew my ex wife was lost in the sauce, she commented on a story I told her about this young 21 year old girl not getting ANY jail time for accusing this 51 year old man (for which he lost his job) of ra…
/r/MensRights21/12/24 07:43 PM
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Yeah, to be with these women is to try and find sanity in the insane asylum.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 07:37 PM
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I don't know, but these people on here will delete this comment and think "They're bias, I'm deleting this." completely oblivious to the fact, they're proving our point right there. Would anyone even think to delete a post saying "Why has the west become so Anti-Woman?" No. Fuck no they wouldn't, so that's the bias right there. Bias by "Well you're in power." Not me? the RICH men, I've never been rich so I'm getting all of the grief with none of the benefit. "I can't walk around at night and jog…
/r/MensRights21/12/24 07:33 PM
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Classic, "My situation represents all situations." Come on man, I am able to stay pretty fit despite eating what I want and working out very little, besides Dad gut that only built up in the last year, does that represent everyone? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:29 PM
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Cheers mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 05:53 PM
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Aw your feelings hurt? It's the internet. HIVE mind baby, go outside of Reddit and learn everyone isn't gonna be exactly like you. You can't accept that, it makes life very difficult indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 05:52 PM
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They never will bruv. That would involved accountability, when is the last time they displayed that. Nice try, I said they, could have been talking about anybody, so try to report this, it'll go nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:28 AM
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Yo yep, but there are still those odd little ducks. Like the women I worked with, my ex wife, her sister, her Mom, My aunt, my sisters aren't like that so that's 2, The women I worked with at my previous job, my ex best friend, my one life long friend girl isn't like that so that's 1. I think it's also a more prevalent thing in poorer communities, if you're all Middle Class then, the anger just isn't as palpable because you have a lot of palette cleanser activities to get you socially lubricated…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:27 AM
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Most people aren't nuanced dawg, I think the platform we're on speaks volumes about that. I made a post on r slash rant simply stating that this woman couldn't effectively speak about mens issues, because she was not in fact a man, a pretty innocent and just matter of fact statement right (flip the genders and you'd get a million "YAAASSSS QUEEEENNNSSSS"), but I was banned for 3 days. I've come out in support of women in more male based communities and only got downvoted severely, not straight u…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:24 AM
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w00tsauce. LOLLOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:21 AM
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The Barbie model with a big butt (I personally would prefer a Latina or A Filipina, or a White girl with dark hair, I'm not into Blondes), loves to cook, doesn't mind staying in (so you save money), doesn't shop, doesn't complain, and let's you hang with the guys as much as you want (and you don't have to worry about her straying), and looks at other women's asses with you. Knows when to be assertive (in defense of you and our children), and knows when to be submissive (the bedroom) Sorry to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:20 AM
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Again downvoted for? Seriously, an opinion ya'll don't like and ya'll run from it, you know you can't run from real life right? It catches up with you every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:14 AM
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Yeah, the traditional definition, not "Hey we're equal, but actually, I'm in charge." All the modern western woman wants is a man to just say "Yes Dear" to EVERYTHING, that's not a partner, that's a servant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:11 AM
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Twas a joke. These literal "fuckers" as in fornicators. If I had to explain it, it just wasn't funny LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:07 AM
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I get that one mate, I mean, I made a comment on R slash rant where, I simply said this woman couldn't chime in and have any experienced apparatus because she was talking as if she knew what it was like to live as a man, she didn't, and my perfectly reasonable post got me banned for 3 days. So needless to say, this is my last day on this site, that's just unacceptable no matter what the reason. Like this post, removed, why? What did anyone say that was SUCH a slight that it had to be removed? Gr…
/r/MensRights21/12/24 06:57 AM
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No....I'm not touching this one.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 09:46 AM
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Shit, good on you. It's really not hard, you wanna feel "grown" and have your relationship doomed to fail, get married. Sure fire way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:22 AM
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And have it's corpse set on fire and dipped in acid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:21 AM
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Thank you, goddamn, that's why I don't want a western woman, I shouldn't have to slap a diamond on your fucking finger and make it basically be a contract of pain for me to love you. If I love you, I love you, I'm NEVER doing that shit again. 9 years and all it did was trap me and my ex wife until we couldn't stand it anymore. I mean we were so opposite, besides when it comes to our kids, I haven't spoken to her in a conversation not involving that, since.....July. So yeah, waste of fucking time…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:20 AM
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I can't the internet is too sensitive, I miss the old 2005 internet, I could say the joke I'm thinking of then, but I don't wanna get canceled so I'll stand down.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 09:10 AM
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You mean the battle box. Get it right. GOD. and guys please stop. I've followed politics for 20 years and let me tell you something, no politician gives a shit about your social situation, it's all a show. Democrats, Republicans, they're all rich. Let me give you 1 billion dollars and see how quickly your care of what goes on with us poors fades into a bitter memory. Just cause you like him, that doesn't change that. Obama, Trump, Vance, DeSantis, Biden, Harris, it's no different. Trump walks on…
/r/MensRights17/12/24 08:19 AM
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I'm not for either. Ick, religion of any kind. I'm not following arbitrary rules set forth by some ancient book years ago. Like fucking why?
/r/MensRights17/12/24 08:15 AM
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Um.....dude, you know there's more countries than just the one you're in, there's hope, but it ain't in the Western world sir. Any women on here feel free to hate, but it's just objective reality. Their so used to hearing society blow their heads up they can't fathom someone wanting to escape their bullshit.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 08:14 AM
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I'm.....I'm not jacking off though. I mean, not all the time, but every 2 weeks or so what evs. I'm having sex with women, I'm addicted to the full package, not just the feeling, and I hate that because, I'm where women are with men right now, I can't stand their asses. The duplicity of dating, I hate ya'll, but I like fucking you. The eternal paradox continues.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 07:49 AM
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Sorry about the misunderstanding on my part about you not saying it was guaranteed. It's the internet, a lot gets lost in translation. Yeah, I don't think you listened (viewed, but not read, really since it's the internet), you heard, but didn't listen, it's a good thing the lessened libido, I didn't mean it in the way of I completely don't want sex, I'm just not jonesing for it all the time anymore. It means I'm not so ready to go with the sex that I make stupid judgements. I meant it as, I see…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:43 AM
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Or you can be a sarcastic bitch your whole life. Seriously, so, I try to give positive advice, not projecting, just trying to help and your answer to that, is to comment this. Right? A lot of you are angry ain't ya? I thought that weed was supposed to calm ya down?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:33 AM
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Life is about balance, and learning and growing, what you don't see when you're a child and the adults you knew were well adjusted were the experiences and failed relationships it took for them to become well adjusted. I don't judge brother, I never would. Life is what we make it, and as long as we evolve beyond what we were, we always can turn into something better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:33 AM
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You are younger though, your libido is still going, my assumption based on, oh, well, I thought you were the OP, well, anyway, I already have it in my mind so I'm gonna finish, based on the OP. I'm older, the last girl I dated for 5 and a half months and I didn't even sleep with her, though she wanted to (No, it's not that "I'm so hot" or "I'm so attractive" she saw I wasn't dying in the desert from being thirsty as fuck like most of the dudes on the apps, I had patience because I'm older and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:27 AM
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That's not always a guarantee though, you were talking about it as if a promiscuous woman is GUARANTEED to treat you better, and it's really the same as anyone 50/50 their upbringing, how they view life, and their past relationship experiences are much better indicators of that. All I was saying. I'd rather deal with a prude only because, look, I get women are gonna sleep around at a greater rate then Men because when they have a single phase, there is no barrier between them and the sex they wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:23 AM
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Yeah, I have to agree. My ex wife used to LIVE on those type of Tik Toks, oh but she's talking to dudes on Tinder, bet she shelves that bullshit when she's trying to get them to fuck her, LOL, so they know the behavior is toxic, but just can't help the self indulgence, which is basically the name of the game with majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:15 AM
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"Just marry anyone who will sleep with you?" HEY! I didn't marry the first person who would sleep with me, the first person who got pregnant with my kids, get it right LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:13 AM
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Yeah the movie he is referencing is shit, Stanley Kubricks shittiest film IMO. Just about wanting to fuck, I mean he was older so he was probably really feeling this emotion, but since I cheated 2 years ago it taught me, if you don't wanna be with someone, just break up. And even "Just wanting to fuck" someone, is a form of not wanting to be with your partner. I had to think about this one a lot, why did I cheat on my girl, I guess the deep seated answer is, I knew deep down, she wasn't my perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:07 AM
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I'm sorry, that movie is some deep cut White people shit. "I would do anything, give up you or the kids, just to be with him." Yeah, that's some Whitey White people shit man. NYC White people shit. I'm sorry you picked a movie I abhor. I mean sure, if you two have a clearly stated expectation and boundary clearly set, and this next part is important, you two are MATURE PEOPLE and stick STRICTLY to those guidelines. A lot of people just can't bother to be loyal and think of it as a lifestyle hack…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:04 AM
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Well thank you, you said it in an intelligent way. I value sounding like a know it all over actual substance. "With all that being said, her being promiscuous or not really has no correlation with her moral character or the kind of partner she would be" Hell if anything the negative experiences and consequences of her lifestyle (As there are negative consequences for men who engage in such, STD's and missed potential relationships and all that) would make her be a more understanding partner, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:47 AM
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I wanna disagree with you, but my DNA and objective reality just won't let me. Oh, I can disagree in this aspect, OUTSIDE of America, ha.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:42 AM
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I mean sure, but you'd have to win the lottery.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:41 AM
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Oh God, The Chad. Whenever I hear that I think of the Charlie's Angels 2000 when Tom Green was like "It's the Chad."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:41 AM
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Vote No Sex on the ballot initiative petition I'm signing, these literal fuckers are gonna get what comincg to them LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:40 AM
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In what universe? It's a very narrow understanding of gender relations. It's stereotyping in a way that's not helpful. There's stereotypes that help you for sure, I mean, they exist for a reason am I right? However, this one ain't helpful, it's flawed in it's premise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:39 AM
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Quit the weed my friend, it's blinding you, go straight edge, I didn't start seeing life in actual terms and working on myself until I did. Then again, I'm Me, and you're you. I can't be productive and smoke, it blinds me to too many things. Hell, nvm, wasn't trying to tell you what to do, I just know if I had stopped smoking earlier, my dumbass could have seen my marriage for what it was, and not had to wait 9 years to see it was a foolish endeavor.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:38 AM
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It's not that simple, just really not. Most women have had 10 or more sexual partners in their adult life AT LEAST, so depending on who you ask that's "Used up" or "Ran through". "Cooking with Kya" Yeah, I didn't buy into it when rich folks tried to make me care about their lives via celebrities and I'm not feeding in when formerly poor influencers do it either, I am too old to know who that is. I'm so so very confused because in your one statement "It's unfair to lump them all into the stereoty…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:35 AM
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That's great man, I don't begrudge anybody for their happiness working out. I like to quote a Green Day song "When I Come Around." when talking about my former marriage, "You can't go forcing something, if it's just not right." And that pretty much sums it up. Backyard wedding that sounds cool, I bet your Mom hated that she missed that. Have you ever thought of renewing your vows so she could be there next time? I had to go to the courthouse because I really didn't have money to do all that. I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 12:08 PM
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Um...You lost me? I mean, as in the same feeling, yeah, but it's with actual women, so.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 11:50 AM
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I'm from the South so, I'm shooting my guns. I just can't and won't be married again, but good for you brother. I didn't get married the right way anyway, didn't choose someone for who they were, me and her just didn't wanna be lonely, you know how it is. How long ya been married bruv?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:49 AM
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It's intentional, I do believe in their heads and as an understood policy of all Western White women (and some Black and Latino women in the clique) to AVIDLY hate all men and try to fuck them over on some female supremacy game, but don't say anything out loud because they know if they make the war known and vocal, they'd lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:47 AM
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I mean, humans are walking contradictions, so, I mean no one is "different" macro, but under a microscope, you see all sorts of differences and contradictions. This one lady I knew, Mexican lady, had an alcoholic husband (I knew this lady since I've been 9) and for literally 20 years she swore off men, and actually was a lesbian with her former best girl friend, well that lady went to jail for theft, and when the new neighbor, young latino dude, moved in next to her, she got pregnant with his ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:09 AM
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Good for you, I didn't pick a good wife, she was from an abused home and didn't deal with that baggage before we got married. And fate pretty much fucked me the rest of the way to kill that marriage. We made it 9 good years, but that was for the kids and we had not shit in common. You also have to have a partner willing to grow and change together, me and my wife outgrew each other and changed in completely opposite ways to one another.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 10:14 AM
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That's the ticket dude, as someone who has to deal with an asshole of an ex wife to see my wonderful kids, yeah, not worth it. My kids are, but if you already don't have any, best to keep it that way.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 10:11 AM
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Well, don't, you're not missing much. If it wasn't for my 3 kiddos, I would have wished I would have stayed a virgin. Cause now, I got addicted to the orgasm feeling and so I have to hook up with women (once a certain amount of time passes, I'm fine right now, but in 4 months I'll get antsy). It's a fucking curse really and I wish I had stayed a virgin, if not for my babies.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 10:10 AM
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What do they say, ah yes, "The juice ain't worth the squeeze." I love that saying, perfectly encapsulates modern gender relations.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 10:08 AM
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Good man, good on you, that's the ticket. You don't need another person to make you happy, only you can do that. I mainly am a type who doesn't like to be alone, that's why I'm giving myself 3-5 years to heal and not just swearing it off altogether, but I'm gonna be like these women are with my standards when I jump back out there, one little thing is off, nah you gots to go.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 10:07 AM
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Eh....yeah, not because of anything having to do with anyone else though. I gotta work on me, raise my kids, and get my job training going. Once I'm there (in about 3-5 years) then I may gently dip my toe in again, but not before. I have too much growing up to do and healing from my 9 year marriage.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 10:05 AM
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THIS, the "main character syndrome brain rot" good man, good on you. That's whats plaguing our society now. People think they can't get jumped, shot, or stabbed. This ain't an Avengers flick, you can be taken out. I'm from Memphis, let me tell you something, I'VE ALMOST been shot and stabbed being in the wrong place at the wrong corner store, so yeah, you can get got just as easily as people you read about on the news.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:03 AM
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Hey man, if it ain't the 50's for you women, which it ain't, then it ain't the 50's for us, the police state is looking for a reason to lock you up, and I'd rather not have that on my record, so stop picking shit with people. Granted, I'm not going to a whole ass other subReddit to get a full comprehension of the situation, but the only time I'm fighting is if someone has punched me or looks like they're going to, or they're going near my kids, in which case, no mercy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:00 AM
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True that, weird, Reddit has actually been surprisingly helpful today, bravo for the actually mature comments. I mean, judge away, that's the consequence of sharing that I made mistakes like that, but you're right the self sabotage and punishing myself doesn't do any good. And I'm always honest about it, like I told the girl I dated just recently about it and she was cool with it, because she could tell I felt bad and it was in the past.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 05:43 AM
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I mean what? Like the woman above said, you never heard of Daisy Dukes? You must be college aged, that's your age group of women buddy, not so much their political affiliation. When that weight starts gaining on both men and women as you get older, they get less revealing with the clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:46 AM
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I cheated 2 years ago, my ex wife, divorced me in June. I had an ex girlfriend for 5 and a half months, but broke up with her 3 days ago, I couldn't, we built up a lot of non sexual intimacy and she wanted to have sex, and I couldn't do it. I'm not over this, and it's unfair to put someone through just going through the motions. Truth is I'm still working through it, but I also have my kids so, it's gonna be a minute until that pops back up on my radar again. I'm trying to get some therapy lined…
/r/MensRights16/12/24 04:41 AM
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Hey man, real big of you to admit that. I didn't at first when I was on here, but you gotta come clean with yourself, then you gotta come clean with others. I'm torn, I can't say I wish I'd never done it because I'd never have been put on this path to self improvement, even though it cost me everything I loved (except my kids thank God) and more, what would have been the alternative? Me walking around thinking that was justified? No, it's better this way.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 04:27 AM
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Whats that gonna do for us? Huh? Making excuses, justifying the bullshit, just gonna hurt us more in the end. You make a mistake you own it, that's what being a man is about.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 04:25 AM
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It's not, I've cheated before, and I still learn from that dumb shit every day. People aren't perfect, and it's cost me more than you know, but the last thing I'd ever do is make an excuse for myself like a punk. I own what I did, and it's why I'm a much better person today than I was 2 years ago.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 04:24 AM
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Yeah, it's fucked up. I cheated on my ex wife, and it's not something that I'm proud of or is cool or fun or hip to do, it's pathetic. I used to view the world in such a different way, I'll admit a little misogynisticly because I had thought "Well, I can cheat, and she better not because she's the woman, and I'm the man, I need sex all the time, and she doesn't." Just real dark and stupid shit. People are people, I'll admit I'm a bit slow when it comes to human interaction and wasn't in a real r…
/r/MensRights16/12/24 04:23 AM
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This comment above Thats-bk, thank you, I didn't have the necessary experienced trauma to let him know, it will be okay. That's why I asked him to DM someone with similar experiences. I just know I want to save someone if I can, because every one is worth it, worthy of love, worthy of life, and worthy of a second chance. I'm glad you got yours. As a fellow 35 year old recently divorced person to another, glad you're doing good dog. And I hope the OP is doing good. Thank you for commenting, becau…
/r/MensRights16/12/24 12:42 AM
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I don't see how you stand it, and the cream on top is, they get so butt hurt when i MENTION COMICS AND NOT MOVIES AND TV. You ever heard of fucking source material jackasses? So, I love comic books still, but I can see, maybe the online community surrounding it isn't for me. I go in slap a bitch mode when someone acts stupid to me, so yeah, just not for me. Anyway, yes too many men use "being honest" as an excuse to be an asshole. Like you can't "Protect someone" from the experience of getting s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 12:08 AM
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Ok, let's try a different approach, let's say, you got everything you ever wanted in this world, you were living your perfect life, what would that look like to you? Describe it for me if you wouldn't mind. It's just an exercise, I'm trying to let you know you're not alone, but also talking with someone who is in the same head space you are through DM's can help too. I'm not your enemy friend, I'm your ally. Describe your perfect life.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 11:33 PM
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True that. I feel ya brother. Look people get confused about me because I push RIGHT BACK against the Red pill or incel behavior, that costs us allies being with that. What women don't get is siding with the Instagram Man Hate Brigade, makes them lose allies. I mean, how do you think Trump won the election? Men were fed up. I'm no Right Winger, but I recognize objective reality.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 11:28 PM
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Yeah, I mean my ex wife's a good woman, who, may not have looked the best and is a bigger girl, but she didn't deserve that, no one does. Unfortunately, she has her own mental issues that I think she's just trying to dodge by dating this dude and it won't work out if she's trying to rebound and skip steps. That's why I'm not dating anyone seriously for a while. I think I traumatized her so much that she just wanted to move and and learn what a healthy relationship could look like. I did the same…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 11:00 PM
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Sure, and listen, I know as a guy who felt like this almost all throughout his 20s. "Why was I born? This world sucks so much I just wanna not be part of the hatred. What even IS this life?" You have to, well let me rephrase that, you don't "have" to do anything, it's to your benefit to work through those emotions in any way you can. Don't be afraid to feel those emotions, let the anger out, it'll make you feel better. I'm sorry you're going through this, I promise you it gets better, how? I can…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 10:48 PM
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Damn right.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 10:45 PM
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"I will always be this insecure absolute train wreck and never do what I wanted." Look man, life is too short to be pissed off all the time (not just a line off of American History X, it's real shit). I get it, I was young, and maybe didn't have the home life you did based on what you said, but it gets better. What brought this whole speech on if you don't mind me asking? This hate is something I had to work out as well my friend. Sometimes it's realizing, albeit through a lot of misery and expe…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 10:40 PM
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Hey man, you might wanna relax and understand, once you get away from these toxic people and decide to cut them out, that's when the healing can truly begin, just please don't do anything permanent that you can't come back from. Life has a way of making us think our daunting and impossible situations are forever, when they aren't, you just can't see it because you're in it right now. You're not alone.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 10:37 PM
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Yeah, I most definitely agree with that. Because I cheated on my ex wife, physically, and when she kicked me out (2 years after I cheated), she was so cold and emotionless that I knew she already had another dude in her mind and heart and that's what gave her the strength to do it. It's hilarious, because, for some reason she tries to act like she's not completely in love with this new dude, she is. I don't care, I lead to it so whatever, but I think she's hesitant to tell me cause she thinks I'…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 10:26 PM
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Yeah, and more general in life, they're given excuses to engage in whatever behavior they do because of how they feel at the time. I feel the problem is other women, a singular woman is smart and knows it's wrong, but the plethora and plurality of women usually will "Rally around the flag" because they know they're mostly toxic and want to defend the toxicity because they know it's an action their toxic little selves would take and then try to run to others to validate. Cheating is wrong across …
/r/MensRights15/12/24 09:53 PM
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Cheating is never right, take it from me, who cheated on his ex wife. I was driven by my douche bag friends and thought it would make me "Cool" (no excuse for cheating, I was just letting ya'll know what was going through my head). It won't, it'll just make you feel like shit afterward, yeah, you'll feel good during, but afterward, it's just a mistake you don't wanna make no matter what. Have a female partner that cheated? Just break up, don't get revenge, a relationship should never devolve int…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 09:49 PM
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Yeah, my ex wife didn't like me, because all the dudes she dated before me would just take it, not me. I don't do that, I'm gonna be equal, let you do what you do, won't harp about traditional gender roles or any of that shit, but if we're gonna be egalitarian, let's truly be egalitarian, not you get to "make up" for women being oppressed for so long. Hey dawg, I ain't have shit to do with the 50's---70's I'm in a relationship with you now in 2024. Da fuck?
/r/MensRights15/12/24 09:30 AM
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Yeah, sounds like a toxic and unhealthy person. My ex wife was like this, she thought men shouldn't stand up for themselves when females do shit to them. She would get loud and then when I would try to talk to her calmly "Oh well you're trying to be higher than mighty" or "Holier than thou" and it was just deflection. Look, I wasn't perfect, but I didn't say she was unreasonable if I got loud and she got loud back. Some women want the 21st century pleasures, but with the 1950's "Hey I should get…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 09:27 AM
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Yeah, and also, you never know, she seems like she had been "touched" by a family member of hers and she saw sex as absolutely repulsive. I can't get near that type of trauma. See, that's why I'm very cautious about who is around my kids, because I will fuckin hurt someone over them, those aren't just words, it's a fucking guarantee.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:55 AM
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I meant the communities where these people are SUPER mentally annihilated. Example? I live in Tennessee, and this one girl told me whenever she thought about sex, she would cut herself, to purge the "Impure thoughts" from her brain, yeah, stopped hanging out with them after she told me that. I get what you mean, but there are some people who are really mentally put through the ringer and ACTUALLY live that shit, though it is a SMALL minority. Most are just fakes as you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:46 AM
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Look, I'm a nice comic book nerd, but I'm the exception, a lot of those dudes have fucking problems, deep seated problems. Like seriously, learn to relax and enjoy life and comics, it ain't that serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:30 AM
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Yeah, take it from me, don't go into a long term relationship period. It's shit. If you wanna have kids, one night stand that shit and keep it truckin. No one gets along that well over the course of 20 years, if you do know people, they're the exception not the rule, and if you don't think so, I can pull several examples off the top of my head (Famous people, people in my life, people in others lives) of people who didn't work out. It's just too much hassle and in the end, you're only happy mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:21 AM
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And really, it's not like that crap pops up over her head in a digital read out so, you'd never know if she had a high body count if she doesn't tell you. Women will always beat men in sleeping around, ALWAYS. Facts. If we weren't marrying women who slept around, no woman in this world would be married, but those couples who met in high school or Christians raised in the church.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:17 AM
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Yeah, a lot of these morons are the problem yet see women and everyone else as the problem. Nah, ya'lls dickhead culture of male fragility is one meant to die, that's why it's thrashing around like a dinosaur in the tar pit now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:19 AM
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A lot of these fucking morons on here don't deserve to breath air. Sorry, but the amount of toxic pieces of shit on the internet, and especially on Reddit who get on here just to funnel their neckbeard hatred makes the internet a shitty place. Seriously, some of you need the absolute fuck beat out of you. Especially the comic book communities on here. Literally the r/superman and r/batman communities opened up my eyes to why women should just avoid the comic book dorks. They're irrational dumb f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:18 AM
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Look man, I get it, every dude goes through that awkward point every now and again in his personality, but one must overcome that. I was insecure, and lemme tell you now, life and reality fixes that shit over time. Not that you have to be a dog, but find that sweet spot between being a dog and being confident. I'm not just talking about with women, with friends and people at work too. Everyone does have insecurities, but people are hypocritical liars, not a downer debbie thing just a fact, and s…
/r/MensRights14/12/24 09:31 AM
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Who watched 40 Year Old Virgin and was like "Yeah, that sounds solid." What? No. "Plus I think this advice is overblown" Yeah, people will think they're getting punked or you're the most uninteresting person on the planet. I do the opposite, I ONLY talk, I don't have time for you to interrupt my greatness. Follow the common thread dude, anyone saying "I've got this surefire way" to do...name a thing is bullshitting you. All men don't know shit about women except for the fact once you stop acting…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 09:27 AM
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Yeah, there is no "Nice guy" because everyone has the propensity to at least 2 or 3 times in their life be a raging dick bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 09:23 AM
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Also, the problem is, when you just lead with "Feminists say...." That's automatically sounding like a tipped perception just to push a narrative. I'm not hating on you dude, I'm just sharing everyone's perspective. Now, the random hatred of men, no no, I don't play that, don't take a single negative experience out on a whole gender. On the flip side bruv, that study is like from 2005--2009, when I was 16--19. I still had hope in the world that's how long ago that was LOL. I mean, it would have …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:56 AM
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It's kinda tipped narrative wise, but I agree, just because of disagreement, the down voting is weird, I always ask another question and if it's clear narrative humping, then I downvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:52 AM
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I simply don't call myself a Feminist because, I think there is a knee jerk reaction by males and females when a male calls himself a "Feminist" he's just trying to get laid. And dawg, for perspective, 2005 was 20 years ago. I was 16 in 2005, I'm 35 now. Look man, we have to come to an understanding between genders that, we don't know each others lived experiences, thus why spaces such as this are so valuable. I think most reasonable people look at the situation per situation basis. Like there's…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:51 AM
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Thank you, you're too kind and I truly don't deserve it, I'm not saying that in a self pity way, I'm just saying it. I just don't get it, I've been wracking my brain trying to ask myself "Why?" I had someone good at home and I just did it without thinking, what the hell is wrong with me? When I answer that question, I think I'll be able to forgive myself, not before. Truly thank you, anyone else who wants to think lesser of me, feel free to, comment what you want, I hate me right now, but I'm ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:39 AM
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Yeah, but one thing we must consider brother, our experience is our experience, a lot of women have to put up with violence and worrying if they are gonna make it home if a date feels rejected. I know, we have our struggles, but I know I'm coming back after a bad date. I'm not saying that means we have no issues to complain about, but we need to keep everything in perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:17 AM
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I'm on here because I HAVE to change the way I think, not just about relationships, but about life in general. I used to be really negative, and the truth is I'm fighting that with every fiber of my being. I'm just now realizing in real time I've seen relationships and shit like that in the completely wrong light. Excusing my past behavior because it's me who suffers for it's fallout. My ex wife did me a favor by kicking me out, I'd have continued being that shitty person my whole life if not. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:15 AM
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I also think that the women having to deal with the safety aspect and having to "always be put together" makes them think that men see them as meat and it numbs the emotions, thus why people seem cold to men. I'm slowly learning, but there ARE just some poison pills that hate men for being men, and women for being women. I had to cut off my ex best friend because he saw women that same way. I can't do that, not only because I just can't be vile like that, I also have daughters, and how can I see…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:10 AM
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And, a thing my ex wife got me wise to is, what trash scum class of man is running around here not letting their partner, let's just say "get there" during sex? I always assumed, that's how I get more sex from you later, if I disappoint you in that area, you have options to go elsewhere so I'm playin for keeps. Come on guys, we're better than that, just in that particular discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:05 AM
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I think you think I'm coming into this with a narrative, I'm not, it's a question. Thank you for answering it. I was married for 9 years, so this is just to get a feel on the pulse. I am talking about in general dating standards, because if I count "worrying about safety" then women win that hands down. I never have to worry about a woman trying to kill me, unless you get lured to the old country road, and I'm not going anywhere like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:02 AM
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It's all in how you view things. Me and my ex wife had a toxic as fuck relationship at the end, but my 3 kids came out of it, and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm not even a dude who particularly cared about being a Dad that much when I was younger before they were born, but as soon as I heard about my daughter, I loved her. She's 9 now and I couldn't imagine my life without her or her siblings. They're the reason I want to improve myself and become a healthy minded person, otherwise, I'd just giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:56 AM
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That's true and the nail on the head of what you posted was "I think the former is worse, because that's the stuff I've had to deal with. A guy might think the latter is worse, because that's what he's had to deal with." Definitely its sounding harder for women, because of the safety aspect. Sure, not EVERY dude is irrationally violent, but some are, and it only takes you finding the one psycho to fuck your life up completely. See, my ex wife, before we met, had to get dentures because a dude ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:53 AM
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It's a catch all because it's dialogue meant to start a broader conversation. For some reason the only flair it would allow me to post this in was "Questions for Women"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:49 AM
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It's not as bad as people make it seem. What I learned as an older man is, it liberates you, and makes you feel like, when you do eventually meet someone, you're doing it for the right reasons, you're not doing it out of loneliness or desperation, you're actually feeling for that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:47 AM
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Cause he's the one asking the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:44 AM
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Look, time for full transparency, I've been dishonest before because I wanted to hide over a screen, but that only serves to fuck me over in the future. Yes, my wife and I were married 9 years, and yes, she did live with me for 5 years having no job, and yes, after my 18 wheeler wreck, she did basically abandon me. However, the part I was dishonest on was, "my role" in it, in 2017 (when we had only dated for 2 years) I cheated on her with a neighbor who threw herself at me. Then in 2022 (Right a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:38 AM
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Get you a more mature guy, not age, I'm 35 and I just recently pulled my head out of my ass. People have to have experiences to get them to grow. Because women can get a little further dating when they put themselves out there, usually, they get their experiences in a little earlier. Men take things personally and because we're supposed to be "strong" and a relationship takes a good bit of vulnerability and when you get burned, it makes you not wanna be vulnerable anymore. I was angry at my ex w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:23 AM
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I just went out with my latest girlfriend for 6 months, I had to break up with her, I'm 35 so my sex drive isn't on crack like it used to be, I never had sex with her though she wanted to. I was with my ex wife for 9 years, and I'm an all in or all out sorta dude, so I didn't want to get attached like that or have her be attached to me unless I knew for sure. I moved on too quick (2 months after my divorce), I'm not hung up on my ex wife, but I'm not ready emotionally to take a gamble on somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:10 AM
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I tried to post my own debate, and the auto mod kept taking it down. WTF? I wasn't offensive or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:21 PM
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I mean, I think it's obvious he's trolling you at this point. I'm not trolling, I'm just trying to wise up some of you young people. GIVE UP ON THAT SHIT. Put your few precious moments on this Earth following pursuits that will actually yield something worth while. I can feel free to think that way, as I already have my 3 kids, so procreation is out for me, so I don't really need any of it anymore. I'm not gonna be one of those people who tells you how good it makes me feel. If you were around m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:41 AM
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I mean, ain't no one happy in no damn relationship anyway. People always want more, or different. Those who are single, wanna be hooked up, those who are hooked up, wanna be single. People are hypocrites, I don't say that in a hateful or negative way, but a matter of fact way, learn this now and you'll save yourself A LOT of trouble in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:36 AM
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At some point you young folk gotta stop. Both genders are setting themselves up for failure. I'm just having sex the rest of my life, I've had my 3 children and that's really all I wanted was my kids anyway. Why can't you just skip to the part, "Fuck it, I'll be alone." That's basically what you're saying, unless the female is rich or the male is rich, no one is finding anyone besides these normie ass folk out here. You have to be rich to find people that have the Capitalism weight lifted off of…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:34 AM
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Yeah, the text wall, LOL. Hey, you know me, I talk a LOT. They're lucky the wall wasn't bigger, LMAO.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 10:54 AM
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It's financial exploitation then exploit them back. Sir, understand, I'm not saying a normie point of "Oh true love exists" that's for children and people who need to huff copium everyday. I'm just saying, everyone has a need to not be alone, in the end, finding a partner isn't based on love. It's based on shared values, shared interests, seeing the world the same way (which ties into shared values), not getting bored with the person after 12 seconds (although that one is UNAVOIDABLE, honestly, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:34 AM
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I think people do it in today's world to guard their heart from being broken. Take it from me, guard and be cautious all you want, I was before i met my ex wife, you get in the box, you're gonna get your heart broken, it's how you recover that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:22 PM
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Yeah, on initial vibes, like a small one off comment on it, like I'll drop a "I'm no Right Winger." in a conversation just to let them know where I stand, but I'm not gonna elaborate on it. I wouldn't want a highly political women, I was highly political for over 10 years and it's a fucking headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:03 PM
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I think he was going for "Which political party is hotter?" Don't think like that my friend. I had a vain friend in my 20s who thought "All Conservative women are hotter." and he got with a girl he kept calling "Mid level" then, they had kids and she got bigger, and he was not pleased with her after that. All that's to say, don't base who's hot who's not on political affiliation, that's silly. There are some, not so good looking, people on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:02 PM
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Thank you, that last part you said. Now, I'm not dating a Trumper woman, that can screw straight off, but when I meet someone and I'm vibing, my first question isn't "Hey, who did you vote for and what kind of media diet do you consume?" Sllleeewwp. What was that sound? The vag drying right up. No one wants to hear that stuff when they're trying to have a nice laidback vibe time on a date, politics is too divisive on that front for a conversation in that arena. I kinda get what the OP was going …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:51 PM
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Oh I will, it's an important message. I just need to hit up some local men that have been screwed over like me by their ex wives, excuse me while I go outside and throw a stone 2 feet and find them instantly (with how common an occurrence it is).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 08:19 PM
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Don't think I'm joking around either, I'm a serious person, I will start something called "M.A.R. or Men's Advocacy Revolution" and print shirts with our slogan "Pro Man IS NOT Anti-Woman." It would be a bi-partisan group as this problem transcends political affiliation, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:11 AM
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Well, I think the solution is fairly obvious for us. If we are all experiencing the same thing, become a monolith, use our suffering to be our bond, band together, and let some people know our struggles. Let women as a whole see us stand together, and say "Hey, we feel neglected." And see what can be gained from there. Women aren't afraid to band together and fight for their rights, why should we be?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:09 AM
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But an emotion nonetheless. I'm not saying you're wrong, but it's really an opinion, as what's right for you may not be right for someone else. You can choose to engage or choose not to. I see it like this, love/dating/marriage is a game tipped heavily towards the favor of females. Every other game, jobs, society, art, and other things are tipped in males favor. You have to learn to exist within the confines of meeting people where they're at. We speak out, and we try to equal out things in both…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:02 AM
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I mean sure, but overall at the end of the day, humans are social creatures, and that includes men. Negative experiences happen to everyone. Hell I'm 35, and sex to me is just sex now. No big deal. About 2 years ago is when my sex drive took a noticable slide towards being calm. That's why I've been dating the woman I'm dating now for 6 months and no sex, it's no big deal to postpone it because, I know we'll both enjoy it. Unheard of in my 20s. I'm trying to gauge if I could genuinely see myself…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:27 AM
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It's a sad transaction when I could turn that argument on it's head. How many of these young women just face down in their phone all day and talk about TikTok and don't really have a personality, yet want a man to be this and that and this and that? That's crazy to me how that happens. The entitlement is showing with some of these little princesses in our society. I find it ironic that above average list of BS you put up, I say BS not as a dig, but because these women who want "Interesting" have…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:16 AM
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That usual loan person is a bright ray of sunshine huh? Isn't one of the rules no personal attacks? Hmm. I'm not a wuss though, so what some random person on the internet says really doesn't affect me when they don't know my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:20 PM
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That's a condition by traditional definition. I'm not trying to be a jerk, I'm just pointing out why people say "Unconditional love is only for children" because it's a consensus. I get it man, a lot of people have notions about things, I had to dispel a lot of those notions in myself the past 2 years. I used to think "Well some people are basic bitch thinking, like you know, the normie thinking way" but most people are basic b, and the stereotypes we fight vehemently, except for some gross over…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:54 AM
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That's why it's so precious, because it's so fleeting. You gotta enjoy things while they last, the capricious and unpredictable nature of love is what makes it so devastating, yet wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:48 AM
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Like your "More healthy alternative" edit. Yeah, look man. Me and my ex wife used to smoke the tree, and that, sex (You know how it goes, once you're used to someone, you get lazy, and don't wanna go through the trouble of finding anyone else), and wanting to stay together for our kids is what kept that whole situation going for 9 years. I'm glad she's the one who came to her senses, I would have probably kept up with the misery if not. I think it's better to find a partner when you're older lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:46 AM
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Shoot, if the flavor goes out of the marriage she's gone, I know from experience. I mean, my situation is unique to me, we had NOTHING in common. Weird how people can ignore they until that actually look at each other and can't have a 5 minute conversation without breaking down, then you realize, "Oh....I fucking hate you. Like not a little either, A LOT. GTFO." And nothing wrong with it, we only live once, why waste your time being unhappy living up to an idealistic notion of love no rational h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:42 AM
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I hear you my friend, I don't trust unconditional anything. Someone saying that about an adult relationship is fairly deluded in my book. Unconditional truth isn't a thing either, everyone lies, everyone says they don't, but if everyone lies, how can you believe them? Some people have it in them, mainly because some are shitty liars, ut there are some honest people out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:39 AM
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Yeah, I love my children, I'd take a bullet for them, get my fingernails ripped out, and get tortured for 50 years straight and never sell out my kids. My ex wife? "We are gonna rip out your..." "I'll talk I'll tell you where she is, screw her." I mean, now of course, woulda held on a little longer had I still been with her. They are innocent and that innocence is something to be preserved and nurtured, because it doesn't last long. Adults will survive whatever emotional pain. I was with my wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:37 AM
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When people say unconditional love for children, I mean there's not a parameter or bar set for me to take that love away. With grown adult couples there is, like he said above, abuse, you find out some F'ed up stuff about them, you lose your job (my ex wife), you cheat on them, or you become a drug addict, that will scrap most marriages out there even if they're on the strongest foundation. The relationship I have with my kids does not involve any of that crap and it's just different. I fell in …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:33 AM
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Hold up, I'd disagree with "I keep seeing people saying 'unconditional love is only reserved for children' which makes no sense." Oh it does, I have 3 children and the reason is because they didn't ask to be born and they're innocent. An innocent child only wants to be loved and love you back. With grown adults, you can SAY unconditional, but let's test that shall we? What if your wife, came up to you and said "I just slept with 50 guys, and 2 of them I plan on going on a full fledged date with,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:27 AM
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Also, like myself, I am dating a woman right now, lovely woman, doesn't hate men (despite her ex husband being legit a**sive, I'll take it with a grain of salt because I'm sure if you asked my ex wife she'd say the same thing, so), but it's been 5 and a half months and she is getting ancy for sex. I am not too quick with that now, I'm honestly wanting to hold off until I get a vasectomy, as I already have 3 kids. She's not pressuring me, but I can tell it's getting to her. I wish I could say "He…
/r/MensRights11/12/24 02:52 AM
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Yeah, well if we are creating a more "equal" society where Women can work and do all that jazz, then yes, if were are eschewing traditional gender roles (thank you Archer) then let's do away with the "We must protect women and be gentlemen" aspect of it. Oh no, that double standard benefits them though, they wouldn't want that. Ugh. Men though? How dare you call out me being an empowered woman and a simultaneous victim all at once! Like the person below said, you want to be traditional, be tradi…
/r/MensRights11/12/24 02:40 AM
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I'm like a woman now in the sense, if a woman straight up starts talking about sex or trying to have sex with me on the first night, red flag, I'm gone. It makes me feel dirty, I can't explain what it is. "Icks" are real, but a lot of people create unnecessary barriers because they are hiding from something. People are people, they'll be "Ick" heavy until they wanna bang or be with someone and they'll kinda lower that guard a little bit to a reasonable level. We all have our thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:20 AM
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Sure, but if you knew she was on the level? It's called honesty, and most of us aren't honest until confronted with the reality of the situation. Like most of these women, at least in my life, "I wouldn't take that ab**e." or "Just cause he has money I'm not impressed by that." But always take it and are always "impressed by that" despite their hypothetical situation in their mind where they yell from the roof tops they wouldn't take that. Same with men "I wouldn't take that from this woman." "I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:40 PM
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I agree, it's not so much Andrew Tate as the guys opposite Andrew Tate abandoned seeing men as human beings thus left Andrew Tate and the Manosphere a WIDE OPEN LANE to swoop in and recruit disenfranchised young men. The Left never sees theres a reason, when one side says "Oh your concerns aren't really concerns." And the other side, Andrew Tate and others, simply acknowledge you're a human, these things tend to happen. It's the same with the Democrats, Biden may have been pro labor, but his par…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:15 PM
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And we as people need to understand, we're not perfect, like me. Me and my ex wife I can tell will be FAR more suited and better aligned to any one else besides ourselves for relationships. We grow and we realize through trial and error where we need to change and adjust our priorities and things we put up with. Men overall are adjusting to the fact that people are trying to have it all. NO ONE can have it all, when you try, you make yourself insane and unhappy. Men do have to adjust our standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:28 AM
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Sure, that's what happened between me and my ex wife. Really we weren't honest with each other throughout and we were NEVER alike, and all time passing did was make the chasm wider. We started 6 feet apart, and we ended up wider than the Grand Canyon. I think that when you find someone you're actually meant to be with (Or both people are willing to put the work in) than unconditional love is a possibility, albeit rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:20 AM
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Who cares what you believe? I shared the story to let people know, don't get down on yourself. That was the point, I don't get down on myself when it comes to people. No one owes us attraction, all you can do is keep plugging until you find someone you vibe with. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:09 AM
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America for ya bruv. Everything is transactional, unconditional love is reserved only for children, everyone else, there's conditions attached to why I spend time with you. I'm not like that, but my country overall is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:35 AM
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It takes maturity to recognize, problem is most of us aren't mature. And we can act all high and mighty over a screen, but if one of those instagram models ran up on me, and I didn't have my girlfriend I had right now, oh I'd go. No one is different, no one is better, we just pretend to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:40 AM
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What do you mean? I like helping people, how specifically did I show you a new perspective?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:31 AM
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Yeah, my daughter was born at a time where I was heavily nihilistic, thought nothing mattered, and thought I couldn't have kids, because I had a good bit of sex with other women and no condom and thought "If it hasn't happened by now, then it never will." Then, met a girl on OkCupid, my ex wife, talked for 3 weeks, came up to my house, had hands down what is still today the best sex I've ever had in my life all weekend, nothing but in the bed, and then she calls me and says "I'm pregnant." I'm n…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:56 PM
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It's not natural homie, it's practiced. This reaction to my trauma and pain took time, and I didn't respond with strength or understanding at first, but what is crying and whining about how unfair my life is gonna do for my kids, or myself? Nothing. My family, Mom and such are not naturally strong people, and I saw what it did to them. I'm the only source of strength my children have, so I can't let life break me. I can take it, so they don't have to, if I fold now it would all mean nothing, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:46 PM
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I created two sayings for myself, an exercise I do is to pretend I'm a life coach hired SPECIFICALLY just to life coach myself and wonder what a life coach would say to me (driving home the point, we all know what needs to be done to improve our lives, we just don't go through with the action), "Change the way you think, about everything." And "Reach out, and you'll find what you're looking for, but you HAVE to reach OUT." an addendum to that second one "You're hand may be reaching out until it …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:40 PM
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I've apparently not understood what high maintenance fees meant until now, so no. LOL. Takes a real big boy to admit when he was wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:32 PM
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I'd say, interests and common talking ground sure, similar, also shared values and what it takes to make a relationship work similarity is a must, but that's about it. Besides that they could be opposite from me, I also have a very particular personality so, hard to match.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:30 PM
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I feel like, as long as we could both grow together, I don't need someone exactly like me, I like a little difference because sometimes I get too pessimistic and I need someone to reign me in and say "Babe, it's gonna be ok. It's not the end of the world." Why I am so enamored with the girlfriend I have now, NOT AT ALL like my ex wife, she's positive, doesn't complain (unless it's an overt violation), and always wants to find a way to make positive happen instead of despairing that something can…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:25 PM
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To be honest there is no "I've changed." I'm still in the process of changing because it's an every day choice you have to make to be better, I say for my kids, but I also ultimately did it for myself. I was a SUPER negative and downer person 5 years ago, I couldn't continue to be that guy, that's not a life worth living.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:16 PM
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Okay, I didn't explain it well enough, because every one has past trauma from a relationship and most of us take away the wrong lessons from our trauma. I can't tell you how many times I've heard in real life and social media "Oh, every dude/girl is an asshole/bitch so I might as well chase the ones who are the most sexy so I'm at least getting the best looking person out of the toxicity." The push and pull of trauma, EVERYBODY has some form of relationship trauma, means you chose the wrong pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:15 PM
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That's great, people always take their bitterness, men and women, and honestly, you'll find some reddit posts by I myself (Not proper Grammar, but moving on) being sore on women, it's just the moods you go through sometimes, and having their past dictate their future. I had to look at myself and say, hey all of my past relationships haven't worked out, you know the common denominator? Me. So I had to work on myself, I was attracting or settling for women who weren't my peace. I also used to smok…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:02 PM
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My friend, I get it, especially with what I went through, but do you think that will enrich your life to think like that? Or is it just safe mode to guard your heart? In subtle ways yes, you can think like this, to guard yourself as all humans do naturally. I'd never let anyone, even my ex wife, cost me my sunlight, I shine on, forget her, she can't take my light, no one can, it's too valuable to me. That's why I have nothing currently, besides my kids, my car, and my new girlfriend and I'm happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:52 PM
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Hey appreciated, yeah, I only had my 2 girls at the time and I saw nothing, but them right after I got hit, their lives flashing before my eyes, not my own, and was spinning around, fortunately I got knocked into another 18 wheeler that pushed my car off of the road. Psychopath 18 wheeler just kept going. Those folks need SO MUCH more regulations for damn near killing someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:48 PM
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Like I used to watch a lot of Progressive content, and I stopped because literally ONLY ONE of those women actually appreciates the view of a man and doesn't outright hate them, Krystal Ball off of Breaking Points, she actually appreciates her husband and doesn't bash men constantly like the others. I agree, I've also had to quite recently, de-politicize my views, because politics shits everything up, better to know a person as a person and not by their politic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:17 PM
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Yeah, they saddle FAR quicker into the, "Well I'll just use my body for money." aspect because they can, they don't want to sit there and be like my sisters, yes, they were raised in poverty, but they worked hard, got college degrees, and have their own money. Some people just take the lazy way out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:14 PM
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How long ya'll been together though? I'm just saying, I had NOTHING in common with my ex wife and we had 3 kids and were together 9 years. To each their own. Plus, you don't know me, I'm kind of A LOT as a person to deal with, so two of us would be A LOT to deal with for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:04 PM
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I will say, though I'm not the best looking guy, my body looks HOT AS FECK when I work out and keep it up over 2 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 09:44 PM
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I get, some non confident men do. Like, look, I did around the time I got with my ex wife. With regards to standards of myself, my ex wife was not conventionally attractive, let's just put it like that. I'm not trying to bash her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 09:43 PM
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Yeah, an important thing my current girlfriend, God I guess she is my girlfriend now, never thought that would happen so quick after my ex wife, but she told me after I came out of my shell about a month in and she saw me actually laugh and smile hardily, she said "You have an attractive positive energy, don't let your ex wife or anyone for that matter take that from you." And yeah, it's funny, as much as I've been through, I keep my head up because, hell I choose to. I would say it's because of…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 09:41 PM
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I think both genders have pushed and pulled each other, trauma wise, to have UNREALISTIC AS FUCK expectations. My dudes, you ain't finding a freak in the bed, absolutely stunning, good mother, good cook, keeps the house up, and so on. My uncle had that woman and guess what? She cheated on him the ENTIRE marriage. Everyone has a flaw. Ladies, you ain't finding a six pack abs, rich as fuck, feminist as fuck, hungry for commitment, manly, tatted up, soft guy around you but hard guy around everyone …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 09:34 PM
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What I gleaned from your response is complete fairness, although, I'm older and rely on unconditional love ONLY from my children, seeking it from a woman is a losing battle as grown men ARE NOT loved unconditionally, and I've known a freaky girl (I don't hit her up now as I've been dating this good one for a good six months, so I don't need to) for quite a while that all I have to do is pick up a phone and I'm guaranteed sex, so no pressure there if I get rejected at a bar or online. Problem is …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 09:28 PM
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Foo said, "Twatter" and we laughed. And it was good.
/r/MensRights08/12/24 12:30 PM
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No, and then you run the risk of getting a completely selfish person like I did. Where she lived with me for 5 years no job, and she didn't care. As soon as the tables were turned though, and SHE had to pay for everything, for not even 2 years, I was a bum, loser, (despite just having come off of 7 years at the same job), and no good. So yeah, I'd NEVER let a woman do that to me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:29 PM
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Men. Women. DON'T EVER, AND I MEAN, EVER, EVER, EVER RELY ON SOMEONE ELSE FOR YOUR LIFESTYLE BECAUSE YOU ARE COMPLETELY AT THEIR MERCY. I know from experience, both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:27 PM
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I now see it as, "Hey whats up, I'm gonna spit game, you in? No? Move on." Now I'll add the finesse if I sense it's a woman with my same genuine interests and values, but mostly the same thing. Don't be afraid of rejection and realize sometimes rejection is neither quick nor obvious. Women have their reasons, some of these dudes be psychos yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:52 AM
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MOTHAJUGGIN wOOt!!!!!! So true, I'm older and dating a woman I would have only dreamed of dating in my 20s. I hit on her while she was at work and actually got the digits, it's all about the energy you exude. Closed mouths don't get fed and little dick energy gets little dick results, not meaning to be crude, but it's as plain as I can state it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:50 AM
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Preach my sister, this is the reason me and my ex wife didn't work. I had no standards and was treated like I had no standards, thus the confidence I now exude. Gotta stand up for yourself because no one else is gonna.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:48 AM
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I think it's more of a reference to men who are high maintenance and complain that they never find what they're looking for from the women they pursue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:47 AM
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WTF, dude don't downplay yourself. I've been in a bar, and literally got rejected by 37 women. I didn't despair, guess what happened with 38? Went home with her. It was mostly a pity thing because she saw me getting shot down over and over and even referred to me as "The Little Engine that Could." Not a reference to my junk as she said this before we had sex. Man, that was before I was married when that happened. Geez, I'm old. I'm short with an ugly face, but ONLY on reddit will I ever say that…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:46 AM
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Yeah, but my middle daughter is really starting to notice the lack of attention from her mother. It sucks, but I don't live with her anymore so I can't do anything about it. Though, NOTHING compares to the feeling of when my 2 year old sees me and shouts "Hi Daddy." almost makes me cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:33 AM
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The reducing your relationship to a transaction is a good point. My past relationships broke down that way. When you start seeing it as that, keeping tit for tat, you're not viewing the person as someone you love, you're viewing them as something to be used. That's not love, that's mutual benefit, not a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:31 AM
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Yeah, I'm dating a girl right now and this is the LONGEST I've went without sex, about 6 months now. I'm in no rush, I'm older so sex really isn't the be all, end all when you get right down to it. I will have sex with her eventually, but I'm still in the cuddle and stare into each others eyes phase. As an olde man, I LOVE building intimacy outside of sex, makes the sex that much more passionate. I get that super youthful feeling, like when you dated in 7th grade and weren't looking for sex, GOD…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:25 AM
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Agree, and disagree. Agree with respect to enjoying each others company is key. Women will get with some guy they say all the time "I can't stand him." but mostly for fleeting sex or a non serious relationship. Disagree with respect to, there are people who expect you to do stuff for them, not in an unhealthy abusive way, but in a relationship yin and yang kinda way. You cook, I'll do the dishes type shit. You do the laundry, I'll cut the grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:17 AM
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It depends on whether the woman can even have kids or even wants them. There are some of those people around, that ship sailed away for me 10 years ago with the birth of my daughter, but there are those people around.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:15 AM
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Eh, I understand how you would come to that conclusion, but it's flawed. I want companionship (cuddles, and hand holding and shit), to be appreciated, to be excited, to be mesmerized by a womans inner self (I'm attracted to very selfless women, recent development as my ex wife was anything but), to be understood, and to have my values matched (values, not exact personality, I don't want to be with a female copy of myself). The excitement, appreciation, and matched values are key for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:14 AM
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The interesting thing is a must. Because that's a challenge to keep up once you've heard each others stories over the course of the years, so you have to keep having new experiences, separate and together, to keep that conversation flow up and keep the marriage alive. Having a 9 year failed marriage, I know about these sorts of things. Don't do what I did in mine and you'll be fine. I think it's too personable a question, some men don't really care if she brings nothing but booty. Some men need …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:11 AM
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Well, good for you, my ex wife didn't do that. I had the job the first 7 years of my marriage and then when an 18 wheeler hit me, and she was the one paying the bills, she dropped me like a bad habit. I'm honestly for the first time in my life, jealous. I got my three kiddos so it wasn't all bad. She just wasn't the person for me. Hope you and your husband stay happy and healthy, good on you. See, you're a woman who is appreciative of the yin and yang of a relationship. You realize, "My good yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:09 AM
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Woah dude, though I may be the exception, I do FAR more with our kids and spend far more time with them than my ex wife does. She on the slick seems like she DID NOT WANT KIDS AT ALL. Like dude, why keep having sex with me then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:59 AM
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I concur. My ex wife was NOT attractive, but she had maintenance fees out the yang. She didn't start out that way, but she became elitist once she got a regional manager job and started making that money. I hate when that happens to poor folks, I've lost so many friends and an ex wife to that crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:57 AM
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I concur, life is too short bruv.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:55 AM
2

The sites are good if you have patience for bullshit, I'm not on that shit right now because I can't. The one thing that's true, any one, males or females, LOOK FOR SOMEONE THE OPPOSITE OF YOUR EX.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:54 AM
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Maybe not 5, but definitely 1 or 2, maybe 3. With the countless bounty of options for women now, it's like fish in a barrel. "Oh I can get sex easy, but not a relationship." Still though, "Courting her" can mean for sex as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:53 AM
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I met my ex wife on OkCupid 10 years ago. Don't regret it, got my 3 kiddos out of it. She's a psychopath though so you really have to watch and be vigilant of who you are meeting on there. Guys, I'll warn you, she's on Tinder now, avoid this woman at all costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:51 AM
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Oh the P word, so goddamn immature. Don't care if a woman said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:49 AM
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Not necessarily bruv, you could be chasing a THOTiana.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:49 AM
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Yeah, look, I'll do some things to attract you, but again, if we are all honest with ourselves, men or women, we know, 5 to 10 minutes into the interaction if we are digging each other. Now if it's REAL brutal, like this one time with a woman, I talked to her on OkCupid and we got along gangbusters, we met in real life? Nothing. That was such a miss I HAD to bounce in the middle of that date and leave her with the tab, sorry bruv.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:48 AM
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I see what he's saying. Yeah, kinda can't comment on that aspect if you're a woman. Just like there's certain things I can't comment on as a man, can't comment on pregnancy or periods, because I'm a man, don't have the necessary parts for an experienced apparatus.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:46 AM
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Other continents? We're done here, I'm one of the poors, I have not the cash flow for all that. Good on you and enjoy your life with that one. If I go to another continent, it will be to stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:44 AM
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Also being older is a plus. I'll do the crap to attract you, but I don't live and die by if you stay or go anymore like in my 20's. You're gonna ride the carousel or not, so why jump through hoops for someone who just wants a free dinner anyway? If I'm natural with the person and they respond, cool, if not, cool too. I got options, and I am pretty fuckin ugly, but you'd never hear me say that out loud outside of this post and I'm confident (not cocky) as fuck. I mean, I'd hope most of us are mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:43 AM
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Yeah, the stoic leader thing I can vouch for because I started losing my ex wife once I lost my supervisor job. I stay working out and performing in bed so that wasn't the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:38 AM
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Word, keeping up with these women in the modern world is like trying to make sense out of the ramblings of a mental patient, better just to not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:37 AM
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HOLLA FOR THE DIVORCED DADS UP IN THIS PIECE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:36 AM
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Hey man, just a question, you notice a lot of the women in poverty have more of the mental issues right? My ex wife ESPECIALLY.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:35 AM
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Yep. Sorry some of these women, especially in the South where I live, don't understand, you can be poor without being trashy. MOST PEOPLE, men and women, don't understand the difference down here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:34 AM
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Ah, an older gentlemen I see. Yeah, I'm not with that "Hey let's fuck" in lue of an actual date idea, to me that makes you seem easy and lazy. I just got out of a 9 year marriage where the glue was sex, I'm looking for something much more this time round. Women with no personality resort to that, I know, that's my ex wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:32 AM
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Exactly, my ex wife used to TRIP ME OUT when she said "Put me in your body, I'd get with so many women so easily." I always thought "No, you wouldn't because you're thinking about how you would hit on them as a woman, which they'd be much more receptive to, than you hitting on them as me a man, with which their defenses would automatically shoot up." I'd LOVE to see a woman get transported into a mans body for a day, they would be traumatized, but I bet they'd have a SHIT load more appreciation …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:30 AM
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Yeah, and she won't appreciate it because our culture has told her, no, you SHOULD be doing that for me anyway. Okay man, but our culture has said if she cooks or does something nice for me she's becoming a "slave" for me and I'm stealing her thunder or wind or some shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:27 AM
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Yo dude, I'd have to concur. My ex wife moved on like it wasn't a thing to do. I was real broke up about it for 2 months, while she couldn't have cared less. Recently I realized, she set me free bruv. That woman is toxicity incarnate. I can only speak from my perspective on the matter. I mean, the thing that was amazing was, 3 weeks ago I was like "What am I mourning?" We had 3 kids together, but really, nothing amazing happened, besides our children, during that relationship. We stopped taking …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:25 AM
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