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PocketSquare2023/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:17 PM
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That's not the point man, go to r/escorts if you're looking to get your rocks off.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 06:17 AM
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Good advice here, listen to this man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 06:16 AM
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Wow, where do I begin! So many exclamation points! You say you don't think about your ex, but then you can't focus for more than 10 hours a day! You are in a destructive cycle of sex, money and relapse. I would suggest Sex Addicts Anonymous! They will help you reset your thought process and inner compass so that you can have more positive relationships! At the end of the day, you have to be confident in YOU. Working out can help, but if you degrade yourself for sex - accepting situations that yo…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 06:15 AM
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I don’t know what to tell you, other than make sure you’re sure. Divorce is awful. It tests you in ways you never thought possible, and your wife and the people around her will turn into people you don’t recognize anymore. If you’re miserable, and it’s consuming you every day, then this is a way out … eventually it ends. But man it’s tough. Good luck man, in whatever you choose.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 07:24 AM
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100% agree. You can’t live for your kids approval, because living for others approval is half the reason you’re in this shit show. I’m wrestling with this big time, I have a “sophisticated” older daughter who likes to tell me what I’m doing wrong, and I find myself making decisions thinking “how would she feel about that” - and that’s no good. Once the spell of approval is broken, you can start finding and living your own life. Go out, date, have sex, have fun. The kids will come along. Or they …
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 02:02 AM
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100% leave the house. Are you in a community property state? Why would you want to live in that nonstop tension? My god.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:57 AM
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Oh man, I’m in pain for you here. My divorce is a nightmare and my youngest is about to enter college - I can’t imagine going through family court with this psycho and kids younger than 18. Go with your heart here, you can always request a change later. Being healthy and financially stable is also important. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:50 AM
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Nicely worded. I tried to date quickly after the separation and found myself laying in bed after sex feeling nauseous and like I just wanted to get out of there. Almost had a panic attack. Definitely not ready. But I will be some day, and I don’t think all women are cash whores. But definitely not ready.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 02:10 AM
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Wow man, so much truth here. I had never even thought about it this way. It's true - I subjected myself to her whims for decades because I always put myself behind her and the kids. And then you wake up one day and you're like "Uhhh, ok, the kids are older and I don't want to live my life by only your rules, what can we do here?" And she can't process that, because you're right - she always loved herself more than me. God this is depressing. But I so appreciate your words here.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:16 AM
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And when you talk about how important sex is, and she mocks you - "maybe you should try being a little more creative" when I'm working 60 hours a week, she's a stay at home mom (kids are older, so this just constitutes going to Target and complaining about her family), and falls asleep as soon as we get into bed. Do women not understand how important sex is, how it connects us to our partners, how a woman being sexual is a way for her to show appreciation for your hard work and dedication to the…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:11 AM
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It's good you have your team, I have the same - a good source of support and certainly something to spend your time on. I haven't gone cold turkey on the drinking yet, but given how often I've woken up in strange places, I know I've got to get this under control. Alcohol is such the easy way out, especially when you come home and the apartment is quiet and you just want to feel sad. Good luck to you.. we're all on this insane journey, no rules, no guaranteed outcomes, just doing the best we can.…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:07 AM
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Thank you brother. I've thought about this a lot - if I had just asked for the divorce, I'd be in EXACTLY the same position. I would be "abandoning the family" and she would have my head on a stake either way. My kids would think of me the same way, the STBX would be lawyering up heavy (she ran to a Beverly Hills man killer), and I'd be on here saying the exact same stuff about how hard divorce is. All the infidelity did was give her a narrative to hang on to while she destroys me, but she would…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:05 AM
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I love this... but six years, fuck. I'm a little over 6 months and in the deepest of valleys. This is fucking hard.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 03:48 AM
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And this is how most of our divorces will end up - some variation of happiness and ruined lives. I second guess myself 20 times a day. I think the best we can hope for is some measure of peace with our decisions - even if the decision to divorce wasn't ours, we make decisions along the way that either hurt or help. But the impact on the family is devastating.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 03:43 AM
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Oh man.. I'm so with you here. My kids are older, but two of them aren't speaking to me, and the other is barely in contact. It's just so sad. You never imagine when you get married that it might end this way... no good options, you either stay in your marriage and slowly die, or you break away (like you're doing) and deal with the consequences under the belief that there are better days ahead. I respect you very much for doing it the way you're doing it, that takes balls and commitment. Hang to…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 03:38 AM
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Wow, lots to unpack here. First, totally get it. The shit we put up with. We lose our dignity, self worth, and often our masculinity in service to “the family”. Watch, as soon as you file, that “family” that you poured everything into all these years will turn their back on you so fast your head will spin. Second, you’re in a really tough situation no matter what. If you stay, you run the risk of spending your last healthy years with a shrew that you have to fight daily. If you divorce, you’re i…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 09:40 AM
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Head over to r/divorce and jump in with the chickens. This is a place where men recognize we’re not perfect and try to get some dignity back.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 09:31 AM
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Oh my god man, I’m so there with you. My wife was bitingly sarcastic, I can hear her in my head saying the same thing yours did. She caught me watching porn once, 10 years later she would still bring it up in an argument over what time we would leave for vacation. Fucking ugh. Yeah, fatherless kids, marriage destroyed, wreckage everywhere. Such winning.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 09:29 AM
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With all due respect, where am I complaining that life wasn’t what it used to be? I’m owning my shit - of course I wish I had taken a different path. We went to a year of counseling, and she just got harder and more abusive, and she left me after a drunken tirade while on vacation. I’m sorry you were cheated on, I don’t wish any of this on anyone. My point was - to all the guys on the fence on whether to pull the trigger or not - divorce is not for the faint of heart. And, even if there was neve…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 09:25 AM
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Hang in there man, you’re gonna get through this and be better on the other side.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 06:33 PM
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It’s like Major Tom, floating out in space. You’re disconnected from everything you knew, so you just live each day the best you can and hope like hell that you land eventually. I think time is our ally here, we just have to survive the experience.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:54 PM
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Hmmmm…. A baby? I guess it would be a distraction, but a baby?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:51 PM
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Great post…. You do what you need to do to survive an emotionally abusive marriage. Some men drink, some men cheat, some men hit their kids, some men leave, but most just suffer in silence and die like my dad did, a broken shell of himself, beaten down my my shrew mom over decades of silence.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:51 PM
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Yeah, for sure. That’s a tough crowd over there. I think it speaks to the fact that women are willing to jump in to battle at a moments notice and without context.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:41 PM
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Love this.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:40 PM
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Yeah, it’s good to be able to focus on work when the days are extra hard. Good luck man, you’ll be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 05:39 PM
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Certainly a nuanced view. I’m glad you’re not my therapist, I’d kill myself. So are you going through a divorce or are you just here to share your moral certitude?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 04:45 PM
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Fair enough, I'm an adult and own my decisions, and I'm certainly not asking for sympathy mate. But if you've ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship you literally get out any way you can, or you die in it. How many men on this sub are victims of emotionally abusive women? It's why it's so hard to move on, because these types of women feed off good guys. My point of this post was that divorce is incredibly difficult, and not for the faint of heart, even with all the resources. I guess m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:54 PM
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How so? I would hope you know that life, and marriage are incredibly complicated, and it's not just "he cheated, fuck that guy". For years, she controlled me emotionally in a way that I had lost my friends, my family became distant, and she was coming between my kids and I in a way that kept me from parenting the way I felt necessary. She wanted sex once or twice a month (You want a BJ? Are you kidding me?), checked my phone constantly for evidence of porn, called the only therapist who called h…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:21 PM
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I've been in counseling for over a year, well before the divorce started. I guess the point is that even with everything - the counseling, friends, close family, career - divorce is just unbelievably hard. Less Reddit is probably a good idea. Less Instagram too, although it seems to know that I'm getting divorced and sends me some great content from time to time.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:15 PM
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