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SEEKING ADVICEPoeticINFP/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:10 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEPoeticINFP/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:14 AM
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I realized that when I felt like most of the guys were dating were good looking but my god they all annoyed me to no end. I don’t know but they’d always say something stupid or made me questioned how dumb they were or thought I was. I wanted them to shut up. Looks just mean I shouldn’t cringe when looking at you that’s it. It’s your intelligence and the way you treat me and others that will let me fall for you. If you have horrible morals and ignorant views of the world and specifically women, I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:31 AM
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caring too much about the feelings of others who don't even care about mine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:49 AM
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I’d only do this if I could bring my friends out too. I notice I’m less shy if it’s my friends there at least for the first few meets. I wouldn’t want to be the only woman there though. I also had this happen to me recently a friend invited me out and he had to leave for a bit and his friend kept trying to hit on me. At first, I thought he was just trying to be friendly and I didn’t want to be rude to his friend. It made me feel like some kind of prostitute when he came on to me like I don’t eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:25 AM
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Some guy tried to choke and slap me when we were making out. Too many sickos out there. There has to be a way to protect young people from porn because it’s messing up their minds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:44 AM
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The one man I’ve known to do that is actually an abuser. I’d stay away from people who get enjoyment out of hurting others because that’s basically what a lot of these kinks are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:22 PM
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The “pretty boys” lol. How is being good looking an insult? Lol men are funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:46 PM
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Try a 20-something year old who looks 40 or at least late 30s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:17 PM
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Omg, right?? Sometimes when I'm looking through Hinge I'm absolutely baffled by the men that pop up. There's no way they aren't lying about their age 😭 I'm baffled when they're younger than me but they look much older. I keep chanting "exfoliation" when I'm on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:16 PM
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They always whine when someone mentions Jason Momoa, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:14 PM
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It's not even just western (which I'm assuming is codeword for American here), European men, and African men both seem to take more care into their style. It's mostly in the US/Canada and Uk (I'm assuming that last one), where women are dressed and made up and the men just show up. ​ Do men tend to have clearer skin tho? I notice less have acne, but they tend to be judged less closely on their skin. Their skin stay looking and feeling dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:14 PM
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Plus if you didn't have these things, they'd call you a gold digger. Never dim your light for anyone! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:21 PM
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The same thing applies to unattractive men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:24 PM
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Yup. Plus, it’s easier for them to secretly film you in other positions because you can’t see them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:59 PM
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I now understand why I prefer missionary position, the other positions feel so detached
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:35 PM
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Taylor who? Taylor Swift ? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:39 PM
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I keep making accounts and deleting it after. But since I don’t have chances to socialize at work, go to school, or have friends to go out with I don’t really have chances to meet people. Like you, I find online to be deceiving, because you can think you’re a good match for someone online than meet them irl and it’s awkward. You could have bypassed this by just meeting people irl, who you’ll know you have chemistry with and are attracted to. OLD seems risky, and a lot of the guys on it are there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:09 PM
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That shows he’s never had a woman he’s been with orgasm if he thinks you did. They still telling on themselves. It’s like he thought you came when you did, did the sex end after he came?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:04 AM
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Shoot, I used to date for experience too. It’s how I learnt what I did and didn’t want. I went to school on the other side of the country, so I didn’t take any of them seriously. My dream guy in high school/university is totally different than it is now thanks to dating experience. I just stopped doing this recently, I now feel more confident in what I want and date for relationships. I don’t think this is a bad thing unless they’re leading people on and lying about wanting a relationship with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:01 AM
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There’s no emotional connection yet. Plus, they’re not horny anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:17 PM
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And every day afterwards. And they’re always wrong about what they think I like. It’s just hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:23 PM
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Plus no family is going to tell you straight up he’s not shit. Take all comments about him seriously. As a sister, if she seems distant towards you — it might not be because she’s shy or doesn’t like you but she can’t tell you the truth and feels bad. My family would get mad at me if I said the truth about my brother, even to other family members
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:06 PM
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Now that I think about it this is so true. My brother has issues with my dad but acts just like him. They take out their issues on everybody. Is it genetic? Upbringing? stay away from men with problematic fathers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:02 PM
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It’s so funny that you mention him. I mentioned Jason momma one time and this guy started ranting about how women like him. Another time I was watching this commercial and I said I knew the actor from somewhere but I can’t remember his name. He then asked me if I “liked white guys?” (The actor was white). I thought the question was so random until I realized he probably thought I was attracted to the actor. They can’t take even a quarter of what they dish out to women, they’re projecting their o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:56 PM
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Yes it’s ridiculous. This middle eastern guy (I forgot the specific country) I went on a date with said I’m the first black girl he’s been with, I replied he’s the first insert nationality I’ve been with. You should have seen the his face, he doesn’t even consider the other persons perspective. His race/nationality is foreign to me too, but I don’t make a big deal about it. I don’t get the point of even saying that to someone. There’s no such thing as an “exotic” human, we’re all the same specie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:43 PM
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“You’re not like other black people” “you’re the first insert group I’ve dated”. It’s masked as a compliment but it’s actually insulting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:22 PM
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I wonder if they’re actually just narcissists, they use their perceived flaws to gain attention and make you feel bad for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:02 PM
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They don’t trust me, they just get better at hiding it. I’ve seen this with my brother. People think him and his new fiancee are so in love and everything. But after living with them, and seeing the stark difference between their social media pages and the abusive nonsense the gf told me — I don’t take anything on social media seriously. I don’t care how in love they look online. That’s why I don’t like some of the feedback telling women that “he just doesn’t think you’re worth it, he just doesn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:51 PM
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Is cake day the day I joined? Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:20 AM
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that last part 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:22 PM
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A lot of men I know like this are also abusive. Their women are male-identified though so I’ve given up trying to help them after the come to me complaining but refuse to speak up. So I’m left getting the abuse too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:59 PM
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I’m 5”6 and I’ve met so many men around my height who lie and say they’re 5”10 yet I’m looking down at them. A lot of my friends were around my height or taller. Plus the short women I know like really tall men. It’s short to me but it depends on what girls they’re dating and what they’re used to. The people in my family are tall so even I feel short around them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:36 PM
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Khloe was sleeping with Tristan whilst his ex-gf was pregnant with his son. Karma. The next woman always think she’ll be treated better and is special smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:41 AM
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I've noticed that too. It's so strange but it shows when guys want something from you they know how to act
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:54 AM
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Well, I was moreso wondering if she thought women were also more likely to be bitter/insecure because of their lack of good looks. The consensus seems to be that women internalize, whereas men externalize. Women blame themselves (“I’m just not good enough, why does he even like me?”), and men blame others (“women are all superficial “b’s” who like thugs). Society also often puts the blame on women. I’ve never heard people tell men to date women they’re not attracted to or give any woman a chance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:24 PM
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Do you think this applies to women too? I’m not trying to instigate anything. I’ve been called everything so I don’t even know where I stand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:49 PM
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You’re right, the “opposite-men” are just toxic in another way. They still expect you to submit to them through emotional manipulation instead of coming right out and saying it. It’s still all about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:36 PM
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Although I was a “daddy’s girl”, I saw my dad talk down on my mother a lot and act very controlling and insensitive— it scared me off of relationships because I thought even the nice guys were just hiding their controlling/aggressive side and would try to inhibit my freedom too (using money to control the ones around them). Then through talking with my mother I found out that my dad had many red flags but she still decided to stay with him so it made me less scared that all men would start actin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:41 PM
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Do you think things would be better if you were unattractive ? Why do people strive to beautiful if they’re no benefits ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:05 AM
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You only wash your face only once a day ? And only at night? interesting, is there a reason you only wash it at night? I always like how my skin looks right when I wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:50 PM
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I could have written this myself, my mom is the only one who doesn’t bother me about it because as a woman she knows how it is. I feel like a lot of men know how it is too, my own brother even told me most men are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:48 PM
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Unless you get lucky, but even Good D isn’t enough. There’s so much more to life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:46 PM
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Do you also shave your legs? I would love to use this comeback but I feel like they’ll then be like why do you shave your legs/armpits ? But shaving the pubic area is so uncomfortable for me compared to other areas of the body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:24 AM
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Then what’s the point to having a partner/husband?. I never vented to a man iml but I can’t imagine Always pretending everything is okay all the time. Might as well be single and nurture your friendships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:56 AM
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Is he Canadian ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:46 AM
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It used to be on Netflix :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:53 PM
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You’re supposed to chase after the “nice” guys eye roll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:28 PM
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After reading the article you’re right, it’s not even playing hard to get — it just says to not reveal everything about yourself and get to know them and open up slowly. That should be normal behaviour. There’s a difference between this and just seeming uninterested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:24 PM
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Damn! This is why I love this group/page. Honest true advice that you can’t find elsewhere tailored to people in our current generation/dating climate. I’ve shared this group with my friends who don’t have Reddit accounts and it’s opened a lot of their eyes. That’s why I’m just focusing on myself now and realizing most of them aren’t worth the time. I didn’t even want anything serious with them and they still found a way to drain me. They claim they just want sex but then they emotionally drain …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:52 AM
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I’m also emotionally unavailable but I don’t pretend and try to move fast and act all intimate when I know I’m not ready. That’s just weird. I take things slow af. That’s manipulative behaviour imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:17 AM
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How did you break up with him if he said he didn’t want to be in a relationship? I’m not going to lie I’ve dated people I didn’t see a future with but I didn’t do all this to them. These guys are weirdos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:19 PM
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Maybe it’s an infp thing lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:04 PM
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Yeah I usually don’t get past 3 months, now I know why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:56 PM
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I feel sleepy when I orgasm :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:12 AM
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Nah when they want to keep fucking you in the future, they’ll stay nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:04 AM
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Yeah like why is this considered normal or common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:56 AM
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If they ask about your sexual history do you just yell “none of your business, hoe!” Lol jk. But what do you say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:52 AM
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They’re always like that it seems. Mine even told me he wanted to talk to other people so I went on a date with a guy. But then he got mad and said he was hurt by it. They want to have their cake and eat it too. I actually find it disrespectful that they think I’d be okay with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:50 AM
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You’re the “best woman he’s ever had” not the best woman but the best woman out of those who’ve agreed to date him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:14 PM
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I never got why people do this. Just ghost him. People who act shitty after you’ve told them to stop, aren’t stupid they simply don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:09 PM
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Damn. I needed to read this. It reminds of this quote “You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female’.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:52 PM
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Yup. I’m very introverted and love living alone. No matter society tries to convince us that we need a mate to be happy or lots of friends. For me being alone is sooo peaceful, I know how to entertain myself. I almost let society convince me that I was mistaken and was actually unhappy alone and then pushed myself into relationships that didn’t work (because I couldn’t be motivated to maintain something that wasn’t adding value, and disturbing my peace). Probably why I always felt relieved when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:07 AM
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I honestly just tell them to wear condoms. If they don’t want to that sucks for them. Even if I could take the pill I wouldn’t risk having unprotected sex with any man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 02:04 AM
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I think it's true that women get too fond of a man after having sex with him, and it's good to be wary of that, and like you said, don't have sex too soon. I don't think it means there's an equal & opposite effect in men though I wanted to say this. The reason women seem attached is because they're chasing an orgasm. The only one sexually satisfied is the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:45 PM
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Hey! Thanks for this response. Yes, I think you're right. For example, it took me a long time to admit to myself that I just did not like the last guy I dated. I wasn't just quiet or withdrawn, I wasn't feeling it. I'm used to people saying I'm shy so I rationalized it. As much as I tried to convince myself he was the right option, my body rejected it. I'm still trying to figure out why I put myself through that. I think for a while I have been disconnected from my true feelings, trying to fit i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:19 PM
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Do you think it’s the same for women ? Like you just know from the start he’s the one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:06 PM
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I don’t know. I grew up being told that crying makes me look weak and I’m a woman. In fact, if I disagree or say I don’t like something then I’m seen as giving attitude. Expected to smile and agree or be quiet, pretty much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:32 AM
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Exactly, even if he stays you’re left wondering if he’s only staying for the chance to continue to have sex with you. I’ve never been ghosted after sex but I can’t help but think the times we’ve gone out afterwards he was just pretending to care about me so he’d can continue getting it in. But I’ll never know. Either way it’s a lose lose situation. Never knowing if it’s genuine scares me. Do you think we should aim to be friends for period before getting romantic (let alone sexual) ? Although mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:26 AM
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You’re not alone. Mine would ask me if I liked him, if I asked him to stop. Do they just lack self awareness or they simply don’t care ? I think it’s more common for guys to get away with being socially inappropriate. like no one in his life has told him this before you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:23 AM
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Maybe he was shy. I didn’t even know mine was so awkward and defensive until I brought him around my friends. It was embarrassing, but he was a really sensitive person so I should have known that would translate into acting defensive around strangers. I’m a quiet person but I still try to smile and be friendly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:18 AM
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If someone's basing my type based on the last few guys I've dated, they're going to be very confused. It wasn't until recently I realized I might have a type --guys I'm most attracted to or who stand out the most to me. It's a mix of temperament and looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:50 PM
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That was almost me :( once I saw it, I left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:50 PM
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What's the point of showing this? Who cares about the opinion of guys who haven't left their basement since 2016?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:47 PM
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What is up with that? It'll be simple solutions to it too but they expect everyone to just deal with it but they want to tell you what you need to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:46 PM
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Damn, I only seem to attract extroverts though. Some of them extreme extroverts. Where do I find other introverts ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:50 AM
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Hmm. I honestly sometimes feel like I have nothing to say, not that I’m too shy to speak. Especially when I just met them, It takes a while to feel them out and what o can say around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:47 AM
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I mean I guess it’s nice. I’ve never been heart broken before, and I generally don’t miss people although I enjoyed their company. But I do want to get into a relationship and I’m tired of guys always ask if I like them after we’ve been seeing each other for a while. If I’m hanging around you I like you, because I love being by myself, so I’m not doing it out of loneliness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:43 AM
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Does this mostly focus on male avoidants or are those just in your examples ? I also have an avoidant attachment style
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:50 AM
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This is really good advice, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:59 AM
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That would explain why I can never get passed 3 months. The men I dated the longest were always pushy and clingy. They were the most likely to persist with me but they would even project who they thought I was onto me and it got annoying fast. Telling me I’m like this, they think I like/don’t like this. I guess because I was quiet they filled in the blanks. Now that you said it, I realized I didn’t like those men, I was relieved when I left them. I don’t know if it’s because Im not super talkati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:41 PM
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Thanks for this link!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:30 PM
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I don’t know his type but I know his zodiac sign. He’s a Pisces like me. I assume he’s an extrovert because he’s always around people it seems and we met at a festival. He seems very relaxed/laidback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:57 PM
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I understand, I’ve never been in love before either. I question if I even can fall in love. I love my family and friends but that’s it. I asked the last guy i dated what he meant love meant to him because he kept telling me he was in love. He said it’s when you want to see that person happy even when you’re not around and even if it’s not with you. I said then I love everyone, because I want to see everyone happy (as long as they’re not hurting others). I still don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:56 PM
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The adorable cinnamon roll is a stereotype you’ll see it on Reddit a lot. It doesn’t match MBTI descriptions on personality site. I think it’s because we have “Feeling” in our name but that feeling is more introverted and not really expressed to others. You sound just like me though, glad to know I’m not alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:15 PM
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I’m the exact same way, do you know your personality type? I’m also very soft spoken and quiet too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:05 PM
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LOL. I first tested as an INTP when I took the test but I’m an INFP (after testing as that a couple times, it fits better). I like talking about music, films, cultures. When he said I was quiet I was talking about theories of why I think my parents country is the way it is (even though his country is corrupt too ) . I felt like I was going to rant so I kind of stopped, he seemed like he was into it though, (his eyes got really wide and he was smiling) so maybe it was all in my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:01 PM
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Yup that was my last situation. He kept trying to tell me about myself, making me out to be some mother Teresa/hippie fairy. Like he would take little things about me to create this narrative in his head about who I am. Maybe he had an anxious attachment style. I never make it past 3 months. I feel like the guy I’m dating now has been the longest because he lives in another country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:56 PM
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Lol are you me? The guy I’m dating said I never texted him. I told him I don’t like feeling like I’m bothering him but honestly I can’t be bothered. That’s probably why the guys I end up dating the longest are very clingy and pushy which I don’t like either. For me, I can open up to women pretty easily but not men. It’s weird because I grew up around my brother and boy cousins and I had mostly male friends in like kindergarten/1st grade. But they were mostly fun relationships, a lot of teasing a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:46 PM
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Yeah I know they say avoidant types are just fearful. But I open up sometimes, I’m really talkative with some people from the start (I dont know why), sometimes I’m just quiet (that’s just how I feel with this person like I’m taking time to soak it all in), others maybe something about their energy I don’t like. But even when I feel like I’m being talkative they still say I’m so quiet. I wonder if it’s because I’m soft spoken. I’m not doing it on purpose, I’m just a reserved person. Are you an i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:36 PM
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I'm always unsure about how to bring up I'm looking for a relationship/commitment without it coming off like I want a relationship with them or that I'm over-eager to be in one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:06 AM
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Yep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 07:25 PM
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I realize I do this to people lol. That should have been a sign I didn't like them like that. I thought my love would grow but it just withered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:35 PM
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The guy I’m seeing is 29, I’m 23. I don’t think that’s huge. Guys around my age don’t seem serious about being in a relationship ... at least not with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:34 AM
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Oh I was just wondering since I’ve wanted to visit. It seems like a very diverse city with lots to do. I’m Canadian but many of my friends are from there, so I thought I might like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:42 PM
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Have you ever lived there ? Why do you think that it’s hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:36 PM
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I always found the one where they put in the butt by accident weird. Like that hole is clearly in my butt. I’ve had to say wrong hole so many times sometimes to the same man that I’m starting to think it’s not accident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:57 AM
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I admit I do this when I’m not sure of someone. From now on I should take that as a sign that they’re not the one if the thought of them meeting my family worries me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:35 AM
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Lol. The way I see it, they did us a favour. Why were we even trying to claim their ugly asses? It’s always ugly guys doing this. Every fine man I’ve dated takes me on proper dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:09 AM
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I think about this often when I see certain couples. I just want him to be average/cute but that seems like too much to ask for. I’ve dated men I’ve considered cute and tall and men that were neither of those things. The cute ones were nicer imo, and had better social skills. So I don’t get this assumption that uglier guys will some how make up for it in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:15 PM
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Yeah and he was telling me he loves me and telling his friends he think I’m the one (looked at his text messages). How do you skip bf/gf and go to marriage? These men are weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:26 PM
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Yes even if it confuses you because he’s calling you and trying to see you almost everyday but says he’s not ready for something serious. Meeting his parents and friends and talking about marriage. Very confusing but when actions and words conflict there’s a reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:47 PM
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Mine used to drive me than started making me take the subway at early hours. I was always tired. I should have known when on the first week he asked me for gas money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:04 AM
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The benefits of being naturally reserved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:01 PM
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He would. I did just that and he got upset after he talked about seeing other people. They know what they're saying is hurtful, they want it to hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:25 AM
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It’s just like when people talk about having angry sex after an argument. Then suddenly they forget what they were fighting about. Sex is a loving gentle act for me so I can’t imagine having it when I’m angry. It says a lot about men and how they feel about these acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:25 PM
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I’ve experienced the same thing in school. I knew I was considered a good writer but everything I wrote was met with disbelief. No one believed I wrote it myself, maybe they thought I was stupid or that someone who acts so silly couldn’t also think deeply about things. I wrote the first paragraph of a story (probably about 3 or 4 paragraphs long in total) for a friend, the next day the teacher asks her to read her story to the class. Everyone’s praising the story and every line they said they li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 07:38 AM
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Why do people always say I've only had three boyfriends like that's a small amount? That sounds like a reasonable size to me. I've only had one :/ and that didn't even last long because he got on my nerves. how many boyfriends does the average woman have?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:27 AM
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What’s the difference between getting hit on vs approached? If a man compliments your looks is that getting hit on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:05 PM
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I feel like I’m the hesitant one. Especially since I’m still getting to know him. Long distance when you’re not in a relationship yet. It just seems like a lot of work if you’re just dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:23 AM
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The satisfaction of what? Most people approach those they think they have a chance with or is on their level. I’m still learning but this comment is kind of confusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:07 AM
3

Just did that recently. I was upset when he brought it up but went on another date a couple days after. He got angry, so I left him. It just shows their sexism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:09 PM
1

How do you pick out guys you really like without approaching ? I’m on the quieter side when you first meet me and I notice I tend to attract outgoing and extremely chatty men (often fire signs) but same thing that attracted us to each other seems to just end up pissing each other off in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:07 PM
1

But what if you’re in a long distance situation? I hate texting anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:12 PM
1

I could have wrote this myself. Wow. Except for the STI and him telling about another woman. What woman would want him though even if he wanted a serious relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:50 PM
1

Maybe they don’t think they cant do better. HVM are rare. But honestly it’s better to be single than unnecessarily stressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:26 PM
2

My brothers gf also lives with us so I can relate. My parents are in another country now so it’s even worse. Get your mother to back you up if it’s her house. He’s getting too comfortable and not respecting the family. I don’t know if I’d be okay with a SO yelling at my sibling for any reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:14 PM
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I’m a Pisces sun, Virgo Moon, Aquarius Venus, and Pisces ascendant. So I guess Neptune or Jupiter rule my chart. I never thought about that, thanks! I have a lot of Neptune in my chart too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:09 PM
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This is what I’ve learned recently, not everyone has the same good heart as you. You’re looking for ways to help people and they’re just looking for ways to take advantage of others
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:53 AM
3

Where were you when I was dating my last guy? Basically did almost all of these things on the first date. It was too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:13 PM
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This is my bro and his gf. He’s 26 and she’s 19 but have been dating since she was 18. It’s disgusting and I think they’re just looking for someone to control who’s naive about dating, setting boundaries and expectations in a relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:45 PM
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lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:30 PM
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