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http://www.thoughtsfromatherapist.com/2011/08/23/immediacy-tips-therapists-immediacy/ I suggest using immediacy in a cocky-funny way. This is a counseling technique, but I am in no way advocating being her counselor. Only use this to keep you both in the moment and let her laugh/feel comfortable with you, fully accepting that sometimes she is quiet and awkward. Use it to demonstrate her being awkward doesn't dictate how confident and in the moment you are as a secure man.
/r/seduction17/12/14 05:06 AM
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Great.. so you see it! I don't think we're alone in seeing shitty posts. Let's help to pick out the good from the bad and stand up for it. This shouldn't be some mystical thing. Sure some mystical methods are fun, but if what we're learning is how to have fun in social scenarios with a better understanding of female psychology, then what you call feminists/betas/white knights/etc... (I just refer to those who have an agenda against us as misinformed,) have no real argument and simply need to be …
/r/seduction16/03/14 04:23 AM
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I do indeed. There's just seems an abundance of hatred towards us. I understand your point of keeping a sub that doesn't blow up with 'casual memebers,' but I think that's exactly what I'm calling for. I want this not to be some mysterious fight club kind of thing, but an obvious thing that's just a given. This way, when kids are growing up there isn't some forbidden fruit bs perception behind talking to women. At it's best, it is just an obvious, casual thing that should open sourced so that pe…
/r/seduction16/03/14 04:11 AM
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It's in the description. I care what they think of us because it deters some people from getting the help that has helped me tremendously in life.
/r/seduction16/03/14 04:01 AM
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However, educating and advocating for it on reddit, can make a difference on reddit. I don't see how naysaying helps at all. Edit: Also, by saying that most guys getting into this are insecure douchebags, are you saying most of them have other than honorable intentions? Maybe I'm biased, but I don't perceive that as the majority of PUA community. I think at the heart, they want to develop inner game strategies for life.
/r/seduction16/03/14 02:55 AM
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Everyone has a tendency to be racist. It great that you're being honest about it and seek to change it. The best strategy is to put yourself in environments that challenge your biases. Try to meet and befriend or buy a beer for and chat with people of a race you are uncomfortable around. Man or woman.. it doesn't matter much. What matters is that you become comfortable recognizing people as valuable in their uniquities. Find value in their differences and learn from them.
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:12 AM
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Let's google it. Can you tell me the area. You can send it to me as a message if you don't want it floating about. I love orchestrating dates. That said, yes and no. The ball can be in her court, but if she is like most women, she will want or unconsciously expect you to call most of the shots.. it's unfair, but regardless, it's a fact. You want to include places where you feel very comfortable right away. I'm comfortable around books, and beer and music, for instance. Any place where you feel m…
/r/seduction02/03/14 02:44 AM
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I used to strongly relate to what you're saying, but learned something very important: Small talk is not meaningless. This doesn't mean that what Sartre calls idle talk is as interesting to me as profround philosophical discourse, but it can be as if not more important. What small talk does: It allows the woman to learn that you're not a dud, that she can be comfortable around you and not be judged. It give you a chance to see if her small talk is nails on a chalk board, angels in a choir and wh…
/r/seduction02/03/14 02:23 AM
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Everywhere. Be inspired by everything. Practice finding life beautiful and interesting in its raw absurdity. Fucking laugh at it! Life is such a cruel joke... but fucking fun and beats the alternative.
/r/seduction02/03/14 02:12 AM
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Pay attention to the in-the-moment experiences shared. Don't be afraid when there's silence and maintain secure eye-contact (vs. insecure.) Have a warm/calm intensity in those moments. If you notice that she's uncomfortable in silence, you can talk to her about it. You can maybe mention how interesting it is that people believe they have to fill all moments of space and that they can't enjoy the spaces. Also, plan a loose, fun date. If you aren't familiar with D1,D2, etc, plan to start in a non-…
/r/seduction02/03/14 02:07 AM
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Yes, but playfully. Don't neg. There's a video floating around about having to neg in order to bring a girl's confidence down being the same as admitting you're not good enough to stand on equal footing with her already.
/r/seduction02/03/14 01:57 AM
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Haha... half way through reading this I turned to my wife and asked, 'do you know that I find special about you? Your hair glistens when you get out of the shower.' (She just had,) the rest of the morning before she left for work consisted of her feeding me compliments. Giddily writing this she commented on how I looked like the cat who ate the canary. No matter how far I think I've come, I can always find something in here that leads me to better my relationships. For example, telling her that …
/r/seduction07/02/14 02:04 PM
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According to Freud, what comes between fear and sex? Funf
/r/seduction24/11/13 08:35 PM
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i live that he doesn't use her being on the phone as an excuse not to approach when eye contact/iois suggested he should. I'd be careful though. There's a thin line between charming and rude. Unfortunate the only way to learn the difference is to fuck up a lot so don't let that keep you from it.
/r/seduction09/05/13 04:12 AM
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I'd love to say being engaged to be married in two months, or successful closes, but honestly it was after listening to hours and hours of seduction CDs/female psychology lectures/confidence boosters/ reading books on sexuality, biology, evolution, etc. After 2 years of study and no balls to go out and actually talk to women, it was gaining the balls to actually start leaving my apartment, talking to women, maintaining eye-contact and building new relationships. In short: Having the courage to p…
/r/seduction01/05/13 01:20 AM
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Getting married... she keeps her bras on so tight (big boob high quality problems,) and 3 hooks. One of them hooks almost always get pinched.. damn near impossible for me to get off with both hands. I usually just tell her to take off. Even if you can't figure out a simple bra, the important thing is to be confident in your incompetence. Don't let it bother you... make it a something she has to work around. So long as you aren't a wuss about it/embarassed/able to sincerly laugh it off, anything …
/r/seduction23/04/13 01:07 AM
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May the force be with you. Also, condoms. Bring condoms.
/r/seduction22/02/13 02:00 AM
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Agreed. It's funny at first. I swore that 1 of my friends paid these women to be interested in what I was saying. Low and behold women are actually interested in what we have to say. I still crack this joke with my fiance. When there are a bunch of girls around and we are all talking I look at her and say giddily with the smile of a 5 year old opening a Christmas present, "Look honey. Women are talking to me."
/r/seduction15/12/12 08:48 PM
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Great answer. Thanks. That was another part for me too. Visualizing myself as a center around whom women orbited as I remained in an eternal calm.
/r/seduction15/12/12 08:39 PM
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Absolutely agree. This doesn't have anything to do with caring or not caring but having a strong sense of self.
/r/seduction15/12/12 08:27 PM
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Tact is an important piece. It's the same reason you don't tell your mom a dead baby joke. Caring is not a pitfall
/r/seduction15/12/12 08:25 PM
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You are using a throwaway account to tell people they shouldn't care what others think? Also, this is supposed to be your breakthrough moment. I'm curious, if you're to the point where you don't care except to be your best self, what triggered it?
/r/seduction15/12/12 08:23 PM
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I was driving home from Chicago when my guitarist and I got to a toll booth. The 45 year old lady looked like she could have been any 1 of our moms 10 years ago. He paid the dollar and she said thanks have a good day. My guitar said whoa what's the hurry? He then proceeded to chat with her about her day and general chit chat small talk. Eventually a car started pulling up behind us and he said "well it's about that time. you have a good day." Before this I only tried talking to hot women. That w…
/r/seduction15/12/12 08:17 PM
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Change that. The biggest improvement came from realizing that I can start a conversation with anyone. Smiling and making eyecontact with everyone was the biggest change.
/r/seduction25/10/12 03:01 AM
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Walk everywhere as though I have a pack of gorgeous women following me around. That they are beautiful planets and that I am the calm, balancing center that is their Sun.
/r/seduction25/10/12 02:57 AM
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Great job. This is exactly what people need to see.
/r/seduction14/09/12 03:06 AM
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TIL what a bega chump is.
/r/seduction13/06/12 12:36 AM
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This could go wrong in so many ways.. but all those ways would be extremely entertaining for your friends.
/r/seduction12/06/12 01:59 AM
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If I may tag one thing to that, it is the quote from David D: "Attraction isn't a choice." This is a 2 way street. If she's already made up her mind, there's nothing you can really do to get her unattracted to you. It's something that she's going to have to go through, and she'll have to find her own ways through time and experiences to 'unseduce' herself from you.
/r/seduction12/06/12 01:57 AM
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http://www.amazon.com/How-Succeed-Women-Revised-Updated/dp/0735204357/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1337307147&sr=8-1 I can't stess enough how awesome this book is. Go through it and in time you will grow increasingly in awareness of what is and isn't working. You can't expect the change over night, but if you study this long enough to where you are comfortable going out, you'll learn more an more what is and isn't working for you and MOST IMPORTANTLY, you'll do so in a way that is true to yourself. Yo…
/r/seduction18/05/12 02:14 AM
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Play around with inuendos that build sexual tension and get her asking, 'Is he joking,' or 'did he really just say that?' It's doen't even have to be sexual, it can be teasing. Talk about how every girl has a pair of toe socks, or about how you can't be in a relationship with a girl who likes musicals. Think tension. All tension can easily lead to sexual tension. You may have to test it out and not being afraid to almost get slapped. Eventually you'll fall into your cool. I strongly suggest Davi…
/r/seduction23/12/11 03:03 AM
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On the right side of this > there's a faq that says :New Here? Read this then this. Do it!!! Especially read the frequently asked questions, I think it will help get your foot in the door. As osufan765 says, you need to build up social proof. This means talk to everyone and be charismatic with everyone. One of my biggest epiphanies came to me from a friend of mine who at a toll bridge, with no cars behind him just started up a conversation with the 50 year old lady collecting peoples' change. "H…
/r/seduction23/12/11 02:54 AM
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LET THIS BE YOU! Make a complete ass of yourself, feel humiliated and laugh it off to come back for more.
/r/seduction23/12/11 02:41 AM
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David D's 'Sexual Communication' if you can afford it was one of the most valuable things I've listened to. You may have some luck finding it all on youtube.
/r/seduction23/12/11 01:33 AM
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5 years ago I wouldn't have even known what this meant. I feel comfortable checking off every one of these now and am proposing to my girlfriend in Paris in March. Sticking with one girl may not be for everyone, but it is for me. It wouldn't have been possible without David D, good friends and great women. This is a great list and I thank you for something that makes me feel proud of how far I've come. Best of luck Sedditors! (Edits: grammar.)
/r/seduction23/12/11 01:31 AM
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I think this can go hand in hand with David D's advice of "Never give a direct answer unless it's no." I say goes hand in hand because he first states not to answer directly (as this article demonstrates,) but then articulates the difference between a business model and a hitting on women model. Not all brain hacks that work in business work when it comes to hitting on women. I wish I could give some citations for you, but I suggest you study the benefits of being able to say and saying with som…
/r/seduction09/12/11 06:56 AM
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Great job!
/r/seduction06/12/11 07:17 AM
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Congratulations! I'm glad that you were able to prove to yourself that you have the resolve to become who you are.
/r/seduction12/10/11 02:29 AM
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That's always good advice
/r/seduction05/10/11 01:45 AM
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Cheers
/r/seduction27/09/11 05:51 AM
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Watch it from about 1:20 in, the polar bear part (this entire thing is amazing) http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/stuart_brown_says_play_is_more_than_fun_it_s_vital.html I believe myself to have a relaxed, non-threatening and as often as is appropriate a playful presence, so I don't trigger a threat response. Some people like to come across a little threatening and this can be a turn on to the right women in the right context, but it's not my approach. The reactions: They either thought nothing …
/r/seduction01/09/11 10:19 AM
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Unless you for whatever reason you want to save something with this girl who sounds like she'll turn out to be a neurotic mess, you should either be the bigger man and let it go, or be the smaller man and tell her what your really think she should do with those 'thumbs' of hers.
/r/seduction16/08/11 03:24 AM
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I build up my babies ego. It's all good. This may be an idea 7 years down the road, but for now I like the progression. Also.. most tall girls are very flat. My gal is short, thin, gorgeous and could fit a tall woman in her breasts. Life is good. One of the things I love about her is that she has a high opinion of herself and isn't too neurotic. I just spare of some things because I don't see them as necessary bits of information.
/r/seduction10/08/11 03:30 AM
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Our kink factor is steadily rising and we are comfortable. The thing is, I can be and am for the most part completely honest with her. I would however like more tools in my tool box for some cocky funny replies to the porn question. If the guy asking the other question is serious and doesn't think you should masterbate in a healthy relationship... well let's just say I believe he has a minority view. My gal doesn't masterbate, but I want her too. She does for me and in front of me with a little …
/r/seduction10/08/11 03:09 AM
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For similar reasons that I still take shits
/r/seduction09/08/11 04:15 PM
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I never really had a problem with this question. The question I want to know how to answer is "What do you masterbate to?" I'm certain that I don't tell my girlfriend "Not you." But I would like a surplus of fun ways I can answer this. Thanks.
/r/seduction09/08/11 10:54 AM
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Tofutofu is right. That's theone that helped me the most. I started off saying I was going to keep eyecontact with everyone I passed longer than they kept it with me and while smiling. Then I told myself any 5+ girl that walks by me I was going to smile and say "hi" to. Then I realized if I can do that I can talk to anyone and started smiling more and inviting more people to talk to. In the sense that I gather my energy from being alone, I'm still very much an introvert, but by practicing this r…
/r/seduction04/08/11 07:37 AM
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Don't talk like you are at work. Make something up that's fun and that takes her away from the fact that she is at work. Ask her if it's true about there being a waterfall in the women's bathrooms. Be playful. If you two aren't able to keep an interesting conversation going, then it could be said that you just don't have chemistry.. in which case move on. If you are like every other guy and are too stubborn to move on, then after she or you starts a boring conversation about the weather, about w…
/r/seduction04/08/11 07:14 AM
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She later slept with that teenage boy.. the phrase works!
/r/seduction28/07/11 03:21 AM
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Nothing was funnier than watching my 28 year friend (My best friend's wife,) yell at a random teenage boy "I want to be in you!"
/r/seduction28/07/11 03:20 AM
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Daniel Craig as James Bond.
/r/seduction28/07/11 02:52 AM
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I want to be in you
/r/seduction28/07/11 02:52 AM
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I'm still with the girl I met on OKC, fell for her and she has for me. We have a strong relationship and it's only getting stronger. This is what I did: Remember: IT'S NOT A DATE! You don't even know her. Hang out with her for coffee. Have her meet up with you and a friend that you are comfortable with. Make sure you are comfortable. Don't worry about what she thinks about you because the entire time she's going to be too busy worrying about what you think of her. Even if you're not calm and com…
/r/seduction22/07/11 10:56 AM
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Good job! Keep practicing these techniques and eventually you'll hit a point of flow. So long as you are doing this and keep motivated as well as following some of the great advice you've been given on here already, you'll keep being on the right path. Most people can't do what you're doing. Ask yourself, though.. is your confidence in tact? If not, why not? And what can you do to feel more confident about yourself sexually? How do you habitually build your composure around the many lovely ladie…
/r/seduction17/06/11 02:34 AM
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(btw: I upvoted you. someone else didn't have a sense of humor and downvoted you)
/r/seduction17/06/11 02:29 AM
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Please do. Did you frame it in a way where 'this is is! don't screw it up!' or did you frame where you actually wanted to just be her friend. In situations like this it especially pays to NOT have oneitus. On past dates or any dates that work I find a way to bring up her insecurities. Bring it up in a playful way and pick on her for it (Mystery refers to them as negs. keep them light and innocent, though because women can get very insecure Very fast). This does a few things: It shows that she ca…
/r/seduction17/06/11 02:24 AM
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LOL!!!! Then give her one!
/r/seduction16/06/11 05:00 AM
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One can become dependent on this and I've then made the mistake of going on a date for the first time already drunk. This is a bad move and if you are going after a girl with any class, presenting drunk can be a huge deterrent from getting a second date
/r/seduction16/06/11 04:58 AM
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Own your lack of confidence! Whenever you know you are good at something, you feel confident in it, there's less on your mind because the activity is unconscious (whether it's drums, sports, philosophy, art, women, sex, or whatever.) Because there is less for you to be consious of, you perform well because your prefrontal cortex isn't doing all of the work and you aren't getting all stressed out. So... what happens when you aren't confident? You overwork your prefrontal cortex and get stressed o…
/r/seduction16/06/11 04:54 AM
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I concur
/r/seduction16/06/11 04:08 AM
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remove her clothes
/r/seduction31/05/11 09:36 AM
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That is one of the best ways to rise from the technique of negging and really integrating it into what David D calls inner game. It's a great way of calling her out and maybe eventually seeing lower value behind Trying to neg, vs. just playfully critiquing from time to time.
/r/seduction20/05/11 02:44 AM
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