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Poley04/r/RedPillParenting03/04/20 12:14 PM
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Poley04/r/RedPillParenting12/04/20 09:37 AM
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PARENTINGPoley04/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 09:36 AM
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You are very welcome. The world needs jolly happy silly people! Just not giggling imbeciles 😜
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 11:32 AM
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I don't think I felt like a grown up until my mid 30's. Until then just felt like I was pretending. I only felt like an adult properly when I was drowning under the weight of responsibility. Retain the childish fun playful parts of you. That kind of energy keeps you young and lifts those around you. I think the ladylike and classy side comes from other aspects but perhaps also from knowing when and what is appropriate. And who appreciates it and doesn't. There is a time and a place. You need to …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 11:09 AM
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Have you seen a recent photo of her? You need to find a new insult. Unless you mean the guy?
/r/PussyPassDenied09/05/20 05:18 PM
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I do not believe that you will find this to be a problem in your relationship!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 08:09 AM
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Sure, in general. I don't recall OP saying her hubby generally doesn't make any effort. But right now, on this point, its OP that is dissatisfied. This is an easy way to change that. Without anyone having to make a concession. In my mind its simple. You wanna spend quality time with your husband? He's in the garden. Go join him. I'm sure at some point he will even things out by going to join her on the sofa.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 03:03 PM
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If her need is to spend quality time with her husband, going to join him in his project is not a compromise. Its a win win.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 02:58 PM
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Go and help him in the garden, might be fun.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 12:00 PM
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Im sorry it saddened you. So if you are content and happy with yourself and your relationship and he is chatting to another girl he likes to chat to. Shrug it off, why should you care, you guys are good right? Its harmless if thats how things are. But it bothers you right? Regardless of your boyfriends view of it, it makes you feel threatened. Why? You dont believe him? You dont think you are as fun as her? You want his time to be spent with you? Answer that to yourself and decide what you think…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 02:41 PM
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And if you really really want to pursue the train of thought, ask yourself what he gets out of talking with her, that he isnt getting from you. If he deserves that level of introspection.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 02:20 PM
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Im sorry he sounds like an idiot and you need to waste no more headspace on it. Let him sulk. Go call a friend and enjoy your afternoon instead xx
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 02:03 PM
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In mourning lol. He is just manipulating you. Don’t fall for it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 01:55 PM
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I get told Im intimidating too. And too direct. I have no idea how to get the balance you seek right but I don’t think being needy is the answer. Aim for softer and gentler instead.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 07:06 AM
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ok I'll take on your question. I am by no means a red pill woman. I found this place after discovering the manosphere first. I was trying to understand why my marriage was dying. The truths I came across relating to female nature were too real to ignore. I had been raised a strong independent woman. I was the man in my marriage and he was the woman. It made me miserable and now I could understand why. So I'm here trying to absorb and take on board new ways of thinking about myself as a woman. An…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 08:47 AM
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Aw thanks! I love you too 🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 03:51 PM
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No, but going off topic I once made a cup of tea in the wrong order to see if he noticed Id put the milk in first. He didnt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 09:24 AM
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Yes I see you decided not to be rude that time, congratulations on your success and long may it continue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 01:33 PM
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Im not going to bother answering except that it sounds like you are well on your way to success anyway and dont really value the input either. Enjoy your day!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 10:01 AM
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Suit yourself. This is exactly what mothering my husband sounded like and was a serious answer to your serious question dude. ‘What does feeling like the mum entail’ Allow me to add being a little bitch to the list of unattractive qualities
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 08:38 AM
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Mum have you seen this? Mum can you? Mummy I did this approve of me. Whats next Mummy, oh you do it, ill mess it up. Im sorry i forgot Mummy and now i made a doodoo, please help me clean it up. Mummy if I cover my eyes and ears will you make it go away. Mummy im in trouble, help me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 08:07 AM
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‘From what I understand, in the majority (not vast, simple majority) cases, the woman started feeling like the mom in the relationship, and that will kill attraction faster than anything.’ This x 100!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 07:12 AM
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Neediness, clinginess. Inability to manage day to day life. Lack of motivation and goals, needing to be mothered and poor hygiene. Looks a mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 07:10 AM
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It messed her up good, she hasnt dated for 11 years.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 01:26 PM
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A strong male figure is neccessary, completely agree. Doesn't have to be the Dad though. One of my besties married a man who beat her. Eventually she fought back, the both ended up in cells and social services got involved. The childs' father simply refused to attend supervised visits. Walked out on his daughter age three in the park and never looked back. This friends' Father was an RSM in the British Army. Retired now like. A truly masculine man and a natural leader. He has stepped in to the D…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 12:18 PM
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Having said that I'm in a good place and my choices have ended pretty well. I have two greats kids, a friendly and supportive relationship with their father, who I do love dearly still, but just not like 'that' He's coming for his tea tonight in fact. Financially independent, great health and now I am free to live life on my own terms, outside of the prison of responsibility I made for myself. He is not paying for any of my existence or his kids. I'm paying him financial support and all the chil…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 08:32 AM
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I hopped off the carousel at 21 and chose a man I had the most fun with. We made it last 20 yrs but I wish Id looked for a man who could have given me more than fun on many occasions. Looking back I was too young.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 07:10 AM
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Its not that people think women will 100% look like trolls after 30. Its just that there is younger fresher meat on the market at that point. Which lowers your value. You can still be at the top of your game though, sure.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 08:10 PM
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Now is the time to think about more than your appearance I think. Try and cultivate some other qualities of value. As you are discovering, your focus on preventing aging does not stop it happening.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 01:06 PM
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I'm not sure 'some sense of independence' is what this poster is looking for, based on her words, but yes, no-one likes a brainless simpering drone.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 12:51 PM
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I don't think this is the sub for strong willed independent women tbh, but I'm often (considered to be) wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 11:06 AM
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There is so much wrong here in your perception of our situation I cant even begin, so I wont.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 12:46 PM
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"Also, be forewarned, women are banned on sight here" Shhhhh!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 10:25 AM
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The bus? Pavement by the pharmacy queue? Veg aisle at Tesco?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 08:59 AM
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Because its an insanely overly reactive proposition.And because we don’t run away from difficult situations. We learn and grow to the point where we are confident in our own abilities to weather any storm. He wont learn that from his Dad.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 07:45 PM
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No
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 04:12 PM
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Thank you. Life is much easier for me without him its undeniable. Good luck to us both hey x
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 03:26 PM
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Oh the times I did, so very many times. If his Dad could model traditional manly behaviour, we might still be married. Taking everything on yourself is what you do when there are no other takers and shit needs doing I guess. Thank you for taking the time to engage, i appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 02:35 PM
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No his Dads a big baby who (still) brings his problems to me. And I allow it. I need to set him a better example. Thats really what Ive got out of this. I show him its ok to let people take and take from me. His Dad being one of those people. I thought maybe sone of the red pill amused mastery type handling chicks stuff could help the boy in handling his sister and be good practice for later life too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 01:49 PM
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😆 that sounds pretty fun! (I jest) He does need to toughen up. He is a lovely lovely boy who makes me very proud. Does well in all areas, happy, confident and popular. Sensible, honest and responsible. Just a bit soft. Which is fine. Unless he ever wants to conquer his Sister.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 01:32 PM
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He left karate before she did i guess. He is just not prepared to go as far as she is. He has fear. And self control. She does not. Yet.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 01:00 PM
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He has /does. It just escalates things. He knows if he lands one on her, she will land a harder one on him. He is instructed by his Dad and I to remove himself in those situations and find one of us to intervene. He doesn’t always do this and goes into battle instead. And never wins. Id like to see him get the better of her. And I think he would too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 11:18 AM
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I refuse to believe it is inappropriate for a mother to seek advice on how to help her son deal with something that has been making him angry. Why everyone wants to assume nothing is being done about the daughter cos its not a focus of the post baffles me. Its commonly said you cant control other people but you change your handling of them. Its a skill I want to encourage. Not to let your mood be at the mercy of others and to be left fuming by people pushing you. Im opening myself up to advice a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 08:04 AM
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Yes I know. It was a flippant attempt at humour.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 06:20 PM
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Hi. Its less that he wants nothing to do with his crazy domineering 7 yo sis and more that he is left frustrated and stifled by her. My curiosity here is driven by a desire to help him feel that less. I think a lot of people have missed that in my post. Perhaps I wasn’t clear. He is fully aware we agree he is not the problem. He knows what steps are being taken by both his parents on that score. He is not expected to be the man in this household in any way. But he does have to navigate relations…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 06:13 PM
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He once broke her finger in a door...
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 03:30 PM
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Ah thats not really what I meant with that comment. Just the way no two peas from the same pod come out the same, and the little bits of other people you see in them..
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 03:30 PM
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My brother and I were besties growing up until puberty, which we both hit at the same time. We went in two different directions and only reconnected when I went to university. Because he made the effort initially, I was lost in a party haze and he came and checked in on me. We are good friends now but only see each other a couple of times a year. I struggle to remember how he handled me, other than slamming the door on me. I dont recall ever smashing through his boundaries the way my daughter do…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 03:00 PM
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😂😂 gotcha.. somehow i feel it will come across anyway 😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 02:54 PM
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Thank you!! The bit about he cant parent his sister is spot on and the reason Ihave to intervene in many of their spats; as much as i do generally try and let them try to resolve conflict themselves. Really appreciate it thanks xx
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 01:48 PM
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Thank you. I am indeed awful at enforcing boundaries myself. I am improving but I am only just realising how deeply that is programmed in. I did put off dealing with my daughter until after we finished the call as I knew her reaction would derail the entire conversation and cut it short for my parents. Maybe not the best choice. Honestly I feel like I am constantly on her case at the moment though, shes not getting off scot free. I cant see myself seeking out another man for this purpose but I h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 12:45 PM
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They are with him half the week. Weve only been living apart from each other since February. My male family are great but live at the other end of the country so not part of our everyday. He plays soccer though and that takes up a lot of his free time (well it did before the pandemic)
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 12:07 PM
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Im just seeking some tools to give to the boy. As she is not the only girl he will meet in his life. The daughter is on an improvement program
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 11:53 AM
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Thanks, that is a really interesting perspective. You could be right. I think I assume he will be attracted to a certain type of woman but maybe he will go the other way. You’re the second person now thats made me think about my own brother. You’ve got me thinking about how he dealt with me as his bratty little sister and how he has chosen a lovely feminine drama free homemaker extraordinaire as his wife. He finds my Mother incredibly infuriating and thinks I am an amusing but reckless lunatic.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 10:30 AM
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Happy to help!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 09:50 AM
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You are massively over thinking it. What does it matter who asked for whose number and in what order? It means nothing other than he wants you to ring him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 09:48 AM
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Sunshiiiiine!! 🌞🌞and a place to sit in it and the time to enjoy it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 03:17 PM
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Haha well dont waste your time then. Just get naked 🤗 its always a winner xx
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 09:19 PM
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Can you create something meaningful to give him in your free time? Recreate a special moment you shared? Provide him something hes always wanted? We often recreated our wedding breakfast or our first meal together on our anniversary and I’d put my wedding dress on and flounce around in it. Til it didnt fit me anymore. (Hmmm bet it does now though 🤔)
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 09:02 PM
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I dont know what you consider a staycation to be given the current situation. But slutting it up in your wedding lingerie is likely to be appreciated 😇
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 08:26 PM
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Make it the year you got out of your minds and shagged all day 😂🥳
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 05:53 PM
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Don't ask a load of questions. Just watch his behaviour over time. See how he handles things. Talk is cheap, ask me how I know.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 08:44 AM
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And if I did hed be finding me very annoying today 😆
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 02:30 PM
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Only cos I dont have one.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 02:28 PM
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Ummmmm...🤔🤭
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 12:39 PM
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Do you have central heating? Put it on. Or press yourself against your man to warm up. Or just stay in sweat pants and be warm, I don't mind. I'm sat working from home today in a sports bra and knickers. Right now in fact. And I'm in northern UK where it is always cold. Its April now also ;-)
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 07:59 AM
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Boooo hoo hooo
/r/askMRP01/04/20 07:57 AM
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Hehe me too! And makes good old fashioned swearing feel so much more potent when you use it
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 06:26 AM
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I still swear too too much. I blame my ex I picked it up off him. I did make a conscious effort to do better when I had my kids. I used to just stop myself as I was forming the word. And drag it out, like fffffff or shhhh. It gradually developed to a whole new vocabulary that is used by us all. Flip flap doodle comes out a lot these days 🤣 or a gone with the wind inspired fiddle de dee.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 06:25 AM
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A hobby is just a thing you do for fun. Therefore you can be completely awful at it and be a beginner too.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 12:43 PM
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Much like you really. Everything normal in my little bubble. Seemed like a storm in a teacup and just concerned about the way this is playing out now long term. But short term seems like a nice chance to chill out 🤪
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/20 08:56 PM
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Before the kids came along and my marriage fell to pieces, I always swanned around all evening in my underwear and fuck me heels. Washing up, hoovering all that stuff. Those days it looked good lol... these days not so much!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/20 02:26 PM
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Just take off the sweatpants and go about your evening in your underwear. Make it nice underwear.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/20 09:37 AM
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Sewing. One of the most useful things my Grandmothers every forced me to learn. I'd rather have been playing Scalextrix with my Brother but no, they weren't having it. So as as result I can do all sorts of customising, adjustments, and household stuff. Great for making kids fancy dress, making pants fit better, nice family quilt.. Get a sewing machine and go for it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/20 09:30 AM
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Come off your meds and things will spiral out of control faster than you can say shit that was a bad call. Maybe get it reviewed though, its meant ti make you feel better after all. I take anti anxiety meds. They changed my life. They have put weight on me and made my psoriasis worse. Still if anyone wanted to take them off me they would have to prise them out of my cold stiff (dead) fingers. Much happier to take the tablets and deal with the side effects bouncing through life instead of snarlin…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/20 06:50 AM
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So what did you tell him? Never surprising how quickly a man can go from charming to asshole when you refuse him. Takes all sorts I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 08:35 AM
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I'm going to try not to sound mean. Sorry if I fail. What should you do? Meet him. Otherwise what is the point at all? It will bother him or it won't. It will have nothing to do with you. Only one way to find out.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 12:27 PM
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I turned down a date a while back with a guy who flatly refused to let me find my own way there and home. Its not normal. We were going to go to this dance event. Somewhere between both our locations. He wouldnt accept I wanted to drive. When I insisted he attacked me for judging him and not trusting him. A man I'd spoken to for about a day. Be careful out there!
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 09:30 AM
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I'm going to tell you what I respect most about the best Man I know, my Dad. Solid as fuck. What I mean by that is that he is unshakeable. He isn't phased by anything. He doesn't complain. Or criticise. He is a rock. Times he loses his temper are rare and when he does, he commands respect. Loud deep voice. Tall, Strong. Serious. Full of authority. He was a Deputy Head at a rough boys school before he retired. I spent two weeks work experience there as a teenager and saw how he was respected by t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/20 03:35 PM
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ah ok, forgot that existed. I did think since I wrote it that there is also condoms to consider... Are birth control and contraception the same thing? IDK
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 01:58 PM
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I don't think there is birth control out there that doesn't mess you up in one way or another. Go back to your Dr and discuss your alternative options. They will also be able to assess any other factors that might be causing the hair loss etc. In my experience, its pretty much always hormonal. A small imbalance can make a such a huge difference to your experience of life. So its worth pressing on until you find the right method for you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 09:20 AM
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Don't do it. I let my Husband become a SAHD. It was start of the decline of our marriage as I slogged my guts out and he had a lovely relaxing time. SAHD when the kids are at school 9-3? He had it made lol.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 08:57 AM
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Murder, torture, rape, cancer. Just 4 much worse things that can happen to you than pregnancy. Pregnancy and motherhood are different for everyone. But I'm pretty sure 90% of the Mothers here would tell you its the best thing they ever did. I know I would.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 08:55 AM
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You don't have to. You just have to do / be what you want and ignore the messages that come at you from everywhere else.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 10:16 AM
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Stops you looking like a sad lonely incel at social functions
/r/askMRP04/03/20 11:06 AM
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Youre on different paths for now by the sounds of it. So quietly start asserting your boundaries. She has other friends to do the bar hopping with. Just try not to judge her for her choices. You do you and let do her thing. Not to say that you cant have conversation with her about your concerns. A solid friendship can grow better for a bit of boundary setting, tolerance and straight talking. Keep inviting her to do the things you like. Go meet her and her friends with your SO even and make an ea…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 11:06 PM
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Ive no interest in younger guys but Im early 40’s. Im also pretty certain theyd have no interest in me either 😆 Maybe just a thing for drunk bar chicks?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 09:47 AM
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What a judgey bunch of harpies you work with. Ignore them they envy your fun and spirit of adventure
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 12:56 PM
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totally agree. Sound like a man with no backbone and diplomatic skill.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/20 10:18 AM
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😂
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/02/20 08:41 AM
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Always yes to beer 🍻
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 09:32 PM
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Sometimes its better to cut your losses. Im not convinced relationships should be hard work. Wish Id called it a day sooner. Good luck xx
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 06:24 PM
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I've been with the same guy 20 years from the age of 21 to 42 and we are now divorcing after accepting the magic is gone. I've read a lot in the last 6 months and spoken to a lot of people, doing my research as it were. In doing so, I have learnt some stuff. Its not about how you look. Its about how you made him feel. At some point he's stopped wanting to chase you and has pulled away. You need to be very honest with yourself about why you think that might be. He might have just met someone else…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 04:20 PM
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Go, take something he likes to drink or eat, even if no use on the night. Just take a token that shows you know him and remember his fondness for something. Then just be a pleasant, positive presence for the night. Be respectful and appreciate the hell out of every little thing that does. Sparkle!! My advice on the other men you are speaking to is to just go quiet for a day or two. Strictly speaking, its just dinner for your daughters birthday, not a date with your ex. But best of luck and hope …
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 03:21 PM
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These things do change over time. Sadly it does sound like his attraction to you has gone. Maybe you could win it back with some solid game, but would you want to work that hard for a man who is willing to let you slide? I find this as hard to gauge as the next person, so just musing over it really
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 03:14 PM
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I strongly feel you shouldn't have to ask people to spend time with you. Partners or friends. People either want to or they don't. If they want to, they will sort it. No point asking and asking. Just accept it's not coming, set your boundaries and move on. ​ EDIT - OP, you will never regret the choice to end it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 12:19 PM
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Oh my god. Please tell me whatever DV claim she had in is now completely off the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 09:18 AM
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