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PolishedIvory/r/seduction10/04/12 09:14 PM
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Bwahahahahaaa oh I loved reading this.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/17 05:02 AM
10

You're tossing out these numbers flippantly - I think your radar is off. I doubt you've ever even talked to a 9 or a 10.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/17 05:01 AM
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Seconded.
/r/askTRP19/10/16 07:03 AM
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I wonder the same; but I don't worry about it, to be honest.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 05:38 PM
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I didn't say fucking other women makes her RedPill. I said she is RedPill, and I said she likes chicks.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 03:05 PM
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Just like I thought. How weak and average of you.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 12:58 PM
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My girlfriend is a rich, successful lawyer who likes fucking other women and demands we have threesomes. She's redpill AF. I am sorry you think in absolutes; hopefully you don't miss out because of this.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 12:57 PM
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I'm dating one woman like this, but they are rare. The truth is, she thinks more like a man than any woman I've ever known.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 11:46 AM
2

I challenge you to agree to stop calling me a bitch, just as I did the first time when you didn't respond. When you accept, we can go to step 2.
/r/askTRP10/10/16 10:34 AM
0

Well, you already gave up at step one, so take your bitching somewhere else from now on since you don't actually want help, just pity.
/r/askTRP10/10/16 04:46 AM
3

A good response is: "Oh, thank god; I was dreading having to send you the same text. Thanks for the great time."
/r/askTRP08/10/16 03:07 PM
1

First of all, I get that you are angry, and you won't be calling me bitch. Let me know if you accept.
/r/askTRP08/10/16 03:13 AM
0

You can solve this problem in a week. But you won't, because you like the attention you get from being a cripple. Prove me wrong.
/r/askTRP07/10/16 12:15 PM
2

Pack up your discussion, boys! /u/Terminal-Psychosis has an opinion and wants us to stop. All hail the mighty /u/Terminal-Psychosis!
/r/askTRP19/09/16 12:43 PM
7

there is zero evidence This is wholly inaccurate.
/r/askTRP18/09/16 07:13 PM
1

I did liposuction, but only AFTER I had been lifting for years and couldn't get rid of the last flap of skin/fat overhanging my belly. I was literally ripped everywhere else except this one area, and it was fixed in 4 hours for $3,000. Worth every penny. BUT UNTIL YOU GET TO THAT POINT, NO FUCKING WAY SHOULD YOU DO LIPO.
/r/askTRP21/12/15 01:53 AM
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Aaaaaaaand I'm officially done with the internet for the day.
/r/askTRP16/07/15 09:35 PM
1

IsoPure is pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/15 03:16 PM
3

I got that for you, many people in TRP are women haters or manipulators. This is because accepting a new reality is difficult. Our first reaction is to go "WTF?!? This is so effed up, I hate women for playing these games!" Then, we learn what the games are and how to play along, and life gets much easier for both sexes.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 02:15 PM
4

That depends on whether you want a companion, or a dependent child. I already have two children. I don't need another one who can't pay for her own $8 salad. She feeds and clothes herself just fine when you're NOT around, why would she suddenly need money when you ARE?
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 05:46 PM
2

I have met some great hotties online who turned into plates. I'm not ignoring any avenue and I cold approach often.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 02:32 PM
1

I meet plenty of women in the real world. I was actually in New York Magazine in December talking about how many dates I have over the holidays. This is an experiment in TRP on a dating site.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 02:30 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:51 PM
1

Incredibly wild. And, I live in an open-relationship (poly) house with awesome people, which was just renovated with marble, tile, etc. and hot tub. It's a party house with grown up, responsible people who love sex. It's looking like a good year, considering the last two years I was dealing with a nasty divorce. :) If you're ever up this way, come through Brooklyn for one of our parties.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:51 PM
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Fixed with strikethroughs.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:31 PM
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First line updated to "studying to be a pirate". Thanks for the feedback. :)
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:21 PM
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you'd like to turn me off in the worst way. I will make the first move. Stealing that line, if you don't mind. Updated the rest per your points (except I kept the soup dumplings line). Thanks!
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:10 PM
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This happened to a friend of mine. He "raped" her at a sex party (!) in front of people. She was willing, consented openly, and there were multiple witnesses to the fact including the girl's boyfriend. After the fact when the BOYFRIEND regretted letting him do "his girl", she relented and started crying rape. It never got litigious, probably because she thought if she went the legal route she would be totally laughed at (I mean, raped at a sex party? Kinda hard to justify that...) plus the strin…
/r/TheRedPill17/03/15 02:58 PM
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Jeez... so much feels from this. I can't even enjoy the memory of the "one I lost" because looking back, she was the same. Right there with you.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 08:57 PM
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I'm right there with you, brother. I think jerk is not the right word, but I don't have another word to describe it. For example, a woman asked me (through email) to come help her with something when I get back to New York, and specified a time, such as "Hey Chris, can you come help me with such and such tomorrow at 8PM?" I knew I had other things to do already scheduled in my calendar, and my first reaction was to reply "No, I can't because I have other things going on, maybe some other time li…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 08:15 PM
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Yeah, along the lines of "Hey guys, if you don't want to get accused of rape you probably shouldn't force girls to have sex with you." #NotAdvice
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 03:12 PM
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You make women want to fuck you by being a badass. Not by folding clothes into neatly organized piles. I'm tattooing this on my arm.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 11:53 AM
7

Your explanations make you sound insecure. How's that for an ugly truth?
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 11:44 AM
1

if your girlfriend, fiance or wife ever even hints at the possibility of an open relationship There is a small exception; I am poly-amorous, and I disclose it at the beginning of all of my relationships. If they also want to be poly and disclose it at the beginning, then we negotiate the ground rules. BUT - you're 100% correct in asserting that if you're with a girl for a while and she SUDDENLY wants to be "open", you're fucked if you don't dread her ASAP.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 03:17 AM
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OMG. Best trickle example ever!
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 02:27 AM
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I etched this into my brain for future use.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 02:14 AM
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In leadership training they call this "being responsible for the listening of others."
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 11:00 PM
1

I'm in NYC. Can confirm. I once had a girl tell me she wants me to be her "city boyfriend", i.e. when she's out of the city (across the bridge) I'm no longer needed, and she can fuck whomever. I'm poly so I don't give a fuck, but the way she put it was fucking retarded.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 06:13 PM
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I agree with this 100%. When I was married, I had an awesome sports car, flashy clothes, went to strip clubs, etc. And I was beta as fuck. After the divorce, I gave up everything - either sold it or donated it, mostly just donated it to people less fortunate. I live a sparse, spartan life of lifting, eating well, meditating, and reading... and I now have way more social proof than the people around me. Try the book "Essentialism". It's miraculous.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 05:47 PM
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I'll allow it. HAHAHA! You owe me a keyboard, since I spit diet coke all over mine.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 05:42 PM
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Don't look at her as your mother. Train yourself to look at her as just some naggy person who feels they have the right to control you. Then go from there. This was the hardest lesson I had to learn in life. If you are trained to love your parents unconditionally, especially your mother, she will walk all over you until you're a shell of an emotional wreck on the floor. My mother is solely to blame for convincing me "it's my duty" to stay in an abusive marriage "for the sake of the kids", no mat…
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 05:18 PM
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Numbers 4, 5 & 6 were my life. It took me cutting off my mom completely to finally grow up. To this day, she feeds the same line of BS about "you need a real job" (I'm a successful entrepreneur), "you should have stayed married" (I was in an abusive relationship), "why do you always go to the gym so much?" (maybe because you taught me everything wrong about dieting, so I was fat through college...) What's worse, is she tried to feed this same BS to my kids. I hate to TRP my own mother, but she's…
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 05:08 PM
1

HOLY SHIT. This exact same thing happened to me. I was blown away that I was dating this 9.5/10, that I became a complete pussy and bowed down her. I stopped being the confident alpha in all areas of my life! Everything backfired, and six months later she ejected because I had become a Beta Bitch. Amazing comment, thanks so much!
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 12:35 PM
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Love this analogy. And why not? You can be a God among the boys.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 12:19 PM
1

Check out Carb Back Loading by Dr. John Keifer. Excellent book about eating junk food PROPERLY while still getting lean and more jacked than ever. Changed my life!
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 12:17 PM
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Acknowledgement is one of the most noble traits of a gentleman and an Alpha. Give credit to those around you. You're awesome for acknowledging the community and giving thanks. You rock!
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 12:16 PM
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I find this is the best attitude to have - "I used to be the fat kid" gives you a different confidence than many other guys who have always been fit or "hot". You get to be confident, but still approachable and cuddly, because you have ugly duck syndrome. I have the same thing - I know I'm jacked and muscular, but I am still not convinced I'm "hot" no matter how many girls say so... and so, I'm not a jerk about it. I love this new life. Thanks for the post!
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 12:11 PM
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I went through the same situation. Marriage, divorce, and ended up footing the bill, draining my savings, going heavily into debt just so I could meet my child support payments. And at every turn, I had convinced myself I was worthless. And then I got angry. Then determined. Then jacked, ripped, healthy, and overly confident in my work and my contribution to the world. Now I'm on top of my game and girls trip over themselves to be around the Alpha I've become. Sometimes, it takes losing it all t…
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 12:00 PM
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I'd give him shredded cabbage and assume Cole's Law.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 09:43 AM
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Yes, I did Google and AirBNB to find prices for travel and lodging, respectfully. OP is accurate and I could leave on June 1st for one month and it would cost around $1,500.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 03:19 PM
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Absolutely! The lesson, though, wasn't that I shouldn't get married - just that I shouldn't fight so much when getting divorced. LOL The more you stick to the plan and follow your lawyer's advice, the more you'll save... and the more you deviate from the plan and try to argue in court that you're "right", the more you lose! It really sucks trying to be right instead of just trying to get divorced. ;-)
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 03:17 PM
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Thank you for this response; the original post was great, and I was seriously considering going to India, and this post just pushed me over the top. Kudos. See you there!
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 06:07 AM
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Seconded. And the $100,000 I burned on my divorce could probably have bought a mansion in India.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 05:58 AM
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OP isn't recommending a vacation.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 05:57 AM
2

Or monopoly money! Or Nigerian hundreds.
/r/TheRedPill29/09/14 02:39 PM
5

Ana K. is the poster hamster for the new generation.
/r/TheRedPill29/09/14 02:32 PM
1

Amazing video. Does anyone else have a problem with them making it rain from the passenger seat of a Jeep Wrangler? LOL At least go RENT a luxury car with all dem billz.
/r/TheRedPill29/09/14 02:31 PM
1

And yet, you missed the part where I said I don't get any anxiety. You know which salesmen don't get anxiety? The ones that believe so much in their product, that to them you're a fool if you don't buy one.
/r/seduction09/09/14 12:22 AM
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I don't find them that complicated. The complex part is separating their commitment from their personality; i.e., separating their true desires from all the bullshit that comes out of their mouth.
/r/seduction08/09/14 08:57 PM
1

Get Hip Hop Abs (DVD) and Dance Central for XBox kinect. And yes, hips.
/r/seduction08/09/14 06:05 PM
1

Well said.
/r/seduction08/09/14 03:55 PM
1

Women are not complicated. Women are human and have fears and insecurities just like the rest of us.
/r/seduction08/09/14 03:35 PM
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"When" you get back out there, not "if". You can't go onto the next chapter until you first turn the page. If you want to chat about it, give me a call Tuesday or Thursday between 2-5 EST: 646-580-0365
/r/seduction08/09/14 02:41 PM
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Give me a call. 646-580-0365 ~Remy
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:10 AM
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Start with the sidebar. Tomorrow order a copy of "The Game" by Neil Strauss and optionally "Models" by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction07/09/14 01:22 AM
1

Have you read any of the material?
/r/seduction07/09/14 01:15 AM
1

I don't get anxiety from talking to strangers. Whoever is spreading that line of BS to you is simply wrong. Not trying to say you have to get rid of anxiety to be good at game, but definitely to be a PUA. Mystery doesn't get anxiety approaching girls. He creates anxiety in them, and then alleviates it. But I doubt he has butterflies in his stomach.
/r/seduction07/09/14 01:14 AM
1

100% this. Also, "It would be so fucking sexy to have my cock in your mouth."
/r/seduction07/09/14 01:12 AM
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I'd love to give you specific advice, but it's unclear whether you read any material. It's important in this sub-reddit that you read all of the primer material first so that you can ask specific questions, instead of just "I can't get girls". Would you report back to us when you've done that? Also, I suggest starting with the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss if you're brand new, and then "Models" by Marc Manson.
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:51 AM
1

DAMN I love that word! "Drift." I'm totally stealing that. :) A wingman will help a lot, especially one who knows "The Game", etc. Anyone come to mind?
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:48 AM
2

In studies, people who are smiling are perceived as more intelligent.
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:20 AM
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As far as I know, you can get herpes from skin to skin contact on any part of the body. So, if her vagina gives off the virus and you get it on your hands, and then maybe you touch other parts of your body by accident... Also something missing from this discussion is that sometimes I have sex with two or more girls. Switching gloves between playing with one and then playing with the other, is just like switching condoms when you go from fucking girl A to girl B. You don't want to carry the vagin…
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:15 AM
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I agree. And I probably do. Even though I test negatively each year, I workout and eat right and likely have a high functioning immune system which keeps any symptoms at bay. I don't claim to be an expert but I was married to a PhD blood / genetics researcher who studied sickle cell (among other things). I remember discussing with her that if you have HIV, you can still have a white cell count above X which basically means the virus will never present. It just depends on how healthy the rest of …
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:12 AM
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I don't follow your logic. The point was to highlight available methods for safety. You sharded the conversation off into another topic: whether or not you, personally, think black gloves are a good idea for "sexiness", not safety. Leaving one method out simply because you don't like it is contrary to that goal. That's like saying "Condoms seem overly cautious, I don't like them so why did you include them?" Many people in the world don't even know what a condom is, and how it can protect you. N…
/r/seduction06/09/14 03:08 PM
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Ask for what you want. #1 rule.
/r/seduction06/09/14 02:45 PM
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A car does not matter.
/r/seduction06/09/14 02:42 PM
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The same thing happened to me, and it set me back for a while. Remember that every setback can be a slingshot that shoots you forward past where you were previously. Now you get to go back into the dating game but WITH THE KNOWLEDGE that you can attract models!
/r/seduction06/09/14 02:37 PM
1

Thank you for educating me. Truthfully I've not handled many weapons in my life, so I was curious. But I'm still wondering if you are any good with a sidearm.
/r/seduction06/09/14 02:20 PM
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The goal was to discuss every method available and let people make their own choice. I have sex with lots of women. In each case and with each woman, there's a choice. Do I use the glove with every one? No. Do I use it with women I don't know very well? Yes. Do I break my own rules sometimes? Fuck yes. There are lots of girls that I will "play" with, but don't want to fuck. I abstain from sex with them, but will happily finger bang them until they squirt. In this case, black glove. But sometimes…
/r/seduction06/09/14 02:19 PM
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Are you any good with a gun, XD5? Serious question.
/r/seduction06/09/14 07:13 AM
1

Yes, but let's allow him to get the frustrations out first, otherwise there won't be a clear space for him to create a new reality.
/r/seduction06/09/14 07:13 AM
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100% agreed; upboat.
/r/seduction06/09/14 07:11 AM
1

Tinder and OkCupid are inherently flakey; many girls are just bored and looking for someone with whom to chat. In fact, I bet many of them have boyfriends and are just having some secret fun while at work away from their boring beta... Online dating is a huge numbers game. Get in the habit of contacting 2 3 or more each day, and your problem will work itself out.
/r/seduction06/09/14 07:10 AM
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Thank you for your service, XD5.
/r/seduction06/09/14 07:03 AM
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I'm not sure he wants help. It's okay for him just to vent.
/r/seduction06/09/14 07:03 AM
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Probably not.
/r/seduction06/09/14 06:55 AM
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Sure, I'm usually vulnerable after we've had sex a few times and I know I'm interested in being with her for longer. (LTR) And some women I'm, interested in sex but in emotions, so I have girl"friends" with whom I'm vulnerable. I can think of two who just come over and rub my scalp while we just talk. And if a woman zings me, I usually congratulate. High IQ women are such a turn on and I do for the dark and dry humor that takes a few brain cells. So kudos for her. Also, a good pun is tops in my …
/r/seduction06/09/14 05:55 AM
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Thanks! I'm still not clear on your question though...
/r/seduction06/09/14 05:11 AM
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Just throw it ON THE GROUND!!! http://www.fimfiction-static.net/images/story_images/20674.jpg?1335755876
/r/seduction06/09/14 04:59 AM
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If you care too much about what people think of you, it is I who feel sorry.
/r/seduction06/09/14 04:59 AM
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Hmmmm... There are usually fetish events in large cities, and many fetish people are also in the sex-positive community. Find an event and make friends.
/r/seduction06/09/14 03:28 AM
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I'm not clear on the question - can I ask you to rephrase? If I'm hearing you correctly: nobody "gets" the better of me, because that would mean I care about the story in their head about me. I don't.
/r/seduction06/09/14 03:27 AM
1

Haha! Love it.
/r/seduction06/09/14 02:38 AM
1

Does it matter?
/r/seduction06/09/14 01:40 AM
2

Bunny
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:25 PM
1

Yes, sure, every guy's dream... But what if she wanted to date multiple guys?
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:49 PM
1

The hardest thing I had to absorb was something my mentor said when I asked him how long I should wait to hear back from her: "Six months." Six fucking months? What? I had been on a few dates with this girl, she blew me off a little bit, I blew her off back. And when I told him what happened... "Wait six months." Sigh. I waited. And waited. It was hard - I really, really liked this girl. I waited some more. Month 3. Then month 4, 5... nothing. She texted in month 6. Almost to the day. Remember -…
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:36 PM
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Well, it depends on whether you believe it's possible to have multiple lovers. I believe it is... i.e., she can have her girlfriend, and you as a boyfriend, and love each one just as much. Where do you stand on it?
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:31 PM
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Haha, I don't even realize I'm doing it anymore. :D
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:06 PM
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One thing my mentor taught me during a crazy night in Miami: Today, your goal is to get a girl naked in your bed and NOT fuck her. Play and tease, but no fucking. Halfway through the night I was going nuts. We were making out like crazy, I was fingering her through her panties, etc. But in my mind was his rule, "Don't fuck her. Not tonight." My advice is stop focusing on getting laid. :) Change your end game and see what happens. Try to get a girl naked without fucking her, it's a fun experiment…
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:05 PM
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Thanks, Larry!
/r/seduction05/09/14 08:44 PM
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Hmm, I'm not sure if it's the same in terms of transmission. I'm clearly not an expert in transmission rates. LOL All I can say is that I wouldn't. But these are personal preferences. I'm super anal-retentive about STIs, so I take as many precautions as I can. I see it like a stack of barriers: condom, plus communication, plus gloves, plus, plus, plus... IMO if you lick your fingers you've just negated most of those barriers.
/r/seduction05/09/14 08:25 PM
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I was so very wrong! Thanks for the clarification. I was hoping to focus the article on potential prevention methods or methods to reduce transmission rates, not give a class on Herpes, but I pulled out some asinine facts from my brain that were clearly wrong. I have a Mensa IQ but sometimes it doesn't work. Drugs & partying, what can I say. Thanks so much for the source check, Feloness!
/r/seduction05/09/14 08:06 PM
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Updated some of my notes so it's more clear. I meant to say, contamination is easier during the sluffing period. But it's very true that you can literally get it at any time from a carrier.
/r/seduction05/09/14 08:04 PM
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I'm trying! EDIT: I'm joking. That's a whole different hassle.
/r/seduction05/09/14 08:02 PM
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I'm an open book. AMA.
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:50 PM
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This is simply a list of SAFER SEX methods to help protect yourself and the ones around you. If you have something to add, let's hear it.
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:44 PM
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I've read that the sluffing period generally lasts up to 7 months. But, you're absolutely correct; I'm not an MD or researcher, so I'm going off what's in my brain. Perhaps I should remove the specifics? In any case, the point was to highlight prevention methods, not discuss transmission rates. I hoped just to help people use safer means of protection and not get into a debate about med studies.
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:39 PM
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Thanks for the info! I've updated the above text. Truthfully, HSV has become so prevalent that they've stopped testing for it in New York. I specifically request the test from a paid doctor every year just for my own edification.
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:37 PM
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These are guidelines, not rules. Assess the risk and make a choice.
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:32 PM
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Great one. :)
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:31 PM
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Yes, you're right. Well, you've also made me realize that I generally treat everyone like they are irrational until I get to know them. So the default for me is "This girl is probably irrational, I should ask to make sure she's not irrational." I'd just rather not get into a dicey situation afterwards, because I'm dealing with MLTRs and OLTRs and whatever other acronyms there are. There are other people besides her and I, so I need to be WAY upfront about literally EVERYTHING. Even something as …
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:30 PM
0

Maybe I just go for the hottest 18-year-olds? I generally don't go for "easy" lays. It's no fun anymore. :(
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:27 PM
6

Crush it!
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:25 PM
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Haha. It's not all roses. And it's like one orgy every two months. But still... point taken! ;-)
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:25 PM
3

Absolutely. Someone tell me how awesome I am. I need the dopamine hit!
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:25 PM
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I totally have a binge personality. No doubt about it. Minor clarification, he's not a tantra sex coach. The text message linked above was from a female coach who knows me through social circles & parties. I've purposefully inserted myself into the sex scene in New York, for the purposes of upping my game even further. I just happened to become best friends with someone who teaches classes on better sex by being in the same social circle. PRO TIP: If you want to learn how to have ridiculous sex …
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:24 PM
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Thanks brother! And close the door. :)
/r/seduction05/09/14 07:14 PM
0

Not all 18 year olds are easy, and not all 30 year olds want babies...
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:58 PM
7

The truth is you already realized it.
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:47 PM
2

We are so lucky to live in the age of condoms.
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:28 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:27 PM
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Facts: Unsubstantiated claims from Remy's brain based on Google Searches: It's easiest to transmit during outbreaks; It's also quite easy to get during a period after the outbreak called "sluffing" or "viral shedding", You can get herpes from skin-to-skin contact during the sluffing period.
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:18 PM
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It's a shitbag move. And it shows you only care about your feelings, not hers. Girls are hard-wired to want a relationship, and you're going to knowingly bang them and then screw with their head after. Please reconsider this position, for the sake of the women's sanity you will affect.
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:16 PM
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Practice hard and don't fuck around like I did, and you'll be amazing in 12 months. It's like breakdancing - for twelve months you suck, and then in month 13 you're suddenly better than 95% of the people you meet.
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:15 PM
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I used to be a software engineer. I made a shit ton of money, and I didn't even have a degree in Computer Science. I was just good at it, and a good salesman. I bought cars, houses, clothes, etc. and partied like nobody's business. Drugs. Strippers. Alcohol. I don't drink, but I gave it away like it was going to be discontinued. Then I found Jesus. (Kidding.) Then I realized that I was happiest when I gave to others instead of hoarding for myself. So I started to give away my possessions. I star…
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:11 PM
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You can tell her anything. Tell her you're going to space camp. Or working on a sculpture. Or actually have something exciting planned that doesn't involve her. ;-)
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:06 PM
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Because she's embarrassed. She's also unsure. And, it's hard to be honest - it's easier to save face by offering some compromise. A "Friday 2-5" date is a lot different than a "Friday night" date, and she knows it. Also, when you start to see attraction on a sliding scale instead of binary, it makes more sense. Binary scale (on/off): She likes me | she doesn't like me. Sliding scale: 0 ------- 25 ------ 50 ------- 100 I see seduction as a sliding scale. She likes you or she wouldn't respond to y…
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:01 PM
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I don't agree, but that's the beauty of life! We don't have to. ;-) If you keep texting after she blew you off, she will think you have zero other options. I don't want to convey that image.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:58 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:56 PM
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Welcome, brother. Always happy to be of service. Tell us in detail her reaction when you say this to her. Most women are so relieved that you're the first guy to bring it up confidently, that they will (almost) pass out.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:52 PM
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Hah, love it.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:49 PM
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No need to apologize! It just seemed important to enforce that sometimes the limit is just in our minds. Not just reinforce it for you, but for others reading as well. I agree - getting sex from an 18 year old is SO EASY when you take them to a $100 steak dinner. They almost throw themselves at you. And, many times they feel like the "owe you sex" after such an expensive meal. WOW, YOU HAVE A CAR?!?! And you don't have a curfew at your dorm?? LOL I can hear them now... they get all goggly-eyed. …
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:48 PM
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Also, what do you tell a girl that wants to give you a blow job? Lol. I say no, thanks! (I have manners. LOL) Also, I love giving head as well. That's why I don't want to risk NEVER DOING IT AGAIN by accidentally getting an STI. I'd rather save it for "special" girls that I want to keep around long-term.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:42 PM
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No, I don't. I live in a tiny apartment in Brooklyn. I have a bike. I am heavily in debt because of a bad business deal. And I'm the happiest I've been in years. Don't convince yourself that these things are necessary. What's necessary is working out, taking care of yourself, and having a life outside of women. I get more women now wearing gym shorts and a wife beater on my bike, than I got driving an Acura and wearing Armani 10 years ago.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:40 PM
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Yes! But consider this scenario: Her: I can't make it at 8, but I'm free 2 - 5! You: That's too bad! Another time then. Her: What are you doing this weekend? You: Oh it's my birthday weekend! Probably partying hard with my friends. What about you? She's going to feel left out of the exciting time you're going to have this weekend. She's going to second-guess whether she should have stood you up, because she'll see your life goes on without her. The party is YOU, not the other way around. And thi…
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:36 PM
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My primary problem is that these girls all want relationships with me and I'm a nice guy and all so it's like welllll I just wanted to have sex with you but I guess I'll take you on a date to make you happy (since I'm a pleaser). This is another conversation to have before sex. I say to a girl: "To me, sex is like dancing... it's a way I get to know people, to find out if we are compatible, and whether we move well together. What does sex mean to you?" If she says "It means we're instantly boyfr…
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:33 PM
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The key to getting laid a lot is to practice. The key to having girls tell their girlfriends about you and actively refer their friends to you for sex is being a fucking man inside and outside the bedroom. So grab your balls and have a conversation with her about sex. You should already be talking about sex with her before you have sex with her. Innuendo. Flirting. Touching. When you round second base and you're getting her wet through her panties, then you say: "Before our emotions take over an…
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:28 PM
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ForeverStronger, I answered your STI question separately in it's own post just now: EMSK: Safer Sex for Playboys I'll follow up with other questions/answers separately.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:23 PM
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I only date 18-24 year olds.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:22 PM
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Treat her like another human friend who is too busy to see you this weekend. How would you treat your best male friend if the similar situation occurred? Do that.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:21 PM
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No problem. :)
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:20 PM
1

I'm not sure of the question - can you rephrase?
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:19 PM
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She is unsure about you, so she wants the date to be during the day (with a definite end-time) instead of at night (with an unknown end-time). Also, her ego won't let her get away with just canceling or being honest about her feelings and communicating with you openly. The best way to react is unemotionally. It's her loss.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:19 PM
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If she had explained why she flaked - i.e., my brother just got hit by a car - then I would agree with you. But suddenly changing the time without explanation on the day of the meet up is a flakey shit-test that is so common I could write a book.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:14 PM
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Don't give her a reason. Don't tell her specifics about why you can't come. And definitely don't act butthurt about it because you're a man, and sex is plentiful, and you don't really need her to entertain you. Just tell her, "That's too bad, we'll link up another time. Enjoy your weekend!" Stay positive. She's human, she has a life too, and you're brand new in it. She's trying to fit you in, and also trying to decide whether she wants to keep going with you. Just keep creating more magic for he…
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:10 PM
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An alternate time is still flaking.
/r/seduction05/09/14 02:21 PM
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There's no such thing as too much Sunny. ;-)
/r/seduction05/09/14 02:19 PM
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Go with your first instinct. She didn't semi-flake, she flaked. Just because she gave you alternate times doesn't make up for her flake. "Oh well, another time then!" then don't text for a few days.
/r/seduction05/09/14 02:11 PM
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Do it when you are opening her car door at the beginning of the date. Why be cliche and wait until the end? ;-)
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:36 PM
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How about just giving her some space to be herself, without going through her feed looking for evidence against her? I guarantee as soon as you bring it up, it will be game over. Just relax. The fact that she kissed a girl has no bearing on whether or not she likes you. It's useless data.
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:34 PM
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The first key is to make sure you are not causing a scene. If you approach in a way that makes everyone around stop and notice, she will get uncomfortable, nervous, and not respond well. Seduction is about making the other person feel better about themselves FIRST, before trying to get in their pants SECOND. Approach casually and say: "In case nobody has mentioned recently, your work in the gym is really paying off. You look great." Then, leave and go back to what you were doing. You'll see her …
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:28 PM
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Preach, brother!
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:25 PM
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No, they are human. Full of flaws and insecurities and questions just like everyone else. Just like you.
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:25 PM
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That's impossible. You can't prove a negative.
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:24 PM
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where do we stand? do you still want to see me? NEVER do this. You're just pressuring her into making a decision. It will always end negatively. In this case DO NOT TEXT HER UNTIL SHE TEXTS YOU FIRST. No matter how long it takes. Ignore her. Don't text, even if you want to! It will be hard. Go practice on other girls instead. Put some distance between the two of you. Go live a fucking awesome life. In a few weeks, she might be lonely or miss you, and she'll text you.
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:21 PM
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I'm glad to hear! Report back and let us know how much you crushed it!
/r/seduction05/09/14 12:08 PM
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"It's the most amazing thing. Yesterday it was hard, and today it is easy. Just a good night's sleep, and yesterday's mysteries are today's masteries." Brilliant.
/r/seduction05/09/14 11:41 AM
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If she doesn't, feel free to shoot her another text in a couple days No. If she's actively ignoring you, another text will make it worse.
/r/seduction05/09/14 11:17 AM
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18: I started studying. I read a lot (like most people do), everything from Mystery to D'Angelo, FastSeduction.com, etc. I seriously didn't want to approach anyone, so I just studied. 20: I was having some success with women, but it seemed random. 21 to 24: I had a few girlfriends, i.e. long-term relationships, and forgot about seduction for a while. 25: I decided to start practicing "game" again. I hit it hard, this time making approach anxiety my #1 concern. 26 - 29: I was getting laid, and it…
/r/seduction05/09/14 11:11 AM
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Obviously not. :)
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:50 AM
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I totally mis-read that and thought you were wearing a dildo around your neck. LOL
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:44 AM
1

I am suddenly less attracted to a woman after I sleep with them. We crave the hunt, man. It's natural, there's nothing wrong with you.
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:26 AM
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I live in New York. I ride a bike. I sold my car a long time ago. I just assume that the girl will find a way to be there if we make a date. She's a grown ass woman, you mean she can't find her way to Central Park by train? :D Stop asking for dates. Start telling girls you want to take them out. Notice the difference in tone; this one trick will instantly turn you into more of an alpha male. "Do you want to go out with me?" OR "I want to take you out this weekend." Which one would the powerful, …
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:24 AM
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Stop. Reframe. You are not stupid. You had more feelings for her than she had for you; simple problem. It does not make you stupid that you found someone you could tolerate for more than a week, and wanting to explore that further. Next time, you'll remember to trust your words and be honest. Seduction (and life) is about course correction, not perfection. ;-)
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:18 AM
1

I never understood why people need a reason to NOT drink. That's like saying "Any particular reason you don't eat vanilla ice cream?"
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:15 AM
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Preach, brother!
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:14 AM
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I don't drink and it's neither religious or abuse related. I simply don't drink.
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:13 AM
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Upvotes to the left.
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:11 AM
2

Well fucking said. "I don't drink." ...two seconds later... "Oh wait yes I do, just to make you happy dear." Stand up for yourself and say "Are you deaf? I said I don't drink."
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:09 AM
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I love these examples, Punchee! One of my favorite gals I met outside the grocery store. She was struggling with her bags, bending over to try and scoop too many of them off the ground, clearly didn't have enough strength. Bonus: her low-cut top and cleavage spilling out as she struggled... I simply said "Let me help you with those." We both carried half the bags each back to her apartment. Sometimes the littlest things make you her knight-in-armor forever.
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:07 AM
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Honesty is sexy. Just remember that she is just as full of doubt and fear, and constantly wondering what you want from her. So, tell her. ;-) Next time, you'll nail it. And then you'll have some crazy hot dutch chick messaging you as she leaves, wondering when you'll come visit her.
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:03 AM
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Let's start with your inner game. You're shitting all over yourself before you even leave the house. Stop it now. Reframe. I haven't been able to participate in that many parties due to my busy job FUCK THAT. You're important where you work. They needed you. You've been off saving the world and working hard while everyone else has been getting drunk. This has given me a pretty great physique FUCK THAT. You are in better shape than 95% of guys. You are a rock star on your way to becoming a male m…
/r/seduction05/09/14 10:00 AM
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This one is blown. Time to move on, buddy - there is little hope of salvaging this one. You called her a bunch of names basically; she went to her nearest girlfriend and they had a good laugh over your texts, giggling (or crying) and saying "Does he really think this will help?" Next time, remember that she's a human being full of flaws and insecurities too, and calling her names through text is not OK.
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:54 AM
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ABORT MISSION You are treating her like you are one of her girlfriends. STOP BEING HER GIRLFRIEND. Go in and say, "I want to kiss you" from the beginning. Don't ask permission, just tell her what you want. If she backs away or says something like "I don't see you that way," leave immediately. On your way out, say "I can't just be friends with you. Every time I come around, I'm going to want to kiss you. Goodnight." End the date and leave abruptly. Otherwise YOU ARE HER FRIEND.
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:49 AM
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Asking for head requires bringing it up subtly, and then throwing in this line: "I've never felt comfortable enough with a girl to cum from getting head." Alarm bells. Ding ding ding. ~Challenge fucking accepted.~ This line never fails because she will want to be "that girl" that accomplished what every other girl couldn't. NOTE: DO NOT TRY TO GET HEAD FROM A WOMAN YOU HAVEN'T FUCKED!
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:45 AM
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If you have kino established, it's as easy as asking for what you want: "I'd like to nuzzle your neck. Are you okay with that?" "Let's make out like crazy with our clothes on until one of us can't take it anymore." "I love scalp massages. Can I give you one?" The answer to every unasked question is no.
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:42 AM
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"Wear a huge cock necklace" is not a good idea. ;-) I think Danure means "Dress well" and "Don't blend in".
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:38 AM
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I consider myself a socially savvy individual that has interesting things to say. This is the problem. But you're in luck, brother: this also holds the keys to a solution. "To be interesting, be interested." - Eliot Spitzer Nobody cares that you are interesting. Honestly. And I'm not busting your balls... the honest truth is that nobody really, truly cares what you have to say. You know what they care about? The same thing you care about: whether or not THEY are interesting. Today, practice bein…
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:33 AM
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The reason she lost interest is because "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" mentality. She was on holiday looking to have a fling. As soon as you tethered yourself to her breast, alarm bells went off in her head. The "easy careless fling" she was hoping for suddenly turned into something else. You did nothing wrong, except clearly communicating this with her. Next time, try honesty... and she'll probably be honest back: "Lovely, I have to be honest. At first I thought this would be a carefree…
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:27 AM
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I appreciate and acknowledge your contribution, AlexBass. I may have a subtle twist that can amplify this - let me know if this resonates with you. I agree that outcome independence is important in each set. You are out, having fun, and if she's not interested in you, so what? You're going to go on to the rest of your awesome night and forget her in 10 seconds. But your NIGHT AS A WHOLE should not be outcome independent. You should ALWAYS have a goal - in business, in life in general, and especi…
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:21 AM
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LOVE THESE.
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:13 AM
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The more affirmations you have, the harder it is to remember. So I stick with three. These apply in business as well as seduction: Love everyone around you. Act from the heart. Never waver.
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:12 AM
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It's kind of sick when you think about it. When I had my daughter, I remember Louis CK said this line that stuck with me: "Being her father means you're the first asshole that will let her down." In other words, women come pre-conditioned by their fathers (or lack of a father) to view men a certain way.
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:08 AM
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More examples: http://i.imgur.com/bPRJGuq.png http://i.imgur.com/WQbFHpQ.png I'm not always sexual but I am always succinct and unpredictable. I'm teasing her. And she loves it. The goal is to treat her like we are on the same level. We are "buddies" - she's not on a 50-foot magical vagina on a pedestal of worship. I've never been on a date with this girl (yet). This "bratty little sister" treatment starts from text #1. Giving and taking power - or more correctly, the back-and-forth exchange of …
/r/seduction05/09/14 09:04 AM
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It was definitely worth mentioning, if it only helped one person in this sub-reddit. The point of the story is, "Silence is sometimes more powerful than any line."
/r/seduction04/09/14 11:11 PM
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Oh my god. Rolling!
/r/seduction04/09/14 11:10 PM
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In fact if you treat her like your bratty little sister half of the time, that's pretty much seduction right there.
/r/seduction04/09/14 10:47 PM
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ROFL
/r/seduction04/09/14 10:45 PM
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Be more specific. Instead of "You, naked" (which could be any girl...) Try "I was thinking of that cute bra you had on."
/r/seduction04/09/14 10:37 PM
1

Good, but drop the question mark. The #1 seduction tip I would give anyone is you're not asking permission. You're stating facts. "I'd like to take you out."
/r/seduction04/09/14 10:34 PM
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Thank you.
/r/seduction04/09/14 10:08 PM
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No. Instead, use it to get her and her friends comfortable with separating from each other. Make up a reason to drag her away but make sure that reason is NOT to hookup. The goal is to show everyone that if you take her away, she will come back in one piece. Then do it again, a half hour later, but don't ask permission. Just take her.
/r/seduction04/09/14 10:06 PM
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No problem. If you've already had sex with a woman, many of them like erotica through text like you describe. So, kudos for having that skill in your toolbox as well. :D
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:18 PM
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Next time I'm pulling your hair when I kiss you.
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:04 PM
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Oh, I've used it. But I have a weird life. And only when I've got the right calibration. LOL
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:03 PM
3

Becoming sexual through text messaging.
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:02 PM
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Domineering, but not graphic: "I can't wait to see if your underwear is the same color I'm imagining." ... is a lot different than ... "Do you like sex in the butt?" One of them screams confident & secure alpha male, and the other screams teenage virgin.
/r/seduction04/09/14 02:54 PM
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Remember, action breeds momentum. The past is the past; 10-year-older perfect you would tell you that this small obstacle will look so funny in 10 years, that you'll wonder why you ever worried about it. You've accomplished a great feat. 70 lbs down! A few more pounds and you'll be 185 and JACKED. Brother, pat yourself on the fucking back. You "should" be smiling ear to ear and jumping around like a little kid who is getting your life back. ;-) Go out and celebrate in the streets, and ask some c…
/r/seduction04/09/14 02:36 PM
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The best tip is that it's a good barometer of her interest level, so don't be afraid of it. SEX is always on many people's minds, and it's normal for intelligent, confident people to bring it up sometimes and discuss it. So, just treat it like you would treat anything else - how do you like your steak? what's your favorite drink? Sex is fun. I like chocolate. Just throw out a random NON-CREEPY sentence to make her think of sex in her imagination. Then back off. It doesn't have to be all sext, al…
/r/seduction04/09/14 02:11 PM
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Imagine what the perfect version of you looks like. Fit, active, healthy, goes out a lot, has great friends, people invite you out because you're the life of the party. Whatever that image is, take five minutes and imagine that life for yourself. Make it absolutely perfect. Now imagine that perfect version of you - the guy you could be, 10 years from now. Imagine he turns to you and says "Don't worry, this is just a small phase. Look where I am now, at 33. I've gotten everything you imagined pos…
/r/seduction04/09/14 01:58 PM
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"Hey, can I borrow you over here for a second? I want to show you something." If the friends interject and ask "Why, what are you doing? What are you going to show her?" just remember that MYSTERIOUS VIBE is your friend. Keep saying "I just want to borrow her for two minutes. Is that okay? Just two minutes. We'll be right over here." without telling them why you want to borrow her.
/r/seduction04/09/14 01:55 PM
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So are orgies, but they're still fun. ;-)
/r/seduction04/09/14 01:13 PM
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My rule is: if I'm texting, I'm sexting. I move the conversation much faster to sex, innuendo, etc. if we are going to keep it strictly text. Otherwise, set the date and get off text, or call her for a real conversation. But text = sext.
/r/seduction04/09/14 01:10 PM
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"The expert at anything was once a beginner." Every rejection and every dry spell is just a slingshot to push you forward to the man you want to be, eventually. Do you have a girl(friend) that would be willing to be your wingman, and give you pointers on your game?
/r/seduction04/09/14 01:07 PM
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"The answer to every unasked question is no." - Tao te ching
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:49 AM
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I finally broke past the plateau at the moment I stopped asking "Would you like to go out?" ... and instead changed it to "I'd like to take you out." Then, my life changed forever and game became effortless.
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:47 AM
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Jamgoth, I think the takeaway from amd94 and ghilbisk's posts are that we don't know your story - either your history, or the story you're telling yourself now about how terrible your social life is. All we know is your internet name and a bit of information about a problem; in order to dig deeper and help you discover what is holding you back, we'd need more details. So, just constantly saying "It sucks I give up" doesn't provide us with those details. So my new rule is that you get 5 minutes t…
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:41 AM
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I like all of the posts that are just a list of places: "bar, supermarket, library" The truth is women are literally everywhere. Like, seriously, you can't throw a stone without hitting one around here. I'm in Williamsburg (NY/Brooklyn). If you want to get good at your game, move to a large city and just PLANT yourself in Times Square/the Eiffel Tower/whatever for a weekend. Anything over a 6-7, go a chat up until you are tired of approach and get over it. Don't limit yourself. Find a way to app…
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:33 AM
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True! But my day game is the under-the-tree, reading poetry while stroking her hair and feeding strawberries kind... ;-) Sunning in the park together is a good excuse to get Mr. Softee, too. It's... "cute"? LOL Cheap romance that's a bit different than the night dates everyone is used to. EDIT: Also, bikini tops and social proof. :)
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:24 AM
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You sound like fun.
/r/seduction03/09/14 07:34 PM
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Coffee is very platonic and pretty trite, to be sure. Just used it for an example. My favorite first date is actually fruit salad in Central Park.
/r/seduction03/09/14 07:00 PM
4

Simply touching people does not build attraction.
/r/seduction03/09/14 06:55 PM
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Agreed about your points on Kino. It doesn't build attraction necessarily. It just lets them know that you're not afraid to touch her. Women don't want to be with a man that is going to be nervous when it comes to the bedroom, so kino subtly lets her know you're not that guy.
/r/seduction03/09/14 02:55 PM
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I agree, and I think this advice is wrong, too. But more specifically, if you're taking a girl on a first date, DON'T MAKE IT EXPENSIVE. First dates should be coffee or a snack, not a $100 dinner. You barely know the girl; if coffee goes well, then you can decide whether to move the date to a more expensive location.
/r/seduction03/09/14 02:52 PM
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This ranks highly as a Top 10 lesson in life, in general.
/r/seduction12/08/12 02:27 PM
1

What is the first letter of the name?
/r/seduction12/08/12 02:16 PM
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Any advice on resources for conquering Outcome Independence, a.k.a. training yourself not to give a fuck what other people think?
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:52 AM
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Thanks for that - probably the best advice I've heard this year. (Acting classes, I mean... bootcamps are an obvious. ;-)
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:50 AM
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"Be sexual right away". That's great advice. When I was in real estate we used the same technique - start talking numbers right away, so we knew from minute one who was serious and who was there to waste my time.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:49 AM
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Good answer!
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:47 AM
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Also, do you think your buddy Cajun sometimes looks like a young Robert Downey Jr.? It's kinda freaky.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:43 AM
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I love your work! I loved "Beyond Words" but once it was over was left wanting more. Where can I go for more hard-core body language stuff?
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:43 AM
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Seduction is a numbers game. If it takes you 10 tries to get a date, then every rejection is one step closer to the tenth one.
/r/seduction24/04/12 01:42 AM
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Only weird if it doesn't seem natural. Shoulder touch is my favorite anchor in the world. I fucking love it. Think about the times when you are with a good friend, in a good mood and chatting away, and you reach out and put your hand on their shoulder while you keep talking. See this pic. (Warning: Twilight pic. Sorry, best example I could find right now.) I ALWAYS shoulder touch. Guys, girls, young, old, relatives, friends, salespeople, janitors, it doesn't matter... if I am talking to them, I …
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:36 PM
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Yeah, an anchor is something that binds her good feelings to you. Think of a hypnotist - they make you feel a certain way, and then they tap you on the shoulder. They do it over and over again. Eventually, they can tap you on the shoulder and you'll feel that way instantly without being under hypnosis.
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:18 PM
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Nothing wrong with being passionate about your job and talking about your job with women, no matter what job you have. One of my wings is a barber and makes ~$10 / hour. I'm an engineer and make times that. He is passionate about his work and how much he loves making people feel great about themselves. And women eat it up. The point is (and please don't miss this!) in the first seduction, the first time you meet a woman, it should be ALL ABOUT HER. Stop talking about yourself, stop revealing who…
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:06 PM
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Thanks! I use this everywhere. Asking a girl to describe her feelings is like asking her to shower in pheremones. "Wow, I see you like skateboarding. How does it FEEL when you've landed the perfect trick?" PS: Anchor when she's describing it.
/r/seduction13/04/12 01:50 PM
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Right on, DD.
/r/seduction13/04/12 01:48 PM
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Yes, it would work. Drumdance has it spot on. The trick here would be to say it, flash a smile, and quickly turn the focus back to her. Don't pause and give her time to answer, because it's a rhetorical question. "Do you really want to know, or are you just being polite?" ... wide grin ... "So hey, are those kumquats are those you're holding? Are you cooking some sort of dessert later?"
/r/seduction13/04/12 01:47 PM
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Holy shit, I'm going to have to field test that.
/r/seduction13/04/12 01:43 PM
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Huh? Edit: Mystery sweats confidence. So do his wings. I feel like you're confusing a football jock image with the definition of alpha. Alpha is simply not giving a fuck what anyone person thinks of you, and I promise that Mystery shows that.
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:11 AM
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Thanks. The best part is when you start using this all over your seduction. Turn every question around, into an opportunity to talk about her.
/r/seduction12/04/12 11:43 PM
1

Which parts?
/r/seduction12/04/12 11:41 PM
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They are tears of joy!
/r/seduction12/04/12 11:40 PM
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It was a good clip, but: It's Tom Cruise; He wasn't approaching to build interest (he had a fiancee); He wasn't trying to game the chicks in any way; It's a damn movie. I said "Nice clip", I didn't say "That's what I would do." YOU DECIDE, NOT HER. If and when you decide to tell her about yourself, you make it interesting, concise, and epic sounding. But still not in the approach, because she doesn't give a fuck. She wants to eye fuck you and decide if she wants to sleep with you, not hear your …
/r/seduction12/04/12 07:08 PM
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Haha, are you still talking about the weed? ;-)
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:45 PM
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I cure cancer with my tears!
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:35 PM
3

Being high definitely helps, yes. :) Thanks, it was eloquently said.
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:34 PM
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One day, you will be on lay three with a girl, and she will confess how much she likes pants. In fact, she is an aspiring fashion designer and wants to design men's pants. Suddenly the stars align. You flip over in bed, grab her seductively on the ass and say "No fucking way. I love men's pants. I want to wear one of your designs. Make me some." Stay strong, alpha bro. Miracles happen.
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:31 PM
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Hell. Fucking. Yeah. Stay awesome, alpha bro.
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:21 PM
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Well, I am a software engineer, actually. When the topic comes up, I usually say "I design software. You know, stuff you might use every day, like Facebook. But really it means is that I boss a few people around and mostly play video games and take a nap sometimes, while my minions do the work." It's not an epic story, but I don't really care actually, because I say it and then change the topic back to her fantasies and her interests, or I change the topic to "but what I do in my free time is mu…
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:14 PM
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If you haven't already read my post above about not telling her what you do, that's my first answer. ;-) But when you get around to actually telling her on date 2 or 3, highlight a project not a job title. "I have the most awesome job right now. Last summer I spent six months designing a huge, mammoth steel and concrete bridge that everyone thought was impossible to build across this violent river. It has to support 3,000 cars every 10 minutes, and resist hurricanes and gale force winds every se…
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:09 PM
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Upvoted. Yes. Alpha males don't care. An alpha could say "I'm the most badass janitor in the state of California, what do you do doll?" and get away with it, simply because his attitude is that he doesn't give a fuck.
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:59 PM
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Nice MI3 clip. :) Good scene. It works for him because he was clear, concise, and showed raw passion about it. And then immediately he changed the topic. (Of course it's a movie, but still...)
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:57 PM
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Yes, if you read it like you memorized it, it will sound contrived. But who the fuck cares? Eventually you'll believe it and become good at it, and it will be natural and in your own words. Also, you think it sounds contrived because you're reading it on a seduction forum. I guarantee, as long as you are not pulling out a notecard and reading it verbatim in front of her she will not instantly think "Oh, gee, this sounds fake, I wonder if he got this line from seddit?"
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:54 PM
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Hell. Fucking. No. I couldn't disagree more. This is YOUR WORLD, alpha. She is just a blip in your reality. You are asking about her, alpha, so you can decide whether she stays or goes. Put her on the spot and make her work for YOUR attention - not the other way around. You are qualifying her. You are qualifying HER, alpha. You need to decide whether she is worthy of your time, NOT try to prove yourself, differentiate yourself, or show her how awesome you are. You need to make her FEEL the CONFI…
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:50 PM
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Upvotes. Yeah, that works too. Really, nobody cares about your job. They care about who you are. If you asked someone in Hollywood what they did, they wouldn't say "I wait tables", they'll say "I'm an actress." Sure they wait tables during the day to afford to live and eat... but every waking moment they are dreaming of acting. That's who they are. Not a waitress.
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:41 PM
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Sorry to be blunt, but do you want to be like every other guy? Here's what most people do: Meet an interesting and beautiful stranger. Immediately turn it into a "job interview". Trade trite, boring questions with each other. Wait to stumble blindly onto a topic they're both interested in. Look, you only have 3 minutes to make a good first approach. You don't have time for boring. On date two or three, you can start talking about normal stuff like career, siblings, school. Not in the first few m…
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:28 PM
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No. Why would it?
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:08 PM
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Yup, same thing. And also good because she wants to talk about her vacation dreams, not hear about yours. Girls love to talk, so let them seduce themselves!
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:02 PM
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What type of engineer? Software, mechanical, civil, electrical?
/r/seduction12/04/12 04:39 PM
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No matter what response you give, she really doesn't care what you do. Silence is scientifically uncomfortable for people to deal with, so they fill gaps in conversation with trite, boring questions like where were you born, where do you work, where did you go to school, etc. So you tell her you're a spy, she laughs a little. Tell her you're an accountant and she qualifies you based on what she thinks your income bracket is. Both of these are poor options. Instead, use a technique to redirect th…
/r/seduction12/04/12 04:30 PM
1

Touching the other person (short for kinesthetic).
/r/seduction12/04/12 01:16 AM
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Definitely true, but if you are a beginner and you can nail this technique, you won't have any trouble with less difficult techniques for sure! Also, it's important you have enough in-field experience to be able to judge a girl's interest in you, make sure you say it at the right time, etc. Otherwise this could instantly kill your game if you haven't already laid the proper foundation for it.
/r/seduction12/04/12 01:16 AM
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Yep.
/r/seduction11/04/12 02:03 PM
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Slightly serious but with a mischevious grin. Just make sure it's in the middle of other "happy" teasing stuff, not in the middle of a whole bunch of serious stuff. Now that I think back on it, I've had a woman use this same trick on me once. She kept saying "We need to stop hanging out, because I'll just want to sleep with you." Challenge accepted.
/r/seduction11/04/12 02:03 PM
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Just to clarify, my wing is awesome and a natural. He has moved from using this on Day 2 dates, and now uses it in the first few minutes of meeting a new girl and getting rapport. I'm still only using it for day 2s at the moment, but you should see him go into the field and tell a girl this. It's amazing. It's a panty dropper!
/r/seduction10/04/12 09:28 PM
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My wing tested it hundreds of times with about a 60% close rate (by his guess). I've tried it about 12 times now since he shared it with me, and had about the same success. Interestingly, all of the failed attempts were with the less attractive girls (IMO).
/r/seduction10/04/12 09:26 PM
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Hahaha. TIL Courage Wolf = Winston Churchill. Churchill was a badass.
/r/seduction09/04/12 01:22 PM
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First: my advice here is not about getting you laid, or even getting you to meet or talk to anyone. The first step is to just get out around people, even if you don't interact. The gym was your first good step. Also, you're not ready for /r/seduction yet, but would you go to the mall and shop? You don't have to buy anything. Jewelry stores, perfume counters, and lingerie stores are EXCELLENT places to talk to women with absolutely no pressure. Hint: they are paid to talk to you. Literally walk i…
/r/seduction06/04/12 02:49 PM
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Let's keep this ball rolling. Don't disappear, Han. Make some changes... learn from my similar experience. :) I hate most sports except snowboarding and hiking. There's no harm in hating sports. Guitar is better for you. Don't do piano "because it's attractive"... do something you really, truly enjoy... something you wake up thinking "I can't fracking wait to get to XYZ class." The gym IS a sport. Find a workout buddy. Go to a gym that has hot babes, and oogle them incessantly while talking to y…
/r/seduction06/04/12 02:18 PM
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Hang in there brother. Good work so far. You've pulled yourself up from your bootstraps. The rest of your life is the fun part! First let's focus on getting you into a hobby that you enjoy. The only requirement is that it takes you outside of your house. It can be a solo hobby like snorkeling or biking; A team sport like basketball, frisbee, or softball; An adult class at a community college, like guitar/piano lessons, art classes, language learning, cooking, or dance? Let me know which of these…
/r/seduction06/04/12 02:00 PM
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The primary goal is to show that you are a fun guy. Most men approach with sex on the brain, so they dont convey anything other than desperation. Don't do that. Instead, show her you're fun, demonstrate value and outcome independence, and after she's qualified herself to you, raise and eyebrow and give a sly smile with a comment like "I just realized how cool you are. I've gotta run, what's your email?" or do an insta-date.
/r/seduction31/03/12 12:34 PM
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When you're talking to someone who is already your good friend, you can touch them on the shoulder. Just put your right hand on the shoulder directly in front of you, like you need to tell them something important. You can use this to your advantage with new people because you short-circuit the other person's brain into thinking you're good friends already, even if you just met. Other tips: Never talk to someone head on, always slightly to one side. Similarly, don't sit across from people. Sit n…
/r/seduction30/03/12 11:37 PM
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Stop trying to get laid. Go out and try to pick up an old lady, a gay man, a straight man, an ugly chick who works at Cinnabun. Go pick up everybody. Obviously not for sex, just do it for the sheer thrill of making people think you're someone interesting to be around. When I go to the mall/grocery store/library/theme park/wherever, I make friends with everyone who works there, I talk about things that interest them, I joke around with them. I put my hand on their shoulder without even thinking a…
/r/seduction30/03/12 08:36 PM
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There are a lot of people who will try and fail 100 times, and then hook-up on that 101st time. The reason we can label ourselves "seductionists" or "PUA", etc. is because we're willing to close the gap. Fail 90%, improve some more, fail 70%, improve some more, fail 50%... etc. Personally, I'd rather study and learn new methods than blindly doing it through trial and error. We have an advantage of knowing that we can get better, but as they say in the Matrix sometimes "ignorance is bliss."
/r/seduction30/03/12 08:31 PM
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I would like people to tell me that it's OK to go out alone and not drink, that it's not weird and creepy. Fine. It's okay to go out alone and not drink. Now that we've gotten that out of the way, are you actually going to go out?
/r/seduction17/02/12 02:09 PM
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First, stop with the "It's sometimes speculated that..." blah blah blah. You are either going to put our strategies into action, or you're not. You said you were going to kill yourself in 7 to 14 days, correct? Then you have nothing to lose. Go talk to 5 women as I instructed in my previous post and come back with your report so we can move forward. You're not going to be alive in a few days anyway, so man up, swallow your pride, and make an attempt. You'll at least kill yourself knowing that yo…
/r/seduction17/02/12 02:05 PM
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If by help you mean "Awww, poor baby!" then I disagree. No, he needs to follow our directions. Our advice will get you laid. Posting about how it's not going to work will not get you laid.
/r/seduction17/02/12 04:05 AM
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You can start by having an attitude that's completely opposite of the way you come across in your post. Agreed. Drop the attitude, OP. We're already tired of it. You've come to us begging for help and support, and you are spitting in our faces.
/r/seduction16/02/12 10:39 PM
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Upvotes, sir.
/r/seduction16/02/12 10:36 PM
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Your outfit sounds fine, but you have paralysis by analysis. Focus on talking to 5 girls before worrying about sleeping with 100. Your mission: Go to the mall. Go to a jewelry store. Find the most attractive salesperson. Pretend to be picking out jewelry for your girlfriend. Really get into it. Create a character. Pretend you are someone else. Give a fake name if you want to. Yes, you will lie. You will never see this girl again. You don't have a girlfriend and you're not buying anything. That's…
/r/seduction16/02/12 10:31 PM
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Ok, but... what do you do for fun? General self-improvement and trying to get laid don't count; this is generic to everyone, everywhere. (We all want sex and we all want to be better humans.) I'm willing to help you but you have to meet me half way. And, before you commit suicide, please rent the movie "Crazy. Stupid. Love." tonight, watch it, and we'll talk more later. Also do me a favor and put on the clothes you normally wear when you go out/interact with people, take a picture, and PM it to …
/r/seduction16/02/12 07:49 PM
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OP, what are your hobbies? What do you like to do, alone or with others? (Aside from sex...) PRO TIP: Singles ballroom dancing classes. They will allow you to meet women, get comfortable around them and touching them, and they are literally all screwing each other once you get to know all of the regulars.
/r/seduction16/02/12 06:51 PM
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HUGE upvotes for this! Edit: To clarify, upvotes for being happy on the inside before girls will be attracted to you.
/r/seduction16/02/12 06:48 PM
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