Pollypowers69 Archive

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3	Getting married in 2 months and fiancé broke down in tears due to sexless life This is probably going to sound crazy but when my husband and I went through a rough period and I couldn’t stand to even look at him - I made myself start touching him. I touched him as much as possible, especially in bed, but not sexual touch, just rubbing his back, etc. I read a book a long time ago about hormones and remembered the love hormone (oxytocin) and how being physical with someone actually bonds you to that person because of this hormone. At the same time I started to look at my rol…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/24 04:07 PM
1	STFU or be vulnerable? I’ll check out the book. I enjoy reading things that challenge my beliefs.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 04:47 PM
1	STFU or be vulnerable? Yeah - that’s a tricky situation because although it is lying it probably doesn’t feel like lying to him. I’m guilty of telling people what they want to hear because I don’t want them to be upset with me. It stems from being raised to smile and keep everything hidden inside, and always be ok, so it can be a hard thing to let go of because it keeps you safe. I would talk about in terms of honesty and maybe not even bring up the porn, except maybe as an example, but I think you have to be careful …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 04:46 PM
2	STFU or be vulnerable? Life will totally kick you in the balls and humble you when you least expect it. That’s one of the reasons I try so hard to flush out my conditioned judgments - so I don’t get the kick in the balls from life lol. But it’s HARD as fuck to recognize them sometimes because in our mind, it’s just fact. As a mentioned I live in Bible Belt, which is also the Deep South, so all of my judgment work actually began with all the things about race I had grown up with as “fact” and doing a lot of questioning…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 02:07 PM
2	STFU or be vulnerable? Well clearly him weaponizing porn against you is super shitty. I’m sorry you had to endure that and I’m glad he’s getting help for behavior that must be coming from some deeply hurtful thing or belief within himself. I fully admit I am not fully educated on this issue - my opinions are totally based on friends and knowing their relationships and husband, etc, and just popular culture. I live in the bible belt - the buckle of it actually - so lots of shame around sex here. I do appreciate your ti…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 01:30 PM
1	STFU or be vulnerable? Also. I have a book recommendation. Existential kink - it’s the theory that having a reoccurring issue that “you don’t like” is actually you creating that pattern. I’m not saying that’s what is going on here but this is an issue “you don’t like” and she has a very unique perspective on dealing with these and changing them. In my marriage the only time may husband has changed something I don’t like is when I changed myself first and then it just happened. It’s really odd honestly. Self worth was …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 01:19 PM
5	STFU or be vulnerable? I’d never hear of this women - a new rabbit hole for me to go down. Thanks!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 01:15 PM
2	STFU or be vulnerable? Also, I’m not invalidating the feelings. Feelings exist and they aren’t good or bad or wrong or right. What I’m saying is perhaps the perception of what is going on that is causing the feelings is incorrect. If I hear a noise and think someone is breaking in my house and have feelings of fear and terror and then realize it was just my cat being crazy - I had the feelings of fear - those were real and valid given what I perceived to be happening but my perception was incorrect.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 01:08 PM
0	STFU or be vulnerable? Clearly people can do whatever they want in their relationships. This is my view point and how I view porn. Im offering a different perspective from a woman who watches a ton of porn and why I watch. My porn watching does not diminish our sex life in any way. It a complete different orgasm and feeds a completely separate need for self love. I think my issue is the premises that men are choosing porn over their partner because porn is preferable. If that is indeed what is happening i wonder if th…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 01:02 PM
3	STFU or be vulnerable? Do you think it’s possible that he’s telling you he doesn’t want to watch porn because he believes (valid or not) that it bothers you or that you think it’s bad? I wonder if he is telling you what you want to hear instead of being honest.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 12:44 PM
4	STFU or be vulnerable? Perspective from a high sex drive woman.. Why would anyone be embarrassed about watching porn? I’ve (47f) been married for 15 years and we still fuck like newlyweds and have an amazing sex life (m49). Of course there were times where we didn’t, babies are huge mood killers, but those quiet periods were normal and necessary for the time of our life. I watch a lot of kinky porn, way more than he does although he does watch it. I’ve never understood why women care about porn watching. Clearly if he…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 10:42 AM