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| 2 | Women are dishonest about their appearanceI’m sure this is true of SOME women, but I’m 58 and wear no makeup nor bras. I am pretty comfortable being naked with all of my scars and stretch marks and rolls in front of my partners. There are plenty of women like me in the world, at least as many as there are ones having plastic surgery to correct all of these perceived defects. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/24 04:15 PM |
| – | Would you rather hire a woman or a golden retrieverThat’s hilarious. As if men aren’t as dangerous (I’d argue more dangerous) in every environment than women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/24 01:02 PM |
| – | Would you rather hire a woman or a golden retrieverSo you base all of your theories on experience with one woman. Wow. That is idiocy at its finest. Please don’t ever go to a hospital. Those places are FULL of women and many hold your life and well-being in their hands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/24 10:27 PM |
| -1 | If women want sex as much as men, why do they consider it “being used,” make men wait, and have the ability to go without sex for extended periods of time?It’s not that they aren’t interested, they just aren’t into it as often as their male partners. Even the lesbians I know suffer from mismatched libido during different stages of life. What I’ve found is that women’s libidos are much more negatively impacted by life events/stress. Women suffer most from being “touched-out” with babies/small children. They are more likely to suffer swings one way or the other with changing hormones. It all just leaves them less horny than men in general. While I a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 09:39 PM |
| -2 | If women want sex as much as men, why do they consider it “being used,” make men wait, and have the ability to go without sex for extended periods of time?I (58F) have never known women to be as horny as men. Sure, an occasional individual woman is super horny, but on the whole my friends and my patients all report less interest in sex at every age than men. That’s simply fact as I’ve lived it (A women’s health provider for years, a nurse for even more years.) Why is that even being discussed? What difference does it make? It neither explains the dating issues, nor helps anyone improve them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 08:23 PM |
| 3 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?That’s pretty funny since I identify as a submissive, but some people think they have all the answers and have everyone all figured out. Maybe live your own life instead of judging others. I’m pretty damn happy with mine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 01:52 PM |
| 8 | Would the women of PPD be okay with a tag that indicates their age and weight?Your basic premise is wrong, so any information gathered from it will also be wrong. I am neither young (F58) nor thin (195 lbs) yet I am heavily sought after on both dating apps and in swinger/kink circles. I am hit on by children as young as 18, and men as old as 76. I’m sure some of it is desperation, and I can weed those out pretty quickly (I don’t date younger than 40 anymore, nor older than 62.) Men develop tastes beyond that cultural model of beauty (thin, big breasted) as they develop, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do non-religious people care about marriage?It is a contract. It protects both parties to some extent, but mostly it protects the wife/mother from being left destitute with the kids. It has tax benefits, and in countries that don’t have universal healthcare, it provides insurance coverage for the spouse that wouldn’t have it (or whose coverage would be really shitty.) It also provides a sense of permanence. Historically, women had to use their virginity and dowry to assure the contract that would protect them financially for the rest of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/24 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Which of these men is more appealing to a woman?The first one would get my notice on online dating, but if I met both at a cocktail party, it would be who interested me more in conversation. I know red-pill men don’t believe that, but it’s occurred often enough in my real life to know I truly am attracted to the personality far more than the looks (and way, way more than the income.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Men age better than Women. Fact or Societal standards/expectations?I only have my personal experience on online dating and around the public. White men do NOT age better than women. Black men and women age about equally. I’ve not had enough exposure to other ethnicities to have an opinion. I (58F) am consistently told I look much younger than my age. I can’t date much around my age as the men look (and often act) so old. I’m physically and mentally active and expect the same in those I date, so I end up dating men between 40-52. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Questioning some of the red pill's claims.WTF had that got to do with anything? Her dad was right there, trying to support her, and ended up supporting her son as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Questioning some of the red pill's claims.I don’t see “streetwalkers” at all, but the escorts who advertise online tend not to have visible tattoos, while my children’s friends all have them. Maybe years ago tattoos meant something, but not among millennials or GenZ. They are simply an expression of the person’s thoughts/beliefs/artistic outlets that they place on their skin. More than half of my middle child’s tats are bible-based, and one is a tribute to her dad who died too young. That is hardly a basis for judging her promiscuous. A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/24 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Questioning some of the red pill's claims.One of my daughters is tattooed and a virgin, very religious, and seldom even dates. The other got her first tattoo at age 13 (with parental consent and we got our first tattoos along with her.) This prejudice is completely unfounded. Even I haven’t been with 50+ men, in fact fewer than 10 at the time of my tattooing. What a stupid premise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Truth be told, as delusional as women are a man’s greatest enemy is always going to be the desperation of other men. No matter how well your deck is stacked, if you have standards there is always going to be someone willing to work harder than you for less. You simply cannot compete with this.I find it really amusing that you say “literally hoards of them lining up to fuck, date, marry even the most average women.” I guess you don’t understand how bell-curves work or that most people are average. That’s how average works. In my experience, couples that work out are most often pretty well matched for looks and status. It’s still what I see most of the time. Whenever a guy says he is having no luck dating, he is either weird looking, has few social skills, or is just creepy once you ta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women?Then you clearly don’t understand that all things lie on a continuum and everything I described is farther along that continuum toward socialism than they are toward capitalism. Every one of those things occurred as a governmental action against unbridled capitalism. Every one is made to improve the lives of the working class at the expense of the upper class. You are trying to make socialism about political power, when it is really about redistributing the benefits (economic) of the rich proper… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women?You have a better indoctrinated view of the Bible, but just as there is no one translation of the Bible, there is no one interpretation. I had many years of Christian service and study, and only found that Christian’s will turn on you in a split second the moment you don’t fit in with their view of the right way to live. Personal and objective view of their behavior over those years. I am, admittedly, quite sick of Christian’s/conservatives telling others how to live, how to raise their children… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women?Okay, then tell me you do not use the police force, the fire department, public schools, the library, or the roads and bridges, all brought to you through “socialist reform.” Then tell me you have never used any public service organization and that you do not plan to take part in Social Security or Medicare. Oh, and be sure you don’t use any benefits at your job, take vacation, benefit from the 40 hour work week, or use health insurance. Again, all brought to you through socialist reforms. The p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women?Where did you say any of those things in paragraph three? I never saw any of that in your response to me. I was only replying to your response to me. So, you just want to control the behavior of women and homosexuals? That is your reasoned and biblical stance? And why is your reading and interpretation of the Bible more valid than mine? Wow, how very condescending. Jesus is the fulfillment of the laws and the prophets. He completed the Old Testament and put it to bed. Whenever there is disagreem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women?I said not to go into the abortion debate, as that is simply how you read the Bible, not any version of “truth.” Jesus would never force a child to carry a pregnancy of her rapist, or force a woman already struggling to feed two living children to have another that might debilitate her, and will absolutely make it more difficult to feed and cloth all of them. And he wouldn’t desert those babies after they were born to the ravages of abject poverty. Those conservative values of one man one woman … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women?Will you tell me in what ways the “conservatives” follow your faith-based worldview? (Other than abortion, which I would argue Jesus never addressed (assuming you are Christian) because that is low-hanging fruit.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women?I am liberal and cannot abide conservatives, especially red-hatters. If someone is willing to discuss the issues and find commonality, I can try, but most conservatives are so heavily embedded in conspiracy theory BS that having an intelligent conversation breaks down pretty fast. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 06:42 PM |
| 7 | Why should women take advice from people who loathe them?I don’t get any of it. Why can’t human beings simply respect other human beings and treat them as they want to be treated. If a woman wants a traditional relationship, she should find a partner who wants that and not argue with egalitarian men. I prefer a meeting of the minds, an equal partnership with mutual respect for our strengths and compassion for our weaknesses. My argument is with anyone who insists one way is the ”only” way. I was a mostly SAHM, and have respect for that. I am now a car… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/24 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Most of the time when a woman cock blocks her friend at the bar, it is out of jealousy not to “save her” as most women will try to claimAnd clearly that was not the situation I was speaking to. If a woman lets her friend “drag” her away without exchanging numbers or socials, she wanted to be rescued. Your situation is not that. It’s not even what’s being talked about in this thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 09:54 PM |
| 10 | Most of the time when a woman cock blocks her friend at the bar, it is out of jealousy not to “save her” as most women will try to claimThe point is, that is never the case. When a woman lets her friend pull her away, it’s because she wants to be pulled away. If the woman were actually into you and enjoying herself, she would tell her friend to get lost. Regardless of how much she apologizes and says it’s all about the friend, it’s not. She probably sent that friend a message or a look to get her to come interrupt. Men are just dense and think everything is going “great” even if the woman is barely speaking and keeps trying to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?Most of the time it’s just a conversation starter. I want to know if your work sounds interesting, I’m familiar with it, if it has weird hours, and yes, do you make enough that we can split nice dates. That’s not gold-digging, just letting me know I’m not going to be financing everything. I can’t speak for all womankind, but I think the question is pretty innocent and to be expected when getting to know someone. Some men keep it really vague, which is fine. “I work in logistics” or “I work in fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/24 11:58 AM |
| 2 | What is happening to men? I am concernedYou guys that thinking women had ANY rights in the past, or any way to be independent, is hilarious. Privilege does not mean every man had it easy, had money, or had a family. It means they had choices. They had the ability to earn money and improve their lives (even if most never did.) Women had the choice of being married to a man they did not choose, be a nun, be a whore, or dying on the street. They had no power over their own bodies and had to rely on male family members to protect them. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 05:13 PM |
| 4 | What is happening to men? I am concernedFor centuries (and continuing in many cultures around the world) men held all of the power, all of the privilege. In the last century, some larger countries have actively tried to level the playing field. Men now feel victimized. I guess, in a weird way, men truly are the victim of changing norms and mores. But no one needs to feel sorry for them, and it is on them to find a way to cope and learn to live effectively. Peterson and Tate are reactionary assholes whose answer to these much needed ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 08:37 PM |
| – | Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable?I don’t know if this will help you, OP, but I have two stories to tell of my real-life that puts all of this “settling” BS to bed in my opinion (because I think the majority of women’s brains operate this way.) The story of the two Johns: My first day in the ER I met two nurses named John. One was gorgeous. The other was middle-aged, severely balding, with an unattractive mustache. I worked with both men intermittently that week, and by Friday, I disliked the first and no longer found him attrac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 04:10 PM |
| – | What's your dating unpopular opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you down voted?Unpopular opinion: It’s all a test. From the first interaction until you settle into a relationship, everything is a test. Saying “I don’t want to be compared to others,” or “I don’t want to be judged” is just silly. Every part of early dating is a test on both sides. You’re testing if the person is kind, funny, interesting, good in bed, a snorer, has obnoxious habits, cleans their place, etc. People who say things like “let’s just relax and enjoy one another without the pressure,” are lying to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Women cannot accurately assess the wall themselvesWho’s ranting. I think dehumanizing, misogynistic behavior should be called out as what it is. I find red-pillers hilarious in their own self-fulfilling nihilism. If they just grow up and treat others as equals, lives would improve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Women cannot accurately assess the wall themselvesOh, so it’s self-centered to find red-pill dehumanizing to women. That’s rich. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Women cannot accurately assess the wall themselvesBeen there, done that. Your words don’t take into account how utterly dehumanizing the rest of the BS is. Why any man thinks he will “land” a “quality” woman if he thinks of her as nothing more than a commodity is beyond me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 05:26 PM |
| 4 | Women cannot accurately assess the wall themselvesI am so glad these red-pillers are a small (stupid) minority of men. I’m 58 and still pulling plenty of male attention. I only date younger men, and I could date MUCH younger, but I don’t find much interesting about men in their twenties and thirties. I know those young kids aren’t looking at me for marriage, but I’m not looking at anyone for that, either. These dehumanizing red-pill-views are just so gross. Have your “wall” but be aware, no woman of value will ever value you and your shallow, m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Men are not blindsided by breakups/divorce as much as they thinkIt was really the house that lead to problems. He didn’t take care of it, or pay taxes, so when he died, it was worth far less than it should have been, and the mortgage was higher from paying out taxes. Some men never learn to be responsible with money (women too, I’m sure.) He continued to blame me for his woes right up until his stroke, which was also because I left him and he went back to drinking and smoking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 02:04 PM |
| 1 | When guys say they can’t find a girl, is it because you’re not finding 1st dates or not being able to find a commitment?They never answer another text. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 01:01 PM |
| 3 | When guys say they can’t find a girl, is it because you’re not finding 1st dates or not being able to find a commitment?Thanks. That’s pretty much what I’ve always done, but recently guys have gotten more likely to try to argue/convince me to give it another try. Meanwhile, a couple of times I’ve met someone I was interested to continue with and they’ve said “nice meeting you, hope to see you again,” then ghosted. I think honesty and manners are disappearing in dating. Good conversation before meeting is also a lost art. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 08:58 PM |
| 3 | When guys say they can’t find a girl, is it because you’re not finding 1st dates or not being able to find a commitment?Okay, let me ask you a question, if you don’t mind (and this is seriously me looking for advice.) If I have gone on a couple of casual dates and don’t want to go any further (I’m just not finding a compatibility) how should I express that? I didn’t change my mind about dating, I just don’t find this person a good fit. Second scenario, we have dated a few more times and even had an overnight, but I don’t think it has staying power, or I’ve found a real incompatibility in the way they live versus … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Is it hypocritical for an experienced man to want an inexperienced woman?While I personally think the qualities those hypothetical women want are unfair, at least they are true, verifiable qualities. Wanting a woman who has little sexual experience is ALWAYS a judgement of women. ALWAYS. It is also not a verifiable quality. Unless you know for sure she has been with a lot of men, she can act like an engenue and you’ll never know, because it’s a stupid metric. It’s rooted in anxiety about your own performance and some stupid societal morality. An experienced woman is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 09:08 PM |
| 31 | Men are not blindsided by breakups/divorce as much as they thinkYeah, my first husband was “blindsided” after years of me asking for marriage counseling, begging for more intimacy and communication, and a year before I left, I gave him a long letter basically demanding very specific changes or I would be leaving as our youngest left for college in a year. He made a couple of small changes and made me seem like an item he checked off of his to-do list just enough to keep me from complaining. When our youngest was at prom, I told him I was leaving and he cried… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 09:11 PM |
| 2 | It's rare for a man to be with a woman who likes him for who he is as a human being instead of what he can provide.You are clearly unaware of the amount of time planing for EVERYTHING around a household takes. When planning, (and things like calling for service or appointments) is added to the “workload estimates,” women often do double the work of men. And on a personal perspective, my first husband was very fond of saying I did the work inside the house while he did the work outside. That was utter bullshit. Yeah I did the inside work, including electrical, plumbing, tiling, painting, but outside he mowed … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 09:33 PM |
| 2 | It's rare for a man to be with a woman who likes him for who he is as a human being instead of what he can provide.Strange argument considering women still do 10-80% more unpaid work in the home than men do. Women give acts of service non-stop in most marriages/living together situations. Sure there are women that want everything provided for them, but there are men more interested in how the woman on his arm looks than anything else, so he pays for it. This is such a stupid premise. It’s so far from the reality of relationships in the current world as to have been written by a recluse watching “reality TV.”… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 05:03 PM |
| 1 | it’s okay for someone to call a person creepy if they are not desirable to that personSince your understanding of fertilization is entirely wrong, it’s not surprising that you don’t understand the definition of creepy. “Creepy” is based on behavior (though someone can have a creepy look, it is still based on the stereotype of the person who behaves creepily.) If someone says or does things that make your hair stand up on the back of your neck (causing fear) then they are creepy. Just because they aren’t your type does not make them creepy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 01:30 PM |
| 1 | What does the term "man child" exist but not "woman child"?I fell like man-child is pretty specifically talking about a man who can’t or won’t take care of his own basic needs, and feels entitled to a woman taking care of him. I do hear it occasionally applied to immature emotions, but that, too, generally refers back to some entitlement. A woman who can’t/won’t do basic things and feels entitled to a man providing for her is generally called spoiled or a gold-digger. I do think that is based in historic gender-roles. It is also true that the large perc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 02:08 PM |
| 16 | Can men expect the bare minimum from women?I would definitively be scared of someone asking for my number randomly on a city street. Women are generally taught to be pleasant and conciliatory, with the implied threat that something bad will happen if they aren’t. We are trained to keep the peace and avoid conflict. In this case, not giving the number could lead to aggressive behavior. We never know who might turn violent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 10:28 PM |
| – | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?Women are more aware of the risks, and more empowered to deal with them, than ever before. I don’t believe “most” women believe all men are creeps, or that, like the woman in the post OP referred to, that a husband who has never shown any aggression will suddenly become abusive. But we don’t actually know that story or any other, because we aren’t living it. He says he is mild mannered, but is he? Has he gotten drunk and yelled and thrown things? We just don’t know. As with everything in the red… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Whose fault is it in a deadbedroom?Well, since my first husband lost interest in sex with me, that along with other things, led to our divorce, then second husband became asexual, I am pretty sure your analysis of dead bedrooms holds any water at all. Some people just lose libido, and some find actually caring about their partner’s pleasure too much trouble, so they masturbate. All I know is, I am found attractive and desirable by other men, but apparently husbands just lose interest. (Thought I’d offer an opposing viewpoint ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Texting a girl: Keep it short and simple or she will run!I won’t pursue someone who gives nothing in the text conversation. I let them die and move on. If he isn’t interested enough to ask questions, I’m out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 12:11 AM |
| 2 | I Think It’s Okay To Reject A Girl Based On Her Weight.You are wrong. It CAN be a sign of addictive behavior, but it can also be genetic, or medical. There are many woman who eat a reasonable number of calories and exercise moderately, and still hold weight in certain places. There are also medications with the side effect of bloating, swelling, and/or weight gain. Do not assume because someone is overweight, or soft in places, that they can’t control themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Modern Western Women Are a Historical AbominationThat is the biggest piece of shit I’ve seen that didn’t come out of a rabid Republican mouth/mind this year. Just because women demand equal rights to men, and to behave with the same impunity, does not make them degenerate. I just can’t even…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/23 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Dark Triad Traits are the best quality to have to attract women, for long term committment and loyaltySeeing the allure does not mean falling for it. When I seek actual connection, I seek someone with similar values and worldviews. I can also see the allure of misappropriating funds, or killing an abusive spouse. That doesn’t mean I’d do those things or that I think other women would do them. We always talk about “that one bad boy, back in …” but it’s not the guy we stick with, or would want to. If men are just out to get fucked, then you will end up disappointed no matter if you are a good guy … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Dark Triad Traits are the best quality to have to attract women, for long term committment and loyaltyI’m pretty sure the fact he’s an excellent lover has nothing to do with his asshole characteristics, lol. I’ve known jerks who were crap lovers and super nice guys who were excellent lovers. Maybe concentrate on that. It is possible to become a better lover without being a complete jerk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Dark Triad Traits are the best quality to have to attract women, for long term committment and loyaltyBut the idea that being something you aren’t will get you women is ludicrous. And thinking adding “evil” characteristics will get you quality women is utterly insane. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Dark Triad Traits are the best quality to have to attract women, for long term committment and loyaltyAs ar some women over others. It’s not a plot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Dark Triad Traits are the best quality to have to attract women, for long term committment and loyaltyI see you completely missed the forest for the trees. I also said Ive always done nice guys, twice married those nice guys and raised a family with the first one. Meanwhile, I have zero intention of that with said narcissist. Same with the women I know. All dated some “bad boys”(so yeah, they don’t lack for dates, but seldom have any depth) and all married nice guys who could be equal partners and good fathers. My comment for the “nice guys” who still can’t find someone is entirely on them THINK… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Dark Triad Traits are the best quality to have to attract women, for long term committment and loyaltyIt’s not red-pill. It’s reality. If a woman isn’t seeking long-term, she will put up with a lot of shit she would never put up within a LTR. My point is to refute OPs stance that “women” seek the “evil” sort. SOME women always do, but most women only put up with that behavior in a non-escalating relationship. We eliminate the crappy guys from consideration as husbands and fathers of our children. There will always be the mentally unstable types that “fall in love” with the prison inmate, but tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Dark Triad Traits are the best quality to have to attract women, for long term committment and loyaltyI have always chosen good men, nice men, until I became non-monogamous and my partner is totally a narcissist. I don’t need a complete relationship with hi, and I don’t intend to ever live with him, so the characteristics that make him an amazing lover are enough to keep me coming back. If I am ever in a position again that I want a nesting partner, it won’t be him. I guess that’s to say that I see the allure of the “evil” type, but your average or above average intelligence woman is smart enoug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: what should women know about sex?You have confirmed my suspicions about you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: what should women know about sex?Clear groups?! You’re nuts. There’s at least as much variation within group as between group in most things. Just because I have two X chromosomes does not make me think like other women. Red-pillers are idiots for thinking women are a monolith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: what should women know about sex?I didn’t mean men run the gamut about sex (though I think you take for granted that all men are highly sexually motivated, and I’ll assure you they are not.) People cannot be put into slots based on one fact about them. All women, all men, all POC…it’s BS. We are all very different and our reactions to the same stimulus are all going to be different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 02:50 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: what should women know about sex?Yowza! I love sex and cum from internal stimulation many times during PIV sex. Women run a gamut just like men, but with proper attention, the vast majority will enjoy sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you rather have casual sex with an average in his 20's, or a fit, handsome man in his 40's?How about I just don’t enjoy casual sex, so I skip both, find a nice guy who makes me laugh and develop a long-term relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/22 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Women who sexually like men, are you personally not that visually stimulated by our bodies?I get more visually stimulated by a man after we’re together a while. Just to see a sexy man Is Pleasant, but not stimulating. A man I know is a good lover is much more likely to stimulate me just by seeing him, because I already know I want him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 07:54 PM |
| 20 | CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussySo what I hear is you want to be the trauma the next guy has to deal with. If you go through women as much as your post implies, all you are doing is making shit for the next guy. How about we just admit that trauma comes from many areas of life, and that childhood trauma sets up some people for more trauma as adults. Being unwilling to deal honestly with that trauma in someone you care about just makes you look like the jerk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 01:34 PM |
| 3 | Swiss Cheese Masculinity and The Romantic IdealI’m sorry, but we all should live for each other’s safety and piece of mind. That anyone shouldn’t have to is scary. The only reason these “requirements” exist is because men either 1) don’t respect others enough to protect their safety and well-being because it is the humane thing to do, and/or 2) they ask “what do women want?” If men were dominant in such a way that they respect everyone and empower others, rather than taking dominance into the realm of intimidation, there would be no reason t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Do women need to have a hoe phaseI completely agree. We are all victims of societal expectations, and more intimately, of the expectations of those we interact with. I believe there are more men seeking casual sex, and at least half of women who participate would prefer not to, but don’t see another way to “test out” possible relationship material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Do women need to have a hoe phaseI don’t believe the majority of young women actually seek casual sex. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the ones who do, but I think most are actually looking for love and romance. The problem is that men are looking for casual sex and sex by the third date, so many women feel pressured to give that in order to see if love/romance develops. I don’t know how to get the people together who feel the same way about it other than to make it part of the initial conversation by putting it in your d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 03:59 PM |
| 1 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?Why is this even a question? If someone “leverages” their experience, money, power, etc, it’s wrong across the board. I think men think women leverage sex as a control, when most women simply aren’t in the mood if they are fighting. I’ve never used sex as a weapon, but I’ve been accused of it. Using anything as power to manipulate someone else is wrong (but is, unfortunately, pretty normal.) The age gap is a trope. It is accurate enough to remain a trope, but is not universally applicable. It ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 10:22 PM |
| 1 | So how many sex partners means a woman is "riding a cock carousel"?I really don’t understand the “power of the dick.” I’m actually negotiating right now with a partner who wants me to be only with him, while he doesn’t have to be only with me, “something, something, my dick, something, no other dicks in your pussy, something, something.” It’s gibberish and I don’t get it and won’t go along with it. At no time in our relationship have I been monogamous, and I don’t plan to start now. Not only am I okay with him having other women, I even participate in three-som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 08:40 PM |
| 21 | So how many sex partners means a woman is "riding a cock carousel"?The real problem is defining casual sex. If men expect sex by the third or fourth date, and a woman needs a couple of months to decide if someone is LTR appropriate, there is a disconnect. She may have hoped several of these partners were right, but ended up with very short dating times. It’s not hard to rack up a dozen or more sex partners over 5-6 years if this, or worse, he only wanted sex and dumped her, happens often. “Body counts” are stupid and should just stop being talked about. Men dri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 03:27 PM |
| 0 | Is the overall resistance towards the n count, promiscuity, casual sex, etc. argument due to the hypocrisy for saying it’s ok for men to do, just not women? Or is it that you believe these things really are good things to pursue and/or have no negative consequences?I think anyone mature enough to separate emotions from hormones can pursue casual sex if it is the right time for that for them. ONS’s are not particularly healthy, but FWBs fill a physical and social need when it could be difficult or inappropriate to purse LTRs. It is only slightly different than the serial monogamy most experience in western societies. There’s no reason to treat it differently for women than men. It’s terribly misogynistic to hold women to a different standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillDon’t say you weren’t warned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 11:53 PM |
| 1 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillYou must be new here. I’ve been called all kinds of things, and dismissed out of hand as “old” even when I know more young women than any of these men. And yes, I am aware it is a discussion/debate forum, but you were completely and totally boiling partnering down to biology and that is ludicrous. This whole red pill debate is ludicrous. The fact men won’t believe women and then go on about their “lies and self-delusions” is pure misogyny. Maybe I am too old to debate human behavior with people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillAm I supposed to feel bad that you present yourself as knowing everything and I know you don’t? If you don’t want to feel bad about your position, try not to take one that dehumanizes people (boiling them down to instinct and biology.) And if you don’t want to be treated badly by women, get out of TRP. This group is full of misogynists and narcissists. They will never happily marry. Their tenets and the qualities that women seek when seeking a life-partner are mutually exclusive. TRP is one smal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 08:22 PM |
| 2 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillNow don’t you just sound like the most cultured and educated (and boring) professor at the university. Too bad it’s still bullshit. Biology undergirds everything, but humans HAVE evolved to use logic and discernment and to follow emotions, all things that fail biology at every turn. You go right on with thinking “too many” partners (whatever that is) will confuse people and make them less committed. It only effects you and the unfortunate women you come into contact. I live in the real world dea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 07:56 PM |
| – | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillWow, you are really, truly unrealistic. 12 is not a high number, and in no way makes sex a “transitory and ephemeral” occupation. I bod with my partners and value them each for their individual selves. I don’t fit TRP in any way, shape or form and think it is utter BS. “Your brain is built for “ logical thought and discernment. Your view of sex as purely biological could only be held by someone who has never had a fulfilling sexual/romantic relationship. If your analysis were true, women like me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 07:27 PM |
| – | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillYou are an odd one. I have only gotten more liberal and free as I’ve aged. No, completely casual sex is not fun, but longer term sexual relationships absolutely are, and the only way to find those is to try a few duds along the way. I really hope you change your mind about no sex before marriage. I can tell you that an incompatibility in the expression of, timing of, or any other of, sex will KILL a marriage. PLEASE make sure you at least start out compatible in this critical area. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 07:17 PM |
| -1 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillSo you DON’T think sleeping around (not necessarily ONS) is fun? I definitely find sex fun, as do the majority of people. Random smashes in restrooms, not so much, but having sex by the third or fourth date with maybe a dozen people over a 5-7 year period is perfectly normal, and FUN. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 03:43 PM |
| 0 | How hard is dating for a 30 year old woman?Doesn’t mean she’ll have trouble with real men. The TRP types are definitely not what she wants. And you make an awful lot of suppositions. Maybe don’t talk about what you don’t know about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 02:19 AM |
| 0 | How hard is dating for a 30 year old woman?Please don’t take what you see in this sub as any indication of what real life is like. TRP men don’t represent average guys in any way. I’m now 57, and when I went back to dating at 55 I thought I would have no success at all. WRONG! I have men of all ages contact me and have dated as young as 28 (just for fun, nothing serious.) I’m contacted by even younger. Your bigger problem will be weeding out the bad ones to find the gems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/22 12:48 PM |
| 0 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menI did not name call. He IS ignorant and heavily biased. He isn’t going to listen to logic or data. Pretty simple. I have not seen ANYONE in this sub ever change their minds. All we can hope for is they grow up and realize how ignorant they were. All of TRP “logic” is circular and idiotic, but they wholeheartedly believe it. You can’t say stupid stuff like “more women find relationships than men” which is mathematically impossible, or “women need to have sex by the third date with me, but have li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 08:35 PM |
| 3 | [Q4W] Would you say most or all men can be great lovers?I think any man can be good, or at least get better. I think only a small number can be great lovers. In my experience, very few men are paying close attention to their partner and following her leads. The truly great lovers have amazing control of their own excitement and are excellent observers of their lover. I’ve tried to explain it is much less technique and far more paying attention, but most men don’t get it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 05:36 PM |
| 0 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menYou really are ignorant and heavily biased. I sure hope you grow up some day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 04:53 PM |
| 0 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menThat’s my whole point. They are judged differently and it’s beyond idiotic. Who are men supposed to have all this sex with while women maintain their “purity?” It’s misogynistic and gross, and no, it isn’t “tough,” it’s you and those like you who need to stop being morons. You can’t expect sex by the third date and also expect the woman to not have a body count. you’re all idiots. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 04:32 PM |
| 9 | Why are there so many lonely young people now? (Particularly men).I think women are finding more satisfaction in non-romantic relationships now, which leaves men with nothing since their capacity for those kinds of connections is low. My 31 year-old daughter lives in a house with two other good friends. They have each other and their shared church community, so they don’t date much. I find this more common as the world changes and women have more choices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 04:23 PM |
| 0 | What’s the best size?57F, ethically non-monogamous with a fair number and types of men. 1. Under about 4.5 inches long and 4 inches circumference gets hard to enjoy. 2. 5.5 inches or longer all seem to think they are big, lol. 3. I don’t really see dick size getting a man more women, but I look for more in a man. 4. I have a partner who is 7.5 inches and it occasionally hurts me. His last partner NEVER could take all of it. 5. I find 5.5-7.5 a good length. Being at least 4.5 circumference is also good. And strangely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/22 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menAnd men I start IV’s on faint. So what. A phobia is not cowardice. I’m a nurse. We face everything, even when we’re scared, because we’re brave. Women face pregnancy and childbirth every day. You just have a warped concept of bravery/cowardice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menSorry for your bad luck at life. I’m a nurse, and we don’t cower at anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menYou do realize women can’t be as physically strong as men, right? Have you seen a man experiencing what labor is like? Yah, women aren’t weak. And I have yet to meet a woman who is a coward. Your opinion is grossly misogynistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 11:44 PM |
| -1 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menCalling women cowards and weaklings. That’s disgusting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 11:30 PM |
| 0 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menNah, it’s a piece of shit and so is anyone that would compare a complex human being to an inanimate object. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menThat’s hilarious. Did you come up with that crappy analogy all by yourself? Women are not locks, nor any other inanimate object. they are human beings with wants and needs just like men (I know that’s hard for your small mind to conceive, but it’s true.) Your reasoning sucks just as bad as the double standard. Grow up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 11:06 PM |
| 0 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menThat’s disgusting and you know it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 11:04 PM |
| 0 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menTRP says all the same things about men as this post said about women. They are players when they’re young. They lol jump in the sac with any woman, but only have a relationship with the right kind. Ya day, yada, yada. Why is it okay for men to fuck around, but they want women who don’t? How can a woman looking for “the one” have any idea if her being willing to be kinky will kill the relationship potential, or make it better, since guys have so many double standards? You all do this crap to your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 07:27 PM |
| 0 | The Andrew Tate phenomenon shows that the mainstream responds very positively to "pill" ideas, but they are artificially suppressed by Western media companiesSo sorry I agree with “gynocentric edit” that misogyny and stupidity don’t deserve a public platform. Most views are to laugh at him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Men: how many of you are willing to risk getting married?And here I find you funny for the same reasons. But considering I have everything in my life I could want, relationship-wise, and happy, healthy (mentally and physically) functional adult children, I’m going to go ahead and take the high ground. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/22 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Men: how many of you are willing to risk getting married?I find you hilarious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Men: how many of you are willing to risk getting married?Your standards are shitty. It’s that simple. They sound straight out of 1922, not 2022. You are superficial and your elitism is gross. You do you. Just know that most people think your pettiness is exactly that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Men: how many of you are willing to risk getting married?Hahahaha!!! Have you read this sub? Haha!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Men: how many of you are willing to risk getting married?Maybe you will think otherwise if everyone finds it offensive that you find interesting. And it is old fashioned elitist crap. People are no less lovable when they have art placed on their skin or piercings through it. How incredibly superficial you are! And that a woman could find herself in a position where she has no choice but to sell her own body! Wow! That’s elitist at it’s very core to hold that against her. I hope everyone you interact with holds you to equivalent standards, including if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 05:40 PM |
| -1 | Men: how many of you are willing to risk getting married?Wow! I’m pretty sure anyone that sweet is going to see you as a jerk. That’s some old-fashioned elitist crap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 01:40 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.I’ve talked to far more women of a variety of ages than you have (remember, nurses talk) and it is pretty universal. Maybe it is stronger in some than in others, and certainly our tastes are all different, but I have NEVER met a woman that didn’t agree that personality can COMPLETELY change their impression of a man’s attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 10:53 AM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.I think you are too hard on men. I find most men more attractive in personality than in looks. Intelligence and banter go a long way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.A big part of what makes a man attractive is his personality. In pictures alone, I find most men (understandably) in the 4-6 of 10 range for looks. If I know them, that number can go up or down as much as 2 points. That’s a big part of where “studies” fail when seeeking ot quantify attraction for women. Perfect example is my “tale of two Johns.” I started work in the ER and two Johns were working. One was handsome (an 8) and muscular, young, and generally visually appealing. One was middle-aged,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 05:45 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.I’m a nurse. We talk. Lots. I’ve worked with hundreds of nurses. We all looked for the same sorts of things and over the years everyone who married married a regular guy. Very few went through a hook-up phase, and none of us sought money or power. We didn’t have inflated perceptions of ourselves. In fact, even among the youngest, best looking nurses, the tendency was to worry incessantly about flaws and always be afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. I can honestly say I never saw a single … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 05:22 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.You are making my point, not yours. RP men say it’s all looks and money. Real women know better. Regular guys are what most of us seek. High maintenance “alphas” are exhausting. This entire RP thought process is self-defeating and about an inch away from incel. “Regular” guys have exactly the same chance at relationships (the real ones, not the hookups or the cheating BS) as “regular” women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 05:07 PM |
| 0 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.And I think the “ass” is the one who just jumped on me for saying exactly what this sub says on a daily basis. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 03:57 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.I clearly said RP men think sex-appeal and money are the factors women chose mates upon. It has been enumerated in this sub many times. All of the qualities that women look at are severely discounted. I tried to explain before that this is almost certainly evolutionary. men seek attractive and available (and little else) because their role (evolutionarily) is to spread their seed. Women are looking at an 18+ year commitment and seek someone who is compatible, comforting, uplifting, supportive, e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 03:54 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.I’m still of the opinion that the number of men and women in stable, long-term relationships is identical, as cheating is not an actual relationship for anyone. I also find it amusing that you separate men by “value” as if that is a universal scale (it is not.) I contend that adult women (say, over 25 for most) are seeking their personal “package” of a man who offers them a variety of qualities that hookups in bars and clubs can’t provide. It’s sad that RP men think sex-appeal and money are the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 03:34 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.So you are arguing more women think they are in stable LTR, because men cheat. That sounds like the exact opposite of your original argument that it’s easier for women to get said relationships, since I would not count cheating as a stable LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 10:29 PM |
| 0 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.Explain how (lets make this simple) 100 heterosexual women are in stable long-term relationships with fewer than 100 men? I already said that it’s easier for women to get dates or to hookup, but when it moves into the stable LTR, it’s equal. It has to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 03:36 PM |
| 1 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.So who are all these (heterosexual) women having relationships with if not an equal number of men? That makes zero sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:57 PM |
| 0 | I think the idea that men have it easier time getting relationships is incredibly false.The main thing that strikes me in these conversations is that there are two people in each relationship. Clearly, men are having exactly the same number of relationships as women are (in heterosexual relationships.) I don’t disagree that men have more trouble getting dates or hooking ups, but when it comes to actual LTR’s, the numbers are equal, because, math. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Two part question: Men, if you were a woman would you be a sex-worker? Women, have any of you seriously considered/have done sex-work?I think the assumption that more than a few (population-wise) women can “make bank” selling pictures of themselves is completely wrong. The vast majority of women don’t feel they have the assets to make money this way (and other sex work is under crummy conditions, so certainly not desirable.) And even if 50% of women “could” sell pictures of themselves if they tried, that would still split the limited pot of money for them and the vast majority would make so little as to be insignificant. No, m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 09:21 AM |
| 1 | The fact that in almost any discussion about dating there is an overriding implication that women are the prize and men are lucky to win them suggests women are superior to men and is symptomatic of the misandry and gynocentric sentiment that is rampant in western cultureUmmm, EVERY one of your examples happens in women’s circles, too. Maybe the overall society leans a little more heavily toward “men compete for women,” but by no means is this entirely one-sided. I think the main difference has more to do with women looking for “the whole package” and a life-mate, while men want to hit every attractive woman they see. We absolutely hear the “I’m so lucky” BS from the abused/neglected woman ALOT, and the dating subs are FULL of women lamenting men ghosting them f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Why Andrew Tate is so popularI’m an old lady in this group, but I taught my son and two daughters how to act using both masculine and feminine qualities. Statements like “no means no” were common in our household, and weren’t applied only to male treatment of females. Holding doors was done equally by the girls and the boy, as were standing up for what you believe in, and, for that matter, finding things you believe in enough to stand up for them. Physical fitness, fair play, and “having your back” were taught in equal meas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Women, what exatly do you feel when you see a naked man?I agree! Why then do about a third of the guys I match with on OLD send dick pics?!? And the funny part is, mostly they are completely unremarkable, small even. WHY??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 03:09 PM |
| 9 | Women, what exatly do you feel when you see a naked man?I tried to explain to a man earlier this week that women simply aren’t as visual and don’t find dick-pics/nudes interesting. He couldn’t accept it. I’ve told other men that, only to have them send the pics anyway, which is quite disrespectful. If I want to look at a naked male, I have an internet full of images to find what might turn me on in that moment. That might occur once a year. I’m also not going to heap praise on your cock unless it has performed especially well. I’m not wired for that.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?I just don’t like prejudiced, bigoted people spewing their uninformed, backwards BS. The fact you see no correlation to the treatment of the LGBTQ+ community’s treatment is mind-blowing. Your sex-negative attitudes are gross. I asked you nicely to stop, then I asked you to STFU, yet you think you get to hold judgment over others from your perch of superiority. I wish you all that those attitudes bring to people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 10:24 PM |
| 1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?Wow, you are just a nasty person! Your judgement is ludicrous and your word choices out you as a person most people aren’t going to tolerate. You do you and leave those of us who are happy alone. You don’t have ANY right to judge others, but sure, you go right on with that. It will come back around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world?I think a dating site specific to neuro-divergence would be awesome! Maybe someone here can work on that. I am not diagnosed ND, but I have several glaring traits, including not having any social IQ and not being “romantic” in the generally understood way. I would also call a walk while talking about science or science fiction as romantic (and have a partner who does just this with me.) A place for folks like us to come together would be wonderful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 08:04 PM |
| 2 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?You are absolutely as judgmental about my preferences as others have been about your preferences (and it is a preference as well as an identity, since you can decide not to have any relationships.) The fact you don’t see how outrageously sex-phobic your opinions are is beyond me. How is what I do with my body IN ANY WAY your business? How do you get to tell me I’m “promiscuous” as if you are somehow superior. We all have sex. We all have preferences. Some people have sex multiple times a day, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that women's clothing has gotten more and more revealing and sexualized as society got more and more progressive?I don’t know how you got that from what I said. Women, as all humans, like to have choices and decide for themselves what makes them happy. Personally, you’ll never see me in high heels, but my daughters went through a phase of loving them. Each woman is going to choose for herself, and that is what “freedom” has brought in clothing styles, dating styles, and everything else. Women fall on a spectrum, just like men, and non-gendered people. RP treats women as some weird monolith. I just laugh at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 07:37 PM |
| 1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?You don’t read well, do you? Don’t tell other people you are bigoted about their lifestyle. Don’t voice an opinion on something you clearly know nothing about. Being monogamous is perfectly valid and you have every right to say and live the “I only do monogamous” line, but you DO NOT get to voice those demeaning opinions about my life any more than homophobic people get to tell you your relationships are “unnatural” or “disgusting.” That you don’t see the irony of you doing that is baffling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 07:22 PM |
| 8 | The RP/Manosphere is making the Beta Bucks an endangered species and many women are going to be screwed.This is just another post that makes me laugh. Think yourself whatever value you want. If you want a wife and family, or even a fuck-buddy, you have to find someone who agrees to that, and you don’t get to make the “value” judgement, the market does. The entire RP is a bunch of sour grapes and I stay around to laugh at you. Meanwhile I continue to live the life you all get so pissed about. And I’m turning 57 in about a week and am 50 pounds over-weight. Oh, and I can fully take care of myself, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that women's clothing has gotten more and more revealing and sexualized as society got more and more progressive?Isn’t it wonderful that “Freedom” allows us to all wear what we like. We have CHOICES! I dress conservatively when I feel like it, and sexy when I feel like that. THAT is what freedom is. As far as being “pushed” by males, I think women dress more to make themselves feel confident. If that’s comfortable clothes, sexy clothes, or business clothes, the woman chooses whatever makes HER feel good. As it should be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 06:31 PM |
| 0 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?You are so insistent that your way is the only way. It’s fine for you, but don’t tell other people what is “frivolous” or “disrespectful.” You are so sure you know everything. Consider maybe you are simply a narcissist, or on the anal end of humans. You don’t experience the lives of others and your judgement is incredibly nasty and obnoxious. As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, it would seem you would be familiar with the unjust judgement of others, but instead you’ve chosen a different group t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 06:25 PM |
| 1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?The fact you think of it as “sharing” and “frivolity” shows you don’t have a clue either how to respect a partner, or how to live ethically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 05:58 PM |
| 1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?And you think that the worst cases should define the whole. How generous. In that case, clearly everyone claiming to be monogamous is actually a cheater (since greater than 50% are) and every marriage will fail (same stats.) Please! Just stop. You are so clearly biased you can’t even see that many, many poly couples actually do very well, practice ethically, have great communication, and overall experience the same levels of mental health and happiness as the general population. I know there’s n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 05:15 PM |
| 1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?But you keep invalidating polyamory as a legitimate choice, or even a legitimate thing. I do not think humans are innately monogamous, but I resist saying poly is anything other than a choice, as is monogamy. All polyamory means is you love more than one person in a romantic way. I know of many people who do live together as more than a couple, mixing families, finances, and everything you seem to think makes it valid. That doesn’t make people who choose a different course any less poly. Your ta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 04:10 PM |
| 2 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?And in what way is that a bad thing? You invalidate a lifestyle then confirm parts of it, followed again by more invalidation. I share deep parts of my life with my partners. You seem to be mixing up some version of polyandry with polyamory. I don’t have to mix my finances with someone to love them. If I had a medical situation, or one of them did, we would totally be there for each other, even if I’m not on their insurance policy. You have a very strange idea of what constitutes a serious, lovi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 11:38 PM |
| -1 | “When men sleep around no one cares, in fact, it’s almost applauded. Yet when women sleep around, she’s considered promiscuous and shamed for it.” Sorry ladies, it’s not the same thing, no matter how much you want it to beI just can’t. What an ass! I really can’t think of anything more to say than I hope OP gets the Red Pill Life he deserves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 07:47 PM |
| -1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?Very nice of you to invalidate my marriage and life in one fell-swoop. You are wrong, but anyone who thinks they know so much about something they aren’t living usually is. My marriage and other relationships are all just fine, thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Are heterosexual women who won't date bisexual men bi/homophobic or is it just a preference?Not sure what you are asking. I don’t see people changing their minds (about anything) until they have good reason to. Cognitive dissonance compels change. Without that, humans are very comfortable holding to their beliefs, regardless of how stupid they might be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 03:40 PM |
| 0 | Are heterosexual women who won't date bisexual men bi/homophobic or is it just a preference?There are a few issues here. Yes, they are absolutely homophobic in their personal preferences. If they feel this strongly about man/man sex it is likely affecting how they would treat bi/gay/effeminate men in general. They are likely feeling these feelings from a lifetime of “ick” reactions to gay sex. This is very common in our society in the US (I can’t speak to other societies.) This is the problem that we need to overcome as a society. We really need to stop thinking about some sex as prope… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 01:03 PM |
| 0 | Why so many people against thisWow, you made that really personal. You don’t know who you’re talking to . I’ve been a nurse long enough to understand projection when I see it, and also not to take personally shit people say. I’m perfectly happy with who I am and I have 4 partners, so you do you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 10:02 PM |
| -1 | Why so many people against thisYou are so wrong about where weight goes on women. I laughed out loud. Fat almost always goes to the belly and hips first, and depending on the woman, upper arms and thighs are next. I’m sorry you feel your are so much better than women who carry a little weight. I certainly hope your companions know this. We all age, and the vast majority of us gain some weight. Your attitude is pretty disgusting, but you be you. I hope you live the redo pill life of your dreams. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Why are women less attracted to men than men are to women?I don’t even have the words for this anymore. Boiling attraction down to something you can measure with statistics is SO-O-O pointless. Here’s a perfect example of how attraction can change in even a short period of time. I started to watch Stone Mountain. I saw the male lead and actually said, out loud, “Oh no! He’s not going to be the romantic lead I hope. I don’t like him at all.” (Keep in mind I didn’t know Jude Law and hadn’t seen him in anything in a long time, but he is certainly found at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:41 PM |
| 0 | Why so many people against thisYou are looking at all older information. I’m a nurse and get daily new research from the ANA. The better, more current research says that a better predictor for all morbidity and mortality in those under 70 is activity level, not weight, BMI, or body fat index. The reason weight seems to be a predictor is because more overweight and obese people are sedentary. If you tease it out farther and look at activity rates and diet, activity level is VERY consistently the factor that determines morbidit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:33 PM |
| 0 | Why so many people against thisYou have a very warped idea of what a healthy weight is for a woman. I doubt she is over a BMI (which is a flawed system, but okay) of 26. If a doctor counseled her at all, it would be to get a at least 50 minutes of moderate activity at least 4 days a week and not gain weight. I think she’s gorgeous and would date her in a heartbeat, but I’m not a RP man who thinks I deserve 24 yr old Demi Moore while I look like a 48 year old Bruce Willis but I work at Hardees as the evening manager. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:58 PM |
| 0 | Why so many people against thisI can guarantee you that most doctors are going to ask her if she exercises regularly and leave it at that. It is false that we can judge health by weight alone. It’s time to stop thinking a little extra weight means unhealthy. In fact, after menopause, a little extra body fat is protective of bone health. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Why are women less attracted to men than men are to women?You really don’t understand attraction at all. As all the other RP men, you think its so quantifiable. If all I have to go on is a picture and a few descriptors (as in OLD) then what is visually attractive matters, but it doesn’t matter in real life choosing a mate. Why even speak to women if you already think you know what we think, feel and will do? I date men of color, preferably bald. I couldn’t care less how much money they earn because I don’t need or want to use them for their money. I gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:52 AM |
| 16 | Why are women less attracted to men than men are to women?What this fails to account for is that most women don’t base suitability on looks. I find a man becomes much more attractive if he has personality traits I appreciate, and much less attractive if he’s a jerk. Only in OLD is looks even pertinent to my decision to engage, and that’s such a flawed system. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 10:22 PM |
| 9 | It is a man's duty to protect his woman. You're a coward if you think otherwise. (excluding very specific situations)The “duty to protect” means absolutely nothing in the industrialized world. Sure, some violence befalls people still, but a very large proportion of us will never personally be threatened, or if we are, it won’t be when “with our man.” The rest of this “protection” mentality is pretty toxic as it allows men to put limits on the women’s behavior (perfect example is “modest dressing” which is all about “safety” but puts the responsibility on the wrong party.) Yes, my husband would die for me, prot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 04:19 PM |
| 4 | Why do women push back so hard on the notion that dating may be easier for them?I don’t doubt online dating is more difficult for men. But finding a decent man is hard, even with lots of options, and women also have much higher safety concerns when dating. I don’t believe it can be simplified down to “dating is harder for men.” Some things are harder for men, others for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Generational differences in hotness standardsYou think a woman can’t see men’s problems, or men see women’s? Are we blind? Uncaring? Ignorant? I have discussions with men IRL and they never talk about the things discussed by RP man in this forum. It just seems like Incel-light around here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 03:26 PM |
| 0 | Generational differences in hotness standardsWhen I re-entered the dating scene as a 55 year old, I was sure I would have zero results. I was wrong. I have had many offers from men as young as 21 (which is probably a fetish), had a relationship with a 29 yo, and have no problem getting dates with handsome men forty and over. I do not see the problems men bitch about in this sub, but maybe I’m too old and too optimistic due to my own positive results. I have never evaluated men in the way RP says women do, and I’ve never talked to women who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 03:45 PM |
| 1 | the forsure way you know they desire you is usually during sexIf I have consented to sex, I am planning on enjoying it. Anyone who would consent to “pity sex” and not be at all into it should have just not consented in the first place. And since I was that girl brought up in a house where the only thing my mother ever said about sex was “it hurts,” I was very quiet and reserved for months. Women are all different, and thinking your experience is the only experience is naive. I was a nurse midwife and I heard so many points of view. Another woman who is lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 01:45 PM |
| 8 | the forsure way you know they desire you is usually during sexI disagree completely. You have watched too much porn. How a woman behaves is completely individual, and can be influenced by many factors. A young woman raised in a religious household where sex is “dirty” is very unlikely to be expressive during sex, even if she enjoys it and really wants the man. Same if she is very shy. Some of us are going to be very expressive if the sex is even just average, because moaning and grasping, etc., adds to our enjoyment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Monkey Branching: The Best Mating Strategy For MenWow. That is so far from my experience I can’t even comprehend it. I don’t have a clue what a man’s previous women look like, so a man’s value in no way increases for me as he gets better looking women. The simplification of everything by RP is baffling to me. I choose men based on a mix of intelligence, personality, and how they make me feel, both physically and emotionally. As long as they have enough money to not live in their mother’s basement, I don’t even consider income. The concept that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 02:56 PM |
| 1 | According to surveys, among people over 50 women are less interested in dating and relationships than men but among people under 50 women are as interested in dating and relationships as men. What is the reason behind this difference?As a woman over 50, what I see in others my age is they are tired of the revolving door. They are pretty set in their ways, and so are the men, so relationships fail pretty quickly. I also see women losing all interest in sex as they go through menopause. This makes the hassle of dating just that, a hassle with limited rewards. All that said, it is only a certain percentage who feel that way. Personally, dating and sex are still important to this old gal, so I continue to meet people and to main… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 02:33 PM |
| 1 | So you want women to "lower their standards" but at the same time "not settle" for you....HOW is that possible?My issue is that everyone settles in some way. I’ve had amazing sex with men I could never live with, and loved and lived with men when the sex was good enough. There really isn’t a perfect match. Then there’s the fact (for me at least) that a man definitely becomes more or less attractive as I get to know him based on personality and how much I enjoy talking to him/how he makes me feel. There was a table a while ago where a woman tells a friend she has two marriage offers. The first is an amazi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 07:51 AM |
| 2 | Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPDMy mind hasn’t been changed exactly, but I’ve come to understand a few things better. I strongly disagree with the conclusions TRP draws from the data, but then I’ve always been much more likely to give people the benefit of the doubt and not apply ulterior motives to every action. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 12:49 PM |
| -1 | Man finds out fiancé used to be more adventurous in bed. Refuses to explore sexually with him. How should he feel? Thoughts and discussion.She shouldn’t lie, but sometimes it’s easier to say “I don’t want to try that” than to say “I’ve tried that and didn’t like it and don’t want to do it anymore.” Just because she looked into it in a video, doesn’t mean she really was, or that she stayed enthusiastic. It’s possible to develop an aversion to something you once enjoyed. She has every right to say what she does and doesn’t want to do with her body. Now, if the lying is the issue, that’s different, but thinking you have rights to ever… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Are young men at a disadvantage when it comes to dating compared to older men?I am baffled by dating culture among the under 30 set. My advice for a younger man is open your mind to relationships with older women as well. I (56F) date only younger men (29 to 52.) You aren’t looking to settle down for at least a decade anyway, so learn from some more mature women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 03:40 PM |
| 13 | The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to themOkay, I had one response ready until I got to the last paragraph, and then I laughed. TRP is so sure women only give Chad’s the time of day, yet all of this abuse is being perpetrated by the Tom, Dick, and Harry’s of the world? How do you figure that? Yes, a majority of abuse is occurring within “relationships,” but the part you got wrong is when it is happening. The vast majority happens in the first 6 weeks, or at the time of break-up. This is why women are cautious and fearful. Only a small p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/22 04:33 PM |
| 10 | What quality did you want in a partner until you experienced it?YES! I had no idea how wonderful a dominant man in the bedroom could be. I also had to learn how important intelligence was for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 10:55 PM |
| 0 | The response to men who complain about the dating world of “maybe you should improve yourself or find out what you’re doing wrong” is simply disingenuous and yet another deflection“How insanely particular women are” is where you lose all credibility. Of course women are particular. We have so much to be concerned about, not least of which is potential abuse. With 1 in 3 having experienced SA, and more who have experienced psychological or physical abuse, is it any wonder they have a long list of what they are seeking before they risk meeting someone? Men wonder why women are choosing not to date, not to marry. Your answers all lie in a combination of fear of abuse and nee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 02:40 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for women to stop having sex with their husbands after marriage?As you are busy trying to shame women to yours (and lure men who want the blame for their failure with women on women.) TRP is simplistic, idiotic blather. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 10:44 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for women to stop having sex with their husbands after marriage?I said TRP is full of non-violent incels. They (you?) blame every failure on women. It’s ludicrous. Some women are awful, as are some men, but the majority don’t live by these stupid rules constantly represented here. Women don’t lure men in with sex then quit wanting it for no reason. When a woman is exhausted, touched out, not feeling loved or supported, she has no interest in sex. Boiling it down to some conspiracy is just idiotic. The entire philosophy is a big whine-fest of men who think wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 03:40 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for women to stop having sex with their husbands after marriage?The choice to have children is for both, not just the mother, yet the physical demands of parenting fall predominantly on her. Men overwhelmingly think they deserve “off-time” but don’t offer the same to the mother of their children. No woman owes her body to any man. Period. If he can’t relieve some of her burden, then he gets nothing. Period. Go cry in your drinks about poor, poor men and the lot they are handed. I didn’t come into this group thinking men were assholes, but now I’m convinced T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 11:24 AM |
| 5 | Do overweight women struggle attracting men?I am older and definitely heavier, and I don’t have any trouble getting matches. I admit I am particular that a man not look 6 months pregnant or more, but if he is still able to hike with me, and keep up otherwise, then I’m fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 02:44 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for women to stop having sex with their husbands after marriage?Clearly you didn’t actually understand what I said. A woman who has had a child or two hanging on her body all day, day after day, has no slack left to give. If a man feels he has to work those hours, it’s his choice, but once the children come along, the choice whether to care for them or not goes out the window. He could work fewer hours and help at home, or hire a sitter so mom gets to take a shower by herself for once, or he can shut the fuck up and make friends with his hand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 01:14 PM |
| 3 | Woman users of OLD apps; how many matches on average a month do you actually get?I (56F) can get a couple of dozen matches any time I’m actively swiping on an app. It dwindles over time, but if I walk away for a month and come back for a couple of weeks, I can get another dozen or two matches. Most of those matches didn’t read my profile and are not actually interested in my situation (married and ENM,) but I will continue to converse with ten or so for a few days. In the end, I won’t meet more than 2 (and more often 1 or none.) It’s overwhelming and disorienting. It’s a hit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/22 03:17 PM |
| 9 | How common is it for women to stop having sex with their husbands after marriage?When I got married the first time, sex stayed pretty much the same as before marriage until the first baby was born. Men will never be able to understand how strenuous, physically, mentally, and psychologically, it is to care for babies and children. Sex fell way off because of exhaustion and being touched-out. It’s not that women “don’t want to have sex anymore without taking her partner into consideration.” It’s that the man isn’t taking into consideration how much the demands of mothering wea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/22 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Quesiton for Older Members: What changes have you observed in the dating market; has it gotten better or worse; and what solutions do you have?GenX (F56) 1. Dating when I was young was all in-person. You met the person somewhere, or were set up by a friend. Telephone calls were limited by the needs of who else used the phone line, lol. Men still paid for the most part, but it was changing. There was a fair amount of slut-shaming, and I saw less hook-up culture, but that was also changing as discos became popular in the 80’s and men and women could meet at the club and never even exchange last names (or real first names.) 2. I don’t kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 07:35 PM |
| 2 | What benefit do women have being more emotional than men?Women are more likely to show love and gentleness and connection, probably due to needs of infants and children. We have more circulating oxytocin, so bonding emotions are more forefront. Men have developed more of the anger/protection emotions over the millennia to fulfill the warrior/protector model. Our impressions of these emotions and how all emotions are expressed is constantly changing as society changes what is important. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Question for men and woman: what careers do you view as a redflag or dealbreaker in the opposite gender when it comes to datingI totally agree with the “calls herself a nurse” part, because lying is straight up not good, but your analysis of nurses is so wrong it’s hilarious. I guess when I guy thinks he knows about a whole industry from knowing a couple of people in it, you get crazy analyses like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Question for men and woman: what careers do you view as a redflag or dealbreaker in the opposite gender when it comes to datingI can’t tell you how much I hate that you (and others) think nursing is “hospitality” related. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 08:36 PM |
| 5 | Question for men and woman: what careers do you view as a redflag or dealbreaker in the opposite gender when it comes to datingI was going to argue with you, but I’m a nurse, and definitely “a certain way,” though I’ve learned to curb it quite a lot. I think what area they work in is key. You are absolutely right about ER, especially if it is a large, busy one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideHahahaha! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideYou present a perfect example of why high value women are picky about marriage. The researcher did not sit with hundreds of thousands of people all of their waking hours for weeks to come to those conclusions, which is the only way this was “research” and not just self-reported data which is well-known to be skewed and basically useless (lowest quality of “research.) And when someone is so sure of themselves based on low quality research, they are unlikely to be willing to negotiate these things… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to providePretty sure a lifetime of experience is at least as valid as surveys. Men always say they pull their weight at home, but I’ve yet to see it in anyone over 40. Maybe younger men are doing better, but as long as I keep seeing the BS opinions of TRP men, I doubt that. As long as men continue to think that the house and children are women’s work, women will continue to choose not to enter into marriages with those men (unless they belong to cult-like religious groups, but that’s its own problem.) Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideHilarious! I’m not going to even read a study taking place during the pandemic! I see real world people and you know who’s sitting on the couch playing video games while the kids are being kept to their homework? Men. You know who is on the golf course while the laundry and grocery shopping is being done? Men. I have never met a woman who says she raised three kids and proudly proclaimed “and I never changed a diaper” while I’ve met men who have. How was that “data” collected? Surveys? That’s no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideHahaha! Prove it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideHilarious!!! So men put in a few more hours at the office and then do almost no childcare and no housework. Yeah, that’s fair. I never once said it has to be EQUAL work in the home. I said EQUITABLE, which is both a completely different thing as well as totally negotiable in each relationship. What happens is the man accepts his load then over time quits doing parts, or does it so poorly the wife has to redo it. This is not universal, as my son and son-in-law both pull heavy loads at home, but i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideI didn’t prescribe anything. I said equitably. Couples get to decide what is equitable. Problem in most is that the division of labor is made and over time, the guy stops pulling any load and the woman ends up covering all of the deficiencies. I know that’s what happened in my first marriage. Husband would either not do his chores or would do them so poorly I had to redo them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 03:50 PM |
| 11 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideThat’s fine, as long as you/he is making enough to pay for it and not pushing work on the wife. There are many things that can’t really be off-loaded to contractors (unless you are extremely wealty,) and that should be split equitably. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 11:05 PM |
| 52 | Entitlement/Expectation is what destroys the male desire to provideI am older than many in this debate, and my mother was older when she had me, so I personally experienced watching real-world relationships between people born a hundred years ago (literally, my dad would be 100 right now) through the 2000’s. What I have seen mostly is an unfair division of labor in families. As those oldest women were expected to take on more and more in the paid economy, they received little or no additional help on the home front. It continued with relationships while I was a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 08:56 PM |
| 1 | "Visceral" attraction is not necessary for a good LTRI disagree. The FOCUS on SMV is gross and the insistence that preferring compatibility to hot sex is some pathology is demeaning and gross. I don’t care how good the sex is, or how hot the man is, it’s not going to last, while his personality likely will. Sure, say women and men look for different things, but making it out as some conspiracy or blaming women because we have depth and make rational decisions is so insulting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 04:06 PM |
| 1 | "Visceral" attraction is not necessary for a good LTRThat’s not what the word “settling” means. You “settle” for things that matter most, which SMV is not one of. The emphasis on it is truly sick. Never in any of my thinking about the man I wanted to spend my life with (when I was 18-21) included hot sex. It was always about the man’s personality, integrity, intelligence, and emotional attachment. I would not “settle” on those qualities which are the one’s important to me. The entire emphasis on SMV is gross. The term is gross. Boiling people down… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 03:32 PM |
| 0 | "Visceral" attraction is not necessary for a good LTRThe advice columnist I read just said the same basic thing: Physical attraction and sexual chemistry are NOT what to base a relationship on. Most women know this and try to find a mate who they love and can be in true relationship with. Some physical attraction is necessary to a good marriage or LTR, but is NOT the primary necessity. TRP men don’t seem to care about that. They only seem to want to be “the best I’ve ever had” in the bedroom. I would never marry the guys who I’ve considered “best”… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 03:03 PM |
| -1 | Do any of the pills apply to polyamorous/nonmonogamous people?If you are in university, you are far too young to make such a broad judgement. Maybe the people in your circle who are out are of a certain type, but I assure you that there are three times that number who aren’t on a dating app or out to the general public. The fact you have such a bigoted view of poly/ENM people is sad. I actually thought that kind of thing was going away among younger people. I hope your life experiences teach you you don’t know as much as you think you do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 06:49 PM |
| -1 | Do any of the pills apply to polyamorous/nonmonogamous people?Poly/ENM people run the same gamut of looks and promiscuity as the monogamous crowd. We are all around you and in all your groups (yes, even your church.) We look and act like everyone else and you would never know who we are unless we tell you. Funny how many people have such a strong reaction to poly people, just like they used to to LGBTQ people. Then BAM! You figure out we’ve been here all along. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 05:57 PM |
| 1 | You should pay for what you order when going on a first dateI always plan to pay my own tab on the first couple of dates, and after that I try to keep it relatively equal with one of us picking up the tab while the other pays for some activity, then switch. Until we are talking about combining finances, or if one person is much better off and chooses expensive places, then splitting costs is only fair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 02:41 PM |
| 13 | Have you ever had casual sex with someone who was "unattractive"?I have. I don’t have sex with someone just because of how they look. If I really like him, feel a connection (friendship or chemistry) I will try out sex with them. Sometimes it’s just once, or a few times, or every once in a while, but very casual and no pressure. But then, maybe you only mean casual as in no interest in any kind of future. I never have sex with someone planning to never speak to them again. I don’t care for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 09:17 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotBut no decent person, women included, does that. My point is, no one is perfect and we all make compromises in every relationship to get the things we want most. I’m not settling for my husband because I got what I wanted more than looks, because looks are really one of the least important things. The whole RP thought process is simplistic and just plain stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotI’m sorry you settled for someone you think is ugly. that’s really unfortunate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 12:13 PM |
| 2 | How do women meet guys in 2022?I have not had any dates from the guys I’ve met on Reddit, though yesterday I was pretty sure I was going to have one. They are younger men looking for older women, so a very different demographic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 12:12 PM |
| 4 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotYou literally said you want “You looked so good and irresistible that I HAD to jump on it.” Not only is that shallow, it’s just not the way most adult women think. Maybe party girls in clubs, but not real women. I’m polyamorous and I need a mental connection to find someone interesting enough for sex. A not-hot guy can become very attractive based on personality, and hot bods are a total turn-off when they talk like A-holes. I’m about the whole person and men absolutely become sexier when they c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 04:23 PM |
| 7 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotWow! I didn’t know “men” were so shallow! So every one of you believes you are the ultimate in looks and desirability? That is just so…disappointing. I know I’m not the best looking. I know I’m not the sexiest. I’m not the smartest, or sweetest, or the -est of anything. I am me and happy to be chosen for who I am in whole. I would hope men would be as realistic and as deep as I am.I think the problem here is not that women use the wrong words so much as men (or at least these men) need to be rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingIf you believe TRP, you are judging all women with the same brush-stroke. That is what I, and every other person against TRP is saying. You can’t believe this drivel and treat “some” women differently. Either you believe it or you don’t. I don’t agree with any philosophy that paints all women (or men, or people of color, or Jews, or trans, or whatever group you might choose) as a monolith. People are people with much less in common with their “group” than these prejudices allow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingIf you believe any of the red pill philosophy, you are attracting shitty women. No woman of value would accept that crappy attitude. Being minimized in the way the philosophy does is unacceptable to women with self-esteem. Just like identifying as an incel is a self-fulfilling prophecy (because once you believe women are all actively against you, you aren’t going to treat women in such a way as to attract any) TRP men only attract the women who do fit those narrow perspectives. Treat women as co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingThe whole concept that “women” use up their “best years” chasing sex with “alpha males” and then when their looks are “waning” in their late 20’s (wow, could that be any more nasty and unrealistic) they “settle” for beta’s to gain financial stability and don’t “give their best” to these men and always pant after those other guys. It’s so petty and soap-opera. “Reality TV” has pushed this narrative, which in and of itself proves it’s not reality, but scripted and pushed by show-runners and rating… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingYou say I can’t use my life or my experiences, but that’s exactly what you are doing and broadening that limited experience to all women. I am saying, if you attract shitty women, maybe it’s YOU and not them to blame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingNot what I said at all, but you go right ahead and twist things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingYou have been insulting me, and all women with me, from the very start. The fact you can’t handle real relationships does not make it women’s faults. I have had very satisfying relationships with real men and have never played games with anyone. I doubt you can say the same if you are here promoting this warped worldview. As long as you want to blame anyone but yourself for your failures, you will never succeed. As long as you want to boil “women” down to these ludicrously simplistic ideas, you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingThe entire thought process is misogynistic and unrealistic. I would never tolerate that behavior in a serious partner, but then again, they’re red pill because they can’t manage real relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingNo, the first statement is not contradictory. Why can you not have great chemistry and great communication. Is that just too much to ask of a man? And women marrying the wrong man is not saying anyone is conniving, but only we (all of humanity) are known for getting ahead of ourselves and committing when we should have waited. I married very young (just turned 21) and had a great marriage for about 13 years. Then we both changed in a variety of ways that made the marriage untenable. Perhaps if I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingAnd you clearly don’t understand women, so I’m not surprised you’ve had the experiences you’ve had. TRP is just another incel group of guys who can’t get laid (or at least not by the women they want) who turn their own inadequacies into some weird philosophy that places the blame on women. I’m having the best sex of my life, so boohoo for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingYes, I am poly. It is not for everyone and it seldom works out well for people who constantly seek NRE. If you go in well-educated and committed to being as ethical as possible, it’s a pretty great life. Truly TRP men would just be using it as a reaping field, so swinging is a better fit for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingThat truly sounds like some misogynistic BS right there! Wow. I never wanted ONS or to play games with lying men, not when I was young, and not now. That doesn’t mean I’m settling or that I ever didn’t “give my best.” There is no relationship on earth that is going to have the same level of excitement in the bedroom after a few years that it had in that first month. Are the men “giving their best” after some time, or are they expecting that it’s Tuesday night so take off your panties, it’s time … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingI used that rather than sexual excitement. Long-term relationships are seldom about intense sexual attraction, but they do benefit from good physical chemistry. I’ve never been in a relationship that didn’t cool over time. That doesn’t mean it goes cold, and doesn’t mean it wasn’t super hot to start, but we naturally have less desire for something we can have any time and have had many times. To TRP men, that seems to equate with “settling” which is not at all accurate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingOf course I read it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingBut the problems arise in TRP men generalizing this to the entire population of women. It sounds like so much sour grapes to me. As a woman, and a nurse, so many years of talking to dozens of other women about our love lives during downtime at work, I’ve just never run into that feeling. Quit making it sound like “women” (as in all or even most) settle after they are past their prime. It’s so insulting to women, and it’s a really bad look on a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingI guess I have never met any women like that. I was not heavily pursued as a young woman, and had a very active sex life with my first husband in the beginning. I wonder if any of those women you describe actually exist. Granted, I’m older, but my daughters aren’t like that at all, and one daughter and my son married young and to one of the first few sexual partners they had. I just don’t see that happening. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingDo you truly believe most women are thinking, “well, he’s the best I can get now that my beauty has waned, so I’d best just settle.”? We aren’t. No one I’ve ever talked to has said anything close to that. Women have ended up married to the wrong man for lots of reasons, but I’ve never heard one say it was because she “settled” for the less optimal guy. Women generally marry men that they can communicate with and have a good physical chemistry. If I really analyze it down to minutia, there is no … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | How do women meet guys in 2022?OLD, Fetlife, here on Reddit. But then, I’m 56 and looking for FWB, so probably not what you are trying to find. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 02:30 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on TRP's idea of texting for logistics only?I never take “weeks” of screening before meeting, and neither does any other seriously looking woman. It takes a lot less of my time to text basic information back and forth than to carve out a meeting. I also work crazy hours, so I want to have a good idea I’m not wasting that precious time. Yes, I am probably vetting between 4 and 10 men at any time (if my profiles are on active) but that number is EXACTLY the reason I’m not setting up a meeting before discussing what someone does for a living… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 09:51 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on TRP's idea of texting for logistics only?I think that’s the point of the original question. Not going through any significant back and forth and jumping straight to a meeting. TRP men don’t want to be bothered with that pesky “talking” to get to know each other, whether in app or by text. It’s BS and no woman I know would be up for that. And yes, I have had some men I matched with in OLD who basically said, “Like your profile. When are you free to get coffee?” My answer is “I’m not. Let’s get to know each other a little.” Then they bou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 07:42 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on TRP's idea of texting for logistics only?You clearly think there is useful information in most men’s profiles. There is not. In fact, 50% use the same few lines and tell you nothing about the person. I want to have some exchange to see if he can carry on a conversation, to see if he is a kook into conspiracy theories and other big lies, and to find out if he is actually available and not cheating. Plus, most haven’t read my profile so I want to make sure they know important facts about my situation. (The first thing in my profiles is “… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 04:16 PM |
| 0 | What are your thoughts on TRP's idea of texting for logistics only?I haven’t found that to be the case. But in any case, I would have to be super into a man’s profile to accept no information exchange by text. I’ve had a couple try that and I never met up with either. It screams to me that he is not interesting and probably doesn’t look like his profile pictures and just wants to meet up for a ONS. Not interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What is your opinion on guys who use prostitutes?As long as the man is not using trafficked women, and is treating them well, I see nothing wrong with it. I don’t have a problem with a man subscribing to Only Fans or any of those types of things either, as long as he has the disposable income to support it. It’s more about responsible behavior than moralistic judgement to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 02:56 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on TRP's idea of texting for logistics only?I also lurk in several dating subs and this is universally seen as a bad sign and sus as hell. Advice to women reporting this kind of exchange is overwhelmingly “don’t go” “red flag” “predator” and the like. Personally, if a guy won’t answer basic questions about himself, and doesn’t ask me anything about myself, I’m out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | I'm very new to all these pills but red pill seems very convincing. Can women in this sub refute the following claims ?I agree that many women engage in casual sex. I am not fully on board that most do. (Assuming we are talking about 100% of single women, then I would guess only 35-45% are interested in casual sex at any time, so not MOST.) I don’t agree with this at all. Women have a wide range of what they look for in a man and the best looking are not what most of the women I have talked to are looking for. I typically find the best looking men to be either disgusting pigs or at least jerks. I believe most of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/22 04:04 PM |
| 5 | Q4W What are your physical preferences and what are your physical requirements?I currently find myself most attracted to bald black men of about 6 feet height and moderate to thin habitus. Dick size doesn’t matter. None of that is a requirement. I don’t like long, shaggy beards, long hair, beer bellies (that look 8+ months pregnant.) I care more about how he treats me than what he looks like. I really don’t have any interest in very fat men, or men that look much older than me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you believe that men have it harder?Men and women “have it hard” in different ways. I do agree that the better looking someone is, male or female, the easier just about everything is. I don’t think I would be lonely as a man, and I don’t know if I’d be happy. I do know my personality would have worked out better as a man. As a woman I’m accused of being “aggressive” and not friendly, the old “smile more” conundrum. All humans have inherent value. Gender, color, nationality, wealth don’t change that. I find the idea that men are be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Being "hookup material" is better than being "boyfriend material"Hookup guy is not better if he wants to have consistently good sex. Sure, to some people any sex is good sex, but if you are even a little bit discerning, great sex with one person over time beats random sex. I have also found that hookup guy is counting too heavily on his looks to develop any other attractive characteristics and he bores me, or worse, disgusts me, before we get to the bedroom. And if we get to the bedroom, he’s generally not very good there. I suppose there would be a benefit f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Why do we as a society continue to engage in hook up culture and the degeneracy that comes with it, when it leaves most people so empty inside?So don’t. It’s pretty simple. I learned quickly that hookups suck, so I make it clear that’s not what I’m out for. Any guy that seems to be seeking that gets put through a long vetting during which he generally flakes. If that’s what someone enjoys, go for it. If not, don’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Do you have any realistic ideas on how to solve the rising male loneliness problem?I have a big problem with this whole concept. I see men I find very unattractive in relationships and fathering children all the time. How do they find compatible women? I see attractive men not dating. I see very attractive women with unattractive men (check any swinger’s site if you don’t believe me. Four-fifths of the couples fit this.) Sure, that 20% who are especially attractive in some way are getting lots of attention and sex, but plenty of average and below average men are finding mates.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 11:21 PM |
| 1 | What's your opinions on 40 year olds sleeping with 20 year olds?I’m (56F) seeing a man (29) about half my age and it’s fine. Would I go much younger? No! There is a maturity issue and the difference between a 20 yo and a 28 yo is night and day. I think there can be a lot of scary dynamics when there is a big age difference, but I would judge relationships individually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Do you think that people who say “number of sexual partners doesn’t matter!”, seem to mostly pursue those with a low number of sexual partners?I’m not sure of my count, low teens I’d say (56F) and I don’t ask or care what someone else’s count is. Why are we still focusing on this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/22 11:14 PM |
| 2 | What qualities should a man have before he can raise his standards/be picky about how his partner looks? And what things can he be picky about?That’s bull. I have a master’s in nursing, Midwifery focus, and nowhere in any of my studies or anything else I’ve read has estrogen effected breast growth. Otherwise, girls going on BCP early would all have big breasts. estrogen has an initiating effect, but genetics decide the extent of growth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/22 11:02 PM |
| 2 | What qualities should a man have before he can raise his standards/be picky about how his partner looks? And what things can he be picky about?I sure hope you realize that absolutely nothing changes breast size except plastic surgery. It’s genetically determined. Like nothing you can do about it (drink milk? Seriously?) I find having a preference to be fine, but dismissing women who don’t fit that preference out of hand is pretty gross, and saying anything about it to a woman is disgusting. My breasts are exactly what my genes made them and if you say anything disparaging about them or me, I’ll probably tell you how your genes let you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/22 09:29 PM |
| 0 | If a man is not the best his woman has ever had, he should not be in that relationship.But it’s impossible for another person to know how those values are applied by someone. If she just comes out and says you’re second best, then sure, you know your place and make a decision, but most of the time people (women can do it too) just think their partner is thinking someone else is better and sits in misery about it. It’s generally not true. And I can’t imagine why you think the world needs to hear your opinion on it anyway. If someone loves someone enough to be happy as second choice… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 09:39 PM |
| -3 | If a man is not the best his woman has ever had, he should not be in that relationship.I totally disagree. Sex isn’t everything. Looks aren’t everything. Income isn’t everything. There are so many pieces that make up a relationship that there is absolutely no chance one person will be tops in all, or probably even most, of them. It’s the person/relationship as a whole that is important. Focusing on just the best sex is incredibly shallow and probably not going to lead to the best outcome. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Most sluts are average/underaverageNo it really isn’t. And even if you think it has some deeper meaning, how is sharing deeper meaning with someone immoral? Why is sex (which doesn’t hurt anyone) immoral, while football (which is seriously dangerous) is something people sign their five-year-olds up for? No, you can take your talk of morality and purity and look at what humans do to humans every day that you don’t take issue with it. Employers forcing employees with fevers to come to work or lose their jobs. Landlords increasing r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Most sluts are average/underaverageI am so very, very sick of sex being a “moral” issue. It isn’t. It is a normal, biologic behavior, like eating, drinking, breathing, scratching an itch, etc. Morals have to do with how you treat others, and as long as the two (or more) are all fully consenting, no one is harmed by sexual behavior. Equating sex and morals is all about misogyny and control and is utter BS. Bad morals can be applied to the upper class treatment of the working class, but not to women who choose to enjoy an activity … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 04:44 PM |
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