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I think what I am referring to is the concept of purgatory and hell. Making a true and honest confession means your sins are forgiven, but it doesn’t mean the effects of sin go away. It gets you out of hell, but not necessarily a free trip to heaven. Justice still must be served in the eyes of the Lord and that can happen in your life on earth or in purgatory.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/23 06:06 PM
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This is why I like being Catholic. Being “saved” is half of the equation. God holds you accountable to your actions and you will have to atone in this life or the next.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/23 05:50 AM
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Casual Sex with lack of concern for consequences actually cuts against naturally law virtue. If people practiced virtue in accordance with natural law they would be happier. People who do this almost never put themselves in a position to have an abortion in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:34 PM
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"Accountant"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/07/21 06:42 PM
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Interesting assertion. I have to say there is a lot of truth in your post that causes some decent thought, but it does seem to imply the meaning of TRP is to "fuck sloots right in the pussy." I generally operate under the assumption that the purpose of discussing sexual strategy is to look at at the world for what it truly is and make your own decisions to yield the results that bring the most good to your life. I am not one for meaningless sex nor do I care for being a sexual partner with a wom…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/19 09:53 PM
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Yea my thoughts were the same initially but became less worried when she bought me breakfast, did my laundry and texted me saying “missing you already” the next day. That said, still something to be on guard about.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 05:51 PM
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Okay good thought. I have generally heard the 80/20 rule - So like 80% asshole and 20% good guy (rewarding). Maybe that’s too arbitrary. Like maybe it’s beat to just reward good behavior when it occurs?
/r/askTRP05/08/19 03:58 PM
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Hmm that’s interesting and something that sounds pretty good. Just being a devil’s advocate here... women love the validation of a high value man, if you are in fact high value, shouldn’t you apply validation to the supply and demand rule: the less you give the more she will seek? Again, not disagreeing with you, just trying to apply the principle to another theory.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 03:07 PM
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Hey. I'm making slightly more than OP ($24/hr) currently and I have checked off three of those four items you listed except for the emergency fund. I have been making mistakes (albeit not awful ones) in relation to my money: Love to travel - Travel outside of the country about 3 times a year and then within about 3. Still have about $8,000 to fund of my master's program and I haven't been working on it as well as I should. Result of my traveling habits. Emergency Fund is maybe one month's worth …
/r/askTRP29/07/19 12:51 PM
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Good Ol Colorado. The hour drive south of Denver is rough too with all those "men in uniform" doing work. Good for them, but it makes my game harder. Still, more motivation.
/r/askTRP08/07/19 06:42 PM
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I've always thought the best approach is to just not respond, therefore, I just delete their number and conversation so I can't text them at all. She's not interested. She see's you as a potential orbiter where she can get free things and validation.
/r/askTRP07/07/19 05:20 PM
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Please post QUALITY to this sub.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/19 04:39 PM
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The extra info is helpful. I think that generally, wanting children can’t really be classified as RedPill or not RedPill. It all depends on the mission. With that said, I would probably drop the response down one notch. Not super nice, but also not an asshole response that leaves her in bewilderment.
/r/askTRP01/07/19 02:54 PM
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It depends what you’re going for and who she is to you. Is she a plate? Is she someone you want to LTR? How much vetting have you done? Probably an okay response if you have been hanging out with her for a few months and there are no red lights. But probably a bad response if this is a plate. Be sure to read up on and use the 80/20 rule to your advantage.
/r/askTRP01/07/19 02:19 PM
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I see what you are saying. Men will probably take a large hit pretty soon. Doesn’t really mean we can’t change it though. One extremely masculine skill is leadership and not only is it masculine, but it is rare. Be a good leader and I believe your future is paved with success. The same goes for sales roles which require aggressive, charismatic and still calm traits. These qualities are best fit by males. Anyway, good write up, but I wanted to point out some areas we can move towards as men to no…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/19 05:11 AM
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Respectfully disagree. While I do agree with certain critiques of yours, I do think that by putting thought into this post (and it shows in his writing) he has contributed to the quality of this sub.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/19 08:48 AM
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Reading this was like watching one of those Rom-Coms where the guy never can seem to muster up the balls to do it and the scene builds up and up and ultimately the viewers are left with blue hearts. But, you did it. You may get people telling you how you should have escalated sooner and faster. They may be right. But you’re making progress and that I can respect. Good job.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/19 08:43 AM
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Don’t confront him. If she finds out, stew in your mistake and learn. Can’t change the past. Who knows? It might show that you’re “in demand” and it will work out better for you.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 06:13 PM
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Yea this is great. This is a core tenant of the red pill. If a woman were to post her version of a similar scenario OP is in, she would be met with advice telling her how she deserves so much better and how she is well within her right to break up with that man of lower SMV than her. On the other hand, any mainstream advice given to OP would slam him for “not being a true gentleman” and not “loving her for who she is.” Because we take a true and honest approach, this is why the red pill is great…
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:00 PM
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I think it’s kind of weird that a psychiatrist is telling his patient that someone HAS to meet him so he can feel better. I mean, isn’t the point of seeing a shrink to help you realize you can’t control some people? I’d be very very cautious. It doesn’t seem like shrink behavior. She may be lying about the situation fully.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 07:54 PM
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I was looking forward to this post when I saw your comment on that Asktrp question. Great write up man. Thank you. Heading to a bar tonight for a party and this came at the right time.
/r/TheRedPill17/05/19 11:12 PM
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YNWA
/r/askTRP13/05/19 03:12 AM
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True
/r/askTRP10/05/19 07:55 PM
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Oh okay my bad. I’m Catholic so I take confession seriously. I think really the main issue in all of this is that the church culture tells men that they are responsible for the “chastity/purity” of women and that if a woman and man have intimacy outside of marriage, responsibility and ownership falls on the man. Pretty fuckin lame if you ask me. I once had a fling with a fellow Catholic women where we did things. parents of her friend found out and demonized me among the community. Also one of m…
/r/askTRP10/05/19 03:42 PM
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You have to live with your guilt either way. Even worse, you have to admit you suck to another person in Catholicism. You don’t get to be like “I feel guilty. Sorry God.” And then move on.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 03:19 PM
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A&A Well defined
/r/askTRP09/05/19 05:39 AM
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Me: Maybe she's not interested
/r/seduction08/05/19 07:53 PM
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young catholics Careful bro. I too am a young Catholic who attends mass every week and confession every other week. I wouldn't divulge that information on this sub too easily. But Catholic or not, the advice is the same: Hit her up after a couple of weeks (once the business has supposedly passed) and see if she still wants to hang out. No contact until then and approach other women in the meantime and stop thinking about her. When you hit her up and she still is flakey and also doesn't offer a d…
/r/askTRP03/05/19 09:17 PM
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Wow. Love this reply. I was hamstering myself into figuring out a way to relieve myself of my own responsibility, but you aren’t going to let me. This is very helpful and a professional way to deal with it. Thank you.
/r/askTRP03/05/19 07:18 PM
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Yea my original thoughts exactly.
/r/askTRP03/05/19 04:12 PM
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Two things: Don't Shit where you eat. Re-Read the Sidebar Sorry for saying such a dull comment but all questions you have here could be answered in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP23/04/19 08:09 PM
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Be prepared for the really simple "sidebar" comments and I couldn't agree more. I can tell you're new and point out a few major flaws in your post: You're in love with someone you haven't been out with on a single date? (Oneitis). You're asking us what your goal is? (Lack of a Mission) It's like you're trying to convince yourself she's into you. (Hamstering) Bro, bro, bro. It's a tough pill to swallow but please please please read the sidebar. This is as Bluepill as they come.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 03:31 PM
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Hey man. Just walk up and say "Hi" then be fun. There's no quick solution. You'll get better as you practice more. This is simple advice and probably not what you were looking for, but really practice makes perfect. if you want to help with your speaking confidence, check out a Toastmaster's club. Good luck.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 03:03 PM
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Well I suppose this is a controversial opinion, but I've never thought the RedPill has been solely about women. The sexual strategy explained in the sidebar sure as hell works, but what happened to outcome independence and having a mission? I guess my point is that if you have everything else in place, the ladies will fall in line. That is more of a symptom of a 10% man and not an attribute.
/r/askTRP12/04/19 11:52 PM
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I feel like I can give you some basic medial ones, but none will come close to having the impact of inner game: 10 - 14 % Body Fat $100,000k+ per year Lifts Heavy 5 Days a week Eats Healthy 5-6 days per week Doesn't watch porn Has a mission Sure none of these are solid judgements per se, but honestly, without inner game, these mean nothing.
/r/askTRP12/04/19 10:52 PM
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Spot on Mate. Thank you for putting understandable words to the message I have been trying to convey to the legion of betas that my friends are.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/19 04:13 PM
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I've always found "just chilling" to be a Beta move. They like to have fun and hell, why don't you? Horseback riding, going to a club, lazer tag, the zoo, etc. Do something fun bro, not lame. Maybe chill later on, but second date? I wouldn't.
/r/askTRP19/03/19 02:50 AM
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>You’re genuflecting in front of her As a Catholic this made me chuckle. ​
/r/askTRP17/03/19 11:36 PM
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I don't want to Cross Post. Search: "My BF broke up with me because I booked a week vacation with my EX in Amsterdam" or "How my BF held frame" in the main sub. Your situation and this one are much much more than likely not the same, but I think you can find some similarities. Maybe offer her to stay with you? But idk, you're right, might be a little of a red flag especially if you bring it up to her and offer your place and she still insists on staying at his. Avoid Oneitis and good luck.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 08:22 PM
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No one said life was fair.
/r/askTRP11/03/19 11:16 PM
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True bud, but that isn't the same for everyone. My Mom wasn't the nicest person either but she quit her job to raise me and stayed up with me to help me with the homework and battled the liberal teachers with me when they did something dumb. I get your point, but it does sound like this guy's Mom is NOT one of those.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 11:55 PM
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Okay yea. “Earned it”. I tend to miss that this is a thing sometimes. Thanks!
/r/askTRP15/02/19 06:36 PM
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Yep and since I have read it, I know that I can’t really say what I want to about the quality of your comments.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 06:35 PM
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Great great advice
/r/askTRP15/02/19 05:11 PM
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I was about to say you should have posted this in the main sub and then I started reading.
/r/askTRP14/02/19 09:54 PM
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Two words: Abundance Mentality. Who cares? She’s missing out. Not you.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 10:53 PM
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Well it’s my house. Like I own it and im the landlord.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:46 PM
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I would but it’s officially month to month so I just need to tell him it’s over.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:37 PM
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Yep you’re right. Thanks
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:36 PM
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Thanks for the tips
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:36 PM
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Yea that’s a good thought. What could he do legally? I had him sign a lease agreement so at least I am a little protected.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 06:42 PM
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Great words man. Thank you.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 07:14 PM
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Haha. Bro, I spend night and day at the library when I’m not at work and see girls there all the time. I have had like forty of the exact same encounters and I still have no fucking clue what to do also. Maybe our game isn’t good enough? Although I have heard from this sub that when people are at the library, they are there to work and not flirt so maybe not approach? No clue, interested in what others have to say though.. maybe we should just ask for their numbers? Starbucks seems to be better …
/r/askTRP07/01/19 08:15 PM
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Children operate on emotion. So do women. As far as how you interpret this or rather learn to be happy with their true nature? Well that is what the sidebar is for.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 02:43 PM
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Do what you want man. That’s the core of the Redpill. Although I’d be curious to see what she had to say. It was a shit test and you passed with flying colors
/r/askTRP01/01/19 02:39 PM
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Dude, honestly you should post in the main sub if you haven’t yet. I’d like to hear a more detailed version of the story.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 06:42 AM
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Yea I second the other guy. You did well. So many posts on AskTRP seem to be vomit. This, on the other hand, is hopeful.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 06:33 AM
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Sounds like oneitis so I caution you against it. If she doesn’t reply, who cares?
/r/askTRP28/12/18 08:27 PM
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Well I am a practicing Catholic and a lot of the girls I date are like this. I have yet to date one post red pill although I expect the time to come at some point and my plan is to play it as I would anytime else. If she shows disrespect, hold frame and leave. Employ negging also and give them a sly sarcastic smile when they say something rather entitled. Then just do whatever the fuck you want with your life. A key thing here is being an Alpha (as with any interaction with women). A lot of the …
/r/askTRP28/12/18 07:43 PM
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I had a similar situation I faced a few weeks ago. There’s a link in the sidebar that describes it well titled “How to Train Bitches.” Essentially it advises indifference game and then control game. If you keep up indifference game for too long, she will “eject” herself from the relationship before she can get hurt too much. Just take the L for learning and move on. As echoed in thousands of posts before, she is a single woman out of the pool of literally millions whom who are attracted to. Good…
/r/askTRP28/12/18 05:47 PM
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Lost frame for two whole years and put her on pedestal while I remained the sad loser a beta is. She’s the one missing out now.
/r/askTRP26/12/18 04:25 AM
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Nope. You’re not asking her to marry you nor are you even telling her that you like her. But say: Let’s get coffee [insert timeframe]. Don’t ask, tell.
/r/askTRP25/12/18 09:23 PM
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Good post OP. Thanks for sharing and good way to sum it all up.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/18 04:09 AM
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Denver. I live an hour south in the Springs. Girls here are good... girls in Denver are much better. Great state to actually develop a hobby too. LoDo is a great area. Go Rockies and Go Broncos!!
/r/askTRP07/12/18 04:54 AM
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Yep I made sure that it was clear that she knew it wasn’t her fault and she shouldn’t feel this way. Appreciate the input.
/r/RPChristians03/12/18 06:31 PM
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Thanks man!! Confession is on the docket.
/r/RPChristians03/12/18 06:28 PM
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Probably. Don’t really get the point of this though. If they met your standards, you should’ve continued talking to them and gotten their number. If they said no then they weren’t if they said yes, then they were and that would’ve been the best way to answer this question.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 03:08 AM
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Nothing. Avoid oneitis and she might come crawling back and she might not. You did nothing wrong and she is the one missing out. Move on. Go live.
/r/askTRP01/12/18 12:46 AM
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Yea I agree with everyone else here. She is not interested. That said, I like your playful messages. Keep going at it. You’re game is probably decently solid, just avoid that oneitis. Game other girls and you’ll be fine!
/r/askTRP30/11/18 09:00 AM
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Actions speak louder than words. Find out what those actions are.
/r/askTRP28/11/18 02:06 AM
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Nice. Wish I could get in that. CPA work is different though. Best of luck.
/r/askTRP24/11/18 08:20 PM
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Can I ask what you do for work?
/r/askTRP24/11/18 08:08 PM
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Good for you man, but honestly it sounds like you answered your own question in the first paragraph. And frankly I would agree with everything you said there. Bear in mind that you should only LTR her if she contributes to YOUR mission.
/r/askTRP24/11/18 02:55 AM
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I don’t have any advice to offer because I think the other two covered it but I think you handled it well to begin with. She may even come back to you once this guy reveals Beta qualities. I may be in a similar boat coming up because my girl goes back to her home city during the school breaks. That’s also where her super Beta ex lives. Not too worried about much but it wouldn’t surprise me if something similar happens. So I like what you did. Thanks for sharing.
/r/askTRP24/11/18 12:15 AM
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Idk man. I’m religious and I like it but I don’t think you should subscribe to a religion so you can get a good woman. I was in that boat and it reeks beta and no woman would fall for you. Become religious because YOU want to, not for an ulterior motive.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 07:15 AM
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Get Higher SMV than them without joining them and the ladies will flock towards you.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 07:07 AM
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Toastmasters?
/r/askTRP21/11/18 06:42 AM
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Yea same question as the other person who responded, but to answer your question, I’d say yes. Although be careful. The amount of weight you do on a front squat will likely be significantly less compared to to the back squat. Stay on your heels and drive the elbows up when you come up from the squat. Honestly I think front squat is more badass. Good luck man.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 02:34 AM
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Yep gotcha.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 08:53 PM
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Well it may turn into my problem if this becomes a #MeToo situation and they convince of her of something and that’s what I’m worried about.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 08:52 PM
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Next implies move on completely so no. The answer is simple though. What do you want? Then do that. Don’t risk looking needy by constantly asking her times to hang. Text for logistics only and don’t think about it too much. You are prize and so what you want.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 08:46 PM
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You’ll probably get good advice on this. But you should have probably posted this in the asktrp sub. I think that is Rule #3 of this sub. Please adhere to those rules. Good luck my dude.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/18 05:42 PM
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Yea you got it. Thinking like this is what got our main sub quarantined. TRP is about recognizing how nature actually is and using that knowledge to make the best life for yourself.... not about suppressing a sex.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 01:43 AM
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Hahaha come on bro. Chad wouldn’t give a fuck. Mistakes happen. Get it fixed and move on. If people ask, make up some silly story or just tell them the truth. Either way, act like you don’t care if people know because you shouldn’t care.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 01:38 AM
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Ignore and Next.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 02:20 AM
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I’ve visited both Vienna and London. Unless your into football (soccer) England is dull. Vienna all the way.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 05:35 AM
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Idk, making memes out of things when we have better things to do? Not too much of a high value activity.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 01:04 AM
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No
/r/askTRP12/11/18 11:45 PM
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I think you over thought this dude. Women don’t have to drop everything to chill with you. She’s living a life too.
/r/askTRP12/11/18 01:16 AM
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No, listen to the guy. What you just said sounds desperate.
/r/askTRP10/11/18 05:27 PM
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Damn.... thanks.
/r/askTRP10/11/18 04:42 PM
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Yes. Girls ask me this all the time and I tell them that. Try not to sound like a snob though.
/r/askTRP10/11/18 04:28 PM
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Game other girls and develop abundance mentality and outcome independence. That is your best chance. Lift, eat healthy and oh... read the sidebar. Good luck
/r/askTRP08/11/18 03:04 AM
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Even if you get a safe secure job, you can ace the shit out of it and work your way to CEO. I mean I have a “safe secure job” and my mentality is grind tooth and nail to earn the big bucks. 50k is where I’m at and 500k is where I want to be at. I can do it, but I have to avoid getting comfortable with 50k. I work at a CPA firm doing taxes btw.
/r/askTRP08/11/18 01:57 AM
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High school is tough. But an advantage you have is really focusing on yourself without too many career pressures. Lift your ass off, eat healthy, work on approach (just by doing it). Also just do a little thinking on what type of career you want. Get one that will make you money.
/r/askTRP08/11/18 12:13 AM
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School is tough because people are there to do their own mission. I am at the library all day and notice people are just dialed the fuck in on themselves (this is assuming college of course), but really the rules still apply. If you want to talk to someone, do it, male or female. I read a post in the main sub recently suggesting a good closing line ”I enjoyed talking to you, let’s do it again sometime.” If she responds positively, it’s a go. If not, well you know the answer. Just do it and you w…
/r/askTRP08/11/18 12:04 AM
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If you need an excuse for cold approach, you are doing it wrong. Walk up and say whatever is on your mind and strike up a conversation.
/r/askTRP07/11/18 11:55 PM
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Gotcha, not a special occasion, won’t do it.
/r/askTRP07/11/18 11:22 PM
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Gold.
/r/askTRP07/11/18 11:22 PM
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Because I wanna make sure I love her. Thanks for the input
/r/askTRP07/11/18 11:22 PM
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Studying for the CPA exam right now. Tea is very helpful. You can go to your local store and easily find teas that specialize in energy, stress relief and so on. They definitely work for me.
/r/askTRP07/11/18 07:46 AM
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Haha yep
/r/askTRP22/10/18 06:28 PM
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Here is something that I have always pondered and you can feel free to chime in. The Red Pill, under my interpretation preaches that a man should focus on himself as the main goal of his life and not a woman (outcome Independence). Sex is merely a bonus that will come in waterfalls for me when I get married. In my dating life, it is important for a woman I’m seeing to know that I can always get any woman I want so they’re the ones always vying for my attention. I don’t want to get married out of…
/r/askTRP22/10/18 06:19 PM
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OP listen to this advice.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 05:31 AM
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“Moral Dilemma”. I think this is the wrong classification. It may hurt sure but it sounds like you know what you want and don’t let anyone else’s feelings get in the way of that. You don’t have to apologize for breaking up with her. She just isn’t what you want right now. Good luck.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 05:29 AM
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How could you control anything when you were 7? Stop saying it’s your fault because it wasn’t. You’re good bro. Talking to others about it may not help. Generally when I’m down, I find something to not only take my mind off of a situation but develop a passion for it. The recent thing for me has been CrossFit. This helps me build muscle and get those veins popping out of my arms and more importantly, helps me realize, that only me will love me the way I want to be loved, unconditionally. Good lu…
/r/askTRP22/10/18 05:23 AM
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I gotchu. I feel logistics only can be applied in some cases but I feel the a similar way you feel so I was wondering how to deal with it. Thanks for the advice!
/r/askTRP14/10/18 02:48 PM
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Thanks my man. I have a job at a local CPA firm and I have been comparing the cultures and pay compared to that of a Big 4 and honestly I feel I am in a better situation right now. I get paid the same in a lower cost of living market with a better culture and less hours. If I could give anyone advice on the CPA career it would be “Don’t get caught up on the Big 4 bullshit.”
/r/askTRP14/10/18 02:47 PM
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