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Dating is ridiculously complicated now compared to how it used to be. I think you should maybe try what I'm going to try, which is: I'm not getting my hopes up. I have to learn to be completely content with not finding someone else, because it's gonna happen if it's gonna happen and my wants for it aren't going to have much influence. Keep your chin up. Take things slow and have a relaxed mindset about it. Try dating apps when you feel comfortable, but make it clear you're not on it for sex, and…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/26 04:35 AM
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Haha gonna avoid Andrew Tate just off principle, but thank you very much!
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 05:28 PM
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Hahaha yes, thank you for that!
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 04:16 PM
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Not OP but do you have any recommendations? I could use it a little too
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 03:53 PM
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It still doesn't tell me much, tbh. He could be low on confidence as he goes through the start of divorce for all I know. I personally deleted my Facebook when mine started because I didn't have it in me to change my profile picture from us the day we got married. So.. could be anything.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 02:46 PM
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It could mean literally anything, unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 02:33 PM
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Yeah don't worry I do agree with you brother. I think I'm probably gonna hear the same from a divorce lawyer. But I'm really glad I posted this and didnt fall into the trap. Maybe it's not really trap but it's not worth the chance. So thank you again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 05:22 AM
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Well I didn't leave, she did, but if I could pack anything and keep them with me at all times, it would be the kids. Just grab whatever is important to you, bro. And feel free to inbox me with any specific questions if you like. It's hard as fuck to know what you want out of life after living and pining for someone constantly, I know. I miss my wife every day, even with the BS. Here for you if you need it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 04:15 AM
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I actually looked into this a bit and my state has laws that basically mean she can't use anything I say to a qualified professional against me in court. I know she can lie about it and I'm still not going to do it, but yeah. I just wanted to let you know that's a thing so maybe wouldn't be the worst choice, but I do now think we should do this after the divorce. If they'll still take us of course.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 02:32 AM
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Damn I'm sorry you've gotta go through the same sort of stuff, too. Yeah, I don't know what's going to happen but now thanks to y'all I think reconsidering is my best option. We'll also see how she takes it when I say so... maybe she won't care, idk. Anyway, thanks again
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 01:18 AM
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I'm trying to feel free but lately it's just like a suffocating quiet. It doesn't help I only see my kids every now and again. I miss them the most and it hurts a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 12:21 AM
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Oh man that's tough... okay. Fair enough. I'll talk to a lawyer tomorrow and maybe just get my own personal counseling to deal with what I'm feeling. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/26 12:20 AM
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I hear you, brother. Mine is basically a way of saying "yeah, don't force things and learn to listen to yourself." And the only reason I bring it up is because I think there's a chance she's actually viewing it from a similar psychological standpoint. Maybe she doesn't understand why she's doing what she's doing, but people act strange when they are dealing with feelings they don't understand. Either way best of luck brother, I hope things settle down for you and you both can move forward from t…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/26 09:29 PM
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There is something called an ambivalent relationship that I think people need to be more aware of. Most marriages turn out to be ambivalent relationships. Basically what it means is, we all have natural instinct in our bodies that don't know how to communicate with the brain, but sends signals in feelings and emotions towards them. Ambivalent relationships are the ones where the thinking center of the brain develops a bond in terms of how it thinks it feels about someone, but your own bodily sur…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/26 08:50 PM
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Yikes, man, I can almost feel the pain you must be feeling just reading that. Get a lawyer for sure and start figuring out a game-plan for the possible DV accusation during divorce/custody talks. Thats the best advice any of us can give, I think. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/26 01:17 PM
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Firstly, sorry to hear that brother. I know firsthand how it can feel not having that consistency in a marriage, especially when that's supposed to be the most important part, being a cohesive unit. It does sound like you already know where to start, though, and that's acknowledging the marriage is non-sustainable. Spend time with your family. Vent and grieve, you're allowed that much. Focus on being a father to your son, he's worth you being present and stable especially when it sounds like mom…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/26 06:55 PM
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Sounds like a pretty toxic relationship both ways, honestly. I don't want to be that guy, but it sounds like you both just... aren't meant to be together. Put mental health above all else. You don't have any ties to the place legally, so if I were you I'd just focus on being a Dad and a coparent. If things continue down this path, they'll only get worse if you force it. Start small and don't let her shut you out completely, but also give things some space for a while. Maybe even apologize and te…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/26 04:42 PM
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Chin up, brother. You have absolutely no idea what kind of great things can be waiting for you right around the corner. Focus on you and your kids, things will naturally be better for them if you're better for yourself. I am sending good energy your way I hope you can get things turned around. Much love man, and best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 07:04 PM
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If you're too uncomfortable at disappointing, you're going to be more uncomfortable when you come through. I'm sorry man I know how it feels to not let kids down. Either you push through or you stand your ground and tell them you're not comfortable with it and move on. Both are more than acceptable imo and nobody will think any more or less of you for either.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 11:31 PM
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Sorry I'm not an Indian man but I think you could use more feedback as I'm a man. Don't worry about life alone and divorce and all the things that don't have anything to do with the divorce. It's mutual. Your culture is different than mine and I can't help there, but it sounds like you both know what you want and that should be that. What's the alternative, anyway? Life of misery?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 11:27 PM
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If it happens, it happens man. I've already accepted it might not happen and I'm totally cool with that. But if you do find someone, not only is it absolutely possible to maintain both, a LOT of people do. My mom's first marriage before my dad is that way. I have a friend who's parents split decades ago and even though they're states away, they trade flying to each other for the winter holidays and even stay in the same house when they do. If things are amicable, there's absolutely no reason it …
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/26 04:41 PM
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Damn bro I'm so sorry I wish I could help, but please don't give up. I don't know you, but I care about you. Never give up because we don't know what the future holds. Have you tried to look into a career for yourself yet? Truck driving might not be the most luxurious job, but it pays well. Maybe check in your areas for any places hiring that will also put you through schooling.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 10:12 PM
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In a similar boat, minus the cheating. I don't think some people just know how to communicate. Or they just don't want to. My wife texted me first today for the first time since our split, and only because she needed to know if I was picking the kids up tonight or tomorrow (also have 3 kids, six and under). I started to learn I need to stop worrying about what she wants out of me. If she can't communicate what she wants without me needing to force it out of her, then she doesn't deserve me to fo…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 08:05 PM
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Sorry bro, it's hard to be sure without much context, but if you and her are splitting amicably you probably don't need a lawyer. People divorce all the time without one when no kids are involved, and you don't have anything she needs and vice versa. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 11:57 PM
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Damn bro I'm heartbroken for you. What the hell. Yeah, lawyer up and make sure she doesn't take advantage of you more than she already has.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 04:25 PM
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Your kid is too young to really know what's going on. Just keep doing you. Daddy makes them happy. Just be daddy
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 05:01 AM
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Well, not a divorce story, but my grandmother died in 1999 and it was devastating for my family. We struggled for a while to keep my pop busy. But around 2001 he met a woman, and while there's family drama there about it, they ended up getting married. When they passed away from Covid in January 2021, my grandfather passed away and minutes later she did, too. If death does that for true love, you can find that through divorce. Just don't force anything, man. If a cool lady near your age comes ar…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 12:49 AM
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I'm sorry I'm late to give helpful advice, but if your kids are that grown you should be grown with them. And I don't mean by having the hard conversations giving details, I mean the opposite. The restraint. Don't disappoint your kids, mate. Mom's gonna do what mom's gonna do. The important part for them is what you're gonna do. Don't be overbearing, or overprotective, or over-explanatory. Just be dad. Your kids are always better off if you're not putting your own baggage on them. EDIT: So you c…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 12:11 AM
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It's a nickname for my three little guys that stuck lol As for your other message, not a bad idea. I'll think about it for sure, thank you and ditto, my friend!
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 11:08 PM
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Yeah, I think she could change. Occasionally there's a glimmer of her old self, but it usually disappears at the first inconvenience (which can be anything from a kid doing something she doesn't like to me not thinking to do something before she thinks of it, or not initiating something she wants me to do, but doesn't communicate it). I just want my wife back, man. And the lack of communication from her is also kind of haunting me atm, because I haven't the faintest idea what she's going to do. …
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 10:24 PM
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Thank you for the kind words, I hope things get better for you, too :( As for staying together for the kids, we discussed that possibility a long time ago when we were pregnant with the first kid. She said she wouldn't want to do that "if things were bad." Idk if her opinion has changed on that, but I also don't even know if she's upset at the separation. Maybe she'll talk to me someday, idk.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 10:06 PM
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