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Yeah. Says that I dont wear rose colored glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:07 AM
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And I bet you'd say I was lying if I saw the opposite happen more. I observe thats how you move in this sub anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:01 AM
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Right. Just her reading off them traits already gave me an image of these dudes and they aint what women want. At least, women who know their worth lol. Jeez, the guys sound exactly like the "basement dwellers" women keep making fun of hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:58 AM
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Right. That would be true under certain circumstances. But not in the context we're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:52 AM
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Right. Okay. Well, theyre your clients so I understand you wanna see them in a good light, and by extension, yourself. But, I think I'd stick to my own opinion lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:49 PM
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Who cares about a "good" reason. Nobody does. This sub doesnt. Its all about me me me and the individual self. And most individual men seem to think like I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:46 PM
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Right. So... almost exactly what I said in my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:45 PM
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Well, maybe women should stop saying thry can "smell" or "feel" men's BS from a supposed "mile" away. Yall are the ones spreading that shit. Hell yeah we give space for women to grow and learn, doesnt mean we want that kind of women. The previous generation and the internet has opened yall to a shitload of women's bad experiences, yet you still repeat them regardless. Its your right to change, a privilege to be accepted for it. Then maybe start pushing the "looks matter more" narrative than "per…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:44 PM
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"Kind of guys women really want". Sure, a guy that books escorts is a guy women really want lolol. The fact they booked an escort at all most likely means they in fact arent guys women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:33 PM
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I agree. Thats why people who had casual sex should pair up with someone who had casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:59 PM
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High standards or not, casual sex still rips off the good men lolol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:59 PM
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It depends. Did you make relationship guy wait and casual guy not? Then yeah, casual is alpha. 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:52 PM
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Well, if yall had sex with casual sex guy first, then its not a compliment to be the relationship guy lol wut.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:51 PM
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Sure, a real person. But not a person Imma be with if shes like that. And like I said, better be the hookup or ex shes wild for rather than the one she "settles down with after her fun". Yall (universal) really like that last one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:11 AM
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Thanks! Def much happier now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:28 PM
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Most definitely, because I aint gonna be the chump that accepts womens lowered or deprioritized sexual desire for the justification of emotional intimacy wnd love and all that other BS. Yeah, relationships arent all about sex, but goddamn if Im gonna accept a version of her thats "settled" or done exploring or "selective" and Im on the short end of that. Hell nah. Keep that same energy you had with all those other guys you went wild for, or miss me with that shit. And yeah, I will keep fucking a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:14 AM
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Thats fair. I'd actually respect her more cus she can stand by her own convictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:02 AM
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Yeah, because those dudes almost always gets her at her wildest and most open. You think I havent lived this, lol? Ive been the guy on both sides. And sure, plenty. But "plenty" doesnt mean the majority. And I bet its not to the degree as she was doing prior to them. Eh, treating her badly may be a stretch, Im not that kind of degenerate. But I sure as dont wanna be the BF these women are shortchanging lol. So yeah, barf ahead. All I know is Im getting exactly what I wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:00 AM
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Right. So most. I guess you agree with my sentiment then lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:53 AM
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It was me on the losing end, for a time, and yeah I did eventually leave. Thank god for that. Being the other dude is def more satisfying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:51 AM
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Hey, glad we could agree. Leaving is a very valid choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:39 PM
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No problem with me. If I like a woman, I like a woman. No difference if we commit now or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:16 PM
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Just saying. Women shame guys for leaving when the reason is sexual, especially if its something sexual they WONT partake in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:08 PM
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Only if theyve never had sex early before. If they did, then if they can call me an asshole i can also think they just dont desire me enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:07 PM
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If theyve always waited for committment, thats cool. Not if they've moved fast before then suddenly its "wait for a connection". They can take those lessons theyve learned with the simps.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:04 PM
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I am. And usually the one who gets the short end of the stick is NOT the hookup or the no good ex. They get the wild and experimental side. Trust me, I know lol. Ive been on both sides. I aint never being the BF again with how most women move.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:02 PM
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"Hangups" and "no more experimentation" === learning for most of yall and done with randos or the toxic ex. Hence, baggage. Hence, better be the rando or the ex she experiments with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:00 PM
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I know. Just cant seem to escape getting called an asshole when I leave these women when theyre not able to give me what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:49 PM
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"Hardly". Sure, whatever makes you happy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:48 PM
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I know, why'd you think I said what I said lol. I've been privy to the sex life of some of the women Ive been with, and Imma just say it makes me laugh and sad at the same time. Their men are getting shortchanged in the bedroom department, aint no doubt about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:47 PM
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Agree, cus women seem to like being sexual in hookups and with their toxic ex than in their own current relationships based on what I read here and IRL gahdamn.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:36 PM
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Yall dont wanna compare cus then your partner knows theyre being shortchanged lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:35 PM
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So the dudes after her "learning" phase gets baggage and hangups and no more experimentation? Better to just be the hookup lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:33 PM
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I mean... they dude can dump her lolol. And women dont seem to have any problem giving their best to some rando or a red flag ex. Cmon now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:29 PM
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And if the guy does leave, he gets called insecure and that he never loved her if hes going to find somebody else that'll engage in what he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:28 PM
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Just dont call the guys who leave insecure and assholes for getting what they want elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:24 PM
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Damn, if #1 and #3 aint proper deterrents to get in relationships. Might as well just fuck around, seems more likely to get a woman who actually wants you sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:21 PM
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Exactly. Dont date woman who had to learn not to put out before commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:16 PM
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Hows that personal lolol 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:47 PM
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Yup. And what comes after realizing? Leaving. But you give your partner a heads up. Tf is wrong with giving a heads up. Pathetic? Pathetic is a person whos afraid to come off offensive to others and would rather be placating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:33 AM
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So fire without warning? Yall bend over backwards to be so accomodating amd inoffensive. Its called letter her know your intentions. If you consider that a threat, yall are being obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:44 AM
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Right. So kowtow to the wife getting a tattoo is the solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:42 AM
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Husband Material. Figures why thats your answer lolol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:40 AM
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This is why looks > personality. You can override shit attitude with attractiveness, but good personality cant override being mid or less than mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:15 PM
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Okay? I dunno how you got to that conclusion from me saying I want a GF who doesnt want NSA sex, but you go ahead and think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:47 AM
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Virginity not so much, she could have sexual experiences so long as she had no hoe phase. No ONS, no casual setups. I wouldnt want a woman who treats sex like a throwaway when I treat it as the highest form of physical intimacy partners can partake in. No toxic exes as much as posdible though. So past matters, but with context.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:33 AM
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Oh yeah I want sex, and I also want a romantic relationship. They can come seperately or in a package to me. Sex is the ultimate form of physical intimacy IMO. If shes willing to have that immediately with a hookup but not a potential partner like me for example, then I dont want her. I aint waiting if another aint. Sex is an aspect of the physical aspect of a relationship after all. What Im saying is also a really easy concept to understand as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:06 PM
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A 2 day difference is nothing. What usually happens is one get gets it within 24 hours and the other in a month or 2. Thats where it gets ridiculous and women come up with a lot of mental gymnastics to justify it. Valid for women, not for a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:31 PM
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So she romantically likes the 2nd dude but makes him wait? That kind of woman aint worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:29 PM
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Treated better but other dude got the physical aspect of a relationship immediately lol. She got herself physically vulnerable with a supposed pump and dump but waited to "feel safe and connected" to a the potential serious candidat3. Aint no way thats "better".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:21 PM
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Its a realistic thing. I wouldnt disparage a woman who sees my POV, because I do think it happens to them as well. They just see how their fellow women speak to men like them and feel that they just have to keep it to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 09:22 AM
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It is worse. Within 24 hours and 2 months is a 1416 hour time difference give or take.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:59 AM
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I dont get why women find it so hard to understand how some guy gets play within 24 hrs and a supposed "serious partner" needs a time deposit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:57 AM
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Yeah, the way these men push for others to accept some degree of cuck mentality is insane. And their numbers and brazen attitude keep growing too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:54 AM
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A woman can genuinely feel and do all those things for her current man and still in her heart of hearts desire him less than some previous partner. Worse, it could have been just a fuckbuddy or an ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:53 AM
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Then thats cool IMO. If you only have sex within a relationship, I can get behind that. Problem arises when a potential suitor has to wait and the hookup guy gets the express lane. All because of "gotta build emotional connection first" shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:22 AM
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By asking and initiating and progressing physical intimacy. If youre someone like me who knows quite a bit of people, you put feelers out. Its vetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:02 AM
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I wasnt assuming all, only the ones that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:53 AM
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Ahh well, my comment doesnt apply to you then. I assumed based on your wording. Still applies to a shit ton of women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:58 PM
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All those risks you laid out and yet hookup dude still hit. Guess the risks are worth it for mr ONS and not for mr BF candidate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:42 PM
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Well, if a woman I see as a potential partner who also considers me as such decides to delay sex compared to another dude in the name of "building emotional connection first", then hell yeah the next thing Im asking is "Wanna just hookup?".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:40 PM
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Sexually? Hell yeah. I think I made that clear in the final sentence of my second to the last paragraph. Well, in that scenario Im the BF right? Hell yeah Id feel great. I continue to have sex with her while shes committed to me. Shes my GF so presumably I do get trested better than the hookup, WHILE getting treated as a hookup sexually. Also, I think you purposefully misinterpreted, or outright ignored, what I wrote in my second to the last paragraph so you can drive your point down lololol. Do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:58 PM
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I do, but sexually I dont treat my hookups and my potential partners any differently though. No prerequisite to have sex with either, just that they have to be attractive to me. I do treat a potential partner better in other aspects though. Whether or not I want relationships, sex doesnt change. It just doesnt make sense to me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:38 PM
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Good men, bad men. All I know is I get what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:25 PM
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Hell yeah I wanna be treated like a hookup sexually too. A potential partner is supposed to be someone with all the + traits of a hookup and none of the - right? If hookup is a basic package, a supposedly upgraded package gets all the perks youd assume. And yet one is still behind a time lock? Idk bout that. Might as well the woman pump and dump me bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:20 PM
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Uhuh. Well mate, hope youre having fun with whatever it is youre doing lolol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:23 PM
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Ive read it a few times but I cant quite grasp if youre sarcastic or not lolol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 07:46 AM
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You cant stop neuroticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 07:44 AM
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Really? I know lots of 40 year olds with hella friends, and I only started my 30s. Still have a considerable friend group. I mean, those arent excuses but if thats your situation then it is what it is. In fact, business owners I know are the ones with huge social circles. They need the network after all. Id wager you already only had a small group since HS/college? Might be wrong but it could the a reason Idk they still seem relevant to me. Not for dating, sure, but I thought we were talking abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:54 AM
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I see what you mean. It makes sense to be fair. Seems like I'll have to mentally reorganize a bit lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:49 AM
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Yeah, most guys here often cant argue well enough to defend their point. Either that or they lose track along the way and devolve the argument into the same tired talking points. Its sad cus a lot of them make sense, just cant back it up well. And as a man who just cares about the sex, I agree that lashing out doesnt really help anyone lol. Not everybody gets what they want after all. Just a fact of life. I would however challenge that depending on certain factors, be it looks or the situation, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:37 AM
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Luck as the main factor only applies to those average and below.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:30 AM
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Friends. Friends of friends. Apps. Any social setting where its casual and fun, especially those with alcohol involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:22 AM
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I always thought FWBs and FUBUs were interchangeable. Guess some people apply different meanings to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:19 AM
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Heck yeah. Personally, I do just want sex. Lucky to be able to have them in relative abundance and ease too. Guys gotta stop being neurotic about this stuff. Not everyone is meant for casual though, as sad as that is and I empathize with my fellow dudes. Just gotta accept it is what it is and either for what they can get, be it relationship sex or with a hooker, or just be content being celibate. Getting angry gets people nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:12 AM
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Sex without all the unnecessary hoops. Thats what Ive been doing since I got outta college. I wanna nut? I call someone. They wanna nut? They call me. Its great to be picked when women are horny and just wanna get down. Then, I live my life the way I want. No BS "emotional connection" stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:03 AM
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Not really. What I dont want is my GF having a history of being a hoe though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 08:26 PM
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Cant exactly choose what was determined for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 07:52 PM
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Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:19 AM
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Its reality for a lot of men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:18 AM
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Sure. Still wont be second to a dude like that, who could make a woman endure shit just because he could dick her down well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:00 AM
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Not saying youre wrong, but Im also saying that the inverse of what you said most definitely exists. And in some of those its the dude who cheats and the mistress is a fucking downgrade to the actual partner. And these out of their league women genuinely love them too. So the other side of the coin definitely happens just as often IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:17 AM
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Eh, not what Ive heard IRL or read online. Its usually because the sex is too good to let go despite the red flags. Because sex and raw sexual compatibility seems to in some ways bypass all this "emotionally positive" and "safety matters" mumbo jumbo. Thats why love and sex IMO dont go hand in hand. And if I cant be what she sees in her mind when she thinks of sex, then I dont want that relationship. A man can literally be the worst, but still the pleasure he gives would be enough to override a …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:10 AM
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Sure, I'll give you all of that. But if they stayed longer than they should have cus the sex was godlike, then Imma head out still. Im not gonna play second fiddle sexually to some dude that Im supposedly better at being a partner. If get to be some womans best in bed cus Im toxic, then I'll take it. Sounds like a compliment to me despite that. Her current partner will never be able to take that away from me if thats the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:21 PM
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I mean, I also believe some dudes just dont pass the bare minimum looks wise, and no amount of personality will change that. But yeah, if you arent physically blessed, better work on your charisma and confidence as much as you can. Strategies for good looking dudes wont work for average dudes, so you have to take that into consideration as well. Especially the initial contact, if you arent already acquaintances to begin with. Also, just gotta deal with being rejected. Its just reality. Theres re…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:16 PM
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As much as I would love to disagree with takes like this, I've seen far more beautiful women end up with average to less than average men and these dudes aren't even loaded with money which sometimes is the reason they end up with these women. So while I agree that looks get your foot in the door faster, personality ain't really that far behind. You just gotta bridge the initial connection that looks give first somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:45 PM
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This is why I filter out women who have sex outside relationships. Mitigates instances of differing behaviour towards average dudes like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:35 PM
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Sure, Im more willing, though begrudgingly, to concede to being lesser sexually to a decent guy. But a toxic, red flag dude? Hell naw. Women go on and on about emotional connection and love for their partner enhancing sex but then a lot of them turn around and admit it pales in comparison to just the raw sexual desire they feel to that guy who was an asshole. I wouldnt wanna be anywhere near that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:52 PM
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Not automatically, but it happens anyways. These BFs/husbands just gotta take what they can get. Excitement and adrenaline >> stability and peace when it comes to sex it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:44 PM
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Guess all this talk about sex being better with someone you connect emotionally and love is BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:42 PM
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Not "only" toxic guys, but an awful lot of women's best seems to come from them. Reddit may not be "real", but its a peek into what is. Apply your initial logic to your arguments if you think Reddit isnt real life. Wouldnt it make what youre saying not reflect whats reality? Yes sex aint mysterious. Its also not "difficult" to get decent. Whats difficult is being great at it. Even more so to be the best. As is with most things in life. Its naive to just boil it to not mysterious === easy peasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:35 PM
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Like love is enough to keep the sexual longing for that toxic dude at bay at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:42 PM
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Nah. I saw most say their husbands managed to work their way towards being good or great. Still couldnt match up to that toxic dude that didnt need years to be their best.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:40 PM
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Men 9/10 times orgasm/ejaculate regardless. Its so easy to make men cum. Women claim to have a more complicated route to orgasm and cite that orgasm isnt possible some times when being intimate even if their partner is doing all the right things and theyre aroused. Yet their abuser can somehow get them to orgasm regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:23 PM
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Currently not with anyone at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:49 PM
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Never disputed that. Its the easy part thats highly debatable, if even plausible at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:50 AM
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Good sex I'll give you that. But anyone can cook an edible dish that'll taste good. Post says the best sex though. Doubt that can be recreated willy nilly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:05 AM
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Mostly can mean 51/49. 49% is still a lot of not the case lol. Thats like saying its very easy to recreate a particular scene done by an amazing actor. Yeah you can try to imitate movement, facial expression and tone but it wont be 100% the same. Saying its very easy is kinda naive. Sure. But not always lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:32 AM
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That aint always the case, and it isnt as easy just trying to imitate what another did 1:1. And sadly best sex isnt always with the one you love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:24 AM
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Personally, Id leave if I get a whiff of my woman thinking sex with some toxic dude is better than with me. And I wouldnt hold it against her if she did the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:19 AM
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Poor husband cant even match up to an abuser.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:46 AM
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She wouldnt have been my wife in the first place. Its about not fucking someone who isnt a partner. I love sex, and I love women who do too. I love them even more when they save that energy to be released when in a relationship. Easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 07:46 AM
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If my wife hid that she had hookups in the past Id be gone. Dont want a wife who fucks outside of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 07:41 AM
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And they always seem to have such intense physical and sexual chemistry with these hookup material men and just have "its alright" chemistry with their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 07:31 AM
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We could most likely go for argument after argument and still not be on the same page except for people are different. Id rather just focus on one and move on if it doesnt work, than split my attention and risk putting it on the wrong basket cus I wasnt paying enough attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:16 AM
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I understand that love isnt in the equation yet. Doesnt mean it isnt off putting to me and guys like me that it aint a 1:1 ratio of the attention were giving them. Its just as likely that youll miss out on a great connection because you felt a good one early on with somebody else. Numbers game, multiple shallow interactions if you ask me. But as Ive said, more power to those who brute force their way through dating. It aint me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 07:37 AM
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Dudes like me and OP just dont want women who arent giving the same attention and time that we give them. It gives me the ick that after we're done tryna build something youre doing the same with somebody else. Even worse, simultaneously lol. Miss me with that. More power to being methodical in yalls approach, but I thought you cant gamify and apply math to dating was the accepted mindset here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:39 AM
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To correct myself, I was meaning to say "where women arent expected to be politically correct" in my previous comment. It ties directly to your last statement about honesty, because women seem more inclined to say what should be said rather what they actually feel. Hence the "bigger isnt more desired" spiel. And on evidences, idk I dont really take peer reviewed paper as divine doctrine when it comes to a lot of stuff. Lived experieces and anecdotal accounts feel more unfiltered to me. To give a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:09 AM
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Which evidence are you taking? Anecdotal, peer reviewed or a blog post survey? Lolol. Because lets be real people disregard any one of those in favor of the narrative they push anyway. Me included. Plus, Id rather look at responses where women are expected to be politically correct, for a lack of a better term, anyway. Those are the real answers IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:41 AM
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Those women, like you, are the minority. Guys here are just saying women generally like it bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:29 AM
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I think a couple more years of women repeating this is needed to undo the years of women repeating size doesnt matter lolol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:07 PM
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And they throw shade or express disappointment when its average or small. At best theres no clamor over it. Tough out there bruh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:09 PM
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Im talking bout girls who prefer/preferred the "bad" boys. Or maybe boys with delinquent tendencies is more appropriate. Not talking bout girls who skidaddled outta there once she found out, but ones who know but still pursue. Thats the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 07:40 PM
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My environment is varied yo. As I said, I socialize. I meet and see people in different social settings. Plus conversation and 3rd party accounts of experiences. Dont misunderstand pls. I know people from one end of the spectrum to the other, though none on either extremes. Could be close though. Bottom line is I just dont like these party/bad girls. Doesnt matter if theyre past that or reformed. Theyre attractive foe sure, but their behavior and types in men aint for me. Plenty of women who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 05:43 PM
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Ive never smoked nor do I want to, and yet Ive got friends who smoke a ton. Party girls arent rare yo. I socialize. You meet people. Im not a recluse lol. As I said, Ive partied, but only on rare occasions. Im not upset. I hope you dont misunderstand me. Im sharing my opinion using words and tone that get my point across. Id speak the same if were talking about broccoli. Youd think Im upset but in reality I just dislike broccoli that much. Same as the women Im describing that I dont want. Im not…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 05:33 PM
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So what are you implying then?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 08:02 AM
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What if I dont wanna be an acquired taste? That just seems like a lukewarm attraction to me at best. Husband material is fine so long as it came from a non promiscuous woman, or if the woman considers the man both hookup and husband material. If not, I agree with most men here. Rather be hookup material than husband material.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 08:00 AM
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Im not jealous I didnt live like them. Nah. And its not like I havent partied, just only on a few rare occasions. Hardly considered a "party goer". Never slept around or desired a party girl too. And I could have. Just putting it out there just in case you think Im some kinda pity party redditor. All I want is a women who didnt do a full 180 on both their lifestyle and partner preference. Cus to me that reads like "this what I need to be/have" rather than "this is what I want" Miss me with that …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:53 PM
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You can have amazing memories and be a well rounded person without having been a train wreck. By your logic, we all should break the law a few times and snort some coke to get that adrenaline rush that makes life worth living. Conversely, people who enjoy the quiet life have shit lives. Yeah. Most have carry on baggages though. Those women in general have check in baggages. Max weight each.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:11 PM
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Eh, Imma pass on a woman who needed that much of a change in preference and lifestyle. A person that does a total 180 just makes me doubt things about her, idc how genuine she feels. Im not settling for a woman whose current criteria is what it is because she made a buncha stupid decisions when she was younger. Theres a whole lot of women who were never walking red flags, so why choose those with baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:04 AM
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Idk about myself or others since we all have different reactions, Im just talking about what happened in the repost. Now I do believe a relationship should trump any hookup on every level, but I do understand if a person would want their partner to consider them eligible for a night of purely passion and lust on a random encounter. And feel slighted if the answer was basically "needed more time to see your more attractive qualities" while on the same breath sleep with randos in the same scenario…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:14 AM
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Thats where the divide comes from I guess. Women and men view things differently. And Im coming from the POV of the BF in the repost. Difference in perspectives can cause hurt and conflict after all. They value being hookup material because men want to be physically desired as well. Most men are only attractive because of their non physical traits, so men desire to be desired physically and sexually. Women are the opposite, so women desire to be desired for things that arent physical and sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 03:04 PM
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I mean, its not an absolute thing that hookups lewd to heartbreak if tons of anecdotes are the complete opposite. Why is "wife material is also hookup material" a dumb proposition?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 03:47 AM
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If she wasnt into hookups prior, then it wouldnt be an issue. But if she did, why exclude him from being a hookup since relationships are also often formed from that encounter. Its the difference between "I wouldnt just, but also" and "I wouldnt, but". If I were to wager a guess it might come off to her BF that he is missing physical and sexual attributes needed to be considered as one, if they both were strangers meeting for the first time in the hypothetical scenario. That yes, he has husband …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 03:44 AM
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I guess guys just wanna be eligible for both. I wouldnt say its dumb, but Im a dude lol. I want my GF to wanna hookup with me if we hypothetically were randoms meeting for the first time. I know I would lol. Wife material to me includes hookup material after all. Hm, youre the first woman here and in some other posts Ive read that hookups standards arent low. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 08:00 PM
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Could you expand on why its dumb? Both sides are reasonable, tbh. Having filters is reasonable, feeling slighted for being excluded in one if you fit another in this case I find is reasonable as well. Lots of anecdotal evidence as well from women whose relationships started as hookups though. Why cant she, in the hypothetical scenario, hookup and start a relationship with him if she found him husband material? Maybe it doesnt, maybe it does. I agree. I also relate to the slight if my GF wouldnt …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:30 PM
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Sure, but I would wager to say that these men are still attracted and view their partners just as if not more attractive than these OF girls/porn stars/mistresses. They are also just assholes if theyre cheaters and I guess cant control their libidos enough to not pay for content. The point is the physical and sexual attraction is still there for the partner, other women notwithstanding. Its not special to women that men find most of them sexually attractive, sure. But to men it does though, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:20 PM
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Guess thats where generalizations come in when talking about broad topics, and not individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:12 PM
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Well, I guess the BF in the repost wanted to be a viable hookup option for his GF in the scenario and got offended that he wasnt. If we assume the GF does hookups and it excluded the BF hypothetically, then I do see how it would seem like a slight to him. Like, she would sleep with these randos and aquaintances but not him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:10 PM
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I dont disagree. It might depending on if the hookup is with a random or with an aquaintance or friend. For the latter attraction likely wasnt immediate, but more often than not from what I personally have heard IRL and read online is that for randoms the tipping point was mostly because there was immediate sexual attraction. Now mandatory not a monolith disclaimer here, but if it happens regularly enough it could be a valid generalization. Now if the scenario in the repost was that the BF was a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:27 PM
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I think this is how it should be. In the repost however, the GF wouldnt hookup with her BF who she considers husband material. So it indicates that in a random encounter, he lackes the necessary physical or sexual attributes that made him attractive to her. IMO it should be that a boyfriend is both husband and hookup material, not just or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:04 PM
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I feel like with both women, they hookup and the wife, theyre still very much attractive to the guy. He would still hookup with both of them immediately though only be with the wife material for longterm. In the repost the GF wouldnt hookup with her BF although he is husband material, indicating that attraction wasnt immediate unlike for a hookup. And that I think is the difference between how men and women perceive the scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:57 PM
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Hey, I never said I wouldnt try at first. Should have stated that from the start lol. I just wont give my continued and lifetime effort for someone who has someone else she couldnt help but lust after in her silent horniest thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:01 PM
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I dont see it as insecurity or mistrust when it comes to my personal want of wanting to be my partners best. Its a want, because I want to be the person they see when thinking about the peak of their sexual experience. Yes, when youre together youve "won". But winning could have been for numerous reasons, not all positive. And I think competing to be the best, in whichever way an individual wants to be the best, isnt IMO detrimental. Im ok with not being the best overall, I care about being the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 05:46 AM
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It important to me though. I guess we just see things differently then since this desire to sexually be the best doesnt come from being upset. I just want to be. When my partner thinks about the height of her sexual experiences, I want the person that pops up in her mind is me. If it isnt, I accept that and move on. Theyre in her past because they or she wasnt great in some other area, not because they were necessarily bad in bed. Thats how your last sentence sounds to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:56 AM
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Eh, I thought communication was supposed to be important in a relationship? How is it not healthy to ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:49 AM
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Might come as a surprise, but I see where youre coming from. However, Im fine with not being the best overall so long as Im the best she had sexually. Genuinely asking how any of what I said is a pity party? I feel like I never said anything out of self pity but rather what I wanna be for my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:35 PM
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One would have to be naive to think it needs to be said aloud to know its being reminisced. And so long as its not me being reminisced, aloud or otherwise, then I dont want that woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:50 AM
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I wouldnt wanna be with someone who reminisces about that time she was blown away by a random who no one could ever compare with in the bedroom, even if reminiscing only happens every blue moon.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:19 AM
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Asking them is a pretty good way to know where you stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:09 AM
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Always thought the conversation on purity meant being a virgin. Well, insecurity or not, I dont think theres anything necessarily wrong with wanting a "pure" partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:52 PM
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Is this just about being a virgin or having a low body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 06:44 AM
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What about women's often used line of "We can smell insert bad trait here from miles away"? That doesnt actually work irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:29 AM
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Agree. Hookup material is like getting on the VIP express, while husband material is lining up on a regular queue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:57 PM
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Heard from a female friend who had a messy breakup with her BF say in person that "he had a tiny dick anyway". Like it somehow makes everything ok just cause he supposedly had a tiny dick. Whereas if the dude was huge, theyd say that theyd miss the D. Idk but small/average D never seems to get the outward desire Big D gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:11 AM
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Im all for delaying sex. As a man, I prefer that as well. What Im not all for is waiting when others didnt. Im gone as soon as I get a whiff of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:37 PM
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I mean, you said it yourself you'd give them subtle signs that youre into them and the only thing stopping you is the ring on your finger. Theres a difference between thinking it and actually acting on it. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 07:53 AM
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So you lust after other dudes and act on it? Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:00 PM
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Its pointless because women do prefer above average in general as you said. It aint satisfying, but its the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 08:08 PM
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Because women live to sugar coat. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 05:29 AM
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Sure. I can value a nicely cooked salmon if the steak I would have preferred wasnt available. Its nice and fine, but that steak would have just hit different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:23 AM
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Men wanna be valued for who they are and their penis valued for their penis. Its both. Each aspect of the man valued independently. Idk bout you but it hearing its fine or you like it because its attached to you isnt that great to hear. Meanwhile big guys get desired by both aspects of themselves, to the point where even after the relationship ends theyre still desired because of their size.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:55 AM
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Pretending it isnt doesnt help either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:54 AM
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This. Just stop with the pretending.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:41 PM
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True that. I dont really know why they defend so hard against just saying they orefer bigger. They just have to offer such long explanations but still arrive to the conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:34 PM
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Idk bout other dudes, but I just want the whole "bigger isnt generally better" to stop. Cus it just aint true and its sugar coating reality. Men have no problem being diminished to their physical attributes it seems, especially if its seen in a positive light.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 08:15 PM
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Its not unsatisfaction thats questioned. Its whats better. And clearly, if a guy is great, then bigger is better. Its just that women use all kinds of loopholes and gymnastics to avoid flatout saying it. Thats the goal of this post and others similar to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 07:58 PM
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Great guy with average dick = great Great guy with big dick = better This is what I gathered from your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:58 PM
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