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27

Mansplosion is killing me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:04 PM
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I totally agree. I think after years of abuse I woke up one day, that’s what I meant by boundaries. I isolated myself (had the money to) and spent years figuring out why people kept hurting me and why I fawned and struggled to get away. I was very lucky and privileged, but you’re right, not everyone gets out of these cycles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:49 AM
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Being there for you in a time of need is big and I see why you’re grateful. But it’s just so scary that otherwise “good people” can do such egregious things just cause you have breasts...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:43 AM
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You need to drop him completely, he’s a pervert! Not judging you but I’m disgusted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:16 AM
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It was more than weird, it was assault. I wish I could shoot him for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:59 PM
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I totally agree with boundaries vs BPD. Good thing is that acquiring boundaries is like learning to ride a bike, chances of being that vulnerable again plummet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:00 PM
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My hair grew an inch and my toes did themselves when I read this. I aspire to be this succinct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:24 PM
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Every day I learn of another aspect of my humanity that I have to hide lest it turn a man on I tear up freely, I don’t hide getting emotional but I’ll reserve that for women’s company
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:07 PM
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Literally any “issue” involving a man and a woman no matter what context, she was at fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:39 AM
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Men don’t HELP people, why would I care about men’s feelings. They need to give each other attention and support. Count me the fuck out. Call me names, I’ll be over here not suffering or endangering myself for people who statistics prove are very unlikely to do the same for me .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:06 PM
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That’s why I turn against anyone who says “not all men”. I can’t go outside alone at night even tho there aren’t bears tigers or wolves around. Why?? Because there are men out there and all these fucks want to act like IM abrasive for treating men like they’re guilty until proven otherwise. The whole world asks us to play pretend to coddle men and that in itself is a slap in the face. The evidence is overwhelming but people don’t want to acknowledged that men as a group are a problem that were n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:57 PM
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She’s gonna suffer especially hard now that she’s made it crystal clear that she is desperate to keep him. Men become more abusive when they know you want them more than they want you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:48 PM
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Expressing interests; any sign of depth triggers them since LVM are narcissistic shallow underdeveloped jealous insecure reactionary creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:19 AM
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I don’t they actually think you do sexy work. They’re just mad that you can afford hotels. There’s a negative stereotype regarding women in relation to everything, hotels, eating, standing, thinking, talking, so they reach for the nearest thing in desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:14 AM
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I agree with this. I don’t go up to ppl of a marginalized group that I have power over and brag that I see their humanity. I let my action speak for itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:26 AM
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Thanks for sharing, and I appreciate the trigger warning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:53 PM
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Would love a link in the right direction re what you said about Freud!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:42 PM
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while it’s true that you wouldn’t mind your chin if society didn’t specify good chins vs bad chin, I recently saw a post where some skinny woman railed against a fat man thinking they could approach her, said fat women were “at least” more attractive than fat men and everyone cheered her fat phobia on and downvoted me when I said fat phobia hurts women too. There’s a lot of hypocrisy going on and I’m sure it’s largely coming from women who fit the standards of beauty more comfortably. I want a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:29 PM
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I took some pics yesterday and my undereye circles looked out of control. I started thinking about filler panicking that age is coming for me. I started looking at pics of me from 10 years ago and realized Age is indeed coming for me, I’m 31 not 20 and I look more mature I was born with undereye circles. I’ve always had them. It’s literally how my face is built. I actually think they’re beautiful and give my face amazing character, but they don’t look good in pictures in certain lighting at cert…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:27 PM
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Yes I love me don’t audio knowledge TY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:36 AM
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It would have never happened. FDS has been triggering me and sometimes I feel like I’ll only get over those experiences by finding them and physically maiming them. I was so good to them and they were so bad to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:26 AM
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I’m the single friend and I get sad about it for 15 minutes every month, but then I look at my friend’s partners and realized that if that’s what i have to accept to not be single then bring on my 15 minutes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:13 AM
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Wow no wonder I’m becoming a goddess...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:10 AM
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I realized that I’m a ball of nerves around handsome men because I literally never see them so when one shows up it’s like whoa what the fux going on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:09 AM
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I’m dead at eyeball energy and I agree. I spotted my one attractive guy of the year today. Till next year...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:07 AM
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Thanks for writing this. You’re absolutely right. Any hint of denial of something so evident is gaslighting. This is a world where if a lot of people do something evil that means that it’s not evil and it’s ok because the masses are accepting of it and dissidents and crazy. What works of Andrea Dworkin would you recommend? I keep seeing her quotes around and would love to look into her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:56 AM
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Desire for threesome means you’re not invested in your monogamous relationship. Whats one to do with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:44 AM
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Would you be able to link it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:36 PM
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I’m sorry you went through that. You have to a sociopath to treat children that way. Glad you’re getting help because you didn’t deserve that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:34 PM
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She’s in an abusive relationship and is light years from an awakening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:45 PM
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I do think women are very sexual, but I think the reason they put up with these unwashed apes is utter desperation. Better a slimy bastard than no man at all, amirite? Most women feel like nothing without a man by their side. They feel like failures so they’ll take anything even if it’s dirty, abusive, or won’t last.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:01 PM
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I totally feel that, the thing with asking them is that even HVM may be affected by conditioning. If I did the approaching, I would never really know if that affected how they see me. If they turned out to be HVM I guess that would speak for itself. My most well adjusted highly ambitious healthy minded and self loving friend told me years ago that a man should always love you more than you love him. That stuck with me. I know it sounds antiquated, but I’m extremely loving and I have a lot to giv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:32 PM
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Men perform worse at everything in life save a few strength based feats, so they’re always desperate to belittle women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:31 AM
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Spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:54 PM
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Women think that it’s feminist to ask men out and pay for shit, in world without misogyny and gender based inequality, that might be cute. On planet earth where me are socialized to devalue women based on looks at notes everything you must accept that some innocuous actions will be read as less valuable. Chances are if you approach a man, whether he accepts you are not, you have been demoted in his mind, even if he ends up settling for you in the long run. Waiting to be asked out gives you highe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:55 PM
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So sorry you’re going through this. I think your approach is the most “dignified” and best for your self preservation in every way. You can pretend you don’t notice they way they do when they’re not into someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:27 PM
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Wow that would incense me... how do you plan to approach it? Since it isn’t work related, I would pretend I never saw it. If he wants to act senseless, you can too, without remorse. It sucks cause now you know he’s a fake biotch and you’ll have to interact with him indefinitely. I do not understand the culture of dating coworkers. How often does that work out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:20 PM
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Narcissists come in all genders, know the signs. They appear charming at first, and then they ruin your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:11 PM
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That is terrifying, I would go crazy. Glad you’re safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:14 PM
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Mine is very much a city experience. What I wouldn’t do to be locked behind metal and glass in my day to day. Of course they still find a way to bother you...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:08 PM
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People with low standards find relationships on there and swear I can do the same. I don’t like boring, I don’t like ugly, I don’t like basic, I don’t like losers. If OLD is the only way, then it’s not happening for me because I refuse. That shit is not sexy. Organic or bust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:49 PM
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Im almost always alone and I’m so resentful of how all the unwanted attention evaporates in the company of a man. It’s so clear that it’s open season on unchaperoned women, but I still have to defend the fact that misogyny exists. Men are so unbelievably cowardly and take every chance to prey on and degrade women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:37 PM
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Men who do invasive stuff are encouraged by the fact that women rarely call them out (not victim blaming, were raised to coddle and be polite at all costa to ourselves), so when you do say NO or shut up they obey because it’s a new situation for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:24 PM
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I just had someone do the “look at me” pacing at the gym, hoooow are they all reading the same script??? And the self congrats... that’s just sad. I hate the regret of not embarrassing them given the chance but they are monsters so of course we get scared and freeze sometimes. Stopping in front of you and making you step aside woooow what a fucking idiot. Honestly you did the right thing because that is very extra and indicative of someone with no sense who is liable to lash out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:21 PM
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That sounds unbelievably annoying, my blood boils for you. It is so bizarre when you finally see that a full grown adult is stuck at a toddler stage of development and nothing you say can change it. I hope you achieve freedom soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:15 PM
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I do this all the time. I hate the idea of men siphoning pleasure of my discomfort or my mere presence and I take any opportunity to deny them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:01 PM
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I agree. I think the way men are raised and socialized creates an outsized number of narcissists. When I met a woman narcissist I was so confused. I felt an emptiness and absence in her that I usually only saw in men. This girl would IGNORE my every attempt to introduce a topic of convo, and when I realized what she was doing and did the same she started bringing up different topics about herself back to back to back and became visibly anxious at my lack of response. She is now very much blocked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:58 PM
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Thanks for this, I need to reread TBKTS. And I love hearing that you use astrology this way. I’m a skeptic but the way my signs explain me to me is uncanny...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:55 PM
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Whoa same af. Im black, well preserved, went to a respected school for undergrad and I can feel them bristle when I tell them. I’m also well versed in psych and come to them with insights they can’t help but co-sign cause Ive been doing my due diligence trying to save myself. I thought I was being narcissistic thinking they were hating. I don’t feel they put weight on my struggles even though I’m drowning in trauma and asking (and PAYING) for help. And I totally feel you on not knowing what aspe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:48 PM
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I’m actually breaking up w my therapist tomorrow. I’m in the exact same place months later. This is probably my 6th therapist. They all make me feel gaslighted and invalidate my real feelings and rational reactions to the situations that I’m in, without giving absolutely no insight. I don’t see me going back... Can you elaborate on feminine healing modalities?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:18 PM
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Because of the way I was socialized and traumatized, I introspect to a debilitating degree, I’m always plagued with guilt at the most minute interactions and worried about hurting other peoples feelings, so to see someone be flagrantly disrespectful of my feelings is intolerable. The fucking nerve. Entitlement makes me vom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:24 PM
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I hollered at “you’re going to drop me aren’t you”, I imagine their tap dancing coming to a slow disappointed halt Yeah unseeing what you clearly see will never work, it’ll shrivel up your heart. The instinct to run will save you. People who settle sometimes seem like they’re having a good time, but I don’t think they are...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:04 AM
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Yes studious tomboys winning!!!! But eventually I still got entrapped by narcissists. Most dudes stayed away because i say it like it is but not in a tough guy way, more in a “look, it’s right there, what do you mean you don’t see it?” socially inept aka honest kind of way. the wide berth they gave me made me inexperienced and naive when the crazies decided to pursue... eyes are wide open again tho and I’m so grateful to be back. Go us we made it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:58 AM
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“But the only way to guard against it is to shed our weird cultural blindness to manipulative male behavior.” Thanks for sharing this, it’s a gold mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:53 AM
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Yes!!! They’re asking for clear directions to where they can corner you again and not give away the rest of their schemes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:40 AM
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I’m sorry you went through that. Most men are at least a little bit of manipulative sociopaths, and I say this without hyperbole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:39 AM
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Thank you!!! I have always said men are bad actors. From teenhood on, ive always felt like most men were acting when interacting with women and no one seemed to notice??? I think it’s because I missed a lot the indoctrination that was supposed to tell me they were above me, smarter, funnier, etc and I was naturally never drawn to them or interested in their company or attention. It’s what I mean when I say men aren’t people. They are fake in the presence of women. I can see it and they can see m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:37 AM
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You can’t hurl fatphobic insults at a single individual. Some of you are ok hurting other women to get your jokes off about a man. In your words “fat women STILL look better than fat men”. He isn’t going to see this, but a lot of fat women will. I’m sure that’s worth it to you. Fuck fat women’s self esteem, amirite? You get’em skinny queen!!! You are so much more attractive and high value than fat women!!! /s Side note: I fully support letting men know they’re ugly, but I’m not taking women down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:31 PM
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Humans have all this frontal lobe and they choose to be animals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:13 AM
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He was probably embarrassed that you witnessed and thought he could regain a shred of pride by forcing you to interact with him. What a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:10 PM
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Got it, TY! That makes me feel a little better, makes it more open ended, and a lobotomy less urgent lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:01 PM
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Oh got it ty!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:37 PM
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Yes, and I’m asking whether Margaret elaborates and gives insight as to how we can expel the male gaze from within ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:06 PM
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Yeah that’s what I think. This excerpt makes it sound as if there’s no undoing this, so I wanted to see if she had elaborated on that. It would be really sad to have to accept that. I am constantly nagged by the feeling that I only like how I look because men like how I look. I don’t feel that way about my personality, or any other aspect of myself, just my looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:58 PM
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Does she say we can’t get the man out of our heads? Edit: thinking about it more, it occurs to me that men also have a little man in their heads and a woman too. Most men lack a sense of self, so they’re obsessed with what men think of them and what they think women think of them. Glad to think they’re suffering too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:22 PM
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I cannot fathom the intention behind this... diff women seem to get pegged for different things. It’s probably something random and irrational af that makes them reduce you to a stereotype
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:46 PM
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I wish lol might vary by the vibe a person puts out or location
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:44 PM
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Eww literally momming you without a second thought...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:21 PM
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Omg that sounds so scary, glad nothing happened! I scamper at any slow moving vehicles. I’d rather look crazy than get grabbed up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:18 PM
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That is too funny😂😂 questioning you on something he claimed not to know, that is bonkers they never cease to amaze
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:42 AM
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You made me realize that a lot of their needs probably come from genuine incompetence or handing off the trouble of figuring something out random women in the vicinity....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:40 AM
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I’m always happy to help women on the rare chance I’m needed. And when I need help in public, I only approach women. I don’t extend that curtesy to men though because they tend to abuse it and I’m not taking chances. But I def don’t think you should feel bad about needing help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:39 AM
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And I’m sure they did it at a decent distance and weren’t creepy. I’m scared to be pregnant in public. Men’s abuser senses ramp up when they see pregnant people. Vulnerability in general makes the devil within come out. Congrats on your baby :3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:29 AM
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I say “hi thank you” when I get in the car, and when they go “how’s your day been” I pretend I don’t hear them even if I’m not wearing headphones. My demeanor clearly communicates “don’t want to talk”, it’s a clear boundary and I don’t mind disrespecting anyone who doesn’t respect me. Taxi men love to corner women in conversation. They got the wrong bitch with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:17 AM
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They’re not actually listening or it’s a power play or it turns them on and it’s always a means of siphoning attention/energy off women. They are so desperate for attention/validation from women, they’re argue nonsense just to get it. Nothing is a bigger fuck your that silence/block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:54 PM
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