Post-Posadism Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Would you like to live in a post gender society? a world where [prescriptive / normative] gender roles are completely gone and everyone is allowed to live as they please with no limiting rules or expectations based on gender Very much yes, I suspect this would be a good north star objective for feminist advocacy, given that the most consistent definition of feminism appears to me to be "abolition of the institutions and norms which emanate from patriarchal dynamics" (including rigid gender archetypes). a world where we all had the same genital…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 03:33 AM
5	Many young women HIGHLY undervalue 'safe and predictable' behavior which incentivizes more toxic behavior that those same women love to complain about I think anyone will think it's slightly awkward if one shares emotional vulnerability without some degree of reciprocation. Similarly, it can also be awkward if one refuses to express some vulnerability after letting someone confide in you - it's sometimes important in difficult moments to have a moment of solidarity where we each see each others' human imperfections, anxieties and struggles. A mismatch on this point creates an oddly lopsided dynamic that is more like parent-child attachment tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/26 03:00 AM
2	Marriage is a substitute for love. Governments having record of who your life partner is isn't always a bad thing. For instance, it simplifies immigration and emigration together, as well as inheritance and medical decision rights. It can also yield tax and pension benefits. The institution of marriage has a troubling history and originated from some problematic premises, sure. But if you love someone and trust someone to the extent that they're your life partner, and you want to make sure that authorities know that in case you n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 02:14 PM
1	Women's preferences in men seem to be eerily shaped by "late stage capitalism" Totally with you on coordination with a broader socialist project and the merits of rooting feminism in academic foundations. Also can generally agree that the sort of "Barbie movie feminism" is shallow and misses the most important points about gender inequality in favour of more trivial critique, and at its worst can play into forms of gender essentialism. Perhaps it's more that I am not willing to surrender the term feminism, which insofar as I'm concerned can be summarised as "abolition of p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/26 08:31 AM
5	Women's preferences in men seem to be eerily shaped by "late stage capitalism" Notice that this argument is that "women can often be bad feminists" rather than an argument against feminism or for patriarchy. The academic feminist critique of patriarchy is still valid and still worth acting upon, even if many (both men and women) are not yet fully on board in practice. I don't really know what you mean when you say "women as a collective." The majority of women in the USA don't call themselves feminists, so if you're generalising all women down to one archetype, it won't ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/26 04:30 AM
2	Why is slut shaming wrong? Because it results in a whole host of potential negative consequences and accomplishes no positive consequences. Let's start with the latter. Promiscuity is both legal and ethically victimless. You don't have to participate, and you don't have to engage sexually with those who do. But for those who choose to, they're making a decision about how they think they can maximise their happiness, using their own body, which they have every right to choose what to do with (whereas you have no right to c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 06:11 AM
1	"Rizz" is not an actual thing I have a feeling "rizz" could be interpreted more likely as a simulacrum of charisma rather than simply being shorthand for it. Charisma is a description of one's likeability or charm in the way one interacts with other people, and usually has to be a natural product of one's own idiosyncrasies. "Rizz," however, seems to often refer to a playbook practiced and mimicked when flirting, a pastiche imitation of what people think being smooth is (but thus, because it is being imitated, not being actu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/25 12:57 AM
2	What's your ideal world ? Postgenderism. By this I mean a society wherein a wide variety of different performed identities exist along many different spectra, where each individual gets to choose how they present themselves without their choice being reduced into one of two archetypes according to which they are summarily treated. Everyone determines their own unique identity and chooses their way of presenting it. Then we all go out into the world and meet people in a more socially cohesive society with greater social t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 09:56 AM
11	Most women want to be loved, but they dont want to love. There are women who go to the ends of the earth for their partner, even when it's clearly disadvantageous for them to do so - just as there are men who do the same. There are women who remain loyal to (or think that they can still "fix") abusers, people who prostitute them, cheaters, neo-Nazis, cultists, prisoners, gamblers, addicts, people with significant health complications, I could go on. Clearly in such cases there is some motivation beyond material, transactional gain, and this is somethi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/25 03:00 PM
2	Yes, women do like assholes more than nice guys, its not just because they're physically attractive Boldness, ambition and confidence are generally considered attractive not because they are "dark triad lite" but rather because they generally correlate with being active rather than passive. If you take a more active role in changing the world around you - especially if you do it based upon altruistic rather than narcissistic motivations - you will naturally be more interesting and compelling than someone who simply "lets the world happen to them." This is because, when you act more significant…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 10:11 AM
1	It's so exhausting to be with ANY man (even the good ones) Yeah, on that I think we're generally in agreement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 06:30 PM
1	It's so exhausting to be with ANY man (even the good ones) I suppose what I would say is that this could all be enveloped into a conversation about narcissism more broadly, because relationships with narcissists of all stripes can often follow these patterns - "you have to meet my emotional needs in the exact tone I want, but I don't want to care about reciprocating because [insert excuse here]." My impression is that you are identifying - correctly, I think - that men are statistically more likely to be narcissistic (diagnosed or undiagnosed), that bei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 03:39 PM
3	It's so exhausting to be with ANY man (even the good ones) Couldn't this really be any person, of any gender? I would imagine that many people have a sense of reliance or find some stability in their partners, and thus are particularly sensitive to their opinion, care and affirmation. Many want to be particularly delicate around their partners because they want to have that role in their life - and yes, often envision being treated with delicacy in return. But even if one finds it fulfilling or beautiful, it does involve effort, and I suppose that could…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 02:05 PM
1	The true problem with today's society is women have been radicalized far more than men Then I support "radicalising" more people into critical thinking, nuance and academic method.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 07:40 PM
–	Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having them It's ok - and normal - for people to want a relationship, feel sad that they don't have one, and feel pessimistic in the aftermath of rejection. It's also ok for people to be frustrated with aspects of their appearance or personality that they feel make them unattractive to people they're attracted to, especially when they don't feel they chose or can change those characteristics. It is ethical to treat people who struggle in these matters with compassion and encouragement where we can, and not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/25 05:08 PM
2	"Even if I Got a Girlfriend, She'll Always Want Someone Else" - Is This An Example of Low Self Esteem/Insecurity? People are not simply a stat sheet. Yeah, being rich or tall or attractive might help you make a good first impression, but it's your idiosyncrasies that someone will find comfort in and fall in love with. Perhaps the issue is when you doubt that there is any uniqueness or individuality to yourself, which could be seen as a form of insecurity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 12:06 PM
–	Men on lesbian apps. I’m tired of it Can't you just swipe away the people you don't like? Isn't that kinda the point? Like seriously, if simply seeing someone who you (mis)gender as male on a dating app that advertised itself as explicitly inclusive to trans and non-binary people triggers you, you're the one being a snowflake here. Your only contention, given that you have the power to dismiss as many of them as you want, would appear to be with trans and non-binary people (and possibly men too) merely existing in front of you. Tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/24 11:04 AM
1	The Myth of Tradlife and Tradwives Well, yeah, unacademically idealising (and mimicking) any past epoch does tend towards romanticised perceptions of those ages rather than their actual reality. Idealising the 1950s is no different. That doesn't mean romanticist movements are inherently bad - various cultural "neoclassicisms" in music, architecture and the like have had artistic merit, and if a distorted view of a different era produces a newly inspired vision that two people both live by (or at least try out and see how it goes)…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/24 01:56 AM
1	Can we finally end the objectification nonsense? Can't we think critically? We're a sexually reproducing living thing. We have a biological imperative crucial to our very existence and sense of well being to sexually reproduce or at least emulate it. We do so with the living objects we're attracted to. i.e. We're subjects, and it's worth remembering that the person we're engaging in such activities with is also a subject themselves too. Objectification is not simply "being an object in any procedure" but rather reducing someone to an object, in other words forgetting or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 12:24 PM
1	If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up? Personally, my advice would be to step back from dating for a bit, harness your uniqueness into something tangible, and then go from there. It doesn't matter what you're interested in doing, or the media you interact with, or the things you think about, but do something with it. Make something. Express something artistically. Get something published or self-publish something online. With something to demonstrate the essence of who you are and what you're about, you can make your personality and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 03:48 AM
–	The more you meet women, the more you realize they're all the same Trends exist. The fact that a demographic of similarly-aged people in the same place and time engage with similar pop culture, technological apparatus and social behaviour is not surprising. Men have trends too - many of which are exactly the same as the trends amongst women. None of this means that all men or all women are all the same. If you expect someone who is significantly off the beaten path, then you are unlikely to find them if you are not genuinely working on building your own excepti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 04:36 PM
3	One of the smartest comments on here recently really resonated with me about the current social environment This is absolutely true, and it's in large part because we have a societal deficiency in trust. There are many factors to this deficiency and much of it is systemic, either to the alienation of our economic order, or the dangers of institutional misogyny, both of which depersonalise, objectify or stratify us. So in a society of distrust (and commodification), if you make someone have to make a snap judgement about someone in an instant, even if the first impression isn't necessarily bad, the oth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 06:01 AM
1	Is true love even real…? We aren't static. All the time we are developing and changing and becoming - in varying directions - as people, and this development is often heavily influenced by those around us. Thus two people choosing to sync their development together may well over time intertwine them in terms of who they are and who they want, in many ways what they become being in part tailored to the other person within that relationship. Thus even if if a romantic prospect can almost always be outdone on the initial i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/23 11:57 PM
1	Men who want to be loved for "who they are" and not "what they provide" are not being reasonable When you make friends, do you befriend them because of the things they give you? Or do you befriend them because you find them to be interesting or relatable people? I hope, for your own sake, that your friends are your friends because something about them resonates with you that you either can identify with, or that you want to come to identify with. I think when we want to be loved for how we think and live (in essence, who we "are") - and by "we" I include both men or women - we essentially m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/23 05:32 AM
1	Would you date the opposite gender versiomof yourself? Over anybody else I can imagine off the top of my head, god yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 08:36 PM
2	Q for men only : Can you ever see a woman as an equal? I occasionally come to this subreddit and I am honestly really saddened and baffled when I see a post like this. I'm male and the same age as you, but quite honestly I don't even really consider someone by their gender at all unless it's a specifically gendered context - like pursuit of romance and so forth. Like, if I have a male professor or a female professor, I do not notice or treat either differently; if I'm reading or citing something by a man or a woman, again I don't tend to consider th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/22 01:57 AM
3	People who complain about the pull yourself up by your bootstraps philosophy will still use it for dating. I grew up poor and black in an inner city neighborhood and now I’m a wealthy entrepreneur! Clearly the reason you’re still working at McDonalds is your laziness. The point here is that socialists and progressives acknowledge that there are systems and institutions which have a major impact on one's social mobility, to the disadvantage of some over others. The social consequences of class, race, community, environment, etc. And consequently, we should account for and seek to change these systems …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 07:17 AM
5	Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enough Precisely.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 10:37 AM
4	Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enough This an incredibly toxic off-hand remark. You are pushing for levels of atomisation that are not productive or realistic for society. The world is both a kinder and happier place when family members support eachother, and don't try to outsource that support for an hourly rate. And to claim that any need for support or reassurance is inherently manipulative or abusive is really quite disgusting especially to the victims of actual abuse, who are left further isolated and gaslighted into feeling li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/22 02:05 AM
1	Why is it harder for average man to move on from a relationship ? I think this is it. Cultural gender norms prescribe that men repress their emotions and remain stoic, leaving their issues forever unresolved and bottled up. Sometimes, faced with these unhealthy expectations of them, some men might revert to self-destructive practices like drinking so as to retain the appearance of masculinity. Needless to say, that is pretty toxic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/22 08:43 AM
0	The issue of moving bars When one (male, female or other) views finding a partner as shopping for the perfect product, kitted out with all the right specifications, the process is generally superficial, underwhelming and unforgiving. The human is commodity; dating is commanded by spectacle. When another (male, female or other) finds a partner through natural convergence in experiences and passions, naturally developing closer towards one another, the process can prove both more rewarding and more authentic in sentiment.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/22 02:34 AM
10	While I can sympathize with men and how they feel about the lack of sex/intimacy, a lot of men are simping extremely hard and don’t even realize it, and men’s intense desire for women is only pushing women away I think I know what you mean, and I'd call it perhaps an example of the spectacle engorging relationships between human beings. As relationships are increasingly societally commodified in the advance of neoliberal capitalism, there is a noticeable shift in an individual's approach to love and relationships from emphasis on "situation" to emphasis on "spectacle." When humans are evaluated as commodities, the trap in which dating and interpersonal relationships generally are rapidly falling into, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/22 01:23 AM
1	Dating and the Marketisation of Everything It is not so much the technologies themselves and moreso the ways in which we interact with them and eachother, i.e. the types of protocols which said technologies will inevitably accentuate. In the present day, our perception is increasingly conditioned to revolve more strictly around profitability in a market model, sign value (pursuit of things due to the supposed social prestige we personally obtain from association with that thing), and spectacle (deriving of pleasure not from experiences a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/22 10:48 PM
2	Women do not love men or sex. There's nothing wrong with them, its just human nature. The way we understand "love" is inescapably human, and even highly subjective and variable within humanity. There is no use trying to universalise love or tie it to some sort of pseudo-evolutionary metanarrative, because the ways we love and express that love for other human beings is neither instinctual nor uniform, rather an interpretative reflection of other socially experienced and observed phenomena. As for sex drive: as a grey-ace man myself, I can guarantee that there are women who exist,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/22 10:21 PM