Potential-Item5629 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	The female fantasy of the ”mate-bond”	Question For Men	Potential-Item5629	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 09:29 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin? It is way better never having made a move on a woman than having made multiple moves and been rejected multiple times. OP will not come off as a player not as desperate. When he feels confident that a girl is into him and finally makes a move, multiple women will vouch for him and tell that girl how lucky she is. He is playing the long game, even if he doesn’t realize it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 11:29 AM
3	What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin? A green flag. He has many female friends > many women have approved of him > he is safe to date. I would assume that the lack of experience being due to one of two things - being asexual - having chosen celibacy Since there is a possibility that he is asexual, I would be extra sensitive considering if he expresses any sort of attraction or interest towards me. If he doesn’t, I would be careful not to flirt in order to not bother him. Celibacy could be an active choice, like waiting for the one (…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 10:08 AM
3	What do you think of the recent trend of female dating content types pushing the idea that mens dating woes are the result of "capitalism" and material inequality? I think they have made the correct analysis. Throughout history, most common men have had dating problems. Matrimony have been reserved for those who can afford it. Men died as canon fodder in unnecessary wars and women died in childbirth giving heirs to those who could afford them. The only historical exception to this was the relatively socialist and collectivist society envisioned by the missionary generation, realized by the greatest generation and squandered by the boomer generation. Like s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 04:56 AM
1	It's better to be the mistress than the wife If you’re the “whore,” you’re free and get the positive side of a man, rather than being tied down as the overworked mother and boring wife. I don’t consider sex to be the only, or even main ”positive side of a man”. A good relationship is so much more than sex. The positive sides of a man include parenting, philosophizing over morning coffee together, house projects, cuddling after a long day, planning and dreaming together, playing rock-scissors-paper about who should go get groceries in bad w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 05:06 AM
9	What do you like about your husband/bf? I like that he refuses to acknowledge that I am not the most beautiful woman in the world. No matter how much I tell him to be serious and that we can be honest with each other he keeps that illusion up and has done so consistently throughout the whole of our relationship. Good days and bad days. It’s annoying and it’s a lie but it’s a sweet lie and I love him for it. I like that he is interested in my ideas and laughs at my jokes. I like that he always play along when I flirt with him, no matte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 03:39 PM
9	The female fantasy of the ”mate-bond” Yes, cultural anxieties often manifests as disgust. Thanks for proving my point dear.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 12:12 PM
2	The female fantasy of the ”mate-bond” While it might not be symmetrical in that both parties put in equal effort in each story, it is symmetrical in that both man and woman are affected by the mate bond and bound by it to each other. Both experience the loyalty and forsake all others. I completely agree with portrayals where women are displaying effort and agency are more interesting than those who lack it, and that it would be nice seeing more quality monogamy in works made for men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 12:05 PM
5	The female fantasy of the ”mate-bond” You don’t need to look far, just scroll down and you will find a comment by Independent Mail stating: “The problem is not the a life before but the life before being whoredom. “ A typical example of a male trying to shame/prevent females from taking an advantage of having access to quantity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 11:58 AM
2	The female fantasy of the ”mate-bond” That grr my woman thing is incredibly sexy tbh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 11:48 AM
8	The female fantasy of the ”mate-bond” This is so interesting. Especially since there seem to be a lot of anxiety from men surrounding the idea that women generally would have access to that kind of quantity, and there seems to be efforts to culturally police that access. The mate-bond is symmetrical in a way that the harem isn’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 10:58 AM
3	The female fantasy of the ”mate-bond” I think “the mate bond” is somewhat different from love at first sight. It doesn’t have to happen immediately, sometimes it does, but sometimes it “snaps into place” after the characters have already interacted for a long time. It has more to do with being destined to be together than instant attraction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 10:52 AM
0	Most women want socially liberal men who are capable of engaging in “benevolent misogyny “. Women, like men, have both the capacity for instinct and for reasoning. Having instincts about your match being tall, rich, goodlooking and dominant being good is not wanting ”benevolent misogyny”. Just like having instincts about your match having big boobs, wide hips, good looks and nurturing personality being good is not is not wanting ”benevolent misandri”. Instincts are instincts. We can’t help being born with them but we also do not have to be slaves under them. We can choose to disregard …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 09:02 AM
5	You're single until you're married. This should be the top comment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 05:05 AM
2	What's something you've personally seen a man do, that's also something pretty much any man can do, that made him significantly more desirable to women? I don’t think you are going to get the same results reading and taking an interest in a magazine about programming as reading and taking a real interest in the topics discussed in cosmopolitan, no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 06:05 AM
1	What's something you've personally seen a man do, that's also something pretty much any man can do, that made him significantly more desirable to women? What would ”doing the opposite” entail here?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 05:51 AM
-1	What's something you've personally seen a man do, that's also something pretty much any man can do, that made him significantly more desirable to women? For the person who was doubting this, a public example would be Damien Powers and Francesca Farago ”bonding over Botox” in the Netflix ”after the altar” special. Very cosmo of him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 05:41 AM
-1	What's something you've personally seen a man do, that's also something pretty much any man can do, that made him significantly more desirable to women? Start reading cosmopolitan, Elle or a similar women’s magazine and really take an interest in the topics treated, such as health, horoscopes, fashion, home decor, beauty and cooking. Being fluent in talking about the topics many women like to talk about and displaying real skill in them is attractive. A man that understands, values and practices an intricate skin care routine, takes a real interest in what kind of candles would compliment your living room and cooks the healthy yet delicious dish…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 05:01 AM
31	Most dating problems wouldn't exist if women were into men So most problems men face is because females have their own weird female attraction pattern and not a healthy normal male attraction pattern? There is a very simple solution to your problem. If you are a man and are looking to date people with male attraction patterns. Simply date men. Problem solved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/26 11:41 AM
2	Why are women so attracted to talent? Yes, it’s a thing. Why? Evolution.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/26 08:13 AM
6	Do heterosexual men and heterosexual women have the same perception of the world? It is kind of interesting that your post was made at almost the same time as the ”why-are-women-so-attracted-to-talent”-post. I would recommend you to read it. There seems to be several men posting here who pities themselves for not being able to arouse desire in women by their looks alone. So, women in general might be attracted to a wider spectrum of characteristics than just looks alone. That doesn’t mean they find men disgusting. They get to a similar level of attraction and arousal by takin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/26 08:09 AM
1	How hard do you think it is actually is to become a ladies man? It depends on the person. The question could just as well have been ”how hard is it to land a high-paying job?” For some people it just falls onto their lap, and they can do it with very little effort. Others struggles and claw themselves there by spilling blood, sweat and tears. And for some it is not achievable no matter how hard they try. It all depends on your circumstances, what kind of luck you were born with basically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 10:13 PM
1	What parts of hypergamy do you disagree with? Yes, but to a varying degree. Take Norway and South Korea for example. It is going to be much easier to form a long term relationship in Norway since South Korea is more hyper capitalist. Meaning it is more difficult to make ends meet due to higher extraction of value from the work force = less resources left for the common people to use for building their lives. With limited time, money and opportunities, forming a twosome is harder. Without subsidized childcare the monetary requirement to be a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/26 07:40 AM
0	What parts of hypergamy do you disagree with? I don’t know. I only ever knew one woman like that and she clearly did have issues. And I think she sort of knew that they weren’t into her long term only she went into it anyway. All my other friends and myself never had any issues knowing. Some women slept with men like that for fun, but occasionally and far between. I never did. I always wanted a life-mate. Maybe the society you live in is more hyper capitalist than the one where I live.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/26 07:07 AM
0	What parts of hypergamy do you disagree with? Most women know how to spot a guy that is not interested in having anything long term with them. The ones who have delusions on the level you are describing typically have mental health issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/26 06:46 AM
0	What parts of hypergamy do you disagree with? First of all, ”liberal” and ”left” is not the same thing. During the Cold War era, socialist Europe had extremely high marriage rates and earlier age at first marriage than liberal Europe. Socialist Europe also had a very low share of permanent singlehood. At age 50, typically less than 5% had never been married. After the collapse of socialism age at first marriage rose sharply and marriage rates collapsed. The part of hypergamy that I disagree with is that a culture that promotes casual sex co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/26 06:27 AM
2	Is the right to Abortion more about a woman's body autonomy, or simply dodging responsibility? No. But if you don’t get it - you don’t get it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/26 08:08 PM
5	Is the right to Abortion more about a woman's body autonomy, or simply dodging responsibility? Men are not required to give up a kidney if his kid needs a transplant to stay alive. Even if he would die himself, and somehow be under perfect circumstances for organ donation his kid can’t have the kidney if he was against organ donation while alive. Being against abortion is the idea that the dead body of the father have more rights than the pregnant mother.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/26 07:33 PM
6	Dressing for myself. This idea of ”exclusive visual access” isn’t as normal as you would like to think OP, but a rather peculiar kink. At least outside of the different religious communities that have strict cultural norms around modesty. Think of it as requesting that your partner wear a dog collar and a leash for you. Most women probably perceive what you’re asking for somewhat similar to that. Rather than introducing this kink on to average women and hoping for someone to be open to it, try to find your kink-comm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/26 07:27 PM
1	Why is virgin used as an insult if sex and relationships are supposedly not important? Naturally, trying to harm others with insults or slurs is never cool or OK. OP took this particular insult in a literal way, and therefore perceived it as a ”damned if you do - damned if you don’t situation”. I tried to clarify what is usually implied with said insult in order to explain that there is no real contradiction here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/26 12:04 PM
6	Is the right to Abortion more about a woman's body autonomy, or simply dodging responsibility? The idea that a pregnant woman should have less say than a dead person about who gets to use her organs is barbaric.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/26 08:59 AM
0	Why is virgin used as an insult if sex and relationships are supposedly not important? ”Virgin”/”incel” is sometimes used as shorthand for ”not bringing anything to the table”. When used as an insult it really has little to do with your actual sexual history. Women generally like men that contribute in ways that elevate her social status. It can be by being wealthy enough to by her status goods such as expensive clothing or vacations. It could also be that a man is beautiful and eye-candy on her arm. Or being someone who takes an interest in performing well in the areas women are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/26 06:18 AM
3	Too many men just want validation and admiration, not love. I think you touched on something important here, but it’s not only true for men, but people in general. Studies have shown that human beings generally feel better when they focus on contributing to their community rather than on trying to make themselves feel good. This has been shown in multiple studies. One example is test subjects reporting higher levels of happiness after being given money together with the instruction to spend it on others compared to when given money and instructed to spen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 09:27 PM
3	Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario Hints given through body language are usually pretty clear. When standing or sitting next to her, subtly shift closer and observe how she responds. Possible results: she shifts closer to you too (she’s interested), don’t move at all (she doesn’t notice you) or moves away (she’s not interested) Repeat at different occasions until you’re sure that what you see is a pattern and not coincidence. And voilà, you know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 06:24 PM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Thanks, but it’s not something one should need to be awarded for. It’s basic human decency.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 09:51 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 I’m a mom, I wouldn’t want anyone to treat my son that way, and I will teach my daughter not to treat people like that. My mom had a serious talk with me when I was a teen about how you don’t string boys along, and if you need to turn someone down you do it gently. It’s the golden rule really. I will not treat random men in a way I wouldn’t want random women to treat my brothers (or sons).	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 09:33 AM
–	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 That’s heartbreaking. Why be rude like that? It’s ok not to be interested but I don’t get why someone would be so mean about it. Her mom did a poor job teaching her manners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 09:14 AM
1	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives Thanks for explaining. I guess that even if the safety concerns are addressed the questionable commodification of human connection remains. And the capitalist interest would be to stunt the buyers in order to keep up demand and profits. I completely agree that the men are victims of a cruel mechanism here. Seems like true unregulated market logic. Breaking down priceless human functions is encouraged as long as the capitalist can make a few bucks selling you a crappy replacement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 07:18 AM
2	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives Why? This seems counterintuitive to me. One of the inherent problems with prostitution is that it comes with unacceptably high safety hazards. The work environment tends to be safer for online sex workers (less likely to be beaten, raped or murdered). I am very curious as to why you think the safer workplace should receive more stigma?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 06:41 AM
4	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives I’m well aware that my everyday consumption makes me complicit in the production of the goods I buy, and I try to make ethical choices. Buying locally produced, or from places with protective legislation in place. I recycle, and worry about carbon emissions and climate change the same way most people do. This isn’t strange. It’s normal. Just as workers organizing for safety regulations are normal. How do you think we got that kind of legislation to begin with? Workers organized and found safe wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 05:06 PM
8	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives My stance is abolish sex work entirely. Unless the sex workers themselves can create a safe environment that guarantees voluntary participation, consent, possibility to safely withdraw consent at any time and overall safety comparable to other jobs. Then legalization could be considered. Forcing someone to work in agriculture is not comparable to committing rape. When buying sex it is you yourself who are performing said rape if the person you are buying is not there of her own free will. It’s i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 03:20 PM
7	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives I don’t get it. If it is as you claim, that there are women out there who love doing sex work and are not pressured into it by financial reasons. And sex work is actually a very important humanitarian service they are providing. Then why don’t these women start a charity organization and do this as voluntary work? Like people do soup kitchens or teach kids how to play soccer? People do all kinds of work voluntarily to help the community and those in need. Cleaning, changing diapers, caring for t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 03:08 PM
9	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives Your source is speculative, mine is relying on data. And even if the data is somewhat imperfect, the overall picture is clear. Destigmatization leads to greater demand. If even you yourself is saying that ”nobody’s pretending that trafficking isn’t real”, you have to understand that a bigger market with greater demand will lead to more trafficking. As long as trafficking exists all clients are complicit, because there currently exist no reliable method for a client to know wether the sex worker …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 02:49 PM
6	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives How about your mother then? Would you be ok with mom shifting into the profession? Or if it would have been her main source of income while you grew up?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 02:22 PM
12	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives https://doi.org/10.1016/j.worlddev.2012.05.023 ”This paper investigates the impact of legalized prostitution on human trafficking inflows. According to economic theory, there are two opposing effects of unknown magnitude. The scale effect of legalized prostitution leads to an expansion of the prostitution market, increasing human trafficking, while the substitution effect reduces demand for trafficked women as legal prostitutes are favored over trafficked ones. Our empirical analysis for a cross…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 02:17 PM
14	FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narratives Personally, I don’t support sexworkers, and I don’t think sex work should be destigmatised. All available science show that when buying sex is legal and not stigmatised the (voluntary) supply can’t keep up with demand, which results in an increase in human trafficking. Buyers seem unable to tell the difference between trafficking victims and happy sex workers. Resulting in women being put through unspeakable horrors due to being tricked and forced into prostitution in order to create a supply to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 12:57 PM
3	Men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them! I’m not advocating for anyone to get surgery either, just to be clear. Nor to spend too much time or money on looks in general. I think your better off generally by paying attention to the inside rather than the outside of both yourself and others. But for the case of the argument, it’s normalized to have aesthetic procedures among those who can afford it, what is not normalized is to talk about it. Most aesthetics procedures are subtle and not questioned. It’s considered rude to ask about it. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 09:09 AM
2	Men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them! Women can do breast implants, but men can’t do anything about their facial structure? 👀 Is there a reason you think only women can get under the knife and have plastic surgery? Or is this simply you applying different standards of how much time, money and pain men and women could reasonably be expected to spend on this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 08:38 AM
-1	Men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them! Ok, so you’re basically saying that if women present themselves as slutty and healthy it increases their chances of getting casual sex. And you’re disappointed that men that present themselves as slutty and healthy don’t get the same results? I’m not sure you’re aware, but there is an array of ways men can present them selves to increase the attention they get from the opposite sex. It’s taking to the extreme in the PUA community and is about as respected among women as women who dress in short …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 08:22 AM
7	Why do women dislike the bottom 50% of men? ”Women” doesn’t dislike the bottom 50% of men. Most women would not agree with each other on which men belongs in the top 50% or bottom 50% either. Mean people are mean. And some of those people happen to be women. There are plenty of people out there who are kind, and treat you with decency no matter if the consider you to be more or less likeable than the average man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/25 12:08 PM
1	Feminist opposition to legal paternal surrender/paper abortion is clearly not actually about the best interests of the child, since it disappears the moment that a woman is exercising paternal surrender on the man's behalf When you create a child you create a cost, you are getting yourself into debt. Much like when take on a debt to buy a sports car. While I’m sympathetic to debt forgiveness in general - and I understand it must feel tough for men that have to pay for a child they created but don’t see or a sports car they bought but then wrecked - I’m concerned about the incentives of selectively writing of the debts that arise through male enjoyment. If anyone can walk away debt-free from their car payments on t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/25 04:14 AM
–	Are you smarter than your man? Of course I am. That’s a big part of why he loves me. I think mutual admiration is the most solid foundation for a healthy relationship. He admires my intelligence and I admire his artistic talent, among other things…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 06:51 PM
1	We are ignoring the reality of gender roles here on PPD I think that the real issue here is that the social status of a woman is connected to how well these chores are performed in a way that a man’s status is not - no matter who is performing said chores. Is your house tidy, well decorated and your table set with healthy and delicious food and fresh flowers? Then you’re a good woman. Is it clean, but not deep clean and the dinner doesn’t have veggies? Than you’re a bad woman. Even if you spent 80 hours at work that week and your stay-at-home-husband…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 06:41 PM
1	Why do some women like to play the field with top men before settling down with their match?? You fail to account for personal growth. Men in their 30’s are more likely than men in their 20’s to have put in the work needed to develop the characteristics that women find attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 11:52 AM
1	Why do some women like to play the field with top men before settling down with their match?? I only ever knew one woman who would fit your description of being a person who liked to ”play the field with top men before settling down”. Most didn’t do that. The overwhelming majority of women when I was young went from one committed relationship to the next, each time with the expectation that the relationship they were in at the moment could last for life until incompatibility was proven and the relationship ended. While single, they where not looking for casual intimacy but romance and th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 11:43 AM
–	I think a lot of male specific anxieties arise when a man feels like he's second place in very important areas to a woman he's dating If you’re very worried about that the obvious solution would seem to be to try date a girl without much prior relationship experience and not generally considered attractive by other men and shower her with your love, attention and affection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 02:02 PM
2	If women want men to be honest about their intentions then they should stop having different standards for casual vs a relationship. You’re making the assumption that all women are the same, and that a single woman is at the same time looking for casual sex and a committed relationship - just from different men. Try imagining that it’s not one woman looking for two different things a once, but two different women looking for different things in life. Let’s say identical twins, to make it easy. One twin only wants to date with the goal of establishing a longterm committed relationship and would never have casual sex. Her siste…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 01:24 PM