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you should lose weight, start by eating more broccoli and less chips and soda
/r/seduction14/07/26 02:07 PM
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(2/2) also it is validating to see that my own relationships via cold approach developed organically, whereas my friends who subsist off of dating apps ended up easily broken up with or quickly divorced. talking to women is a beautiful thing, don't let the morally ugly feminist witches pollute your ideals with their endless toxic shaming and endless deriding of all men as creeps btw, the OP is right about asking for instagram- I once asked an event manager boss for her linkedin, but instead she …
/r/seduction14/07/26 01:25 PM
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(1/2) before cold approaching, I always had this thought that if I'm rejected, the woman is gonna throw a fit on social media or to her friends on how an awful creepy man tried to talk to her in public, that i would be shamed or killed, yada yada yada but after 2 relationships, some phone numbers into the pocket and some failed or missed passes, you realize that some women are not only open to male attention, they are actually flattered to be spoken to- especially if you are foreign also, you ar…
/r/seduction14/07/26 01:19 PM
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dropping in for the fire tips bc i aint got no clue
/r/seduction14/07/26 12:52 PM
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How is it steep? Just go out of your way to talk to women every day and do incrementally more each time (chat for a bit longer, crack a joke, etc.) As long as you don't keep farming the same spot over and over and you can metabolize the rejections, the apprehension each time gets lower and lower. And you can simultaneously work on your technique (eg. cold reads, teasing, negging, etc) as your personal mental load drops The only difficult part is inverting/reframing your own brain on what it mean…
/r/seduction14/07/26 11:25 AM
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Women do not lust for men They just love the feeling of being loved by a strong and confident man I fail to see how your article proves this. I want to believe, dammit
/r/MGTOW204/09/20 01:54 AM
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I'm not necessarily looking into the smartest. I just want the most physically attractive and tallest. Why does everyone keep bringing up intellect?
/r/MGTOW227/08/20 01:23 AM
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I have no reason to exist. I am shameful, ugly, and unlikeable by anyone in my base state. The only reason why i have friends is because i have learned to mask my unpleasant self with self improvement. But that's not inherent to my genetics. My kids will start again at square zero. I can't let that happen. I will pay a surrogate and an egg donor if i have to (and honestly that seems like the only option with divorce rape on the rise).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 05:00 PM
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I have to have kids who are not ugly. Otherwise i have no other reason to exist I have to prepare them for life. I have to make sure that the same problems i faced don't befall them. I'm not progressing fast enough. I care about laycount but i'm not good enough on my own genetic value to keep a bitch. I need to improve myself and make sure that my kids aren't incels with low laycount and constant anxiety like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 03:44 PM
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Yeah but what if I'm a simp deep down and just non-circumstantially a misogynist? I refuse to spend money on women because my mother kept trying to divorce rape my dad. I refuse to align myself with a woman's POV because I keep recalling my parent's relationship and how my mom repeatedly insisted that it wouldn't change if my dad stopped being avoidant, she would still hate him because he is short and ugly. Deep down I want to help my partner and be helped (interdependence). I hate cheating, whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 09:54 AM
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I definitely say sorry a lot for failing at personal goals! I apologize to my partner for failing at things I said I'd do (even if it doesn't really harm them- like learning a new skill or something). This is probably from perfectionist expectations from parents? I also firmly shut down the ensuing reassurances because I suspect it will make my partner tired, exhausted and angry with me (as it did make my mother). However I think this might be more adaptive than maladaptive since it makes me com…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 08:19 AM
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This errs dangerously close to rule 5 of this board. There is no such thing as 'getting lucky'. There is only 'I am intentionally blinding myself' versus 'I see the truth and am looking for a way to get on terms with it the stressors of reality'.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 09:40 AM
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I think the leftover dna thing is kinda bogus But i completely agree with the first 2. Foids are fucked Sooner trust a velcro bag than a foid
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 11:31 AM
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P sure all women are open to hookups as long as the guy is hot enough
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 10:19 AM
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I mean i hear you but i fail to see evidence of it happening. My friend is 28 and still having sex on the daily by being a horny fuccboi while working a dead end job
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 10:09 AM
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You haven't told me how fuccbois supposedly drive women toward mature stable individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 10:04 AM
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> it's going to give us better options (attractiveness) that still carry the same problems and risks Which problems and risks would those be
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 09:46 AM
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So what you're saying is that the world needs more fuccbois and fewer simps Fuccbois only leave them with feelings of confusion and being used so they're more likely to appreciate actual decent guys after being treated like human fleshlights. Wait give me an example. I haven't heard this one before, cant comment on its reliability at all
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 09:19 AM
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What you're asking is for the entire human population to forfeit their primal imperative. You would have better odds trying to breed a 8 legged frog that can survive on its own in the wild. Human civilisation is founded on intrigue, humor and deceit. As saddening as it it it's low iq to hate the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 09:15 AM
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Let's face it, even fuccbois give them the fantasy/pretense of commitment. The difference is that fuccbois know what's better for themselves and bail after sex, leaving women with that same inflated sense of self lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 08:55 AM
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I didnt get to finish. She got tired
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 02:14 PM
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honestly foreplay tends to be ok, kissing and petting is very involved but it gets crappy when it comes to actual bed stuff how do you recommend i phrase my question post on r/sex, i've literally never been there before
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 09:14 AM
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early 20s, none above 25
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 09:05 AM
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Ok but for the entirety of my dating life, TRP has been telling me that the insecure women I've been dating were crazy. These same women have, at the same time, generally been really bad at bed stuff. They've mostly been pampered girls with minimal childhood social experience. So are they crazy or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 08:48 AM
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lmao i laughed hard, +rep i guess my insecurity got me good sis, never ever thought i should ask her before this
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 08:09 AM
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are you really expecting me to unblock and then dm my exe 'yo wy u suck me off for 20s and then get tired' after 5 years
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 06:05 AM
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ok how do i not disappoint the next girl, send tutorials/infographics I'm not kidding
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 06:04 AM
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Whats your definition of starfish? As i replied to another user I mean like my exes literally lay in bed and didn't do anything. Or sucked me off for 20 seconds and told me they were tired Like when it came to making out (kissing, etc) they were super involved but when it got to sex they just sort of lay there expecting me to do my thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 06:03 AM
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No when I mean starfish sex I mean like my exes literally lay in bed and didn't do anything. Or sucked me off for 20 seconds and told me they were tired Like when it came to making out (kissing, etc) they were super involved but when it got to sex they just sort of lay there expecting me to do my thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 06:01 AM
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Makes a lot of sense. Don't hate the player, comprehend the game
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 08:01 AM
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Mental calm is a self renewing resource. Money isn't Well i guess you do have a point. I wasnt taught to respect mental calm I was taught to disrespect it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:10 AM
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To be fair none of those three therapists had anything that could fix my insecurities anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 11:15 PM
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I've been through a lot of misery. I agree it am humble but i don't feel it teaches empathy, I'm still bad at detecting emotional cues over text from people Yeah i might be unconsciously avoidig healthier people
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:57 PM
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You're affirming me. Dat empathy, how do i learn this skill I dunno. It feels like I'm making friends with a lot of depressed people. I think my current company has really great people, the boss gives us a lot of space and it's a really nice place to be I still dunno how to heal myself from my childhood traumas tho
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:45 PM
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I don't feel comfortable relying on stuff that comes from myself. Well not if it isn't cross referenced anyway. but you do have a point regardless I kind of wish i was still a misogynist. Life was so much less erratic when i just followed TRP scripture out of blind bitterness. lots more self destructive but so much easier and less chaotic emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:37 PM
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Because if i'm not paying with money it implies that something about me (skill, aesthetics, etc) that doesn't involve a finite mometary resource is capable of pulling women on its own. I don't have a soul I don't think
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:24 PM
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Yeah i would rather hate myself than trust someone to love me. My mom used to pedestalize me and shit on my dad. She would make constant trigger prods when she was unhappy (you are just like your father) and go back to (you are nothing like him) if I went along with her frame. I think at the hardest and lowest point in my life she gave up and joined in with the bullies. It hurts a lot when you've been pedestalized for doing as she says and then suddenly none of it matters because you were ugly t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:22 PM
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TRP is important because it reminds me to do things that both my parents always told me to avoid. Namely building social proof, exercising for myself, approaching women, and so on. It was my saving grace from turning into some kind of complete inadequate. I'm terrified of letting go even if for a bit because i get constant sobering reminders from it. I don't understand why you are helping me, a man, when you proclaim yourself a misandrist. I am grateful but I don't understand at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:18 PM
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Then why did my mom and grandmother constantly insult my dad and hope he would die for being short fat and ugly Then why was i mercilessly avoided and bullied as a child for being fat There's too much pain associated with this, if I change my belief then i am going to die and all of those things are gonna happen again except 10x worse
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:12 PM
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Honestly sex isn't about the hottest girls for me. It's about validation. It's like a scoreboard where I use sex to feel like i deserve to be alive Paying completely removes the validation
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:07 PM
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What's fucked up is that you make sense but it's horrifying to even try to begin to believe you because the media I've been exposed to tells me that feminists are evil monsters out to divorce rape and false accuse men just like what my mother did to my dad Idk bro I feel like you understand the situation Honestly i just really want to cry. I dunno what to do. If i was still with the second ex do you think there would be a point in bringing up her weird hiding behavior or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:00 PM
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Changing to what? Being a cuck? Is that the end goal?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:49 PM
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I'm not at the 6'+ cutoff for height which means i am already genetically inferior, for one. I also have narrow forehead (skinnier than it is tall). My double eyelids are the only feature of my face that look like I paid for them, everything else is/was deformed in some way For example i had horrible tooth protrusions before braces, my eyes are some milimeters too wide apart, etc. Honestly I am legitimately quite ugly and am surprised I managed to get laid multiple times by two different girls. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:48 PM
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TRP definitely plays on my insecurities. It plays on the unresolved trauma and grief my mom's abuse and damaging marriage left on me. I don't think it's unfounded. Working out, improving your innate value and everything- those are real ways to increase your SMV. But it gets annoying when I have a legitimate conundrum to face and the only answer is 'READ SIDEBAR SHES CHEATING' I honestly think second ex was at the very least slightly more emotionally secure than the first one. Being with her I pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:37 PM
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It's not too late to find out why and how to make it better but what do I do to even get started? I've been looking up anxious attachment styles, DBT, etc. for the longest time but none of them stopped me from getting involved with these girls. I don't know how to change my core beliefs about myself because I feel it's dishonest to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:20 PM
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I'm saying I feel empty when I talk to a healthy girl. Whereas if I talk to a girl with a trauma bond I know I feel the same deep sadness/sense of endangerment in my gut that I don't know why I associate with an emotional connection. My exes professed to other guys calling them 'weird' before as I've had girls call me 'weird' before. I think it's a bizarre parallel that I never paid enough attention to. Or are you just trying to understand why? Part of me, the neurotic part, believes healthy rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:16 PM
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Would be cool if you could, like, point me in a direction or something
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:01 PM
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Say I believe you for a second. How do I learn security of self? What resources do i pursue
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:00 PM
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Why the fuck would a securely attached person ever want to give me a chance lmao That sounds like pity
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:58 PM
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Keep talking. You are making sense and I need more of the sense that you are making
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:54 PM
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If you're routinely telling yourself that there's no way your partner actually loves and cares about you, why would you feel bad when the opportunity to cheat, (in other words have your attraction validated), appears ? Yeah. I can relate. They probably related to this too. Being unresponsive to reassurance has been my forte for the longest time. I also cant believe anyone would truly love me or be attracted to me. Why am i struck with this illness?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:53 PM
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Vetting for women who are not like that isn't a problem. It's connecting with them. I was able to rapidly build rapport and connect to both of my exes because we shared similar trauma bonds. Non trauma bond girls find me strange or weird but can never tell me what is wrong with me. I also notice a pattern in the type of girls that I feel attracted to and who respond instantaneously to my advances: Eldest sibling in the family Depressed younger brother who hits his head against the wall to reliev…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:48 PM
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I don't expect women to fix me. I agree that I should fix myself and in fact my exes encouraged me to do so. That I am thankful for but why do they do all the other shit? This is how i approach a relationship, and generally this is how they go for me. I go into a relationship looking for sex for validation (and also pleasure i guess but it's more for the validation) She makes wild promises of monogamy and shit She starts revealing crazy non monogamous habits I get mad and emotionally withdraw bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:38 PM
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I feel like there's no way out of my insecurities. I'm not sure why. Let me ponder that. Tell me about why insecure people tend to chear more
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:32 PM
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Thank you for being honest. I feared as much
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:30 PM
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Should men have empathy? Am I attracting unempathetic women because I myself am empathetically challenged?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 03:07 PM
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Can TRP be consistent or some shit? When I was on TRP way back, the instruction was 'ignoring women when they do shit to make you unhappy'. It worked and i got sex. Now you are telling me it doesn't work. The fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:55 PM
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I have spoken to 3 therapists brother. It doesn't matter though because TRP says low self esteem is a lie and i just need to add value and all i need to do is read sidebar
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:53 PM
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I am fearful avoidant Yes, these girls were avoidant as well. But what does that have to do with this bizarre behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:51 PM
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No, repeating the SAME THING OVER AND OVER will 100% make me go mad. Maybe it's my fault and I am not asking the right questions. What are these women trying to get by having sex with me and then being attracted to other guys in front of me, when I feel so horrendously ugly inside?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:50 PM
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Look i don't want trp men in here waxing lyrical about the same thing. I KNOW. It hurts a lot. Cool it. I need an alternative POV as well or else I'll actually go fucking insane
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:39 PM
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That's for chad only lol but the bluepillers will call me an incel for saying that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:37 PM
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> For a lifetime? Or for a few weeks. For 6 months, each > Because you will never get that. I agree. Two of my friends have gotten that, though. They've somehow managed to get their foreign girlfriends to pick them up at the airport and pay for their shit or something
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:28 PM
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> A secure person does not go through life lying to their loved ones, friends, family. So to be able to get a committed relationship I just had to be secure by not having a neurotic mother?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:24 PM
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I would agree with you, except that, neither of these women felt I owed them money. They DID seem excited if I told them about aspirations that implied richness, but they always paid for themselves on dates and whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:21 PM
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Some men resent that they’re only good looking enough to get sex in a relationship just like some ( the minority) choose to date seriously despite being able to get sex without doing that. I definitely fall into the former category and wish I was in the latter category.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 01:45 PM
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It's like I wish it wasn't so, but my trauma and past experience insists it is. My emotions flip flop constantly and I wish I had some kind of stabilizing agent or some kind of conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:13 PM
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No, I am certain of it. Girls say 'committed relationship/exclusive' and then continue generating backup plans in the back. This is exactly what my mom did while married to my dad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:07 PM
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Sad concept but important to note, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 11:16 AM
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That's an ancient standard. Look at the sheer degree of cheating edating has brought us
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 11:14 AM
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That's exactly my point, it feels like there is no such thing as a good enough tree. And that's both simultaneously painful and pressurizing. I have too many innate flaws in me. I'm not over 6'. I have some mismatching facial features and imperfect skull. I have good skin i guess. I will be continuing to build my status and understanding of the world, but no matter how financially reliable i become I can never acquire things I was never born with. I know the bar is really high because my dad is …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 07:11 AM
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Yep I noticed this as well hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:55 AM
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That sounds ridiculous and impossible. Didn't they ever try to betray each other? How did they cope when the other did?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:52 AM
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Tell me more about how your parents treated you. Given all the pain i have been through i am heavily skeptical but i need entertain contradictory possibilities
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:45 AM
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Honestly I wish monogamy were true, but it's too idealistic. What makes you feel so strongly for such a flimsy concept
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:07 AM
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It's not even his question. Also considering that at least 50% of couples have experienced cheating, you may want to redress the idea that loyalty is a core value to a lot of people. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 05:54 AM
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I only say it when she explicitly tells me she's feeling insecure. I abhor complimenting people in general. Give me examples of when is it solicited, and why her expressing her insecurity about her looks to me is not an example of it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 05:52 AM
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Makes sense, my mom was extremely socially dysfunctional lol On a deeper note what should I read up on to understand this pro social behavior and future investment concept
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 05:48 AM
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Wealth doesn't last for many generations anyway, who really cares lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 05:46 AM
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Is it out of natural desire or own free will though? Honestly as a kid I'd never had a preference either way. My mom was inconsistently monogamous/polygamous and society was always monogamous so this led to a lot of confusion for me growing up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 05:32 AM
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Why would it benefit the upper class? SMV is based on LMS- looks, money and status. The upper class easily has much better access to all three of these things. The upper class also has more resources with which to categorically abuse all 3 of these tenets in greater frequency. Why would monogamy benefit the upper class? Wouldn't polgamy benefit their ability to abuse all these things better and in a more frequent scale?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 05:30 AM
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Explain
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 05:28 AM
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Yep, i guess it does connect back to the redpill concept that women dislike men who show commitment and exclusivity. What made you change? Is it now accepting commitment and exclusivity from multiple men instead of completely none of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 04:53 AM
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That's not really exhibiting attraction though, that's borderline bragging. Which I am not a stranger to lol i guess that's bad too Idk. She's the one who usually highlights the value, I just exist doing my thing and take notes that those are the points of value she likes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 04:48 AM
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Women are often seen as inherently less capable, so the extra independence could be a way to compensate for that. Comforting = good, but weakness = bad; and she might feel guilty for getting that comforting if she doesn't think the situation warrants it. No one wants to be seen as a burden. This is almost definitely a key factor. Weakness = bad is something she says all the time. But i didn't fully understand it and it makes me extremely confused. She was the one who encouraged me to be vulnerab…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 04:18 AM
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What defines being genuine about it? I reassure her because her reassurances helped me feel better. Not accepting that you are worthy of love is horribly painful and neurotic and I suffered a great deal before talking to her. She's been extremely supportive of my emotions and i weirdly want to do the same for her. Is this simping? I mean I could easily refrain from reassuring her and change the topic, but that feels in line with what I would do back with my ex. I refused to reassure my ex becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:32 AM
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You seem familiar with this topic. Able to share how I can become better acquainted with it? I have been processing my own wounds for some time but it is not enough I fear
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:15 AM
1

it's easier to use camera tricks to make short men look taller than it is the other way around Got a source for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:05 AM
1

I dunno, the girls I've dated usually are okay with having sex relatively soon after we get together. Eager even. I don't know why at all. I don't feel I flirt well or escalate well. Girls are just horny and will accede to sexual advances if you give them the right context, i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:08 AM
1

Honestly only a specific and small group of weird people like a super specific type. Most girls are as attracted to many types of men as men are attracted to many types of women. This is me speaking from experience with girls i've dated. They may have exes who were extremely lanky, exes who were basically gay icons, interest in big bulky wrestler types, etc. Furthermore, different girls have told me they like me for different niches I have (perceived intelligence, aesthetics, one said she liked …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:02 AM
1

What? I know this is an exaggeration but which ones are short lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:54 AM
1

Just because i'm the same way doesn't mean I am able to verbalize why or fully explain the reasoning. Also i may be insecure for the same reasoms you stated (indeed i am) but she might be insecure for different reasons I dont know yet. I am worried if it means different things in women than men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:13 AM
1

I am not a very nice person in general already, lol. I am quite selfish and it takes conscious effort to experiment with being nice Some of the nice actions actually had useful outcomes (such as talking emotions over)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 07:23 PM
1

I still don't understand the whole reassurance as a way to make someone not leave you thing. If anything your answers are making me confused, lol. But since that is a well known shit test as you say, I will stop reassuring her altogether. I still think talking about emotions with er is important (to me) though. Made me feel vulnerable as fuck but helped me calm myself down and feel comfortable around her, which is something I found impossible to do around any other person. Definitely was a benef…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 07:19 PM
1

TRP advocates acquiring a hot body, social proof and agree and amplify, three things that women almost universally are attracted to. Why would these only apply to low value women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 07:02 PM
1

Do you feel being RP male is also a sign of being emotionally damaged?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:51 PM
1

What other women say they like doesn't make sense. Honestly I wish TRP users were more cohesive than OXOzymandias so I could get a better perspective as opposed to just constant repetition of TRP adages
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:45 PM
1

Mine was growing up isolated from other children until like 12, so my social skills were entirely adult-ized and interacting with people my own age was very awkward. The both of us also had this to a certain extent. It was part of the NPD abuse, we were not allowed to hang out with friends as kids and this neutered both of our socializing abilities. I don't think I ever recovered fully. Idk if she did (the insecure part of my brain says probably definitely)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:43 PM
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Because it might be coming from a place of weakness, itself, as in you're thinking that the other person is going to leave you if you don't reassure them. This is weird but interesting as another person brought it up earlier. How did you detect this possibility in me? I do have abandonment issues but I actually feel like reassuring her would make her leave me, rather than stay with me. Reassurance is supposed to restore the ego, right? Or at least a sense of mental stability. (First hand experie…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:39 PM
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26 and she's 23. I guess based on your red flag criteria for adults with insecurities, we're both emotionally retarded. We have very similar upbringings (excessively huge egos as children, anxious/paranoid and demanding mothers, distant fathers, overweight period in early life, NPD abusers in childhood). I am pretty sure all of these factors were a perfect storm that contributed to our deep and chronic sense of personal insecurity and self loathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:25 PM
1

How did you get over it? I suffer from the same insecurities as this girl does. She hates compliments as much as I do (albeit for slightly different reasons). We both share this same red flag with you (severe insecurity that people are lying to us about compliments). What got you out of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:08 PM
1

I am self loathing, the scarcity is innate. I'm working on it, it's not like attacking me will make me improve any quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:06 PM
1

I don't quite understand your POV. Needing reassurances signals insecurities, while providing reassurances signals dependency? If you are insecure, are you not innately dependent on those reassurances? Reassuring and validating oneself are THE STRONGEST sign of independence. Why would providing reassurance to someone else signal dependency on them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:04 PM
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I get the feeling she will be lazy snd default to ily but i'll give it a shot on my end. Maybe she will follow by example
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:52 PM
2

Would u be so kind as to share the blueprints behind those phrases with me lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:47 PM
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I agree, she uses 'i love you' too much. I told her not to because it will devalue the phrase but she keeps doing it, lmao. I consciously try to avoid saying it as much as possible except when I really feel that rush. (Maybe once a week?) But she keeps fucking saying it, what should i do to stop it from combusting
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:42 PM
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I know it's impossible for you to believe me but I already abstain from compliments. I used to never compliment my ex at all because I felt vastly inferior and didn't want her to ever get it into her head that she could possibly be better than me lol. For this girl I retain some of that withdrawal but I'm trying to loosen up on the extremism and be a little more human. I definitely don't compliment her on a regular basis apart from when she's feeling insecure. She feels insecure maybe once or tw…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:40 PM
1

Does it count as simping if I also feel ugly on a constant basis and not want someone else to feel that way? Or is that even worse than simping
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:32 PM
1

Me and her- we are both fixated on self loathing. She constantly tells me that I am far better looking than her, and occasionally has bursts of ego recovery where she says she is better looking then falls flat again. I guess in a way i am also curious to figure out my own low sense of self esteem as it has been a constant poison to me too. Are you able to provide any more insight? I would love to know more
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:22 PM
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Thank you for insight. This is almost certainly true to some extent. Will process the other guy's response about low status reassurance as well, since it has daming consequences on me too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:19 PM
1

I hate reassurance too, it feels like a lie or some kind of manipulation because of past abuse on my own end. But i learned that sometimes it just helps me sleep better and that sleep is important for improving myself in the long run while TRP keeps me vigilant of cheating behavior. I'm confused as to how stubborn independence can be enacted so i can try it out and see if it is an effective strategy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:16 PM
1

How accurate/to what extent of truth do you think asbelowsoaboveme's take is
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:13 PM
5

So you're saying resistance to reassurance is a sign of an unhealthy woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:12 PM
1

I am the reverse. I want kids but I don't want a lifelong relationship because I'm terrified of being betrayed. I'm content with having kids and maybe girlfriends on the side. Which ironically means that I will inevitably have to entertain more thots more than you do, lmao
/r/askTRP12/07/20 05:09 PM
1

I'm trying to understand this concept. How do I become stubbornly independent too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:03 PM
1

Brutal but makes sense. Good insight
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:03 PM
1

Explain resolutely independent to me. Are there articles on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:01 PM
1

Where do you get your personal validation from?
/r/askTRP11/07/20 05:05 PM
1

Just bang and move on eh?
/r/askTRP11/07/20 05:04 PM
3

I agree with the first 3 paragraphs But I feel the fourth is a bit too extremist? I used to think that way and I couldn't be comfortable around women at all. I had horrible sex with my ex because I was constantly terrified of making 1 wrong move to dry her pussy up. They definitely like strength and despise weakness but if you have to fake the strength, you are only hurting yourself more. Some women will fuck you even if you're still figuring yourself out. It's worse to fear them for their extre…
/r/askTRP11/07/20 05:03 PM
1

Good input. However i've seen a lot of military men being treated like beta bucks in recent years?
/r/askTRP11/07/20 04:44 PM
1

I would ask for an autograph but that would mean doxxing you ): Cheers, sounds like you have it made out for you
/r/askTRP10/07/20 07:00 AM
1

Interesting take. I know a guy who did this very well back then, i will explore this facet further. Do you have practical real life examples of this
/r/askTRP10/07/20 06:53 AM
2

What jobs would those be?
/r/askTRP06/07/20 11:19 AM
1

Interesting. What if I also have BPD?
/r/askTRP05/07/20 12:05 PM
1

By the way, I suspect I have BPD as well. What sort of treatment should I seek
/r/askTRP05/07/20 10:47 AM
1

nice, thank you
/r/askTRP05/07/20 10:45 AM
1

Im 26 shes 23
/r/askTRP03/07/20 04:07 AM
2

I should change my username to concernedaboutaconcernedtaxpayer
/r/askTRP02/07/20 07:13 PM
1

Yep
/r/askTRP02/07/20 04:19 PM
1

This is true
/r/askTRP29/06/20 11:14 PM
1

I agree, which is why without an avenue of fixing it its real suifuel
/r/askTRP29/06/20 05:51 PM
2

I dont want to come off as an egotistical prick But youre right this is a better attitude. Thank u
/r/askTRP29/06/20 05:30 PM
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I tried that line of thought but it made me feel worse. The just your turn one kinda did the trick
/r/askTRP29/06/20 05:12 PM
6

Actually fuck this mood, shes giving me a chance to fuck her and im squandering it by being depressed Im a dumbass
/r/askTRP29/06/20 05:11 PM
3

How will 300 years dilute your dna explain
/r/askTRP29/06/20 04:38 PM
0

Sobering, give me more
/r/askTRP29/06/20 04:35 PM
1

I'm keen on performing surrogacy in the near future, if anyone has any information and or wants to start a discussion place for it let me know
/r/MGTOW213/06/20 05:33 PM
1

hahah shit I guess I'm an attraction killing machine Idk man, I just talk about how I got shit done. My way is probably not the most optimal. You do flirting coaching?
/r/seduction12/05/20 02:40 PM
2

That's a bit over the top- the excess demands for superiority in the last sentence- don't you think? I accept sociopathy because I know every woman is capable of it and does it while we aren't watching. That doesn't mean that I'll pander to it. I'm glad that you're at least willing to be honest, unlike the rest of the female population. But don't make demands of people who aren't obliged to owe you anything, whether we are men or women. Cheers. Happy living friend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 11:19 AM
2

What can I say, at least she's honest Good on you girl, you did the one thing no other woman will ever do. Tell the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 09:53 AM
1

Got a source for this? Or reference. Am curious on the details Inb4 i want to be a sheikh sex toy jk
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 07:15 AM
6

Helps sometimes to tease her about it in advance. Primes her brain for that kind of activity. Even if she pulls away it just creates a new avenue of interaction for you to follow through with
/r/seduction12/05/20 07:11 AM
1

What's this about sheikhs tell me more
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 07:07 AM
1

Which stocks are so reliable that you'd give up on yourself in exchange for the money
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 04:52 AM
1

Shit bro i admire you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 04:49 AM
1

Tell me more?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 04:35 PM
2

Which countries would those be
/r/askTRP09/05/20 02:42 PM
1

Ooh good advice thanks
/r/seduction09/05/20 01:52 PM
3

The way things are going i am starting to think there is no such thing as a long term woman
/r/askTRP09/05/20 01:21 PM
9

Find another girl but nurse your wounds first bro
/r/askTRP09/05/20 12:34 PM
2

What do you give up? :0
/r/seduction08/05/20 04:51 PM
2

Mmhm does polyamory have anything to do with it
/r/seduction08/05/20 04:50 PM
2

What's your technique
/r/seduction08/05/20 04:48 PM
2

Hey man can we be friends? Might help with my depression a little hahah
/r/seduction08/05/20 03:50 PM
2

I wanted to get a trainer back in december.. then covid happened
/r/seduction08/05/20 12:53 PM
5

Hahah, guess i'll be prospecting 29 before I get to squat powers. I started losing weight when I was 16. Had anorexia at 18 ish and lost all my quadricep gains. Been doing calisthenics since but I have naturally low muscle tone so I've been hitting the gym as much as I can manage on a daily basis (which is not much) Idk about asking height. It feels crushing to know that i'll always be in the lowest percentile for height and have to work exponentially as hard to make up for it. That alone gives …
/r/seduction08/05/20 12:24 PM
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I'm 26 and i've had those exact same thoughts growing up. Am managing nutrition rn. How long did it take to get your squat up? How tall are you? How old are you now?
/r/seduction08/05/20 11:57 AM
1

'Mom's husband' What is this family dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 10:34 AM
1

Yeah but what if a 5'6 dude wants a 6' monster so his kids won't be tiny like him. Do those exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 09:48 AM
1

Ah no wonder. I expected 5'6 with 5'9. Too good to be true
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 08:53 AM
2

Short guys with tall fat girls? Where can I find such a deal?!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 08:23 AM
1

Surely its better than what i got, a mother that not only took me away from my dad but forced me to enable her to cheat on him
/r/askTRP07/05/20 07:50 PM
4

Surrogacy. But I can't help you with details as I'm also looking up how to enact it
/r/askTRP07/05/20 10:46 AM
1

Would love to know too
/r/askTRP07/05/20 10:45 AM
0

Sounds like sour grapes
/r/askTRP06/05/20 05:33 PM
1

Actually motivating
/r/askTRP06/05/20 05:32 PM
1

I agree. I get the impressed part but I still suck at the not being scared part.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 12:39 PM
-7

Good technique. I understand why every feeling is invalidated here now. Attack me more so that I can become more dismissive avoidant
/r/askTRP06/05/20 11:11 AM
4

This is actually really interesting. Where is the citation tho
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 07:57 AM
2

Being goofy is actually really good game. I dont undrstand all the uptight types
/r/askTRP06/05/20 07:55 AM
1

Sucks to be on the receiving end of dread game tbh. She's taking that from you and you're nos taking it from her. I know it's probably unrelated and she's doing this of her own character but it's kind of fucked up and destabilizing in a relationship. You're making each other anxious and driving each other apart. If you treasure the relationship, have a chat with her. If she's willing to stop shitty behavior and you are too there's a chance
/r/askTRP05/05/20 02:03 AM
6

Approach other girls. She's keeping her options open and she won't stop so you should too. I dunno if I'm being too harsh.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 01:46 AM
1

I feel like I've become a genuine extrovert though? I gain energy by being with people.
/r/askTRP02/05/20 02:55 AM
1

I don't think a true alpha exists in the common understanding of the term.. the definition is not homogeneous enough for there to be a proper grouping of people in that aspect. Also introverts can become extroverted. That's silly
/r/askTRP01/05/20 09:06 AM
1

Yes. Owning a fault and working at yourself is always gonna be superior to avoiding it
/r/seduction29/04/20 03:58 AM
1

What sort of emotion does the but evoke that is so attractive? Something forbidden?
/r/seduction28/04/20 09:33 AM
3

That's the way it should be. It's my world and uou're a willing participant is a great frame
/r/askTRP25/04/20 02:26 AM
2

I agree
/r/askTRP24/04/20 06:15 PM
1

I'm on the reddit app and i clicked start chat, dont know if you received anything
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:38 PM
1

At least point out some critical flaws i have from my earlier posts so i know what to work on cus i been at the sidebar grinding for years and i still dont get what im doing wrong
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:26 PM
1

Haha thanks.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:25 PM
1

I can't count the sheer number of times I have re read the side bar dude. -Add value to myself -Approach -Machiavellan traits -deal with everything as shit tests -dont shit where u eat Etc. None of these principles have anything to do with 3 or 4. I follow the principles and I still don't know what's wrong with my attitude in 1. I have been cutting weight since dec. I am training my sport (calisthenics). I am still training during covid quarantine. I am researching shit on my job on a daily basi…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:20 PM
1

Bruh when the pool of women who will sleep with you is this small, mans dont have a lot of choice :v Its not like i have 20 women to pick from on a regular basis. Lots of my approaches turn out to be ljbf types
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:10 PM
1

Bruh mans just tryina get his dick wet Shits hard enough as it is
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:06 PM
1

Im glad
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:06 PM
0

Yeah but women dont work that way. They make decisions based on emotion and vindication is a really strong emotion. Also if a relationship has been going on for a while it would be scar-ee how much sunk cost she might perceive losing
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:05 PM
1

): im sad but i hope u feel better about what happened now that its over
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:02 PM
1

Im mid 20s im not that young. I just suck at relationships cus i started late I had an entire clique leave me over my reasons for getting with a girl before. Its still fresh in my mind so idw to relive that
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:00 PM
0

You're a woman. Character assassination doesn't work on you. You're functionally immune to it by way of gender
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:59 PM
1

Really? Not even after the entirety of your social clique clowns on you or extradites you for their own perception of it? Could affect career if it got enough traction tbh like she was invested enough in it. Look at Heard and Depp
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:53 PM
-1

Ayo maybe all girls are a little bit BPD then, cuz all the girls i been with been like that
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:49 PM
1

I mean if she starts pulling out your conditions like specific bad relationships with others and shit on social media, there will be some non legal bad implications for you Its not like you can even run away from them knowing about your personal life cuz they are your personal life
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:46 PM
1

Maybe a 'breakup gift' could work if framed in a different way, but what
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:44 PM
-2

You do realize when a woman is mad angry at you she will do some mad shitty things right Womens' wrath is uncontrollable bro you gotta feed their ego so they dont come after your hoe ass for pumping em
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:36 PM
2

Not asking for something going on right now but something that could happen with any girl. Say i pump and pump and along the way i realize that she's incorrigible, but she doesn't want out of the ship. By now she could have assimilated enough knowledge about me for character assassination. What do i do then This would be especially common in azn cultures where virginity is 'prized'
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:34 PM
1

does that actually work irl
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:33 PM
2

It does help when said fragile ego is not only capable of but also eager to character assassinate you.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:26 PM
-4

Thanks for your input, would help if you weren't so bitter about OP post though. 8/10 advice could do with some work
/r/askTRP24/04/20 01:17 PM
1

Wdym by 'owning your insecurities'? Grit, finding solutions? Or something else
/r/askTRP19/04/20 08:21 AM
2

I was raised by an abusive mother actually
/r/askTRP19/04/20 08:20 AM
16

I was actually thinking of this the other day when I was contemplating having daughters. It was kind of a scary prospect
/r/askTRP17/04/20 09:11 AM
3

As someone with depression, anxiety and horrible self esteem issues, TRP was very useful to me. I would even say it was essential for my personal development. I find it strange that the bulk of TRPers don't acknowledge this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 08:51 AM
1

I don't understand why you're being downvoted in this comment. This is absolutely true. Reddit doesn't upvote valuable information, at least not when it comes to sexuality.
/r/seduction15/04/20 12:51 AM
0

Why would she? My dad was the rich one and my mom has never respected him one bit.
/r/askTRP10/04/20 05:22 AM
1

Do you have any resources on what else to read up on? I feel it's essential to prep but i dont know how to
/r/askTRP10/04/20 03:46 AM
1

That sounds extremely logical, thanks. I am aware that laws differ from state to state, but are you familiar with any specifics you're able to bring up?
/r/askTRP10/04/20 02:33 AM
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