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I’m a woman and I totally agree with you. I’m not waiting until I truly love someone before having sex with them. Best establish sexual compatibility before deciding whether or not to take the relationship further imho
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:42 AM
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Women seek out the best men with money? Also divorce the best men with money?🤔 Something here doesn’t add up. Women should have their own money and do what they want, when men make it absolutely clear that after a certain age we won’t be valued anyway. I’m an engineer, married my handyman. He wasn’t even making 35k when we started dating. No regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:18 AM
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https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6879192/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 01:24 AM
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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:01 AM
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Let’s get real, if a gay man is a self made millionaire part of his reward will be young men. Young men will willingly give themselves as a reward. The above is all true. Does that mean you’re sucking some nasty old dudes cock for cash? Just because someone will do it, doesn’t mean everyone will do it. Hoes gonna hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 12:58 AM
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Almost all of them lasting 3 months tops 😆. Wtf…you should still be in the “can’t keep my hands off, banging every day” part of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:08 AM
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I think it's really dangerous for some women to continue to assert this. This is your entire mo…repeatedly. You’ve strawmanned me before. I never asserted anything. This IS a debate forum, so debate what I actually said. It’s you that needs to chill the fuck out. And I would frankly rather get raped than to whore out my body. I would find it to be traumatic either way. Ymmv. Knowing that I allowed and consented to the act would make it no less traumatic. But at least if I was raped, I would know…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:14 AM
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I know people who have managed it pretty well, ….I mean if 100% means 12 hour days, 6 days a week, then obviously no. Not even dads can work that much and be great dads. But there are women who are really happy with what they have accomplished and don’t feel like they missed out of enjoying their kids childhood. Lots have had help from their families and the grandparents. I know a couple of pharmacists, two kids, they work slightly different shifts, so husband watched baby when he was home, they…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 07:16 PM
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👍. I totally agree with you that people give up on otherwise great relationships too soon though. But if you have a dealbreaker like absolutely no porn it’s on you to clear the air, better sooner rather than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:56 PM
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I think her point is to break up early before it becomes a serious relationship. And for young people with a big dating pool, it’s good advice. Obviously it’s not coming upon a first date, but just like wanting kids, wanting marriage..it’s best to sus out dealbreakers early and move on. This prevents the later situation of a finding a deal breaker 6 months in when you are emotionally invested.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:38 PM
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I said to me it would feel like rape. I didn’t say it was rape. I didn’t “assert anything” except my own personal reaction to such an event. So kindly take your fucking bullshit elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:01 PM
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She’s doing it to make a lot of money, and she will. Plenty of men will spank it while fantasizing they could be 1001. That’s why she will drive traffic to her site. Hoes gonna hoe. There have always been and always will be prostitutes. It’s sad that someone who doesn’t need money would do this, but it’s her life. To me it would feel like rape tbh. Any better than women from poor countries who bang 5 gross old dudes who disgust them? Every day for years? There are some who have had sex with thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:30 PM
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Number 3? press to doubt. Years into a relationship, you will eventually find other people attractive. Doesn’t mean you will act on it. Fidelity is always a choice, the attraction to others doesn’t magically disappear though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:07 PM
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He was 5’9”, wealthy and an evil, entitled sociopath. Fuck off with the bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:50 AM
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Someone remembers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:41 AM
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I already gave you my source for women who make more. Not a minimum of 50 percent more than their husbands, simply more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:46 AM
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Pay attention. OVER 1/4 make more. 45% make THE SAME or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:32 AM
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In general? Yeah no doubt. I still am careful about making broad assumptions about individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:21 AM
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Not sure I see the controversy tbh. Is one supposed to have a significantly higher smv? He’s no spring chicken, but still attractive, she looks in great shape for her age. Most middle aged couples look like Roseanne Barr and John Goodman. She looks like she’s just being silly. He’s getting lipstick on his underwear at some point tonight. Am I looking at the right video? Lisa Wellington fitness?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:03 AM
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Based on looks alone, he was certainly far from ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:44 AM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:34 AM
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You are correct. Most women don’t earn more. In 55% of marriages the man is sole or primary breadwinner. That means in the remaining 45% of marriages, couple make the same or the women make more. 55% is hardly a monolith and 45% of women are hardly unicorns. Women are much more likely to either be a sole or primary breadwinner as they get older, have no children left in the home and as men become disabled. Everyone cares about the combined family income, as they should be. It takes money to rais…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:33 AM
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pretty sure he can feel it is the same feedback I have gotten. My ex had been a virgin and was slightly alarmed
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:08 AM
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Do you boondoggle or do campgrounds? I’m planning a two month to 10 week trip, but we aren’t set up with functioning tanks or alternate power source. We are still debating back and forth whether we should just invest in getting set up to camp outside of campgrounds and just wing it or plan each stop out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:06 AM
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Okay? People didn’t do what was impossible for them to do. People didn’t fly in airplanes or watch tv either. Blacks didn’t play professional sports because they were previously prohibited from playing professional sports. Is this relevant in 2025?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:41 AM
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You can not believe me, but that’s from the Bureau of Labor Statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:36 AM
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I just showed you that over 1/4 of women currently do earn more. We aren’t unicorns. Historically we were all subsistence farmers. Now 2% of people farm. So 98% of people are literally “going against the grain”. Culture can change more quickly than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:05 AM
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I bought my first at 28, before we started dating. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:00 AM
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It would cost double your rent, and if you found a woman who also made bank, you could double your household income AND build equity. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:58 AM
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Ohhh…hookers. You mean hookers😆
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:55 AM
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Yeah, but then add in the multitude of people with depression, anxiety etc. And on the other side of things, we had a guy working on our house who was obese with Tourette’s, had a fat ass wife and fat little baby. He loved his family, Jesus and really shitty fast food. He sure seemed happier than Elliot Roger. I agree that generalizations are useful but when you look at individuals there are plenty of exceptions, not just1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:44 AM
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https://www.google.com/imgres?q=what%20percentage%20of%20wives%20who%20earn%20more%20than%20men%C2%A0&imgurl=http%3A%2F%2Fcdn.statcdn.com%2FInfographic%2Fimages%2Fnormal%2F4039.jpeg&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.statista.com%2Fchart%2F4039%2Fhow-many-us-wives-earn-more-than-their-husbands%2F&docid=PNrfFUMGhJclXM&tbnid=LaxOhd7S2gRm_M&vet=12ahUKEwjlx6yu69-KAxW8mYQIHVfiEbgQM3oECGQQAA..i&w=960&h=684&hcb=2&ved=2ahUKEwjlx6yu69-KAxW8mYQIHVfiEbgQM3oECGQQAA Typically throughout history women didn’t have th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:30 AM
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My brother in law had model tier looks and committed suicide. I worked with an absolutely beautiful, petite girl from Greenwich Connecticut who was repeatedly hospitalized for anorexia. I never judge how easy or hard any one individuals life is. You can make generalizations, but some people struggle in ways that are hard to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:22 AM
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I made more money than he did and now we live off of real estate investments
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:14 AM
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I’ll make sure and tell my husband. He likes a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:04 AM
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I made WAY more money than my husband. Now we live off of investments. Yeah, he’s pretty cute 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:03 AM
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lol…I mean not to be rude, but you probably could have spent $10 a month at Planet Fitness and women would have gone Dutch and maybe even cooked you dinner once in a while. Or you could have gotten a part time job bartending and got paid while banging random chicks like my husband did in his twenties. Profit. No date necessary. Money for nothing, get your chicks for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:00 AM
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Just saw your long edit do not stop” and “just like that” seem to be communicating the same thing, but one of them is far more ambiguous than the other. Just like that = don’t go harder, don’t go softer. keep it the same Jfc man, make up your mind. And no…saying “the same …but slower please” is absolutely not sexy. If she wants you to go slower that can be conveyed with giving instructions like a school marm or even worse, a drill Sargent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:04 PM
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Welp, be thankful your luck changed I supposed. Too bad you can’t figure it out and then help replicate the process for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 10:03 PM
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But yeah, women have certainly made passes at me 🤷‍♀️. Unless there was some glow up, or some difference in how outgoing you were, I have no explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:51 PM
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Biologically, probably easier to be a man. No periods.No pregnancy. No menopause. No absolute end to fertility The cons are there. Shorter lifespan although an extra year or two when you are already elderly..meh. Impotence can happen and would be devastating. Even when my libido has been lower, I still enjoy the closeness and bonding of sex. Not being able to perform would have to be emotionally difficult. Socially, I think women have it better in general. More friends, generally less sexual fru…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:42 PM
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I mean that’s absolutely to be expected as a bare minimum, if you didn’t see the typical physical signs from all the women, then obviously something was wrong, needed to addressed or you should just move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:01 PM
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I’ve had women that were evident in their arousal but it was mostly nonverbal. ? ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 07:28 PM
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Wtf? You have got to be kidding. Ball licking is hardly a universal like among men, some buttholes are completely off limits, some dudes love a good tossed salad. My husband’s butt is a no go zone for everything, but I’ve heard tale of dudes who love to be pegged and I don’t think it’s an urban legend. My ex lost his mind over armpits, my husband loves his earlobes licked, but I wasted plenty of time on his pits before figuring out he just found it weird and off putting. The frenulum can even be…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 07:17 PM
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I believe they do, but not all of them, and not all of them at replacement rate. Many people absolutely would rather have a bigger house than a third kid. https://www.cnn.com/2019/02/12/asia/china-second-child-economy-intl/index.html They “can’t afford them”. Or in other words, they aren’t willing to live like someone in Angola to have a second.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:57 PM
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Despite falling birth rates worldwide wide, I have no clue how you can still think humans actually want to reproduce at replacement rate. they are introducing legislation that will make having more children feasible And they need to do that because having kids is the number one priority?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:45 PM
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getting out of a long sexless marriage My condolences. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:43 PM
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Okay…fair enough, but if women are moaning and expressing our appreciation for the technique being applied, and men are silent regardless of how much they are appreciating or not appreciating what is going on, again, we can’t respond to cues when you aren’t giving us any. And men being likely to get hard and likely to cum despite bad sex doesn’t help us figure out what men like.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:42 PM
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lol….okay…what does “just like that” mean to you then? Does it mean change it up? Go faster? Does it mean harder? I think “just like that” means just like that. In what context does “just like that” mean “change that”?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:35 PM
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I personally think most women would be glad to be make sex better for men, if men actually provided more positive feedback and provided more clues. It’s also simply a fact that for men, women are doing at least a good enough job for them to orgasm. Op might be slightly off in that it does take less effort for women to get men to orgasm as a bare minimum ….but I can’t make the experience better without feedback. Women do what they can with the cues they are given.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:21 PM
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Well there is objective evidence that female primates vocalize more. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_copulatory_vocalizations Not sure why I have to prove that water is wet……women being more vocal during sex should be obvious to any casual observers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:05 PM
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? What? What is ambiguous about “do not stop? Or “just like that”? It’s not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:58 PM
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If you mess it up when she’s near the top, she falls to the bottom and has to start over. Doing the lord’s work with this advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:54 PM
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Well…I can tell you I have had to encourage every single partner I have had to be more vocal when something feels particularly great. It’s actually consistent throughout primates that female primates vocalize more when having sex. You can’t respond to cues that aren’t given and guys, especially young guys, have visual confirmation of arousal before you even start foreplay, so physical cues are more difficult to sus out for women too. Getting a guy turned on is often a simple as removing clothing…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:42 PM
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This. Absolutely. When I say don’t stop, I don’t mean harder. I literally mean DO NOT STOP.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:32 PM
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Ohhh no. It’s almost always the dude UPPING the pace that kills the mood. I get men needing to change position or upping the tempo to get there, but they sometimes do that thinking it will also get us there. It can take us from being seconds away to not getting there at all. When we say don’t stop, take that literally. It usually won’t be long. My husband and I change positions to ones better for him AFTER I’ve cum. It’s not just that sex should only be good for women, it’s just a fact that afte…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:31 PM
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Well….both are generally correct. All women have different things they find arousing, but we all have a similar response when aroused. If you pay attention to her signs of arousal that’s most of the battle. Of course this becomes much easier if she doesn’t fake her level of arousal, and if he doesn’t insist that because the last woman liked it that the next one will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:17 PM
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And what little was verbally conveyed during sex was positive. Don’t stop, that feels amazing, etc. I can’t imagine a bigger boner killer, on both sides, than giving instructions while having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:55 PM
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most people desire children Two comments later poor people have children out of necessity Make up your mind. If poor people are only having children because they need them, not because they want them, then why are you surprised people have fewer when they don’t need them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:46 PM
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I know women who aren’t happy with their choices either. They usually need to up their game (lose weight, work out), lower their standards (broaden their narrow range of potential mates) or get out and socialize more. Or settle for being alone. Empathy is great, but it doesn’t magically change reality
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:23 PM
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I never said it was easy for everyone. Is letting people be unsuccessful in their mom’s basement empathetic or enabling? It’s up to the individual to decide which is harder, being perpetually single or doing something different that is out of their comfort zone?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:13 PM
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If it’s logistics, then change your situation to be ina more target rich environment. That’s part of fixing something. If it’s dumb luck, then you happened to find your tribe and the person that gets you. Don’t take that for granted and assume lightening will strike twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:03 PM
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Majority of westerners are economically comfortable,they just dont have the time. Majority of westerners are economically comfortable because they work a lot. Don’t pretend those things aren’t connected. People could work less if they settled for less Apparently “western style” is modern and affluent? If you are saying people dont want children, why do they have them then? According to the CDC, approximately 45% of pregnancies in the United States are considered unintended which means roughly ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:59 PM
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You mean people would rather have big houses and new cars than a third kid? That sounds pretty accurate to me. Is it just “western “ living standards? How do you explain this? https://www.visualcapitalist.com/the-20-countries-with-the-lowest-fertility-rates-in-2024/ Asian countries have the lowest birth rates. The birth rate in Iran and the UAE are lower than in the US. If people don’t have kids because “they can’t afford them”, why do the poorest countries have the highest birth rates? Is it be…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:18 PM
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Fair enough. But to state “it’s a bad deal for men” doesn’t mean at some level it’s not a bad deal for everyone. Everyone finds children and family to be financially and emotionally challenging. Believe it or not but women want to have sex too. Sex for women is like meat. It’s a want, but usually readily available and even when it’s not, substitutes are generally sufficient. why is everything sex sex sex with you If it weren’t for people wanting sex, we never would’ve bred in sufficient numbers …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:43 PM
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Are they still rough or do you now attract a wide range of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:27 PM
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Because whatever it is that is preventing you from being romantically successful isn’t going to solve itself. It isn’t about what you are unhappy with, it’s about what’s preventing others from being happy with you as a sex partner. It’s the same as an overweight woman saying “I’m happy with my weight, so why aren’t men”?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:04 PM
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Is it your individual responsibility to breed? Kids are a net drain financially, physically and mentally for women. You want to take one for the team? At least men get “some” sex from the deal. Married men on average have more sex than single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:45 AM
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I hate to tell you, if your age match passed you up when you are both young, your chances of finding a young woman genuinely attracted to you when you are now older and less attractive are even worse. Guys whose best option is settling for less than optimal are usually also being settled for. Not gloating, it just is what it is. The older you get, the more shallow your pool of acceptable mates gets. Older women prefer their own age to slightly older, but often have to settle for somewhat older, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:34 AM
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High t in Russia couldn’t possibly be related to the fact that life expectancy for men in Russia is in the toilet. If we want to keep testosterone levels high, clearly the solution must be to simply not let men live longer than 60. Those old guys are bringing your averages down. https://www.statista.com/statistics/971100/life-expectancy-at-birth-in-russia-by-gender/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:15 AM
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Testosterone decreases in “feminist” countries? Did you think maybe it’s possible that the correlation with men having 20% plus body fat and advanced age is even higher?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:07 AM
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I'm very responsive when I like something As someone who was in a seven year relationship with someone who had been a virgin, if a guy pays attention to this, it’s literally all either of you needs. My first “boyfriend “ of only about 6 months was six years older and had been married. I had no clue how bad in bed he was since I had nothing to compare it to. My ex who had been a virgin was better in bed within weeks. After trying something different that got a reaction, he used to look up, smile,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:36 AM
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Again, maybe we need to also see the benefit of a college education can’t simply be boiled down to money. It’s part of extended adolescence and a time away from your parent’s house at age 18 without the complete absence of any supervision. You don’t get that at the library. Is it a privilege? Sure. And state schools are still affordable for the vast majority of people. You can get room, board and tuition for a couple thousand bucks in my state if you get a state scholarship. A part time job when…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:47 PM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/VGcNfBqopx8TMwnJ9 https://images.app.goo.gl/6vTWaUCvbcV3qxuQ6 College graduates are on average more likely to get married and stay married than others, and they are more likely to have and raise their children in marriage (Ellwood & Jencks, 2004; Goldstein & Kenney, 2001; Martin, 2006; Raley & Bumpass, 2003). https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3340888/
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:17 AM
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I think a higher education rate correlates to higher divorce rates. No https://images.app.goo.gl/5Xh6pJKibX5A29D87 And the more education, the more likely to marry
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:10 AM
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Hot take…not all success is financial? For whatever reason, educational attainment is absolutely correlated to higher rates of marriage and lower rates of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:51 AM
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Most people date and marry people of similar class and educational attainment, both men and women. That said, women are more likely to marry down in terms of education than men are. This has been true for a while now. Most middle class careers for women like healthcare and teaching, require a degree, her middle class partner is often in a trade or other well paying job that doesn’t require a degree. https://images.app.goo.gl/B7iMftVQFMAaz4xi8
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:38 AM
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Okay okay. I get it…..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:24 PM
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I get that and you are right that it’s incredibly important to socialize. But u/AreOut does have a point, some of your specific examples would definitely not work. And if you are going for a niche vibe like yoga or art, it needs to be authentic, imho. An average guy isn’t going to come off well if it’s too obvious he is interested in a female dominated hobby just to pick up chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:56 PM
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Traditional? I don’t know about that. In a 2 working parent household, you have more total working hours in the relationship and the homecare/childcare still has to get done which will leave both burnt out. To summarize….it’s easy to be married and raise a family when you are upper middle class and above? Sure, that I’ll buy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:29 PM
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They always tell on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:50 PM
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A certain type of guy can pull off the pottery or yoga if they like crunchy women. The lanky pottery guy with beard and Jesus sandals can definitely pull certain types of women. I used to rent to one, he always had women objectively above his smv, but it’s definitely a niche market. And you need to be authentically in that subculture and actually accomplished at pottery. Zumba is absolutely a negative. I can’t imagine who is I interested in a dude taking Zumba. I do think co-ed sports is a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:00 PM
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Affirmative action for men https://thecatalystnews.com/2024/01/25/gender-based-affirmative-action/ value beyond boosting earning chances for office workers. Which has value….. https://bachelors-completion.northeastern.edu/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/NortheasternUniversity-EducationPays-option2.png Lots of very high paying professions, like lawyers and physicians, are now about 55/45 women vrs men in new graduates. This trend currently shows no sign of stopping. Women outpace men in applicants to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:05 AM
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Well there currently is AA for men. There are lots of mainstream men, Scott Galloway, Jordan Peterson, most men’s rights activists, seeing a rapid decline in male academic achievement and mental health. Women are higher in conscientiousness which translates to better grades and higher in agreeability which is favored in the workplace. This isn’t my opinion, both Galloway and Peterson have sounded a warning bell about the rapid decline in male achievement and cited those exact reasons. The future…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:26 AM
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How about gender quotas that favor men in college admissions?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:02 AM
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How do you feel about affirmative action for men? Should we be changing our education system, adding more physically active learning to accommodate boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:43 AM
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They are the “bigger spenders” because they do far more grocery and household shopping. That doesn’t necessarily mean they determine how the family’s disposable income is spent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:35 AM
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Wow, that’s surprising from a red piller. Even I don’t believe that true 50/50 equality will ever happen on a societal scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:29 AM
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Super convenient to tell women they should be “valuable” to others and unpaid to boot. Just like when men are told the most valuable thing they can do is be providers and cannon fodder I suppose. Better for everyone to invest in themselves and not put all their proverbial eggs in a single basket. I’m not planning on only 15 years of being relevant unless I’m getting paid like an nba star or a model, and I plan on still needing food and shelter for another 30 postwall years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:41 PM
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And when you decide she’s too old to have anymore kids, and too old to be valuable for sex, how much does she get paid? Not true, being my personal slut and taking care of my kids are literally the two most valuable things a woman can do. Valuable to you, but what’s in it for her to raise “your “ kids and be your sexual entertainment? Is she doing this for room and board? Now that she’s useless, does she deserve a pension? Fuck that. That’s exactly why I became an engineer. Show me the money mot…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:21 PM
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Meh, physical attraction can simply be the “tall enough to ride” metric. You are right that no amount of personality can compensate for bad looks Looks are a prerequisite, but that doesn’t mean it’s always the most important thing. You can have lots of prerequisites. I think for lots of narcissistic, or inexperienced and younger guys, this is projection. Lots of them would absolutely choose a partner based on her looks being the most important. Men hopefully have an identical standard, they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:42 PM
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This ad helped get my governor elected https://www.cnn.com/videos/politics/2018/05/02/brian-kemp-pointing-gun-teen-daughters.hln 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 12:21 AM
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It won’t matter at all to some women, it will also attract some. For a few, it will be a negative. I think it depends on the type of woman you want to attract. If you are an old guy looking for a prostitute, aka a “sugar baby”, who expects you to buy her luxury goods in exchange for pretending to enjoy sex with you, it probably will attract the women you are looking for. I suspect this goes in the category of overly buff, it attracts more admiration from men than sexual attraction from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 01:34 PM
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https://www.criminalattorneycolumbus.com/which-weapons-are-most-commonly-used-for-homicides/ Here in good old America we use guns to kill people. You don’t need much strength to kill somebody.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 01:07 AM
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As I see it you have two choices, lie and be more successful, or tell the truth and be less successful. It’s like being a used car salesman, I can’t tell you how to both honest and successful. Most people wouldn’t buy what you are selling if you are honest. Are you expecting monogamy from this hypothetical fwb?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:22 AM
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Is it true? That’s your own ethics. It leaves the door open for someone to catch feelings and get hurt imho 🤷‍♀️ not actively seeking something serious right now Borderline evasive but that’s on them too. If they are only interested in relationships they have been forewarned. but the right person could definitely change my mind Sounds like a straight up, unequivocal lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:08 AM
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Exactly. And as you acknowledged, even when women are open to casual they are also open to a relationship too. Some women will absolutely have sex with a guy without committment but most still don’t want a closed door if they catch feelings. It’s like an internship, you go in knowing it’s just one of those low paid starter gigs, but no one wants to be told that no matter how good of a job they do, you will never in a million years consider them for a permanent position.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:58 AM
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I’m not sure there are many women who ultimately don’t want a relationship….they might enjoy casual and hookups, but they ultimately want a relationship. Open to casual =/= not also open to a relationship. Most people “open to casual and hookups” want to see where that goes if they catch feels. What you are telling them isn’t “I’m open to casual and hookups”, it’s sounds like “ I’m closed to a serious relationship “.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:42 AM
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I think most women are ultimately looking for a serious relationship So then why are you surprised when they lose interest after they find out you don’t want a serious relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:30 AM
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Never work? Didn’t work for who? It worked for the women involved. At least they knew what they were dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:51 PM
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I don’t know about the Mormon part…. Not anecdotal. Mormon women love Botox and boob jobs. https://www.sltrib.com/religion/2024/08/06/latter-day-saints-have-more/ “About 14% of Latter-day Saint respondents have had major cosmetic surgery — including breast augmentations, tummy tucks and liposuction — and 20% have undergone cosmetic enhancements such as laser hair removal, Botox injections or skin procedures….. it is above the national average, which is 4% for cosmetic surgery.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:48 AM
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You just gave a great list of things that are and should be perfectly legal, also a great list of things of things potentially unwise to do when you are only 18. I mean joining the military, getting married and buying an expensive new car are pretty much a trifecta of poor decisions for the vast majority of 18 year old men. I’d rather see my kid date someone 20 years older at 18 than have a baby at 18, but that doesn’t mean I would be in favor of either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 04:23 AM
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In direct contrast to conventional wisdom and most economic models of marital age gaps, we present robust evidence that men and women who are married to differently-aged spouses are negatively selected. Empirical results show lower cognitive ability, lower educational attainment, lower occupational wages, lower earnings, and less attractive appearance among those married to a differently-aged spouse You may be accurate. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6879192/
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:49 AM
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because signs of affection are included in the simping If a guy isn’t physically affectionate with me right off the bat, he’s not getting anywhere. You do you, withhold your feelings, play games whatever you want to do. Or maybe you really hate to cuddle. In that case we aren’t compatible. Also, being physically affectionate right off, touching and physical closeness throughout the day is what makes me want sex. If you aren’t naturally affectionate I’m out before we ever even get to sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:04 AM
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I think you always have to have passing looks. If she finds you downright unattractive, it’s unlikely she will ever find you to be attractive. If you are average with a great personality she will usually start finding you attractive fairly quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:03 AM
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First in college One was a neighbor in my apartment complex My ex in a bar, My husband was someone I was casual friends with for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:02 AM
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i don't know why this is difficult to get across. Yes you do. It’s always paranoia that she loved anal with Chad but Billy Beta isn’t getting the butt. Or sex on the first date…..etc. Doesn’t matter to them if they don’t get what they want as long as Chad didn’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:05 AM
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This definitely seems a relationship aspect that men and women diverge on. Women want what they want from a relationship and are happy when they get it. Men feel the need to compete with the last guy, especially sexually. If she did some depraved shit with her last boyfriend, doesn’t matter if the guy is basically vanilla or not…he’s mad if she doesn’t want depraved shit from him. If women want long romantic calls, then that’s what they want, but they don’t start wanting them just because they f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:52 AM
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divergent social sensibilities They don’t have “it”, and to add…..they can’t believe in “it”, because it’s not concrete, measurable or definable. It doesn’t fit with the systemizing mind. The 6 pack, 6 foot, 6 figures is concrete and quantifiable. Swag is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:00 AM
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This is a big reason ugly celebrities can get laid so easily. Their fame and public image are very often a more reliable means of flipping this switch than some random shirtless Chad with a six pack will ever have. Chicken or egg? There is definitely a charisma factor in some celebrities that helps them become celebrities too. Adam Driver married a very attractive woman long before he became famous. Pete Davidson talks about condoms in high school. He has been with beautiful women who are arguab…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:52 AM
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Oh…Warren Farrell Does he pass your purity test?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:05 PM
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Hate to tell you, sex with some random rarely ends in orgasm. And the whole attitude some dudes have around casual sex, it’s like it’s not even fun, it’s scary. If I was single now? The number of people who think every single last woman wants to be slapped, choked out, etc…no way in hell I’d have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:15 AM
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TLDR
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:29 AM
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Well frankly, both are irrational fears if we are talking about the bears near me. We have small black bears in our area too. They are really easy to scare off and not at all uncommon. https://www.dahlonega.org/things-to-do/outdoor-adventures/wildlife-and-black-bears/ Before my dog got old, I walked her where the bear who lives behind our house hangs out every day. When we spotted the bear, I would leash my dog up and give the bear a wide berth. They have zero interest in humans tbh, unless you …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:26 AM
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If your partner ever had a desire to sleep with another person other than yourself, would you wish to know, or prefer they never told you? People aren’t blind, they are going to feel lust for someone other than their spouse eventually. Why in the world do you say something? Do you tell your boss you have fantasies of working for his rival? Your best friend he’s okay, but you were thinking you might actually have had more fun if you were hanging with a new friend? Insane Upon learning that your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:37 AM
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If your partner ever had a desire to sleep with another person other than yourself, would you wish to know, or prefer they never told you? People aren’t blind, they are going to feel list for someone other than their spouse eventually. Why in the world do you say something? Do you tell your boss you have fantasies of working for his rival? Your best friend he’s okay, but you were thinking you might actually have had more fun if you were hanging with a new friend? Insane Upon learning that your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:28 AM
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Damn dude……I mean…… Not like those issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:29 PM
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This is a conversation for a therapist tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:08 PM
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https://ulyssespress.com/authors/stephanie-hallett/ You can thank a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:05 PM
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Good luck finding her, get a passport! She’s not in a developed country. She might not be overseas either, lots of former sex workers overseas who are born again virgins for farang. Women absolutely find dudes to tolerate their triple counts, and somehow it seems to me that slutty dudes with double standards end up on purple pill debate hella mad when they look around and their chance to snag a virgin is gone. Seems like one side maintains their standards better than the other to me. 🤷‍♀️ Odd yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:35 PM
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lol…doesn’t matter dude. You have your ideas about the double standard as being just fine. Women have their ideas about the double standard being shit. Doesn’t matter how many roofs you climb up on an shout from…you have your standards and beliefs, women have theirs. No analogies, no shaming, no ridiculous evo psychology is going to change the fact that women by and large will not want to date what they see as a hypocrite Don’t shame us bro! It’s female sexuality 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:32 PM
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Of course, absolutely. I very much understand that. I have no narrative that all lonely men are hateful, but certainly some lonely men are very loudly hateful and lots of hateful men are lonely. Being emotionally damaged is certainly a result of loneliness, but it’s not an excuse and doesn’t help anyone to lash out and be hateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:55 PM
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The loneliness is crushing and really fucks with your mental state. Lonely men want love I dunno….it’s hard to feel empathy for people who claim to be lonely out of one side of their mouth and mention how women are are all gross sluts not worth the oxygen they breathe on the other side. Or how women need to have their rights taken away until they shape up and start fucking low value men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:23 PM
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Tldr I used to think we no longer need feminism. I’ve changed my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:49 PM
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Politically conservative women are also not necessarily sexually conservative women. My county is one of the reddest in the US and we have plenty of gun toting, flag waving, single moms with three baby daddies. I rent to them :/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:09 PM
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“But they started it….” 😭 Seriously? Are you 5?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:48 PM
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Imho, she was kind of trashy. Her boyfriend was right. De-escalate and dip out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:41 PM
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In any case if the driver doesn't handle it, you take the other girl and walk with her back to the club and call the police from there. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:36 PM
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Not my experience tbh. The ones I know are absolutely single by choice though. One is my former boss when I tended bar, she still tends bar, average looking, not fat, tons of friends, hasn’t had sex in almost two decades. She had a relationship in college, he ended up cheating on her and she closed up shop. She does like cats though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:31 PM
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>I am not looking for a relationship, I don’t want to be married, and see nothing wrong with casual sex. But when women engage in casual sex it makes you not good relationship material. If this is actually a true story, you could have just told her you aren’t looking for a relationship. Why insult her? If you don’t want a relationship, why care what makes a woman relationship material in your eyes anyway? This is just rage bait. Woman have their own standards too. Congratulations. No women at al…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:14 PM
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tldr you‘re an asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 12:24 PM
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>placing themselves in the vicinity of where these men will be, sometimes even doing research on it, and making sure they look a certain way when around them Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:25 AM
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Actually I agree 100% with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:17 AM
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I met my ex in a bar. Extremely ambitious, intelligent guy. I put myself through engineering school and bought a house working in bars. Even after I got my degree, I much preferred the company of people who hung out in bars rather than my fellow engineers. In a way, I also met my husband in a bar, but years before we started dating. The first time I ever met him I was driving a friend around town who was stalking him🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:08 AM
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Well ….not to you it isn’t. According to some feedback I have gotten from some angry dudes….let’s just say it doesn’t go over well with everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 12:45 AM
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Seriously, just stop. You made an entirely ridiculous claim that ”but apparenrly none of them agree it's not ok to hate men” and I reposted an entire page to the contrary. Now apparently by acknowledging that some good feminists exist, it’s my fault that some bad people do exist and I’m also pretending bad apples don’t exist. This is the same argument that calls all republicans racist or all Christians homophobic. But there is also a huge difference which makes you sound even more irrational. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:03 PM
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>as if acknowledging them takes away from women’s struggles. Well…..your bros in other parts of this subreddit today literally suggesting we take away women’s rights aren’t helping. They are literally suggesting we need to make women‘s struggles harder. Some weird, old rageaholic coomer said the same thing yesterday Furthermore, complaining about a lack of sex partners is not an actionable problem unless you want to advocate for the legalization of prostitution, but that ultimately doesn’t solve…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 06:32 PM
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Not my monkey, not my circus.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:50 PM
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Problem with men is that they dont have bargaining power to make their issues heard. They dont have political power, or unified front Not having political power is not the same as not having a unified front. Men have an outsized political power, it’s just that the vast majority of men don’t see the same problems a much smaller group of men see. You think men who vote against abortion rights will help abolish circumcision? Fat chance. Men against abortion rights are very pro religious freedom. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:08 PM
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Hot take: most women are actually not lining up to shit on anyone. Unsuccessful men are like unsuccessful women…mostly invisible. Apathy =/= antipathy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:41 PM
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Understanding the process by which we come to know things is not splitting hairs. These men do not understand how you come to know something or what logic is Please say this louder for the evolutionary psychologists in the back. No one can take a perfectly fine set of empirical data and turn it into a smooth brained mess of hogswoggle faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:42 PM
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“ but apparenrly none of them agree it's not ok to hate men” now turns to…they probably don’t help anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 06:04 AM
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Looks definitely matter. You may struggle to date because of your personality. Both things can be true. There are definitely some people on this subreddit with issues that have nothing to do with their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:33 AM
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Controversial take here, but lots of red pill guys end up “forever anger phase” guys because: Red pill can’t fix what is actually wrong with them Their issue is that they are actually primarily angry people and their lack of romantic success is a consequence of that, not a cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:48 AM
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I took a longer route to say the same thing, but you are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:18 AM
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No, women actually only need to be in a target rich environment, put out ioi, and wait. lol, I say that as a woman with zero interest in fellow engineers, but that’s how it works for average Stacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:46 AM
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OP as he has made logical deductions from evidence, conclusions cannot be drawn from data in the absence of a deductive process Statistics uses inductive inference while logic uses deductive inference. This is hardly a trivial distinction
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:26 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/3tn9kc/a_list_of_feminist_resources_tackling_mens_issues/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:41 AM
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Call me so I can watch. 🥊 🧨🍿 That would be more fun than watching people fight over religion and who qualifies as a Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:35 AM
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I honestly don’t care. Whores have always existed. Some are honestly victimized, this particular woman is not. What “responsibility “ is involved here? Are we now responsible not to gross other people out? Just don’t look, it isn’t going to pop up in your feed unless you look for it. Plenty of people are going to pay plenty of money to see that show, and they will overwhelmingly be men. Apparently they aren’t as grossed out as they are aroused. She’s making money, but a bunch of dudes didn’t eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:57 AM
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I dunno, not my experience. And besides, I always had a gay guy to bring as a plus one when I wasn’t dating anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:46 AM
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Yeah, the pile on of “atta boy”s came after it went viral though :/ At least they came though. So there is that. Most people are pretty oblivious and self absorbed, but when push comes to shove, very few people are outright assholes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:43 AM
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There honestly might be “some” correlation between high n counts and a history of unstable relationships, because people with more unstable relationships spend more time single. More time spent single typically means more random partners. It’s still a question of chicken or egg though. I’ve known lots of people, male, female, gay and straight, who go through a promiscuous phase after a breakup.I had one after a devastating breakup that was initially followed by a long period of celibacy. I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:03 AM
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Most people have sex before commitment is established. Sometimes sex leads to a relationship, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it’s just expected to be a hookup until it isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:52 PM
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New dick for women and gay men has always been as available as walking into a bar, asking who’s horny, and picking your favorite from dozens. Technology has changed the method, but not the availability.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:46 PM
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It’s fun going to weddings and drawing lines between the wedding guests who have hooked up with each other as well as the bride and/or groom.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:26 PM
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Dude…….it’s a sub for reposting
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:24 PM
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Since we were talking about relationships and sex, specifically before and after the sexual revolution, yes…we are discussing the people affected by the sexual revolution the most. Does that need to be explicitly spelled out? Is that not intuitively obvious, or does every single post need to have caveats lest we offend the diversity police? The above statements do not necessarily reflect the life experiences of the trans Latinx community in Oaxaca in 1951 Feel better now?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 03:23 PM
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I think there were even couples who loved each other who had pretty awful sex lives. Depending on how repressed, religious girls didn’t partake in non procreative sex, and pregnancy could be dangerous even if you could afford to feed the kids. That was couples who loved each other. I can only imagine how infrequent sex could be when they didn’t particularly like each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:54 AM
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I honestly can’t say you are wrong. Unsuccessful men think they are all competing with Chad. In reality they are competing with boxed wine and cats. Both single men and women are more socially acceptable than ever before. Despite insulting “childless cat ladies”, no one really cares. One point….Young men today think these marriages in the past were all eager, consensual sex on tap though. Before birth control? I sincerely doubt it. I think most young men raised after the sexual revolution wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:56 PM
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You generally are around people of a similar class and education. It’s not a ludicrous demand for a woman in med school or law school herself. Or getting an mba. That’s like saying it’s ludicrous for a 30 year old guy to only want to date women 25 to 30 because women in that age range are less than 4% of the total population. It’s ludicrous for a fast food worker with 1” nails and neck tattoo, not ludicrous for a woman who’s also a doctor. The number one profession that male doctors marry is fem…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:42 PM
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So men have evolved to be dangerous hunters who are capable of violence? Sounds like women have no other options in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:23 PM
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I guess by that logic, men shouldn’t be shamed for being criminals and abusers, they are just following their biological programming?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:55 PM
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If a man cheats, he’s condemned outright. We just elected a president who cheated on all three of his wives. Try again. If being good and loyal actually mattered, toxic men wouldn’t thrive socially or romantically So I guess men value only good women and toxic women are never successful socially or romantically. X to doubt. And I thought you just said when men cheat…they are condemned, but now in the same breath they are successful? Make up your mind. If women truly valued "good men," those men …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:08 AM
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You realize some of the negative attributes you ascribe to your mother and women in general apply to yourself, right? I don’t agree on something, hate and disrespect is preprogrammed. Which is why your go to is calling people retards and hurling personal insults extremely neurotic You yourself are extremely negative and fearful crave constant attention The biggest troll of the day. can’t deal with disapproval Expect submission, no back talk from your women. Add to that the exact same black and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:32 AM
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Sure, there’s another thing you can stay up nights worrying about…the devil. 🐱🐱🐱
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:55 AM
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I guess not. He isn’t afraid of women in general, unlike most posters here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:31 AM
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lol, my husband has way more street smarts than you do….100% guaranteed. His dad sent him into the housing projects in New Orleans to collect cash on installment loans. He still isn’t worried about random violence where none exists. He actually isn’t neurotic and hyper vigilant, he was actually the only one in a work crew not scared of the neighborhoods in Atlanta. And yes, his parents let him ride his bike as a kid. He wasn’t raised like the fucking f***ots we have around in this generation who…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:16 AM
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Be the person you'd be PROUD of being 😘 I love this. Also “Be yourself,unless you suck”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:01 AM
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I don’t know about gender fluid, but my husband doesn’t pee his pants in fear, thinking about all the mean bad people who might accost him in the Walmart parking lot. Neither do I. We sleep with the front door open in summer, not unlocked, but wide open. Because we aren’t neurotic. But you do you 🐱
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 11:36 PM
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Okay Tony
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 11:29 PM
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I’m happy, so I don’t know why your panties are in a bunch. If my husband isn’t a real man, but he’s actually a real woman, he managed to impress a lot of lesbians.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 11:22 PM
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Pretty much on a daily basis if you live in a city? Really? You need to take some of that “provider energy” and get the money to move to a better part of that city. I’ve lived in the French Quarter of New Orleans and New York City. Aware of my surroundings, yes. Neurotic and hyper vigilant no. You think there are big bad people everywhere? Behind every bush, just waiting to pounce? Did you have a helicopter mommy who didn’t let you ride your bike out of her sight until you were 18?? Or were you …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 11:19 PM
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So when you say “you need to serve a real man” I think, No thanks, I’m good I’m not “afraid” of traditional men, I just don’t want one. My man is a real man, hasn’t expected me to “serve” him yet though. I’m good fam, but thanks for your concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:42 PM
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I’m the first line of defence, it is also my duty to for see where threats could occur, put myself in the threats shoes and be vigilant in public areas. It is a constant occupation. Just knowing you could have to put your life on the line at anytime changes who you are. This is hilarious, Ngl. You are constantly on your toes and vigilant against “threats “? That doesn’t seem calm or courageous, you sound anxious and fearful. Either you need to move to a better area or you are just extremely neur…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:38 PM
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Well maybe you need to state your position more clearly, you seemed to imply a man who didn’t provide would be less sexually attractive. I can assure you it doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:26 PM
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Landlords play a long game of sub optimal returns and gamble on capital appreciation when they sell. Actual cash flow properties are few and far between. You are primarily balancing your leverage against your capital appreciation. In simple terms, I buy for 20% down, but earn 100% of property appreciation. That doesn’t mean that what I can get as market rent covers my mortgage. Look at your local real estate market, how much it would cost to buy your current place and calculate the mortgage. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:52 PM
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Ohh right. Because mortgages are actually higher than rents for identical properties.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:27 PM
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So having to marry some beta provider because I’m too lame to make decent money for myself is supposed to be sexy now? I didn’t marry my husband for his wallet, but for what was “wallet adjacent”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 08:38 PM
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How about I decide my cooking is more valuable than his emptying the dishwasher, because cooking takes skill, but loading the dishes is worth minimum wage. 🙄. So for every hour I cook, he owes three hours of laundry and dishes. If you are going to really be consistent, let’s put value on the chores too. How many chore credits does a woman get for childbirth? Will that depend on how hard her labor and delivery is? How should she be compensated for breast feeding? These kind of things seem so “log…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 08:15 PM
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transactional bean counting Keeping a scorecard is the fastest way to kill a relationship imho. Ideally, both partners do what they are best at, and both try to do what needs to get done when they see something that needs to get done. I can’t imagine telling a partner they need to do more housework when both work full time. Why not just also assign a value to chores not based on their value too? I can just imagine a couple arguing that his hours of work bring in more money, but her hour of cooki…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:04 PM
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beaten to death by her boyfriend Almost all the violent crime in my area is domestic violence. Kind of goes against op’s argument that a woman needs a man to protect her though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:23 PM
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Why don’t you try to buy the place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:03 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:58 PM
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Who knows . Probably traffic to an only fans
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:10 PM
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lol, I actually used to get one of my tenants teenage kids to help me for real. Kid can now replace faucets, toilet valves, ice maker valves, my husband taught him how to do some electrical. Honestly with the cost of repairs and the headaches, we have been divesting. I made double in the stock market on the last property I sold than I would have made in rent with fewer hassles.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:25 PM
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We started out separate before marriage. To me, people who nickel and dime their married partners, whether in terms of money OR chores, set themselves up for contentious relationships. I knew a couple who did this with three kids. They had two upper middle class incomes, she made slightly less, but fought about money constantly, to the point she told her husband that money for the kids to play sports should be paid by him because it was his idea. No way to live a peaceful life imho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:06 PM
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Yeah, my husband is glad I never subscribed to this BS. I always outearned him but after we got married, it was all “our” money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:44 PM
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Me too….my second childhood too 🙂 Life is good
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:41 PM
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There’s a much higher chance I will hit a deer coming home from the store and die. And my husband doesn’t chaperone me to the store anyway. Why is everyone so neurotic, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:40 PM
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I have no idea what this means. I have a man. We share finances and chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:37 PM
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Old enough. Check my post history. Been a landlord since my twenties. If the shit hits the fan so hard I go under financially, so does my husband. We are talking apocalyptic destruction. Plus, I have skills. https://imgur.com/a/0WojhoU
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:36 PM
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They are where I live. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:30 PM
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I’ve already done well thanks. I live off of passive income. People pay me rent.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:29 PM
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Men aren’t “completely” safe in the world either , maybe a meteor will crash through our roof too. But neither my h or myself is neurotically obsessed with scenarios that are highly unlikely to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:25 PM
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lol, you know, for “traditional girls”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:21 PM
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I can provide for myself, live in a ridiculously safe area and I am also loyal. I have a degree in engineering, so slim chance I ever need to go without or live in a dangerous neighborhood. I don’t need a “traditional “ man, but I definitely have a man who appreciates I’m not on “Gone Wild” advertising for a daddy to breed me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:17 PM
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You can get whatever you want if you can find a woman to agree. Love, affection, companionship? But in general, what will most modern working women will agree to? Sex, part of the chores and part of the bills. The actual quantitative shares of these contributions are subject to negotiation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:39 PM
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You need a YouTube channel to dispel all the outsized and exaggerated theories and the myths out there. I think it’s easier for people struggling to believe most people in their demographic are also struggling and more convenient to point blame at online dating, politics, ….whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:47 AM
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I’m looking at your post history….you are the hero we need.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:14 AM
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Okay……and divorce is higher for younger couples, lower for those in their late twenties. Sounds like people delaying marriage to “find themselves “ is a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:00 AM
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Tell him. Then it’s closer to the cdc numbers which he objected to as outdated. His assertion… I would like to remind you 35% of young men ages 18-30 are virgins is bat crazy and his insistence that being in your mid to late twenties and still being a virgin isn’t an outlier are s imply wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:55 AM
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Better than getting married in your early twenties and being divorced by 25 and raising kids without a dad. That’s the reality of rushing into marriage these days. 60% of people who marry young will divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:41 AM
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Yeah that works both ways. If someone keeps telling you “ do this so I don’t have to poke you, it’s important to me,” and you say you will but don’t , things typically escalate on both sides I’ve had this fight and I’d rather have a man simply tell me no tbh. Just say I don’t have time, I don’t want to do it and let’s start negotiating from that point. Act like a grown up. Replying “yes dear” and then not following through is behaving like a child and the one thing the vast majority of women don…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:36 AM
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GSS survey 2018 https://datepsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/male_virgins_all_ages_gss_2018.png
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 04:02 AM
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From articles that you linked to me to “inform myself” “According to Pew Research, 55% of LGBTQ adults said they have used a dating app, compared to 28% of straight adults” “ 19% of internet users in the United States claimed they were currently using an online dating app or platform.” “ The majority of online daters claim that it’s “somewhat easy” to find compatible partners. ” “ Only 13% of users got engaged or married from meeting someone on a dating site, though. Meanwhile, 23.7% claim that …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:52 AM
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U.S. birth rates are declining, which suggests lower levels of sexual activity overall, especially among young people. Pile onto that with the sheer number of ways to reduce the chances of pregnancy and abortion it just naturally limits the birth rate Alright, make up your mind. Apparently women are having sex, just with the same guy according to you. Very few women are virgins, many men are according to you. It’s common for mid twenties virgin males to encounter women with high n counts accordi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:41 AM
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PS…the Stanford link doesn’t work🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:27 AM
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So all known data is wrong and you are correct…because you just pull random shit out of your ass? If sexual activity is high among women, but low among men as you claim…explain to me how this is affecting birth rates. 🙄. Women are the bottleneck for reproduction. One chad can impregnate all the women on the block.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:25 AM
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There are a number of red pillers who get quite bent out of shape at the notion that women need clitoral stimulation and oral sex to cum. I think just yesterday some dude said this was because women masturbate too much and watch too much porn. 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:16 AM
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I would like to remind you 35% of young men ages 18-30 are virgins while only 12% of young women are in the same boat. Yeah, that’s simply not true. The age of virginity loss between young men and women tracks pretty closely. Women typically date 1 to 2 years older. By age 20, 21% of young women are still virgins, 23% of men are still virgins. https://images.app.goo.gl/ZVV5FUxx5JwtFUqq5 really just hookups in general and strangely these hookups are never with the kind of guy they end up looking …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 01:50 AM
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We are talking about what men say about themselves and about other men. One at some point has to accept they are stating their personal truth. I don’t see many, if any, women who claim all women hate all men. Gonna need see links.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 01:21 AM
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Oh…I mean of course…fair enough, but we hear this daily from men themselves….and they often don’t say “all I care about is hot”. They often say all “all men care about is hot”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 12:52 AM
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many women in recent years will take years to “find themselves.” And they end up getting married late twenties/early thirties to 30 year old guys who also used their 20’s to “find themselves”. People who marry in this age range actually have the lowest divorce rate. The ones getting married at this age are also the most likely to be college educated, also the least likely to divorce. Why do you think we should piss in their cornflakes? baby daddy’s are likely to be someone who is more interestin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:38 PM
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Men themselves continually say that all they need from women is for her to be hot. Some add submissive. Then act surprised at what they get when applying only these standards. I think people are advising if you don’t want to get baby trapped by some ratchet woman or used like a walking ATM, have higher standards for character. Stop letting the little head do all the thinking This is probably good advice for everyone tbh. Lots of women tolerate bad treatment from a bad boy who looks good. It usua…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:40 PM
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Ummmm.….it wasn’t boomers that got the ball rolling. Your greatest generation did their share <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 02:48 AM
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I got kicked off of poverty finance by telling someone 100k wasn’t poverty, even in the Bay Area. “But I pay 30k in rent”. And after taxes you still have 50k left over. Then they complained a gallon of “good brand” organically grass fed milk was $8. Imagine complaining about the cost of the “good brand” organic grass fed milk and saying you are living in poverty in the same breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:17 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/NpAzvxLJez5ra6248 It’s not a “big dilemma”, and hasn’t been for over a decade. College educated women are the MOST likely to be married, and more likely to marry someone with less education.Also the most likely to stay married https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:49 AM
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Well……actually….. There are more women who marry down in terms of education. It’s honestly not that surprising. Most middle class professions that women gravitate to like nursing and teaching require degrees, most guys can make similar money in trades or as cops, firefighters. https://images.app.goo.gl/NpAzvxLJez5ra6248
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:45 AM
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I think this is the first time I have agreed with you, lol. We all want to be physically desired. I think it’s actually MORE true of women than men, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:40 AM
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Sure. Fine. We are utterly useless. Happy now?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:15 AM
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Ahhh okay?? Don’t know where you are going with that. My point was that “dangerous “ in this context is more akin to financially risky, not that you might literally starve to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:10 AM
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Our labor participation rate was 59% of the population over the age of 16 in the 1950’s, it never got higher than 68% and it’s 64% today. https://www.investors.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/wLFPrate021320.jpg The biggest declines in labor force participation has been in men over the age of 55 and in teenagers 16 to 19. But thanks again for reminding women how utterly useless we are. Message received.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:07 AM
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On farms everybody worked, (except maybe for a few wives of wealthy landowners, definitely the exception, not the rule), men women and children. You are right that they worked long hard hours too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:40 PM
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I dunno, but I was the first in my family to go to college, retired at 40, live on a very modest passive income and go camping a total of two months out of 12. I’m not here to proselytize. Do what you want, hit the coffee shop on your way to work. Buy nice shit so I can pick it up used. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:16 PM
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Sure. And back to the original conversation, it’s much easier for women to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:06 PM
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What…like sex without the fear of pregnancy? Sure . Guys getting casual sex like it to. The median number of sex partners for the silent generation was two, the following generation, the baby boomers, it was now eleven. EVERYBODY loves sex without the fear of pregnancy, lol. Except for people not getting any sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:40 PM
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It’s certainly made it different.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:23 PM
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If it wasn’t him, I think it would have been someone else. He was just a harbinger and a precursor to the sexual revolution. I think these things, like people being less puritanical and more libertine , go in cycles, but when the birth control pill came out in the early 60’s, the real genie came out of the bottle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:19 PM
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I don’t think you understand what middle class is if you think most people aren’t middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:14 PM
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well..imho in the modern era it started in the 1950’s and Hugh Hefner reminding puritanical westerners that women too enjoyed sex. If you were a proper Playboy, the nice girl next door would be hot with desire. Now porn is full of women crawling over broken glass they are so overcome with lust. No one wants a wife staring at the ceiling and thinking of god and country. Hookers are easy to get, the girlfriend experience costs more, sugar babies are simply a step further in the attempt to obfuscat…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:02 PM
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how can many guys think that it would be more difficult to do that than it seems? Do they think that? I think there are plenty of guys who acknowledge that it’s easier to get into relationships with economically needy women. Single moms get roasted for being desperate for bailouts, guys here stress out about being seen as a beta provider to a woman not attracted to him, and passport bros all agree that it’s easy for a western guy to snag a woman in a third world country. I think the rub is that …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:39 PM
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That never happened. Our labor participation rate was 59% of the population over the age of 16 in the 1950’s, it never got higher than 68% and it’s 64% today. https://www.investors.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/wLFPrate021320.jpg The biggest declines in labor force participation has been in men over the age of 55 and in teenagers 16 to 19.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:08 PM
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Okay, then marriage to a stay at home mom isn’t “dangerous” either. You will lose half the house and half your savings, I mean what’s the worst that can happen? You end up broke? Apparently that’s no big deal. I don’t think “dangerous “ in this context implied actual risk to life or limb.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:37 PM
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There are 74.6 million women in the civilian labor force. Almost 47 percent of U.S. workers are women. More than 39 percent of women work in occupations where women make up at least three-quarters of the workforce. Yeah… working age men will replace the 4 million nurses, the 4 million teachers, the dental hygienists, the nursing home workers, the fast food and service industry workers, the retail workers etc etc etc🙄. We are just magically going to replace 1/2 the workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:15 PM
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As a movement this is only available to an elite few. For anyone in the west, with a middle class background? I call bullshit. Join us over at Leanfire or follow Jacob Lund Fisker or Mr Money Mustache. Although you can rule out coffee shops, make your coffee at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:06 PM
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Well, it actually is easier to get a much younger and much better looking partner willing to trade sex for money. Most people in this situation delude themselves rather than to face the ugly truth that they are trying to buy love and/or sex with someone more physically desirable than they are. The ego is a funny thing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 02:59 PM
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It’s a partnership until it isn’t. Seems every divorced guy with a stay at home wife bitches about losing HIS house, HIS pension……
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 02:53 PM
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This is the reality for the vast majority of stay at home wives who get divorced too. Most couples have little saved other than the equity in their home. So they split that, she gets no or very limited alimony and child support until the kids age out. But he continues his career without any bumps in the road and is paid like someone with years of experience, while she typically looks to start a career along side of 22 year old interns. Everyone looks at Marla Maples or the first wife of an NBA s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 02:03 PM
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Pretty women all turn into old women. If a guy is supporting you only because you are young and pretty, there will come a day…. Plus, not sure low key prostitution is a privilege. Your job is going to continue a sexual relationship even if you don’t desire your partner. Sounds like a potential nightmare if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:42 PM
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when you don't need to Being dependent on the whims of one person, namely your partner, isn’t the same as being independently wealthy. Imagine yourself as the boy toy of a wealthy woman, out of the workforce for a decade and accustomed to a better lifestyle than you could possibly afford. What happens when the relationship goes to shit? Maybe it never gets abusive, how about after 10 years out of the workforce your partner gains 100 lbs or decides she’s had enough sex fora lifetime. Maybe she ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:36 PM
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I’ll take things that never happened in the 21st century for $200 Alex Answer What is “Society unfairly force men to stay in sexually unsatisfactory relationship."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:02 PM
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first reaction should be "do it you fucking dick” Exactly. Great way to start your joint parenting. Second reaction will be “go fuck your self and speak to my lawyer when you find out it’s yours”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:20 AM
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“Do it you fucking dick” sounds like an excellent way to start parenthood together. /s I’d personally follow it with “here’s your results fuckhead, talk to my lawyer” Why do you need your wife’s permission? Just do it. If it comes back it’s not yours, precede accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:17 AM
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“Do it you fucking dick” sounds like an excellent way to start parenthood together. /s I’d personally follow it with “here’s your results fuckhead, talk to my lawyer” Why do you need your wife’s permission? Just do it. If it comes back it’s not yours, precede accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:17 AM
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You’re simply crazy if you think that request isn’t going to cause problems. I can’t even imagine telling my husband I need his index finger to snoop through his phone. Just get the dna yourself and send it in, you don’t need mom’s permission or acknowledgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:12 AM
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Definitely works for me! *Gently* suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:08 AM
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My ex had an undescended one at birth, that ended up being significantly smaller. It was a non issue. Aesthetically, no big deal. Believe it or not, as far as looks go, we don’t care about your balls, or whether you even have them. I think the fact that that you can’t have kids is definitely something you need to let women know about fairly early in a relationship though. For some women who don’t want kids, it could be a plus. For women who do want kids, it’s best to get the conversation out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:59 AM
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Oddly enough, in two different recent posts, when asked if you feel secure about your appearance in terms of gender expression, almost all the women worried they weren’t feminine enough,almost all the men seemed confident in their masculine appearance. 🧐 Seems like men may not judge women as harshly as women judge themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:17 PM
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Well, if you are a twenty year old of any gender, most plus 40 year olds look pretty awful to you. Sure, Kate Beckensale or Jennifer Lopez are hot, the vast majority of middle aged women look like Kathy Bates or Roseann Barr. I wouldn’t expect the average guy in his 20’s to find the average woman in her 50’s to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:13 PM
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Why didn’t daddy dearest choose better too? He’s the one paying child support for kids he barely gets to see because he knocked up the wrong woman. News flash, lots of people are losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:02 AM
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First…bold assumption. Second, some young, naive men tell women don’t abort my child, but then when faced with the reality of diapers, up all night with a crying baby and a postpartum mom not giving up any sex, they bail. I rent to single moms. They typically get knocked up because that’s what happens when you have sex with your boyfriend and aren’t careful. Some of the single moms I’ve rented to have had some kids while married. Most single moms can’t find a decent guy to commit, especially aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 07:56 AM
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I haven’t seen the movie, but the advice sounds solid for everyone imho. Both parties being completely enthusiastic is the way to go. I’ve never had a relationship that we even needed the discussion “what are we” or “are we exclusive”. When I was into someone and they were into me, noone was staring at the phone wondering.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 07:30 AM
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I have a naturally feminine appearance, I also tend to be friendly, but blunt, outspoken and no nonsense, which comes off as masculine. Never bothered me that some men might not like it in a romantic context. Most of the men I have dated have been even more assertive than me. In my experience, super assertive men get bored with passive women. Being an engineer, I felt I actually needed to behave in an even more masculine manner to be accepted by my overwhelmingly male coworkers
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 05:07 AM
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lol, both my h and I have had our sluttier moments before we started dating, but I have absolutely no interest in anything non monogamous. Tried anal one with my ex, he was not impressed and I was definitely not impressed. Happiest day of my life was when our relationship was progressing and my now husband uttered the three little words every woman longs to hear….. “Not into anal”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:45 AM
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I can’t decide if these downvotes are because people don’t get obvious sarcasm or they think your advice is honestly horrible. I have a niche hobby and know many adorable geek/freak couples also obsessed with the same hobby
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 12:01 AM
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Do you think people in general have “many abusers”? X to doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:58 PM
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My many male abusers? Sorry , I don’t have “many male abusers”. Or female abusers either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:55 PM
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Again, for those in the back…there is a wide range of human emotions between I don’t care about you in the slightest and I am seriously in love with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:50 PM
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Welp, that’s enough reddit for today. Time to touch grass
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:43 PM
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That’s nonsense. People expect you to be polite and not name call like an immature middle schooler. If you can’t say anything nice,then people expect you to just say nothing. But no one expects normal men to be sexually attracted to the morbidly obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:38 PM
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I went from longtime friend, to lover, to now husband. You are 100% spot on with the “subtle shift” imho. We both just started seeing each other more, doing more things together. He was doing some work on my house and started fixing little things for free. Then he left a few “gifts”. I started making him meals if “he stayed late”😏. Our mutual friends started wondering what was up long before we slept together. But it was definitely a slow shift on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:59 PM
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lol….what? I’ve been in love, been “in love”, been in lust and banged a few randos after a breakup too. That’s exactly how I know those emotions are different. The assumption that there is no other feeling between complete indifference and true love is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:32 PM
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You’re clearly a monster.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:09 PM
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I’m married to a man who is none of those things either, but I don’t think he’s that uncommon. We are all a mixed bag with both good traits and imperfections..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:08 PM
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Example? I’m blunt with everyone. You would be surprised at the subreddits that have blocked me. ❄️ ❄️❄️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 05:29 PM
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If I'm not intruding too much, how did that rush of hormones play out? I’ve had dozens of crushes, at least 5 instances of crazy new relationship energy, and have been truly in love twice. Of the three relationships that I can think of where I really was crazy “in love” that didn’t pan out or develop into anything more, two I recall with great fondness and one I look back on and just wonder “what was I thinking”. He’s still cute though. Dumber than a post, but cute. Despite my husband being a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 05:25 PM
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I married someone who was a longtime friend. That’s not the problem big emotions are bad, that my love for my partner is somehow a burden to them that they have to deal with. I’m already expected to accept that in all likelihood the person I lose my virginity to will not give a single solitary fuck about me He expects “true love” to exist before the actual relationship. When people get around to the “I love you”, when they have genuine, lasting and deep emotions, it should be AFTER a romantic re…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:39 PM
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If I preface my comments with “oh, I’m so sad for you” will that change reality? If my comments are harsh, it’s because reality is harsh, and if you missed your window for shallow, teenaged angst over “being in love” with someone you have never even dated, the rest of the world isn’t slowing down for you to catch-up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:16 PM
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Did someone say life is fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:54 PM
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Sorry, but it’s true. His view of love is that of someone who has never experienced it. If people were more clear eyed and realized that the Disney version of love is bullshit the divorce rate wouldn’t be so high.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:53 PM
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because they find themselves trapped in a situation where they feel they either have to stay single or abandon a deeply held emotional principle. The world won’t change to suit your arrested development, you are going to find it hard to find someone to accept a grown man who is emotionally still fourteen……so the choice is yours. Everyone else who has experienced and been through early turbulent relationships as a teenager realizes their “deeply held emotional principles “ are actually pretty sil…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:40 PM
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First of all, some people didn’t get to date in high school That’s why you sound emotionally like you are still in high school and don’t know the difference between real love and puppy love. But they are definitely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:24 PM
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I’m already expected to accept that in all likelihood the person I lose my virginity to will not give a single solitary fuck about me as a person. You do realize there’s a whole lot of range of emotion between “not giving a single solitary fuck” and “you are the love of my life”, right? How about moving to: I’m attracted, I think we are compatible and enjoy your company, I want to be exclusive, I love you, I want us to spend our lives together. You think “I’m in love” for someone you have never …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:17 PM
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Why is he confessing after 3 years? First of all “confessing “ is so cringeworthy my snatch is already drier than the Sahara. If he’s interested in a sexual relationship, get that clear from the beginning. If I’m not romantically interested and you still are interested in friendship, okay. How can you profess some huge romantic love for a person you have never dated or have had sex with? Are we in high school?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 02:55 PM
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Am I happy with the relationship? Am I happy with my sex life? Does he love me? If yes, then great. Why do I care about his ex? The only way I care about his sexual relationship with his ex is if they used to do anal, swinging or BDSM, then I’m glad he got it out of his system….no fomo. I’d send her a ham for Christmas to thank her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:12 AM
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Obese ..that’s a weird one. And probably statistically inaccurate since rural areas have higher rates of both obesity and conservatism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:57 PM
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Oh please, Jim Gaffigan did a hilarious standup bit about a guy who murdered his wife, married a stripper soon after and confessed to the stripper while taking LSD on his honeymoon. It’s a real story. And it’s a funny bit. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PnaxGQvsvmo
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 09:01 AM
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Some women are horrible communicators, no doubt, and sometimes you don’t even know what you need if you’ve never had it. Most of the oral I see it porn doesn’t really do much for me🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:26 PM
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And his ego is too big to be the puppet of anyone else. I think you forgot about the tale of the emperor and his new clothes. People with huge egos are easy to control with flattery.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 11:17 AM
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My first basically thought he knew what he was doing, honestly I didn’t even realize how subpar the sex was because…”hey, he knew what he was doing”. My ex came to the experience with a black slate and was a master at detecting my bodies reaction, changed technique, pace, pressure until he could feel my body react. He loved to say”ohhhh…you like that!” And he would put that into memory. I thought I didn’t even really like oral that much…...🤣. He also was very sexually generous, didn’t take it pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:01 AM
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This was my experience with an ex tbh. I wasn’t older than he was, we were one month apart in age, but had been in a relationship at 19 for about 6-8 months with a guy who was 25 and had plenty of experience. So I had had sex at least a 100 times. My ex of 7 years was a virgin but was better in bed within weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 11:10 PM
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Most single mothers only claim the father isn't there so they can get subsidized financial assistance and other social services provided by the state. It's literally required by law that they deny the presence of the father, Direct quote. So which is it? Do “most single moms” actually live with the dad and deny it, or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:46 AM
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Ahhh okay? Then I guess there really aren’t as many single moms as people claim? They are unmarried but not un unpartnered? Then why do guys here claim the only women out there are single moms? 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 08:36 PM
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I wonder what the market is like for Thai men. “According to other estimates, perhaps as many 1 million women work in Thailand's sex industry and as many as 20 percent of all Thai women have worked as prostitutes at one time.” So the bottom 20% of Thai men have their choice of literal ex prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:55 PM
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Single dads with primary custody of their kids. That’s only 18% of households. About 40% of children in father-absent homes have not seen their father at all during the past year; 26% of absent fathers live in a different state than their children; and 50% of children living absent their father have never set foot in their father’s home. http://www.rochesterareafatherhoodnetwork.org/statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:17 PM
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You have got to be joking……
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:17 AM
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So no sex till marriage? Well that’s not going to happen…and even then men still left their kids. I’m definitely pro choice, but some people aren’t and unless you never have sex until you are married, there is always a chance of a kid without commitment. And there’s still no guarantee he won’t just go out for a pack of smokes and not return
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:11 AM
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And men can’t be honorable and take care of their kids. Who sucks more?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:30 AM
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The one with the opportunity? I rent to blue collar people in the solid red Appalachian Bible Belt . The level of unwed motherhood, multiple baby daddies, absent fathers is pretty saddening. Since 2005, I’ve rented to a total of zero intact families, and only two married couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:29 AM
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“These men”? Who exactly are “these men”. Lots of men are only as faithful as their options, they come in all shapes and sizes. You realize all types of people cheat, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:07 AM
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Same response as elsewhere most guys on this subreddit admit they would act exactly like Chad if they had the looks and skills. They keep trying to tell us that their lack of options is a virtue. I got caught in that trap, after 7 years, he got a chance to cheat and took it. Lack of options isn’t a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:51 PM
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Maybe don’t go for Chad There’s a problem with that…most guys on this subreddit admit they would act exactly like Chad if they had the looks and skills. They keep trying to tell us that their lack of options is a virtue. I got caught in that trap, after 7 years, he got a chance to cheat and took it. Lack of options isn’t a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:49 PM
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I assumed your example was pure hyperbole. The average woman bitching about her ex isn’t trying to date Jeremy Meeks. He is the guy who acted like he wanted commitment when he didn’t, was unfaithful, left her pregnant, needs to be run down just for child support, never sees his kids etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:44 PM
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Yeah, let’s rant about the dumb , ripped off consumer and give the salesman a pass …..because he was rewarded with the commission after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:36 PM
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They’re good looking, slick, manipulative and know how to lie. Why do people keep getting hoodwinked by used car salesmen or financial advisors? Women need to be more wary, fair enough. But the lying manipulator is still the bigger pos.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:34 PM
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Lie your ass off then…no one will expect accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:20 PM
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Huh, cause guys keep telling me that men lie because the get rewarded with sex, not held accountable Fuckboys go to jail now? When did they pass that law
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:18 PM
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You incentivize the used car car salesman when you buy a shitty car with an engine that’s ready to blow and don’t check the fine print about the interest rate in the contract. He gets a big fat commission. You’re patsy who enables him by being a fool, he’s still the pos
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:14 PM
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Holy change the topic Batman Op isn’t talking about literal criminals, he’s talking about baby mommas that have sex with men “who don’t respect them”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:11 PM
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Hookers are cheaper. Leave civilians alone them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:09 PM
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Being happy that your friend got laid By any means necessary, Btw, op isn’t talking about physical abuse. He’s talking about high n count baby mommas. But good to know you seem fine with lying to get what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:45 PM
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Upvote for Rollo’s merkin. Kudos to u/flipsidetroll
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:42 PM
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Is high fiving your bro for lying his way into pussy… is that what’s known as “calling out bullshit” now? fucking hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:32 PM
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If a man gets laid, yeah, men are going to support that. Even if he lies to get it. Lmfao….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:19 PM
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Op himself just said that men high five a liar who gets between her legs and gets called successful because he is successful. Maybe you need to open your eyes to that very common double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:11 PM
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And there is no accountability for being that dude…..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:59 PM
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So men have no accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:58 PM
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Okay, what happened to expecting people to not be bad people in the first place though?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:57 PM
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They can’t stand that women pick men who lie and hide behind a facade. And yet…..they call the guys who lie “successful “. Maybe if men don’t want these deceptive, slick, lying guys getting chosen by women, they need to start expecting some accountability from men instead of high fiving guys for getting laid by lying 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:53 PM
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Yep, men wear all those labels as a badge of honor.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:19 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:18 PM
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Ummm no, you don’t…..you label them players, fucbois and successful Men can’t take accountability, because they are just getting their dick wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:17 PM
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Really? Women should be accountable for not detecting a bad guy….okay…what about the actual bad guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:12 PM
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If that’s true, then there is apparently a multitude of men out there having sex with people they don’t respect. Some even lie and pretend in order to have sex with women they don’t respect. Are they held accountable?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:04 PM
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The one that insists he knows where he is going and refuses to pull over and look at a map?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 08:58 PM
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Another “women are bad because in my opinion they make bad choices” that totally ignores that maybe men should also be accountable for being bad choices in the first place. Picking a bad person is an accountability problem, being a bad person isn’t…..that’s accountability in a nutshell.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 08:49 PM
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I'd imagine You have quite an imagination
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 08:23 PM
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Women want men just as much as men want women? Then why are more young women than men now sexless? You aren’t competing against Chad, you are competing against cats and boxed wine You are going to have to come up with better arguments https://images.app.goo.gl/cGfYzMHFqjdRcJh8A “ In societies where slavery was prevalent, it was often considered a "core component" because it significantly impacted the economy, social structure, and political landscape, with slave labor being essential to the func…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:24 PM
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People with rock bottom standards are always offended that other people do have standards. They figure if they aren’t picky, other people have no right to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:18 PM
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“As of November 21, 2019, there were 6,488 names in that Catholic Church sex abuse database, including 5,808 priests, 35 bishops, 108 deacons, and 47 seminarians, for a total of 5,998 accused clerics and future clerics, in those categories that the USCCB has counted – more than a thousand fewer than 7,002. Note that 370 religious brothers and 119 religious sistersare also listed in our database – categories not included in the USCCB data.” There is no Department of Education database on sex abus…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:11 AM
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lol, elite men NEVER had more than their share of women, never had mistresses from the social class immediately below them and never had whatever random, poor women they wanted, whether the women wanted them back or not. /s “Patriarchy” in practice has rule by elite men at the top. Instead of the top 5% of men in looks, the top 5% of men in power got more than the lions share and the bottom 95% settled for their sloppy seconds. The only difference is their wives couldn’t divorce them when they m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:11 PM
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That’s not to say you need to know someone a long time
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:03 PM
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Of course. Your looks always have to pass the minimum threshold of dateable first and foremost. My point was that is that most women still won’t give give their phone number or even their name to some guy who runs after them in a parking lot even if his looks pass the dateable threshold
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 08:24 PM
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Copying my post above. You need to turn a “cold approach “ into a warmer one most of the time before asking for a number or a date You need to establish enough rapport so you no longer feel like a random stranger. That might be running into the same person at the dog park several times and chatting them up, talking to someone in a bar for an hour, or finding some mutual connection. That’s not to say you need to know someone a long time, but it’s going to be extremely rare to get a date from some…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:26 PM
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I’m going to interject…..you need to establish enough rapport so you no longer feel like a random stranger. That might be running into the same person at the dog park several times and chatting them up, talking to someone in a bar for an hour, or never having met someone before but finding some mutual connection. That’s not to say you need to know someone a long time, but it’s going to be extremely rare to get a date from someone who thinks of you as a random stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:21 PM
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People do seem to love any sort of survey or statistic that confirms their biases, and discount the ones that don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:12 PM
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they are taking the opportunities available to them, same as most people do I thought you told me “monogamy suits men’s desires” and promiscuity was "women's desire" 🧐. Seems like you are now saying when men have options available to them, they will choose promiscuity. Make up your mind. Most women have infinite opportunities yet few choose promiscuity. Seems like men are the ones generally only as monogamous as their options, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:31 PM
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🍿😏
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 10:49 PM
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And now he will block you and cry. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 09:31 PM
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Sorry if facts hurt your feelings. Downvote away
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:02 PM
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Imagine thinking caring and nurturing children is pathetic Everything about women is apparently pathetic and inferior. We certainly aren’t entitled to monogamy if the man is high value, and we aren’t entitled half of the the household assets when divorcing, ….gee wonder why no one wants to be a stay at home mom?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:00 PM
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So no votes for the disabled as long as selective service applies only to the able bodied and mentally healthy ? Since disability isn’t always obvious, maybe they could wear some sort of insignia on their lapel.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 12:41 PM
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Gross exaggeration. In 29% of marriages today, both spouses earn about the same amount of money. Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner and 16% have a breadwinner wife.Apr 13, 2023
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 12:25 PM
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Also because men don't always reject women they aren't into Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 11:12 AM
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men homemakers and caretakers We are first and foremost a capitalist country that values financial success and material possessions above all. It’s much easier to convince women to put on a pantsuit and go out and get that bag, than to convince men to prioritize family and relationships. Plus, no one really sees value in the traditional female role. Just ask most men through a divorce with a sahm. She has cashed in, gotten an undeserved payday, taken half of “his” shit….cynical, but that’s how I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:22 AM
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It’s a hollow gesture? But perhaps better than no gesture at all? My husband’s beloved brother committed suicide. He was definitely not an incel, he had model tier looks. Stunning looking tbh. He was almost certainly molested by his scoutmaster, inherited the family inclination towards alcohol abuse, destroyed his relationship with his two small sons and generally made a mess of his life. My husband’s other two siblings, identical twin brothers, died within a year of each other from a neurologic…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:03 AM
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There are no easy answers to helping men with their mental health. Especially in the redpill community…..they talk about men committing suicide at a much higher number, but then mock women for getting therapy for mental illness. 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:20 PM
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You’re 20, still time to pull this out of the fire if possible, no guarantees but a professional intervention and some brutal honesty/feedback might help. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:54 PM
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Yeah, don’t disagree. I think the motivation for denial in some redpill guys is trying to pretend that everything is fine, if only women had reasonable standards. But it’s just a fact that more and more people are friendless. You aren’t alone. Did your parents notice your lack of socialization and try to steer you to sports or other areas where you might thrive?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:24 PM
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We all heard about you band types. 🪈
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:14 PM
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Same….14…every thing but #6. I had friends but I was not remotely popular in middle school or high school. People thought I was weird 🧐. I was more popular in college. Non conformity was fine in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:07 PM
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Same…..And then you look around your own living room and wonder who the fuck are those people who just trashed your couch.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:00 PM
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I have said many any many times that sexlessness among the youngest is about more than sex and dating, and that the Venn diagram overlap of the friendless and the sexless is virtually two concentric circles of very similar size. Everything I see indicates sexlessness goes deeper than just failure to thrive in a single area of life. I have had red pill men push back hard on this idea, but it’s what I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:57 PM
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😝thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:35 PM
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Men by and large desire mongomy from women Right, but not necessarily for themselves. Which is why it’s called polygyny, not polygamy. Men by and large cannot achieve nonmonogomy Right again, but not because it’s not their desire. You'll find far more mongomously behaving elites In medieval times? Monogamous elites? Surely you jest. “ During the early Middle Ages, being born out of wedlock was not much of an issue for the elite. Many early medieval kings – Charlemagne included – had concubines w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:24 PM
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Why I said “Defacto” wives. And many mistresses, just like JFK, LBJ, FDR, Ike, etc. I’m not confusing anything. Rules for me but not for thee are standard for the ruling classes. Is this some evidence of men’s “desire for monogamy”? And even for the unwashed masses there was widespread prostitution. If a few people commit murder, you don’t have the Wild West. When there is widespread prostitution….sounds like Miss Kitty was indeed running a pay as you go free for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:05 PM
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We just elected a man with three defacto wives and who knows how many mistresses . Are you just trolling?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:47 PM
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The point in question is does monogamy “suit men’s desire”. We agree that widespread polygyny is inherently unsustainable, but if monogamy was what suited men’s desire, we would not see polygyny at the pinnacle of social hierarchy. In the words of Mel Brooks, it’s good to be king. No society is strictly monogamous for the men at the pinnacle of the social hierarchy and no society is “outcompeting” defacto polygyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:34 PM
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And in turn, the decline of the church is due to social problems and political polarization. They go hand in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:15 PM
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I don’t disagree. I’d personally not be living my best life., I really like having a husband ….and a sex life. But I know several middle aged, born again virgin, celibate women who seem pretty happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:42 AM
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Excuse the fuck out of me but did I say I was giving up on men because they were all women hating misogynists? I dipped out for the same reason most people dip out. I was cheated on. Doesn’t mean I hated all men. Losing trust in people and guarding your emotional availability is common after someone you love violates that love and trust. Reading here how many men are not interested in commitment and men who think winning is fucking as many people as possible? While simultaneously thinking the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:45 AM
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Tl/dr, lol Anyway…long story short…porn and online dating should be legal, online dating and porn are absolutely more nails in the coffin
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:11 AM
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“In spite” of his win. Again, people get mad and say something on Twitter. End of the day, we are talking about the president and vice president. I think over half the voters found them socially acceptable. Maybe someone needs to explain the difference between being “condemned “ and being “elected “ to you, and maybe you need to examine your own echo chamber. Men don’t talk about giving up on sex, because they almost never give up on sex. But they talk about not wanting or giving up on committed…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:57 AM
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lol, what exactly is “widely condemned “. Making bank while making people mad? Manosphere spaces that are toxic are every bit as profitable as the “sprinkle sprinkle” influencers. It’s seeing how the sausage is made that is killing relationships between the sexes. Last I looked, men swear off monogamy, cheat on every woman they have married, cheat with pornstars and get elected president. Men calling childless women, not childless men only women, cat ladies and they get elected as vice president…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:56 AM
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I never said all men are trash or my husband was the only good one. And I read that all modern women are trash on this subreddit every day. That’s exactly what would have kept me personally from ever wanting to have another relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:37 AM
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There is a reason prostitution is the oldest profession . Prostitution doesn’t exist without a steady supply of johns.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:28 AM
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Don’t know, imho you guys opened this can of worms and broke the hypergamy vrs polygyny compromise, the one that we used to call monogamy, when Playboy came out in 1952 and women had evidence hidden all over the house that her husband didn’t really love her stretched out abdomen and the saggy tits she got nursing his kids. He really preferred looking at readily available, fresh faced, perky coeds. Monogamy wasn’t absolute of course, but it was certainly the best way for men to get consistent sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:22 AM
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“Men with no options don’t cheat because we can’t, not because we don’t want to…”. I used to think the 72 virgins was just some weird ass religious brainwashing….I think it’s actually what men really want. Women might want Prince Charming, men wish they were Genghis Khan. Yeah, I got cheated on by my ex who was a virgin, I married Chad. Lacking sexual success isn’t a virtue, it’s often just lack of opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:31 PM
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Patriarchal societies tend toward polygyny. This is inherently unsustainable without warfare or huge swaths of unpartnered young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:13 PM
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You are the guy who says all young women are turning gay. I swear I’d probably be celibate or jumping the fence too if I were 20. Now you know why?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:41 PM
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Yeah….despite their claims to the contrary, they still didn’t GO their own way. They were mostly dudes SENT their own way. Almost all of them were obsessed with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:33 PM
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There was no real mgtow, just a small percentage of them had attachment disorders and mostly guys sent their own way. The difference between mgtow and wgtow is women don’t have the spontaneous sex drive men have, can walk away from sexual relationships and never really think about it much. I have several wgtow, middle aged friends…I call them one and done, who got fucked over early in life by some dude and walked away. They have male friends and coworkers, they don’t hate men, but I know some wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:28 PM
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I think about this a lot actually. I’m glad I found my husband before the internet echo chambers. I kissed enough frogs, was celibate from age 28 to 31 and thought I was done with relationships all before finally trusting men again and finding my husband. Had I been born 10 years later? Boxed wine and cats all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:10 PM
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Good to confirm…..he’s not yours, it’s just your turn until someone younger comes along?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:52 PM
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A 70 year old woman absolutely has more opportunities to get “someone “ to have sex with her. I don’t know what fantasy world you live in. They don’t cheat more because they don’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:11 PM
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women after the age of 40 aren't able to cheat that much so they don't lol, if by “cheat” you mean can they walk into any random bar, say who wants to fuck, and get 10 takers….any woman can cheat. If by “cheat” you mean does a 40 year old woman have the same power to entice a 40 year old man to leave his wife and kids, like a 25 year old stripper does..then no, she isn’t as able to cheat. ( Although I have to say if you ever watch crime shows, it’s amazing how many middle age dudes murder to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:06 PM
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>I could explain in detail my rough upbringing, my trauma, but how I delt with that is inside me and hard to put into words well……I’m not against all age gap relationships, but if you are only 21 with a rough upbringing, trauma etc. , that’s not exactly information that tells me you know what a healthy relationship even looks like. People raised in abusive households are the most likely to end up in a series of fucked up relationships…pretty much the definition of “alarming information”….just sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 12:13 PM
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They find nearly all men disgusting Most women don’t want to have sex with most men =/= they find nearly all men are disgusting. Get off the internet for a while
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:15 PM
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We really need a thread about what constitutes a warm approach and a cold approach, what makes these flattering, cringe, annoying or scary. We have guys saying they don’t want to spend 10 minutes of talking, but think most random women should respond to a stranger saying “you’re pretty, can I have your number” Most women don’t mind polite conversation with a respectful person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:13 PM
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And….? It’s not some “handmaids’ tale” when your study says “the most influential person” was the husband. It’s just the fact of a study you posted claiming women were the decision makers. I would easily argue the tradition to circumcise predate feminism by a few thousand years. Why? - Because 'fuck you', that's why. You have lost your mind
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:43 PM
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If you are going to present any instance of a couple communicating about decision-making as a handmaid's tale Where did that come from? OP is correct that the decision is mostly based on ignorance and tradition.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:28 PM
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you make it seem like submissiveness and servitude are bad things 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:10 PM
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From the second one, also 40 years old The most influential person in helping these women make the decision about circumcision was the husband. The third is an online survey from a Muslim country
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:58 AM
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So an even smaller and older study…..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:45 AM
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https://www.bjpa.org/content/upload/bjpa/circ/Circumcision.pdf This study is old and small, but it’s the only one I can find who breaks this decision down by gender. https://imgur.com/a/ldmYXje 89% of the time when couples were in disagreement, the father was the one advocating for circumcision. In all cases, the couple deferred to the wishes of the father
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:15 AM
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Fine……say that then. This attempt to blame circumcision on “single motherhood” is just a lazy, disingenuous argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 11:22 PM
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40% of babies on the US soil are born to single mothers Unmarried does not mean unpartnered. 90% of fathers are present in the delivery room and many that aren’t are excluded for medical reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 11:00 PM
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I’m glad this came from a red pill man….I get voted down to nothing when I point out that Chad hate is just sour grapes, and being unattractive is not a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 01:02 PM
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Do you have statistics possibly showing that there's a higher rate of abuse and age gap relationships? Actually, there are statistics showing an elevated risk of being murdered by a domestic partner when there is a large age gap “the risk of intimate partner homicide is considerably elevated for couples with a large discrepancy between their ages-where the man is at least 16 years older than the woman or the woman is at least 10 years older than the man.” “Results show that the higher risk of in…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 11:41 AM
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This is a false argument I see a lot. Women have the legal right consent to do many things at 18. We all acknowledge that you need a legal cut off and 18 seems to be suitable. We can acknowledge that legal adults of age can consent to things that probably aren’t wise at any age, and we can all agree that as people age, most of them make wiser choices. Yes, it’s legal to do porn at 18, and most people aren’t interested in changing the age. Most people would still be bothered if their child wanted…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:19 AM
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no……what she said was “With all the women that have been left on a hiking trail or mountain by their date or had even worse happen to them in the middle of nowhere with no one else around it’s probably best to avoid a walk as a first date. If a woman still wants to date she should only meet in populated (but not over crowded) well lit environments for her own safety.” And you finally seem to agree “I wouldn’t encourage a dude or a girl to go for a first date in the middle of the woods” 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:44 AM
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I’m just another individual woman but like u/HighestTierMaslow, this is also what I have observed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:26 AM
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I started dating my h when he was marginally employed and doing handyman work for my rental property. I well might be an outlier, but why not improve yourself and get laid at the same time? They aren’t mutually exclusive you know. I made plenty of money my first year out of college with an engineering degree from a good school. I never needed men to be high earners. Again, I might not be typical but I continued to enjoy hanging out with my broke bar trash friends, and trying to date fellow engin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:15 AM
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You do you, sounds like a very fulfilling life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 01:48 PM
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value education, career and economic success far more So women from other countries value money more than genuine sexual attraction? I guess that will work for you if you aren’t particularly attractive and have lots of money. A mediocre sex life based on a transactional exchange of money for sex is better than no sex life at all I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:52 AM
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Hey, maybe that complete stranger who is twice as strong as you and tells you you’re handsome could turn out to be your best friend. What if he’s really an amazing guy too. What “context” makes this different?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 12:53 AM
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We talked the whole night, 5 or 6 hours before we went to breakfast the same night we met. how would that be any different than giving a guy a chance that directly asked you for number instead of trying to talk to you for an hour After talking all night, I knew his name, where he was born, that we had mutual friends, where he worked, where he had gone to school, and a basic approximation of where he lived. More importantly, I knew that he was quick witted, smart, socially competent, capable of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:58 PM
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lol, I’m not indignant, just being realistic. Do you think people just respond to total strangers coming up to them out of the blue and asking them for personal information without even a 10 minute conversation? Genuinely wanting to learn more about you to see if he likes your personality requires "talking" and he's asking for advice on the talking part Duh. Which is why you should at least try to talk to them for 10 minutes, or try to establish a common interest before asking for a phone number…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:26 PM
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Preferential admissions? https://www.ivywise.com/ivywise-knowledgebase/the-truth-about-the-gender-gap-on-college-campuses/ “ With a more limited pool of male applicants from which to draw, some schools — particularly private liberal arts colleges — are admitting male applicants over women who have higher test scores, higher GPAs, or more extracurricular achievements”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:58 PM
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That’s the best part.🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:46 PM
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Ahhh a man of refinement! 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:46 PM
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Why would I assume that when you don’t know a single thing about me other than you like the way I look, and I don’t know a single thing about you other than you like the way I look? 🧐 But why do you assume we just want sex from you? I don’t think people even need to be friends first at all, but can you even imagine being chased down by some random dude in a parking lot and having him ask you for your number because you might want to be his “friend”. Especially after he tells you he thinks you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:03 PM
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Do whatever you want, most women aren’t giving their number to a guy when the only thing they know about him is that he happens to find her fuckable. And if a guy does this where I am going to run into him again, I’m definitely going out of my way to avoid him. Women aren’t men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:41 PM
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Might as well, you will be just as successful. >Is he supposed to try and have a 10 minute conversation with her while she’s trying to shop at a store? God forbid you actually try to learn something about her besides she is fuckable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:31 PM
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hey I think you’re really pretty I would like to talk to you more and get to know you, whats your number? You’re kidding, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:13 PM
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Progressive liberal? The progressive view is nurture over nature. The conservative view: https://time.com/5262988/brian-kemp-campaign-ad-gun-teen/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:19 PM
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Meh, it would certainly be a lot easier to just be a dermatologist. I’ve never heard of one that got death threats for lopping off moles.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:09 PM
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Since 1977, there have been 11 murders, 42 bombings, 200 arsons, 531 assaults, 492 clinic invasions, 375 burglaries
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 11:59 AM
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Sorry, feminists are too diverse for me to see one person Strange you say that, but then assume all second wave feminists were “sex positive “ feminists. The sex positive branch of feminism was a reaction against the anti porn/anti objectification mainstream of second wave feminism. And a huge branch of the “sex positive “ feminists were lesbian. “In October 1980, the National Organization for Women identified what became known as the "Big Four" through declaring that "Pederasty, pornography, sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 11:26 PM
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male only scholarships and programs are nowhere to be found https://www.ivywise.com/ivywise-knowledgebase/the-truth-about-the-gender-gap-on-college-campuses/ http://www.nursingscholarship.us/men.html https://www.scholarships.com/scholarships/beta-sigma-psi-university-of-missouri-rush-scholarship https://www.scholarships.com/scholarships/the-iris-samuel-rothman-scholarship https://www.scholarships.com/scholarships/ernst-walter-nennemann-scholarship https://www.scholarships.com/scholarships/uascs-…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 11:00 PM
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second-wave feminists saying that women are just as interested in sex as men are Hugh Hefner beat them to it about a decade earlier, in 1953. “What I wanted to create was a pinup phenomenon that was devoted to the girl next door," Hefner says. "Beauty is everywhere -- on the campus, in the office, living next door. That was the concept... Nice girls like sex too -- it's a natural part of life. Don't be ashamed of it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 10:37 PM
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Objectively if somebody is a 9/10 they can absolutely get sex from most single, straight men. Getting sex =/= getting a relationship . I’m not saying she can or can’t get a relationship, but the existence of hideous hookers is a completely separate and unrelated issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:06 PM
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Chad Jesus is hot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 01:18 AM
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Because women aren’t men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 11:18 AM
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You do you, I don’t agree that a romantic partner is just like another friend, but given the choice, I ‘d rather have sex with a friend than a boss
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:38 AM
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Is being single any better? That’s the question. Lots of people aren’t happy being married, lots of people aren’t happy single. Lots of people aren’t happy with their jobs, they aren’t necessarily happier unemployed. You might find it harder to go it alone as you grow older No one can answer this question for you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:20 AM
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Typo’s edited
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:52 PM
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Failure to launch is one problem The preference for online interaction as opposed to in real life interaction is affecting us all . lol, I have texted two friends, responded to you and the only human I have seen to is my husband. Tried to call Home Depot and got AI I participate in a subreddit for people wanting early retirement, the number of single tech guys making butt tons of money who want to quit working with the express goal of playing more video games is alarming. When they are asked if …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 05:36 PM
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General failure to adult plays into some of this. Online dating is demonic for average men, but it doesn’t explain why they they fail to reach other adult milestones
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:40 PM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/dHGh7wTVBvHo18vE8
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:37 PM
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As long as you don’t start drinking too much, hanging out in bars on busy weekends might get you more comfortable talking with strangers in general. It’s worth a try. Having larger social groups in general make it more likely to find dates and it doesnt sound like you are unfortunate looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 12:37 AM
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The “article “ itself I would take with a grain of salt , religious think tank, but I think the data comes from the gss survey which is considered credible
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 12:20 AM
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https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/figure1final-w640.png
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:38 AM
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Yeah everyone lost their minds in 2018 when it was published that 28% of men under 35 were sexless compared to only 18% of younger women. 5 years later the new survey, same organization, same survey, showed sexlessness slightly higher in women, but high for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:33 AM
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Yeah, that type of approach is just not woman behavior though. Even if women do the approaching that scenario is just not realistic. In real life the only way that really happens with any frequency is at a gay pride parade,
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:22 AM
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Your point about the younger people might be valid, it’s not what I perceive when I visit my old haunts. But older women looking for guys in bars, they are kind of a different breed than college aged kids. I think everyone blames Chad and online dating, but that doesn’t explain why age of virginity loss and sexlessness among young women is rising too. It might account for some of the p change,not all of it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:14 AM
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I know this sounds weird but crowded bars are actually better for meeting people. 🤷‍♀️. Noisy ones too. It’s easier to flirt when you have stand close to someone to talk. You might have to get used to talking with strangers and making small talk in general . Or go out in mixed groups with friends. Being nervous isn’t ever going to help
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:03 AM
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Online dating has definitely changed a lot of dynamics, but have you also considered that what has changed from the late 90’s to now is also you? You’re almost 30 years older now. You’re a much older guy, the women who could potentially be attracted to you now are either married already or divorced. You’re dating and hitting up bars in what… your 40’s or 50’s? I mean it’s time to get realistic about what leftovers are out there. The bar scene and casual hookup scene has always been about young p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:58 AM
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Good luck,you need to get good at small talk with strangers…..and NEVER seem desperate 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:03 PM
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Well when I was single I lived in NYC and New Orleans ….so music clubs and bars. That might not work at all for someone in a small town. But I’m pretty extroverted so in that setting I’ll talk to anybody. I met my ex in a bar, went to breakfast at sunrise before exchanging numbers.A smaller get together at a friends houses is how I met one guy that I traded numbers with but decided wasn’t for me. First ever boyfriend lived in the same apartment building and a bunch of us used to hang out togethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:55 PM
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😕 sorry dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:35 PM
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I have never once regretted a breakup and in every case wish I had done it sooner. Ditto. Even with relationships I don’t regret, I do regret dragging them out beyond what was healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:33 AM
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Depends. If you look good and photograph well, the apps will get you dates. If you have a great personality, and at least mid looks, approaching women might be more successful. If no one responds to you online and you obviously have already looksmaxxed, it’s time to develop your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 07:29 AM
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knew where I worked🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 07:17 AM
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Women don’t deny the initial attraction…THEY DENY THAT IMMEDIATE ATTRACTION MEANS THEY IMMEDIATELY WANT SEX. They aren’t lying. Men and women are different. Read about reactive vrs spontaneous sexuality. Most men have spontaneous sexuality, most women have reactive The idea that men are aroused by just a photo of an ass or a boob came from studies where they measured blood flow to men’s genitalia. Men see a picture of boobs…no face, no other part of the body….boner. Dick pics from random dudes j…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:18 AM
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Some of these people are just caught in such a negative loop, the less social success, the more bitter..the more bitter, the less social success
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:46 AM
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I would do my bet to let her knwo tat hr first time s with someone who loves her even if we never cross paths again Despite all the typos (are you drunk or texting while driving?), this is the most endearing thing I have read on this subreddit in a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:18 AM
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I’m getting into knives.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:57 AM
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It’s not the same. A super hot looking guy can trigger it….a guy you are into and just started banging though…...no comparison. Men and women aren’t the same. Even in the porn they like, men respond to disembodied sex organs, women respond to seeing sexual situations. Do you think this mentality would help more men? Duh, lol. Introversion is not going to get you anywhere in social situations. You need to learn to be able to talk to anyone, talking to women in bars is a piece of cake if you talk …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:36 AM
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A lot of bitter people out there that are stunted. Ngl….half this sub in a nutshell🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:05 AM
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Facially average, if I was just browsing online I could have found 10 dudes better looking. Sorry, it is what it is. I don’t remember what he actually said, something like hey, I know you….I tended bar all through college so I got that a lot…….remember the balls of steels and the irrational confidence? I don’t think whether or not he might be seen as creepy crossed his mind tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:57 AM
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I was insanely attracted to my ex who has “kind of cute” at best, but I would never had selected him from a photo. He was an inch taller, facially average, (curly hair which I loved) but had a set of steel balls and undeserved air of confidence. He was whip smart though, quick and funny. He cold approached me in a bar and said he had seen me before and knew where I worked, struck up a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:41 AM
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I will continue to repeat this to you guys until I am blue. Do women notice and feel attraction to handsome men? Of course. Are women generally sexually wired for visual stimuli like men? No. They tried to make a beefcake magazine for women,the only people who bought it were gay dudes. Women and men don’t just have different exterior appearance, our brains are wired differently. It’s just not in our makeup to choose dudes from photos, but that’s what online dating forces women to do. I have date…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:23 AM
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Maybe you should read all 28 pages…so you can learn something.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:51 PM
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Maybe you should read all 28 pages.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:40 PM
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I’m sure you have completed all 28 pages.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:34 PM
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Mine actually hurt your feelings and generated a reaction so…. A grain of truth is what forms the irritation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:28 PM
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“On average, men tend to possess more positive attitudes to- ward casual, low-investment sex than women do (Carrol et al. 1985; Fisher et al. 1988; Hendrick et al. 1985; Oliver & Hyde 1993; Townsend 1995; Wilson 1987). Men also report that they fantasize about having sex with multiple partners more than women do (Ellis & Symons 1990; Malamuth 1996), and men behaviorally seek short-term mateships more than women do (Blumstein & Schwartz 1994; Eysenck 1976; Laumman et al. 1994; Wiederman 1997). Ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:25 PM
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Speaking of immature grade school horseshit “I'm sorry about those paint chips your parents made you eat that now you can't even get a decent job to afford to even pay your bills.”?? ? Again…which of the above quotes were from “brain dead” women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:14 PM
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No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 08:37 PM
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I was thinking, damn he looks good for has age thinking he was at least 65. Sadly he is not. He isn’t aging like fine wine, he’s aging like a bud light left on a night stand from the night before.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 08:28 PM
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Awesome. Good for you. Rent all the holes you want. Prostitution needs to be legalized to keep guys like you who don’t enjoy sex with civilians out of the dating pool. Why waste either of our time? Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:05 PM
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So, are you upset because you have interpreted the guy’s intentions as being X, see contrary evidence, Both obviously. I think implying on one hand that prostitution will solve men’s problems and cure depression, while simultaneously saying that men actually need and want relationships is contradictory. If prostitution makes men so happy and solves their problems why would they even want relationships? Why introduce complexity like human love and connection into your sex life when sex is so grea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:23 PM
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The entire message of “playboy” was quite clearly stated in the title. Men don’t just want to look at their naked wife and are more likely to desire casual sex. It doesn’t mean people can’t decide to be monogamous but it is what it is. The rash of men here in denial about male sexuality confounds me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:23 PM
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https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/behavioral-and-brain-sciences/article/abs/sociosexuality-from-argentina-to-zimbabwe-a-48nation-study-of-sex-culture-and-strategies-of-human-mating/E6442571B8E524AE8CAF7613BD4CECC8 Here, I found some science proving water is indeed wet. Gender differences in sociosexuality are large across 48 countries studied, with men more open to promiscuous mating strategies. If that makes you defensive, then I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:17 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:01 PM
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Okay then. If you say so. Enjoy your life!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:53 PM
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Ahhh…okay? Good for you dude, live your life. What’s your comment have to do with the conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:47 PM
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Why does it mean you hate men because you acknowledge they have a more unrestricted sexuality? News flash, men and women aren’t the same. If that makes you uncomfortable, that might be a “you” problem. Which of those quotes were from women? Why didn’t you challenge any of the brain dead men who posted those comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:37 PM
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I gave you plenty of evidence that men themselves agree and believe that men have no standards. You just refuse to believe your fellow men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:06 PM
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You are ignoring the fact that these so called “conspiracies “ are overwhelming generated by the very people these supposed conspiracies are about. If you go on one antisemitic thread and hear about space lasers, then obviously you should not take that as gospel. If the overwhelming number of Jews you encounter start telling you about their personal experiences with space laser programs, maybe you need to consider there might a Jewish space laser program. Or you can just call most of the men in …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:48 AM
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Men started Playboy magazine in the 1953, the entire premise of Playboy was that a man’s highest and best life was to have sex with as many fertile, young coeds as possible. But the women of Playboy were supposedly wholesome and not whoreish like the women in stag films. When men had their way, they couldn’t implement this system where every man had a harem of willing nubile virgins because men and women are born in equal numbers. Hugh Hefner didn’t think through the repercussions of telling men…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:54 AM
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I got downvoted to nothing when I said the same thing. Pre streaming porn, choking was definitely outlier and behavior you would only even THINK about trying with a very trusted ltr. I read in a different subreddit where a guy asked if it was normal to get choked. Kid got choked by a girl without prior consent… while losing his virginity no less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:48 AM
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being conservative at least around sex. They aren’t conservative in the traditional sense though. They have the most liberal attitudes of any generation toward lgbt, polyamory, kinks, etc. They don’t judge what others do. They just don’t want it for themselves. Virginity age is rising and everyone, young women included are having less sex. I can’t blame them. If I thought I would experience what I saw in porn and some dude would slap me, choke me or want me to choke him or spit on him, expect an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:29 AM
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Where is she now? If you want her go get her!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:06 AM
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Yes…and you also have the vast majority of those women saying they believe it because men say it. Maybe stop your childish insults when you lose your arguments to facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:02 AM
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We don’t take quite take turns, but we each have what we jokingly refer to as our “domains “. My domain is budgets and finance, he chooses the cars, appliances, and makes most of the home decor and renovation decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:57 AM
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Fair enough. Not to compare traumas or excuse her behavior, but at least at 15 he would be able to overpower a creepy old battle ax. I can see even younger boys being equally terrified as young girls
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:44 AM
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My panties aren’t in a twist,I’m in commando mode. I didn’t call you names. I said you were full of shit. Yep, I’m giving you many examples in just this one thread. Want to hit a few other days threads? Like the “I’d fuck a grapefruit “ thread? Men repeat this everyday. Deal with the so called “misandrists” who happened to be overwhelmingly male. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:43 AM
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Only had back and forth convos with two different men. That was mostly the same dumbass
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:17 AM
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Really? Dude claims men aren’t willing to fuck anything, I showed an example, guy just completely admitted men just fuck what’s convenient and “a lot of men just see a hole as a hole”. I point out his contradiction and he loses it and starts telling me I hate men. I went off the rails? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:08 AM
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I wasn’t the one who went off the rails there. Some men just can’t get past their own flaws in their logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:58 AM
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Do you think that makes a teenage boy fearful though?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:55 AM
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Here’s a weird one….but I kind of envy men’s attraction to younger partners. It would in some ways be fun to have a younger, more energetic, horny partner, and there are plenty of horny young guys that I think being a cougar would actually be pretty easy to pull off. Sadly, like most of my sex, younger guys just aren’t really attractive to me. I can appreciate that by objective standards they look good, but they just don’t do it for me. Older men don’t either. I have a strong attraction to my ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:49 AM
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Ohhhh….that’s the favorite of men who love hookers….all women are hookers and all men have to pay anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:21 AM
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“I agree with you but it's overwhelmingly men who are saying it.” Your response? “It’s not.” “This kind of generalizing is from women’s subs” There are a dozen men in this thread making the generalization that men will indeed fuck anything. You’re completely full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:19 AM
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You stated it’s not men saying men will fuck anything, yet I show you in one single reddit thread, there are multiple men stating, yep…it’s pretty common knowledge that men will fuck anything. Some saying “I will fuck anything”. Is it weird that you fail to recognize that this idea comes directly from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:38 AM
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Dude…scroll through just the comments on this thread ffs. “ doesn't change the fact that there are lots of those men out there really. it's commonly said because there's definitely a level of truth to it” “some dude who fucked a goat" the fact that this is virtually certain to have happened thousands of times this year suggests that mayhaps "men will fuck anything" should trigger some introspection, rather than hostile denial, within men lol” “ Sure they probably won't commit, but they won't dow…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:11 PM
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The exact same guy who posted prostitution should be legal because it would solve men’s problems , cure depression and no man could possibly be depressed with a pair of stripper tits in his face…POSTED THE VERY NEXTDAY…how women had a horrible impression that men only wanted sex, but not relationships and how we needed to correct this horrible impression. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:35 PM
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>it’s never “this is how Iam,” it’s always “it’s how we are.” Good observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:24 PM
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Jfc dude…..no goddamned way she looks 19….get help.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:25 PM
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Ummmm….you were replying to my comment that attention starts at 12, 13 and 14…..not 16. Twelve year old girls have “certain aspects of the female form”. Most already have periods. They absolutely still look like kids. Here’s a twelve year old with “certain aspects of the female form” pretty apparent. The fact she is still a child, also pretty apparent. https://www.freepik.com/free-photo/young-girl-holding-her-skateboard-outside_9362520.htm#fromView=keyword&page=1&position=27&uuid=9352026c-102f-4…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:08 PM
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Wow….that was quite the leap. You tell me for some guys a hole is an hole and then seem to get completely emotional ….by what you said, not what I said. Are you typing this into a mirror? Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:52 PM
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One partner needs time to recoup after pushing a bowling ball sized human out of her cooter and one partner also has nipples that leak milk when they hear the baby cry. It doesn’t make sense for most middle class couples to have one partner who never works when most people only have two kids and the stay at home parent is a short term gig at best. It’s also not going to be the default for most families to decide the one with the feeding apparatus, the maternity leave and the blown out organs to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:48 PM
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I didn’t say it, you did though. Just like the top response said, society gets this message from men themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:35 PM
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Idk man a hole is a hole in a lot of men’s eyes Further down in this thread, stated by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:28 PM
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Idk man a hole is a hole in a lot of men’s eyes Enough said. According to op, acknowledging this is apparently a hate crime
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:28 PM
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I agree they are definitely a minority, but it’s also an almost universal experience for young women. Both things are true. It’s estimated that of actual offenders, most commit 7 sex crimes before they are caught and many more are never caught. And lots of men never escalate to anything illegal, they just act in ways that are legal but still frightening when you are only 12. But yeah, one guy can obviously be inappropriate many times a week for years
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:20 PM
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And? Way to prove my point. It’s proof that men indeed will fuck anything, because they are too lazy to look beyond the housekeeper?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:51 PM
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Sure, men never dumpster dive…… https://images.app.goo.gl/xpVNmLwT6uiC8gjH7
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:19 PM
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Yeah, this is pretty much a universal experience of girls to get hit on by grown men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:04 PM
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🥺 Sorry dude, but it was once the dad of the kids I was babysitting. Pretty sure he knew exactly what he was after.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:51 PM
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men don't fuck fat women Yeah, this isn’t a thing. This is the rare femcel who says this. Most complaints here are that not only will average men fuck fat women, so will Chad. That’s why supposedly less attractive women get inflated egos, because they can get sex even from the most desirable men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:17 PM
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Also most of us form these opinions at age 12, 13 and 14 when grown men start hitting on us two minutes after the first sign of tits appear. An experience that 95% of women have had.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:08 PM
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Oooo boy. Time for my Doris stories. Doris is someone from my bartending days. She was 5’2”, 300 lbs, in her late 30’s, addicted to pain killers, often dirty…greasy hair, dirty fingernails and a bad smell. She never failed to leave the bar with a reasonably good looking younger man. Slam pigs, cum dumpsters, dumpster diving….maybe not every man will hump a troll, but enough of them will that everyone knows what these terms mean. My favorite is calling women minibikes, fun to ride but you don’t w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:00 PM
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I’m in camp slim. No hate for the chunky monkeys, lots of women like them, but I’ll take a lanky dude any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:20 PM
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Guys step on their own dicks and cock block themselves pretty regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:43 PM
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No. You seriously underestimate the risk/reward for most women. I was a kid living in Greenwich Village when AIDS hit and can tell you that fear easily overrides the desire for sex for most people. The random blowjobs in the meat packing district, the sex on the floors of dance clubs, the back rooms where anonymous sex took place in the dark with strangers all changed in around 1984. Our gay roommate stopped his biweekly stroll to the docks and got a boyfriend. Most of the casual sex that contin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:31 PM
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🤝
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:33 AM
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Your sexist belief that all men only want sex Where did I say “all men only want sex”? Go ahead and show me, I’m quite willing to wait. I said any woman could walk in a bar and find A taker, not that all men would be takers. That’s not sexist, that’s reality. If you don’t think this is true, you’re delusional. Before calling me sexist, improve your reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:27 AM
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in certain circumstances Well most of the men who post here wanting “submissive wives” would not like one who handles all the money. And yet over the years my h has accepted and very much leaned into my control over financial matters. I don’t think he is any less “traditionally masculine” , in fact if he insisted on more input just to swing his dick, I’d consider that a sign of a weak ego and a fragile self identity. In my experience, confident people don’t need for others to be submissive, peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:35 PM
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Yeah….I think that tradition dictated women to be financially dependent on men. Some women passively accepted this as status quo, some did not. The definition of submissive “ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive”. Submission implies yielding to power, there is an overtone of it being a voluntary condition. I think some women were actually submissive, many however did not have a submissive attitude. I think when MOST men say they want a submissive woman, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:01 PM
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Most women obviously “submitted” to the greater social and economic realities she was faced with, but I’m not convinced she was always voluntarily submissive. History and literature are full of headstrong women. When most men here say they want submissive, they want someone happily and willingly yielding power, not someone subjugated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:46 PM
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There’s probably nothing more traditional than henpecking a husband. When you had no economic or social alternative to staying married to a bad husband…… “Sometimes being a bitch is all a woman's got to hold on to.” Stephen King, Dolores Claiborne
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:36 PM
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and too high of standards when it comes to things that don’t really matter (e.g. luxury, money, access to exotic vacations, resources to lean into consumerism, etc.). There is no objective proof that women are more materialistic than men. Women shop more. Women overwhelmingly purchase the groceries and home goods. Buying essentials is not the same as being more materialistic though. Women buy 50% of the products exclusively used by men. A better indicator would be to look at what single men vrs …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:38 PM
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objectively a very poor financial choice to remain single Statistically very accurate. Not to say you can’t build wealth if you are single, but most single people don’t. The vast majority of middle class wealth is in home equity and two middle class incomes make it easier to buy a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:16 PM
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Because “dating” to women =/= able to get sex. We are using different definitions. I think most women acknowledge they could walk-in a bar, yell “who wants to fuck” and get a taker. Extremely unattractive women can have sex and get paid for it too https://images.app.goo.gl/1HMrrxivEAV4T8AS8
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:34 PM
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No, not the poster you asked this question to, but no, I don’t. Many of the conversations in this subreddit focus on the2018 findings that28% of men under 35 were sexless compared to only 18% of women, yet four years later, when the exact same poll from the exact same organization showed that female sexlessness for people underage 35 was actually higher than men’s? Crickets https://images.app.goo.gl/yneJE2MVD1gbN1rP9 .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:12 PM
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Bald looks fine on lots of men. Shave , no combover. Beardmax if possible
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 10:52 PM
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Meh…..40 and 50 is absolutely no big deal. 15 and 25 gets you gets you not less than 10 and not more than 20 years in my state. The closer in age the couple is though, the less likely they are to divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 10:44 PM
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This one? https://images.app.goo.gl/sNbc775Cu4fS11Nz6
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 10:14 PM
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That’s honestly more fucked than some guy spending two years banging every chick on Tinder. You realize that after 2 or 3 years together she will have genuine feelings for you. You might even have genuine feelings back
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 08:29 PM
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I’m in favor of families working together to decide whatever works for them as a family. Also I highly recommend women avoid condescending little cunts entirely
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:29 PM
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“Usage” of “Men’s “ earnings. Such a nice way to put that. Not their money, it’s usage of men’s money. And then you wonder why women say fuck it, and want THEIR own money. Smh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:53 PM
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Choose your battles, bitch about women sponging off of men or not procreating. The more they procreate the more they sponge off of men. Too bad so sad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:37 PM
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You’re the guy who claims prostitution cures men’s ills and that no man can still be depressed with a pair of strippers tits in his face. I wonder where that horrible misconception comes from?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:01 PM
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Well….we don’t live high on the hog, low income, high net worth ….but we don’t have to work
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 02:52 PM
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A lot of the female sex workers I knew were lesbians - not attracted to men as a gender any more than a heterosexual man Having lived in areas where prostitution was common, this was my experience as well. Lots of guys who hustled were straight too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:58 AM
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My husband doesn’t work and neither do I, I was very lucky with real estate investing at age 28. Since we are married, yes he is entitled to our money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:55 AM
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Get a butt plug and start stretching your asshole. Your lucrative future awaits.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:52 AM
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You want to keep repeating your stupidity, I’ll keep correcting you “Dual income” includes no one working and wife only working. First info that came up was from 2010, BLS, only 21% of households are husband only working. Expect that number to continue to decrease as women just decide not to have kids at all. Studies from places outside the US indicate that wives make the same and even slightly more than husbands until they have children. Our birth rate has already dropped below replacement. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:50 AM
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I haven’t seen a studies from the US, but studies from other countries indicate that married women now make a slight bit more than their husbands until they have kids. We are glad to stop reproducing. Birth rates are already below replacement. You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:44 AM
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“Dual income” includes no one working and wife only working. First info that came up was from 2010, BLS, only 21% of households are husband only working. Expect that number to continue to decrease as women just decide not to have kids at all. You guys have less and less to bitch about. You’re welcome. https://www.google.com/imgres?q=percentage%20of%20households%20dual%20income%20by%20gender%202020&imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Ffiles.taxfoundation.org%2Flegacy%2Fdocs%2F22.jpg&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Ftaxfo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:35 AM
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You can be a prostitute too you know. The corner of Bourbon and St Ann in New Orleans awaits. Enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:25 AM
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Hopefully they signed up for it and aren’t trafficked. Then there is drug addition, homelessness, and extreme poverty. But I agree that to voluntarily sign up for it, you are fucked up in the head. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2254224/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:54 AM
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It happened
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:48 AM
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PlaneJane and I can’t remember her husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:47 AM
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I want to die just like my grandma, peacefully in my sleep, Not screaming in terror like the other three passengers in the car.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:39 AM
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If you lead with money you do. Plenty broke guys get laid while you are busy working 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:05 AM
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lol…huh? Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:36 AM
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Don’t get in my feelings on the dating market…I have no idea what you are saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:32 AM
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I never hated single dads in the way the incelz hate single moms, but I didn’t really want to date one. Single dads pretty much have identical baggage to single moms, plus the one single dad I dated (very) briefly had custody on the weekends which are prime times to date when you are getting to know someone. The hate for single moms here is palpable,” they have poor decision making skills”, “they chose wrong” etc. etc. I’m a grown person who has seen many relationships fall apart, I don’t need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:44 PM
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More undesirable to me than almost anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:12 PM
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Much in the way that a wealthy person will hire a plumber to replace a water heater…….a wealthy man will hire a sex worker to get their preferred optimal result I think for lots of men sex with a hooker definitely provides you with your preferred optimum result. I wish you all had enough money to never try to date a civilian ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:11 PM
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I’ve never in my life had it happen except with my ex who had been a virgin, but we were super young. I jokingly asked my husband and he laughed, he would have no idea. I personally know more than 10 he slept with just in the year before he quit drinking . I will say he did have a reputation of being a sweetheart to his hookups
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 10:47 AM
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Funny, when I say I would never date a man who frequented whores, I get downvoted by redpill guys. Go figure. Doesn’t change my opinion of these men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 10:13 AM
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Take my upvote 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:19 PM
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For wealthy people it's not a sex thing it's a power thing I think you are probably partially correct. I think it’s not about power and control just for the wealthy. It seems it’s about power and control for some men in all socio economic circumstances. But yes, many wealthy people believe everything is for sale. I guess for people with enough money, there are people lined up willing to sell anything, including their kidneys, their asses and their dignity. I have empathy for people who are despe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:54 AM
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This is very true. The impersonal nature of the financial transaction is a feature , not a flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:14 AM
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I’m fine with that. Do want you want then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 10:21 AM
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Crosspost is in order
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:54 AM
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men have to compensate. Surely you can see how this creates problems. Like dead bedrooms. You aren’t wrong that men have to compensate and inspire lust. If women found most men sexually attractive that would create a whole lot more problems for guys who don’t want their women with unrestricted sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:44 AM
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Men want women to be attracted to them…and only them. Women want the same and that is never going to happen. Men are going to look at random women in tight pants, with big boobs and women who breathe. We don’t really like it, but it is what it is. If my husband never snuck a look at another woman, I’d get his testosterone checked. But that’s what men “feeling lust for average women” looks like. Feeling lust for average men would mean she also felt lust for most dudes on the block. You sure you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:22 AM
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Calm down…I didn’t mean womens choices in real life. I meant in these hypothetical questions, where someone asks women to choose between 1. A perfect dude….but he’s on the sex offender registry or 2. A perfect dude whose got ED and refuses to give you oral.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:10 AM
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Obviously for starters, if he found this information from me, I’ve clearly been inappropriate. The bedroom is for us and why anyone wants to talk about sex with their ex to their current partner is insane unless someone has a cuck or humiliation fetish. It’s my responsibility to convey my needs and desires in a relationship. If he leaves? Well, have I conveyed my desires and he has simply refused to listen? Or too lazy to try? That would be the offensive part. But I think a lot of the time, wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:03 AM
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Don’t listen to the haters. Feedback and observation is the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:28 AM
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Absolutely should be legalized Absolutely will never date a man who uses these services
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:21 AM
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Absolutely should be legalized Absolutely will never date a man who uses these services
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:08 AM
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Absolutely should be legalized Absolutely will never date a man who uses these services
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:01 AM
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Men complain about women’s high n counts now…if women had male sexuality, the world would be like one huge gay cruise zone
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:56 AM
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“Option 2. "Realz before feelz" is a motto I live and die by. The material and quantifiable will always trump feelings. So the physical act of sex will always be more important than emotional connections.” “2; if I want someone I can talk to, I already have my friends” “I don't really care that much about having sex.“ And then there was guy who just posted a porpoise But tell me again how all men OBVIOUSLY think like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:18 AM
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If you haven't noticed the nature ff the responses either dismissing the validity of the question or ignoring the hard bifurcation Like the guy who said he didn’t care, got love from his mom? Willfully ignorant, stupid and/or illiterate. Nice. Just start name calling. Very mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:02 AM
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And certainly you have noticed there hasn’t been a single complaint except from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:50 AM
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It’s beyond my comprehension that men don’t feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:45 AM
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Shockingly men say the same when offered the same choices, but you believe those choices are adequate for us even if they are unacceptable for yourself. Women are picky. News at 11
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:40 AM
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Mem also the same question you do all the time Translation?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:33 AM
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“Omg 2 in a heartbeat” sounds pretty enthusiastic to me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:29 AM
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I bet many people you know and respect do shit behind closed doors that would make you disavow them. It’s just a statistical inevitability based on how freaky people tend to get and how uptight you are. That’s an interesting assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:27 AM
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To a man neither of these are appealing Really? Maybe you missed the meeting, but some guys seemed genuinely enthusiastic about their choice
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:14 AM
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I want my husband to move on and be happy when I die I already know who I would set my husband up with. If I’m terminal, I’m matchmaking. And I’m not even kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:52 AM
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Rabun county and banjo country lol I don’t live in Rabun but “Rabunlike”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:13 AM
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Why do guys get choices where both are appealing? Seems women get more “would you rather date dog shit or date pig shit”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:44 AM
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Roll tide
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:42 AM
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Mmmmm….not always tbh. Or let’s just say it takes longer to realize he is kind of boring and pretty dumb if he is super hot and great in bed. I’ve had friends that were kind of sad that they had to stop seeing some hot guy because he had a double digit iq.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:41 AM
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I don’t personally know any people who would ever trade their ass to a rich man for luxury goods. The people I knew who turned to prostitution mostly had mental illnesses and/or drug problems. They deserve empathy and help. But yeah, I think it’s gross to sell your ass just for luxury goods. Sue me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 12:14 AM
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I’m a landlord in rural North Georgia, you aren’t wrong that poor rural people who aren’t disabled and leave the house are generally getting laid. I will say the odds are good, but the goods are odd. Lots of chaos and dysfunction, divorce and oow kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:44 PM
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Lurk and lift spits more truth pills, I think they are the most bitter ones to swallow
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:36 PM
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Lots of things “always existed” like slavery. You currently aren’t allowed to buy humans, but you sure as shit can pay them wages that make it impossible to live a decent life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:46 PM
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I didn’t say they were all gross people selling their ass for Coach handbags?!? Not at all. Read again. Many I have empathy for. I have a close straight male friend who was a hustler for old chicken hawks. He ran away from home because his schizophrenic mother tried to kill him at age 14. Not exactly selling ass for ugly handbags.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:26 PM
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I guess then you get to be surprised when you find your wife blowing the mailman….fair is fair after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:18 PM
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“ This is the poison of capitalism, it commoditizes everything.” Including sex. 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:04 PM
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I don’t think you can disavow someone and keep loving them tho I would definitely lose respect. I guess I’m puritanical but depending on the circumstances I would date a sex worker before a sex buyer. I knew plenty of sex workers and former sex workers. Some I have lots of empathy for. Gross people willing to sell ass for ugly coach handbags ? Soulless as the people buying them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:58 PM
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You seem to be surprised and defensive that most people would completely lose respect if they found out someone they knew was a whoremonger.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:12 PM
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There is no way around it,you can argue all you want. If I found out my father was a whoremonger I would have the exact same visceral disgust as most people would have if they found out their mom did a train with the entire football team. Some behavior just gives us the ick. Would I stop loving him? Mmmm, no. Would I lose respect for him? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:06 PM
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“ According to the Myers-Briggs Company, people with preferences for INFJ, INTP, or INFP MBTI types are most likely to be neurodivergent.” ? ? I haven’t gone as deeply into Myers Briggs as other here have but don’t see much entp and aspie overlap
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:45 PM
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That would 10% of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:32 PM
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Being socially competent is attractive. If you are mid in looks but outgoing and popular you aren’t going to have a problem pulling women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:28 PM
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Intjs
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:13 PM
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I married my handyman. Seriously. I had known him for years, but he was unemployed and doing odd jobs for me when we first started dating. I was making big money,I couldn’t give a fuck about judgement from the female social matrix, and my social circle were all barflies anyway Yeah…he looks good. He’s also incredibly kind. It’s like none of you guys realize that western women having their own money has changed the game
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:10 PM
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You forgot the aspies….so many aspies
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:28 PM
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Stack cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:24 PM
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I lived in Manhattan almost 5 years. It was glorious. But expensive, very expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:15 PM
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Yeah, why isn’t he telling me what he wants and needs and why is he bringing other people into the conversation? If you are intimate enough to mash your private parts together you should be grown up enough to tell your partner what you think is hot. This goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:04 PM
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I live in the middle of a SOLID red county and not getting into politics with my neighbors …..and I’m wise enough not to be argumentative with my husband Ppdebate it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:57 PM
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Sadly you don’t get to be the one who decides what concerns or grosses out women. Women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:45 PM
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I’ll concede that point, but your original claim…all men will, was a gross exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:29 PM
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It was extremely common for women to not only be fine with a mistress, but low key grateful for one. Because she had no interest in sex with him, and she didn’t have income and would lose social standing. The marriage became for show with people mostly living separate lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:27 PM
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More likely, not the enormous disparity you described
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:24 PM
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Supposedly only 66% of men divorce a cheating wife, 42% of women divorce a cheating husband. But statistics vary wildly on this https://torronelaw.com/what-percentage-of-marriages-survive-infidelity/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:21 PM
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Yeah broke dudes fuck all the time, middle class women can’t afford to raise kids with them though. Also, no one wants to fuck this dude and his pansy ass sweater for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:54 AM
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I will concede that this is definitely an area where women care about male behavior that doesn’t affect them. I think lots of the age gap hysteria comes from how many women got hit on at inappropriate ages, like barely into puberty ages, or played by older men when they were younger. I don’t give a shit about age gaps, my best friends’ husband was a fossil.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:36 AM
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Nice try. Whoremongers are fucking gross and creepy. I don’t need statistics for that!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:33 AM
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men also cheat more https://images.app.goo.gl/34J6W1oBzhVZcPBPA I have plenty of divorced friends, trust me mc, umc, and uc women no longer tolerate a wandering dick. Working class women stay in my experience. Wishful thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:30 AM
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I think most of these dudes are way too neurotic and the constant free rent that Chad gets in their head has actually just made them even more neurotic and obsessive. One step forward two steps back.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:51 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:43 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:40 AM
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I’m asking a legitimate question, because you stated that all relationships involve material transactions. This is obviously false. So I could only assume that it’s your truth, your lived experience, and that all of your relationships involve material transactions. So now are you back tracking? Have you changed your mind? Can you remember when someone shared their life with you, not because of your cashmere sweater or your material possessions, but because they simply liked you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:32 AM
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But you do realize there are broke dudes who pull plenty of women without cashmere sweaters, right? My material possessions, including how I dress, will definitely matter. She will judge me based on this Okay, she likes your material possessions. But again, has a woman just ever liked you? You take great offense and accuse me of personal attacks when all I am doing is taking what you post and repeating it back to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:10 AM
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Rare is the relationship where material goods don’t matter at all. most of the time I have sex without paying
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:57 PM
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It’s definitely not the fault of sex workers. Still not a gamble I would be willing to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:36 PM
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The guy says he is 6’2” making 7 figures a year with visible abs. I’m not buying the fact that there aren’t two average broke college kids banging one out in a dorm right now, but that argument aside,….if this guy is literally the definition of Chad and still has to pay to have sex…something is off
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:27 PM
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I actually see the opposite WAY more tbh. It’s fine for men to be promiscuous but not fine for women. Look at the “do you hate sluts” thread. Most answers were “ Ihave sex with them, but don’t consider them relationship material”. Appeals to nature “sperm is cheap”, men and women are different blah blah blah. At the end of the day, if women don’t want the kind of guy who bangs sluts, that’s her perogative. And very few sexually conservative women, the women guys who bang sluts consider ltr mater…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:11 PM
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How is it an insult? You have basically admitted yourself that in order to get women to have sex with you, you need money? You literally have told the world that without throwing in cash and prizes, you don’t get sex? What have I misunderstood?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:59 PM
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I guess insane could work if you like crazy chicks🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:56 PM
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Sorry my bad. I ‘m on the phone and don’t see the full context
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:31 PM
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Women who earn more divorce more…women who earn less divorce to steal assets. I wish you guys would make up your mind If a woman catches her husband cheating, should she stay?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:17 PM
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Look dude, I ‘m sorry no one has ever liked you for yourself. I dunno. Maybe you aren’t that likeable. Good thing you can hire people to pretend to like you I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:15 PM
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In my experience women who have sex with men who take them out on fancy dates tend to feel a genuine human connection with the man, and maybe have an interest in that man as a fellow human that they want to get to know better. If you don’t see or appreciate the difference, simple. Then don’t waste your time dating. Prostitution is much simpler and maybe even cheaper. No need to try and divine the complex needs, wants and desires of another person. You negotiate a clean deal, hand over money and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:47 PM
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Yeah…men do that all the time and they always have. Very common. Almost all dads do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:23 PM
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Okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:47 PM
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Sure. Just be honest and stick with hookers. Win/win
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:46 PM
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You think escorts give you valuable sexual experience? Their goal is generally to make it as quick as possible and pretend to enjoy it no matter how terrible it is. And they are paid to do what you want, not what pleases them. Other than part A goes in slot b, how do you think they will teach you what civilian women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:44 PM
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The men you don’t want to date will be more pleasant to interact with if sex work was available and destigmatized. I actually agree with this. I think men who like prostitution should just be honest and not bother civilians at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:38 PM
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Non monogamy is a dealbreaker for me. Am I insecure, old fashioned, small minded on this issue? Don’t care. Other people can do what they want. A predominantly loving relationship should be a default for everyone imho. Life is too short to spend it with someone who treats you poorly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:36 PM
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The guy asked, I told him. It’s that simple. Sorry if you need to read more into that other than I was just stating facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:29 PM
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If it’s in the past and he’s monogamous now Not impossible, but eventually 25% of men will cheat. https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/cheating1new-w640.png “Male clients also tend to ……display a preference for having sex with a variety of partners, as well less relational and committed sex (Xantidis and McCabe, 2000; Farley et al., 2017). Furthermore, male clients of prostitution express more permissive attitudes toward extramarital sex, (Monto and McRee, 2005; Monto and Milrod, 2014),” Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:07 PM
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I guess if women embracing their sexuality makes you throw up a little in your mouth,….yeah it’s the same
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:58 PM
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but not as likely to break off with him as when genders are reversed. Wishful thinking. Women initiate more divorces and infidelity is a major reason for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:56 PM
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women who find my genes endearing find my flaws endearing too, and those relationships tend to work no matter what I do, and work for both people in the long run. They will look past me being with escorts. Great. Go forth with honesty and tell all future prospects how much you enjoy hookers then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:49 PM
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I’m convinced there are very few men going their own way, it’s mostly men sent their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:35 PM
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lol, and I’m “trying to allude” to how men don’t like it men’s mentality is pointed back at them. “I’m allowed my feelings towards sticking my dick in whores because men and women are different ”. Yeah, that doesn’t work any better than women saying men should want to date hookers because it’s just a job
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:33 PM
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I think no matter what…my first inclination would be to side with my son regardless. First step would be to get him a lawyer. If facts start coming out that confirm her account, I think it’s a very hard reckoning
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:25 PM
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Why do the vast majority of men rule out whores as wives? Is that misogyny? Or simply a mismatch of values?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:07 PM
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Its so wild to me that you say "whoremonger". Because I had some experiences? A woman who sells sex is a prostitute, a man who buys it is a monger. If there is nothing wrong with buying sex, why not just own it? Are you saying men (and women) need to be transparent with their past sexual history? I have no shame about my history…why would I lie? I tend to be seen as relationship material That would change quickly if you were honest about being a whoremonger and somewhat on the autism spectrum Ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:46 AM
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That is true, i can see her preferring me just leaving the money ofcourse. Then stop trying to pretend it was mutually enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:28 AM
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Then be honest and tell the next woman that you enjoy hookers. Watch her run.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:09 AM
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Yeah, that’s honestly really pathetic, like paying someone to pretend to be your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:07 AM
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Some women sleep with guys from the club they hate, but enjoy toxic sex because its powerful and hot This is certainly not my experience. In my circle of friends, marriage ceremonies are full of former fwb and former hookups on both sides. Most people I know feel a fondness for hookups and remain friends or at least friendly with them You also make an assumption that an escort cant enjoy a person. Chances are extremely high she would have enjoyed it even more if you just paid her and went away w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:04 AM
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I don’t care if people do it, I’m glad it exists. It takes them out of the dating pool. I just wish they wouldn’t try to date a women looking for mutual emotional connection as their transactional currency.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:52 AM
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You think so? Male clients also tend to ……display a preference for having sex with a variety of partners, as well less relational and committed sex (Xantidis and McCabe, 2000; Farley et al., 2017). Furthermore, male clients of prostitution express more permissive attitudes toward extramarital sex, (Monto and McRee, 2005; Monto and Milrod, 2014),
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:46 AM
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The difference seems to be that men on ppd seem perpetually enraged that some women have casual sex. Sexually conservative women care that THEIR partners aren’t slutty without really caring or being emotionally invested about other men who are. They just look for men with similar values and move on. A similar parallel in my mind is mgtow vrs wgtow. I have female friends who haven’t had sex in a decade and have no interest in ever having sex again. They never think about men and sex at all tbh, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:42 AM
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Everyone wants something for something else. There is no unconditional love between adults. Friends require you be a friend back, you won’t maintain a one sided friendship for long. If I count on my friends to be there for me, I have to be there for them too. I don’t need my husband for money, but I’m not going to remain a faithful and loving wife to my husband if he isn’t faithful and loving back. That’s our mutual agreement, our agreed transaction. The emotional connection is real, but that em…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:20 AM
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You don’t “know” a new friend either. Your interaction with them is no more or less shallow. Hookups aren’t necessarily deep, but they are, or should be mutual fun If you didn’t enjoy your hookups, make them breakfast, smash again, kiss them goodbye and remember them with fondness, then you’re doing it wrong. If you have never turned a hookup into a str, ltr or fwb, that says more about you than it does about the nature of hookups. But I guess asking the hooker how much she will charge you just …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:52 AM
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Would you marry that guy? And if you did, would you allow him to continue visiting prostitutes?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:42 AM
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I suspect denial would be my first instinct, but I would be afraid that I would eventually have to face reality
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:18 AM
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Right, no normal human people have premarital sex, I forgot
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:07 AM
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Pregnant, or caught an std I would assume
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:04 AM
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I seriously dated a virgin for 7 years, my husband has a huge n count. What does any of that have to do with prostitution ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:39 AM
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Yeah that’s why they start “are we dating the same guy” TikTok’s 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:04 AM
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Men laud them, what’s that say about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:56 AM
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Sociopaths are masters at hiding their hideous black souls.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:48 AM
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Really? Huh, cause you just posted this: A veces si dan ganas de tener a alguien, pero el % de hombres que conozco en relaciones con mujeres manipuladores o emocionalmente inestables es muy alto. Se que muchas mujeres diran que tambien hay hombres asi, pero la sociedad no acepta que también hay MUCHISIMAS mujeres asi. La verdad si esta de pensarse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:41 AM
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A good friend of mine was completely straight, worked as a street hustler in New Orleans when his schizophrenic mother tried to kill him. He was 14 at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:56 AM
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I was really good friends with a straight guy who was a prostitute as a young teenager out of desperation. I don’t have problems with prostitutes. The vast majority of women who prostitute are victims of sexual abuse as children. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0145213481900508 When you are abused as a kid, you learn to disassociate you body and your sexuality, it’s a way of coping and seeing sex as “no big deal”. Selling sex isn’t rapey at all, it’s just your body to be so…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:50 AM
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You’re not “close to” a woman who would prefer you just give her money and not touch her at all. There in lies the problem. The complete inability to see the situation for what it is. is different to how women experience it. No shit Sherlock. That’s EXACTLY the fucking problem. How do you think it looks from a woman’s viewpoint? “Compared to men who have never bought sex, male clients also display less empathic accuracy (i.e., accurately inferring the thoughts and feelings of another) toward fem…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:32 AM
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It’s the impersonal sex, like looking at a hole and saying “how much do I have to pay you to stick my dick in there” that creeps me out. It’s like serial killer creep me out tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:16 AM
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🥺.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:56 AM
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Not hypothetical, but a similar real life situation. I ran into an older guy who used to do some construction contracting working at a Kroger stocking shelves. I told him I thought he was retired, he said he got a low wage job to pay for his son’s lawyer. His son was arrested for kiddie porn. Swore up and down his son had no idea how that kiddie porn landed on his computer. 🥺 I guess believed his son, he stood by him. I had a feeling he was in for a rude awakening though
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:49 AM
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I have to look it up, but I’m pretty sure that statistic is false claim, not false accusation. The difference being, many more women and girls try to hide the results of consensual sex by saying “some strange guy raped me”, rather than “SgtRimjob raped me” I’m not defending either action in the least, just pointing out the odds of having a false accusation against you as an individual are lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:37 AM
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Neither do terrible women have trouble finding relationships with men. Manipulaters gonna manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:07 AM
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most men who are hiring prostitutes are also not having issues finding girlfriends Many don’t have problems finding girlfriends ….precisely because they are great liars. It goes with the territory. Sociopaths often do well in life,they are still horrible people. They are also good at selling used cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:02 AM
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it forces even the best people to make decisions based on rather superficial criteria. Agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:58 AM
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Online dating is a pretty unnatural way to meet, imho. My husband is conventionally good looking and photogenic, but I dated and was crazy about an ex who I never would have picked from a photo. I also dated a guy slightly shorter who never lacked for female attention, but would probably bomb online. I have one friend in a really remote area who uses online dating, but think it’s mostly been horrible all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:51 AM
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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/core/lw/2.0/html/tileshop_pmc/tileshop_pmc_inline.html?title=Click%20on%20image%20to%20zoom&p=PMC3&id=7533589_fpsyg-11-577171-g001.jpg No. Dark Triad traits vary much more in relation to “reason for sex” than they do for type of prostitute. Levels of cluster b/ antisocial personality disorders tend to be lower in general for men using escorts, but even guys using street hookers who claim they seek prostitution for companionship have lower rates of personality disorde…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:34 AM
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I think a bit of embarrassment that he laughed in my face too!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:20 AM
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You aren’t wrong. Women are not as visually wired as men are when it comes to sex. They tried a pin up magazine …Playgirl, for women with hunky nude centerfolds but the only people who bought it was gay dudes. This is why men need to refuse to online date. Our attraction to photos of men just isn’t the same as men’s attraction to photos of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:08 AM
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As a woman, I appreciate that. Most people are decent, echo chambers are toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:00 AM
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Mmmm…not so fast, lol. I disagree with the premise that all men won’t love their aging wives. BUT, there have been more than one study clearly indicating that men of all ages tend to rate 20 year old women as the most attractive, but women tend to find men their own age to be the most attractive, until about their40’s where they start to rate men only a few years younger as the most attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:51 PM
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Well I don’t think you are wrong though. Lots of guys here just want to use something other than their hand. They don’t want the complexity of emotions or relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:09 PM
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إن شاء الله. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:05 PM
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Ohhhh, so you actually don’t want a girlfriend then, what you really want is a free hooker and everybody cheers. Get a second job and move to where it’s legal. Leave women who actually want a relationship alone
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:48 PM
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I would say it okay to briefly glance and smile, make inane small talk if you are getting ioi’s. Hopefully you have good social skills and can sense when people want to be left alone. how men are viewed right now Right now? My father would make an egalitarian men’s rights activist weep with his warnings to me about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:45 PM
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Come on, you know there aren’t any red pillers left here. Just tradcon/inshallah types both fascinated and repulsed by vagina and black pillers 🤣🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:31 PM
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No…but I do have an engineering degree from “ one of the most selective” schools that has a very low acceptance rate. Anymore info and I’ll have to change my user name again🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:22 PM
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What’s hilarious is how much they care about the opinions of women. If sex with prostitutes is what they want, and sex on demand with no strings attached is so great, why bother to date at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:13 PM
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As if regular hookups happen because people love who people really are. Regular hookups absolutely happen because both parties LIKE each other though. And both want to have sex. You have this weird idea that most hookups aren’t friendly, fun encounters between two people who are both enjoying each other’s company. Maybe you see each other again, maybe you don’t. Some hookups end up lasting for days. Sometimes the sex was underwhelming and you are glad they are leaving. No harm, no foul. But it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:08 PM
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If hookers “take care of that”, and he’s so satisfied, why bother to date at all? A hooker will do what you what, how you want, for a simple fee. Why bother with civilians at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:30 PM
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Plenty of guys who CAN get laid love hookers. They prefer impersonal sex where they can just tell her what to do and give her money. These guys are the creepiest ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:17 PM
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My ex of 7 years was a virgin. He tried to lose his virginity in Nevada at a legal brothel but said the whole thing was too sad. He correctly inferred that she would be much much happier if he just paid and left her alone. I would date a guy who had been a sex worker (not hypothetical, I almost did) before I would date a guy who liked seeing hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:20 PM
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Also this https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7533589/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:16 PM
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I’m all for the legalization of most drugs, people who sell drugs are no worse than than your neighborhood gas station selling White Claws. Plenty of people can use drugs responsibly. I’m not interested in a partner who does drugs or sells drugs. My h doesn’t even drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:00 PM
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Would you ladies here prefer if a man strictly had causal sex with sex workers Not dating that guy. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7533589/ Here’s some highlights of the meta study of men who visit prostitutes “higher likelihood of committing infidelity (Jones and Weiser, 2014), and sexual risk-taking (Dubas et al., 2017) that collectively signal heightened investment in short-term mating. Individuals expressing higher levels of the Dark Tetrad personality dimensions are also more …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:39 PM
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? Actually I think for the most part we don't care about dick size or muscles as long as you aren’t some outlier. We definitely care if you are fat, short or have an ugly face.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:52 PM
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He literally thought I was joking. He was acting like it was preposterous. Like I’m in a dive bar just telling random dudes I’m a rocket scientist from MIT. Even after I started working as an engineer, my social circle was my friends from bartending days and they were who I was hanging out with. So I guess he just assumed I was a service industry worker like most of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:41 PM
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I was once talking to a cute blue collar guy in a bar, and we talked about what we did for a living. When I told him I was an engineer he cracked up like it was a joke, then laughed even harder when I told him the school I graduated from. I called over the bartender who was an old friend and boss from my bartending days and told her to tell the guy what I did for a living. He looked a little shell shocked and disappeared into the crowd. 🤣 I won’t say that in general it hurt my dating chances, my…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:20 PM
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Huh…that’s funny, because they usually don’t pair a comedic actress with a much hotter husband. When they gave fat ass Kevin James and Ray Romano shows, they had much more attractive wives. Mellissa McCarthy and RoseAnn Barr got looks matches. The country rooted for Ross and Rachel, while in real life Jennifer Anniston was with Brad Pitt, not extremely mid David Schwimmer. Meanwhile, George Costanza was dating Marisa Tomei. Usually if they pair an unattractive actress with a hot man, it’s part o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:56 AM
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Well the point being….I think murder, snuff films, kiddie porn etc are all things that we would not want people engaged in. We never talk about those things either. I think all those things are way worse to be involved in than being a hooker. But sex work is a pretty damaging profession at any age. Virtually everyone agrees. His premise that because it’s not talked about that people are “okay” with it is false. I feel like being a sex worker is like being an alcoholic, I can’t stop you but you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:44 PM
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….I think he means the opposite…..why do you hear so much about age gaps and not sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:21 PM
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Yeah, I kind of agree, it’s often the opposite. Especially in comedies. Seth Rogan is constantly cast with actresses way more attractive than his actual wife, who isn’t ugly, but more of a looks match. Remember when the fat version of Jonah Hill eventually pulled Emma Stone in Superbad? 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:00 PM
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Eeehhhhh….Only Fans is a fine line depending on how rank the content is for me. It would make me sad though, even if it was pretty soft core.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:37 PM
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False dichotomy, false premise. Men aren’t one or the other. Too much alpha behavior is exhausting, you need some beta traits or the relationship is chaotic. Most women need comfort as the primary relationship element with a bit of alpha thrown in to keep you on your toes and surprise you once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:32 PM
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lol….CARY GRANT? Are you kidding? he aged really well too, an absolute DILF. Middle aged Cary Grant was about as handsome as a middle aged man can get As a young man, Peter O’Toole was definitely a pretty boy https://images.app.goo.gl/zvw3SZTiohxjZvki6
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:20 PM
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Top answer by far in the thread he linked…Alain Delon He didn’t age as well as many other famous actors, but my lord he was spectacular when he was young.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:55 PM
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top 1% I would say that 1 out of every 100 men I see is top 1%….funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:52 PM
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Julia and Paul Child apparently had a crazy sex life, she once wrote a friend that it worried her how much her mind became consumed with sex after she met her husband. He also used to come home on his lunch hour for a quickie. https://images.app.goo.gl/agNWQJf8fdtJnrDL7
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:14 PM
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They had almost 10 years together. He died at 90 she lived a few more years, died at 92.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:46 PM
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Well, it is great advice. Prone bone with a pillow is good too ime. Now watch Nina Hartley’s guide to oral sex and you will be way ahead of the guys learning technique off of mainstream porn. Gotta be prepared, you never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:30 PM
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Meh…my widowed grandma got remarried at 79 and he was 80. Their wedding pictures are full of them beaming at each other…and yes…apparently they banged. I was over 30 when I started dating my h, age happens so slowly that if you are happy with your partner, you just don’t see what others see.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:18 PM
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This includes the freedom to make decisions others deem unwise. The nuance that always gets overlooked….just because something is, and absolutely should be legal doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. There are plenty of legal things that are ill advised at any age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:52 AM
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I think everyone in this thread is ignoring the effect frequent sex has on our hormones, and how those hormones affect how we see our partners. Oxytocin is released when people have sex, when you emotionally bond with someone you don’t really look at their appearance completely objectively. Just like everyone thinks their kids are beautiful, if your relationship is strong, your partner is better looking to you than to strangers. People think they are better looking than they are. They also think…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:36 AM
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Meh, no scientific evidence supports religion either, I don’t need to piss in people’s cornflakes because they believe in a sky daddy. I even enjoy the mentally ill delusions of the religious, Christmas is legit pretty great.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:43 AM
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I do agree that women have always been more tied to church and religion for their social structure and support, but EVERYONE is leaving church. Even Mormons can’t keep the younger generations, and being Catholic has become a cultural identity, no longer a religious one. The churches just can never shut up about politics and culture wars. I think even conservative people are tired of all conflation of patriotism and religion. Unless churches change their opinions on homosexuality and abortion, wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:32 AM
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Plenty of women might not mind a big dude, there’s a couple in my town that own a restaurant…she’s gorgeous and he weighs easily over 300 lbs. But I would absolutely never date an obese person, not to fat shame, I just personally don’t find it attractive in the least
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:02 AM
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Other traits, such as being obese or having a high-pitched voice, do not carry the same weight in women's avg attraction preferences Not buying this, obesity is a much bigger dealbreaker for lots of women. I think most non obese women feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:58 AM
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lol….my young widowed friend is on a dating app that has an option to choose “body type” and PLENTY of middle aged people, both men and women, think they look fit and athletic. Their profile pics tell a different tale.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:54 AM
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I actually do think it might well make it the hardest to online date on platforms that have height filters. Lots of women might never even see your profile . I’ve never seen a bald filter, an obesity filter, a neurotypical filter or a depth of voice filter. In real life? I dated a guy who was shorter than me, I’m guessing he was 5’5? He was an incredibly good looking guy, he never lacked for female interest. If you have something going on for you in other areas, being short is not a dealbreaker.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:39 AM
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So why should a 20 year woman be allowed to have an onlyfans but not not have the right to go out with whoever she wants? Literally noone thinks age 18 you should be legally prohibited from either dating people twice your age or doing porn. What is legally allowed doesn’t mean you personally need to find it healthy, appropriate or acceptable behavior. I think everyone would rather see their child date someone twice their age than be a sex worker though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:23 AM
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Well…..I honestly do think it probably goes both ways. Google “men get married when they are ready”. The popular theory that men work on getting their shit together and when everything in place, they marry whoever they are dating at the time. And the converse is absolutely true, many people have really fond memories of the people they dated when they were young, a perfect partner that they broke up with because they “just weren’t ready”. I think it’s not completely cut and dried. I think it’s a …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 08:25 PM
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I think there are women who want their college boyfriend to shit or get off the pot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:51 PM
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The guys on this sub or men in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:42 PM
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There is no perfect age to suddenly have rights This is where the problem lies. There is obviously not a one size fits all age for all rights and age limits are pretty arbitrary at the end of the day. I think most people find 18 an appropriate legal cut off, but just because it’s a legal cutoff, you can’t expect all people to be fully supportive and on board with all activity that happens to be legal. What is a felony conviction and a lifetime of being on the sex offender registry one day isn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:41 PM
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I think lots of average guys aren’t anxious to get married. Virtually none on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 01:12 PM
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Women only have an opinion on age gap relationships but don't seem to care if these children do sex work I think 18 year olds should be legally allowed to date whoever they want and be legally allowed to be sexworkers. I wouldn’t want my 18 year old kid dating a forty year old regardless of gender and I definitely wouldn’t a child of mine to do sex work at any age. I can’t imagine many women looking at an 18 year old wanting to do sex work and thinking it’s a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 01:10 PM
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Where’s the old redpill mod u/Mrs_drgree ? She said it was men’s job to convince women to date them, women’s job to convince men to marry them. I think this is often accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 12:59 PM
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I think the part you missed is that I said most people date for MUTUAL sexual attraction. Men may always rate an 18 year old to objectively the most attractive, but it’s just as important for most men to not only have a desirable sex partner, but to be genuinely desired in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:35 PM
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consistent sex If she doesn’t find you attractive, good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:37 PM
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I think Jo Koy is adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:43 PM
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It’s a poor analogy, based on a fallacy. People date on mutual sexual attraction, not on potential, and not on current finances, unless they are sugar babies or gold diggers (I.e. prostitutes) having sex for money. I don’t know any guys who expect hot women to date them because they have potential, or any hot young girls who date a man’s potential. And the vast majority of both men and women don’t want a fat person, even other fat people. I actually don’t even care if they are broke at any age, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:03 PM
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When I was young and broke I didn’t like men who were also young and broke? News to me. I wasn’t dating resumes or wallets when I was young, I was dating who I thought was cute. So were my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 09:23 AM
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I don't consider it acting to say things purposefully that will turn her on, or vice versa. "Acting" to me implies insincerity of intention. Agreed. You said it better than I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:45 AM
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Are you completely relaxed and natural yourself during sex Yes. Best part of an ltr is feeling completely free and natural during sex. I will say that I have had great sex in almost total silence, and moaning isn’t necessarily required for sex, but it’s a way of telling my partner “you are really great at that” and “for the love of god, don’t stop, don’t change it up, stay the course”, lol. I don’t “act” in the sense that I don’t vocalize what doesn’t feel absolutely great. I think accurate feed…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 01:00 AM
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Too long with a woman who isn’t properly aroused is painful, this isn’t the flex you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:03 AM
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You realize we can all see your post history, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:00 AM
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I’m sure you did, the poor chick you are finger blasting and jackhammering wishes she could say the same
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 11:40 PM
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everyone orgasms This is what you simply refuse to address. In the kind of sex you are talking about, not everyone orgasms. You think your 10 minutes of jackhammering accomplishes this? For who exactly ? There in lies the problem. Most men without erectile dysfunction, porn sickness or death grip have zero problem getting theirs without making sex uncomfortable for their partner. The question remains, if porn sex doesn’t get her off, and most “porn sex” won’t, should she be generous, tolerate yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 11:38 PM
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Nice try sweetie. Sorry to hear about your death grip.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 11:15 PM
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Ahhhh how adorable, when all else fails and I point out your contradictions you resort to name calling. My h and I are actually very compatible, thank you. Our sex life is pretty good and he finds jackhammering to be boring as well so it’s not a problem. It’s called vetting for sexual compatibility and being able to communicate our needs, not expecting anyone to “take one for the team”. I guarantee my marriage is just fine. My husband female sexuality, and keeps the relationship fresh, but thank…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 11:08 PM
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if everyone’s not having fun, no one should be having fun we all have to do things we don’t necessarily love to appease our partners Well ….make up your mind is all I can say. Should no one be having fun if everyone isn’t having fun or should we do things we don’t find fun to appease our partner? Do we “have” to have porn sex that does nothing for us as long as it isn’t downright painful?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:46 PM
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Well when u/Barneysparky suggested most women aren’t crazy about 10 minutes of jackhammering followed by 10 minutes of deep throat, your answer was Yeah, and a lot of men don’t like a lot of things that they do for women but it’s a give-and-take if you want a successful relationship Kinda of implies she should “take one for the team”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:27 PM
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If she is having sex that doesn’t do anything for her, and is even potentially uncomfortable, she should just suck it up, bite the pillow and allow you to keep jackhammering her into a bruised cervix and a uti? Should she also fake it and pretend to like what’s going down?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 08:41 PM
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Yeah….no. I completely agree with her. Getting pounded in doggy for 15 minutes, no reach around, jackhammered with zero contact with my clit, horrible oral where the guy isn’t using his whole mouth. None of that is fun, some of it is downright unpleasant. And I like sex…a lot. But most of the “techniques” in porn don’t do it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 06:32 PM
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I got around, my husband got around more…way more. I don’t know any former “party girls” who married anyone else but former “party boys”. Almost all the weddings I’ve attended have been well attended by former hookups of both the bride and groom. The “hot young guys” of our youth turned into our husbands. None of my rowdier friends would ever consider dating some low n count conservative guy. I can’t decide if it’s paranoia or wishful thinking, but unless you are old and flashing cash for the go…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:58 PM
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One million % agree. There is no room for any physical “monogamish” contact in my marriage on either side. I don’t care if he watches porn, has female friends etc. But there isn’t any options for swinging, threesomes, enm, ….no sex with others, no exceptions
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:52 PM
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TLDR, lots of words to say….. People grow up, they mature and settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 12:30 PM
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Yet only men are vilified for having that drive. Really? Gosh, I guess no woman has ever been called a slut before.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:27 AM
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You just described af/bb in reverse. The theory that women want hot fun guys when they are young and boring, strait laced guys with good jobs when they are older.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:13 AM
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Tell him then. https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/donald-trump/trump-was-able-kill-roe-v-wade-rcna84897
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:04 AM
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Boy..you sure don’t live in a southern US state. Fat ass porkers love to open carry actual guns in my local Walmart despite the fact we literally have zero crime. These are all white males and they are afraid of their own shadows
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 12:58 AM
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But men shouldn’t be bothering with the women who have sex with hot men Don’t you think these overseas women see average white western guys as “hot guys” though? An average westerner is still taller, richer and more desirable than the guys from their own country. Seems like men from their own country might see this as “poor behavior”. It might not be so much that these women have less shallow tastes, just that their definition of Chad might be different? We had that pudgy guy who always posted a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 12:45 AM
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Women who aren’t looking for relationships hit Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:41 AM
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I don’t disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:01 PM
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Why can’t a man without “attraction” to you approach you? He can. That’s exactly why most women prefer a warm approach. Someone a friend or acquaintance knows, so we can sus out if he just hits on everything moving or has actually stepped up because of a genuine interest in us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:00 PM
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Well just one more reason women don’t respond to a cold approach and prefer a warm approach, a friend of a friend, a casual acquaintance. Easier to sus out if he is actually interested in a relationship or just out to smash
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:53 PM
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I agree, but if you are willing to wait because you aren’t desperate, it’s more likely you have a genuine interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:27 PM
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From a male viewpoint you are talking “effectiveness and success”. The “bad guy won” by acting and lying, he got sex without committment. From a female point of view, all men want sex, the ones who approach and the ones who don’t. Some men want relationships with some women at some point in their lives. The ones who don’t approach might not be “effective “ in getting what they want, doesn’t mean if you hand them some sex, they won’t take it. Still no guarantee they want a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:04 AM
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There is no answer. Affairs of the heart and the genitals are both fraught with disappointment. And I am firmly in the camp that at the end of the day, part of the vetting process includes sex too. I can’t imagine being really emotionally invested in and committing to someone without knowing if you feel sexually compatible with them. There is really no answer, you can never guarantee that you won’t get hurt….or hurt someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:44 AM
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You underestimate greatly to what length men are able to go if it means potentially getting laid. No….I don’t underestimate it at all. The guys out to bag numbers with cheesy pick up lines are easy to shift through, the “shy boy” who “ cares” is the one who will jump on the opportunity to date and have sex with a woman he doesn’t find attractive simply because she approached him. He might not be as successful, but he’s not inherently any more or less moral than the extrovert. He’ll still have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:27 AM
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I get downvoted every time I say this…men definitely can’t relate, but being rejected before sex by someone not really interested isn’t as bad as being rejected after sex. Most guys think they would be glad to be pumped and dumped by a woman still had sex! Don't sleep with him quickly. Dating is a vetting process, and your vetting process has to include steps that account for this somehow You’re not entirely wrong. But apparently you’re not here for the “I’d date her but not marry her”, “she’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:19 AM
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someone you only see as a potential sex toy, and if you're used to it Wtf does this even mean? Most women don’t look at men they want relationships with as potential sex toys. This makes men who don't care about women a lot more likely to approach them, while men who do care are too afraid to potentially make them feel uneasy. I call bullshit on this one. Most guys just out to bag numbers aren’t going to actually have a conversation with a woman or try get to know her, unless of course they thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:04 AM
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Women have a much higher acceptance rate for sex FTFY. This is exactly why women don’t, because too many men with actual zero interest in us or attraction to us will still accept our offer. Women, usually, want a guy who is out of their league The men we feel the most desire to approach are the ones we want relationships with. Getting pumped and dumped by a guy you have relationship interest is bad, but much worse is the thought that the guy who just pumped and dumped you was, in a moment of pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:23 AM
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🙄I know the definition of median. “ Academic linguists have traditionally agreed that when we use the word "most" in English, we usually mean anything from 51 to 99 percent of given group of people or collection of objects.” So technically, “most people don’t make more than 60k” is a slight exaggeration, but “most full time workers make more than 59 k a year” is an accurate statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:22 AM
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7615379/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:27 PM
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they're saving their money and putting it in investments and building wealth https://www.cbsnews.com/news/home-buying-single-women-outpacing-men-in-home-ownership/ What are men doing with their money? Women have slightly more debt, mostly student loan debt. Men have much higher car loan debt. Which one is investing in their future? “Men have 20% more personal loan debt than women. Men have 16.3% more auto loan debt than women”. Sucks when facts don’t fit your feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:12 PM
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Ohhhh….that makes it better! Silly me. Men are wonderful!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:55 PM
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That’s 8 times more men killing partners to avoid alimony
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:45 PM
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Women kill men for money a lot of the times? lol, that’s going to really be a winning argument to prove women bad. “In the 11 years from April 2009 to March 2020, 1,027 people were killed by a current or former partner Of 137 male victims, 109 were killed by women. Of 890 female victims, 884 (99%) were killed by men. There were 912 men who killed a current or former partner and 115 women who killed an intimate partner”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:16 PM
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Men don’t like other western women either. FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 11:58 AM
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Why do you even bother living in the US? If you just want to coast and chill head to a third world country and work remotely wasting my best years for kids private school fees Kids are expensive. Why have them at all? Why waste your best years spending money on anyone but yourself? Maybe you need to reexamine your goals and work toward them….or is the plan to just coast and chill on your goal to coast and chill? I personally worked very hard on my plan to coast and chill. Now neither my h or I n…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 11:49 AM
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Well sorry, but that’s EXACTLY how the 50/50 egalitarian marriage in the US ends up 60/40. Most women in the US work and these women make the same as men before they have kids. How selfish of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 11:10 AM
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Yeah, that’s not true in the least. Any guy that ever approached me without me first giving him a green light by making eye contact and smiling ? That guy definitely didn’t get anywhere with me, in fact him approaching without any ioi pretty much ruled him out then and in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:14 AM
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I hope you are right is all I can say.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:56 AM
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Rwanda? lol. Being equally poor doesn’t give you choices. 25% of girls don’t finish secondary school and it’s not exactly like they just chose to backpack across Europe instead of finishing school.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:52 AM
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“Married householders under the age of 35 had a net worth 9.2 times more than unmarried female householders and 3.1 times more than unmarried male householders. Between the ages 35 and 54 -- a time of life when many people buy their largest asset: a home -- the median wealth of married couples surpassed that of unmarried people at an even greater clip. “This pattern suggests that the gaps in median wealth cannot solely be attributed to the presence of an additional adult in the household,” the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:26 AM
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I sure as shit would settle for 60/40 and she’s the one not pulling overtime because someone has to pick up the kids from school, rather than have the entire financial burden for my family. I’d be okay if she takes off with more of the available parental leave because she doesn’t want an infant in daycare. The one with the tits is the one who’s gonna be feeding the kid. Women typically make similar money to their husbands until they have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:50 AM
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Ohhh…ALASKA. I definitely give you a pass in that case. Yeah, my bad assumption , it’s closer to being a necessity unless you live in a bigger city. Most hunters where I live are 15 miles from Aldi and 50 miles from the wildlife management area. Even more hilarious are the guys from Atlanta who drive 2 hours and pay $1500 to the hunting club “to put food on the table”. Then they pay $1 a pound to have their deer processed on top of it. “Put food on the table”? they could get Waygu beef delivered…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:39 AM
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hidden micro transactions that will cost far more in money in the long run? Huh…,because most married couples in the US end up pretty wealthy when compared to a global scale, and most couples in the US have two working partners. Over half of married couples in the US end up with a net worth over 600k. That median of 600k puts you in the top 5% globally favorable affirmative programs? https://www.thenation.com/article/society/college-admissions-gender/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:21 AM
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Yeah, net worth actually only goes down slightly in your 70’s and eighties though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:10 AM
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money isn’t my issue it’s out of necessity Make up your mind. You still have to drive to get groceries. You don’t “need” to, you prefer to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:09 AM
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Well..wealth is relative Median net worth of married people is 600k by the time they retire. Most people have two kids. That’s 300k for each kid. Twenty five percent of people at retirement age have a net worth of over a million. I personally would consider an inheritance of half a million to be a life changing number.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:04 AM
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It’s out of necessity? I am glad we have hunters because the deer population is out of control, but I can buy pork loin for $1.89 a lb at Aldi A deer gets you 60 lbs of meat? Saves you $120? The energy for the freezer costs you $60. Yet everyone where I live drives a huge pickup truck that costs them thousands extra a year…few of them actually need it but they can haul a dead deer with it! People are just bad at math.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:45 AM
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I use old reddit, but when I click on these photos and then hit the back button, I don’t return to reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:24 AM
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Fwiw, I’m not against transactional relationships like this, I just think there is a lot of lying to themselves that people do when they engage in these kinds of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:21 AM
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I guess you can, but few people actually do. If you want to live in a third world country, like I said..go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:14 AM
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Boy that’s an old post…do you have any idea how to make those photos return to reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:06 AM
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Fair enough, my bad. People have a dim view of reciprocity and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:50 AM
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And if you find no value in a nice upper middle class life in the states , have zero interest in building generational wealth along with your wife, move now, regardless of marital status. https://www.thestreet.com/.image/c_limit%2Ccs_srgb%2Cq_auto:good%2Cw_700/MTk5Njc5NDAzMzIyNTE2NTgz/chart2.webp You can be poor anywhere, single or married. Go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:40 AM
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Dude……no one should expect anyone to make them happy, we all hope our partner makes us “happier”. It’s the same with friends and even family. If every human interaction was only a neutral or a negative, why would anyone bother? We would all be hermits. Taking an honest bad deal is an easier sell than getting tricked into one even if it's overall better than the straightforward one. You do you. But in my experience I am never going to be happy with bad deal….why bother? Would you befriend someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:34 AM
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Yeah…I guess knowing up front what misery you are in for helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:58 AM
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some of them speak very fluent english Some do, some don’t, some men don’t care as long as they shut up. Based on that forum I linked to, many men do indeed help support their families. I’m not sure in Thai culture a woman would even be considered a good daughter if she wasn’t worried about helping her family?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:57 AM
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Depends on what you want I suppose. Some men seem to have no problem marrying someone who barely speaks the same language that they do. Because they want someone young to have sex with who also cooks and cleans. They just aren’t really interested in whether or not she has anything interesting to say. I think some men much prefer women who say nothing at all, having a mouth, brain and a pussy is too much, obviously the brain can be eliminated. The Thai wife gets to escape poverty without resortin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:23 AM
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That could be. Generally when you hear men on ppd talk about women being toxic, the passport bros point to the “feminine and demure” women of SEA. Women in all sorts of more traditional cultures can be pretty demanding when it comes to finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:52 PM
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Yeah….the majority of those women “prefer” over 6’ and the majority of men on Tinder “prefer” younger…and yet most men of average height date and get married and also in reality the age gap for marriages, according to census data, had never been smaller. Seems like online dating “preferences” don’t reflect who actually marries who.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:47 PM
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Apparently pretty common in SEA https://aseannow.com/topic/661558-how-much-to-help-support-thai-in-laws/
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:42 PM
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It says women “prefer” more highly educated men and men don’t care either way. Women have a lot more preferences in general than men. The very idea that men don’t prefer women who make a lot of money has always struck me as bizarre….all things being equal who wouldn’t “prefer” someone smart and rich? I made more money than my husband, enough so that neither of us has to work, but if he suddenly came across an extra million I’m not exactly going to be mad. Most people “prefer” thin partners, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:28 PM
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College is so important to women because most middle class careers that interest women, like teaching and nursing, require a degree. Middle class careers that interest men, like being a lineman or a firefighter don’t. Women are slightly more likely to marry a man with less education, than men are likely to marry a woman with less education. https://images.app.goo.gl/r1eCPidxmeT8ER187
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:08 PM
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American women are toxic because they often fail to live up 50-50 Foreign women are less toxic because they expect 120-0…..the extra 20% goes to your mother in law… 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 10:59 PM
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It’s certainly not the only one with rights, but the modern era in the west is arguably the one that provides both women and men with the most choices. Having more available choices =/= to having rights
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 10:52 PM
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Yikes…this is a weird take tbh. I wouldn’t say either men or women treat their partners badly because they earn significantly more. The only trend I would see as likely is that if your partner is an asshole to you, they probably won’t be your partner for long.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 12:07 PM
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Per the US Labor Bureau, the median individual income from Q4 2023 for full time workers translates to a salary of $59,540/year. I live in a rural area with a “median income” of under 30k, but that includes everyone with income, including people on disability, social security and part time workers. When you look at people with full time jobs, 60k is the median. “Most” is only a slight exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:47 AM
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I”m pretty happily married and that’s EXACTLY how I ended up here though. Debating is definitely something you don’t want to engage in with your significant other just for kicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:36 AM
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I’ve never looked at that sub, but to say there are no women who struggle to find a long term relationship because of their looks or their mental illness is ridiculous. Looks are irrelevant if you are offering free sex. There will always be a taker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:50 PM
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they are getting attention Getting someone to throw a dick in you is easy. Getting someone to throw a dick in you and give you $10 on top of it is easy. It's also safe to assume not ALL these men are simply looking for a quickie, across anonymous long distance channels no less; it's just what the women are assuming. And if you are one of these women…..is she supposed to let ten pump and dump on the chance that one might stick around? Even attractive women have pretty low odds with internet rando…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:46 PM
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This isn’t a misery competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:40 PM
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It’s absolutely not exaggerated. Will all men have sex with a bridge troll? No. Will a 5’2”, 300 lb middle aged alcoholic woman with horrible body odor be able to walk into a bar on a Saturday night and find more than one man, some actually relatively attractive men, willing to have sex with her? All day, every day. I tended bar for five years, have seen it with my own eyes. saying they are constantly ignored or feel invisible That could well be true, if said woman is a bridge troll. They could …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:26 AM
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No one wants them TO BE THEIR GIRLFRIEND. Plenty of men will have sex with a bridge troll. Men pay this woman for sex: https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibd5OVRJ61i4ld4oCQKG_MSy6H9U6DB1xgMZZm4td8vB8FJ3wg18utFMtQX56AjCjYq-yoxSks-VeE5kQVMBEpU2MlHJT8dIuB903AMRd9jDjBFeJo9aGegEP6ghcNAxRGWnhmuA/s1600-h/Prostitute-MugShots-26.jpg
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:36 AM
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So therefore, do a lot of guys really have to worry with other people will think of people are mostly care about the results rather than the how you obtained it? If it turns out you were right, then you have been vindicated and I think you are correct…no one will care. If it turns out you were wrong? Why tell anyone? Take that shit to the grave and raise your kid. No good can come of you putting out a “paternity confirmed” announcement.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:30 AM
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they cannot keep a LTR I see this disconnect all the time. When men say “these women have no problem dating” it generally only considers they have no problem getting sex or short term relationships. To many of these guys, getting sex and casual relationships = no problems. When women say “they have problems dating”, they mean these women have trouble finding a good husband she’s attracted to and compatible with. Women with mental health issues definitely don’t lack for sex and also definitely st…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:42 PM
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women must stay virgin or lose value. This is sexist. And it is still sexist, even if the incel also slutshames men. Maybe you need to revisit the definition of sexist “characterized by or showing prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination on the basis of sex. How is it sexist when I think women who waste hours a day on playing video games are just as sad and pathetic? The gender of the boring loser is irrelevant of their sex, my opinion of said loser is not based on their sex. That, by definiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:10 PM
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There’s a whole host of hormones that contribute to our health and well being….testosterone and oxytocin are only two.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:25 AM
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my testosterone is fine just because I have better things to do 🤣🤣🤣 I have better things to do than have sex all the time. Like interior decorating? Try an asexual boyfriend next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:12 AM
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hey this is way out of character for me but life is short, you're beautiful and you have a friendly aura so on the off chance that you're single I would love to get to know you over a drink sometime if you're interested'. Oooo my god….NO! Just no. Cold approach is fine…but that ⬆️ Cringe. Ugh. You think striking up random conversations with people makes them MORE uncomfortable than whatever that was? I met my ex, who wasn’t conventionally attractive, in a bar. He struck up a conversation that la…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 12:21 AM
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Dude….so much to unpack I can’t even start. Stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:47 PM
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at my age it's not going to be often Again, check your testosterone. he can still have her come to his room when he wants her. Wtf? Boy…you really know how to woo a woman and get her in the mood 🙄. Jfc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:45 PM
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In this entire thread…you totally ignore that the BEDROOM and the BED is where most sex happens. And not just sex, it’s where most physical affection and physical closeness happens. Sharing oxytocin is how we bond and what gives us that feeling we call love. Imho, nothing feels better. Yeah, lucky me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:43 PM
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What if he actually cares about fucking often even more than he cares the color of his curtains?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:25 PM
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I kind of feel like it went…. Boss kicked man Man kicked wife Wife kicked kid Kid kicked dog I don’t think you are necessarily wrong, I think the vast majority of men had little power. But I also think many men were fond of using what little power they had, and often the only power they had was over their own wives and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:21 PM
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So you made a date a few times a week for sex? Best part of cohabitation is frequent and spontaneous sex imho. Get your testosterone checked
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:11 PM
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I think my husband is more interested in going to sleep and waking up with a naked wife who might be willing to have sex than the color of the walls in the bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:09 PM
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Oh HELL no. My husband curls up every night as the top spoon, I’m bottom spoon. I love it and so does he. Besides…why waste all that morning wood?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:39 PM
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How do you define “rare”? From the latest census: “ Among married couples in which both spouses work, the share of women who earned more than their husbands reached a record high of 30.6%” I made over 3 times what my husband made when we started dating, it’s honestly not “rare”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:52 PM
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But thing is, most girls who go to libraries, go to the clubs as well Very true….and those same women go to the library to study and they go to a bar to have fun, let loose and maybe meet someone. Saying you will never find someone at the place people go to have fun and meet someone is lunacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:33 PM
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Relevant? ….still makes me laugh https://youtu.be/clVsLNJIahs?si=y-U5lXOfpeMZvo00
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 09:28 PM
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Best response. Most people in their mid to late 20’s aren’t having long conversations about partner count before having sex. If you go in for a kiss and stop and say “btw, I’m a virgin” that is going to make it weird. First time between two people is often awkward anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 09:36 AM
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If a woman’s high body count will just get her rejected then she should just be dishonest…..oh wait…..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 09:21 AM
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lost weight in face….is probably a huge and underrated improvement
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 02:18 PM
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I don’t disagree with you, but sometimes it’s easier said than done. I fell in love at 20 without knowing by 27 that I would be ready to get married and be forever monogamous. My bf did not see things the same way. It’s hard to predict someone’s future behavior when they barely have a past to look to. How can you know someone is going to be a cheater if they are a 20 year old virgin? That’s why “marry young” and “grow with them” often don’t work out as planned.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 01:42 PM
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Yep, that’s what he said! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:25 AM
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For someone who doesn’t care what people think about her, you sure do spend a lot of time and effort trying to spin three kids by three different men and four marriages into something “beautiful and complex”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:32 PM
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but I chose to have my first son with his father knowing that we would ultimately divorce So Beautiful! So Complex! I bet your son wishes he could spend every day with both of his parents though. Sometimes bad things can’t be avoided, but intentional infliction of harm is a different matter. He lives it with his son every day? I assume he has custody? https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/fl-lf/divorce/2004_1/p2.html “children of divorced families experienced lower levels of well-being regardless …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:35 PM
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Three kids by three different fathers and four marriages before the age of forty indicates to me that you need to consider the consequences before you get into these relationships in the first place I just posted in another thread… “I recognize the danger inherent in driving, but also recognize that being able to drive is good and necessary for my happiness in life. It doesn’t mean I speed around mountain roads or don’t wear my seatbelt. You can be crippled by being overly neurotic, you can also…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:55 AM
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I have had men I love hit me, push me in the dirt, say some of the most vile things you can imagine. They’ve stolen from me, cheated on me, and threatened to kill themselves I don’t view it as a failure, so it is not traumatic. Not traumatic in the least. Sounds totally happy and healthy. Complex and beautiful! Exceptionally successful!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:40 AM
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Considering the large number of women who have confirmed that male family members deserved to be mistrusted, I’m not sure this thread has turned out like you have thought. I recognize the danger inherent in driving, but also recognize that being able to drive is good and necessary for my happiness in life. It doesn’t mean I speed around mountain roads or don’t wear my seatbelt. You can be crippled by being overly neurotic, you can also be overly reckless. Neither extreme will bring happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:27 AM
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It is possible to vet and choose well you know. Her husband is the exception for who she trusts. That doesn’t mean all other men are rapists. They just aren’t vetted. Most people aren’t thieves either. Doesn’t mean it’s wise to let random people you don’t know well access to your bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:19 AM
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My view of marriage is based on my experiences From your post history…four marriages, three kids with three different men? And all before the age of 40. The common denominator is you. In my experience, a happy, healthy, long-term traditionally monogamous marriage is very rare . And? Completely moral and consistently good people are also rare. Just because something is rare doesn’t mean it can’t be a goal. My relationship is mostly happy, it isn’t always happy, but it’s damned sure happier than g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:13 AM
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….shocking that it comes down to “oh well, people come and go” when talking about a husband. Explains a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:11 AM
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People come and go Not in my life they don’t. When I love someone, they don’t come and go. Not friends, family or my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:38 AM
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Nice you can be so cavalier about ending a relationship. Your attitude towards marriage is the same I had towards my friends with benefits. But I didn’t love them, they weren’t my family. My husband is my lover and my family. I take love seriously. I had only one true love relationship break up after 7 years. Outside of family death, it was the most devastating loss I have ever faced. I personally would have never had another deep romantic relationship if I thought this one wouldn’t have worked …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:48 AM
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Okay. He starts to share lots of oxytocin with someone else, this definitely can happen. Good you are prepared. Wash, rinse and repeat relationships aren’t something I’m looking for at this stage in my life. This one was hard enough to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:12 AM
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And what happens if he starts to like fucking someone else more, if he wants to go to bed with her and wake-up with her instead of you? What happens if he decides those pair bonding feelings have shifted to another, feels that this other woman should be his primary relationship? https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306453021002894 Sharing orgasms with people leads to all kinds of other emotions and oxytocin is a hell of a drug. Just saying. You do you…good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:50 AM
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Yeah, I have a two really close friends who I have a dedicated and loving relationship with and they don’t involve sex at all. I also have a husband who I fuck. That’s kind of what makes it different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:36 AM
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Hit the corner of Bourbon Street and Saint Ann in New Orleans and wait for the chicken hawks to descend. I guarantee within a day, your wallet will be full and your drawers will brown forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:03 AM
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common sex acts like spanking or choking Common? Yeah, they really weren’t 15 years ago. It’s only common among younger people who grew up with porn. https://www.straight.com/living/savage-love-risky-choking-trend-likely-originated-in-porn
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:51 AM
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Because you’re not addicted to porn….but some people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:38 AM
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You need to check out the deadbedroom subreddit. Lots of guys so addicted to porn they can’t really get erect without it. We had a poster here who had a running theme, “women were shit at sex and watching pornstars who knew what they were doing and beating off is better”. Posted it every damn day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:37 AM
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Wow, I actually agree with Barely-moral 🤝 I don’t get the point of open relationships tbh. Closed is what makes a relationship different from a fwb
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:52 PM
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While I'm sitting here in Dubai as a lawyer I’m sitting here in the beautiful, cool, lush mountains and I don’t do shit except tend my garden, travel, take a swim or a hike, and do whatever I want. I retired years ago in my 40’s. Keep that nose to the grindstone! I’m sure on your deathbed you will wish you worked even more. Those kids are expensive. And enjoy your beautiful weather.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:26 PM
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People in general, but women in particular tend to actually have the best sex when they are in relationships. OP actually only stated compared to other hookups, her bf was the best…and after they were in a relationship the sex got better. But most probably had mediocre sex the first time, not mind blowing. I’ve definitely had really bad sex as my first sex with someone , and yes..it has been so bad that I would never, ever want a repeat. But usually the “best” and most “mind blowing “ isn’t in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:09 PM
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I think it’s more subculture than geography although the south definitely has more social conservatives. Both then and now. If you were in the bar scene/club scene/live music scene in New Orleans or Atlanta in the 80-90’s, hookups leading to relationships was the norm. I tended bar in both NYC and New Orleans late 80’s to early 90’s, I can tell you people in the New Orleans bar scene were way more promiscuous. The drinks were cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:09 PM
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you wanna be able to keep traveling Yep! Spending all of January in Florida. It’s a blast. you sit there in your 50's resenting your life Already there, …life is still good. you will be sad about it Your guilt will be very big one day when your husband starts hating you for never wanting kids Not yet, still waiting. He absolutely didn’t want them either. We are both pretty happy. But thanks for your concern. Btw, if you have this great life with kids…why are you so angry? You should be glad othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:34 PM
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I don’t know if this counts as “making a man wait”, but from first acknowledging I was attracted to my husband and would want to be in a relationship with him, and when we actually ended up having sex,it was at least three months. Before that, most guys I dated or hooked up with I met casually, was sexually attracted to, slept with, and then with a few, caught feels or started an actual relationship. My h and I had been friends for years and he’s the only guy I had serious feels for before sex. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:15 PM
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I inadvertently did. ☹️. It was with a coworker and I thought it was understood that it was a totally casual thing. Two hookups and he cried on the shoulders of every mutual friend we had. I was pretty awkward, Ngl…and it didn’t make me feel great.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:27 PM
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Sure. If that how you want to frame it, doesn’t bother me in the least. I’m pretty happy with my life. Maybe I failed to sexually reproduce, but I succeeded as a human being who didn’t bring any unwanted kids into the world. A huge failure as a human being would definitely be to have some pathetic, incel troll as a kid. How’s your mom by the way?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:30 PM
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I have two friends who were seemingly met their perfect match in class... 12 years later they're happily married. I was with my ex from ages 20 to 27. He was 1” taller, not especially handsome, he was probably slightly aspie, definitely didn’t win any genetic lottery except for intelligence, but I loved him dearly at one time. He cheated. He is still single to this day. we all make our own luck and spout dismissive remarks such as how lucks for losers, or even that they straight up don't believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:14 PM
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Not just a change in taste. The fuck boys, frat boys, casual sex boys of our youth compared to the more boring , stable men we married? They are usually the same guy 10 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:39 AM
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Brad Pitt in that photo is considered absolute perfection by many women for a reason though. It’s an unrealistic ideal to maintain a bf that low, but more muscle would not have improved that fight club body.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:25 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/w28XgF2dyYy3gjAPA
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:11 AM
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Most men who are active in athletics and not fat look great to me. My h has never seen the inside of a gym. 5’11” and 165 lbs, he has plenty of muscle for my taste by being active…hiking, kayaking, biking have all helped keep him looking great imho. He spent today cutting firewood.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:05 AM
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Older men and younger men also are gross to me to think about having sex with, women are a turn off, anyone remotely into BDSM on either side are an absolute ick. Am I ageist, misogynistic or kink shaming? Family members…..lol, I’m from the south but yeah…that’s gross. There are all sorts of people I don’t want to have sex with. And all sorts of mental images of sexual behavior that definitely give me the ick. I once got the permanent ick for a guy when I found out he slept with our resident fat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:57 AM
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I love lean athletic guys, personally not attracted to weightlifter bodies, although I acknowledge many women are. https://images.app.goo.gl/EHhb1j2w5A8UqcVM9 I prefer the before more than the after
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:44 AM
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My husband was a WAY bigger slut than me. Meaning is your LTR partner safe, reliable, stable, kind, and maybe a bit boring compared to the guys from your past? Yeah, he is. He’s older now, just like I am. He’s definitely more stable, safe and reliable than most of the guys of my youth, he’s also WAY more stable safe and reliable now than when he was young himself. So am I. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:34 AM
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should not have made babies when you are uncertain about your future You mean she should have made sure “the child would have adequate resources “? Horrors ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:06 PM
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All good now, have a great husband. It all worked out in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 12:02 PM
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It’s a great sex game. He grabs my hips as tight as he can and in the middle of fucking shouts “you’re an ugly old hag” in my ear. Then he times how many seconds he can stay on like a rodeo clown. You shouldn’t try it. Tell the next woman in your bed she’s a hag. It will change your relationship, I promise. After all, we all enjoy a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:54 PM
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yeah, just last night from my husband. 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:07 PM
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https://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/news/the-divine-redemption-of-hugh-grant-a-look-at-the-greatest-pr-save-of-all-time-almost-20-years-after-he-was-arrested-with-a-prostitute-9073158.html Here’s a great example. Should that woman be flattered that a handsome movie star paid her for sex? The women that get “hagmaxxed” don’t even get any drug money. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:57 PM
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Dude who cares. Don’t make me repeat my stories from my bartending days about Fat Doris. The fact that she was 5’2” and 300 lbs was probably the MOST attractive thing about her. All kinds of guys…young, old, incels, Chads. There are dumpster divers in all demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:51 PM
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lol, yeah typical male response. Someone wanting to fuck you is a compliment, even if they are calling you old and ugly. This woman gets PAID to let men fuck her. And she clearly isn’t missing any meals https://i.insider.com/4f43aff26bb3f74514000000?width=1200&format=jpeg&auto=webp Forgive me for not being flattered that someone will throw a dick in me, especially after they have referred to me as an ugly old witch. 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:40 PM
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And the definition of a hag is “ a witch, especially one in the form of an ugly old woman (often used as a term of disparagement for a woman).” But totally doesn’t reinforce any negative stereotypes. 🤣 It’s just a saying. Whatever. Women are used to men refusing to be held accountable for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:25 PM
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I guess “whatever” is now zoomer slang for “I’m emotional and upset”? And “man up” is evidence of extreme misandry or…like the top comment on that thread “ Yes, it's an insult to demand men conform to oppressive gender roles.” Whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:02 PM
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Do animals also not have instincts to provide for their offspring? Procreation doesn’t end at sex. Do you think any of us humans would be here if women gave birth alone in the forest without anyone helping her? Do you think your appeal to nature holds up on some ethical grounds, with male reproductive strategy being a moral good and female reproductive strategy being psycho? Let’s see. Who was the most effective male at passing on his genes? https://www.discovermagazine.com/planet-earth/1-in-200…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 12:56 PM
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Yeah, my friend is in that age range, was widowed a few years ago, totally grey, looks every bit her age and then some. Her message box is full of guys looking for any casual sex they can find online. Plenty of dudes will smash anything. Most people who are single and middle aged are that way for a reason. The odds are good, but the goods are odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:41 AM
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Guys here had a fucking stroke at the saying “man up” just a few days ago, but calling women hags is “just a term”. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:35 AM
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Yes…you sent the age at which the couple divorced. Thank you. That is not the age that they married.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:44 AM
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And having no other options is appealing? Get real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:32 AM
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https://www.romania-insider.com/press-release-rate-divorce-romania-results-year-2019 “ One reason that the divorce rate could be so low is that the average age that couples are getting married in Romania is much older in comparison to other countries. In urban areas, the average age for marriage for women is between 25 and 29 years of age. For men, the average age for marriage is 32.5 years of age. ”🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:31 AM
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No…you sent the age the divorce happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:30 AM
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You realize the age when the divorce happens =/= the age the marriage happens, right? The statistics you posted on divorce in Romania is the age at which the divorce occurred, which is predominantly middle aged, but the typical divorce in Romania is also among marriages of long duration. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1095858/romania-number-of-divorces-by-marriage-duration/ Lots of middle aged people getting divorced after20 years? Sounds like a lot of people who got married young to me. Sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:16 AM
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And which countries are these? Ones that have no divorce to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:43 AM
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Ohhhh, our favorite argument. Men will be faithful, not by choice, but because they have no options. Speaking for the female of the species, thanks a lot guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:41 AM
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Well again…my ex failed to get that memo and was very clear…after 7 years he had no intention of marrying the only woman he had sex with. And….he cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:22 AM
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Getting married doesn't require that, getting married EARLY requires that. Getting married early? “48 percent of those who marry before the age of 18 are likely to divorce within 10 years, compared to 25 percent of those who marry after the age of 25. A total 60 percent of couples married between the age of 20 -25 will end in divorce.” Most women want to have atleast a couple of one night stands with hotter guys instead of getting married early. Are young men looking to marry the first and only …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:06 AM
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Lies , damned lies and statistics. Statistics are very different depending on how you slice them, aren’t they? The median income for “ single” you quoted does not exclude single with children. Those never married and those divorced with children? My statement was women have similar incomes until they have children, not until they get married. https://www.city-journal.org/article/penalizing-ourselves Research from Denmark, Canada and Japan all show the same stark effect that having kids has on wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 08:51 AM
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Every promiscuous woman was once a virgin you know……… Women who intentionally stay virgins look for low n count men Women who want virgin guys aren’t the same women who just want to bang some dude to get it over with. She isn’t “dating” that guy, much less settling down into some monogamous ltr with him. she’s just ripping off the virginity bandaid If you want to marry a virgin, then most of those women will prefer a low n count husband, if you want to simply deflower many virgins, then be a pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:01 AM
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And what are some things a guy can do to show that he does know what he’s doing? There are two things that a guy who is both good in bed and has been with lots of women knows that no two women enjoy exactly the same thing. What they like probably won’t look like how it’s done in porn. So the first step is to acknowledge no matter what you think someone should like, or what you have had other women like, you are starting from scratch with a new partner. Get to know the true, physical signs of aro…
/r/seduction03/09/24 01:25 AM
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Just for clarity, human males might be only slightly bigger, but they certainly aren’t just 15% stronger. Men’s upper body strength is almost twice that of women. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8477683/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:52 PM
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Not if the bro just hooked up with your sister, or your daughter, or sometimes even your female friend. My father began warning me about men in my early teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:37 PM
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6’ tall 6”dick 6 figure salary=.666. “Men love to say that women date by the 6-6-6 rule – they want 6 feet, 6 inches, and 6 figures” https://datingkindasucks.com/2023/10/13/s06e16-is-the-6-6-6-rule-truth-or-fiction/ How did I know if he was 7”? Saw it up close? , it was definitely an outlier. So 7” is pretty good guess I would say based on what I have seen before. As it turns out I have a really sensitive cervix, especially at certain times of the month, and comfortable positions were limited. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:00 PM
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It’s funny people still use him as the example of an attractive older guy still pulling hot young chicks on his looks. He’s looked rough for almost a decade. Jared Leto however…….he’d be pulling plenty of younger women even if he were a barista.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:13 PM
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I wish I had 10 upvotes to give you. My first boyfriend was 25 and had been married. I assumed he knew what he was doing, I thought my sex life was great. Wrong. My ex was better in bed after a week and he had been a virgin. Despite my first being convinced that he knew what he was doing……he did not. I had no clue how much better sex could be. My h and I know what we like and how to communicate that. Dated a 6/6/6. Actually 6’4”, 7” and the equivalent of $250k a year. Things did not fit. Like un…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:56 PM
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get into much more consumer debt Not true. Women have less debt in every category except for student loan debt. Men have more credit card debt, significantly more car loan debt. https://www.investopedia.com/average-credit-scores-by-gender-5214525 But yeah, women pay less in tax BECAUSE they earn less, they earn less throughout their childbearing years especially. So your solution is women should work more? Great. I’m all for equality, but that means an even lower birth rate. All of this also cos…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 05:55 PM
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Affirmative action for men is already happening at liberal arts colleges. https://www.ivywise.com/ivywise-knowledgebase/resources/article/the-truth-about-affirmative-action-for-men/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 05:26 PM
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Meanwhile we had been having good sex for 15+ min What is “good sex”. for 15 minutes and how long does it usually take you? Is that piv for 15 minutes? Most intercourse lasts 5 minutes. She might have assumed you couldn’t finish at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 10:02 AM
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So again, with that in mind, why would he want to settle down? Because he wants a big family and this is his chance to do that? Same incentive anyone else has to start looking for a serious relationship in their early thirties. This is probably his last window to find a mid twenties girl, date for a few years, have a year or two to be married before having kids. That puts him mid to late 30’s to have his first. It’s fine if he just wants to be a playa now, but time doesn’t stand still. Not even …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 09:43 AM
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the protectors of societies from physical threats Men are easily twice as strong, no doubt. But outside of the occasional heavy lifting this doesn’t have that much relevance in our lives Obviously both my husband and I have an enormous amount of privilege to live in an incredibly safe area of the US where we have never seen warfare. We sleep with doors and windows open, but should something happen, I’m calling 911, not sending my husband out to be a human shield. There is actually a man and wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:59 PM
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Well, I earned WAY more than my husband, easily 3 times what he made when we first started dating. I have a degree in engineering which is somewhat untraditional. The money is our money, his retirement account is similar to mine. We are still happy together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:30 PM
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And “ dude can dream all he likes with that low” sounds like goals to me. That’s fine dude. She’s glad to bow out of the game but she’s taking her used up vag with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:57 PM
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Isn't it you referring to older women as "used up"? Ahhh no……op railed against “used up women in their 40’s and 50’s” thinking they were “18 year old hotties”….despite the fact that he’s a middle aged divorced guy himself. And you do know the definition of a hag is “ witch, especially one in the form of an ugly old woman (often used as a term of disparagement for a woman).” Really adorable way of describing women you will stoop to fuck. Chad or death His choices weren’t presented as “the dream 1…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:53 PM
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Whoa….who said all that? I definitely didn’t want to date or have sex with men for a long time after having my trust broken. I don’t think it’s that rare. I would assume a sizable portion of women sayin “all men are trash” aren’t actively dating. Edit…in hindsight I probably wasn’t very well adjusted after that, but I certainly didn’t hate my father or brothers. I definitely didn’t trust men in a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:22 PM
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Have sex with? Yes. We have a poster here who has admitted to love degrading black hookers. Date? That’s got to be pretty rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:20 PM
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Some don’t. I stayed celibate for almost three years in my “men are trash” phase after my ex cheated on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:10 PM
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Misogynistic: hatred of or prejudice against women mi·​sog·​y·​nis·​tic mə-ˌsä-jə-ˈni-stik. : feeling, showing, or characterized by hatred of or prejudice against women If you are harmed by paternalism, and that paternalism is caused by prejudice? Yes. Looking at the definition of both sexist and misogynistic, both involve being prejudiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:47 PM
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Guys simply put wider age range to look out for women? Well yeah….op set his age range from “hotties” to “used up”. You yourself stated, the 24 year old is the dream. Men are much more flexible in their "wants" Flexible because they will sleep with “used up” and “hot”? How open minded. Op didn’t use those words by accident. But he considers them of equal value when he calls them that and figures he can vibe with either equally ? Yeah, this is laughable. You have got to be kidding. Just another m…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 05:09 PM
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Lol, you just defined neoliberalism “ neoliberalism maintains that human well-being can best be advanced within an institutional framework characterized by free markets, a minimal state, free trade, the absence of economic regulation, and strong individual property rights.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 04:31 PM
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“Allowed”? I can divorce my h because I suddenly decide I don’t like his eye color anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:30 PM
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Lots of people have protective and paternalistic instincts because they love women, especially women in their life. That doesn’t mean their well intentioned actions can’t ultimately hurt women. I skipped a grade in school and could have done early college admission at 16, my mother supported it, my father said absolutely not. It was definitely because I was a girl, I had a completely different set of rules than my brothers. I definitely called him sexist at the time. We will never know if it hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:16 PM
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Okay, you asked and I showed you. dude can dream all he likes Yeah, he’s definitely dreaming of someone half his age, you are right about that. Exactly why she passes. No one of either gender wants to be in the position where the other person is saying you aren’t what I really. want. She’d rather be alone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 08:45 AM
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Certain lifestyles just don't work well unless you're both into it too. Certain things definitely matter way more than others, my husband was beyond thrilled that I was an experienced and enthusiastic tent camper because many other girlfriends weren’t. We now have an old Airstream camper from the sixties and both love long trips in it. We both really love old homes and collecting folk art which could be very off putting to someone who likes every minimalist and modern. Other hobbies or interests…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:47 AM
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I assume her benefit is money and his is sex? You don’t need a relationship for that. If a woman is reduced to selling sex she doesn’t want to have, why not just go professional? Stack cash for a decade and coast on dividends. That’s got to be more lucrative. The thought of having sex with some guy “for resources “ feels gross, like a cross between rape and prostitution. At least as a bonifide whore, the money is hers to do with what she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:41 AM
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Yeah. My brother said he was told it was also like when an animal raises their hackles. He lives right across the Georgia border. Don’t bow up at me is definitely don’t arch your back like you’re ready to start a fight. Like how a boxer stands. Around where I live it is often used “like grow a spine”, “stand with pride”, assert yourself if someone tells you to bow up. Bow up and don’t bow up have similar meaning with different implications, one implying aggression, the other is more assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:03 AM
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Yeah my bil was slightly west if I remember? Got flat very fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:35 AM
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This one? https://imgur.com/a/NCQNgQt 47 year old guy seeking 24 to 45. Exactly a guy in her age range that she assumes won’t be into her even though he messaged her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:32 AM
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It is extremely beautiful. Lots of people don’t realize there are mountains in Georgia. They alway think of the Smokies between NC and TN, but we are close. My bil lived in Charlottesville Va which was really pretty but flattens surprisingly fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:26 AM
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lol, no kin around these parts here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:13 AM
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This is the North Georgia, near the end of the Appalachian Mountains.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:08 AM
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Too late now. My h was an absolute slutwhen he was a teen and in his 20’s before he quit drinking, I had a few years in my early thirties where I was no angel either. So far so good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:05 AM
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Here in the Deep South I hear the non gendered “bow up”, or basically assert yourself or “bow up and get it” which is basically get busy and stop whining. Unless used by parents …”don’t bow up at me” is don’t argue with me, or sass me and listen to what I tell you to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:01 AM
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Here in the Deep South I hear the non gendered “bow up”, basically assert yourself and fight back. Unless used by parents …”don’t bow up at me” is don’t sass me and listen to what I tell you to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:57 PM
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If she is average or above and in her 20’s, she will eventually have someone show interest at the gym, at work or the supermarket. Those guys might or might not be what she’s looking for. If she socializes, and puts herself out there in a target rich environment, she has a better chance of finding someone she can really get excited about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:43 PM
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At least men are honest by not downplaying the importance of affection and intimacy. I think plenty of men are dishonest. It seems to me that there are women on one side who are crowing about how happy they are when they do wish they have a relationship, but this sub is also full of guys who claim to dislike women and only want sex. Plenty claim their dream is casual sex from multiple women at the same time. Some of these men may be telling the truth , but I suspect others would be thrilled with…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:12 PM
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Haha, I had an ex that didn’t exactly “lie” but definitely danced around the truth. I didn’t find out until much later in our relationship. He talked about a girl he “hooked up with” which never got past second base. An “ex” who apparently was a girl he took to homecoming and prom and got a kiss on the cheek from. Tried to lose it to a hooker at a brothel in Nevada but said the whole thing was sad. I think it would be super weird if you got into some detailed discussions of time, place and posit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:37 PM
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……Nah, I think you are wrong in the sense that lots of men fight tooth and nail to defend the double standard. The whole lock and key analogy. I’ve read it’s fine for a man to have a high count because it’s hard for a man to be slutty, so it’s an accomplishment he had to work for, but it’s bad for a woman because it’s easy to be slutty and a sign she lacks self control. You have influencers telling women they need to be chaste but allow a high value man to cheat. What you don’t see is high n cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:52 PM
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Women don't want virgin men. Women want virgin alphas Fair enough. I think some women definitely want this, some dream of a high beta. Seems like men also want low n count, high sexual openness women. Those things are hard to find in one person, especially after a certain age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:40 PM
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That’s exactly what broke up my 7 year relationship 🤷‍♀️. He wasn’t low n count by choice, I was his first and together we became very financially successful. I know for a fact he thought money would make him a chick magnet. Told me he had no intention of marrying his first. Ended up cheating. My h was an absolute slut in his teens and twenties…..haven’t caught him cheating. I think sexually conservative guys who choose to be low n count are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:34 PM
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Hookers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:26 PM
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Ugh…I absolutely know they did. So cringey. 🤣 I think parents are generally weirder and more protective of their daughter’s sexuality. Obviously at 20, if I bring home a boyfriend for Thanksgiving, we are probably having sex, but no one really wants to hear about it. Plus when you’re horny and 20, you just want to roll around naked with your boyfriend all day. It’s like being a kid with a new toy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:09 AM
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Noooo…..so weird in my parents house…..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:42 AM
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Probably not from one night stands
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:41 AM
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Started working at 15, left for college at 17, and didn’t even go home in the summer. Worked at a resort instead. I didn’t lose my virginity until 19…. In a college dorm. Dropped out for a while, moved to New Orleans at 19 and got my own apartment. Met my ex at 20 and we moved together to New York City at 21. But absolutely no way not living on my own would not have affected my sex life at 20-27. Primed up with an iud and a sex fiend boyfriend we were banging 15 times a week minimum for the firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:03 AM
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Well…in her case she has unfortunately aged like shit too. Not fat, but crazy amounts of emotional baggage. Before her husband died she took care of her dad who died of Alzheimer’s. And yes…despite having gone completely gray and honestly being way too thin, she definitely has a flooded inbox of guys who strike her as having too much baggage of their own and not being serious. The shear volume of people “ swiping right on just about everyone in their age group” doesn’t really strike her as anyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 04:24 AM
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https://imgur.com/a/QOpx9Ey Here she is! My good friend. She definitely isn’t fat, but has definitely had a hard couple of years. Massive baggage after spending years nursing her husband…”used up” in a major way. Actually has 1.2 million left though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:29 AM
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So how should she approach this whole thing and avoid being seen as used up? I mean honestly she is pretty “used up”, he left her loaded, but she’s had it rough emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:14 AM
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Btw…it’s never occurred to you that serious women your age might be put off by seeing your filter set to 25 or whatever it set to and think…this guy doesn’t really want me?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:05 AM
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Okay…I’ve never online dated. I only know that she gets lots of messages and rarely responds. I know she often looks at guys who have as young as 25 in their filter. I don’t think she doesn’t respond because she thinks she’s hot shit. Just too young for widowers and not interested in who messages her. They don’t seem very genuine or serious. So how should she online date?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:59 AM
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So men don’t even change these filters? Her bottom is set 5 years younger to 10 older. She gets messages from all kinds of ages. I know she sees lots of men her age with their filters including much much younger. Her assumption is they would probably date her but would prefer a 25 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:49 AM
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She looks at their profiles and mostly doesn’t respond. They message her first. So how is she supposed to approach dating as a “used up” woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:45 AM
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I had no idea that the 25 to 40 filter was some sort of default for 50 year old guys. 🧐 How they approach dating? I mean yeah…she gets lots of messages daily that she doesn’t respond to. She’s at an age where she’s getting lots of divorced guys within 10 years of her age not looking for anything serious. And some guys 20 years older looking for a nurse with a purse. She nursed her husband the last three years of her life and no way is she interested in that at this stage of life. How is she supp…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:32 AM
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When the roster for the once a week, mixed gender beach volleyball game fills up, they start opening a second night. Or the bar down the street starts having beach volleyball. People start clubs all the time. Meetup groups are easy to schedule online. What other solution is available? Start a club with no members?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:07 AM
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Okay…you do you. Congrats on being awesome I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:02 AM
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You even have used up women in their 40’s and 50’s now thinking they’re hot and 18 My friend fits this demographic, widowed and “used up” I guess. Not fat, looks her age. I don’t think she’s looking for 18 year old boys. Men in her age range, 10 years older to 5 years younger message her in droves, but when she looks at their profiles, lots of them have their filters set to women 25 years younger to 10 years younger She assumes they would actually prefer younger and passes. Before this, women ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:00 AM
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Glad I’m not the only one…I’m googling this now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:46 AM
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…..you would practically be in menopause by the time you learn to adult. How do you have a sex life if you both live with your parents? It was bad enough with roommates stacked on top of each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:22 AM
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people are better off not dating if they are not whole in their own lives and content with their weight, finances, hobbies, careers, etc. Hard disagree. You are never going to be 100 % content, I fail to see how being single , horny and lonely is going to make being fat, broke and bored feel any better. My h and I have been through some huge challenges. Lost our house, our rental income, our community and our jobs/businesses in one day. Both of us had major challenges with long term degenerative…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:16 AM
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way too rigged You mean an app that makes more money by keeping you single? Color me shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:04 AM
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People are choosing not to utilize the social activities available then complaining that they don't exist. Came to say this. It’s somehow talked about like a conspiracy or intentional act. The fact is, it’s just good old supply and demand. If people were joining clubs, rec leagues etc., then they would stay open.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:01 AM
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Wow…what a bitch… Sorry that happened man. Hurt people hurt people, but she was way out of line.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:41 AM
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I get what you are saying. But what if the guy can’t get aroused or can’t stay aroused without dominating someone or fantasizing about dominating someone. How do you separate out what part of a rape fetish is the need to dominate, from using domination in order to get sexually aroused? People get sexual gratification from all kinds of fetishes. “Peter Madsen murdered Kim Wall, a journalist, for sexual pleasure. The same day that Madsen met Wall, he searched the internet for “beheaded girl agony”…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:38 AM
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Scout masters , priests, etc definitely up the average. Some have hundreds of victims. We never got the details on my late bil, but something definitely happened to him. The predator was a coach, scoutmaster, worked in the city recreation department. My h and I were having dinner with his late brother’s ex wife and my h starts talking about how hurt he was that this mentor of his youth turned on him overnight. Literally just stopped talking to him one day. The ex wife tells him”you didn’t know? …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:56 PM
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Completely unprompted? That is really rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:27 PM
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Don’t straight guys still bond with each other by playing sports? Too many single, straight men spend their time in mixed company trying to isolate and seduce women, and compete with other men. Most gay guys I know have tons of friends. I knew gay guys who practically traveled in packs, referred to affectionately as “a gaggle of gays”. If it’s “society” treating women well, I would suspect it’s the society created by your fellow straight guys as much as anything. https://images.app.goo.gl/AadFUr…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:24 PM
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rape is always a display of dominance I have read that a lot, …..it’s a popular opinion, and in the case of war? Probably quite likely, but not sure I believe the “always” part…or that everyone separates dominance from sexual gratification. I think for some people they can be intertwined.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:33 PM
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Had to edit….its 76 actually. Kids are such easy targets, they often don’t have the language to explain what is happening to them and often appreciate the attention at the time. Groomers pick lonely and ignored kids. Many predators are family members. It makes them less likely to be prosecuted because victims feel pressured from their own family to not report. My h has a story about his brother and the scout leader….🥺. His brother that committed suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:09 PM
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Honestly wouldn’t change it for the world
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:59 PM
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Just posted that too! II’m ahead of you. Average rapist has 7 victims Average child molester 73 ☹️ edit 76☹️☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:57 PM
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Still ubiquitous in Afghanistan today apparently https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kite_Runner I just posted about the Ukrainian prisoners , the Russians raped the men, not the women. Maybe rape used as terror really is a different animal than rape for sexual gratification
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:54 PM
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Holy fuck, I was 17. Those ages seem insane to me. Scandinavian parents, raised in the US. I can’t imagine tbh. I was a fully functioning, self sufficient adult by 19. How do you have a sex life if everyone is living at home in their 20’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:49 PM
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15% of middle age men have no close friends ….in 1990 it was only 3% of middle aged men. Even worse, 20% of single men have no friends. https://www.deseret.com/23574827/studies-friendships-middle-aged-men-no-friends/ https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/why-a-growing-number-of-american-men-say-they-are-in-a-friendship-recession No partner and no close friends sounds like an unhappy situation. I always say there is something deeper than sexlessness going on. (And of course get downvoted by the pussy…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:37 PM
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I saw a 60 minutes last year about captured Ukrainians, the Russian soldiers raped all the men and not the women. Clearly meant to terrorize. Ithink it was this … https://youtu.be/nERTik1asOE?si=zbDHhGfRSSc8irf_
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:32 PM
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Mmmmm press x to doubt on that one. I think .5% of all adult men are currently registered sex offenders and a significant number not yet caught or who will offend in the future. Ten times your number as a bare minimum I live in a rural area with a total population of 30k in my county and 1300 convicted, registered sex offenders. Two women. Factor out all the women and all the kids under 18? My county easily has 1% of the male population registered, convicted sex offenders. Still small….still 10 …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:26 PM
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They definitely do, lol. Between the baby trapping, the palimoney and the divorce rape…when it comes to cheating…fafo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:04 PM
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And divorced twice…yea.🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:57 PM
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Olympic pole vaulting https://twitter.com/bexocad/status/1819775430599028847/photo/1?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed%7Ctwterm%5E1819775430599028847%7Ctwgr%5E7a08f6396b268863593c80b2d8d3335603d17171%7Ctwcon%5Es1_&ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.jpost.com%2Fomg%2Farticle-813189
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:52 PM
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You mean the guy who got divorced…..twice?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:45 PM
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They also leave a lot behind in divorce court.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:42 PM
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Cheaters need to be prepared to get a divorce when they get caught too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:29 PM
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Huh? The assumed subtext in the question what’s the pro in a traditional relationship is “what the pro in a traditional vrs non traditional relationship”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:25 PM
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https://youtu.be/PnaxGQvsvmo?si=KDFSbWQU6l0J75TA
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:21 PM
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Telling your husband to learn to sleep with one eye open if he cheats is better advice 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:08 PM
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Say it louder for all the singles in the back….this is why you need to be really sure before getting married, don’t quit your career and why you still need prenups right here ladies. You might end up with this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:07 PM
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It definitely wasn’t. The most important thing marriage has going for it is how incredibly difficult it is to get out of….its a feature, not a flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:01 PM
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You definitely don’t need a traditional relationship for any of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:58 PM
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Omg….this. This all day. I myself have posted this exact same thing. It’s all rainbows and unicorn farts, the sahm is invaluable, we’re a team, we are equal but bring different skills to the table…blah blah blah. Until one of them shits the bed, then it’s “bitch is taking half of my shit”…it’s like clockwork
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:54 PM
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Interesting take we don’t usually hear from men tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:46 PM
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I kind of agree and disagree. “Escape plan” seems like a very negative mindset, but knowing no matter what that you have the ability to support yourself well without being reliant on someone else is priceless. Maybe better framed as being responsible and autonomous, instead of not a prisoner for life?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:45 PM
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Well……given the situation I would have felt violated too, especially after only one night. But also given the situation I think this would be more like the rape equivalent of an involuntary manslaughter, not first degree murder. You didn’t intend harm. When we know better we do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:25 PM
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Then i raped the first woman i had sex with 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:12 PM
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not hang around with degenerates You do you fam. I spent my early life surrounded be degenerates and I survived 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:35 PM
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virtually everything that 'can' happen, will. By that metric then there is no social change ever, by any group…oppressed or not. We will see slavery again, we see ongoing genocide. We may well see the end of democracy in our lifetime. Won’t matter if it’s a social movement lead by the privileged or the oppressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:20 PM
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Raging? lol. Okay. We haven’t had a draft since 1973 and likely never will again. You think the American revolution wasn’t a social movement? The American revolution was a huge social movement, it was based on the rejection of taxation without representation. More people gained the right to vote. Common people could play important roles in government. Social mobility became possible. The American revolution arguably was the first step toward universal suffrage and the beginning of democracy. htt…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:10 PM
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And that rape is still prevalent in societies that discourage it? ? I’m not sure I understand this comment. Is there a society that doesn’t discourage rape? Or theft? Or murder? Does it still happen? Absolutely. That doesn’t mean most people are natural thieves or murderers. Rape, child molestation are extremely common. Child abusers have an average of 76 victims, a rapist has an average of seven victims. Just because a crime is extremely common doesn’t mean that perpetrators are extremely commo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:30 PM
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That’s complete and utter bullshit. The most privileged class that has ever occupied space in significant numbers in human history, the white, upper middle class baby boomers living in the United States stopped a war…and the draft…..the last time the US drafted anyone. Most of those protesters were deferred and not even personally the prime demographic that was drafted. As long as the issue is a valid one, or you can convince a sizable portion of the population it’s a valid one, it can come from…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:19 PM
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On this? I personally agree 100%. Neither my h or I work, we live really modestly and frugally on passive income, but we are not typical Americans. Our net worth is top 10% and our income is bottom 25%, but not many people would choose our lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:07 PM
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I don’t think most men are naturally rapists. The shear volume of men who find sex with prostitutes unappealing and the ones who do enjoy sex with prostitutes but prefer the gfe speaks volumes. Hookers are masters at pretending to actually enjoy the sex because most men finish faster when they do. Men overwhelmingly prefer enthusiastic partners who are willing participants. I think it’s more a function of us being programmed first and foremost for self preservation. People will do what they need…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:52 AM
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Yeah, it does. Social (and by extension sexual) viability is the only metric by which you can measure the acceptability of something. I’m going to disagree, Not everyone has to find you sexually attractive, socially acceptable or sufficiently normie. You don’t need widespread acceptance, you just need to find your tribe. I lived among a lot of freaks and outsiders when I was young. You only need one person to find you sexually attractive and “the family you choose” can be a profoundly supportive…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:45 AM
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Women today have more sexual freedom and can explore a broader range of sexual experiences than ever before. Meanwhile, men are still boxed into a narrow range of acceptable sexual behaviors, especially if they identify as heterosexual I am old enough to remember when most gays were closeted, especially to their families and jobs. Yet I lived in the French Quarter and then the West Village and watched the gays shout “we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it”. 40 years later we have openly gay cab…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:26 AM
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Women today have more sexual freedom and can explore a broader range of sexual experiences than ever before. Meanwhile, men are still boxed into a narrow range of acceptable sexual behaviors, especially if they identify as heterosexual I am old enough to remember when most gays were closeted, especially to their families and jobs. Yet I lived in the French Quarter and then the West Village and watched the gays “shout we’re here, we’re queer get used to it”. 40 years later we have openly gay cabi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:02 AM
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I mean that’s sweet and all and I believe you….but realistically, most guys would take the date but rate her looks unfavorably
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:32 PM
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Not going to work…biology has worked in ways that oppose modern societal standards. The age of sexual maturity has dropped https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FMenarche&psig=AOvVaw15_HRJlDJD0SGqoAFzUAjt&ust=1724713947166000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CBEQjRxqFwoTCLDQ4KOikYgDFQAAAAAdAAAAABAE And the age where people can afford to support a family has increased. It was hard enough to keep young people from having sex when they reached sexual matur…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:20 PM
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Not going to happen. Women have adopted more typically male gendered roles as equal earners and providers. We live in a capitalist society and historically female gender role didn’t bring the cash. We like our cars, huge houses, electronic gadgets and air conditioning. It not as much about “freedom from gender roles”, it’s about that money.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:01 PM
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Actually that’s wrong too. The rate of unwed birth steadily increases, but the rate of kids living without their father in the home has slightly decreased. Many couples just don’t bother to marry https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/figure2-fatherabsent-1-w640.jpg I’m not a fan, but an unwed, intact family is better than no Dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 10:24 PM
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I’m too cheap to buy reddit rewards, but take this trophy 🏆.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:11 PM
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Yeah…I mentioned the three date rule in another comment. Fwiw, I personally never followed any of these rules, but I understand the point of view of people who use them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:42 PM
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Unless you actually sign a legal document, “commitment “ is just words. M:Wanna have sex? W: No M: How about I tell you I’ll be committed! Actions speak louder than words….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:42 PM
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No. Effectiveness of birth control is basically measured on a pregnancy per year basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:37 PM
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Then your choices are a young marriage which is likely to end in divorce, not having any sex at all until you are financially and emotionally ready which means a decade of your horniest years with no sex, potentially marrying someone you are sexually incompatible with and …..,FOMO! People want sex and not everyone is ready to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:35 PM
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Mmmm I actually think you’re wrong…. “ Condoms are also 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. This means that 2 out of 100 people using condoms as contraception will become pregnant in a year.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:30 PM
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I hear this all the time…it’s the “hot guys don’t want to commit”. News flash, very few young guys want to commit, most guys will smash whoever is offering, and some lower value guys will commit because it’s their only shot at getting laid consistently. As much as guys are paranoid about being a beta bucks, they seem oblivious to a woman’s desire not to be a default choice. NOONE, male or female wants to be second choice or feel they are settled for. I need to add…women want to be committed to ……
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:29 PM
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https://www.unl.edu/rhames/courses/current/readings/Marlowe-hadza-mate-selection-criteria.pdf “ When females are about 17 or 18, and before they get married for the first time, they may be courted by more than one male. When this happens, it can lead to a violent, even fatal, conflict” “ Because of the danger, others sometimes get involved and ask the woman to choose one suitor rather than keep stringing both along, but young women appear to want to shop before marrying. Monogamy is the norm, wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:10 PM
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Doubtful. You mostly won’t find out you are in the fuck zone until after you have sex. With a guy who has spent his time, energy and put his ego on the line to pursue? He probably is less likely to hit and run. That’s why the “third date rule” is a thing, in the hopes a guy isn’t going to invest that much time and effort for just for a hookup. I never played the game because my girl game was pretty lame tbh….but I do understand where it comes from. It’s not a sure fire strategy, making the man p…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:43 PM
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Yeah….no thanks. Not even if my odds of you knocking me up were one in a million.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:14 PM
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Yeah, only guys who understand math, thanks. Don’t want to waste money on tutoring the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:09 PM
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Yep, it can. It’s a calculation that it’s more likely if you make it easier. The assumption is that men will say yes to women they would never bother approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:05 PM
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http://www.ethesis.net/vrijen_en_trouwen/deinze_hoofdstuk_5.htm Here you go…google translate this. Specifically references FIRST marriages in Belgium. The recorded ages are actually older in some years over 150 years ago than they are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:02 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:56 PM
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Okay….you do the math then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:53 PM
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lol…I also cited the US census showing median age for men was 26.5 at the turn of the century. Not enough evidence? People didn’t marry when they had no ability to feed the inevitable children.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:49 PM
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Condoms are 98% effective…if used correctly. That is their effectiveness in any given year. Interesting math on the cumulative risk of a small, but repeated risk. Keep using condoms for 30 years and your cumulative risk of getting knocked up is 1-.9830 or 45% Lifetime odds of dying in a car crash is only 1 in 93. If your lifetime risk of dying in a car crash was 45%….you bet your ass people would only ride in cars when absolutely necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:42 PM
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Yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:36 PM
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Try actually reading the links I sent. You are wrong, plain and simple. Here’s 200+ years of “cherry picked” data. “Data taken from birthdates of women and marriage certificates reveals mean marriage ages to have been as follows: 1566-1619 27.0 years 1647-1719 29.6 years 1719-1779 26.8 years 1770-1837 25.1 years” Most teen marriages were those arranged by wealthy families to consolidate power. Prostitution meant monogamy was for upper class women, not the lower classes or men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:34 PM
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Nice downvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:20 PM
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Women historically haven’t found the risk of getting pregnant to be worth a night of mediocre, casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:20 PM
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Seriously? Try google. 1.05 men on average to every woman. https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2022/08/23/sidebar-sex-ratios-around-the-world/ Without warfare, this currently doesn’t even out until late 50’s when women begin to outnumber men. When a few higher class men monopolize multiple women, much more than 5% of men will be sexless
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:14 PM
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The only worse outcome to being pumped and dumped by a guy you are interested in would be to pay to get pumped and dumped by a guy who doesn’t even find you to be remotely attractive Totally humiliating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:00 PM
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I honestly don’t think they have thought it through. If they think Chad gets all the poon now, imagine if women approached the guys they were most attracted to. But yeah, it definitely doesn’t help women find a guy willing to commit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:36 PM
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I mean that’s just a numbers game though. More men are born than women, there simply aren’t enough women. Lower class men had to share women with higher class men, while higher class men had sexual monopoly of their wives. Some of this was actually formally institutionalized, such as quadroon balls where men could meet potential mistresses, other Defacto polygamy was more informal. Want to know where all those prostitutes in Victorian England came from? “ Some lower-class married women worked as…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:15 PM
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Because throughout history there was societal enforced monogamy that happened at a young age - before 20 usually False. Median age of marriage was much much later than 20 for common people in many historical eras. https://internetshakespeare.uvic.ca/Library/SLT/society/family/marriage.html Even in the US at the turn of the century median age for men to be married was 26 https://www.businessinsider.com/why-people-get-married-later-2013-10 The average age of a groom in Ireland was 28.4 in 1968 htt…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:06 PM
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If a girl is honestly kind of mid, not hideous but just not especially your type and not really on your radar, what will your reaction be?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:06 AM
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It’s mostly the fear that you will pass the hot enough to bang, but not pass the good enough to date threshold. The fear that too many guys will see this as an opportunity for a ons or an opportunity for a short term, practice girlfriend. I heard it stated that women are less afraid of being rejected and more afraid of not being rejected. More accurately, women are afraid of not being rejected for sex by a guy who really isn’t that interested in anything more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 10:48 AM
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how behaviors evolved from evolutionary forces okay…..like how “its harder for men to find a mate“. again…is this a feminist argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:14 AM
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I think evopsych has its merits okay…? So do you think you are thinking like a feminist now? Somehow I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:27 AM
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It’s certainly growing more quickly in the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:53 AM
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“Some”….it’s hardly a main tenet of feminism. Some feminists self identify as Christians too, that doesn’t mean that Christian thought is a foundation of feminism. Redpill ideology borrows heavily from evo psych theories and is definitely the basis for redpill thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:33 AM
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Hmmmm Pros… Fertility is a slow decline, not a cliff. Would be kind of cool to not have the biological clock ticking. Cons…. Erectile dysfunction. I can’t even imagine how devastating that would be. Nah…..I’m good.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:32 AM
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Most feminists believe in nurture over nature, that we are born similar and socialization causes us to be different. What you are claiming “feminists” believe sounds way more redpill with all their evo psych theories. Rollo himself as stated and restated the “the eggs are valuable, sperm is cheap”. “ Rollo Tomassi @RationalMale Eggs are expensive, sperm is cheap. The idea that social constructionism teaches women sexual selectivity is empirically false. Literally no one has taught girls anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:07 AM
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???? Where the fuck did I say it wasn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:56 PM
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Yeah…she might know of potential fathers, but not actually who the daddy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:54 PM
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thought the pregnancy happened some other month Or even more likely, which day or even time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:24 PM
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Well….thanks for agreeing with me I suppose. Lots of activities can be enjoyable, they can also be physically and mentally harmful when there is a lack of moderation. I like…..alcohol, chocolate, gaming, porn…..doesn’t matter. All those things can be healthy hobbies and if they become an addiction they can be problematic. Saying xxxx is healthy because I find it “interesting”? Or because I enjoy it, it’s healthy? Neither statement is objectively true. The fact is that things we enjoy in moderati…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:13 PM
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This comment resonates with me so much. I definitely got the message that men=caution…….their intentions towards women should always be suspect and are probably bad.…..and my father would often add “I know because I was a teenage boy”. Men don't even like one another.? I’m not even sure they like themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:17 PM
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On the contrary…the entire point of this sub is to talk about why women don’t want sex with most men they encounter…DESPITE liking sex with a few men. If no women ever enjoyed sex with anyone at all, this sub wouldn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:36 PM
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