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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:01 AM
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Let’s get real, if a gay man is a self made millionaire part of his reward will be young men. Young men will willingly give themselves as a reward. The above is all true. Does that mean you’re sucking some nasty old dudes cock for cash? Just because someone will do it, doesn’t mean everyone will do it. Hoes gonna hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 12:58 AM
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Almost all of them lasting 3 months tops 😆. Wtf…you should still be in the “can’t keep my hands off, banging every day” part of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:08 AM
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I think it's really dangerous for some women to continue to assert this. This is your entire mo…repeatedly. You’ve strawmanned me before. I never asserted anything. This IS a debate forum, so debate what I actually said. It’s you that needs to chill the fuck out. And I would frankly rather get raped than to whore out my body. I would find it to be traumatic either way. Ymmv. Knowing that I allowed and consented to the act would make it no less traumatic. But at least if I was raped, I would know…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:14 AM
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I know people who have managed it pretty well, ….I mean if 100% means 12 hour days, 6 days a week, then obviously no. Not even dads can work that much and be great dads. But there are women who are really happy with what they have accomplished and don’t feel like they missed out of enjoying their kids childhood. Lots have had help from their families and the grandparents. I know a couple of pharmacists, two kids, they work slightly different shifts, so husband watched baby when he was home, they…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 07:16 PM
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👍. I totally agree with you that people give up on otherwise great relationships too soon though. But if you have a dealbreaker like absolutely no porn it’s on you to clear the air, better sooner rather than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:56 PM
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I think her point is to break up early before it becomes a serious relationship. And for young people with a big dating pool, it’s good advice. Obviously it’s not coming upon a first date, but just like wanting kids, wanting marriage..it’s best to sus out dealbreakers early and move on. This prevents the later situation of a finding a deal breaker 6 months in when you are emotionally invested.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:38 PM
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I said to me it would feel like rape. I didn’t say it was rape. I didn’t “assert anything” except my own personal reaction to such an event. So kindly take your fucking bullshit elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:01 PM
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She’s doing it to make a lot of money, and she will. Plenty of men will spank it while fantasizing they could be 1001. That’s why she will drive traffic to her site. Hoes gonna hoe. There have always been and always will be prostitutes. It’s sad that someone who doesn’t need money would do this, but it’s her life. To me it would feel like rape tbh. Any better than women from poor countries who bang 5 gross old dudes who disgust them? Every day for years? There are some who have had sex with thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:30 PM
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Number 3? press to doubt. Years into a relationship, you will eventually find other people attractive. Doesn’t mean you will act on it. Fidelity is always a choice, the attraction to others doesn’t magically disappear though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:07 PM
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He was 5’9”, wealthy and an evil, entitled sociopath. Fuck off with the bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:50 AM
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Someone remembers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:41 AM
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In general? Yeah no doubt. I still am careful about making broad assumptions about individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:21 AM
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Based on looks alone, he was certainly far from ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:44 AM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:34 AM
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I just showed you that over 1/4 of women currently do earn more. We aren’t unicorns. Historically we were all subsistence farmers. Now 2% of people farm. So 98% of people are literally “going against the grain”. Culture can change more quickly than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:05 AM
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I bought my first at 28, before we started dating. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:00 AM
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It would cost double your rent, and if you found a woman who also made bank, you could double your household income AND build equity. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:58 AM
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Ohhh…hookers. You mean hookers😆
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:55 AM
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Yeah, but then add in the multitude of people with depression, anxiety etc. And on the other side of things, we had a guy working on our house who was obese with Tourette’s, had a fat ass wife and fat little baby. He loved his family, Jesus and really shitty fast food. He sure seemed happier than Elliot Roger. I agree that generalizations are useful but when you look at individuals there are plenty of exceptions, not just1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:44 AM
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https://www.google.com/imgres?q=what%20percentage%20of%20wives%20who%20earn%20more%20than%20men%C2%A0&imgurl=http%3A%2F%2Fcdn.statcdn.com%2FInfographic%2Fimages%2Fnormal%2F4039.jpeg&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.statista.com%2Fchart%2F4039%2Fhow-many-us-wives-earn-more-than-their-husbands%2F&docid=PNrfFUMGhJclXM&tbnid=LaxOhd7S2gRm_M&vet=12ahUKEwjlx6yu69-KAxW8mYQIHVfiEbgQM3oECGQQAA..i&w=960&h=684&hcb=2&ved=2ahUKEwjlx6yu69-KAxW8mYQIHVfiEbgQM3oECGQQAA Typically throughout history women didn’t have th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:30 AM
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My brother in law had model tier looks and committed suicide. I worked with an absolutely beautiful, petite girl from Greenwich Connecticut who was repeatedly hospitalized for anorexia. I never judge how easy or hard any one individuals life is. You can make generalizations, but some people struggle in ways that are hard to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:22 AM
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I made more money than he did and now we live off of real estate investments
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:14 AM
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I’ll make sure and tell my husband. He likes a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:04 AM
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I made WAY more money than my husband. Now we live off of investments. Yeah, he’s pretty cute 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:03 AM
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lol…I mean not to be rude, but you probably could have spent $10 a month at Planet Fitness and women would have gone Dutch and maybe even cooked you dinner once in a while. Or you could have gotten a part time job bartending and got paid while banging random chicks like my husband did in his twenties. Profit. No date necessary. Money for nothing, get your chicks for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:00 AM
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Welp, be thankful your luck changed I supposed. Too bad you can’t figure it out and then help replicate the process for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 10:03 PM
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But yeah, women have certainly made passes at me 🤷‍♀️. Unless there was some glow up, or some difference in how outgoing you were, I have no explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:51 PM
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Biologically, probably easier to be a man. No periods.No pregnancy. No menopause. No absolute end to fertility The cons are there. Shorter lifespan although an extra year or two when you are already elderly..meh. Impotence can happen and would be devastating. Even when my libido has been lower, I still enjoy the closeness and bonding of sex. Not being able to perform would have to be emotionally difficult. Socially, I think women have it better in general. More friends, generally less sexual fru…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:42 PM
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I mean that’s absolutely to be expected as a bare minimum, if you didn’t see the typical physical signs from all the women, then obviously something was wrong, needed to addressed or you should just move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:01 PM
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I’ve had women that were evident in their arousal but it was mostly nonverbal. ? ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 07:28 PM
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getting out of a long sexless marriage My condolences. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:43 PM
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Okay…fair enough, but if women are moaning and expressing our appreciation for the technique being applied, and men are silent regardless of how much they are appreciating or not appreciating what is going on, again, we can’t respond to cues when you aren’t giving us any. And men being likely to get hard and likely to cum despite bad sex doesn’t help us figure out what men like.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:42 PM
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I personally think most women would be glad to be make sex better for men, if men actually provided more positive feedback and provided more clues. It’s also simply a fact that for men, women are doing at least a good enough job for them to orgasm. Op might be slightly off in that it does take less effort for women to get men to orgasm as a bare minimum ….but I can’t make the experience better without feedback. Women do what they can with the cues they are given.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:21 PM
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Well there is objective evidence that female primates vocalize more. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_copulatory_vocalizations Not sure why I have to prove that water is wet……women being more vocal during sex should be obvious to any casual observers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:05 PM
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? What? What is ambiguous about “do not stop? Or “just like that”? It’s not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:58 PM
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If you mess it up when she’s near the top, she falls to the bottom and has to start over. Doing the lord’s work with this advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:54 PM
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Well…I can tell you I have had to encourage every single partner I have had to be more vocal when something feels particularly great. It’s actually consistent throughout primates that female primates vocalize more when having sex. You can’t respond to cues that aren’t given and guys, especially young guys, have visual confirmation of arousal before you even start foreplay, so physical cues are more difficult to sus out for women too. Getting a guy turned on is often a simple as removing clothing…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:42 PM
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This. Absolutely. When I say don’t stop, I don’t mean harder. I literally mean DO NOT STOP.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:32 PM
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Ohhh no. It’s almost always the dude UPPING the pace that kills the mood. I get men needing to change position or upping the tempo to get there, but they sometimes do that thinking it will also get us there. It can take us from being seconds away to not getting there at all. When we say don’t stop, take that literally. It usually won’t be long. My husband and I change positions to ones better for him AFTER I’ve cum. It’s not just that sex should only be good for women, it’s just a fact that afte…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:31 PM
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Well….both are generally correct. All women have different things they find arousing, but we all have a similar response when aroused. If you pay attention to her signs of arousal that’s most of the battle. Of course this becomes much easier if she doesn’t fake her level of arousal, and if he doesn’t insist that because the last woman liked it that the next one will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:17 PM
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And what little was verbally conveyed during sex was positive. Don’t stop, that feels amazing, etc. I can’t imagine a bigger boner killer, on both sides, than giving instructions while having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:55 PM
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I know women who aren’t happy with their choices either. They usually need to up their game (lose weight, work out), lower their standards (broaden their narrow range of potential mates) or get out and socialize more. Or settle for being alone. Empathy is great, but it doesn’t magically change reality
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:23 PM
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I never said it was easy for everyone. Is letting people be unsuccessful in their mom’s basement empathetic or enabling? It’s up to the individual to decide which is harder, being perpetually single or doing something different that is out of their comfort zone?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:13 PM
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If it’s logistics, then change your situation to be ina more target rich environment. That’s part of fixing something. If it’s dumb luck, then you happened to find your tribe and the person that gets you. Don’t take that for granted and assume lightening will strike twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:03 PM
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You mean people would rather have big houses and new cars than a third kid? That sounds pretty accurate to me. Is it just “western “ living standards? How do you explain this? https://www.visualcapitalist.com/the-20-countries-with-the-lowest-fertility-rates-in-2024/ Asian countries have the lowest birth rates. The birth rate in Iran and the UAE are lower than in the US. If people don’t have kids because “they can’t afford them”, why do the poorest countries have the highest birth rates? Is it be…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:18 PM
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Fair enough. But to state “it’s a bad deal for men” doesn’t mean at some level it’s not a bad deal for everyone. Everyone finds children and family to be financially and emotionally challenging. Believe it or not but women want to have sex too. Sex for women is like meat. It’s a want, but usually readily available and even when it’s not, substitutes are generally sufficient. why is everything sex sex sex with you If it weren’t for people wanting sex, we never would’ve bred in sufficient numbers …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:43 PM
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Are they still rough or do you now attract a wide range of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:27 PM
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Because whatever it is that is preventing you from being romantically successful isn’t going to solve itself. It isn’t about what you are unhappy with, it’s about what’s preventing others from being happy with you as a sex partner. It’s the same as an overweight woman saying “I’m happy with my weight, so why aren’t men”?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:04 PM
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Is it your individual responsibility to breed? Kids are a net drain financially, physically and mentally for women. You want to take one for the team? At least men get “some” sex from the deal. Married men on average have more sex than single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:45 AM
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I hate to tell you, if your age match passed you up when you are both young, your chances of finding a young woman genuinely attracted to you when you are now older and less attractive are even worse. Guys whose best option is settling for less than optimal are usually also being settled for. Not gloating, it just is what it is. The older you get, the more shallow your pool of acceptable mates gets. Older women prefer their own age to slightly older, but often have to settle for somewhat older, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:34 AM
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High t in Russia couldn’t possibly be related to the fact that life expectancy for men in Russia is in the toilet. If we want to keep testosterone levels high, clearly the solution must be to simply not let men live longer than 60. Those old guys are bringing your averages down. https://www.statista.com/statistics/971100/life-expectancy-at-birth-in-russia-by-gender/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:15 AM
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Testosterone decreases in “feminist” countries? Did you think maybe it’s possible that the correlation with men having 20% plus body fat and advanced age is even higher?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:07 AM
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I'm very responsive when I like something As someone who was in a seven year relationship with someone who had been a virgin, if a guy pays attention to this, it’s literally all either of you needs. My first “boyfriend “ of only about 6 months was six years older and had been married. I had no clue how bad in bed he was since I had nothing to compare it to. My ex who had been a virgin was better in bed within weeks. After trying something different that got a reaction, he used to look up, smile,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:36 AM
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Again, maybe we need to also see the benefit of a college education can’t simply be boiled down to money. It’s part of extended adolescence and a time away from your parent’s house at age 18 without the complete absence of any supervision. You don’t get that at the library. Is it a privilege? Sure. And state schools are still affordable for the vast majority of people. You can get room, board and tuition for a couple thousand bucks in my state if you get a state scholarship. A part time job when…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:47 PM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/VGcNfBqopx8TMwnJ9 https://images.app.goo.gl/6vTWaUCvbcV3qxuQ6 College graduates are on average more likely to get married and stay married than others, and they are more likely to have and raise their children in marriage (Ellwood & Jencks, 2004; Goldstein & Kenney, 2001; Martin, 2006; Raley & Bumpass, 2003). https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3340888/
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:17 AM
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I think a higher education rate correlates to higher divorce rates. No https://images.app.goo.gl/5Xh6pJKibX5A29D87 And the more education, the more likely to marry
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:10 AM
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Hot take…not all success is financial? For whatever reason, educational attainment is absolutely correlated to higher rates of marriage and lower rates of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:51 AM
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Most people date and marry people of similar class and educational attainment, both men and women. That said, women are more likely to marry down in terms of education than men are. This has been true for a while now. Most middle class careers for women like healthcare and teaching, require a degree, her middle class partner is often in a trade or other well paying job that doesn’t require a degree. https://images.app.goo.gl/B7iMftVQFMAaz4xi8
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:38 AM
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Okay okay. I get it…..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:24 PM
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I get that and you are right that it’s incredibly important to socialize. But u/AreOut does have a point, some of your specific examples would definitely not work. And if you are going for a niche vibe like yoga or art, it needs to be authentic, imho. An average guy isn’t going to come off well if it’s too obvious he is interested in a female dominated hobby just to pick up chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:56 PM
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Traditional? I don’t know about that. In a 2 working parent household, you have more total working hours in the relationship and the homecare/childcare still has to get done which will leave both burnt out. To summarize….it’s easy to be married and raise a family when you are upper middle class and above? Sure, that I’ll buy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:29 PM
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A certain type of guy can pull off the pottery or yoga if they like crunchy women. The lanky pottery guy with beard and Jesus sandals can definitely pull certain types of women. I used to rent to one, he always had women objectively above his smv, but it’s definitely a niche market. And you need to be authentically in that subculture and actually accomplished at pottery. Zumba is absolutely a negative. I can’t imagine who is I interested in a dude taking Zumba. I do think co-ed sports is a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:00 PM
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Affirmative action for men https://thecatalystnews.com/2024/01/25/gender-based-affirmative-action/ value beyond boosting earning chances for office workers. Which has value….. https://bachelors-completion.northeastern.edu/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/NortheasternUniversity-EducationPays-option2.png Lots of very high paying professions, like lawyers and physicians, are now about 55/45 women vrs men in new graduates. This trend currently shows no sign of stopping. Women outpace men in applicants to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:05 AM
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Well there currently is AA for men. There are lots of mainstream men, Scott Galloway, Jordan Peterson, most men’s rights activists, seeing a rapid decline in male academic achievement and mental health. Women are higher in conscientiousness which translates to better grades and higher in agreeability which is favored in the workplace. This isn’t my opinion, both Galloway and Peterson have sounded a warning bell about the rapid decline in male achievement and cited those exact reasons. The future…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:26 AM
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How about gender quotas that favor men in college admissions?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:02 AM
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How do you feel about affirmative action for men? Should we be changing our education system, adding more physically active learning to accommodate boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:43 AM
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They are the “bigger spenders” because they do far more grocery and household shopping. That doesn’t necessarily mean they determine how the family’s disposable income is spent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:35 AM
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Wow, that’s surprising from a red piller. Even I don’t believe that true 50/50 equality will ever happen on a societal scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:29 AM
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Meh, physical attraction can simply be the “tall enough to ride” metric. You are right that no amount of personality can compensate for bad looks Looks are a prerequisite, but that doesn’t mean it’s always the most important thing. You can have lots of prerequisites. I think for lots of narcissistic, or inexperienced and younger guys, this is projection. Lots of them would absolutely choose a partner based on her looks being the most important. Men hopefully have an identical standard, they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:42 PM
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This ad helped get my governor elected https://www.cnn.com/videos/politics/2018/05/02/brian-kemp-pointing-gun-teen-daughters.hln 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 12:21 AM
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It won’t matter at all to some women, it will also attract some. For a few, it will be a negative. I think it depends on the type of woman you want to attract. If you are an old guy looking for a prostitute, aka a “sugar baby”, who expects you to buy her luxury goods in exchange for pretending to enjoy sex with you, it probably will attract the women you are looking for. I suspect this goes in the category of overly buff, it attracts more admiration from men than sexual attraction from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 01:34 PM
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https://www.criminalattorneycolumbus.com/which-weapons-are-most-commonly-used-for-homicides/ Here in good old America we use guns to kill people. You don’t need much strength to kill somebody.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 01:07 AM
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I think most women are ultimately looking for a serious relationship So then why are you surprised when they lose interest after they find out you don’t want a serious relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:30 AM
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Never work? Didn’t work for who? It worked for the women involved. At least they knew what they were dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:51 PM
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I don’t know about the Mormon part…. Not anecdotal. Mormon women love Botox and boob jobs. https://www.sltrib.com/religion/2024/08/06/latter-day-saints-have-more/ “About 14% of Latter-day Saint respondents have had major cosmetic surgery — including breast augmentations, tummy tucks and liposuction — and 20% have undergone cosmetic enhancements such as laser hair removal, Botox injections or skin procedures….. it is above the national average, which is 4% for cosmetic surgery.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:48 AM
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because signs of affection are included in the simping If a guy isn’t physically affectionate with me right off the bat, he’s not getting anywhere. You do you, withhold your feelings, play games whatever you want to do. Or maybe you really hate to cuddle. In that case we aren’t compatible. Also, being physically affectionate right off, touching and physical closeness throughout the day is what makes me want sex. If you aren’t naturally affectionate I’m out before we ever even get to sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:04 AM
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I think you always have to have passing looks. If she finds you downright unattractive, it’s unlikely she will ever find you to be attractive. If you are average with a great personality she will usually start finding you attractive fairly quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:03 AM
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First in college One was a neighbor in my apartment complex My ex in a bar, My husband was someone I was casual friends with for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:02 AM
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i don't know why this is difficult to get across. Yes you do. It’s always paranoia that she loved anal with Chad but Billy Beta isn’t getting the butt. Or sex on the first date…..etc. Doesn’t matter to them if they don’t get what they want as long as Chad didn’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:05 AM
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This definitely seems a relationship aspect that men and women diverge on. Women want what they want from a relationship and are happy when they get it. Men feel the need to compete with the last guy, especially sexually. If she did some depraved shit with her last boyfriend, doesn’t matter if the guy is basically vanilla or not…he’s mad if she doesn’t want depraved shit from him. If women want long romantic calls, then that’s what they want, but they don’t start wanting them just because they f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:52 AM
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divergent social sensibilities They don’t have “it”, and to add…..they can’t believe in “it”, because it’s not concrete, measurable or definable. It doesn’t fit with the systemizing mind. The 6 pack, 6 foot, 6 figures is concrete and quantifiable. Swag is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:00 AM
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This is a big reason ugly celebrities can get laid so easily. Their fame and public image are very often a more reliable means of flipping this switch than some random shirtless Chad with a six pack will ever have. Chicken or egg? There is definitely a charisma factor in some celebrities that helps them become celebrities too. Adam Driver married a very attractive woman long before he became famous. Pete Davidson talks about condoms in high school. He has been with beautiful women who are arguab…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:52 AM
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If your partner ever had a desire to sleep with another person other than yourself, would you wish to know, or prefer they never told you? People aren’t blind, they are going to feel lust for someone other than their spouse eventually. Why in the world do you say something? Do you tell your boss you have fantasies of working for his rival? Your best friend he’s okay, but you were thinking you might actually have had more fun if you were hanging with a new friend? Insane Upon learning that your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:37 AM
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Of course, absolutely. I very much understand that. I have no narrative that all lonely men are hateful, but certainly some lonely men are very loudly hateful and lots of hateful men are lonely. Being emotionally damaged is certainly a result of loneliness, but it’s not an excuse and doesn’t help anyone to lash out and be hateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:55 PM
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The loneliness is crushing and really fucks with your mental state. Lonely men want love I dunno….it’s hard to feel empathy for people who claim to be lonely out of one side of their mouth and mention how women are are all gross sluts not worth the oxygen they breathe on the other side. Or how women need to have their rights taken away until they shape up and start fucking low value men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:23 PM
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Politically conservative women are also not necessarily sexually conservative women. My county is one of the reddest in the US and we have plenty of gun toting, flag waving, single moms with three baby daddies. I rent to them :/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:09 PM
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Imho, she was kind of trashy. Her boyfriend was right. De-escalate and dip out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:41 PM
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In any case if the driver doesn't handle it, you take the other girl and walk with her back to the club and call the police from there. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:36 PM
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Not my experience tbh. The ones I know are absolutely single by choice though. One is my former boss when I tended bar, she still tends bar, average looking, not fat, tons of friends, hasn’t had sex in almost two decades. She had a relationship in college, he ended up cheating on her and she closed up shop. She does like cats though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:31 PM
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>I am not looking for a relationship, I don’t want to be married, and see nothing wrong with casual sex. But when women engage in casual sex it makes you not good relationship material. If this is actually a true story, you could have just told her you aren’t looking for a relationship. Why insult her? If you don’t want a relationship, why care what makes a woman relationship material in your eyes anyway? This is just rage bait. Woman have their own standards too. Congratulations. No women at al…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:14 PM
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Well ….not to you it isn’t. According to some feedback I have gotten from some angry dudes….let’s just say it doesn’t go over well with everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 12:45 AM
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Seriously, just stop. You made an entirely ridiculous claim that ”but apparenrly none of them agree it's not ok to hate men” and I reposted an entire page to the contrary. Now apparently by acknowledging that some good feminists exist, it’s my fault that some bad people do exist and I’m also pretending bad apples don’t exist. This is the same argument that calls all republicans racist or all Christians homophobic. But there is also a huge difference which makes you sound even more irrational. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:03 PM
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>as if acknowledging them takes away from women’s struggles. Well…..your bros in other parts of this subreddit today literally suggesting we take away women’s rights aren’t helping. They are literally suggesting we need to make women‘s struggles harder. Some weird, old rageaholic coomer said the same thing yesterday Furthermore, complaining about a lack of sex partners is not an actionable problem unless you want to advocate for the legalization of prostitution, but that ultimately doesn’t solve…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 06:32 PM
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Not my monkey, not my circus.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:50 PM
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Hot take: most women are actually not lining up to shit on anyone. Unsuccessful men are like unsuccessful women…mostly invisible. Apathy =/= antipathy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:41 PM
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Understanding the process by which we come to know things is not splitting hairs. These men do not understand how you come to know something or what logic is Please say this louder for the evolutionary psychologists in the back. No one can take a perfectly fine set of empirical data and turn it into a smooth brained mess of hogswoggle faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:42 PM
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“ but apparenrly none of them agree it's not ok to hate men” now turns to…they probably don’t help anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 06:04 AM
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Looks definitely matter. You may struggle to date because of your personality. Both things can be true. There are definitely some people on this subreddit with issues that have nothing to do with their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:33 AM
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Controversial take here, but lots of red pill guys end up “forever anger phase” guys because: Red pill can’t fix what is actually wrong with them Their issue is that they are actually primarily angry people and their lack of romantic success is a consequence of that, not a cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:48 AM
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I took a longer route to say the same thing, but you are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:18 AM
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OP as he has made logical deductions from evidence, conclusions cannot be drawn from data in the absence of a deductive process Statistics uses inductive inference while logic uses deductive inference. This is hardly a trivial distinction
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:26 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/3tn9kc/a_list_of_feminist_resources_tackling_mens_issues/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:41 AM
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Call me so I can watch. 🥊 🧨🍿 That would be more fun than watching people fight over religion and who qualifies as a Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:35 AM
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I dunno, not my experience. And besides, I always had a gay guy to bring as a plus one when I wasn’t dating anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:46 AM
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Yeah, the pile on of “atta boy”s came after it went viral though :/ At least they came though. So there is that. Most people are pretty oblivious and self absorbed, but when push comes to shove, very few people are outright assholes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:43 AM
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There honestly might be “some” correlation between high n counts and a history of unstable relationships, because people with more unstable relationships spend more time single. More time spent single typically means more random partners. It’s still a question of chicken or egg though. I’ve known lots of people, male, female, gay and straight, who go through a promiscuous phase after a breakup.I had one after a devastating breakup that was initially followed by a long period of celibacy. I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:03 AM
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Most people have sex before commitment is established. Sometimes sex leads to a relationship, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it’s just expected to be a hookup until it isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:52 PM
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New dick for women and gay men has always been as available as walking into a bar, asking who’s horny, and picking your favorite from dozens. Technology has changed the method, but not the availability.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:46 PM
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It’s fun going to weddings and drawing lines between the wedding guests who have hooked up with each other as well as the bride and/or groom.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:26 PM
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Dude…….it’s a sub for reposting
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 11:24 PM
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Since we were talking about relationships and sex, specifically before and after the sexual revolution, yes…we are discussing the people affected by the sexual revolution the most. Does that need to be explicitly spelled out? Is that not intuitively obvious, or does every single post need to have caveats lest we offend the diversity police? The above statements do not necessarily reflect the life experiences of the trans Latinx community in Oaxaca in 1951 Feel better now?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 03:23 PM
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I think there were even couples who loved each other who had pretty awful sex lives. Depending on how repressed, religious girls didn’t partake in non procreative sex, and pregnancy could be dangerous even if you could afford to feed the kids. That was couples who loved each other. I can only imagine how infrequent sex could be when they didn’t particularly like each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:54 AM
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I honestly can’t say you are wrong. Unsuccessful men think they are all competing with Chad. In reality they are competing with boxed wine and cats. Both single men and women are more socially acceptable than ever before. Despite insulting “childless cat ladies”, no one really cares. One point….Young men today think these marriages in the past were all eager, consensual sex on tap though. Before birth control? I sincerely doubt it. I think most young men raised after the sexual revolution wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:56 PM
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You generally are around people of a similar class and education. It’s not a ludicrous demand for a woman in med school or law school herself. Or getting an mba. That’s like saying it’s ludicrous for a 30 year old guy to only want to date women 25 to 30 because women in that age range are less than 4% of the total population. It’s ludicrous for a fast food worker with 1” nails and neck tattoo, not ludicrous for a woman who’s also a doctor. The number one profession that male doctors marry is fem…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:42 PM
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So men have evolved to be dangerous hunters who are capable of violence? Sounds like women have no other options in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:23 PM
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I guess by that logic, men shouldn’t be shamed for being criminals and abusers, they are just following their biological programming?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:55 PM
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If a man cheats, he’s condemned outright. We just elected a president who cheated on all three of his wives. Try again. If being good and loyal actually mattered, toxic men wouldn’t thrive socially or romantically So I guess men value only good women and toxic women are never successful socially or romantically. X to doubt. And I thought you just said when men cheat…they are condemned, but now in the same breath they are successful? Make up your mind. If women truly valued "good men," those men …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:08 AM
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Be the person you'd be PROUD of being 😘 I love this. Also “Be yourself,unless you suck”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:01 AM
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Pretty much on a daily basis if you live in a city? Really? You need to take some of that “provider energy” and get the money to move to a better part of that city. I’ve lived in the French Quarter of New Orleans and New York City. Aware of my surroundings, yes. Neurotic and hyper vigilant no. You think there are big bad people everywhere? Behind every bush, just waiting to pounce? Did you have a helicopter mommy who didn’t let you ride your bike out of her sight until you were 18?? Or were you …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 11:19 PM
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So when you say “you need to serve a real man” I think, No thanks, I’m good I’m not “afraid” of traditional men, I just don’t want one. My man is a real man, hasn’t expected me to “serve” him yet though. I’m good fam, but thanks for your concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:42 PM
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I’m the first line of defence, it is also my duty to for see where threats could occur, put myself in the threats shoes and be vigilant in public areas. It is a constant occupation. Just knowing you could have to put your life on the line at anytime changes who you are. This is hilarious, Ngl. You are constantly on your toes and vigilant against “threats “? That doesn’t seem calm or courageous, you sound anxious and fearful. Either you need to move to a better area or you are just extremely neur…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:38 PM
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Well maybe you need to state your position more clearly, you seemed to imply a man who didn’t provide would be less sexually attractive. I can assure you it doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:26 PM
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So having to marry some beta provider because I’m too lame to make decent money for myself is supposed to be sexy now? I didn’t marry my husband for his wallet, but for what was “wallet adjacent”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 08:38 PM
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How about I decide my cooking is more valuable than his emptying the dishwasher, because cooking takes skill, but loading the dishes is worth minimum wage. 🙄. So for every hour I cook, he owes three hours of laundry and dishes. If you are going to really be consistent, let’s put value on the chores too. How many chore credits does a woman get for childbirth? Will that depend on how hard her labor and delivery is? How should she be compensated for breast feeding? These kind of things seem so “log…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 08:15 PM
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transactional bean counting Keeping a scorecard is the fastest way to kill a relationship imho. Ideally, both partners do what they are best at, and both try to do what needs to get done when they see something that needs to get done. I can’t imagine telling a partner they need to do more housework when both work full time. Why not just also assign a value to chores not based on their value too? I can just imagine a couple arguing that his hours of work bring in more money, but her hour of cooki…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:04 PM
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beaten to death by her boyfriend Almost all the violent crime in my area is domestic violence. Kind of goes against op’s argument that a woman needs a man to protect her though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:23 PM
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Why don’t you try to buy the place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:03 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:58 PM
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Who knows . Probably traffic to an only fans
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:10 PM
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lol, I actually used to get one of my tenants teenage kids to help me for real. Kid can now replace faucets, toilet valves, ice maker valves, my husband taught him how to do some electrical. Honestly with the cost of repairs and the headaches, we have been divesting. I made double in the stock market on the last property I sold than I would have made in rent with fewer hassles.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:25 PM
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We started out separate before marriage. To me, people who nickel and dime their married partners, whether in terms of money OR chores, set themselves up for contentious relationships. I knew a couple who did this with three kids. They had two upper middle class incomes, she made slightly less, but fought about money constantly, to the point she told her husband that money for the kids to play sports should be paid by him because it was his idea. No way to live a peaceful life imho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:06 PM
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Yeah, my husband is glad I never subscribed to this BS. I always outearned him but after we got married, it was all “our” money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:44 PM
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Me too….my second childhood too 🙂 Life is good
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:41 PM
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There’s a much higher chance I will hit a deer coming home from the store and die. And my husband doesn’t chaperone me to the store anyway. Why is everyone so neurotic, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:40 PM
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I have no idea what this means. I have a man. We share finances and chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:37 PM
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Old enough. Check my post history. Been a landlord since my twenties. If the shit hits the fan so hard I go under financially, so does my husband. We are talking apocalyptic destruction. Plus, I have skills. https://imgur.com/a/0WojhoU
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:36 PM
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They are where I live. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:30 PM
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I’ve already done well thanks. I live off of passive income. People pay me rent.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:29 PM
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Men aren’t “completely” safe in the world either , maybe a meteor will crash through our roof too. But neither my h or myself is neurotically obsessed with scenarios that are highly unlikely to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:25 PM
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lol, you know, for “traditional girls”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:21 PM
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I can provide for myself, live in a ridiculously safe area and I am also loyal. I have a degree in engineering, so slim chance I ever need to go without or live in a dangerous neighborhood. I don’t need a “traditional “ man, but I definitely have a man who appreciates I’m not on “Gone Wild” advertising for a daddy to breed me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:17 PM
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You can get whatever you want if you can find a woman to agree. Love, affection, companionship? But in general, what will most modern working women will agree to? Sex, part of the chores and part of the bills. The actual quantitative shares of these contributions are subject to negotiation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:39 PM
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I’m looking at your post history….you are the hero we need.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:14 AM
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Better than getting married in your early twenties and being divorced by 25 and raising kids without a dad. That’s the reality of rushing into marriage these days. 60% of people who marry young will divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:41 AM
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Yeah that works both ways. If someone keeps telling you “ do this so I don’t have to poke you, it’s important to me,” and you say you will but don’t , things typically escalate on both sides I’ve had this fight and I’d rather have a man simply tell me no tbh. Just say I don’t have time, I don’t want to do it and let’s start negotiating from that point. Act like a grown up. Replying “yes dear” and then not following through is behaving like a child and the one thing the vast majority of women don…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:36 AM
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There are a number of red pillers who get quite bent out of shape at the notion that women need clitoral stimulation and oral sex to cum. I think just yesterday some dude said this was because women masturbate too much and watch too much porn. 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:16 AM
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I would like to remind you 35% of young men ages 18-30 are virgins while only 12% of young women are in the same boat. Yeah, that’s simply not true. The age of virginity loss between young men and women tracks pretty closely. Women typically date 1 to 2 years older. By age 20, 21% of young women are still virgins, 23% of men are still virgins. https://images.app.goo.gl/ZVV5FUxx5JwtFUqq5 really just hookups in general and strangely these hookups are never with the kind of guy they end up looking …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 01:50 AM
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We are talking about what men say about themselves and about other men. One at some point has to accept they are stating their personal truth. I don’t see many, if any, women who claim all women hate all men. Gonna need see links.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 01:21 AM
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Oh…I mean of course…fair enough, but we hear this daily from men themselves….and they often don’t say “all I care about is hot”. They often say all “all men care about is hot”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 12:52 AM
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many women in recent years will take years to “find themselves.” And they end up getting married late twenties/early thirties to 30 year old guys who also used their 20’s to “find themselves”. People who marry in this age range actually have the lowest divorce rate. The ones getting married at this age are also the most likely to be college educated, also the least likely to divorce. Why do you think we should piss in their cornflakes? baby daddy’s are likely to be someone who is more interestin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:38 PM
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Men themselves continually say that all they need from women is for her to be hot. Some add submissive. Then act surprised at what they get when applying only these standards. I think people are advising if you don’t want to get baby trapped by some ratchet woman or used like a walking ATM, have higher standards for character. Stop letting the little head do all the thinking This is probably good advice for everyone tbh. Lots of women tolerate bad treatment from a bad boy who looks good. It usua…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:40 PM
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Ummmm.….it wasn’t boomers that got the ball rolling. Your greatest generation did their share <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 02:48 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/NpAzvxLJez5ra6248 It’s not a “big dilemma”, and hasn’t been for over a decade. College educated women are the MOST likely to be married, and more likely to marry someone with less education.Also the most likely to stay married https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:49 AM
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Well……actually….. There are more women who marry down in terms of education. It’s honestly not that surprising. Most middle class professions that women gravitate to like nursing and teaching require degrees, most guys can make similar money in trades or as cops, firefighters. https://images.app.goo.gl/NpAzvxLJez5ra6248
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:45 AM
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I think this is the first time I have agreed with you, lol. We all want to be physically desired. I think it’s actually MORE true of women than men, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:40 AM
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Sure. Fine. We are utterly useless. Happy now?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:15 AM
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Ahhh okay?? Don’t know where you are going with that. My point was that “dangerous “ in this context is more akin to financially risky, not that you might literally starve to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:10 AM
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Our labor participation rate was 59% of the population over the age of 16 in the 1950’s, it never got higher than 68% and it’s 64% today. https://www.investors.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/wLFPrate021320.jpg The biggest declines in labor force participation has been in men over the age of 55 and in teenagers 16 to 19. But thanks again for reminding women how utterly useless we are. Message received.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:07 AM
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On farms everybody worked, (except maybe for a few wives of wealthy landowners, definitely the exception, not the rule), men women and children. You are right that they worked long hard hours too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:40 PM
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I dunno, but I was the first in my family to go to college, retired at 40, live on a very modest passive income and go camping a total of two months out of 12. I’m not here to proselytize. Do what you want, hit the coffee shop on your way to work. Buy nice shit so I can pick it up used. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:16 PM
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It’s certainly made it different.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:23 PM
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If it wasn’t him, I think it would have been someone else. He was just a harbinger and a precursor to the sexual revolution. I think these things, like people being less puritanical and more libertine , go in cycles, but when the birth control pill came out in the early 60’s, the real genie came out of the bottle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:19 PM
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I don’t think you understand what middle class is if you think most people aren’t middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:14 PM
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well..imho in the modern era it started in the 1950’s and Hugh Hefner reminding puritanical westerners that women too enjoyed sex. If you were a proper Playboy, the nice girl next door would be hot with desire. Now porn is full of women crawling over broken glass they are so overcome with lust. No one wants a wife staring at the ceiling and thinking of god and country. Hookers are easy to get, the girlfriend experience costs more, sugar babies are simply a step further in the attempt to obfuscat…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:02 PM
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how can many guys think that it would be more difficult to do that than it seems? Do they think that? I think there are plenty of guys who acknowledge that it’s easier to get into relationships with economically needy women. Single moms get roasted for being desperate for bailouts, guys here stress out about being seen as a beta provider to a woman not attracted to him, and passport bros all agree that it’s easy for a western guy to snag a woman in a third world country. I think the rub is that …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:39 PM
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That never happened. Our labor participation rate was 59% of the population over the age of 16 in the 1950’s, it never got higher than 68% and it’s 64% today. https://www.investors.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/wLFPrate021320.jpg The biggest declines in labor force participation has been in men over the age of 55 and in teenagers 16 to 19.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:08 PM
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Okay, then marriage to a stay at home mom isn’t “dangerous” either. You will lose half the house and half your savings, I mean what’s the worst that can happen? You end up broke? Apparently that’s no big deal. I don’t think “dangerous “ in this context implied actual risk to life or limb.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:37 PM
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There are 74.6 million women in the civilian labor force. Almost 47 percent of U.S. workers are women. More than 39 percent of women work in occupations where women make up at least three-quarters of the workforce. Yeah… working age men will replace the 4 million nurses, the 4 million teachers, the dental hygienists, the nursing home workers, the fast food and service industry workers, the retail workers etc etc etc🙄. We are just magically going to replace 1/2 the workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:15 PM
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As a movement this is only available to an elite few. For anyone in the west, with a middle class background? I call bullshit. Join us over at Leanfire or follow Jacob Lund Fisker or Mr Money Mustache. Although you can rule out coffee shops, make your coffee at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:06 PM
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Well, it actually is easier to get a much younger and much better looking partner willing to trade sex for money. Most people in this situation delude themselves rather than to face the ugly truth that they are trying to buy love and/or sex with someone more physically desirable than they are. The ego is a funny thing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 02:59 PM
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It’s a partnership until it isn’t. Seems every divorced guy with a stay at home wife bitches about losing HIS house, HIS pension……
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 02:53 PM
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This is the reality for the vast majority of stay at home wives who get divorced too. Most couples have little saved other than the equity in their home. So they split that, she gets no or very limited alimony and child support until the kids age out. But he continues his career without any bumps in the road and is paid like someone with years of experience, while she typically looks to start a career along side of 22 year old interns. Everyone looks at Marla Maples or the first wife of an NBA s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 02:03 PM
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Pretty women all turn into old women. If a guy is supporting you only because you are young and pretty, there will come a day…. Plus, not sure low key prostitution is a privilege. Your job is going to continue a sexual relationship even if you don’t desire your partner. Sounds like a potential nightmare if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:42 PM
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when you don't need to Being dependent on the whims of one person, namely your partner, isn’t the same as being independently wealthy. Imagine yourself as the boy toy of a wealthy woman, out of the workforce for a decade and accustomed to a better lifestyle than you could possibly afford. What happens when the relationship goes to shit? Maybe it never gets abusive, how about after 10 years out of the workforce your partner gains 100 lbs or decides she’s had enough sex fora lifetime. Maybe she ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:36 PM
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I’ll take things that never happened in the 21st century for $200 Alex Answer What is “Society unfairly force men to stay in sexually unsatisfactory relationship."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:02 PM
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first reaction should be "do it you fucking dick” Exactly. Great way to start your joint parenting. Second reaction will be “go fuck your self and speak to my lawyer when you find out it’s yours”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:20 AM
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You’re simply crazy if you think that request isn’t going to cause problems. I can’t even imagine telling my husband I need his index finger to snoop through his phone. Just get the dna yourself and send it in, you don’t need mom’s permission or acknowledgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:12 AM
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Definitely works for me! *Gently* suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:08 AM
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My ex had an undescended one at birth, that ended up being significantly smaller. It was a non issue. Aesthetically, no big deal. Believe it or not, as far as looks go, we don’t care about your balls, or whether you even have them. I think the fact that that you can’t have kids is definitely something you need to let women know about fairly early in a relationship though. For some women who don’t want kids, it could be a plus. For women who do want kids, it’s best to get the conversation out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:59 AM
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Oddly enough, in two different recent posts, when asked if you feel secure about your appearance in terms of gender expression, almost all the women worried they weren’t feminine enough,almost all the men seemed confident in their masculine appearance. 🧐 Seems like men may not judge women as harshly as women judge themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:17 PM
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Well, if you are a twenty year old of any gender, most plus 40 year olds look pretty awful to you. Sure, Kate Beckensale or Jennifer Lopez are hot, the vast majority of middle aged women look like Kathy Bates or Roseann Barr. I wouldn’t expect the average guy in his 20’s to find the average woman in her 50’s to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:13 PM
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Why didn’t daddy dearest choose better too? He’s the one paying child support for kids he barely gets to see because he knocked up the wrong woman. News flash, lots of people are losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:02 AM
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First…bold assumption. Second, some young, naive men tell women don’t abort my child, but then when faced with the reality of diapers, up all night with a crying baby and a postpartum mom not giving up any sex, they bail. I rent to single moms. They typically get knocked up because that’s what happens when you have sex with your boyfriend and aren’t careful. Some of the single moms I’ve rented to have had some kids while married. Most single moms can’t find a decent guy to commit, especially aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 07:56 AM
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I haven’t seen the movie, but the advice sounds solid for everyone imho. Both parties being completely enthusiastic is the way to go. I’ve never had a relationship that we even needed the discussion “what are we” or “are we exclusive”. When I was into someone and they were into me, noone was staring at the phone wondering.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 07:30 AM
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lol, both my h and I have had our sluttier moments before we started dating, but I have absolutely no interest in anything non monogamous. Tried anal one with my ex, he was not impressed and I was definitely not impressed. Happiest day of my life was when our relationship was progressing and my now husband uttered the three little words every woman longs to hear….. “Not into anal”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:45 AM
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I can’t decide if these downvotes are because people don’t get obvious sarcasm or they think your advice is honestly horrible. I have a niche hobby and know many adorable geek/freak couples also obsessed with the same hobby
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 12:01 AM
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Do you think people in general have “many abusers”? X to doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:58 PM
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My many male abusers? Sorry , I don’t have “many male abusers”. Or female abusers either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:55 PM
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Welp, that’s enough reddit for today. Time to touch grass
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:43 PM
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That’s nonsense. People expect you to be polite and not name call like an immature middle schooler. If you can’t say anything nice,then people expect you to just say nothing. But no one expects normal men to be sexually attracted to the morbidly obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:38 PM
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You’re clearly a monster.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:09 PM
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I’m married to a man who is none of those things either, but I don’t think he’s that uncommon. We are all a mixed bag with both good traits and imperfections..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:08 PM
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Am I happy with the relationship? Am I happy with my sex life? Does he love me? If yes, then great. Why do I care about his ex? The only way I care about his sexual relationship with his ex is if they used to do anal, swinging or BDSM, then I’m glad he got it out of his system….no fomo. I’d send her a ham for Christmas to thank her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:12 AM
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Some women are horrible communicators, no doubt, and sometimes you don’t even know what you need if you’ve never had it. Most of the oral I see it porn doesn’t really do much for me🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:26 PM
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And his ego is too big to be the puppet of anyone else. I think you forgot about the tale of the emperor and his new clothes. People with huge egos are easy to control with flattery.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 11:17 AM
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My first basically thought he knew what he was doing, honestly I didn’t even realize how subpar the sex was because…”hey, he knew what he was doing”. My ex came to the experience with a black slate and was a master at detecting my bodies reaction, changed technique, pace, pressure until he could feel my body react. He loved to say”ohhhh…you like that!” And he would put that into memory. I thought I didn’t even really like oral that much…...🤣. He also was very sexually generous, didn’t take it pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:01 AM
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This was my experience with an ex tbh. I wasn’t older than he was, we were one month apart in age, but had been in a relationship at 19 for about 6-8 months with a guy who was 25 and had plenty of experience. So I had had sex at least a 100 times. My ex of 7 years was a virgin but was better in bed within weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 11:10 PM
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So no sex till marriage? Well that’s not going to happen…and even then men still left their kids. I’m definitely pro choice, but some people aren’t and unless you never have sex until you are married, there is always a chance of a kid without commitment. And there’s still no guarantee he won’t just go out for a pack of smokes and not return
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:11 AM
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And men can’t be honorable and take care of their kids. Who sucks more?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:30 AM
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“These men”? Who exactly are “these men”. Lots of men are only as faithful as their options, they come in all shapes and sizes. You realize all types of people cheat, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:07 AM
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Same response as elsewhere most guys on this subreddit admit they would act exactly like Chad if they had the looks and skills. They keep trying to tell us that their lack of options is a virtue. I got caught in that trap, after 7 years, he got a chance to cheat and took it. Lack of options isn’t a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:51 PM
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Maybe don’t go for Chad There’s a problem with that…most guys on this subreddit admit they would act exactly like Chad if they had the looks and skills. They keep trying to tell us that their lack of options is a virtue. I got caught in that trap, after 7 years, he got a chance to cheat and took it. Lack of options isn’t a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:49 PM
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I assumed your example was pure hyperbole. The average woman bitching about her ex isn’t trying to date Jeremy Meeks. He is the guy who acted like he wanted commitment when he didn’t, was unfaithful, left her pregnant, needs to be run down just for child support, never sees his kids etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:44 PM
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Yeah, let’s rant about the dumb , ripped off consumer and give the salesman a pass …..because he was rewarded with the commission after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:36 PM
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They’re good looking, slick, manipulative and know how to lie. Why do people keep getting hoodwinked by used car salesmen or financial advisors? Women need to be more wary, fair enough. But the lying manipulator is still the bigger pos.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:34 PM
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Huh, cause guys keep telling me that men lie because the get rewarded with sex, not held accountable Fuckboys go to jail now? When did they pass that law
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:18 PM
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You incentivize the used car car salesman when you buy a shitty car with an engine that’s ready to blow and don’t check the fine print about the interest rate in the contract. He gets a big fat commission. You’re patsy who enables him by being a fool, he’s still the pos
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:14 PM
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Holy change the topic Batman Op isn’t talking about literal criminals, he’s talking about baby mommas that have sex with men “who don’t respect them”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:11 PM
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Upvote for Rollo’s merkin. Kudos to u/flipsidetroll
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:42 PM
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And there is no accountability for being that dude…..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:59 PM
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Okay, what happened to expecting people to not be bad people in the first place though?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:57 PM
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Yep, men wear all those labels as a badge of honor.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:19 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:18 PM
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Ummm no, you don’t…..you label them players, fucbois and successful Men can’t take accountability, because they are just getting their dick wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:17 PM
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Really? Women should be accountable for not detecting a bad guy….okay…what about the actual bad guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:12 PM
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If that’s true, then there is apparently a multitude of men out there having sex with people they don’t respect. Some even lie and pretend in order to have sex with women they don’t respect. Are they held accountable?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:04 PM
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The one that insists he knows where he is going and refuses to pull over and look at a map?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 08:58 PM
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Another “women are bad because in my opinion they make bad choices” that totally ignores that maybe men should also be accountable for being bad choices in the first place. Picking a bad person is an accountability problem, being a bad person isn’t…..that’s accountability in a nutshell.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 08:49 PM
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I'd imagine You have quite an imagination
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 08:23 PM
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Women want men just as much as men want women? Then why are more young women than men now sexless? You aren’t competing against Chad, you are competing against cats and boxed wine You are going to have to come up with better arguments https://images.app.goo.gl/cGfYzMHFqjdRcJh8A “ In societies where slavery was prevalent, it was often considered a "core component" because it significantly impacted the economy, social structure, and political landscape, with slave labor being essential to the func…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:24 PM
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People with rock bottom standards are always offended that other people do have standards. They figure if they aren’t picky, other people have no right to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:18 PM
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“As of November 21, 2019, there were 6,488 names in that Catholic Church sex abuse database, including 5,808 priests, 35 bishops, 108 deacons, and 47 seminarians, for a total of 5,998 accused clerics and future clerics, in those categories that the USCCB has counted – more than a thousand fewer than 7,002. Note that 370 religious brothers and 119 religious sistersare also listed in our database – categories not included in the USCCB data.” There is no Department of Education database on sex abus…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:11 AM
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lol, elite men NEVER had more than their share of women, never had mistresses from the social class immediately below them and never had whatever random, poor women they wanted, whether the women wanted them back or not. /s “Patriarchy” in practice has rule by elite men at the top. Instead of the top 5% of men in looks, the top 5% of men in power got more than the lions share and the bottom 95% settled for their sloppy seconds. The only difference is their wives couldn’t divorce them when they m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:11 PM
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People do seem to love any sort of survey or statistic that confirms their biases, and discount the ones that don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:12 PM
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they are taking the opportunities available to them, same as most people do I thought you told me “monogamy suits men’s desires” and promiscuity was "women's desire" 🧐. Seems like you are now saying when men have options available to them, they will choose promiscuity. Make up your mind. Most women have infinite opportunities yet few choose promiscuity. Seems like men are the ones generally only as monogamous as their options, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:31 PM
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Sorry if facts hurt your feelings. Downvote away
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:02 PM
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So no votes for the disabled as long as selective service applies only to the able bodied and mentally healthy ? Since disability isn’t always obvious, maybe they could wear some sort of insignia on their lapel.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 12:41 PM
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Gross exaggeration. In 29% of marriages today, both spouses earn about the same amount of money. Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner and 16% have a breadwinner wife.Apr 13, 2023
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 12:25 PM
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men homemakers and caretakers We are first and foremost a capitalist country that values financial success and material possessions above all. It’s much easier to convince women to put on a pantsuit and go out and get that bag, than to convince men to prioritize family and relationships. Plus, no one really sees value in the traditional female role. Just ask most men through a divorce with a sahm. She has cashed in, gotten an undeserved payday, taken half of “his” shit….cynical, but that’s how I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:22 AM
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It’s a hollow gesture? But perhaps better than no gesture at all? My husband’s beloved brother committed suicide. He was definitely not an incel, he had model tier looks. Stunning looking tbh. He was almost certainly molested by his scoutmaster, inherited the family inclination towards alcohol abuse, destroyed his relationship with his two small sons and generally made a mess of his life. My husband’s other two siblings, identical twin brothers, died within a year of each other from a neurologic…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:03 AM
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There are no easy answers to helping men with their mental health. Especially in the redpill community…..they talk about men committing suicide at a much higher number, but then mock women for getting therapy for mental illness. 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:20 PM
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You’re 20, still time to pull this out of the fire if possible, no guarantees but a professional intervention and some brutal honesty/feedback might help. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:54 PM
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Yeah, don’t disagree. I think the motivation for denial in some redpill guys is trying to pretend that everything is fine, if only women had reasonable standards. But it’s just a fact that more and more people are friendless. You aren’t alone. Did your parents notice your lack of socialization and try to steer you to sports or other areas where you might thrive?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:24 PM
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We all heard about you band types. 🪈
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:14 PM
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Same….14…every thing but #6. I had friends but I was not remotely popular in middle school or high school. People thought I was weird 🧐. I was more popular in college. Non conformity was fine in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:07 PM
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Same…..And then you look around your own living room and wonder who the fuck are those people who just trashed your couch.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:00 PM
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I have said many any many times that sexlessness among the youngest is about more than sex and dating, and that the Venn diagram overlap of the friendless and the sexless is virtually two concentric circles of very similar size. Everything I see indicates sexlessness goes deeper than just failure to thrive in a single area of life. I have had red pill men push back hard on this idea, but it’s what I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:57 PM
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😝thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:35 PM
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We just elected a man with three defacto wives and who knows how many mistresses . Are you just trolling?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:47 PM
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The point in question is does monogamy “suit men’s desire”. We agree that widespread polygyny is inherently unsustainable, but if monogamy was what suited men’s desire, we would not see polygyny at the pinnacle of social hierarchy. In the words of Mel Brooks, it’s good to be king. No society is strictly monogamous for the men at the pinnacle of the social hierarchy and no society is “outcompeting” defacto polygyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:34 PM
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And in turn, the decline of the church is due to social problems and political polarization. They go hand in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:15 PM
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I don’t disagree. I’d personally not be living my best life., I really like having a husband ….and a sex life. But I know several middle aged, born again virgin, celibate women who seem pretty happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:42 AM
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Excuse the fuck out of me but did I say I was giving up on men because they were all women hating misogynists? I dipped out for the same reason most people dip out. I was cheated on. Doesn’t mean I hated all men. Losing trust in people and guarding your emotional availability is common after someone you love violates that love and trust. Reading here how many men are not interested in commitment and men who think winning is fucking as many people as possible? While simultaneously thinking the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:45 AM
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Tl/dr, lol Anyway…long story short…porn and online dating should be legal, online dating and porn are absolutely more nails in the coffin
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:11 AM
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“In spite” of his win. Again, people get mad and say something on Twitter. End of the day, we are talking about the president and vice president. I think over half the voters found them socially acceptable. Maybe someone needs to explain the difference between being “condemned “ and being “elected “ to you, and maybe you need to examine your own echo chamber. Men don’t talk about giving up on sex, because they almost never give up on sex. But they talk about not wanting or giving up on committed…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:57 AM
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lol, what exactly is “widely condemned “. Making bank while making people mad? Manosphere spaces that are toxic are every bit as profitable as the “sprinkle sprinkle” influencers. It’s seeing how the sausage is made that is killing relationships between the sexes. Last I looked, men swear off monogamy, cheat on every woman they have married, cheat with pornstars and get elected president. Men calling childless women, not childless men only women, cat ladies and they get elected as vice president…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:56 AM
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I never said all men are trash or my husband was the only good one. And I read that all modern women are trash on this subreddit every day. That’s exactly what would have kept me personally from ever wanting to have another relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:37 AM
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There is a reason prostitution is the oldest profession . Prostitution doesn’t exist without a steady supply of johns.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:28 AM
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Don’t know, imho you guys opened this can of worms and broke the hypergamy vrs polygyny compromise, the one that we used to call monogamy, when Playboy came out in 1952 and women had evidence hidden all over the house that her husband didn’t really love her stretched out abdomen and the saggy tits she got nursing his kids. He really preferred looking at readily available, fresh faced, perky coeds. Monogamy wasn’t absolute of course, but it was certainly the best way for men to get consistent sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:22 AM
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“Men with no options don’t cheat because we can’t, not because we don’t want to…”. I used to think the 72 virgins was just some weird ass religious brainwashing….I think it’s actually what men really want. Women might want Prince Charming, men wish they were Genghis Khan. Yeah, I got cheated on by my ex who was a virgin, I married Chad. Lacking sexual success isn’t a virtue, it’s often just lack of opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:31 PM
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Patriarchal societies tend toward polygyny. This is inherently unsustainable without warfare or huge swaths of unpartnered young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:13 PM
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You are the guy who says all young women are turning gay. I swear I’d probably be celibate or jumping the fence too if I were 20. Now you know why?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:41 PM
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Yeah….despite their claims to the contrary, they still didn’t GO their own way. They were mostly dudes SENT their own way. Almost all of them were obsessed with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:33 PM
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There was no real mgtow, just a small percentage of them had attachment disorders and mostly guys sent their own way. The difference between mgtow and wgtow is women don’t have the spontaneous sex drive men have, can walk away from sexual relationships and never really think about it much. I have several wgtow, middle aged friends…I call them one and done, who got fucked over early in life by some dude and walked away. They have male friends and coworkers, they don’t hate men, but I know some wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:28 PM
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I think about this a lot actually. I’m glad I found my husband before the internet echo chambers. I kissed enough frogs, was celibate from age 28 to 31 and thought I was done with relationships all before finally trusting men again and finding my husband. Had I been born 10 years later? Boxed wine and cats all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:10 PM
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Good to confirm…..he’s not yours, it’s just your turn until someone younger comes along?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:52 PM
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A 70 year old woman absolutely has more opportunities to get “someone “ to have sex with her. I don’t know what fantasy world you live in. They don’t cheat more because they don’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:11 PM
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women after the age of 40 aren't able to cheat that much so they don't lol, if by “cheat” you mean can they walk into any random bar, say who wants to fuck, and get 10 takers….any woman can cheat. If by “cheat” you mean does a 40 year old woman have the same power to entice a 40 year old man to leave his wife and kids, like a 25 year old stripper does..then no, she isn’t as able to cheat. ( Although I have to say if you ever watch crime shows, it’s amazing how many middle age dudes murder to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:06 PM
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>I could explain in detail my rough upbringing, my trauma, but how I delt with that is inside me and hard to put into words well……I’m not against all age gap relationships, but if you are only 21 with a rough upbringing, trauma etc. , that’s not exactly information that tells me you know what a healthy relationship even looks like. People raised in abusive households are the most likely to end up in a series of fucked up relationships…pretty much the definition of “alarming information”….just sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 12:13 PM
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you make it seem like submissiveness and servitude are bad things 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:10 PM
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no……what she said was “With all the women that have been left on a hiking trail or mountain by their date or had even worse happen to them in the middle of nowhere with no one else around it’s probably best to avoid a walk as a first date. If a woman still wants to date she should only meet in populated (but not over crowded) well lit environments for her own safety.” And you finally seem to agree “I wouldn’t encourage a dude or a girl to go for a first date in the middle of the woods” 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:44 AM
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I’m just another individual woman but like u/HighestTierMaslow, this is also what I have observed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:26 AM
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I started dating my h when he was marginally employed and doing handyman work for my rental property. I well might be an outlier, but why not improve yourself and get laid at the same time? They aren’t mutually exclusive you know. I made plenty of money my first year out of college with an engineering degree from a good school. I never needed men to be high earners. Again, I might not be typical but I continued to enjoy hanging out with my broke bar trash friends, and trying to date fellow engin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:15 AM
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You do you, sounds like a very fulfilling life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 01:48 PM
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value education, career and economic success far more So women from other countries value money more than genuine sexual attraction? I guess that will work for you if you aren’t particularly attractive and have lots of money. A mediocre sex life based on a transactional exchange of money for sex is better than no sex life at all I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:52 AM
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Preferential admissions? https://www.ivywise.com/ivywise-knowledgebase/the-truth-about-the-gender-gap-on-college-campuses/ “ With a more limited pool of male applicants from which to draw, some schools — particularly private liberal arts colleges — are admitting male applicants over women who have higher test scores, higher GPAs, or more extracurricular achievements”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:58 PM
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That’s the best part.🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:46 PM
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Ahhh a man of refinement! 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:46 PM
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Why would I assume that when you don’t know a single thing about me other than you like the way I look, and I don’t know a single thing about you other than you like the way I look? 🧐 But why do you assume we just want sex from you? I don’t think people even need to be friends first at all, but can you even imagine being chased down by some random dude in a parking lot and having him ask you for your number because you might want to be his “friend”. Especially after he tells you he thinks you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:03 PM
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Do whatever you want, most women aren’t giving their number to a guy when the only thing they know about him is that he happens to find her fuckable. And if a guy does this where I am going to run into him again, I’m definitely going out of my way to avoid him. Women aren’t men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:41 PM
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Might as well, you will be just as successful. >Is he supposed to try and have a 10 minute conversation with her while she’s trying to shop at a store? God forbid you actually try to learn something about her besides she is fuckable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:31 PM
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hey I think you’re really pretty I would like to talk to you more and get to know you, whats your number? You’re kidding, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:13 PM
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Progressive liberal? The progressive view is nurture over nature. The conservative view: https://time.com/5262988/brian-kemp-campaign-ad-gun-teen/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:19 PM
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Meh, it would certainly be a lot easier to just be a dermatologist. I’ve never heard of one that got death threats for lopping off moles.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:09 PM
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Since 1977, there have been 11 murders, 42 bombings, 200 arsons, 531 assaults, 492 clinic invasions, 375 burglaries
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 11:59 AM
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second-wave feminists saying that women are just as interested in sex as men are Hugh Hefner beat them to it about a decade earlier, in 1953. “What I wanted to create was a pinup phenomenon that was devoted to the girl next door," Hefner says. "Beauty is everywhere -- on the campus, in the office, living next door. That was the concept... Nice girls like sex too -- it's a natural part of life. Don't be ashamed of it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 10:37 PM
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Objectively if somebody is a 9/10 they can absolutely get sex from most single, straight men. Getting sex =/= getting a relationship . I’m not saying she can or can’t get a relationship, but the existence of hideous hookers is a completely separate and unrelated issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:06 PM
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Chad Jesus is hot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 01:18 AM
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You do you, I don’t agree that a romantic partner is just like another friend, but given the choice, I ‘d rather have sex with a friend than a boss
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:38 AM
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Is being single any better? That’s the question. Lots of people aren’t happy being married, lots of people aren’t happy single. Lots of people aren’t happy with their jobs, they aren’t necessarily happier unemployed. You might find it harder to go it alone as you grow older No one can answer this question for you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:20 AM
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Yeah, that type of approach is just not woman behavior though. Even if women do the approaching that scenario is just not realistic. In real life the only way that really happens with any frequency is at a gay pride parade,
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:22 AM
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Online dating has definitely changed a lot of dynamics, but have you also considered that what has changed from the late 90’s to now is also you? You’re almost 30 years older now. You’re a much older guy, the women who could potentially be attracted to you now are either married already or divorced. You’re dating and hitting up bars in what… your 40’s or 50’s? I mean it’s time to get realistic about what leftovers are out there. The bar scene and casual hookup scene has always been about young p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:58 AM
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Good luck,you need to get good at small talk with strangers…..and NEVER seem desperate 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:03 PM
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Well when I was single I lived in NYC and New Orleans ….so music clubs and bars. That might not work at all for someone in a small town. But I’m pretty extroverted so in that setting I’ll talk to anybody. I met my ex in a bar, went to breakfast at sunrise before exchanging numbers.A smaller get together at a friends houses is how I met one guy that I traded numbers with but decided wasn’t for me. First ever boyfriend lived in the same apartment building and a bunch of us used to hang out togethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:55 PM
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😕 sorry dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:35 PM
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I have never once regretted a breakup and in every case wish I had done it sooner. Ditto. Even with relationships I don’t regret, I do regret dragging them out beyond what was healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:33 AM
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Depends. If you look good and photograph well, the apps will get you dates. If you have a great personality, and at least mid looks, approaching women might be more successful. If no one responds to you online and you obviously have already looksmaxxed, it’s time to develop your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 07:29 AM
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Some of these people are just caught in such a negative loop, the less social success, the more bitter..the more bitter, the less social success
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:46 AM
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I would do my bet to let her knwo tat hr first time s with someone who loves her even if we never cross paths again Despite all the typos (are you drunk or texting while driving?), this is the most endearing thing I have read on this subreddit in a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:18 AM
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I’m getting into knives.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:57 AM
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A lot of bitter people out there that are stunted. Ngl….half this sub in a nutshell🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:05 AM
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I will continue to repeat this to you guys until I am blue. Do women notice and feel attraction to handsome men? Of course. Are women generally sexually wired for visual stimuli like men? No. They tried to make a beefcake magazine for women,the only people who bought it were gay dudes. Women and men don’t just have different exterior appearance, our brains are wired differently. It’s just not in our makeup to choose dudes from photos, but that’s what online dating forces women to do. I have date…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:23 AM
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Awesome. Good for you. Rent all the holes you want. Prostitution needs to be legalized to keep guys like you who don’t enjoy sex with civilians out of the dating pool. Why waste either of our time? Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:05 PM
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So, are you upset because you have interpreted the guy’s intentions as being X, see contrary evidence, Both obviously. I think implying on one hand that prostitution will solve men’s problems and cure depression, while simultaneously saying that men actually need and want relationships is contradictory. If prostitution makes men so happy and solves their problems why would they even want relationships? Why introduce complexity like human love and connection into your sex life when sex is so grea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:23 PM
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The entire message of “playboy” was quite clearly stated in the title. Men don’t just want to look at their naked wife and are more likely to desire casual sex. It doesn’t mean people can’t decide to be monogamous but it is what it is. The rash of men here in denial about male sexuality confounds me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:23 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:01 PM
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Okay then. If you say so. Enjoy your life!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:53 PM
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Ahhh…okay? Good for you dude, live your life. What’s your comment have to do with the conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:47 PM
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Men started Playboy magazine in the 1953, the entire premise of Playboy was that a man’s highest and best life was to have sex with as many fertile, young coeds as possible. But the women of Playboy were supposedly wholesome and not whoreish like the women in stag films. When men had their way, they couldn’t implement this system where every man had a harem of willing nubile virgins because men and women are born in equal numbers. Hugh Hefner didn’t think through the repercussions of telling men…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:54 AM
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We don’t take quite take turns, but we each have what we jokingly refer to as our “domains “. My domain is budgets and finance, he chooses the cars, appliances, and makes most of the home decor and renovation decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:57 AM
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Fair enough. Not to compare traumas or excuse her behavior, but at least at 15 he would be able to overpower a creepy old battle ax. I can see even younger boys being equally terrified as young girls
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:44 AM
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My panties aren’t in a twist,I’m in commando mode. I didn’t call you names. I said you were full of shit. Yep, I’m giving you many examples in just this one thread. Want to hit a few other days threads? Like the “I’d fuck a grapefruit “ thread? Men repeat this everyday. Deal with the so called “misandrists” who happened to be overwhelmingly male. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:43 AM
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Do you think that makes a teenage boy fearful though?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:55 AM
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Here’s a weird one….but I kind of envy men’s attraction to younger partners. It would in some ways be fun to have a younger, more energetic, horny partner, and there are plenty of horny young guys that I think being a cougar would actually be pretty easy to pull off. Sadly, like most of my sex, younger guys just aren’t really attractive to me. I can appreciate that by objective standards they look good, but they just don’t do it for me. Older men don’t either. I have a strong attraction to my ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:49 AM
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Ohhhh….that’s the favorite of men who love hookers….all women are hookers and all men have to pay anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:21 AM
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You stated it’s not men saying men will fuck anything, yet I show you in one single reddit thread, there are multiple men stating, yep…it’s pretty common knowledge that men will fuck anything. Some saying “I will fuck anything”. Is it weird that you fail to recognize that this idea comes directly from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:38 AM
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Dude…scroll through just the comments on this thread ffs. “ doesn't change the fact that there are lots of those men out there really. it's commonly said because there's definitely a level of truth to it” “some dude who fucked a goat" the fact that this is virtually certain to have happened thousands of times this year suggests that mayhaps "men will fuck anything" should trigger some introspection, rather than hostile denial, within men lol” “ Sure they probably won't commit, but they won't dow…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:11 PM
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The exact same guy who posted prostitution should be legal because it would solve men’s problems , cure depression and no man could possibly be depressed with a pair of stripper tits in his face…POSTED THE VERY NEXTDAY…how women had a horrible impression that men only wanted sex, but not relationships and how we needed to correct this horrible impression. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:35 PM
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>it’s never “this is how Iam,” it’s always “it’s how we are.” Good observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:24 PM
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Ummmm….you were replying to my comment that attention starts at 12, 13 and 14…..not 16. Twelve year old girls have “certain aspects of the female form”. Most already have periods. They absolutely still look like kids. Here’s a twelve year old with “certain aspects of the female form” pretty apparent. The fact she is still a child, also pretty apparent. https://www.freepik.com/free-photo/young-girl-holding-her-skateboard-outside_9362520.htm#fromView=keyword&page=1&position=27&uuid=9352026c-102f-4…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:08 PM
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One partner needs time to recoup after pushing a bowling ball sized human out of her cooter and one partner also has nipples that leak milk when they hear the baby cry. It doesn’t make sense for most middle class couples to have one partner who never works when most people only have two kids and the stay at home parent is a short term gig at best. It’s also not going to be the default for most families to decide the one with the feeding apparatus, the maternity leave and the blown out organs to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:48 PM
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Idk man a hole is a hole in a lot of men’s eyes Further down in this thread, stated by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:28 PM
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Idk man a hole is a hole in a lot of men’s eyes Enough said. According to op, acknowledging this is apparently a hate crime
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:28 PM
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I agree they are definitely a minority, but it’s also an almost universal experience for young women. Both things are true. It’s estimated that of actual offenders, most commit 7 sex crimes before they are caught and many more are never caught. And lots of men never escalate to anything illegal, they just act in ways that are legal but still frightening when you are only 12. But yeah, one guy can obviously be inappropriate many times a week for years
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:20 PM
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And? Way to prove my point. It’s proof that men indeed will fuck anything, because they are too lazy to look beyond the housekeeper?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:51 PM
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Sure, men never dumpster dive…… https://images.app.goo.gl/xpVNmLwT6uiC8gjH7
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:19 PM
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Yeah, this is pretty much a universal experience of girls to get hit on by grown men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:04 PM
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🥺 Sorry dude, but it was once the dad of the kids I was babysitting. Pretty sure he knew exactly what he was after.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:51 PM
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men don't fuck fat women Yeah, this isn’t a thing. This is the rare femcel who says this. Most complaints here are that not only will average men fuck fat women, so will Chad. That’s why supposedly less attractive women get inflated egos, because they can get sex even from the most desirable men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:17 PM
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Also most of us form these opinions at age 12, 13 and 14 when grown men start hitting on us two minutes after the first sign of tits appear. An experience that 95% of women have had.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:08 PM
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Oooo boy. Time for my Doris stories. Doris is someone from my bartending days. She was 5’2”, 300 lbs, in her late 30’s, addicted to pain killers, often dirty…greasy hair, dirty fingernails and a bad smell. She never failed to leave the bar with a reasonably good looking younger man. Slam pigs, cum dumpsters, dumpster diving….maybe not every man will hump a troll, but enough of them will that everyone knows what these terms mean. My favorite is calling women minibikes, fun to ride but you don’t w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:00 PM
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I’m in camp slim. No hate for the chunky monkeys, lots of women like them, but I’ll take a lanky dude any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:20 PM
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Guys step on their own dicks and cock block themselves pretty regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:43 PM
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No. You seriously underestimate the risk/reward for most women. I was a kid living in Greenwich Village when AIDS hit and can tell you that fear easily overrides the desire for sex for most people. The random blowjobs in the meat packing district, the sex on the floors of dance clubs, the back rooms where anonymous sex took place in the dark with strangers all changed in around 1984. Our gay roommate stopped his biweekly stroll to the docks and got a boyfriend. Most of the casual sex that contin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:31 PM
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🤝
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:33 AM
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Your sexist belief that all men only want sex Where did I say “all men only want sex”? Go ahead and show me, I’m quite willing to wait. I said any woman could walk in a bar and find A taker, not that all men would be takers. That’s not sexist, that’s reality. If you don’t think this is true, you’re delusional. Before calling me sexist, improve your reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:27 AM
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in certain circumstances Well most of the men who post here wanting “submissive wives” would not like one who handles all the money. And yet over the years my h has accepted and very much leaned into my control over financial matters. I don’t think he is any less “traditionally masculine” , in fact if he insisted on more input just to swing his dick, I’d consider that a sign of a weak ego and a fragile self identity. In my experience, confident people don’t need for others to be submissive, peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:35 PM
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Yeah….I think that tradition dictated women to be financially dependent on men. Some women passively accepted this as status quo, some did not. The definition of submissive “ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive”. Submission implies yielding to power, there is an overtone of it being a voluntary condition. I think some women were actually submissive, many however did not have a submissive attitude. I think when MOST men say they want a submissive woman, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:01 PM
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Most women obviously “submitted” to the greater social and economic realities she was faced with, but I’m not convinced she was always voluntarily submissive. History and literature are full of headstrong women. When most men here say they want submissive, they want someone happily and willingly yielding power, not someone subjugated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:46 PM
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There’s probably nothing more traditional than henpecking a husband. When you had no economic or social alternative to staying married to a bad husband…… “Sometimes being a bitch is all a woman's got to hold on to.” Stephen King, Dolores Claiborne
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:36 PM
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and too high of standards when it comes to things that don’t really matter (e.g. luxury, money, access to exotic vacations, resources to lean into consumerism, etc.). There is no objective proof that women are more materialistic than men. Women shop more. Women overwhelmingly purchase the groceries and home goods. Buying essentials is not the same as being more materialistic though. Women buy 50% of the products exclusively used by men. A better indicator would be to look at what single men vrs …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:38 PM
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objectively a very poor financial choice to remain single Statistically very accurate. Not to say you can’t build wealth if you are single, but most single people don’t. The vast majority of middle class wealth is in home equity and two middle class incomes make it easier to buy a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:16 PM
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Because “dating” to women =/= able to get sex. We are using different definitions. I think most women acknowledge they could walk-in a bar, yell “who wants to fuck” and get a taker. Extremely unattractive women can have sex and get paid for it too https://images.app.goo.gl/1HMrrxivEAV4T8AS8
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:34 PM
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No, not the poster you asked this question to, but no, I don’t. Many of the conversations in this subreddit focus on the2018 findings that28% of men under 35 were sexless compared to only 18% of women, yet four years later, when the exact same poll from the exact same organization showed that female sexlessness for people underage 35 was actually higher than men’s? Crickets https://images.app.goo.gl/yneJE2MVD1gbN1rP9 .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:12 PM
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This one? https://images.app.goo.gl/sNbc775Cu4fS11Nz6
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 10:14 PM
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That’s honestly more fucked than some guy spending two years banging every chick on Tinder. You realize that after 2 or 3 years together she will have genuine feelings for you. You might even have genuine feelings back
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 08:29 PM
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“Usage” of “Men’s “ earnings. Such a nice way to put that. Not their money, it’s usage of men’s money. And then you wonder why women say fuck it, and want THEIR own money. Smh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:53 PM
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Choose your battles, bitch about women sponging off of men or not procreating. The more they procreate the more they sponge off of men. Too bad so sad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:37 PM
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You’re the guy who claims prostitution cures men’s ills and that no man can still be depressed with a pair of strippers tits in his face. I wonder where that horrible misconception comes from?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:01 PM
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Well….we don’t live high on the hog, low income, high net worth ….but we don’t have to work
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 02:52 PM
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A lot of the female sex workers I knew were lesbians - not attracted to men as a gender any more than a heterosexual man Having lived in areas where prostitution was common, this was my experience as well. Lots of guys who hustled were straight too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:58 AM
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My husband doesn’t work and neither do I, I was very lucky with real estate investing at age 28. Since we are married, yes he is entitled to our money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:55 AM
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Get a butt plug and start stretching your asshole. Your lucrative future awaits.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:52 AM
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You want to keep repeating your stupidity, I’ll keep correcting you “Dual income” includes no one working and wife only working. First info that came up was from 2010, BLS, only 21% of households are husband only working. Expect that number to continue to decrease as women just decide not to have kids at all. Studies from places outside the US indicate that wives make the same and even slightly more than husbands until they have children. Our birth rate has already dropped below replacement. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:50 AM
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I haven’t seen a studies from the US, but studies from other countries indicate that married women now make a slight bit more than their husbands until they have kids. We are glad to stop reproducing. Birth rates are already below replacement. You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:44 AM
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“Dual income” includes no one working and wife only working. First info that came up was from 2010, BLS, only 21% of households are husband only working. Expect that number to continue to decrease as women just decide not to have kids at all. You guys have less and less to bitch about. You’re welcome. https://www.google.com/imgres?q=percentage%20of%20households%20dual%20income%20by%20gender%202020&imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Ffiles.taxfoundation.org%2Flegacy%2Fdocs%2F22.jpg&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Ftaxfo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:35 AM
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You can be a prostitute too you know. The corner of Bourbon and St Ann in New Orleans awaits. Enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:25 AM
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Hopefully they signed up for it and aren’t trafficked. Then there is drug addition, homelessness, and extreme poverty. But I agree that to voluntarily sign up for it, you are fucked up in the head. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2254224/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:54 AM
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It happened
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:48 AM
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PlaneJane and I can’t remember her husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:47 AM
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I want to die just like my grandma, peacefully in my sleep, Not screaming in terror like the other three passengers in the car.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:39 AM
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If you lead with money you do. Plenty broke guys get laid while you are busy working 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:05 AM
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lol…huh? Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:36 AM
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Don’t get in my feelings on the dating market…I have no idea what you are saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:32 AM
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I never hated single dads in the way the incelz hate single moms, but I didn’t really want to date one. Single dads pretty much have identical baggage to single moms, plus the one single dad I dated (very) briefly had custody on the weekends which are prime times to date when you are getting to know someone. The hate for single moms here is palpable,” they have poor decision making skills”, “they chose wrong” etc. etc. I’m a grown person who has seen many relationships fall apart, I don’t need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:44 PM
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More undesirable to me than almost anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:12 PM
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Much in the way that a wealthy person will hire a plumber to replace a water heater…….a wealthy man will hire a sex worker to get their preferred optimal result I think for lots of men sex with a hooker definitely provides you with your preferred optimum result. I wish you all had enough money to never try to date a civilian ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:11 PM
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I’ve never in my life had it happen except with my ex who had been a virgin, but we were super young. I jokingly asked my husband and he laughed, he would have no idea. I personally know more than 10 he slept with just in the year before he quit drinking . I will say he did have a reputation of being a sweetheart to his hookups
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 10:47 AM
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Take my upvote 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:19 PM
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For wealthy people it's not a sex thing it's a power thing I think you are probably partially correct. I think it’s not about power and control just for the wealthy. It seems it’s about power and control for some men in all socio economic circumstances. But yes, many wealthy people believe everything is for sale. I guess for people with enough money, there are people lined up willing to sell anything, including their kidneys, their asses and their dignity. I have empathy for people who are despe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:54 AM
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This is very true. The impersonal nature of the financial transaction is a feature , not a flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:14 AM
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I’m fine with that. Do want you want then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 10:21 AM
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Crosspost is in order
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:54 AM
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men have to compensate. Surely you can see how this creates problems. Like dead bedrooms. You aren’t wrong that men have to compensate and inspire lust. If women found most men sexually attractive that would create a whole lot more problems for guys who don’t want their women with unrestricted sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:44 AM
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Men want women to be attracted to them…and only them. Women want the same and that is never going to happen. Men are going to look at random women in tight pants, with big boobs and women who breathe. We don’t really like it, but it is what it is. If my husband never snuck a look at another woman, I’d get his testosterone checked. But that’s what men “feeling lust for average women” looks like. Feeling lust for average men would mean she also felt lust for most dudes on the block. You sure you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:22 AM
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Calm down…I didn’t mean womens choices in real life. I meant in these hypothetical questions, where someone asks women to choose between 1. A perfect dude….but he’s on the sex offender registry or 2. A perfect dude whose got ED and refuses to give you oral.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:10 AM
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Obviously for starters, if he found this information from me, I’ve clearly been inappropriate. The bedroom is for us and why anyone wants to talk about sex with their ex to their current partner is insane unless someone has a cuck or humiliation fetish. It’s my responsibility to convey my needs and desires in a relationship. If he leaves? Well, have I conveyed my desires and he has simply refused to listen? Or too lazy to try? That would be the offensive part. But I think a lot of the time, wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:03 AM
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Absolutely should be legalized Absolutely will never date a man who uses these services
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:21 AM
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Men complain about women’s high n counts now…if women had male sexuality, the world would be like one huge gay cruise zone
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:56 AM
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Shockingly men say the same when offered the same choices, but you believe those choices are adequate for us even if they are unacceptable for yourself. Women are picky. News at 11
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:40 AM
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Mem also the same question you do all the time Translation?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:33 AM
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“Omg 2 in a heartbeat” sounds pretty enthusiastic to me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:29 AM
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To a man neither of these are appealing Really? Maybe you missed the meeting, but some guys seemed genuinely enthusiastic about their choice
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:14 AM
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I want my husband to move on and be happy when I die I already know who I would set my husband up with. If I’m terminal, I’m matchmaking. And I’m not even kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:52 AM
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Rabun county and banjo country lol I don’t live in Rabun but “Rabunlike”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:13 AM
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Why do guys get choices where both are appealing? Seems women get more “would you rather date dog shit or date pig shit”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:44 AM
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Roll tide
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:42 AM
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Mmmmm….not always tbh. Or let’s just say it takes longer to realize he is kind of boring and pretty dumb if he is super hot and great in bed. I’ve had friends that were kind of sad that they had to stop seeing some hot guy because he had a double digit iq.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:41 AM
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I’m a landlord in rural North Georgia, you aren’t wrong that poor rural people who aren’t disabled and leave the house are generally getting laid. I will say the odds are good, but the goods are odd. Lots of chaos and dysfunction, divorce and oow kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:44 PM
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Lurk and lift spits more truth pills, I think they are the most bitter ones to swallow
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:36 PM
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Being socially competent is attractive. If you are mid in looks but outgoing and popular you aren’t going to have a problem pulling women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:28 PM
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I married my handyman. Seriously. I had known him for years, but he was unemployed and doing odd jobs for me when we first started dating. I was making big money,I couldn’t give a fuck about judgement from the female social matrix, and my social circle were all barflies anyway Yeah…he looks good. He’s also incredibly kind. It’s like none of you guys realize that western women having their own money has changed the game
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:10 PM
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Stack cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:24 PM
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I lived in Manhattan almost 5 years. It was glorious. But expensive, very expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:15 PM
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Yeah, why isn’t he telling me what he wants and needs and why is he bringing other people into the conversation? If you are intimate enough to mash your private parts together you should be grown up enough to tell your partner what you think is hot. This goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:04 PM
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I live in the middle of a SOLID red county and not getting into politics with my neighbors …..and I’m wise enough not to be argumentative with my husband Ppdebate it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:57 PM
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I’ll concede that point, but your original claim…all men will, was a gross exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:29 PM
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It was extremely common for women to not only be fine with a mistress, but low key grateful for one. Because she had no interest in sex with him, and she didn’t have income and would lose social standing. The marriage became for show with people mostly living separate lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:27 PM
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More likely, not the enormous disparity you described
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:24 PM
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Supposedly only 66% of men divorce a cheating wife, 42% of women divorce a cheating husband. But statistics vary wildly on this https://torronelaw.com/what-percentage-of-marriages-survive-infidelity/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:21 PM
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I will concede that this is definitely an area where women care about male behavior that doesn’t affect them. I think lots of the age gap hysteria comes from how many women got hit on at inappropriate ages, like barely into puberty ages, or played by older men when they were younger. I don’t give a shit about age gaps, my best friends’ husband was a fossil.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:36 AM
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men also cheat more https://images.app.goo.gl/34J6W1oBzhVZcPBPA I have plenty of divorced friends, trust me mc, umc, and uc women no longer tolerate a wandering dick. Working class women stay in my experience. Wishful thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:30 AM
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I think most of these dudes are way too neurotic and the constant free rent that Chad gets in their head has actually just made them even more neurotic and obsessive. One step forward two steps back.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:51 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:43 AM
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🙋‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:40 AM
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I actually see the opposite WAY more tbh. It’s fine for men to be promiscuous but not fine for women. Look at the “do you hate sluts” thread. Most answers were “ Ihave sex with them, but don’t consider them relationship material”. Appeals to nature “sperm is cheap”, men and women are different blah blah blah. At the end of the day, if women don’t want the kind of guy who bangs sluts, that’s her perogative. And very few sexually conservative women, the women guys who bang sluts consider ltr mater…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:11 PM
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I guess insane could work if you like crazy chicks🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:56 PM
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Sorry my bad. I ‘m on the phone and don’t see the full context
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:31 PM
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Women who earn more divorce more…women who earn less divorce to steal assets. I wish you guys would make up your mind If a woman catches her husband cheating, should she stay?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:17 PM
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Yeah…men do that all the time and they always have. Very common. Almost all dads do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:23 PM
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The guy asked, I told him. It’s that simple. Sorry if you need to read more into that other than I was just stating facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:29 PM
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but not as likely to break off with him as when genders are reversed. Wishful thinking. Women initiate more divorces and infidelity is a major reason for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:56 PM
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I’m convinced there are very few men going their own way, it’s mostly men sent their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:35 PM
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I think no matter what…my first inclination would be to side with my son regardless. First step would be to get him a lawyer. If facts start coming out that confirm her account, I think it’s a very hard reckoning
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:25 PM
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The difference seems to be that men on ppd seem perpetually enraged that some women have casual sex. Sexually conservative women care that THEIR partners aren’t slutty without really caring or being emotionally invested about other men who are. They just look for men with similar values and move on. A similar parallel in my mind is mgtow vrs wgtow. I have female friends who haven’t had sex in a decade and have no interest in ever having sex again. They never think about men and sex at all tbh, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:42 AM
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I suspect denial would be my first instinct, but I would be afraid that I would eventually have to face reality
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:18 AM
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Pregnant, or caught an std I would assume
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:04 AM
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Not hypothetical, but a similar real life situation. I ran into an older guy who used to do some construction contracting working at a Kroger stocking shelves. I told him I thought he was retired, he said he got a low wage job to pay for his son’s lawyer. His son was arrested for kiddie porn. Swore up and down his son had no idea how that kiddie porn landed on his computer. 🥺 I guess believed his son, he stood by him. I had a feeling he was in for a rude awakening though
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:49 AM
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I have to look it up, but I’m pretty sure that statistic is false claim, not false accusation. The difference being, many more women and girls try to hide the results of consensual sex by saying “some strange guy raped me”, rather than “SgtRimjob raped me” I’m not defending either action in the least, just pointing out the odds of having a false accusation against you as an individual are lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:37 AM
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Neither do terrible women have trouble finding relationships with men. Manipulaters gonna manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:07 AM
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most men who are hiring prostitutes are also not having issues finding girlfriends Many don’t have problems finding girlfriends ….precisely because they are great liars. It goes with the territory. Sociopaths often do well in life,they are still horrible people. They are also good at selling used cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:02 AM
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it forces even the best people to make decisions based on rather superficial criteria. Agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:58 AM
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Online dating is a pretty unnatural way to meet, imho. My husband is conventionally good looking and photogenic, but I dated and was crazy about an ex who I never would have picked from a photo. I also dated a guy slightly shorter who never lacked for female attention, but would probably bomb online. I have one friend in a really remote area who uses online dating, but think it’s mostly been horrible all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:51 AM
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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/core/lw/2.0/html/tileshop_pmc/tileshop_pmc_inline.html?title=Click%20on%20image%20to%20zoom&p=PMC3&id=7533589_fpsyg-11-577171-g001.jpg No. Dark Triad traits vary much more in relation to “reason for sex” than they do for type of prostitute. Levels of cluster b/ antisocial personality disorders tend to be lower in general for men using escorts, but even guys using street hookers who claim they seek prostitution for companionship have lower rates of personality disorde…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:34 AM
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I think a bit of embarrassment that he laughed in my face too!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:20 AM
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You aren’t wrong. Women are not as visually wired as men are when it comes to sex. They tried a pin up magazine …Playgirl, for women with hunky nude centerfolds but the only people who bought it was gay dudes. This is why men need to refuse to online date. Our attraction to photos of men just isn’t the same as men’s attraction to photos of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:08 AM
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As a woman, I appreciate that. Most people are decent, echo chambers are toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:00 AM
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Mmmm…not so fast, lol. I disagree with the premise that all men won’t love their aging wives. BUT, there have been more than one study clearly indicating that men of all ages tend to rate 20 year old women as the most attractive, but women tend to find men their own age to be the most attractive, until about their40’s where they start to rate men only a few years younger as the most attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:51 PM
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إن شاء الله. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:05 PM
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Ohhhh, so you actually don’t want a girlfriend then, what you really want is a free hooker and everybody cheers. Get a second job and move to where it’s legal. Leave women who actually want a relationship alone
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:48 PM
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I would say it okay to briefly glance and smile, make inane small talk if you are getting ioi’s. Hopefully you have good social skills and can sense when people want to be left alone. how men are viewed right now Right now? My father would make an egalitarian men’s rights activist weep with his warnings to me about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:45 PM
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Come on, you know there aren’t any red pillers left here. Just tradcon/inshallah types both fascinated and repulsed by vagina and black pillers 🤣🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:31 PM
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No…but I do have an engineering degree from “ one of the most selective” schools that has a very low acceptance rate. Anymore info and I’ll have to change my user name again🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:22 PM
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What’s hilarious is how much they care about the opinions of women. If sex with prostitutes is what they want, and sex on demand with no strings attached is so great, why bother to date at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:13 PM
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As if regular hookups happen because people love who people really are. Regular hookups absolutely happen because both parties LIKE each other though. And both want to have sex. You have this weird idea that most hookups aren’t friendly, fun encounters between two people who are both enjoying each other’s company. Maybe you see each other again, maybe you don’t. Some hookups end up lasting for days. Sometimes the sex was underwhelming and you are glad they are leaving. No harm, no foul. But it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:08 PM
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If hookers “take care of that”, and he’s so satisfied, why bother to date at all? A hooker will do what you what, how you want, for a simple fee. Why bother with civilians at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:30 PM
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Plenty of guys who CAN get laid love hookers. They prefer impersonal sex where they can just tell her what to do and give her money. These guys are the creepiest ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:17 PM
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My ex of 7 years was a virgin. He tried to lose his virginity in Nevada at a legal brothel but said the whole thing was too sad. He correctly inferred that she would be much much happier if he just paid and left her alone. I would date a guy who had been a sex worker (not hypothetical, I almost did) before I would date a guy who liked seeing hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:20 PM
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Also this https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7533589/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:16 PM
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I’m all for the legalization of most drugs, people who sell drugs are no worse than than your neighborhood gas station selling White Claws. Plenty of people can use drugs responsibly. I’m not interested in a partner who does drugs or sells drugs. My h doesn’t even drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:00 PM
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Would you ladies here prefer if a man strictly had causal sex with sex workers Not dating that guy. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7533589/ Here’s some highlights of the meta study of men who visit prostitutes “higher likelihood of committing infidelity (Jones and Weiser, 2014), and sexual risk-taking (Dubas et al., 2017) that collectively signal heightened investment in short-term mating. Individuals expressing higher levels of the Dark Tetrad personality dimensions are also more …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:39 PM
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? Actually I think for the most part we don't care about dick size or muscles as long as you aren’t some outlier. We definitely care if you are fat, short or have an ugly face.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:52 PM
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He literally thought I was joking. He was acting like it was preposterous. Like I’m in a dive bar just telling random dudes I’m a rocket scientist from MIT. Even after I started working as an engineer, my social circle was my friends from bartending days and they were who I was hanging out with. So I guess he just assumed I was a service industry worker like most of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:41 PM
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I was once talking to a cute blue collar guy in a bar, and we talked about what we did for a living. When I told him I was an engineer he cracked up like it was a joke, then laughed even harder when I told him the school I graduated from. I called over the bartender who was an old friend and boss from my bartending days and told her to tell the guy what I did for a living. He looked a little shell shocked and disappeared into the crowd. 🤣 I won’t say that in general it hurt my dating chances, my…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:20 PM
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Huh…that’s funny, because they usually don’t pair a comedic actress with a much hotter husband. When they gave fat ass Kevin James and Ray Romano shows, they had much more attractive wives. Mellissa McCarthy and RoseAnn Barr got looks matches. The country rooted for Ross and Rachel, while in real life Jennifer Anniston was with Brad Pitt, not extremely mid David Schwimmer. Meanwhile, George Costanza was dating Marisa Tomei. Usually if they pair an unattractive actress with a hot man, it’s part o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:56 AM
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Well the point being….I think murder, snuff films, kiddie porn etc are all things that we would not want people engaged in. We never talk about those things either. I think all those things are way worse to be involved in than being a hooker. But sex work is a pretty damaging profession at any age. Virtually everyone agrees. His premise that because it’s not talked about that people are “okay” with it is false. I feel like being a sex worker is like being an alcoholic, I can’t stop you but you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:44 PM
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….I think he means the opposite…..why do you hear so much about age gaps and not sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:21 PM
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Yeah, I kind of agree, it’s often the opposite. Especially in comedies. Seth Rogan is constantly cast with actresses way more attractive than his actual wife, who isn’t ugly, but more of a looks match. Remember when the fat version of Jonah Hill eventually pulled Emma Stone in Superbad? 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:00 PM
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Eeehhhhh….Only Fans is a fine line depending on how rank the content is for me. It would make me sad though, even if it was pretty soft core.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:37 PM
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False dichotomy, false premise. Men aren’t one or the other. Too much alpha behavior is exhausting, you need some beta traits or the relationship is chaotic. Most women need comfort as the primary relationship element with a bit of alpha thrown in to keep you on your toes and surprise you once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:32 PM
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lol….CARY GRANT? Are you kidding? he aged really well too, an absolute DILF. Middle aged Cary Grant was about as handsome as a middle aged man can get As a young man, Peter O’Toole was definitely a pretty boy https://images.app.goo.gl/zvw3SZTiohxjZvki6
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:20 PM
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Top answer by far in the thread he linked…Alain Delon He didn’t age as well as many other famous actors, but my lord he was spectacular when he was young.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:55 PM
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top 1% I would say that 1 out of every 100 men I see is top 1%….funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:52 PM
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Julia and Paul Child apparently had a crazy sex life, she once wrote a friend that it worried her how much her mind became consumed with sex after she met her husband. He also used to come home on his lunch hour for a quickie. https://images.app.goo.gl/agNWQJf8fdtJnrDL7
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:14 PM
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They had almost 10 years together. He died at 90 she lived a few more years, died at 92.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:46 PM
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Meh…my widowed grandma got remarried at 79 and he was 80. Their wedding pictures are full of them beaming at each other…and yes…apparently they banged. I was over 30 when I started dating my h, age happens so slowly that if you are happy with your partner, you just don’t see what others see.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:18 PM
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This includes the freedom to make decisions others deem unwise. The nuance that always gets overlooked….just because something is, and absolutely should be legal doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. There are plenty of legal things that are ill advised at any age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:52 AM
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I think everyone in this thread is ignoring the effect frequent sex has on our hormones, and how those hormones affect how we see our partners. Oxytocin is released when people have sex, when you emotionally bond with someone you don’t really look at their appearance completely objectively. Just like everyone thinks their kids are beautiful, if your relationship is strong, your partner is better looking to you than to strangers. People think they are better looking than they are. They also think…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:36 AM
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I do agree that women have always been more tied to church and religion for their social structure and support, but EVERYONE is leaving church. Even Mormons can’t keep the younger generations, and being Catholic has become a cultural identity, no longer a religious one. The churches just can never shut up about politics and culture wars. I think even conservative people are tired of all conflation of patriotism and religion. Unless churches change their opinions on homosexuality and abortion, wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:32 AM
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Plenty of women might not mind a big dude, there’s a couple in my town that own a restaurant…she’s gorgeous and he weighs easily over 300 lbs. But I would absolutely never date an obese person, not to fat shame, I just personally don’t find it attractive in the least
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:02 AM
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Other traits, such as being obese or having a high-pitched voice, do not carry the same weight in women's avg attraction preferences Not buying this, obesity is a much bigger dealbreaker for lots of women. I think most non obese women feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:58 AM
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lol….my young widowed friend is on a dating app that has an option to choose “body type” and PLENTY of middle aged people, both men and women, think they look fit and athletic. Their profile pics tell a different tale.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:54 AM
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I actually do think it might well make it the hardest to online date on platforms that have height filters. Lots of women might never even see your profile . I’ve never seen a bald filter, an obesity filter, a neurotypical filter or a depth of voice filter. In real life? I dated a guy who was shorter than me, I’m guessing he was 5’5? He was an incredibly good looking guy, he never lacked for female interest. If you have something going on for you in other areas, being short is not a dealbreaker.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:39 AM
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So why should a 20 year woman be allowed to have an onlyfans but not not have the right to go out with whoever she wants? Literally noone thinks age 18 you should be legally prohibited from either dating people twice your age or doing porn. What is legally allowed doesn’t mean you personally need to find it healthy, appropriate or acceptable behavior. I think everyone would rather see their child date someone twice their age than be a sex worker though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:23 AM
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There is no perfect age to suddenly have rights This is where the problem lies. There is obviously not a one size fits all age for all rights and age limits are pretty arbitrary at the end of the day. I think most people find 18 an appropriate legal cut off, but just because it’s a legal cutoff, you can’t expect all people to be fully supportive and on board with all activity that happens to be legal. What is a felony conviction and a lifetime of being on the sex offender registry one day isn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:41 PM
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Women only have an opinion on age gap relationships but don't seem to care if these children do sex work I think 18 year olds should be legally allowed to date whoever they want and be legally allowed to be sexworkers. I wouldn’t want my 18 year old kid dating a forty year old regardless of gender and I definitely wouldn’t a child of mine to do sex work at any age. I can’t imagine many women looking at an 18 year old wanting to do sex work and thinking it’s a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 01:10 PM
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Where’s the old redpill mod u/Mrs_drgree ? She said it was men’s job to convince women to date them, women’s job to convince men to marry them. I think this is often accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 12:59 PM
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I think the part you missed is that I said most people date for MUTUAL sexual attraction. Men may always rate an 18 year old to objectively the most attractive, but it’s just as important for most men to not only have a desirable sex partner, but to be genuinely desired in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:35 PM
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consistent sex If she doesn’t find you attractive, good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:37 PM
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I think Jo Koy is adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:43 PM
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It’s a poor analogy, based on a fallacy. People date on mutual sexual attraction, not on potential, and not on current finances, unless they are sugar babies or gold diggers (I.e. prostitutes) having sex for money. I don’t know any guys who expect hot women to date them because they have potential, or any hot young girls who date a man’s potential. And the vast majority of both men and women don’t want a fat person, even other fat people. I actually don’t even care if they are broke at any age, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:03 PM
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When I was young and broke I didn’t like men who were also young and broke? News to me. I wasn’t dating resumes or wallets when I was young, I was dating who I thought was cute. So were my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 09:23 AM
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I don't consider it acting to say things purposefully that will turn her on, or vice versa. "Acting" to me implies insincerity of intention. Agreed. You said it better than I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:45 AM
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Are you completely relaxed and natural yourself during sex Yes. Best part of an ltr is feeling completely free and natural during sex. I will say that I have had great sex in almost total silence, and moaning isn’t necessarily required for sex, but it’s a way of telling my partner “you are really great at that” and “for the love of god, don’t stop, don’t change it up, stay the course”, lol. I don’t “act” in the sense that I don’t vocalize what doesn’t feel absolutely great. I think accurate feed…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 01:00 AM
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if everyone’s not having fun, no one should be having fun we all have to do things we don’t necessarily love to appease our partners Well ….make up your mind is all I can say. Should no one be having fun if everyone isn’t having fun or should we do things we don’t find fun to appease our partner? Do we “have” to have porn sex that does nothing for us as long as it isn’t downright painful?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:46 PM
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Well when u/Barneysparky suggested most women aren’t crazy about 10 minutes of jackhammering followed by 10 minutes of deep throat, your answer was Yeah, and a lot of men don’t like a lot of things that they do for women but it’s a give-and-take if you want a successful relationship Kinda of implies she should “take one for the team”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:27 PM
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If she is having sex that doesn’t do anything for her, and is even potentially uncomfortable, she should just suck it up, bite the pillow and allow you to keep jackhammering her into a bruised cervix and a uti? Should she also fake it and pretend to like what’s going down?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 08:41 PM
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Yeah….no. I completely agree with her. Getting pounded in doggy for 15 minutes, no reach around, jackhammered with zero contact with my clit, horrible oral where the guy isn’t using his whole mouth. None of that is fun, some of it is downright unpleasant. And I like sex…a lot. But most of the “techniques” in porn don’t do it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 06:32 PM
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I got around, my husband got around more…way more. I don’t know any former “party girls” who married anyone else but former “party boys”. Almost all the weddings I’ve attended have been well attended by former hookups of both the bride and groom. The “hot young guys” of our youth turned into our husbands. None of my rowdier friends would ever consider dating some low n count conservative guy. I can’t decide if it’s paranoia or wishful thinking, but unless you are old and flashing cash for the go…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:58 PM
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One million % agree. There is no room for any physical “monogamish” contact in my marriage on either side. I don’t care if he watches porn, has female friends etc. But there isn’t any options for swinging, threesomes, enm, ….no sex with others, no exceptions
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:52 PM
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TLDR, lots of words to say….. People grow up, they mature and settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 12:30 PM
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Yet only men are vilified for having that drive. Really? Gosh, I guess no woman has ever been called a slut before.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:27 AM
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You just described af/bb in reverse. The theory that women want hot fun guys when they are young and boring, strait laced guys with good jobs when they are older.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:13 AM
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Tell him then. https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/donald-trump/trump-was-able-kill-roe-v-wade-rcna84897
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:04 AM
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But men shouldn’t be bothering with the women who have sex with hot men Don’t you think these overseas women see average white western guys as “hot guys” though? An average westerner is still taller, richer and more desirable than the guys from their own country. Seems like men from their own country might see this as “poor behavior”. It might not be so much that these women have less shallow tastes, just that their definition of Chad might be different? We had that pudgy guy who always posted a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 12:45 AM
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There is no answer. Affairs of the heart and the genitals are both fraught with disappointment. And I am firmly in the camp that at the end of the day, part of the vetting process includes sex too. I can’t imagine being really emotionally invested in and committing to someone without knowing if you feel sexually compatible with them. There is really no answer, you can never guarantee that you won’t get hurt….or hurt someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:44 AM
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You underestimate greatly to what length men are able to go if it means potentially getting laid. No….I don’t underestimate it at all. The guys out to bag numbers with cheesy pick up lines are easy to shift through, the “shy boy” who “ cares” is the one who will jump on the opportunity to date and have sex with a woman he doesn’t find attractive simply because she approached him. He might not be as successful, but he’s not inherently any more or less moral than the extrovert. He’ll still have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:27 AM
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I get downvoted every time I say this…men definitely can’t relate, but being rejected before sex by someone not really interested isn’t as bad as being rejected after sex. Most guys think they would be glad to be pumped and dumped by a woman still had sex! Don't sleep with him quickly. Dating is a vetting process, and your vetting process has to include steps that account for this somehow You’re not entirely wrong. But apparently you’re not here for the “I’d date her but not marry her”, “she’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:19 AM
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someone you only see as a potential sex toy, and if you're used to it Wtf does this even mean? Most women don’t look at men they want relationships with as potential sex toys. This makes men who don't care about women a lot more likely to approach them, while men who do care are too afraid to potentially make them feel uneasy. I call bullshit on this one. Most guys just out to bag numbers aren’t going to actually have a conversation with a woman or try get to know her, unless of course they thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:04 AM
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Women have a much higher acceptance rate for sex FTFY. This is exactly why women don’t, because too many men with actual zero interest in us or attraction to us will still accept our offer. Women, usually, want a guy who is out of their league The men we feel the most desire to approach are the ones we want relationships with. Getting pumped and dumped by a guy you have relationship interest is bad, but much worse is the thought that the guy who just pumped and dumped you was, in a moment of pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:23 AM
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Yeah, that’s not true in the least. Any guy that ever approached me without me first giving him a green light by making eye contact and smiling ? That guy definitely didn’t get anywhere with me, in fact him approaching without any ioi pretty much ruled him out then and in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:14 AM
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I hope you are right is all I can say.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:56 AM
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I use old reddit, but when I click on these photos and then hit the back button, I don’t return to reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:24 AM
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Boy that’s an old post…do you have any idea how to make those photos return to reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:06 AM
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Yikes…this is a weird take tbh. I wouldn’t say either men or women treat their partners badly because they earn significantly more. The only trend I would see as likely is that if your partner is an asshole to you, they probably won’t be your partner for long.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 12:07 PM
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Per the US Labor Bureau, the median individual income from Q4 2023 for full time workers translates to a salary of $59,540/year. I live in a rural area with a “median income” of under 30k, but that includes everyone with income, including people on disability, social security and part time workers. When you look at people with full time jobs, 60k is the median. “Most” is only a slight exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:47 AM
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I”m pretty happily married and that’s EXACTLY how I ended up here though. Debating is definitely something you don’t want to engage in with your significant other just for kicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:36 AM
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I’ve never looked at that sub, but to say there are no women who struggle to find a long term relationship because of their looks or their mental illness is ridiculous. Looks are irrelevant if you are offering free sex. There will always be a taker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:50 PM
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they are getting attention Getting someone to throw a dick in you is easy. Getting someone to throw a dick in you and give you $10 on top of it is easy. It's also safe to assume not ALL these men are simply looking for a quickie, across anonymous long distance channels no less; it's just what the women are assuming. And if you are one of these women…..is she supposed to let ten pump and dump on the chance that one might stick around? Even attractive women have pretty low odds with internet rando…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:46 PM
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This isn’t a misery competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:40 PM
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It’s absolutely not exaggerated. Will all men have sex with a bridge troll? No. Will a 5’2”, 300 lb middle aged alcoholic woman with horrible body odor be able to walk into a bar on a Saturday night and find more than one man, some actually relatively attractive men, willing to have sex with her? All day, every day. I tended bar for five years, have seen it with my own eyes. saying they are constantly ignored or feel invisible That could well be true, if said woman is a bridge troll. They could …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:26 AM
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No one wants them TO BE THEIR GIRLFRIEND. Plenty of men will have sex with a bridge troll. Men pay this woman for sex: https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibd5OVRJ61i4ld4oCQKG_MSy6H9U6DB1xgMZZm4td8vB8FJ3wg18utFMtQX56AjCjYq-yoxSks-VeE5kQVMBEpU2MlHJT8dIuB903AMRd9jDjBFeJo9aGegEP6ghcNAxRGWnhmuA/s1600-h/Prostitute-MugShots-26.jpg
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:36 AM
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So therefore, do a lot of guys really have to worry with other people will think of people are mostly care about the results rather than the how you obtained it? If it turns out you were right, then you have been vindicated and I think you are correct…no one will care. If it turns out you were wrong? Why tell anyone? Take that shit to the grave and raise your kid. No good can come of you putting out a “paternity confirmed” announcement.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:30 AM
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they cannot keep a LTR I see this disconnect all the time. When men say “these women have no problem dating” it generally only considers they have no problem getting sex or short term relationships. To many of these guys, getting sex and casual relationships = no problems. When women say “they have problems dating”, they mean these women have trouble finding a good husband she’s attracted to and compatible with. Women with mental health issues definitely don’t lack for sex and also definitely st…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:42 PM
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women must stay virgin or lose value. This is sexist. And it is still sexist, even if the incel also slutshames men. Maybe you need to revisit the definition of sexist “characterized by or showing prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination on the basis of sex. How is it sexist when I think women who waste hours a day on playing video games are just as sad and pathetic? The gender of the boring loser is irrelevant of their sex, my opinion of said loser is not based on their sex. That, by definiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:10 PM
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There’s a whole host of hormones that contribute to our health and well being….testosterone and oxytocin are only two.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:25 AM
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my testosterone is fine just because I have better things to do 🤣🤣🤣 I have better things to do than have sex all the time. Like interior decorating? Try an asexual boyfriend next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:12 AM
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hey this is way out of character for me but life is short, you're beautiful and you have a friendly aura so on the off chance that you're single I would love to get to know you over a drink sometime if you're interested'. Oooo my god….NO! Just no. Cold approach is fine…but that ⬆️ Cringe. Ugh. You think striking up random conversations with people makes them MORE uncomfortable than whatever that was? I met my ex, who wasn’t conventionally attractive, in a bar. He struck up a conversation that la…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 12:21 AM
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Dude….so much to unpack I can’t even start. Stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:47 PM
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at my age it's not going to be often Again, check your testosterone. he can still have her come to his room when he wants her. Wtf? Boy…you really know how to woo a woman and get her in the mood 🙄. Jfc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:45 PM
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In this entire thread…you totally ignore that the BEDROOM and the BED is where most sex happens. And not just sex, it’s where most physical affection and physical closeness happens. Sharing oxytocin is how we bond and what gives us that feeling we call love. Imho, nothing feels better. Yeah, lucky me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:43 PM
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What if he actually cares about fucking often even more than he cares the color of his curtains?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:25 PM
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I kind of feel like it went…. Boss kicked man Man kicked wife Wife kicked kid Kid kicked dog I don’t think you are necessarily wrong, I think the vast majority of men had little power. But I also think many men were fond of using what little power they had, and often the only power they had was over their own wives and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:21 PM
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So you made a date a few times a week for sex? Best part of cohabitation is frequent and spontaneous sex imho. Get your testosterone checked
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:11 PM
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I think my husband is more interested in going to sleep and waking up with a naked wife who might be willing to have sex than the color of the walls in the bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:09 PM
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Oh HELL no. My husband curls up every night as the top spoon, I’m bottom spoon. I love it and so does he. Besides…why waste all that morning wood?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:39 PM
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But thing is, most girls who go to libraries, go to the clubs as well Very true….and those same women go to the library to study and they go to a bar to have fun, let loose and maybe meet someone. Saying you will never find someone at the place people go to have fun and meet someone is lunacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:33 PM
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Best response. Most people in their mid to late 20’s aren’t having long conversations about partner count before having sex. If you go in for a kiss and stop and say “btw, I’m a virgin” that is going to make it weird. First time between two people is often awkward anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 09:36 AM
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If a woman’s high body count will just get her rejected then she should just be dishonest…..oh wait…..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 09:21 AM
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lost weight in face….is probably a huge and underrated improvement
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 02:18 PM
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I don’t disagree with you, but sometimes it’s easier said than done. I fell in love at 20 without knowing by 27 that I would be ready to get married and be forever monogamous. My bf did not see things the same way. It’s hard to predict someone’s future behavior when they barely have a past to look to. How can you know someone is going to be a cheater if they are a 20 year old virgin? That’s why “marry young” and “grow with them” often don’t work out as planned.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 01:42 PM
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Yep, that’s what he said! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:25 AM
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Considering the large number of women who have confirmed that male family members deserved to be mistrusted, I’m not sure this thread has turned out like you have thought. I recognize the danger inherent in driving, but also recognize that being able to drive is good and necessary for my happiness in life. It doesn’t mean I speed around mountain roads or don’t wear my seatbelt. You can be crippled by being overly neurotic, you can also be overly reckless. Neither extreme will bring happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:27 AM
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It is possible to vet and choose well you know. Her husband is the exception for who she trusts. That doesn’t mean all other men are rapists. They just aren’t vetted. Most people aren’t thieves either. Doesn’t mean it’s wise to let random people you don’t know well access to your bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:19 AM
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Nice you can be so cavalier about ending a relationship. Your attitude towards marriage is the same I had towards my friends with benefits. But I didn’t love them, they weren’t my family. My husband is my lover and my family. I take love seriously. I had only one true love relationship break up after 7 years. Outside of family death, it was the most devastating loss I have ever faced. I personally would have never had another deep romantic relationship if I thought this one wouldn’t have worked …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:48 AM
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Okay. He starts to share lots of oxytocin with someone else, this definitely can happen. Good you are prepared. Wash, rinse and repeat relationships aren’t something I’m looking for at this stage in my life. This one was hard enough to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:12 AM
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And what happens if he starts to like fucking someone else more, if he wants to go to bed with her and wake-up with her instead of you? What happens if he decides those pair bonding feelings have shifted to another, feels that this other woman should be his primary relationship? https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306453021002894 Sharing orgasms with people leads to all kinds of other emotions and oxytocin is a hell of a drug. Just saying. You do you…good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:50 AM
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Yeah, I have a two really close friends who I have a dedicated and loving relationship with and they don’t involve sex at all. I also have a husband who I fuck. That’s kind of what makes it different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:36 AM
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common sex acts like spanking or choking Common? Yeah, they really weren’t 15 years ago. It’s only common among younger people who grew up with porn. https://www.straight.com/living/savage-love-risky-choking-trend-likely-originated-in-porn
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:51 AM
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Wow, I actually agree with Barely-moral 🤝 I don’t get the point of open relationships tbh. Closed is what makes a relationship different from a fwb
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:52 PM
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While I'm sitting here in Dubai as a lawyer I’m sitting here in the beautiful, cool, lush mountains and I don’t do shit except tend my garden, travel, take a swim or a hike, and do whatever I want. I retired years ago in my 40’s. Keep that nose to the grindstone! I’m sure on your deathbed you will wish you worked even more. Those kids are expensive. And enjoy your beautiful weather.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:26 PM
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People in general, but women in particular tend to actually have the best sex when they are in relationships. OP actually only stated compared to other hookups, her bf was the best…and after they were in a relationship the sex got better. But most probably had mediocre sex the first time, not mind blowing. I’ve definitely had really bad sex as my first sex with someone , and yes..it has been so bad that I would never, ever want a repeat. But usually the “best” and most “mind blowing “ isn’t in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:09 PM
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I think it’s more subculture than geography although the south definitely has more social conservatives. Both then and now. If you were in the bar scene/club scene/live music scene in New Orleans or Atlanta in the 80-90’s, hookups leading to relationships was the norm. I tended bar in both NYC and New Orleans late 80’s to early 90’s, I can tell you people in the New Orleans bar scene were way more promiscuous. The drinks were cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:09 PM
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you wanna be able to keep traveling Yep! Spending all of January in Florida. It’s a blast. you sit there in your 50's resenting your life Already there, …life is still good. you will be sad about it Your guilt will be very big one day when your husband starts hating you for never wanting kids Not yet, still waiting. He absolutely didn’t want them either. We are both pretty happy. But thanks for your concern. Btw, if you have this great life with kids…why are you so angry? You should be glad othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:34 PM
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I don’t know if this counts as “making a man wait”, but from first acknowledging I was attracted to my husband and would want to be in a relationship with him, and when we actually ended up having sex,it was at least three months. Before that, most guys I dated or hooked up with I met casually, was sexually attracted to, slept with, and then with a few, caught feels or started an actual relationship. My h and I had been friends for years and he’s the only guy I had serious feels for before sex. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:15 PM
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I inadvertently did. ☹️. It was with a coworker and I thought it was understood that it was a totally casual thing. Two hookups and he cried on the shoulders of every mutual friend we had. I was pretty awkward, Ngl…and it didn’t make me feel great.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:27 PM
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Sure. If that how you want to frame it, doesn’t bother me in the least. I’m pretty happy with my life. Maybe I failed to sexually reproduce, but I succeeded as a human being who didn’t bring any unwanted kids into the world. A huge failure as a human being would definitely be to have some pathetic, incel troll as a kid. How’s your mom by the way?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:30 PM
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I have two friends who were seemingly met their perfect match in class... 12 years later they're happily married. I was with my ex from ages 20 to 27. He was 1” taller, not especially handsome, he was probably slightly aspie, definitely didn’t win any genetic lottery except for intelligence, but I loved him dearly at one time. He cheated. He is still single to this day. we all make our own luck and spout dismissive remarks such as how lucks for losers, or even that they straight up don't believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:14 PM
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Not just a change in taste. The fuck boys, frat boys, casual sex boys of our youth compared to the more boring , stable men we married? They are usually the same guy 10 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:39 AM
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Brad Pitt in that photo is considered absolute perfection by many women for a reason though. It’s an unrealistic ideal to maintain a bf that low, but more muscle would not have improved that fight club body.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:25 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/w28XgF2dyYy3gjAPA
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:11 AM
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Most men who are active in athletics and not fat look great to me. My h has never seen the inside of a gym. 5’11” and 165 lbs, he has plenty of muscle for my taste by being active…hiking, kayaking, biking have all helped keep him looking great imho. He spent today cutting firewood.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:05 AM
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Older men and younger men also are gross to me to think about having sex with, women are a turn off, anyone remotely into BDSM on either side are an absolute ick. Am I ageist, misogynistic or kink shaming? Family members…..lol, I’m from the south but yeah…that’s gross. There are all sorts of people I don’t want to have sex with. And all sorts of mental images of sexual behavior that definitely give me the ick. I once got the permanent ick for a guy when I found out he slept with our resident fat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:57 AM
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I love lean athletic guys, personally not attracted to weightlifter bodies, although I acknowledge many women are. https://images.app.goo.gl/EHhb1j2w5A8UqcVM9 I prefer the before more than the after
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:44 AM
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My husband was a WAY bigger slut than me. Meaning is your LTR partner safe, reliable, stable, kind, and maybe a bit boring compared to the guys from your past? Yeah, he is. He’s older now, just like I am. He’s definitely more stable, safe and reliable than most of the guys of my youth, he’s also WAY more stable safe and reliable now than when he was young himself. So am I. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:34 AM
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should not have made babies when you are uncertain about your future You mean she should have made sure “the child would have adequate resources “? Horrors ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:06 PM
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All good now, have a great husband. It all worked out in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 12:02 PM
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And the definition of a hag is “ a witch, especially one in the form of an ugly old woman (often used as a term of disparagement for a woman).” But totally doesn’t reinforce any negative stereotypes. 🤣 It’s just a saying. Whatever. Women are used to men refusing to be held accountable for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:25 PM
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I guess “whatever” is now zoomer slang for “I’m emotional and upset”? And “man up” is evidence of extreme misandry or…like the top comment on that thread “ Yes, it's an insult to demand men conform to oppressive gender roles.” Whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:02 PM
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Do animals also not have instincts to provide for their offspring? Procreation doesn’t end at sex. Do you think any of us humans would be here if women gave birth alone in the forest without anyone helping her? Do you think your appeal to nature holds up on some ethical grounds, with male reproductive strategy being a moral good and female reproductive strategy being psycho? Let’s see. Who was the most effective male at passing on his genes? https://www.discovermagazine.com/planet-earth/1-in-200…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 12:56 PM
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Yeah, my friend is in that age range, was widowed a few years ago, totally grey, looks every bit her age and then some. Her message box is full of guys looking for any casual sex they can find online. Plenty of dudes will smash anything. Most people who are single and middle aged are that way for a reason. The odds are good, but the goods are odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:41 AM
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Guys here had a fucking stroke at the saying “man up” just a few days ago, but calling women hags is “just a term”. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:35 AM
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You realize the age when the divorce happens =/= the age the marriage happens, right? The statistics you posted on divorce in Romania is the age at which the divorce occurred, which is predominantly middle aged, but the typical divorce in Romania is also among marriages of long duration. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1095858/romania-number-of-divorces-by-marriage-duration/ Lots of middle aged people getting divorced after20 years? Sounds like a lot of people who got married young to me. Sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:16 AM
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And which countries are these? Ones that have no divorce to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:43 AM
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Well again…my ex failed to get that memo and was very clear…after 7 years he had no intention of marrying the only woman he had sex with. And….he cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:22 AM
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Getting married doesn't require that, getting married EARLY requires that. Getting married early? “48 percent of those who marry before the age of 18 are likely to divorce within 10 years, compared to 25 percent of those who marry after the age of 25. A total 60 percent of couples married between the age of 20 -25 will end in divorce.” Most women want to have atleast a couple of one night stands with hotter guys instead of getting married early. Are young men looking to marry the first and only …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:06 AM
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Lies , damned lies and statistics. Statistics are very different depending on how you slice them, aren’t they? The median income for “ single” you quoted does not exclude single with children. Those never married and those divorced with children? My statement was women have similar incomes until they have children, not until they get married. https://www.city-journal.org/article/penalizing-ourselves Research from Denmark, Canada and Japan all show the same stark effect that having kids has on wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 08:51 AM
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Every promiscuous woman was once a virgin you know……… Women who intentionally stay virgins look for low n count men Women who want virgin guys aren’t the same women who just want to bang some dude to get it over with. She isn’t “dating” that guy, much less settling down into some monogamous ltr with him. she’s just ripping off the virginity bandaid If you want to marry a virgin, then most of those women will prefer a low n count husband, if you want to simply deflower many virgins, then be a pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:01 AM
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And what are some things a guy can do to show that he does know what he’s doing? There are two things that a guy who is both good in bed and has been with lots of women knows that no two women enjoy exactly the same thing. What they like probably won’t look like how it’s done in porn. So the first step is to acknowledge no matter what you think someone should like, or what you have had other women like, you are starting from scratch with a new partner. Get to know the true, physical signs of aro…
/r/seduction03/09/24 01:25 AM
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Just for clarity, human males might be only slightly bigger, but they certainly aren’t just 15% stronger. Men’s upper body strength is almost twice that of women. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8477683/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:52 PM
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Not if the bro just hooked up with your sister, or your daughter, or sometimes even your female friend. My father began warning me about men in my early teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:37 PM
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6’ tall 6”dick 6 figure salary=.666. “Men love to say that women date by the 6-6-6 rule – they want 6 feet, 6 inches, and 6 figures” https://datingkindasucks.com/2023/10/13/s06e16-is-the-6-6-6-rule-truth-or-fiction/ How did I know if he was 7”? Saw it up close? , it was definitely an outlier. So 7” is pretty good guess I would say based on what I have seen before. As it turns out I have a really sensitive cervix, especially at certain times of the month, and comfortable positions were limited. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:00 PM
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It’s funny people still use him as the example of an attractive older guy still pulling hot young chicks on his looks. He’s looked rough for almost a decade. Jared Leto however…….he’d be pulling plenty of younger women even if he were a barista.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:13 PM
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I wish I had 10 upvotes to give you. My first boyfriend was 25 and had been married. I assumed he knew what he was doing, I thought my sex life was great. Wrong. My ex was better in bed after a week and he had been a virgin. Despite my first being convinced that he knew what he was doing……he did not. I had no clue how much better sex could be. My h and I know what we like and how to communicate that. Dated a 6/6/6. Actually 6’4”, 7” and the equivalent of $250k a year. Things did not fit. Like un…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:56 PM
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get into much more consumer debt Not true. Women have less debt in every category except for student loan debt. Men have more credit card debt, significantly more car loan debt. https://www.investopedia.com/average-credit-scores-by-gender-5214525 But yeah, women pay less in tax BECAUSE they earn less, they earn less throughout their childbearing years especially. So your solution is women should work more? Great. I’m all for equality, but that means an even lower birth rate. All of this also cos…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 05:55 PM
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Affirmative action for men is already happening at liberal arts colleges. https://www.ivywise.com/ivywise-knowledgebase/resources/article/the-truth-about-affirmative-action-for-men/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 05:26 PM
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Meanwhile we had been having good sex for 15+ min What is “good sex”. for 15 minutes and how long does it usually take you? Is that piv for 15 minutes? Most intercourse lasts 5 minutes. She might have assumed you couldn’t finish at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 10:02 AM
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the protectors of societies from physical threats Men are easily twice as strong, no doubt. But outside of the occasional heavy lifting this doesn’t have that much relevance in our lives Obviously both my husband and I have an enormous amount of privilege to live in an incredibly safe area of the US where we have never seen warfare. We sleep with doors and windows open, but should something happen, I’m calling 911, not sending my husband out to be a human shield. There is actually a man and wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:59 PM
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Well, I earned WAY more than my husband, easily 3 times what he made when we first started dating. I have a degree in engineering which is somewhat untraditional. The money is our money, his retirement account is similar to mine. We are still happy together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:30 PM
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Whoa….who said all that? I definitely didn’t want to date or have sex with men for a long time after having my trust broken. I don’t think it’s that rare. I would assume a sizable portion of women sayin “all men are trash” aren’t actively dating. Edit…in hindsight I probably wasn’t very well adjusted after that, but I certainly didn’t hate my father or brothers. I definitely didn’t trust men in a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:22 PM
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Have sex with? Yes. We have a poster here who has admitted to love degrading black hookers. Date? That’s got to be pretty rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:20 PM
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Some don’t. I stayed celibate for almost three years in my “men are trash” phase after my ex cheated on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:10 PM
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Misogynistic: hatred of or prejudice against women mi·​sog·​y·​nis·​tic mə-ˌsä-jə-ˈni-stik. : feeling, showing, or characterized by hatred of or prejudice against women If you are harmed by paternalism, and that paternalism is caused by prejudice? Yes. Looking at the definition of both sexist and misogynistic, both involve being prejudiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:47 PM
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“Allowed”? I can divorce my h because I suddenly decide I don’t like his eye color anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:30 PM
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Lots of people have protective and paternalistic instincts because they love women, especially women in their life. That doesn’t mean their well intentioned actions can’t ultimately hurt women. I skipped a grade in school and could have done early college admission at 16, my mother supported it, my father said absolutely not. It was definitely because I was a girl, I had a completely different set of rules than my brothers. I definitely called him sexist at the time. We will never know if it hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:16 PM
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Certain lifestyles just don't work well unless you're both into it too. Certain things definitely matter way more than others, my husband was beyond thrilled that I was an experienced and enthusiastic tent camper because many other girlfriends weren’t. We now have an old Airstream camper from the sixties and both love long trips in it. We both really love old homes and collecting folk art which could be very off putting to someone who likes every minimalist and modern. Other hobbies or interests…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:47 AM
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I assume her benefit is money and his is sex? You don’t need a relationship for that. If a woman is reduced to selling sex she doesn’t want to have, why not just go professional? Stack cash for a decade and coast on dividends. That’s got to be more lucrative. The thought of having sex with some guy “for resources “ feels gross, like a cross between rape and prostitution. At least as a bonifide whore, the money is hers to do with what she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:41 AM
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Yeah. My brother said he was told it was also like when an animal raises their hackles. He lives right across the Georgia border. Don’t bow up at me is definitely don’t arch your back like you’re ready to start a fight. Like how a boxer stands. Around where I live it is often used “like grow a spine”, “stand with pride”, assert yourself if someone tells you to bow up. Bow up and don’t bow up have similar meaning with different implications, one implying aggression, the other is more assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:03 AM
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It is extremely beautiful. Lots of people don’t realize there are mountains in Georgia. They alway think of the Smokies between NC and TN, but we are close. My bil lived in Charlottesville Va which was really pretty but flattens surprisingly fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:26 AM
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lol, no kin around these parts here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:13 AM
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This is the North Georgia, near the end of the Appalachian Mountains.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:08 AM
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Too late now. My h was an absolute slutwhen he was a teen and in his 20’s before he quit drinking, I had a few years in my early thirties where I was no angel either. So far so good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:05 AM
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Here in the Deep South I hear the non gendered “bow up”, or basically assert yourself or “bow up and get it” which is basically get busy and stop whining. Unless used by parents …”don’t bow up at me” is don’t argue with me, or sass me and listen to what I tell you to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:01 AM
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If she is average or above and in her 20’s, she will eventually have someone show interest at the gym, at work or the supermarket. Those guys might or might not be what she’s looking for. If she socializes, and puts herself out there in a target rich environment, she has a better chance of finding someone she can really get excited about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:43 PM
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At least men are honest by not downplaying the importance of affection and intimacy. I think plenty of men are dishonest. It seems to me that there are women on one side who are crowing about how happy they are when they do wish they have a relationship, but this sub is also full of guys who claim to dislike women and only want sex. Plenty claim their dream is casual sex from multiple women at the same time. Some of these men may be telling the truth , but I suspect others would be thrilled with…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:12 PM
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Haha, I had an ex that didn’t exactly “lie” but definitely danced around the truth. I didn’t find out until much later in our relationship. He talked about a girl he “hooked up with” which never got past second base. An “ex” who apparently was a girl he took to homecoming and prom and got a kiss on the cheek from. Tried to lose it to a hooker at a brothel in Nevada but said the whole thing was sad. I think it would be super weird if you got into some detailed discussions of time, place and posit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:37 PM
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……Nah, I think you are wrong in the sense that lots of men fight tooth and nail to defend the double standard. The whole lock and key analogy. I’ve read it’s fine for a man to have a high count because it’s hard for a man to be slutty, so it’s an accomplishment he had to work for, but it’s bad for a woman because it’s easy to be slutty and a sign she lacks self control. You have influencers telling women they need to be chaste but allow a high value man to cheat. What you don’t see is high n cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:52 PM
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Women don't want virgin men. Women want virgin alphas Fair enough. I think some women definitely want this, some dream of a high beta. Seems like men also want low n count, high sexual openness women. Those things are hard to find in one person, especially after a certain age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:40 PM
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That’s exactly what broke up my 7 year relationship 🤷‍♀️. He wasn’t low n count by choice, I was his first and together we became very financially successful. I know for a fact he thought money would make him a chick magnet. Told me he had no intention of marrying his first. Ended up cheating. My h was an absolute slut in his teens and twenties…..haven’t caught him cheating. I think sexually conservative guys who choose to be low n count are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:34 PM
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Hookers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:26 PM
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Ugh…I absolutely know they did. So cringey. 🤣 I think parents are generally weirder and more protective of their daughter’s sexuality. Obviously at 20, if I bring home a boyfriend for Thanksgiving, we are probably having sex, but no one really wants to hear about it. Plus when you’re horny and 20, you just want to roll around naked with your boyfriend all day. It’s like being a kid with a new toy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:09 AM
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Noooo…..so weird in my parents house…..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:42 AM
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Probably not from one night stands
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:41 AM
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Started working at 15, left for college at 17, and didn’t even go home in the summer. Worked at a resort instead. I didn’t lose my virginity until 19…. In a college dorm. Dropped out for a while, moved to New Orleans at 19 and got my own apartment. Met my ex at 20 and we moved together to New York City at 21. But absolutely no way not living on my own would not have affected my sex life at 20-27. Primed up with an iud and a sex fiend boyfriend we were banging 15 times a week minimum for the firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:03 AM
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So men don’t even change these filters? Her bottom is set 5 years younger to 10 older. She gets messages from all kinds of ages. I know she sees lots of men her age with their filters including much much younger. Her assumption is they would probably date her but would prefer a 25 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:49 AM
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She looks at their profiles and mostly doesn’t respond. They message her first. So how is she supposed to approach dating as a “used up” woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:45 AM
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I had no idea that the 25 to 40 filter was some sort of default for 50 year old guys. 🧐 How they approach dating? I mean yeah…she gets lots of messages daily that she doesn’t respond to. She’s at an age where she’s getting lots of divorced guys within 10 years of her age not looking for anything serious. And some guys 20 years older looking for a nurse with a purse. She nursed her husband the last three years of her life and no way is she interested in that at this stage of life. How is she supp…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:32 AM
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When the roster for the once a week, mixed gender beach volleyball game fills up, they start opening a second night. Or the bar down the street starts having beach volleyball. People start clubs all the time. Meetup groups are easy to schedule online. What other solution is available? Start a club with no members?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:07 AM
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Okay…you do you. Congrats on being awesome I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:02 AM
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You even have used up women in their 40’s and 50’s now thinking they’re hot and 18 My friend fits this demographic, widowed and “used up” I guess. Not fat, looks her age. I don’t think she’s looking for 18 year old boys. Men in her age range, 10 years older to 5 years younger message her in droves, but when she looks at their profiles, lots of them have their filters set to women 25 years younger to 10 years younger She assumes they would actually prefer younger and passes. Before this, women ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:00 AM
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Glad I’m not the only one…I’m googling this now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:46 AM
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…..you would practically be in menopause by the time you learn to adult. How do you have a sex life if you both live with your parents? It was bad enough with roommates stacked on top of each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:22 AM
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people are better off not dating if they are not whole in their own lives and content with their weight, finances, hobbies, careers, etc. Hard disagree. You are never going to be 100 % content, I fail to see how being single , horny and lonely is going to make being fat, broke and bored feel any better. My h and I have been through some huge challenges. Lost our house, our rental income, our community and our jobs/businesses in one day. Both of us had major challenges with long term degenerative…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:16 AM
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way too rigged You mean an app that makes more money by keeping you single? Color me shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:04 AM
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People are choosing not to utilize the social activities available then complaining that they don't exist. Came to say this. It’s somehow talked about like a conspiracy or intentional act. The fact is, it’s just good old supply and demand. If people were joining clubs, rec leagues etc., then they would stay open.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:01 AM
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I get what you are saying. But what if the guy can’t get aroused or can’t stay aroused without dominating someone or fantasizing about dominating someone. How do you separate out what part of a rape fetish is the need to dominate, from using domination in order to get sexually aroused? People get sexual gratification from all kinds of fetishes. “Peter Madsen murdered Kim Wall, a journalist, for sexual pleasure. The same day that Madsen met Wall, he searched the internet for “beheaded girl agony”…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:38 AM
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Scout masters , priests, etc definitely up the average. Some have hundreds of victims. We never got the details on my late bil, but something definitely happened to him. The predator was a coach, scoutmaster, worked in the city recreation department. My h and I were having dinner with his late brother’s ex wife and my h starts talking about how hurt he was that this mentor of his youth turned on him overnight. Literally just stopped talking to him one day. The ex wife tells him”you didn’t know? …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:56 PM
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rape is always a display of dominance I have read that a lot, …..it’s a popular opinion, and in the case of war? Probably quite likely, but not sure I believe the “always” part…or that everyone separates dominance from sexual gratification. I think for some people they can be intertwined.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:33 PM
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Had to edit….its 76 actually. Kids are such easy targets, they often don’t have the language to explain what is happening to them and often appreciate the attention at the time. Groomers pick lonely and ignored kids. Many predators are family members. It makes them less likely to be prosecuted because victims feel pressured from their own family to not report. My h has a story about his brother and the scout leader….🥺. His brother that committed suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:09 PM
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Honestly wouldn’t change it for the world
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:59 PM
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Just posted that too! II’m ahead of you. Average rapist has 7 victims Average child molester 73 ☹️ edit 76☹️☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:57 PM
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Still ubiquitous in Afghanistan today apparently https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kite_Runner I just posted about the Ukrainian prisoners , the Russians raped the men, not the women. Maybe rape used as terror really is a different animal than rape for sexual gratification
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:54 PM
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Holy fuck, I was 17. Those ages seem insane to me. Scandinavian parents, raised in the US. I can’t imagine tbh. I was a fully functioning, self sufficient adult by 19. How do you have a sex life if everyone is living at home in their 20’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:49 PM
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15% of middle age men have no close friends ….in 1990 it was only 3% of middle aged men. Even worse, 20% of single men have no friends. https://www.deseret.com/23574827/studies-friendships-middle-aged-men-no-friends/ https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/why-a-growing-number-of-american-men-say-they-are-in-a-friendship-recession No partner and no close friends sounds like an unhappy situation. I always say there is something deeper than sexlessness going on. (And of course get downvoted by the pussy…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:37 PM
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I saw a 60 minutes last year about captured Ukrainians, the Russian soldiers raped all the men and not the women. Clearly meant to terrorize. Ithink it was this … https://youtu.be/nERTik1asOE?si=zbDHhGfRSSc8irf_
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:32 PM
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Mmmmm press x to doubt on that one. I think .5% of all adult men are currently registered sex offenders and a significant number not yet caught or who will offend in the future. Ten times your number as a bare minimum I live in a rural area with a total population of 30k in my county and 1300 convicted, registered sex offenders. Two women. Factor out all the women and all the kids under 18? My county easily has 1% of the male population registered, convicted sex offenders. Still small….still 10 …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:26 PM
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They also leave a lot behind in divorce court.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:42 PM
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Cheaters need to be prepared to get a divorce when they get caught too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:29 PM
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Huh? The assumed subtext in the question what’s the pro in a traditional relationship is “what the pro in a traditional vrs non traditional relationship”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:25 PM
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Telling your husband to learn to sleep with one eye open if he cheats is better advice 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:08 PM
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Say it louder for all the singles in the back….this is why you need to be really sure before getting married, don’t quit your career and why you still need prenups right here ladies. You might end up with this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:07 PM
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It definitely wasn’t. The most important thing marriage has going for it is how incredibly difficult it is to get out of….its a feature, not a flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:01 PM
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You definitely don’t need a traditional relationship for any of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:58 PM
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Omg….this. This all day. I myself have posted this exact same thing. It’s all rainbows and unicorn farts, the sahm is invaluable, we’re a team, we are equal but bring different skills to the table…blah blah blah. Until one of them shits the bed, then it’s “bitch is taking half of my shit”…it’s like clockwork
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:54 PM
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Interesting take we don’t usually hear from men tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:46 PM
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I kind of agree and disagree. “Escape plan” seems like a very negative mindset, but knowing no matter what that you have the ability to support yourself well without being reliant on someone else is priceless. Maybe better framed as being responsible and autonomous, instead of not a prisoner for life?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:45 PM
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Well……given the situation I would have felt violated too, especially after only one night. But also given the situation I think this would be more like the rape equivalent of an involuntary manslaughter, not first degree murder. You didn’t intend harm. When we know better we do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:25 PM
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Then i raped the first woman i had sex with 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:12 PM
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not hang around with degenerates You do you fam. I spent my early life surrounded be degenerates and I survived 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:35 PM
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virtually everything that 'can' happen, will. By that metric then there is no social change ever, by any group…oppressed or not. We will see slavery again, we see ongoing genocide. We may well see the end of democracy in our lifetime. Won’t matter if it’s a social movement lead by the privileged or the oppressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:20 PM
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Raging? lol. Okay. We haven’t had a draft since 1973 and likely never will again. You think the American revolution wasn’t a social movement? The American revolution was a huge social movement, it was based on the rejection of taxation without representation. More people gained the right to vote. Common people could play important roles in government. Social mobility became possible. The American revolution arguably was the first step toward universal suffrage and the beginning of democracy. htt…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:10 PM
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And that rape is still prevalent in societies that discourage it? ? I’m not sure I understand this comment. Is there a society that doesn’t discourage rape? Or theft? Or murder? Does it still happen? Absolutely. That doesn’t mean most people are natural thieves or murderers. Rape, child molestation are extremely common. Child abusers have an average of 76 victims, a rapist has an average of seven victims. Just because a crime is extremely common doesn’t mean that perpetrators are extremely commo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:30 PM
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That’s complete and utter bullshit. The most privileged class that has ever occupied space in significant numbers in human history, the white, upper middle class baby boomers living in the United States stopped a war…and the draft…..the last time the US drafted anyone. Most of those protesters were deferred and not even personally the prime demographic that was drafted. As long as the issue is a valid one, or you can convince a sizable portion of the population it’s a valid one, it can come from…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:19 PM
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I don’t think most men are naturally rapists. The shear volume of men who find sex with prostitutes unappealing and the ones who do enjoy sex with prostitutes but prefer the gfe speaks volumes. Hookers are masters at pretending to actually enjoy the sex because most men finish faster when they do. Men overwhelmingly prefer enthusiastic partners who are willing participants. I think it’s more a function of us being programmed first and foremost for self preservation. People will do what they need…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:52 AM
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Yeah, it does. Social (and by extension sexual) viability is the only metric by which you can measure the acceptability of something. I’m going to disagree, Not everyone has to find you sexually attractive, socially acceptable or sufficiently normie. You don’t need widespread acceptance, you just need to find your tribe. I lived among a lot of freaks and outsiders when I was young. You only need one person to find you sexually attractive and “the family you choose” can be a profoundly supportive…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:45 AM
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Women today have more sexual freedom and can explore a broader range of sexual experiences than ever before. Meanwhile, men are still boxed into a narrow range of acceptable sexual behaviors, especially if they identify as heterosexual I am old enough to remember when most gays were closeted, especially to their families and jobs. Yet I lived in the French Quarter and then the West Village and watched the gays shout “we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it”. 40 years later we have openly gay cab…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:26 AM
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I mean that’s sweet and all and I believe you….but realistically, most guys would take the date but rate her looks unfavorably
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:32 PM
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Not going to work…biology has worked in ways that oppose modern societal standards. The age of sexual maturity has dropped https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FMenarche&psig=AOvVaw15_HRJlDJD0SGqoAFzUAjt&ust=1724713947166000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CBEQjRxqFwoTCLDQ4KOikYgDFQAAAAAdAAAAABAE And the age where people can afford to support a family has increased. It was hard enough to keep young people from having sex when they reached sexual matur…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:20 PM
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Not going to happen. Women have adopted more typically male gendered roles as equal earners and providers. We live in a capitalist society and historically female gender role didn’t bring the cash. We like our cars, huge houses, electronic gadgets and air conditioning. It not as much about “freedom from gender roles”, it’s about that money.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:01 PM
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Actually that’s wrong too. The rate of unwed birth steadily increases, but the rate of kids living without their father in the home has slightly decreased. Many couples just don’t bother to marry https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/figure2-fatherabsent-1-w640.jpg I’m not a fan, but an unwed, intact family is better than no Dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 10:24 PM
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I’m too cheap to buy reddit rewards, but take this trophy 🏆.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:11 PM
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Yeah…I mentioned the three date rule in another comment. Fwiw, I personally never followed any of these rules, but I understand the point of view of people who use them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:42 PM
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Unless you actually sign a legal document, “commitment “ is just words. M:Wanna have sex? W: No M: How about I tell you I’ll be committed! Actions speak louder than words….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:42 PM
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Then your choices are a young marriage which is likely to end in divorce, not having any sex at all until you are financially and emotionally ready which means a decade of your horniest years with no sex, potentially marrying someone you are sexually incompatible with and …..,FOMO! People want sex and not everyone is ready to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:35 PM
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Mmmm I actually think you’re wrong…. “ Condoms are also 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. This means that 2 out of 100 people using condoms as contraception will become pregnant in a year.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:30 PM
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I hear this all the time…it’s the “hot guys don’t want to commit”. News flash, very few young guys want to commit, most guys will smash whoever is offering, and some lower value guys will commit because it’s their only shot at getting laid consistently. As much as guys are paranoid about being a beta bucks, they seem oblivious to a woman’s desire not to be a default choice. NOONE, male or female wants to be second choice or feel they are settled for. I need to add…women want to be committed to ……
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:29 PM
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https://www.unl.edu/rhames/courses/current/readings/Marlowe-hadza-mate-selection-criteria.pdf “ When females are about 17 or 18, and before they get married for the first time, they may be courted by more than one male. When this happens, it can lead to a violent, even fatal, conflict” “ Because of the danger, others sometimes get involved and ask the woman to choose one suitor rather than keep stringing both along, but young women appear to want to shop before marrying. Monogamy is the norm, wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:10 PM
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Doubtful. You mostly won’t find out you are in the fuck zone until after you have sex. With a guy who has spent his time, energy and put his ego on the line to pursue? He probably is less likely to hit and run. That’s why the “third date rule” is a thing, in the hopes a guy isn’t going to invest that much time and effort for just for a hookup. I never played the game because my girl game was pretty lame tbh….but I do understand where it comes from. It’s not a sure fire strategy, making the man p…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:43 PM
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Yep, it can. It’s a calculation that it’s more likely if you make it easier. The assumption is that men will say yes to women they would never bother approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:05 PM
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http://www.ethesis.net/vrijen_en_trouwen/deinze_hoofdstuk_5.htm Here you go…google translate this. Specifically references FIRST marriages in Belgium. The recorded ages are actually older in some years over 150 years ago than they are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:02 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:56 PM
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Okay….you do the math then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:53 PM
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lol…I also cited the US census showing median age for men was 26.5 at the turn of the century. Not enough evidence? People didn’t marry when they had no ability to feed the inevitable children.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:49 PM
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Condoms are 98% effective…if used correctly. That is their effectiveness in any given year. Interesting math on the cumulative risk of a small, but repeated risk. Keep using condoms for 30 years and your cumulative risk of getting knocked up is 1-.9830 or 45% Lifetime odds of dying in a car crash is only 1 in 93. If your lifetime risk of dying in a car crash was 45%….you bet your ass people would only ride in cars when absolutely necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:42 PM
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Yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:36 PM
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Try actually reading the links I sent. You are wrong, plain and simple. Here’s 200+ years of “cherry picked” data. “Data taken from birthdates of women and marriage certificates reveals mean marriage ages to have been as follows: 1566-1619 27.0 years 1647-1719 29.6 years 1719-1779 26.8 years 1770-1837 25.1 years” Most teen marriages were those arranged by wealthy families to consolidate power. Prostitution meant monogamy was for upper class women, not the lower classes or men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:34 PM
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Nice downvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:20 PM
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Women historically haven’t found the risk of getting pregnant to be worth a night of mediocre, casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:20 PM
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Seriously? Try google. 1.05 men on average to every woman. https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2022/08/23/sidebar-sex-ratios-around-the-world/ Without warfare, this currently doesn’t even out until late 50’s when women begin to outnumber men. When a few higher class men monopolize multiple women, much more than 5% of men will be sexless
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:14 PM
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The only worse outcome to being pumped and dumped by a guy you are interested in would be to pay to get pumped and dumped by a guy who doesn’t even find you to be remotely attractive Totally humiliating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:00 PM
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I honestly don’t think they have thought it through. If they think Chad gets all the poon now, imagine if women approached the guys they were most attracted to. But yeah, it definitely doesn’t help women find a guy willing to commit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:36 PM
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I mean that’s just a numbers game though. More men are born than women, there simply aren’t enough women. Lower class men had to share women with higher class men, while higher class men had sexual monopoly of their wives. Some of this was actually formally institutionalized, such as quadroon balls where men could meet potential mistresses, other Defacto polygamy was more informal. Want to know where all those prostitutes in Victorian England came from? “ Some lower-class married women worked as…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:15 PM
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Because throughout history there was societal enforced monogamy that happened at a young age - before 20 usually False. Median age of marriage was much much later than 20 for common people in many historical eras. https://internetshakespeare.uvic.ca/Library/SLT/society/family/marriage.html Even in the US at the turn of the century median age for men to be married was 26 https://www.businessinsider.com/why-people-get-married-later-2013-10 The average age of a groom in Ireland was 28.4 in 1968 htt…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:06 PM
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If a girl is honestly kind of mid, not hideous but just not especially your type and not really on your radar, what will your reaction be?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:06 AM
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It’s mostly the fear that you will pass the hot enough to bang, but not pass the good enough to date threshold. The fear that too many guys will see this as an opportunity for a ons or an opportunity for a short term, practice girlfriend. I heard it stated that women are less afraid of being rejected and more afraid of not being rejected. More accurately, women are afraid of not being rejected for sex by a guy who really isn’t that interested in anything more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 10:48 AM
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how behaviors evolved from evolutionary forces okay…..like how “its harder for men to find a mate“. again…is this a feminist argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:14 AM
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I think evopsych has its merits okay…? So do you think you are thinking like a feminist now? Somehow I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:27 AM
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It’s certainly growing more quickly in the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:53 AM
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“Some”….it’s hardly a main tenet of feminism. Some feminists self identify as Christians too, that doesn’t mean that Christian thought is a foundation of feminism. Redpill ideology borrows heavily from evo psych theories and is definitely the basis for redpill thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:33 AM
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Hmmmm Pros… Fertility is a slow decline, not a cliff. Would be kind of cool to not have the biological clock ticking. Cons…. Erectile dysfunction. I can’t even imagine how devastating that would be. Nah…..I’m good.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:32 AM
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Most feminists believe in nurture over nature, that we are born similar and socialization causes us to be different. What you are claiming “feminists” believe sounds way more redpill with all their evo psych theories. Rollo himself as stated and restated the “the eggs are valuable, sperm is cheap”. “ Rollo Tomassi @RationalMale Eggs are expensive, sperm is cheap. The idea that social constructionism teaches women sexual selectivity is empirically false. Literally no one has taught girls anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:07 AM
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???? Where the fuck did I say it wasn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:56 PM
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Yeah…she might know of potential fathers, but not actually who the daddy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:54 PM
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thought the pregnancy happened some other month Or even more likely, which day or even time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:24 PM
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Well….thanks for agreeing with me I suppose. Lots of activities can be enjoyable, they can also be physically and mentally harmful when there is a lack of moderation. I like…..alcohol, chocolate, gaming, porn…..doesn’t matter. All those things can be healthy hobbies and if they become an addiction they can be problematic. Saying xxxx is healthy because I find it “interesting”? Or because I enjoy it, it’s healthy? Neither statement is objectively true. The fact is that things we enjoy in moderati…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:13 PM
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This comment resonates with me so much. I definitely got the message that men=caution…….their intentions towards women should always be suspect and are probably bad.…..and my father would often add “I know because I was a teenage boy”. Men don't even like one another.? I’m not even sure they like themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:17 PM
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On the contrary…the entire point of this sub is to talk about why women don’t want sex with most men they encounter…DESPITE liking sex with a few men. If no women ever enjoyed sex with anyone at all, this sub wouldn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:36 PM
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females dont like sex This subreddit is truly comedy gold
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:45 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 04:28 AM
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Sad you think life has to either be short and full, or long and miserable. I’m shooting for long, full and happy. But…..you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 02:44 AM
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Maybe get a dictionary.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:52 AM
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No one said you have to be healthy, just understand the basic meaning of words.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:49 AM
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a healthy male hobby is anything that I find interesting Clearly nonsense. My husband had a hobby in his early 20’s, it was drinking to excess and it clearly wasn’t healthy. That’s why he quit his “hobby”. You are trying to redefine healthy as “something I like”. The most basic definition of health is the absence of illness and injury. People like, enjoy and are interested in things that ruin their mental, physical and emotional health all the time. If your hobby is drinking to excess, you won’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:45 AM
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Forget the rest of the comments…..pet psychic magatard? ……now that’s a character who needs her own sitcom.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:53 AM
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We both have friends of the opposite sex, but I think reasonable boundaries need to be in place. When I was single I might take an overnight trip with a platonic male friend, I would never do that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:49 AM
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I’ve never thought of introverts as boring tbh, or as low energy. In fact the absolute WORST type of bore is an extroverted bore. Yikes…that’s the guy you can never get away from at a party. My husband is pretty introverted, would much rather do something with me or with a single friend than go to a party, doesn’t like big groups of people, doesn’t really talk much to people he doesn’t know when he does attend a party. Tends to be quiet and has solitary hobbies. But one on one, and with me he’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:28 AM
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My husband is a conventionally attractive introvert. He lost his virginity at 15 when a girl just offered. Women definitely threw themselves at him when he was younger
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 11:46 PM
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Im just scared of choosing the wrong partner Now THAT is pretty universal!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:55 AM
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Who needs a virus? Arguably, it’s already happening. https://www.urologytimes.com/view/testosterone-levels-show-steady-decrease-among-young-us-men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:06 AM
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Look at it from the other side….. If someone who she physically desires comes into her life Is there still any point in commitment when you will eventually find most women half her age to be objectively more physically attractive? Men are constantly surrounded by women they find physically desirable. Some manage to stay happily committed, some don’t. Are you going to stay committed when she gets old? Will you stay committed when she gets depressed? How about when her antidepressants kill her lib…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:41 AM
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God that makes me sooooo wet!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:06 AM
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Maybe we just need to stay out of other people’s business. The people I see getting married 3 to 4 times seem to often have plenty to lose, but it still doesn’t stop them. I’m not worried about anyone’s self inflicted injuries. What would be nice,…impossible and never going to happen…is to make having kids harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:59 AM
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This is the correct answer. Desperation CAN drive action and the person who continues to strive will usually find success. It can be off putting if inappropriately put on display, and it can also fuel a defeatist attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:51 AM
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That’s assuming not having an objectively attractive partner is “not fully attracted”, and therefore a bad relationship. Very few people between ages 18 to 80 are objectively attractive to the casual, detached observer. Yet people who still have great sex lives and get along with their spouse tend to view them through a different lens. https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/0ec7d5b/2147483647/strip/true/crop/6357x4237+0+634/resize/2000x1333!/format/webp/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fca…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:38 AM
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Strange premise, strange idea that women being pickier makes them more likely to cheat. Who’s more likely to cheat? Someone who finds the vast majority of the opposite sex fuckable, or someone who needs a personal connection and needs to get to know someone before having a sexual attraction to them? And what’s more shallow…being willing to fuck anything moving or being highly selective? This woman makes her living selling sex, and I bet most of her John’s have better looking wives at home https:…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:28 AM
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I would have thought most of the men I’ve dated were a pass if I only saw their photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:16 PM
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lol…me too. I had horrible gaydar when I was young, and lived in some very gay areas too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:10 PM
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My ick rarely has to do with them being feminine and more with them being too rapey or aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:06 PM
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lean thin men are my preference. realize lots of women like the gym bro look and lots like the chubby dad bod look…neither are for me. V taper, not extremely muscular
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:49 PM
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Yes. I have a “type”, but have been wildly attracted to a diverse group of men….SMALL but diverse. If you are my type, there are def higher odds I will find you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:44 PM
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At 12 they'd date a 16 guy who drives a car. Okay, what the actual fuck is going on with this comment. 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 11:38 AM
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a women who is submissive Yeah, well…fuck that. No one pays me to be a sweet little lady. So hold your breath and wait on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 01:18 AM
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Yeah, that’s another thing men keep telling us. These men may be attractive for a relationship, but not sexually attractive. If you want to appeal to the wisdom of your evo psych nonsense, please remember that women did not necessarily need to be sexually attracted to their primary mates in the least in order to pass along their genes. Ghengis Khan didn’t spread his genes through sexual attraction. His first marriage was arranged. His many concubines were conquered, raped or gifted to him. https…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:09 PM
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So I couldn't imagine a relationship being built on a lie. The biggest lies are the ones we tell ourselves
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 09:06 AM
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I live that philosophy. Come join us at r/leanfire.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 09:03 AM
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https://youtu.be/jSwzYB545hY?si=EfMZXqbW1UsoYaJ1 She has the ability to tell long stories that just get more ridiculously funny like Norm McDonald
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:21 PM
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Well good for them? So you are agreeing with op? These women like their wealth but don’t find them necessarily sexually attractive. The men do get a boost of ego according to you but you agree with op that physical attraction is not mutual. One side is initially attracted to appearance, the other is attracted to money. Men shouldn’t fool themselves. Again, what does love, conditional or otherwise, have to do with any of this? Maybe love does develop out of some of these attractions, that doesn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 11:44 AM
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For example female standup comedy 9/10 is "muh vagina" and "men bad" Tig Notero can make reading a phone book hilarious. Her tv show I found to be boring and cringe, but some of her standup is amazing. Maria Bamford is also brilliant imho, but I can see people thinking otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 11:06 AM
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I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say. All love is conditional based on what we know about someone or think we know about someone. We fall in love with people, flaws and all. When people change, and stop being the kind, decent person we thought they were, or we find out they weren’t really ever who we thought they were, that love can be destroyed. Our love is conditional on them loving us back, when we find out they are willing to hurt or betray us, we no longer feel love for them…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 10:13 AM
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I think it can be….as long as there is an actual NEED for diversity. Boys could really benefit from more male teachers. Depending on the patient and the problem, patients may prefer a healthcare professional of their own gender. I would have a hard time finding a justification for specifically recruiting male secretaries though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 09:00 AM
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Well no one getting drafted is obviously preferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 08:46 AM
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What reinforces women’s toxic beliefs about men? Reddit for starters 🥺 Some of the things men on here say give me chills sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 03:01 AM
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There actually is affirmative action in admissions for men in colleges right now to achieve gender balance https://hechingerreport.org/an-unnoticed-result-of-the-decline-of-men-in-college-its-harder-for-women-to-get-in/ https://www.ivywise.com/ivywise-knowledgebase/resources/article/the-truth-about-affirmative-action-for-men/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:31 AM
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Lots actually. No circumcisions unless medically necessary before age 18. Women should be required to register for the draft More equality in sentencing Default child custody should be 50/50. Mandatory paternity testing before issuing a birth certificate. Post some others, I’ll give you my opinion! I also think lots of guys on that sub are assholes that want to complain the wimmins is too slutty and won’t do the laundry anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:29 AM
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If you don’t have streaming services? Alright lmao “An overwhelming 99% of U.S. households now subscribe to at least one or more streaming services, with Netflix, Amazon Prime Video and Apple TV+ ...” Jfc dude, just admit you’re wrong already.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 01:46 AM
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every other good looking guy Does not compute. You apparently are Chad and still don’t have decent looking women? You’re good looking? Rate yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 01:40 AM
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Then why you mad?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 01:26 AM
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Nah, my husband is online only for sports, …..no reddit, no social media, just a few sports discussion boards…and he knows who Andrew Tate is. Ffs…there are three different documentaries about Tate to stream right now. One on Apple TV, a different one on Hulu and one done by Vice media you can watch on YouTube
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 01:24 AM
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From US census data https://www.unmarried.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/percent_unmarried.jpg
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 01:14 AM
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It accounts for the bottom 5% being single though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:47 AM
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Young men and young women aren’t 1:1. They are 1.05 to 1. Even in a perfectly distributed world, that leaves 5% of men out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:42 AM
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OG redpill guy…Gaylubeoil. Prime example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:14 AM
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Probably for some single guys. As someone happily married to a good and decent human being, it definitely makes me appreciate him more though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:00 AM
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Ohhh, this sounds exactly like the story of my ex. I was his first, he had not been successful with women. I stood by his side, worked to help support him while he was building his first business. He became very successful at that and together we started a second one. Then he decided to dump me and hoe the fuck out. All that partying? All went up his nose, he lost everything, he’s still quite single and is now struggling financially. Oh well. Fafo I highly recommend all men who prefer high end e…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:25 PM
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the likes of a minority of women It’s not the minority of women, that’s why “jackhammering” has a distinctly negative connotation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 09:04 PM
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Yeah, women at EVERY age have no problem getting casual sex, but they definitely lose rmv…relationship value….at least for men their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 06:45 PM
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Women have thinner skin. While men’s skin is courser, it is thicker and less prone to wrinkles. On the flip side, lots of men lose their hair which can age you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 06:42 PM
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Younger people (i.e. <25 gen Z) are using them less I think for older people and very rural people they make more sense. For young people it’s a lot of looking at photos and picking out the best looking photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 06:25 PM
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I definitely get the vibe that some of these guys don’t get the difference between normal chatting up in a bar or social event, and a completely cold approach on a sidewalk. We had a post recently about giving your phone number to random women on the street. Like….huh? That shows a level of cluelessness for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 06:22 PM
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Ooo…you know I love comedy, I probably watch a minimum 5 comedy specials on Netflix and YouTube a week, and also love John Oliver and am kind of obsessed with oddball comics who don’t do “jokes” per se, but I have never seen a live comedy show. Is it that much better than watching at home? Worth the money?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:55 PM
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Post please. I’m too lazy. Excellent job of parsing the numbers. That accounts for 21 or the 29 point difference in singleness between men and women. Another 5% is accounted for in that there are 5% more men than women in that age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:45 PM
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“ Researchers from UNC Chapel Hill and the N.C. Department of Health and Human Services found that, on average, people who have been incarcerated are at twice the risk of death by suicide — even years after their release — compared to those never imprisoned.” Chicken meet egg. Nothing is simple. The mental health of people convicted of something is probably not good going in, also probably much worse coming out. We have an incarceration rate is 531 per 100k, the largest demographic of suicide am…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:39 PM
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They take no action because it’s mostly men. What’s your answer? During the crack epidemic the answer was arrest and incarcerate. Not sure this is ideal either.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:31 PM
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Sounds about right. All the research I’ve ever seen (admittedly small and who knows how easily replicated) shows women most attracted to their own age, but a large percentage open to age gaps of up to 5 years starting around age 25. By mid thirties, most women were open to age gaps of 10 years, and a significant portion open to even higher gaps. Age gaps tend to grow both with increasing age and second marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:07 PM
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Yeah….although those marriages are actually rarer in those age groups, more do begin to happen more when women are closer to 30. A 30 year old woman and 40 year old man is not rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:53 PM
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I’m not sure that people who marry someone from overseas are necessarily “passport bros” in most people’s mind, at least not in my mind. A passport bro is someone who specifically leverages an average salary in his more affluent home country to order to get a much younger, more attractive woman from a poor country in a transactional relationship. Which I’m not really against either, usually both parties know the score. But I think OP is partially correct that the women almost always know the sco…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:51 PM
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For all adults, all love is conditional. Unconditional love goes strictly from parent to child, and then not always 100% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:31 PM
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Among college educated women, the divorce statistics are much lower. Only 23%. Only 10% of women get alimony. Mostly sahm. When couples earn 50/50, assets are split 50/50. But again, men on this sub seem allergic to career women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:25 PM
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Don’t exactly know how a 50/50 relationship is prostitution. That’s half of all relationships in the US. I don't think kids should be raised in a box If you want to raise a family someone has to work. If you want decent food, education and healthcare for your kids, often both have to earn money. What exactly is your alternative? Women should all marry broke men and support the children alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:19 PM
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And a lot of young men are single because there are 5% more of them when they are young too. Age 50 is where the number of men and women are equal in number
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:11 PM
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Fair enough. Only 23% of women earn more, but most are perfectly happy with 50/50. Again….do you expect women to want to raise a family in a cardboard box? ? Answer the question. Someone needs to be able to feed the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:06 PM
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Scale. A middle class westerner is wealthy in many of these countries. While they might be satisfied with a guy making 50k, that’s still an incredibly high salary compared to what a local guy makes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:57 PM
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Some of us are happily married to men who earn the same or less. That’s almost half of relationships now. Sadly many guys on this forum seem to be allergic to “boss babes” and then equally unwilling to provide. Make up your mind, no woman wants to raise a family in a cardboard box.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:52 PM
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"I don't have a girlfriend. But I do know a woman who'd be mad at me for saying that“ RIP Mitch Hedburg
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:21 PM
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Assortive mating has its downsides. I’ve been cheated on and found it to be extremely painful. It’s not for me, either cheating or being cheated on. But I can well imagine that those that found it to be not that traumatic or not be a dealbreaker have cheated themselves at some point in time. I know plenty of people who stayed together after cheating, at some point in time, I think there some guilt on both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:08 PM
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You forgot the biggest killer of young white men, accidental injury. Injuries 70.8 Homicide 6.4 Suicide 24.6 Edit…not % this is deaths per 100,000 https://www.prb.org/resources/young-u-s-adults-vulnerable-to-injuries-and-violence/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 11:44 AM
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Add age gap relationships where the woman is in the younger age cohort, the man is in the older one. Eleven % of all marriages have a six to 9 year age gap. Also, while the gender ratio is “almost even”, it’s not even at all ages. The gender ratio among young people is 1.05 male to female https://www.neilsberg.com/insights/united-states-population-by-gender/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 11:31 AM
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I think most women have the same standards, not much crazy higher than their own. Most people are leary of the person who did the entire football team, unless they were involved in some swinger stuff themselves. My personal standard is no cheaters first and foremost.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:13 AM
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When I actually wasn’t looking for commitment? Three times max, maybe 4 hooking up. Because I knew I had a high probability of getting attached. Lots of it was also hormonal. I could never do the fwb thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:41 AM
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First, these are different men. High N Count men don't mind High N count women. If you hear a man complain about this... he hasn't been around much. This has been my experience. Most men don’t mind as long as it’s not insanely higher than their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:35 AM
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I actually had the reverse happen once, that dude cried on every mutual friends shoulder , I was a cold hearted harlot apparently. Oxytocin is a hell of a drug though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:28 AM
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Ahhh yes. We hear about female lack of accountability every day here. But according to red pill men, it’s not that they lack accountability, lots of red pill males simply have no choice. It’s impossible for them to be honest, decent people…..they are forced to lie….cause pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:26 AM
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Most women dont really care about a mans count as much as men care about womens count You know who says this a lot? Men. You know who is waking up to how stupid the double standard is? Women. My ex cheated because of some stupid idea that a man should sleep around.Guess what? I cared. I cared a lot. So lots of them want a low n count woman? And lots of them also love to stick their dicks in prostitutes too. The vast majority of women find this absolutely disgusting. Maybe if men want to increase…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:43 PM
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I will. Sad that you feel the need to be so condescending.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:20 PM
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“ Most girls ”. The rest of us who don’t fit into your experience of what “most girls” like indeed do understand what feels good to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 11:10 AM
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Been there, done that. But thanks for telling me how my body works.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 10:34 AM
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She "sometimes gets so ill from exhaustion that she can't get out of bed for a week," the Times reported Daniel saying. I never heard of this woman, but that doesn’t sound good.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:19 AM
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No, that’s not statistically true either. The wealthiest are now having the most children. https://www.bloomberg.com/opinion/articles/2024-03-12/the-rich-are-starting-to-have-more-babies-than-the-poor-again The rich are the most likely to have three or more kids, followed by the poor, and the middle class has the fewest. 31% of all households making over 500k have 3 or more kids. These are two doctor/two lawyer etc households. I'm not talking about those men. Because it’s fine to have kids raise…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:53 AM
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Many of the most intelligent women aren't even having kids. No longer true. Old news “According to the Pew Research Center, 78% of women between the ages of 40 and 44 with a master’s degree have kids, compared to 70% in 1994. Even more strikingly, a full 80% of women between 40 and 44 with a Ph.D. or higher have kids, up from a low of 65% back in 1994. That’s a staggering rise” https://jennylife.com/women-with-advanced-degrees-are-having-more-babies/ However, the men who've impregnated several w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:48 PM
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It’s scary to me how addictive screens can be in general. Porn, social media, games. At first I didn’t really understand how only fans could catch on so easily. Why not just watch porn, there are a million flavors of free porn out there. Now I get it. If your online friends who you have never met in real life are your only friends, your online “girlfriend “ is your only girlfriend. I wish I lived in a place with gaming culture, where I live we got guns and god, in that order. If you ain’t in chu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:29 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:19 PM
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FLGS? F L …game store?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:12 PM
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I participate in a fire -financially independent retired early -subreddit, and the number of single tech guys who desperately want to quit their jobs just to play video games all day shocks me. Whenever I’ve suggested that didn’t sound like a full, fulfilling life, I get tremendous push back, almost dog piled on and voted down into oblivion. When I suggest they use their new found freedom from work to spend more time on personal relationships, I have been directly told….their online gaming frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:08 PM
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I don’t have any real data, I agree that women tend to go for commonality even if it’s superficial. But the men in my life have always just seemed to go for nothing more than age and physical proximity. My h two best friends lived on the same street, my brother’s best friend lived right across the street and my dad’s best friend for 50 years was the nearest neighbor in his rural area. I will say though, that all three maintained these friendships for decades. I have no contact with any high scho…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:19 PM
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This needs to be a post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:02 PM
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naturally loners who prefer solitude Natural loners and/or misanthropes who definitely prefer solitude, but still want sex. There in lies the problem. Unless they want to settle for sex with hookers, or simply prefer sex with hookers, they are going to struggle to get access to sex. These are the types of weirdos who end up angry and perpetually upset online. You can be a weirdo, but a weirdo AND a loner is going to make for one sexually frustrated human.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:57 AM
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No decision to be made. #4. There is no downside. 7” makes too many positions uncomfortable. Girth is a plus but not necessary, but 7” length is a negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:46 AM
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Put his name on lots of financial assets. No prenup. Sold a long held, paid off rental last year that was in my name only, and that money went half to his brokerage account and half to mine. Sexually? I don’t know, that’s a weird question for me because I have never done anything I didn’t want to do as well. No idea, I’m sure some woman somewhere gave her husband a kidney, or died giving birth to his kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:22 AM
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Just a humorous observation. I have friends who would be pretty surprised at the amount time I spend on Reddit, so I would say I mask pretty well. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:47 AM
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Participation in this sub disqualifies all of us as being “completely normal”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:04 AM
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I can't imagine conservative/republican voters would accept an unmarried/never married presidential candidate. Maybe not …that’s really weird though when they love the guy who has been married 3 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:18 AM
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You do realize that you're one of the more normie posters here though, right? Which probably says more about this sub than you. Everything is relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:45 PM
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Sure, could well be true. Still, the “vast majority “ are men.So even if female on male assault reports tripled overnight….the vast majority of sa would still have male perpetrators Sorry, but facts don’t fit your narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:54 PM
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So far it is mostly female teachers abusing children Got a source for that? https://www.foxnews.com/politics/at-least-269-k-12-educators-arrested-child-sex-crimes-first-9-months-year Male teachers are 23% of the teaching staff, still appear to commit over 80% of the sexual assaults Determining exact numbers on these things is always a moving target, but despite being the minority of staff, every single study indicates men perpetrate the vast majority of sexual assaults on kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:30 PM
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Most men can prefer whatever they prefer, my experience tells me it doesn’t mean they will stay faithful or loyal just because you are low n count woman. And most men don’t really want to keep their own count low, in fact many use a low count as an excuse to “sow their wild oats” and cheat. My conclusion is that women should just do what they want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:26 PM
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women are sexist and objectify men Ohhh, are all women a collective now? No individual preferences? We can do this all day
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:28 PM
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Because women love porn sex Ohhh, are all women a collective now? No individual preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:27 PM
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Jfc…we can’t speak about generalizations now? Look through your own comments. I don’t think you concluded every one of your posts about women with the caveat “not all women”. I think if you decide we can’t ever speak in generalizations, you will have a busy day adding “not all women” to quite a few posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:23 PM
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I don’t know how reliable the New York Post is, but out of all of the allegations in the first 9 months in this recent year, “over 80%” of accused teachers were male https://www.foxnews.com/politics/at-least-269-k-12-educators-arrested-child-sex-crimes-first-9-months-year One would expect that if over 80% of teachers were male I suppose, but only 23% are male. Not saying we don’t need to look at all teachers, but it’s silly to pretend that males aren’t a bit over represented in these numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:11 AM
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It’s not my claim. Op says he watches porn to learn choking, bdsm and some other nonsense which apparently all chicks love now. They forgot to send me the memo though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:54 AM
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you are saying women don't enjoy that? Ummm no? Not really. I don’t speak for all women, but most of those positions look better than they feel imho, and start the jackhammering doggy style right away and I will be hunting for the remote and hoping this won’t take long. A big dick slamming on my cervix? 😬no bueno.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:26 AM
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I dunno, I’m with her. I don’t care what other people do, but spitting, slapping, spanking? Not for me. And it will end any further activities if you don’t stop when I tell you to
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:01 AM
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Why do you assume that men who watch porn are watching extreme shit? Well….According to op, you look for bdsm tips.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:46 AM
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Everybody hates the used car salesman. Doesn’t mean everyone doesn’t have a high probability of getting ass raped without lube by one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:35 AM
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When your puppy gets on your nerves you just put it outside in a fenced in yard. You get arrested if you do that with your kid
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:07 AM
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Yeah, the numbers are definitely a moving target between how many perpetrators are male and how many are female In the Catholic Church sex scandal there were over 5100 total allegations and only 170 were against nuns. It’s just going to be natural to trust the nun as a teacher more than the priest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:42 AM
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I think “MOST” men certainly have much more interest in a lifetime count of over 5. That why “MOST” men have an actual body count higher than 5. I think it’s pretty safe to say as a collective “MEN” are significantly more interested in casual sex than “WOMEN”, and if it were possible “MOST” men would have more casual sex than they have now Have you also noticed how water is wet?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:20 AM
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Really? Like people in Utah weren’t donating their underaged girls to “the prophet” in exchange for bigger tithes? Girls by the thousands aren’t trafficked for prostitution right here in the USA? Point is, there are extremists everywhere that say all sorts of dumb shit. There are too many real problems in the world to focus on what some mentally ill person says for clickbait. You have the random incels shooting up schools, if you want to compete in the crazy Olympics between rabid feminists and …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:20 AM
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😜Also from your link “ Based on numbers of partners per year, most gay men are not what you would call promiscuous. However, it is certainly true that a minority of gay men have a high number of partners. This has little to do with them being gay but, rather, is a result of male biology and psychology. Would a typical straight man not have sex with 10-20 females if he could? In one study, a woman approached random men on the street and propositioned them to come back to her apartment for sex. Ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:55 AM
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Meh…my link said half had 67+, and yours says 1/4 to 1/3 had more than 50+. The point still stands though. The op stating men just want five and then to settle down? Yeah that’s definitely a minority of men, gay or straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:47 AM
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From your link…. “about one third sat between 10 and 49 partners (most of these men had numbers in the low 10s and 20s), and between 1/4 and 1/3 had more than 50 partners” So “most” gay men have lots more sex partners than “most” straight men…..because they can. Only around a third have numbers similar to straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:35 AM
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Oh look, some crazy bitch who calls herself a feminist said this on TikTok….. Meanwhile, in other news… https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_infanticide_in_China https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20879612/ https://hbv-awareness.com/rape-victim-faces-honour-killing/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:18 AM
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Men want sex with as many women as possible because it increases the chance to have offspring many men are not interested in being gross sluts. …..Many do not want casual sex at all. 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:18 PM
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many men are not interested in being gross sluts You’re absolutely ridiculous. Many straight guys would be exactly like many gay guys if they could. A mean of 67 partners According to a 2000's study, gay men between the ages of 35-39 had a mean number of lifetime partners (67) nearly 6 times as high as as their straight counterparts (12). Image https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3334840/#!po=44.5652 r/Damnthatsinteresting - According to a 2000's study, gay men between the ages of 35-39…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:14 PM
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Nathan. Asshole and outside children….dealbreaker Overweight….dealbreaker Nathan better up his head game though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:28 PM
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I mean is this within a minute of saying hello? Then it’s zero. The fact that he’s the kind of guy to do this kind of counts him out. If you want to strike up a conversation, and get to know me that’s different. My ex and I talked for hours in a bar, kept talking from 4 to six at a popular river walk, went out to breakfast and walked me to my apartment before he asked for my number. That was not only fine, I would have given him mine if he hadn’t asked. I’ve been talking to guys at a party and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:10 PM
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Didn’t you get the red pill memo? If it wasn’t for pussy, all these guys would be sharing cardboard boxes with rats and never brushing their teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 08:26 AM
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No. I would have absolutely picked my h from Tinder, he’s conventionally attractive, but I dated plenty of dudes who I probably would never have swiped on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:44 AM
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You know what comes along with scarcity mentality? Fomo. My virgin ex cheated on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:38 AM
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This is just another “don’t date Chad, date an ugly guy”. As if ugly guys never treat women like shit Let’s look at some Chadly dudes who beat and/or killed their wives hot sexy Chad older zaddy who can resist the list goes on
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:18 AM
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Yeah, but you still “love a nice set of tits”. Just like gay guys love mens thighs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:57 PM
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“ making it seem a lot more sex related” Not “seem” more sex related. They are gay men and their appreciation of male bodies is sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:54 PM
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They love that dick like straight men love that pussy. They are sexually attracted to men, but still have a male sexuality. What about this is a surprise?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:50 PM
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confess their feelings Ugh. The worst. So awkward for everyone. Just get good at being a flirt and keep it light. See who flirts backs and who doesn’t and ….who rolls their eyes. The “big confession “ is cringe probably 95% of the time. It’s only going to work with the girl who made friends with you because she was into you from the start. But I do agree that attraction can build over time, just be friends with lots of women and don’t zero in on one and get oneitis.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:36 PM
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You are getting it all wrong. If you are super attracted to a particular woman and try to befriend her instead of asking her out, you have a high possibility of wasting your time, developing oneitis and maybe even looking like some insincere creeper, especially if you get butt hurt at some point about it not turning sexual. But if you avoid oneitis, make casual friends with lots of women, feelings often develop with one of them. Learn to flirt, see who starts to flirt back.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:30 PM
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Yeah, sorry. I could have waited for him, but I wouldn't have been ready for him? Wasn’t going to go a total of 5 years without sex though. Almost three was bad enough. Who cares if they were in it because they needed sex. I did too. No one was hurt in the process. Well…one guy did catch feels which made me feel conflicted. Loving the wrong person was harmful, fucking a pleasant person, having some laughs and enjoying some skin contact wasn’t. I still maintain promiscuity doesn’t create an inabi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:28 PM
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I’m one of the oldest posting here, my mother worked a home doing payroll and bookkeeping for the family business. My grandparents lived next door and helped raise us. People are less likely to have family nearby and if they do, they give less support to young families. Overall I think people having kids later in life is a good thing, but one of the biggest problems is the older generations not having time or ability to help take care of grandchildren. Granny used to be in her 50’s, now she’s in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:28 PM
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In order of the most unacceptable to the nbd. Bad hygiene Obese Addiction Sexist No ambition or lazy, the poverty part is no problem
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:11 PM
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I had no trust that men could be truthful or monogamous . Why wouldn’t you fuck around if you honestly didn’t care if they wanted a relationship or not? Maybe they WONT lie, women need to do what they want. I could and would have had much higher numbers if there wasn’t a bunch of repeats in that mix. You know it’s kind of ironic, promiscuously didn’t damage my ability to pair bond, being a loyal one man woman was actually what really messed me up. One reason to move on after having sex for a few…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:31 AM
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salty bastard fell off the earth, you aren’t drunk enough to be beached red whine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:57 AM
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Sorry, you don’t sound like a salty bastard
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:51 AM
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😜
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:35 AM
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lol…ooohhhh…still unmistakable to me. So who were you before🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:20 AM
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Well I don’t really wish him any ill will. If life hadn’t turned out the way it did, I wouldn’t be with my husband. My ex has never married, lost his business and ended up sticking everything up his nose. He dated an older woman for a while who started low key stalking me…so that was fun. I think it’s safe to say it didn’t work out so well for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:58 AM
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I mean …okay? I would never hide it, if someone doesn’t like it they aren’t really for me. But I don’t require a similar past. I fell in love with who I fell in love with. Neither of us throws up former lovers in each others faces, everyone has insecurities that someone else might have been better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:46 AM
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Yes? It’s a bad thing? I mean it strikes me as a further retreat from life, not an embrace of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:37 AM
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They range from the most cynical players around to the the sweetest, most romantic guys you will ever meet. The cynical ones tend to be raised in macho cultures where they actually dislike the women they can seduce. Only men are supposed to enjoy and engage in sex, so seeing willing women is, on one hand, a temptation they can’t resist and on the other, something they find deeply disturbing Other guys not raised with a strong sexual double standard will often really genuinely like women, because…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:34 AM
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Well my h and I are two old sluts, and he was an alcoholic….so I resemble that comment. Funny enough we have a stable marriage and a quiet life now in the middle of nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:44 AM
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Ooof…I’m in a rural area and plenty of Gasden flag flying, gun toting promiscuous women. I rented to one with 4 kids and three baby daddies. New boyfriend every few months. Loved guys who had been in the military. In fact u/-Shes-A-Carnival….aka Atlas is right wing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:36 AM
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I wasn’t really any of these. Lost my virginity at 18 in college, entered 6.5 year ltr with a low n count. He became very financially successful, cheated and dumped me to test the waters with what he thought was his newfound status. His fomo was huge since he had been a virgin. I became a member of the “first wives club”. I stayed celibate throughout my late twenties for almost three years. I honestly thought I would never have sex again much less entertain any sort of romantic relationship. I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:24 AM
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You know I will give her grace under the circumstances because some people are never right after that, and especially with a family member? They have don’t know what’s appropriate and healthy. So hopefully she didn’t know better at the time. But you were absolutely right to gfto. Be thankful you didn’t marry her!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:06 PM
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When women fail to have accountability…well I didn’t know he was a jerk at the time, I would’ve picked better but he was nice at first, I never thought he would be abusive. Yes, I made a poor choice but I lacked information. Men’s failure to take accountability. I was forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:41 PM
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Well…..you weren’t here when THE VERY CROSS MAN posted every 10 minutes. Loooong screeds. Mom lied, dad lied, Disney lied and his church lied. He had been raised in some religious environment I think and had been told virtue was rewarded and girls liked boys who were good boys. “That would be weird”, but used to be his daily post.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:29 PM
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Ahhhh….in her eyes maybe you were?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:23 PM
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https://www.statista.com/statistics/241519/birth-rate-by-educational-attainment-of-mother-in-the-united-states/ This tracks with what I see when I look around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:03 PM
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Sufficient radio is absolutely correct and your data is old. Your data set is 15 years old and is looking at 40 to 45 year old women. The data you present is reflective of births in the late 80’s and 90’s. You are simply wrong http://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/cce/family-characteristics?utm_source=coe_share&utm_medium=figure_tool&utm_campaign=copied_url#1
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:12 PM
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Low education women have the most kids That’s some old data, looking at total fertility of women now in their 50’s and 60’s As a snapshot of what is currently happening, to women actually having kids today, the wealthy and educated are actually having more children https://www.statista.com/statistics/241519/birth-rate-by-educational-attainment-of-mother-in-the-united-states/ Birth rates are actually lowest in the middle class, https://www.bloomberg.com/opinion/articles/2024-03-12/the-rich-are-st…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:07 PM
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As a woman? Ah HELL no. RUN. Not only do you not need to bear that burden, she doesn’t even need to date anyone until she gets therapy and sorts this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:52 PM
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Skinny. Absolutely no problem with skinny men. This guy on day 0? 😘 https://www.pinterest.com/pin/540291286531597395/ And I agree, both gap teeth and wild hair can be cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:05 PM
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Directly is the key word and why I chose to use it. The “disease” of loneliness in all its forms, sexless, friendless and isolated can absolutely can shorten a lifespan in many ways. So can other forms of stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 05:39 PM
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Okay. So some do see it as simply a physical release then? You agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:46 PM
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Well you said it wasn’t a need. Where did I say this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:18 PM
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Some needs are literally essential to life. Some are essential for some people to live a happy life. Those are two very different things. Food, water and a functioning organ are in one category. Love, friendship, sex are in a different category.. I don’t know why this is even in question.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:04 PM
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A need to be happy and live your best life? Yes. For many, but not all, sex is a need to live your best life. A need to stay alive like food water or a kidney? No Proof? You are here typing. You wouldn’t be without food, water or a kidney
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:58 PM
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Things that most people need to live their best life =/=things that most people need to simply stay alive like a working kidney. Those are two different things. Nothing you mentioned is needed to simply stay alive, perhaps outside of infants who can actually die without human contact, even when their needs for food clothing and shelter are met. In fact many of the things you have mentioned are unique to the modern era like rights and equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:53 PM
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Well certainly not all sex workers and not all johns do. And not all men see it as an intimate act. At least in a ons or hookup, both parties are having sex because they simply want to have sex, not get paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:28 PM
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But there is still a need for a new organ. While everything you said is true, men definitely lose empathy when the analogy is with something you will literally die without. Access to vagina =/= needing a kidney. We just saw this in another thread, the argument that sex is essential to life like food and water. I would even argue that being homeless can be immediately dangerous to your health, no one has died directly from lack of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:19 PM
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If I could whack a house out of my balls... Your argument would make more sense. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:11 PM
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There are a non insignificant number of men who seem fine with prostitution. Some men value a human connection, some men actually seem to prefer just a physical release.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:06 PM
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Yeah, 5 to 9 gap is not uncommon. Never said it was. 25 and 30 is not uncommon, and 40 with 50 is practically the norm. What is uncommon is 20 and 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:37 AM
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Ten years plus is less than 7 % of all marriages, and gaps tend to be larger in second marriages and people marrying at older ages. That gap continues to increase in men up to their 60’s when it starts to shrink a bit. Online dating shows us that women in their early twenties have a strong preference for their age to two years older, and still prefer small gaps but become more willing to have 5 year age gaps around age 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:32 AM
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They might be the exception in that they willingly embrace the lack of sex, but lack of sex has never killed anyone. Frankly? Arguments like “I will die without sex” definitely make women much, much less empathetic because we all know it’s a ridiculous argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:04 AM
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I agree. Monogamy is hard enough. If you expect monogamy you need to meet your partners needs, anything else is simply unrealistic and people with either be unhappy or cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:59 AM
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Maybe because women typically don’t experience as much spontaneous sexual desire as men? They are more likely to have their physical needs for affection met by interactions with their friends and their children and are also more likely to meet their own sexual needs by masturbation. More women orgasm alone than when actually having piv sex with a man. Like imagine a guy said to hsi gf/wife sorry im too tired to hug you or touch you, like wouldn;t that drive their partner nuts? Not always. Lots o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:54 AM
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Our median gap has been historically as high as four years, so a five year gap of early twenties girls and late twenties guys was only not rare, it was the norm. That’s shrunk by two years even as median age of marriage has increased. It’s an even more unusual cultural phenomenon because age gaps definitely increase as age of marriage increases. Older men still have a preference for larger age gaps while younger women are increasingly unwilling to date older. The same phenomenon has happened in …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:22 AM
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The pool boy is absolutely a reaction to the hvm who is fucking around and often her revenge. We had a recent post about how women let hvm cheat, I posted the counter argument that a modern woman accepting one sided monogamy was laughable, even for athletes and celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:31 AM
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There is lots of research indicating that men have fewer friends and aren’t as close with them. Single men are more likely to not have friends. https://www.latimes.com/lifestyle/newsletter/2023-10-10/more-than-1-in-7-men-have-no-close-friends-the-way-we-socialize-boys-is-to-blame-group-therapy I participate in an early retirement forum and it’s frankly shocking to me how many single tech guys want to quit work and retire young…..with the express goal of playing more video games. It’s impossible …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:22 AM
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Is this in the US? Our age gap for first marriages has statistically never been smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:00 AM
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This. When looking at how common age gap marriages are, statistically they are more likely to be second marriages . The age gap for first marriages has actually never been smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:56 AM
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I was wildly attracted to my husband when I first met him, I was tending bar while working on a degree in engineering, my husband was tending bar and also working on a case of cirrhosis of the liver and sleeping with lots and lots of women. I haven’t always picked well, but he definitely wasn’t the man for me even though I found him handsome and charming. We traveled in lots of the same social circles, he settled into a monogamous relationship with a woman I had worked with, but still drank way …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:38 AM
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Real talk. I was walking through a bar and I felt someone grab my ass. Turned around and it was a not attractive woman that did it. But I still felt seen as a sexual being and felt desirable so I made sure to let her know I appreciated the gesture even though such a thing can be considered "sexual assault". Interesting take…so if asked were you assaulted, what would be your answer? Yes, but nbd? And I wonder how many other men would feel flattered, which would in turn, encourage more women to do…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:53 AM
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We receive no sympathy, no love, no help, no nothing. You’re mad because women are nice to other women. Why aren’t you getting sympathy, help and acceptance from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:26 PM
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Not everyone sees it as a negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:21 PM
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Men can’t be nice to other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:20 PM
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You dodged the question , the question still stands…what do YOU do to help your male friends and men in general? Where is the sympathy, love and help men are giving each other? Are men not part of “society”?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:55 PM
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Women give it to each other as an act of friendship between women. Go complain to your male friends if they refuse to prop you up. Do you gas up your male friends and try to make them feel better? We receive no sympathy, no love, no help, no nothing Stop blaming “society “ if men aren’t willing to extend kindness to each other. Be the change you want to see
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:24 PM
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Bogleheads for investing Your Money or Your Life for philosophy (old book, will change the way you see money YNAB Aka You Need a Budget self explanatory. How fast you can save, and how little can you live on a still be comfortable Mr Money Mustache for encouragement and cheerleading Early Retirement Extreme …only if you are an obsessive Firecalc to figure out how your comfort with risk affects your retirement date. That is all. Make it so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:10 PM
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My h and I have generally pretty superficially traditional gender roles except when it comes to money. Not to brag, but I’m simply better at it. We have done well enough to live on passive income and he’s not complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:10 AM
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Every relationship that I’ve had that turned long term for me was when I was all in from the beginning. No pretense, no feigning disinterest, no being intentionally distant on either side. I am very physically affectionate and expressive of love. One thing that nudged my friendship with my h toward a romantic relationship was cooking for him, after one of those meals I made him he told me he wanted to repay me by taking me out to dinner and that dinner resulted in our first kiss. He also finds i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:05 AM
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Can’t date Chad She just is going to have unrealistic expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:17 AM
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Tell this to my 20 -27 year old self. In all fairness, at 20 I absolutely wasn’t ready anyway. But I can’t complain. It all worked out in the end. I got a h I love now and a marriage that’s better than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:45 PM
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Oooohhh so sorry. Warfare is a team sport. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:05 PM
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Find a great guy Find a decent enough guy Or be left alone with wine and cats
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:04 PM
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So sorry. This society isn’t built on physical strength. It’s built on social strength, status, money and connections. You have to be on the winning team.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:02 PM
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Harems are the dreams of men. Men with leverage have leverage over more than women. They have leverage over weaker men too. Be careful what you wish for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:58 PM
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Women just telling other women that they are the prize is just emotional support Agree. Men continually misunderstand the female dynamic of gassing each other up. When you gas up your friends, “he wasn’t good enough for you”, “your ass looks great in that” etc. it’s done at a time your friend DOESNT feel confident. Men have no idea how insecure women can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:45 PM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/EtqTe9w62Zz8r1ye9 🍿
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:29 PM
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You’re catching on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:28 PM
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This one is definitely ppdebate hall of fame worthy. Straight from paying for a date to global atrocities. Wow, AND ITS ALL YOUR FAULT. Thanks a lot Mongo. 😡
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:25 PM
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Lowers your rmv too though, that’s tattooed on your ass. The corrections are gonna be a bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:10 PM
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I can’t even follow this conversation tbh. I never said hundreds a day were reported. I never said there was a 10 fold increase…I said IF …which would clearly be ludicrous .I never said a thing about “fake news” . I’m honestly not even sure you understand that selected media information is not statistically relevant. Have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:00 PM
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I don’t think it’s faked, those are real cases, …which somehow always involve attractive young female teachers. But there are 42 MILLION people in the US who have been sexually assaulted as children. I didn’t say there are a few hundred making the news, read again. Do you think the cases of 42 million people ever get reported in the news? Do you not find it curious that the ones that do get reported are the ones that get clicks and sell ads? Hot teacher and a male student bitching about her weak…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:48 PM
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You realize when we are talking 9% of girls, and 20% of boys that’s literally millions of cases right? Cases in “the last few months”? Like 6 or 8 reported in the National Enquirer? You think a few hundred cases of child sex abuse are making the news every day….or just a few sensational ones? Out of 5300 abuse allegations in the Catholic Church only 170 are women. You sure that’s just “underreporting “?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:29 PM
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Correct. There's been a massive increase in sexual assaults from women this year, Yeah…you can slow your roll on that one. The vast majority of SEXUAL assaults on children are still overwhelmingly male One in 9 girls and 1 in 20 boys under the age of 18 experience sexual abuse or assault. Men are found to be perpetrators in most cases, regardless of whether the victim is a boy or a girl. However, women are found to be perpetrators in about 14% of cases reported against boys and about 6% of cases…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:04 PM
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A big prejudice when it comes to crime is age. The same clothes , gender , race, etc will be perceived very differently if that figure in a dark alley is under 30 or over 60. And ironically we are all young at one point in life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:47 PM
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Is it sexist to assume women aren't interested in machines or sports as much as men are while the professions of engineers, mechanics and electricians are men. Not sexist. May be somewhat cultural, may be somewhat biological. It’s only sexist if you hold back women who are capable and interested Is it sexist to assume men can tolerate more pain Not sexist, if the data can be replicated…we are not biologically identical. Or that women can't handle tough decision making or men are more likely to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:41 PM
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I dunno but I bet he stuffed it! Look on his walls for clues.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:43 PM
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In my experience? Some do, some don’t, some do it for a while and get tired of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:28 PM
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Obvious…a huge face tattoo that completely obscures your face silly. Oops, just lost three points registering your score.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:55 PM
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Theo Theo Theo. No downside. I’m super frugal, very into hiking and definitely into stealth wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:57 PM
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I think in the 50’s very high value men could get away with it. So much status would be lost if a woman divorced, even if the husband was a cheater. Equal status lost if she was caught cheating despite what the husband was up to. Anyone who thinks in the last 70 years that they could get away with one sided monogamy isn’t paying attention and has zero understanding of the female social matrix. Women will either make an unspoken deal that both “don’t ask, don’t tell” or they get sympathy and supp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:40 PM
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women being incapable Right. Have a happy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:24 PM
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Well according to you love doesn’t exist. Women are incapable of it. So no point in discussing love.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:21 PM
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I dunno, we were friends for years. We both love camping, kayaking, hiking. I’m not exactly a bridge troll but he definitely had hotter women in his life. I knew some of them. Also…. Money? 🤣 I was definitely a good influence on him and he was looking for less drama, more stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:19 PM
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I only had one guy who I briefly dated who had a kid. Two dates and I noped out, so I don’t know. But his weekends were kid territory and he wasn’t going to introduce me…I get that….so it was kind of hard to even get to know someone also workin m-f, 9 to 5, when he’s picking up kids at school Friday afternoon and dropping them off Sunday afternoon. I respected him for being a good parent, but when weekends are your big blocks of time it’s hard to get to know people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:14 PM
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Women, you shouldn't date Chad because he will cheat on you. You should date less appealing men instead because they won't cheat since they don't have options Always with the unspoken…date guys like me instead!🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:37 PM
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Not quite sure what you are getting at here. My husband had women left and right when he was in his teens and twenties. He’s a conventionally attractive guy, who tended bar when he was young and never lacked for female companionship. He settled for me, similar age, also high n count, objectively not as attractive as him. If I’m not treating him like the Chad I suppose he is…because I don’t let him sleep with other women, I’m a princess?? Well if that’s how you are defining “acting like a princes…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:25 PM
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All true
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:39 PM
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Nope, I said humans are more complicated and actual interactions more nuanced. As a market analogy….ANALOGY…. if none one is buying what you are selling…or no one hiring with your skill set..or an other market analogy you want to use…it’s on you to change. the simplest thing here is you Jumping to insults….not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:53 AM
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It’s not about “owing” a child love. After 18 years that love is a fact already. I can even see withdrawing from the situation and telling the child the situation is simply too painful. Exteme emotion is understandable. It’s the immediate jump to “this child is now a stranger to me”, the complete lack of emotion to the blameless child that makes my blood run cold. Suddenly their relationship is simply “a man and another man”?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:49 AM
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That’s great. And I care more about losers than winners in life. If you ever start a business however you will never hire losers who refuse to try. No one pays the employee who won’t show up to work
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:38 AM
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Of course it’s malicious. But there is no malice from the CHILD in a paternity suit. Zero. The sperm donor kid was actually lied to in this situation. So he may well have some justification for anger toward the father. The paternity tricked father however has no justification for anger toward the child. I can see the extreme anger, I just can’t see taking that anger out on the child and can’t see how anger towards the mother translates to either anger or indifference towards a blameless child yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:35 AM
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“A man and another man” is an interesting way of describing the relationship with a child you have raised for 18 years A man knowingly has a son using a sperm donor with his wife, but they don’t tell the son and he finds out when he’s 18. He “has been tricked” into loving a father who is not his blood father. When he finds out, does the guy who raised him become a stranger to him overnight? I personally find that idea to be bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:23 AM
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Using the market analogy, they don’t need to change. They have plenty of opportunities. By market analogy, if your inbox is flooded with job offers, you don’t need to change careers and get some better job seeking skills. If you are chronically unemployed however, the burden is on you to figure out the skills needed to make yourself marketable to employers or stay unemployed. It’s that simple. The unsuccessful who refuse to change will remain unsuccessful, because what they are selling, no one w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:12 AM
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Usually people don’t cut each other off in a day for absolutely no reason. Most sudden breakups happen when you find out the person has done something horrible. I wouldn’t expect a kid to suddenly feel nothing overnight after finding out he didn’t share dna with a person who raised him for 18 years any more than I would think that parent would feel nothing for the kid in reverse Additionally, familial bonds tend to be the only bonds that don’t offer conditional love, especially parent to child. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:01 AM
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You know they are a bit dehumanizing, but they are often really clarifying at the same time. In reality, human interactions are more nuanced and complicated. The biggest complaint I push against is people angry that they should change in order to find love and/or sex, because they say that they should be loved and accepted based on their humanity. This is a big complaint of the neurodivergent crowd. When you put their plight in terms of market value, and that learning to mask and adopt a more ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:36 AM
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From the other side of the aisle, being childless and dating guys with children…well you might as well forget enjoying your weekend off work because that’s often when he has the kids
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:37 AM
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Probably something to add to a long list of circumstances that predict a bad long term outcome. Age gaps, n count gaps, differences in family goals etc etc. Research has shown repeatedly that the more similarities, the fewer divorces. And yet we will all know a couple who beat the odds. My older brother had kids from his first marriage (strike one), married a childless, never married woman 5 years older (strike 2 and 3, woman older by 5 years has a big strike), but they managed to stay together……
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:32 AM
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Damn, that sounds like the plot of a novel. Kind of sad the dad never found out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:09 PM
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Me too. I knew a guy who married a woman who was already pregnant but the kid didn’t know. Weird thing was everyone else in the whole circle of friends did know. Seemed a bad idea to me not to tell the kid. He got a green card (he wasn’t from the US) then divorced the mom and still raised the kid, custody every weekend, legally adopted, the whole 9 yards. Really good looking guy too. Died when the kid was a teenager :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:04 PM
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Yeah, that’s the rub. If the guy didn’t question paternity based on timelines, chances are he also was having sex with the mother around the time of conception. First thing any good defense attorney would bring up. So proving she knew who the father was is going to be hard
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:55 PM
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Not necessarily. Is there any reason mom can’t hit up the other potential candidates? Try and extract child support from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:52 PM
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Yeah, they can tell from dna. An 8 week ultrasound however? That photo on his phone wasn’t an 8 week ultrasound. But he supposedly had had sex with the girl in Texas only 8 weeks before. Maybe since they just found out recently, and everyone was “so thrilled” they just didn’t think. Hopefully cooler heads prevailed, but I would bet a dollar that wasn’t his baby, and also bet the girl knew it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:43 PM
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He was pointing to the spot on the ultrasound that was supposed to be male genitalia. That’s a whole month later. More like 12 weeks. Frankly the ultrasound looked more like 18 weeks to me, but I’m not an expert. Hopefully I introduced some doubt, but no one in the room was interested at all in what I had to say. I think they can determine sex from dna at any stage, even frozen embryos, but not from an ultrasound that early.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:31 PM
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Yeah….really sad frankly. We found out that poor kid joined the military last year when we cleaned out the house after my tenant moved and found pictures of him in uniform. No pictures of any wife, baby momma or baby, so who knows. Renting to poor people in the rural south is a different world, I’ll say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:02 PM
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Then I was called the evil sociopath….go figure. In real life, not some theoretical red pill craziness, I think this rarely happens that non bio fathers actually do this. Sarah Polley and Sean Astin are the only two famous examples I can think of, but both remained close to the men who raised them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:54 PM
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I totally get not forgiving the mom. I get seeking financial restitution. But people who say things like “it’s not my son, it’s a stranger” after 18 years? frankly send chills down my spine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:43 PM
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Hah! .this actually happened. See my post below
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:40 PM
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Mmmm a friend of my tenant, a teenage virgin, met a girl online, traveled to Texas from Georgia, had sex for the first time and received news about two months later he was going to be a dad. Expected due date was 9 months from the sex, and his mother happily exclaimed “it’s a boy”. Well …..an ultrasound at 8 weeks being able to determine sex? Press x to doubt. The kid then showed me the ultrasound sent to him on his phone. No way that was a 8 week fetus. When I asked a few questions and started …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:39 PM
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A rough estimate of past financial support, an additional 50% in punitive damages, potential jail time for fraud if it could be proven that fraud was knowingly perpetrated. Of course not all of this money WILL be paid out,because not everyone will have it, but first chunk available should come from the divorce settlement if possible, but future wages should be garnished, just like child support in reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:31 PM
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Huh? You’re kidding. MGTOW was famous for “the dancing monkey” complaint, angry at having to entertain a female in order to obtain sex. So common is the trope it was addressed by Rollo https://therationalmale.com/2015/04/17/dancing-monkeys/ Guys who stooped to doing things entertaining to women were called simpanezes. Because “women don’t make alphas entertain them” women only make blue pilled simps entertain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:00 PM
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Life expectancy for smokers is ten years less than for non smokers https://archive.cdc.gov/www_cdc_gov/tobacco/data_statistics/fact_sheets/health_effects/tobacco_related_mortality/index.htm That equates to the health risk of 50 to 55 bmi https://www.cancer.gov/sites/g/files/xnrzdm211/files/styles/cgov_article/public/cgov_contextual_image/800/400/files/bar%20graph%20for%20BMI%20CMK.jpg?itok=B9_a2mrS You have to be REALLY fat before being fat is as bad as smoking https://images.app.goo.gl/F1Dj7Ecf…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:36 PM
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You don’t notice it because you are also a smoker.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:10 PM
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Wow, this is FAR different from the US. “ Adults who did not graduate high school smoke at a rate of 20.7%, while adults with a high school degree smoke at a rate of 16.3%, and adults with an undergraduate degree smoke at a rate of 4.4%. Individuals with incomes below the poverty threshold have a smoking rate of 19.7%.” Smoking has a strong correlation with lack of education and poverty here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:09 PM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/y4vudLoVtkGya2Yq9 Here is a blow up showing the time frame 10 years before and ten years after the time you say the obesity epidemic was influenced by body positivity. Looks like a fairly straightforward, almost straight line function during this time frame me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:01 PM
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First of all, not what that graph says. Second , please show that body positivity can be linked to 1990. Third, most men contend that body positivity is strictly for women, so explain this https://images.app.goo.gl/egbU4KdUGWDntvmV8 The rise in obesity for men has followed a parallel trajectory.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:53 PM
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Based on this graphic, please tell us the year the body positivity movement happened https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fbatashmedical.com%2Fblog%2Fwhat-percentage-of-americans-are-overweight%2F&psig=AOvVaw1KThWcshTyNPn9r2HwIBzb&ust=1721230760559000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CBEQjRxqFwoTCPCmubnyq4cDFQAAAAAdAAAAABAE “ the progression of this growth, tracing its origins to before the early 1960s”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:41 PM
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He hasn’t eaten himself up with anger. He wasn’t a married cuckold, he was cheating on his wife and the mother of his other four kids when Patty Duke got knocked up. 🤷‍♀️. He played with fire and got burnt. Fafo
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:56 PM
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Anyone can exploit someone if they try hard enough. Now that you know, time to get to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:49 PM
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Two real life victims of paternity fraud https://youtu.be/_Ch2S358qqY?si=mxfwA8nUhN94kadV In before the squealing and shrieking about how I’m evil, there are people who face this in real life and feel differently. Ymmv.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:31 PM
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I’m evil? Okay. your casual evil against normal people Is the child not a normal person to you too?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:15 PM
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And…..followed by a downvote…the last weak ass bitch move following a weak bitch ass personal attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:28 PM
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I think the divergence of opinion occurs because it’s assumed the parenthood was wanted for 18 years. The parenthood was not forced or unwanted even if it was by deception. No one is trying to force the guy to spend 18 years bringing up a child. If he leaves when that child is an infant, I understand. I feel really bad for both child and father, both were deceived by the mother. I just don’t think anyone wants to “force” him now to be a parent. Too late, he already did. The bond should already b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:17 PM
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Get off social media. No one in real life thinks like this including a personal friend who just came out as a “woman”. I fuck up preferred pronouns all the time, no shits given.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:02 PM
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If you think you can legalese someone into obligatory love you need therapy. One assumes the love was already there for 18 years though. If you think you can suddenly stop loving someone after 18 years over something they have no fault in, maybe you need therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:39 PM
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Aren’t both the child and the father both victims of the mothers lies? Probably because you empathize more with the cheating wife than anyone else. Bad faith argument and weak bitch ass personal attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:34 PM
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but I had more of an optimistic "when it happens, it happens" outlook until around my mid 20's… I might have tried to "let something happen"…” I'm overall fine with that” Well, I honestly can’t think of anything that gets accomplished in any realm with that attitude. You want a career, you don’t just do nothing and wait for it to happen and then complain employers choose candidates with skills you don’t have. We used to have poster named westsidemoonwalker who was autistic and I once had a long …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:15 PM
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Wow. Sleeping with random people and hurting yourself is not nearly as shitty as fucking up some poor girl’s life when you think you can never love her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:34 AM
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Maybe self reflection should tell you a the decent thing to do is to not fuckup the life of some poor innocent girl you can never love.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:31 AM
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this reflection has made me even more convinced that I cannot date a woman with a high bodycount seriously. Promiscuous people, me included, truly are damaged goods. One one hand, you seem overly dramatic, but if you really believe this, that you are now “damaged goods “, then why would you subject some sweet innocent girl to your damaged pair bonding ability? Imean I don’t believe you’re damaged, but if you do, then it seems more fucked up than banging a few randos to me. In your mind you hurt …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:28 AM
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And the numbers for men would also be different if you asked “do you have or want”. But we aren’t looking at who have OR want, we have the census to tell us who has kids already. The unknown is out of those who don’t have them yet, who wants them. If the headline is “66% of women or 66% of men want kids” and they only ask the childless that’s clearly misleading. If the headline is 66% of currently childless people want kids that’s new information. In your example, we already know 10 have kids. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:41 AM
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Okay…ask “do you want to be parents someday” to people who already have kids? That’s an interesting take🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:23 AM
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It honestly sounds pretty reasonable to me. Do you make it clear you hold yourself to similar standards? Assortive mating along numbers of sexual partners is the norm for most people, I think it’s the “50 is okay for men, but 8 for women is completely gross” are the people with bizarre and unrealistic standards
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:02 AM
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Accepting horrible relationships because you fear being alone. Accepting horrible relationships because you have no jobs skill. Blaming your personal relationship failures on some made up bullshit, the patriarchy, “abusive men” and nevef accepting any accountability. Centering your entire self worth on how attractive or unattractive you are. It’s fine to care about looks, it’s not fine if it’s your entire identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:51 AM
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? I’m confused. What “anecdote “ of mine? Lots of guys in this thread would cut the kid out of their life. I thought your response was fair because it didn’t punish the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:21 AM
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No, I agree too. As a matter of fairness under the law, mom should not have received financial enrichment by deception in assistance raising her child. As a matter of the heart though, love should not be withdrawn due to the actions of another person that was completely outside of their control. It’s almost impossible to imagine raising a kid for 18 years and not still feeling love for that kid because you suddenly find it doesn’t share your dna
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:14 AM
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Mmmm, not when you see how many of these guys would raise a kid for 18 years and then blame the kid. I can see financial restitution because mom shouldn’t get off scott free, mom should literally “pay”, but I can’t see how someone could write an innocent kid, who they loved like a child, out of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:04 AM
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Always remember…according to red pill, it’s women who are incapable of love!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:40 PM
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Honestly? Fair enough in my book. Because their mother needs to identify the bio dad and get him to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:39 PM
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As a fellow beard lover I concur. Please don’t leave that long wispy shit down to the chest. And for the love god, no chin ponytails or braids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:09 PM
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LOVE THEM! Unless they are sparse or weird, or not kept tidy, but I love a nice beard. My husband occasionally shaves it off, he also buzz cuts his hair sometimes in the summer ☹️. Oh well, man’s gotta be comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:06 PM
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And it compared them to childless men. What would you have them compare to in order to not be skewed?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:53 PM
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😘
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:27 PM
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I definitely think you can have a healthy bond, also think you can be emotionally healthy and be promiscuous. I also prefer someone with a similar history to mine. One good thing….NO FOMO. As someone who was cheated on by a guy who had been a virgin, his fomo was definitely a problem. I personally have zero interest in non monogamy so knowing that phase of a person’s life is over is important to me. People can want different things at different times in their life. Just noting that there is some…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:39 PM
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lol…too much logic here. My ex was a virgin, didn’t stop him from fucking around after 7 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:17 PM
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My husband and I both had casual sex before we started dating each other too, and we've also been together and monogamous for a long time, but I do still think promiscuous behavior “can” be a red flag. I won’t say all of the promiscuous people I’ve known had drug, alcohol, mental health or attachment issues. I will say most of the people I’ve known who had drug, alcohol or attachment issues have been promiscuous at some point, so everything needs to be looked at in context.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:15 PM
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Meh…some people just go through a phase and get it out of their system and settle into monogamy. I used to tend bar, I see it in old friends all the time. People who were party animals in their 20’s. Now in their 30’s, she’s holding a baby and he’s holding her purse. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:56 PM
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Oh, she lives a good life, has lots of friends and a wide social circle. I think she doesn’t like to think about the past but sees a happy future. In fact she now enjoys living alone so much, no one is welcome overnight for more than a few days, not me or her sisters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:52 PM
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Okay. I’m still not going to promise fidelity to anyone telling me lack of money is the only thing keeping him from cheating. You do you, that’s not the pair bonding experience I’m settling for. I’d rather be single, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:29 PM
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Til that hookers don’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:19 PM
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it don't bother me Cool dude…I guess? Most people who don’t have a cluster b personality disorder are bothered by it. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00976230
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:19 PM
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If that were true, sounds like all men can cheat on a whim. In which case why should women assume fidelity and offer it in return? “Because they should “? Keep telling that to women, it doesn’t matter. Not many women will take that deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:15 PM
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Sounds exhausting to live in fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:11 PM
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Damn dude, move to a better neighborhood. We sleep with our doors unlocked where we live.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:30 PM
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The whole “protect” thing is especially weird to me. I’ve lived in the biggest city in the US, NYC. I’ve lived in one of the most dangerous, New Orleans. Now I live in a really rural area. I have never expected protection from a man unless you want to say “male” because the police are overwhelming male. But if someone comes beating down our door, I’m calling the cops, not expecting my husband to be a human meat shield. And I agree, using sex as a reward is not just cringe, it’s honestly gross an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:14 PM
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last time I checked the ones wanting kids more are women Check again https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/women-children-study-1.7119845
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:12 PM
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As a snapshot in time? No. Even in more traditional relationships there will be times when the woman has to put forth most of the effort and take charge. Remember “in sickness and in health”? Men need to be cautious around some tradcon women who fail to understand this and will dump her “protector and provider” when he fails to “man up”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:08 PM
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Women want a man to provide her with things because it symbolizes his love for her. Woman's love is symbolized with sex. Most of the time, when a man can only offer an "egalitarian" relationship it means he is not that into the girl he is with Let me go tell my husband all of this, I think he will get a good laugh. We have apparently been doing it all wrong for quite awhile now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:03 PM
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You have now. My h better stay out of my yard and garden. https://imgur.com/a/8OJoFyp I don’t mess with his barn, he doesn’t mess with my grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:59 PM
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Nope. Some men definitely care. The men they pair with typically don’t care and don’t ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:51 PM
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Perfect way for the manosphere nut jobs to out themselves for what they are, overreactive little bitches looking for things to justify their anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:06 PM
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It got posted here and I’m a woman. I’m not running out to buy their stuff tomorrow but if I see it on a shelf somewhere I definitely might think “where have I seen this before”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:03 PM
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I have a few “one and done” female friends. A young marriage or ltr that fucked her over when she was young and a determination to live a good life single. My best friend is one of these. She had a college boyfriend she was with for 5 years, about 4 1/2 years in he convinced her they needed to open up their relationship. Well, we all know how that goes. She had dozens lined up to “experiment with ethical non monogamy”. After he openly slept with someone else, she followed and he lost his shit an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:52 AM
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I live one state away. This isn’t as much regional, but specific to your subculture. You will absolutely find this in many rural areas, not necessarily specific states. I think conservative, rural areas of Commiefornia you will be more likely to find this subculture, where women in Atlanta would probably think you were a goober. Edit I searched on “cowboy bars” in Atlanta and the first hit was a gay bar. So lots of the women there might think the cowboy persona to be cringe, but some boys in Gay…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:07 AM
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lol, and he’s still a slut AND a liar. Seems like you are giving him a pass to me. Pretty sure society excuses male sluts way more than female sluts and pretty much everyone hates a liar. Do you intend to stay a virgin till marriage? Good luck, you are definitely an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:22 PM
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Ahhhh…..sleep with someone she wasn’t married to 🤣🤣🤣🤣 By those rules… she is an adulterer He’s a liar AND an adulterer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:16 PM
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lol…you can’t make this up. Liars aren’t bad, it’s the people who believe then that are🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:42 PM
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Huh, that’s interesting because some guys really love the sensation of a vagina that is physically responsive and feeling a woman actually orgasm around their bareback dick is a turn on. I guess some must find wearing a condom and having a woman acting like she’s turned on to be a more intense, incredible experience than reality. Wait till they find AI! At least they won’t need the condom. Different strokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:30 AM
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So what they want to “achieve” is to buy sex with women who don’t even like them. I suppose they can just buy a few friends too. How lucky for them and their wives, and their children too, is all I can say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 07:19 AM
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How tall? 100% identical in every way? If one is 5’5 and one is 6’ then I take 6’. If one is 5’11 and one 6’4 I take 5’11. But face >height all day in my opinion. Fat or excessive bodybuilder types are my only physical dealbreakers. Just can’t feel attraction to those body types
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 12:53 AM
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A good friend? You think you are “good friends “ with a guy who cheated with a pornstar while you were pregnant? Yikes, that’s a hot take. I think like the Clintons, they stay married for political reasons and that’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 12:47 AM
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Sounds like your beliefs are not based in fact. You would encourage her to marry knowing that she will be more likely to divorce because “marriage is a shitshow”? If that’s the case, then why not let her marry a man she might at least have a few years of happiness with, instead of an old man that she will always be unhappy with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 12:19 AM
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Melania? Is that you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:35 PM
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Right in this very thread we have a guy who claims to be 42 and has an 18 year old girlfriend. Extremely tame compared to his post history 🤷‍♀️ Meh, it’s legal and she’s not my daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:11 PM
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What sort of “discrimination” are you talking about? Are people losing jobs over legal relationships? You think people shouldn’t say mean things on Twitter, or they shouldn’t think what they think? Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:08 PM
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Esl bingo time
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:27 PM
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Who said that? That’s a leap. She is still doing it for money, not lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:07 PM
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One actually desires you sexually and one doesn’t? Why do most of the ultra rich men choose women who charge for sex High powered men are often high in narcissism, low in empathy, have an antisocial personality and are high in manipulative traits and so are many men who buy sex. Not all rich people…not all Johns, but there is definitely a big overlap in personality traits. https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.577171/full Basically lots of rich people enjoy …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:45 PM
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The fact that women can basically control the output makes the fertile egg even more valuable, not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:13 PM
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If you have to ask…..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:10 PM
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Okay. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:07 PM
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He sounds like he has a sex addiction to me. Left or right, doesn’t matter to me. He will most likely rinse and repeat, cheat and marry cheaters. Good luck to him and his kind. But I have no interest in a man in the throes of any sort of addiction, especially a sex addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 08:57 PM
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Statistics say otherwise. Divorce rates are lowest when the age gap is zero. The bigger the gap, the higher the chance of divorce. https://www.huesmanjonesandmiles.com/2015/01/baltimore-divorce-lawyers-age-difference-between-spouses-impacts-likelihood-of-divorce/ The younger partner in an age gap marriage has lower levels of satisfaction immediately after marriage compared to couples with a no age gap marriage, and the older partner reports higher levels of satisfaction. Over time though, they b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 08:04 PM
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Yeah you’re probably right. Money and fame. He won’t have trouble getting married for the second or third time either. Not for me, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:57 PM
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Please make me someone with my own bank account you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:44 PM
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I tended bar for four years and watched plenty of guys who were good at flirting and plenty of guys who weren’t. As long as you are both laughing most normal women won’t label you a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:21 AM
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Lol, you think things are going to stay in a permanent state of flirty banter? No, I think her willingness to flirt back will either escalate or you will get rejected without anyone noticing. project a woman's passivity and plausible deniability onto the man. It’s called learning social lubrication https://openprairie.sdstate.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1022&context=discoursejournal The art of taking an inherently awkward situation and putting others…and yourself..at ease.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:04 AM
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making romantic intentions known Like I said Plausible deniability and keeping things light Yeah, if you make some big deal of it, you might make her uncomfortable. Even if she doesn’t “get creeped out” it will be awkward if she doesn’t reciprocate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:48 AM
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What? No. I specifically stated NONE of this is creepy. Whether it works out or not. You can banter, playfully flirt and joke around with a friend without being creepy. Plausible deniability and keeping things light isn’t going to make a normal, neurotypical woman uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:46 AM
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Feminist space lasers are leaving chem trails that are turning the frogs gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:13 AM
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Women still marry men who earn more, that can’t be denied. I honestly wouldn’t ever deny that women “prefer” men who earn more either. But you also can’t deny that it’s becoming much less of issue for many women. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/st_2023-04-13_breadwinner-wives_01-png/ You seem to be dead set on tying lower marriage rates on women demanding to marry up. I think the lack of marriage is m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:50 AM
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Esl? Try google
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:23 AM
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Economically obsolete Yeah, you and op are right on the money. My mom spent 20 years of her life with a child not old enough to go to school at home, with only a two year break between me and my younger brother. We were ALL accidents, lol. And she still worked doing books and payroll for the family business when we were young. It’s honestly pretty stupid for a society to waste so much human capital even if a woman decides to take a few years off when her two planned kids are newborns. We now liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:22 AM
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please women who aren't disqualified from dating for being as weird and whiny Don’t blame women because some men have no standards. I’m not accepting some weird, whiny guy just because some guy is okay with a weird whiny woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:04 AM
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Lmao. Fwiw, idgaf, imho it’s just an abbreviation, ykwim? so stfu ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 11:50 PM
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If it worked out, Liz would say that Bob entered her life (not inserted/weaseled) and that it “just happened.” 100%. Fwiw, none of this is creepy imho. Or I should say, none of this is necessarily creepy as long as he doesn’t cross boundaries, start stalking,or misread the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 11:40 PM
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sometimes people do move on from crushes and go on to become real friends I went in the opposite direction. My h and I were casual friends for years starting when we tended bar together. We stayed friends for a few years, hung out in some of the same circles. Years later we started dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 11:32 PM
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Meh, no harm no foul imho. It’s not creepy for a guy to have sexual interest, even Botany Bobby. If it doesn’t work out, she might have a friend who is cuter and that you do have lots in common with. BUT..and these are big..I have two recommendations. Don’t do this if you can’t do it without getting oneitis. It will probably just hurt you in the long run, waste your time, hurt your chances with others in the group and e even more likely to scare her off. Also don’t do this if you can’t hide reje…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 11:11 PM
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Also, notice how straight men aren’t allowed to explore sexually. Who said you “can’t explore sexually “ Explore all you want. Prostitution should be completely legal. I just wouldn’t ever date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:25 PM
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Great. There are surely women out there who have never cheated until after they are married. Some red flags you can vet for, some you can’t. Doesn’t mean if you know they have done it already it’s not a red flag though
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:14 PM
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Long post. You may think that that you have proven that men who use escorts aren’t “losers”, but you have made an excellent case that a man who has used them isn’t relationship material.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:52 PM
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Considering the original post, “there’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of lots of escorts” though, this is certainly an excellent reason no woman wants to marry that guy that has used escorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:50 PM
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And that is the increasingly smaller cohort of people who are getting married. I am confused. Yes, people are overall less likely to get married But the percentage of highly educated women, those with phd’s and professional degrees, who are currently married, is around 80%. That’s higher than the overall marriage rate 40 years ago. And yes, those women too are more likely to “marry down”. https://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/educational-endogamy/ Eighteen percent of women with a phd…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:10 PM
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No. Would I have wanted more income parity if I wanted kids? I honestly don’t know. Maybe. I certainly never would have made my goal to retire before 40 if I had kids. I’m very minimalistic, but I definitely would have wanted private school, music lessons and a college fund for kids if I had them. But I will never know because I decided at some point long before I started dating my husband that I wouldn’t be a good parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:45 PM
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Huh? The more education a woman has the more likely she is to be married https://www.brookings.edu/articles/the-most-educated-women-are-the-most-likely-to-be-married/ and the most likely to stay married. https://divorce-education.com/divorce-rate-by-education-level/ Why I even have to provide sources baffles me. Just leave your house and look around .
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:54 PM
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Yeah, I think you are right. Lots of times those are their equals in terms of income and socio economic status. A nurse and a firefighter pairing. A grade school teacher and a tradesman. People generally pair off in similar socioeconomic circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:27 PM
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I don’t know, maybe I’m not average. If I found out a prospective partner made a shitload of money, I’m not mad. Money definitely makes life easier. But a guy who doesn’t has never been a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:17 PM
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Women in the US are much more likely to actually marry men with less education than they have though. https://time.com/7442/wives-are-now-more-educated-than-husbands/ This has been true for over a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:12 PM
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Preferring taller is just preferring dimorphic traits. Just like women prefer broader shoulders, and men prefer smaller waist to hip ratios As far as “preferring “ a higher earner, it always seems strange to me that everyone, all things being equal, wouldn’t prefer a higher earner. I earned more than my h, a WHOLE LOT more, and how much he made was a low priority for me. I already earned great money, owned rental property, lived a minimalist lifestyle and was already well on my way to never need…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:07 PM
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