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Men who just swim, run and do decent cardio have unremarkable bodies Says you, lol. I know lots of women like the gym bod, but I’m definitely one of the ones who prefers them lean and lanky. My husband has never lifted a weight or seen the inside of a gym in his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:16 PM
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I don’t like lazy men OR overly muscled gym rats who lift, but I still like men who run, swim, get decent cardio and are fit with low body fat. And yes, I think eating good food and exercising should be considered basic adulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:58 PM
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She is pretty much is either an “alternative facts” person or one with a shitty education that completely skipped over statistics. But since she’s from the US….now that I think of it, it’s probably both.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:22 PM
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This theory certainly “SeemedGood” until you realize most of them are boomers with high school educations
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:54 PM
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She can attract? Lol. You actually think it’s hard for most UMC girls to attract men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:49 PM
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People rarely fall for others who are several degrees badder than they are. A UMC girl might fall for a weed dealer, but typically not a meth dealer. A goody two shoes guy might fall for a “fast girl” with tats and a few daddy issues, not a stripper. Young people tend to want to push boundaries and explore beyond their comfort zone. For most healthy people dating a “wild child” and being a “wild child” passes with age. People who go for truly “bad boys” generally are imitating what they grew up …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:37 PM
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I’m confused by what he is saying There’s a reason for that. And it isn’t you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:22 AM
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people I know You don’t know many people then.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:33 AM
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I live in an relatively small ultra-Catholic community Yeah, that represents the typical modern westerner……
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:28 AM
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It’s actually evangelicals in the US but no one gives a shit. Religion is dying fast. Catholicism is on its last breath. https://www.catholicnewsagency.com/news/247102/report-church-membership-among-catholics-declined-nearly-20-since-2000 Church membership is down 20 points in twenty years and gen z is the least religious yet. https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/generation-z-future-of-faith/ Good riddance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:27 AM
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Meh, I’d say 16 …..with supervision only. I don’t hunt, my husband doesn’t hunt, but lots of people where I live hunt. I personally think hunting is weird, but whatever. We let kids drive a car at 16, I think if they are supervised they should be able to hunt. But my feelings on the subject aren’t super strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:09 PM
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I will say, and have just posted recently that it seems to me that a lot of these kids did have parents that were serious gun nuts. Ethan Crumbly, the Sandy hook kid, I think the Parkland kid was given his first gun by relatives, the Buffalo kid was gifted a gun and there was a family photo with everyone having a gun….. I’m not against people having guns or hunting, but anyone who gives a gun to a fucking kid who looks like this https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nbcnews.com%2…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:00 PM
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I suppose my parents name was on the account as well as mine, but it was 100% my money to spend as I wanted. I don’t remember them ever telling me what to spend it on, or monitoring my account.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:32 PM
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I had way more than that at 17 from working after school and I’m old.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:18 PM
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Father O’Hara?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:12 PM
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Omg Best comment today 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:36 PM
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Women 100 years ago would be absolutely giddy over what I provide. Lol, maybe you can find a gilf who loves what you’re putting down. 100 years ago 80% of the US population was employed in farming
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:55 PM
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Uptick in poor single moms. More downward mobility of the middle class into poverty. Single motherhood causes poverty, just as much as poverty causes single motherhood
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:37 PM
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OATMEAL!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 01:06 AM
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Sometimes I wonder if people realize that everyone can read their post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:48 AM
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You have never heard the phrase “all the good ones are taken”. By your 30’s, all the good ones are taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:44 AM
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That how we did it. What we both wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:38 AM
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To me? Job, money, relationships, etc. It mostly means others at your same level of raw talent and effort are doing better, so don’t sell yourself short and settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:10 PM
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I got my first Reddit cares…..After 5 years and 6 user names, I’ve finally arrived 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:33 PM
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Well if everyone deserves love, then op can take one for the team. What kind of person do you think wants to date a boring person flipping burgers? The answer is……One without any other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:28 PM
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Boring people deserve boring lives. Op can date an obese, single mom and fall in love with her….I mean she deserves love too, right? You don’t always get out of life what you put in, but I guarantee there is at least some correlation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:12 PM
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Being average will get you an average boring life. Ftfy Another “if I can’t always win the game, why bother to play at all” post. Fwiw, my experience with truly creative people is they are not the ones lacking in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:21 PM
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Sure. As that article stated, working was better than starving, which is why women back then were more than willing. Neither sex had it easy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:39 PM
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One about kid one and he’s thinking about the one he’s gonna get for kid 2. My one exemption….where a tattoo is a plus rather than a neutral or negative. Provided it’s tasteful, lol. Hard pass on this https://tattoosboygirl.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/eye-with-father-son-tattoos.jpg
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:29 PM
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No, no excuse to be fat at all, we know it’s unhealthy. But in an era where only the wealthy were fat and healthy, and the poor were sickly and weak, being fat was seen as more of a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:22 PM
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This sub also tends toward well educated and UMC. Read down further. Seems most men on this sub have similar opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:16 PM
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Honestly, I prefer none. I dated a guy with tattoos who eventually got a full body. A decent, well thought out tattoo isn’t objectionable. My biggest complaint is poorly placed, poorly executed and tats of poor taste that are randomly placed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:02 PM
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Women are gatekeepers of sex probably 95% of the time, gatekeepers of relationships probably close to 40 or 50%. I have had too many female friends low key stalked by guys they have dated briefly or hooked up with to believe that men don’t get rejected for relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:45 PM
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Meh, I can see that being a bit odd tbf. Maybe a few months of private lessons?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:02 PM
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they will accuse you of lying Exactly. Better to convince yourself that it’s things you can’t change that are holding you back than to take some accountability for your own lack of appeal
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:58 AM
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No, but even if it were true, who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:56 AM
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But Blue Pillars don't believe this I think you can not be a red piller and still recognize that straight women like straight men who read as men, lol. Our visual cues? No tits, hairier, more muscular, taller. Height is a dimorphic trait. Men are taller than women. Weight is a dimorphic trait. Women are fatter than men. Our standards for what a desirable weight is have changed over time, often with what is seen as healthy. People who weigh so much that they read as unhealthy will never be seen a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:53 AM
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they can do positions that your toys can't This statement is kinda hilarious tbh. A woman’s ability to orgasm and enjoy sex has very little to do with the “variety of positions”. In fact, we are not only less likely to orgasm from intercourse, when women do orgasm from intercourse, it’s much more likely for women to only do so in certain sexual positions. Everything you type tells me you might need to study the differences between male and female sexual response.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:51 AM
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Traditionally of course it was to insure a guy would stick around if she got pregnant. You can have some hot and intimate sex even with a man who wants just sex. Meh, casual sex for women is mostly like crappy fast food. It fills a need, better than starving, but it’s not as good as a quality meal made with quality ingredients. Biology has made us less orgasmic with random men and capable of multiple orgasms, in my experience, always with long partnered men. “Hot and intimate” for women most oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:23 AM
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Women and children worked in mines ….until it became illegal. http://nationalminingmuseum.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/FF11-Women-MiningCommunities.pdf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:10 AM
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Mistyped. He’s still an attractive man. If he wanted to cheat, he could.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 08:09 AM
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Yeah, thanks for your concern. From an old slut married to another old slut and happily married now
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:08 AM
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Somebody remembers!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:07 AM
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Maybe David Buss is wrong. Recognizing young people do dumb things , act rebellious and often endanger themselves doesn’t take a genius to figure out or analyze. It’s intuitively obvious to the casual observer. Everyone is telling you what is crystal clear. Young people are dumb. Some people never grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:05 AM
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Well as in all statistics there are very different ways of presenting the numbers. Black women with white guys has quadrupled in the past 40 years and black guys with white women has tripled. One could say that black women with white guys is rising faster than the opposite. ”Black men are twice as likely as black women to have a spouse of a different race or ethnicity (24% vs. 12%). This gender gap has been a long-standing one – in 1980, 8% of recently married black men and 3% of their female co…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:42 PM
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Well I do make more and think he is objectively more attractive. I am not so dumb to realize he doesn’t have options for sex elsewhere ….and keep him happy. 🤣 College educated women marrying men less educated is now more common than than men marrying less educated, so someone is bringing something to the table somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:04 PM
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“Superior” doesn’t include good looking? https://www.fatherly.com/health-science/why-marrying-out-of-your-league-could-increase-divorce-risk Of course there are studies showing the opposite too. I found this last bit interesting though “ Furthermore, Fugère suspects that couples who were friends prior to becoming romantic may be able to get away with greater disparities in attractiveness. She cites one study that found that “longer acquaintance predicts reduced assortative mating on attractivene…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:43 PM
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That’s selfish of you Not running a vagina charity. His was zero. Too bad, so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:39 PM
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She should allow you to cheat a few times No one needs to allow anything that’s a dealbreaker. Had this situation with my ex. My n count was only 3, but….No I didn’t allow it. Cheating is a dealbreaker for me. Ymmv
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:31 PM
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Woman here. Is a gun to my head? In this scenario I take the slut. Sluts often mellow out over time and in my experience can change. My h was a slut at one point in his life. Fat guy is not going to ever change. Sorry, but I just can’t have sex with a fat guy and he will only get fatter. Between a cheater and a fat guy? Probably the fat guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:25 PM
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Both can be true. The more attractive woman can dead bedroom, the more attractive man can cheat. People tend to do best in relatively equal relationships all around. “Respect” doesn’t wet panties.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:13 PM
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Not what I see. Women dead bedroom men who are no longer physically attractive to them. “I love him and he’s a good dad and provider…..He’s a wonderful man, …….but”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:50 AM
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I make more money, am better educated, my h was/still is objectively more attractive, and as time goes by, has stayed much more attractive. As far as mental health? I post on ppd….so …..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:35 AM
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For any Garrison Keillor fans…..this is ppd, where all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, we all have a smv that’s above average
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:26 AM
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Hypergamy will intensify and more women will be fine with polyamory I think you are wrong. The umc/mc fsm puts women who share lower than women who are forever single.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:12 AM
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He is now. We’ve been happily married for a very long time :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:03 AM
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but she has times where she was “broken” or “fell off” her path and would use sex as a coping mechanism. Tell him to run. She sounds like someone who has an unhealthy relationship with sex. A few months of church won’t fix this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:35 AM
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Guy 2 Guy 1 is fat, but the body hair is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:07 AM
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-1
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:02 AM
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You know, funny enough, that’s how I feel about guys taller than 6 ft. Okay to look at I guess. Granted, my sample size isn’t huge, (no pun intended) but sex with a guy who’s too tall is awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:56 AM
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He was a drunk years before we dated. Hasn’t had a drink in decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 12:24 AM
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My ex was a virgin and cheated, my husband was a huge slut and hasn’t. He never cheated back when he was promiscuous either. Again, people aren’t just numbers. We all have history and baggage. Most people who marry later rack up double digits, it’s just the risk you take.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:46 PM
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upon learning my career then a provider What kind of engineer? Sorry, but I’m a female engineer and think it’s honestly a pretty middle class/upper middle class profession. Most engineers have wives working as teachers and nurses. It’s definitely not the doctor/lawyer/finance guy type of financial success.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:39 PM
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I dated a guy about a 1/2 inch shorter who was reallllllly cute. He had no problem getting girls, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:26 PM
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Yeah, I’ll buy that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:12 PM
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Wtf did I just read……😳
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 05:10 PM
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More body fat and wider hips are also dimorphic traits. “Widening of the hip bones occurs as part of the female pubertal process, and estrogens (the predominant sex hormones in females) cause a widening of the pelvis as a part of sexual differentiation. Hence females generally have wider hips, permitting childbirth.” “ Men and women need different amounts of fat. For a man, 2–5% fat is essential, 2–24% fat is considered healthy, and more than 25% classifies as obesity. For a woman, 10–13% fat is…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:26 PM
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I’m the opposite. I TRIED to date stem guys. I tried to cultivate a genuine attraction to one in particular who was a “logical” choice. They were ultimately not for me. I went into stem purely for the money. Did great in school. Okay in career. Not sure if I am a typical stem woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:06 PM
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Ahhhhh….no…read again……just have a nice face. And for the love of god don’t be fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:02 PM
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Scrawny dude https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fi.pinimg.com%2Foriginals%2Ff7%2Fbd%2Ff9%2Ff7bdf9db2294162ecb6eac62ad57e139.jpg&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.pinterest.com%2Fpin%2F122441683595669116%2F&tbnid=iL4aicAIeCorFM&vet=12ahUKEwiG5JOwmPj3AhUGhlMKHSqSBawQMygAegUIARDNAQ..i&docid=kr1JkBGBhMNPbM&w=540&h=720&q=skinny%20male&client=safari&ved=2ahUKEwiG5JOwmPj3AhUGhlMKHSqSBawQMygAegUIARDNAQ
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:00 PM
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I’m just talking about what I find aesthetically pleasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 12:49 PM
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I do think some guys who start lifting do a bit better with women. Some women like more muscles. Their body fat vrs muscle ratio is better. Plus, they get more confident. But I’d still take lean over overly buff anyday
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 12:47 PM
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Borrowing from another poster https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fpreview.redd.it%2Ftjtcxc54z5211.png%3Fauto%3Dwebp%26s%3Da0da69298834ed6e85f4c6779ef2348687adfc41&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.reddit.com%2Fr%2Fpics%2Fcomments%2F8opvvm%2Fdifference_between_marketing_for_men_and_women%2F&tbnid=qmOwNCmN6IXaXM&vet=12ahUKEwifkInflPj3AhVfQkIHHcyJBgwQMygBegUIARCtAQ..i&docid=BHlC0DMlxDywsM&w=1918&h=1280&q=the%20male%20gaze%20hugh%20jackman&client=safari&ved=2ahUKEwifkInflPj3AhVfQkIHHcyJBgwQ…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 12:43 PM
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My personal experience is that the more women a guy has slept with, the less likely he is care about n count. Outliers exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 12:38 PM
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I have absolutely no interest in a guy that lifts. I recognize that many women enjoy a more built guy. Give me a nice lean runner. I prefer a scrawny ass guy who isn’t athletic at all to some dude who lifts. Height is nice. If I’m constructing a perfect guy he would be 5’11 to 6’. But being tall in no trumps being handsome. A handsome guy who is 5’6” >>a less handsome guy who is 6’. Face over everything for looks. I’ve got a stem degree from a pretty good school and could care less about a guy’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 12:24 PM
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I think he is styled to be what young men admire in other men, not what a lot of women find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:22 PM
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Sex is a minor part of a relationship when it’s good, it’s 100% of a relationship when it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 12:34 PM
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Enormous testicles
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 12:24 PM
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the sweetest kindest women do the most despicable shit Amber Heard trashed your duvet too?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 12:20 PM
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Oh thank you for that. mgtow before his time… ” Weep, you girls. My penis has given you up. Now it penetrates men's behinds. Goodbye, wondrous femininity!”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:00 AM
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Meh, fwiw I don’t particularly think either of them was behaving well, I think they deserved each other. Dysfunctional 2. But she was the first in the glass house of crazy to start throwing stones, so she deserves whatever she gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:56 PM
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Right? Not exactly a good example of the “men aren’t responsible for bad choices because they have to take what they can get” argument we hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:52 PM
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Speaking as a feminist nut job, she’s a lying psycho. Even more shocking, a horrible actress.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:50 PM
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🛌 💩 🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:49 PM
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Sexual exclusivity The biggest one. In most fwb situations, don’t be surprised to hear “I think I want to explore a relationship with someone else” as a way to break off the sexual relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:42 PM
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It’s not. Extramarital sex isn’t either if it’s agreed upon. Who said it was? Don’t pass on any diseases or get pregnant with kids you can’t take care of, otherwise if your spouse is good with it, so am I. Run a train if that’s your thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 07:29 PM
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His obituary talked about how he once came down the stairs in one of his bars wearing nothing but cowboy boots and brandishing a whip. He was…….something. Eccentric didn’t begin to describe him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:59 PM
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Oh,something similar happened to me but I expected it. Bar owner who asked every new female employee for a blow job. My friend told me, he’s going to lock you in the office and pull it out. DO NOT DO IT, LOL No problem. I laughed at him and he went away.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:05 AM
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It happened to me. I was the victim of an attempted sexual assault by a stranger with a knife and I fought like a banshee. Still have scars on the roof of my mouth from him shoving his hand in my mouth to keep me from screaming. But…I once in the pool of an older married man who began aggressively “playing” and pulling me under the water. The pulling me under led to him grabbing me in inappropriate places. I grabbed the handrail for dear life and froze. His wife and kids were right inside sleepi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:56 AM
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The difference is that men just shrug and look for women who are attractive enough Are women more shallow, or are men just more thirsty?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 08:14 PM
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? I mean maybe we are getting off track but you are basically asking do you want a guy who doesn’t cheat because he is disciplined on principle. Or doesn’t cheat because he is crazy in love. We all want the person who will exhibit discipline later, but we all absolutely want that person who is just crazy in love with us. “In love” doesn’t last, well actually it does, but it comes and goes. Discipline over 20, 30, 40 years can be developed over time if we still love the person we are with. So yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 06:30 PM
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And you didn’t “ feel attraction towards a single potential partner to the exclusion of other possible partners.” You no longer felt oneitis when it was reciprocated?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 06:06 PM
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So you think you have fallen in love? I’ve found the difference between falling in love and oneitis is oneitis is typically delusional and unreciprocated or delusional in other ways, like intentionally overlooking obvious red flags. That’s why oneitis is unhealthy…..and why falling in love can be risky tbh. “According to Helen Fisher, focused attention is a hallmark sign of romantic love, obsessive love, infatuation, etc. She describes it in Why We Love… as follows: “The love-possessed person fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:56 PM
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Sometimes I think “what the hell is wrong with these people “ and then they usually find a way to tell me. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:26 PM
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Meh…a marriage without first falling crazy in love is definitely not for me….love is risky but lots of good things are risky. But arranged marriages can be “okay” and work for people who don’t expect to feel in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:20 PM
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skinny 👁👁. What happened! Did hell just freeze over? In all seriousness, there are things that attract us sexually that we aren’t even consciously aware of like pheromones.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:13 PM
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you're overestimating your worth toward the opposite gender Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:03 PM
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I’ve found plenty of people who are not my type attractive, but my “type”, the one who immediately gets my attention is always very opposite me. Dark eyes, dark hair, ectomorphs while I am a blue eyed, blond haired Mesomorph. Makes me wonder if my subconscious is telling me to mate for genetic diversity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:56 PM
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The idea of “average” is insane for both men and women. I remember people claiming Joesph Gordon Levitt was average. America is fat. And people have completely unrealistic standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:24 PM
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Below average by Hollywood standards, but if she walked into my local Walmart she would be a seven. She would absolutely look better than 80% of women her age. Slim figure, looksmaxed and fairly okay looking features. She can actually look quite attractive when smiling, but she has an unfortunate resting bitch face. My husband and I refer to women like this as Seinfeld chicks, after the episode where his date looked great in some light and terrible in others
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:07 PM
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Crime is nowhere rising in proportion to single parenthood homes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 03:46 PM
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Pretty hilarious that your only opinion on the situation is “is she dateable”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 01:03 PM
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Benefits of small talk: “ It enables us to find common ground and shared interests It improves active listening skills It helps us build muscles to overcome social discomfort and improve spontaneity It lays the groundwork for transitioning into more serious, deeper topics which require a greater degree of psychological safety” We have lots of posters who exhibit lots of signs of general social discomfort
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:56 PM
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Sex is about either procreation or stimulating your genitals Have you ever had sex with someone you love? “Brain chemicals are released during sex, including endorphins, which decrease irritability” I’ll just let this drop………
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:47 PM
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In the past 30 years we have increased the rate of single moms and cut violent crime in half. https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fcdn.theatlantic.com%2Fmedia%2Fmt%2Fhua_hsu%2Fcohen_singlemomchart2.png&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theatlantic.com%2Fsexes%2Farchive%2F2012%2F11%2Fsingle-moms-cant-be-scapegoated-for-the-murder-rate-anymore%2F265576%2F&tbnid=3zXP8wi6kH2JAM&vet=12ahUKEwjz8d_7iO73AhXJGN8KHff6AS0QMygUegUIARDfAQ..i&docid=jfluhd1lhXi6YM&w=617&h=592&q=single%20moms%20statisti…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:25 PM
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is done on purpose, meaning that a child is born in a severely damaging position Severely damaging? Which child will have the worse outcome?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:06 PM
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There is your answer in my opinion. I think you have never really fallen in love
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:05 PM
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Well shouldn't we be doing affirmative action to get men to go to college? We are. https://www.businessinsider.com/college-affirmative-action-boys-admissions-gap-2021-10
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:54 AM
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they are more suited to interactive hands on learning techniques instead of the sit still and shut up for 8 hours type of learning. Many men are similarity more suited to hands on working, but many middle class white collar jobs also require people to sit still and shut up 8 hours a day. Women might well be better suited to many of the jobs in a modern world
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:51 AM
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I agree that it’s not ideal, but if she is emotionally and financially stable it’s better than a married 20 year old with an unwanted pregnancy, a shotgun wedding and a contentious divorce in her future. At least the baby is desperately wanted, planned and will be loved. Hopefully she will have good male role models (uncles grandfathers) lined up that will be able to spend quality time with the child especially if it’s a boy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:39 AM
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Honestly this is a really strange question to me. Pretty people look the same to me. Part of being pretty is that everything is even and symmetrical, nothing stands out, or just one exotic or unusual feature. Same bodies, same features, smaller range of variations. Average people are often more diverse. Ugly people are singularily ugly in their own way. https://www.today.com/popculture/famous-doppelgangers-celebrity-pairs-we-cant-tell-apart-t25621 No one ever says “ is that Danny Devito (or Susa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:21 AM
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I adhere to all of them that don’t affect my finances. I do it because it feels natural to me, but I don’t leave my financial future up to chance. In a very male dominated profession because $. Traditional upbringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 10:51 PM
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Ever felt oneitis? Specifically with a woman who feels the same way back?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:37 PM
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Frankly, no. I think in many ways I was not emotionally healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:36 PM
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There is looking at a butt like “oh look a shiny object, 👁 #sex# 👁 and looking at a butt and thinking I would like to figure out how to tap that but I won’t because I have to be disciplined. Yes after a decade and a few kids, every man will say “ I have to be disciplined”. So will every woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:53 PM
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I supposed I’d like one in theory No you would not. Her libido would be in the toilet. You think that men compartmentalize there is probably some truth. You have visual stimuli where boobs are like shiny objects and you are programmed to look. Your lizard brains might be more programmed for simultaneous partners, ours are more programmed for better partners, not a serious dedication to one. In the same way we don’t want you overtly thinking about “adding to the pile” when we are still in the fal…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:47 PM
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Yep. He needs to “use discipline early in the relationship”. That sounds to me like a high level of temptation at a limerence phase. Even if he somehow does remain faithful, he sounds like a guy who will not be happily monogamous
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:32 PM
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a man who doesn’t find other women attractive is basically a fantasy. News flash A woman who doesn’t find other men attractive is also a fantasy, and women have infinite opportunity to cheat. Granted, we are not as visual, but we still find other men attractive. Do you want a new girlfriend who wants to cheat but is not doing so because she is disciplined? Or because she actually doesn’t want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:26 PM
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Sure. I don’t want a new partner who is using discipline not to cheat at the very beginning of a relationship. Would you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:19 PM
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Okay sure, woman have no way of vetting for cheaters at all. We can’t avoid them because we can’t detect them. Happy? We just choose the sneakiest
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:14 PM
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Congratulations! Going for any uncles or aunts younger than their nieces and nephews?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:59 PM
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Most men can glance and not get caught like a deer in the headlights.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:55 PM
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Yeah, but not all to the same degree. Big difference between the guy who shoots a glance and the guy actively and consciously trying to suppress temptation in the “falling in love “ phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:48 PM
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Women know that some men can still look at other woman and still love us, and I’m pretty sure we not only all hate it, we actively avoid that guy. If he is white knuckling his temptation to cheat in the limerence phase wtf is he going to do in the pregnancy phase?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:30 PM
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Note the difference in pp language “an already established pregnancy” . When you fertilize eggs that’s not yet in pp language “ an already established pregnancy”, just like when you freeze fertilized eggs, they don’t constitute an established pregnancy. Successful implantation constitutes an actual pregnancy. La and Mo laws give rights to conception as having full human rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:10 AM
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The way Iuds work, is not totally understood but one of their actions is thinning the uterine lining which technically prevents implantation, not fertilization. The claim of the copper 7 is the copper acts as a spermicide, but this is also debated by some. The old dalkon shield iud certainly was well known not to prevent conception, it caused septic abortion. Plan b is probably an abortifacient as well if taken after ovulation. This is the stance of the religious right at least. And of course iv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 03:59 AM
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According to planned parenthood they are not, according to the Christian Right they are. Plan b as well. Certainly for the “human at conception “ states, it would be obviously be a problem. https://time.com/2800011/whats-hobby-lobbys-problem-with-iuds/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 03:54 AM
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I have to stick my whole face in the vagina. I have no problem with that😘
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:56 AM
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Atlas used to say a marriage was a black box, no one on the outside had any clue what was going on inside. Not sure that I agree 100%. I think you can often infer but can never really know
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:50 AM
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Lol NO. Absolutely not. I’m the oldest poster here and we knew absolutely everything when we were teenagers too. If anything, I see too many kids who are so sheltered they aren’t rebellious enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:46 AM
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It seems wrong to call these largely unhappy pairings “successful;” rather, it seems to just be a different flavor of failure Most married lives are probably no more or no less successful than most single lives. You are measuring from the wrong metrics, life is always a mixed bag. Some failure, some success. Lots of single people are miserable too Everything ends eventually. Jobs, families, marriages, life itself. You can’t succeed by avoiding failure your whole life. You just hope for the best …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:17 AM
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6’4” was too tall. Pretty sure it wasn’t just the guy, but was a contributing factor. I’m 5’7”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:36 AM
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Lol, just new and improved, now with even more funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:58 PM
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I was the safe, h was the trophy, but no one would call me safe and my h was certainly no trophy 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:48 PM
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Bandit, you’ve been funny lately.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:45 PM
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In inverse proportion to their smv. For a 10? It’s a one. For a one it’s a ten
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:05 PM
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Holy. Fucking. Shit. I think I not only know one of those guys, he’s the asexual neet friend that brought me here 3 years ago and I’m not even kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:51 PM
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Well, look on the bright side. It will give him less time to kill people with his bad medical advice https://www.businessinsider.com/dr-oz-false-misleading-baseless-medical-claims-coronavirus-2020-4
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:47 PM
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They are unfair. Letting kids starve is unfair. Making dads help feed their dna is the lesser of the evils
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:38 PM
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Copied from an earlier comment of mine…. I could really care less if murderers were killed. I used to be very pro death penalty. Learning about wrongful convictions has changed my mind. “Since 1973, at least 187 people who had been wrongly convicted and sentenced to death in the U.S. have been exonerated.” I’m also a huge supporter of euthanasia, and the older I get, the more I support it. It’s truly bizarre to me that the same people who believe in eternal life and that life on earth is just br…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:36 PM
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Hopefully tech can come up with something 100% reliable (would have to be for the women as they get pregnant) like some implant that can be put in an forgot about until she is ready to have a baby . /s? It’s there already. Well not 100%. But close. So it needs to be there for guys too. Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:53 PM
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All nice in theory. But most single mothers spent half of what they earn paying for childcare. We have a political system where the same people who discourage abortion also discourage reliance on government. Imho, the key is reducing oow birth in the first place. I honestly don’t have any issue with stable, well paid single moms …or gay dads hitting the sperm bank/surrogate…yeah it’s not ideal but at least those kids will be loved, cared for and are wanted. For broke young women who have an oops…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:50 PM
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https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/male-birth-control-pill-expected-to-start-human-trials-this-year-180979814/ Politically the right is far too tradcon and the left too bleeding heart I admittedly fall in category 2 in that starving kids isn’t something that I think we should just let fly and wait for “the free market to fix”. It never has before. Reliable, long lasting and reversible birth control for men will never totally eliminate baby trapping, but it would be a good head start. So w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:40 PM
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I actually think technology will solve the issue before politics will. Pregnancy used to be the inevitable result of sex, it’s moving to an opt in and intentional consequence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:32 PM
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As a point of morality, I agree. The man who never wanted the child and voted for abortion has been denied his right to opt out. Financial abortion, and sole responsibility falling on the person who chose to have the child is how it “should” be. As a point of practicality? Undernourished kids, foster kids and orphans are the losers through no fault of their own and bad for society at large. Many people having oow birth are not responsible. Surprise , surprise. As a tax payer I accept some of thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:23 PM
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I can’t deny the logic or fairness of the argument in favor of financial abortion tbh. It’s the implementation that hasn’t worked. My objection to financial abortion isn’t a moral one as much as a practical one :/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:14 PM
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I think not having a child who isn’t wanted is the responsible thing to do. Using birth control is responsible. Using Plan b or an iud so the conception doesn’t implant is being responsible. If those fail, and you won’t be a good parent, abortion is being responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:38 PM
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Spending 18 years partially supporting a kid AND changing diapers, waking up in the middle of the night to feed it, spending 18 years living with it, raising it, worrying over it affects someone less than simply partially supporting it? You might want to rethink that logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:34 PM
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They could never get tax benefits from marriage, claiming dependents, or head-of-household. For most it would still be a net gain. Especially when you factor in Medicaid benefits. I’m not at all opposed to social engineering. I’m also not strictly against some people receiving benefits and you have pointed up lots of ways upper class and middle class people are incentivized to not cheat, but not working class or the working poor. Outside of social security and sales taxes, these are the people n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:13 PM
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It’s actually how it worked in the past before the mid 1990’s and didn’t work well at all. Social workers had to catch the couple living together, literally show up and catch dad in the house and then try to prove he wasn’t there for a visit. We’ve been here before. both parents would be in a lot of trouble if they were caught What are you going to do? Fine them? Throw them BOTH in jail? Now you have a kid in foster care….that’s the worst possible outcome. But the woman would be the only one who…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:37 PM
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Lol. Median age for marriage now is 27 for women. Terpers live in the past….a lot. That being said, these days 25 is a good age to start looking if you want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:15 PM
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I could really care less if murderers were killed. I used to be very pro death penalty. Learning about wrongful convictions has changed my mind. “Since 1973, at least 187 people who had been wrongly convicted and sentenced to death in the U.S. have been exonerated.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:11 PM
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Yeah….in theory. Like u/CentralAdmin said, let the woman know where she stands straight up. Maybe fewer would choose to be oow moms. In practice? Why wouldn’t every man just collude with his baby mama and do it? Even ones who wanted and planned their kids? He could make as much money as he wanted while his baby momma was home cooking dinner and getting benefits. We’ve been there done that. It would be a regulatory nightmare sorting the scammers from the skaters
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:04 PM
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Before the child is born it’s a decision between two. After the child is born it’s a decision involving three….and the taxpayer. Hey kid, wanna starve while your dna donor spends all his money on a new monster truck? Mom, kid and taxpayers vote no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:48 AM
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Irresponsibly making kids in poverty is a crime against society that should penalized. In theory I agree with you, but there are two problems. Irresponsibly making kids already penalizes the kid, letting it starve just penalizes it more. Not providing resources to the kid makes it more likely that he will grow up as an even bigger burden to society. Poor women don’t have kids as much as out of wedlock kids make women poor. People are going to have sex. We make women have jobs and work for benefi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:36 AM
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If women knew men could not be forced to pay it may make them think twice and actually lower the number of single moms around, reducing the impact on the state. I’ve thought of this too, let these women know what they are in for before they decide to become a single mother. I think lots of them think “he will eventually come around”. The problem though becomes collusion and gaming the system. Why wouldn’t every guy just officially financially abort? Even ones who plan for and want their kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:18 AM
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I bet he hasn’t had a decent shit in a while. Constipation makes me cranky too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 10:58 AM
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It’s a vote with only two voters. When there is a disagreement, there is an impasse. It does effect the woman WAAY more than the man, so this is totally fine. There is your answer. No one is happy if there is a difference of opinion and either an abortion is forced or a birth is forced. Someone is going to be wronged. In a tie vote, the decision goes to who will be affected more. Edit, btw, ideally, the person who feels more strongly should make the call, but this is typically impossible for any…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 10:52 AM
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I have two really good friends I call “one and dones”. One has not had sex in decades since her breakup, the second is extremely good looking and successful, dates a bit, never seriously, but has not had a relationship since she found out her ex husband was cheating by reading about his arrest in a prostitution sting. I could have seen myself going wgtow quite easily at one point in my life tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:02 AM
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“Menhir”. Til
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:50 AM
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Early twenties probably the bald guy. Late twenties fat woman by a mile. Bald dudes do fine when they are older if they are masculine. They just need to shave it off and be in shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:49 AM
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Me too. Completely celibate for two years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:13 AM
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Well, they are absolutely right about me not understanding his intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:19 AM
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Atheist. At least I hope there is no God. If there is, he’s got a lot of explaining to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:11 AM
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We weren’t married, together 7 years. He’s never married
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:07 AM
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Well, my ex cheated on me because I was his first and only. Fomo… Don’t know if he ended up a serial cheater or not, but he was a virgin when we started dating
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:53 AM
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Oooo he cute.👍 Wear him out and make him too tired to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:43 AM
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Frank O’Hara http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-yXdSJtkJK7w/TanI6jrp2cI/AAAAAAAAAdI/kQQ2o0V6vyo/s1600/One+on+Necrophilia.jpg
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:27 AM
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Well I have a small passive source of income, if I was widowed and he were faithful I think we could get this to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:36 AM
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Mmmm, is he kinda boring? Most lazy people are pretty boring
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:26 AM
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Lol, tell him to eat a goddamn vegetable
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:20 AM
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STAY with a broke one?! I married one who was already broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:15 AM
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I was celibate for two years in my late twenties following a devastating break up and single for several more after that. It sucked. No sex sucked. Not having that pair bond with anyone anymore sucked. always looking to the other side of the fence. I saw the other side of the fence for long enough to be eternally grateful. But then again, despite my husband not being what many would consider a logical choice, I not only love him, I like him too. Most of the time. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:13 AM
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Really? I love my husband, but I don’t know that I could say “unconditionally”. I loved my ex of 7 years, but not unconditionally. He wanted to sleep with other women, he ultimately didn’t want to commit. Found out soon after he had already cheated. My love was not unconditional. I had a really good friend who I loved once, in a very different way, but I still loved her like a sister, and she hurt my feelings really badly. My love was not unconditional. Another friend I found out behaved extreme…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:32 PM
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It's always sketchy when people fall in love quickly. I did, twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:19 PM
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one magical person to turn up in your life is stupid and childish I agree with this part. There is nothing particularly special about any one person you may love. No, there is no such thing as love. Wasting your time But wholeheartedly disagree on this. I love many people in many different ways, ordinary flawed people, not unicorns. Love exists and romantic love exists. It’s in our dna and has shaped us into what we are today. It’s also the absolute best thing to do with your time, to cultivate …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:16 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:58 PM
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Hey…how’s he doing these days? Good recovery?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:55 PM
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Mmmm, I gotta both agree and disagree a little here. Woman have less body hair even before hair removal, (pits and pubes are probably the exception to this) but a woman who doesn’t shave, on average, will have less arm and leg hair, and certainly much less chest and facial hair than a man. So it seems to me that hair removal on arms, legs and upper lips can be an enhancement of an already dimorphic trait. Hairy doesn’t just look manly, it literally is manly. https://sons.co.uk/blogs/journal/hair…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:21 PM
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Oof, yeah in theory that works out great. Some people are just mismatched from the start, but unfortunately sometimes things change. Might be physical, hormonal, etc. That’s always tricky. Btw, I’m not just “team woman” on this issue. To me it’s insane to expect monogamy if you aren’t meeting someone’s needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:29 PM
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Exactly. And the other side saying just stop being horny duh. There are ways of finding compromise, but most people have shit communication skills and don’t even understand themselves what is going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:59 PM
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🤣. Never change reluctant possum, never change! Big girls need love too ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:50 PM
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It seems to me that if a woman wants to keep her man happy, all she has to do is give him regular sex, and he will be happy This is where understanding between men and women really falls apart. Many men can just “take one for the team”, for a woman having sex when you really don’t want it is not only physically uncomfortable, it’s often emotionally uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:37 PM
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You forgot “I deserve better than what I’m pulling”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:16 PM
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I’ve seen most American women and believe me, they are ordering plenty of pizzas.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:15 PM
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I am older than dirt. I just got back from vacation and I am technically “marginally overweight “, AND in the 23% of weight for my age, meaning over 3/4 of women my age are fatter than I am. Take that in, lol. Americans are fat. Luckily it’s not on my stomach. I was swimming 2 miles a week until my recent vacation, walking the equivalent of 5 miles a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:07 PM
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No. Fat people have bigger gravitational fields and attract each other like orbiting planets. Fat people who won’t date other fat people are usually called single.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:32 AM
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trying to sell me I think this is more accurate than “totally love it”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:25 AM
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Posted this before…but fat is a dimorphic trait, women are just designed to carry more. Fat on men is feminizing, literally. It lowers testosterone. Plenty of guys don’t mind extra pounds especially if it sits on the boobs and butt. (Bellies are more problematic ).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:21 AM
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Actually this is a good take.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:16 AM
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I have to have both, seriously I dropped a guy who was a bad kisser, but if I had to live with no kissing or no cuddling, it would be no kissing. I think no kissing would be more tolerable than bad kissing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:11 AM
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🙋‍♀️H and I sleep like spoons most of the night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:08 AM
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And I keep TELLING YOU…. you were already too old. People in your prime, 25 years ago MARRIED in their mid twenties, and the serious, low count family types were dating each other by their early twenties, not looking to start dating at 29. And they weren’t dating the guy who was sleeping with women he wasn’t interested in throughout college “for experience “
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 01:06 AM
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I went to college too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:58 AM
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I needed more experience, Lol. Yeah Buddy, so did I. “That’s why I banged all those bad boys, so I would know a good one when I found him”. How’s that sound? Like I said, back in your prime, people married their college sweethearts. This is the real truth marriageable women were rejecting me 🎠 🎠🎠. Too bad, so sad. You stayed too long on the carousel for the serious minded hvw of your prime
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:55 AM
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No one is stopping you from enjoying sex as you please. With women you really aren’t interested in, with women you are just using to avoid loneliness or to gain experience.But every action has consequences. When a potential partner such as yourself engages in given behaviors, serious minded, high value women often have feelings that make them less interested in you. It’s like shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:45 AM
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Back in your prime? The serious hvw? Married to their college sweetheart at around age 25, the guy they met sophomore year, not to the guy who was hooking up with everyone “for experience”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:35 AM
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I used to have a lot of phone and internet sex for that reason as a 20 something You might be an outlier. For every woman interested in casual there are 10 dudes, and sure, some is cultural, but it’s not just cultural. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjunMWFo-X3AhWNnGoFHY2vB60QFnoECAkQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fpubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov%2F21602316%2F&usg=AOvVaw0E6Oaic8NdHUSI6oBPywMV
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:27 AM
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Dude if you couldn’t get hvw 27 year old women when you were 29, why do you think being 5 years older would make that easier. 25 years ago, average age of marriage was more like 25. People typically date for a few years before getting married. You needed to be looking when you were younger than 25….you know back when you were “hooking up”. You wasted your shot at getting someone to meet your high expectations. It’s fucking hilarious, you sound exactly like waatgm. “Tired of hookups, I did it bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:23 AM
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Back in college, I hooked up with a lot of gals I had no particular interest in, even though they did in me. Mostly for the experience Where are all the good women!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:13 AM
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Fillers are dicey, but I’ve seen some good natural nose jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:08 AM
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Yeah, the hvw ones that did want marriage and kids were filtering you out. You rendered yourself “unqualified “ with random hookups. How is this not obvious to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:17 PM
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So, in my mid-30s, I aimed at women in their 20s. Few wanted to give up the fun life and become a wife and mother, The hvw in their 20’s didn’t want a washed up player and a middle aged man. Again….duh . It writes itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:14 PM
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Well…….Study on Dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:09 PM
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Yeah, well the ones looking for marriage and family were avoiding the dude hooking up with randos “for the experience “ like the plague. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:08 PM
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I don't think I've ever seen one done well When it’s actually done well, you can’t see it….. I’m Scandinavian and spent my life in the sun. I had a hetter peel. It really changed my face for the better .
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:05 PM
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Unless you are going to try for a top tier graduate school, law etc. you are probably wasting your time. A 3.5 with good social skills and connections made in school will go just as far if not farther than a 4.0. I have a neurotic streak and learned this lesson too late myself
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:01 PM
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I do edibles once or twice a year and frankly a daily wake and bake guy would be a bit of a red flag. On the other hand, someone who told me they never tried a single drug ever? Probably way too uptight for me as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:54 PM
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So a lot of women, especially older women, just weren't allowed to be openly sexual Lol, sorry, no offense but you really are kind of delusional. I lived with gay men as roommates. Dudes get spontaneously horny much more than women. Like my roommate would just feel horny a few times a week and hit the docks. Women typically have a much more reactive sexuality. Yes, women in the limerence phase of a relationship might find their desire for sex really high, but typically don’t get incredibly horny…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:48 PM
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Back in college, I hooked up with a lot of gals I had no particular interest in, even though they did in me. Mostly for the experience 😂 sounds like you stayed too long at the fair on the carousel yourself and now want to cry “where are all the good women”. I k ow where they were. They were avoiding the guy who was acting like a player. You weren’t exactly acting like altar material either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:35 PM
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Churches aren’t necessary for high social cohesion. Denmark is one of least religious countries and has very high social cohesion. https://www.bertelsmann-stiftung.de/en/our-projects/gesellschaftlicher-zusammenhalt/project-news/scandinavia-is-global-leader-in-social-cohesion/ Denmark is extremely high in volunteer participation and social organizations https://denmark.dk/society-and-business/associations
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:28 PM
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Fucking hilarious. 200 women in 14 years? Cause you couldn’t figure out their age, weight, parenthood status etc etc before you got “involved”. And men say women have no accountability. 🐹
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:17 PM
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This is the best answer, and the one with the fewest words.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:18 PM
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Culture hasn’t killed religion. Religion has committed suicide. Good riddance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:45 PM
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🏆 hobosexuals got it going on
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:32 PM
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no matter what they claim Lol…but they definitely claim otherwise. So watch what they do and not what they say? Gee, where have I heard that before? Amalt
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:28 PM
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And this is from the Marriedredpill sidebar…… From the FAQ: So yes, Red Pill is against marriage because of the way it works in modern society. However, in MRP we are already married. We don't support modern marriage, but we detest divorce even more. However, we no longer fear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:27 PM
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Everyone has red flags to someone Totally agree. There are some red flags that are pretty universal like mentally unstable or a chronic liar, but one person’s red flag can easily be another’s green flag (religion, politics, personality) We don’t all want the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:12 PM
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No one said otherwise. Are you responding to voices in your head? My point was that red pill men DONT WANT WIVES. You can’t have a family and not get married unless your children’s mother is by definition a single mother
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:06 PM
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So then if you find it hellish….easy……don’t have kids. Maybe you missed the whole debate???
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:11 PM
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The tradcons think they are terpers now. Just typical “redpilled” guys who want to marry young, be good monogamous family men and start having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:09 PM
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I fully understand, that’s not the issue. They expect a woman to be a single, baby momma for them, not be a wife. The sort of woman who would agree to this? Your typical baby momma.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:57 PM
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Lol, if you think terpers are pro marriage,you know nothing about the redpill
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 11:56 PM
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Not really,but even if it were always true…..terpers are firm in the belief that they will go through life choosing no one, not to marry at least. You either want a family with a decent woman who won’t settle for a baby daddy, (anti marriage terper), or you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 11:21 PM
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I didn’t choose the wrong one…I didn’t choose a plate spinning, non commitment man who refused to get married either
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 11:09 PM
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Lol, no. I expect them to raise their own,not brag about what a good dad they are every other weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:24 PM
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My h made much, much less money. In the beginning, after we started living together, I paid the mortgage (owned the house before we dated) he paid the utilities. We split most everything else. As time went on and after we married it all went to a common pool. When I sold that house and used the money for a second one, both our names went on the title You really can’t have a healthy relationship and kids together if every single thing, chores or money, is constantly evaluated on a scorecard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:36 PM
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There was another guy who raved about single fatherhood, never married, and proudly stated he saw his son EVERY OTHER WEEKEND. Wow. Lucky kid. He also stated he wanted more kids with another woman
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:21 PM
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they just think that those single moms who could have chosen a stable guy over a problematic one Right….someone other than the terper …..who expects her to have kids with him but will never marry her. Lol, no thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:18 PM
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Also….most terpers hate single moms…..and also hate marriage. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 08:58 PM
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I’d take a bald man over a fat man any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:30 PM
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People with kids already are best paired with others with kids. Unless someone’s kids are grown, being a stepparent is a bad deal all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:23 PM
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😂 That would be a great story. But….I bet a dollar they were fightin over their shared baby daddy and who got first dibs on his paycheck from Walmart
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 05:49 PM
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My favorite “best of the year” police report in my small hillbilly town. One single mom threatening to beat another single mom in the parking lot …..after church. At least they waited until services were over.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 05:36 PM
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no friends and had no opportunities to experience what most people experience in their teens and twenties. I live in an area of lots of homeschooling and would add extremely sheltered kids as being in the above category.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:21 PM
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Not to “shame”, I’m no Angel myself and my husband was a slut back in his 20’s, but over 1000 sounds like a sex addiction. I’ve had gay male roommates and 1000 in 10 years would be crazy even for a promiscuous gay guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:08 AM
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Lots of older guys do well with younger women, but they are almost always guys who did even better with young women when they were young themselves. If a guy who was unsuccessful with women when he was young thinks he’s going to be popular with young women when he’s old, he’s probably going to be disappointed……or settle for a young single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 01:51 AM
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Age of marriage for women in 1980 and 1890 are identical. Try again https://www.infoplease.com/us/family-statistics/median-age-first-marriage-1890-2010
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:32 PM
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Not mentally ill and financially stable, and having stable parents …..so that’s now .02% of the population?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:30 PM
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Pre 1950? Lol like the divorce rate after world war 2? https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theatlas.com%2Fi%2Fatlas_rJNDooAWX.png&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fqz.com%2F1314011%2Fthe-unromantic-untold-story-of-the-great-us-divorce-spree-of-1946%2F&tbnid=Af1iw4X9mTB-8M&vet=12ahUKEwiYl-7O2tf3AhWClYQIHRaeAC0QMygAegUIARCrAQ..i&docid=2Etk5vuZQiQEEM&w=656&h=446&q=after%20world%20war%20two%20the%20divorce%20rate%20in%20the%20united%20states%20went&client=safari&ved=2ahUKEwiYl-7O2tf3AhWClYQ…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:10 PM
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Get married young especially for women Statistically? A HORRIBLE idea 48 percent of those who marry before the age of 18 are likely to divorce within 10 years, compared to 25 percent of those who marry after the age of 25. 60 percent of couples married between the age of 20 -25 will end in divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 11:27 AM
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Priests are equally as likely as the average person to molest kids Great. What a ringing endorsement. So absolutely no more commendable or worthy of respect than any other rando.,…. meanwhile uncle terry just goes to jail. And “father” Terry gets transferred to another parish
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 10:14 PM
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for most of human history, the celibate monks/priests/hermits/etc. Had a very strong social standing You mean the kid fuckers?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 09:15 PM
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Underrated comment. Even people with lots of experience will get better over time with each new partner
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 06:30 PM
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Lol…if it’s you? One of the normal types? Bring it on bebe. Most of the more “challenged “ types? That’s a no go from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 06:23 PM
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Ah…..didn’t read down….just pointed out the same
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 05:28 PM
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Even weirder to ponder for the “life begins at conception “ crowd. The vanishing twin. “ After the developing twin disappears, its fetal tissue is absorbed by the surviving baby and its mother.” So you have now absorbed another “human life” with the same rights as any another other human..are you convicted of involuntary manslaughter and cannibalism at birth?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 05:27 PM
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High earners need maids, not chore calendars.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:40 PM
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Right. Us teenagers at the time were into pretty boys with shag haircuts. Older woman at the time were into very masculine men. It’s the same today.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:54 AM
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Message from the crypt……Boomer here. It was exactly the same when I was a kid. David Cassidy was the teen idol of my generation. So was Rick Springfield. My mother thought Burt Reynolds and Tom Sellack were handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 11:47 PM
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What percentage of single men do you think are losers? Past age 30? Probably half, and 80% of the ones who don’t want to be single and have no prospects What makes them losers? Boring, unmotivated, insecure, maybe tragically overweight. Whenever you aren’t getting what you want that you are reasonably capable of achieving, you sure aren’t a winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:49 PM
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Well in order to remain highly desirable with lots of options, you really only need to age better than others in your age range and have reasonable expectations for age gaps. At 40 if you stay fit, and are good looking, you can date down to 30 pretty easily. On a relative scale you can keep a high smv. But on an absolute scale, hair begins to thin, wrinkles start to appear, etc. We all age, and we all look better, younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:33 PM
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This is just laughably wrong. Hell sometimes parts don’t even fit. Sexual compatibility is much more than loving and caring about each other. I thought I loved my first, thought I was having great sex. Lol…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:11 PM
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Yep. I couldn’t agree more
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:06 PM
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dont see that declining anytime soon I said something pretty similar….22 for women, 27 for men. In terms of seeing looks decline? At 28? Get ready, it’s coming
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:05 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:01 PM
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Women 22 men 27
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:47 PM
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No it is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 10:05 AM
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had my boys every 2nd weekend And…….you actually think this was good for anyone? Sad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:57 AM
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Everyone settles
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:46 AM
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Quality over quantity as we age
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:26 AM
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they got burned by being housewives. This. u/gofigure62 is 100% correct. My husband and I have a very traditional dynamic. When we took Grids masculine/feminine/androgynous test, I scored as one of the most feminine posters. Don’t confuse traditional gender roles with economic independence . I am an engineer by profession because it pays well. At home I am Betty fucking Crocker. “a traditional 1950s household and all the manners that come with it. The women took care of the men with food, drinks…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 02:11 AM
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My latest FWB can cum only from clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, which is fine, but if any one of 100 items on a checklist (don't move too much, rub both nipples like this but not too hard or too soft or too fast or too slow, don't make too much noise etc etc) Sounds like she absolutely IS taking responsibility for her sexual pleasure and has no hang ups at all about telling you what she needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 01:42 AM
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Different sets of people. High n women don’t mind high n men in the least. Religious, sexually conservative women often mind very much
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:31 PM
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I don’t really think it’s a bad tactic. We live in an age of birth control and abortion. Our physical development and our mental development have never been on the same track and are increasingly diverging. We develop sexually earlier than ever and mentally, financially and emotionally later than ever. We are physically ready for sex long before we are ready in any other way. I’d rather see all young people date around than be like our resident swinger who married the second girl he ever slept w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:29 PM
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That’s ridiculous to get banned for that comment. I understand there is an argument on the other side of things, so if this isn’t your belief, then debate your side, don’t shut things down. Fwiw, I think it varies from kid to kid, with a small portion who could be helped through medical transition. And a lot more like philo said, just confused, …….or seeking attention, being rebellious etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:12 PM
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Can you do me what she said? I have never noticed her saying anything bannable Edit….🤣.wow, I sound drunk. “Can you dm me what she said”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 01:37 PM
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Then I wouldn’t have non condom sex. Her Johns are also seeing multiple hookers
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 12:23 AM
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You think someone who will fuck you for money isn’t going to fuck other people for money ? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 12:38 PM
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So you want a relationship with a prostitute?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:04 AM
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Right…I understand this is how you think. Again, if you just want to fuck some hot girl and not pretend you actually want to get to know her as a person, then why are both of you pretending?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:28 AM
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Efficient and totally fake
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:07 AM
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it’s significantly easier to find good friends for free So you can’t find the real thing, but you will pay people to act? You do you….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:02 AM
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Lots of things can override a height preference. It’s just that…a preference. I like taller men, but dated a short guy who was adorable and handsome…but not rich or famous, lol. Of course other factors play into making someone overall attractive, like being successful, smart, etc. but in order for me to date someone they still have to be attractive in some way to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 04:51 AM
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Why the pretense? Kind of pathetic really, like paying people to pretend to be your friend
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 04:41 AM
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So you believe women can’t truly care about you, but you want them to pretend they do for money?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 04:33 AM
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Why not just get a different hooker every night?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 03:54 AM
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Comedians have been getting silenced for the last 10 years. Dave Chapelle, Ricky Gervais, Bill Burr. your stupid comment, not mine
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:18 PM
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If this is what the career of someone “cancelled” looks like, I bet a whole lot of comedians wish they were canceled A huge tour https://www.ticketnetwork.com/performers/bill-burr-tickets And two tv shows, one continuing and one new https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11691834/ https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4326894/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 02:02 PM
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Even a blind squirrel finds a nut I guess. Most people eventually marry. I look around at all of the losers in my poverty stricken little corner of Appalachia, and always have to remind myself that virtually all my shit for brains neighbors have actually had someone employ them at least once.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:06 PM
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The average age for men to get married is now 30. Most of those men had some sexual experience in their early 20’s with a woman also in her early 20’s. Most men are not marrying the hottest women they have ever had sex with. he doesn't really find you physically attractive That’s a very different issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:53 PM
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And? As I said, I’m clearly not the hottest my h ever had. So what?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:42 PM
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I have never been delusional enough to think I’m even close to the best looking woman my husband ever banged. My husband has forgotten about sleeping with women hotter than me. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/t2ttkk/daily_community_chat_megathread/ I can’t ever compete with the 19 year old women he was banging when he was 20. I can’t compete with the younger version of myself he met years before we started dating. Your top choice =/= the most attractive when it comes to who yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:12 PM
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When a man is at his prime sexuality (younger years), he is typically more willing to give it up to girls through one night stands, hookups, etc. “for free” - he doesn’t want to settle down in his early 20’s But as these men get older, this casual sex significantly decreases in frequency, both men and women start looking for commitment/relationship. Yes, this usually comes when both have diminished quite a bit in beauty. Makes perfect sense to me that younger people want to play the field and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:39 PM
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I disagree that wealthy men won’t marry broke women, but NBA players and rappers aren’t a good example. Most grew up broke and are marrying women of their social class.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 10:30 PM
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🤣🤣🤣No one in their right mind believes that. Lol, did they luv you too, GI? . You are delusional. Go to sexworkers and ask them if care if their customers are sexually attractive. Does it affect your enjoyment to know they just hope you will be quick and pay well?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 10:07 PM
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It’s not a big deal, I’m just saying that thinking they choose based on sexual attraction is hilarious. Women are allowed to do that, society allows women to choose men by their resources. Men are “allowed” to choose women based on resources too, I mean there’s no law against it. Most people factor in all sorts of factors into partner choice. Women no longer need to marry men they aren’t at least a little sexually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:58 PM
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the prostitutes initiate interest with men they are most attracted to? Lol, it’s their JOB. They initiate with men who pay the most, demand the least, and don’t cause trouble. They are looking for money, not a fulfilling sexual experience. In order to get that money, they may give you a gfe, but it doesn’t mean they are actually sexually attracted to you, you do get that, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:42 PM
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Why did you respond to my post with the comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:27 PM
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I won’t disagree with that. I’m a landlord in the rural south, people who make bad choices that compound the problems they were born with are my bread and butter. I have empathy, but not enough to let them skip a rent payment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:22 PM
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So what, women get dickpics here too. Exactly, lol. And unless we are in an intimate relationship, we don’t want to see some strange dudes dick. I can only imagine that some young girl who is avoiding extreme poverty and sees a dozen dicks a day might be even less enthusiastic. And of course prostitutes can turn down customers. I imagine they prefer their customers to be like the customers I had when I tended bar, it’s just another service industry after all ….the ones who tip the most money, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:58 PM
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I actually was really good friends with a guy who’s mom was criminally insane and schizophrenic, and according to another guy I met him through, he wasn’t exaggerating. Dragged him naked out of the shower when he was a teenager and tried to kill him. Cops would show up and she convinced them once he was the aggressor and he ended up in juvie He ended up prostituting himself at 14. I have sympathy for some people who prostitute themselves. He’s straight too. It was just the only way to stay out o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:47 PM
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Well I’ll look out for it, I often see them called gross….maybe that’s just my lens, but if I called someone gross it pretty much means I would not want to be friends with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:41 PM
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What? Stating that having sex is their job, not their hobby debases them how? 🤣. That’s just stating a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:39 PM
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the validation, lol. To have someone play the role? Without cash would any of these women even shake your hand? Here’s a little snippet from sexworkers “Anyways, i get really irritable when i get pot clients to say things such as "i really want your p**sy" "can you send me a more revealing picture so i know what ill be paying for" "cant wait to lick your whole body" "what would you like me to do to you when we meet?" etc... you get the point. I dont really like this type of talk, and absolutely …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:29 PM
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Leaving work drunker than you arrived didn’t exactly help
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:14 PM
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Oh god yes, as I said, years before we started dating. But I knew him back in his blackout drunk days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:13 PM
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I used to have a small, lingering insecurity about a much younger, absolutely gorgeous friend who had a ons with my husband back in his drinking days, long before we dated. Turns out, he had completely forgotten he had slept with her. Stacy widowhood averted. Proof positive. He really did need to quit drinking
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:00 PM
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I just thought it was amusing. The flip side of “we are all entitled to want what we want” and “some things are just gross to me”. She did have the most upvotes at one point in time…I’m sure my cross post fixed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:53 PM
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Huh? They are both “okay”. They are both prostitution. One is just pickier about their clients
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:35 PM
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And money (hopefully) goes to the women, that’s WHY those women are having sex with you, because they want money…not sex, and not with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:33 PM
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Pretty much a sugar baby. It’s all “okay” in the sense that I think it should be legal, but whenever you are paying her, it’s a choice of employment, not a choice of sex for pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:23 PM
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Gross. Lol. I guess just like high n guys who post here who say they find high n women gross. She goes on to selling a service is different than wanting to buy one and she doesn’t expect anyone to date her…we are all entitled to our standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:21 PM
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Lol, successful men visit hookers all the time. Probably much more than the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:14 PM
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Men will also have sex with people they don’t respect, and yet many who post would not want to be friends with a “slut”, much less date one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:07 PM
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Recent post on r/sexworkers, from an escort. “That being said - no, I personally would not intentionally befriend or date anyone who had a history of hiring providers. I find it to be a turn off. It’s not an ethical or moral objection (unless of course they are being unethical or immoral in the course of their choices), just grosses me out.” 😝 https://www.reddit.com/r/SexWorkers/comments/t1nf79/what_do_you_really_think_of_your_clients/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:55 PM
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cash transactional nature Even if the service was exact like Grindr, which it is not, since not all parties involved are necessarily looking only for sex, the money isn’t going to the women. That’s a huge difference. You might see it as “paying to get laid”, but you are not paying a woman to have sex with you, you are paying a service to expose you to women interested in casual sex, the rest is on you to make her WANT to have sex with you, not have sex with you because it’s her job. Think of it …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:43 PM
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Welcome to purple pill debate, land of the uptight.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:39 AM
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Be glad he showered and changed. Dinner could have been even more uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:36 AM
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The best sex she has was on LSD She has never done molly then. Immediate disqualification.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:33 AM
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Show me his shotgun. That was weird. My friend has a great one, online dating, she lives in the middle of nowhere in Maine. Guy is a professional musician, her teenage kids all play multiple instruments, so when he comes to pick her up, they all talk music, guitars etc. He’s just met her, been in her house about a half hour, the kids are there, and he whispers in her ear, “so what kind of porn do you like”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:22 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:07 PM
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Lol ….bUt It’S dIFferent. My husband can’t get the 8 he married anymore either…me years ago! Or all the underage chicks he banged when he was 15 himself. We all cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:45 PM
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How does that make you feel? Do you wonder if he's gonna stay with you? Wonder if he's gonna roam, like he had all these hot girls, is he gonna get bored? Lol, we get reminded all day here that when we hit 30 we are totally unfuckable. Every guy, no matter his age wants a 19 year old we are constantly told. That’s something women have to deal with that men don’t, but somehow we still have faith in our partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:36 PM
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Huh? That just a fact and doesn’t apply only to men. And I put no value judgement on it, it is what it is. “ Childhood emotional neglect can damage a child's self-esteem and mental health. It teaches them their feelings are not important”. “ shunning emotional closeness or intimacy” is a result. https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/childhood-emotional-neglect Most people don’t find emotional consequences so “easy to overcome”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:26 PM
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Emotional consequences are significantly easier to overcome than financial consequences. For people incapable of intimacy due to childhood trauma, I would say that is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:17 PM
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I’ve never been asked about mine, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:11 PM
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I didn’t. I came into my marriage with a house, a 401k and I earned more than my husband. I’m not an outlier, 30% of women make more than their husbands. Cheating and divorce are not all just about the Benjamins. Some people feel this thing called love. I was cheated on once. Being cheated on by someone you love has emotional consequences, no matter your gender
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:10 PM
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Lots of other people don't see sex as something special I think? Atleast not all the time. They can have emotional sex, they can "masturbate" with a prostitute. Saw your edit. I think for many, the impersonal aspects of prostitution is a feature, not a flaw. They prefer the impersonal aspect. Which I find chilling. These are your guys who could get sex, but prefer to buy sex like picking out meat at the deli counter. Narcissists like Trump. The flip side of the coin is the disabled, etc…who woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:03 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:43 PM
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I mean it’s just kind of a fact that most guys in the US don’t seem to base mate choice on a woman’s n count, especially if they have a higher one themselves. No one is saying you can’t feel what you feel, but I’ve never had a guy really care. Almost all the women here not in a religious cult will tell you most high n count men in the US don’t care, provided a woman isn’t crazy. High n count guys are fine with me as long as they don’t cheat and aren’t swingers, lol. Guys who buy sex…well let the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:41 PM
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You stated that johns are not "relationship material" by their propensity to cheat, their decreased value of monogamy, etc. By the same logic, all people who have higher sexual partners are not "relationship material". You're merely using ad-hoc rationalizations to delineate between a john and a high-n man, both of whom are likely to run-off and cheat. A high n man has the ability and propensity to cheat, I would not deny that, whether he values monogamy or not. He may be more tempted to cheat o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:34 PM
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Engineering joke…to preface let me say civil engineering is considered the easiest engineering…. How do you know God was a civil engineer? Who else would design the development with the playground adjacent to the waste disposal site.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:14 PM
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What? There are correlations. Men who see hookers state they value both relationships and monogamy less. Everyone “should” settle down with a low body count partner? Okay, so “should” pornstars. Good luck. So where does this John find this mythical creature? What low n count girl will want marry a guy who might run off to a hooker with $20 and at a moment’s notice?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:07 PM
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Sure. See my other response. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/t0d12i/daily_community_chat_megathread/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:53 PM
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Never said it didn’t. Lots of behaviors have correlations. Drug use, lack of impulse control are also related to promiscuity. So is use of prostitution. And promiscuity has a correlation to cheating. But the number one correlation to cheating is, you know, actual cheating. Many clients of prostitution are actually cheating on their wives. My husband and I both have high n counts by ppd prudish standards, but neither of us has ever been a cheater. You live your life, you take your chances. When w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:52 PM
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I think it absolutely should be legal. I would much rather this guy go to hookers than to “tolerate dating so he can use their body for sex”. I just agree with the john that they are not relationship material.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:07 PM
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paying to use their body This was also mentioned by the op in the context of dating. Women using him for money so he could use their body for sex. Of course nothing should be illegal about that, and of course no one should actually want to date a person who thinks that way about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:03 PM
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Every thread like this starts out “so what, I like hookers”, “I’m a busy guy who just wants some nsa sex”….and ends up “I hate women and only tolerate their presence to get sex”, “I see no point in relationships” and “I have a raging case of dismissive avoidant attachment, was abandoned by my mother and have cluster b traits”. Oh, and “I hate cuddling”, like that was a surprise, lol. Sure, not every guy who visits hookers is a cheating psycho, just like every slut won’t cheat if you marry her…..…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 01:48 PM
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Sorry, you just seem like a literal textbook dismissive avoidant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:00 AM
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Has anyone ever suggested you have Dismissive-avoidant attachment? This is not an attempt at “shaming”. I’m very serious. Were you ignored or mistreated as a child by your parents?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:56 AM
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Huh? They are literally talking about ordering people to have sex with like ordering pizza
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:49 AM
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I’m not surprised at all that you don’t want to get married and find relationships too much work or whatever. Studies on clients of prostitution: display a preference for having sex with a variety of partners, as well less relational and committed sex (Xantidis and McCabe, 2000; Farley et al., 2017). Furthermore, male clients of prostitution express more permissive attitudes toward extramarital sex, they think about sex more frequently, report a higher frequency of masturbating (Monto and McRee,…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:11 AM
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2 is my top choice 8 and 7 I find the least appealing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:24 AM
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Good grief…aren’t you like normal girth? Seriously, if your dick isn’t a button on a fur coat, most women won’t have a problem with it. You’re cock blocking yourself with neurosis
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:52 AM
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So I think being too big is definitely the better problem to have Not that many women are size queens. Some are, no doubt, but most aren’t. Too big is definitely a problem, especially to long. It’s like a complete no go for many positions at certain times of the month for me. You are going to drive yourself nuts worrying about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:41 AM
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If you only want no strings attached sex with multiple people then of course. How is it even a question? But there is such a thing as wanting relationships and family later in life. If you change your goals, you might find it hard to tack your sail.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:29 AM
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I’m worried about the poor dog who won’t stop barking
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:14 AM
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Oof.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:11 AM
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Divorced or never married? If you are single in your early 30’s? Divorced people start coming back on the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:06 AM
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Guess it’s a polite work around
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:04 AM
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A friend just told me a mutual friend told her boyfriend “I love you” and he responded with “I love spending time with you” 🥺. She made it worse by then telling him “No I’m in love with you” to which he said exactly nothing in return.☠️ Don’t know exactly how long they have been seeing each other but it’s been at least 6 months. She made the first move too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:50 AM
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The same question for women not finding commitment. The answer? Keep trying. Or at least stay open to the possibility if that’s what you want. The vast majority of people eventually find a monogamous partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:44 AM
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Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 02:38 PM
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Funny helps unless your sense of humor is sarcastic or acerbic. Easy to talk to is probably more valuable. Being approachable, good eye contact, open body language, lots of subtle touching will definitely make you magically more attractive. A woman with resting bitch face will limit her options.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 02:33 PM
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Least educated doesn’t mean not as smart. For that matter being exceptionally bright doesn’t mean you will be anxious, neurotic, or not neurotypical, but there are some correlations.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:20 AM
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My ex was exceptionally intelligent and completely neurotic, my h is handsome, fun and happy. Guess which one is easier to live with? https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/bad-news-for-the-highly-intelligent/
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:10 AM
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When my friend group started getting married, it was hilarious to me how many in attendance had hooked up with either the bride or groom at one point. When you tend bar, you get to see who is leaving with who, and what cars are left in the parking lot after closing. Let’s just say it might be a little weird at first but you will survive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 02:56 AM
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Not fat. That’s my own personal dealbreaker. No matter if everything else was great, an overweight guy just doesn’t do it for me. A handsome face trumps pretty much everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 02:46 AM
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Because the 120 lb ones are all taken
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 02:26 AM
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The VAST majority of men are not as successful in dating and sex as they want to be. Most would like to pick and choose between the hottest women around. Oh, and they should all be low n count and only want to bang you. Most women have fantasies of very hvm who want them and only them. Clearly neither is obtainable for average people. If not being a rock star or born a handsome prince, or able to lock down a rock star or prince, is “misfortune and circumstance”, then maybe you need to reevaluate…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:27 PM
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Put something about Texas or red dirt music in your name so we know who you are!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:42 PM
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It’s amazing what a smile can do to a person’s appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:47 PM
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🥁
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:45 PM
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Good for you. Kids need dads too. Good luck to both of you and your son. I hope you coparent amicably.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:49 AM
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Do you feel all warm and fuzzy after being asked “does my ass look fat in these pants?” 100 times? Insecure people at best get annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:45 AM
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😡DO IT.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:51 AM
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People need to be honest and negotiate these sorts of terms before committing. It’s up to each to get a compromise both can live with. What’s “fair” is different for every couple. Let’s say you negotiate back and forth on the price of a house. Both sides come to terms they agree on, and a “fair” price is set, certain repairs are to be made, a time frame for sale is established. One side breaches the contract, it goes to court. The one who breaches, loses. His actions were unfair. Op basically co…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:37 AM
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Wow…I think you’re getting corrupted by all the degenerates here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:21 AM
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I just want him to know that I don't care Jump his bones, he’ll get the idea
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:15 AM
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“Widows are far better than brides. They don't tell, they won't yell, they don't swell, they rarely smell, and they're grateful as hell.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:12 AM
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Apparently 5’4” Indian janitors do, at least that’s what I’ve read.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:06 AM
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It’s not the end of the world though. At least now we have some modicum of affection 🎶 https://www.google.com/search?q=get+it+while+you+can+lyrics&client=safari&channel=ipad_bm&source=hp&ei=UU8QYojQIfSNwbkPk5mLoAk&iflsig=AHkkrS4AAAAAYhBdYVCVKqro-Vyj2M4n3n_YPX-BRZ27&oq=get+it+shile+you+can&gs_lcp=Cgdnd3Mtd2l6EAEYATIHCC4Q1AIQDTIECAAQDTIECC4QDTIECAAQDTIHCC4Q1AIQDTIHCC4Q1AIQDTIECAAQDTIECC4QDTIHCC4Q1AIQDTIECC4QDToOCAAQjwEQ6gIQjAMQ5QI6DgguEI8BEOoCEIwDEOUCOhEILhCABBCxAxCDARDHARDRAzoLCAAQgAQQsQMQgwE6CAg…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:02 AM
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The day she realizes that her vagina no longer has the power to get her preferential treatment. Any woman can get a bone tossed in her. Pretty much my point….She will still get some chump to pay for her dinner, to simp, to change her tire etc, because some poor dude somewhere still wants to bone her. Some 60 year old widow can still get some 70 year old offer to shovel her drive. I know a 64 year old who was widowed last summer and she already has old men sniffing around. Just because she is at …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:52 AM
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I think you are conflating different things. I think most men, if single and you meet their level for attraction, will smash their female friend. They can have low key SEXUAL attraction …because they are men lol, and happily not act on them. I think over time, they can also develop ROMANTIC feelings. I don’t think “attraction” is the dividing line. Most men are not demisexual, they can have sexual attraction independent of romantic attraction aka “feelings”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:41 AM
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today?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:34 AM
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We always agree on these types of questions. Happy cake day
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:32 AM
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😆 It just might change your life https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-molly-works-in-the-brain/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:21 AM
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Look at those latest stats. Your post wall women have WAY more sex than men in their 30’s. Women may lose lots of smv as they age, they can lose half and still have more than men. See this woman? https://i.insider.com/4f43aff26bb3f74514000000?width=1200&format=jpeg&auto=webp Male thirst is so bad this woman can still make a living off of charging men for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:18 AM
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I don’t control masturbation or porn, but I’m not a high inhibition, risk adverse individual. Most risk adverse people who expect high control and restricted sexuality on the part of their partner are not going to be very happy with someone who refuses any restrictions on their own. As to risk aversion flieshpeter or whatever his name is, is wrong. Instead of coke, try molly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:09 AM
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Hate to tell you, monogamy is, by definition, both parties agreeing to control their sexual habits. It is what it is. Don’t want that, then you probably have to forgo a genuine, non transactional, intimate relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:57 AM
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Who has to know, lol. (Did I need to add /s?)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:52 AM
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The man doesn't want to lose his house and custody of his children. You forget about guys in those situations? You have the option of compromise or not having the wife and kids in the first place. Or just hire a surrogate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:42 PM
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I mean you are saying the same thing for yourself. Do everything my way of gtfo. Yeah, if we can’t find exactly what we want, and refuse to make concessions, being alone is probably the best option. Everyone has some dealbreakers. Depends on what you want more, a relationship or control.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:39 PM
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Perfect description. We used to have a poster, u/Pennnylame ? She described this as green light, yellow and red. Yellow can usually get to green, when it’s red, it a no go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:01 PM
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You can think it’s unfair to you because you don’t get what you want. In order for your life “to be fair”, and for you to get what you want, then someone else’s life is unfair. Like all the young women and young men who don’t want to marry early and want to have premarital sex, then marry later. They are the majority, you are the outlier. You missed your shot to get your own outlier. A girl who wanted to get married at 18. Too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:53 PM
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You know I agree. Genetic testing already has such a huge database based on dna given voluntarily, they can already narrow down dna to family lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:42 PM
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I agree. Who is normal anyway? Your next door neighbor’s everyday life might seem relatable on the surface, but everyone is an outlier in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:55 AM
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Lol, exactly. Her and about 20 other women speaking for themselves and I bet they all drive cars too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:27 AM
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🙋‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 01:32 AM
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You are assuming all 34.2% want, or are even capable of having sex. 2004 study of about 27,000 men found that 11 percent of men in their 30s had ED A recent survey in the United Kingdom concluded that about half of men in their 30s struggled to get or maintain an erection. More than a third of men under 30 reported they were affected by erectile dysfunction (ED) Etc, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 01:30 AM
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Most people don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 01:19 AM
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Okay. In my experience? Depends on how drunk they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 12:58 AM
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You think that’s an example of someone catering to a niche kink? No, that is someone who relies on VOLUME sales. Think 20 random guys a day at $10 a pop, that puts food on her table, and she clearly isn’t missing any meals. Back when I tended bar, we had a middle aged alcoholic woman who looked quite similar, but was always dirty and smelled horrible. I saw her go home with a guy about once a week, some not bad looking in the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:44 PM
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Wrong, lol. This is what some men will PAY to have sex with. https://i.insider.com/4f43aff26bb3f74514000000?width=1200&format=jpeg&auto=webp Now…….Imagine how many would do it for free
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:13 PM
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Yes. Maybe not a specific hot guy, maybe not the hot guy she really wants, But a good looking younger guy? Absolutely. Don’t make me relive my bartending days.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:11 PM
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Overrated bot
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:03 PM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:12 PM
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Underrated comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:06 PM
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You obviously have never heard of a gloryhole
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:06 PM
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FDS: “I like to eat”🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:49 PM
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Peterbuilt!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:04 PM
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I’m out of the game, married. But men need to stop bitching about only hot guys being chosen on OLD. That’s literally really all women have to go on, that and a short bio which may or not contain a shred of truth. The medium is the message. I wish men would stop saying “I don’t care about your education or your career”, and then in the same breath, complain about gold diggers. You don’t care if women have their own money, but are mad when she wants to spend yours? Caring only about looks is not …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:05 PM
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Love your user name!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 01:16 PM
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A normal cute girl who will be an old unfuckable hag at 29? Living with a guy she loves, who now wants to trade her back in for a 19 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:56 AM
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I have a young male friend, very smart, total failure to launch. Identifies as asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:04 AM
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I think marriages need prenups. If you have a sah parent situation that should be between the couple what happens when they split. I also think the family leave should be given to the family. The family can decide how it is split
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:04 AM
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You realized that comment was intentionally flippant, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 01:46 AM
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No women these days need a man to avoid poverty. More women go to college than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:17 AM
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Poor? My bsme would like to have a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 04:51 PM
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How many of you love your partner, …I do. see them as someone you’re happy to be with, their company is always enjoyed or at least not viewed as a negative?… we have our battles and disagreements, but I have more in common with him than most of my female friends. I think over the years, our tastes and opinions have somehow converged. We spend 95% of our free time together. When I do something without him, I often think “h would love this” or “I wish h was here”. What do you love about your partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:26 PM
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Tightens skin, takes away wrinkles, took off every bit of skin damage (I’m Scandinavian) and boosts collagen. It’s extremely long lasting, and as horrific as it sounds, it’s basically highly controlled scarring. It’s such a deep chemical peel that they have to put you under with anesthesia and give you drugs to sleep the whole next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:34 AM
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I’ve had a phenol peel. It is the bomb, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:08 AM
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Gotcha. I understand the rebuttal on logical grounds. But my example supports Philo. I lived in two places in my life where prostitution was everywhere, and what many men will pay to have sex with is surprising at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:49 AM
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well okay…I think we agree then that type appeals to men, to me she’s fat, lol. Her BMI is 25 if you believe the Internet (looks higher to me). No way no how I’d want a guy with a BMI of 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:30 AM
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And women undervalue weight compared to men for a rating number Really? I think men in general are more tolerant of a little extra fat on a woman. My ex used to love women like Christina Hendricks….he seemed to be willing to overlook a little extra flesh as long as the boobs were big
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:06 AM
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When you show me male prostitutes, that are actually making a living off of having sex with women, that look like the male version of this https://i.insider.com/4f43aff26bb3f74514000000?width=1200&format=jpeg&auto=webp then I will say that makes the sexes equal. Maybe you wouldn’t pay this woman for sex, but someone apparently does, because she clearly isn’t missing any meals.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:56 AM
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“First wives club”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 02:19 PM
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find the young man who shows that he is a driven individual even if the rewards are not there yet. Well been there done that. He got successful and cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:42 AM
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I didn’t read down this far….
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 12:05 AM
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Angels fan? Edit ah, of course duh la a fan
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 11:57 PM
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She’s one top knot away from sumo master.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 11:52 PM
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That just sounds like mental illness tbh. I’ve had gay male roommates who basically had all the sex they wanted and none of them hit that benchmark.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 11:17 PM
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I’m kinda surprised, I always pictured your ex as a relatively high n party boy. Big drinkers tend to be casual sex havers in my mind, maybe all the way back to my 5 years tending bar. My ex was a virgin, I was a very low n, and fomo definitely happened. It wasn’t any armchair diagnosis on my part, he unequivocally stated he wanted to sleep with a bunch of different women before he settled down.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 11:14 PM
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https://twitter.com/box_oficeindian/status/1278201617611755520 Does your 5’4” janitor look like this? I recently posted on what traits I would give up in a partner. In order, first I would give up big dick, muscles, money, height, face, then personality. The first three are just “tall enough to ride” points. As long as your dick isn’t a button on a fur coat, you aren’t fat, you have a job, any job, that is sufficient. Height is nice, but a handsome face? That’s gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 01:24 PM
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I ignored money, my husband had none when we started dating. Not into muscular, not a size queen.. he is 5’11” , handsome and not fat. I could easily ignore height….handsome really is hard to give up, but absolutely 100% no fat guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 04:58 AM
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That was how my husband made it out of high school with a double digit number count
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 12:46 AM
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No shortage of women who would fuck a teenage boy. Considering how many teenage boys who would gladly do it, and how few actually get the chance, I would say there probably is a shortage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 04:03 PM
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Somehow to me it’s even MORE disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:56 PM
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Of course he can watch porn, lol. It would hurt because we promised each other the same thing. You don’t feel hurt when someone promises something and then doesn’t deliver? You can feel like casual sex is no big deal, but still experience jealousy. I don’t want to have to worry that he will end up falling in love with someone else, bring home a disease, will develop a taste for other women he will find hard to control. We want to stay together, til death etc etc. and want to minimize anything th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:03 PM
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No. We both agreed to be monogamous early on in the relationship. That’s what we both wanted. I don’t have a hall pass and neither does he. Remember..I said casual sex was no big deal IF no one was being hurt. We would both feel hurt if one of us decided to change the rules in the middle of the game. Other people can have open relationships, not for me to judge, but both of us would feel hurt if either of us turned outside of the marriage to get our sexual needs met.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:44 PM
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Actually I need to clarify. If something happened to me, and he was taking care of me, but I was unable to take care of his needs? I wouldn’t like it or encourage it, but I would understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:19 PM
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Well that would be against our agreement. So no
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:16 PM
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No, don’t want to be in a non monogamous relationship It would probably be the end of my relationship, it might not, it depends. But cheating involves lying, breaking commitments and destroying trust. Neither of us did that having casual sex. I would also note that neither of us have ever cheated on anyone while in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:52 PM
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Well if you’re one of those types of guys, then lock one down early.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:43 PM
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My husband didn’t care, but his body count is easily twice mine. He’s the only one I care about. Yeah, maybe we are both riskier, more likely to divorce or cheat…..statistically. But maybe on the other hand, we have both had enough casual sex that it lost its allure. Neither of us have mental health or impulse control issues or any other behaviors associated with high n count or cheating. We just both think if you aren’t hurting anyone, casual sex is not some life changing event. He knows he cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:43 AM
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Anthropologists have found it to be pretty common in ancient cultures. “A minority of cultures also have institutionalized wife-sharing, in which a husband is allowed to lend his wife to a particular other man or category of men. Sometimes, two men exchange wives. Wife-sharing is present in 34% of 101 cultures around the world (Broude, 1981). Typically, a man will share his wife with his kin or with a good friend. In cultures where wife-sharing is practiced, the husband can be expected to reap s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:18 AM
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How do you explain cultures that absolutely 100% don’t care? They aren’t common, but they do exist. Is this proof that men instinctively care or that the reason they care is cultural conditioning?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:48 PM
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2/5. …..Scandinavians don’t age well. At my best I was a solid 7.5, maybe an 8 with clothes on. That was 20 something years ago…right around the time I got married 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:13 PM
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Absolute or age adjusted?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:05 PM
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But I'd still wish him all the STDs in the world lol. 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:45 PM
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I don’t consider your dating history “perpetually single”. You don’t sound at either extreme, like a playa or an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:30 PM
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That reminds of the joke about rodeo sex, you start with doggy and tell her you fucked her sister halfway through.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:24 PM
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☠️ I’ve been told “we need to break it off, I’ve been tempted to cheat and I absolutely want to do that” after 7 years, that sucked unwashed balls, not sure “I don’t want to do that” would make any difference really.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:19 PM
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I’ve had male friends that started out attracted to me, and had it turn into friendships though. One was a really funny great guy who I ended up socializing with outside of work, but he wasn’t attractive to me. I definitely wanted to cultivate a friendship with him. He ended up marrying my friend and I was a bridesmaid. I could see from his end at times there were mixed signals, but I was clear in my mind at least. They could also just like the idea of being with this person, but the reality is …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:31 PM
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The Tinder swindler was swindling women, not men. A dude like him had to offer looks, glamor, money etc.AND make it seem plausible they would get repaid. Let’s be realistic, a good looking young woman only has to offer sex to get guys send her plane tickets He says he doesn’t have any friends and never leaves the house. If he were a rockstar or high class lawyer, etc etc, then maybe a wealthy girl would fly across the country. This dude is worried about explaining an overnight outside of the hou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:05 PM
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And?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:47 PM
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Not just Indian, but wealthy Indian? It really makes no sense. Very low possibility this is legit, especially if he is a shut in who lives with his parents, my first thought is she runs long cons on dozens of guys at a time with a fake identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:40 PM
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This can happen, keeping an orbiter around for validation. But they could also like you as a person, but not as a romantic interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:30 PM
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He looks terrible tbh. Clooney, Leto, Jeffrey Dean Morgan are all aging better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:17 AM
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And most of those 2.6% age gaps of 15+ years are second marriages. Way more 35/50 than 20/35 with age gaps The guy who can pull younger women are almost always the guys who could always pull women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:17 AM
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Ohhhh plane Jane had a bebe! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:14 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 10:46 PM
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Sounds like marriage material.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:52 PM
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Agree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:42 PM
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Also, have no idea who the last one was, but the first five cheated. So much for sharing a “top guy”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:40 PM
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This. I made the same point. You can, and might well be miserable single. I was going to make a post about this but I’m too lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:36 PM
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I mostly am. Been together 22 years, married 20. Was in an LTR when I was very young, it was very much like a marriage since we combined income, I supported him starting up a business and moved states with him twice. That was good until it wasn’t, and then it was horrible. The relative highs were absolutely not worth the low. Spent many more years single, several of those celibate. Mostly unhappy, often very unhappy. Celibacy was unnatural for me, casual sex was hit and miss, but better than not…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:20 PM
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Oof, that’s pretty shit tbh. Friendzone, fuckzone, pump and dumps….I usually fall on the side of “it’s on you to temper your expectations “, “no one owes you anything “ and grow up. You didn’t define where this relationship was headed before you caught feelings, these things happen. But outright lies, that for me crosses the line. I still don’t think they should have gone to his employer. But if all that is true, he’s a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:03 AM
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His looks are fading. When it comes to old dudes aging really well, Jared Leto is the goat
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:49 AM
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For me it got old. My best life is with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:46 AM
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Green-beard altruism Til something new. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:27 AM
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But children are certainly capable of making their own decisions. They are? Cause I know some little retards who would play in traffic, eat nothing but candy and never learn to poop in a toilet. There are really, really good reasons why no one believes children should make their own decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:19 AM
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Succinct and to the point!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:15 AM
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Make claims which are justifiable with the research that is there. I copied and pasted the actual research and conclusions.I made no personal claims, only various conclusions stated by that long list of studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:24 AM
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😝 I won’t disagree that psych isn’t a rigorous science, but we have to start somewhere other than “nah, I disagree”. A meta study like that one with multiple, overlapping conclusions, all negative, starts to look like some compelling evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:11 AM
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Neither men or women were having sex in 2008. If you believe that link anyway. Big dip for both, not just men, not just women But I agree, as job and financial worries increase, sexual interest goes down, people have other things to think about besides making the beast with two backs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:58 PM
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Financial recession and sexual recession happen concurrently. Women aren’t going to be suddenly in relationship mode when a recession hits. The opposite happens. Look at past data.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:51 PM
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Yep. Never denied it. Never claimed otherwise. Add in substance abuse, alcoholism all sorts of other things. Some of these a bit more easy to vett out, others like being a manipulator not so much. Everyone knows pretty quickly when they are dealing with an obvious bpd nut job, but dark triad? Not so much. https://www.businessinsider.com/why-narcissists-and-psychopaths-are-hard-to-spot-2018-5
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:44 PM
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Not buying it. 2008 was a financial recession and a sexual one as well https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fexternal-preview.redd.it%2FQ6aTJhGcdp_dFMR06BGwim9WACUbGKqIzNNfJzPLCKU.png%3Fauto%3Dwebp%26s%3Dc5bf4e3ef5d9060c8e95c4fcf0321f167e0b2706&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.reddit.com%2Fr%2FPurplePillDebate%2Fcomments%2Fr5pd5d%2Fwhat_explains_the_recent_decline_of_male%2F&tbnid=3S1wsJfjnt-loM&vet=12ahUKEwjF46S3jez1AhVP0FMKHTH2BhEQMygFegUIARCKAQ..i&docid=q5GbaRGftCaUQM&w=611&h=502&q=se…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:25 PM
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These last few days have really made me want to take a mental health day. Some of the stuff I’ve been reading just creeps me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:20 PM
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Facts. Only a small percentage of men are perverts, but the ones who are get around and do a lot of damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:14 PM
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If you think marriage is a trap, wait till you have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 08:31 PM
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I call bullshit. Women may not need protection and provision from men , but children always have, and still do, thrive with protection from both parents. 40 years ago, it was common for a wife to “take half of the husbands assets “ when she didn’t contribute financially and her non monetary contribution was considered. Today a sahm is an uncommon luxury. At best, with two working parents, both take equal share , with not always completely equatable distribution, both arguable split more assets t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:59 PM
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Marriage is harder to get out of than a partnership. That’s a feature, not a flaw
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:50 PM
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People’s children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:45 PM
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I agree with squid. People who “try” things like having kids and creating a family absolutely do more harm than good compared to those who are realistic about their own commitment and chances for success and “don’t try”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:45 PM
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I said we were both risky, did I not? It’s one thing to risk an unhappy marriage, quite another to risk an unhappy marriage to someone with dark triad traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:47 PM
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Pretty much. I had a dude working on my house, short, very obese with Tourette’s. Nice guy. Every few minutes he made a weird, involuntary raspberry sound Fair to say , despite having an amiable personality, his Smv was WELL below 95% of posters on ppd. I Met his looks matched wife and two overweight kids, who despite looking about the same level, did NOT make weird noises on the regular, so I think the dude was definitely doing pretty well in my area, all things considered. Had sex at least twi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:48 PM
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https://www.mortgageloan.com/why-single-women-buy-twice-as-many-homes-as-single-men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:02 AM
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Sure, millennial women are moving in with their older, more established boyfriends who found the apartment, negotiated the lease, moved in all the stuff.. Wrong. Single women buy twice as many houses as single men. Do you know how to Google?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 08:42 AM
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Sweet summer child, you are clearly answering the wrong woman on that score. A lot of women? Not all. Boys are more likely to live at home than girls🤣 2012, 40% of Millennial males lived at home with their parents, compared with 32% of Millennial females. Research finds that 27 per cent of men still live at home aged 27, compared to only 13 per cent of women. Same in the UK. 25-29 age group 27% of men are living their parents, compared with 15% of women finds Office for National Statistics in UK…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 08:08 AM
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What? What kind of nonsensical argument is this, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:59 AM
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Especially when we don’t like what they say
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:57 AM
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Lies, damn lies and statistics. According to pornhub, 25 % of porn hub users are women and 75% male This lines up pretty closely with other research, so we are all good so far From other research….“It appears that, at the time this survey was carried out, 77 percent of women reported never watching online porn, compared to 22 percent on men. Of men, nine percent said that they watched sexual content quite often and six percent on a regular basis.” That’s 23% of women who watch porn, 78% of men w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 04:31 AM
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Everything about this guy screams idiot. I wonder who’s alt that is 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:51 AM
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Everything about this guy screams idiot. I wonder who’s alt that is 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:51 AM
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Very true, and men never grow up at all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:31 AM
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sweet tea That’s just known as “tea” where I live. We have tea and unsweet tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:29 AM
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I’m sure it’s all good. AND THERE IS NO WEST!😝
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:20 AM
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Ohhh no need to explain. I totally get it…I did read that first answer and thought whoa…what happened here, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:15 AM
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🤣 I thought to myself dammmm…can’t even look away for a day…what did I miss?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:05 AM
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Yep. But the girls will be even crazier.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:02 AM
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All kidding aside? Dude will totally get even more dates ……..from borderline chicks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:01 AM
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I literally look like the type who will fuck you and never call you back. 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:58 AM
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Lol, and I wondered what Ppd drama I missed……….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:55 AM
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It’s their fantasy, the modern world they wish wasn’t rapidly expanding. If they close their eyes and think about 72 virgins, the west will disappear. Inshallah. 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:48 AM
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that there is no West They can dream, can’t they?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:38 AM
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Been there, done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:37 AM
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I totally agree. Still don’t want some dude who dials up women like pizza and pays extra for them to fake attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:35 AM
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I’m against neither. I just don’t want to date one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:44 AM
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I think it absolutely should be legal safe and taxed. Still have no interest in dating a John.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:35 AM
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I didn’t downvote, I use oldreddit, I don’t even have the button on ppd
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:21 AM
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I think “ they are also the types of people who have no problem using others, lack empathy, have attachment disorders, and are self centered narcissists. Hobo, Hollywood star or CEO…habitual johns are not relationship material”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:08 AM
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They are insane, this guy might not be Chad, or every woman’s type, but he is clearly above average. Come to my Walmart in Appalachia, I’ll show you some unattractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:59 AM
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Everyone on this sub is insane to me. Come to where I live…not being obese and having most of your teeth gets you to average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:56 AM
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Sleeping with hookers is a way to get the high n count without the accomplishment, which makes it equal. I have a good friend with a huge n count from prostituting himself to gay men at 14. I would (and almost did, but he is just WAY too damaged) date him before I would date a habitual John. There is this misperception that johns are always losers in the sexual marketplace, which isn’t really true. Some clearly are losers, many others are more like Trump or Eliot Spitzer. They are actually more …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:47 AM
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I’m relatively high n count, my husband has a very high n count. Yeah, on paper we were very risky bets. However neither of us have dark triad traits common in many johns. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.577171/full My ex described trying to lose his v card to a legal hooker in Nevada. He said it was just the saddest thing, and the woman seemed so disconnected from the process like she had to go to another world to tolerate what he was about to do, he told her to keep the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:31 PM
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No male clients of prostitution express more permissive attitudes toward extramarital sex, they think about sex more frequently, report a higher frequency of masturbating (Monto and McRee, 2005; Monto and Milrod, 2014), and access pornography more often than men who do not pay for sex (Monto and McRee, 2005; Farley et al., 2012). Male clients have further been shown to engage in more sexual risk-taking and have a higher likelihood of acquiring and transmitting sexually transmitted illnesses than…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:10 PM
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I think he is trying to say that red pillers might replace men’s oneitis, but in the process actually become much more obsessive about women and sex in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:09 PM
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Freedom from a mindset? Sure I suppose, that can be opening your mind and inviting new possibilities. Saying you want commitment, but then also saying freedom is when you stop caring what women think of you, and that you have accepted the fact you might die alone? Not only alone, but statistically sooner. That’s just closing doors and giving up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:55 AM
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At this point I'm looking for commitment, but I've also accepted the real possibility that I could die alone, 40% of men do. Freedom’s just another word for nothing less to lose
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 02:14 AM
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I made no such argument, and in fact I will gladly state I don’t think women supporting men will ever be common. Most women are going to want a husband who works. I stated “it’s not without its problems “. That problem does not come imho because women initially demand men who make more, the problem comes when couples have children. As long as women’s breasts automatically leak when they hear their child cry, if someone is taking off work, working part time, or just taking a less demanding role a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 01:29 AM
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I married someone who made less. When we first started dating, he made a lot less. I don’t claim to be typical, but statistically 28% of women make more than their husbands and there is some evidence that almost half earn more or the same https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2020/03/03/gender-wage-gap-more-women-out-earning-husbands/4933666002/ It’s not without its problems but it is becoming common.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 11:41 PM
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Oh yeah, that too. If your n count is five and you have been divorced 5 times, you probably aren’t relationship material
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:38 PM
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Sooooo many factors. First how old are you? Even 15 would be a red flag for mental illness, substance abuse and compulsive behavior in a 18 year old. In a 40 year old single guy, it’s nothing. Second, context. Did you cheat? Under age hooker? Even if your n count is two, this isn’t a red flag, it’s a full out stop sign. Third, what’s your recent behavior been like? My husband was an alcoholic, bartending playboy when we met. We didn’t start dating until years after he got sober. His n count was …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:35 PM
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Ohhh she’s the best for comic relief though! That’s the Reddit insanity I live for.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:09 PM
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Yeah, I agree. Pleasant interactions. Still, atypical take on things, especially for a woman, which makes her interesting as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:07 PM
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I don’t go around dissing her mother in front of her Well, that’s a start, but actions louder than words yadda yadda yadda. Hopefully you can see grandkids raised in a two parent home with no “wild shit”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:56 PM
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She has a fairly distinctive “voice”. I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:44 PM
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Ohhh, I miss her too, but she is absolutely the most atypical woman here…well outside of gimpgirl
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:43 PM
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I’m not talking about her learning to be respectful, I’m talking about her expecting men to treat her in a respectful way, not like some bitch or hoe. I’m kind of am not that surprised some women tolerate not being respected. It’s a cycle. Women act like bitches and hoes, men in return treat them like bitches and hoes, fair enough. But trust my words, you are at risk for perpetuating this shit cycle of single motherhood by showing your daughter what to expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:40 PM
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Yeah, but she is watching. What if she is already noticing your lack of respect for bitches and won’t expect it out of men herself?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:23 PM
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Kids under 3? One home can workout well in most cases. That person home should do most of the housework, with occasional “mental health “ time away. Kids in school? 80k income? Both working is almost always better, share the work at home. Fds🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 03:32 PM
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How does a guy get famous for his good looks if he wasn’t blessed with having good looks to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:05 PM
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