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Don't bother, they'll never listen just let them bleed themselves dry. Stupid people do stupid things
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 12:59 AM
3

It's not dude, you've been put on notice that toothpaste don't go back in the tube, it's done. Start protecting yourself go see a lawyer get your ducks in a row
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 04:44 PM
4

Hate to say it man but I think SHE might be cheating usually when they go nuts accusing you is because they got something going on
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 04:08 PM
8

Her con lawyers have milked her dry for 30k, could have taken that money and gotten herself a house. She's sitting in her house dead broke making less than she did before because she was fired again. Chances of her ever owning a house again unless her parents die and give her the house are slim.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 04:05 PM
1

You will be brought to your knees and castrated, and have to pay her all of your money And never see your kids who she will then pay other people to watch so she can prob get some strange
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 03:41 PM
3

Let the lawyers handle it, some of them love playing lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 11:34 AM
13

Keep documenting this behavior and even encourage it then file for divorce and for full custody
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 01:28 AM
1

Dude lawyers LOVE dragging this shit out, NOTHING will happen then bunch of stuff happens in one day then 4 months of nothing And mid October might as well be see you in 2025, I remember around this time last year we got booked for mediation didn't end up happening until January and that was private
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 03:22 AM
1

Listen when it involves children it can get very very ugly , expensive and stressful real quick, if you can get her to agree to the 50/50 parenting time, any other financial stuff as long as it won't destroy your quality of life just do it and move it along.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 03:19 AM
1

Dont talk to her about anything if you have lawyers already just talk about kids ONLY From someone who has spent 18 months fighting in court i havent spent 60k on lawyer yet only 15 BUT the emotional stress involved with this whole process is gladly go back in time and trade 60k for it
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 06:03 PM
1

IGNORE HER
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 11:31 AM
3

Man tbh I wouldn't rock that boat, she makes a lot of money she could easily spend you into the ground fighting for custody. Just play stupid and go along with it, CS is determined AFTER custody/patenting time is agreed upon
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 12:50 AM
5

I know at first only seeing them half the time seems awful but, you get to be 100% of the father 50% of the time, you were never getting this much time and energy for your child when you were married
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 12:00 AM
3

Bingo
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 11:56 PM
2

I wish mine was like that she's fire and brimstone, everything is a war. I ask consent to do extra curriculars with daughter and she sends back 5 paragraphs on why I'm a awful person lol and won't agree to anything unless i pay her money
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 07:24 PM
2

Aside from the nonstop fighting in court and her angry messages and attacks, I love my life now that's I'm away from her, still better then every single day fixing her and dealing with her craziness
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 01:32 PM
12

Hire a lawyer and get as much as you can
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 06:47 PM
10

I love it, I get to be a 100% percent dad 50% of the time, when it's only 50% of the time you can pitch almost a perfect game every time. And the rest of your time you can recuperate and plan.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:55 PM
7

Courts don't care what you can prove if you leave without establishing a parenting time schedule or order, that's the new status quo she will play games and withhold her then you have file emergency custody order then judge gonna ask who lives where, trust me I know because I lived it lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 09:03 PM
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If that's the case you aren't going to move out, stay put expect a bloody war, my advice get through the process fast get into mediation then get a GAL get a pretrial then get a trial date hopefully a long the way she'll settle with 50/50 but if she makes way more then you expect a bad one. I wouldn't be around her without a recording device, do not engage in anything with her outside of parenting app like OFW don't call her don't text her if she tries to start a fight or argument leave and cool…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 08:14 PM
1

Hurry and file maybe can get an annulment if it's only a few months, no kids very very short term marriage time to move on
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:55 PM
2

Do you want 50/50 time with your kid or are you fine with every other weekend, if you're fine with EOW and big child support then leave without an agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:52 PM
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The only solution is you litigate, go to mediation go to GAL go to pretrial and get trial date and see if one of you blinks the real ticket is the custody if you can get her to sign off on 50/50 you're done. You make a lot more than her and you have kids it's going to be a bloodbath either way expect the worst and be happy if it isn't as bad. I only make 60k a year and same as her and our divorce has cost about 50k and NOTHING has been settled all because she wants to fight EVERYTHING, total sco…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:49 PM
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6.5 years married, should be 3 years of alimony imputed her income even if she doesn't work at minimum wage should be too bad unless you make 7 figures
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:41 PM
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You get a patenting plan or custody order in place before you move and then it's usually fine
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:39 PM
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Dude she ain't gonna give you a dime don't be stupid. And if she's not paying she has zero incentive to be rational, because the more the clock ticks the more YOU are paying. I see daycare in there, if you have kids and you almost triple her income, this is gonna be a dog fight, my advice is to find a lawyer and let them deal with it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:35 PM
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Yea financially it's gonna be rough for you, but do not believe she won't screw you hard
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:56 PM
2

Then you block and ignore and tell her you will only communicate via OFW
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 04:23 PM
1

Just do the sheriff they'll find her
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 01:23 PM
1

What's your lawyer say?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 11:33 AM
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Do you not want 50/50?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 11:31 AM
1

Is that plan 50/50?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 11:28 AM
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Ain't it wonderful, I dropped 40 pounds my life is drastically better two promotions during the divorce prob not good for financial of divorce but still ten times better time with my daughter no more boat anchor weighing me down. God is good
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 07:00 PM
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Thankfully I never got hit with any restraining orders or anything but been fighting in court for 16 months and now after 16 months shes claiming I was abusive blah blah. Typical behavior every man is abusive in family court.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 12:29 PM
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CA is MUCH better for Father's then Texas, CA is very 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 06:56 PM
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What I did was just deposit half my share of the bills into account then she moved out and never raid anything else besides her half of mortgage
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 04:26 PM
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This behavior is usually for a reason, she has either A cheated already, B has someone she wants to cheat with. Once the divorce word is out of the bag tho it's very hard to get it back in. Does she have time that is unaccounted for recently IE random "girls night". Does she put her phone face down when you're in the room, do you know her phone password?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:26 AM
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No you need a lawyer but don't panic you have plenty of time, the first hearing is just a response to the petition. Usually there isn't even a hearing really unless they're going after you hard and as far as alimony or blah blah those petitions are all cookie cutter I panicked too, she wants sole custody CS alimony and her attorney fees paid for lol it's all talk
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 08:40 PM
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Divorce moves VERY VERY SLOW you got plenty of time, meet with a few lawyers in your area and pick one and get your response in and they'll guide you
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 08:11 PM
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11 year marriage with a young child and the breadwinner, I'd try counseling first that's could turn into a doozy
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 06:53 PM
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Eh in the end prob means nothing, my ex did this documenting nonsense meanwhile she left her backpack full of notes from her lawyer and shrink with all sorts of crazy shit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 06:49 PM
2

DAMN just gotta navigate those grenades, wow sounds like fun times ahead.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 02:21 PM
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RUN she sounds like a dumpster fire, how are women responding to you being a single dad? Im wondering what I'm going to deal with soon
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 02:00 PM
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Yea don't get involved in that shit I got some years on you but I'm mid 30s single dad about to get back into dating pool, I don't want anything serious anytime soon
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:47 PM
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There ya go, they're looking for daddy. Getting that early 30s itch to procreate and lock someone down for daddy or CS daddy
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:42 PM
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How old are you?
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:40 PM
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Stop the freelance work asap, she makes more then you so be prepared for her to try and bleed you dry chances are that mediation is just posturing for future court battles. Do you have an attorney? If not get one, once you don't bend over In that mediation it will be on like donkey Kong.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:39 PM
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Right and that's their rationale well worst care scenario for me I still get 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 11:02 PM
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Here's the thing, the court system her lawyers and even sometimes your lawyer wants you to give up they're gonna drag you from a car for months and months sometimes years to see if you can outlast, they're trying to break you mentally and financially, you will not give up, repeat after me, the only person who can give you less then 50% time is the judge. Women win the majority of custody battles because men settle for shitty deals. I chit chat with 10 different guys who have been through custody…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 10:24 PM
1

Explain the situation with your employer would be a good idea
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 06:07 PM
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Get your ass back to that house
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 11:39 AM
1

You have any kids?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 11:07 AM
1

Why are you paying her anything judge ruled temp alimony after she quit her job?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 01:36 AM
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Dude you need a lawyer asap what spell did you put over you for you to do such silly things.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 01:34 AM
4

Add to the list starts seeing a therapist for her mental problems and the therapist blames you to build her up. Another one is around a new house purchase
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 01:16 AM
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You should def do what makes you happy but be ready for 18--24 months of absolute hell, I know the type that's the wife I had and it's been 18 months of hell, 13 in a courtroom fighting, and I'm broke and they still keep dragging and fighting. You'll be locked up in court for years and years with that kind of net worth but in the end it will be worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 11:25 PM
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Dude if you're in Florida you're a fool to accept anything less then 50/50 it's so easy in FL now
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 12:14 PM
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Dude that doctor is prob railing everyone who comes through his door
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 12:11 PM
2

Spent $4000 at my mediation nonsense had full agreement she backed out a week laterb
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 10:47 AM
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The only sbd aspects so far are only seeing my child half the time, but could be worse and dealing with the actual divorce process. Once that's over I don't see any negatives besides seeing my child.only half the time.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 01:49 AM
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Jesus women are sick sick people
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 05:51 PM
2

I wouldnt do it because I told her it cost 8k, it was $1800 then went on sale and I got another $100 off :x
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 12:07 PM
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I'd prefer she change it but she won't we have a kid
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 12:29 AM
6

BINGO, mine said let's do 50/50 custody 223, and I'll buy you out of house well get appraisal and we'll get divorced at the courthouse real cheap and easy then she filed with a lawyer and says she's entitled to full custody alimony for life (we were married less then two years). And she keeps the house without paying me any equity. And we've been fighting in court for over a year now and she has spent north of 25k to her lawyer. And looking like it'll be 50/50 custody house sold split assets 50/…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 05:33 PM
3

She's been unemployed for 8 years and you're married for 5, so you married someone who didn't have a job for three years?!?
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 12:17 PM
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Milk her dry for all of us lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 10:19 AM
1

Eventually the market will dip or rates will dip or both can't run hot forever and you'll get your moment to buy something again
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 01:28 AM
3

Depends how much gets added to your income and if she knows
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 01:19 AM
3

BINGO between interest expenses depreciation upkeep etc can make it lose money every month
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 01:07 AM
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Doesn't mean you need to turn a profit tho
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 12:58 AM
2

If it's income then yes
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 12:50 AM
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I remember thinking time was of the essence in the beginning now it's like idk we'll see what happens in three months, it's a long long painfully slow process and it only takes one person to drag it out for years
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 06:20 PM
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In my case I think it's more about control then money but the money is a plus for her even tho it's not much
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 06:17 PM
6

Yes absolutely mine is convinced since day one she is going to get 90-10, she agreed to 50/50 in mediation then took it right back a week later and now back at 90-10 despite the judge ruling 50/50 in temp hearing and now headed towards trial to What's worse is her behavior and how she's messages me on OFW zero regard for how she comes off insults blackmails lies gaslights makes up bizarre theories, threatens me with legal action daily it's almost like she lives in an alternate universe then what…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 05:23 PM
1

Man you got lucky mine is fighting tooth and nail every step of the way.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 01:04 AM
6

Oh wow good stuff, I know it's hard and hurtful but you're young and this didn't dent your life too much, this is a learning lesson, don't get married again
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 01:33 AM
9

It's hard but 10 months is short term should be easy process
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 01:26 AM
5

I wouldn't worry about it, if she's relying on you to pay her bills she can't afford a decent lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 01:26 AM
3

You cant do anything nice for them, just be civil and ignore their horseshit
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 01:23 AM
3

Let her good luck with that
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 01:16 AM
3

Who cares dont rely on her for anything, my stbx moved out and I kept all my child's stuff, and she has a full new wardrobe when she is with me she's 2.5, my stbx doesn't even buys clothes relays on me to provide shoes jacket gloves etc the everyday clothes she has are all hammy downs from her family and she signed up for WIC using false information when she makes 75k per year.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 12:47 AM
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So the schedule wasnt written up and stamped by the judge? Then you're just fighting, you gotta die on 50/50 hill, force a trial and see where the chips land.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 12:22 AM
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I've never heard of that before usually you have set days and schedule
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 12:03 AM
9

What was really funny is her lawyer this whole time is an associate of a bigger firm who bleeds her dry and plays games, when she had to appear for emergency hearing her lawyer didn't even show up the partner of the firm showed up and got lambasted, she tried to argue since she's off for summer break she deserves 90% parenting time and judge said idc what you think your client is entitled to, the father gets his 50/50 if he needs a sitter I'm sure he can find one who isn't you! You don't get to …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 11:54 PM
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Thank God mine lasted 3 years only
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 11:47 PM
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That's how I feel such a crazy person, had to file motion against her for emergency custody because she was refusing parenting time and wanted to create her own schedule, the judge GAL and my lawyer all hammered her lawyer who had no answer for her actions and within a hour she was already sending me crazy stuff gaslighting me to believe the judge didn't side with me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 11:37 PM
0

Why would you agree to 35% parenting time that's silly
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 07:59 PM
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What has helped me through this process and through every uncertainty in my life is to assume the absolute worst is going to happen prepare for it and be happy when It doesn't
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 06:54 PM
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Aside from the stress of fighting for my child in court, it's been amazing idk why I ever got married or entered into a serious relationship, I realize now much of a one way street it was, like aside from monthly bad handjob I was getting NOTHING from being married to her. She was taking taking taking, did NOTHING in the way of housework or cooking or even doing stuff for our child. The constant propping her up, the constant putting out her fires with everyone. The constant harping on me to do t…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 06:53 PM
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Awesome congrats can't wait for my post so tired of this shit
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 05:54 PM
4

I use OFW doesn't stop the crazy witch from sending the goofiest messages, threats, extortion, black mail, holding our children's stuff hostage, craziest gaslighting. But at least it's all there if I need it in trial
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 05:13 PM
1

I messed up with this one it was obvious we were done sh wasn't even wearing her ring anymore and I knew where they were should have snatched it but again was only 3k new from jeweler how much is secondary place gonna give me 300 bucks not worth the hassle she can keep it she started wearing them again a year after she filed
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 01:09 AM
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Idk but my ex uncle never paid child support and he lives around the corner so can't be that hard lol but he always took cash jobs I think
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 12:26 PM
2

Are you still doing 50/50 time or no? I'm confused she can want all she wants it's not gonna happen
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 11:40 AM
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Divorce lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 11:38 AM
2

Idk I spent $5000 in custody mediation that literally did nothing had a full agreement written and crazy stbx backed out a week later
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 08:21 PM
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Mine claimed she didn't know how to order things on amazon?!?! I would do EVERYTHING
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:09 PM
2

We were only married two years and never had any money anyways she did take $2,000 from our joint account to zero it out but oh well
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 10:23 PM
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Why would anyone want to, I look at her and can't believe I ever was interested in her she's a mess of a person, I lost 40 pounds and tacking on muscle
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 10:19 PM
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The thought of reconciliation with any ex blows my mind I did it, and then we married and now divorcing NEVER GO BACK your kids will be on their own soon enough
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 09:37 PM
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The amount of time I spend with our child away from her is ten times better, quality of quantity like others have said and I get some time to recharge reload and get stuff done I was constantly hampered by propping her up.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 06:30 PM
2

Dude you need a lawyer should have gotten a lawyer two years ago
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 06:29 PM
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Dude she got married divorce and remarried all within the timespan of a year? You dodged a bullet man she's a trainwreck
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 01:43 PM
11

We fall so we can learn to pick ourselves up, the most liberating moment of your adult life is realizing that no one is coming to save you. It's 3am, your toddler is puking all over you, you're alone you have to go to work in 3 hours, you're on your own. Sink or swim. Always swim always swim
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 12:06 AM
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Women as a species are unable to accept any blame it's hard wired in them from the stone age, so you're the asshole even if they cheated and left and filed you're still the asshole because you caused them to do that. It's just the way they can accept their new reality and women around them cheer on this behavior and laugh at them behind their back. That being said, ignoring her behavior will ultimately defuse her, take the high road because in the end your children will absolutely remember who w…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 10:48 PM
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YES when we fight and the courts start giving men fill custody watch how fast shit will change
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 10:31 PM
7

YUP ofcourse tried to isolate me from EVERYONE
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 01:05 AM
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When lawyers are involved it'll never be friendly. Their job is to drag it out and get as much money as they can.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 10:26 PM
5

Very hard to do especially since youve been doing 50/50 she will likely lose and end up with 30% time would be my guess
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 07:03 PM
5

She's asking for 1k?!? Give it to her and run lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 12:12 AM
1

Idk I could easily see myself call it quits and never date again and I'm only 34 lol. I like women and being around women I'm interested in but I'm not interested in anything right now, I feel very paranoid that my ex will attack me if she finds out I'm dating or something like that
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 09:19 PM
1

You need a new lawyer man getting screwed on everything hard, wake up this is war, there's no prizes for "good people" in family court fight for every inch especially time with your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 02:47 AM
3

Wait you leave for 6 months to go hunting? Or you like go out every weekend for 6 months to go hunting
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 01:08 AM
1

Number 1 get a lawyer idc if you have to get payday loans on your fucking car or donate sperm get a lawyer, absolute most important thing about divorce especially with children involved.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 05:00 PM
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Your parents money has absolutely nothing to do with your divorce, they are not married to your stbx. The big fight here won't be money don't be confused it's going to be custody. Custody is generally where the big money is spent. I think you have a leg up here because your home is your parents which means you have witnesses many many witnesses, who are there everyday!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 03:50 PM
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I'd take her back to court and have a psych eval done
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 03:01 PM
5

Right unless one parent is a disaster in trouble with the law or convicted with evidence abuser, or works graveyard shift and won't change shifts it should be 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 01:44 PM
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Couple things, she left because she's got another guy and the sister helps watch your kids while she can get some from the other guy, another thing, you can't let her take your children from your home. Two things you can do right now roll over and be a EOW dad and pay $1000-$2000 bucks a month in CS and never see your kids or tell her she needs to bring your children home and she can live there and split your children's time with you 50/50 and if she says f off you file emergency custody order f…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:21 AM
1

I'm in this camp currently but it's not finalized, my date did this 25 years later never got anyone else not even flings or casual sounds awful
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:57 PM
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Smile because they're miserable otherwise they wouldn't worry,remember the opposite of love is indifference the more they fight the more they miss you and are miserable
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:06 PM
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That won't be a bad one, take half of the bank accounts take your shit file and leave
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:04 PM
4

Mine gets fast food twice a day every day then begs WIC for food for our daughter and she makes 70k a year idk how she's scamming that
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:34 AM
2

Woah woah settle down there do not buy anything you're getting a divorce, trust me on that one, don't complicate your life with a house meet with an attorney mine told me don't buy anything
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:33 AM
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Let me fix that for you divorce is only about the $$$$
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:28 AM
1

Wow crazy
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 10:44 AM
10

Why are you going to the gym she still goes to
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 02:20 AM
4

Been having this issue lately too
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:58 PM
2

Better to be honest I think
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 07:32 AM
1

The fight will be about the kid sadly, short term marriage but either way the kid is gonna be the fight she won't agree to 50/50 I'm sure
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:56 AM
1

You're young prob don't have much assets or financials, and if no kids, it'll be a clean break file for divorce and leave.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:55 AM
3

Why on earth would you leave your kids man
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:51 AM
2

Hire a lawyer and file emergency custody order ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 11:13 PM
2

By not filing anything against her you're showing her court you're fine with this arrangement especially if it's been months and months
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 11:07 PM
3

File emergency custody order
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 11:03 PM
2

Why would you let her stop you from seeing your child
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 11:01 PM
2

You're in for a long long fight sadly, get a lawyer asap
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 12:12 PM
19

Lmao that's funny women get so strange after divorce, mine is walking around with her engagement and wedding rings on now after not wearing them for two years
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 01:35 AM
6

Civil and amicable is code for you're gonna get shafted or it'll be a fight
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 10:59 PM
8

Thanks man, I'm almost a year into this process, ridiculous that lawyers can drag this shit out like this
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 09:52 PM
5

The branch broke
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 03:22 PM
1

Mine has been there 8 times in last 6 months but she's 2 so when she gets sick we go, usually my ex trying to play games tho
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 12:25 AM
2

The fact she got a high end lawyer is only gonna hurt her, my stbx did that and she's getting MILKED, Im still on my $3500 retainer and she has spent 12k she said in mediation crying how she's broke now blah blah, she's dumb tho every time I fart she calls her lawyer and her lawyer don't miss a 5 minute billing I'm sure
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 11:00 PM
2

Don't be cheap, hire an attorney
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 11:32 AM
3

Do you have kids and how long you been married and do you have assets
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 04:15 AM
1

Sounds like mine, if a "expert" told her the sky's brown shed believe it
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 01:35 AM
1

She's full of shit, lawyer sang her a song she loved hearing
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 01:23 AM
1

THIS
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 01:19 AM
2

Have it read over my a lawyer and sign it, I would sign that who cares about a truck
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 01:16 AM
2

Meh she's gonna say you're abusive angry blah blah anyways from here on out ignore her only respond if it's about the kids , get as much time with them as you can right now
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 07:46 PM
4

Get a lawyer don't be cheap, biggest fight of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 07:33 PM
7

Exactly, After our child was born she was and still is very mentally ill, and I pushed her to get help, she got a therapist and didn't help anything except she got even meaner and manipulative with me, after she finally moved out found a notepad she left where the therapist was telling her I was pretending to care about our child to aggravate her and if she pretended like it didn't bother her id abandon our child. Nutty stuff. It's much easier to blame others then tell your client they have pers…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 07:25 PM
8

Always gotta remember those holidays long ass weekend lol love it
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 07:20 PM
1

No, maybe I'm still in battle mode because it's not over but I have not found anything I miss about her, she was a very mean manipulative ugly person, extremely selfish and filled my life with such chaos, got so tired of cleaning up her messes.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 07:18 PM
1

That's job no 1 you need to get something in writing before you move out otherwise you can get very very screwed fast
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:55 PM
1

Never sell the house until you have some sort of parenting agreement in place and you're living separately.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:11 PM
1

I think this is sarcasm
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:08 PM
1

Ain't no winners in this game
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:07 PM
3

So you have the kids and she didn't pick them up? Sounds like a great situation to me
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:06 PM
4

If she is breaking divorce decree then she would be found in contempt you'd need to get lawyer and file motion
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:06 PM
1

Right pay the retainer let them handle it
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:03 PM
1

Without a lawyer you will be screwed, I almost was, was agreeing to give her house and 50k equity to sign quickly and get it over with to get 50/50 custody, she dragged her feet thinking that wasn't even enough for her, now we I got 50/50 custody with attorney and I'm getting 50/50 of assets as well, she's a greedy fool.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 07:02 PM
4

Yea no kids adios don't let the door hit you file quick and get it resolved quickly and move on
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 06:59 PM
2

I have a similar issue, my awful stbx has never liked my autistic sister because she says they're dangerous and tried to put some crap in there like that, and I said no, if you want that then I don't want our child around your brother in law who gets black out drunk and carries a gun. She shut up real quick well see if she brings it back up when we get it finalized.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 06:57 PM
3

I'd get a lawyer asap beg borrow steal you need representation
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 02:21 PM
4

No kids, time to cut bait you're still young move on
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 08:02 PM
1

What did you agree to to get her to 50/50 that you wish you didn't
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 08:00 PM
9

I had to call the police on my stbx because she was unloading the house when I was out one day, after she had moved out for months already, and she told the officer I entered her room illegally, and he said mam, he can't break into a room into his own house. You need to put this stuff back, before he gets a order against you. And leave.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 03:07 PM
1

That's what I don't understand how does 80k happen don't you just get assigned a GAL they make a recommendation and that's it? Did you get a GAL?
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 02:02 AM
2

"The most liberating day of your life is when you realize that no one is coming to save you." This might be on of the best quotes I've ever read, so true to what I feel like now going through this divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 12:28 AM
1

How did this turn out for you
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 12:24 AM
10

If she's not 100% want to be with you why would you let HER decide, even if she decides to stay you will always be the one who sat and waited, be a man and file totally blindside her
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:37 PM
1

Absolutely, courts usually care most about the money
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:19 PM
4

Time limit?
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:17 PM
2

Is it signed and filed? That should be your focus not financials
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:38 PM
1

Who cares lol ignore her, prior to my stbx moving out id look at her calmly say ****** were getting a divorce remember, I'm not doing anything for you anymore
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:11 PM
1

What about parenting plan that's the money ticket
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:10 PM
1

The crazy bullshit never ends? FML another 16 years of her craziness
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 01:47 AM
2

Yea just file and move on half the battle is over you don't live together
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 01:30 AM
5

I wouldn't worry about those "laws" about separation your and her lawyer will pretend you were separated and just move along with the divorce, we were supposed to be separated for 6 months and lawyers just made up a date 6 months in the past and claimed we were separated, why bother with separation agreement at this point file and move on
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 01:28 AM
5

Hire lawyer and file move on with your life
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 01:25 AM
1

Only thing I regret in divorce process 7 months in is not using joint money to pay off debts and taking half, luckily we never had much so she only was able to take 5k in joint money
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 10:29 PM
1

When I got served wasn't bad was playing outside with our child sheriff walked up and said sorry to me and I said don't be she's a crazy bitch he laughed and I said have a good weekend lol
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 10:28 PM
3

I think it's pathetic if they do keep it imo why keep the name of your ex
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 10:22 PM
2

I was with my stbx for 7 years prior to marriage lol and divorcing within 2 years
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 06:58 PM
2

What's the excuse he has the worst luck in history?
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 01:08 PM
15

190 bucks a month to settle a divorce and you're getting 50/50 with a fireman's schedule , I would do it but that's just me 190 bucks is nothing, do the math idk how old your kids are but 190 bucks a month is only 40k over 18 years, could drop 40k in trial just leading up to pretrial
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:15 AM
3

Good for you, hopefully I can make a success post in the future, it's sad what money does to people
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:07 AM
2

That's insane why on earth would a woman date a guy whose a sex offender
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 03:46 AM
2

It's always congratulations 🎉🎉, hopefully not too bad for you
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 03:43 AM
1

5'6 isn't short, majority of women are under 5'6 so who cares
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 03:09 AM
2

Mine took everything thank god it was after a few months of me not putting my full paycheck in it anymore, only got away with 5k
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 02:24 AM
3

Man grey marriage is rough God damn
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 02:21 AM
3

Why are you even talking to her about this ignore her
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 02:19 AM
10

When my grandma died and she refused to take off more then one day of work, or when I was in the hospital and she refused to go to see me
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 02:17 AM
4

I know right but if you ever said hey come home from your mom's I wanna do xyz, how dare you! You're so controlling!
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 07:24 PM
1

That's insane
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 11:54 AM
9

My dad told me so so many times don't get married and I knew he got screwed hard in the 90s, but I still did it like an idiot
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 08:14 PM
2

They always do, wonder how many times a day a family court judge hears how the husband is abusive
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 07:11 PM
8

And stop paying her bills immediately I wouldn't pay another cent without a judge telling me to especially since you don't have kids f her
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 04:22 PM
4

Get a lawyer asap you will be screwed hard if you don't, not a super long marriage and no kids this shouldn't be too bad, she will not get 90% of house nor will she be paid alimony for that long if at all
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 04:22 PM
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