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| 23 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men) | CMV | Practical-Maybe5585 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:36 PM |
| 1 | everything happens for a reason, so: you *should* be alone and miserable, right? | Question For Women | Practical-Maybe5585 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/21 06:10 PM |
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| 1 | What is the right amount of dates do you think a woman should wait before having sex with you?Guidelines, not rules. I'd rephrase it too as "how many dates does it take for you to want to have sex?" I don't think women should "have to wait" or not. Earliest would be date 2. If we've been dating for a month and haven't done anything sexual then that is a bad sign and probably means I won't want to date her any more. Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable with me, or not into me, or into sex in general. Whatever the reason, barring a good reason in the situation, it's a sign that the best thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/21 12:58 AM |
| 0 | How many of RP men have literally no other hobbies, ambitions other than attracting female attention?What hobbies do you have that are just as good as fucking? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/21 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Dating Someone You're Not Attracted To Just To Get Relationship/Sexual Experience.For the man, it's no different than having a gay male friend try to date you. That's the situation you're describing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Some people (both men and women) reject the the people they are attracted to, because they want someone more attractiveI mean, it depends on the person. Sometimes they really won't be able to get someone better in the future. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Some people (both men and women) reject the the people they are attracted to, because they want someone more attractiveaverage and below average attractive women do this all the time on OLD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Some people (both men and women) reject the the people they are attracted to, because they want someone more attractivealso paradox of choice. I don't think it helps anyone, but I can understand how average to highly physically attractive women who use OLD can get the impression that they really can hold out for someone better ... when they really can't. ... and I think most people who are mentally healthy don't engage in either of these. Right, but that gets into "dangerous" territory: yup, a lot of women who use OLD are not mentally healthy by that standard, but a lot of people will just think you hate women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Some people (both men and women) reject the the people they are attracted to, because they want someone more attractivebut he/she wants to search for someone more attractive than you. I soft disagree with that point, but your overall point is valid. Sometimes it isn't done consciously, the paradox of choice. The person might not even realize they've rejected someone they could be happy with. People over simplify standards, attractiveness, etc. There's really a window, a range, a space ... and over different dimensions and criteria. Even more complicated: people can want more than one thing at a time, e.g., "I wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 05:13 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)less slut shaming won't make women want to fuck fat/ugly/short men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/21 06:02 PM |
| 13 | What are the ways in which women enforce Toxic Masculinity?yikes, and the person saying her bf attempted murder based on--let's be real--a rumor that he raped someone. ... and this woman is in a relationship with this clearly violent and unstable individual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)ok, no one said it couldn't? Are you saying it is anyone's responsibility to do something in particular? Women choosing to not fuck certain men is also cultural. Should women change their culture so that they choose to fuck fat/ugly/short men too? How do you decide who should change and why do you decide that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/21 09:55 PM |
| -1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)ok, then let's make everyone go without sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 11:16 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I think there is a level of closeness and vulnerability a man can have with a woman he trusts who he is also fucking that simply can’t be replicated with other relationships. Exactly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 10:32 PM |
| 2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)thanks for being reasonable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 10:27 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)sex is a need. if you don't believe me then by all means: show us how unnecessary it is by going without it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 10:17 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)some, not all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 09:42 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)yeah, something like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 06:03 PM |
| -2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Nope, you can have sex without intimacy, but some intimacy can't be separated from sex. It isn't hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 06:02 PM |
| -2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Nope, there's a kind of emotional intimacy that can't be separated from sexuality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 06:00 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)wanting what you want is not toxic. What is toxic is labeling it as toxic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 06:00 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I never said men don't seek any emotional intimacy from other men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 05:57 PM |
| 2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I do not believe that this inability to have emotional intimacy with other men without sexual desire is innate in men. I never said all emotional intimacy. I never said only a female partner can provide emotional support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 05:57 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)not all of it has to be, but some can exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 05:09 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)So does this mean men in North Africa and Japan, where emotionally intimate friendships between men are common and expected, are all gay? You're talking about something completely different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 05:01 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)If you want an emotional dumpster to empty the majority of your issues in, go to a therapist who's paid to do this. Therapists say that that isn't their job either, and that a person should talk to their friends. Have you actually seen what therapists say about this stuff? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:59 PM |
| 3 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)You don't see the emotional needs that are already filled, that you don't fill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:57 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)What it has to do with being gay: that would hypothetically solve the issue of sexual attraction. So, other men are not suitable partners for the kind of emotional intimacy I'm talking about. At least, for most men, because most men are not gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:55 PM |
| -1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Men don't want to do a certain thing with other men because it feels sexually wrong. That's you saying straight men should be gay "just change your culture, bro." You are confusing several ideas. I never said anything about "burden." It seems to be causing a lot of men to suffer, It isn't, you're trying to blame the want for the problem. "but it would feel weird to You word it to sound trivial when it is not. But, hey, if we don't care about anyone feeling weird, then women should just have sex … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:51 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)men already do it, just look at male friendships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:47 PM |
| -2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)You can have one without the other, it's not a difficult concept. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:47 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Obviously, the context was about what they / the relationship does for you. Maybe you're a psychopath, I don't know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:45 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)The logic is that emotional fulfillment comes from a strong social circle. I'm just describing a part of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:44 PM |
| -2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)You're telling straight men to be gay, and that's just not going to happen. "Blah blah, just change your culture, bro." No, if you want to call it "culture" their culture is not the problem. You can't just reprogram people, and it is not a problem for a kind of emotional intimacy to be linked to sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:44 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)What can your romantic partner do for you that your regular friends can't? That's it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:41 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I just did. How do you define the color "yellow"? It just is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:40 PM |
| 4 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)If you can't imagine that there is a kind of intimacy inextricably linked to sex, then you have a poor imagination. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:39 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Culture isn't trivial to erase and replace with something else. You would never tell someone that their Asian/Latino/African culture is a problem, and they should get rid of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:38 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)You know I'm not talking about trivial things. Get real. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:34 PM |
| 3 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)OK, then let's make up a new term, there's something like emotional intimacy that can not be separated from sex, and that's where emotional intimacy with a sexual partner comes in. There is no substitute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:33 PM |
| 4 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)You know very well that's not what I'm talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:32 PM |
| 5 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I never said "completely." I'd say to my son or nephew that they need therapy. What do you think therapists would say about that "problem"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:24 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)if you think emotional intimacy is a burden then maybe relationships aren't for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:23 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I never said "all" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:18 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I never said "only." The point is: other relationships aren't substitutes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:16 PM |
| 2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Emotional intimacy and sex are connected. That's just the way it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:15 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I never said "all" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:13 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)then don't be in relationships with men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:12 PM |
| 4 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Incest is generally frowned upon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:12 PM |
| 3 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I don't think you have the facts straight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 04:01 PM |
| 0 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Expecting a partner to be an all encompassing package to fullfill all of your needs is a sure way to end up disappointed at best or even feel conned at worst. I never said that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:59 PM |
| 2 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)I never said "all emotional intimacy." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:59 PM |
| -1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)OK, I'll qualify it as "in our current culture." The conclusion still stands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:58 PM |
| 4 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)It’s bad because all of your emotional intimacy comes from one person. No, just that a certain kind, perhaps a "deep" level of emotional intimacy can not be untangled from sexual desires. So, whoever that person is, it needs to be someone you want to fuck, and telling straight men to get the same thing from their male friends, their dog, etc. is just a non-starter. It's never going to happen. I never said anything about depending on one person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:56 PM |
| 6 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Do you have a son or nephew? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:52 PM |
| 1 | It is nota problem that sexual desire and emotional intimacy are connected (for most men)Would you like to write something relevant to the post now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:51 PM |
| 1 | "Try harder/Do more" comes from a Just-World FallacyImproving your looks, fitness, mental health, status, money, etc WILL ALWAYS HELP YOU AND NEVER HURT YOU. and buying more lottery tickets WILL ALWAYS INCREASE YOUR CHANCE OF WINNING THE LOTTERY. Can you see the problem with your logic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The intractable problem of women as reward.most men aren't gay, so no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/21 07:55 PM |
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