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It's because you're thinking about it in terms of 'approach'. Men think like this and it drives me fucking nuts. Just act like you're meeting a friend for the first time ever. Friendly conversation. That's all you have to do. Stop putting expectations on talking to another human. You're thinking from a scarcity mindset and it's probably causing you to come off as desperate because you think every woman you meet might be the last one. Best thing you can do is make friends with lots of women and l…
/r/seduction13/04/22 04:14 AM
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I was thinking that was a given with people in general.
/r/seduction17/01/22 08:34 PM
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Just be friends back and move on. Nothing wrong making her a friend. Edit: Sometimes that actually does the trick and maybe she's looking for both in you. Friend/lover. Worst case, you have a new friend. And chick friends offer great insight.
/r/seduction17/01/22 07:05 PM
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Didn't have my first GF until I was 17. Nothing wrong with it man. Now I'm 34. You're fine. norwegiandoggo's advice is pretty good. Respectfully,
/r/seduction06/01/22 04:42 AM
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In that case, I respect your opinion too. But you put both your feet, right in your mouth. All the best, Respectfully.
/r/seduction01/01/22 09:44 AM
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One of the few sane commentators here. Thank you.
/r/seduction01/01/22 12:17 AM
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Exactly, I wanted to say here that this analogy of fisherman and fish does not apply. People are not fish. The person is not taken into consideration with this approach.
/r/seduction01/01/22 12:05 AM
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This is solid advice! I've heard "You can be the worlds most delicious peach, but there are people that just don't like peaches".
/r/seduction30/11/21 11:29 PM
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Start here: https://lawyerstresssolution.libsyn.com/ep-16-dealing-with-rejection Give that a listen. Even a few listens. Edit: FWIW - I don't like working out with others either. I have a good friend I talk to when we see each other there but I'll do some other thing near her while we talk, or we wait until we're both done to talk. Then usually go get a shake or something after.
/r/seduction30/11/21 11:25 PM
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Yes.
/r/seduction30/11/21 08:36 AM
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Make friends instead. Just talk to people, men and women. I promise there are exxes of other people in there, and even people that have cheated on others in there. I'm quite sure if this. Don't shit where you eat. Make enough friends, eventually you'll get approached. If you approach, just have friendship in mind the whole time. Something will happen if that's all you do.
/r/seduction30/11/21 08:34 AM
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I second this.
/r/seduction30/11/21 08:30 AM
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Get some new material. Yours is dry. Probably from the dryspell you're in. It's ok to be frustrated, buddy. We all need a hug sometimes.
/r/seduction24/11/21 06:26 AM
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Gross dude. There's evidence men are become psychopaths to get laid or because they think they deserve something from a woman. Please just stop.
/r/seduction24/11/21 06:13 AM
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Holy shit dude. You're proving this person's point with that garbage statement you said.
/r/seduction24/11/21 06:11 AM
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...sometimes I kinda want that too.
/r/seduction21/11/21 12:48 AM
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Whoa... You should really look into your resentment. That was difficult to read. I think you should have at least talked to her about what she had learned and saw for yourself how much she has grown since then. All the best <3
/r/seduction20/11/21 06:41 AM
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Expertly well said.
/r/seduction20/11/21 06:36 AM
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This is exactly why I dislike the term "friend zone". If someone wasn't romantically into you, no relationship was ever going to happen and you were always destined to be friends - which is why usually dudes go nuts when they think every person should be romantically interested in them. It's a massive blind spot I observed. I was also in the bartering situation you speak of, except the situation was a woman doing things for me a little too much too early on. I told her she didn't have to because…
/r/seduction19/11/21 11:51 PM
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Never ever text to resolve an argument or anything serious about the relationship. Do it in person, wait if you must, tell them it's a good idea if you must. Dunno if it was already said, I bet it was, but I'm not reading all comments like I usually do.
/r/seduction03/11/21 04:02 AM
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Had this happen to me back in the time of myspace.
/r/seduction23/10/21 10:28 AM
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I agree with HofT, Straight up. "What's your intention sending me a song? What do you want?" "What does this mean?"
/r/seduction23/10/21 10:19 AM
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That's called practice.
/r/seduction23/10/21 10:16 AM
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Holy fuck. My person, that was some serious fucking wisdom. You are better than books. I appreciate you. V/R
/r/seduction23/10/21 10:08 AM
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But seriously, wait three weeks. This isn't a joke. You must have a life - in the mean time.
/r/seduction23/10/21 10:02 AM
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I really need to read up more on it. It's just something I've been unofficially sticking to for years and years now from trial and error. Last two GFs couldn't hold eye contact with me. I forced them into it most times in bed or on the couch, you know, intimate situations. they blink after about 2 seconds. Then we laugh and move on. The first one couldn't tell me she loved me on her own nor look into my eyes - definitely couldn't do both at the same time. Sure, she'd buy me things and we spent a…
/r/seduction16/10/21 01:28 AM
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Eye contact is huge. You'll also start to notice people that cannot hold eye contact. It's very interesting.
/r/seduction16/10/21 12:11 AM
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Attention seeking is a very real thing. Hard lesson but now you're better for it.
/r/seduction16/10/21 12:10 AM
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Well, I did have a whole second paragraph and I was like "nahh that's too much". I like asking people what they actually are thinking because I think people know what they want to say, but will withold it for various reasons. Some people REALLY do not like expressing their thoughts - which is why I try to be sensitive to that fact and not press too much.
/r/seduction12/10/21 04:22 AM
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Seems like they are friends then! I enjoy helping my friends when they feel low, depressed or even when they feel great! I even like helping people I barely know by talking things through. Orbiting sounds just like that to me.
/r/seduction12/10/21 04:13 AM
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Yeah. I think I got you. I'm wrapping my head around not knowing how to respond part. I'm not judging you - for the record, lol. Just looking at different perspectives. I Know someone that used to not let a Convo die no matter what, she would keep it going all day.(literally) Now she says: I don't know what else to say. Thanks for even replying. Lol.
/r/seduction12/10/21 04:11 AM
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So keeping people orbiting is a real thing? (I'm still learning) But this fascinates me. Why do people do that?
/r/seduction12/10/21 01:38 AM
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I'm actually really curious about this. What do you mean that you don't know how to respond? Is it more like, you want to say something that could come off as harsh so you withold? Or is it just too scary to say what you think? I'm genuinely curious about your perspective on this one.
/r/seduction12/10/21 01:20 AM
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Agreed. Though we don't think it consciously, humans are responsible for their own feelings. That's what being an adult is supposed to be about. If they 'get hurt' it's kinda normal, but we hurt ourselves more than anyone else ever hurts us. Shit is in depth. Once someone gains higher self awareness and figures that out, they're unstoppable.
/r/seduction05/10/21 10:36 PM
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To create attraction with girl. You must think like girl. Good luck. -girl
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:06 AM
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Protip: all of the above involves not being selfish.
/r/seduction02/10/21 09:16 AM
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This is real as fuck. Consider what's important: The woman or the excitement. This is a good time to learn the lesson to either be content or don't. I left a good woman for excitement after almost 2 years with her. A year later, here I am wanting back my boring back because batshit new excitement didn't last at all. So now I feel empty. Learn true contentment.
/r/seduction01/10/21 05:45 AM
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Hear hear!
/r/seduction27/09/21 11:32 PM
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Humans are needy. Don't be ashamed of that. If needs aren't met in a relationship, there is no relationship. Communicate communicate communicate. Just like the other user said, "let's talk about our relationship. I feel [x] when you don't do this, or when you do this and I care about our relationship so I want to take actions now to keep us going strong". Feel free to do this out of the box crazy thing where you ask her how she feels and what she's thinking too. It's not easy, you have to put as…
/r/seduction27/09/21 11:30 PM
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They want to see if you have any depth.
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:42 AM
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Not if what you has to say makes sense or you can relate it to others in a way they can understand.
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:38 AM
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I think what you are referring to is "the chase". Once it's over you are bored. Not enough people ask themselves, "to what end?"
/r/seduction16/09/21 02:50 AM
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No, no,no. "Girls". 🤣🤣🤣
/r/seduction16/09/21 01:42 AM
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Yes.
/r/seduction12/09/21 08:36 PM
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Key phrase, they're in prison. 😂😂
/r/seduction11/09/21 04:32 AM
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*women 😉
/r/seduction11/09/21 04:31 AM
1

Just be supportive man. Ask her about what she feels or what she's thinking and just listen to her. Like you said, you have nothing to lose, so show her you are a decent human being and just be supportive. You'll benefit from that experience far more.
/r/seduction05/09/21 06:16 AM
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Im not gonna knock the idea of game. But I will say I don't really subscribe to it. To me, best thing to do is make legit friends with women and help them with whatever because you are friends. Get to know them, you learn yourself better in the process. I think you're just seeing women in a different perspective. Treat them as people, don't try to game them for an outcome. And things do get better with age, because the more friends you make, the more you get to learn and see everything from new …
/r/seduction31/08/21 01:42 AM
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To what end?
/r/seduction30/08/21 09:13 AM
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Christ, you remind me of me.
/r/seduction30/08/21 09:10 AM
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Beautiful and kind are great. Don't allow that to change you or your behavior. Just appreciate her for what it is. I'd ask her again for her recommendation you refused once before. I'd say, "yeah I'm feeling more adventurous today". Anyone would like that. It'll also show her you would be willing to really listen to her. That's kinda big. Think about how you shut it down so fast the first time. If you take the time to consider and listen to them, it matters a lot. Someone else said, next interac…
/r/seduction27/08/21 03:46 AM
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That's exactly how you do it. Not forcing, just going with it. Try too hard and they'll notice that. I didn't ask for her # until a few interactions later, a few weeks later maybe after sitting on the gym floor talking for an hour. Lol It can be done. I see too many questions here about hitting on people at the gym. It can be done. Bravo Zulu !!
/r/seduction25/08/21 06:03 PM
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I understand homey. I just left a job that I don't think respected me. But people would kill for that job. Definitely find good friends that you can have deep conversations with. That's huge. Those are the only friends I have. It's never ever too late, I'm 33 and I just had the best year of my life. But that's because shitty things happened to me, but I didn't see them as shitty. Just as learning opportunities. Reframe your thoughts to see life the same way. Then that old saying, "everything hap…
/r/seduction19/08/21 02:48 AM
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Absolutely. She also has a podcast episode on self confidence. Lol. I've listened to it at least 5 times in the past. The key to self confidence, that most people don't consciously realize, is that it's not about what you try to set out to accomplish to give yourself a momentary validation boost. (Because one makes excuses after as to how they accomplished it. I.e. too many people helped you, you got lucky, etc...) It doesn't matter what you've done, you invalidate it all with your thoughts. It'…
/r/seduction17/08/21 01:28 AM
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+1 this It's not hard. Whiners on social media get into your head. Be self aware is all it takes.
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:43 PM
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Changing persona is a massive goal and you'll need to be dedicated. It's also something you can't force. You will naturally find out the best version of yourself by doing the following (plus anything else you try as well) Building self confidence and self compassion, to me, are square 1. I spent the last few years basically as a student to learning the psychology of my own brain, developing metacognition habits so I could monitor what thoughts and feelings I am having. You can tweak your own beh…
/r/seduction16/08/21 12:28 AM
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That's what I was gonna say, take a different friend to the place! If she messages you later, and you tell her you took someone else, it might actually work in your favor. But the overall point is not to care, have fun, take someone else.
/r/seduction13/08/21 01:08 AM
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Op, This is very solid advice here. Abundance mindset. Google it until it makes sense to you. You are currently operating in a scarcity mindset. Best wishes!!
/r/seduction04/08/21 05:23 AM
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It's ok. That's the human condition. I'm lost quite a lot too. Always remember, the journey is what's most important, not the outcome. You have to find what brings you joy in life. And it doesn't hurt to look up the definition of different feelings. There's a lot of them. Life starts to make more sense when you understand them all.
/r/seduction28/07/21 03:56 AM
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Solid advice here.
/r/seduction27/07/21 01:48 AM
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By doing things you enjoy. Living your own life. People take more interest in you when you're doing your own thing too. It let's them know your life doesn't hinge on them. Because if your happiness hinges on them, they detect that as a red flag. All the best! <3 Edit: papa musks advice was funny but solid. I simply exponded on it here. Being busier = doing what you want to do. Make yourself better. Do hobbies. You're in an anxious scarcity mindset.
/r/seduction27/07/21 01:47 AM
1

Walking in a park is always a good call. Bring some food, sit in shade have a picnic. Find a good swinging bench or something. Like someone else said, flexible.
/r/seduction12/07/21 11:43 PM
1

I like this. You are too right.
/r/seduction03/07/21 02:08 AM
3

Plot twist, ask her for a fake number upfront.
/r/seduction30/06/21 09:54 PM
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I've told GFs over the last 5 years that eye contact is important to me. Many times they cannot hold eye contact for longer than a few seconds and it bugged me. I would explain that it's like looking into the soul, it's intimate, it's trusting, and it means you have nothing to hide. This is validating and the action is absolutely underrated. I thank you for this.
/r/seduction30/06/21 09:22 PM
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I'm a special type of idiot sauvant, And I'd like to throw in my experience with personal growth: The only time you grow the most effectively (A.K.A. enacting real change in your behavior and thoughts) is usually after a painful or negative life event. For me, I've had many many many relationships and breakups. I can tell when a relationship meant a lot to me because I was inspired to be a better person when someone leaves or dumps me. Sometimes there may be nothing wrong at all, but I'll always…
/r/seduction01/06/21 12:32 AM
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Don't underestimate this one. Recently I pulled the, "hey would you be interested in swapping numbers?"
/r/seduction22/05/21 08:47 PM
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You're correct! That's the opening of the flood gates! Do it once, then it's no big deal after. Almost like jumping into a pool of cold water. Always remember the reasons you're happy in life, and that your happiness does not depend on if a stranger likes you. Game changer.
/r/seduction22/05/21 08:43 PM
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