| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | What is this behaviour called? | SEEKING ADVICE | Pretty-Bake | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 10:20 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornMay I have a code? Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:03 PM |
| 35 | This is straight out of a horror movie... being a woman automatically puts a target sign on your back. Please stay safe ladies ❤️Subtle clues to deter any creepo that may be scoping out your house to rob. If they see men's shoes and a dog bowl then they will likely pass on your place because it's not so easy to invade a home with men or dogs in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 10:49 PM |
| 1 | I had to hang curtains because I was receiving disgusting texts from my LVM neighbor who could see in from his porch. I hate them, but I hate him more. It's bad enough that he was looking in my windows, but the audacity that he would text me about the "sexy hair flip" that I did "FOR HIM"....I'd report him honestly. Just an extra tip though, those curtains may look a little nicer if you smoothes out the fold lines with an iron. Try it with an iron on low heat or with a towel on top to protect. Maybe consider some of those adhesive windows stickers that blur the glass. Good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 10:41 PM |
| 10 | Found this posted online by a therapist and I had to repost as I know many of you have experienced this with a man, or will potentially experience itAsking for advice here ... If you do notice your partner/friend/family does behave in this way, what would be a good way to bring it up? I have a family member who does exactly this and I believe in having a convo and warning someone about their behaviour before just cutting them off. As someone who isn't NT I know warnings like this have helped me fix my behaviour before a discard, and I believe in giving others that chance too. Would this be a boundary or a standard? How do you word this? For … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 05:30 AM |
| 56 | NVM thinks that girlfriend's PTSD is "selfish".You weren't allowed to stay inside the house alone ? So even his parents had no empathy or understanding either? Geeze... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:23 PM |
| 2 | Marriage KoUNseLInG is a waste of money unless it Post Divorce CounselingThat's really so interesting. Thanks for sharing. Last question, did you have a plan before starting? Like some notes for each other on what to ask or say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 02:28 AM |
| 5 | Marriage KoUNseLInG is a waste of money unless it Post Divorce CounselingI'm so interested in this! but also scared haha. It would take alot of trust in your partner to let them be a guide when you are in a vulnerable place. Not to mention, if they are even emotionally intelligent enough to guide effectively. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:29 AM |
| 17 | I literally don’t even have wordsSerious?? Christ :S | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:49 AM |
| 126 | I literally don’t even have wordsHe's so pissed cause he can't use tinder as a free on-demand prostitution service 😂 For real though, don't go over their houses if you don't want to be put in this position. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:04 AM |
| 4 | Im not raising LVMs....my sons wrapped all the gifts this year.Love the sound of this! Where did you find cloth bags ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:37 AM |
| 19 | No this isn’t fucking funny- it’s an example of how LVM behavior is perpetuated within familiesWe did an extended family secret Santa exchange this year. I got my sister (who is stuck in another country), and even though I left it a bit late, I went over the price limit and paid for fast shipping and everything. She loved her skincare gift. Meanwhile, my male cousin (who I've been told says I am his favourite cousin) who lives three suburbs over from me, got me for Xmas, didn't send my gift in time. He sent me a photo of it instead... a hardware store gift voucher for $50 and a tiny succu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:38 AM |
| 55 | I don't understand women who enjoy seeing other women failI have to admit I was one of those girls for a good chunk of my life. I think it's because I've always been a bit of a "weird" one and got bullied for many of my school years by other girls. There's a feeling of bitterness about the rejection and how it affected me for years after, but also a feeling that "sisterhood" and girls supporting each other was another movie fairytale. For years i refused to give girls any of my energy or attention unless they showed it first. But, of course, I also beh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:47 AM |
| 22 | This hits too close to my pickme teen years.Remembering this image from a year or two ago... and how often I've thought about it since.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 03:58 PM |
| 4 | (Ex ) Redpill/anti-feminist/conservative ladies, how did you find FDS? How did it change you?Quora is one of the better sites for searching lots of questions (with insightful answers) about this. Just add "?share=1" to the end of a url to bypass the login popup and remain anonymous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:20 PM |
| 29 | Broke up with him after months of pain. He didn't earned it. I know my value now.I'll never NOT watch this clip when it shows up. I love her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:12 PM |
| 4 | "All my exes were crazy" - A common tactic used by abusers when their victims get subjected to reactive abuse. Please don't ever think that you're crazy and have mood swings in the relationship. It's your body literally giving you signs to leave the relationship.Just wanted to say how much I love this comment! I'm saving it. This has been a huge problem for me in the past and I'm going to channel this energy if it happens again in the future ! I feel it ties into the "garden of resentment" theory from the amazing book "why does he do that?". They really will plant some minor issue in the garden, nurture it for days, and then when they're ready to cause drama over it they dig up the plant (and scoop up a few smaller plants to make them extra justified) a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 04:37 AM |
| 30 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.I grew up the same as you, and it's been so hard to undo the friendly programming. The instinct to people please felt like the "treat someone how I wanted to be treated" for so long but I'm only just starting to realise it is also a nervous self protection thing. It's been so hard to change my thinking on this, and be more protective of my energy, but it's tough. One thing that still confuses me though, is if someone (man or woman) tries too hard to be my friend right away (eg a new student in c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:16 PM |
| 43 | r/GayBrosGoneMild is a reminder that straight men could be doing better physically but they choose not to. I mean look at all these guys who look like they drink water and moisturize.Got my boyfriend into skincare this year. Took a bit of convincing in the beginning but once he stuck to a decent facewash/moisturiser/sunscreen every day for 2-3 weeks, he noticed a huge difference with his skin and has picked it up as a daily habit. He no longer comes home with an oily face, flushed flaky cheeks, or small bumps. Now he's even branched into AHA's and sheet masks :') It's his birthday tomorrow and I picked him up a bunch of Japanese skincare goodies along with one or two other g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 12:32 PM |
| 2 | This was censored in r/Australia. Searchable database of Domestic Violence Records in Australia. Stay woke ladies 💫Tech jobs in sunny coast? I can only imagine in the healthcare industry... I thought folks would be heading south for greater tech prospects... Interesting ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:38 PM |
| 45 | This is what I’m saying next time a LVM interrupts meLoved the quote. Had a laugh. But as a non American this debate sounded like two old lumpy sausages arguing in a nursing home. 🤮 America needs to stay single for a while maybe, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 07:02 AM |
| 15 | This is why the six month period before declaring someone a HVM is a MINIMUM. Strap in ladies, this is fun.I think you're right but also they are trying to twist and squirm out of their own guilt too. Can't handle the consequences and the bad feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:55 AM |
| 6 | Wall? What wall?!Oooh, thank you. I have a feeling something is still supposed to happen so we will see! Treating myself to a nice Saturday morning Esfolio collagen mask with a cold gel face mask as we speak ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 12:27 AM |
| 32 | Wall? What wall?!I just started retinol 2 weeks ago and can't believe the improvement in my skin texture already! I also barely purged or flaked (super lucky and not the norm) I'm loving it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 10:52 PM |
| 12 | Seven friends buy mansion in China so they can grow old together. I hope more women do this in the future ❤️I'd be contributing to the house by installing a security system and getting some bigass German shepherds to guard us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:53 AM |
| 17 | Local man can't handle the fact his girlfriend is smarter than himI bet he speaks like he writes, SmArT aNd ArTiCuLaTe ... I can't 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 3 | Women in the BibleLove this! I'm going to go read more about it. Thank you ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:36 AM |
| 7 | I Don’t Want To Date An American GuyI can't even stand to hear an American accent these days. I get irrationally mad lol. My ex was very self-absorbed. Never set a toe outside of his own comfort zone to compromise with me (needed the bedroom light on till 2am for his eyes when on the computer...walked super fast, etc) and just had that "temporarily embarrassed millionare" attitude towards his whole life. He had a "super fun" personality and used his American accent to get that "wow" factor from strangers... but it quickly became a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 10:41 PM |
| 43 | Don't rush into babymaking , they don't necessarily deserve being a father...They're buckled in ... They don't have warm clothing ... And they are in plain view of the street This is awful 😭💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:34 AM |
| 25 | Why don’t men get karma as severe as we do?I've been thinking about this recently, except in a professional context! My boyfriend manages a small team of 10 or so IT guys (no women, sigh) and so often, he tells me about how dramatic and unprofessional they can be. There was one guy about three weeks ago who had a 40 minute bitch session over the phone about someone else in the team who made a small mistake. Turns out he forgot he was in a three-way phonecall and only had the shame to stop his rant once he realised someone else was in the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:14 AM |
| 1 | What is this behaviour called?Thank you for the advice, it's true. I was just wondering if there was an actual name for the behaviour or not, like "gaslighting". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 11:40 PM |
| 3 | AmenI love love LOVE Paris 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 12:06 PM |
| 19 | How does FDS apply to those of us already in relationships?Kinda in the same boat? All I know is once I had been reading FDS for a while, I recognised values I had let slide. Many of these values were things that were already causing problems in the relationship (as in, I didn't go searching for problems on purpose). Time in quarantine exacerbated the issues a little. I was emotionally tired, so I mentally and emotionally took a small step back and closed myself off a bit and focused on a bit of a glowup and return to my hobbies. I also started making h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:25 PM |
| 124 | 😍😍😍Literally roast a scrote lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:53 AM |
| 22 | Low Value Men comparing their perceived options who are out of their league like:I adore this movie!! And I think that even tho Mr Collins had alot to offer he really was punching above his weight with most of the Bennet girls. So much for the mother being a good matchmaker, clearly Mary (the one who plays piano) would have been a good personality match for me Collins. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:42 AM |
| 4 | If these are your life goals, then I feel sorry for youDon't know about life goals, but it would be nice haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:09 AM |
| 9 | When men are nice to you.As crass as south park is, I can't leave it alone. It's hilarious and full of truth bombs lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Just another manipulation tactic!Love this !! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:16 AM |
| 13 | Friendly reminder to not breed with scrotesGood on her for making him stick to it. How embarrassing for the both of them though.... It sounds like his other family have the right idea too and I hope they also continue to pressure him about good behaviour. It's her holiday too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 12:59 AM |
| 317 | I was deleting pictures off my phone and I found this gem. So glad I deleted my OLD profiles. It was just too much effort.Always 0-100 and no buildup. Yawn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:23 PM |
| 12 | ‘Eleven-year-old Amy (..) enthusiastically embrace an increasingly sensual dance routine’- Jeffrey would be so happy... 🤮4chans an interesting one these days. Still plenty of edgelords and pedos ... But I've also seen plenty of conversations where they reject this kind of degeneracy and are aware of how it's dragging society down for profit and the destruction of family values. Lots of calling for well-known celeb and politician pedos to "get the rope". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 10:51 PM |
| 1 | I was only trying to help 😭Be warned about internationals though. I was a foolish 19yo who gave 6 years of my life to an American man who moved to Australia. Once he had his visa updated from a partnership visa to a permanent citizen, he dumped me in under 6 months. And the whole time I let pressure me sexually and neg me about how I wasn't driven enough about building wealth like he was. Meanwhile I couldn't access the welfare services I needed to get on my feet after 2009 GFC, because of our defacto status which he need… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 10:51 PM |
| 8 | 10 years down the road after you marry that LVM. Man couldn't even put up shelving. Or even a switch plate cover!Honestly YouTube would be your best resource. Start out with little things relative to what you need done :) this goes for basic car maintenance too. I have a simple box now of tools, which are super cheap and do the trick. You don't need expensive power tools. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:23 PM |
| 4 | Pet triangulation, anyone else experience this?Exactly this, yes! I now have over 50 houseplants myself and I love them very much. But really, I think it's a control tactic where they react to you 1) not completely pandering to their quirks and treating them like mummy's best boy and 2) finding reasons to paint you bad and therefore place themselves as better than you. It's E X H A U S T I N G. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:25 AM |
| 9 | Pet triangulation, anyone else experience this?Had an ex that would get all sad and hurt (a common manipulation tactic of his. Pisces guys hey...) if I didn't respect his houseplants. He would give each of them names and baby talk them. One time he damn near cried because one got sunburnt. If my face even slightly showed I thought he was being weird, or just too much, he would get upset with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:01 AM |
| 3 | That’s enough Reddit for me today! Off to give my ‘female brain’ a little restHe's monologing! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:33 PM |
| 150 | That’s enough Reddit for me today! Off to give my ‘female brain’ a little rest"unfortunately the only way to deal with it is to listen to my dad and implement behavioral adaptation modules in the male code. So I'll have to take a step back and text message you a little less..." This is some quality cringe. Word salad but showing his hand... WUT! ...he's just gagging for you to chase him lmao. Incredible stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 11:22 AM |
| 5 | Expectation vs Reality: OLD versionCrying 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 10:15 AM |
| 18 | The start of pick meishaPapers? Is this over a divorce? I never watched the show, but yikes that's some cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:18 AM |
| 3 | Daddy issues, how it affected you. The thing about family is they set the tone for what's FAMILiar, so we unconsciously gravitate towards that "comfort". Like when I was a kid, I could watch the same movie over and over and never be bored. What was familiar to you? How did it affect you?My dad was a hard worker when I was growing up. He grew up very poor, but managed to upskill and study his way into a decent job where he was able to be the breadwinner and let mum focus on raising three girls. I think he always wanted a boy, however seems to love us daughters very much and is content at having "molded" our interests towards tech and nerdy stuff like gaming and sci fi. He also clearly still loves my mother very much... And I see myself subconsciously looking when dating for the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 02:18 AM |
| 21 | This is so scary, this man kept harassing her, and he followed her homePepper spray and tazers are banned in my country and I think about that all the time ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:26 AM |
| 24 | From the horses mouthTbh just grab some cheaper items from Wish or Shein and they won't know the difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 11:06 PM |
| 4 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManI had issues with spacing out and lack of focus in class and internships, and after my diagnosis I was given ritalin instant release (which is a common starter med in my country) and that snapped me out of the brain fog. After 6 months I realised it had benefits, but wondered if I could be doing better with something like adderall. So my psych swapped me over to dexamfetamine which is like Adderall but better? Anyway, that is the med that has worked so well for me since February. I can't believe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:42 AM |
| 4 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManThank you, Kinda dealing with this a bit right now actually. I'm three years into a relationship that started when my self esteem was way worse. The guy has sensed my shift in self esteem and standards. I guess by the end of the year I will know if it's something he can adjust to. Still, the career thing escapes my grasp... That's the main thing. Bad time to graduate a degree, whoops lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:03 AM |
| 29 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManI was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago at 31 and have only just started on (what I believe are) the right meds that have changed so much for me. From study habits through to posture and personality. It's been mind blowing how different i feel. I've spent my whole life mostly unemployed / underemployed and had shitty men neg me about it, making me believe for so long that I was just lazy and dumb. Now I'm making huge strides and guess what? It's hard to make them see my progress and growth be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 10:36 PM |
| 17 | Something that I think more women should come to expect - having their own room when living with a partnerI have my own bathroom and I bloody love it. It's always so tidy and fresh. Smells good. Glossy white ceramic countertops free from beard hair. All of my skincare lined up on little black shelves. Plants hanging down from the glass shower walls. It's my own space, a space just for me 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 10:29 AM |
| 2 | Remember at this time that if he can't listen respectfully to your political views, he doesn't respect you.Struggling with this one at the moment. Had to put a ban on political discussions during lockdown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 02:23 PM |
| 1 | PhD student showing HVM qualityThats heckin cute : 3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 06:43 AM |
| 20 | Dating a man with trust issues is a fucking nightmare! Refuse to suffer for another woman's mistakes.A behavior called "splitting" may be of interest to you. It's a new concept to me but some more things clicked together in my head when i discovered it. Splitting (also called black-and-white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking) is the failure in a person's thinking to bring together the dichotomy of both positive and negative qualities of the self and others into a cohesive, realistic whole. He see's you as good, until you aren't (because you are human and make mistakes sometimes) and when he s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 10:50 PM |
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