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| 2 | Give me a reason to get marriedNah, all that's going to do is incite anger. This subreddit can get mentally exhausting at times. I also don't need a bunch of people telling me "Shut up grandma!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 10:11 AM |
| 6 | Women on apps need to do their homework😂😂😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 05:30 AM |
| 5 | Women on apps need to do their homeworkI've done this and it doesn't work for my age group. I reversed my gender so I could see my competition. For reference I am an attractive HWP early 40s woman. 5'6" long hair. Childfree. Back then I had just turned 40. The first thing I noticed- There were hardly any women in my age group on Bumble. The ones that were on it were mostly overweight/obese. Bad skin, bad makeup, heavily filtered, etc. I had to go all the way down to 34 before I could find any major competition...Originally I had it s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 05:07 AM |
| 4 | Give me a reason to get marriedDude, I'm not even talking about dating. I'm saying that women take huge risks getting married. The men who have tried to cheat/push boundaries were so called "good men". I'm talking picture perfect husbands. No one would have ever believed me if I had said anything. Anyway, If you choose to be a piece of shit, then why even get married? Live out the bachelor life and be happy with it. Who gives a flying fuck what society thinks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 03:55 AM |
| 7 | Give me a reason to get marriedWomen put their health/life at risk carrying a child. Giving birth to multiple children- Can destroy their bodies even after they lose the weight. I have one friend who's back is permanently fucked up from childbirth. Another person I know had their C-section incision get infected and nearly died. -Lots of wives are the default cook, maid, and errand runner. How many married men do you see shopping at the grocery store alone? Or out buying baby diapers, clothing, medicine for their kids? Because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 03:47 AM |
| 6 | Give me a reason to get marriedI think women have more to lose within a marriage, but that's just me. It's part of the reason why I never married. Downvote away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 03:32 AM |
| 2 | Do you ever view men as "good breeding material", and do you find it troublesome, or gross that men subconsciously see woman that way?Wtf @ the athlete's foot. Old wives tale but it works- Go sit outside on a sunny day with no shoes or socks. Read a book or something to occupy yourself. The sun's rays will kill any fungus on your feet doing this 2-3 times per week for at least 45 minutes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/24 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Do you ever view men as "good breeding material", and do you find it troublesome, or gross that men subconsciously see woman that way?I never wanted children, but I could see that happening if I did. As a woman, you would want to pick the healthiest, strongest, best-looking, intelligent man you could get to have a child with. But yeah like I said, I never ended up having kids so I really don't give af. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/24 11:03 AM |
| 6 | Men should want to have lesbian besties like women have gay bestiesThere are lipstick lesbians and masculine gay men... They might go under the radar but they do exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/24 10:58 AM |
| 3 | Social skills are fundimental to being successful in relationships, and they are more important than looks, status or wealth.Early 40s F here. How old are you OP? I think you're both right and wrong. People will argue with me, but many men care about youth + looks first and foremost when it comes to a relationship with a woman. Then social skills comes after. Maybe even dead last... Women who want a relationship- Care about social skills, and having a funny interesting guy. Don't get me wrong, looks do matter but they aren't as important as most men make it out to be. Most women don't want to date an antisocial creepy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 08:48 PM |
| 10 | A good way to incentivize more women to have children. Would be guaranteeing that women could continue to chase their dreams as well.41F, coming from a small Bible town where everyone gets married young and starts shitting out kids as soon as possible. That life has never appealed to me. And yes, I've been judged harshly for it. If I were to get married or have kids, it would have been no sooner than 30. But even then I don't think I was too into that idea. It may come as a shock to you, but some of us go against societal norms. For myself- It had nothing to do with scaring me into or out of having kids. It also helped that m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 08:31 PM |
| 1 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?No. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Describe the average man dating experience ?Lies. How old are you? You won't believe me, but my ex left me to be with his ex. This incident happened almost 4 years ago. The woman was an obese, unemployed, single mom. No idea if she's still obese or unemployed now. But she's the exact opposite of myself- No kids, fit, and employed. I was humiliated tbh. Most people cannot compete with nostalgia. But yeah...It still boggles my mind to this day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 08:41 AM |
| 2 | Describe the average man dating experience ?This is a load of horse shit. You don't know people's lives or what's happened to them in their past. I've had my fair share of judgement for being a woman in my 40s and unmarried/no kids. I can tell you that if I ever do decide to get married, I won't be settling. It will be because I'm in love + attracted to that person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 08:32 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else (all genders) get torn between wanting to be a slut and actually having something serious with one partner?Nope. This has never crossed my mind and I will never understand how people have sex with randos without getting attached. I think if I ever decided to sleep around it would turn me into even more of a basket case than I am currently. I'm the type of person that needs to have deep feelings in order to have sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 06:05 AM |
| 4 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?Nope, I just lurk there. Technically I'm not allowed to post or comment on those subs because I do not meet the criteria. Apparently you can't post if you've had a romantic relationship in the past. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 05:56 AM |
| 2 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?Back in "real America", you're cuffed up by like 22 I can tell you that at least half of those people are miserable, and probably have been for years. When I used to go on the dating apps, there were several married men in my area who had an account. Some have also tried to push boundaries with me irl as well. I'm sure there were married women on the apps too, but I can only tell you what I saw from my point of view. But yes, I agree- It's grim. Especially if you are a childfree person. The very… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 05:48 AM |
| – | It’s really bizarre how even women from humble backgrounds and lower socioeconomic standing possess the same degree of entitlement and delusion as upper middle class womenThis rarely happens where I live because there's a giant class divide. I've only seen one case of something like you're describing, and it didn't end well for the middle class guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 05:34 AM |
| 10 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?I don't believe this to be true. I lurk on certain subreddits for women (not saying which ones). Some of them are horribly depressed and suicidal because they have never had a boyfriend due to "being born an ugly woman". Not my words but theirs. Some of those women are in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 05:26 AM |
| 2 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?Hmm I see what you mean. Settling down because of limited options. Like having a ring as a status symbol? I get that because I'm originally from a small town in middle america. Practically everyone here married their highschool sweetheart. I came back to my hometown a couple years ago and I get judged constantly for being unmarried with no kids. It sucks but that's the way things are here. Women my own age especially love to rub that in my face. I never understood the idea of getting married jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 05:20 AM |
| 4 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?But does Elon Musk actually count? Most men aren't billionaires or even millionaires. Of course there are some women in the world who are attracted to money first and foremost, no matter how weird, or repulsive looking the guy is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 05:08 AM |
| 1 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?Then what's your opinion on this? I'm a woman in my 40s so I've seen it all. Please don't say it's due to looks...because I've seen some ugly mofos in my day get all kinds of women. They knew how to talk to the opposite sex and were confident in themselves. They were outgoing too. Now if you're ugly as hell + awkward + creepy + low self-esteem...Yeah, those guys aren't going to do well with women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 05:01 AM |
| 1 | If wealth is your only USP, then dont complain about gold diggersBroke ass men are the only ones barking about how much $$$ they have in their invisible bank accounts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 03:19 AM |
| 0 | What are some reasons for still being a virgin that would be a red flag?I'm a woman who's attracted to men. This is just my opinion- You make women visibly uncomfortable. You have deplorable hygiene. Terrible social skills/cringey interactions. You straight up scare women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 03:13 AM |
| – | What would it take for you to make the first move?I will never make the first move. Assertive men are my jam. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 08:46 AM |
| 3 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.Men can actually be far better at conversation, when they see you as a person and not an object. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.I'm assuming they talk about boobs, dogs, and motorcycles. Tbh I don't really give a flying fuck what they talk about in their free time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Women with high relationship standards--please tell me about what you offer in returnWell...even though I am attractive and HWP, having no kids, low body count, am a good hearted person, I have morals, am decently intelligent, loves animals, has manners... I am considered undesirable and worthless to most men (online and irl) because of the mere fact that I'm a woman in my 40s. So I'm apparently not allowed to have standards. I should probably just go rot somewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.True. What's that saying? "Online dating is like going through a barrel of rotten apples, and trying to find the one with the least bruises." Something like that. I'm convinced the worst ones our age are existing online. The good ones either paired off right away, or became downright disgusted like myself and left. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 03:41 AM |
| 2 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.They never shut up. Even if you tune them out and walk away, they will continue talking. One time I left the bathroom where another coworker (pregnant) was talking on our break. Sitting on the toilet, in the stall no less. Break is nearly over, I go back to work. Fifteen minutes pass. Boss wants to know where said coworker was and tells me to go get her. She's still in the bathroom stall talking, alone. It's almost comical. The women who are getting angry at my comment are the ones who never shu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 01:30 AM |
| 0 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.Maybe. I think it's because my hormones are out of wack since becoming perimenopausal. Or maybe I was always a miserable cunt, but now the lack of estrogen is loosening my filter. I used to be a nice person. Now I'm unhinged. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Why is cold approaching seen as a "better" alternative to dating apps?I think the cold approach would only work for young people. It did back in my day anyway. People met up at the mall or the arcade and actually interacted with one another. I even knew one girl who met her boyfriend at Walmart back in the day. He asked for her phone number and she gave it to him. Too many factors would not work with cold approaching me at this age. Most of those men come with an ex wife and kids. Something I do not want to even entertain. I'm childfree and will only get involved … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.Dude, who tf said that I was antisocial? I talk to people all the time. I'm just exhausted from listening to their fucking bullshit. Honestly the only people I find fun to talk with are gay people. Probably because they don't annoy me spewing crap like 99% of the population. You have some really weird comments on here. Almost like you don't even know how to interact with other humans. Or maybe you're like most Redditors who are on the spectrum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 06:23 PM |
| 0 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.I was going to lay into you, then looked at your post history. Maybe grow a backbone and women will start paying attention to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.Your user flair checks out 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.I say this as nicely as possible- You are young. You don't understand how difficult it is trying to make new friends in middle age. Especially if you're a childfree woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.So what? It's no excuse to become verbally abusive to women on a dating app. Boo fucking hoo that they're burnt out. Then those men need to leave, like I did. But they won't. They'll just continue to make other women miserable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves....and you're boring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.Those women are coworkers/acquaintances. No way in hell would I deal with any of those women in my free time. I'd end up suicidal. I got rid of my only two friends years ago. These were people from my childhood, so it was a huge deal and agonizing for me when I cut ties with them. I got tired of their toxicity. I'm much less stressed without them in my life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 02:40 PM |
| 10 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.Too long of a response to even type out. I'm in my early 40s. I'll sum it up a bit- I guess as a woman I'm just exhausted in general. Oddly enough, I'm still catcalled and hassled by men where I live. I've endured decades of this. Men seeing you only as an object and not a human being...will eventually turn you into an unhinged person. I tried online dating on & off for a year. Most of the men my age online are either married or already partnered up. The ones I did match up with enjoyed insultin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 07:26 AM |
| 30 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.Definitely not a pick me because I despise 95% of all men. But many women piss me off as well. If I have to hear one more time- "Oh you wouldn't understand because you don't have kids." ...I'm going to end up breaking someone's kneecaps. I think I just hate people in general at this point. Pretty sure that I'm turning into a stereotypical crotchety middle aged woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 07:12 AM |
| 127 | Women put the bar higher for men than most would want for themselves.I'll get downvoted into hell for this, but...I'm a woman, and I find that many women can't hold a decent conversation to save their own lives. They're boring and talk about the same crap constantly. They talk about their kids, dieting/gym, and social media (FB). Or they gossip about everyone else. Most women bore me to death. They're only sociable when the conversation is what they feel is important to them. There, I said it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/24 05:19 AM |
| -1 | Most men are not friends with their girlfriends/wivesAre you asking me or asking about women in general? Because as for myself- Do I want to marry a bum? Hell no. But I choose physical attraction and personality over everything else. If I can't picture myself fucking the guy, then I don't care what kind of extravagant lifestyle he has. It doesn't matter how much money he has in his bank account if I find the dude repulsive. I do know of one single mom who will not date a guy with kids. Simply because she wants all the attention brought to her own … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/24 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Most men are not friends with their girlfriends/wivesTruly it is. That's why I've opted to stay alone for years now. I don't trust men at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/24 09:35 AM |
| 3 | Most men are not friends with their girlfriends/wivesHe ain't lying. Tbh that's probably most men. They choose comfort over everything else when picking a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/24 09:32 AM |
| 3 | Most of the men who have low standards have them low because they aren't desirable enough to have them high.Not the person you asked, but I've come to the conclusion that many men hate beautiful women. They have to knock them down a few notches in order to feel better about themselves. Case in point- My ex left me. After that he chose an unemployed, obese, single mother. She has to outweigh him by at least 80-100 lbs. She was his highschool sweetheart and my ex never got over her. So I guess I can't compete with nostalgia. Btw this is a man who had told me that he wasn't attracted to bigger women at a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/24 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Most of the men who have low standards have them low because they aren't desirable enough to have them high.What percentage of men do you believe marry for comfort/settle for? I have noticed this as well and I'm (considered to be) an attractive female. I only know this, because the amount of married men who have tried to push boundaries with me is downright disturbing. I've honestly lost count of how many MM I've told to fuck off. This is in real life btw. Don't get me started on dating apps. Most of them have pretended to be very single in the beginning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/24 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Most of the men who have low standards have them low because they aren't desirable enough to have them high.What if your high value woman happens to be 80 lbs overweight? Would you rather stay alone? Or would you rather deal with a thin/average weight woman who didn't believe in God, but was a decent person overall? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/24 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public?Oh yeah trust me, I know. I carry a weapon on me in case though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public?You're not funny and that's not what catcalling is at all. Pathetic to make light of something that us women deal with on a regular basis. Have you ever been followed by men in vehicles until you had to physically run away? That's happened to me more times than I can count. You probably think that would be fun time for someone like yourself, since I highly doubt you go outside anyway. Stay pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 06:36 PM |
| – | Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public?I feel like we live in the same city because what you're describing happens to me often. I'm in my 40s and fucking sick of it. Mostly meth addicts or crazies or homeless guys trying their luck. Like anyone would mess with their scuzzy asses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public?Despise isn't the right word tbh. But I guess you could say that. More like sick and tired of it. I've been catcalled since the age of 13. Of course its not as bad now as it was in my younger years. But I'm still drained. Maybe once I hit full blown menopause and start looking my age it will eventually stop. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 06:23 PM |
| 5 | Question for women: how often do you get approached by men in public?41F. Are we talking dead on approached or just catcalled? If approached- It's usually by crazies, intoxicated men, or super old geezers 65+. Maybe 1-2 times a month. Catcalled? I've lost count tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 09:55 AM |
| -1 | “Getting off the apps” doesn’t help when the same mindsets are predominantIf you don't want marriage or casual hookups, what is the end game for you? A part-time girlfriend? I'm having trouble understanding wtf you're even looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 08:54 AM |
| 5 | “Getting off the apps” doesn’t help when the same mindsets are predominantThis is sort of true. As a woman- I'm a sucker for a nice pair of eyes. Obsessed really. If you have weird bulging eyes, or just outright unattractive eyes...I won't be interested. It's one of the few (weird) dealbreakers I have physically when it comes to choosing a man. I will choose nice eyes over a tall man. Maybe I'm just an outlier but it's true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Is lying about your career in hopes of getting a ONS wrong or immoral?If a man told me all this right away I'd know he was full of shit. Broke asses flaunt their toys that are only on paper. They rarely own anything outright. Men with real money never talk about it. At least not until things get serious if it heads that way. They never flaunt their wealth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 08:38 AM |
| 74 | Is the use of makeup deceptive?Makeup- Deceptive No makeup, no hair done up, no jewelry or accessories= LAZY Can't win. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 08:33 AM |
| 2 | “Getting off the apps” doesn’t help when the same mindsets are predominantI've had numerous men come up to me and ask this same question irl. At least initiate a hello or something first. Because it's honestly just awkward. Like they don't know how to talk to women. It's a weird and creepy thing to ask when you don't know the person. Trust me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 03:28 AM |
| -1 | “Getting off the apps” doesn’t help when the same mindsets are predominant41F. I've pretty much given up on dating in general, but approaching irl would never work for someone like me. I have a couple of massive dealbreakers, one of which is "childfree men only". I can't exactly start talking to a guy that's a virtual stranger and ask him if he has kids. It's a weird question to ask. It would be awkward if he did, because I wouldn't no longer be interested in talking to said guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Men of PPD, what are your standards? Do you think they are high?Either you're really attractive (like in the top 20 percentile) or these women going for this one-sided deal are just as autistic as you are. Anyway, good luck dude. Sounds like you know how to charm a woman. Still scratching my head though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Men of PPD, what are your standards? Do you think they are high?Either you're really attractive (like in the top 20 percentile) or these women going for this one-sided deal are just as autistic as you are. Anyway, good luck dude. Sounds like you know how to charm a woman. Still scratching my head though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Men of PPD, what are your standards? Do you think they are high?Either you're really attractive (like in the top 20 percentile) or these women going for this one-sided deal are just as autistic as you are. Anyway, good luck dude. Sounds like you know how to charm a woman. Still scratching my head though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Men of PPD, what are your standards? Do you think they are high?Either you're really attractive (like in the top 20 percentile) or these women going for this one-sided deal are just as autistic as you are. Anyway, good luck dude. Sounds like you know how to charm a woman. Still scratching my head though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Men of PPD, what are your standards? Do you think they are high?If we going to live together I will expect her to cook and clean, and split costs. I'm not interested in children and marriage so she should be okay with that. Lol fucking seriously? You want the wife experience without putting a ring on it. Got it. I really hope you're super young and inexperienced, and will eventually grow as a person- Otherwise you're doomed to be alone forever. No sane woman is going to agree to a situation like the one you're presenting. Most autistic thing I've read on Red… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 06:21 AM |
| 2 | I don't buy the narrative that single, childless women are the happiest groupDamn. All of this is sad as hell. I'm a 40s woman (childfree) and I wouldn't say I'm thrilled with being single. But I also wouldn't say that I'm depressed about it either. In the past few years, the idea of marriage has me jaded. Too many married guys my own age have tried to push boundaries with me. And let's not get started with online dating. I found out very recently that two-thirds of the men online in my age group are already married or partnered up. I'd rather stick needles in my eyeball… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 02:55 AM |
| 0 | Online dating will not decline in popularity because women aren’t receptive to approaching or being approachedOh, duh! My brain isn't working today. Sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 02:43 AM |
| – | Online dating will not decline in popularity because women aren’t receptive to approaching or being approachedWow, really? As a woman I read the exact opposite. That it mostly men on the apps. Unless you're counting men who are actually single. Which yeah, 20% sounds about right. Fucking pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 11:47 PM |
| 0 | Is Dating Really Hard? Or Are People Not Trying Hard Enough and Unwilling to Compromise on Their Standards?41F. I've stopped dating for around 4 years now. I can say during that time, I was physically fit. I was late 30s as well. I'm not attracted to obese men and many of them my age were extremely overweight. Btw I live in one of the fattest states in the US. But when I was actively trying to date, all I was asking for was a childfree man with a job. Non-smoker, no drugs, and no heavy drinking. Just like myself. I may as well wish to win the lottery because it ain't happening. Now I'm over 40. Women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 11:41 PM |
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