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OYS #6 Stats: 31yo, 6”0, 196.0 lbs. Target Weight Next OYS - 194.5 Previous Base - N/A Married 9 months and no kids. Lifts: DB Bench - 55x2 - 3x8 OHP DB- 35x2 - 3x8 Leg Press - 300 lbs - 3x8 Seated Rows - 110 lbs - 3x8 Tricep Rope Pull Downs - 40 Lbs - 3x8 Pull Ups 40 Pound Assist - 3x8 Working well, form is improving and upper back posture is maintaining better Deadlift - 55 lb Dumbbells - 3x10 Can't push now because of abdominal strain so maintaining. Side work Postural exercises (wall angels)…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 04:56 PM
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I can't grow a full beard so I run a moustache and chin hair (Johnny Depp style). I definitely agree that the physique is important. As I got chubby I started looking softer and fatter in the face but when I was younger my jawline and short hair worked together. I'd like to buzz or high and tight but have to keep dropping weight for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/24 01:15 AM
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About a month on average, but regular gelling keeps it consistent. I gave it some pomade recently but I wasn't a fan. I'm going to keep going at it though because maybe I just didn't do it the right way. I prefer gel personally but maybe it's just the comfort of gel since I was younger
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/24 01:12 AM
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Yeah I need to change gyms for more barbell centric work. Not enough benches and barbells where I'm at now.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/24 01:11 AM
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OYS #5 Stats: 30yo, 6”0, 193.6 lbs. Married 9 months and no kids. Lifts: DB Bench - 55x2 - 8x3 OHP- 35x2 - 8x3 Leg Press - 260 lbs - 8x3 Tricep Rope Pull Downs - 40 Lbs - 8x3 New Exercises Added Today Chin-Up / Deadlift / Bicep Curl / Shrugs Switching program to Phrak's Greyskull LP with lower rep ranges than my previous sets of 12 due to advice and a move towards strength. Other Fitness Staying consistent in gym and still gaining mass (newbie gains). Diet is working well too - baking/broiling e…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 11:35 AM
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It is definitely heavy for me. I'm maxing out at the end of the rep ranges. If I hit over 12 then I progressive overload by upping the weight, but the feedback I'm getting here is that the other programs (5 reps) are overall better for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 06:43 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 30yo, 6”0, 193.2.0 lbs. Married 8 months and no kids. Lifts: DB Bench - 55x2 - 8/8/8 OHP- 35x2 - 8/8/8 Lunge - 40x2 - 12/12/12 Squat - 140 - 5x5x5 Romanian DL - 120 - 8/8/8 Pull Ups - 3 Dips - 3 Read: NMMNG / Reading: MMSLP Health & Fitness: I am finally dropping fat as the diet has been tuned up and I am hitting calorie deficits consistently. The level of weights are still right for me but I know that I'm mostly training for aesthetics. I don't care about lifting particularly heav…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 11:20 AM
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What's the healthier/more effective view?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 07:26 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: 30yo, 6”0, 195.0 lbs. Married 8 months and no kids. Lifts: DB Bench - 55x2 - 8/8/8 OHP- 35x2 - 8/8/8 Lunge - 40x2 - 12/12/12 Squat - 140 - 5x5x5 Romanian DL - 120 - 8/8/8 Pull Ups - 3 Dips - 3 Read: NMMNG / Reading: MMSLP Health & Fitness: I have consistency with the gym but consistency is lacking in my diet and cardio. I'm gaining weight, and it's not on purpose. Discipline or lack of discipline is showing and right now it's the lack. Theres a mental side to this and although I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 02:24 PM
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Not likely to have sex = rejected. I do initiate everyday, but without enough time it doesn't spark. I am not making the feelz happen so it's like swimming upstream I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 01:08 AM
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In terms of responsibilities I mean in terms of things that I need to handle mentally and emotionally without putting it on my wife. For example, dealing with work or family issues or whatever else without looking to her for comfort or guidance. The ideal partnership I had envisioned is antithetical to the red pill principles of a stoic male presence. Also, wouldn't MMSLP address the how and why of this not sparking better than NMMNG? I can and am prioritizing myself more through the BFA activit…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 01:06 AM
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OYS #2 Stats: 30yo, 6”0, 192.6 lbs. Married 8 months and no kids. Lifts: DB Bench - 55x2 - 8/8/8 OHP- 35x2 - 8/8/8 Lunge - 40x2 - 12/12/12 Squat - 140 - 5x5x5 Romanian DL - 120 - 8/8/8 Pull Ups - 3 Dips - 3 Read: NMMNG / Reading: MMSLP / Next Read: WISNIFG Health & Fitness: My gym consistency has been the best it has in a while regardless of sickness or aches or strains so I'm happy about that. I need to run more of a caloric deficit because I'm gaining mass but my body fat % is too high. I star…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 10:33 AM
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I understand your first point but just wondering how it's good for the waist line? I need to buy a desk soon so maybe an adjustable one can fit the bill.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/24 11:25 PM
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That's good I'll find someone to learn from/focus on. Appreciate it
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 05:08 PM
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I was having issues posting on this one and I didn't know why so I made another account. The first time it didn't post because of length and the second time it didn't post because (I believe) the account was too new. In either case im going forward on this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 04:49 PM
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I became too serious all the time so I needed (and need) to lighten up. Still got a ways to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 11:56 PM
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I didn't own my shit effectively so I'm giving it an earnest restart. It's pretty clear with the lack of self development I had after so many posts. I kept getting in my own way by not being consistent in gym, reading, and even writing the OYS and replying to comments. There's very little desire or polarity and that's not vaginismus fault. I just need to pull my cart. Even if I wasn't with my wife my unattractive behaviors would get in my way of sustained or growing sexual desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 11:07 PM
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OYS #1 Stats: 30yo, 6”0, 192.2 lbs. Married 8 months and no kids. Lifts: DB Bench - 50x2 - 8/8/8 OHP- 35x2 - 8/8/8 Lunge - 40x2 - 10/10/10 Squat - 140 - 5x5x5 Romanian DL - 120 - 8/8/8 Pull Ups - 2 Dips - 3 Read: NMMNG / Reading: MMSLP / Next Read: WISNIFG Health & Fitness: I’ve been running my program for a couple of months now and I am gaining muscle mass and strength but I’ve got a big belly and love handles so I need to cut and tune up the protein intake. Sleep has been pretty shitty - 5-6 h…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 04:01 PM
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OYS # 38 8/27/2024 30y 6’0”, 187 lbs Together 15 years Married 1 year with no kids Format - Lift / Read / STFU 1- Lift - Gym Nippard 3 Day Full Body Program Going to gym 3x weekly and hitting 150g protein targets but I'm still gaining weight (muscle and fat) so I need to scale back unnecessary calories. There are many lifts in the program but here are the compounds Bench Press - Up to 135 Max (1 rep higher?) Deadlift - Up to 185 OHP- 70 1Rep - This always stalls for me though Dips - 10 with 55lb…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 11:09 PM
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I wouldn't marry anyone right now - I've got a lot of shit to work on and I think a wife gets in the way of that. Bigger yet though, I get in the way of that but I've been a lot more consistent with my gym, reading, and otherwise so I'm hoping to build discipline to push through all the suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 12:29 AM
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Ok bro I got you, thanks for the refocusing/redirecting.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 12:28 AM
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It's a blessing and a curse in that it helps you hold it together momentarily but you then have to undo the damage from showing weakness
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 12:27 AM
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The pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change so I do want to change and am pushing myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 12:26 AM
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I'll usually initiate the kino or kissing and my wife won't decline but she's just accepting it basically as something I want. It doesn't give her the tingles anymore. Before we'd then mutually have sex but she knows that sometimes the kino or kissing is because I want to do more and she'll offer a blowjob.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 02:57 PM
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Exactly that, she was very supportive at first but I think in getting through it she lost the respect she had for me. Even though I'm doing better now I think she is still concerned that I'm going to fall back to the dark mental place.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 02:44 PM
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This definitely extends past my wife - even if I'm not offering negativity, sometimes I'm just offering neutrality when I'm fighting depression/anxiety from PTSD. I'm doing a lot better than I used to but not sure how to pour into others at times that I feel my cup is empty.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:42 AM
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I just had a procedure and I'm trying to fight off degenerative disks. The real reason for not improving is, as you said, lack of consistency. I do have problems with being consistent in other areas of my life from a lack of discipline primarily. When I do get gym consistency I go overboard and often injure so I think it's the slow burn I need to embrace. I have been going to the gym consistently recently and my procedure was really successful so I'm hoping to start gaining on my lifts soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:39 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. You're correct that some really traumatic stuff did happen and I felt robbed of my masculinity but I also understand that it's my responsibility to reclaim it. Even at my most masculine set of behaviors in adolescence I felt like I was masking. Eventually I went the nice guy route and I've been stuck here for a while. My biggest obstacle is the alternating duo of naivete and willful ignorance. Occasionally I get glimpses of the right mindset (OI and self-directed) but a …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:35 AM
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I think the problem is connected to arousal. I can improve in game, frame, and other ways. Over time the sex life has eroded and while I can get oral sex my wife isn't interested/enthusiastic about any of my sexual advances (kino, kissing, etc). The vaginismus has improved over time and my size is just average, so I'm looking at it as symptomatic of the bigger lack of attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:28 AM
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No it doesn't validate me, I'm average size. It's frustrating. We weren't able to get anything in until a few years ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:23 AM
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OYS # 37 8/6/2024 30y 6’0”, 182.5 lbs, Wife 29y, together 15 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I've stopped many of my caretaking behaviors and moved towards securing what I need as a focus. For example, if I want to go somewhere or use my time to play a sport, I place that to the top of my list and steer people towards it. Before I would proactively acclimate to what people wanted or I thought they wanted and I'd feel frustration when things didn't end up well for me (Covert…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 11:41 AM
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For religious reasons I don't want to have an affair so it's either a divorce or address whatever problems are leading to a lack of intimacy (gaming wife, self mastery, etc)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 02:07 PM
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OYS # 36 7/16/2024 30y 6’0”, 179.5 lbs, Wife 29y, together 15 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I'm dealing with a lot of toxic shame that I never dealt with. It built up over the years and I masked it by being a good boyfriend/husband/lover/employee/colleague/etc. It was all outside focused because I knew that things genuinely for me made me uncomfortable. New clothes, a haircut, and other things I always saw as wasteful. I would delay and delay. For all the closeness that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 02:04 PM
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I'd like some of your famous guidance along with your laughter and flair.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 09:30 PM
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I initiate but sometimes she's not into it so I just redirect myself
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 09:29 PM
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I do get oral about twice a week but I think my ego is hurt compared to the daily sex life I used to enjoy
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 03:32 AM
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Ok thanks for the recommendation. It's on page 289. If you have any other sections you think are worth a look I'd read those too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 03:28 AM
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OYS # 35 7/9/2024 30y 6’0”, 180.4 lbs, Wife 29y, together 15 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - Reflecting on the causes of my internalized toxic shame, it becomes clear to me that I lost my inner advocate. That voice that, even when the odds are against me or the opposition is overwhelming, stands up and says "This isn't for me." Losing my way lead to me losing myself. Myself was the more alpha version that has my own individual goals, likes, and dislikes, and now I've acquie…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 02:31 PM
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OYS # 34 7/3/2024 30y 6’0”, 181.8 lbs, Wife 29y, together 15 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG (Chapter 1) (Yes, that's right.) Implementation Check In - I am actually reading the book and doing the activities. For so long I've just been skimming or pretending to do what I'm supposed to do - i.e. going through the motions. People can and should shit on me for not doing/accomplishing anything but I've followed through on reading daily and implementing each day. As Dr. Glover said, many nice guys believ…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/24 06:44 PM
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Lift, read, and STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/24 05:25 PM
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You're hitting the nail on the head - I've been vague (honestly intentionally so). In concrete terms, I am dependent on my wifes presence, affection, and reception to my efforts for my self validation. My ability to be seen by her in a positive light is what has driven me as a teenager and young man to feel good about myself. Instead of doing the hard work to love and appreciate myself, I loaded her with the responsibility of my self esteem. It was flattering when we both had low self esteem thr…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/24 11:03 AM
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1- I am using dumbbells. Do you still recommend going to barbells only or do the adjustable dumbbells count as free weights? At a certain point loading is more feasible with barbells but I'm not there yet. 2- I have been sitting here and writing about it as an excuse. An excuse that I'm doing something but really I'm doing nothing. Ive been doing nothing for how many weeks now. Specifically I'm going to read and incorporate the readings more consistently. I'm going to evaluate myself by my compr…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/24 10:56 AM
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OYS # 33 6/25/2024 30y 6’0”, 183.5 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I am usually initially afraid of enforcing boundaries because of repercussions but as I have pushed through I have found myself in better positions than I thought. More importantly, accepting the consequences and responsibility of standing up for myself makes me more satisfied even if the results are negative. Mental: I need to move more away from my anxious attachment style. I am …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/24 07:49 PM
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OYS # 32 6/18/2024 30y 6’0”, 182.5 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I still do feel guilty when I say no, but that's literally the very next book that I should be reading. I have made being a nice guy such a part of my personality that without I feel ungrounded. It's a wild new world though so just got to man up and enjoy the ride. Mental: I've been settling into my life and appreciating uncertainty more. Accepting my thoughts, good and bad, is lib…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:46 PM
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OYS # 31 6/11/2024 30y 6’0”, 182.0 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I'm feeling better. I can't say no one is taking advantage of me but I am recognizing it a lot more. Covert contracts are minimized and I'm lining up more with things that I actually want (physically, emotionally, and professionally). It has made me realize that certain relationships and paths are unsustainable though so I have to put it in the work to elevate my other personal and…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 12:43 PM
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OYS # 30 6/4/2024 30y 6’0”, 181.0 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - An opportunity for me to be more proactive in my job is to more clearly introduce and enforce discipline/consequences for misbehavior. Some of these can be grade based and others can be more social in nature. Although I am constrained in the possibilities. I have more power than I am currently using so I must get to that point and the reassess. Getting walked over and ignored seems …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 12:16 PM
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Yes, the biggest thing is discipline and agency. We all move the needle everyday or it moves us and that's through these daily decisions. Being uncomfortable is maybe the biggest blessing in my life - I've always taken it to move onto better things. That next better thing is still me though, just minus a lot of this bullshit in my thoughts/actions. Ramping up career change and daily implementation of books/side bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 11:37 PM
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My bad I posted it incorrectly. It should be good to go now.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 11:35 PM
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OYS # 29 5/28/2024 30y 6’0”, 182.0 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I'm still nice and it sucks. Removing myself from this nice guy mode without covert contracts feels like free floating space. Perhaps it's the realization of just how lost and frameless I am. I feel like developing frame is almost a necessity for the many who breaks out of the nice guy paradigm because if I don't it's too uncomfortable being in other people's frames. Mental: As muc…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 10:32 AM
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OYS # 28 5/21/2024 30y 6’0”, 179.6 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I am taking more opportunities to be more direct with people still but I often miss out on chances to enforce.my boundaries because I am thinking about the longer term implications (such as personally or professionally). As such, some people are still not within my boundaries and that causes me some issues/challenges. Mental: I still have intrusive thoughts based on fear, where reg…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 11:19 AM
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I don't know too much but I have gotten repeated feedback from others that my goals and emotions are based on external validation. Making your mission in life to be an example for your future children can be basing your happiness/purpose in external situations. A more centralized mental point of origin would be "Being a man that you can be proud of" and then specifying and pursuing those qualities. All the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 03:37 PM
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OYS # 27 5/7/2024 30y 6’0”, 177.5 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG Implementation Check In - I think being more direct has had a positive impact in my life but it still feels more unnatural. Oftentimes in this journey it's not that I need to rework myself completely but just push the needle towards the other side. Being straightforward with what I want has helped me. It's not always useful in all situations but it's been helpful in my personal relationships, at work, and in…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 03:35 PM
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OYS # 26 4/16/2024 30y 6’0”, 179.5 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: Restarted NMMNG - Partial Implementation Check In - Nothing much has been pushed onto me as we are still in the status quo on many fronts. I can genuinely be a better friend to those whom I respect and appreciate. I do feel guilty about it, but I think that's because I am not aligning with the person I want to be as opposed to I am failing to get what I want out of it. Mental: Irrational fears still come and go b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 03:57 PM
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OYS # 25 4/9/2024 30y 6’0”, 178.5 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: Restarted NMMNG - Partial Implementation Check In - The anger phase extends past my wife and into many of my relationships. At the same time, the anger is extended towards myself because I put myself in that position. Any mental point of origin that is not myself but instead in other people leads me to being needy and seeking external validation. This connects to the mental aspect which is… Mental: The dinner part…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/24 12:13 PM
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I'm a pretty black and white thinker. To reach success for some of my goals in life Ive had to compromise on some of my principles. It's a combination of reaching that success but also regretting that I'm not someone I am proud of. Resultingly, I think the only way is to revert, change, or to change my belief and value systems to appreciate the man I am/becoming.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 03:14 PM
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1- Not good because of injuries and a congenital musculoskeletal issue. Still, the point is that my lifts are not as good as they can be. 2- No, I can't. 3- Maybe a 4. ONEitis has atrophied me from where I used to be and what attracted girls to me in the first place. 4- To be honest my game plan is shitty. Hard goals are necessary so in the short term I want to refinish NMMNG in April, drop to 170 by May and get my consistent lifts and program going, nuke all my debt by the end of July, and dedi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 03:12 PM
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OYS # 24 4/2/2024 30y 6’0”, 180.5 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: Restarted NMMNG - Partial Implementation Check In - A large part of being a nice guy is that one's worth comes from their ability to be nice or serve others, as opposed to their ability to command/deserve respect or others to be nice to them. What others see as humility is my manifestation of wanting to be a nice guy. That I cannot command the frame of something else. Sometimes I genuinely do enjoy being nice, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 03:06 PM
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OYS # 23 3/26/2024 30y 6’0”, 179.6 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: I haven't internalized anything so I'm just going to start over. Implementation Check In - I'm still running nice guy models, still can't game my wife, still don't have a strong MAP, and feel lost in the anger stage. I'm going to restart the sidebar from the beginning because I don't have the foundation I need to go through this journey. For example, men should get to certain levels of dread before making certain…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 03:13 PM
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I like to cook and have people eat my food. One of my ideas was to do catering but I just want it as a small side gig. Outside of business, it would probably be good to host more events/dinners for friends and family.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/24 03:07 PM
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One thing that makes me happy that I can do for myself is probably something that goes against the MAP I used to enjoy games but I feel like that's counterproductive for the man I want to be. My MAP is mostly future based instead of present based - far off goals that don't have much short term gratification. Id need to start there - holding down the MAP better and then making goals to that end.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 11:08 PM
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I'm not very in touch with my own emotions. The nice guy shell has distanced me from it for so long that it's hard to feel what I genuinely feel or express what I genuinely think. It's a lot of filtering, to the point where it's hard to recognize what I actually want.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 11:06 PM
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I know she's not the problem and what I need to focus on is myself. Self realization/actualization in the form of a MAP, yes?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 08:08 PM
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OYS # 22 3/19/2024 30y 6’0”, 177.6 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP Implementation Check In - I am struggling with the realization that in the eyes of my wife I don't have a higher value. It's the blue pill covert contract that if I love her with all of my heart that she will see/appreciate. It all comes down to my MAP. I think we have been codependent for a long time so making and maintaining a MAP that's separate from her feels unnatural. Mental: I've ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 03:44 PM
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OYS # 21 3/12/2024 30y 6’0”, 179.6 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP Implementation Check In - One issue I've been having is that people generally aren't asking me to overextend myself anymore. Although I've done a good job of resisting external pressures, there's still the inner nice guy who wants to do things and make covert contracts. It's not as strong, but it's still there so I'm hoping with time it will continue to fade. Mental: I haven't been feeling…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 10:08 AM
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OYS # 20 3/5/2024 30y 6’0”, 179.0 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP Implementation Check In - Being married has been different from dating in that my wife and I are actively trying to build a life together. We have differences of opinion all the time about what is the best way to proceed (finances/socially/professionally). I stand up more for what I want and that leaves me feeling happier in the marriage. So many of my anxieties or worries are based on fear…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 12:38 PM
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Shalom. It's been better for a while, but I didn't mind it as much because to do so would be a lack of accountability on my end. Many husbands can be resentful of their wives that they don't want to have sex with them, but again, why should they? If I was not speaking/acting/leading attractively, then a woman should naturally be apprehensive. Instead of looking outward (her) I looked within and got to work. There's a lot of hard truths I've faced and harder truths within but removing her as my m…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 11:17 AM
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I thought a lot about what you said, particularly about a portfolio and resume. Many teachers are transitioning out of teaching to something called instructional design. While there are degrees for the job, many people earn positions largely based on their prowess/portfolios. Blue sky thinking is thinking that the systematic problems I'm facing in my career will resolve. To that end, I'm learning more about ID. I don't have any contacts in that field but I'm learning what I need to do to get the…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 11:12 AM
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In the analogy of the drunk captain and the first mate, I was (and sometimes still am) the drunk captain. In attempts to fix it, at times I've been the dancing monkey. While the relationship does have flaws that I've been addressing (to the best of my ability), I think she's a much more positive than negative person in my life. For some guys their wife is an obstacle to the life that they want to live but I value her and her contributions to my life more than the obstacles that I have. I'm on th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 11:07 AM
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I wrote that really passively. I do love her but in a different way than before.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 11:01 AM
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OYS # 19 2/27/2024 30y 6’0”, 178.2 lbs, Wife 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP Implementation Check In - It's a bit strange getting treated with respect when I let people walk all over me for most of my life. It goes back to getting caught in my own head, preventing me from trying solutions to most of my problems for a long period of my life. Although it's not perfect and I can't change other people, my approach to them has lead to me getting what I ultimately want m…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 01:22 PM
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OYS # 18 2/20/2024 30y 6’0”, 177.2 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP Implementation Check In - I've started something called the Pomodoro technique which puts me to 25 minutes of productivity with 5 minute breaks. Whether that's for work, errands, phone calls, or work at home, it's been beneficial. Especially so for reading, as my previous stop/starts have been arbitrary. Mental: Pomodoroing the mental health techniques has been helpful too. Meditation, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 01:38 PM
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OYS # 17 2/13/2024 30y 6’0”, 1795.2 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP Implementation Check In - Turning negativity into positivity has probably been the biggest change for me. Not the type of positive that delusionally thinks.that everything will work out or even that people owe me things, but that I'll be able to figure it out. I constantly keep running into covert contracts that I have for other people in terms of some of the expectations I have for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 01:13 PM
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OYS # 16 2/6/2024 30y 6’0”, 178.5 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP Implementation Check In - MMSLP is a bit of a wake up call. So much of my desire or wishes to succeed with people in general has been me trying to convince them with words why what I want with/for them is a good idea. I've failed and been frustrated in this regard. My sex life has been stale and frustrating, and while I've enjoyed it I know that it could be so much more so I've got to ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 12:36 PM
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OYS # 15 1/9/2024 30y 6’0”, 176.6 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG. Implementation Check In - I've been saying no a lot more in and out of work and it still feels foreign, but also better. Anything that I've done or been going to is something that I wanted to, whereas before I would take the win as me making someone else happy. It still does make me happy to see (most) other people happy though, so I'm not sure if that's a core personality trait that I should c…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 11:29 AM
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I think a truly solid frame is self-evident consistently. I've been an anxious guy for a long time so, with any evidence of that (me worrying about something), it's a failed shit test. Being negative is similar - I would say masculinity is the calm controlled presence that exudes confidence. Also, what do you mean by the juicy details?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/24 03:19 AM
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OYS # 14 1/2/2024 30y 6’0”, 179.6 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG. Implementation Check In - WISNIFG has helped me see more of a way forward in my life. What I mean by this is that my response to many things in life has generally been some form of flight. Verbal assertiveness is something that I thought was a failure in my part, as verbal assertiveness when I was a child was often counterproductive. Although I don't need to do it constantly, ready assertivenes…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 11:36 AM
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OYS # 13 12/26/2023 30y 6’0”, 183 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG. Objective - Re-read and apply techniques from NMMNG. Implementation Check-In weekly. Implementation Check In - I think, as I implement the things in these books, I feel more and more out of touch with who I actually was. Some people would liken it to discovering who they really are, but me (with backbone) feels almost like impostor syndrome. Weakness: Oftentimes, I let things slip through. I tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 10:45 PM
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OYS # 12 12/19/2023 30y 6’0”, 180 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read: NMMNG / WISNIFG. Objective - Re-read and apply techniques from NMMNG. Implementation Check-In weekly. Implementation Check In - When it comes to attempts to be flawless, I think a large part of my success and issues stem from this. Of course I am not flawless and I know it, but I think the desire to be perceived as without or with minor flaws is something that's prevented me from genuinely connecting with peopl…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 11:01 AM
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OYS # 11 12/12/2023 30y 6’0”, 180 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Read:NMMNG / WISNIFG. Objective - Re-read and apply techniques from NMMNG. Implementation Check-In weekly. Implementation Check-In: Incoming next week. Weakness:My primary weakness is a failure to do and implement the changes that need to be made for a more fulfilling and successful life. Implementation Check-In: I've tried different productivity methods but most successful is the idea of removing all distractions. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 11:07 AM
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Hey bro, thanks for your time and attention. 1- I also feel incongruent. In some ways my self image limits me from taking action - pessimism and otherwise. Oftentimes the attitude of just doing something is the best way for me to go. It's ironic but my hamster probably goes longer and harder than my significant other's. 2- As far as loving, liking, and caring about myself, I believe I care about myself but neither like nor love. In that, I lose track of what is best for me and aim low. Love and …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 04:39 AM
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A lot of us got into this position because we didn't care about ourselves. I'm trying to make the shift myself. How did you make the shift?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 09:55 PM
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OYS # 10 12/5/2023 30y 6’0”, 180 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence, Self-Love, and Inner-Peace, Stronger Frame Reading NMMNG. WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/8 On pause for bicep tendon Dips (Unassisted) - 6/6/5 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 320 lbs 6/6/8 B Day OHP – 60 Lbs / 6/6/10 Deadlift - 65/65 Lbs (Dumbells) / 6/6/7 Pull Ups (70 Lbs A…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 12:10 PM
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OYS # 9 11/28/2023 30y 6’0”, 176 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence ,Self-Love, and Inner-Peace Reading NMMNG. WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/8 (Form not so good though. Probably drop to 30 and really squeeze back). Dips (Unassisted) - 5/5/4 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 320 lbs 5/5/8 B Day OHP – 60 Lbs / 5/5/8 Deadlift - 65/65 Lbs (Dumbell…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 10:48 AM
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OYS # 8 11/21/2023 29y, 6’0”, 172 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence ,Self-Love, and Inner-Peace Reading NMMNG. WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/8 (Form not so good though. Probably drop to 30 and really squeeze back). Dips (Unassisted) - 5/5/4 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 320 lbs 5/5/8 B Day OHP – 60 Lbs / 5/5/8 Deadlift - 65/65 Lbs (Dumbel…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 07:57 PM
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Yeah, it's results or nothing. I've found in my life I can accomplish a lot with momentum, but the hardest part is usually just getting started.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/23 12:16 PM
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OYS # 7 11/14/2023 29y, 6’0”, 172 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence ,Self-Love, and Inner-Peace Reading NMMNG. WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/8 (Form not so good though. Probably drop to 30 and really squeeze back). Dips (Unassisted) - 5/5/4 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 320 lbs 5/5/8 B Day OHP – 60 Lbs / 5/5/8 Deadlift - 65/65 Lbs (Dumbel…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 11:29 AM
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OYS # 6 11/7/2023 29y, 6’0”, 172 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence ,Self-Love, and Inner-Peace Reading NMMNG. WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/8 (Form not so good though. Probably drop to 30 and really squeeze back). Dips (Unassisted) - 5/5/4 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 320 lbs 5/5/8 B Day OHP – 60 Lbs / 5/5/8 Deadlift - 65/65 Lbs (Dumbell…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 01:37 AM
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OYS # 5 10/24/2023 29y, 6’0”, 169 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence and Self-Love Reading NMMNG. Now into WISNIFG Goal - Finish WISNIFG. Lifting, Health & Diet Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/8 (Form not so good though. Probably drop to 30 and really squeeze back). Dips (Unassisted) - 4/4/3 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 320 lbs 5/5/8 B Day OHP – 60 Lbs / 5/5/8 Deadlift -…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 12:33 PM
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Working on mental health before game before marriage. It's largely daily habits - can't pay someone once/twice a week to shape my mind. Just like the body - need consistency. Going to incorporate gratitude journaling, focus more on my mission, and get into a more appropriate therapy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 12:21 PM
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Hey, thanks for the comment. I might be skinny but my body fat is pretty high. I'm tracking calories with an app called LoseIt and a food scale to weight things by the gram or by scanned barcode (nutrition profile). I'm listing 3 days a week per the program but I may have a biceps tendon tear. I honestly don't do much cardio so for cardiovascular reasons I should. I'm wondering how much I should do for maximum gains in minimum time. Standing rows, infrared pad to recover faster, and assist means…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 12:17 PM
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OYS # 4 10/17/2023 29y, 6’0”, 171 lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence and Self-Love Reading NMMNG. Now into WISNIFG Goal - Finish WISNIFG. Lifting, Health & Diet Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/8 (Form not so good though. Probably drop to 30 and really squeeze back). Dips (Unassisted) - 4/4/3 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 320 lbs 5/5/8 Infrared pad flaring up the issue - d…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 10:26 AM
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Hey man, thanks. They way you speak about it, it's probably better to identify it as a crutch. My fitness goal is related to body fat percentage now. I want to see my abs on January 1st.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 10:07 AM
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Well I think I'm trying to rack up wins. Objective wins - financial, physical, etc. I think that would go a long way to helping me appreciate myself, but just because you are winning doesn't mean you feel like you are a winner. In a way, if I help myself win then I can appreciate myself through the parts of me that put me in a position to win. It's not like guys are slapping themselves on the back for the shitty parts that say "You know what, you can eat the whole pizza. When's the last time you…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 12:01 AM
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OYS # 3 10/10/2023 29y, 6’0”, 185lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence and Self-Love Reading NMMNG. Now into WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet 6’0” and 170lb Program - FBBR Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) A Day Upright Row (Standing) - 40/40 Lbs (Dumbells) - 5/5/10 Dips (Unassisted) - 4/4/3 Leg Press (Can't Squat) - 300 lbs 5/5/10 Lisfranc hurts at high weights. Treating with Infrared pad. B Day OHP – 60 Lbs / 5/5/8 Deadlift - 50/50 Lbs (Dumbell…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 10:15 AM
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Thanks again for feedback. Bigger update in next week OYS but bought a food scale and body weight scale for accurate tracking. Heading into gym now
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/23 11:24 PM
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Thanks. I'm going to start with this https://thefitness.wiki/routines/r-fitness-basic-beginner-routine/ ​ Also, as far as diet goes, I think they said about 120-160g of protein daily. ​ I'll aim for the 160 and my TDEE, on this calculator says 2300. I think that's kind of high experientially so I'm going to go for 2000.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 12:04 AM
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OYS # 2 10/3/2023 29y, 6’0”, 185lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Mission Financial Independence and Self-Love Reading NMMNG. Now into WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet 6’0” and 185lb Gym is going well. Current stats (Sets of Three Unless Specified) OHP – 60 Lbs x 5 Dips - 45 lbs assisted x12 Dumbell Deadlifts – 60/60 10 Reps Pull Ups – Hiatus for tendonitis. Leg Press – 260 LBs x 10 Seated Row – 90 LBs x 10. Planks – 30 Minutes Dumbell Thrust – 60 Lbs x 12. Monkey Rows – 20/20 x12 Diet…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 09:03 PM
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Right now I'm dealing with biceps tendonitis and a lisfrancs strain. Even with imaging or doctors or what have you the proportion of pain and how much it stops a person is largely dependent on mindset. Still going to gym and figuring out alternatives.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 08:35 PM
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While professionally the answer is yes, personally the answer is no. It's probably because I've been so out of touch with my own desires.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 03:22 PM
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I don't know if I'd call it my insight as much as everything else not working lol. The books of Dr. John Sarno helped me see the psychological aspect of it. At one point all the pain receded and I felt the weight of the negativity. Thanks for the feedback too - despite injuries I've been getting in the gym and doing what I can.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 03:21 PM
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It very well could so I've been setting more boundaries within the relationship by learning and using no to requests that are unnecessary. Specifically, saying no to picking up certain people for their convenience when they could easily meet us partially through the journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 03:19 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, diet is controlled insofar as avoiding known triggers. Playing the victim is something that was modeled for me but I need to break the cycle. Resenting people for not doing what I want is a covert contract that I have to break as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 03:17 PM
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How does one walk away from the self though? Also that's generally the plan but it would be more prudent to stabilize my financial position more first.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 02:53 PM
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Not a comfortable position by any means.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 02:52 PM
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Yeah always room for my excuses - oh I'm tired, oh I ran out of time, etc etc but it was always a series of choices where my time went. I also have a set of exercises that I do but I'm going to formalize a more systematic set that I can track in each OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 11:23 AM
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You're right. I have tried a bunch of therapists just to say I'm doing something but I didn't shell out the kind of money to get a trauma informed therapist. I had something called a SGB too but I didn't follow it up with effective therapy or self management. To that end I'm going to have to put the money up and deal with this because it's chewing me up on the daily. Also, as far as D/s goes she wants to be the sub but until I can handle my own stuff genuinely it's putting the cart before the ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 11:21 AM
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OYS # 1 9/26/2023 29y, 6’0”, 185lbs, Fiancee 28y, together 14 years, no kids. Starting this journey here because if whatever I’ve been doing was working I wouldn’t be in this position. Mission I used to think that my mission was having/building a loving family (divorced parents, abusive stepparents/stepsiblings), but it’s actually achieving financial/emotional independence. Reading NMMNG. Now into WISNIFG Lifting, Health & Diet 6’0” and 185lb Due to injuries I’ve been going 2x weekly with upper/…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 10:06 AM
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