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| 81 | The first year of dating a HVM | MINDSET SHIFT | PrincessLeiLei | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 11:54 PM |
| 1 | If his ex is 'crazy' he is a LVM | LIES MEN TELL | PrincessLeiLei | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 02:18 PM |
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| 2 | LVM not only can’t perform basic adult duties, but they purposely do them wrong to avoid any responsibility... he is 6, he is basically a baby. That's really not what I mean... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 01:24 PM |
| 5 | Watching Kinkmeishas defend their community as “not abusive” is like watching Trump supporters defend their community as “not racist”. Sure, some aren’t, but it sure attracts a whooooole lot of those people such that it’s almost impossible to distinguish.O yes, soooooo many nice guys and white knights on BDSM social media 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 05:24 PM |
| 12 | Forever girlfriend-turned-wife’s unfaithful scrote of a husband demands empathy for wanting to cheat more.😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 05:20 PM |
| 32 | Not me, but my heart aches for this girl. “My boyfriend displayed my nudes on a wall of women he and his friends have slept with. I feel like my life has been ruined”Most LVM have very protective mom's. That's why they are LV, they just want a second mommy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 02:15 PM |
| 34 | Observe now who he claims he is but how he makes you feel. A man’s worth is defined by how he makes you feel.I cannot believe this is real. This MUST be some kind of weird game plan he learned from some PUA. I know diagnosed narcissists who would think this behaviour is selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 02:14 PM |
| 18 | Jude Law who has 5 children with 3 different partners - just had ANOTHER baby with a new partner. Celebrity Negative Value MaleNo it doesn't. I even want to say most men who have a significant amount of money are LV 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 02:12 PM |
| 45 | LVM not only can’t perform basic adult duties, but they purposely do them wrong to avoid any responsibilityI think boys are babied waaaaaaaay too much for waaaaaaaay too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:37 PM |
| 32 | Jude Law who has 5 children with 3 different partners - just had ANOTHER baby with a new partner. Celebrity Negative Value MaleI think a lot of girls think money = HV | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:34 PM |
| 27 | Why are they asking for pictures?I also always thought it was weird... I would just say that I had enough pictures on my dating profile. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:23 PM |
| 123 | Observe now who he claims he is but how he makes you feel. A man’s worth is defined by how he makes you feel.Oef. Is this your manchild? 😬 WHO WOULD ORDER TAKE OUT ONLY FOR THEMSELVES IF THEY LITERALLY LIVE WITH THEIR PARTNER!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Kink is not WokeEXACTLY! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:17 PM |
| 29 | Not me, but my heart aches for this girl. “My boyfriend displayed my nudes on a wall of women he and his friends have slept with. I feel like my life has been ruined”His mom wouldn't care... Mothers always defend sons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:52 PM |
| 2 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!Uhmmm... Sure. But this is really not cool, good or desirable behaviour but you do you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:33 PM |
| 9 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!It's your reputation 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:26 PM |
| 25 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!Now he can tell all his friends he dodged a bullet and how crazy you are. It hurts them much more when you just say "that's too bad :(" and move on forever... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 09:15 AM |
| 6 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!"That's too bad :( Good luck!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 08:58 AM |
| 14 | Take a seat, Declan.If it's still that hard to deal with for him, he should go to a therapist... 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 09:06 AM |
| 3 | Stop praising decent human behavior as “HVM.” Seriously.So, if not being a good person what does it mean to be a HVM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 02:48 PM |
| 12 | It's amazing how women have to be slapped around and violated just to please menThat's so sad :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 12:18 PM |
| 24 | It's amazing how women have to be slapped around and violated just to please menIt could be... But even if she only had bad sexual partners why would you marry someone who can't make you orgasm, I don't get it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 11:57 AM |
| 2 | The first year of dating a HVMO, so it's still very fresh! Good luck to you both 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 10:56 PM |
| 2 | The first year of dating a HVMAnd did your relationship follow the milestones I laid out above at about the same time? So, being an official couple and meeting family around the two month mark, talking about getting married/living together other more definite plans at the 4 month mark etc. I've seen this pattern in most successful relationship unless they were very young when they got together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 10:38 PM |
| 3 | The first year of dating a HVMDo you have a partner? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 10:17 PM |
| 7 | The first year of dating a HVMThis isn't a post to tell women what the 'rules' are, it's about painting an image of how a normal relationship with a loving man looks like. Also there are plenty of working class men who treat their women like queens. If you get stuck on 'the rules' you forget to actually get to know a person and then you are that girl who gets pumped and dumped after three months of weekly dinner. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.I never said anything like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.He showed her the text or told her his ex was texting him. Probably to make himself look good and the ex look worse. And it worked because OP sees her as crazy and him as a saint. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.And like attracts like if you date someone who has only dated LVW they are most likely LVM. Also vice versa. If someone has really made strides to become a HVM or W, they will say that the whole relationship was toxic but they have grown. They wouldn't put all the blame on the other party. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:47 PM |
| 7 | Is this a red flag: A guy who shows a lot of interest.Doesn't sound too bad, it seems good that you had some video call dates :)... Just wait until this is over and if he is still this consistent after quarantine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.Yes it often happens after the break up because they turn the mixed signals and other mind games up to a 1000 at that point. Good men don't date crazy women or make crazy women. He didn't notice because she was hot and LVM can't look past a pretty face because they don't see women as people. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:34 PM |
| 10 | The first year of dating a HVMThere are men who will wait three months to pump and dump. Other stuff in this post is WAY more important | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:28 PM |
| 0 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.That's actually really nice :) thank you for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:26 PM |
| 9 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.Then why did he date someone who is bad shit crazy? Normal people don't date people who are bat shit crazy... Still a red flag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 01:53 PM |
| 0 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.Then his vetting strategy is out of whack if such a mentally disturbed woman is his ex. Either way it reflects badly unto him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 01:51 PM |
| 4 | The first year of dating a HVMThat's why I specifically said he doesn't mind waiting. And 5 dates is more than a month... Or are you meeting up more than once a week? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 01:34 PM |
| 10 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.And what did HE do to make her act so crazy? Most women aren't crazy, they have a man that drove them crazy. I think someone having an ex this bad is a HUUUUUGE red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 10:20 AM |
| -9 | Pay attention to how your man responds to the pity play texts from his exes during quarantine.Ehh ... Why does your man have an 'unsavoury' ex? Is she 'crazy' according to him? Will you also be a 'crazy' ex after he has pushed you away with his horrible behaviour? These are red flags imo... A HVM might get a text from an ex but it will be nothing more than 'How is it? Are you healthy?' and he will talk about the woman with dignity and respect. Dump his ass! 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 10:15 AM |
| 19 | The first year of dating a HVMIf he let this flaw control his life, if he uses it as an excuse to treat you badly, if he doesn't see this fault even if you talk with him about it and if he doesn't try to improve there or at least work around this flaw. Someone who hurts or seriously inconvenience you and used the excuse 'that's just how I am' is a LV person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 10:08 AM |
| 1 | Men who want marriage/are married, what role do you think you and your wife should play?Oh boy. Yes, you live alone so your bathroom isn't getting much use (surprising you can't clean it faster as such an athletic man.) If I think how often I have to lift something that is too heavy for me around the house I can't think of anything except for moving a couch up a level (and you also wouldn't be able to do that alone)... There isn't much 'heavy labor' keeping a regular household. Things you mentioned, raking leaves, fixing a car, fixing a computer, assembling furniture etc. don't req… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Men who want marriage/are married, what role do you think you and your wife should play?You should split up stuff with the skills and preferences of the individuals in mind. I feel like you just don't want to clean so you say you take care of the 'manly tasks'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Men who want marriage/are married, what role do you think you and your wife should play?Come on... Taking care of the 'men stuff' takes a lot less time than taking care of the 'girl stuff', just because it has to be done more frequently. That's my point. And it's way more gross than carrying and assembling an IKEA cabinet. As a 5'3" woman I'm sure I can do that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 01:45 AM |
| 31 | The first year of dating a HVMIt's very general but this is just how a healthy normal adult relationship progresses. If you haven't met his friends after 6 months or you haven't talked about marriage, kids or even living together after a year it's probably a lost cause... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Women have better lives because they get sex easily... but getting sex as a woman means nothing?I should be so grateful for mediocre 5-min sex and Domino's. Ow thank u kind lord uwu | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Men who want marriage/are married, what role do you think you and your wife should play?Uhmm so carrying a heavy grocery bag, refilling oil every few months and mowing the lawn bi-weekly > cleaning the toilet + bathroom weekly, doing laundry every day, vacuuming every day and mopping the floor weekly. Really? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 01:03 AM |
| 46 | The pickmeisha ‘peaks’ during a global pandemic. I didn’t know taking care of your appearance was deemed high maintenance?Some people just don't like the done-up aesthetic... Having a different or low maintenance beauty routine doesn't make you a pickmeisha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 12:07 AM |
| 51 | He doesn't have time = he doesn't want to make timeYeah, I don't want my husband to call me that much. It's a really weird flex imo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 10:51 PM |
| 5 | Bf made it clear he wants to be with me but I keep thinking I should let him go. He doesn't talk about our future. He told me to stfu about it, how do I make sure that he wants me?I don't understand... You say he doesn't talk about the future but he does. He literally says he's going to leave you for someone else. He probably can't be more clear about the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 06:39 PM |
| 24 | Because that's what dads do (x-post from /r/DadsBeingDads)I'm really puzzled when people say this kind of stuff. Who ever said it was normal for woman to make things for their children? Making something for your child is always special, most people just buy gifts... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Men Aren’t Your Friends: A Personal AnecdoteSure, I know a few! It's basically that you know of eachother that you aren't compatible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:16 AM |
| 6 | How do we keep a HVMIf someone is truly a HVM the dating process is there to see if you are compatible. So if you 'got' a HVM you have to see if you have the same goals in life. Do you want children? How many? Do you want to get married? Where do you want to settle down? How much time can you spend together and is that good for either party? Etc. etc. So, if you are in this High Value mindset you won't stress about 'keeping someone' you will see if you two would go the distance. And if the incompatibilities are too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 11:02 PM |
| 41 | How can you tell the difference between normal healthy interest and love-bombing?Normal men will play it cool the first few dates, they would be extremely excited but show appropriate interest for fear of being a little creepy. Narcs will definitely not play it cool xD This only counts at the beginning stages of dating, first month or so. After that some of the love-bombing things could be more normal. Normal interest: Texting shortly after the first date, keeping up regular contact, plan dates every week maybe twice a week, light flirting over text, a few kisses during date… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 10:51 PM |
| 5 | What is the worst LVM you've subjected yourself toI think high value and low value is pretty objective, someone people (even when both are HV) just aren't compatible. Either physical, emotional or mental and it's SUCH a shame when this happens :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 10:19 PM |
| 19 | Men Aren’t Your Friends: A Personal AnecdoteThere are HVM you can definitely have good friendships with, because they see women as people.This kind of bullshit happens with any LV person, male or female (LV women would resort to gossip and backstabbing). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Need advice - how to emotionally detach from being slow faded??Obviously not! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 12:26 PM |
| 19 | Need advice - how to emotionally detach from being slow faded??You can overanalyze this again with what you did wrong or if it was wrong time, right person etc etc. but it doesn't really matter. It didn't work for him and he didn't have the balls to break up with you in a decent manner. Honestly, this man is cowardly, mean and egocentrical for doing a slow fade. Do you want a husband who is cowardly, mean and egocentrical? Is this how you want your husband to treat you? Every time a man does something and the answer is no it might not be your person... (Dep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 10:58 AM |
| 62 | I thought this one was a little ridiculous. Some women aren't even healed at the two month markI think he means his son is 2 years old? But still ... This just happens when you have kids. If you wanted to be an irresponsible child still, he should have worn a condom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 10:50 AM |
| 5 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.It kinda does... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 09:32 AM |
| 21 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.I thought for a very long time high value = rich... And I definitely wanted to marry rich but after a few experiences with wealthy men it did come down to this "What do you mean I don't give you enough affection? I just bought you Cartier. That isn't good enough?" "Sorry I was late sweetie, I know how much upsets you and I keep doing it and don't plan to stop. but how about I make it up to you- a week in St. Tropez? I much prefer someone who is caring, emotionally intelligent and who puts me fir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Men who like watching sports are so unattractiveI dated a man for a while who lived and breathed football. He played in competitions every week, he was captain (do you call it that?) of the team, arranged gettogethers with his team and went to competitions quite frequently. So where do I fit in? Nowhere. I think he did genuinely like me but not as much as football... But that's the case with anybody with an obsessive hobby, not only sports. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 12:30 AM |
| 7 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.I think these things are beautiful and a great example how a father and husband SHOULD act! I wish you would have made the post about this 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 12:20 AM |
| 1 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.This is not how a 30 something year old high value man would want to spend the first NYE with his future wife together. Men at that age want to settle down, get married, have kids. They don't want to go to a 'fun party' they are done with that. My boyfriend arranged a small party at his house for our first NYE, so I could meet a few of his friends in a comfortable setting. He continued to ask me what I wanted that evening, if I was uncomfortable with something. THAT is how a HVM acts. You could … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 12:14 AM |
| 4 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.You don't know that after a few dates, genius. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 12:02 AM |
| 0 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.You want your man to take you to a party where you feel very uncomfortable, go away from the party to smoke weed like a bunch of teenagers and as a cherry on top be verbally attacked by his best friend (who is a woman he has had sex with btw). Would you call this man high value after this night? Really? You stop reaching. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 12:00 AM |
| 8 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.I think most women feel in love with the men they are going to marry. Big romantic gestures are cute, when you are in a commited relationship. Before that it might be love bombing. Normal men without personality disorders stick to dinner and maybe a small gift the first few dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 11:00 PM |
| 5 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.No, being in a relationship with a HVM is not necessarily like being in a fairytale romance, I have had those passionate relationships and they don't end well. It's supposed to be comfortable and mellow. You automatically start building a life together, you don't have to act like you are someone you are not, you never have to think or gossip about his strange behaviour. It's the boring stuff that makes it beautiful. Getting into investing together, making a financial plan, moving in and cleaning… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 10:29 PM |
| 5 | What do you think causes men to behave the way they do?Honestly, LVM don't care about anyone's feelings, choices or autonomy. They will scam there way through many people's lifes of all genders. | /r/askFDS | 01/04/20 10:12 PM |
| 6 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.Being stuck in a narcissistic relationship is very dangerous. These aren't small risks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 09:58 PM |
| 10 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.This is not about 'breaking rules' this is about a potentially dangerous situation starting that night. Normal relationships don't start like this and most romantic whirlwind romances mostly end in tears. We aren't princesses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 09:38 PM |
| 58 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.It makes me feel really icky... Especially since (probably young) girls in the comments are saying this is a fairytale... It is, and fairytales aren't real. You aren't a princess. Look for normalcy and a healthy start to a long lasting and healthy relationship. This ain't it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 09:35 PM |
| 15 | We all could use a reminder every now and thenBirds of feather etc etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 07:57 PM |
| 28 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.Your husband could be great, I don't know because I don't know him. But this story is not something that girls should look up to and think this is how the early days of a healthy relationship look, that this is a standard. It's not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 07:47 PM |
| 23 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.Buying a dress for someone and then bringing them to a huge party with tons of strangers where they are basically bullied by a beautiful but jealous blonde who happens to be his best friend just sounds bad. But again, it's only one story. Plus his reaction to immediately leave is a really really great and thoughtful move. I wasn't with my boyfriend for a long time this NYE (dating 2 months I think?) and he took the chance to invite a few of his closest friends over to introduce me to. That's a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:28 PM |
| 8 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?This makes me angry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:14 PM |
| 31 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.In my experience it can be. They smother you and make you feel wanted and loved and then they got you, buying shit is part of that 🤷🏻♀️ It's only one story out of a whole relationship which is obviously successful but this story in isolation is quite full of red flags for me. I would be on my guard when a man acts like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 05:59 PM |
| 5 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?Honestly, just cut it off... It's hard because you want to give him a chance but it's for the better. There are literally millions of men ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 05:54 PM |
| 143 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.This story could definitely be the start of horribly toxic codependent/narcissistic relationship. The immidiate grand gesture, his taste in friends... Watch out girls, this woman is the 1% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries and outcomes: being decisive is self-preservationBut that's something very different than telling girls they should get a rich husband | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 08:54 PM |
| 0 | Boundaries and outcomes: being decisive is self-preservationI don't know in what society you live but here we are very much encouraged to be independent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 07:01 PM |
| 13 | Boundaries and outcomes: being decisive is self-preservationThat's not true, unfortunately... I think highly educated women are more likely to get played :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 09:57 PM |
| 23 | Boundaries and outcomes: being decisive is self-preservationThe woman with the PhD and her own house can DEFINITELY be a wounded woman... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 06:59 PM |
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