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Not for most men. I was in a relationship ages ago when I had some major health issues. I agreed to an open relationship because I was out of commission. When my health got better and my usual drive outpaced his as it used to, then the open aspect was suddenly a major issue. I never did end up seeing anyone for the remaining short period of time we dated but I at least got some justice in that all the women he was into ended up being more into me after they found my dating profile (we had ours l…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 10:59 PM
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Plenty of sex workers sell monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 05:48 PM
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So many men say this until it’s a two way street. So many men want an open relationship / marriage until they find out how much attention their partner will get when she decides to use those privileges for her needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 05:47 PM
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Try meeting men elsewhere, it will also allow you to filter based on some physical chemistry, vibes, and anything else that might be important. Men are rarely approached, fortune favors the bold. A fair number of ethically slutty men will take regular STI tests for a good FWB. I’d suggest having more banter with someone on an app before you meet someone. You can be surprised how much you can rule out based on how a person communicates. In getting to know them, you should be getting close enough …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:00 AM
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I’m convinced that some men aren’t actually into women but have a sort of woman-shaped paraphilia.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:45 PM
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Nonsense. Shy and boring are not the same thing. Many shy men have a wide range of interesting hobbies and topics to discuss if you give them the opportunity to open up. Many women, even those who are shy or introverted, are comfortable initiating conversations like men. This is particularly true when their shyness aligns with kindness and conscientiousness, which has often been the case in my experience. However, it’s crucial to differentiate between shyness and introversion (and usually awkwar…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:43 PM
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Sex negative purity culture. For people who are raised to believe that women should never have sexual desires, wait until marriage, only have sex for procreation purposes, dark romance creates a FANTASY “loophole” in which sexuality can still be explored while maintaining a “good girl” persona.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:17 PM
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I’m gonna start off with the fact that I am bi. I don’t think talking to women is impossible, but I would say that hold approaching women is terrifying. I can approach men no problem, but women make my mouth feel like it’s filled with marbles. I am also on spectrum. You don’t need to have a full conversation with someone in a café. You just need to establish some type of interest for conversation in the future. Of course you have to read things like body language and make sure it seems like they…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:09 AM
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No one owes you attention. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:32 AM
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I didn’t say women can’t be creepy. Plenty of women can be creepy and I have firsthand experienced creepy behavior from women. I’m just referring to a phenomenon that happens much more often in a particular environment as well as providing additional options beyond the binary presented. And once you get into more alternative crowds, I would actually put money down on more than half of the women preferring to be the ones to initiate. If a woman is bi? That goes up, I’d say 3/4 of them prefer to i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:11 AM
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I work in sex ed and in the past have run accessibility and incident reports for cons. Unfortunately, it is that bad and it’s gotten worse. Before gamergate things were tolerable and then I rage quit gaming for a solid five years after dealing with enough personally and seeing my friends go through shit. Then things started to get better again and cons started putting together incident teams and making sure there were protections for cosplayers etc. In the last few years things have gotten worse…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:57 AM
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This isn’t a situation with only two choices. He can be a nice person and treat her as he would a friend. In many nerdy/geeky spaces it’s VERY common for women to make the first move or ask someone out. Demonstrating that you are a good person and fun to be around is much more effective than overwrought pick-up tactics. Sometimes people are creepy because they are desperate. Desperate can be dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 08:27 PM
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The problem isn’t “simping.” It’s men who touch, group, and say explicitly sexual things. The ones who try and neg you and try to pull off gross pickup artist stunts. It’s men who try to explain your hobby to you like you are 12. It’s men who will attribute any professional success in these areas to your appearance. Some will even you slept your way to success despite your fucking masters degree in a relevant design field. It’s the “fake geek girl” trivia interrogations. And, it’s the men whose …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 08:14 PM
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As someone who has many nerdy hobbies, it would help if any of those spaces weren’t actively hostile to women. Right now most of my game groups are queers and that’s what I bring my female friends to if they are interested because it’s just safer that way. I literally have ONE large nerd event I go to where there are more men and that’s because I have a group of friends. For fucks sake. I guarantee that even if there are 6 people “simping” (I hate this word) over someone, there is no guarantee t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:27 AM
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I think that may be because you don’t encounter the men who talk about spending tons of money on OF / complain about splitting dates. This behavior is going to be predominantly seen by the women they are spending money on, the women they are being cheap with, and/or the friend of one or both of these women. The men who throw money/gifts at women sometimes are the most entitled men I’ve ever encountered in my life. (and I wish more people understood how big red flag this is) That doesn’t mean the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:05 AM
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Yes, the genocides that have occurred on one side of my family have been well documented.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:29 AM
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Fucking this. Fucking off to god knows where for whatever war rarely protects your family. If you know how to fight, and want to protect your family, teacher them how to fight for themselves FIRST.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:56 AM
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Speak for yourself. Some of us have big family trees (and trauma) of women being the predominant ones keeping everyone alive for god knows how many generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:53 AM
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Fucking groomers
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:24 AM
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Dude, do you really think Disney invented that story?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:22 AM
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Her abusive father / enabling mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:55 PM
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Everyone should have a go bag for emergencies. But there’s a difference between a go bag for a relationship (or a secret account) and a go bag for a house fire, a medical emergency, a family emergency, etc. My partner and I keep our go bags together with one for our pets. It’s basic disaster planning. I have some health conditions that meant that I have always kept one even when single because of frequent ER trips. So there was a while when I had one in my partner didn’t have one until I persuad…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:39 PM
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Sounds like you need a couple or group to go on a double date with! You just need a few alt friends with “scary dog” privileges. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:25 PM
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I expect this of my partner. But I’m also not a hypocrite— I also speak up for others even when it poses a risk of violence or ostracization.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:48 AM
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Dude. Quit with the car stuff. It seems like you just already objectify women from the get-go. What inanimate object are we being compared to today ladies? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 10:12 AM
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A person who has been dress coded for a turtleneck in my youth, dressing hot (and knowing it) turned into an intimidation and filtering tactic. Can you treat me like an actual human and make eye contact? Cool, we can be friends. No? Loser *I am very queer and swore off straight men a long time ago. While queer men and women often express attraction for me, it’s mostly straight men who objectify me along with the random gay man (for an entirely different reason).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 10:04 AM
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Because it’s cute and fashionable sometimes and we want to feel good. It’s not about you. This is especially true for alt looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 09:54 AM
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The comments on here really affirm my choice to dress primarily for the female gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:00 AM
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Change is the only constant. Learn to grow or rot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:40 AM
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Don’t get me started on the twue doms. 😭😭😭 I don’t even think “actually dominant” is a thing so much as that there are some people who are grounded, focused, dedicated, and competent enough to dominate when the situation calls for it. Being dominant all the time is unnecessary and exhausting even for those who have to be or choose to be most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:52 AM
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Oh, that’s so scary! One of the orgs I volunteer for deals with legal cases around things like this and incidents like these are always the worst. EA is by far the riskiest kink in my book and the one that causes the most problems. (Rope is probably second) And, ffs, it’s not even that hard find resources and guides to less risky breath play or less risky ways to restrain someone by the neck. But these idiots watch porn that is either entirely reckless and think, “I can do that,” or porn where f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:49 AM
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https://wondermark.com/c/1062/
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 03:55 PM
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JFC. You can gain experience with less advanced kinks and build experience that way. You’re being intellectually dishonest and it’s exhausting. Ugh. I hate sea lions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 03:41 PM
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Unsure. If someone is otherwise attractive and interesting, I think awkward and shy are really cute traits. (I’m ambivalent about clumsy and have a lot of empathy/sympathy for surviving bullying). 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 08:50 AM
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I mean, depends on what someone is prioritizing now in their life and how you bridge a knowledge or experience gap. My partner gave zero fucks about my time in those spaces. And I gave zero fucks about his time outside of those spaces. We had chemistry and plenty of overlapping interests. He was respectful, conscientious, and genuinely curious. He read what I asked him to read and was active in creating a bond that centered our communications around vulnerabilities and desires. He got access to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 08:30 AM
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Not really a tangent — it’s very related to the subject of the post. I said they should put effort into learning about kinky sex, and then learn some of the necessary skills for kinky sex, before asking that of a partner. Kink often requires advanced communication skills, risk assessment, and decent knowledge of anatomy, power dynamics, trauma (physical and mental), and so much more. Also, I was pretty clear that some, not all, kinks should be off limits for inexperienced players. No one should …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 08:13 AM
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Leaving a woman isn’t. Threatening to leave unless she does x,y, or z, is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 07:48 AM
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Not what I said. But unsurprising given what I said about low effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 07:41 AM
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If a kinky person meets a ONS in a dungeon/kink event who comes with paperwork and vetted by prior/current partners (not uncommon) I would not be surprised if they do things with that person that they have refused to do with long term partners who had minor interests in kink. Hell, part of the point of dungeons and kink events is that you have monitors on staff to intervene for safe-words or anything shady, on-call medics, and orgs often have their own vetting and consent teams. It’s also absurd…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 07:19 AM
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Don’t get me started! I was prepared even to go just go over the physical risks! I’ve seen so much nerve damage from rope and serious damage from folks who don’t understand how fragile skin and tissue can be on the head/face/neck. I swear some of the folks who act like choking is standard or a basic kink a person should just try now and then drives me insane. Folks legit die from this. I’ve literally walked out on dates who were insistent on treating it so casually. Risking pregnancy is scary, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:43 AM
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Ugh, if I wanted this much transactional nonsense in my relationship I would have just been a trophy wife. God forbid women want sex for the sake of sex or a relationship for the sake of a relationship. I don’t want my partner to do anything for me to get sex. I wat him to do things for me because he cares. Just like I do things for him because I care. I want to sleep with him because I desire him and he desires me. We can both do a good job of making that desire more accessible by lowering stre…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:25 AM
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Sometimes the way folks voice their preferences reveal shitty things about them and that’s why they are judged. Ah yes, “daddy issues,” AKA, “ I blame women for the trauma inflicted upon them in childhood by the people they were supposed to trust.” It’s okay if you don’t want to date people who haven’t worked through their trauma or people who take their trauma out on other people. But too often, this phrase is thrown at literal CSA survivors and it’s fucked. Trauma/ptsd isn’t just because of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:05 AM
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I mean. There are all different kinds of porn. SOME porn is fake, exploitative, or just terrible tasteless and soulless garbage. Some porn is empowering, candid, artistic, humorous, or otherwise an accurate or illustrative expression of human sexuality. There is SO much porn out there and a lot said by those who don’t even understand the concept of media literacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:33 AM
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Because many men, despite wanting kinky sex, are terrible at putting in the effort into doing it properly. Kinky sex comes with a lot more risks than many people realize and, for educated and experienced folks, a partner merely wanting kinky sex is not enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:57 PM
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Ooft. Once I *finally* figured out how to get off, this became a massive problem. I think folks like us aren’t suitable for partners who aren’t down for either a prolonged build up with building orgasms or a marathon if they are also multi-orgasmic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 03:03 AM
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Strictly speaking intercourse isn’t needed either. Plenty of ways to get sperm to an egg without. Orgasms help pull sperm deeper into the uterus and hold it there longer. A 2025 study also shows that female ejaculation helps raise vaginal ph to a level that is more hospitable for sperm. Ovulation increases sexual drive and desire for sex while orgasms reinforce that behavior. Orgasms make intercourse more enjoyable and easier to recover from which allows for more rounds of intercourse especially…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:48 AM
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I got my fallopian tubes removed and eggs frozen. I can still get pregnant via IVF or opt for surrogacy (unlikely, as I feel hella uncomfortable about that). Disconnecting your organic 3D printer is 100% effective. But I probably wouldn’t recommend it unless you are sure you are okay with the possibility of never having your own kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:12 AM
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Some men just can’t stand “extra logistics” or basic communication and think of it as a turn off. Those are the men I would avoid for casual sex or long term dating. The key is having some pretty strict filters for folks unintimidated by direct honesty and sex positivity. Others respond pretty well to a list of requirements around a “casual and conscientious” arrangement with shared paperwork, condoms, transparency about other partners, and use of toys as needed/ wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:04 AM
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Because it’s still the same bad behavior. Incels and fuckboys are similar in their selfishness, entitlement, misogyny, and lack of consideration. These women are complaining about bad behaviors in relationships that then serve as a warning to not date men like that again leading to similar men being unable to find relationships. I’m grateful to women like this because they teach others red flags to avoid before it’s too late. No one is owed a relationship and no one is owed a continuing relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:52 AM
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This. Especially the long hair part. Long beautiful hair can be very masculine. The binary perspective that associates it only with femininity is xenophobic as fuck. There thousands of years of art depicting men as beautiful and desirable. With long hair, adornments, and, sometimes, even makeup. It’s so absurd to me that folks think that attractive masculinity must be a specific narrow modern aesthetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:39 PM
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I think dating in your 20’s can be a mess for a lot of people. Many people have to grow with and adapt to constant change. If you had a rough childhood you are using this time to heal, unlearn harmful patterns, and develop independently. Dating and sexuality are still in exploratory phases for many people. In my late teens and 20’s I was constantly overwhelmed by male attention and it caused me so much anxiety because of childhood trauma. It still happens every time I’m not dressed extremely alt…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:52 PM
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My partner and I are the same!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:27 PM
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I had a brief panic attack when I learned how young my partner was when I first met him and we clicked well. We were at a weeklong camping event with mutual friends and he was one of the youngest in the group. We had a lot of time and hours (and hours) or talking to get to know each other. Took a friend of mine giving me pep talk to make me not feel like a predator for accepting his (very tame) advances. We’ve got similar interests, careers, passions and have compatible life goals. Neither of us…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:23 PM
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I mean, that’s because being (responsibly) dominant in every way all the time is exhausting for everyone. Everyone needs a break now and then. Some of us just have kinkier ways of going about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 09:47 PM
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Body neutrality (optional body positivity) Male body dysmorphia and anorexia, and the factors that exacerbate these illnesses, are broadly under-addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 09:21 PM
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I prefer doing the initial approach honestly. It would be nice if this was more of a thing. But I disagree that most men generally like submissive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:56 PM
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Speaking as a survivor of violence: Because we want to see justice and not revenge. It’s important to recognize the humanity in all people. That doesn’t mean people should not be punished or held accountable, but it does mean that we will not stoop to their level of violence or harm. So much violence in this world stems from violence and many people, myself incuded, prioritize initiatives that will end the cycle rather than just shift it. It’s not always feasible, but we should do our best with …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:36 PM
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crypto, ecommerce, influencer, A job that can increase your status with merit (Like salesman), OF manager etc. Yikes … I would run from folks with some of these jobs. Men who work jobs that are important to society are attractive. Men who display competency, investment in others, service to a greater good, skill, work ethic, compassion (ex: care workers), and dedication through their work are also attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:23 PM
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Hmn. So murder, by definition, is interference in the bodily autonomy of others. Bruh. Like I said, my take is pretty nuanced. And seeing as I got my tubes tied, I don't think I really need to explain myself to you further if you are comitted to misunderstanding me. I will say that I think that incapacitating something inside you without consent is self defense any way you cut it. It's kind of ironic to see a bunch of folks sworn to an ideology inspired by the matrix to not be team bodily autono…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 05:38 AM
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Tbh. I think much of this is a generational issue. Parents need to raise their children to set boundaries, have standards, have self-esteem, and to understand genuine connection. Especially because when folks are young they are more likely to be targeted and fall under the spell of players. Relationship and sex education are under-taught and we all suffer for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:04 PM
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Maybe women really hate people telling them what they like and don't like all while generalizing and ignoring their opinions and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 07:05 PM
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My G spot disagrees. My partner calls me a finger puppet sometimes. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:45 PM
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where did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:34 PM
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Can confirm. My partner is a gamer and game developer as he is (fifth wave) feminist AF. I have a significantly longer dating history than him and I am so happy I found him (and took initiative). He is the sweetest bean. My heart. He has healed me so much. I would protect him with everything. 😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:22 PM
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I froze my eggs and got my tubes tied at 25: 1: to never get pregnant accidentally 2: to never get threatened with pregnancy via rape - again 3: to be able to use a surrogate should my nerve injuries continue to make pregnancy very risky So, no. I have not had an abortion and never plan on having one. I work in sexual education and strongly believe that the best path to fewer abortions is fewer unwanted pregnancies, better access to education, contraceptives, economic stability, and so forth. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:34 PM
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I already did, I appreciate the concern. :) No one here absolutely NEEDS the personal access to the physical body of another person to survive. It's hyperbolic and intellectually dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:11 AM
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That seems like a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:12 AM
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Not to survive Okay, so not as important.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:03 AM
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More like it’s understandable why thefolks who don't see this as a potential issue as also have trouble dating women or even socializing. I think the commenters whining about needing consent from women already brought the conversation to a rape discussion, I didn't really need to do anything to get there. Why the outrage? There are plenty of reasons why someone might engage more ethically in this kind companionship. I don't think the technology is inherently flawed or problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:36 AM
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I never said everyone using technology is a villain, nor do I think that. To be specific, I think that folks who muse about not needing to obtain consent from AIs veers INTO villianry the closer those AIs develop awareness / agency that would be indistinguishable (or very close to) ours or that of other living creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:04 AM
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Uh. And the entire point of Westworld was to highlight how ethical concerns increase with progressing technology. A lot of folks are giving themselves away as the vilians in this post. I honestly don't think some of the folks in this thread are even heterosexual at this point. They’ve got a paraphelia for woman-shaped objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 01:30 AM
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This can be easily refuted with viewership stats on plenty of websites.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 07:52 AM
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It sounds like you’ve just never had sex with someone who wanted to have sex with you. Maybe take a break from the escorts?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:35 PM
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I’m so tired of folks who talk about a dating “market” but then stick to a narrow set of traits they track for confirmation bias. Folks like this never have anything to say when the woman whose “choices” they are analyzing is with someone that isn’t tall or attractive. If they do, it almost immediately devolves into accusations of sex-work. God forbid a woman make choices based on humor, hobbies, compassion, compatible lifestyles/goals, kinks, or what WE find attractive vs society. What IS parti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 08:05 AM
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