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I'm sorry for the late night post. I was trying to redirect a lot of anxiety. I've made some bad choices (giving undeserving people one more chance). This is my fault. You all are very right. We're safe. I made sure of it last night. I'm in full-time baby support this morning to make sure this hasn't harmed the baby emotionally. I'll try to address things better soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:55 PM
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There's nothing wrong with being divorced with kids....male or female. If you're curious / interested, talk to him. Do your due diligence. Hope things go well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:39 AM
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Me, a clueless bisexual : what do you mean "season?" I cuff my pants year-round
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:52 AM
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I love it when they tell on themselves. Takes away the headache of discovering they're a Grade A turd yourself 3 months in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:25 AM
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Obedient? Fucker, get a DOG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:19 AM
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This was my marriage and what the aftermath looked like. I was a full-time worker, housecleaner, and parent. Even when I started to pay for a periodic housecleaner, my ex took that as a sign that he could be more filthy. It was so bad the cleaner once asked if everything was ok. So I demanded a divorce. Not only am I now richer because I no longer have someone spending my money behind my back, I'm healthier because the court is forcing him to do 50% of the childcare and my house is clean all the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:16 PM
42

FINALLY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:53 PM
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And when you stop doing it they'll act like you're hurting them because they "don't have time" to do it themselves.....even though they managed to have time BEFORE you started doing their laundry.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:35 PM
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That makes a lot of sense and I appreciate your reply. Gives me things to think about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:15 PM
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I've known 1 guy, 1 whole guy to put effort into his appearance for himself and his partners. Takes care of his skin, moisturizes, wears sunscreen, keeps his facial hair well groomed, uses beard oil to make sure it's soft, trims errant hair, gets hair cuts regularly, showers daily and more than once a day if activities warrant it, ensures his wardrobe is stylish and tailored, works out, watches his diet, is attentive in bed. This shit isn't hard. There's no excuse for these dudes. What's insane …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:13 AM
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Yuuuup. That right there, ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:50 AM
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I know in my youth I was absolutely guilty of tolerating bad sex because bad sex was the only form of intimacy I had. I did NOT make great choices. Past-me deserved better and wish I had advocated for my sex life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:16 AM
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I hear you, and agree that they def don't need any help when it comes to the insane level of worship they direct to their junk. The exchange was tongue in cheek 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:45 AM
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Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:35 AM
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Because wading through years of selfish sex partners is oppressive. Finding a partner who you're truly sexually compatible with feels like winning the lottery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:35 AM
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U
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:22 AM
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It feels confusing. Yes, we pursue marriage because we're told we should want it from day 1. Yes, it too frequently does not benefit women. Yes, there are many issues with being a forever girl/boyfriend. Yes, waiting 10 years for someone to marry you isn't supported by the handbook. There are some legal benefits. But perhaps at this point it's more of a social construct that makes us feel a sense of community and that's why it feels so appealing, despite evidence that it could hurt us long term.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:19 AM
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That's a thought I've had too. The concept of marriage and marriage itself, when it's healthy, is a wonderful thing on an emotional level and legally it does come with some built in benefits. But I agree that my scale is tipping closer to liability than benefit.....so says my rational brain. But my emotional brain wants a formally committed life partner. I want someone i love, who loves me, who I'm proud of, who I can continue to build my life with. But I also don't want to lose everything to so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:14 PM
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This drives me crazy. Good for him for saying something. I am TIRED of the "what about men" wrt sexual assault. Yes. Some women assault. But who is largely the problem. OTHER MEN. GUYS! Get your shit together? Don't want women to complain about the fact that theyre always being assaulted? Stop your peers from assaulting! Don't want men to be assaulted? Stop your peers from assaulting! If you actually gave a shit about men you'd do something. But you just want women to shut up. Be honest. That's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:07 PM
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What a fucking nightmare. I can't imagine how painful that must have been for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:08 PM
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Your last 3 bullets are certainly something I've thought about. There is a certain level of social validation that doesn't come with dating someone for decades. But there's another part of me that's like "screw the expectations of others."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:33 PM
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That's what happened to me too. I parted with a LOT of money to get that scrote out of my life and, ngl, the thought of that happening again freaks me out. I've worked too hard to part with my assets because some dude turned out to be toxic. I need to find out how much protection I can get from a prenup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:30 PM
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As someone who collects medical conditions like it's my hobby, this just made me nervous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:29 PM
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Agreed. Marriage for marriage sake is a terrible idea. After getting out of a marriage to a LVM (thank God I was able to escape), I have no interest in jumping back in with just any turd that rolls up to my front door. The older I get, the more I identify with Charlize Theron when she said anyone who wants to be with her is gonna need to bring a lot to the table. But in the event that a HVM shows up, should marriage be something I want with that person? If a HVM brings a lot to the table, what i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:14 AM
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I hear you. If I were in a situation where we'd be making major investments such as purchasing property or making/adopting children, I'd require marriage before that was pursued. But i have a house and a kid and don't intend on changing anything about my life, which is why marriage even being an end goal is starting to feel less relevant. Another point you make is one that concerns me: the paperwork required to make sure you are legally covered in long term/unmarried relationships. A lot of that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:07 AM
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I hear you. It's def a "the internet can't answer this for you" kind of query. I didn't intend it to be. It's more of an information seeking mission. I'm hoping that any data/anecdata I find can help me decide if it's something that even realistically fits into my life. You make great points about the protection it offers a SAHM. I need to do some work to figure out how I'd need to protect my interests if i do wind up in a relationship where marriage is off the table
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:57 AM
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I don't see why religious considerations would be downvoted. Given that I'm not religious they don't factor as a reason why marriage is or is not important for me. But there's nothing wrong with you placing importance in the spiritual angle. Thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:52 AM
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Oh fuck. The real pro life tip here in the comments. Sure, your ring is fire, but my portfolio made me FIRE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:00 AM
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My ex would try nonsense like that.....not to that level, but would display incompetence on purpose. "I didn't know how to do it" or "I didn't know it need to be done." Me : nice try asshole. You forgot that I saw how you lived when we first started dating. When it was just you in the house you somehow knew how to do laundry and could recognize when dishes needed to be done. Miss me with that shit. Spoiler: he hated being called out like that and found he no longer had a partner helping him with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:45 PM
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100% They are sooooooo worried that we'll take all the gold they don't have. Like, bitch, I got my gold, sit your ass down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:38 PM
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She's on IG?! HELL YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:13 PM
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That's really cool! Thank you for sharing the translation! I wouldn't have known otherwise. Not gonna lie, it's a tough book to get through because it kept making me cry. Too many things hit too close to home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:14 PM
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That's a really good point. I've gotten the apology flowers and the "I don't know what to get you " flowers. The best flowers are the "just because" and "from myself" flowers. I wish I had learned to change that narrative when I was younger. But today is a good day to start
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:12 PM
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I've done this. Never again. Over my dead body never again. It was romantic and wonderful because of course it was - I'm great at celebrating others. Guess what happened? He fucked his ex a couple weeks later. Take heed. Nothing good can come from this nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:19 AM
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I appreciate that he's warned everyone that he's fucking gross and should be avoided at all costs. God forbid you invested yourself only to find out that he wants you to clean your beautiful body with his stank ass mildew traps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:33 AM
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I've been doing the same every other payday. I hate that I spent my 20s waiting on a dumb guy to gift me them. I lost a decade of flowers cause I didn't think I could just love on myself. Life is too fucking short for that nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:29 AM
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THIS ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:11 PM
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That's a great way to support those you love. What better way to tell a person how they should be loved than to demonstrate with your actions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:10 PM
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Not quite yet, but I'm faking it till I make it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:40 PM
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Thanks! I kinda went balls out at the store. I had so many bouquets that you'd think I was singlehandedly decorating a wedding. It was an awful week, you guys. I really needed this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:32 PM
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Dude. You did a baller job of taking no shit. I'm doing better at being more like you but it's an exhausting journey. Seriously, I'm proud of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:15 AM
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100% truth. I had a female counselor tell me that it was my fault that I was abused because I didn't "try hard enough" to stand up for myself. Had another recently tell me that I should take it easy on someone who assaulted me because them taking responsibility for their behavior is super hard for them. Like....WHAT?! You know what's harder than being the perp? Being the fucking victim! Out of here with that nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:13 PM
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Hahahahahahahhaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:34 AM
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I had to start listening to my body because my brain isn't always great at figuring out when a guy is no good for me. My brain wants to make excuses, but my body will feel exhausted and painful. It's become my warning alarm. It 100% sucks that dudes can cause you to feel like this so frequently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:20 AM
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My skin stopped breaking out and my body stopped hurting as much after I got divorced. Stress is fucking toxic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:44 AM
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Agreed. My ex-in-laws had the expectation that I would bend over backwards to impress them, throw myself at their feet for their approval. I wasn't about to play that game for a single second and it soured them to me for YEARS. They seemed to miss the memo that relationships are two way streets and nothing about them is so special that it warrants worshiping. I have zero regrets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:59 AM
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An engagement is an opportunity for your partner to demonstrate how much they value you. Maybe you truly are ok with a simple life....but you should never be ok with a low-effort engagement. It screams "I don't value you and will always bring the bare minimum to the table." It is not a recipe for success or happiness. Ask me how I know.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:07 AM
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As someone who divorced a LVM last year, I can confirm this is 100% accurate. I'm practically glowing and dude is NOT thriving
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:59 AM
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I'm in this picture and I don't like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:57 AM
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THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:03 AM
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Plants/flowers for me from me is one of the better life upgrades I've experienced. Waiting for some turd to think about me enough to perform such a small gesture was straight up depressing. I've been bringing home the bacon for a decade - there was no reason I couldn't treat myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:14 AM
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Throw the whole man out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:54 AM
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Passive aggressive? Red flag and relationship no- go. And only wants to use kik? Def has a wife. Texting shows up in your billing records with details but kik only registers as data use. It's absolutely a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 01:17 AM
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You can easily spend $2-3k on a 1ct stone, and that's without the setting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:07 PM
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I've been cheated on and divorced. I can say that life after divorce was so much better than my life before. I feel like I finally have the time to invest in myself in a real way. Take this time for self care and remember that their actions are only indicative of their failings as people, not yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:20 AM
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Troll
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