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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 14 | Need your perspective: too much dread or am I retarded? | Probablyfucked1 | /r/askTRP | 05/11/20 03:16 PM | |
| 6 | Ex-FWB contacting my other FWB. How to handle? | Probablyfucked1 | /r/askTRP | 07/07/20 11:52 AM | |
| 1 | Weird FWB. Help to decode the message | Probablyfucked1 | /r/askTRP | 01/07/20 02:15 PM | |
| 1 | Asking for a friend: did the guy win the break-up game | Probablyfucked1 | /r/askTRP | 28/09/20 09:22 AM | |
| 1 | LTR puts phone face down | Probablyfucked1 | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 11:27 AM | |
| 0 | CPSTD and flashbacks - how to hold frame during them | Probablyfucked1 | /r/askTRP | 18/08/20 10:42 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Need your perspective: too much dread or am I retarded?Thank you for the perspective. You had a problem here because you went and made a huge change in the relationship dynamic. You go from casual to cohabitation instantly. Then she freaks out when you try to take a step back. That's the issue as I see it. I get what you were trying to do, but it's not what I would have done. Could you elaborate a little on the bolded point by providing examples on how to reward FWBs properly? | /r/askTRP | 05/11/20 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Need your perspective: too much dread or am I retarded?Makes sense. Thank you for the advice. Will use it. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/20 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Need your perspective: too much dread or am I retarded?she cooked and cleaned and blew you - fine. that would've been a nice "thank you" for having her over. but no, she had a covert contract with herself and you: "if i act like a perfect wife, he'll LTR me and ask me to move in" BZZZZ this is HER malfunction, not yours. Yeah, seems so. It's weird to see a girl having a covert contract, but it seems a plausible situation. Note: do not bring this up to her. zero good will come from it. keep your soft next going if you're done/sick of her. Or casually… | /r/askTRP | 05/11/20 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Need your perspective: too much dread or am I retarded?You didn’t provide enough comfort if you wanted to stay close to her. Seems so. How to provide more and how to calibrate it? She probably wants the “what are we,” conversation. So you need to decide what you want. Well we had such conversation at the start of the relationship. I told her that I want to focus on myself and do not want anything serious right now. (it was >1 year ago). She seemed keen with this arrangement. Lately she had been showing me stellar behaviour and I would have promoted … | /r/askTRP | 05/11/20 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Need your perspective: too much dread or am I retarded?You let a FWB stay over for a few days, that's your mistake. Well I can see your point. My intention was to reward previous good behaviour and to do a test run on how we would match in case we would have to spend a few days together. I'm not seeing dread at all. You have 1 girl you're seeing and you let her move in for a few days. I have a few other plates that I am also seeing regularly. She knows this. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/20 04:16 PM |
| 1 | CPSTD and flashbacks - how to hold frame during themDamn. Makes sense. Will check the book. Thanks for the reply! | /r/askTRP | 20/08/20 08:46 AM |
| 1 | CPSTD and flashbacks - how to hold frame during themYeah, seems like it. I understand that managing my anxiety is much more important than holding frame. I am doing some of the things you are suggesting - contacting a safe person to get some perspective, etc. Furthermore, your point regarding going away for some time to calm down is valid to me. However, the emotion which keeps me from taking my time is fear - if I show weakness, the people around me will run away. Which is exactly what happens when I do not take the time to bring myself to a bet… | /r/askTRP | 19/08/20 07:55 AM |
| 1 | CPSTD and flashbacks - how to hold frame during themTried shrooms several times, does not seem to help. Maybe you could give me some tips on what to focus during the trip for maximum effect? | /r/askTRP | 19/08/20 07:44 AM |
| 1 | CPSTD and flashbacks - how to hold frame during themThank you, will try it | /r/askTRP | 19/08/20 07:44 AM |
| 2 | CPSTD and flashbacks - how to hold frame during themThank you for a constructive answer. Checking the other subs right now. As for the doctor - yup, I have signed up for another recently, just have to wait a month or two until he has time for me. | /r/askTRP | 18/08/20 01:03 PM |
| 2 | CPSTD and flashbacks - how to hold frame during themBeen seeing one for ~10 months already. Not much progress. Just looking for people who have been in a similar situation. | /r/askTRP | 18/08/20 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Was my ex BPD or did I just mess things up?Dude. You have made all of the mistakes. she's a co-worker 1st mistake - shitting where you eat. Several months into the relationship she can tell that I wasn't as interested in her as she was in me, and she started getting depressed and resentful and having some anger issues. She also sees me get too drunk once or twice and make an ass of myself and I think it disillusioned her. 2nd mistake - you lost frame. The depression and anger issues is bullshit. The girl wanted you to enter her frame and… | /r/askTRP | 12/08/20 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Ex-FWB contacting my other FWB. How to handle?Was thinking about the same answer. Both of the girls know there are others. Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 07/07/20 12:04 PM |
| 3 | Ex-FWB contacting my other FWB. How to handle?Thanks. Will do. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/20 12:03 PM |
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