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| 2 | How to pick up girls as a black guy ?Sorry if this sounds like an asshole comment - no dew rags, no pants below your butt, no ridiculous fake chains…basically try not to look like a hip hop singer or rapper!…focus on your style of dressing. Black men can be very attractive with a clean, refined sense of style. Spend $200-$500 a month on new clothes (yes that adds up over the year, but it’s worth it). Do some research in Esquire & GQ. Dark skin goes well with a lot of cool styles, colors, fabrics, patterns. You want to dress like a … | /r/seduction | 13/08/23 08:27 PM |
| 69 | Closing the deal over text is the hardest thing in existenceOnly 3 texts you need to send: 1. funny pictures & gifs. 2. Setting up a meetup/date, confirming logistics. 3. Tell her that you had fun last night. If you’re asking her lots of questions over text (cause you want to get to know her or warm her up), or if you say “I’d love to meetup!”, you’ve already lost. Unfortunately many women unconsciously see men as needy, or low value with this kind of texting. Also, as men we need to accept that we’ll be misunderstood, judged, ghosted or rejected. It’s g… | /r/seduction | 02/11/22 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Where can I go as a high value man to meet high quality women (wifey material) or is online dating the only option?I forced myself to go to a nonprofit “black tie” event last weekend. I threw on my Armani suit that’s almost too small for me at this point. I was super nervous, but just like going out to bars or clubs, you start to approach, and get into a flow state. I made sure to schmooze with the organization’s founder, and top VP’s - made sure the women saw me interacting with them. But I also made sure to visit the photo booth and dance floor, and show a silly side. I had good conversations with about 15… | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 02:21 PM |
| 6 | What lesson took you the longest to unlearn ?What women say they want, and what they respond to, are often misaligned, sometimes total opposites. | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 01:59 PM |
| 3 | I asked someone out for the first time in my life !Great job! Make sure to process what you learned. And go do it again with 3 new girls! Repetition is the mother of skill. A few months of this, and you’ll have a great girl in your life, and the confidence that she wants in a guy. | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Girl in the gymTalk with her. Go see her in person, and have a conversation. Make her laugh. Ask for her number. Plan a meetup - nothing that’s too much, just a cool cocktail bar with apps, not a full dinner yet. It starts with talking with her. Good luck and enjoy! | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Who is your favourite monarch as a seduction ideal?Get off your couch and talk with a girl asap | /r/seduction | 12/10/22 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Telling women they're hot on dating apps or irl?When a guy tells a woman that she’s hot, she unconsciously assumes more value than him, which decreases her attraction. He also puts himself in a category of a lot of other men, rather than stands out. Don’t immediately compliment a girl that you’ve just met. Especially not on an app. And if you do compliment, make it about something not physical - her achievement, or behavior. With that said, you might play around with a backhanded compliment - “that jacket looks like it smells bad, but nice sm… | /r/seduction | 12/10/22 01:37 PM |
| 1 | Not feeling confidentDownload tinder. Swipe right on less attractive women. You’ll get messages from some - respond with funny gifs, and ask for their number, and text flirt with her for 2-3 days. Tell her you should meet up in person. Take the lead, pick a cool place, and schedule the time. When on first date, make eye contact, ask questions, share funny stories, and more questions. Go on a second date and hug her. Go in a third date and makeout with her. Go on more dates. Take care of all logistics- do you have a … | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Should I call it quits?Talk to other girls! | /r/seduction | 03/10/22 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Is it better to take it slow when approaching a friend, or straight up tell her?Push her female buttons. Let her see you with other girls. Let her see you taking the lead on something. Or make sure she sees you being playful with a dog or young kid or something. Let her see your mature side - you have a job or hobby that you’re passionate about out. Definitely slow approach with her. Once a week, say something flirty to her (don’t just say “hey I’ve got feelings for you, want to go out?”). Treat her like a bratty little sister. Find a nickname you can call her. But also, gi… | /r/seduction | 03/10/22 07:17 PM |
| 2 | A very controversial, possibly triggering question: Is a big percentage of women in their early 20s today lazy?I’m surprised by how many girls are on Only Fans. Seems like many girls would rather show their naked bodies for small change, than to pursue difficult careers. With that said, statistics don’t lie - there are 6 women to 4 men that are earning college degrees, and that gap is growing every year. We’re heading towards a fem-centric society, which means a strange balance of more women getting better opportunities, but also a lot of women that are lazy and have huge entitlements. | /r/seduction | 01/10/22 03:55 PM |
| 31 | how to get over oneitis?Delete their texts, social media, and any other trace of them. Force yourself to meet new women. Focus on self improvement & growth. Pickup a new hobby or pet, get back into working out / exercising, get some new clothes or cologne. You’ve got a long life with many other relationships ahead of you. Be ready to crush it when opportunity comes your way. | /r/seduction | 29/09/22 04:30 AM |
| 20 | I’ve (27M) got 5 dates booked this week, but I suck balls at escalation. Any tips or advice?Get her to talk about something emotional, like a family tragedy, or illness, or set back. Or something positive like graduation, academic or career success, athletic achievement. Ask her personal questions about whatever the emotional topic is. Ask questions about the answers she shared to your previous questions. Let her emote & tell stories. When it feels like it’s reaching a climax, or she’s really emotional…Then stand up. Tell her “you know what, standup…” (motion to her to stand up). when … | /r/seduction | 27/09/22 06:20 AM |
| 7 | How would you handle this situation?Sorry to go here, but watch any episode of the Bachelorette, and you’ll see this in action. Without fail, when one of the guys starts talking about another guy during his date with the bachelorette, he looses her interest. Translation- you have to compete, don’t be a pushover. But do t talk shit about the other guy, don’t even talk once about him. And eventually, if you start sleeping together, she’ll choose you over him if you can lead her in a superior sexual experience. | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Date fails because of bad small talk (field report + question)Ask questions & tell stories. Simple as that. A good approach is when I do 60%-70% of the talking. But a good date is when she does 75% of the talking. I got good at asking good questions from my sales career. People like to talk about things that are important to them, and their own experience. For me, the fun of a date is trying to find what excites the girl, and play on that theme. And this is important - women want to feel listened to. Which means you are making eye contact, and when she is … | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 07:30 AM |
| 3 | Messaging girl on FBDo not say “hey”. Do not say “I like you”. Do not say “I’d love to meet up sometime”. That’s what the 10 guys said who sent her messages on hinge and bumble yesterday. This is an opportunity to be bold & standout. Be funny! Reference something at work that will make her laugh - make fun of the CEO, or something lame about the company or office. If she laughs (lol or hahaha), if she engages at all - then you have your answer. Tell her “we should meet up and discuss the CEO’s awful mustache more” … | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 05:24 AM |
| 2 | (28M) Dozens of matches on apps. Couldn’t get a single girl to meet up.The best thing I did for my dating life was delete the dating apps. 90% of women show all of their attention to just 10% of men on dating apps. (See YouTube clip of Scott Galloway on Bill Maher) Even when I did get an occasional date from online, I’d realize that I spent too much time wondering if she’d like me, only to realize, I had 0 interest in her. Online dating just doesn’t work for most guys, so it’s best to discipline yourself to only meet women in person. | /r/seduction | 20/09/22 08:39 PM |
| 8 | How do you make conversation more fun?In the context of a gym - I might be more self-deprecating, rather than teasing them. Women might be more sensitive & self-conscious of themselves at the gym, they might not enjoy being teased in that context. Also, might be a good place for “creative interpretations”. Tell one of them that “you love their body building videos, you’re a huge fan, and they should teach you proper technique, and you’ll start a TikTok page that specializes in something random like tongue lifting”…obviously make it … | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Girl not responding after a passionate nightDon’t over-pursue. Wait for her to come to you. And just be cool & flirtatious. Don’t profess feelings for her. Don’t say anything like “I’d love to see you again”. Think up another situation where you can hangout, and have a place to have sex with her. Don’t over complicate it dude, you have a prime situation! | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 09:00 PM |
| 4 | Depressed because lack of sexNo sex if your unwilling to face rejection. Teach yourself game, figure how to talk with women, focus on 10x’ing your rejections, enjoy your social life, don’t look outside of yourself for self improvement, and don’t be a dickhead to yourself. Or, consume a lot of cannabis. Smoke or eat enough TCH to numb your emotions and sexuality. Not as meaningful as the first approach, but self-medicating is a legitimate definitely way to mitigate depression & loneliness. | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 01:56 AM |
| 2 | How do you get over women that reject you?What worked for me is 10x’ing the rejection. Seriously, if it hurts after 1 rejection, go try to get 10 other women to reject you. You’ll become desensitized to it. And that’ll help you be more bold and self amusing, which is attractive. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 11:11 PM |
| 2 | I got really mad at myself while leaving the bars last nightGood. Now go out again asap, and try to get 10 more women to say “no”. You gotta thicken your skin. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 11:05 PM |
| 160 | What's something you've learned along your seduction journey?Some of the most beautiful women are the most boring in bed. Some of the nerdiest plain women are the most fun in bed. | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Shit test about my birthday, what do?At this point, go for the meetup. No harm in texting her back with a challenge - “what are you going to give me for my birthday?”. Or, just ask her out - “you forgot my birthday, I’ll let it slide this time if you come meet me for drinks & food on Tuesday at [this amazing/fun place].” Stop dwelling on text, meet her in person. Good luck!! | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 03:44 PM |
| 2 | She playing games or should I take her on her wordWhatever you do, don’t smother her, or vomit feelings at her. Call it what it is - you’re probably a rebound. Give her a bit of space, don’t pursue her all the time. And just create fun hangouts. See if you can get her over to drink a bottle or wine, cook dinner together. Be a source of fun, and not pressure for her. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 01:36 PM |
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