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| 72 | Reminder: Men will keep you around for however long is convenient for them - even if they’re not that into you. Break up at the first sign of his disinterest because he will NOT do it for you. 3rd slide is a commenter.This has been my impression of men who smoke weed too. When I was still doing OLD I had a man match with me and tell me how “narrow minded” I was for stating I didn’t want someone who was “420 friendly”. They want us to have opinions and preferences, but only when those opinions and preferences lend themselves well to their bum lifestyles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 09:58 AM |
| 32 | Self sabotage.A fellow self-sabotage queen here! I’ve also done the therapy towards eliminating my self-sabotage. I feel it has been effective to a point, but as it’s mostly attachment style therapy I also feel it’s made things worse. I have a disorganised attachment style that’s much more secure after doing work. But I feel the emphasis on understanding other attachment styles (particularly avoidants) sparked a couple of new insecurities. I’m absolutely comfortable with being alone now, but not against datin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 07:02 AM |
| 17 | U.K. news: priti pratel plans to roll out a national register of domestic abusers that alerts women when they open a bank account or buy a house with a domestic abuser. There several issues with this, I’ll explain belowI know in the U.K. we can make a request about a potential partner under Clare’s Law (or at least in England and Wales we can, I’m not sure about Scotland and NI). But not everyone is aware that this exists. I only know as I have relatives who work in criminal law, whereas if I mention it to people at work around 50% of them seem genuinely surprised it exists. What I do like about Clare’s law is that you can make the request as a concerned relative or friend too - you won’t find out precisely wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 08:31 AM |
| 36 | Have any of you had an actual relationship from tinder?Yes I have. Although he turned out to be a particularly malignant narcissist. And I’m not using the term narcissist lightly either. The relationship was a few years ago, though. And I believe the type of men who appear on tinder has shifted significantly since then. I don’t doubt that there are some good experiences out there to be had still, but they’re few and far between. For the most part, they’re all either looking for a quick lay, seeking instant gratification in the form of a match, or fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 09:23 PM |
| 25 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?The thought of sleeping in my makeup makes me feel queasy. It’s so bad for your skin. I’ve realised over the last few months that I’ve previously held back way too much of my personality and how I form my image for the sake of man. For example, not swimming as often as I would like as I didn’t want big swimmer’s thighs. Now I love my swimmer’s thighs. Or not admitting to enjoying certain hobbies because they’re not cool or edgy. Or pausing over a message because I’m wondering if I’m being “too m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 11:22 PM |
| 17 | As a Ukrainian living in USA, here is how most of my dates used to go for the past 10 yearsI have Ukrainian family and Moldovan friends. They all get this shit too. What speaks to me in these interactions is that the scrotes are so self-assured that they can’t possibly fathom that you’re right about your OWN experiences and country 🤯 They’re just hell-bent on embracing the “All Eastern European women are really hot Russians who want to cook for me” idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 07:12 AM |
| 25 | As a Ukrainian living in USA, here is how most of my dates used to go for the past 10 yearsI have Ukrainian family and Moldovan friends. They all get this shit too. What speaks to me in these interactions is that the scrotes are so self-assured that they can’t possibly fathom that you’re right about your OWN experiences and country 🤯 They’re just hell-bent on embracing the “All Eastern European women are really hot Russians who want to cook for me” idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 07:12 AM |
| 86 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidAbsolutely. I went through a phase of wishing I didn’t know this stuff, but now I’ve reflected on the last few relationships I had as a PickMe I’m relieved I know how they see us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:52 PM |
| 29 | TW: nasty as hell. I don’t even have words..Same! That’s my Saturday night Indian takeaway off the cards 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 08:58 AM |
| 11 | Why do dating apps bring out the worst in men? | the guardian articleI live in a very rural area, so I feel like OLD is my main option. But earlier someone outright asked me for sex on the third message. And another guy tried hitting on me using a Harry Potter reference. I love Harry Potter, but I’m also in my thirties so I expect more from my interactions with fully grown men. The whole OLD scene near me seems to move in peaks of potential suitors galore followed by troughs of scrotes who immediately tell on themselves. Right now, the obvious scrotes are out in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 11:27 PM |
| 5 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”The use of the term “hubby” both online and in real life makes me want to swerve the women uttering it altogether. It’s so sycophantic. In my line of work we’re away a lot. The women who use the term hubby are usually the ones who have to batch cook for their LVM each time they’re away for more than one night as they’re too inept to cook for themselves 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:35 AM |
| 32 | Ladies, I'm in desperate need for some advice. Please help!!!Not normal behaviour. And if he’s talking that way to his friends in private, he’s probably one of those guys who will use the whole “it was peer pressure” excuses if you call him out on it. And not only does that mean he’s likely to cave to “peer pressure” when it comes to strip clubs etc, it also means he’s weak AF. If he’s hiding what he looks at from you/lying, (holding his phone close to his face and lying about porn use), then he’s actively engaging in behaviours he knows will hurt you. He… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:31 PM |
| 2 | I think he told on himselfSo sorry for your heartbreak. It’s truly shit when this happens after you feel as though they’re decent. I’ve had this with a LVM who told on himself by (out of nowhere) idealising Hugh Hefner and saying how amazing his playboy mansion setup was. As it later turned out, he was a complete and utter arsehole. I hope you take good care of yourself during this. Definitely trust your intuition, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 02:02 PM |
| 91 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?A lot of these guys seem to confuse being “spontaneous” with treating you as though you’re a convenience. I found with my last LVM that he was keen to label his penchant for last-minute dates as being “spontaneous”, when really he was treating me as some sort of convenience he could slot into his life on a whim/when nothing else was happening for him. As you’ve said, had he told me up front he was supposedly spontaneous (aka lazy AF) I would never have given him the time of day in the first plac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:05 AM |
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