Proudlymediocre Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	She cried Such a good point!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/03/24 04:01 PM
2	Divorced man of 40, father of 3 beautiful kids, how difficult is it to have a fresh start at life? It sucks to pay alimony but I also I found that life is much cheaper after my divorce. I pay alimony and that’s it. Before my wife didn’t earn but had unlimited power to spend freely, and getting her to stick to a budget was impossible. Now I have reasonable fun money and still my savings and portfolio are growing because my ex can’t spend it all like she used to. I work two jobs from time to time to pad my coffers (portfolio). You’re young (40 is young :) ). I feel like a good lawyer might be a…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/03/24 05:10 AM
2	Divorced man of 40, father of 3 beautiful kids, how difficult is it to have a fresh start at life? This cracked me up. I loved the humor. I mean this with respect and good humor but omg that sounds like hell 😂 I was 51, I met and married (eventually) a 52W (now 55). I can’t imagine being with someone just getting started in life 😅	/r/Divorce_Men	16/03/24 05:00 AM
10	Divorced man of 40, father of 3 beautiful kids, how difficult is it to have a fresh start at life? I started my life over at 51 after my wife of 25 years asked me to move out. I loved it. Instead of taking care of a household with three adult kids (2 20s daughters and 1 immature wife) and two dogs, where I did all the earning and cleaning and shopping and cooking and pet care and overall GoFor, suddenly I was free!!! It was just me!! I got a studio apartment, borrowed furniture, took a few months off, healed, did what I (not my ex) wanted to do every day, got my new life started, then became …	/r/Divorce_Men	16/03/24 04:54 AM
3	Wife wants me back I think it’s heartwarming you’re both working to save the marriage. I’d give her another chance, but maybe not yet. 9 weeks sober isn’t very long. I’d want her to focus longer on the sober part while being her advocate. I’d take it slow for everyone’s sake. Good luck!	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/24 07:43 AM
24	Why are you guys seriously dating shortly after divorce? I felt that way. Especially since in my experience serious relationships added stress and burden and the best part (sex) fizzled out after the honeymoon period. Then I got divorced. And I loved my life during the day but then night would come and I was bored and lonely. So I stepped into the dating pool again. I met someone who makes my life easier not harder. We laugh a lot, talk a lot, have a lot of fun a few times per week in the bedroom, and do fun things together. Last night we went and sho…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/24 06:09 PM
4	Anyone else now have the ability to tell when marriages are about to end? I was never good at this. A few couples I thought for sure would get divorced years ago didn’t, and I was surprised by a few couples who did (including me). It all happened around age 35-40 except me — I was 50.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/03/24 11:57 AM
1	How long have you guys stayed single? Definitely!	/r/Divorce_Men	05/03/24 06:39 PM
3	How long have you guys stayed single? Hi! I’m awful at private messaging so will just post my thoughts here, if that’s okay… For me, it was a lot of soul searching, which included weekly conversations with my therapist (who was an awesome man who could be both supportive but also not afraid to tell me to get my head on straight :) ) and also a lot of thinking and journaling. I realized that I was very very prone to choosing for LTRs women who are confident and dominant and snarky, and that often those traits disguise underlying issu…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/03/24 06:28 PM
23	How long have you guys stayed single? I was single for 3 months before dating. Dated every day for a few weeks before meeting an awesome woman. We’re married now. It’s great. My marriage was deeply dissatisfying for me. A dead bedroom, I made the money, raised the kids, did most of the domestic work. The last year was hell and I was in therapy. By the time the end came I was so relieved and probably started dating earlier than average. It worked for me. I wish I’d divorced my first wife 20 years ago. Marriage shouldn’t be one sided.…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/03/24 12:25 AM
13	How you guys fucked up in your marriages? I love this question. For me, my biggest mistake in my first marriage honestly was in spousal choice. I kept myself fit, was stylish, earned decent money, supported her dreams, did all the housework and 60 percent of the child raising, was a good listener (her admission), was sexual but not a pest, and didn’t look at other women in any way although I was certifiably woman crazy before I met my ex. My ex always bragged about her dream husband. Our marriage ended slowly after my health scare then …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/24 07:17 PM