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That's not a reliable sample, if that's how you're developing your opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:26 AM
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Better than both is having a relationship that actually works. Relationships sometimes end, but it's different to cheerlead for the ending of relationships and declare marriages temporary. That can only really produce bad behavior and people using other people, with a race to the bottom on how abused commitment from others becomes, followed by a race to bottom on how willing people are to invest in each other. This is because relationships thrive and depend on the hope that they'll last. If you …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 12:00 AM
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You really shouldn't develop your opinions from those men. You're essentially selecting for the opinions you want to hear, and there is some personal responsibility involved in what opinions you listen to and focus on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:57 PM
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Men don’t complain about loss of love and romance in divorce Men complain about feelings in divorce all the time. There's usually heavy emotional investment involved in marriages. Every goal in life being worked for, every problem being solved, and everything that requires support is also an emotional investment. Commitment carries a lot of emotional weight, which is why people are devastated by divorce. time One of these things isn't like the other. If you mean time spent in the marriage expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:55 PM
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True, and people are still supposed to mean it. Investment in a marriage or serious relationship is absolutely not something that's no big deal to walk away from. The time and effort put into another person in a serious relationship is incalculable, and it's absolutely a waste of your own life potential to do that with someone who doesn't stick around through difficult times. Investing heavily in someone who's unreliable, disloyal, or flighty is a bad decision in life. The truth is in a number o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:34 PM
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Mate competition isn't really unconscious in men and women. The instincts are natural and people notice their competition. It's just not always socially appropriate to speak on it without clear logic and proof due to the stigma that comes from people who are way too possessive and controlling. Even polyamorous people have those feelings and fear being replaced or downgraded in the relationship in favor of another.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 01:44 AM
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When men have beef it's a lot more obvious. There's less acceptance for ongoing tension, so a lot of conflicts get pressed and resolved because of that. If there's a group activity and one man has an issue with another, it will come to a head quite quickly. One will ask "What's your problem" from sensing something is off with the other, they'll have it out, and then it will be done for a time. This is a confrontational strategy, and there are risks and benefits associated with it. Escalation is …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:35 AM
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Every ongoing sexual relationship or connection I've been in with a woman has involved lots and lots of sex and sexual exploration. Plenty of women love sex. I feel like people who say most women don't like sex are telling on themselves in some ways. Or they had an unfortunate relationship and believe that's how all relationships are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:38 AM
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Attraction actually can bloom, and it can take time for someone to notice another person in that way. Chemistry is something that can develop with repeated exposure. Usually in the situations where you'd see chemistry and attraction blooming, one partner isn't campaigning for that to happen. They're just spending time together and getting to know one another. Too much pressure in those situations tends to distract and deflate blooming attraction, since you're just developing comfort and feeling …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 12:25 AM
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Honestly, men who don't have any concept of what women want need to just go socialize and make friends with women. You aren't going to "get it" from some logical thesis by other people who also don't know what various women want. If you go hang out with women, do things with women, and socialize with women, you'll start to absorb some things and start to "get it". This is true for flirting as well. You'll start to understand flirting if you're comfortable just being around women without a bunch …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 12:03 AM
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If someone walks into a private residence without permission, they're already too psychotic or too criminal to care about a keep out sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:44 PM
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It's accurate to say they're a bad fit for you or their personality is a bad fit for you, but it's not really accurate to say their personality in and of itself is bad. Usually if you say someone's personality is bad, people are going to assume they're a bad person or that there's something wrong with them, not that you just weren't compatible with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:43 AM
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I don't use it this way. I'll say someone has a good personality even if they're not compatible with me. When I say bad personality, I usually mean incredibly toxic, rude, selfish, resentful, acting in bad faith, bad behavior towards other people, etc. If someone's boring, I won't say they have a bad personality. If they're odd or exhibit non-traditional yet harmless behavior, I won't say they have a bad personality. They can straight up suck at dating and make 100 mistakes, and I won't say they…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:24 AM
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Do you want the real answer from a man who's done casual, situationships, non-monogamous dynamics, and monogamous relationships? The answer is this. Vetting new partners takes time and effort. Getting to know people takes time and effort. Recycling new partners all the time is a sign of poor chemistry or just being a bad partner yourself, while keeping quality partners you get along with is always preferable, even for FWB connections. But most FWB connections and situationships burn out in time …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 08:36 AM
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There aren't really 10000 similar versions of someone with real chemistry on dating apps. Your theory doesn't pan out over time. The excitement of dating apps wears off quickly and people get tired of it if they haven't found someone meaningful to date. In the longer term this tends to build appreciation for finding someone meaningful, because most people get jaded or feel used after too many hookups and dates that lack substantial connection. Women often end up less receptive to men trying to p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:54 AM
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The dating market is (and this is backed by data from Pew) lopsided for men right now. There are more men than women looking to date I wouldn't believe those polls. I've dated women who weren't looking to date. Dating after having a friendship or acquaintance relationship first is very common these days. So is dating someone you have a good connection and chemistry with, even if you're otherwise happy being single or not looking to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:43 AM
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You're the one talking about her like she'll be your wife role not-a-partner thing. I didn't realize you just met her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:15 PM
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Btw that's the weird thing about these spaces: WHY ARE PEOPLE MAD/SAD BECAUSE OTHERS THAT DON'T WANT TO BE AROUND THEM ARE NOT AROUND THEM?? Because they feed into bitterness and negative feelings, obsessing over it like a coping mechanism. It's unhealthy for them, but they don't really know any better. They are where they are emotionally and they're inhibiting their own journey to being happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:42 AM
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But why isn't she on your role oriented soccer team as you called it? Why keep her only as a girlfriend, and how is that a soccer team?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:13 AM
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If you only believe in those roles, then why is she only your girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:49 AM
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Isn't a wife a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:37 AM
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What made your girlfriend different, and was she closer to your age range?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:10 AM
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You actually can do long term marriage, with or without kids, and have carefree time. People just need to actually try and date each other while married, and have sex dates too. Often people assume the chemistry will carry everything, but with age and marriage you have to proactively try to make that work. Those who do often find their chemistry again and have a second wind in their sex life within the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:09 AM
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Dating is still the same for the most part when it comes to chemistry. Just get off the doom and gloom content online and go meet real people. Women are still as great as ever to be around and that's a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:05 AM
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This. "Leftovers" does not describe all the awesome people you can meet, date, have fun with, have sex with etc. Dating is more open now than ever. Just find the motivation and go meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:04 AM
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You sound pretty healthy. That's the way to go. Connect to people who like connecting to you, and who you actually like spending time with and being with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:02 AM
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Dating is awesome. It's been awesome. Not everyone is out there experiencing doom and gloom in the dating world. Some of us are having fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:58 AM
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They said make-up?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 12:37 PM
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What jobs do you feel require it? Asking not criticizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:02 AM
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Date other people. If you're in a relationship with someone who never voices their appreciation for you at all, then you shouldn't be with them. What you'll find is yes, it feels amazing with a woman you like. And also it's not that great if it's a woman who's desperate who you don't like. And it's a red flag if it's really extreme. Pedestal is just toxic language though. You should be doing it for each other in a relationship. Games just aren't worth playing, and if it's not mutual then why eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 01:43 AM
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Dating is easier in high population areas. It's harder in small towns.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:03 PM
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Why do you think things are different from when you were dating? The only change is marrying and starting families later due to college and careers, a generally worse housing market, and the role the internet/apps sometimes play in meeting now. I guess that's a pretty big change, but it's not about weird internet gender theory pushed by lonely single people online and those preying for their attention. The natural process of flirting, chemistry, dating, relationship, commitment still exists, sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 10:49 PM
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I've never had a partner ask me to dress down. Usually they enjoy me looking good, including the partners who have gotten defensive or jealous of other women trying to flirt with me. Why do I get a pass and women don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:31 AM
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Ok well I'm a fit guy and I know exactly what I'm doing when I wear a fitted shirt and ass hugging jeans. And I don't really think the women I've slept with think there are "2 entirely different images". Sex appeal is sex appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:12 AM
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But why do men wear tight shirts and ass hugging jeans? What purpose does that serve? Shouldn't they cover up with a loose fitting overshirt and loose jeans or a longer shirt to cover their ass? And what about their muscular bare hands that women like to look at? Why no gloves?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 10:54 AM
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If we're being real about this, most couples who have conversations about this kind of thing work it out. Most women and men in committed monogamous relationships actually do care what their partner thinks, and do make compromises for the security of the relationship. It happens all the time. It's really on the extreme ends of things with people who don't care what their partner thinks at all, and also with people who are very controlling where you see the most issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:15 AM
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When men wear short sleeved shirts showing off their forearms and biceps, or when they wear tight shirts showing off their chest and back physique, is that an attempt to cheat too? What about when a guy trims his beard to complement and accentuate his jaw line? Does that mean he wants to cheat?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:09 AM
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What kinds of concessions did you make over 10 years? How did it progress, and how did it end?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:59 AM
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Your 7.5 length-only suggestion tells me you don't know what women want in bed, particularly with an ongoing partner. But yeah I've had compliments on that too. Believe it or not, but that's about how connected a woman feels to you too. Not necessarily only romantically, but sexual connection has a lot to do with it. She'll compliment and focus on her man's member for him if he's a good lover and excites her in bed. It takes on its own special status and residency in her head while they're a thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:56 PM
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because they ARE kind and good in bed I completely disagree about the more bitter ones. I saw one who obviously didn't know what the clitoris was here the other day. aren’t given the chance I disagree with this too. I think a lot of the bitter ones don't try to create their own opportunities or have unrealistic views of what opportunity looks like. Being caring and good in bed are factors that only even come into play after you’ve already been deemed at least fuckable. This is the one night stan…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:53 PM
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I don't know what the latter part of your comment means.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:48 PM
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I'd put myself in the top 20% of men in terms of romantic, supportive, and sexual effort easily. Note I said effort. Does that change your view at all, or are you still intent on insisting that "Chads" are all terrible partners who happen to look good?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:43 AM
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That's quite a guess. How certain are you? Would you admit that your dating ideology is wrong if you happen to be wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:41 AM
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Interesting guess. How certain are you, and will you hinge your entire dating ideology on being right about that guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:40 AM
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Want to take a guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:21 AM
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What's your guess? I'm curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:20 AM
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I think you're just trying to minimize the effort other men put into their relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:07 AM
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I don't really relate to that meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:28 AM
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If you don't care about the wants and needs of your partner, it will make you less attractive to them. If you do, it will make you more attractive to them. Also just liking them as people and being a good person towards them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:26 AM
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I consider myself a pretty good partner and I appreciate the women I'm with, so that probably helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 01:24 AM
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Yeah, a lot of the men here have ridiculous internet-meme driven views of dating and need serious help with their self-sabotaging attitudes. Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:46 AM
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do.other people percieve you as attractive? I've had multiple women tell me I'm the most attractive man they've ever been with. I think some of that commentary on my attractiveness has been influenced because I'm a caring person who's very motivated in bed. I care about my partners pleasure, and I have a try anything twice in bed attitude (I have limits like everyone else obviously). I also enjoy eating pussy and I've done it regularly for every woman I've been committed to. The online memes abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:42 AM
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Ok, but I'm talking about reality, not some random men's fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:33 AM
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Yeah, a roommate isn't a replacement boyfriend and I fear for the roommates in these situations. It just sounds like boundaries are going to be violated. Expecting a roommate to act like a relationship partner would be ridiculous. They have their own independent life. I think the people who suggest these things have never had roommates. Even if you make a friend your roommate, I can tell you what happens next. She's going to get a boyfriend of her own, and you're going to be bitter about it beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:13 AM
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Situationships and FWB situations can be both casual and regular, but I haven't seen those being a sign of anything. They were pretty normal women and doing fine in life socially and professionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:02 AM
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That abundance doesn't mean the same for men that it means for women. It does, actually. It's only men who are inexperienced and don't know better who think they'd love having sex with literally anyone who came along. That's desperation talking. In reality, men become more picky with more options and experience too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:52 PM
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I've always had more options than I can actually feasibly date or be in relationships with. And I'm not some super-extrovert, so I don't know what the men who complain online are doing wrong. I have some guesses though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:51 PM
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Same for guys. Being official is called being official for a reason. It doesn't make sense to bring all your friends and family into the situation until you know you're going to be long term and making introductions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:38 PM
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A lot of the women I've had semi-casual and situationships with had full social circles. It was the ones who wanted me to be their boyfriend one week and then acted all over the place the next who didn't have healthy social lives, and paradoxically these were also the ones who started as the least monogamously committed and most obvious to have a lot of personal issues. Women who can handle situationships and wanted a relationship over time have been the most stable I've encountered, and I've ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:33 PM
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How are you dating and where? If it's that bad, just leave. And if you keep finding that, reassess who you're dating. Are you absolutely sure they aren't just getting takeout because it's a date? A lot of people do that for dates in because having lots of sex and eating takeout go hand in hand. I’ve never dated a woman who offered to make a meal for both of us Are you getting into actual relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 07:51 PM
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I think you need to look up the definition of the word skill, because saying that cooking is not a skill is factually incorrect and also globally disagreed with in every culture that exists on Earth. Tying your shoes properly is a skill too, but if you don't want to tie your shoes and want to wear buttoned sandals instead, go ahead. Nobody's going to stop you. But people will disagree with you when you don't understand the definition of the word skill and believe people are born knowing how to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:40 AM
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So it's the default, it's like saying a restaurant is good because the food didn't gave me food poisoning. Living with another person who contributes to the household is generally what well adjusted people do and a necessity for a long term cohabitating relationship to last, but I wouldn't call it the default. People learn these skills over their life, and the kind of partner you want is the kind of partner who willingly and motivatingly brings their skills to the table with you. Couples who tap…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:24 AM
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It's likely because you're still learning how to date, and flirting and dating is as much a skill as anything else. Dating skills are social and interpersonal skills, but they're much different than relationship skills. Some men find they really have to learn dating skills, but excel at relationship skills once they do. Through that they gain confidence (experience correlates to confidence) that they're a relationship catch, and they gain confidence that they can reach the point in dating where …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:02 AM
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So they basically bring being an adult? A responsible adult who knows how to manage their household, yes. There's a lot of variance in skillsets here and really no cap to how many skills someone may have which benefit the household. I don't know how tell you this but this is what you as an adult do by default and the "willing to split chores" is again not something you bring It is. There's a direct efficiency gain in a household with two responsible people. Cooking for two is easier than cooking…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 01:51 AM
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I don't believe most men are locked into just one relationship choice. I think men can believe that, and do sometimes go through the motions, escalating a relationship into a serious one without really thinking about it. And perhaps that could be influenced by feeling like he had less dating options, even if those dating options weren't relevant to his relationship options ( since relationship options are always far fewer and cap out at 1 at a time if you're monogamous). I think if that same man…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 01:43 AM
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Yeah, but it's not like most women in dating are slobs or lazy. Most are pretty competent overall, and this myth that they lack domestic skills is a false one. Single life on your own means you have to do everything yourself. So women who haven't committed to relationships yet are largely doing domestic things for themselves, and thus developing those skills. You have to miss a lot of red flags and not be interested in who she is to get into a relationship with a woman who's a slob. In general m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 01:19 AM
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Would you say that your husband's proactiveness without being pushy was ideal? A kind of breath of fresh air to avoid what you were used to on OLD, making it less dating-labor intensive by being more direct? And a followup question: If yes, then do you feel that your experiences with those other flaky men made you more appreciative and receptive to your husband's directness?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 01:05 AM
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This is not an accurate representation of women in relationships at all. Of the women I've dated, most have been generally clean and responsible, willing to participate in partnered tasks, and brought skills to the table. And for the 18-25 crowd, I don't really see women being that much different from men, though men are quite a bit messier and slobby in general in that age group. Women usually want to evolve past the college slob phase quicker, if they had one. If you're mainly dating people wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:51 AM
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The silly thing about OP's post is, why would there be a need for those things during the dating phases of a relationship? Why would women be going to their boyfriend's place of residence and doing their boyfriend's laundry? The whole reason people used to have a member of the family who did all the laundry is that it was a time and effort intensive task. Cleaning supplies were worse, but getting better over time. Places and devices to wash clothes were worse, starting with washing clothes in ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:45 AM
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I was speaking on dating demoralization, specifically. Or rather long term relationship and true life partnership demoralization. I wasn't speaking on national demoralization. The Russian propaganda method is essentially to create hate, demoralization, and chaos on both sides of an issue, while investing more resources to secure stooges, contacts, and those more susceptible to promoting Russia's propaganda. So if Russia was to do that, we would expect demoralization content for women about the n…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:16 AM
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Men are a varied bunch, but the tried and true method of determining if a man is more likely to continue committing further is ongoing sexual exclusivity and ongoing investment (quality time, effort, creativity, helping out, being supportive, dates, gifts, whatever it happens to be). It's both. Sex is a component for most men, and sex does make most men feel a certain connection with a woman and consider her much more. It's just that you'll tend to see investment as well if he's a man who derive…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:05 AM
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I need men to realize this. I want quality, not quantity. You need men to realize this, but if a man isn't looking for a long term relationship or at least a stable situationship, then he's not looking to offer quality. I agree though that men need to realize that about women's experiences in dating, because it's absolutely true. This dynamic also means you pretty much end up with men who say "Hey" to every woman to fish for an intro, playing the numbers and quantity of attempts hoping for a low…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:52 PM
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How much texting/time investment in general among the ones you didn't go out with but did match, and what kind of flakiness on their end and yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:40 PM
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People who get into longer term serious relationships tend to get taken off the apps quicker. The reason OLD is a lower quality place to find partners is because of three groups in particular: The first is the obvious; "The Undateables". These people are just so out of control with red flags, or so unaware of their behavior, hygiene, or low dating potential that they send people running. These are the ones who rant negatively in the leadup to meeting or during the first date, act bizarrely durin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:33 PM
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It's not the US, and that's a silly idea. The US, a capitalist country whose business interests and economy thrive on population increases and a country which has plenty of space for population increase, wouldn't want to decrease its own birth rate. For what purpose? Immigration is a more involved and resource intensive process than simply birthing more people inside the country. Immigration is capitalism's economic solution #2, when birth rates fall. If propaganda was involved, it would absolut…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 10:43 PM
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Your friends are going to have relationships of their own. Your roommates are going to have responsibilities and lives of their own. Chances are you're just underestimating how much comes with relationships. If you don't want one don't have one. Just keep in mind friends and roommates will have them, and your wants will be deprioritized to them when they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:01 PM
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You can find a study and misinterpret the data to encourage yourself to avoid pretty much anything social if you put your mind to it, but it doesn't mean it's good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:55 PM
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You were factually wrong about your own posted clip. Your criticisms don't even make sense given that. She found a partner. What is there to argue? This sounds like an emotional reaction, not a rational one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:10 AM
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She called him her partner, so she obviously found a relationship. Saying she's picky only implies her dating marketplace value is even higher, since she succeeded. Let's be real here. You made this post without watching your own clip, and you had no idea she found a relationship. Just admit you were wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:21 AM
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She found a partner, so she succeeded. That directly contradicts your assertion that she's too picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:06 AM
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She found a partner according to the end of the clip. So she succeeded and is therefor dateable/partnerable according to the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:03 AM
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If you bothered to watch the clip, she found a partner on the apps after her bans were overturned. So she met someone and succeeded. If she succeeded, how is she too picky? How does this new reveal about the facts of her situation change your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:58 AM
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Platonic roommates don't invest or commit like that, generally don't want you to be their responsibility, and they're gone as soon as it suits them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:35 AM
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So what is the worth of what a man has to offer a woman these days? If you want to look at it from a purely utilitarian or transactional perspective as your post indicates, the answer is fairly obvious. Humans are social animals and not particularly fit to be loners, and being a part of a pair is an incredibly resource and energy efficient way to be. The relationship is also an insurance policy towards having someone on your side in life. Skills wise, a serious long term relationship also involv…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:30 AM
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The problem around these parts with these selfish vs selfless fights, especially over gender, is that it displays an unease with the rational middleground that actually encapsulates how men and women are in relationships. To explore this middleground ask yourself this: Would a fairly selfless person, man or woman, tolerate their partner coming home every day, walking to the middle the kitchen floor, taking a crap upon it, and then leaving it there for their partner to clean up. Yes or no? Obviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:06 AM
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The simple answer is your original post is very forceful about removing any nuance from this topic, but it's a nuanced topic. It's both A and B, but you didn't want an "it depends". I find the fact that you know it depends and yet reject answers that take the nuance of the topic seriously to be ignorant. I really don't know what you're hoping to accomplish with forcing a very generalized and unhelpful choice. The real answer is obviously why not both. Fishing metaphors are just an exercise in rh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:52 AM
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B if his goals are compatible with her and he's capable of being honest. The honesty part is important. For example, a lot of single situationshippy guys will tell her to relax and don't put much pressure on him. That's genuinely how they feel, because they don't like the pressure they've felt before they've been ready to settle down. This is bad advice though. It will get her into situationships more often than not. There's a correct amount of motivational pressure a woman can apply if she want…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 01:15 AM
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That isn't the same scenario. I didn't say a kind person who you have no attraction to. I said someone who's kind to you and slightly less physically attractive than someone who's mean to you and slightly more physically attractive. If you're attracted to both, then who are you attracted to more? Most people choose the kind person in this scenario and are more attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 12:36 AM
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Your interpretation of their position or what they can expect isn't relevant to their relationships. Why are you trying to order other people around and tell them they can't have standards for themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 12:00 AM
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But you'd still choose the kind woman over the more attractive mean woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 11:59 PM
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Says who? You? You're trying to apply your own inhumane contract to other people's relationships. Why would your sociopathic contract be relevant to other people's relationships at all? Most people expect care, respect, and kindness in a relationship. You can rant all you want if that upsets you, but nobody's going to change their standards for you and agree to be treated worse just to suit your fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:55 PM
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Causes is semantics. What, are you trying to loophole your way out of admitting that people flirt, mingle, and are attracted to others who are kind to them? If a woman is a 10 but mean to you, and another woman is a 9 and kind to you, we both know you're choosing the 9 to be your girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:52 PM
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In other words if you had a choice between a mean attractive woman, and a kind slightly less attractive woman, you'd choose the kind slightly less attractive woman. Which means you're sacrificing physical attraction for kindness at least to that extent, and want the kind woman more. You may just be in denial about being attracted to kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:51 PM
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Have some empathy for your friends. You call them friends but you side with men you don't know over them. How do you know they aren't being mistreated? It's normal to want to be cared about as a person. Their standard seems healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:44 PM
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What if she's mean, toxic, never smiles at you, never shows affection to you, doesn't care about you, doesn't appreciate anything you do, and is physically attractive? Then what? If kindness isn't attractive, you'd date her and make her your official girlfriend right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:26 PM
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Men and women both like kindness and are attracted to kindness. But of course doing a kind thing doesn't mean everyone is going to want to date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:23 PM
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You call yourself a professor and you don't think people are attracted to kindness? It's the number one way that people get together and notice each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:14 PM
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You're conflating off kilter with traits like engaging, flirtatious, safe spontaneity, ability to plan, anticipating and seeing to her desires and needs, and appearing motivated. There are a lot of other positive traits involved in a man who's capable of courting a woman which actually do demonstrate he's a good selection to date. I do agree that both men and women can become accustomed to overly anxiety-inducing or love-bombing dates and relationships. This is a known thing among people who hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:52 AM
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Human intelligence and health has risen over time. Humanity is at its height of achievement right now. Women have apparently ushered in the pinnacle of human advancement with their mate choices. Your theory doesn't add up at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:33 AM
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(usually hotter and forthright about being a fboy) If he's forthright, you shouldn't call him an fboy. That's just called being bitter that she's having sex with him and not you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:31 AM
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Just don't pretend to be a woman's platonic friend for a year before doing so, or worse asking her to leave her boyfriend or husband who thinks you're a friend of hers. And especially don't blow up in resentment at her when she's shocked and says no. As the guy who's been the other guy in the equation when so called "nice guys" do this, my message to the nice guys would be that you actually make your female friends cry when you do all of that. And your intense followup contact after as if you've…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:16 AM
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How long have you been single since your relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:53 AM
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Most men 18-30 have had sex at least once over that time period. The internet ideologies and content you've been following have been lying to you and indoctrinating you against women and society. It's unhealthy for you, and if you follow it then it's going to make you a statistic in the lonely life group.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:53 PM
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Most men do just fine getting into sexual relationships. You're following toxic internet content that's emotionally manipulating you. Stop and think for a moment. You're ranting about when porn came into existence, instead of meeting real women. What good have those podcasts actually done you if that's where they've lead you? Literally nobody in the real world that you meet cares about your rants and fears over when porn came into existence. It's not even a real issue in the real dating world. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:44 PM
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Men who women sleep with are generally more pleasant to be around. Keeping in mind it's a wide net, as most men can get into sexual relationships just fine. But generally, they whine less and push less misogynistic conspiracy theories. Any suggestion that most men who are sexually popular with women are somehow worse people or treat women worse is a jealousy cope and not actually true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:41 PM
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Are you really asking why low effort sexual gratification entertainment is popular with a pleasure-seeking consumer base? For the other ones, it's simply because isolated men or men who have recently left relationships are emotionally susceptible to being manipulated, indoctrinated, or lead astray by content creators. Fresh N Fit intentionally invited sex workers onto their podcast and asked specific kinds of triggering questions for their audience because they're trying to generate a certain ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:33 PM
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You didn't. I did. It's not unfair when a woman doesn't want to date a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:25 PM
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Yeah, I was wondering where it was going. The men who whine the loudest about this as if they're owed sex are absolutely self-absorbed and unmotivated, and it's not surprising in the least that they'd be the ones not getting sex. Man A: loves women, likes to be around women, wants to date a woman, and feels positive and internally motivated to go date women. Man B: whines and complains that he doesn't get sex, only thinks of his own needs, has misogynist views of women, and doesn't empathize wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:20 PM
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Most men who really try will get into sexual relationships. Everything else is a cope. Most men are absolutely fine and capable of dating if they're motivated to. These days their biggest risks are internet ideologies which tell them that they can't meet anyone, so they don't try. Their second biggest risk is being in locations or living lifestyles where they don't actually meet anyone. There is no "unfairness" happening, and women aren't wrong for not thinking of random men's sexual needs. If a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:43 PM
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And it's not unfair. OP called it "unfairness in dating" if a man can't find someone who's willing to date him or sleep with him. But nobody is owed sex or dating with other individuals, so there's no "unfairness in dating". Notice how they're not saying "unfairness in friendship", "unfairness in joining hobby groups", or "unfairness in finding gamer buddies". It's about sex. Men who think this way want low effort sex handed to them because they think they're owed it, and they think random women…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:33 PM
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There's nothing unfair about a woman not wanting to date a man or sleep with him. You understand that, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:17 PM
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In the real world people will absolutely judge you for not dating a sex worker No they won't. Crowds aren't out there protesting random men not wanting to date a sex worker. Sex workers don't even want to date men who don't want to date sex workers. It's just an internet fearmongering topic. If you stop consuming the content online about it, the issue magically goes away because it's not really real.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:06 AM
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That isn't a real thing happening in the real world. It's your social media habits. You're seeking out content and discussions that upset you and you're making assumptions about the world that don't really exist to any significant extent. Nobody cares if you don't want to date sex workers. Chances are you're consuming content that is specifically tailored to upset you and convince you of these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 07:19 PM
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If you date a lot as you say in your post, are you ok with a partner who dates a lot? If not, then in what way are double standards not controlling?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:23 PM
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In the real world nobody is judging you for not wanting to be in a relationship with a sex worker. Most of the internet isn't judging you for that either. So a better question is why are you seeking out echo chambers on the internet which make you feel like you're being judged for that, and deciding that's the opinion of women? You're being bothered by things which will have no impact on your real life in the real world, and which most women will never say to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:15 PM
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Good people avoid doing bad things. They don't just do whatever they want. Caring about what other people want too is what good people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 03:58 PM
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I feel like you're going to derive conclusions that are more likely to be about your own unrealistic writing than anything else. Neither of your characters show any growth, internal motivations, or opinions about the supposed criteria. They don't really read as real people, so what's the point in introducing unrealistic hypothetical people when you could just talk about the variables?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 03:56 PM
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Perfectly good people do not have trouble distinguishing right from wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 09:07 AM
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Your post doesn't really speak to who these women are. I just don't find your character writing very compelling or realistic to my dating experiences with real women who have been through real divorces or made real choices to not enter into serious relationships. I also don't see why you'd expect someone to choose based on vague descriptions like "divorced amicably". If you can't be bothered to give your characters a backstory and actual motivations for their decisions, then why should I be both…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 08:55 AM
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If he reacts that way the moment she starts talking about her job, that reads more like him having baggage than her having a red flag. People talk about work. That's just called being normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 10:47 PM
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Yes, many women marry for love.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 10:31 PM
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Plenty of women talk about their jobs just because it's a part of their life or it's a genuine passion of theirs, without meaning that by it. Why would someone talking about their work be a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 10:05 PM
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Women care about being respected, but can't stand nice guys. Actual nice guys? As in kind people? Women love kind people. Are you a romantic guy, then your a creep "he's love bombing me" If a woman is saying that to you, it probably means you don't actually know her yet. Just because you want a woman doesn't mean you can ignore what makes her comfortable or uncomfortable. And high pressure desperation isn't the same thing as romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 04:58 PM
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True. And also the idea that all sexually successful men are walking red flags is wrong. A lot of what's behind this idea is really just jealousy by men who resent the men who get along well with the women they like. I've encountered men who make those assumptions, and they often saw things that just weren't there, made assumptions about me, and often engaged in creepy levels of possessiveness over women who didn't want them. They often want to sleep with the woman in question, but she's with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 04:55 PM
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There are men picking toxic women, women picking toxic men, and a whole wide spectrum of people who are basically ok people but still working on a few toxic traits they have. There's no sense extracting a dating trend that isn't there from that. Most people select their partners based on what they actually want. If they aren't ready for a relationship but do want a sexual relationship, they may care less about long term toxic issues if they don't feel they'll have to deal with them. If they want…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 04:46 PM
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the same one who would have turned her nose up at us a few years ago? If you didn't get along with someone, she's not going to want you in a few years. And not being attracted isn't the same as turning your nose up. Women aren't wronging you by not wanting to date you or sleep with you. The whole "She didn't want me then, but she'll want me later and I can tell her she should have chosen me when she had the chance!" thing is a revenge fantasy pushed on the internet by bitter people. It's not doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 04:40 PM
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Most people date their peers and date within their general age range. That isn't changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 07:42 AM
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The "Trad" movements are all just roleplay anyways. "Trad" get-togethers are hookup central. Slap on a "Trad" label, engage in the "Trad" ego boosting, and you'll quickly find the other "Trads" want to sleep with you. This goes for both "Trad" genders. It's just roleplay. It's just a scene. Trad parties are like any other social event. They're date-a-thons. They're bangfests. "Trad" is a costume and people just like how they look in it, but otherwise their vices are exactly the same as everyone …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 07:33 AM
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It all depends on who you date, but American women are very generous. As an American man I've had to turn down paid dinners, favors, and gifts because American women who succeed in their careers sometimes want to pamper the guys they're with and it's overwhelming sometimes. I've needed to come up with personal rules and actual boundaries on receiving gifts because American women are quite frankly amazing and will sometimes go too far doing things for a man they're really into. Trust me, the soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 07:05 AM
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Yeah it's going to be pretty hit or miss with married friends, especially if they're with families. They're also usually pretty rusty when it comes to dating topics, they they'll start to relate less and less. Any scene with more independence and adventure or involving hobbies will tend to introduce you to more people more rapidly than mingling with married domestic lifers will. It's not even close. You can do more socially in a month exploring events and hobbies randomly than domestic friends w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:54 PM
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Are you friends with a lot of married couples and families with kids? Of the bachelor friends you have, how often do you hang out with them, and are you restricted at all in that? I'm only asking because it tends to be the natural progression of things where people focus on their families as married life takes over. They get busier with those things so they don't put themselves out there, and sometimes there's spousal pressure to not make the outings too wild. There's also often a loss of motiva…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:25 PM
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Women care about being treated well, about being respected, and about whether their partners care about them just like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:21 PM
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American women don't have hostility towards men. That's a fake internet meme. In real life both genders get along fine and have social groups and families which include both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:19 PM
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The women you're talking about don't care about having a million options. It's not about options. It's about genuine connection and finding a man who respects them, has good chemistry with them, and cares about them. Men who approach these women with all flash and no substance of connection tend to strike out. It's what's so absurd about men who are insecure about women having options. If you are with a woman and she likes your connection and your chemistry, it just doesn't matter at all if 100 …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:14 PM
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Some do. Some don't. If you have an attitude that all do, that will prevent you from finding and being in a happy relationship. I don't know what OP is taking about though. It's well established that most monogamous men have girlfriend/wife goggles. She doesn't need to be traditionally attractive or as attractive as when he met her for him to feel attracted to her simply due to the sexual relationship. Men tend to find the women they're actually sleeping with more attractive, and doubly so if sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:04 PM
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You sound like you were abroad for work, which is the case for most people who move abroad. You also sound more social, so I'm guessing you could date back home as well. I think passport dating is mostly just a meme because the types of people who will move abroad tend to be more social, tend to be doing it for work, and probably wouldn't have issues dating at home either. I really just don't see a bunch of men opting out of dating in the US/West and moving elsewhere specifically to date, and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:47 PM
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Are you not worried about being scammed or used doing that? Does it not raise issues of why you're targeting a specific country you have no ties to? A lot of Western women are amazing and definitely marriage material. These memes acting like they aren't are just internet memes. I've met plenty who are educated, intelligent, great career prospects, who love sex, have necessary household skills, and want a loving relationship. What's not to like about that? For most men, dating is not hard in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:38 PM
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They're not flipped at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:18 PM
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Did you win over your wife by beating out better looking men with blue pill techniques? You don't really "win" relationships with "techniques" like that. You don't really "beat out" a list of men like it's a reality TV show contest unless you're specifically going for people who are like that towards you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:29 PM
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Yeah this is obviously the romanticizing of something awful by people who think anything other than being alone sounds good. But why would oppressing 95% of people who can find relationship partners they actually want so that 5% don't have to put in more effort be a good thing? There's nothing wrong with chemistry, spark, and vibe. Nothing. If someone says that they don't feel it with you, it means they don't want you. Accept their lack of consent to date you and move on. Don't come up with fant…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:22 AM
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Being a good person and treating a woman well actually does matter a lot in dating. If you're a bad companion or have terrible chemistry with her, she's not likely to keep you around. Guys who are coping don't want to hear this, but being twice as good of a partner in the chemistry, personality, and relationship skills department is probably more valuable on average to educated successful women than making twice as much money. And the guy she's having a situationship with isn't actually terrible…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 09:15 PM
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Time is definitely the bigger demand in relationships. I don't know why there are so many dating debates about money. I think money is the easier cope for some people, maybe due to a lack of experience? Once you actually get into relationships, it's clearly time and effort that's the biggest currency.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:31 PM
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Is this a real question? Step outside. We live in a capitalist society. We're human. So being social and participating in society is important. That's the singular explanation for 99% of these money debates online. There's no issue whatsoever if you want to be less traditionally successful and pursue your passions. There's no issue if you are just a normal, average guy. Normal average guys get into relationships all the time. That's just the human condition. Pairing up is relatively easy if you …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:24 PM
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Most educated successful women get the ick if a man is trying to project superiority at them. It's one of their biggest turn offs in dating and a lot of them tell stories about men like that if you actually know any in real life. It's how men who focused on their career end up unsuccessful in dating and wondering why they're still alone. The whole "Look I made it, I'm superior, now give me sex and be loyal to me" is very off-putting to women. And it should be no surprise that women who focus on …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:48 PM
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Women don't allow men to not have the upper hand. It makes zero sense for men to like career women. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship based on having the upper hand? A couple is supposed to be a team, and in real life, educated successful women want relationship partners who actually like them and who make good companions. Or in other words they want a caring and functional team. If you think it's all about power dynamic and projecting a power dynamic onto someone, you'll drive most …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:42 PM
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Being protective isn't seen as being insecure. It's only seen as a problem if you insert yourself as the decider in someone's life without their consent while ignoring their boundaries. For example, some guys decide they're the protector of women who aren't interested in them and feel they must protect those women from sleeping with other men. They become very convinced those other men must be bad for some reason and that she must be saved from falling for their advances. Then they get resentful…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:52 PM
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Anyone who thinks men and women are separate teams trying to pull one over on the other team is also blinded. The human species doesn't work that way. Ideologies sometimes can, but people don't naturally do that. I think a lack of socializing and in-group contact with the opposite gender is what gives people the gender tribes at war brainrot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:26 PM
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FWBs are longer term with good chemistry, not constantly returning to the dating pool to find them again and again in a short span of time. The people who have to date new people constantly despite making it to the bedroom are usually losing FWBs and partners for a reason. Quality people including attractive quality people aren't usually doing that, because they're able to find and keep partners they're attracted to. Have you had many FWBs?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:12 PM
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My understanding is that once you are 8+ looks wise, girls ask you out or show interest, which I’ve never had. Women will put themselves around you and reach out repeatedly if they like you, want to date you, and you're approachable/social. Usually that comes before the asking out, and the asking out only comes if you're fun and flirty and she's feeling the vibe. If you completely miss it and think it's all coincidental and forget to flirt back, she might just not bother because she doesn't thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:55 PM
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Most people who have dealt with it. The idea that it's common to one night stand, and throw away trusted quality partners in favor of bad one night stand sex with randoms is not really how it goes for most attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 07:39 PM
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Even if they're staying more casual, there aren't actually a wealth of attractive men constantly recycling back into the dating pool abandoning quality partners who satisfy them to chance it on randos on dating apps all the time. That's a less than ideal thing. It isn't about maximizing quantity for most guys who are successful at that. But it doesn't sound like you're describing the bottom of the barrel anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:54 PM
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I'm saying that the higher you reach in the dating pool, the more toxicity that follows. This isn't true. If we're being judgmental, and I hate to say this because I feel for these people, but the bottom of the barrel in dating who are constantly recycling back into the dating pool have a lot more issues and exhibit a lot more toxic traits. There are also a lot more predators in that tier. I feel for people who have been through a lot and have lots of baggage, but baggage isn't attractive and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 03:46 PM
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And I’m talking within a shortish space of time, and with no change in looks. Yes, absolutely. I stayed in a relationship too long that I should have left once a line was crossed. I'm a fairly strong person when it comes to dealing with other people's issues, and I figured I'd just roll with it because I personally can handle it. That was a mistake. She needed to be single and deal with her issues, and not with me anymore and I should have let her go. Immediately after that relationship I notice…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 03:31 PM
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This is completely wrong. Women who are more successful dating, or more attractive, or more successful in life are absolutely not exhibiting unusually more toxic tendencies. There is nothing about being more attractive or more successful in dating that makes someone a worse person. In fact that's counterintuitive, as lower stress in life tends to be better for mental health, so any advantage in life that tends to lead to a less stressful life will also tend to reward someone's mental health and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:36 PM
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Women aren't "sluts" for having sex. Most women engage in healthy sexual relationships. It's incredibly ironic that your original post criticizes women for not having more sex earlier in dating, yet you're shaming them for it in your language here. Unless I'm misinterpreting this, this is a common cornerstone of a misogynistic contradiction. It's basically calling women bad no matter what they do. Thinking like that has nothing to do with women, and definitely won't help whoever's thinking it ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:39 PM
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If you're withdrawing to affect your partner and control their behavior, then that's wrong. However if you're just being healthy, that's perfectly ok. It's not a good sign in dating or relationships when someone is constantly anxious, desperate, and urgently needing their partner's reassurance and attention. There's a balance there. This is one of those things where pick up artists and dating manipulation coaches take something natural, and twist it into something bad. Is it effective? Probably.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:33 PM
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It is not manipulation to set your standards for how long you want to wait to have sex. Often people have sexual interests and impulses which run counter to their goals in relationships in life. They also learn over time what kind of partners they want, how they feel after sex depending on when they have it, and realize that they want to make changes. It is completely healthy and normal to expect people who are new to your life to earn your trust over time. This affects how much of your time you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:11 PM
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Good comment. Emphasis on the "a" girlfriend, for anyone who doesn't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:01 PM
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What happened to "Women do in fact like to be treated well, and are attracted to being treated well"? They're also attracted to individuals who they like. It doesn't mean you can earn attraction with all women. I covered that if you read my post. There's no such thing as redeeming nice guy points or jerk points for a woman's hand in sex or relationships. She has to actually like you and want that with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:54 PM
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Not everyone is like that, and not to the same degree. Moreover, nobody wants to be a void filler. They want to be valued for who they are to someone and have a genuine connection with them. People who are preoccupied with desperation over a need tend to be unpredictable, as they aren't selective enough to know if they really want to be with someone. Time will always test their lack of selectiveness when they're desperate, and most people just aren't up for being a placeholder or void filler unt…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:22 PM
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Men aren't cleaning up in dating by running around spilling drinks on women. Maybe you heard a story of a manipulator who feigned a drink spilling accident. I don't know. But your interpretation of things is a misinterpretation. Also, I'm nice to the women in my life. I treat them well. If they aren't into you, they aren't into you. That's not about being nice, and being a jerk won't suddenly make them more attracted to you if they aren't. There's definitely a misinterpretation going on with guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:10 PM
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It can be a problem. People like to be seen and treated like individuals rather than a need being filled. If someone's desperate and having personal issues, they're sometimes too self-involved to make their date feel like it's them they're interested in. "I'll take anyone" is one of the least attractive feelings in a date there is for this reason. Desperation and urgency also tends to set off a lot of red flags, as it often indicates something is wrong. Sometimes that thing that's wrong is benig…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:59 PM
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Because they're either not actually jerks to those women and you're misunderstanding their personal interactions, or (in a minority of cases) they're manipulators. The Chad-jerk meme isn't how things really happen. It's a misunderstanding and coping mechanism by men who are having trouble dating and need something to blame. Women do in fact like to be treated well, and are attracted to being treated well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:49 PM
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Psychology disagrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:44 PM
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These guys tend to be fairly blue collar and plain. Maybe they work on building sites or in a gym or something. If you don't know if they work on building sites or a gym, then you don't know anything about them, so how do you even have an opinion on them? This is such an easy slam dunk rebuttal. They're one dimensional to you because the limit of your knowledge of someone isn't a reflection of reality. This is like never tasting a hamburger and telling everyone it's flavorless, or never seeing a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:42 PM
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I wasn't talking about lovebombing. Not every guy who's successful at dating is running a game. Not every guy who sexually satisfies a woman is evil or Chad. Sometimes they just treat her better and make her feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:27 PM
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Yeah, men who are successful at dating aren't just jerks. They're usually enjoyable to be around. They make her feel good. He laughs with her, he flirts with her, he smiles with her, and he has good sex with her. The vibe is good. He doesn't put a ton of awkward emotional labor on her because he's not leaking issues and baggage from every pore on his body. The myth that jerks get women and nice guys finish last is just that, a myth. Women like to feel your interest when they're into you. They li…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:20 PM
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I don't know what this is Non-monogamous
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:02 PM
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You're ok with her receiving money/gifts from men who are interested in her sexually? Are you ENM/poly?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:26 PM
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It's not a singular ask, and roommates are far more independent and less compromising. Key word being less. Not all levels of coordinating while cohabitating rise to the level of being a team in life, and treating a roommate like a spouse is a quick way to lose most roommates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 04:38 PM
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What does she post pictures from the gym for?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:12 AM
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and tried to keep a platonic relationship with her until she kinda just faded away. She faded away because she wasn't really being his friend. She was there to try to win him over you, and when she eventually realized she couldn't she dropped the charade of just being a friend and left. And that's kind the whole point. It's not about trusting each other. It's about the motivates, feelings, and actions of the 3rd wheel. If they feel a certain way, they don't feel like just a friend and they don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 09:20 AM
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If a friend knows you're in a relationship and knows you're monogamous and confesses their romantic or sexual feelings anyways, they're hoping to get together with you and break your relationship up. Friends who respect your relationship don't do that, because they already know you're unavailable and they respect you and your partner enough not to try. If they go through with it anyways, your partner will know what it was about and have feelings about it. It's very much about respecting your par…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:20 AM
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Even from a material and labor standpoint, a two person team who are wholly committed to each other, act as a day to day labor insurance policy for each other when they're sick or bogged down, and complement each other's variety of skills with an implied ability to make use of their partner's skills is a very big incentive to pair up. There are tradeoffs with cohabitation. Compromise is always necessary. It's going to be worse if you have a partner who doesn't care. However if you pick right, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:13 AM
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Roommates and friends rarely do the kind of "ask anything of me" day to day favors and assistance that a romantic life partner or spouse will do. Healthy marriages and healthy cohabitating romantic relationships involve two bodies, two people, who are committed to helping each other out with basically everything and anything. There's an expectation when you're healthy or sick, when you screw something up and need a hand, when you need someone to talk to, when you need a hug, when you're having a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:57 AM
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The problem arises when you say no and then keep him around. If he tried with you and knows you're in a monogamous relationship, then he tried to displace your partner and break your relationship up. You can't keep someone around who tried that without disrespecting the relationship and causing issues. At the very least, that person doesn't respect your relationship or your partner and will be a bad influence towards your relationship. And when it's worse, which is common enough, that person ret…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:39 AM
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If the friend is romantically interested in you and tried to have you break up with your boyfriend (that's what shooting his shot means if he knows you're in a relationship and monogamous), then the friend pretty much has to go. It's disrespectful to the relationship to keep someone around who's only around hoping to get a chance and who tried to step into the relationship. It's the same if he confesses his feelings. If he really respected your relationship and didn't want to break it up, he wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:28 AM
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In practice if your partner sees you keeping someone who's interested in you like that close, it causes an issue in the relationship because the 3rd wheel isn't respecting your monogamy and has motives that run counter to you being together with your partner. It basically just disrespects the relationship, so when you know a 3rd wheel is doing that you have to create distance so they move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 04:25 AM
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It's the healthiest option because often it's the other partner that notices it first, and if jealous controlling behavior isn't a problem in the relationship then there's no reason to distrust that partner's sense of things off the bat in favor of a 3rd wheel.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:58 AM
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Do you feel free to pursue your hobbies now that he's doing all of that? What was so triggering to him? He just doesn't like you to be interested in .. anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:18 PM
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Better a man in love because there are less chances he will fuck you up when you the least expect it. This is really not true for men who hide their feelings and pretend to be a friend. They boil over with resentment as you date other men and get into other relationships, and by the time you actually know what their whole game is they're a total mess and completely capable of exploding and causing drama. I've seen it happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:15 PM
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Until a boyfriend notices, says something, and you trust that your friend is a friend. At that moment the secretly in love friend who's really playing the long game and hoping to manipulate you into a relationship has become a liability to your relationships with other men. How emotionally painful is a breakup?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:12 PM
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The man who's secretly in love with you will cause issues with your relationships, even without you knowing it. The other men in your life will notice, and he'll subtly sabotage what you have going on if he has the chance. He's masking his motivations and hiding the context with which he sees and feels experiences between you, so he's keeping secrets from you that affect where your boundaries are with him. That may mean he's hoping to manipulate his way into a relationship with you over time. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:07 PM
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My husband literally throws a fit whenever I try and do it though. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:57 PM
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Brewing quality coffee at home gets you a better cup. It also costs less money and lets you wear slippers during.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:53 PM
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The not thrilled part is interesting. I usually side with the enthusiastically yes or it's a no camp on that. Have you gone through with it and found there's no resentment coming from him, and the marriage is still healthy? On your side of things, are you ever worried that the cheating itself was indicative of a tendency for dishonesty and betrayal, or do you think it was just sex for him and ends at the cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:46 PM
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Does your husband let you date other men too, and have you? Or is it one sided? If it's not one sided, how did he react to you dating other people too?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:04 PM
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Also, most situationships aren't one night stands or casual sex. A lot of them are exclusive. Only some aren't. They're called situationships specifically because they aren't official with a future plan of being on a road map towards long term commitment and marriage or living together. A great deal of these situationships turn into relationships over time or already are, minus the total mixing of your lives. People are just preferring to start with something less high pressure and more oriented…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 05:58 AM
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Personality is always a factor. When a woman's having fun with a guy and keeps showing up to have good sex with him, it's not because he's purely looks and treats her badly. It's because he vibes with her well, treats her kindly, and is enjoyable to be around. If he can create a safe environment for her and is genuinely trustworthy and genuinely respects her as a person, that's a huge thing she'll notice. If his personality is bad, she's not going to have glowing reviews of him or feel great abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 05:41 AM
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That's not how they act towards the people they're sleeping with though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 03:37 AM
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Yeah, I'm not ultra-promiscuous but if we're counting acts then I'm probably in the top 0.1%. I don't do low libido relationships and never have. What does this study prove? That high libido people have a lot of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:34 PM
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Men who are ethical and have multiple partners don't want his partners competing and will dump one for it, because that's drama and that person will bring jealousy into it. He'll respect the women he's with enough not to pit them against each other or provoke insecurities in them. Men who aren't ethical and like their partners competing for his attention are called narcissists and manipulators, and are best avoided. And of course competition in monogamous exclusive dating is toxic and should be …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:27 PM
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Personality does matter. The whole package matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:13 PM
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People like positive people who love themselves and share their good mood. They like accountable people with a positive attitude towards what they need to do. This is absolutely fundamental to dating. Excessive self pity is basically one step away from narcissism and it drags other people down. I'm not sure when people forgot that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:05 PM
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Society and culture used to just tell you what you're supposed to do. Now we live in a society where that's kind of up in the air. What you're supposed to do is in question. What's wisdom and what's just preference is in question. So yeah, nobody these days should be expected to know what's right. That's being figured out right now. Being free of the shackles of society's expectations and free of culture telling people what they must do in dating has a price, in that you have to rewrite the manu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:58 PM
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In practice independence has a lot to do with commitment. Unless you're only talking about exclusivity, then the more committed you are to the relationship, the less independent you'll be from it. Commitment means something to people. It often means progressing towards living together, plans for the future, spending lots of time together, taking care of each other, and the list goes on. Yes, you can create a nontraditional relationship with a lot more independence and less responsibility to it, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:56 PM
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People like positivity, a positive attitude, and being with people who love themselves enough to be comfortable and smiling in their day to day life. That's true in dating as well. Putting forth a frown a showing how down on yourself you are is putting the worst foot forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:30 PM
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Most women don't care about masses of men hitting on them or giving them attention. What they absolutely do care about is the man they like and want doing that. He's who makes her heart race. If a woman likes you, just about the worst thing you can do is ignore her and treat her like she doesn't matter. Women who are well put together and have worked on themselves don't appreciate that behavior from men and don't put up with it, but they absolutely appreciate you being up front with them and sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:27 PM
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Sure, but my points still stand if we're to assume SMP issues themselves introduce insecurities into relationships some of the time. It throws a wrench into the idea that it's always the high SMP partner being unstable or unhappy because they're with a lower SMP partner. It's often enough the low SMP partner who begins that process because they're insecure, but it's not the insecurity that made them low SMP under the concept of SMP. I don't subscribe to SMP for this reason. It doesn't really pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:04 PM
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I'll add that whether culturally driven or not, a lot of men want to provide and contribute through their labors and effort, find meaning in it, and feel motivated by it if it's positively reinforced. They want to feel like an important and appreciated part of the familial and communal units they're in. Conversely, negative reinforcement and unappreciation demotivates these men as it makes them feel like they are not an important part of the social unit, depriving them of their sense of place an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:50 PM
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A lot of situationships are mutual until strong feelings and a desire for commitment develop. They're basically just safe nontraditional relationships that facilitate independent lifestyles. There's some stringing along that goes on in dating, and certainly that's responsible for a lot of the complaints you see, but situationships are also mutually popular up until a point for a reason. The less people value independent lifestyles and casual dating or the more they've been burned by catching fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:54 PM
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That's not really how it works out when you're higher SMP. Rather, the lower SMP person gets insecure more often and assumes the higher SMP partner is going to leave, or that they aren't good enough, or that the higher SMP partner isn't really into them. This is exhausting to deal with for the higher SMP partner. And it can affect the sexual relationship in such a way that the lower SMP partner holds back or feels less confident, because they feel like they can't perform sexually when they're fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:25 PM
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Most of it is about people living more isolated lifestyles, and not regularly being around the opposite gender in a community, social, or goal-oriented setting. That's like 99% of the issue for 99% of the people who are having issues. Dating apps don't fill this gap for them and probably aren't their thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:12 PM
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People usually learn to stop chasing unavailable partners through experience if they want to be someone's priority and don't want to feel used. Most women aren't giving glowing reviews about men who keep rosters and manipulate women into thinking they can have more with him rather than disclosing that he just wants to remain single and play around. The areas of dating where that's disclosed, wanted, and ethical exist, but they're fairly niche. Outside of that, there's a lot of unhappiness and di…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:59 AM
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You should have standards. Just keep in mind that half of a relationship is building things with another person, meaning people shouldn't be looking for their 100% perfect match out of the box. In a way, expecting that is expecting to deserve something you didn't earn by actually living life alongside them and developing the relationship with them. I think the way to do it is to start with your most important standards, and then for the rest you see whether someone is willing to consider them in…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:53 AM
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I cherish being alone. I cherish my freedom to do what I want. I love how things "don't matter". I cherish not being responsible for a wife and kids. Every time I was in a relationship, the only thing I got out of it was anxiety, agony and heartbreak. I felt chained down to the Earth, and I always felt so guilty about the things I did wrong. I want none of that anymore. This is quite honestly why situationships really exist. If you can have an independent lifestyle and do ok, what you quickly re…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:44 AM
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Not just guys. As a guy, women I'm not into putting their hands on me is an awful experience. I've had women get mad that I didn't want them to touch me. Intimately. In public. It's not a good experience. It's not flattering. It's degrading, creepy, and alarms you to what else they might do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 06:10 AM
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Once a month for a few months when she happens to think of you isn't reliable or the kind of situation you really want if you want regular quality sex. Quantity is not greater than quality, and I think the more experience someone has the more they realize this. Basically, the assumption that most men want to be out there constantly looking for one night stands is wrong. Or that it's better to juggle 10 women rather than focus on women you're more compatible with. The logistics, effort, and likel…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:31 PM
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This is actually very true, except it's not that they rationally and logically decide those women don't count, it's that those women are actually invisible to their sexual fantasies. Half of those circles of thought are based around sexual fantasy angst and jealousy, but a lot of them don't realize it. The fantasies they believe in are really unhealthy for them and don't help them find success in dating, but I suspect a lot of them aren't really trying to date, because real life experience tends…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:23 PM
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It gets boring after a while and you move to build a good relationship because it has long term value. This right here. It also gets tiring after a while. People are work. Situationships are work. The more temporary a fling, FWB, or situationship is, the more overall time and energy you're spending because you're building that new situation from the ground up again and again. When you're passionate about it, it's easy. It's fun. But the moment you wish you had something regular, closer, or a per…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:06 PM
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1: It's incredibly hard for most men timewise and energy wise to have multiple situationships. It isn't glamorous, or easy, or anything at all like social media cliches. There's a lot of relationship-like things that come up in situationships. And there are only two types of men who can maintain multiple situationships at once; men who spend enormous amounts of time on their partners and happen to be non-monogamous, and men who spend enormous amounts of time looking for new partners because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:48 PM
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I think if someone's that distrustful of their date, they shouldn't go on the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:19 AM
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I don't know what you're talking about. Who said anything about physical fitness, or lying for that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:46 PM
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Absolutely true. I would never choose an uptight venue, as that's not a fun time for me usually. As a man I do those things for someone I'm serious about who I want to be my girlfriend. My official girlfriend can expect me to dress up and go do cultured things with her that aren't my first choice. First dates cannot. On first dates I'm having fun, or I'm not going on them. It's where the mantra of "If he was really into you he would..." fails on every level. I want someone who has their own inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:42 PM
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I think naturally seeing those things in time is fine, but setting out to set up tests for observation is not a great thing. The date should be about personal chemistry, and I don't think people can really experience a date how they need to if they're in observation and assessment mode. It's one of the problems with the obsession with what is or isn't a red flag. Ultimately if something rubs you the wrong way, you're going to notice and wonder, so just relax and enjoy the date and pick a venue t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:25 PM
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Not so much casual sex, but comfortable sex and having his needs regularly met, yes. Though I think most men who want that are fine with thinking of it as a situationship and often aren't running a roster of multiple women. It's usually more that they're focused on all other aspects of their bachelor lifestyle or career. She's more or less his monogamous girlfriend a lot of the time, just without being a larger or more official part of his life. Exceptions do occur of course. And it works both w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:22 PM
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Restaurant culture can't really be compared to the rest of dating. It really does have a deeply entrenched culture of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:43 AM
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Situationships are often initiated and wanted (for a time) by both partners. They're safer, both emotionally and in being unintrusive to independent lifestyles. They're also often monogamous. I'd say they're far more common now than in the past just due to how comfortable people are being independent these days, even though they did exist before as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:41 AM
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A lot of situationships are monogamous. Rosters are more a FWB and casual sex scene. Meaning one partner is the average number for both men and women in situationships. It's essentially a comfortable relationship where one or both partners has reached their limit on progressing the relationship for the time being or entirely. Squeaky wheels are more loud, and it's in a situationship's nature to need to progress over time, which is why complaints are seen online. People who part amicably or progr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:27 AM
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The majority of the weight of the mass which exists on Earth isn't by your side. Add in the dimension of time and the ratio only grows. If experiences are collections of conscious mass multiplied by sufficient spans of time, then the bulk of experiences also exist not by your side, provided you subscribe to an objectivist viewpoint. Therefor it's just as probable or more probable that the weight of me disagreeing, whether in importance or by the actual weight of the conscious mass involved, is e…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:09 AM
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I firmly disagree that IRL very real in the flesh single mothers have all been saying that for 30 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:04 PM
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Single moms you date don't usually get up on soapboxes and tell you how useless fatherhood is or whatever cliches you hear from social media influencers. Instead the negative aspects you'll sometimes deal with are more related to issues divorcees have including bitterness about the divorce or bucking against whatever their partner was like, having the other parent in the picture in some way that burdens their dating life or leads to venting to their dates about it, or a lack of desire to commit …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:27 PM
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It's mostly about the offloading of all responsibility onto women to be psychics and entirely responsible for how any man she sleeps with acts in those spheres of thought. If a man is a serial cheater, or divorces his wife to trade up because he lacks commitment, they'll still blame her as if she chose wrong, which is a ridiculous standard of psychic ability and future-telling that no man or women possesses or can hope to meet. They don't have a consistent stance when it comes to the hardships a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:43 PM
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Your post title says "As long as they desire". When people date, it's because they desire to date. Therefor the answer to why single mothers date is because they desire to date. You're acting like there's a contradiction there in an illogical way, and there's not. Your second claim is "women claim that they don't mind being single". This again is illogical. The correct statement is "Some women claim they don't mind being single". But still, finding a contradiction in that is also illogical, beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:09 PM
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If you are willing to commit to a man, don't treat him like a subhuman/consolation prize. If you're being treated like that in a relationship, leave the relationship. That isn't a problem with women. Both genders have toxic people who act that way, and even non-toxic people sometimes let their own bad habits or disregard for a partner slip the more familiar they are with them or the more stressed in life they are. There's no widespread phenomenon of women specifically treating their long term bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 07:53 PM
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He** several admitted verbally that i was TOO good looking for them This is a red flag for both men and women, and it's also why more attractive doesn't mean less loyal or less secure in the relationship, and why less attractive doesn't mean more sure, more secure, or more loyal. Insecure people in general are poor relationship bets, so when someone communicates that they feel you're too good looking for them it's a bad sign no matter what they look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 07:16 AM
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In the world, in real life, people know that people date who they're attracted to. Most people are not confused about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:36 PM
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There is no gaslighting. It just goes without saying that people date who they're attracted to in some way. There's nothing wrong with that. Women aren't avoiding saying it. They just assume you know, in the same way you assume a man who asks a woman out is probably attracted to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:58 PM
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Why would all treatment be equal when it comes to personal attraction between two people? It goes without saying that people want to be with people they're actually attracted to. This isn't an employment opportunity, it's dating and relationships. And most people can and do find others who are attracted to them. You don't have to be the most physically attractive person to have others attracted to you, unless you're chasing the idea of dating lots of people for meaningless flings. I don't doubt …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:30 PM
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This is more accurate. The janitor also mingled more, flirted better, and appeared more fun and interested in her as a peer. And since his schedule isn't quite as crazy, he has time to keep himself on her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:32 AM
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Maybe. Unless she feels like something is off with you, like if she decides you have a transactional nature in the relationship, or if you try to make her feel guilty or hold anything you've done for her over her head as leverage to get things. Most women don't want to find out later that their boyfriend was in it for a "return on investment". Relationships aren't investments to use for personal gain. Have you ever done something for someone just because you cared for them, because you wanted th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:08 PM
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I think I would be willing to do those things provided the woman also does. It doesn't always work that way though. Sometimes she's just going to be having a hard week or month, and it's your job to understand that and support her. Yes, you assume that overall she's also caring for you in the relationship, but there's no short term transactional nature to it. You're also not the same people, so there are things you're going to be doing that she can't, and you'll have different ways of caring for…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:19 PM
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Being a boyfriend requires a lot more effort. FWB, situationships, and casual dating are all much easier, effort wise. Personally I don't think you can pull it off if you view relationships as a "return on investment" like you said. You're going to have to provide emotional support, spend quality time, be there for them, and show genuine care if you want a real relationship. If you don't, there will be relationship problems and you'll have to spend time and effort working on those problems. Beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:58 PM
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They're probably showing concern for the woman you'd be in a relationship with, and whether that would be a good situation for them. In your other comments you're talking about ROI and what you can get from a woman. You used the term Return On Investment to describe your view of relationships. Do you develop romantic feelings for your partners, and are you going to care about the woman you want a relationship with?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:42 PM
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Even if OP's hypothesis were true, it's advantageous in life to believe you're special in some way since it's an internal motivator that will increase your chances of achieving your goals if you actually act on that belief towards your goals. "The universe" doesn't deliver or actualize success from belief, but humans through their actions sure do, and motivation is pure fuel for that. There's nothing wrong with a woman believing she deserves someone special because she considers herself special.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:54 PM
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You can't really blame women for learning important lessons in dating, such as that some men are just users who will say anything to get laid, or that some men will stick around for sex with no intentions of ever getting serious with them. It's up to everyone how much baggage they want to put up with though, as well as what they consider baggage. Nobody enjoys jumping through hoops, and finding that someone is bitter and jaded is one of the least sexiest attributes in dating, for both men and wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 06:11 PM
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It's not even a good blueprint for a FWB relationship. I mean is anyone with actual experience here reading OP's post and thinking "Wow you did great"? It doesn't read that way to me as a sexually experienced man who's had a lot of different kinds of relationships. It just doesn't impress me very much or strike me as exuding any kind of particular capability in maintaining a positive FWB relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:45 PM
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There's a wide field between one night stands and marriage where personality matters. Most people aren't into one night stands because it's usually poorer sex, more abusers and users, and just not worth the energy. It's also more risky if you do it a lot. In fact OP is an example of why many women consider it not worth it. Not to mention OP's whole way of being is terrible for maintaining a FWB relationship. If you're neglectful and constantly acting disinterested, you're not really going to kee…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:44 PM
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The whole post reads as "Wow I manipulated people and it worked!". Yes, emulating a narcissist will get a certain segment of the population temporarily behaving to gain your attention more. It's disordered behavior though, and will usually just lead to toxic relationships or people hating you. It isn't as if people are incapable of realizing what you're doing, so you're basically just smug over running a con that has no longer term viability and exhausts your reputation anywhere you do it. I'm g…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:35 PM
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What kind of experience do you have in wilderness survival or starting a village from scratch?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:02 AM
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2023 and people are still using the "Why don't you leave an advanced civilization with industries that make life better in every way to go struggle to survive on an island" argument. I am an actual manly man who backbacks, hikes, camps, grows food, does carpentry, and has a wide range of outdoors skills, and I can tell you right now that any man who suggests people should go survive and build a civilization from scratch on an island or in the wilderness has never in their life roughed it or done…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:28 AM
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You're saying the justice system there worked though. So why wouldn't you believe the justice system is working in the Tate case? And why do people follow people like Tate anyways. You know all their "I have cars, look at me" hype is marketing right? It's literally a social media strategy to appeal to guys who think that's how they can fill the hole in their soul, and think that they'll get it if they follow these people. But they're just the consumer. They're never going to be the guy with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:13 AM
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The myth of total independence and shunning of the concept of community, family, or social capability over independence is actually just as responsible for how lost some men are as anything else. Just look at men who focused entirely on their career who don't understand why their independence (money, which is the vehicle of independence in our society) isn't buying them relationships. These men lack community, social skills, and relationship skills. It's not that they can't be "real men" well en…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 10:30 AM
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It's somewhere in the realm of what it actually feels like once you've had enough casual sex. It's a lot better to just have a girlfriend or regular sexual partner you like, rather than running around having casual sex with a lot of people. Quality wise, casual sex is hit or miss and loses its novelty, and it's more worth putting your energy into partners you're more committed to. The thing I find inaccurate about the post is that there's no mention of drama. When you have lots of casual sex and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:59 AM
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Hollywood is just trying to sell movies, and Youtube is just trying to maximize engagement while being sponsor-friendly. There isn't really much more going on than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:48 AM
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When I was single I never really went out on “dates” at all. I found that hooking up just happened naturally after hanging out with coworkers and acquaintances. It's really no different in the US. A lot of men no longer date traditionally at the start. They hang out with women, and reserve what might resemble traditional dating for the start of relationships. Usually by the time a woman who's already hanging out with you and having sex with you wants traditional dating, it's because she wants a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:31 AM
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They do if they're not successful in dating, as it's extremely common for men in that position who focused on their careers to think the career would buy them a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:17 AM
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Dinner for two is only £20 there?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:51 AM
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If she doesn't want to talk to you, that's your cue to leave. It's different if you've both been engaging in a conversation on an app, have gone on a date, and then she's forgetting to text you. In that situation you can send a mature message, pointing out that you noticed she's stop responding and asking her if she's still interested. If she's interested she'll appreciate the message and let you know what's going on. If she's not, you'll move on quicker. But if you have nothing to do with her a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:44 AM
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They really can't. It's entirely different actually, and men who actively put themselves in the physical vicinity of women as peers tend to have a large degree of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:42 AM
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Of course they do. It's just called compatibility. The "entry standard" for most people of both genders is connecting in a conversation and developing attraction. If there's no attraction there's no relationship to be had. Women don't have particularly high standards. Neither do men. Much of the population gets into relationships based on attraction and chemistry, and deals with their other standards in the relationship from there. There's no reason a less successful man can't find a long term g…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:40 AM
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Most women don't want to be objectified like that and don't think of themselves as a prize for men to need like an object. Their first instinct as intelligent individuals will be to ask themselves how you'd even know if they were rare or a gem, and that will remind them of all the other men who knew nothing about them and approached them like an objectified gem as well. They will think you are after sex. Part of the charm in being charming is connecting to someone in a personal way, vis a vis no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:15 AM
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