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Psychological_Art823/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 01:39 AM
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This is the way. Its the realest of grinds.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 07:49 PM
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Sounds like whilst you were making best efforts to improve yourself, thinking of her and planning nice things to bring you back together she was already done. This is pretty standard practice. Back yourself now bud. Let her go. You tried to correct things but your not being met halfway. Time to put all that effort back into you and your future.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 08:45 PM
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Yea dont delay further. Based on whays been said, call it. Lawyer up and start moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 08:42 PM
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Same same.. Its alright bud we live and learn. Even if we have to do it the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 08:37 PM
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Correct answer.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 11:11 AM
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Following.. ive got no idea haha
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 11:37 AM
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Some other common themes, everything can be used against you. Regardless of how good you are, be prepared to have shit thrown back in your face. Dont believe things will be amicable. As said they often have things planned out months if not years in advance. When things dont go to plan for them be prepared for mental warfare. Majority of cases being the nice guy doesnt help at all. Kindness will be taken for weakness. Once they are done, they are fkn done. Dont fool yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 07:24 AM
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Does anyone else find it kind of bizarre. I use to assume all relationships are unique. When you see the reoccuring themes, behaviours, tactics and impacts of divorce its almost like some twisted script. I feel like Im on The Truman Show. Everything seems like a set up lately.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 07:20 AM
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Yea bud it hurts, your not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 07:13 AM
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How about "loves not enough". Still fuckin hurts :/
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 07:12 AM
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Oh yea this one too. New roof on the house 15k. Literally had already made her mind up.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 07:11 AM
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Damn..
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 07:10 AM
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Dude over a year, mines been officially going since Jan and Im already worn out. Please take a moment to appreciate how strong you are. It sounds like youve been through some major shit. All I can say is please look after yourself. This will end at some point. Everything your going through is making you a better man. I hope you can finish up with her soon, start your new life. Find peace and happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 06:39 AM
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It really is scary how much it can impact your health, social life, finances and employment. I knew it would be tough but didnt expect this. Keep going everyone.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 09:41 PM
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Yea bud, its dark for a lot of us. Divorce leaves a trail of destruction. Most of the great men here, are/have dug themselves out of massive emotional/mental/financial/logistical nightmares.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 04:17 AM
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Dude forget about that its nothing. Take stock of everything thats happened. Start letting go as soon as you can.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 04:15 AM
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Your welcome bud. I found bouncing stuff off of others here very useful. Some really good guys in this community. Sometimes affirmation, positive words and hearing things you know worded differently can be calming and help manage things.. even if its only temporary. Its gonna be a lot of bumps on the road but keep going. The sun will shine on us again.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 04:02 AM
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Hey bro, Look Im pretty much in the same boat. Dealt with massive anxiety that has more recently turned into depression. First of all Im glad to hear your getting help and trying some meds. Before any of my nasty divorce related stuff went down I never thought Id be in therapy or on meds. Reality is your in a shit situation and need to do everything possible to get yourself through without taking more damage than is needed. Doing those small things like opening up new accounts and getting things…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:30 AM
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Yea man just keep going. Your dealing with a bunch of shit rn. Give yourself credit. Keep doing all those things that are helping manage ypur anxiety. Good work taking a step back and seeing all the moving parts. Your doing great. Just keep going. Look after yourself as best as you can. Things will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:08 AM
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Massive W. Thats all I want rn.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:02 AM
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No time for that at all.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 12:20 AM
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Damn, relate to a lot it. Wasting away on my end as well. Doomscrolling before gym sums me up. Fuck hopefully we both dont end up a statistic.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 12:18 AM
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If your doing it for religous reasons makes total sense. Its all personal choice. I dont see any benefits to consuming porn regularly, in fact could argue it can be harmful. Depends on the individual. Porn and masturbation are two seperate issues. To be honest Id quit porn a long time ago. I went back to it around a year before seperation as my sexual relationship with ex was dead in the water well before the end. Sex was weaponised. Post seperation, I noticed my consumption increasing. I also n…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 04:12 AM
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Im not a big social media guy so not much of a problem in that sense. I decided to deactivate all mine while i go through the process. Take a mental break. Already got enough going on, dont need input from people or reminders.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 12:34 AM
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Thanks bro, needed to hear it this morning after another shitty sleep. Have my dounts but trying to stay positive.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 09:10 PM
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Literally exactly the same feelings and understandings at this point. Same time frame too.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 09:08 PM
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So happy for you dude. Congrats on making it through to other side. Sounds like you went through some serious bs. Hopefully i can make it there too.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 11:59 AM
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Enough to make you question reality itself. Its really fuckin crazy. Your not alone brother. All the best with everything.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 07:59 AM
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The ultimate test of all social constructs.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 03:02 AM
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One of the powerful outcomes of my situation (losing mostly everything material and hitting rock bottom) is the true nature of everything has revealed itself. People have surprised me in both negative and positive ways. I dont place judgement on those who have dissapointed. It wont change the way I feel about them. You never know what they have been dealing with, their capacity to understand/deal with crisis and how your trauma impacts upon them. I do have a special place in my heart for those t…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 03:01 AM
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Brother your still going through the logistical part of it all (me too). The rumination is so hard. Going around in circles with thoughts is brutal. Keep dealing with shit and moving forqard, sounds like your getting close to wrapping it all up. Hopefully then can break some of the cycles and move to the next phase lf healing. Its frustrating and exhausting but you will get there. Watched The Joker last night. "All I have are negative thoughts"
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 07:21 AM
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Exactly how i feel put myself through hell, I dont need her help.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 02:04 PM
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Absolutely.. dealt/dealing with it frequently. Its been hard to come to terms with. In my situation mistakes were made by both of us. For a long time there it was easier for me to take on all the blame rather to actually understand what happened and acknowledge how bad she hurt me. This was also made worst in that she initially didnt take any responsibility in what happened, only spoke on my part and the legal process. Keep in mind these emotions are very powerul. They eat you alive if you stay …
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 12:38 PM
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Im the same, always learn the hard way. I do learn though!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 01:38 PM
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Yes! Im working on it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 01:37 PM
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Great answer imo. Learn the lesson, let go of the anger. Rebuild. Im still working on it but getting closer.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 01:36 PM
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Yea A is me as well. Take the L it was my decision to ger involved with her and control of finances. Never again, amen.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 01:34 PM
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It sounds pretty bad bud. Roommate scenario involving not communicating is soul destroying. I know how it is. Given the nature and length of the disputes as well as her not wanting to work on things, it sounds like be best for everyone if it were over. I dont say that lightly though if you her love and think something can be done to fix things Id advise going all in on those options first. Its very hard to see the whole picture when your in the middle of it. Its great that your doing therapy and…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:05 AM
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Leaves path of blood and destruction How ya doing?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 06:18 AM
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Fool me once.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 11:33 PM
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Brother its been a year and I dont even look at em anymore lol
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 11:20 PM
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Pain.. not willing to take a chance again.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 11:14 PM
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Thanks brother
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 10:14 PM
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I dont think youll have any trouble getting it back. Look fingera crossed for you but that money and potentially least a bit more is gone.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 12:04 PM
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Haha me too
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 12:02 PM
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Damn this hits. I hope I can do one of these some day
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 09:02 AM
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Yea same drank twice in 9 months both were bad. Def not whats needed, doesnt help anything.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 11:43 PM
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No need to be ashamed. Thats self inflicted punishment. You can continue to do that but you dont deserve it. No matter what happened its done. Help group, support systems and therapy could all be very useful for the next period. Make a commitment to go sober for a while. Alccohol is not what you need rn. Set a goal. You need to exercise in whatever form you enjoy best. Set a sleep schedule. Eat well and look after yourself. Your not alone divorce is hell for mostly everyone here. Going through i…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 11:41 PM
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Ultimately its your decision, I think its best if you put all efforts in to trying to make the right choice for you and the kids. I didnt have kids in mine so on the side of things everything was a lot easier. The current state of your situation is not good, on paper from the outside your heading for disaster sooner or later. If its worth it to you and shes willing Id probably dedicate the next the 6 months (at least) to improving things. Sounds like a lot of distance between you guys. It wont g…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:40 PM
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Note to self: also forgot about the shit talking behind my back without every mentioning it to me. Declined counselling when things had started to get rough. Treated me like a roommate/house keepee.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 04:09 PM
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Yea roommates for close to two years.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 04:06 PM
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Oh yea this one too. Forgot that part. Talking shit behind my back and never even mentioning it to me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 04:05 PM
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Dude it breaks my heart to read this. Im going through my own and its been nothing but brutal. Ive had several panic attacks during the process, they are horrible. Your not a pussy bro, your going through a lot of fucking shit rn. Your in the eye of the storm. I know this fuckin sucks man. But you need to find the strength, you deserve a chance at a new life and your kids need you. Your gonna have negative thoughts but you need to try and catch them. Rumination is a bitch. I say this as person w…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 03:58 PM
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Yea her broken relationships with immediate family members. Her jokes at my expense in front of friends and family. Not respecting my time. Not meeting halfway on anything. Overly friendly with male coworkers. Plenty of red flags. I take my fault in it though. Just assumed we would always get back to a good place. Lost respect for myself for not addressing the issues and taking it all.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 09:20 AM
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The time thing is huge. Total disrespect respect regarding arrangements and routines. Just got worst and worst. I also tried to frame it as her being very busy at work, in reality I was just low on the priority list.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 09:16 AM
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Brother im coming up on 9 months in. Its been the worst year of my life. At times it feels as though my life has stopped and everyone else is living. I think I understand the painful weird place your describing. Its horrible. The stress and anxiety takes many physical forms. For me ive had major dramas sleeling, appetite issues, social anxiety and even suicidal ideations. Working out has always been important for me. Now more than ever. I go to gym in the evenings and have a cold shower when im …
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 03:09 AM
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You sound very rational. Seems like your already aware this could go eithed way. Agreed ignoring and walking the same path will only lead to heartbreak and grief. All im saying is protect yourself. Dont get blindsided. Wishing you all the best.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 01:28 PM
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Look at this as total reset. You need an income as said anything will do for now. Be prepared to live by extremely minimal means. I dont know what your options are legally but if you can access some legal aid start there. This isnt going to be easy. Its never easy regardless of how much backing you have. Dudes here have had houses, cash, good credit and still ended up sleeping on couches and struggling for long periods. Wishing you all the best. Buckle up and work on getting it done. You owe it …
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 11:55 AM
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I havent delt with a situation like this so cant offer too much. My only thoughts are if shes previously expressed wanting to end it. Be very careful, shes most likely already planned an exit and a future without you. Could be a chance shes just waiting for the right time that suits her. Watch your back. If this is gonna work out you both need to be willing to work on things, identify root cause of all the issues and be open and honest about everything thats going om.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 11:49 AM
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Yea nah fuck that noise. Not to underestimate the difficulty of the situation but take control now. Make a plan and start taking action. If its going to get ugly its going to happen regardless of how much you put it off. Please save yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 11:44 AM
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Danggg a rug in a mosh pit.. hit me right in the feels. Thats me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 11:42 AM
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Thank you, yea its been pretty brutal. Same to you, wishing you all the best.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 11:08 AM
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It ended badly bud. Going through the process of divorce atm.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 10:31 AM
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I teared up reading this. I have a few bands and particular songs I cant listen to anymore. Its brutal, I feel physical pain when I try. I really hope I can make it there too bud, congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:28 AM
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Life after Death Wishing you all the best!
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:25 AM
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Hey mate, First of all sorry to hear about everything you been through. Sadly the bs dv claims are not uncommon. I was shocked when I found out mine was claiming to be scared of me. We had zero history of any kind of violence or abuse and I had been bending over backwards to try keep things amicable. Seems like your already aware but your gonna go through some ugly shit now. How you doing emotionally? Hows the mental health? Its rough, no two ways about it. Shitty situation. I hope the place you…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:07 AM
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So good bro, hats off to you for getting through it. I dont know how people do it. Wishing peace, freedom and love. Praying for the same.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:00 AM
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People change it wasnt always bad. I did however ignore red flags, let my boundaries get pissed on and in general bowed down and lost myself trying to do what she wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 02:59 AM
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Never get tired of these. Bloodied, down and out after last week. Need to dust myself off and get back in it this week.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 02:56 AM
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Yea very similar, asked for everything dating back to 2010. Got into shit that she already knows nothing there. Maliciously compliant is a good way to put it. Yea our situation is clearly a two fault thing. We both could have done better. Its evident to everyone looking in that it was a two to tango scenario. Yea its already been exposed for the most part. It sucks but im trying to deal with it. Hopefully man I havent at any stage tried to go for max. Never been my intention was just hoping to g…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 10:09 PM
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Dude she broke me. I was blindsided, I sacrificed everything for her. I already offered her objectively more than whats fair. Im just so hurt I just want to be done. She still going for more and trying shame me for any and all problems Ive ever had. Yea I tried to take the high road and got shit on. Had it all thrown back in my facw. Yea the signs were there. I did ignore them, I never intended to give up on her. Never thought she was capable of any of this. Appreciate the post. Its 12:15am here…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 02:46 PM
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Def keen on connecting with strong men. Reintograting into a good community is probably what I need right now. Im disgusted with women and the thought of a relationship rn so im good on all that side haha
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 01:37 PM
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Agreed, was a real let down this weekend. Hadnt had a drop for 6 months and then downed a bottle. No intention of drinking any time soon. I cant handle the rebound effect either. I studied health sciences so im aware of the biology as well. Just makes me feel silly and guilty.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 01:36 PM
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Yea I live in a small community and still dealing with a lot of guilt and shame from the whole thing. I probably should commit to Sunday mornings. I previously said I wouldnt isolate but ive slippes back into it again. I need a few more options for when my brains sabotaging. Im struggling to work out whats best for my healing. Although resting and taking breaks from everything seems logical its not the way for me. Thanks again
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:57 PM
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Happy Father's day to all. My prayers and thoughts to all recently single dads going through it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:10 PM
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Yea its tough to look back on. Im glad to hear you say that about kids. You always have that to lean on. In my situation she took zero responsibility for anything. It didnt matter that she had put me on the back burner for years, wouldnt meet halfway on anything, bitched about me to all her friends and had emotional relationships with other dudes. I had my issues too, was far from perfect. I owned them though, I wanted to work on things with her way before the seperation but I was too naive. She…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:57 AM
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40k for a song and dance in hell.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:46 AM
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What a joke. Its sickening. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:45 AM
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I know its scary. A lovely guy I knew through social circles ended it all last year following his divorce. He lost his business (which he absolutely loved) and was knee deep in debt. The last time I spoke to him he was talking about needing to appreciate the little things. I wasnt going through mine yet. I didnt know how much trouble he was in. Yea its crazy I was feeling pretty sorry for myself. Come to realise actually nothing particularly out of the ordinary. They often plan for months in adv…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:44 AM
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Im 8 months out from seperation. Time has slipped away. It does suck.. really bad. Working through the legal shit, dealing with unreasonable demands and a weird narrative thats been created. I agree you do have to chose options, thought processes and habits that make it suck a bit less. Even if it seems insignificant Im becoming more aware of how it all adds up. Hardening up in certain places and softening up in others resonates strongly. I understand exactly what you mean. Ive done poorly with …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:37 AM
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Damn im really sorry. Yea im through the broken sleep phase for now. That was brutal, honestly month 5/6 was probably the peak of it. I was a walking zombie. At that stage I almost needed to sleep all weekend just to go again for another work week. Yea its like that. I guess you can only handle so much of it at a time. Kinda like dealing with it in pieces. I noticed the more time has passed, I can see more of the whole picture of what happened. Its interesting as emotions shift around, go back a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:30 AM
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Thanks bud, I really really hope so.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:24 AM
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Yea damn, Ive found for whatever reason finishing work on Fridays is really triggering. Maybe its seeing everyone happy, looking forward to things. Knowing Im alone and have nothing to return too. Ive sat in my car and cried the whole way home. I also had one occassion ended up driving into the city and sat on top of a tall building all night. Yea Ive been living pretty clean but im still sleeping my weekends away. I had trouble sleeping first few months and now I feel like I could sleep almost …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:22 AM
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Thanks, I took it hard as it was a pretty random slip up. Didnt plan it and the whole day just kinda snowballed. I really hope things get better soon. Will have to wait and see. Yea i think idea will be to find something in addition to my 9-5. If I cant fine anything Im thinking ill volunteer at an animal shelter. Yea I know its a simple concept but learning the hardway that down time really works against me at the moment. I guess I get tired during the week and assume a weekend of watching TV a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 07:46 AM
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Yea agreed down time is the worst. Ill see if i can find any local support groups been thinking about it. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 07:39 AM
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Thanks mate, bitterly disappointed about this weekend. Feels like a huge step backwards. Was really enjoying being sober and living 100% clean. Got a therapist going, hopefully time continues to help move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 03:47 AM
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Thanks brother yea trying to navigate my way through this one. Yea im also looking into volunteering at my local animal shelter. Something I use to do. Much appreciated.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 03:44 AM
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Yea I know how it goes, many of us do. Look it sucks but its highly likely she was gonna do what she wanted to do regardless. I really hope you dont beat yourself up too bad.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:55 AM
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Im not there yet. Still a bit unclear what the financial outcomes will be but i should get a decent chuck of money put of the house. Been living by extremely minimal means for a while now (saving everything for legal fees). Honestly gotten use to it and its not even close to being the worst part of all this. Peace, relief and not having to deal with her shit would all be amazing gifts. Just thinking about it now (one of the few positive thoughts ive been had this weekend). Some new shoes and an …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:52 AM
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Damm bro thats all im hoping for that and peace. Im not a particularly materialistic person. Just to feel like myself again world be the best present I could get.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:45 AM
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Yea my situation is fucked in that I know she was messaging male coworkers and all times of the day and night. An no they werent talking about work. I dont know if she was cheating for sure but I assume so. In this initial phase go easy on yourself. Its going to rough, im not gonna bs you. Just from reading your posts I can tell your experiencing similar issues to me. Consider everything for the next month damage control and self preservation. Your probably still in a bit of shock. Especially if…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:39 AM
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Again not alone bud. I think one of the worst parts is no timeline. I still cant see the light.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:32 AM
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Hey mate, First of all sorry to hear you up to your neck in this shit as well. As Ive learned, its best to accept the worst case scenario. Try dealing with it from there. Just assume shes with other men now. Im sorry mate but sounds like its completely over. Its gonna take time but you will get there. For the record I still struggle daily with intrusive thoughts. An ruminate on shit. Its horrible and soul destroying. Im 8 months 8 in and still have really bad days. Im in therapy, it hasnt been a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:20 AM
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Yes im battling daily.. not to make things sound overly dramatic but fighring for my life at the moment. As said thanks to all that contribute and have contributed. Particularly those whonare on the other side but still stick around.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 12:24 PM
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Took a few things away from what you said and relate to a lot of it: You def need time to see the entire perspective. Sounds like your seeing the bigger picture now. Not saying its all women but seems to be a repeated theme, they will throw you under the bus to feel vindicated and justify blowing everything up. When they are done with you, they are done. Seems likely those fights were used to initiate the divorce and part of a plan. A lot of us learned the hard way not to ignore the warning sign…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 10:04 PM
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Yea bro your not alone. Heavy suicidal ideation for months.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 09:40 PM
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Without a doubt.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 09:38 PM
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Very nice, he sounds like a good man. Ive got plenty of friends that have offered me a place to sleep. Gotta count your blessings during times like these.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 02:27 PM
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Yea its been brutal but not feeling sorry for myself anymore. Well hopefully you dont have to but its always good to have options. Never forget people who were there for you when you had nothing to offer.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 02:13 PM
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Im still dealing with mine but after conversations with trusted people and hearing a lot of stories here it seems clear that most divorces start amicable and end in blood and tears.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 01:55 PM
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Yup watch your back and cover your ass bro.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 01:52 PM
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Yea +1 ðestroyed me. Just surviving, keeping my job and not doing anything dumb is a win rn.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 01:50 PM
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About 20k in legal fees so far. Probably another 20k to go.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 03:23 AM
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Dont worry your not alone. Ran through my last 20k. Eating cereal for dinner and sleeping on couches.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 03:21 AM
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Yupp add me to the list.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 12:54 PM
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This. Watch your back, they turn quick. I learnedthe hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 12:53 PM
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Hey mate, Been in the battle around same time frame. Im sure your worn down and exhausted by now as well. Despite best efforts to be amicable mine is determined to make this hell for as long as possible. Also looking at losing a ton, plus legal fees. Im still in it so I dont reallt have much in the way of advics for dealing with it. Ive made a lot of mistakes through the process in trying to be a nice guy and make it easier for her, had it all thrown back in my face. All i can say is look after …
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 12:51 PM
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Still in process of sorting it out but same feelings as you. Key ones being too many memories there, too big for me and even though cuuld afford it would limit my freedom and options a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 09:08 AM
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Yea brother horrible horrible feeling. An yea eventually just pass out from exhaustion. The fatigue is really overwhelming too. At times ive been convinced something was really wrong as just walking around was completely exhausting.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 06:34 AM
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Yea im in the same boat. Still in legal process. The first 6 months i would wake up and within a minute or two all the panic, anxiety, fear and grief would hit me like a truck. Im still struggling but can offer a few tips: Stay busy when you can. As said task lists, any little thing you can do for yourself or others is good. Dont put shit off. Work as much as you can. Keep off your phone, no doom scrolling and if your still on socials id recommend taking a break. Stay off alcohol and other drugs…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 10:25 PM
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8 months for me. No sign of happiness. Similar to you, doing all the right things physically. Working a ton. Trying to find my old happy self. Its been tough.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 03:26 AM
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Yea work, gym, home and sleep. On repeat.. its tough..
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 03:23 AM
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Its not for anyone else to say really. Logically speaking based on whats been stated... fuck no.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 09:15 AM
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Sorry to hear brother :( Yea mine took one of the dogs after returning a day early. Didnt give me a chance to say goodbye. It broke me, she didnt care for the dog on a daily basis. I wonder if the dogs being looked after.. i try not to think about it too much but i still have dreams about that dog miss her so much.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:26 AM
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Congrats on the bullshit being over. I hope you can focus on yourself and your life now. I cant wait for mine to be over.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:19 AM
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"Ive read there’s no timeline on grief but I am starting to believe there’s absolutely a timeline on how long people will walk through grief with you" Im 8 months in and Id tend to agree with this. Ive gone through many waves of depression, anxiety and grief. As you would know its not a linear journey. Shit happens, things are done and said, lawyers put their spin on shit. Its not easy to deal with it everyday. Ive noticed family and friends fatigue. In my case Ive had periods of leaning on peop…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 12:09 AM
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Facts.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 07:45 AM
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Same story for me.. hope your handling it better than i am.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 07:40 AM
1

Soul crushing.. its disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 07:40 AM
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I think this is pretty normal. Ride the wave.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 10:18 PM
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Brother honestly sounds brutal. My last nights in place we had bought together were rough (no kids involved). Cant imagine. Im sorry for your pain, its not to be understated. However getting out of there is a big step forward. I assume next period of time will be very difficult. Go easy on yourself, do positive things when you can and allow yourself time. Wishing you all the best.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 02:03 AM
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