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| 3 | Am I 24F letting go a good man 29M?I don't see anything in what you've written that shows he's a leader. If you're having this much stress now, imagine how it would be if you marry him. Dating is the time to see if you're compatible to spend your life with someone, not to try to work on all the things that stress you. My first marriage was to an absent minded clumsy man who expected me to take the man's role and lead. I was miserable, and he couldn't even decide what to wear the next day and I had to pick (no lie, this really hap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/24 04:01 PM |
| 0 | Women look better in minimal makeup, and they look even better with no makeup.You don't understand RP at all. RP women build each other up, we encourage each other to be strong and not put up with bs from men. We don't say we care about all women then make comments like that. We build our daughters up so they know they don't need layers of makeup, or need to settle for a man who won't marry them, or show their body to attract a man. Me being RP means I respect myself and other women too. All of us have traits that others would think is ugly. If you don't think all of us a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Women look better in minimal makeup, and they look even better with no makeup.How sad that women don't build each other up and do things like this instead. I would expect this type of comment from a man, not a fellow woman. This is why I will always say new age feminism is a lie and just noise. Until women actually build each other up, it's all just noise to me. We are our own worst enemies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 03:01 PM |
| 8 | Housework splitThis is why I also make sure my sons pitch in to do housework too. I'm raising someone's husband and father, so it's on me (and my husband) to ensure our sons understand a woman is not their bangmaid. I think most of it comes from their homelife, they were never expected to do housework, and they saw mom doing everything while dad sat back like a king. And mom never stood up for herself and just tolerated poor treatment for years. So now this man has no idea how to be a good partner to his wife. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 02:43 PM |
| 11 | Housework splitIf both of you live there, then both of you are responsible for cleaning. If a woman is a SAHM, of course she'll do more housework, since she doesn't work outside the home. But even in those cases, that doesn't mean the man should just make messes for her to clean up after him, or not assist when he's off. The M in SAHM stands for mom, not maid. In my home, sometimes I do way more housework than my husband. Sometimes he does way more than me. But we also split household chores based on what wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Women look better in minimal makeup, and they look even better with no makeup.I say the same thing. All women are beautiful without makeup. Imo that industry sells expensive lies to women, that they need makeup for whatever reasons. Not to mention the time it takes to put it on each day. And before any women come at me, it's your money you can buy makeup all you want. I'm just giving my opinion here. But you're beautiful without it. I've only worn makeup once in my entire life. My friend kept nagging me about how I should try it out, I would like it, blah blah. So I went … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 01:44 PM |
| 12 | How is life like for women who are post wall? Do men treat you different?I think you should take a break from those RP male spaces. They don't represent men as a whole, and they are such a small minority. It just doesn't seem that way because they're so vocal about it. Do any of the men you know irl think that way? All the men I know irl are RP conservative and they never say those things about any woman. I'm pretty much everything those types of men hate: over 40, tattoos, had kids already, overweight (I'm also very happily married). I've never come across any poor … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/24 01:30 PM |
| -7 | The most toxic form of femininity is women’s refusal to acknowledge or call out poor behavior from their own genderOn PPD, I've never seen that. I've seen men spew hate all over unchecked. It's interesting that whenever anything is said here about a man, even when both genders are included, the statement that was against men always gets picked out. Everything else is ignored. Neither gender ever wants to take accountability for their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 08:57 PM |
| 3 | The most toxic form of femininity is women’s refusal to acknowledge or call out poor behavior from their own genderThe people I know irl? Both genders would tell their friend that. I would tell my friend that if she needed to hear it. Maybe the circle of women I am a part of are more accountable for ourselves. Idk. But it's not a competition as to who sucks at calling out the other more. Both genders suck at it really. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 08:50 PM |
| 16 | The most toxic form of femininity is women’s refusal to acknowledge or call out poor behavior from their own genderBoth genders do a crap job of calling out poor behavior from their own. Not just women, but men too. I know here in PPD it's mostly men who dislike women, but yes it's men too who refuse to call out poor behavior in other men. Women don't call out other women for poor behavior, or acting entitled/childish, or when she's obviously wrong in the relationship. Many women will blame the men for relationship problems, even when it's the woman who is causing these issues. Men don't call out other men f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 08:42 PM |
| 6 | Why do people get personally offended if they aren’t someone’s physical type?Because people are too sensitive and always want to shame others for their preferences. If the person isn't being rude about it, Idk why it matters what preferences they have. Men and women get overly offended over what another person's preferences are. They take it so personally, like this stranger was talking about them directly. Before I got married, I fit a lot of things that many men would not like. But I never got offended because who cares? I want someone who wants a woman like me. I don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 08:33 PM |
| 14 | What to do with unwanted male friend attentionDo you value this friendship more or your soon to be marriage more? You're gonna have to be direct and cut this friendship for the sake of your fiance. How would you feel if he had a female friend like this? You should have told him right away that you're engaged. If he was truly your plutonic friend, he would respect that and either back off, or be ok with just being friends with you. This guy tried to treat you like a fling and now is coming back because he thinks you're still single. You need… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 07:08 PM |
| 8 | How to go about bills when bf wants to pay all of them but struggles?Both of you may be living outside your means. If money is tight right now, it may be a good idea to hold off on trips, gaming controllers, and golf clubs. These types of things can wait until you're out of school and are in a better position. If bills are more with you living there, trips to Africa/Europe and a $300 non essential item shouldn't be necessary right now. He wants to pay the bills and take care of you. So I would suggest for you to pay for other things. Essential things. Cover the f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 06:45 PM |
| 2 | My fiancé’s sister treats me nastilyYou posted this prior and got some really good suggestions. There comes a time where we have to take charge of our own life, and decide what we will put up with, or not put up with. What did he say when you spoke to him about how you're feeling about this situation? What solutions did you and he come up with to ensure this will not continue after marriage? If you and him plan on building your own home after marriage, the only thing is for you to just avoid her until he's out of there. If you con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 05:29 PM |
| – | Questions about men being allowed to cheat after x amount of time with no sexFor real lol. These men all whine and complain as to why they're single and not getting any sex. It's very rare to see a man on PPD that is able to see our side of things too. Who wants to have sex with a man who doesn't see anything from a woman's pov. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 10:57 PM |
| – | Questions about men being allowed to cheat after x amount of time with no sexDon't be obtuse. No, like dismissing her feelings, cursing at her, insulting her, making "jokes" about how her body looks when she does have sex with him, picking his friends over her. I can go on and on. We cannot even get turned on when the man is being like that. Maybe it's different for men? But if he's behaving like a jerk, she should either address it or leave him. And if you're married, and your husband is a great man, there's nothing wrong with giving him some even if you're not in the m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 09:56 PM |
| 3 | I don't want to live with my boyfriend prior to engagement, is this unreasonable?You're doing the right thing. Hold firm and do not live with a man before you're engaged (at minimum). Men who push to live together before marriage only do so because they don't want to actually get married. They just want to live like they're married but without the commitment. If you live with him now, it'll take away his motivation to marry you. And no, you're not going to have a lot of engagements. He's trying to manipulate you, don't fall for it. There are plenty of men who are looking to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/24 09:34 PM |
| – | Questions about men being allowed to cheat after x amount of time with no sexMen and women who advocate cheating for any reason lack integrity. There's no reason to cheat on your spouse. You either try to work it out or you leave. If your wife isn't having sex with you, maybe try talking to her to see if there's an issue before you just go out and break your vows. Maybe it's medical or mental issues. Maybe its because she's exhausted because you leave all housework for her. Maybe it's because she's over you and doesn't want sex with you anymore. You won't know unless you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 08:43 PM |
| 2 | What are the ideal traits of a partnerHis personality first--but not only in the way he treats me. I also look at the way he treats others, such as women who aren't conventionally attractive, or people who cannot do anything for him, or disabled/elderly. I look for men who do not insult people for their outward appearance or life circumstances that are beyond their control. He should be humble and kind, but not afraid to defend himself (verbally, not physically). I don't want a pushover man. I also look at how he handles his emotion… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 07:59 PM |
| 0 | The fundamental difference between misogyny and misandry: against "enlightened centrism"Boys get angry. Men self reflect and take responsibility for themselves. And they get their facts correct if they're going to say things about the other gender. And LOL at your statement, because I don't call myself a feminist at all. I personally believe feminism is poison to women. I'm just a human. Who happens to be a woman too and lived my whole life as a woman. Thank goodness I'm around true men irl. I guess all we can do moving forward is to raise our sons better so they don't hate women, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 07:11 PM |
| 11 | The fundamental difference between misogyny and misandry: against "enlightened centrism"I'm not a feminist nor a liberal so I just want to put that out there before I say anything. But no. Women have not always been able to vote. If you're in the US, there's no way you don't know that. Married women couldn't even have their own credit card or bank account here until sometime in the 1970s. Marital rape only became illegal in all states since the 1990s. Even now, in 2024, there are religious groups here in the US that encourage men to beat their wife if she "misbehaves". This isn't a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Why do red pillers not support non monogamy?RP women and RP men are different too. RP women are looking for monogamy and commitment. RP men are only looking for sleeping with multiple women, but not being honest with them (not all RP men, but many). So that's where it differs from what you're talking about. RP men have "plates", not even women. But you can't change people's minds. Some people have a view of certain lifestyles (whether right or wrong), if it doesn't fit their definition of normal. I'm in a marriage that many people don't a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 06:03 PM |
| – | I don’t want my future husband in the room when I give birthI really hope you'll reconsider this. My husband was my strength during that time, and I ended up needing an emergency csection during my last pregnancy. If he wasn't there with me the whole time, I would've been panicked. Your husband doesn't have to be down where the action is. He can sit near the upper half of your body, rub your head, give you encouragement, feed you ice chips, or whatever else you need. I just wonder why you don't want him seeing you give birth. Of course, it's your decisio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/24 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Found my (26F) boyfriend (30M) has been chatting online with girlsYou're not even married yet and he's doing this. Cut your losses now before you get married, have kids, then he'll have physical affairs while you're home with the kids. I'm very strict in what I consider cheating. To me, cheating isn't just physical. It's also if I caught my husband talking to other women, sneaking on dating sites, kissing another woman. If I'm able to stay 100% faithful to my husband, then he should be able to stay 100% faithful to me. No matter what issues we have in our marr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/24 10:27 PM |
| 5 | Why do red pillers not support non monogamy?Why does it matter if redpill supports it? Just live your life the way you want and who cares if some RP stranger approves or not. Personally Idc if people are poly, as long as everyone in the relationship knows this, and no one's being lied to. It's not for me tho, I expect monogamy. But other consenting adults can live how they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 01:14 AM |
| 4 | No fault divorce but with a twistMost divorced women do not get alimony. Where do you hear that every woman always gets alimony? When I read that stuff, it makes me lol. And usually the men who complain about women taking half their wealth don't even have wealth at all. If a woman gives up her career to be a SAHM, she should get alimony. The problem with so many men who think like this is that they would be ok with leaving the woman who gave up her own career to work inside the home with nothing. As a side note, most no fault d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 12:57 AM |
| – | Ladies, be honest, on a scale of 1-10 how much do looks matter and what physical factors about men most contribute to their attractiveness?Thanks for saying that. I think I'm much older than many people here on PP (I'm in my 40s), so my views on men/women are different than many here. I think porn ruins men and gives them unreasonable expectations of what makes women happy, and what our genitals should look like (women irl do not anal bleach, that's only in porn). We don't like to be pounded. We need foreplay, we need oral sex done to us too. We need a man to know our anatomy, just like we should for men. And a man should be able t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/24 08:33 PM |
| – | Ladies, be honest, on a scale of 1-10 how much do looks matter and what physical factors about men most contribute to their attractiveness?Idky men think we want these huge monster dicks. Big dicks hurt. And it's about using your mouth/tongue more than your dick, since many women cannot orgasm from piv sex alone. As long as the tongue got good motion, Idc if he's packing 3 inches lol. Looks are somewhat important to me, you gotta be attracted to your partner. I care more about how he treats me than his appearance. But appearance does not equal hygiene. No matter what your physical looks are, you gotta take care of yourself. I'm hap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/24 07:46 PM |
| 5 | What exactly is the "blue pill" solution to solving a deadbedroom?First find out the reason your partner doesn't want sex. I'm a woman so I can only speak from a woman's pov. Maybe sex is starting to hurt her, maybe she's developing a mental illness and has sudden low lidibo (that can happen to men too), maybe she's so stressed over external things. Sometimes it's hard to get in the mood if your work is stressing you out, I'm sure it's the same for men. If you have kids, if the husband is lazy and doesn't want to be an involved partner and expects mom to do ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/24 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Acting slightly immoral with women is the best way to actually get quality womenSome women and men do not have good parents, or have abusive parents. But once we grow up, we know what's correct respectful behavior and what's not. We know if we're treating our partner like crap or not. It should not be just on the women all the time. Men should also be self aware. I understand you're not redpill, but true redpill is about taking responsibility for yourself. My husband is redpill conservative, he treats me like a queen. He's aware of his behaviors towards me. All the men I kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Acting slightly immoral with women is the best way to actually get quality womenI have to worry about other things as a woman. Both genders have it difficult in certain ways. But for me and other women I know irl, the only "heavy lifting" we expect from men is to be kind and love us, treat us as a partner. But I realize many women expect unreasonable things from men. Nothing wrong with dating multiple women as long as you're honest with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 11:54 PM |
| 22 | Acting slightly immoral with women is the best way to actually get quality womenI'm just gonna say it... Women who are ok with that deserve what they get. I'm dumbfounded this actually works in real life. Why wouldn't a woman want a "normal" man or a man who will respect her to wait until she's ready for sex. If a man acted like he could discard me at any time or made me feel like an option, I would just let him go. I am confused as to why a woman would be happy feeling like an option. I want to know I'm his one and only, and the woman he loves and values. It's one thing to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 11:44 PM |
| – | True or False: A man with a high OR low body count (relative to age) is generally seen as more unattractiveI would never want a man with a high body count. In fact, I never would want a man who has sex outside of a committed relationship. Me and all the women I know irl want men with very low count. I would rather have a man who isn't very experienced than one that's been with any woman who'll let him hit it. Men with high counts don't value love and intimacy, since they've gotten so much cooch. The actual woman it's attached to doesn't matter to him. Why would he be faithful to me if he can get so m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 10:02 PM |
| 3 | The low bar for men is reflection of women's actual value in dating marketNo, the low bar for men is the fact that too many women put up with nonsense and don't value themselves enough to set higher standards. If a man is treating you like he doesn't care or value you, stop tolerating it. For example, you want a man to marry you. So why the hell would you live with him or have kids with him before marriage? That takes away his motivation to marry you. If you don't want marriage, then whatever. But if you're looking to settle down and he isn't, why do you think having … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 08:50 PM |
| 2 | The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all.Men and women can have whatever standards they want. And it shouldn't matter to others. Regarding the no kids thing. I was a single mom to 3 kids before meeting my husband. I met men who didn't want to date women with kids, and I appreciated their honesty. If you're a single mom, why the hell would you want to date a man who doesn't want women with kids? There are plenty of men who are ok with women who have kids. If you get a man who doesn't want women with kids, all that'll happen is he'll lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 07:10 PM |
| 3 | totally different timelines on marriage and it's only bothering me now, how can I proceed?If he thinks you tricked him because you're setting boundaries and not allowing yourself to be played/strung along, then he can think that. You're 23, you will find a man who wants to marry you and will be proud to show you off to his family. This guy is playing games. Next relationship, be upfront with what you're looking for. You don't want to be in a relationship, or worse yet a marriage, where you're miserable because you're keeping your wants in. Its ok to compromise on some things. But nev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 06:37 PM |
| 2 | totally different timelines on marriage and it's only bothering me now, how can I proceed?He hasn't even told his family about you? That's a huge red banner hitting you right in your face. Personally, if my husband didn't tell his family about me within 4 months of dating, I would've broken it off. I refuse to be a man's secret. I would think he has a partner already or is ashamed of me for some reason or is just using me for sex/cooking/caring for him. You have a couple problems here. One is the fact he's keeping you a secret (and wants you to keep him a secret from yours). Why is h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 06:15 PM |
| – | What are people's thoughts on "love"?I felt like you until I met my husband. Yes there are many men who are using you, or will leave you when a better (to them) woman comes along, or lack integrity to be faithful. But there are also still some very good men out there. There are still a lot of men who are kind, loving, faithful, and want a woman to share his life with. I know my husband is a good man, he stood by me thru a very difficult time I'm going thru. Many other men would not have been there and given the support I needed, it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 01:38 PM |
| 17 | Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition?In my personal experience with friends like this, it's that they were jealous they were single and I was not. Or they had really crappy boyfriends and didn't want to see anyone else happy. They are miserable and instead of working on themselves to find someone, or setting higher standards for men, they try to bring you down too. Not that they necessarily want that man. Me and my friends have a different type of man that we're into, so it's definitely not that they wanted the man I had. It's mess… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/24 12:39 PM |
| 8 | What are some red flags you've personally experienced from the opposite sex?A man who won't take responsibility for his life/problems (it's always someone else's fault), all his exes are crazy, he won't accept no as an answer for small things (he also won't accept no for bigger things), acts rude, gets angry quickly, when you tell him something you want him to work on he then tells you all your problems instead of working on himself, yells/curses at me during a disagreement, leaves during a disagreement (not the same as needing a few minutes to himself), loud and draws … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 01:18 AM |
| 4 | He goes days without texting/communication, situationship w benefits but I want a relationship, what to do? (mid 20's)When a man treats you like an option, remove yourself from his life. Why would you put up with this? Feminists tell women that we have to accept being a FWB and being used for sex, that we're demanding and unreasonable if we want marriage. A HVM would show you that he wants you in his life, he would make steps towards moving the relationship forward, he wouldn't be stringing you along as FWB. I would not put up with this and I suggest you don't either. Block him (he's only a FWB, not even a boyf… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/24 07:22 PM |
| 4 | I have a problem with my bf s sisterHe should not tolerate his sister treating him or you like that. Also, you can stick up for yourself. There's no way I would allow anyone to be rude to me, I would shut it down with the quickness. My husband would never let anyone disrespect me either. Address this before you get married. If he does not stand up to his sister, this will be happening for the rest of your marriage. Spouses should put each other first before everyone else, and he should be showing you that he can put his soon to be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/24 07:10 PM |
| 9 | I don’t want to be fat anymore.Same here OP. I'm about 30lbs overweight right now. My husband does not mind and never says anything, but it bothers me. I actually lost about 15lbs in the past 2 months only by intermittent fasting and doing calisthenics. It's good for women to have some muscle mass too. I start eating at 12pm and stop at 8pm, no exceptions. I mostly eat healthy-ish and we still do take out/junk food since we personally believe life should be about balance. But it still is only in that 8 hour window each day. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/24 11:54 PM |
| 19 | Boyfriend doing dumb things!OP, he's shared a hotel room with these women and didn't even call/text you. I feel it's very inappropriate to have friends of the opposite gender (of course there are some exceptions, like if they grew up together or something). That would be my hill to die on. First, my husband would never disrespect me in such a way. But for the sake of this post, let's say he did. I would clearly tell him it's either he goes on this trip with his female "friends", or he can stay married to me. I'm not a fan … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/24 11:09 PM |
| 3 | When do I give up?A traditional man would not belittle a woman. Traditional men value and appreciate women and the balance we bring to their lives. Take this as a lesson and apply it to your next relationship. And in the future, don't shit test men. No one likes that. Just go slow with him and vet him while dating before you have sex and move in with him. It's not a good idea to move in with a man until you're engaged at minimum. What motivation does he have to marry you if you're giving him everything now? He's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Postpartum woesThank you for sharing this. It's very important for moms to speak up about their feelings post partum, so other new moms know what they're feeling is not wrong or weird. And so new dads can look for these signs in his wife and push her to get help, since often times we don't see these things in ourselves. A baby changes marriage dynamics too, and your list highlights the importance of coming together as a team, instead of competing or fighting all the time. I hope you don't mind if I add somethi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 08:26 PM |
| 5 | ”women expire after 25” no bro ur just into minors.I would strongly suggest staying away from subs or yt channels where the men think that way. That is such a small (very vocal) portion of men. Think about the men you know irl--do any of them feel that way? Probably not. And none of the men I know irl would ever say that nonsense. I'm thankful that the internet was still very new when I was in my 20s. Because men like that would've gotten under my skin too. But now that I'm older, I really don't care what some random hateful man says about women… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/24 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Moving in with boyfriend - dealing with parents?You could also just elope then have a larger ceremony later on for friends and family. Imo, all that matters is getting married. When I married my husband, we got married at a public park by a nonreligious officiant (it was so inexpensive). We had only our closest friends and our kids there. Afterwards, we had dinner at a nice restaurant. It was intimate, and much better than having a ceremony. We took the money we saved and put it towards our house. Friends and family just want to share your sp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Moving in with boyfriend - dealing with parents?If you live with a man before marriage, it will take away his motivation to marry you. When he comes with the ring, then that would be the appropriate time to move in with him. However, you're an adult and don't need your dad's permission or approval to live your life. Personally, I would suggest move in with your grandma or even with a friend instead of the bf | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 10:48 PM |
| 21 | My bf hasn’t picked up any calls or messages in 2 days! Help?I'm going to be very blunt with you here. You are very overbearing and intrusive. That would piss anyone off and make them shut down. If it were reversed and a man was just dropping over your house and refusing to leave, that would be terrifying. I think you really need to consider therapy for this. This type of needy behavior will lead to worse issues with men down the road-because at some point this man will have enough and tell you it's over. So you'll attract toxic men who will take advantag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 10:43 PM |
| 2 | what do you think of loyalty testsIf my husband tested my loyalty, I would be so pissed at him. In order to save the marriage, we would have to attend counseling. If your partner hasn't given you reasons not to trust him, there's no need for any loyalty test. It's manipulative and childish. If I thought my husband was cheating on me, I would just straight up ask him for his phone so I can look thru it. If he refused, that would be my answer and I would proceed accordingly. In my experience, men will usually show you that they la… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 07:58 PM |
| 6 | Husband’s family dynamicsRPW are all different, so you will probably get varied answers here. Me personally, I would not move to a country where I would not be happy, especially if this wasn't mentioned to me in the beginning before I got serious with him. You don't give up who you are just because you're RPW. I understand the need to help your parents/extended family, but your spouse and kids are your primary family and their best interests have to come first. No one should come before your spouse and kids, not even pa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 07:47 PM |
| 5 | “Daddy Issues”, love, trust, and respect for menMy father was not a good dad to me or husband to my mom (my mom wasn't too great either, but that's not the question here). He was abusive to me, then when I tried to tell people about the abuse, he and my mom would say I'm lying and I'm a bad kid (I acted out a lot too due to the abuse). It messed me up in choosing men. I chose abusive, chaotic, emotionally unavailable men. Whenever I met a good man, he was too nice to me and and I wasn't sure what to do with this behavior. So I went back to wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/24 02:11 PM |
| 13 | My bf is angry at me, what do I do?You cannot depend on a man to get you out of your horrible home life, that has to come from you. In regards to your bf, personally I think he may have to working to do on himself as well before he dates/marries anyone. A man should clearly state his boundaries without insulting and attacking his girlfriend. Tbh, I would be pissed if anyone showed up at my home unannounced, except for an emergency. But I wouldn't insult them. I don't think your bf is in the right place to date anyone now until he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/24 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Are male dating coaches ruining modern dating?Nope, it's always us women's fault. These poor men are entitled to any woman they want, and they should be able to treat her like crap if they feel like it. There's no need for these men to work on themselves. It's our fault for not tolerating it. Why take accountability for your actions when it's our fault instead? /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Being girlfriend zoned is worse than being sex zonedIf a woman wants to get married, then they shouldn't have kids nor live with a man until they are married. And they shouldn't do any wifely duties for him until married (not including sex, since you need to testdrive before marriage, lol). If you do, you will take away his motivation to marry you. When I met my now husband, I made it clear we would not have a kid or live together until marriage. I did not pack his lunch for work or do his laundry until we were engaged. There are many men who are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 09:02 PM |
| 12 | Why are some women into 'bad boys'And this is one type of abusive man. Men like this would take advantage of women because they have "daddy issues" or whatever. I've met men like this, they will use your abusive past against you, or say you're making excuses. Ok, you don't like women and can't believe some of us have abusive backgrounds that affect our lives. I get it. The OP asked a question to women, I as a woman answered it. If you don't like my answer, or you cannot get your hateful mind to understand that, well too bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 03:05 PM |
| 9 | Why are some women into 'bad boys'A lot of women who date "bad boys" come from abusive, neglectful homes. Many didn't have strong male role models to show them what a real man is supposed to be. So when she grows up and starts dating, she goes for the type she's been exposed to her whole life. She doesn't know what normal is, or what it means to be treated nicely by a man. Personal story time. I come from a very abusive family of origin. I was also attracted to bad boy types. Whenever I met a good dude, I thought he had ulterior… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?Were you truly a practice boyfriend? Or were you and her just not compatible? Did she want to get married and you did not? That's not being a practice bf, that's just wanting different things from life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 07:43 PM |
| 4 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?how did you get this way? Like, what happened in your life to make you dislike women so much? I don't get it. This whole PP sub has devolved into hating women. Maybe take a look at yourselves if you're attracting crappy women. Ladies, this is why you need to vet carefully. Do not just move in with a man until you're fully sure he loves you and isn't secretly resentful of you, or trying to bully you into anything, or lacks the integrity to be faithful. This is the type of man you get when you mov… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 07:40 PM |
| 10 | I’m so tired of being stuckI come from an abusive family of origin and had no frame of reference for what was normal or abnormal in a relationship. I used to feel like things just happened to me and that I had no control over my life to make things go the way I wanted. That kinda sounds like you. You are wishy washy and seem to have difficulty figuring out what you want. I'm not saying that in a bad way to you, I'm basing it off your comment here. But, at your age, you have to take control of your life. You cannot continu… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/01/24 06:05 PM |
| 8 | What is a red pill and a blue pill opinion you have?Redpill: men need to be more masculine and do a better job at being providers/protectors, take charge, be dominant (NOT controlling or domineering). Women need to be more feminine, stop trying to act like men, and do a better job at taking care of their man. If you want to find a good man or woman, then you need to be the type of person they want to be with. High body counts/promiscuity are gross for both genders. Men and women should not have sex with random people. Your body should be given to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 04:00 PM |
| 7 | Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sexBut do majority of men really care about decorating? That's usually something women care about. None of the men I know irl, including my husband, couldn't care less what decor is in the home. They leave it up to the wives to do what they want. Whenever I ask my husband about a piece of artwork to hang or what color decor, he's like "whatever you think looks best". (nothing wrong with a man who cares about decor, Ijs most men do not) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Where do these things fall in priority to you?43 year old woman: 6/7 (tied), 9, 8, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 09:28 PM |
| 8 | Birth Control AdviceDiaphragm. It's a pain to put in each time, but it's non hormonal. You just have to remember to put the spermicide on it each time. And if you lose or gain weight, you need to be refitted. Once it's in, you don't feel it at all, neither would he. I think you have to leave it in for a certain amount of time after sex, but it's really easy to remove too. I had the IUD and it was a nightmare for my periods. They told me the periods would stop, but they got even worse. And it had to be surgically re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/23 09:21 PM |
| 2 | How do you inspire a man to provide?I suspect you'll get a variety of answers since the meaning of "provider" is different from person to person. Imo, a man being a provider, or wanting to be one, comes from him. It's because he loves his family and wants to provide for them. However, nowadays, it's very difficult for a man to be the sole provider. The families I know irl where the wife stays home have to strictly budge their finances and don't have much money left over for extras. For me, a provider is a man who goes to work ever… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/23 07:14 PM |
| 28 | Do your redpill boyfriends/husbands go down on you?You just posted this on RedPillWives then got snarky with the person who responded to you. I wonder what the purpose of this question is tbh. Men are all different it doesn't matter if they're RP'd or not. If yours isn't going down on you then that's a discussion for you to have with him. If we all said yes, then what difference does it make to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/23 04:45 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a stingy man? Any psychological tricks or tactics to make them more generousYeah I was about to say something similar. OP, using psychological tricks is wrong on so many levels. What if he was doing that to you to get you to put out more or submit to him the way he wants? Either have a direct, serious discussion with him or break up and find a man who's more in line with your views on spending. But to use mental manipulation is crappy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/23 04:41 PM |
| 7 | Career women, "tradwives" and generational poverty.It depends on the woman. I have never dated a man who made more money than me. In fact, my husband makes less than me by about $20,000/year. I don't care because we're married and it's joint money anyway so it doesn't matter who makes more or less. But some women do care. There are also men who feel insulted if the woman makes more money and will try to mistreat her and knock her down a few pegs because he feels some type of way. I think that's the main reason why many women look for men with hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 04:18 PM |
| 21 | I haven't refused sex in months, but he's stopped giving me pleasure in responseSexual pleasure is supposed to go both ways and both people in the relationship should be satisfied. Of course there will be times you're not really in the mood and will give him some to make him happy. But for the most part, you should be getting off too. I suggest talking to him and being very direct about it. He needs to care about your sexual satisfaction as well, not just his. It's not just the man who gets off in every interaction. I know some people wouldn't agree, but I would leave if my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 08:33 PM |
| 8 | Should I give up on the apps?You're very young and many men your age are not looking for anything serious. Even at my age (40s) it's very hard. Before I met my husband, I had to weed out a lot of crappy men. Young men who want serious relationships are out there, you just have to keep searching and be careful. And you don't need to cook/clean for a man to get him to commit. Those are things you do after he commits and shows you he appreciates what you do for him. Don't do nice things for a man who's not taking you seriously… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 04:01 PM |
| 5 | You RPW are worth finding!Exactly. Men want this submissive, feminine woman but are not willing to do their role as protector/provider. Us being RP'd doesn't mean we just give our caring and submissiveness to anyone just because they happen to be a man. It's a gift we give because our husband has shown he values and appreciates us, not just when we're serving him. The man also has roles he has to fulfill and they should take it very seriously. I submit to my husband because he respects me and has done so much for me and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 03:16 PM |
| 3 | should i live miserably? or not and give up on love all together?RP men do not hold the same views as RP women. Many people think we're all the same because we're RP, but we're not. And RP women still have our opinions and express them freely to our husbands, it's not like we're not allowed to ever talk again. You can still be opinionated, it's just the way to express it to your man that's different. The woman shouldn't just say it anyway she wants and be disrespectful. There's a way to state what you need to say. I'm conservative/non feminist and I could nev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 03:02 PM |
| 25 | Considering breaking upYeah, please break up with him. All the ladies here are varying in our interpretation of RPW and what it means to us. But I'm pretty sure no lady here would put up with this treatment. I'm willing to bet even the men that frequent this sub would tell you to leave. Like yeah, there will be ups and downs in every relationship, but your partner should never give you mental stress. A true captain/leader does not want to be the cause of his woman's hurt. A true captain would feel bad taking so much m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 08:37 PM |
| 42 | Considering breaking upYou're doing wife duties and you're not even married, you don't even live together. Why are you paying for so much? Doing his laundry? The worst part of it is him saying that you paying makes him feel special and you should spend money on him because you've dated in the past. That right there is reason to break up with him. He's using you and the sooner you drop him, the better off you'll be. Idk if you think this guy is a leader type-he's not at all. No good man would ever act like this. Stop a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 08:23 PM |
| – | Women, can you describe the guy with whom you've been the most in love with? What was it about that person?This is easy, the man I've been most in love with is my husband. I didn't feel attraction on the first few dates, but I believe that sometimes chemistry isn't instant and takes time. I would say I didn't feel real attraction until maybe the 5th date or so. He's not wealthy at all, in fact I make more than him. I love him because we share the same politics/ethics/morals, he actually listens to my wants/needs, he keeps his word, if I tell him something he's doing is bothering me he works on changi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 03:31 PM |
| – | The “male loneliness epidemic” is a non issueI like how people are calling OP a femcel but it's a man who posted it. All the hate towards women on this sub, god forbid there be one post against men lol. I do think mental health for men needs to be taken more seriously though. Men should feel free to tell someone they're depressed like how women can, and have people care. But if they want to off themselves because they cannot get a woman, that's next level. Maybe all these men who complain about not getting a woman really do need to work on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 07:55 PM |
| – | The “male loneliness epidemic” is a non issueAnd this is why they cannot get a girlfriend. Equating rape and abuse with a man not being entitled to any woman he wants is disgusting. I just hope he shows that same energy irl so women (and any decent man) can avoid him. Men like him are most likely abusive themselves, I'm willing to bet real money he is either verbally or even physically abusive. No even halfway decent man would ever say that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 07:45 PM |
| – | How do average looking guys get 10/10 Western women? Why is there less dating inflation abroad?I'm traditional too, so is my husband. Not to the extent you are, but I'm definitely not liberal/feminist and believe my husband is the captain and HOH. Just like you, being trad has only benefitted me in my marriage. My husband and I are only equal in intelligence, and we take on the household roles for our respective genders (with some variations because I also work fulltime). I'm not a 10/10 whatsoever lol, but one of my very conservative friends is. She's absolutely beautiful. She has an ave… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 05:18 PM |
| 4 | What’s a good body count at almost 30?Are you a man? If so I have a genuine question for you, to get your opinion. Personally, I haven't been with a lot of men because I believe you shouldn't give yourself to just anyone. You need to make sure the person loves and respects you before you take it there with them. But in the case of my friend, or another woman like my friend, who was abused by men and never had a good male role model to show her the right way. Do you think she should be able to find love with a HVM? Or because she's b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 05:02 PM |
| 18 | What’s a good body count at almost 30?One of my good friends has slept with a lot of men. I mean A LOT. She was abused when younger and had very low self esteem. She didn't know how to respect herself/her body. She thought sex was the only good quality she had to give someone. At some point, she realized that her body is precious and should only be given to a man who loves her. The point of my story is that it's not the body count (I hate that phrase), it's how you respect yourself and view sex moving forward. Btw, 3 isn't a lot at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 01:24 PM |
| 11 | I think I triggered his fear of commitment and scared him awayMen who ghost you are showing you how to live without them. Idk about men asking you to be their gf (my now husband never asked, we just assumed both of us were exclusive), but it's always good to have a convo after a few months so there's no misunderstanding about what you and the guy are. I've dated men in the past like that, and when they ghost me, or act like they don't want to be committed, I just cut my losses. Never allow yourself to be strung along by a man who doesn't want what you want… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/23 12:09 AM |
| 15 | Do you believe that religion is a necessary part of being traditional?No. Neither my husband or I are religious at all and we both are traditional (with some variations because I do work fulltime too). In fact, a man not being religious was important to me when looking for a partner, since I wouldn't get along with a man who is very religious. It's incredibly hard to find a traditional man who is not religious. Also, depending on how religious they are, it could also be used to control and abuse the woman (instead of guiding and leading her). To me, it's not about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Family Advice HelpI grew up around narcissists and this sounds like typical behavior. Please note I am not saying your grandma is one, but you did say she's held grudges for years over small comments from other people. Have you seen her exhibit bad behaviors in the past and then you explained it away or disregarded it? Also, depending on how old she is, it could be early dementia or other mental health issues. For me personally, dementia is the only thing I would give a pass for, since having a mental illness lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 06:35 PM |
| 3 | When he hosts his friendsWe don't host anyone lol. But if we did, I would make several dips (both savory and sweet/dessert), boneless and bone in wings, and possibly fruit/veggie tray. And drinks of course!! I would also spend the evening watching the fights too since I used to do MMA hardcore myself until life got in the way and I had to put it on hold. A UFC nite sounds so fun! I hope you all enjoy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Woman who complain about ot being able to find a "good man" just have very high standardsIt depends tho. Before meeting my husband, I did meet men who were interested in my income and thought I would spend money on them. Some men don't realize that it's not just women who can be gold diggers, men can be too. Anyone with a good income, man or woman, needs to be careful out there. I've met men who thought I would pay for their phone right away, or give them money to hang out with their boys. Nope, not happening with me. My friend's boyfriend quit his job right after moving in with her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/23 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Woman who complain about ot being able to find a "good man" just have very high standardsI get what you're saying. I realize men and women are different, and men are attracted to looks first. So why is it wrong for the woman to be attracted to a man with a higher income? Since different things drive our attraction to the opposite sex. Most women want security, especially since men should be our providers/protectors. I need to feel secure in my marriage, and my husbands income is a huge part of this security. Idk if most men on purple pill are liberal or not, but no truly traditional… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/23 09:17 PM |
| -3 | Woman who complain about ot being able to find a "good man" just have very high standardsUh, what's wrong with wanting someone who makes close to your income? I make close to 6 figures, why would I want to date a man who is barely making $10,000/year? It's about having a certain standard of living for both of you. Women who are only looking for wealthy men are different, but nothing wrong with a woman (or man!) wanting to only date people near their income level. It's about paying the bills and buying food, not having high standards. I think purple pill is just another sub to bash w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/23 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Having sex too impulsively/quickly and using RPW to justify itFirst, stop trying to get guys to commit to you. You are the one who should be vetting them and making sure they are worth your commitment. In my experience, plenty of men will "commit" to you, but many of them are not good men. I've met men who wanted to commit to me because they're looking for a mommy-wife, or want my money as a nurse (jokes on them, I'm broke), or want someone to boss around, or thought because I was divorced with kids already that I would accept any type of treatment. Bad me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 07:14 PM |
| 6 | Ladies who manifested their HVM—what qualities did you want? Did you get them?I was looking for a man who despises cheating as much as I do, who is able to have a disagreement in a mature adult way, who is able to listen to an issue I have without turning it to me and telling me everything I did wrong since the beginning of time, who would love my 3 kids from a prior marriage (very important!), didn't want to date forever before getting married, had a job that is close to my income, and matches my beliefs with politics/ethics/morals/etc. I am married to a man who fits all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 06:39 PM |
| 8 | Worried about potential red flag body countPersonally, I would not want to be with a man who slept with a lot of women. I think it's not a good thing for either gender to have a lot of sexual partners. I would pass on him as soon as I found that out. I would think why am I different? Why would I be enough for him at this point, after having so many different women. I'm not conventionally attractive, so I would think as soon as a more beautiful woman came along, he would either dump me or at least cheat on me with her. Idc about money lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 06:20 PM |
| 21 | Anyone here who was formerly in an abusive relationship but left, healed and is now living the RPW dream?My exhusband was abusive to me (physically, mentally, etc). He was also addicted to porn and just was not a leader/captain (even if he wasn't abusive he wouldn't be one). He would use my abusive childhood against me and to bring me down/make me feel bad. He beat me while pregnant, he even beat me while holding our 2 month old daughter so I couldn't put my arms up to defend myself (to protect the baby instead). He was also unfaithful. The night I left him, he put a pillow over my face and tried t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/23 05:40 PM |
| 7 | She doesn't work because she wants to concentrate on her feminity. But her husband's income is not enough for two people ???You have to do what's right for you and your husband's life. Not what others do. I work fulltime, but I work from home so I'm always available for my family. I would always work, even if I didn't have to. Not because I'm afraid my husband would leave me (I know he never would). It's because what if he's laid off (he works for a company that's always laying people off)? What if he's injured and can't work? What if an unexpected emergency expense comes up? Just about 8 months ago, our water heater… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 10:45 PM |
| 18 | I made one comment in this sub and I got banned from other subs wtfI was banned from another sub too. I didn't even post in RPW yet at that time, I simply just joined lol. And the sub that banned me had absolutely nothing to do with red pill/blue pill or anything like that. Oh well, it's just reddit, not the end of the world if I'm banned from a sub. I just rolled my eyes at their notice banning me and kept it moving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 02:35 PM |
| 7 | Serious mommy issuesI will try to articulate this the best way I can, since sometimes I'm not good at putting things like this into words. I can relate a bit to where you're coming from. However, my mother was a very mean physically, mentally abusive woman. Not only to me, but to my father (he abused me too, but that's another story). She also taught me that all men were sh!t, to be used for money and whatever you could get from them. Any boyfriend I had, she told me they were using me for sex and I should try to g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/23 10:53 PM |
| 10 | Ladies, is it important these days to be your husband’s ‘personal porn star’?If that's what makes him AND you happy, then that's all that matters. Just as long as your needs are being met too. Personally, I would never act like a porn star. And my husband is actually disgusted by porn, he feels it degrades women and destroys men. He would be totally turned off if I were to act that way. ETA: if he would expect me to do depraved sexual acts or else he would pay OF women to do it, then he could go right ahead and do that. IMO, he's not a captain if he's expecting me to do … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/23 10:34 PM |
| 0 | Boyfriend upset with how I have handled an interaction with a man - advice needed!Explosive anger and jealousy from a man isn't flattering or good traits for them to have. Many times, this type of jealousy will escalate if not nipped early on (I know this first hand). Let your boyfriend know that he should not be treating you like this and he should be able to talk to you normally about whatever he's feeling. You've been with him only 7 months, you don't want to spend your life with someone who demonstrates such .behavior But you also have to let this other man know, very cle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 06:44 PM |
| 5 | "I told you so"?Personally, I don't think a man should feel any type of way when his woman is correct about things. Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but the way I'm interpreting it is that whenever you say something, he doesn't think you're right and he'll have to verify whatever you tell him. I side eye men who feel like they are always right over a woman. Men who are secure in their masculinity will appreciate their woman's intelligence and knowledge, and will realize that he and her are knowledgeable in differe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 06:08 PM |
| 12 | I’m considering quitting studying for a prestigious job but worried that my boyfriend will split up with me for itWhile your boyfriend's and mom's opinions matter, it's really your life. You know yourself best and you know your limits. If you feel being in healthcare will be stressful for you, don't continue the training. If someone is disappointed in you because you made a decision for your well being, then maybe reevaluate their involvement in your life. Hopefully your boyfriend will be more concerned with your mental health than being able to boast about your job. And you can always continue later on, or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Learn how to cookI'm not very experienced with cooking either, I'm not someone who can go into the kitchen and whip up a meal with whatever I have. If you have a kindle account, consider getting kindle unlimited so you can sample free cookbooks. I have a cookbook for every culture/cuisine you can think of, and it allows me to make a variety of interesting foods. Also, look at budgetbytes.com, spendwithpennies.com, marcellinaincucina.com (Italian), aaronandclaire.com (Korean), themediterraneandish.com, indianheal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/23 01:38 PM |
| 23 | My ex-boyfriend says things will not be the sameMy exhusband started out that same way-he would call me names, throw things, even break my stuff. I kept tolerating it because back then, I had zero self esteem and had no idea how to set boundaries for myself. I also didn't know how to be strong and just leave. After our first kid, he started beating me. This continued for 5 years until I finally got the strength to leave. That night I left, he put a pillow over my face and tried to smother me in front of my kids because he didn't want me to le… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 07:41 PM |
| 9 | Why you shouldn't feel bad about wanting a providerNope, nothing wrong with wanting a provider, and men who criticize women for wanting that most likely can't provide so they have to bring us down a bit. And the women who criticize us are jealous that they cannot find a good man to take care of them. My husband is what I would call a provider. Although I make more than him, so it has nothing at all to do with income level. He's a provider because he goes to work every day, he encourages me to always better myself, either at work or obtaining an … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 07:28 PM |
| 10 | Cheating Dilemma: do you let your partner know that you know?Personally, I would not stay if my husband cheated on me. Cheating is one of the worst things you can do to someone you claim to love. The hurt and pain it causes takes a long time to overcome, and the lying that goes into it...I just can't. But since you want to stay with him. I would first suggest stop blaming yourself. Even if you were nagging him, or not being feminine enough, or not pleasing him in the bed, those are things he should use his words and talk to you about. Cheating doesn't fix… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 01:44 PM |
| 4 | RedPill women who used to be on the “liberal” sides, what made you open your eyes?When I was in my 20s, I was pretty liberal. It wasn't just one thing that opened my eyes, it was a lot of different things, over several years, that opened my eyes. For one, when I realized they really don't care about women. They don't encourage women to be safe. They always tell men don't rape. Well, the men who won't ever rape a woman don't have to be told not to do it. They never tell women, be careful. Don't go to a man's house or let him into yours unless you really know him. They never te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Am I overreactingThere's all this talk about men not respecting a woman's no for anything. And when she says she doesn't want something, he needs to listen and not do the thing. Well, you said you didn't want the hotel and he listened. I think it would've been crappy of him to do it anyway after you said you didn't want it (I'm being serious, not sarcastic). He got you a gold necklace and wanted to surprise you with it early. If he's going to get that type of reaction from you, he may stop doing anything at all,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/23 01:33 PM |
| 8 | Why woman don’t like to do things a previous partner already did before for their S.O?How does he say it? Does he say his ex did things to get you to do it too? Or is he comparing you to his exes? Or is it more like a conversation? Personally, I don't think exes should be discussed in the current relationship, as it does no good for either person. Very rarely, my husband and I will talk about something ridiculous one of our exes did, but we don't do this frequently. Talking about exes does not benefit the current relationship in any way, imo. If it bothers you that he does it, sp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 07:32 PM |
| 7 | Do you ever feel out of place these days being red pilled?I definitely feel out of place irl. Online is the only place I can be open and free to talk about how I truly feel (besides to my husband). Liberals/feminists have taken over and ruined things horribly. It's to the point now where you cannot even express a different opinion because they will attack you. I've been banned from a sub here on reddit just because I belong to Redpillwomen. I've been told by feminists that they hope I get sexually assaulted (they actually said the R word) by men becaus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Not sure if I me and my fiancé are compatible enough - need adviceYou don't have to be 100% compatible to have a successful relationship/marriage. If you like the outdoors and he is more of an indoor type, ya'll can compromise. One weekend, go hunting. The next weekend, stay inside and play some games. Also, that's what friends are for. He does things with his friends, you do things with your friends. It's important to spend time with friends too, maybe once per month or so. Imo, it's more important to agree on things like having/not having children, gender ro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 7 | I cooked dinnerGirl, be flattered!!! Your man is bragging about you to his friends. It's difficult for a decent man to find a decent woman who wants to do things like this. Nowadays, it's so rare for a woman to cook for her man, or to do any nurturing, care taking tasks. I also cooked for my now husband when we were dating (I still do of course). I packed his lunches for work too. His male coworkers were envious lol. I'm not a very good cook, but my husband loves my food and loves that I want to take care of h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/23 07:43 PM |
| 3 | How can you cope with being a “low value” woman, or can you compensate for it in other ways?I echo what others have said to stay away from the men's RP groups. They are mostly incels and women haters. I'm a heavily tattooed woman, I was also divorced with 3 kids. If a man thought I was a bad woman or trashy or whatever just because of that, and didn't care what I could offer him emotionally/mentally/etc, then I don't want or need him in my life. Why care what those types think of you? I would rather have them be disgusted by me and stay far away than to lie and make me think they want … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/23 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Feminist Family MembersI would first defend my husband. Spouses come before extended family and friends. Imagine if he let his mom, sister, etc disrespect you and he didn't defend you. Being passive isn't good when it comes to your family (husband is your family now). You don't have to yell or argue, just state your boundary clearly. Quick story-my husband is a different race than I am. My family would make slick jokes about him and mention stereotypes about his race around me, despite me asking them nicely to stop. W… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/23 05:35 PM |
| 71 | What would the “Surrendered Wife” approach be to husband’s excessive porn use?OP, first, please stop trying so hard. He has to meet you halfway too. I noticed you said you offer him head every morning. Does he give you oral sex too? Does he get you off or even care to get you off? Does he do anything with the children that you both brought into this world? Just because he works and you stay home, doesn't absolve him from being a dad. Do you ever get a few minutes break from the kids so you can unwind? Does he ever say that he'll take them to the park or does he sit and in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/23 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend's acquaintance keeps crossing the line. How to address this in a RPW way? Or do I STFU?I agree with this-how he reacts to you saying something will tell you all you need to know. If he doesn't take you seriously, or tries to put it on you, saying you're jealous/insecure, he's showing you who he is. Also, I want to say this....when I first married my now ex husband, there was a woman at his job that did very similar things to what you say this woman does. She would stare at me, follow him/us, say things to coworkers then they would all look at me. I mentioned it to him and he said … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 06:30 PM |
| 1 | How to weed out useless datesWell, my father is deceased so unless he can do a séance, Idk how he would. Or he can stand in front of my father's urn and ask if he wants to go that route. But usually, you would talk to the woman leading up to the date, no? You don't just make a date then have no communication until the date night. When I was dating my husband, we had real conversations prior to our first date. This is the time to ask questions and make sure you're not wasting each other's time. I know yall modern men want to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 01:10 PM |
| -2 | How to weed out useless datesI didn't read anyone here saying women should be treated like "pretty little princesses". We are simply tired of men's disrespect. We want men to treat us with respect and value what we bring to the relationship. If you're meeting only women who want to be treated like princesses and only want free dinners, then perhaps you should evaluate why you're only meeting that type of woman. A man paying for a date isn't having things handed to me, he's showing me he's a leader and provider and not a lib… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 06:04 PM |
| 1 | How to weed out useless datesThink of all the things us women need to think about/worry about when going on dates. Personally, I think the man should pay because it shows me that he's a leader/provider (although that's not always a given). It's not like the woman is asking him to buy her groceries or pay her bills, it's a first date that shouldn't break the bank on his end. Some women use men for a free meal, and there's men that use the first date to try to get laid. Both genders have bad people. Talking to the person lead… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 05:58 PM |
| 2 | How to weed out useless datesSo maybe the man should do his own vetting too and make sure he's going on a date with a non feminist woman. He needs to do his own due diligence and ensure he's paying for a traditional woman, one who isn't using him for a free meal and will appreciate him paying. That's on yall, not us, It's a huge turn off for a man to expect the woman to pay for the first few dates, especially since he's the one who asked her. What's up with these men on this board? I know these ain't women talking like this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 04:48 PM |
| -1 | How to weed out useless datesFirstly, women are not "girls". We are adult women, girls are under 18 years old. I'm guessing you're a feminist man by your responses. There's nothing wrong with the man paying for the date, and everything wrong with asking the woman to pay for her share. Before I got married, the type of men I dated, even when we both realized on the first date we were not compatible, he always paid for me. I would always offer to pay my half since we were not continuing, but these nice men always refused my m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 04:41 PM |
| 4 | His clingy female friend and how to approach boundaries as a RPWOP, I will echo what others have said and tell you this is a red flag. IMO, men and women cannot be just friends. Of course there are exceptions, like if they grew up together or something like that. My husband's only female "friends" are the wives of his male friends and my friends. He's excluding you when they spend time together, it doesn't matter if it's really her excluding you, he's the one committed to you not her. If my husband isn't invited somewhere, then I'm not going either, and he's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 03:43 PM |
| 7 | Let your captain leadI'm in the US and I don't think it's really common to have separate finances (I could be wrong tho). Personally, I believe once you're married, all funds should be joint. It's how my husband and I do it, and it's how every married couple we know does it. I wouldn't be ok with my husband offering me half of a down payment for something. It's both of our money. He's the captain of course, but I'm the co-captain and we both work and it's both our money. We discuss these types of things, but neither… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 03:34 PM |
| 2 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.Pharmacy is a great choice because you can also find remote work. My friend's sister in law is a pharmacist and she works for a major pharmaceutical company. She works from home fulltime (never goes into an office or travels), she works M-F 9-5 and has the flexibility to take care of the home too or do whatever she needs to do for the kids. There are many options for remote work for a pharmacist and you'll never regret having that degree. If necessary at some point in your future, you could even… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 02:04 PM |
| 6 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.My daughter also is wanting to be a SAHM. What I tell her is this--still go and get your education/degree, and work a bit in your desired field before becoming a SAHM. Any decent man will want an educated woman to be running the home and raising the children. And, if for some reason you need to get a job (he gets laid off, gets sick, ya'll have money problems), at least you'll have a degree and some experience in the workforce. You can even continue to work part time or less than part time to ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Are guys talking to you in the streets/pick up artists only looking to smash and dash ? Should I avoid them ?When I was single, I took it on a case by case basis. I based it off how he approaches. Is he aggressive and in your face? Or is he more reserved and appears shy? Is he respectful in his approach? Or does he just come up to you and make a comment about your body then ask for your number? A long time ago, a man saw me while he was driving (I was walking). He started blowing kisses out the window, catcalling me, then made a uturn, pulled up next to me and made a comment about how nice my butt is. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 02:57 PM |
| 3 | How long did you and your husband wait before you were engaged?About 18 months, most of that time was him saving up to get the engagement ring (I told him I didn't need an expensive one, but he still did it). On our first date, I told him that I'm looking for marriage and I do not date casually, or do FWB, or any of that new age stuff. I told him that he doesn't have to marry me, but marriage should be his goal of dating. I told him that if he's not looking for marriage, let me know right now so we don't waste each other's time. I was also prepared to leave… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 02:49 PM |
| 12 | Boyfriend treatment vs husband treatment? Do you draw a line somewhere?My rule is this-never do things for a boyfriend that you would do for your husband. For example, never live with a man before you're at the very least engaged. Don't have kids with him before marriage. Don't do his laundry or pack his lunch for work. Don't combine finances or offer money to pay his bills. Don't clean up his home. Don't experiment too much sexually. Don't give him the gift of submission (you can still respect his opinion as a man without being submissive or making him HoH). Those… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 02:34 PM |
| 2 | If you have basically no history but your partner has a lot of relationship/sexual history is it a problem?Personally, I would not want to date a man who been with a lot of women. I prefer a man who does not have sex outside of a committed relationship-they are difficult to find, but they are out there. I look at it like this, if he slept with so many women, why would he now be faithful to me? He's used to getting it a lot so why would one woman now be enough for him? That's just my opinion though. My husband never had sex outside a committed, monogamous relationship (neither have I). I don't really … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 02:22 PM |
| 3 | What do you consider the most important things you've learned since RPW? What were the first steps you took to grow as a woman?Unfortunately, I didn't know about RP when I was younger. I didn't know how to vet. I knew what I wanted from a man, I just didn't know how to vet for it and set boundaries for myself. I had the mindset that you should not let a man know right away what you're looking for, and it's not good to tell him you want marriage because it'll scare him away. At one time, I thought equality was good, there's nothing wrong with me acting like the man in our relationship (making decisions, paying for things… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 02:00 PM |
| 2 | The ABCs of Female FriendshipA woman who rides the carousel can be a good friend, but take it on a case by case basis. I have a great friend who I've known for a very long time. We are in our early 40s and she got off the carousel only about 3 years ago. Both her and I grew up with very abusive, sick, horrible men in our lives and she was so damaged by it that she didn't know how to set boundaries and respect herself. But she always was a great friend to me, and was so happy for me when I met my now husband. Seeing some of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 01:45 PM |
| 5 | How to find a boyfriend/husband who is looking for a housewife?Make it clear up front what you're looking for. I'm not sure if there's any dating sites just for traditional men/women. Many dating sites that are for traditional/old fashioned people have been taken over by LV men who only want a fling or FWB situation, so you gotta be careful. If you do meet a man who is looking for a SAHM, just vet him very carefully. Often times, these new age men will say they want a traditional woman but they do not want to be a traditional man. They will want you to cook… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 01:24 PM |
| 1 | What does "tending" look like for you?I agree with you. Emotional labor was indeed originally for service workers, but unfortunately the feminists took the word and now use it for anything nice a woman wants to do for her man. They change the meaning of words all the time to fit their narrative (or whatever they're trying to do). For a long time, I didn't even understand the meaning of emotional labor in the way feminists define it. I really don't see how taking care of your man is "emotional labor". | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 01:16 PM |
| 8 | What does “being treated well” mean for you?You came to the right place to ask this question. Read thru every answer then make several lists. Make a must have list, a good to have list, and a will not tolerate list. The most important thing is when a man shows you who he is, believe him, whether it's good or bad. And just know that you cannot change a man, no matter how loving or nice you are to him. This is what being treated will looks like to me (I've been happily married for 5 years). And of course, you should do these things for him … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/23 06:43 PM |
| 1 | What does "tending" look like for you?No worries lol. I get being sensitive to it. That person made a similar comment to me. But I don't care what some feminist liberal thinks of me. They are bitter because deep down inside they wish they had a good man who takes care of them, but they can't find one due to their attitudes. So they bash women who are happily married instead. They fail to realize they can have a good man too if they would stop being so hateful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 05:48 PM |
| 6 | Men, how long is waiting for sex too long?OP, don't look at it as making the man wait. Frame it as waiting until you're ready. Often times, (some) men will try to guilt you or pressure you for sex, or get mad that you're making them wait. If a man truly likes you for more than sex, he won't mind waiting until you're ready to take it there. IMO, there's no way or need to gracefully communicate you're not ready for sex right away. A good man will not pressure you, he'll be patient and understanding that you need time. My husband waited 2 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 04:26 PM |
| 1 | What does "tending" look like for you?So why don't you tell us how it works with you and your husband? Instead of making useless comments like this, why not actually contribute to the discussion? What do you do or not do for your husband? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 04:08 PM |
| 1 | What does "tending" look like for you?I strongly believe that person is a feminist or some liberal. They have made several comments like this. Usually women like this are not married, or if they are, they are married to men who expect the woman to act like men. To them, it's equality to be like the man. They think it's bad to take care of your man, and they secretly wonder why they can't find a good man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Do guys think it's cute when you get nervous?I wanted to get an answer from men so I actually just asked my (conservative, old fashioned) husband and son this question and they both said it doesn't really matter either way. They said as long as it doesn't inhibit your ability to have a convo, it's fine at first. Personally, I think it's cute when a man gets a bit nervous around a woman. I don't like overly aggressive, in your face type of men, so a bit of nervousness shows he's humble and not used to approaching a lot of women. Of course, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 02:49 PM |
| 7 | Struggling and I see it's weighing on my boyfriendMy husband also wants to always fix any issue I bring to him. I think that's just how (decent) men are, they want to fix issues for the woman they love. I think it bothers them when their woman has unresolved problems. But I also see where you're coming from, sometimes you aren't looking for any solution. Now, when I just want to vent, I let my husband know that before I start talking. I say something like "I don't need a solution, I'm just complaining about it". Then I start venting. Once he kn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 01:29 PM |
| 5 | Vetting: Holding and Moving Boundaries to Find the Right Man for YouI agree with this so much, especially your last 2 sentences. We cannot change men, believe them when they show you/tell you who they are. Women before you have failed to change him, so there's no way you will, no matter how nice or loving you are to him. I would like to add that you should never allow anyone to guilt you for your standards/boundaries. There are so many men and women who will attempt to shame you for having very reasonable boundaries and standards. For example, before I got marri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 01:09 PM |
| 4 | Red Flag: a man who doesn’t take of his poor mental health and uses it as an excuse for poor behaviourI wish I would've thought this way when I was young. Many women think we can fix these types of men, but they have to have the motivation to seek help on their own. We cannot fix them, nor should we try. Also, many times men with untreated mental illness will use it as an excuse to control the woman. For example, men who have anxiety may need constant reassurance that you still care. Or he'll always want to know where you are, what you're doing, etc. However, I think if the man has a lot of grea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 05:33 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean if a guy asks you to meet right now ? Specially after they texted after no contactNo, I don't prefer salutations. I prefer a man who will say good morning (or whatever time of day it is), how are you, how is your day going, etc. My husband did that while we were dating, not once did he say hey to me. He still doesn't just say "hey" to me. The OP doesn't have to follow what I say, it's just my opinion on it. In my experience before I got married, the men who say "hey" are low effort/low value men. Maybe other women had different experiences with that, and that's ok. Sometimes … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 04:59 PM |
| -1 | What does it mean if a guy asks you to meet right now ? Specially after they texted after no contactIn addition to what everyone else here said, I want to add that any man that starts off with a "hey" isn't worth your time. "Hey" is for friends, not for a romantic partner. Does he text you more than call? IMO, that's also a red flag. If you're interested in me, then you need to call me and we can have a real convo. We cannot build a connection thru texting. Just block him. Don't even give him any explanation or warning. The only time it's acceptable for a man to want to see you *right now* is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 01:16 PM |
| 7 | What advice would you give herI'm going to give an answer that may be unpopular, but I would tell her that he should cancel his camping trip. I would expect my husband to cancel a recreational trip if we had a young child at home. When he told her months ago, he knew at that time they would have a baby, so it's very selfish to still want to go. Recreational trips need to wait when you have young kids, you just can't leave your spouse at home with the baby. He should be there with his wife and child, not with his friends on s… | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/23 09:02 PM |
| 2 | When the going gets rough…what do we do?I just read your comment about going your separate ways soon. I think you're doing the right thing. I'm twice your age, but when I was in my 20s, I also held onto a man who wouldn't give me what I wanted because he had other great qualities. When I met my now husband, I let him know right away that I'm looking to get married. If he wasn't looking for that too, let's not waste each other's time. Contrary to what people say now, there's nothing wrong with stating up front what you're looking for. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 04:04 PM |
| 21 | What does "tending" look like for you?To me, tending is taking on what feminists call "emotional labor". I make sure husband takes his meds, stays up to date of health exams. I do all the meal planning/cooking, I serve him meals. I'm there for him when he needs to vent about something, either giving advice or just listening (depends on what he's looking for at that time). I support his career goals and also let him know if something isn't feasible for the family. Pretty much, I take all the things he doesn't really want to do/know h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 03:55 PM |
| 23 | Paying on datesYoung women (and men) have been poisoned by this feminism/equality stuff that tells women we need to be like men and pay for dates too. It tells men that it's ok to ask a woman to pay for her half of the date. IMO, men who always pay are showing they are providers, which is how men should be. When my husband and I were still dating, after our 3rd date, I did offer to pay. He declined it so I left it alone. I would offer to pay every now and then, but he always refused it. So my advice to you is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 03:48 PM |
| – | Is FemaleDatingStrategy, ironically, conservative?You are absolutely correct. And the problem so many men have with FDS is that it gives women advice on having some standards and most men hate that. These new age men hate hate hate anything that gives us any power or equality in relationships. FDS is a real threat to negging men and abusive/manipulative men. If this were not true, there wouldn't be so many posts here on the FDS. As a woman, we are not allowed to have any standards at all. And if you're divorced and/or have kids, you are the scu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/21 08:58 PM |
| 5 | What are your standards in a partner?I'm already married but these are my standards when I was dating. Luckily my DH met every single one of these so I am a lucky woman! he must make close to my salary (no less than $30,000/yr than me) he must own a car and live on his own (of course if his kids live there that's fine). No roommates, no living with his parents must want kids and be ok being with a woman who has kids (I had 3 kids when I met DH) must be a leader and somewhat old fashioned man. I'm looking for my DH to be the head of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/21 06:37 PM |
| 14 | Debating ending it with my fiancée, utterly lost.I'm genuinely confused by this statement. I lurk here most of the time and for the most part agree with RPW. Does being a RPW mean having to tolerate abuse from a man? Or doing all the chores even if you work full time? I'm really asking and not trying to be snarky or anything. I consider myself pretty old fashioned and submissive. My current husband is the head of the household and makes most of the major decisions/leads our family. But I would not tolerate him yelling, calling me names, throwi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/21 04:02 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend like ASMR, is this a problem?I really don't think it's a red flag. I'm a woman but I also listen to various asmr creators, both men and women. A lot of times, my mind races and it's hard to get to sleep. The tapping or personal attention videos help sooo much. Maybe it's that way for your bf too, especially if his mind races or he struggles with anxiety or adhd. Of course, your feelings are valid. But honestly, I wouldn't worry about it if my DH did that. It's not porn or anything inappropriate imo. I think it would only be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/21 07:31 PM |
| 22 | Simps have ruined the dating market.But why would a woman want a simp? Personally, I want a man who stands his ground and will state his boundaries. I want my husband to tell me when I'm wrong and not just let me continue being wrong. I want him to challenge me and get me to see another side of something (the same I do for him) In my experience, a man who stands his ground and isn't simping is more respectful of my boundaries as well, since he's not a pushover. Simp men tend to not respect when a woman says "no" or wants to set a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/21 04:32 PM |
| 1 | So if you don’t have a bodycount is it still “bad” to wait to have sex?But what is traditional to you? Men want a traditional woman while they are not that way themselves. I am a somewhat traditional woman. I never had sex outside a committed relationship (no one nite stands, no fwb ever). I put in a comment above how I expect a man to pay for dates and court me, not pressure me for sex. My husband is that way and in return, he gets companionship, a loving family, a faithful wife, his meals done, his laundry done, etc etc. But many men don't appreciate that. They w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/21 03:35 PM |
| 1 | So if you don’t have a bodycount is it still “bad” to wait to have sex?OMG you said this better than I could. I honestly don't know what's wrong with these men nowadays and I feel sad for young women trying to find an LTR. I really wonder who raised some of these men to think it's ok to not court women. I have 4 sons and they're taught to value & court women/pay for dates/be respectful. A man is supposed to show me that he's a provider/protector. That's why I expect him to pay for the first few dates. I then offer to pay after the 3rd date, after I can see he's not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/21 03:29 PM |
| 4 | “If he wanted to…he would”I agree with you. I also think women need to stop allowing that type of treatment and state what they're looking for. If the guy won't give it, either tolerate it or leave. No one, woman or man, should put up with someone not making them a priority. Back when I was single, if a man ghosted me for several days, that was it. I wouldn't tolerate him coming back in, texting me with a lame "hey". If a man didn't want to take me on a proper date, I politely declined then blocked. I'm not anyone's fwb … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/21 07:00 PM |
| 28 | “If he wanted to…he would”It's true. Even if he's busy, if he wanted to send you a quick text saying he'll be busy for the next few days, he would send it instead of ignoring you. If he wanted to take you out, he would instead of just wanting to "hang out" at your/his place. If he wanted to defend you against his friends/family insulting you, he would instead of saying that's how they are and you have to get used to it. If he wanted to marry you, he would instead of coming up with excuse after excuse not to commit. (I'm … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/21 06:06 PM |
| 4 | One thing that is never talked about are the unfair social ramifications of a man shooting his shot and not succeedingIt's almost impossible for many men to get it, we can explain the issues with trying to creep on your female friends and these types will never get it and still blame women. These types will always be the victim who is owed sex by women. I agree with you a million percent. But unfortunately it's a losing battle for us women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 02:32 AM |
| 3 | If a guy is willing and able to commit to you but you are higher up the social/economic ladder than he is, does he still have a chance? and Why?Due to my income level, I most likely would not date a man who makes $30,000/year. I make 6 figures and while I don't expect a man to make as much or more than me, he needs to make no more than $40,000 less per year than me. I married my husband for love of course, and for his beautiful personality, but I also married him because he has the same financial power to bring to this marriage as I do. If I'm injured and can't work anymore, he can support the household and vice versa. If I were still s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/21 01:44 AM |
| 109 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Ah yes. The old "awww, he's punching your arm because he likes you" "He's picking on your flaws in front of the entire class because he likes you". Thanks for mentioning that. It's yet another thing I'll be telling my girls to be on the look out for | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 12:32 AM |
| 11 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Just because he shows you attention and says he cares/loves you, doesn't mean it's true. Also, if he wanted to spend time with you, he would. I remember crying my teenage eyes out after kissing a boy (or went even further as I had no positive adults to teach me anything) then he just ignored me and told all his friends. Now, I make sure to tell my daughters these things so at least my heartache wasn't completely for nothing. I also tell my sons the hurt this type of behavior causes and for them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 12:30 AM |
| 30 | We deserved to be protected. We deserved to be stood up for. We deserved to be treated with respect and kindness.I'm usually a lurker here but this post had me almost in tears. I was abused by almost every man who was supposed to protect me when I was a child while the pick me women of the family swept it under the rug. Then moved on to my now ex husband who was emotionally and physically abusive while my pick me friends/family gave me tips on how to make him happier so he would stop beating me. These men damaged me so much that when I met my now awesome loving HV husband, I thought he had ulterior motives… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:30 PM |
| 14 | Is a Man Approaching a Woman in the Streets an Effective Way of Dating today?I 2nd this answer. It only works if the man can see if the woman is receptive or not. And violent men have ruined it for decent men. About a year ago, a woman a couple towns over from me was punched in her face after politely declining a man who approached her on the street. He knocked out a couple of her teeth. As a woman, it's scary no matter what because I never know how the man will react when I turn him down. Will he say "ok, have a nice day", or will he say "well f you b!tch, you're ugly a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/21 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Is porn ruining average sexual experiences for men by raising their expectations on how much sexual women should be with them?I think some men (not all, not all, not all but some men), have great difficulty realizing women irl aren't like the women in porn. There are quite a few men who really believe women don't have orgasms or that just 3 thrusts will drive us wild or that all the man has to do is look at us and we're ready to go. Some men are disappointed that women irl like can't contort into the positions women in porn do. Personally, I believe well made porn can be a great part of an already healthy committed rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 12:37 AM |
| 0 | Is there a good reason for men to pay on dates?Not really, I'm wondering why you care. If I said I'm old fashioned, then a reasonably smart person would know that meant no casual sex at all. But you still asked and I'm curious as to why. If some one says they are old fashioned, a reasonably smart person would know the old fashioned person wouldn't be into clubbing. Like, is there any other definition to old fashioned? But if I were to say I never had casual sex, you would not believe me (which is whatever) because niceguys (tm) hate women du… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/21 11:30 PM |
| 0 | Is there a good reason for men to pay on dates? What even was the point of that question? Why do men even feel the need for that? Like why do you care about some married stranger being old fashioned or having casual sex or whatever? Like what's it to you? I'm truly interested because it's not too often I get the chance to deal with your type. Men I know personally have respect for women and would never ask that irl so I'm truly wondering what is the point. I thought you niceguys (tm) like old fashioned women. Then when a woman says she is o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/21 10:46 PM |
| -2 | Is there a good reason for men to pay on dates?Woman here, also married. I always believed the man should pay for at least the first 2-3 dates, but I would offer to pay tip (they always declined). Actually, my husband and most of the men I know agree the man should pay as well. My reasons for expecting the man to pay were A) I'm a bit old fashioned and believe the man should pay (however I always thanked/appreciated it, even if we weren't compatible). B) The man paying shows me he is generous and won't be selfish in other ways. Not a guarant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/21 03:14 PM |
| 1 | What's your shallowest turnoff ?Personally I don't think anyone's reasons are shallow. Despite what's being told to people, you are entitled to your preferences and don't need to justify them or downplay them as shallow. If someone don't like your preferences, then they don't have to date you. My turnoffs in men..... Untreated mental illness the man doesn't make as much money as me/doesn't own what I own (car, house) whines about his life but won't take the steps to fix it too far right/too far left won't pay for the first dat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 06:54 PM |
| 2 | Why don't people believe in being in love first before having sex anymore?OP, I just want to tell you to hang in there. I'm a woman and it's so refreshing to hear that a man doesn't just want casual sex and actually wants a relationship. Believe me, there are women out there who are your age that will also greatly appreciate your mindset. As a woman who dated men (now married), it's hard to find a man who wants a serious relationship. I'm sure it's that way for other genders as well. Sorry I don't have much advice, but keep hanging in there and never change who you ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Are truly platonic friendships between women and men common?But do you think it would be insulting to a man who truly wants to be platonic friends with a woman? If I meet you as a friend, and you never lead with the fact you're interested in me, then I should be able to take you at your unspoken word that you are truly my friend, the same way I would do for my same gender friends. It's so shitty to make any one, of any gender, think you're their friend but really have ulterior motives. Why only try to get with me after I'm heartbroken over my break up? W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/21 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Are truly platonic friendships between women and men common?I understand what you're saying. But it's not right to trick someone, make them think you're their plutonic friend when you're waiting for just the right moment to "smash it". At least lead with that and give me a choice to have casual sex with you or not. Don't wait for me to break up with my boyfriend, being vulnerable/hurt, then try to move in. That actually hurts more than a romantic relationship ending. If a man or trans man (forgive me if I didn't use the correct term) can't even think rig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/21 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Are truly platonic friendships between women and men common?Disclaimer: this is only my experience/beliefs. I'm not saying all man/woman friendships are this way. I really don't think truly platonic friendships are common or even possible between a straight man and a woman. I've had male friends over the years who were only my friend to try to have sex with me, waiting for me to break up with whoever I was dating at that time. They didn't even want to date me, they just wanted sex. That hurt my feelings so much because I truly thought they were my friend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/21 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Trouble keeping up with housework during pregnancyI feel for you and am in the same situation. I'm now 29 weeks pregnant with my 4th, high risk with pre-eclampsia and I hurt all the time. I work from home fulltime so I'm always here. My hubby works in the office with a rough commute. He has been the best, coming home and doing most of the chores without me asking. But I feel horrible when he has to. He tells me don't worry about it because I'm pregnant with his kid so he wants to do these things. I feel like a bad wife to him. I only have energ… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/03/19 09:10 PM |
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