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| 2 | Women Aren't Lying, They are just being PoliteAt some point, sparing someone’s feelings hardly becomes worth the effort… though I can see the need in some cases when subs like r/whenwomenrefuse exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 11:19 PM |
| 4 | Women Aren't Lying, They are just being PoliteTheir* legs If they’re* not hot FTFY | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 11:17 PM |
| 3 | The sweet benefits of marriage for men as described here by PPD: Not getting a dime of a wife's inheritanceIt can turn into a marital asset but it is not inherently a marital asset. Her mother died. He still has his and I’m sure she’d rather have the person than the money. He can cope without the money that she got from her parent dying. She’s not the asshole, and he wouldn’t be either if the shoe were on the other foot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Why women think their Degree/Money/Career of their own is importantAll things you don’t care about, you mean. You have a pre-conceived notion of what a woman “should” bring to the table and that is obvious to everyone here. Anything that a woman brings that doesn’t fit your notion of what they “should” bring is deemed to be of no value. What a self-centered and insecure way to view actual human beings. Whew. Maybe ask yourself what you bring to the table first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 11:21 AM |
| 1 | Why women think their Degree/Money/Career of their own is importantI’m playing the victim by advocating for men? Make it make sense. Men are not as shallow as you may want to make them all seem. That’s all you, and trying to push your perspective as that of the whole is disingenuous and harmful to your own demographic. I’m not going to answer your question because I don’t indulge bullshit. My point has been made. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 11:02 AM |
| 3 | The sweet benefits of marriage for men as described here by PPD: Not getting a dime of a wife's inheritanceThis is funny because inheritance is commonly categorized as a non-martial asset under the eyes of the law and Google is free. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 10:55 AM |
| 2 | Why women think their Degree/Money/Career of their own is importantDo you believe that all men only care about sex or the physical appearance of their partner? It’s an even simpler question. EDIT TO ADD: But wait. If this is your own personal priority, just say that. Own it. Just say that you don’t want an educated partner. You want to ogle her body and have sex with her whenever it pleases you. You may want her sole responsibility to be washing your underwear. You don’t care about her personal interests or ambitions. Say that. That’s your prerogative. But are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 10:15 AM |
| 1 | Why women think their Degree/Money/Career of their own is importantI honestly don’t care who the post is “for,” and I don’t care to answer the question because my concern is that you’re portraying men in a terrible light here—as if they want nothing more than glorified sex toys for partners. Are you saying that all men are that superficial? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 10:08 AM |
| 2 | Why women think their Degree/Money/Career of their own is importantAll this post did was try to paint men as slobbering animals that don’t care if their life partner brings anything to the table other than their body and the prospect of easy, guaranteed sex. This post is a bad take that does zero justice to men. Did you think about the implications of your post before you started typing or…? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Why are some people's death treated differently?The biggest factor that sticks out to me is that the girl passed from suicide. It is still highly stigmatized and you run the risk of developing suicide contagion, which could initiate a suicide cluster. Students are also a highly vulnerable population, and a susceptible person could internalize the attention placed on the girl as being a goal. From a psychology perspective, it makes sense, but I would’ve limited the time spent on the boy to ensure some measure of equivalence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Intelligence is not a positive trait if you want to have sexI think it’s important to specify which type of intelligence you’re referring to here. I tend to agree with the theory of multiple intelligences. It sounds like you’re talking about logical-mathematical intelligence, and to be perfectly honest with you, I don’t think it has as much impact on someone’s sex life as you might think. The type of intelligence that does is interpersonal intelligence. This is essentially your social/emotional intelligence. It is important to note that being emotionally… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 03:36 PM |
| 1 | In terms of Women's Interests, Can Men (and Monogamy) Be Saved?There are—don’t get me wrong—a plethora of things to fight over. I’m talking about in the context of this sub, where the prevailing problem being discussed is the dating/mating system. To be honest, none of this comes up in my daily life. I’ll probably be in a different sub next week asking a different set of questions related to something else entirely. I do appreciate the analogy—I take it to be an argument against challenging the status quo. I don’t necessarily agree with it being that black … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 03:07 PM |
| 5 | In terms of Women's Interests, Can Men (and Monogamy) Be Saved?I agree with you on the concept of masculinity. My question is centered on why we can’t challenge that concept as a society, because the system itself is broken at this point. It may take a more radical approach to break even again. With that said, I’m right with you. I love being a winner, damn it. Edit to add: flair checks out! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 02:44 PM |
| 10 | In terms of Women's Interests, Can Men (and Monogamy) Be Saved?I’ve seen this contradiction in play. I know a man who openly stated that he wanted to be a stay at home dad when he had kids. Loves kids; spoils his niece rotten. He valued himself as something other than a provider. His goal was to contribute as a caregiver/homemaker by finding a woman who wanted to have a career. It was the other men that he worked with that would tell him, “that’s not how it’s supposed to be. You provide.” Men have been told for so long that the only contribution they can an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 02:20 PM |
| 4 | In terms of Women's Interests, Can Men (and Monogamy) Be Saved?It seems like the core of this idea is improving emotional intelligence. “Deeper and more meaningful” friendships—how OP phrased it—theoretically helps hone that intelligence in women who have those relationships. This is not to say that men inherently have less emotional intelligence, and that all women have it in spades. There are men and women that lack it, and they’re the most common subjects of discussion in this sub. But I digress, focusing on emotional growth would have a positive impact,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 02:12 PM |
| 1 | How do i stop myself from hating women?I think that while you’re taking care of your physical health, it’s also important to take care of your mental health. Consider seeing a counselor or therapist. In any relationship (platonic or romantic) that defensiveness that you displayed is going to affect communication in a significant way (you may find yourself in a position where someone doesn’t want to bring issues up to you because you shut down and curse them out). Just consider therapy, doubly so with your history of abuse from your f… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/22 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sTo be honest with you, I’ve seen this argument made multiple times in this post alone. I refuse to speak for “most girls” as a “girl” myself, but men are pretty confident in their ability to speak for what “most”—or even all, if they’re really bold—women like, what they think, and what their goals are. At some point, talking to people who won’t listen and parrot the same tired answers gets boring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 12:19 AM |
| 2 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sI wrote this at 4am after my dog woke me up. Definitely messed it up. Thanks! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sAnd that’s your experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Women who have careers and RP mindsetI’ll be totally honest with you, that’s terrifying. I consider myself to be a relatively upstanding person—though I find it difficult to like most people—but knowing that the person (regardless of sex, really) I’ve chosen to spend my life with has considered multiple ways to ruin me if I cross him/her… that’s going to be a cloud hanging over my head. I understand it to a degree. Once burned, twice shy, etc. I can sympathize. But it doesn’t make it any less alarming. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Women who have careers and RP mindsetSeems like a prenup would protect their interests. Maybe not their hearts, but there’s only so much you can do on that front. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 07:53 PM |
| 1 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?It is a common enough circumstance that women find themselves in, I would think. I’m sorry that you’re experiencing it. No one deserves to struggle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 10:43 AM |
| 1 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?I’ve made my point then. Blanket black/white statements only weaken your argument. Thank you for your time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sThe rule in question needs to be defined. I refuse to speak for all women—we are not a monolith—but in my region, I fall in with the majority of women that I know. What I was saying—and I’m not sure if you’re deliberately interpreting my words in bad faith—was that I was raised in a household where my parents were bigoted in a variety of ways. I chose differently, so anyone can choose differently. You do not have to internalize every kernel of shit that is spoon-fed to you without thinking about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 07:49 AM |
| 3 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sThat may be the case for some women. It is not the case for all women. Some women are secure enough to date a man who could feasibly be “competition” or who has “more options”, some women are not. The same can be said for men. Black and white statements like those you’ve made almost never reflect reality. You’re making an argument based on emotions rather than logic. I will say that in my region of the world, the people that most commonly stigmatize men who display feminine behaviors/traits are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Do women have to choose two out of Comfort, Freedom and Life?It matters because if we’re going through the trouble to distinguish between categories of men, then the same needs to be done for women. Women are not a monolith. Otherwise, it can be seen as a bad faith attempt to paint a full picture with incomplete or insufficient data. Considering the subject matter, intent comes into play pretty quickly. It’s not that you’re challenging the norm or common narrative—I welcome that—but I would question all data before I reference it myself in a debate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 07:03 AM |
| 3 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sI’ve taken the stance of ‘if it happens, it happens.’ The dating scene is honestly looking more and more like a house fire by the day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:54 AM |
| 2 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sI didn’t see you suggesting surgeries, but I wouldn’t judge even if you were. Steroids are dangerous. Chris Benoit is the poster boy for why those are a bad idea for everyone. I think you’re right on that. Men likely are less selective in rating women than women are when rating men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sI’m mixed. I was raised by two racists who were also bigoted in a number of other ways as well. I learned to think critically because they are small-minded people who are stuck in their outdated ways and don’t care to change. That life wasn’t for me. I’ve consciously chosen to be more open-minded. It’s a big reason why I joined this sub; to engage and see how other people think about these topics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:44 AM |
| 2 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sI consider tinder/clubbing as a means to find a sexual partner, so it makes sense that educational/occupational assets don’t really come into play for most. (If they’re not digging for gold.) I have three degrees and I’m working on my fourth. I work full-time and am in the top 20th (edit: half awake) percentile for income in my local area. Most RP men would probably look at me and say I’m a bad choice because I would prioritize work/school over the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sI think that both sexes have choices. They can go the surgical (quick) route and risk looking unnatural, or they can hit the gym (time-consuming) to obtain more natural looking gains. Genetics will always tip the scales in one way or another, for both men and woman. My take is that it’s a more even playing field than people think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:35 AM |
| 4 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sIn my experience, men are more often mocked by their in-group (other men) than women. I’ve been in the room with a friend as he curled his lashes before a date; pulled the eyelash curler out of his gym bag. Never even occurred to me to comment. He was more concerned that he wasn’t seen by other men doing this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sAgreed, but the burden of time and effort is also equal. My point is that a lot of the statements I’m seeing here can and should be applied equally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:28 AM |
| 4 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sIf the lipstick is his shade, I’d be fine. (Edit: as in it is flattering to him.) It has never made sense to me that makeup has been made a gendered product. Note that makeup being feminine is a relatively recent change in societal standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:26 AM |
| 2 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sThere are specific glute workouts to get your ass big. Also secondly, there are a ton of models with small tits. But, we’ve established that hitting the gym to avoid having surgical implants is too time and effort-intensive for men. Why not for women? Also, there are tons of men with little to no muscle definition that women find attractive. Why is this a valid statement for one sex but not the other? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:22 AM |
| 8 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sA woman can fix her skin tone and spots with some foundation. A man can’t. But then she’s accused of catfishing and told that any man that goes out with her needs to take her swimming on the first date. Also, masculine-branded makeup products are becoming more popular. I don’t know a single woman—myself included—that would judge a man for using concealer and powder. It’s often other men that stigmatize those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:13 AM |
| 5 | Male beauty standards are exponentially more critical than female'sSeconding on women not having improving career/status as an option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 06:08 AM |
| 1 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?It sounds like the statement being made is that ‘a woman can only be nice if she is romantically accessible to me.’ When extremes like “always” or “never” are involved—or “all” / “none”—it’s a dead giveaway to an argument that is based in emotion, rather than logic. This is an emotion-based argument, which isn’t inherently bad, but it is making black/white statements. There are instances when you’ve encountered a nice woman who was simply nice for niceness sake, but she wasn’t your type or she w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 05:43 AM |
| 1 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?I’m assuming that you mean romantically. I hope that you’ll find what you’re looking for soon, whatever that may be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 01:28 AM |
| 1 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?That is true. I have enough (work) relationships that I could post something and get feedback from them. I figure it might be the same with strangers, but less likely. I enjoy staying to myself, so I haven’t seen reason to try. I stand by my earlier statement. There are kind women out there, even if they’re inaccessible. The more time that I spend here, the more I come to understand the mindset of the people who most frequently post. The underlying sentiment often being expressed appears to be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 01:11 AM |
| 2 | i don't think fat/ugly women are any less invisible than fat/ugly men. society treats undesirables of both sexes badly.I thought of that trend, too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 01:05 AM |
| 2 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?I dislike most people but I’d have to know you to hate you. The difference between the two of us is that you’re willing to expend emotional energy on complete strangers whose opinions ultimately don’t matter. I am not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 12:55 AM |
| 0 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?I just said I wasn’t a nice woman, why would you expect me to approach a random, ugly man to ask him anything? That’s a joke, by the way. I don’t know, I don’t have any issues with being civil to strangers. My dislike for people is universal, pretty/attractive or ugly as hell. I will say that I refuse to speak for all women because we’re not a monolith and shouldn’t be treated as such. Not all men? Not all women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 12:52 AM |
| 1 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?I’m stealing that phrase! Made me gag but it’s brilliant. Yeah, I’m baffled by how many scandals they manage to get into… mainly because if you have that much money and power, it should be easier to be discreet. But, here we are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:13 PM |
| 1 | What’s it like being invisible as a man?Those are certainly all words. If you’re just saying you’d rather go your own way, more power to you. Wish you the best! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:10 PM |
| 5 | when hope seems lost or when you have problems finding a significant other. love and compassion goes a long wayI know a guy like this. He’s phenomenal and very very gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 10:45 PM |
| 2 | when hope seems lost or when you have problems finding a significant other. love and compassion goes a long wayOr how sometimes it isn’t about them at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Would you marry a chronically ill woman that may die at any time?STOOOPPPPPPP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 10:30 PM |
| 1 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?Not disagreeing with you, friend. My argument is that it is more nuanced than the link you posted suggests. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?Honestly, that article looked a little unreliable to me so I did some more digging. Peer-reviewed journals are where it’s at. I think you’ll be interested in this: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1474704917690401 We also show that men’s age range widens as they get older: While they continue to consider sex with young women, men also consider sex with women their own age or older. Contrary to earlier suggestions, men’s sexual activity thus reflects also their own age range, althoug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 10:14 PM |
| 3 | Financially investing in women early on to show that you're not just after sex seems logical. But when women take advantage of this by using men as free meal tickets or giving free sex very quickly to attractive men, men rightfully stop investing in women.I make my own money and pay for myself 100%. I refuse to let a man—or anyone, for that matter—think they have a right to my body because they paid for my french fries. No thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Do women have to choose two out of Comfort, Freedom and Life?Does that metric about women spending 90% of money differentiate between single and married? Or between women who are employed and those that are not? It seems strange that you would specify married vs. single when it comes to men but lump all women together. When presenting data, please present all of it, not just the data that supports your narrative. Cherry-picking ain’t cool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 09:24 PM |
| 2 | If women are willing to date much older man, is the wall really that big of a problem?I don’t agree (and I’m not sure what autism has to do with anything here), but okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 08:55 PM |
| 2 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?I would say that “gracefully” is subjective if we’re talking about appearance. Otherwise, yeah—if I were a man, I’d be relieved to avoid menopause. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 06:28 PM |
| 5 | If women are willing to date much older man, is the wall really that big of a problem?Are they girls or women? Those two terms have different connotations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?I am so envious of that freedom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?In truth, lobbyists probably have more power than our political leaders, but that’s a totally different discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 03:38 PM |
| 1 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?Valid point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 03:36 PM |
| 2 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?I’d like to see the evidence behind this claim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:56 AM |
| 3 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?Having to sit down to pee is awful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:54 AM |
| 6 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?I don’t know. I’d argue that the vast majority of our political leaders are ugly as fuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:52 AM |
| 3 | As a man, I'm super envious of attractive, healthy women. How common and justified do you think this feeling is?Why not? Honest question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Mismatched Body-Counts: Important or Not?I would like to see these studies. I’m hoping they’re peer-reviewed, at the very least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Mismatched Body-Counts: Important or Not?Why would anyone want to pick apart someone’s sex life to this degree? It’s obsessive and a red flag all by itself. If you’re being sarcastic, disregard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:01 AM |
| 4 | Mismatched Body-Counts: Important or Not?I was waiting to see this response. If my value as a person and a lover is tied to how much sex my partner has had, I need therapy… not a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Why don't some men want to be masculine?To me, there’s a difference between masculinity and hypermasculinity. The latter places a heavy focus on posturing and exaggeration, often at the expense of others. It’s bad theater with repercussions not only for women, but for men. So I think it’s important to dissect what it means to be masculine, and what it means to cross that line into hypermasculinity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: how often do you give your number out when cold approached? Follow up question, how often do you follow through when he texts you?I think that was really cool, since she received it well, on top of you being gracious when it turned out that she wasn’t single. Cold approaches can be respectful, I believe that. I’ve just never had it happen to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women: how often do you give your number out when cold approached? Follow up question, how often do you follow through when he texts you?Report back? I’m curious to know how it goes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women: how often do you give your number out when cold approached? Follow up question, how often do you follow through when he texts you?Never give out my number or SM. Of course, my experiences with being cold approached lean heavily toward being catcalled—“look at that ass”, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 08:55 PM |
| 11 | Online dating is where low quality, leftover women (such as very overweight women, single mothers, those with mental issues) go to find prince charming and mr perfect, in an environment where men outnumber women by 3 to 1“Low quality, leftover” men.. if I were to use OP’s language. OP seems to think that the “argument” they’re making can’t go both ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 08:27 PM |
| 4 | A 6-9/10 guy should not struggle to land his equivalent for sex or LTR, but he does. A 4-6/10 woman has zero problem snagging a 7-10 dude for sex or LTR. This is the problem with modern datingI find it funny that—according to this post—it’s men trying to tell women what women find attractive. Our input as women “is irrelevant in this discussion.” This can’t be reality, can it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:55 PM |
| 9 | Imagine your most controversial reddit account, posts and comments become publicly linked to you. How would your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend react, as well as friends and family? Would you lose any relationships?I have a feeling that you‘ll mostly hear from people who walk the walk irl. People who feel “called out” for being duplicitous—not saying that’s what you’re doing—might keep scrolling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:52 AM |
| 5 | Imagine your most controversial reddit account, posts and comments become publicly linked to you. How would your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend react, as well as friends and family? Would you lose any relationships?Same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Are women attracted to ambition or results?If you have the drive to succeed, I don’t think it matters what you choose to do. You could fail to make it to med school and it wouldn’t matter to me because that drive to learn and succeed is a character trait. Ideally, you’d either work harder to continue on your path or you’d find a new goal altogether. With that said, I’m also an ambitious person so I would love someone with an equally high drive. We can bounce off each other. Someone with the result in hand… you’ve could be talking to some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:55 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Considering some kinks live right on the home page, I would rather not imagine what hides in the dark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.+1 DEX. We love it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:38 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.I know it’s a typo but I’ve been trying to imagine what a dangly ginger looks like. Edit: Damn autocorrect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:37 PM |
| 3 | What do y'all think about this list of red flags?Is there a socially acceptable number of opposite sex friends a person can have or is that discussed/agreed upon between the couple during the talking stage? If you’re at max quota, can you trade one out for a new one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:00 PM |
| 9 | What do y'all think about this list of red flags?Some of these (mostly the behavioral ones) can be legitimate turn-offs. However, I would like to understand what the difference is between conditions 9 and 18. Any “rule” in a relationship needs to be equal between partners. Otherwise, it reads rules for thee and not for me. 28 is nonsense. “Can’t really declare a major.” Really? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Women who have careers and RP mindsetI’ve read up on what the AF/BB phrase means. I may have misinterpreted it, but wouldn’t your friends be concerned—as the “boring and stable” men in their relationships—that their partners may step out and try for an alpha fuckboy, given the opportunity? Swear this isn’t a bad faith question. I’m just asking based on your characterization of the RP men in the last paragraph or two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:26 PM |
| 2 | What’s a low paying job for men that is so “cool” people don’t realize you’re broke?The videos of the little kids obsessed with their local garbage men come to mind with your comment. Ridiculously cute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:16 PM |
| 5 | What’s a low paying job for men that is so “cool” people don’t realize you’re broke?A good teacher (that treats their students well) is really attractive. Pretty good indicator of positive personality traits and a solid work ethic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 07:06 PM |
| 9 | Women who have careers and RP mindsetI can definitely see how this would be effective in the extremely short term. You might be a PUA at the end of the “program” but at least you’re getting sex. What’s baffling is that at least some of the commenters I’ve encountered don’t really care about how to maintain a healthy relationship. One reply I got was why care about doing a good job when I can’t get a successful interview? Why would anyone be interested in a relationship where the other person has this perspective? What would maintai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:49 AM |
| 3 | Women who have careers and RP mindsetThat’s a really good point. Some career goals do take a long time to reach. Either you have to find someone that’s been willing to juggle career and relationships the entire time, or someone who can somehow prove otherwise that they’re a suitable partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:39 AM |
| 28 | Women who have careers and RP mindsetI hadn’t run into this mindset before and I was trying to figure out how to put it into words. It is very circular. I wonder what the success rate is for an RP person in finding a partner and (separately) keeping them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Niceness, confidence and men attractivityGreat rebuttal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:17 AM |
| 3 | Niceness, confidence and men attractivityHardly anyone gives a fuck about discussing what makes women “happy” in a cerebral seance, because that’s the easy part for most guys. Reading through this sub, I have to wonder if that’s actually the case. The focus is so honed in on “getting the woman” and “fucking the woman” but I haven’t seen a single discussion on what they would do with the woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 11:59 PM |
| 8 | Have women become less interested in romance?That last part. Being naïve in these times is a surefire way to get hurt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 11:39 PM |
| 0 | Why Are You On PPD?If you want to argue technicalities when you were clearly wrong, go ahead… but I won’t be taking part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 11:36 PM |
| 3 | Have women become less interested in romance?I’ve been curious about romance, but I was raised in an abusive household where the concept of romance was corrupted for me. So yes, curious but not enough to go out of my way to find or chase it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 11:35 PM |
| 3 | Why Are You On PPD?I’m here for discussion and/or debate. I’m not picky about which, to be honest. Hadn’t really encountered RP “philosophies” in real life. The more I see, the more cult-y it seems when talking about following popular personalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 11:12 PM |
| 3 | Why Are You On PPD?Not really. I caught the exasperation of a person disappointed with their dating life because they’ve encountered assholes (which they do not indicate having dated or being interested in) and manipulative men that come off as “nice guys.” It is true that the sub probably primes people cognitively to make certain assumptions, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay. Good on you for acknowledging that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 11:04 PM |
| 16 | Why Are You On PPD?This is one of the fundamental issues with this sub. Commenters will actively jump to put words in your mouth to “make their point.” Chill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadTake my upvote. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThis is it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 05:41 PM |
| 5 | Which one of these three guys would you prefer for a relationship and why?This. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | I'm lgbt but I have done deep dives in both pills: debate is nice but what is your solution ?That’s worrying, to say the least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I don’t agree. This will be my last reply to you. Thank you for your time! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Then we agree to disagree. I speak for myself and no other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:37 PM |
| 5 | I'm lgbt but I have done deep dives in both pills: debate is nice but what is your solution ?Seconded. If I die tomorrow, I don’t want to have spent all my time and emotional energy pissed that a pretty person didn’t have sex with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:35 PM |
| 5 | I'm lgbt but I have done deep dives in both pills: debate is nice but what is your solution ?I am very bisexual. Dating a woman instead gets more appealing by the day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I think it’s great that we agree on the importance of loyalty as a deciding factor for relationships. I think we may continue to disagree on virginity as a metric. With that said, I really enjoyed the debate! Thank you for sharing your perspective with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?But there are clearly differences in how attraction is expressed between individuals. It is possible to compliment someone without fetishizing them. It’s wrong that people are made to feel objectified, regardless of whether they are men or women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?It isn’t right that short men are demonized. That’s cruel. My brother is probably around 5’9 and he’s a wonderful man. My father is 5’11 and he is awful. Height isn’t a metric by which we should judge character. I agree with you here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?This was my question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?People—man, woman, whoever—who will fetishize each other can be together. Or they can be alone. Whatever. Like u/nemma88 said, just leave the rest of us out of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I can’t speak for her, since she is not me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I couldn’t have said it better myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Everybody has to meet standards. I prefer personality over appearance or sexual history. The men I know are not wired to be shallow. Speaking of standards, have you ever heard of punctuation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?My criteria on what makes a good partner is irrelevant here. I’m more or less focused on why non-virgin men can be given the benefit of the doubt—in your words, “getting to know him and see[ing] how he Interacts with other people”—but we can’t give non-virgin women the same benefit. Any one person can either become more promiscuous or become more selective after losing their virginity. This goes for men and women. Hinging an entire potential relationship on such an unreliable metric doesn’t make… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 02:11 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?He’s assured me that the groan was “at the absurdity of that analogy.” Direct quote! You don’t have to believe me, I promise. I’m glad we agree on how unreliable a measure virginity status is for projecting the course of an entire relationship. Some people on this thread definitely didn’t get that far in their thinking. I understand wanting a loyal partner. I think that in most cases, it’s a basic expectation for a healthy relationship. However, equating potential for loyalty to the number of se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 01:09 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?He was a fine guy until this moment. He bluntly expressed to me that his interest in me was solely due to the fact that I was untouched. My character did not come into play. That is what differentiates a preference from a fetish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:33 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Agreed. Some sports can also result in a torn hymen. EDIT: Typo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:32 AM |
| 11 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?First, I will say that I read this reply out loud to my brother and he groaned. I’ve been talking to him to guarantee that I have a male perspective throughout. It sounds like your primary concern is emotional baggage. How might you tell physically if a woman has had sex before? Even once. Chances are you can’t. If we’re going by the logic that emotional baggage is the primary concern, you could encounter a woman who has never had sex but has a ton of attachment issues that could manifest in you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I love it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Fellow redditor, I think we’ve reached the end of this debate. It’s clear to me that you’ve attempted to draw equivalences that even you admit aren’t really equivalences. With that said, your entire argument seems to have fallen apart. Best of luck to you in the future! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Exactly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?So you agree that it is possible to gain and/or lose muscle but it is impossible to regain your virginity. Yet, such significant value is being placed on a woman’s status or non-status as a virgin. So, how are these things equivalent? We can agree to disagree on body positivity. I want to re-add the context to my choice to label it as fetishization instead of preference. I was fetishized by the man I mentioned in my first comment. He did not give a single fuck who I was; he only cared that—in hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I think that universally, it shouldn’t matter. People are more than their sexual experiences. Men are more than their expertise in bed, and women are more than their chastity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 12:00 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?That will probably be the way I go, to be honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I feel for the guy, honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:53 PM |
| 8 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Maybe I’m speaking for just myself at this point, but I honestly don’t care if a man has muscles. Most that I’ve been attracted to I would characterize as squishy. Note that I’ve only specified that men who fetishize virginity are creepy. If you’re not doing that, you have nothing to be concerned about. As far as larger men being shat on, I believe they have just as much right to body positivity as women do. They are bad as fuck and should be able to flaunt it. With that said, I’m talking about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:39 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Are men without muscles demonized or looked down upon? Are there people who love men without muscles without judging them for not having muscles? Let me be clear, I’m not saying that men with muscles aren’t fetishized by some. I’m saying that the attempt to draw an equivalence between fetishizing muscles and fetishizing virginity is failing here. Fetishizing virginity is creepy because it’s predatory. It calls to mind the idea of enjoying “barely 18” content because of the moral association with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:31 PM |
| 8 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?So they can learn and grow together as a pair. I’m talking about men that have clearly had their own sexual experiences but expect the women they pursue to be completely untouched. The double standard is unsavory, to say the least. But you already know this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:18 PM |
| 9 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Is there some cognitive or moral association that we make with men that have muscles? Thinking of how the hymen is associated with purity and innocence… can you match that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:16 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Where I’m at right now. Chilling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:12 PM |
| 17 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?This is 100% of the variety that I’ve run into. It’s disconcerting. I’m not ashamed of the fact that I’m a virgin but men like that make me want to hide it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:05 PM |
| 14 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Depends on why he has that policy. If it’s some fetish about deflowering the virgin, then no. If he can articulate to me that his reasons aren’t creepy as hell, then maybe. However, I’m assuming that this hypothetical relationship would end permanently if we were to separate for any reason… because he only dates virgins and I clearly wouldn’t be one on round two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?Yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 10:59 PM |
| 25 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I find men who fixate on a woman’s so-called “purity” strange. So far, I’ve encountered more than a few men who have pursued me purely because I haven’t been with another man. My personality and other features don’t factor in. I’m a successful woman that’s worked my way through college to get a Master’s and I’m working on getting into a PhD program. That’s treated as a side note. I might date a man that prefers virgins if he can appreciate the other aspects of me that I bring into the relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 10:57 PM |
| 60 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?I had a man tell me—after fucking my roommate the night before, where I could hear them—that he actually wished it were me because I was a virgin and he really liked that about me. How I hadn’t been touched before. The only thing that man could say he liked about me was the fact that my hymen was intact. I can’t imagine why one would react well to blatant fetishization. I object to the “preference” because it’s weird and creepy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Why are women less attracted to men than men are to women?I think that historically, what we find physically attractive changes over time. The ideal woman has changed from thick to thin and back again multiple times over the last few centuries. I remember when the “dad bod” started trending. Is it still in now? I don’t know. People change. Their preferences change. Androgynous men are popular now on social media. How long will that be the case? Point is, there are a lot of possible answers to this question and I can’t guarantee you’ll be satisfied with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 10:18 PM |
| 1 | The elephant in the room that women have attempted to get us to ignore: women are not attracted to genuinely nice guysI’ve been in a position of encountering both the nice guy and the cocky asshole in the span of one short period of time. I worked with both. Both were interested in me, for whatever reason. I am single by choice and I have a rule against dating coworkers. They both had aspects to their personalities that I found attractive, to be honest… but they also said iffy shit from time to time that gave me bad vibes. Looking back, I’m glad I stuck to my guns and said no. The nice guy (26) ended up going a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 09:57 PM |
| 1 | It is a man's duty to protect his woman. You're a coward if you think otherwise. (excluding very specific situations)RP leaning dynamics. Thanks for the discussion. It was enlightening. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 09:00 PM |
| 1 | It is a man's duty to protect his woman. You're a coward if you think otherwise. (excluding very specific situations)I’m less interested in the control aspect and more in the emotional aspect, to be honest. It honestly comes down to what one values most, and your values appear to align. If she’s happy and you’re happy, good on both of you for finding something that has worked. I place an extremely high value on autonomy because of how I grew up. My mother was completely reliant on my father for everything, and he used that control to abuse her and me. So, I find it interesting to explore and see how this dynam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | It is a man's duty to protect his woman. You're a coward if you think otherwise. (excluding very specific situations)I’d make the same choice if it meant that I could keep my autonomy. Good on her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 07:32 PM |
| 1 | It is a man's duty to protect his woman. You're a coward if you think otherwise. (excluding very specific situations)Good luck finding a woman willing to take you up on that generous offer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 07:14 PM |
| -1 | Why do women push back so hard on the notion that dating may be easier for them?Confirmation bias in action. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 11:25 AM |
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