PumpkinSub Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
58	"I know"	DISCUSSION	PumpkinSub	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/17 08:39 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Men leaving for younger women is natural I know many men in their 40's with similarly aged wives who deeply love and respect their partners. These are the mothers of their children. The women they are building their life with, share their dreams with. If you strip these men of their honor, integrity, loyalty, and love, then yes sure they can go for young women and have more babies but I think there is much more than societal rules keeping men with their wives.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 05:01 PM
1	For those into BDSM yet you are here, what’s your story? I'm a sub and my husband a dom but we don't get to practice it much anymore with our general lives being busy. I was involved in the kink community but found it pretty toxic and left it years ago. My kink stays in the bedroom although I personally like it extending out of the bedroom not because I think it's the way society should be, it's the way I like to be. We naturally fall into a light dom/sub play in everyday life, he generally gets the last say for instance but he never abuses that power…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/22 12:57 PM
66	Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacity That's gross. Just own being a single dad and love on your child! If they aren't proud of their own flesh and blood how could they ever care about a wife/girlfriend? I bet there are single fathers that would make great partners but the work to filter out all the garbage is too much. Keep maintaining your boundaries!! No single dads, no divorced, etc whatever they are. Having the same amount of baggage in a relationship is pretty helpful.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/01/22 02:42 PM
1	NEVER AGAIN Haha yupp their mom bought it for them 20 years ago and they never replaced it. Same goes for ladies with our passed down TVs.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/20 02:08 PM
3	To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled. This is romance!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/08/20 05:34 PM
10	The "cool girl" monologue from Gone Girl has stuck with me long after I watched the movie. Even though Amy Dunne is crazy, her madness touches on the trope I know we've all heard praised or even tried to aspire to. Absolutely perfect monologue. It hits even harder when you read it versus hearing it in the movie.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/06/20 12:33 AM
3	FDS Level Up Bitches! Make his pockets hurt! Im married and I love FDS. I really dont even belong there but I can't help it. I love the female empowerment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/20 08:23 PM
9	LVM DATING 101 🤡 Romance is essential to a thriving relationship. Never settle.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/05/20 01:53 PM
7	Scrotes being scrotes Reddit men only started realizing porn as a problem when they looked down to see their softies wont go up. Women have been screaming it on Reddit for years and being silenced or shamed for it. Ew. I remember coming out in the early days of reddit saying its not healthy or normal and got obliterated by nasty comments. When in reality there are HVM that understand the downsides of it and use in moderation or not at all. This dude is one step away from taking testosterone to fix his problem instead of quitting porn. Sure man, its your testosterone and inner anxiety...sure.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/03/20 03:42 PM
76	Pinterest + hvm So lazy and unattractive to hear a guy say "just tell me what to do", "I don't know what you want", "I'm a bad gift giver". How convenient! Oh I'm sorry I'm a bad cook and lingerie is uncomfortable and insert any other comment a man would expect from his partner. Jay from Boston gets it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/20 03:14 PM
36	Yet Another Example of how Men KNOW when they’ve found their wife almost immediately. "I think it's a testament to the fact that when you find the right person, you can just kind of know. And it doesn't take a ton of time to know that." - Cameron from “Love Is Blind” And then you've got Barnett and Amber who are both objectively low value assholes but their love is such scummy purity I can't help but root for them. hahaha yes perfect description.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/03/20 06:41 PM
1	Why do women touch men in ways they wouldn't liked to be touched? ...that happened	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/19 04:18 PM
2	Why do I have to lie to women LOL alright relax over there. You didn't answer her question is your first issue. When she asked why you are on Tinder you overshared as others have said without giving her any real reason as to why you are on Tinder. You've never dated anyone and..."you are looking for a serious relationship." ..."you are looking for a hookup." ..."you are looking for a FWB." ..."you are interested in a combination of the formers"... do you see what I am getting at? Be clear about what you want. Don't just look…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 03:34 PM
1	Q4M: Do you account for a woman's finances? IMO, it doesn't matter who makes more money as long as both people work equally in and outside of the home. I think what's worse is a man who manages money badly. If he doesn't make much and does a bad job with handling finances, that's a red flag.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/19 03:15 PM
12	Do you think it's reasonable to judge men's resources by standards of women's sexuality? Same basic things as men. Companionship, intimacy, half their resources for keeping up a home, shared finances for family goals. Both are needed to start a family if that is desired. This whole notion that women only bring sex to a relationship is rooted in deep sexism IMO. I think men can bring a lot to a relationship, same for women. I suppose if you make bad choices and date a crappy person they might bring very little and just use your resources but that's on the individual not based in ge…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/19 03:06 PM
3	CMV: Most men severely underestimate the work women do in terms of working out/diet to just "not be fat". I can empathize with some of what you wrote. I'm back to calorie counting after having my baby and I forgot how hungry I get when I track. I tried going to 1200 calories a day once and I was so cranky and miserable. I remember my stomach growling constantly. I'd go to bed hungry, wake up hungry, only feed my body coffee to curb it, and then I would run 3x a week. I looked great but I was hungry a lot and I could never really get very good at running because I had cut my calories down so much. To…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/19 05:21 PM
2	Are the 'hover hand' photographs of Keanu Reeves a sign of an emerging double standard? Maybe Keanu doesnt want to touch all these strangers. Like damn. I'm not a germaphobe but I do not hug, touch, hold hands, etc with people I don't know. Its fucking weird to me. Touch is intimate IMO. So many people have glorified Keanu and this perceived respect of boundaries perhaps that's the case but perhaps its also because he gets over touched and he is over it. The answer can be simple.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/19 08:44 PM
30	Male sluts do not (and CAN not) exist I knew a man in college who slept with 30 plus women and he was 25 y/o, I considered that guy a slut and assumed he had a hard time pair bonding. So ya, to me he was slutty. Also, I personally knew a handful of very slutty gay men. All your convoluted definitions aside, some people just be slutty and take it wherever they can get it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/19 06:08 PM
1	Women with masculine traits do you look for men with feminie traits or men who are so masculine they make you more feminine? They gotta me more masculine than me, doesn't matter the scale.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/19 08:46 PM
2	Who came up with the idea that concurrently sleeping around with a bunch of people (plating) is a good way to get an LTR? > Maybe I'm rusty from my RP days but who got this idea that plating is going to get you an LTR? I don't think that's the point from a RP perspective. The group as a whole actively encourages not settling down etc. That could be a LTR, oneitis, marriage, etc. Stick to the formula - have sex with people you find hot and don't get too close to them. > People worth dating (smart and intuitive ones) will sniff out your bullshit and lies sooner than you think. Pretty much, which is why a lot of RP te…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/19 05:02 PM
2	The contribution of women to the social decline There are far more things today more stimulating than your everyday man. That perspective is shared by many women who do not want to "mom" their boyfriends/husbands. Women don't have to rely on men anymore for basic things and they don't have to settle for a man they are not attracted to. So the standards have risen and they have changed. If a man can't bring something of value to a relationship why should she give up her womb for that man, or do half the labor involved with a relationship? I wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/19 04:48 PM
1	I could use some perspective Damn, a decade is a long time of waiting around. At this point you gotta know he is not going to remodel your bathroom. I get being gentle and feminine in your approach to asking but you already know where that will get you. Its okay to have a "come to jesus talk" with your man. If this scares him off then what was your marriage based on?? I'm of the opinion that you can be a soft landing but also a strong proponent of getting shit done and advocating for your family. Tell him its bothering you …	/r/RedPillWives	14/03/19 01:10 PM
3	Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - November 24, 2018 Perhaps. No one is perfect or has perfect health so putting it off in hopes of being more flexible might not be a great plan. Im in the boat that there's never a perfect time to start your life. For reference, I'm the same height as you but heavier. I've had an ideal pregnancy, no morning sickness, no heartburn, or complications. I don't practice yoga and I have a sit down office job. Just try to eat healthy when you can, take prenatal vitamins, go to your doctor regularly, and hope for the best…	/r/RedPillWives	25/11/18 04:21 AM
3	what makes a woman respect or value a relationship with a man? Personally, the main component I admire and respect in a man is his integrity. If I can trust his word, trust his actions, and trust he won't put our relationship in jeopardy then I will respect and honor him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/18 06:24 PM
2	Women, how often do you talk with your mother? Men, how often do you talk with your father? How often have you talked to her/him throughout your life? I talk with my mother once every 2 weeks on the phone but we text each other a few times a week. She is my only parent left so I make sure to give her time. Our mother-daughter bond has always been strong. She is my role model. My father died last year (today, actually) and he was more bothered by empty nest than my mother. He missed his kids a lot. I called him a few times a month and emailed him regularly in between. He was a man of few words but he just liked to know I was thinking of him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/18 04:58 PM
3	Why is PPD so hilarious and entertaining? right?! THEY ARE CARRIERS!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/18 04:26 PM
1	Toxic masculinity only exists because women sexually select for those traits. If they stopped it would disappear overnight. Agreed. Masculinity means a great deal of things to different people I suppose. To me, it also means protecting, not bullying with groping etc. Agressiveness can be great and sexy but with consent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/18 11:06 PM
2	Toxic masculinity only exists because women sexually select for those traits. If they stopped it would disappear overnight. I think one can be a feminist and attracted to masculine men. Not bumbling penis joke boys but men that are in control, take the lead, and follow through on their responsibilities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/18 08:54 PM
8	How to know if he's over his ex-girlfriend I feel as though the comparisons need to stop. Right now they are favorable but in his head he may be thinking of the non favorable ones. He may slip and let one out when you two disagree on something in the future. Being a low key g/f is great and he may come around to appreciating the less intense relationship. It takes some time to learn that intense does not equate to a deep loving connection. Frankly what feels good, like really down to the bones good, is when you can rely on your partner a…	/r/RedPillWives	23/08/18 06:21 PM
2	What do you define as cheating? I find cheating to be visiting strip clubs and sexting other people (strangers or not) so frankly anything beyond that wouldn't fly either. I'm probably more hardcore than others but I've been in poly relationships and they sucked the life out of me so I swung hard the other direction. I've landed in my comfort zone and I won't negotiate on it. I want my life to be building a solid foundation with someone and I won't spend my time trying to figure out where their bro's took them the night before…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/18 03:00 PM
5	Why are so many women pro casual sex/hookup culture but anti-prostitution? When threads like these come up I chuckle when I read the revenge fantasies some people have over women finally losing their sexual power. I just don't see that happening. Personally, I don't care if sex work is or is not legal. I really don't have a stake in the game but it wouldn't change my opinions on dating men who pay for sex. On the flip side, I would assume some men wouldn't date me for getting paid to rent my body out either if that's what I chose to do. In theory, if you pay for sex yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/18 03:50 PM
10	Becoming a goddess of light! This is really sweet. The feminine power is strong when harnessed correctly. Nice job :)	/r/RedPillWives	03/07/18 02:13 PM
1	Redpillwomen mirroring Modern Feminism how do you know its men masquerading as women? I'm already put off by the amount of guys that are welcome to post there but if the mods are guys too, get me out asap.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/18 08:43 PM
4	Redpillwomen mirroring Modern Feminism I'm a contributor to RedPillWomen but I find it attracts a younger audience so it doesn't surprise me to see feminist skewed posts. I don't mind because it allows for an open debate, not everything feminist is bad. I am however very tired of the men that post in there. I would prefer they keep their views out of our feminine space but haven't found a better alternative yet. The cattiness doesn't bother me. I see that in any thread with any gender. People are just picky with each other sometimes.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/18 06:16 PM
12	Sexually submissive Alpha men Just because one partner wants a sexual act that the other one isnt comfortable with does not mean they will feel empty or the intimacy bond is lost. Good ol fashion PIV is still on the table and is a wonderful bonding experience. Since they broke up he is now available to find women like you who like pegging men. Your shaming tactics are lame.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/18 02:54 PM
10	Sexually submissive Alpha men Sexual compatibility is an important part of a relationship, don't downplay it. I wouldn't be interested in pegging either and no amount of shaming is going to make me change my mind. In the same way I don't like the 69 position. I just don't care for it. You don't have to like every sexual desire your partner has and vice versa but you do have to communicate what you want and don't want. Its pretty telling that you were relieved when the relationship ended and its clear you prefer being the ove…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/18 02:44 PM
27	I'm not really sure how to phrase this question so I guess I'll just ask for feedback on my situation. Some of you here seems to only accept commitment if a man puts himself in total vulnerability, that's kind of sad. It’s not sad to want a healthy, happy, marriage and a family under one name. I’m going to be clear about that and I don’t think those desires are sad because they are mine and I value myself. I will only date men than want that in return. If her desires matched her partners there would be no discussion but they don’t so that’s why it’s being brought up because what she wants she wil…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 04:49 PM
20	I'm not really sure how to phrase this question so I guess I'll just ask for feedback on my situation. Don't let other people de-legitimize your choices I don't get the feeling others are trying to de-legitmize OP's choices to be a mother, caretaker, homemaker etc. We are questioning how she will do that if the man she partners up with won't give her biological children? There is a possibility of adopting but it makes me ask if the child will be under his name only because if her name is on the papers too will that mean more risk for him? He is very averse to adding her into his life in any perma…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 03:52 PM
52	I'm not really sure how to phrase this question so I guess I'll just ask for feedback on my situation. You can't have his child and you won't ever have his child. You won't get married you will forever be the girlfriend for your lifetime. You ended your college career early in favor of his trajectory. There is nothing wrong with that but you aren't getting any assurances from him that you are protected. You need to maintain some independence because this guy is not going to give you any commitment other than living together. I think that should help with some of your problems. It will give you a …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 02:59 PM
6	How are you currently trying to improve yourself? (For yourself or your SO) I don't lift right now but will once I drop this baby and the baby weight. Although I have read that squats are highly recommended during pregnancy. I have recently switched to low impact cardio and I've stopped running since I feel sluggish and heavy. When I work out it feels like I am regressing instead of progressing. I've only ever worked out to get fit and feel confident but this time its different and suddenly I have to change a lifetime of thinking. I'm working out for a healthier pregnan…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/18 02:50 PM
9	How are you currently trying to improve yourself? (For yourself or your SO) I'm pregnant and so tired all the time but trying to get myself to move more. Even a month ago I was at the gym 3x a week so I'm trying to get myself back on that horse but god it is hard when it you are getting heavier and slower every day.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/18 02:07 PM
1	He has access to endless free sex....what am I getting out of this? I know what you were referring to. I took her response differently. Not that she isn't willing to give but that there may not always be time for 45 minute blow jobs. Its also not a solution for her desire for less sex since that is still sex and doesn't solve the dilemma with feeling resentful over her perception of imbalance.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 03:44 PM
1	He has access to endless free sex....what am I getting out of this? I think she means he likes to take his time.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 03:06 PM
1	Husband spoils me to a shopping day 😘 Thats awesome! Its such an amazing feeling when your man goes out of his way to make you feel special.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/18 03:46 PM
11	Being "tough" at work? The teasing, shoving, and telling other servers to do tasks is simply restaurant life. I've worked in a few and it was the same in each one. You really should learn to hone the skill to tell people how you want to be treated. They can't read minds and will make the assumption for you if you don't speak up. No one likes a pushover and being a pushover is not a feminine trait or a trait you would want. Practice saying, "I don't like being teased", "I don't have the time to do that.", "This is my b…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/18 02:18 PM
3	What kind of nails do you have? Natural painted nails. I usually keep to bright colors in summer, neutral in winter, and jewel tones in fall. I like almond shaped. However when I get them professionally done I ask for a french manicure on almond shape. Most men I know prefer the french look and I cbf to do that myself so I pay for it. No fake nails on me ever but I like the look on other women.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/18 03:47 PM
17	Are older men a good option? There is something very exciting and valuable about building a life with a man your age. He may not be already settled with a fat 401k at 28 but you will be building up your life with him, supporting him to be his best and he in return for you, and creating a family life together that you can both take pride in rather than settling in with a man that doesn't need, want, or desire that type of partner. It's a basic pro/con list. You just have to know what you are getting yourself into and underst…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/18 03:45 PM
5	Women high up in the totem pole, how do you regain humility? You sound like 23 year old me. I was such hot shit. Graduated at 21, was accomplished with my work and earning good money, I had a good family, good friends, etc. I had it all figured out and felt I was much more accomplished than my peers. Then life took a shit all over my check list because life doesn't care about what you think you're entitled to. It sounds like you still have some growing to do and I don't mean that in a bad way. Growth in my 20's was major and unavoidable. Everyone makes mi…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/05/18 03:05 PM
3	Seriously concerned about my relationship? [change in dynamic) 26F & 29M You gotta tell him. Use your feminine power to deliver the message in a stern but sweet manner. Have a discussion over a warm meal you cooked. You 2 will get through it, this is small potatoes. There may be a day where you don't make more money and the tables will turn again just as they were in the past. There is a fluctuation with earnings. Your man may skyrocket in a few years or you may decide to stay at home with a baby in the future and earn no money. Ya never know. It sounds like a good o…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/05/18 02:09 PM
0	Husband keeping in contact with ex girlfriend... It doesn't matter if OP finds her attractive. Her husband once dated her so he obviously thinks she was/is attractive.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/18 02:48 PM
1	Husband keeping in contact with ex girlfriend... You can go either way on this one and personally it depends on your relationship. For me, I'm a little more hardcore than others here so I would mention you came across the mementos and it got you thinking about their relationship. Why is he in contact via text if they aren't hanging out like true buddies? What's the point? Tingles probably. I'm like you, I don't talk to ex's because we never were just friends, I'm never going to open that door up again. So i'd shut it down but like i mentioned …	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/18 02:46 PM
2	Emotional labor discussion Thank you for being here and saying this.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/18 07:14 PM
7	Emotional labor discussion I think emotional labor is valid but not in the sense that women are the only ones who experience it and men are free from it. We choose what we take on. If someone finds themselves having to constantly remind their spouse of their responsibilities then thats their fault. You have got let people fail and allow yourself and your family to "look bad" if someone else keeps slacking the line. Everyone on the ship has to shape up and its not the wife's responsibility to handle it all unless she has a…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/18 07:11 PM
5	The problem with being a housewife -spoiler: it's other people (rant) The push back can come from a place of concern because its a risk to put your financial well being into someone else's hands. Assuming you are not wealthy, there wouldn't be a way to protect yourself. However, thats worse case scenario and hopefully the woman would have vetted well enough where she isn't worried her man is going to drop her, cheat on her, etc and put her in a spot where she has to live like a pauper because she spent her life supporting her family non monetarily. Just stand up f…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/18 07:01 PM
1	revisiting the topic of "he is lucky to have me" it is a social norm for couples to say "I'm lucky to have him/her", it should never be literal in my opinion Agreed. Both partners should be working hard to keep their partner. There is no luck involved with that.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/04/18 04:39 PM
6	RPW theory says women will always marry "up." Any stories about women marrying "down"? Money ain't what makes an alpha man. You may make more money right now but wait a few years, he may be out earning you. It sounds like you respect your guy which is worth more than any salary IMO	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/18 05:56 PM
1	In a relationship with a "beta" male, is there hope he will change? You said it yourself, you feel like a mom. He isn't going to change because he wants a mom relationship. You have got to leave and find yourself a man that you can respect. Its absolutely worth it. Staying in an unfulfilling relationship is worse than being alone.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/18 05:52 PM
3	[News] Dishwashing causes more relationship distress than any other household task. Its a bit humorous because its small potatoes but I can agree personally to the article. There are somethings I don't particularly like to do but will do because they are better suited for me but dishes...dishes never stop, dishes are forever. I'm very excited to finally go back to having a dishwasher because there is something that deeply bothers me about always having dirty dishes piled up. Our kitchen is small and I cook almost everything from scratch so there is never a time that our sink is…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/18 05:42 PM
1	The Queen Archetype Thanks for sharing. I have a long road trip coming up so this will be nice to listen to.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/03/18 07:16 PM
6	Having to fire your husband Why is this company having you fire him? Is it possible to have someone else handle your husband? I feel like this is common sense for any corporation. I know husbands and wives at my company have gone through similar scenarios but they have never fired each other. There's no easy way around it, you just have to push through. The deed needs to get done. He will need a few days to accept the news but ultimately you two both move forward as one unit and figure out the best way to get back on track…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/03/18 05:18 PM
3	Having to fire your husband I get what you are saying, but in this scenario he is not her captain. More or less, she is his boss and bosses generally withhold information from their employees until the time is right.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/03/18 05:14 PM
2	How do you feel about Miranda Kerr as a RPW example? I didn't really see much substance in those videos and typically don't use celebrities as examples.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/03/18 03:39 PM
8	How to find like minded women locally? You could look into meet up groups or hobby groups. Homesteading clubs might have some stay at home spouses, sewing clubs, cooking classes, book clubs that touch on topics you like, volunteering opportunities. I don't know how much time you have to dedicate to this endeavor but you could also start your own group, call it whatever you want. If you build it they will come. The general advice is if you do something that truly inspires and interests you then genuine friendships will follow.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/03/18 04:01 PM
1	Finally losing weight! (So excited) How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I'm 30 and also 5'9". When I ate 1600 calories and working out 3x a week in my late 20's, the pounds melted off. I'm currently doing it again and I'm seeing some movement but nothing like last time. I remember when I was 10 pounds away from my GW at the time I tried cutting to 1200 but I found I was tired, cranky, unmotivated, I found when I ate at 1600 I was much more alert. Just looking for some pointers/tips on how to mitigate those feelings. I hea…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/03/18 06:25 PM
6	Questions I don't think you can categorize the sex life of men that easily. Some men prefer coyness I'm sure but you don't have to pretend to be coy or slutty. I think you should be authentically you in the bedroom otherwise you wont be sexually compatible at all. I'm a total hoe in the bedroom for my man and my man only. I don't dress like a hoe on the street though. Ya feel me?	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/18 10:04 PM
3	How to keep your calm when you dont get attention from the guy ur (kind of) dating?? Have you ever met this person in real life?	/r/RedPillWomen	27/02/18 06:03 PM
2	"Even when you're at your worst...you're still amazing" That's a very sweet thing for him to say to you!	/r/RedPillWomen	27/02/18 06:00 PM
1	False nails? You would get used to the false nails if you wore them enough. I think they can be polished when they are cut shorter and they have a nice long lasting effect but I personally hate how they destroy the natural nail bed underneath. I steer clear and opt for regular polish instead but polish wears off much more quickly. Its preference really. The take home is when the right circumstances call for natural no polish nails verses polish/fakes.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/02/18 05:54 PM
4	How do you communicate your needs and encourage captain behavior when husband's beta traits are killing the marriage? God damnit woman. Listen, you can't force yourself to love this man. You can say you appreciate him on paper but your marriage isn't "on paper" this is your life and your fucking his life up in the process of your shitty indecision. You never had both feet in on this marriage so just cut your losses and move on. You only get one life, stop pussy footing arund. You have riddled yourself with indecision based on fear but plain and simple, you just want out. You are not the only person in the world…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/18 07:11 PM
2	I found out on Valentine's Day my BF cheated on me a while back It doesn't sound like it would be hard to be a better man than your past affair partner. Just a thought.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/18 05:09 PM
0	Met a very alpha man with some hang-ups. Dont know what to make of him? I find it very intriguing to say the least. You sound like you are vetting him out, which is pretty natural to do. Anxiety isn't a red flag IMO and its pretty early in the get to know each other phase so it very well could be multiple things going on. Maybe anxiety, or nerves, or maybe he was distracted. Something to think about, I've met attractive, powerful, natural leaders who deal with anxiety, and its sometimes because they are alone at the top as they grapple with the next right move to make. You won't know if he is a good fit for y…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/18 03:45 PM
6	Came to RPW for a lol... Except I kind of agree with a lot of it. I have some newbie Qs! This is great! Welcome to our little community. Try not to fight every decision he makes and accept responsibility for the tasks he delegates to you. It's not easy to take the backseat for sure and sometimes you’ll want to fight back but it's not helpful and mostly just divides. I still occasionally fall in that trap but getting out of it is easier and easier. Your ego isn’t as bruised. Conquering as a team is much more satisfying and if you trust your man than you know the decisions he makes be…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/18 03:44 PM
5	Did I massively fuck up with my BF? He has not responded to my apology text :( I don't think you fucked up that badly. It sounds like your BF might be taking a breather because of the company you keep. You may be an alright girl but your friends sound harsh. How is your BF supposed to feel next time you all hang out together? If I were him I would not be interested in a friendship with them following this ordeal. You did the right thing by not confronting him esp while drunk but I find texting is never the right medium to solution a problem in a relationship. Anxiety, what…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/18 05:58 PM
1	Open relationship, stupid idea? Short answer is Yes. Long answer is Yeeeeeeessssssssssssssssss. Real talk: A few others have already shared their experience that they once had the open relationship and now the are not in that relationship anymore. I think its a gamble that's not worth the payout or the risk. You are right on the confusion. If you think he won't get confused too you are fooling yourself. I was poly for about 5 years in my first relationship and knew a lot of poly people and now none of us are still together. Gr…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/18 08:54 PM
1	Husband thinks we have too much sex! Dang, 2-4 is my dream. But once a day sounds healthier. Take it in stride, and focus on getting to know a deeper level of the other attractive qualities he has. I'm sure he is still very smitten with you.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/18 07:01 PM
1	Does the Red Pill devalue women or make them lesser than men? I think you are viewing it as him versus you scenario and it really should be a team viewpoint. Instead of thinking about what YOU get, try reframing it as what do WE gain from one stay at home spouse? First, being submissive does not mean you are anyone’s slave. You don’t need to lose yourself in being a housewife. There are plenty of interesting women in the world who maintain hobbies and interests outside of their family and relationships. However, it can mean you trust your partner to make t…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/18 05:43 PM
6	RP Housewives, Do You Feel Extra Conscious About The Cleanliness Of Your Home? I remember visiting the home of a friend whose parents were very strict with cleanliness. I took my shoes off at the door, floors were vacuumed daily, kid’s rooms were always picked up. As a guest it felt sterile. I was afraid to make any wrong moves because it would be obvious I was there. If I sat on the couch and the pillow shifted, I would fix it kind of deal. As an adult I appreciate the cleanliness that family kept but I personally enjoy houses that have a lived in feel. I can relax in hom…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/17 04:53 PM
9	Girls Night Out revisited Girls Nights Out and Boys Nights Out are both alarming to me because of the social conditioning around them. I can see the concern. It depends on the crew. I have some friends where our hang outs include baking at each other's houses or doing a local event that aligns with our interests like pagan rituals, music oriented, etc. My clubbing days are over. I prefer more wholesome events and if my friends or partner wanted to be apart of those types of night outs I would just assume we have differen…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/17 09:14 PM
1	What are some little things you do to spoil your SO? Do you tell her it makes your day? just curious.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/17 09:06 PM
1	How men show their love Absolutely. I love the way you spelled this out.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/17 09:02 PM
3	Happiness and contentment A nice post for me to read. I like the idea about expecting less and I think that will help me take a mental load off. I think the expectations are different when you are dating while living together and I'm not sure how to manage it sometimes. Would you be willing to PM?	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/17 07:48 PM
1	Who do you talk about your so to? I have one friend I talk with but she doesn't always give the advice I need to hear as she is quick to side with me. Usually through talking things out I get to where I need to be but I would love to have a friend who is taken in hand and could help when I start to struggle with letting go of control. I suppose that's a WIP.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/17 07:31 PM
5	My boyfriend feels pressured to marry me. You said he was frustrated so he most likely blurted out "several more years" but may change his tune on that with time. However...It’s a bit disconcerting that he blew up when you brought up marriage. I don't know the context and amount of these conversations but you should be able to have a serious conversation about the future of your relationship without one person holding that conversation hostage. Take this next part with a grain of salt just due to the lack of information I have. He very …	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/17 07:23 PM
2	Vetting For Marriage? Yeah but that usually follows a long dating period. I know some people jump in sooner but that can be risky.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/17 08:14 PM
3	Vetting For Marriage? It's taken me a long time to figure this out but its mostly a personal journey about intimate needs. I'm not talking about basics like not cheating, no drug issues, sexual attraction etc. I did some soul searching last year and learned some of the things I need from a partner. I need a leader, I need someone who can comfort me, and I need a supporter. Without those things I wouldn't have a future with someone. However, you can't vet it all, at some point you just have to jump in. It takes time.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/17 08:05 PM
5	Thoughts on being a Red Pill Woman and points on a Red Pill Man - from someone who grew up this way Love this. Your relationship sounds like its a well oiled machine. Its always really nice to have a partner aware enough to help out when you are struggling and offer help. The examples and points you laid out are subtle but to me speak volumes. I used to bring my man groceries when he lived alone so he had good food to eat and he would come over to my place and w/o prompting would fix little things in my apartment or clean out the dryer hose for example. Stuff I didn't think about. Compliments …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/09/17 02:22 PM
5	Any extroverted RPW here? I'm an ENFP as well. I love being social and helping conversation along but that doesn't mean I want to dominate the conversation and I tend to flutter around at parties anyway. Which means I socialize with almost everyone at a party. I've always had an easy time dating as I've found people are drawn to the happy go lucky vibe I put out which can be fun because that means I have choices but it can be harder to weed out the losers. A high value man will see the things you bring to the table as po…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/17 08:59 PM
3	Bachelorette Party: Male Strip Club I feel you. I would be very uncomfortable in your situation too. I've had friends relay stories of how their experiences at clubs with male dancers were very chaotic and aggressive. I guess that's the point with male dancers, they are the pursuers. Perhaps that's why most women like it. They like the aggressive nature of it all but I view that type of pursuit as thrilling only if its real. Something about paid for attention really turns me off. I would feel gross if I paid for it or if my partne…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/17 08:50 PM
9	Is It Weird that I Don't Mind the "Damsel In Distress" Situation in My Fiancé's Story This might be better received on FetLife	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/17 01:32 PM
7	RP Relationships & Abortion? I'm sorry you are facing this situation but you should not be facing it alone. I believe you have an obligation to share this with your boyfriend. Trust that he will help and guide you both to the right choice and trust your intuition about him that he is a good man. You cannot hide this from him and it will haunt you and eventually tear away at the foundation of your relationship. Remind yourself that this isn't an unwanted teenage pregnancy and you yourself said you see yourself with him long …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/17 07:59 PM
1	I don't understand this desire from men to share their weaknesses with women. Beautifully said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/17 03:10 PM
2	What are some things that make you happy/relieve stress Pamper myself. I love getting my nails done, getting dressed up, and going out to eat or a drink on the town. If I can manage to push myself, exercise does make me feel better. I've never done this but I imagine hiring someone to do house cleaning would be amazing. Something that relieves a chore sounds wonderful so I can get my nails done, watch a movie, or go to an event then come home to washed sheets etc.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/07/17 03:18 PM
5	Oral contraceptives influence mate selection Wow. I never thought of it like this but it makes perfect sense. I always hated BC because I knew that it affected my mood and internal process so of course it would affect mate selection too. The below paragraph stuck out to me. It’s all about scent. Hidden in a man’s smell are clues about his major histocompatibility complex (MHC) genes, which play an important role in immune system surveillance. Studies suggest that females prefer the scent of males whose MHC genes differ from their own, a pr…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/07/17 03:04 PM
6	Boyfriend's Family Seems Unsupportive of Our Dynamic? Hahaha I dream of being candid with some people when they ask me about my relationship. Definitely not with his family though. Talk about the independent things you are doing and play nice to their interests for a while. Eventually they will see you and if they are good people they won't care that you want to be a homemaker. Tell your girlfriends about your taken in hand relationship instead.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/17 01:33 PM
2	How to deal with a hyper masculine man Feminine women are almost always sensitive, it's what makes them eager to please, scared of disapproval, and anxious about any potential conflict. Her neediness, indeed any woman's neediness is a sign of her attraction and loyalty. .... She sounds like a young woman in love with a stoic man that likes to stay busy because providing for her and acting on her behalf are how he shows his love. She just needs an alternative perspective from women that understand this type of man. Women enjoy and wan…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/17 01:28 PM
2	How to deal with a hyper masculine man That's a wonderful response and you sound like you have a good handle on the good stuff that happens between you two as well. I can tell you that I have a similar experience to you and your hyper manly man. It's hard when I catch myself being emotional about a lack of response or gesture. Usually I swat those feeling away because they are small and fleeting then I remind myself of the good things we share. There have been a few occasions where I reach out and specifically ask for some reassuranc…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/17 01:23 PM
2	How to deal with a hyper masculine man Wow. The conversation quote resonated with me. I've never heard of these books before. Thanks for posting.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/17 03:03 PM
6	How to deal with a hyper masculine man What does he do to show love or appreciation to you? I'd be interested in hearing this too. He may not be too alpha but he definitely comes off cold. What is he bringing that makes OP feel loved, cared for, and appreciated? Otherwise from the above description it sounds like he is keeping her at arms length and she is desperately pining for attention.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/17 03:03 PM
10	If we know feminine, what is unfeminine? A simple unfeminine trait I see is the way a woman walks. Some women can walk gracefully and others walk very heavily. I know some people can't help it but its a small thing I notice. Walking and posture help tons when wearing that sundress, OP!	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/17 03:14 PM
2	Expressing a need in Love Languages? While I agree with the other comments that suggest looking for love that is given in the other various forms, I still think it's okay to ask for what you need as you suggest here. I need words of affirmation and reassurance and sometimes that gets low for me so I have to ask for it or remind that I need these things. We all need reminders. I personally fit the categories somewhat equally so its good practice to review all 5 and ask myself if I have given all of them recently. If I can't remember…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/07/17 04:19 PM
7	What do you look for in a man and why? For the quick top ones - A natural leader, a risk taker, and a good lay. Digging a little deeper: He is a provider, driven, has a calming nature, makes me feel like his queen, has patience and strong morals that I can rely and trust on. Goofy and stoic. Dominant and controlling. Those qualities bring out my soft qualities: I’m submissive, I strive to be better by challenge myself to make our lives easier and less complicated. I anticipate his needs and enjoy cooking and building a home with him.…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/17 02:58 PM
1	Increasing your SMV...for yourself! I love your outlook. I've found as I've gotten older I feel happiness in achievements more so than in people or surroundings. I've always envied people with great talents and looked at myself and thought where is mine? Last year was tough, I went through a divorce, and my father was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer. But I also started dating my current LTR. There was so much change in my life I had a hard time focusing on my personal betterment. I'm finally out of that fog and challenging mys…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/17 02:54 PM
3	My relationship is becoming transactional, how can I stop thinking this way? I just can't help feeling like he's doing a lot less for me than he did for his other ex girlfriends. This is a great post. I have also found myself taking tally of transactions in relationships in the past. It's an easy resentment to let pile up either because it's not an equal share of giving or because previous lovers got better treatment. It takes practice to talk yourself out of this thinking but there is still some value to these feelings. Esp If you feel you are getting the short end of t…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/17 05:41 PM
1	Lots of Friends I've moved many times in my life and I have managed to make friends in each new place I have lived. I don't have a hard time making friends. Its harder to find quality people and sometimes it takes time to figure out where they land. Once I vet a friend I'm pretty loyal to them.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/17 04:17 PM
5	Partner Won't Admit He Likes Traditional Roles I think this is the right answer. You are already a stay at home spouse so you're just fighting for the title at this point.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/17 03:50 PM
1	Finding d*** pics on a boyfriends phone Keep your eye on any shady behavior. Right now you only have concerns and no evidence. Drop it, keep your guard up, and trust your gut. That's about all you have at this point. If he has cheated before this may be the start to that behavior again...	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/17 03:40 PM
32	Dating lower Careful of calling it "dating down". Even in quotes. It perpetuates that people who make less are somehow less. Perhaps you already know this and are using it to get your point across but it's always good to be reminded of the language we use. You say your current man has ambition. I dated a man who had millions in his bank and men who had the luxuries they wanted but it didn't help them be a man I respected. They were not hard working and mostly just enjoyed the appearance of it all. They loved…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/17 03:36 PM
2	Are you confident in your ability to function on your own? Of course. I don't need anyone. I do however want and enjoy the company of others.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/17 01:54 PM
2	Whenever I try to fix our relationship or talk about it, it gets worse. Please help! every issue happens to us, he tells me to leave if I don't like the way he deals with things. It hurts, and we have our fights over the way he deals with issues and refusal to acknowledge them thinking I'm creating drama when I'm only asking for my needs to be met. Is it worth it? You leave out some details but I'm not sure they are needed as the above is enough to tell me the communication is bad and the respect is missing. I believe you are allowed to ask for the things you want that make you …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/17 03:59 PM
3	Husband is concerned that everything we do is "family stuff" and there is no "us" anymore. (Married 4 years, 3 year old child) Date your man! Get a babysitter, you and hubby need some dates. It sounds like a lot of work and no fun lately. Dating will help light that spark again.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/17 12:44 PM
1	I feel alone when he's angry I'm still learning how to manage myself when my partner is angry. I also have the urge to stay and work it out because I tend to want to get over those negative feelings as fast as possible but I'm learning I need to walk away. I get highly anxious and it comes out in rashes or scratching so I simply can't allow myself to do that anymore. I have to remove myself for my own health. Its tough but I trust that my captain and I can always work through our disagreements with time so I remind myself i…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/17 02:59 PM
1	beta bf not sure what to do? He tells me he wants to wait until we live together before he takes charge of more stuff since its hard for him because we live an hour away from each other. This is an excuse. You don't need to live close for someone to display their ability to lead. Does he take charge on dates? Does he stick to what he says? From your brief description it doesn't sound like it. He needs you to remind him of his responsibilities? Why is he on his phone? You don't talk about how long you two have been dating or…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/17 08:20 PM
3	"He chose his job." I do feel it's disrespectful for the mother to be so dismissive of the challenges of her partners work. It would be no different than a mother venting to her husband about a really challenging day at home with the children and how dinner didn't turn out so good and that she couldn't keep up with the housekeeping and he simply said, "you chose to have kids and be a SAHM". How rude would that be? Very. Absolutely! Different levels of stress and frustrations but they are still stresses and frustrat…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/17 08:01 PM
4	"He chose his job." I just don't hear men complaining about having to support their stay at home wife as much as I hear women complaining about having to cleanup after their husbands. Personally, I don't really hear of either in my social circles however there is the stereotype of men complaining that their wives frivolously spend all their hard earned money. The complaining does go both ways but I do think I hear more of it in media than I actually do in real life. Both comments from either side are pathetic IMO a…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/17 07:58 PM
1	When a captain is a little too alpha..? I'd rather cope with "too alpha" instead of "too beta." Thank you for saying this. I think I'll remind myself of this as I deal with similar issues like OP.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/17 09:14 PM