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Welcome to the redpill
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:02 PM
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Absolutely: how she talks about her ex's how she treats people below her her relationship with her parents how she cultivates and invests in her talents and passions if she can maintain good friendsips over the years if she can hold a job how she manages her finances her relationship with substances such as drugs and alcohol how she uses social media if she knows what she wants sexually and how to ask for it That's 10 lemme know if you need another 10
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:57 PM
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I can't tell what your point is, but I think you're agreeing with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:50 PM
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There's plenty of people who went through a ho phase that stay in fulfilling relationships. And plenty of people who didn't have one that cheat/divorce and then have one, and idk if you can find stats showing correlation there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:46 PM
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She's not saying she's better off with a ho phase, she saying she's better off because she learned from it.. so you tell me? Edit: actually based on the title she's not immediately implying that, I'm implying it for her so maybe we both agree it could have been worded better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:42 PM
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It matters, it's a factor, and in general it's going to be a little more difficult for you. Go to the gym, work on your craft, position yourself for a profitable job. You'll be in the top 10% and then it won't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:40 PM
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Causation is not correlation. Exactly. Goes both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:37 PM
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I’ve taken girls to restaurants and they’ll be like “this where you take all your bitches huh” Response: "I'll tell you what, if this date goes well, next time I'll take you where all the dudes you've been with take you, then we'll be even"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:35 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:33 PM
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What would "not neuroticism" look like in a 30yo woman who is single? Committed relationships? Well, she's obviously not relationship material, she either picked bad men or couldn't keep good men around Casual sex? Neuroticism, lack of self-control, other expletives No relationships or casual sex Asexual Literally the only way to find a good woman is to be her first when she turns 18. Nice going.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:32 PM
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Elaborate on "relationship experience" though. If she had relationships and now she's single, you'll penalize her for that because she either chose the wrong guys or couldn't keep the right guys around. Literally the only way for a woman to be good in your eyes is to be asexual or 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:27 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:25 PM
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I can think of 10 things that are a better indicator of fidelity than body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:24 PM
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Guys aren't insecure about body count - they're insecure about a woman with a higher body count than them. Guys are the standard of their own morality. If a girl has a higher body count than them, it's obviously because she lacks virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:23 PM
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It's always this. The guys feel like they're playing by a different set of rules than the hookup guys, therefore she doesn't respect them as much, therefore she will lose interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:17 PM
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The problem is it takes a man who has also had a fBoi phase to appreciate this, and most manosphere men haven't had that luxury. They won't be able to attract a woman with a worldview like you anyway, so they simply rant on forums about body count. I will say as a guy who has racked up a roster over the past 5 years, the fact that my GF has had a ho phase, tried the flavors, and picked me (just as I picked her) makes me infinitely more confident she's not gonna get curious later on. Been there, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:11 PM
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In terms of aesthetics: feminine curves and features height of around 5'4 ish big eyes, long hair, and other indicators of vulnerability In terms of energy: soft, smooth, caring voice compassion for asthetically cute creatures display of vulnerability display of bright or reflective colors aimed at emphasizing feminine curves and features artistic graceful motion Note that the question is "what is femininity" and did not ask me to discuss anything of virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:04 PM
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Not sure why if the stay at home spouse is valued at 200k/yr and the working spouse is choosing to give that up, he should have to pay. He's giving it up, as in-he doesn't want it. I agree with just about everything you said, I'm just trying to find where you addressed the points I made. The $200k/yr stat you threw out about a good mother raising children is based on so many factors, it's impossible to prove or argue in a court. I'd imagine a good woman these days that raises kids to be strong, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 05:47 PM
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The whole "being frustrated with other people's behavior/choices as a whole" sentiment won't get you anywhere. There's nothing you can do about it. Adapt your behavior to fit your perception of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 05:21 PM
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Y’all put here feeling sorry for a man that lost more money than you’ll ever see in your entire life And "Y'all" (the other y'all) put here feeling the need to defend a woman that received more money than you'll ever see in your entire life. Beautiful thing about reddit is we can discuss institutions, rules, and their hypothetical consequences. Also, I'm divorced, and had to play by these exact rules, albeit on a much smaller scale. But I’m jeffs case. He was a very smart, very rich man who defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:38 PM
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Ok I definitely didn't state everything 100% right and your points, particularly the one about a judge giving nothing to a woman who didn't work for 15 years are correct so I'll adjust to your argument style and see if maybe we can agree on something. Do you think she deserves every penny of what she got? Why or why not? Do you think she put the same amount of work in, had the same skill set, discipline, decision making, and luck that Jeff had? Or do you think that because of what the institutio…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:45 PM
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Some big red flags for me: All her ex's were toxic, yet she picked them for some reason. Has no unique passions. Usually discovered when "hanging out with friends" is listed as an interest. Has no close female friends Unable to be sexually vulnerable Unhealthy relationship with substances Unable to hold a job Talks negatively about people they are friendly with behind their back Doesn't know how to maturely interact with children Unable to stand up for one's self to any degree when met with oppo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:09 PM
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Women's attraction (as well as men's) is based on the way someone makes them FEEL. for women, factors other than physical appearance play a larger role in the equation. So it does not matter whether they underestimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:53 PM
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If the genders were reversed would they be saying the same thing? Yes. If I were to help my hypothetical wife in a business that she started, there would definitely come a time where I would want joint ownership.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:50 PM
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Was their wealth in a joint account? Did hey have joint ownership? The punishment for cheating is for him to lose her. That's it. Why isn't that a just thing to do? This (And whatever percent custody of the kids if they're under 18.) He cheated so he doesn't deserve her. 100% fair. He's losing his loving supportive wife! He now will have to learn to start companies or manage his wealth and holdings on his own without her caring support.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:47 PM
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Most successful men, that got successful while married received a lot of free help from their wives. 100% true It's also 100% true that all successful men received a ton of help from LITERALLY EVERYONE ON PAYROLL AT THEIR ENTERPRISE... As well as their business partners, competition's bad decisions, market conditions, and customers. Yet all those other parties don't get 50% of the companies value (unless they own 50% stock). Cheating is a shitty thing to do and the price Jeff paid for that shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:38 PM
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This right here (OP's comment and your response) is the root of the entire argument. I don't know any more details on this than what was stated in the post, but I do know this: Bezos's wife was not a joint owner in the company. I could see Bezos and MRAs presenting arguments that his wife may have made it MORE DIFFICULT for him to achieve what he did. When we're talking about THAT kind of focus and tenacity to get to THAT level, wouldn't he have been better off simply leaving her when Amazon was…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:25 PM
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Opportunity here! Yes! Most men these days Don't have the discipline to focus on a long-term goal that's going to take more than a few days to accomplish. Everyone wants instant gratification. Attractive women typically don't have to put much work in, but all attractive men did put a lot of work in. Guys are not naturally born with six pack, V-Line, popping shoulders. All of that takes actual work. Sure, some men it takes more work, but it's all achievable. Is it wrong for women to be attracted …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:26 PM
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Unfortunately, this. As much as I like to think of TRP as a group of good guys trying to unlearn niceGuy behavior and better themselves, they by and large can't help reverting to shitting on women when push comes to shove
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 12:28 AM
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Gets boring when the roster is thinning out, gets interesting when you're loading it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 01:30 AM
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You're absolutely right! the question was "what does having your shit together mean?" I was answering that question. But thanks for the additional info!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 03:54 PM
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Why isn't this ever mentioned? Wingspan is usually a 1 to 1 ratio with height Answered your own question. I don't know what you mean by "a lot of variation", but definitely not enough variation for it to matter. It's pretty much a one-to-one ratio. Height in and of itself is attractive. It's an indicator of dominance just like wingspan.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 03:53 PM
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For both genders: It means holding a career, and every few years moving to a better position with more pay. It means having your own place within a few years of finishing school. It means having a savings account and decent credit. It means having hobbies and activities that you pour some of your free time into. It means you take care of your body and mind and are managing any overweight issues or trauma And it means having a few close friends you can rely on. If you can knock all these out you'…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 02:55 PM
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OK then from a purely logical sense: When you enter a relationship with someone, you are kind of throwing the dice as to how things are going to pan out. If things are panning out pretty well with someone that you're happy with, why would you want to throw the dice again with someone even if they were better looking/other points you made?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 11:24 PM
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Dude that entire thread. Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:41 PM
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Thank you for expounding upon this, I knew it wouldn't be worth my energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:35 PM
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Exactly. It does appear the post is fishing for a societal solution, but at this point the only realistic solutions are personal ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:18 PM
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Yeah I've only seen "enforced monogamy" used in this sub as an example, but not advocated for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:04 PM
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Hi. I have no experience with playing guitar or singing, but want to join a band. What would you recommend?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:03 PM
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Easy, just be confident! Oh, and here's how: Lift (improve your physique). Makes you more confident in yourself when you like the way you look. Get really good at a unique skill that you're passionate about. This gives you a personality and makes you stand out. Other people who like that skill look up to you. Boom, confidence. Level up at your job. More money, better communication skills, more options in life. Makes you more naturally confident. This is often met with criticism because it requir…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:23 PM
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To address the title's point: You're on to something. I think there is a knee-jerk reaction that men under 35 have because of the way that we were raised. We get that dopamine hit from finding that a group of people is at a disadvantage because we're used to that being met with some sort of moderator (who in our childhood, was an adult) implementing some new rule to level the playing field. I've gotten in many heated back-and-forths with frustrated men who are looking for some sort of solution t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:02 PM
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Exactly. Putting in the work is never worth it. I get it. Just too hard. Give up. It's been fun chatting. Peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 03:29 PM
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I've never used OkCupid myself, but there's an excellent book called dataclysm by Christian Rudder that talks about the OkCupid survey and study, and also notes that it really didn't have much of an effect on people's preferences. That's where I got that data from.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:35 AM
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I know, most people are looking for that "one weird trick" and then get turned off when they realize that improving personality takes work. "BuT wHaT dOeS iT lOoK LiKe????" "It looks like this [work]" "Oh. Yeah. Already knew that. Thanks. Lemme go complain to someone else"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 11:03 PM
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Glad you asked! JUST BE CONFIDENT! what does that even mean tho? Glad you asked https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRFJEoqg/?k=1
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 09:56 PM
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Which is why my response was an explanation, not calling you out or calling you to action. You do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 09:12 PM
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It's only a call out if you don't see the point in doing the work on yourself to improve your personality. I don't know what your actions are
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:03 PM
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Makes things way better if you're willing to put in work on yourself. Doesn't make things better if you're lazy and have no desire to level up your personality FYI leveling up your personality has way more benefits than just making you a more desirable pick for pretty girls. But I don't wanna sound like I'm calling you out of anything so yeah... The game is rigged against you, not much you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:59 PM
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Your points are valid, but what's your solution? "Hey ladies, how about you choose men that you don't want because you're actually going to be happier in the long run" doesn't seem like a workable solution to me. And yes, everyone expresses their frustration with dating apps. To that point, OkCupid did a huge intensive scientific study on what kinds of questions would match people the best. They came up with metrics, there was over a hundred questions, and people fill them out and it tried to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:52 PM
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secure in knowing most women find it unattractive, no? Sounds like that could be easily reworded as "insecure about my height" Have I seen hot girls with short guys before? YES Have I (35m 6'3) been turned down by attractive women for men under 6 foot? YES. Compared to most guys... I'm more sensitive, less stoic, more emotional, more nerdy, more clumsy, less smooth with my words, and have ADHD Most girls don't want me. Most girls don't want you. Luckily there's a LOT of girls out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:44 PM
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If this is the case, you'd see girls showing an interest in you and saying things like "online dating was weird and frustrating for me, now I realize you're actually a good guy" but we don't see that. Don't we? I mean if you do, then yes, but I'm guessing if you did you wouldn't be here complaining about the plight of all other men than yourself. The system accentuates my weaker points. Yes. Women also focus on men's weaker points. Anyone examining the value of something focuses on the weaker po…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 07:47 PM
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Oh hey there!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 07:25 PM
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Many women cannot hear male pain about love because it sounds like an indictment of female failure. Since sexist norms have taught us that loving is our task whether in our role as mothers or lovers or friends, if men say they are not loved, then we are at fault; we are to blame. Holy fuck. Just went at least 3 levels deeper than I thought I'd have to go to get to the bottom of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 04:25 PM
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Gratitude/belief can be more than nudged. If you choose to show appreciation, your attitude will follow. This is most effective in the concept that "you become who you spend the most time with" and that even applies to religion and worldviews.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 03:58 PM
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If this is the case, you'd see girls showing an interest in you and saying things like "online dating was weird and frustrating for me, now I realize you're actually a good guy" but we don't see that. You're literally arguing that the system has successfully confused every girl into thinking you are less of a prize than you are. The "everyone else sees it wrong except for me" is the sentiment of the conspiracy theory evangelical.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 03:55 PM
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There's a shit ton of emotional labor men do that goes into their craft, passions, and career. Perhaps the imbalance that I posted about with women weaponizing men's emotions comes from men displaying the bulk of their emotions towards the relationship, their girl, or other bullshit that reveals they aren't focused on their mission? Just a thought, I'm still formulating my opinion on this. But either way you're on to something here. I agree with your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 03:04 PM
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Women are the issue if they expect men to open up about their emotions but then use it against them. I initially disagreed with you but then when I ran through my argument scenario, I realized I totally agree with you. My flip scenario would be a dude who wants a BJ from his girl who doesn't want to do it. She eventually agrees but she's horrible at it and it's not enjoyable for the guy. He'd be a fucking moron to weaponize that against her if he wants it again. Way better to encourage and give …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:50 PM
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Facts. I think I'd agree that this is the biggest puzzle piece a lot of men are missing... And should be added to my points I stated in the post. But I'd also argue there are some other important factors too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:41 PM
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Lol exactly. The real research had to happen on Reddit. I post my content on TikTok because it's sooooooo hot right now and there's a market for this content
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:40 PM
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I agree with this. I suppose a good follow up question would be in situations where the woman doesn't weaponize it... Is it more because the man owns his shit at a more respectable level? Or because the woman has more self control and maturity? Probably a combination of both IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:38 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to actually consider the topic and draft a well thought out response! This is exactly what I was looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:36 PM
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"physical activity" could be used in place of lifting, but basically exercise good for brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:53 AM
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Yeah after I watched the first example a few times I realized that guy has a weird grasp on reality. Like clearly if you snapped at your girl for any reason, a normal human isn't going to be okay with that and honestly the scenario he made up about her bringing it up was like "well no shit you literally asked her to bring it up" I got exactly what I wanted from this post though. A good half of the comments are re wording what I said, often better than I said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:45 AM
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what’s my league? Because I can tell you the women that are interested in me are not NEARLY on that level. Your league is by definition, the women that are interested in you. This is human nature though so I get it. We've all been there... It's not like whenever you try to sell something valuable people argue over how much it's "worth". But it's "worth" in the end is what people are willing to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:08 AM
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You're slowly learning that your rating system differs from women's rating systems.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:51 AM
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I hadn't thought of this from a gender neutral standpoint yet, but now I am. Good point. How many people in general really care about other people's struggles? Not many.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:30 AM
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Very rarely, and whenever I have, they have been extremely talkative. I can think of 3 times I have. Once on the league, once on hinge, once on bumble. I only met the girl from bumble. Went on one date, made out, ghosted. Was pretty hot though. But yes I’d say your theory is right on. Mostly fake. A girl that attractive doesn’t need a dating app and she’s going to get flooded with attention from the bottom of the barrel. Waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 10:34 PM
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I've heard this too and my default is to think it has some validity to it. Are there any studies you can link to?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:18 PM
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Totally agree, I typically have specific people I bring specific problems to, and I've befriended people before with the specific intent of bringing them a problem in an area I knew they were an expert on. Although that's more for technical advice than emotional validation. I bring my emotional problems to the gym lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:45 PM
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Guy: "i'm short and unattractive" "when you stop seeing yourself as ‘short’ and ‘unattractive’ you will BE more attractive" Guy: "I'm confident that I'm not bad looking and can be quite a catch" "uhm, sweety... ugly men greatly overestimate their attractiveness study shows" Why do women on this sub do this? Here's your answer plain and simple: This sub is mostly full of men who are on a quest to level up their sexual desirability. If they were already successful, they wouldn't be here. So when a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:19 PM
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Feels like a lot of men people are this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:10 PM
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Agreed, and I feel this is an unhealthy misguided trope that TRP pushes. A lot of men would come off as less unattractive if they suppressed their emotions but that's a short term band aid and self improvement is the ultimate solution to the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:09 PM
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Expecting her to be your self esteem? That's a mental illness that needs professional health treatment. That's the same for men and women. Huge point, like the way you worded it. Sharing every mother fucking thought that enters your head for them to validate you is not. Also excellent Healthy boundaries are not hard. Heh, watching the links I posted and skimming through these comments challenges this one. You can also get support from a partner for a mental illness, but expecting them to be your…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:07 PM
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In that sense I agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:01 PM
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Isn't this an over generalization though? Doesn't "CHAD THUNDERCOCK" get awfully emotional when his favorite team wins or looses? When the band plays his favorite song? When he talks to his boys about his lay last night? When he talks shit about one girl to another? Is your argument really that LESS EMOTION is always better?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:36 PM
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This. Women also will even say that they're freakier during hookups/FWBs than they are in relationships. Nothing hotter than that flirty banter that leads to a hookup. It's such a turn on for both parties. My GF and I have incorporated this into our LTR though. We both do different workouts when we go to the gym together and at the end I approach her and open her as if I didn't know her. I tried this the first time without telling her and she played along. I start gaming her, she plays a little …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:32 PM
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You'd be surprised. Hookups have ran the gamut for me (90 confirmed kills) but damn sometimes it's fucking awesome. Communication is mostly nonverbal and some women can read me better. Conversely some women I can read better. That's what my experience has been.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:29 PM
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I'm a bit biased because at the moment I'm having the best sex I've ever had with my GF of under 6 months. Casual sex can also be a total letdown. The one thing casual sex can offer that relationship sex can't is the feeling of achievement. The conquest. The "I saw her, I gamed her, I got her panties off" feeling. So in that respect you're on to something. This is a side not and not related to your point, but of course relationships offer more than sex (cooking, cleaning, companionship). You can…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:26 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:21 PM
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I definitely think it’s something that with experience, men can get good at avoiding, so I suppose that’s a valid interpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:09 PM
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Haha for some people I've met that's definitely been the case! It's talking about people that have decided to invest in (marriage). This accounts for most divorces happening around 7 yrs
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:34 PM
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This is basic law of attraction, but to break it down: TL;DR people with low social intelligence have a hard time with this law, people with high social intelligence don't even consiously notice it. When 2 people interact, they have varying levels of being able to gauge the other person's investment. Social intelligence reminds healthy people to not express too much more investment in the other person if they want to keep that person around. It makes someone uncomfortable when the other person i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:32 PM
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Any man who puts up with a woman talking shit about his family has no self respect and this is a frame issue. There are 100% women out there who look for weak men like this, but this isn't the norm. If a woman ever talked shit about my dog or my family that would be the end of it between us. And every girl I've been close with inherently knows this. Frame is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:27 PM
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There's definitely different kinds of attraction. I still have affections for my dog and I've had her for 9 years. I still love my family and I've known them all my life. As far as sexual tension goes, scientifically I believe the book sex at dawn put it at around 7.5 years. That sucks but I guess that's the deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:24 PM
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If we're talking about treating one specific interaction or date this way, you're absolutely right. Too many unknowns. But if we're treating someone's dating life over a year or two... We do start to see patterns that can be observed. It's like Texas hold'em Can't learn much about a dude from one hand. Can learn a ton looking at their earnings over a year if they play once a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:38 PM
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Yup. Anyone, male or female, complaining that dating is too hard or too much work has overvalued themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:36 PM
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Physical attractiveness is important in both, but isn't the most important in either. Hard to say in which category it's more important. For a hookup, most important thing is how good I think the seggs will be. If she's below my typical preference but she looks like shes a freak, bring it on. For a LTR, trust is the most important thing. Looks are important too, but I wouldn't LTR a 10 if she's flirting with 10 guys in her DMs Hope that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:42 PM
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In my experiences, people tend to talk amongst their friends like dating (especially OLD) is a cakewalk and they're getting plenty of attention (almost as if it's annoying) from tons of high value super hot people of whatever gender they're into. In reality, you can have some great results, but it's HARD WORK and you can't get around that People conclude it must be easy for everyone else that has 1 or 2 key characteristics they don't have (tall, asshole, etc.) They then expect (and often get) ka…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:10 PM
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The answer is always "MORE THAN THE PERSON JUDGING HER" Men are insecure and if the woman has a high body count, they fear she's gonna miss Mr. Better dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:46 PM
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35m 6'3 (yes, OLD is still work), 205lbs and I work out. Since you asked, I won't leave anything out. Ideal ~5'4 ~110lbs ~C-D cup, perky (nipples naturally point up) 30yo is the best, she's made it past the wall and she's still hot. Good long term potential there. High body count is also good. If we have good chemistry, she's tried everything else and IMO is less likely to get curious. Works out. The ass of a girl who does squats is 3x firmer than a girl who doesn't. She stretches Tight pussy We…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 09:39 PM
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There you go. I have a sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 07:57 PM
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I've been cold opened by women before but only at bars... And not often. If I were at a coffee shop and a woman came up to me to cold open me, I'd probably assume she was trying to get me to join her MLM But shit I'd take it as a huge compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 07:47 PM
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Is there statistical data to back this up? Tinders algorithm is different now, your age now may be less favorable to that group (so you're getting lower ELO score women), or your location may be different, the women on tinder may be different (bumble or hinge may be more popular, etc) So many variables here. Someone find a study, this could totally be true just saying hard to tell from your data.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 07:41 PM
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Your points are valid, the trouble I have is keeping it friendly. I only have 2 close female friends and both of them are (to put it plainly) well below a 5. But they're super chill and I love grabbing lunch with them or hanging out. They joke with me, provide a woman's perspective, etc. Every time I've been friends with a girl that I even saw as a little bit attractive, there's been some form of sexual tension as we get closer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 07:39 PM
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To your point, I think a limit of 3 MATCHES (Not right swipes) would be more effective, as just about all of my right swipes don’t match to begin with. With your model I’d have 0 matches. But that would be great. Want to talk to new people? You have to unmatch the current ones so it forces you to make a decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:18 PM
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I've heard in some European countries an app called "Thursday" is quite popular. It only allows the users to use it on Thursday and afterwards all matches are erased. This way there's urgency to at least get the conversation on to texting or set a time to meet up. I actually think that's a genius idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 02:50 PM
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Because women in general are more sought after than men (especially on Reddit, which is mostly men) any woman expressing dissatisfaction with a man for any reason will almost always be met with support from both genders Any man expressing dissatisfaction with a woman for any reason will almost always be met with criticism from both genders There are notable exceptions to this, but as a rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 04:04 AM
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OLD = OnLine Dating I had to look this up
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 10:03 PM
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First of all, I’m not telling anyone anything also when do I specifically point out clinically depressed people? He said it sounds like you are. "Is it really that complicated" -Sounds like- you are Good post and discussion though. I'm sure many women share your sentiment and this guy hits on the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 07:03 PM
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This is a side argument though. Women are saying they can't find a good option, not that they're too afraid to date. This is also why first dates typically take place in public places.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 06:37 PM
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I agree 100% with your examples, but here’s the problem. Using your logic, I could just say “WeLl MeN gEt RaPeD tOo” but of course then you’d bring the same argument about frequency that the other people pushing back on your comment have, and we’d be in this side argument that this thread of comments goes down about who dating is scarier for. (Hint: it’s definitely scarier for women, I agree) But that’s not the point of the post. The question was about being picky. The fact is that more options …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:12 PM
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putting on a fake front is not unique to one gender
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 02:13 AM
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Sure, just as there are worries for men: is she going to use me? Can I trust her? Will she leave me for someone better? Is she just after my money? Is she going to constantly cut me down and critique me? And you can also bet the more options men get, the more they get sensitive to these questions. The main thread however is that when your options are few, it's easier to make a decision. When your options are many, it becomes complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:55 PM
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Big difference is the person who cheats when sober intended to do it. The person who hits a person and kills them while sober did it as an accident. So nope, completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 07:11 PM
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I'm going to disagree that the decision is easy for women, and explain why. It may sound like agreeing with you though, so maybe this is worthy of deletion, idk. The more options you have, the harder it is to make a decision and the more picky you get. I used to drive an ice cream truck in high school (cue comments about me being a creep, I'm here for it). When we expanded our menu to include a ton of comic characters and multiple flavors of items that used to just have one flavor, it started to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 07:04 PM
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Any redpill guy who has a problem with women doing the EXACT SAME THING redpill guys do has got the most incredible case of non-self-awareness I've ever seen
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 09:27 PM
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And to add further clarity, women are more likely to choose a man 10-20 years older than a man younger than them at any age.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:08 PM
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IN GENERAL:: Most people are lonely. As soon as they meet someone they feel like they understand and enjoy the company of, they have the seggs and it creates a pair bond. As long as nothing too serious gets in the way, this continues and they would rather settle down than keep putting themselves out there so they get married. This often works out It also often doesn't. I don't feel this generalization needs any caveats for any particular gender, as even though men and women are very different an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 07:28 PM
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If I (35m) compare myself to who I used to be until 29, I'm probably the most successful man in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 04:53 PM
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Never been a Chad but from the way most people make him out to be, he doesn't seem like the lad that does dinner dates, so yes your sentiment is 100% correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:36 PM
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My career is a challenge and I can't fucking resist a good challenge. I track my progress and see myself improving. The money and residual income I accumulate also validates me because I'm materialistic, and probably slightly narcissistic by most people's standards these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:35 PM
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Yeah, everyone wants to feel desired. Women get more attention though. Guys have to pick their priorities. In an ideal world, I would be asked out on a date, the girl would pay, game me, and I would get a blowjob. But since one of those things is WAY more important than the others, I have no problem doing the work asking the girl, paying, and running game if it ends up with my dick in her mouth. Men are willing to take this deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:48 PM
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The data you're looking for: https://youtu.be/HjSh_esW9W4
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:30 PM
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Gotta love a good spreadsheet! Where was this valuable data collected?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 06:50 PM
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The more options you have, the harder it is to make a decision. Women get way more attention and options than men, which is the main driving factor when you see their frustration in trying to land a man they really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:15 PM
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Men being expected to pay is more based on the difference in interest men vs women get and less based on the difference in income levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:14 PM
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That cringe movie with will Smith also comes to mind where the overweight dude gets the hot babe
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 01:44 AM
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About the same. But at the same time, there are a good number of OTHER things that are very important too. Women get more attention on average than men so they are able to have higher standards. Overall, women are attracted to the EXPERIENCE a man can provide them with. This includes looks, passions, status, humor, social networks, etc. Different women have different weights on their priorities. Focus on leveling yourself up as much as practical across the board and you'll get more respect from …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 08:49 PM
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If biology has anything to say, nope
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 03:17 AM
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I play an instrument and got into writing music and content creation
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 08:59 PM
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Tons of them on TikTok just do a search for #datingadvice or #redpill
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 08:07 PM
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This is the way! TRP is for men who aren't "naturals" or "chads" and don't "just get it" But it's proof that with work, you can level yourself up to get your choice of beautiful women, as well as success in just about every other area of life!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:01 PM
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Isn't it entertaining to watch people's reactions to the suggestion that WORK is required?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 05:23 PM
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I'll tell you the moment it clicked for me. 2 months after I started lifting (I was tall and scrawny), I was at the supermarket picking up bananas and milk after my morning workout and I was standing in line. There was a mother with a daughter in front of me in line and the daughter had to have been 14 or 15. She kept looking at me and hiding behind her mom. She kept peeking out from behind her like she was embarrassed. It was at that moment that I realized what was going on. The mom caught on a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:24 PM
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Anything musical A sport Rock climbing Kayaking Camping/outdoor survival Anything creative Woodworking Involvement in a community cause or nonprofit Becoming the leader of a local group or club and organizing events A ton of knowledge on a subject turns into: Content creation seminars / guest speaker your own classes/workshops Just off the top of my head but you get the idea. You become an expert on something you're passionate about and then you can give back to the community. Watch how attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:57 PM
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Or maybe it is just because you are more valuable now. Exactly. How do you think I became more valuable? Women just want you to be the most useful object possible to meet there shallow standards. This is not unique to women. Men will judge men on how useful you are to them as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:51 PM
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If this is a violation of guidelines, I won't do it again but I looked over the rules and didn't see anything against it. The answer you're looking for: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRJUgfmT/?k=1
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:47 PM
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Might be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:45 PM
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Also plenty of them that don't get any
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:20 AM
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Studies show you don't get any happier with more money after you make 80k a year, but I'm still busting my ass and somehow it's still making me happy. Be skeptical of anything that encourages you to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:12 AM
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It's always interesting to see how people react to advice that involves them putting in work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:40 AM
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Maybe. Or maybe... Improving your health and looks at the gym will make you feel better about yourself when you take off your shirt and look into the mirror. You're gonna be the first person to notice the results so watch how it makes you feel before other people notice. You'd be surprised. Maybe the testosterone released into your body when you work out will give you more confidence from the inside, rather than reading a bunch of people bullshitting about what to say to a girl. Maybe the idea b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:14 AM
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The best thing TRP ever taught me: Lift Level way up at a talent/craft Level up at your job These 3 things build a natural confidence in yourself that give you the courage to get your feet wet when you talk to women and start learning from your own expirences.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:03 AM
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As a man, many people who have complimented me have then turned around and talked shit as well. I don't think females are unique in this. If men got the same level of attention, they'd complain just as much as women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 12:45 AM
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Well, they still get plenty of desire with the requirements, so there are some men out there that are ok with it Market value is determined solely by demand. Demand is there. That’s the reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 03:04 PM
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He got 290 matches but only messaged 99 of them? That's a waste of swiping effort if you ask me. His results are about what I got on tinder. It's work, but if you put in the work, it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:01 AM
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Does it matter what it is? One less guy to compete with
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 01:49 AM
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The vast majority of people want to get the best that they can get. Most of the men who "want committed relationships" would become just as hypergamous as women if they had the options.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 07:20 PM
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If you aren't happy with what you're getting from women, you need to either improve yourself or lower your standards. Improving yourself could be a lot of things including but not limited to: Improving fitness Making more money Getting really good at a hobby Practicing pickup/game
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 12:31 AM
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Is there a biological explanation for it? That would literally be "The" explanation for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:01 PM
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Not only this, but men with more options tend to get more particular about "types" of women they want as well. I think men and women are the same in this, just women in general have a f ton more options than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:00 PM
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This. You don't hook up with a gf or even an ex of your friend. There's a lot of women out there, boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:56 PM
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EDIT: let me actually answer your question: YES! I've seen it happen all the time. Perfect example is girl that I knew was DTF 10min into date one, then 6 months later is making every guy wait till the 3rd date at least. What I originally wrote, and the explanation: I think this is common, but the biggest factor isn't the guy's looks/game... It's the woman's mid to long term emotional state. When a woman is fresh out of a long relationship, shes more likely to want to explore her freedom. This i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:43 PM
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