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| 1 | I want to start over fresh: what steps should I follow?Interesting, I'll give that a shot and see where that goes | /r/seduction | 05/04/17 07:12 PM |
| 1 | I want to start over fresh: what steps should I follow?I'll try that, but wouldn't talking more about her hobbies, career, etc. frame me as her friend instead? Wouldn't that actually make it harder for me? I thought it was better to let her know that you see her in a sexual manner, so that it doesn't leave misunderstandings or doubts ("I don't want to ruin our friendship") | /r/seduction | 05/04/17 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes I think my approach habits aren't conducive to building social confidenceProbably, but just getting laid isn't the whole point. I want to have sex with girls that I'm attracted to, no exceptions. But, this is just a personal issue I'm having; it doesn't reflect how that should concern others. It will vary depending on everyone's circumstances, but it shouldn't be impossible. I make it sound bad, but I already have 3 good prospects this weekend. I'm just more concerned about my own self perception | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes I think my approach habits aren't conducive to building social confidenceWhat is it? I pretty much self-reflect all the time, but I don't have guidance on how to channel it to something fruitful | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes I think my approach habits aren't conducive to building social confidenceI haven't. I've become so reliant on approaching that I just make that my default. Then again, I don't really know what else I could do to confront my problem of neediness: maybe getting an exciting hobby, or spending more time finding friends that I can just talk with. I do exercise from time to time....But, every time I try to distract myself, I just go back to the problem of girls. Denying that I want to talk to these girls is just as unhealthy, and honestly, I can't be sure if it's an addict… | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes I think my approach habits aren't conducive to building social confidenceSimply put, I'm a guy who's ashamed of expressing his sexuality in public, and being judged for it. | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes I think my approach habits aren't conducive to building social confidenceI know why: I am afraid of being creep-shamed, and I am afraid of being judged while I'm in public. To have eyes watching me, knowing me as that guy who pathetically tried to talk to this girl. It's embarrassment, shame, and self-doubt. I am afraid of the way people perceive me because I don't want to offend anyone. I am not comfortable with knowing that I disgust people or creep them out. I've always remained comfortable keeping myself anonymous while in public. That's why I choose to be quiet,… | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 03:14 AM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?already have, but the way I do things, these take time (a girl isn't just going to spread her legs to any guy that approaches her). I figured, if she was fine with talking even after telling her I wasn't interested in being just friends, then I'll invest a date or two, while talking to other girls | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 07:06 PM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?I'm an introvert, so socializing in groups doesn't come naturally to me. I understand where the correlation comes into play though. On the other hand, I was never so keen on the idea of being busy with your schedule. I understand women do like high quality men, but it probably also depends on demography. For instance, if you became the leading pioneer of genetic research on a certain kind of jellyfish, your prospects probably would be limited, since not that many women would know/understand/be i… | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:46 PM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?I pretty much told her that when I first met her, but she still decided to meet up later this week. It might not be completely a lost cause, but I won't expect much for now. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:04 PM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?What does SMV and SC stand for? | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:02 PM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?Lol, truth is, I never used Snapchat for anything, so I don't really know how flirting works over it. So, if a girl gives you her Snapchat when you first talk, would it be safe to say that she's interested? Or, does it depend (I've had some girls offer their Snapchats, but the impression I got from them was that they weren't interested, and simply gave it as a way to avert contact). Edit: Actually, it's probably the latter, since she said she usually doesn't give her number to guys she just met | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 05:41 PM |
| 2 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?Actually, if I just want to fuck this girl, what should have I done instead (assuming she just gave me her number)? I usually just set up a time to talk to each girl, and it's a way to get comfortable/know each other. Is this the only way to do it, or are there more efficient ways? | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:23 AM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?yup. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:20 AM |
| -1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?Not really ignoring, more like keeping in mind. Just like how I'm keeping in mind that I shouldn't take you seriously anymore. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:19 AM |
| 2 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?Yeah, in retrospect, making up an excuse for Facebook would've been better, saving me time wondering. I'll just go with that next time | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:12 AM |
| 2 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?yeah, I already moved onto other girls, but I still have a date set up with her. I want to find out for myself if it's pointless or not. Even though the majority here says that I should let it go, I'm going to go with my gut feeling and try talking to her | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:08 AM |
| -4 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?Well, looks like I'm mostly in the clear then. Edit: Though I agree with what you said, most of what you're saying (and implying) doesn't really apply to me. There's a difference between being delusional and self-aware; I never claimed I was okay with rejection, but you are right in that I certainly did say I would move on. However, in case if nobody ever told you: changing your mind =\= lying. As for whether if she likes me or not, you might have a point there. I sometimes can't take hints, but… | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 06:02 AM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?define high quality and characteristics of someone oozing desperation | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 05:47 AM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?So, what kind of guys get to choose? | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 05:33 AM |
| -3 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?Actually, I'll give this a chance. If things work out after the second or even third interaction, then I'll proceed as usual Edit: she was receptive to meeting up, even after I told her I wasn't interested in just being friends. She would've told me she wasn't interested at that point, so I'm guessing she's neutral for now. That's why I said I'll give it a chance. | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 12:19 AM |
| 6 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?I see, well that saves me some time. Moving on then | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 12:00 AM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?I don't think pushing her to get her number would have done me any good, either though | /r/seduction | 15/03/17 11:52 PM |
| 1 | When Girls Want To Be "Friends First," Should I Continue?whats the complicated answer? | /r/seduction | 15/03/17 11:52 PM |
| 2 | How do you approach girls who probably get hit on all the time?I just go up to girls during the day (more to talk to, and the setting is less intimidating for them I guess). I do it around my college campus, and while I'm just walking around the library, dining hall, or store. Pretty much anywhere, as long as I see someone I like Edit: I do try to avoid groups, though. I don't enjoy those scenarios very much | /r/seduction | 15/03/17 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes I wonder if I should stop doing this for a while and work on something else...It probably depends on the activity though. Of course there will be a lot of girls in dance clubs, but what about engineering clubs, programming classes, or research labs? Let's say I want to focus on living my own life. I choose to be career-oriented, and set up my own goals for success, but that's no guarantee I'll get tail, since it all depends on the activity and demography of people participating in said demography (girls also probably get turned on from dancing with a guy, I'd assume) | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes I wonder if I should stop doing this for a while and work on something else...I'm doing this to get laid, and I think there's something I'm doing wrong. I approach a lot, but my response rate goes like this: 75% rejection (often a "I have a boyfriend", and others a "sorry I'm not interested"), 25% exchange numbers, but of that 25%, only 2-5% would be interested in meeting up (responding back and coming). So let's say I go out and approach 10 girls each day. I have 3 girls that I got numbers for, but only one responded back, and she flaked the date. The way I approach is p… | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 10:57 AM |
| 2 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidNo, I don't. You think that all women care if you're tall and handsome? Do you think women even perceive you the way you perceive yourself? You just assumed that women don't want you, and that's why you're not even trying. This is the last time I'm ever going to say this or reply back. Just do it. Don't make up an excuse. Don't complain without even trying. Just do it. | /r/seduction | 12/03/17 08:53 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidDoesn't matter. Just--Do--It. What do you have to lose? | /r/seduction | 11/03/17 06:11 PM |
| 1 | What can you do to minimize the flake rate?Okay, so let's say I manage to stop this girl and talk to her for at least 10 minutes. What is the best (most efficient) way to leave her emotionally invested as you say? Also, I don't flirt that often, so I might want to try that (but don't know how) | /r/seduction | 11/03/17 02:20 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidOk, then baby steps. Go somewhere where nobody knows you, and just approach the first hot girl you see. Introduce yourself, tell her she's cute, and ask her if she'd like some coffee sometime. Regardless of what happens from there, you finished step 1, and have a better idea of how to interact with the attractive women you see often | /r/seduction | 10/03/17 06:11 AM |
| 2 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidI think your perception of what women want are a bit presumptuous. Statistics can be misleading. You're not going to bang every girl you like because there will almost always be some reason: she has a boyfriend, her schedules are too tight, she just broke up with her boyfriend, she's not interested at the moment, she's religious, whatever. But, what matters despite all of that, is that she actually likes it, most of the time. Girls do enjoy the compliment of being approached, as long as you are … | /r/seduction | 10/03/17 06:03 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidNot to burst your bubble or anything, but hot girls have many different personalities: some are shy, others are extroverted. If you're autistic and introverted, I am almost positive you will find an "average looking" girl that meets at least half of who you are. But, that's besides the point. If you haven't even talked to any of these girls, how do you even know what kind of people are they? If it's because you're afraid of being creep shamed, then I don't think you should be worried. It takes m… | /r/seduction | 10/03/17 05:58 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidSorry, I just realized I didn't actually answer your question lol. Yeah, getting through a girl is more about the approach tbh. I'm not a master at this, but at this point, I don't really care what outcome comes, as long as I can get a date with that smoking hot 10. If you care more about just having sex, well lower your standards then. But, if you want to have sex with prettier girls, then treat them as you would any other, the only thing that would probably stop you is if she has a boyfriend, … | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 06:23 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidWell, have you tried talking to a girl? Like just going up to her and introducing yourself. If I could do it all over again, I would've started hitting on the first girl I thought was hot from day 1, even if it turned out to be the worst encounter ever. I'd rather know, right then and there: that cute blondie wearing that miniskirt and showing off her midriff, could I have sex with her? And hey, if you find out she has a boyfriend, then there you go, you don't have live with regret thinking abou… | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 06:16 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if I'm being smart by avoiding girls in groups or afraidIf you're just starting Daygame, you shouldn't be too discouraged. My particular case is special, since I already talked to hundreds of girls. Just play it cool, if they say no, take it with grace and walk away. Most girls are very nice about rejecting you, and will actually feel flattered. But, I don't know about getting dates. That's where I'm at right now. I've literally gotten well over a thousand numbers these past 3 years, but among them, only a handful that I could count with my hands stu… | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 05:50 AM |
| 1 | How do I invite a girl over for drinks at my place?Ah fuuuuuuuuu----- Is there a way to come back from this? | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 01:45 AM |
| 5 | A girl that I was hitting on told me that her boyfriend cheated on her a few days ago. I'm not sure of what to do.that sounds like terrible advice. Just because I want to help her doesn't mean I'll be her "gay best friend." I don't see why being a dick to her will help her out, either. She's clearly not in the right state of mind to have me playing games with her | /r/seduction | 07/03/17 04:35 PM |
| 1 | I feel overly conscious of people watching when I hit on a girl. Should I care?Alright man, just lmk when you find it | /r/seduction | 01/02/17 05:16 PM |
| 2 | I feel overly conscious of people watching when I hit on a girl. Should I care?What comes to your mind when you see someone doing that? | /r/seduction | 01/02/17 05:16 PM |
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