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The difference here is how you ask imo. Tutoring for money? Bad idea, makes it difficult for her to leave if she doesn't like it. Asking her informally to help you with homework? Why not. Best way to get someone to like you is spending time with them. If you actually learn something on top it's a win-win. Don't worry about looking dumb, just actually try - you don't want it to look like the *only* reason you asked her is to spend time with her.
/r/seduction12/07/24 04:04 PM
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There's confidence and there's delusion. You sound extremely insecure, if you're so incredibly worried about not being "confident" for a second. Real confidence is accepting your flaws and weaknesses and not acting like they don't exist.
/r/seduction23/05/23 08:22 AM
53

This is so backwards, it's hilarious. Single moms don't want to settle down and just want to have fun?? That's literally the only thing they want from you. Why do you think it's so easy?
/r/seduction16/05/23 08:00 PM
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Look, idk where you're from, but go to the mall, walmart or whatever you have and take a good look around and find one guy who's not hitting at least one of my 3 points. Good luck. Of course, if you go to Miami beach it will look different. But the people there are not the average. Neither is your insta feed.
/r/seduction01/11/22 09:00 PM
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When was the last time you went outside? The majority of guys, no offense, have cheap, ill-fitting clothing, smell like they haven't showered in a good while and look like their mom cuts their hair. I agree, a big portion of your attractiveness is your face. And you can ignore everything I said, with the right face it won't matter. But this doesn't change that you need to do the best with what you have.
/r/seduction01/11/22 08:36 PM
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The best you can do is making a reasonable effort to looking your best. Work out regularly, get decently fit at least if you aren't already. Wear good clothes and cologne depending on the occasion, get a nice haircut. If you do all this, you're better than probably 90% of men and have done all that can be expected of you. Everything above that you have no control over, to some extent your looks are what they are. I'm sure you're not as bad looking as you think you are, but you have to accept wha…
/r/seduction01/11/22 04:49 PM
2

Of course they're not. What's attractive in jerks is not them being a jerk, but their confidence and social dominance. It's just that those things often coincide.
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:24 AM
1

You're 19. Don't worry about it. You'll get more comfortable as you get more experience going on dates or maybe you don't and that's also ok. Nothing wrong with wanting a girlfriend over often mindless hookups. The important thing is that you do what you want, not what some random dude on the internet tells you to. And no offense to anyone, but the kind of girl that expects you to make a move on the first date is often not exactly girlfriend material in the first place.
/r/seduction27/10/22 08:24 AM
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Part of it is that flirting is fun for them and if they know you're "just" a friend they can do it without any risk. This only works longterm if you're both on the same page regarding your friendship of course. I have female friends that are like that - very flirty, but for multiple reasons we both know we'll never be more and it's just for fun. So I would say a mix of 1 and 2. You are deep in the friendzone and they get a little boost from it. For you I think it's pretty simple: As long as you'…
/r/seduction26/10/22 04:17 PM
3

I have read that. Doesn't change what I said. What was the context? Did you ask her "It was my looks, wasn't it??"? Have you considered physical attraction includes more than looks? Your mom isn't lying to you when she says she thinks you're the best looking guy she's seen. That's her reality. Because your relationship and your presence influence how attractive you look to others.
/r/seduction26/10/22 04:05 PM
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This is so stupid, from beginning to end. You're projecting really hard here and even admit it. I thought - let's think smart about this - and extracted as much value/learnings as I could. You're seeing this through your lens of the world and all that matter there is looks. So how could something else possibly be the reason? There's so many things that could cause this that aren't looks. First off, why the fuck would she go on a date with you and have "had her tongue in [your] face" if she didn'…
/r/seduction26/10/22 03:46 PM
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I don't think there's anything weird about this at all. Same way there's some girls that like more feminine men the other way around is normal too. Like many things this is a spectrum, that's also heavily influenced by your upbringing. Plenty of guys don't want the stereotypical "feminine" housewife anymore and are looking for a girl that's a little more self-reliant. Just go after what you like and don't let some perceived norm fool you into thinking you're weird.
/r/seduction26/10/22 10:35 AM
19

Your age is just an excuse you're making up not to do it. If you were younger you'd think of something else that gives you a reason not to.
/r/seduction25/10/22 02:26 PM
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If you don't care about it, why bring it up. She knows what she's doing and she can make her own decisions. If she wants to cheat on him, that is neither your fault nor your problem. The only thing you have to do is answer to yourself if this is in line with your morals. If it is, don't bring it up. If it's not, don't bring it up either and just let her go.
/r/seduction24/10/22 04:29 PM
3

I don't have diagnosed Aspergers, but used to be shy, stiff and awkward, so maybe this can help you anyway. Also applies to any conversation really, not just women. This goes against what most people will tell you, but start telling random stories about yourself. Doesn't matter how irrelevant or boring you think they are, as long as there's some connection to what you were talking about. And most importantly, add some emotion to it. Don't just say you went hiking last week, talk about how it mad…
/r/seduction24/10/22 04:24 PM
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Also there's a quite a few studies saying that if your goal is attracting women, going far below 15% is not helping. About 13-15% is where you're the most attractive to the biggest amount of women.
/r/seduction23/10/22 02:02 PM
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Reading body language only makes sense if you have a frame of reference for the person. For strangers it's nearly useless, because you have no clue how they usually behave.
/r/seduction23/10/22 12:07 PM
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we are in our 30s. I've come to realize that a lot of women are not looking for serious relationships Are you sure about that? Anyway, first step to see if she was interested would have been not to tell her to go home. That really just tells her you aren't. Hard to say without knowing what kind of vibe you guys had, but offering her to stay at your place would have been a good way to gauge what she's up to.
/r/seduction22/10/22 09:21 PM
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I think you have to differentiate a bit. You can have sexual tension and escalate in a way without having sex and you should do that always, whether the girl wants to wait or not. The Friendzone or the "How can I let this guy I've been dating down gently" only happens if you have none of that. This doesn't have too much to do with time or the amount of dates, more whether you showed intent or not. You could go on 10 dates without her even thinking of friendzoning you or go there after just one.
/r/seduction22/10/22 09:09 PM
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They key with body language is, that no single sign means anything. It's the change in body language and the combination of multiple things that can have a meaning. So short answer: No one here can tell you what it means, because it depends on everything else she does. Maybe that's just how she always stands and it means nothing. Maybe it means she is comfortable around you and doesn't need to be in a position to be able to leave quickly. Or maybe it means you turn her off and she's guarding her…
/r/seduction22/10/22 01:18 PM
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Usually I'd say just ask him out, just the two of you. Since it's at work you have to be a bit careful of course. I would try to find out some basics first, is he actually single, those kind of things, if you can. Then just ask him to grab lunch with you or if you want to be a little bolder go for dinner or drinks after work. Either way, he's 36, he'll know what you're up to.
/r/seduction22/10/22 08:43 AM
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Wait, you went to a job interview? What if they reject you? I'd rather not do that, way better to avoid it.
/r/seduction21/10/22 07:16 PM
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Have fun living life alone, homeless, without a job I guess.
/r/seduction21/10/22 05:58 PM
6

And you think never getting rejected is gonna get you anywhere? There's no failproof way unfortunately.
/r/seduction21/10/22 05:03 PM
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This is soo wrong. You'll miss out on so many opportunities with this attitude, especially with higher quality women. If you're just looking for a quick hookup this is true, for everything else a little persistence can do wonders. Persistence is not immediately neediness.
/r/seduction21/10/22 04:57 PM
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Please be trolling.
/r/seduction20/10/22 03:52 PM
1

Really depends on the reason she lost it. If it's just because you didn't escalate enough there's really only two ways this can go. 1) She lost interest because you are not forward or confident enough for her 2) She doesn't think you're interested. The latter can be recovered from, the former not so much.
/r/seduction17/10/22 04:08 PM
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Two reasons. First one is that the classic cold approach is just not what people normally do. Anything that's not societal norm will be met with negativity from most people. Secondly, reddits demographic. This is if course a generalisation. Without wanting to shit on anyone, the average active redditor is an at least somewhat nerdy person who's probably haven't had a lot of relationships or at least is somewhat socially awkward compared to the average person. Goes for both men and women. So any …
/r/seduction17/10/22 04:05 PM
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I get it's probably a joke, but if every girl was staring at you wherever you go, you'd maybe enjoy it for a day and then it would just annoy you. Now imagine they're all taller and twice as strong as you and wouldn't leave you alone.
/r/seduction16/10/22 05:20 PM
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To give a bit of a different angle: Reading your post, I feel like you're really overanalyzing. If you've had decent relationships before and some success on dating apps, attraction is not your main issue. It becomes an issue, when you worry about increasing it during your first interactions, because all that signals is low value. What helped me personally a lot is changing my mindset from "Is she attracted to me" to "Am I attracted to her". Assume they're attracted and move from there - that's …
/r/seduction12/10/22 05:51 PM
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This is only partially true. It fails when you realise that different people have and want different boxes. Sure there's some that are somewhat universal, no one wants someone who smells, but many of the non basic one's are quite subjective. Sure, if you go super hypothetical, everyone could be everything, but at that point it's a bit pointless to argue about. People work differently based on their experiences and you getting rejected doesn't have to mean you didn't develop your skills enough. C…
/r/seduction10/10/22 01:49 PM
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Like everything with Tinder, this mostly depends on your pictures. If you're hot enough, age won't be an issue, especially when it's just for hookups. Mid twenties shouldn't be a problem anyway, I mean that's pretty normal if you just turned 30.
/r/seduction10/10/22 11:57 AM
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General rule of thumb with all those "signs": If she acts differently around you than other people that means something. It's hard to say "long eye contact means she likes you", because for every time that's true there's a girl that can't look you in the eyes because she likes you.
/r/seduction09/10/22 05:37 PM
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Seems pretty reasonable for her to cancel. Your text is super dismissive. You're basically telling her 1) You forgot about the date 2) You don't really care anyway. Why would she bother going on a date with you if you're clearly not all that interested?
/r/seduction09/10/22 05:26 PM
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Halo effect works in all directions though, it's not just looks. If you're a funny, confident guy it will also make your subjective looks better.
/r/seduction05/10/22 11:42 AM
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Don't listen to any of those generalised statements here like don't hit on girls at the gym/work/whatever. All depends on the situation. If you feel like she's giving you signals, go talk to her. If you're wrong she'll let you know. Nothing creepy about it unless you make it that way.
/r/seduction05/10/22 11:38 AM
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This is possibly the worst thing you could be talking about on a first date, right after her dog that just died. You want her to remember a good, fun time, not a depressing therapy session.
/r/seduction04/10/22 05:20 PM
1

Keep in mind, what you're really doing by escalating so fast is filtering for girls that are willing to hook up now. This might or might not be what you are looking for in a girl.
/r/seduction03/10/22 01:42 PM
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I see why you say that, I should have made a distinction. What I meant with "treating women like their girlfriend" is doing stuff for them you would only do for a girlfriend, specifically non sexual things. Meaning investing all your time into them and giving them the "boyfriend experience" while they only hit you up when they need attention. I totally agree acting like a friend is a bad idea.
/r/seduction01/10/22 03:31 PM
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The problem with this "paradox" is that your first assumption is wrong. Women don't like people that are indifferent to them. Why would anyone. Women of course want to be shown interest, they want to be chased and they want a guy to care about them. But here comes the important part: This needs to be calibrated to the relationship you have. The trap all the "nice guys" fall in, is treating women like their girlfriend when they don't even know the first thing about them. Don't invest crazy amount…
/r/seduction30/09/22 07:53 AM
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You're running in the wrong direction. Clearly what you've been working on (career, body, social skills, ...) is not your actual problem or you wouldn't be a virgin anymore. So keep that going, but figure out what really is holding you back. Generally speaking, being able to be close friends with women means you have everything it takes. There's nothing wrong with you, just with what you do. Some crucial piece of the puzzle is missing.
/r/seduction25/09/22 05:02 PM
1

It's fair to not want to have to deal with it. But this only works if you have options in the first place. The big majority of redditors, no offense, doesn't have options. For them it's very bad advice to ignore every girl that doesn't immediately show interest. Because attraction can, in fact, develop over time. I think that's what OP was getting at.
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:36 AM
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Generally, taller is better. But I'm fairly certain whatever small gain you will make in attraction through adding those 6cm is nothing compared to how much you will lose once a girl finds out. 179cm is good enough for Europe. You'll be nearly average, nothing to worry about.
/r/seduction16/09/22 05:07 PM
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The best thing you can do is trying to combine things where possible. Flirt with the coworker (or not, depending where you live this might be risky), approach someone on the way to work, go out for drinks with someone from your hobby group, swipe on the dating apps whenever there's some downtime. That kind of stuff. Additionally, just treat it like you would treat a hobby. Set aside some time each week to do what you want to do. Go approach girls, go to a club, swipe, whatever it is you're looki…
/r/seduction14/09/22 08:35 AM
1

Yep exactly. Keep in mind, some people are genuinely very different in person vs via texts. I knew some extremely affectionate, warm girls who were absolutely awful at texting to a point you felt like talking to a brick wall. In person interaction always matters way more.
/r/seduction13/09/22 07:26 PM
1

The question is how she acts around other people. It's always about changes in behaviour. If she does this with everyone, it means nothing. If it's only you, she's flirting.
/r/seduction13/09/22 06:20 PM
7

Definitely overthinking. It probably means she's not repulsed by you, but that's about all the conclusions you can draw from that.
/r/seduction13/09/22 06:16 PM
1

Would you ever forget a date with a girl you're interested in? There's your answer.
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:28 AM
0

This is the textbook definition of being a nice guy. Is it effective? Yes, but only with insecure, low value women who need the attention and validation you give them. Nice guys aren't spineless, passive men, they're men who think by acting "nice" they'll get what they want. Which is exactly what you're describing.
/r/seduction11/09/22 05:08 PM
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It's a double edged sword. If you're already really attractive, it will probably boost you even more because it helps you stand out and get noticed. It can also help you fit a certain niche you want to hit. If you have longer hair for example, there's some women who are really into it, but most won't prefer it. That being said, no matter what haircut you get, it absolutely makes a difference how well it is cut. Finding a really good barber does absolute wonders.
/r/seduction10/09/22 05:49 PM
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You don't think too slow or are too boring to come up with things. This is your anxiety taking over and shutting down the rest of your thinking. You're thinking so much about how you don't know how to interact that thats all you can focus on. I'd bet you don't have this problem with close friends or immediate family like your parents. This is not your personality. Your anxiety is stopping your actual personality from coming out. How do you solve this? Practice social skills whenever you can. It …
/r/seduction09/09/22 09:27 AM
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This is only true if she knows you well already. If you're some random guy she just met, of course you won't get the same energy as if you were her crush.
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:22 AM
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That's so disingenuous. Who's still in highschool with 19? You're implying things that are not part of the discussion. No one was talking about highschoolers. Also are you only allowed to date people who have the same degree? Sorry I've got a doctors, can't date you with just the Bachelors. That would be creepy, I'm so much more mature, think of the power dynamic.
/r/seduction08/09/22 09:48 AM
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Seconding that you should absolutely not pursue this. But if you do anyway, make very sure she wants it as well. With the language barrier there, do what you'd do verbally physically instead. But again, be very careful and see and respect her reaction. Good luck.
/r/seduction07/09/22 03:35 PM
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And that's fine. But OP is also 24. Everyone here acting like he's some predator needs to get off the internet for a few minutes. There's nothing wrong with a 24 yo talking to 18-19 yo's
/r/seduction07/09/22 01:14 PM
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Why? What does being allowed to drink have to do with it? 18 is the age we chose as a society to determine when someone is able to make their own decisions and have agency over their life. Yes it's weird if some guy in his 30s specifically just goes for 18 year olds. And yes the age of consent certainly isn't perfect. There's very mature people with 18 and very immature with 25, but you have to draw the line somewhere and OP's question doesn't imply it's his only target group.
/r/seduction07/09/22 01:04 PM
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Lol
/r/seduction07/09/22 11:28 AM
-19

Bullshit. They're adults, they can decide on their own if he's out of their age range.
/r/seduction07/09/22 10:35 AM
7

Two reasons: 1) You didn't escalate enough before so it felt like too big a jump and didn't come naturally. 2) The average guy will not go for the kiss on the first date. That being said, "surprised" and "did not expect" aren't bad neccessarily.
/r/seduction07/09/22 10:31 AM
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Sometimes things are just out of your control. Not saying you did everything perfectly, but who knows what's going on at her end. Maybe her ex she's still in love with texted her. Or her dog died and she doesn't want to see anyone. It seems like on the date itself it went great, so I'd file this as not under your control.
/r/seduction07/09/22 08:44 AM
7

Of course, but it will be much more difficult.
/r/seduction06/09/22 09:30 AM
9

Yeah of course. Every club you go to you can see a bunch of awkward guys on the sidelines more or less standing around and I don't mean that in a judgmental way. It's just that the club is sold as this go to venue to find girls. In reality it only works reliably if you do bring that energy. If you want similar people with a lower energy level, try bars and pubs. By far not as easy though. Good idea is also concerts. You can really fine tune the kind of vibe that fits you best depending on the ar…
/r/seduction05/09/22 03:12 PM
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Don't go there then, it's not your crowd. Yes you should at least match the energy, but if that's not your thing, don't do it. There's a ton of people who never go to crazy parties. It's just the crazy party goers are much more noticeable than the philosophical library girl, that's why it's easy to think everyone goes there.
/r/seduction05/09/22 02:54 PM
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This is like saying why should I go to work when I can just win the lottery. There's always going to be the short, ugly, poor nerd who lands the super hot girl by accident and the model tier, successful business man who's a virgin at 35. Also they might not be as bad as you think. Maybe the gorgeous cosplay girl just wants someone she can share her hobby with and isn't interested in the gym bro who has 0 in common with her. Your mistake is thinking you are doing this to be attractive. You should…
/r/seduction04/09/22 09:34 PM
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Harsh truth is, you'll get used to it. Don't let this stop you. The way dating works now, it's just so easy to ghost someone and move on to one of the other matches. Don't make the mistake of measuring your self worth by what some random girl from a dating app thinks. You have no idea why she ghosted you, could be she didn't like the colour of your shirt. It's not a judgment of your character or worth. If anything, try to reframe it and be happy you didn't waste more time on them. Honestly, I th…
/r/seduction04/09/22 10:50 AM
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Absolutely not. Get off the internet for a while lol
/r/seduction03/09/22 08:43 PM
1

If you're actively having to think about what to say, something is already wrong most of the time. When you meet someone you really hit it off with and you're relaxed, it should be easy and interesting topics just come up by itself. As a general rule of thumb though to get a conversation going, you want to be interested in what the other person has to say. Not just act like it, but actually be. If someone is talking about something they like you know nothing about, that's the easiest thing ever.…
/r/seduction03/09/22 08:37 PM
5

If everything you do is only for "pussy" you have a problem. And yes, the type of guy who has 5 supermodels waiting for him is exactly who'd be saying it's overrated. Like the rich guy who thinks money isn't important or the model guy who thinks the same about looks. You think Elon Musk wants to go to Mars to get pussy? There's more to the world than that.
/r/seduction03/09/22 09:13 AM
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Because of the stereotypes attached to it. If you think of a gamer on reddit, you imagine an insecure neckbeard. If you think of a football player who goes to debate events, you think of an attractive, sporty and well spoken dude. It's more or less the same hobbies at the core, but has a totally different effect. Of course things like social interaction vs. internet also plays a role. If you prove you're not that stereotypical gamer guy though, gaming can be an interesting hobby like anything el…
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:34 AM
3

Hard disagree with all the people telling you you weren't doing enough before. Sure the second one was a little cringe, but who cares. It all depends on the type of women you're dating. If you have some easy girl off tinder that's used to horny, low quality guys just wanting to fuck, she'll think it's weird if you don't even kiss her after the first date. If you get some higher quality girl with some self respect, she might expect a little more and this of course also depends on the culture. I c…
/r/seduction01/09/22 10:25 AM
1

You just have to change your environment to something that fits your personality. At the club, the loud, sociable extrovert is king. If you don't want to be that, that's fine, but club game probably isn't the most effective for you then. In a way you are right, if you try to do things just to please others, not because you want to, that comes off as cheesy and a bit desperate. Think about it like this: If you were the perfect collected, serious, mysterious guy, would you play the clown at a part…
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:48 PM
2

Just take the time and text them in between. You are not too busy for that, you are just lazy. No matter how much you have to do, you can take 20s and send a text if you care. The advice of not texting for a few days to not be too clingy is meant for needy guys who otherwise would text every hour. That's not your issue clearly. Occasional texts will help you stay on their mind and signal interest, which is important if they perceive you to be higher value than them. They are insecure about wheth…
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:31 PM
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Absolutely. Works especially well in the club. You know all those losers, dancing, extroverts some even working out - they've got nothing on your platinum league status. You're the absolute giga chad there. Elo is directly proportional to body count in my experience.
/r/seduction30/08/22 07:30 PM
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The right balance is wherever you want it to be. Being "commanding" is often understood as literally telling women what to do at all times. That's not what that means. Now there are some women who like that and some guys who'd rather have a pet than a partner. If that's you, command away. In the majority of cases however, all you need is boundaries that are enforced. How easy going you are depends on where you set those. Example: Do you mind if she's a bit late to your date? Maybe you are strict…
/r/seduction30/08/22 11:37 AM
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You kinda dug yourself in a bit already. Generally, things make you "creepy", when they don't fit to how you are perceived. That's why one guy can go around hugging and touching anyone without any problems and the other dude gets a knock from the police because he touched someone on the shoulder. I'm exaggerating. The real answer is, be more touchy from the beginning. If that's your standard way of communicating, noone will mind. If you already know someone and always kept your distance, start v…
/r/seduction29/08/22 11:40 AM
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To add to this as those are the extreme examples: It's mostly small things during conversations. Basically, don't change your opinions on things for her (unless you actually are wrong of course) and never be afraid of disagreeing with something she says or does if it goes against your values. Doesn't mean being a dick about it, just to be clear about what you want and don't want and not compromising this just because she's a hot girl.
/r/seduction29/08/22 11:22 AM
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Really depends on the girl and the situation. If you're looking for a LTR with the girl and she actually likes you, don't lie, it absolutely doesn't matter in that case and will only hurt you long term if she ever finds out. Not because you're a virgin, but because you lied. If it's more casual, you don't really know her or don't care for the long term, then try not to tell her. Just make something funny up and avoid the question without being too obvious.
/r/seduction28/08/22 12:34 PM
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Of course this happens. If you're attractive you will always get better service anywhere and people will generally be much nicer. If you were working retail you'd also pay more attention to the hot girl coming in than some neckbeard - that's just how life is.
/r/seduction28/08/22 08:22 AM
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Everyone here saying you don't, that's such nonsense. So many people get together through work. As long as you're not her supervisor or directly responsible for her there's absolutely no problem. Of course you have to be a little more tactful than in other settings. Go talk to her when you can, hang out during breaks , maybe get lunch together. And if you get along well ask her to do something outside of work. That's really all to it. Don't be pushy, just see if you can have a good time at work …
/r/seduction27/08/22 08:21 AM
1

The problem is, it's like with everything, if you have enough of it or could have enough, it really isn't that important anymore, but if you have nothing, it's all that matters. When someone says, women aren't everything, they're right. But only for them - we always desire what we can't have. I know this isn't a feel good message, but we're meant to have socials connections, touch and so on. It's totally normal you have that desire and it won't go away. But this actually doesn't have all that mu…
/r/seduction25/08/22 04:34 PM
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All your assumptions are based on girls thinking the same as guys/you. And even if they were, that's just not how it works. Yes attractiveness is good. No shit. Of course girls look if a hot guy comes in. Do you not if there's a super hot girl? Doesn't mean all they do is plan how to fuck them lol And for the record, your 5'5'' weird looking dude would absolutely slay if he had the worlds best personality. Guess what, all the sudden he's "unconventionally attractive", because with a personality …
/r/seduction24/08/22 03:32 PM
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I feel you, but in the end it's a choice you have to make. If you like what you're doing then you'll have to accept it will be difficult to find someone. Not because you're worse or your lifestyle is, but simply because the possibilities are quite low. Maybe you'll find someone on Tinder, it's not like that's impossible or maybe there'll be some coworker or friend you hit it off with. The question is, can you do something that's within your lifestyle that would expose you to more people? Can you…
/r/seduction24/08/22 12:05 PM
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It's absolutely a myth you have to be a 10% man to get anything. Just logically, that doesn't make sense. It's true for some parts, if you're looking to sleep with 100s of women through tinder, you won't get around being extremely attractive. That's just how life works. But finding anyone to date isn't that hard or how else does the fat dude from accounting do it? You get the point. The thing is, most people online fail at really the most important point: Interacting with women all the time. You…
/r/seduction24/08/22 10:41 AM
27

You're right. But that in no way contradicts what he said. You attract different kind of women with different qualities. If you're a 10 looks wise and nothing else, you will get snapchat nudes the same day from dating apps. But you will not get a relationship with a high quality woman, just thirsty ones. If you have high Socio-economic status only, you'll get the pretty gold digger that doesn't give a shit about your looks or your game. Again, low quality. With only game, you'll probably land so…
/r/seduction22/08/22 07:43 AM
7

I don't know why people here are saying she's acting weird or insisting on being rational. You refuse to engage with her, refuse to read her profile, and wait days after the first text all the while giving terrible, boring answers that sound hostile. She really can't make it easier for you. She asked what you do. You didn't answer. Asks again, even giving some context, no answer, other than "working on yourself" and "loving animals" after 2 days. How boring is that? I'm surprised she even contin…
/r/seduction20/08/22 01:50 PM
16

When talking about a big group of people, like "all women", usually people mean the average. There certainly are women out there who do not need an emotional connection, which will also most likely be the women you can find more on dating/hookup apps. That being said, they probably don't. Like most content creators they do whatever gives them clicks and if you're a dating coach it sounds much more convincing if you can say you slept with 100's of women.
/r/seduction20/08/22 12:39 PM
5

Because they can. The market so to speak isn't even. This isn't a women thing, it's just people doing what they can get away with.
/r/seduction20/08/22 08:40 AM
1

Chicken egg problem. If you don't open up, he has a more difficult time helping you. But you can tell them that. That's something they can work on with you.
/r/seduction17/08/22 09:47 PM
1

Get a therapist asap.
/r/seduction17/08/22 09:16 PM
3

Look, you recognise the problem at least. That's a good first step. But you absolutely have to lose that attitude. "I'm an idiot" "I'm a creep" "I have no confidence" "People like me" if you tell yourself that day in, day out, of course you can't talk to anyone. It's a spiral making things worse and worse. I could tell you now that people don't really care and so on, but I don't think you'll believe me. Get a therapist please if you can.
/r/seduction17/08/22 08:51 PM
30

It's social skills. They're learned - what makes you think you can't learn them? You're 25, you've got on average about 55 years ahead of you. Plenty of time to pick up a new skill, don't you think? Won't come by itself though.
/r/seduction17/08/22 08:34 PM
2

You are texting way too much and asking too many questions. The start was fine, but instead of the wall of text after she just typed "where", I'd have kept it simple with something like "How about x?" From what she's typing it's very clear she's either actually busy right now or not interested. You're doing too much, when you send like 5 messages with tons of text and all you get is single word answers, it's time to tone it down a few levels. It's certainly not over yet, but give her some space.
/r/seduction17/08/22 06:42 PM
3

Anyone 18+ is fair, no matter how old you are. People are so different, don't get stuck up on some made up rules. You'll probably find that you'll be naturally vibing more with older people, the older you get, but if you're 25 and she's 18, who cares if you get along well. It's really just some parts of the internet getting riled up about this.
/r/seduction16/08/22 12:18 PM
2

With this kind of advice, people often don't differentiate enough. Like everything it really depends on the context. Going "cold" and cutting down your effort only works if she's already very invested in you. Because if she's not, you're not really taking anything away, she'll just assume you're not interested and move on, if she even still thinks about you.
/r/seduction15/08/22 03:29 PM
1

I think most of them are just insecure and don't know any better. Wouldn't go as far as saying they're actively manipulating. Just don't know what to do at all and replicate what they see on TV or seems to make sense on a simple level: If I'm nice they'll like me.
/r/seduction15/08/22 11:58 AM
1

With the age gap, 30 to 23, you're absolutely expected to lead most things. That is, planning dates, inviting her out, leading the conversations and so on, just generally being interesting and busy. That being said, if she wants to meet you, she will. There's always a chance of her playing games, hard to get, whatever. But in the end, if interest ist there, she will make time. Be very careful not to seem needy. Especially with the age difference, this would absolutely kill it - you're supposed t…
/r/seduction15/08/22 11:53 AM
12

Not sure if serious, but you're good. If you're attractive and have a nice body, as you say, that's all you need. Sign up on a dating app or just go to a bar or club, you will be approached. As for flirting, you'll pick it up, takes practice like everything.
/r/seduction13/08/22 08:39 PM
1

Fair enough, never hurts to ask!
/r/seduction12/08/22 01:56 PM
4

Sounds to me like she's not interested. If that was her only response she just tried to be friendly because you're probably gonna see each other again.
/r/seduction12/08/22 12:18 PM
9

Sorry, European here. People go topless on beaches all the time, that's not exhibitionism lol.
/r/seduction10/08/22 12:03 PM
10

It's only weird if you act differently. Just treat her normal, like she wasn't topless and whatever you do, don't stare. Then I don't see the issue.
/r/seduction10/08/22 09:06 AM
3

It's hard to escape once your in it, because it keeps validating itself. Everything they say seems to be correct and prove itself again and again. It's the same as any extremist ideology, based on confirmation bias. The best way to escape it is first of all to never, ever consume any black pill media again (incels boards, youtubers, etc.) and be conscious of how you judge things you see. Every time some of those ideological thoughts come up, question it. Think you're too ugly to find someone? 1)…
/r/seduction06/08/22 11:56 AM
8

What are you confused about? She didn't feel ready to kiss you but wants to keep seeing you. I really don't see the problem, unless you were hoping for a quick close. Just keep going and you'll get there.
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:09 PM
1

Absolutely do not introduce her to your parents, this can only go wrong. Make very sure your parents are away for long enough or just bite the bullet and get a hotel room.
/r/seduction03/08/22 05:52 PM
14

You answered your own question, brother. > I end up trying to play mysterious for as long as I can so as to not lose their interest, but eventually whatever it is they expected from me clashes with reality If you're looking for someone to blame, always look at yourself first, it's very rarely female nature that's the problem.
/r/seduction03/08/22 05:49 PM
1

The thing is, people are much, much more superficial when judging someone on an app compared to in person. The girl who filters you out on Tinder because you don't have a car, you're not 6', you don't make enough money has guaranteed been with a guy who has none of that. It's just criteria we make up. Everyone is like that. If you now go on there and post everything that's bad about you, just to make sure to filter, you will end up filtering out pretty much everyone. This is terrible advice. Put…
/r/seduction03/08/22 05:42 PM
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Yeah sure. But that doesn't mean he has to tell her upfront. Maybe it wouldn't even matter in the moment, we can't tell. It's like going around telling everyone you can't afford a car, just to make sure you filter everyone out who that's important to. Doesn't make sense, because often times things change a lot once you get off the apps. The point is: Not actively advertising with your "bad" parts isn't lying, it's just common sense.
/r/seduction03/08/22 12:52 PM
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You shouldn't lie, no. But it's not like she asked him. He was the one to bring it up, that has nothing to do with honesty, there's no need for him to inform her how many partners he's had unless she asks specifically.
/r/seduction03/08/22 11:48 AM
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If she's 35 she's likely looking for someone who is good in bed. As a virgin, you are not, because of missing experience. So this is what I would say is the issue, not the stigma. Should you have told her? Probably not. It's good to be honest, but you always need to read the situation. Being honest doesn't mean you have to put all your "bad" traits on display, you still need to sell yourself by putting your best in front of her in the beginning.
/r/seduction03/08/22 10:15 AM
3

If you want to continue this and invest in it, the worst thing you could do is being confrontational about it, like a few others suggest. If she's this shy, you will just push her away and not get a straight answer anyway. All you really can do is keep building trust, which takes time and maybe try to figure out if there might be a deeper story beneath the "had sex only once and it was bad". From personal experience I can tell you, for very anxious and shy people, knowing someone for a month is …
/r/seduction29/07/22 08:15 PM
13

Social skills are called skills for a reason. You need to learn it first. If you try playing piano, you better believe the first song you try to play sounds like shit. You're still in highschool as well, I realise this is not really any consolation for you right now, but at your age literally everyone is bad at this. You can now give up and be just as "incompetent" forever or see it as a learning experience and in a bit of time you'll be better than everyone else who didn't try.
/r/seduction29/07/22 04:09 PM
5

Just to give a different perspective: Are you sure she is annoyed and it's not just your anxiety telling you she would be annoyed? Just a thing to watch out for, don't sabotage yourself because of insecurities.
/r/seduction26/07/22 08:47 AM
72

I wouldn't give to much weight to what she said. You don't know her at all, she could just be a complete asshole who learned at some point crass insulting is the easiest way to get rid of a guy when she's not interested. It sucks and is totally understandable you were hurt by it, but don't let one bad egg ruin everything for you. The upside is, it won't get worse than this, so what are you afraid of now?
/r/seduction20/07/22 08:59 AM
493

Flying across the country for pussy is very simpy. Flying across the country because you get along really well and want to chill together and have a good time isn't.
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:08 PM
2

Do you have any reason to believe she's lying to you? Because if she's not and you treat it as a "test", you're just being a dick. This sounds like you don't trust her.
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:03 PM
76

Probably more the warming up socially than the alcohol. Doing something social before and getting in that mindset does wonders.
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:08 PM
4

Everything you say is either not true or a result of hard work put in. He's not tall at all, just barely taller than the girls he interviews. Good looking? No offense meant, but going just by the face, maybe a bit above average. Want to become buff? Go to the gym, no genetic lottery needed and on top he looks more hispanic than white, there's your minority. But of course, it's easier to say he got it all handed to him than accepting you'd have to actually do some work. ​ It would be impressive i…
/r/seduction14/07/22 12:22 PM
2

From where you're at now you definitely didn't get turned down. Really just seems like a normal chat. But doesn't seem like you wanted more out of this either. With “Thank you! I will for sure visit this place” you basically ended the conversation, there's nothing to go on. That would be my only piece of advice I guess: Add something to your messages that allows her to continue the conversation, if she wants to. Just an example: "Thank you! I will for sure visit this place, reminds me of my last…
/r/seduction11/07/22 05:51 PM
17

I don't think there's any way to tell from this. Just seems like a mundane everyday chat. Polite and that's that.
/r/seduction11/07/22 05:32 PM
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