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Why do you think you're mediocre? What makes other men not mediocre compared to you? I know a lot of "boring" people in relationships. In fact, most people end up dating someone similar to themselves in attractiveness / personality.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/25 12:51 AM
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Hey it's great to hear you've gotten a lot better and it seems like you've experienced a ton of growth over the years. I get happy hearing stories like yours because not too long ago I was in a really horrible place mentally that caused me to lose friends due to my obsession with relationships. Granted, it was mostly due to OCD, but the negative narrative surrounding modern dating especially relating to the red pill and incel culture really took a toll on me. I've only gotten better recently aft…
/r/ExRedPill09/07/25 11:51 PM
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FWIW I'm 6'0, have a good jawline and a beard, and still struggled to date a lot in college and on dating apps. Although I had many mental health issues preventing me from succeeding, I averaged like maybe a few likes a week? I had a friend who was an Indian international student who was quite the f*ckboy. He was 5'6, had cheesy gym pics, apolitical, played the guitar, and listened to Ed Sheeran. I remember being shocked when I saw he had like 40+ likes in his first week off the apps. Imo he sim…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/25 11:33 PM
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I get what you mean because I have a similar insecurity of being an incel. Even though I have a lot of good traits on paper (in a good engineering school, 6ft, fairly attractive), I've never been in a relationship before. I had pretty bad suicidal thoughts over the years because of it and after a while I learned it was because I have OCD. I'm currently seeing a clinical psychologist for it and I'm doing a lot better. I have no idea what your mental health history is but how you describe your fea…
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 02:06 PM
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Actually insane response lmao
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 12:40 AM
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Lol this is exactly what I'm interpreting this post as. This is ridiculous. Also, I have no idea what this mindset is supposed to do. It's pretty obvious that bullying can very well lead to unhealthy thoughts about one's self. Many mass shooters have personal histories of being bullied. Yeah, might as well continue bullying people instead of giving them the mental health support they need so that we can create more insane mass shooters.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 12:38 AM
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Found the red piller
/r/ExRedPill18/05/24 12:15 PM
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Wow, I think you phrased this advice very well. I guess it's possible I misread a lot of advice relating to this topic especially as someone who's been insecure about it for a while lol. Thanks tho
/r/ExRedPill17/05/24 10:58 PM
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I’m trying to not take reddit people too seriously, This is probably for the best if you want to be a happy person
/r/ExRedPill17/05/24 10:45 PM
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What is the wisdom of my elders here, exactly? Also, I definitely don't believe many things that my elders tell me especially on political takes lol
/r/ExRedPill17/05/24 10:41 PM
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Imo I feel more depressed when I try to think of a future alone the rest of my life
/r/ExRedPill17/05/24 10:39 PM
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From my experience, friendships seem to grow much more distant as you get older. I'm still pretty young (22), but I read a lot about how when people start getting married they lose touch with their friends and are basically only with their family. And for the most part, this has kinda held true in my life from the older adults I've met. So it seems like having kids or a romantic partner is like the only decent way of having human connection after a certain age.
/r/ExRedPill17/05/24 10:23 PM
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I try my best to practice OCD exercises to reduce rumination but it's incredibly hard to stop. The truth is I WANT to date REALLY BADLY but I have so many tremendous fears of doing so. I'm really scared of rejection. I'm really scared of if anyone is gonna like me. I'm scared of staying a virgin until I'm 30. This subreddit and many ones similar to it has so many horror stories surrounding dating that it genuinely terrifies me to some degree because I feel like that could be me. The reason why I…
/r/ExRedPill28/03/23 12:44 AM
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Are you socially active...going to partys etc? Yes. I'm socially active in a large club of 100+ people at my university. I typically go out once a week to a bar, party, etc. I generally try to approach and meet new people. I find myself pretty socially adjusted with other people. I don't really explicitly hit on women like crazy because I find that creepy at times. Maybe I am not aggressive enough but idk. I've also been actively working out. I don't have as much free time as other students beca…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 10:12 PM
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I've read models. Women consistently say they hate being cold approached the way Mark Manson describes in his book.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 01:52 AM
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Older men according to that study.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 09:08 PM
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30% of young women are single. Apparently older men I suppose.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 09:07 PM
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Why wait untill your 30's? There'll be less woman who want to date you. Well 2/3 of young men are apparently undatable anyways lol
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 09:06 PM
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I tried dating apps at first before I turned 20 and they destroyed my self esteem. I don't really know if I want to go back to them or what. I'm just at a loss of what to do. Should I literally just start approaching random women in public?
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 03:18 AM
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Do you often flirt or otherwise approach women? No. I'm told that women consider it creepy to be approached in public. I don't know that many single women as I have a lot of guy friends and am in engineering school. That being said, I've never really flirted with anyone, so I have no clue what that would even look like. Do you have deeper conversations with people, leading to a read on chemistry? I try to have that with people in general but I've never had that with any single women specifically
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 02:19 AM
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Yes, but you are also to have a longer sexually active life. Hmm that's really interesting, I've never seen that before. Though I hope my sex life starts soon lol. Is the the article you are referencing? This one, which is more up to date
/r/ExRedPill12/03/23 10:43 PM
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Ok what should I do to become a "man?" Wtf
/r/ExRedPill17/02/23 11:48 PM
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I don't get your point
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 02:58 AM
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Well I've been working on myself for over a year. I'm expected to graduate with a six figure salary and I've been working out for a year. I never went on a single date this whole time. I've been starting to hit the gym more frequently and studying school harder to get into an even better job. I literally don't know when am I "good enough."
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 02:00 AM
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When have I ever showed entitlement? Craving sex or a relationship is not fucking entitled. It's called fucking biology, lmao.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 01:43 AM
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But will you ever get a girlfriends if you don't approach random strangers? Sometimes it feels like that's a necessity
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 11:15 PM
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Is that the only way people find partners? It's exhausting but I feel like NEVER wanting to play it.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 11:14 PM
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hows your mental health? You looking after yourself there? I have been going to therapy for several months but I'm still really bad. I went to a psych ward a few months ago because I had a plan to kill myself. Life fucking sucks but dating is a part of life and I can never escape it. I sincerely hate the concept of dating now because of the fucking emotions I've felt the past year. hows your life outside of dating? You got a decent social circle going on? Good friends but also meeting new people…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 11:13 PM
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I pretty much only date gamer boys on account of our shared interests. Lol you can actually afford to do that because your interests are male-dominated. Men don't have the same privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:21 AM
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Guess I'm fucked?
/r/ExRedPill03/01/23 03:34 AM
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When I have to put ALL my energy into getting something that I can't just sit back and play a video game or two every now and then I feel like dying. This isn't fun. I'm just fucking miserable 24/7 Edit: uh found something interesting on your profile I wanted to ask about. Dmed
/r/ExRedPill03/01/23 03:33 AM
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All that evolutionary biology talk makes you sound like a red piller on an "anti-red pill" sub, lol. Just admit that women want and will only settle for the top 1% of men. What you're saying just makes me keep thinking I will have no shot unless I become a male model after years of lifting. Stop complaining, figure out why you feel the need to complain, work hard and stay patient. Well, I am trying my best to continue to work hard. I feel the need to complain because I'm a fucking 20-year-old du…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 03:18 AM
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I read Models. I still don't know how to approach women irl. Do cold approaches even work for men who aren't buff. Women have a sixth sense about sniffing that stuff out in my experience Through a fucking dating app???? So women are omniscient gods now or something??? Lmao. But they somehow don't have a sixth sense when it comes with pairing with abusive men? I'm always so baffled by this claim that women have literal mind reading super powers. I get that they are better than men at reading peop…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 10:32 PM
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Do you actually want a relationship more than sex or are you saying it cuz you think women want that? Both. I'd rather have a relationship than a hookup. And I hear women complaining all the time that "men only want hookups" so I'd assume it'd be more desirable but I think it's actually quite the opposite on those apps.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 09:57 PM
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This all sounds like something a red piller would say... And yes, we like a lot more than just kindness in selecting a mate. That’s just natural selection I guess. I know this sounds funny but I’m serious when I say it’s not survival of the fittest, it’s survival of the sexiest. But this mindset leads you right back to red pill ideologies. The idea of becoming an "alpha male" by becoming as muscular as possible, making a shit ton of money, and acting like a jerk, because it's the sexiest thing t…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 07:52 PM
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Having a partner, a long term relationship, children etc. are not things that everyone is entitled and guaranteed to have. Isn't that so sad? Like I am probably and hopefully not gonna end up like that but I just can't help but feel so depressed and kinda scared when I see 35 year old incels who suffer from certain disorders that either make them extremely ugly or socially inept. How do you get over that fact that even the nicest person on the planet won't even feel love which is arguably as imp…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 03:45 PM
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You are an unfortunate dichotomy. A superiority and inferiority complex swathed into one person. Well I unfortunately agree with this statement. You see dating as easier for women, but you do not realize how dehumanizing this post is. No, I definitely realize it's dehumanizing. I'm asking how can I change my thoughts patterns to not think in this way and challenge my beliefs. This is what being lonely and depressed does to your brain unfortunately
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 05:17 AM
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Also, the gender ratio in math majors is pretty equal. This is demonstrably wrong, lol.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 01:00 AM
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I agree with a lot of what you said. There could very well be biases in the way I think. I often do end up looking back at myself years ahead and realizing "wtf, how did I think that," so it could very well be the same with this. I do appreciate your kindness, honesty, and willingness to share your wisdom with me. It kind of makes me sad that you just don't know what love, joy, or any of that is. I don't really want to discuss much more on the topic of love because I think we already established…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 05:24 PM
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I'm terribly sorry you don't understand love. It's a shitty way to live. No wonder you don't understand dating. Maybe I do or don't... Who knows. It's very possible I'll learn more when I get older. I doubt people in relationships know that much more about it than me when they just end up getting into a terrible breakup for no reason other than the fact that they rely on someone else for validation and grow to hating each other lmao. In many cases, these people just get sucked in by dopamine and…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 04:43 PM
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Do you envy shitty relationships between shitty people? Why is it so hard for you to believe things can/are different for other people out there who aren't so shitty? I don't "envy" them. I don't think it's envious in any way. It's just a form of entertainment they choose to go with. Sex and going on "cute" dates is fun, and it gets more fun when you're with someone you think is extremely valuable. Well it's just that I don't believe it when any couple says they are in love with each other. It's…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 04:30 PM
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I don't want it but it's the way the world works and I just have to deal with it. I give up on searching for love. Only I can love myself.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 04:19 PM
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No, and like I said, I don't come off this way in real life. I'm a much happier person when I'm around other people. When I'm alone my thoughts hit and I become very depressed. Even if this was true, tons of women stick up with shitty relationships because they feel the need to rely on someone else because they're hot / high status. Men will do this to with hot women.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 04:18 PM
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Yet I know misogynists who get pussy all the time. People have shit attitudes and date all the time.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 04:16 PM
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Do you think I talk to people irl like I do on Reddit? No, lol. It's because I'm not hot. Humans are monkeys with primal instincts and we don't care about any other traits except for superficial BS. I'll just get really jacked over the next few years. Relying on anyone else for validation and love is stupid. I need to love myself.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 04:09 PM
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How are your social skills? I'm not really socially awkward but I'm not a hilarious comedian. Do you have a good social circle with both men and women? I have basically 0 female friends. The only women I talk to are my sister and those I met through incel / mental health circles. I have a few good male social circles though most of them are nerds and don't have girlfriends. Do you make friends easily? Yeah I'd say it wouldn't be that hard. It's hard for me to be friends with women because I don'…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 06:37 AM
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Lol well shit. So I'm just fucked I guess, right? You'd probably want to kill yourself too if you knew what your future would look like and you knew you would be single for the rest of your life. Oh no, but it's too "entitled" to think that. That I'm just a worthless stain of shit on this planet.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 11:07 PM
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Lmao ikr. The entitlement "advice" is so fucking depressing too. It's basically just like "yeah, you don't deserve to be loved, fuck you." Actual suicide fuel for incels
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 10:43 PM
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Self-esteem and depression mainly. I am actually not very socially awkward (from my view) and don't really get anxious in social situations. I'm probably a terrible flirt (I've never really had to opportunity to) but honestly my self-esteem is a much bigger issue to me
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 10:40 PM
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Wow, thanks for the passionate response! Dmed
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 10:24 PM
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Once a week. It's nice being able to vent to someone and I've learned some effective ways to manage my emotions at times. What didn't go as well is just how slow it is. It takes a lot longer than I thought it would to fix myself, and it also kinda sucks that I have to put in a lot of that effort myself. You wish you could just have someone else "fix you" but it unfortunately isn't as easy as that.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 10:08 PM
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Is it okay if the only thing I can offer women are money and good looks?
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 08:51 PM
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I agree with most of your advice but how is lowering the bar bad when I can't even get a single date?
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 08:22 PM
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Well when I lose hope in ever meeting someone I don't know how else to react to it. I would rather be dead than live the rest of my life single and alone.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 08:06 PM
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Learn how to talk, be funny, confident, etc. What if I'm inherently a boring fucking person and I can't be funny. It's just not my personality. Pretty sure everyone says personality is something you can't change but people like you just expect me and other unworthy men to just somehow magically be able to change all the shitty and boring parts of our personality with a magic wand.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 07:52 PM
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Yeah fuck you too bud. I blame those problems but atleast I'm fucking putting effort into trying to fix it even though it probably won't actually fix anything in the long run because there's just something fucking wrong with me. I am trying EVERYTHING to change my celibacy and yet I still can't fix it. What else am I supposed to do but blame the fucking world if I'm inherently incompatible with any woman? I bet you have a completely normal sex life because you're not as mentally disabled as me.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 07:49 PM
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I forgot to mention I've been going to therapy the past 9 months.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 07:35 PM
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I don't understand why people like you make posts when you dont genuinely want input from people. Well it's because that advice only makes me more depressed and miserable because as of right now I don't see myself ever being able to "earn" someone else's trust and respect. I feel like even if I fucking make $100k+, become really muscular, I'm still gonna never gonna be able to meet someone because I'm inherently a shitty and boring person. The red pill always makes me come back to that realizati…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 07:19 PM
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Hmm I can kinda see the flirting bit. Honestly I think I've only kinda really gotten to the point of flirting with someone once but that's just because I literally barely speak to women. Do you get what I mean that sex with strangers is only a win if you want that? Women want it less than men, that's why it's easier for them to get. Not more complicated than that. It's not that unfair after all, when you think about it. Of course I get that. I don't even market my dating profiles as for hookups …
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 03:06 PM
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You're not entitled to find somebody. I always dislike when people bring up "entitlement." Sooo, I should just be content with being single the rest of my life? Wtf is that supposed to mean?
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 02:50 PM
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At this point I would be happy with just a moderately wealthy man, I don’t even care about anything else. What does moderately wealthy mean here? What kind of income range is this? Honestly, I've been recently becoming really insecure about how much money I'll make and even question if it's even enough to attract anyone. Please get off the Internet porn. Just hear me out. Go and check out nofap. I tried, but it's really hard. It just made me even more sexually frustrated as someone with a really…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 02:32 PM
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Well it's fine anyways because I like my career (software engineering). But I know I definitely have less free time than other students.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 02:26 PM
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Do you flirt with women at these parties? Ask them out? When I even get a chance to meet them, I try, but I have literally no concept of flirting. I showed someone my tinder conversations and they judged me for how "un-romantic" my conversations are. People tell me to just "be myself," and I do, but I cannot come across as interesting or charismatic. Hell, most of the kind of flirting I see men do looks cringy as fuck and I dislike it. I'm a fucking boring person. I talk about shit like science …
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 02:20 PM
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Why do people keep saying this. Ok maybe if you look up statistics online you could say but that I hope you realize different games have different demographics lol. I play indie games, MOBAs, and shooters. Women are basically non-existent inside MOBA and shooter communities and they are maybe more common in indie games but still EXTREMELY rare. I think the vast majority of women gamers come from mobile games which I do not care for in the slightest. I believe, but don't quote me on this, if you …
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 02:14 PM
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Not to mention about 30% of the people in STEM fields are women, do they just not exist to you? Not for my major. My major is 88% male. Yes, women basically just don't exist in my classes. Not to mention, a lot of engineers are international students and a good subset of the women engineers are like that too so it becomes even harder to relate with some of them. Being with someone who isn't into anything you do sounds boring AF, why even bother? Well then what's the point? I rarely meet women wh…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 02:12 PM
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Women can sense desperation and resentment from a mile away. I disagree with the resentment part. I know quite a few misogynists who don't have a problem dating. If you can get any sort of therapy for the resentment, I’d recommend that. Yeah I've been going to therapy for a bit now and recently brought this up so I hope to change my mind on it soon. Yeah well I'll put in that effort and see where it goes I guess
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 08:41 AM
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I did in fact rush a frat but I really didn't like the vibe that much. I'm gonna plan on rushing more next semester and see if I can find any one that clicks.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 07:45 AM
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Honestly be friends first, get to know if someone is good for you. Honestly, my problem is that I literally never get to meet any women. I'm in a major that's 88% male and I pretty much only have male friends and male-dominated hobbies like gaming and stuff. I feel like I can only rely on dating apps and PUA bullshit but I really don't think I'm the kind of person to shine through that way. It feels so superficial and shitty.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 07:28 AM
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