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| – | Q4all: if you could magically transform into the opposite gender for a month, what would you want to look like and what would you do?Miss Trunchbull | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/24 04:44 AM |
| – | Men's lust clouds their judgement and makes them see women as evil | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 04:18 PM |
| 19 | A man expecting women to accept them when they are young and broke is like expecting men to accept a women when she fatThe majority of women are overweight or obese, is this a new take on women are only dating 1% of men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 11:23 AM |
| 20 | A man expecting women to accept them when they are young and broke is like expecting men to accept a women when she fatYou said no man would even consider a fat woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 10:09 AM |
| 84 | A man expecting women to accept them when they are young and broke is like expecting men to accept a women when she fatChances are no men would even consider a fat women Fat women have no problem finding dates and relationships. Their limiting factor is expecting to attract the same men that in shape women attract. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 09:18 AM |
| – | Men's lust clouds their judgement and makes them see women as evil | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 06:27 AM |
| – | Men's lust clouds their judgement and makes them see women as evil | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 05:32 AM |
| 16 | Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women?If you are living in the West, you are living with the most egalitarian men there have ever been. Providers, leaders and people of importance are what women want men to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 05:03 AM |
| 5 | Trauma-Bonding is the most effective means of keeping a women's emotional investment in youdysfunctional relationships with mentally ill women who end up ruining their lives. I don't think this is the full picture, I've known some great, intelligent women who gave a lot to these sort of men, only to come out the other side broken and on anti-depressants. I think it's nice to believe that men like this will get their commupance, but from what I've seen they often feel loved and get what they want from women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/24 07:46 AM |
| 2 | What is the real reason some men are able to have success with love and some aren’t?People seem to be averse to thinking of themselves as mediocre, boring or average. They make these claims, that women have high standards or only select men who have a lot going for them, to indirectly big themselves up or, in the case of men who fail with women, to cope. Women don't have high standards, they have narrow and specific standards that generally say nothing about the men they are with | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 02:07 PM |
| 2 | What is the real reason some men are able to have success with love and some aren’t?Most men and women live unremarkable lives, their biggest events are usually the birth of their children and getting married, something most people have been doing for centuries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 01:26 PM |
| 1 | What is the real reason some men are able to have success with love and some aren’t?You really think most people live boring lives? Yes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 01:23 PM |
| 2 | What is the real reason some men are able to have success with love and some aren’t?Where does this idea that you have to be not mediocre or boring to date come from? The world is full of mediocre, boring people, they make up the vast majority of humanity. If we're using number of partners as a metric of success, which is questionable, then the most successful guys I've known have been the most desperate and sex obsessed, the biggest slayer I knew was an outright sex addict. I think success is in having lasting, happy relationships and the guys I know who got that had high stan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 12:35 PM |
| – | Why do some men care so much about body counts?Promiscuous actually has it's roots in the word "indiscriminate". Having a string of relationships that didn't work out isn't promiscuity either, unless you are jumping from guy to guy and lying to yourself; having a load of failed relationships shows you are "indiscriminate" in your partner choice however. Also, sex positive is not a synonym for promiscuous, people in healthy long term relationships have more sex, which is more enjoyable and more adventurous. There is a strong correlation betwe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 12:12 PM |
| – | Why do some men care so much about body counts?If that were true there wouldn't be any promiscuous women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 11:54 AM |
| – | Why do some men care so much about body counts?No one wants to be in a room full of their partners exes. I think being with someone who's exes could fill a room is not something a lot of people want either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 11:52 AM |
| – | Why do some men care so much about body counts?Promiscuous person is a type of person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 11:46 AM |
| – | Why do some men care so much about body counts?I think shared values are an aspect, but I also find discernment attractive; for that reason promiscuity is unattractive to me, the same way women who have a history of abusive or otherwise shitty exes is offputting. I used to be friends with a woman that I found quite attractive and we got on well together, but she was with an abusive guy for years and I just couldn't look past it, I know how bad it sounds, but I couldn't help thinking "I thought she was better than that". I think that last tho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Do most men really want “traditional women” or to receive treatment they imagine top tier Chads receive from women?Again you've completely misunderstood what I've said, though I guess taking my own words into account, I can only blame myself for not being clear. I'm not trying to argue with you or antagonise you, what I am saying is dehumanising are things like "if he wanted to he would" or when women assume a man isn't interested if he doesn't ask her out, it denies how insecure or anxious a man can be and puts the burden on him; men who believe that women will sleep with a guy she's attracted to on the fir… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 09:15 AM |
| 0 | Do most men really want “traditional women” or to receive treatment they imagine top tier Chads receive from women?All of this is the other side of the coin that women use to dehumanise men and deny their emotions, things like "If he wanted to he would" or expecting men to make the first move, be more direct, physically escalate etc come from the same place as men believing women sleep with men they find more attractive sooner. It's all assumptions based on actions and this is how women want the game to be played, women are the ones that want plausible deniability, women are the ones who want to not communic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 08:27 AM |
| 5 | Do most men really want “traditional women” or to receive treatment they imagine top tier Chads receive from women?It is absolutely not It's not obvious that there is no such man that every single woman will do whatever they want? And none of that means all women will have zero boundaries and conditions as long as the guy is hot enough, but not only do several men apparently believe this It often astounds me how few people on PPD read, and comprehend, the comments they reply to. I agreed with you that this man does not exist, but I'm saying that when you have guys who can sleep with multiple women a week if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 11:40 PM |
| 13 | Do most men really want “traditional women” or to receive treatment they imagine top tier Chads receive from women?There is no such man that every single woman will do whatever they want This is obvious, however there are "Chads" who have easy access to enough women willing to act like pornstars to please him, that it doesn't matter if he can sleep with every woman on earth. The majority of men will never experience sexual desire from a women like those guys do, so it's no wonder "Chad" almost becomes deified. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 11:18 PM |
| – | Women's dating advice comes from a place of ignorant privilegeYeah it’s kinda for men to be single mothers It's not a good look when you are nitpicking on semantics. bad dating advice It's only bad dating advice if you are talking about cold approaching, which is bad dating advice regardless of gender. A woman asking out a guy she already knows and feels safe around is risking a lot less than a woman waiting for someone she doesn't really know to ask her out, but the vast majority of women would choose the latter, acting like the choice comes from a place … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 04:15 PM |
| – | Women's dating advice comes from a place of ignorant privilegeWomen are more insecure, have less self-esteem, are less likely to stand up for themselves, enforce boundaries, ask for what they want, less likely to be sexually and romantically fulfilled, more likely to regret sleeping with someone, more likely to resent their partner, more likely to initiate a break up, more likely to initiate a divorce, more likely to be single mothers, these are all facts. I don't believe for a second women let their life be like this because they think that taking control… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 03:37 PM |
| – | Women's dating advice comes from a place of ignorant privilegeThe difference between attractive and unattractive women is the share of the male populace they have sexual power over, most just don't realise it because they have low self esteem and are too insecure to leverage it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 03:18 PM |
| – | Women's dating advice comes from a place of ignorant privilegeThis is just waffle that women tell themselves to avoid admitting they're simply insecure and fear rejection | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 03:10 PM |
| – | Porn Is The Main Destroyer Of Modern SexualityTrying to convince a young man who consumes porn daily that being kind and loving will lead to a romantic relationship and eventually sex Men realise this isn't true without porn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 01:13 PM |
| 7 | Women: How many of you want men to improve their social skills?The majority of men will very rarely, if ever, experience proactive sexuality from a woman he hasn't already established a sexual relationship with. A woman may feel sexually attracted to a man, but if he isn't proactive, nothing will happen. I fully believe the increase in sexlessness in the younger generations is down to men being less pro-active, I don't think it has anything to do with af/bb, chad, not looksmaxing or whatever other nonsense; men fail when they don't know how to play, or opt … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/24 03:27 AM |
| 13 | CMV: Males should stop walking away from marriageSociety would be better off if criminals turned themselves in and went to prison, but no one would use that as an argument to convince them to do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 06:26 PM |
| 8 | CMV: Males should stop walking away from marriageSo then why should he value marriage? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 06:17 PM |
| 14 | CMV: Males should stop walking away from marriageNo, I don't think a longer life has inherent value. For a man who does not value marriage, the increased longevity is more time spent in a situation he doesn't value; rather than an argument in favour, it is an argument against. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 05:50 PM |
| 8 | Women: What do you bring to the table?I don’t know any man that doesn’t value love, support, treats and gifts, etc I'm a man who doesn't like treats or gifts, so we do exist, but your point definitely stands; I feel like a lot of men act like sex and looks are all they care about, but they'll siphon the life out of a woman without offering much in return. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 05:40 PM |
| 29 | CMV: Males should stop walking away from marriageApart from living longer, you've not presented a benefit to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 05:31 PM |
| 1 | As a man with mental illness, you are worse off in the current datingmarket then a woman with the same issues.I have regularly felt that I'm in a game I don't know the rules to. Something I often think about is the second Noble Truth of Buddhism, desire is the root of suffering, as you say marketers have latched onto that, to keep people in a state of perpetual desire, so they consume more. Desire is a hard thing to detach from, but trying to live in the present can allow you to lay aside desire, because desire is concerned with the future; it's a want for something you don't have, whereas more inner pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 02:24 PM |
| 1 | As a man with mental illness, you are worse off in the current datingmarket then a woman with the same issues.I often think the fact we can never know how others see us is like a cruel joke played to our detriment. I’ve not really noticed women adhere to strict gender guidelines when choosing a man I assume you are younger than me, so perhaps times have changed, but in my experience women expect men to make the moves, to be the one to communicate desire first and to physically escalate. I don't think there's been an increase in women taking on that role either and the fact that younger generations seem … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 01:57 PM |
| 2 | As a man with mental illness, you are worse off in the current datingmarket then a woman with the same issues.I knew a woman who was a virgin until her late 20s, she was not unattractive and men were interested in her, but she gave off an unapproachable vibe and generally gave the impression she didn't want a man, even when you did get close to her platonically, you often felt unwelcome. I'm sure she thought guys weren't into her for some quirk of her personality or whatever, but it was because guys thought she didn't like them. A man in a similar situation cannot say the same though, they are actually … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 01:18 PM |
| 1 | As a man with mental illness, you are worse off in the current datingmarket then a woman with the same issues.Right, so you're not someone who is paranoid like she was describing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 06:02 AM |
| 3 | As a man with mental illness, you are worse off in the current datingmarket then a woman with the same issues.Unfortunately this is daily life for me. It is not, however, daily life for the large majority of people with mental health issues. Another person having to deal with that? I don’t blame them for not wanting to be in a long or short term situation with me. I'd be willing to wager that you've been shown more platonic, sexual and romantic interest, had more sex, with more people and been in more, and longer lasting, LTRs than most guys with much more milder issues than you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 06:00 AM |
| 7 | As a man with mental illness, you are worse off in the current datingmarket then a woman with the same issues.they don’t think someone digging open wounds into their skin to be something worth sticking around for. They don’t want someone who has blacked out their windows or covered their vents so people can’t see through them. They don’t want a girl who can’t use the bathroom in public for fear there are cameras installed watching her. Speaking from experience btw. These are all extremes, slightly weird mannerisms are enough to give women the ick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 05:30 PM |
| 3 | How do you guys stay positive and avoid things like insecurity and self-esteem issues in the face of rejection?Just think about the reprobates that do get chosen by women and ask yourself how much you trust their judgment of you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Were you more physically attracted to your hookups/situationships/fwbs compared to your more serious partners?https://np.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1fq2bnz/falling_for_my_friend_whom_i_never_thought_was_my/ Women's ability to take simple things and overthink them into irrational nonsense never ceases to baffle me. I swear it gets worse with age for them as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Most women actually appreciate being approached and it's only condemned by a vocal minority who aren't worth dating in any caseWhen it comes to sex and romance, women have worse outcomes overall. There are more single mothers than there are incels, women are physically and mentally abused more, murdered more, less sexually satisfied, less happy with their relationships, the list goes on, by just about every measure, except for access to sex, women are worse off than men in romance, so maybe we shouldn't just accept things are working out for women as they stand, the only way it could stand is if the only measure of roma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 08:58 AM |
| 3 | Most women actually appreciate being approached and it's only condemned by a vocal minority who aren't worth dating in any caseTrite excuses to avoid vetting men. If you are selecting men willing to use you for sex, that says more about your ability to judge character, than it does about the merrits of being proactive in dating; if you can't vet men, you'll get used and abused regardless of being passive, at that point telling a guy you like him or not is minutiae. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 06:19 AM |
| 0 | Most women actually appreciate being approached and it's only condemned by a vocal minority who aren't worth dating in any caseThe entitled and superiority complex Is a delusion, they want to act like they have it better, presumably for the sake of their own ego, even though the stats show that, despite the increases in male lonliness and sexlessness, women are still less satisfied with their sexual and romantic relationships. They're getting used and abused at higher rates, they're more desperate, more insecure, more medicated, less happy, overall they have worse experiences and, perhaps saddest of all, their life is s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Most women actually appreciate being approached and it's only condemned by a vocal minority who aren't worth dating in any caseIt would depend on why/how they are doing the approaching, women who are confident in themselves, know what they want and go for it when they find it in a man, do well. Most women are insecure, desperate, don't enforce their boundaries and let men use and abuse them for the illusion of being "in a relationship", I doubt too much would change for them, but being willing to be more active opens you up to more than just being selected out of lust and used for access to sex for a few months/years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Most women actually appreciate being approached and it's only condemned by a vocal minority who aren't worth dating in any caseIt's not really the same results though, is it? Unless you're just desperate for the status of being in a relationship. Most relationships fail and women are less satisfied, more likely to experience domestic abuse, be murdered by their partner, be a lone single parent, women's outcomes from relationships are, across the board, worse than mens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 05:48 AM |
| 9 | Most women actually appreciate being approached and it's only condemned by a vocal minority who aren't worth dating in any caseBecause it's apparently a "wager worth taking". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 05:42 AM |
| 16 | Most women actually appreciate being approached and it's only condemned by a vocal minority who aren't worth dating in any caseRisking 30 seconds of discomfort for a potential lifechanging relationship seems like a wager worth taking Why don't women take it then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 04:48 AM |
| 4 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendWhat are you even talking about? Regardless of if a man is cold approaching or trying to date a friend who is into him, 9.9 times out of 10, being passive is going to lead nowhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 04:59 PM |
| 7 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendRegardless, men still need to actively escalate, just meeting women and being passive is a losing strategy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 04:42 PM |
| 8 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendYou have to do more than meet women to date them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 04:25 PM |
| 11 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendtaking a more passive approach to dating Is how men end up involuntarily celibate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?I think the real issue is idealism vs realism, you can never trust someone 100%, it's just not possible. Plenty of people who trusted their partner fully have been blindsided by them, it's perfectly reasonable, regardless of how you feel about your partner, to also not want to leave something as monumental as the paternity of your own children to faith alone. Believeing there is 0% chance the children are not yours is blind faith and I'd apply the same thought process to a woman who wants to hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 07:24 AM |
| 5 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?Why not? They're both precautions against getting hurt by someone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 06:53 AM |
| 8 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?In the context of this discussion, if a man wishing for paternity certainty is accusing his partner of cheating, then aren't the precautions women take every day, against violence from men, an accusation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Only telling men to self improve is bad adviceGetting jacked, rich, educated, whatever else doesn't matter, neither does being more social, all that matters is flirting and escalating, you can be massively outgoing, friendly and social, party regularly with a diverse group of friends and be "Chad" to a woman who's into you and if you don't flirt or escalate with her, she'll choose a friendless, overweight, abusive, bum over you, this is the game women have set up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 06:33 AM |
| 7 | Women are lazier when it comes to relationshipsIf saying "we should hang out sometime" to someone who started a conversation with you is how women flirt it explains a lot for me. I think I may have inadvertently dated some women over the years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 05:40 AM |
| 6 | Women are lazier when it comes to relationshipsI was reading threads about how desired men feel/what women do to make their man feel desired and the responses from some women were astounding, plenty seemed to think that letting him initiate sex was enough, some were saying they hug and kiss their man every now and then, one said she didn't realise men couldn't feel desired, one even said she dresses up and wears perfume 🤷♂️ Women are made lazy by being the passive party, they expect it and assume a lot of a man who doesn't do it, then those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Women are lazier when it comes to relationshipsShe taught me silly little ways to flirt (I remember she told me to tuck the tag on the collar of the shirts in - and you know what? That shit works). She also told me on the date to “ask him about himself and laugh at his jokes.” If stuff like this is flirting, then I've been bombarded by women my whole life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 05:17 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Question for men who have trouble getting women: how is your platonic social life?I think it's easy to forget there is another human behind the veil of anonymity, so I don't take what people say to me here personally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 08:35 PM |
| 8 | Q4M: Question for men who have trouble getting women: how is your platonic social life?That was just me arguing for the sake of arguing with someone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 05:29 PM |
| 6 | Q4M: Question for men who have trouble getting women: how is your platonic social life?I am in that 6 to 7 inch range, so of all my worries that's not one, though I'm a bit baffled what you want me to take away from your reply. Are you addressing that to my answers or the implication I struggle with women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Question for men who have trouble getting women: how is your platonic social life?Yes to 1, 2 and 3, no to 4. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do you find your male partner attractive?I did it bro , all of them have only one source, it's a study, it was conducted on just 75 woman over the 3d diagrams of 33 penis sizes which they chose First page of google I found this survey of 1300 women with an average age of 42: https://badgirlsbible.com/does-size-matter The study you are talking about used 3D models I believe, not diagrams. The studies I've given are literally on the size of 26k women and 25k men The first one merely says that the men these women are in a relationship wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you find your male partner attractive?You replied to automod claiming women were not all attracted to the same things, one guy replied to you saying studies show the opposite, then you asked for a source. Not once, however, did anyone say "women all find the same 5% of men attractive", that is a strawman entirely constructed by yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you find your male partner attractive?"women all find the same 5% of men attractive." Who are you quoting? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 12:34 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do you find your male partner attractive?If you just google women's preference for penis size you'll see countless results showing a preference for above average penises, the most common number seems to be around 6.3 or 6.4 inches. To even get to the point where the amount of oxytocin released during orgasm is relevant she needs to already find you attractive anyway. Edit: Also while we're on the topic, there's a correlation between how attractive a woman finds her partner and her likelihood of orgasm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 11:45 AM |
| -1 | Q4W: Do you find your male partner attractive?If you look up studies on height and penis size, they consistently show women have a preference for above average men; 5ft 11 for height, which is taller than ~75% of men and 6-6.5 inches for penis length, around 10% of men have a penis 6 inches or bigger. Most of the differences in women's preferences are superficial and more about presentation, than fundamental characteristics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 07:52 AM |
| 8 | The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous.Why get into a relationship if it will be shitty? I imagine for some it seems it's that or end up living your whole life never feeling even the semblance of love, I know I'm on track for the latter and it'd be different if I had just taken opportunities presented when I was younger, regardless of my believing they would not have worked out. I will never call anyone like that with relationships successful. No one, but maybe an infinitesimally small fraction of humanity, cares whether you personal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/24 08:45 AM |
| 4 | The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous.OP is talking about what you need to date, not making a commentary on the quality of relationships after dating. Also at a certain point a man just needs to take any relationship, happy or not, because it's less of a barrier to dating later in life than having had no relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/24 08:29 AM |
| 3 | The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous.None of this is actually needed; there are paedophiles who end up in relationships with women that will happily give them access to her kids, serial killers who find women to help them find victims, abusers, rapists, racists, misogynists, drug dealers, bums, fat slobs, you name a negative, there'll be guys that fit the bill who find women. The only barrier to dating is inhibition. Men who take, get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/24 08:06 AM |
| 2 | Why aren't women pickier with who they date if they can afford to be?Women are either desperate or enjoy getting treated like shit. They're the only two reasonable explanations for why women let themselves get treated the way they do. I always wonder where the idea that women are picky at all even comes from, lower levels of intelligence and higher levels of criminality correlate with more sexual partners for men, women are also less sexually satisfied than men despite the increasing numbers of involuntarily celibate men. Women are also more likely to be raped, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/24 06:45 AM |
| 2 | Difference Between Stated And Revealed PreferenceIndeed, despite what people here seem to believe, I think women's standards and expectations are dropping and they're getting hurt more for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Difference Between Stated And Revealed PreferenceI don't think it's that rare for a woman to think a guy is more invested than he is, I know women that have said "I love you" to guys for whom giving her his weekend is an effort. I can think of two women who were with guys for nearly a decade and found out they'd been sleeping around and cheating on her the whole time, then when they talk about their "relationship" it turns out he'd avoid seeing her family, avoid going out with her friends, they'd not have mutual friends and so on, like most of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 07:47 AM |
| -2 | Difference Between Stated And Revealed PreferenceThe most mind boggling ones are the women who say they've only ever been in LTRs and, when you talk about their past relationships, it becomes clear she's just let herself get used by multiple guys who never particularly liked her, then brainwashed herself into believing it was a relationship, rather than casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 05:47 AM |
| 13 | Q4M how often do you approach other men for conversationso let her ask for your number/arrange some other meet etc Waiting for this to happen is how men end up incels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 05:25 PM |
| 2 | What advice would you give to your struggling son?I had a non-religious upbringing, played sport, regularly went to the gym, I was in good enough shape that I had women in bars feeling my biceps, I went out partying, I saw more of the world in my twenties than the vast majority of people will see in a lifetime. I had a big mixed gender social circle and, later in life, I found out a few of the women I met along the way had crushes on me, some lasting years. People assume I've slept around and have had people describe me as a "ladies man" more t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 03:54 PM |
| 3 | Q4 Average looking dudes who are struggling romantically? Do you party? Do you host social gatherings and invite others? Do you get invited to social gatherings?If those guys were to present themselves better and learn how to be seductive, then they can be anti-social app users or social butterflies, I don't think either route is going to be significantly better. I say this as an extroverted social chameleon who has had zero romantic success, partying and being social will expose you to more women than not being so, but a man who learns to present himself and seduce women can get exposure via dating apps without being a "10/10". I think there is a discu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Q4 Average looking dudes who are struggling romantically? Do you party? Do you host social gatherings and invite others? Do you get invited to social gatherings?I think unflattering profiles, not knowing how to sell themselves and not being good at seduction via text, are men's biggest issues on dating apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Q4 Average looking dudes who are struggling romantically? Do you party? Do you host social gatherings and invite others? Do you get invited to social gatherings?The guys I know that hookup the most do it via the apps, it's a lot less time and effort than going out to parties and building a social circle. Edit: I know it doesn't work for a lot of men, but it's not like most guys are getting opportunities from every party they go to. I believe any guy that can regularly hookup at parties can hookup quicker and more efficiently via dating apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:54 PM |
| -1 | Q4 Average looking dudes who are struggling romantically? Do you party? Do you host social gatherings and invite others? Do you get invited to social gatherings?Maybe a couple decades ago, but with dating apps you don't need to be social to meet women. I've known guys who don't do much outside of work and play video games, who regularily hook up and establish short term relationships via the apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:49 PM |
| 5 | Q4 Average looking dudes who are struggling romantically? Do you party? Do you host social gatherings and invite others? Do you get invited to social gatherings?Just firting, escalation and seduction, nothing else really matters all that much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:32 PM |
| 1 | The most recent season of “The Bachelorette” is a perfect example of why “women should just pick better men” is terrible advicefrom night 1, he was ALL in on Jenn. He was telling everyone that he’s here for her and made it very apparent that he wants to be with her and she’s “the one” for him This alone should be enough for any sane woman to sidestep a guy. You cannot be someone's "the one" before they know you, it is either an admission of mental instability or a very early indicator of their potential to be possesive and abusive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:20 PM |
| 15 | Q4 Average looking dudes who are struggling romantically? Do you party? Do you host social gatherings and invite others? Do you get invited to social gatherings?Not anymore, but I used to party a lot, bars, clubs, friend's places, random people's places, even went to dances ocassionaly; throughout my teens and twenties I drank alot, took drugs, danced, travelled to, and partied in, many countries. I glide through social situations with little effort and make friend's easily, but I have also never even been on a date. I've known plenty of anti-social bums, racists, homophobes, misogynists, you name it, that have plenty of romantic success. I don't believ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Do you think it's harder to find a good job or a good partner?Definitely a partner. I regularly get headhunted by employers, not so much by women. Now I think about it, I've found employment to be more like how some people claim dating should be; I've simply done things that interest me and put myself out there. I find interviews a breeze because the company is trying to sell it to me. Overall I've found job hunting easy because employers are far more keen, communicate more clearly, are willing to show how much they value me and when they want me to take a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:48 AM |
| 2 | If most men followed the "look for implicit attraction signals / read the room / make sure there is some interest" advice that is given, most men would have minimal opportunitiesThese are no different than what someone who wants to be a friend does; if these were signs of romantic interest, then virtually every woman I've ever spoken to was romantically interested in me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:13 AM |
| 2 | If most men followed the "look for implicit attraction signals / read the room / make sure there is some interest" advice that is given, most men would have minimal opportunitiesSo men can’t read body language? Can’t read micro expressions? Can’t see danger coming? Can’t pick up flirting? Can women? I've heard from a few that they were (mutually) interested in me, but thought I didn't feel the same because I never made a move. I'm not the only man who has heard such, I'm sure. If women can read the signs, why would they not just make a move themselves? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:12 AM |
| 0 | What would be the downsides if men believed that women are barely capable of romantic love?Why is saying women are incapable of loving most men an indictment of women, rather than men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 10:25 AM |
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