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In some countries political disagreement isn't just a debate on taxation etc but whether or not certain people are entitled to basic human rights. In those parts you may as well have "piece of shit" tattooed across your forehead.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:54 PM
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My wife's friends are similar. Some are attractive and fun people but not the kind of women you'd want a LTR with if you're planning for a stable future
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:44 PM
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Nah, you can be both. Being kind and pleasant while also being assertive and confident isn't as uncommon as some of y'all make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:21 PM
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I think the issue they're trying to "fix" is that if given the choice, women won't choose them. Betterment is a lot more effort than regression.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 11:53 PM
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I can get that. It's hard when you start to truly know someone, see that they're quality and then have that degree of care about them without also seeing what makes them beautiful. I think those kinds of intrusive sex dreams happen to most people, realistically- I've even had them about people who I arguably can't even stand to be around. I can also see how some people feel there's some form of determinism involved in their dreams. I personally regard my dreaming brain as the equivalent of a dru…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:32 PM
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Learning to get a handle on that is important for your ability to establish healthy boundaries for yourself, in my opinion. Not being at the whim of such things is handy if you're not a fan of said feelings potentially being used against you by someone who's less than honest or even simply making an ass of yourself. That being said, I have feelings for most of my friends but it's channeled appropriately. I love them, but there's nothing romantic or sexual about it and there doesn't need to be. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:04 AM
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That's my honest rebuttal to all those loneliness crisis pioneers that think men and women can't be friends and that it's a waste of their time. Yes you can and it's actually a massive dating advantage to have close, platonic gal friends. First of all it's disarming. There are women in your life that feel safe around you and enjoy your company. It's a decent indicator to other women that you're not some misogynist or a creep. Second, plenty of women just take it upon themselves to play matchmake…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:09 PM
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I mean, shit. In the early days before the monetization of all these apps you could pop open Tinder then just swipe on everyone and send some variation of "I'd snort a line off that ass" to all your matches and get 1 or 2 meetups per week. Sure, you'd have to filter through what felt like hundreds of women telling you you're a piece of shit or gross before you find one that's a skier but a yes is still a yes. Might sound demeaning to say I wasn't looking for a bride in a brothel but it is a hook…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:49 PM
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I can agree with that, damn near 100% Hard as it may be, gotta buck up and stop hyper focusing on the negatives. It's like if you sever your spine in an accident- you either become some bitter cripple dwelling on how unfair your life is or you be a man about it and figure out how to make the best of what you have in a world that wasn't made for you. Or I guess there's also the defeatist mindset with some dudes where if they're not instantly good at something they get frustrated or discouraged. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:20 PM
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I'd imagine that comes with the territory given the qualifier is "involuntary." Involuntary anything usually breeds some flavour of discomfort and/or resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:28 PM
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Where do you guys keeping getting this "good man / bad man" spideysense nonsense from. You don't need some kind of superpower to notice that someone's weird or ugly in a way that isn't endearing and the Niceguy™ routine is ubiquitously known to be almost always performative and transactional. The bottom part is bang on though. If you're pushing 30 and the only women who think you're cool base that on the fact you can buy alcohol and don't live with your parents, just accept you've fallen behind …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:23 PM
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I think these guys you're talking about are just fearful of not stacking up well against her past experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:46 PM
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If it's voluntary it'll only ever be something that comes up if she asks you out. If it's involuntary that can quickly be deduced from your behaviour or from conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:43 PM
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Fair enough, been a long time since I've been. Anywhere near a campus.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:01 AM
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Not if you make them cum I'd wager
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:59 AM
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These "feminists" are likely either your typical misandrists or tolls. The constant verbalization is going to- unless you're fucking slick about it- put most people off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:57 AM
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That's the shitty thing with rizz; it's an artform. For some people it's as natural as any everyday conversation but for others it takes a hell of a lot of practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:54 AM
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I think failing to read the room as you move in for a kiss vs actions that may get you accused of SA are pretty far from another. It's not like we're all thinking this conversation's going so good that I'm gonna grab ass or honk her tit. There's plenty of lead up to playfully assess boundaries before then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:52 AM
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Dude's likely battling his 'tism and trying to conduct himself appropriately. I get, but it's gonna dry women up like the Savannah in practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:34 AM
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Hey now, I'm usually against the cheesy shit but if done playfully I think this one could work out
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:32 AM
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Y'all ask for consent outside of sex? I'm not saying forcibly kiss people who don't want it but it's not. Hard to tell when a woman wants a kiss. They'll literally stand there looking like they're waiting for something with their little lean in while glancing at your lips. I mean, I've read it wrong to be fair, no one's perfect. One of my good friends from back in the party days was going off about how we were so close and always had chemistry so it was a little weird we never hooked up. I figur…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:30 AM
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These sound straight out of the lips of my old lesbian roommate when we were trying to compare our game. Only worked because she was a chick and kind of cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:21 AM
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Sounds so pompous. Whatever happened to "wanna make out?"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:14 AM
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"Do you want me to..?" In a previously used example of mine, while positioning yourself to imply you're about to go down on her. Or "what do you like?" In a similar context. If you get a nonsexual answer she's probably not in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:11 AM
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Except it's all for funsies and you can keep playing afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:09 AM
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People are bad at communicating so it's definitely going to be a bit muddled when someone's doing the right things wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:08 AM
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Fuck man, it ain't that hard. I'm on the spectrum and can still ask without it being a showstopper popup add. Like if a girl comes home with you, things get a little hot on the couch, a few kisses down the stomach followed by a "do you want me to..?" Granted I can't see the video because it's being gated by that brainrot app I agree with your take though. Asking for permission to touch her shoulder could even be an opening for a cute flirty joke "Just wanted to see if you were real. ;)"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:06 AM
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There definitely is a sense of gender enforced norms regarding men and their validity of their feelings. My father wasn't super traditional but he was still a refugee from Syria. "Men need to be strong for others" was definitely what he instilled upon me. It took plenty of soul searching within myself to shed the indoctrination that men who feel are weak and instead see the reality that men who feel are brave and beautiful. That being said, I'm not among the majority, but I will always be at the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:00 AM
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I think they're more talking about chronic porn consumption, not your every day Joe "nothin' to do on a Friday night" wank sesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:55 AM
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Yeah, saying this as someone who considers himself pretty hot shit this dude's definitely taking the piss.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:48 AM
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I think too many of these guys didn't go out and be social let alone party. Like shit, everyone's blasted and most people wanna make out with someone- may as well that someone be you. Shit, seen a fair few good racks because people would start talking with me about my piercings and they'd mention they got their nipples done. "I don't believe you, prove it!"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:03 AM
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Ain't that the fucking truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 04:56 AM
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The directness is definitely a fine quality to appreciate. There's nothing quite like a woman telling you up front what she wants when that "what" is you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 04:55 AM
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Relatively often, from both women and men. Mostly men to be fair. I'm more of a recluse in my mid 30's but in my 20's I was a "naked party at my house" kind of guy. Now I'm married, so the flirting is all in good fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 04:53 AM
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He's just making the weakest argument possible so he can come out looking the victor.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 04:49 AM
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I don't get it either. Personally my tongue gets tired after a bit and my built in anatomy doesn't vibrate. It's not like your spouse can't also play with you at the same time while you're using the toy on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:43 PM
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Think about what sub you're in. Most of these dudes would be in shambles if they found their girlfriend was watching porn featuring buff guys with mutton sabres. I mean shit, front page of those sub has multiple posts from several people venting their penis envy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:36 PM
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Man, this kind of thinking is hilarious. Being friends with a bunch of hot women that you aren't trying to fuck is unironically a great way to meet other women. It shows that you're safe and that women enjoy being around you- people won't be so guarded and standoffish because the fact these other women like having you around verifies you're not some creepy weirdo. On the other hand if you're only friends with these people because there's a non-zero chance you may get to slip it in one day then r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:52 PM
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I guess it makes sense that mundane people would seek out a partner impressed by mundane things. Can't really blame them I guess but let's not dress this up and pretend it's something it's not. If people your age have generally advanced their life to a point beyond yours it's likely more akin to an adult trying to relate to a teenager. If your greatest accomplishment is that you live by yourself with no roommates, a naive 20 year old might find that impressive and praiseworthy whereas someone yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:38 PM
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Sounds like the kind of man that has barely clawed his way out of the loneliness epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:25 PM
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Man, I guarantee the only guys who think this is such a big deal to women either have something odd going on down there or haven't deigned to look up how to please a woman. If you're hung like a can of tuna or smuggling a baby goomba in your pants I can certainly see the reaction to the reveal causing some insecurities and assumptions about how opinionated women are about weiner quality. Getting women off is easy. If your routine is generally thumbing it in there dry and going until you're good …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:19 PM
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Never said you were useless; those are your words. Projecting again, possibly? You seem to take this strawman of an insult very personally. You've entertained me and I'd say that's pretty useful and probably the only personal success of yours I could legitimately care about- Anyways, I think your pointless posturing has thrown us off topic. Where I live the rules are pretty out in the open; guys generally like attractive women or those with bountiful positive traits to compensate. If you had a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 01:28 AM
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Funny you mention projection. You were admittedly lacking but probably considered yourself normal, no? Sure, if you immerse yourself in peers then the goofy shit you describe as "standard" might seem as such, but from the outside looking in? Lol nahhhh, I'd imagine we call that confirmation bias. Congratulations I guess? From experience the awkward posturing usually comes from a place of insecurity. Not going to outright say I doubt you- seeing as old wounds tend to linger in some people regardl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 12:43 AM
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I've seen some pretty decent looking dudes that are butt ugly without a little bit of effort. Some women too to be fair. I don't mean this offensively but can you grow a beard? A near chinless guy I work with went from looking like earthworm Jim to a passable lumber jack after sculpting some of his scruff. It's like natural makeup for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 09:12 PM
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I guess. It just often seems like what people describe as "standard" advice is more like some weird strawman that I have never in my life seen outside of the people complaining about it on the internet. Maybe it's a cultural thing? I'm Canadian and 90% of the "redpill" things described are literally normie shit. An equivalent would be health and fitness; with people acting like they used to be bluepill, sitting on their ass all day eating chips and getting confused as to why all the gym "chads" …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 09:07 PM
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You consider them worse than you but is there anything you think they do that could be right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:43 PM
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Fair enough, pretty obvious you're lacking. Also worth mentioning that that's not what that fallacy is. That's like you saying it's not a normal understanding for most people that exercise is good for your health.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:42 PM
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Just world? Sounds kind of churchy. I guess I had one friend who thought like that. Religious, wealthy family, fit and conventionally attractive tall white dude who was into computer programming, working on cars and martial arts. Thought meeting his now-wife was him being rewarded by God. Riiiiight... I grew up in a largely secular city though so that kind of thought absolutely was not the norm. The norm here for most of us is that life is hard, unfair and that you can do everything right but st…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 12:32 AM
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But like, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:35 PM
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Literally just standard advice lmao Be yourself? What if you're some greasy couch potato neet? Be a better version of yourself. Like shit man, that's always been the standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:34 PM
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A lot of people online do sound awkwardly old with their advice. At the very least, I'm in my mid 30's and some of the sentiments described seemed awkwardly dated even when I was young and first started dating. If bluepill is "standard" dating advice then their drivel is more greypill I guess? It's silly and it baffles me that people take it seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:31 PM
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I mask virtually 0% of the time, have the awareness of a brick and am generally direct and blunt in all dealings. Granted I feel I also have a good enough sense of style to be categorized as somewhat "eccentric"; people seem to love that shit in my area. Some people won't like you by default but they're not the kind of people you want in your life anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:22 PM
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Lol what? Women are people too and people often kinda suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:04 PM
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That feels like someone's grandma trying to cheer them up. Moral character is simply one piece of the comparability puzzle; you'll probably do fine without if you date people with similar moral character.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:56 PM
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Taking care of your body and having career ambitions isn't bluepill where you're from? Maybe it's just my urban upbringing but working on yourself to be desirable is standard dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:50 PM
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You don't have to broadcast it to the world or bring your rental girlfriend to family events. It could be seen as practice and probably take the concept of sex off of its high pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:43 PM
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Is this analogy implying that the average man out there is, compared to the average woman at least, subpar Who'd have more luck walking around town asking random strangers if they want to fuck, the average man or the average woman. Come on champ, do the math.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:51 AM
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I think you're bang on with the terminally online part. It's also why the new breed has the social skills of a beached trout and is so desperate for some trick or shortcut to success. People spew borderline inflammatory shit on the internet to improve their engagement; it's simply another flavour of brainrot. I still haven't noticed a change in the dating market but have also never bothered with the online shit. All my buddies who go out and talk to women still meet women and all my buddies who …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:30 AM
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Source: my personally curated ragebait / brainrot algorithm
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 01:37 AM
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Weird, most of my friends are women and not wanting to fuck them has never been a problem. Hooking up with or dating their friends has been an issue but never ended a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:19 AM
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Yeah, I feel like I know a lot of women and plenty that identify as being feminist but haven't met anyone who wears those described beliefs on their sleeve. Not to make assumptions of OP as with many posters here I get the impression they only interact with women via keyboard.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 06:18 PM
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I guess I grew up in a different time. I'm 34; when I was a kid that shit still got people bullied and slapped around by their parents. Not saying that was a good thing by any means; going to the opposite extreme and raising a generation of poorly socialized snowflakes just isn't much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 08:44 PM
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Depends on the interaction I'd guess. If the dude has a fit after either receiving a polite 'no' or after getting ignored then he can certainly fuck off. Just bold-faced telling someone to fuck off with no real provocation when you could simply just ignore them feels a bit uncalled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 08:06 PM
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Men are also see approaching women just to talk to them in a similar way and that is reflected in answers like "i'll get canceled". Do normal people actually worry about getting "cancelled'?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 06:45 PM
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What costs?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 06:43 PM
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Their feelings are their problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 06:37 PM
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I think the last one is really what's killing people. Hard to not come across as some weirdo if you have the people skills of a beached trout. Plenty of the people on here that complain about women not giving them a chance have probably never talked to one in person. I see a lot of stories from men whose experiences of approaching women amount to messaging randoms on social media and then getting upset when they're told to fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 06:34 PM
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They aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:00 AM
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I've personally never felt that in all my life but it could be a regional thing considering I live in a city.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:52 AM
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In Korea, their culture seems fine tuned to make you want to kill yourself. Not the best environment for encouraging people to procreate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:33 PM
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Also, arranged marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:31 PM
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You asked for a quote of him saying that and you got a quote of him saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:07 PM
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I support that's a fair assessment but also one that goes both ways. Edit: in the same sense as how sometimes you see men that admit they're kinda ugly and who refuse to entertain unattractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 12:33 AM
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It's possible that you're personally more likely to notice more attractive women than average women or attractive men. One of the many gripes of women that aren't conventionally attractive is that they generally feel invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:58 PM
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It's also doubtful some journalist has real solutions unless they put the legwork in. A lot of 'reporting' these days is people quoting Reddit, twitter, tiktok etc and turning comments into a story.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:53 PM
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My wife and I use the same YouTube account so I'm subbed to her streamers as well; there are videos coming up about the budding female loneliness epidemic. Plenty of women seem to have been raised with the belief that they are owed something and it seems (in the same sense as loser dudes that want a bang-maid) that many men either don't meet the unreasonable expectations or don't want to put up with it. Personally I hold the belief that if you're simply dead weight looking for a caretaker there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:00 PM
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The two examples you brought up align with our cultures traditional gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:11 PM
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Are you high? We, men, created the rules of society. This isn't new information.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 08:15 AM
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...? I am not feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 07:04 AM
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A lot of our gendered laws are artifacts from when women were essentially property. The suffrage isn't the same as writing laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:20 AM
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A lot of the bad shit that happens to women is done by men. A lot of the bad shit that happens to men when dealing with women is because of laws and social constructs generally created and perpetuated by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:49 PM
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100% One's a red flag and the other one is a reminder that it's not your job to fix people. I'd take "man with potential" to be a man who works on himself. Granted part of being a good partner is supporting your SO, if you're doing all the supporting to protect them from the consequences of them being a fuck-up that's classic codependency.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:28 PM
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Your argument is the equivalent of shouting "white lives matter" at BLM protesters. Woman's rights aren't about true "equality" with men as it is improving the situation for women. Why do you care if a feminist judges you for caring about men's rights? As long as you're not misogynistic about it they can get over it. They say men should be the ones responsible for dealing with men's issues and not them. If they then want to get in a huff about you caring about your lonely, depressed dudes they c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:26 PM
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Everything on top of that, everything that people are subject to piling on top, the love, the romance, the exclusivity, the religiosity, the sacrifice, the security, the legal status, the social consequences, the financial incetives is heavier than the institution of marriage was built to support
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:08 PM
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Ok, so the point I was making was that people who are below average have little success with dating and your counter to that is that you're above average and are fairly successful with women? That's still kind of in-line with my point. Plenty of 'average' dudes, by which I mean mostly unremarkable but without any glaring flaws still have some degree of success when dating if they put themselves in the position to meet people. They likely won't end up in a fwb scenario and will likely experience …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:54 PM
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I'm basically you but a bit shorter and with less hair. I've spent collectively maybe 2 years single since I was 14 and am 34 now. Some of the women I dated were somewhere between a bit delulu and absolutely fucked but most of them were good people I was simply not compatible with. What do you feel is actually holding you back?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:04 PM
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Online dating is a meat market and toxic by virtue of its design and people aren't going to get a good picture of who you are from a brief interaction on the internet. Most of what I can tell is separating the people in my life who are successful from those who aren't is their social skills and willingness to engage socially. Even if they don't check the stereotypical desirability boxes, most of the guys I know who go out and do shit tend to meet people and the ones who dislike socializing gener…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:02 AM
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It kind of is on the ground though, if you're at least average. I think the issue is that many men with glaring flaws end up in echo chambers with many men that are like them which deludes them into believing that they are average. Likely too that this "half of all men" is likely affected by selection bias. Bar's on the ground but you keep banging your neck on it because your head's in the sand, basically. It's not the end of the world though, pretty much everything about you can be worked on. "…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:14 AM
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Important question though, do you consider yourself attractive? Where I live thin is normal; by and large, unattractive women get the genuine "man" experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 02:47 PM
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My anecdotes are objective facts governing all women. -This fucking guy^
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 02:41 PM
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Basically, yes. They fear it more and the brainlets can't process it properly. It's like how personally if I ever get to the point where I'm starting to become immobile, incontinent or can't remember my family and take care of myself I'd rather blow my brains out in the woods than live like that. People think that's horrible, but some of us would choose to end it on a high note than drag out the pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 03:18 PM
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I get where the misunderstanding is for many men because they see the situation without any emotions attached to it. They see it as being similar to how way more people die in car crashes than get eaten by sharks but any sane person would choose to get in a car as opposed to going swimming with a shark. If you look at it from purely a logical standpoint it is irrational. Many women would rather the higher chance of getting mauled by the bear than the small chance of getting raped by the man beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:31 PM
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Probably a solid 7. -I'm 34 -I wouldn't call myself pretty by any means but I have the rugged, bearded lumberjack look going. I get hit on plenty and asked out on occasion by both men and women. Even more so now that I'm married (as of 2 years ago). Lol -5'11", so I typically stand around half a head taller than most people locally. -I live in a great location close to our entertainment district which always made bringing guests home very convenient before I started seeing my wife. -Pretty sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:42 PM
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I'd say Newfoundland most of all. They're their own breed over there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 08:23 PM
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I'm definitely a west coast boy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:44 PM
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We still have fat women, crazy women and single mothers- just not in quantities where you'd consider these attributes the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:35 PM
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I'd consider not having those attributes to be the default. Just bear in mind that predatory people may be drawn to your vulnerable state.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:58 PM
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And most of the shit-takes people post on here for debate reflect exactly that. They slide into a stranger's DMs with all the tact of a Jehovah's Witness interrupting someone's dinner and seem flabbergasted that their advances aren't well received.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:17 PM
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Not likely to destroy society but a lack of experience and perceived lack of options will likely cause young men to cling to anyone they can get. For some this works out but for others this causes them to be hung up in unhealthy relationships. In my highschool friend group I was the only one who dated throughout highschool and into my 30's. I was also one of the last to get married. Most of them married their first real girlfriend, for better or for worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:04 PM
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Right? The whole theory blows up in their face if they go outside. Actual average dudes do just fine. Some of the guys I know with the highest body counts have nothing remarkable about them aside from the fact that they try. I think most of these dudes that self describe as average are like the people who live hand-to-mouth and are one bad cold away from homelessness who describe themselves as 'middle class.' Sorry mfer but you poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:49 PM
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Depends on your definition of psycho. There's plenty of 'weird but harmless' which I'd categorize as otherwise being normal enough. For the most part the actual harmful psycho behaviour has a lot of indicators that we usually ignore when we're inexperienced because the escaped mental patient version of over the top love and adoration feels pretty good until you've been burnt by it once or twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:39 PM
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No, you can't control what others think- that's correct. If they all seem to have similar opinions though there's only one common denominator and it could likely use some work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:47 PM
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My relationship with my wife is reciprocal; arguably one of the reasons I wanted to marry her. Fortunately when you learn someone's body and know how to fuck them, the sex becomes the reward for the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:45 PM
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You can want whatever but things start to become unreasonable when your standards are a lot weightier than what you bring to the relationship or you live an incompatible lifestyle to your preferred partner. Unemployed Bobby Hill wanting a super model trad-wife is a bit unreasonable as is a similar scenario with an unremarkable woman only willing to date a man who's a millionaire adonis. Do these pairings happen sometimes? Sure they do, but having that as a minimum expectation is still unreasonab…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:41 PM
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For me they have to compete with my solitude. I'm perfectly happy and content with my alone time which I find valuable as I live an active social life regardless of my relationship status. Some days I just don't want people around because they drain the social battery. First explanation of this I think hurt my now wife's feelings early in our relationship because she thought I didn't want her around but she's not 'people' in the way I meant that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:29 PM
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In Canada this is basically the default woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:35 PM
1

So same constraints as just about all other kinds of therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:51 PM
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What kinds of therapy did you engage in?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:47 PM
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There's a ton of help. Therapy to teach healthy coping skills is a massive help for pretty well any disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:10 PM
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Which is weird, because you have more NDs than NTs being drawn to 'pill' ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:09 PM
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It depends. People in general should be nicer. How often do men compliment women without ulterior motives?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:03 PM
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Depends on how their autism manifests. I'm disagreeable/confrontational towards shit-bag people and many find that to be a positive if they themselves aren't a shit-bag. If you let your freak-flag fly openly as well there are many people surprisingly into that with the added benefit of it weeding out early those who wouldn't jive with you when the mask comes down.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:47 PM
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Right? Men aren't the ones clapping on makeup everyday, doing their hair and getting cosmetic procedures at an elevated rate just to feel adequate. As for your second point, if you're a dude that goes to the gym and gets results, other dudes will let you know they recognize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:29 PM
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My wife started as A despite being far-travelled but has grown into B and I'm proud of her. I present as relatively old school and tend to attract more of the A types who seek someone secure verses the B types who my personality tends to conflict with. I'm relatively old school, hate traveling, am successful in my career but also party and do drugs. Usually the B types have a specific type of man in mind and that ain't me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:38 PM
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I work in construction so that's my bias, but our younger guys usually do pretty well. Even the weird, dumb and ugly ones usually have something going on. Hell, I wouldn't have guessed but our one awkward, lanky anxious dude apparently meets a new girl every weekend. Here I had assumed he's never touched a boob but the labour crew invited me clubbing with them and he disappeared part way through. I called him, mildly worried (because I got everyone pretty blasted), and he said he was with a lady…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:48 PM
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Interestingly enough, both are kind of the same thing when you think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:24 PM
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Well yeah, eventually it gets hashed out but I generally carry the same respect for other's relationships as I hope they'd carry for mine so it feels grimy at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:08 PM
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So TL;DR would basically be that more often than not women want tall dark and handsome while men want petite 'exotic' women? That's basically been a trope since I was a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:05 AM
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Ugh, I've dated one of those people and it was awful. I tried to coax her into being a little less shitty and it nuked the relationship. She had zero accountability while also having impossible standards that she could never meet if they were flipped back onto her. It would have been quite comedic if she didn't wait 5 months to broach the topic but apparently guys don't want to date her if they know about the list. I wonder why~
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:47 PM
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Not gonna lie, it's pretty damn awkward when someone's flirting pretty hard with you and you aren't aware their "date" is just their roommate or some such.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:03 PM
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I suppose, but isn't that effort part of the fun? Even if you don't get a date or meet your future spouse you still occasionally meet some interesting people that you wouldn't have otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 04:34 PM
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Right? It doesn't take a smart man to figure out it's essentially a meat market. In real life if you're not the most handsome but are stimulating in other ways it's advantageous if anyone you meet is assessing you for who you are as opposed to comparing your mugshot to hundreds of others. You may be a diamond in the rough but you're otherwise also a diamond in the ocean. Maybe I'm old fashioned but it's also way easier to flirt when your words have tone, you can see each other's faces and you ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 06:03 AM
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I've never used online dating and have personally never noticed any difference in IRL dating before or after OLD became a thing. The whole set up feels like a cop-out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 05:45 AM
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When I was growing up this shit was common sense. Meet people by engaging in social activities. Kind of mind boggling that this somehow stopped being the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 12:41 AM
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It's pretty funny that in most spaces for either men or women they tend to largely bitch about the same things. Could it be that regular people are entitled, useless and kind of shitty? No no, must be a gendered thing else we'd need to take accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 01:36 PM
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With the smaller dating pool though if there's no one in town you click with you're kinda fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:45 PM
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Madness. I live in a large-ish city (Vancouver area, BC) and there are people everywhere. It really just depends on you and what you do. Granted I'm an out in person kind of guy so I can't speak for online dating, but the concept feels like a cop-out. Your location is definitely a factor when it comes to meeting people but higher populations generally have a larger dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:41 PM
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Rage bait gets clicks ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:20 AM
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A true narcissist would likely feel wounded if a woman he wanted found him off-putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:55 PM
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I don't think these guys are average by most people's standards. Maybe within their own echo chambers online, sure, but out in real life that's an uncommon perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:50 PM
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Maybe English isn't their first language?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:44 PM
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Suppose it depends? If someone seems nervous all of the time my general street sense usually makes me feel suspicious of them. If a gal's attire is particularly frumpy or weird I generally prefer that to them trying too hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:17 PM
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Is he attractive and/or interesting?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:40 PM
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I've had friends want to talk to me about it because I'd been dating pretty steadily since I was 14 and many of them have been mostly dry their whole lives. I'm usually fairly brusk which tends to make people defensive but like to lay it out plain. Most of my dudes with issues are stoned couch potatoes. Feckless slacker antisocial shut-ins who I arguably only know because we grew up together. Don't get me wrong, they're still my buddies, but their idea of a good time is inviting me over so I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:44 AM
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does anybody believe such a group would ever be tolerated by a mainstream social media company if that group was directed at “outing female exes and their cheating / shitty behavior” This was and still is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 10:00 PM
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Excusing rape? You're a classy fella, ain't ya?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:01 PM
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Morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 12:50 PM
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It really depends on who you talk to I guess. Pretty much all of those examples could end up in crazy/shitty/abusive gf/wife stories while people (in real life, for those who are chronically online and surprised by this) tend to hand wave away most misbehavior from men that isn't pedophilia or physical violence. Shit like a man not allowing his SO to have friends, forcing her to do all the housework and/or parenting even if she also works full time, coercing her into sex, verbal abuse and other …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:46 PM
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As a dude it feels incredibly disrespectful when it's either one of my friends or my wife's friends making a pass. I'll take it as a compliment if someone that doesn't know us thinks I'm husband material but it's hard not to blow a gasket when one of my female friends decides to grab me by the collar to pull me in for a kiss. You're my buddy and I love you, but fuck you. Should've shot your shot 6 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 11:57 PM
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Is it? Most of my friends are women and I roast them for their shit as much as I do my male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:55 PM
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Tidbits of advice like that are like the bread of a sandwich. It's a piece of the puzzle and it's not really a sandwich without it, but on its own it's just bread. Kinda boring by itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:54 PM
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What's wrong with commitment? Unless you're already dating multiple people it's a non-issue as you can simply un-commit for basically any reason. Alternatively, if she wants a relationship but you really don't, sack up and break up with her
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 01:06 AM
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Huh, that's an odd one. Granted I'm not familiar with Tate's message aside from second hand complaints about it but it sounds like it could possibly have the opposite effect of what I assume is the main purpose of TRP. If hypothetical women were interested in some of them then his ideology might be what causes some men to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. My idea of "decent women" is likely far off of theirs as many of my close friends are also women but what are they looking for? "Good Ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 01:51 PM
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Right? Gotta love city life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 01:08 AM
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Wouldn't be surprised if a lot of young men these days just don't go out so they're not in a position to meet people. Unfortunately when they do they get discouraged due to having the social skills of a beached trout probably because they were raised by an iPad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 12:55 AM
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I think the common difficulty here is the "if you could charm her" part. Maybe it's because I live in a city but there's plenty of awesome, fun and attractive single (or single enough) women out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 11:08 PM
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I mean if it's not unusual. Personally I'm more comfortable dumping someone who's seeking a relationship the moment I realize there're irreconcilable differences that will soon turn into problems. I consider it better manners than leading them on, using them or getting attached and then trying to disengage. I feel that it's fair game with women who are aggressively non-committal though. Having a not-relationship or two going on while continuing to meet people is fair and fine as long as you don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 06:27 PM
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To be fair, isn't that also what the woman's arguably doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 06:13 PM
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Most of my gal friends go balls to the wall with the food they bring and are generally the ones going hard with the clean up afterwards. Could your friends just kind of suck?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 05:17 PM
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Right? Most of my friends are women and I don't pay for shit unless I specifically invite them out when they're broke. Otherwise we pay for our own shit. I'm their buddy, not their boyfriend. Edit: worth adding I'd feed and drink up my broke-ass male friends as well if I want to see them so there's no gender based special treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 05:07 PM
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It's probably both, really. They were probably bad enough before they internalized their incel status but instead of working on themselves like a normal person they went full doomer. Blaming women and doubling down on the shit behaviour to further laminate that V-card.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:49 PM
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Realistically a lot of these dudes need serious therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:30 PM
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If he accepts a no with grace? Not really. If he starts stomping his feet and screaming at her about it like some bedwetter? Definitely and rightly so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:26 PM
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Born and raised on the west coast in Canada; the societal expectation for most outside of the insular conservative communities is that everyone's a sexual pig to some degree. Generally the only rule is that you don't inflict it on people that don't consent to the behaviour, though certain interpretations of that can get you accused of shaming or bigotry. I know women that have body counts decently far into the triple digits; wear a condom. Lol Realistically, if most of the women I'd been with ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:06 PM
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I'm curious about which part of what I said is redpill? I've seen bluepill mostly described as 'default' or 'normie' whereas most people telling their 'bluepill' pasts are describing (by my locals cultural standards) niceguy or incel shit, which isn't 'normal' in the least or even close to. Here, the default understanding for most people (since I was a kid anyways) is that if you present yourself well and are (for lack of a simpler term) cool you'll do alright. You only have to exist in reality …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:18 AM
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You'll likely interact with more successful bluepill men that are from countries where sex isn't stigmatized. The world I was raised in didn't say anything you suggest. People are people. Then again, I also live in a city so while I've never went out looking for a girlfriend, I've had very few dry spells since I was 13. Pretty well all of my friends (aside from the ones who married highschool sweethearts) have had similar dating histories as well. There've been some exceptional gals, though some…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:42 AM
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Can you really call BP an ideology? That's like Christians thinking non-Christians worship Satan when realistically they consider the devil to be make-believe as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:25 AM
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Half the 'redpill' shit discussed on here isn't even. Guys talk about how TRP changed their life causing them to exercise, eat better, bathe, get better hair cuts, wear clothes that fit and focus on their careers but that's just normie shit. Deciding to stop being an unkempt NEET is less of an ideology change in practice as it is just not being a slob.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:23 AM
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Why? If conventional dating didn't work for him he wouldn't be labeled a 'Chad', no?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:12 AM
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Probably pretty bang on. I live amongst a cluster of cities so TRP is basically just 'crazy internet shit' here. In these parts the weird kid in highschool can easily rebrand as eccentric and people will usually think you're pretty cool unless you're actually shittier than average or a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:08 AM
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You hedge your bets by having twice the options ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:52 AM
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Depends on the person. If you're so far gone that it's nearly impossible for you to hold a conversation you probably also need therapy and structured group activities
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:49 AM
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"Just be yourself" is incomplete advice that basically amounts to a platitude; people think it sounds better than "no fucking idea, bud." Be the best version of yourself is a bit more practicable, but it also implies realistically that you have to work on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:22 AM
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But that's like saying you've never lost a fight while also having never been in the position to have one. Technically correct, sure, but lacking the meaningful distinction of having a difficult situation thrown into your lap and walking away the better for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:22 PM
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Those are only a few pieces of the puzzle. Can't pat yourself on the back for not being a cheater if you don't have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:57 PM
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Shitty people believe they're high value. Lying your way into someone's bed is easy as fuck. Arguably most short term goals are easy as fuck if you're willing to tell any lie to get your foot in the door, but like lying on your resume you likely don't have much staying power so you're forced to disengage before you're found out. Men of quality have integrity, are genuine and succeed without trickery. They make good partners; good husbands and good fathers. I have never met a man who's a serial c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:48 PM
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I guess I can understand that. It was like that socially in the early school grades and probably would have progressed into what you describe if nothing changed. Our school system basically forced us to interact with each other and I think that really helped. This way, even if you didn't know quite how to attract a potential girlfriend you at least have experience talking to girls; while they might not be your best friend they'd probably be in your social circle. If that never happened I can def…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:43 PM
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Is it normal where you live to be friends with girls as a kid and women as an adult? I'm a city dweller in Canada and if you're a little weird but your gal friends love you they'll practically be your Nascar pit squad trying to pick you out clothes, haircuts and trying to get you a girlfriend. Might be selection bias but all of my male friends also have close female friends. Literally all of them. The idea of people never having spoken to the other gender is just so foreign to me because where I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 01:22 AM
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Do people actually believe simply being "nice and pleasant" on its own is going to get them a girlfriend? You'll get along well enough with the rest of the kindergarten class but that's the kind of boring that'll leave the object of your affections drier than the Sahara. You have to be fun and interesting as well as kind. Flirt a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:45 AM
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No one worth listening to is going to tell you to "just be yourself" when being yourself as you are is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:41 AM
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The funny thing is conventional wisdom isn't even TRP. If you're a disgusting slob no one that isn't already emotionally invested in you isn't going to want to be around you. That's always been the way of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:39 AM
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"Blue pill" is whatever the norm is. They would have their own version of what's normal. Where I live I'm a conventional man and that works very well for me. What you guys describe as blue pill in america would be closer to black pill here in that you seem to almost purposefully take yourselves out of the equation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:34 AM
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Blue pill is anything conventional. Normie shit. Get a job, go to the gym, get a car, be funny, brush your teeth. If it's something most neurotypicals understand intrinsically it's firmly bluepill lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:28 AM
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A more useful way of saying it would be to be better but stay genuine. If being yourself 'as is' is the problem, "being yourself" isn't the solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:20 AM
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Definitely some people's own fault. They believe the dating equivalent of flat-earth and act like society betrayed them when observable reality snaps them out of it. It's not really any-pill that a bunch of y'all are just kinda stupid. Like why are guys taking dating advice from their mom? When's the last time she had a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:17 AM
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"Get a good job, go to the gym, be fun to be around and go outside" is classic/conventional/normie wisdom, which realistically makes it blue pill. If you start getting into theories of hypergamy, dual mating strategies and other try-hard shit then you're properly in TRP territory. "Don't worry about improving because you're my special little pumpkin and someone's going to love you~" is non-advice. Mom-pilled? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:06 AM
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If it's all of the above and she's working to improve her lot in life? Sure. If she only ticks one or two of those boxes and is an unambitious loser though? Probably not as my goals are a partner as opposed to a pet. If I wanted to play caretaker to some NEET I'd adopt a heartwarming orphan. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 10:49 PM
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Look at this guy with the American wife
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 10:38 PM
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Being seen as this mythical 'Chad' doesn't really take all that much if you're willing to put effort into personal development. Aside from online dating which is known to be excessively toxic, dudes who adapt generally don't trip over the bar all that much whereas men with their head in the sand feel it constantly and unfairly strikes them across the neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 07:40 PM
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The bar's basically on the ground. Women and what it means to be a woman has changed in the last 50 years but many men think they can still cling to the role of "low effort bill-paying patriarch" that worked for their fathers and grandfathers. Women have a choice now and many are choosing to be happier than their mothers and grandmothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:16 PM
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It is pretty funny to see people trying to claim that "my grandma said I'm handsome" is bluepill and traditional normie wisdom is basically redpill light. No, the first one is just their grandma loving them too much to see them as repugnant and the second is realistically bluepill.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:47 PM
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It depends. Some men use it to dismiss valid concerns and criticisms while some of us are magnets for unstable and abusive women. Also a woman who's at least not ugly can get away with being self sabotaging better than an average man. Personally I see men as just as irrational. Though irrational women can be a source of frustration, irrational men can be a threat. You have many men who live in a fantasy world with made up rules that get a level of cognitive dissonance that leads to them being an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:25 PM
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Yes, normal people understand that as "mental issues" and not some defining trait of womanhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 05:32 PM
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I think many autistic men get discouraged and either give up or become a bit reclusive. I can see things being difficult as a kid because kids are pricks but adults are usually more welcoming if you put yourself out there. A weird dude can easily rebrand himself as the eccentric dude into adulthood and people generally jive with that shit. For many, therapy is a must.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 05:15 PM
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I mean, it largely is. I know a guy who comes into my wife's bar and he's very autistic. Talks about nothing but fish and can talk about fish all night. He's not much of a looker but he treats everyone like a dear old friend that he hasn't seen in awhile. He also always has either a girlfriend or a couple "sort of, not really"s. He's also known and well liked by the community because he's just been a solid dude for years. The kind of guy where if you came up and started picking on him for being …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:16 PM
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Be yourself isn't advice for a man. In most cases people describe it's an empty platitude given by people like mothers and grandmothers. Granted that 'advice' is given because "be yourself" works for women; are you a woman? Realistically though, I only see that sentiment displayed here by the strawmen you guys conjure up. Pretty much everyone (on this sub anyways) with a blue tag seems to be unanimously in agreement with "be better men" and "socialize more." Arguably it's also the blues on here …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 02:49 PM
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I was definitely a conceited, arrogant prick when I was younger but not a braggart. Arguably I was my biggest critic, but felt pretty secure considering I found most other people to be lacking, relatively uninspiring and/or devoid of integrity. I definitely meet living facsimiles of that same outward-facing attitude who lack any real accomplishment to back it up and the easy thing that sets them apart is the ability to handle a joke at their expense. Where secure people typically take it to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 12:05 AM
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Matter of perspective. Someone seen as incapable of violence is generally seen as weak or cowardly. Fine for a woman but a little less so for a man. Also most stable women generally don't want to be with dudes they know are woman beaters whereas if you're able to dominate unruly men with measured violence (for example, dragging some grabby drunk out of a bar) you'll likely be seen as more capable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 11:33 PM
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Yes, you get it! Work on yourself. Sometimes someone "being themself" is them being an unpleasant, miserable cunt that sucks the joy out of everyone around them. The trick isn't to pretend to be someone else but to actually work on being better. Some people can't do it on their own and straight up need therapy, which is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 11:19 PM
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Personally most of the people who have asked me out have been people I've been friends with first. It's never something I'm looking for and I don't enter into friendships with intentions but if someone wants to try them I'll give it a shot. Sometimes I know they'd make a good girlfriend but it still usually takes a while to see past them being a buddy of mine. In these cases, I keep sex off the table unless I start feeling it (if that makes sense) because fucking the friend and then dialing thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:59 PM
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Is that new? Most of the posts on here seem like rants.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:37 PM
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A warning that some people may resort to violence over a situation they have largely refused to adapt to is still arguably a threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:28 PM
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Sounds like a self fulfilling prophecy then, no? Being a violent spaz because no one wants to touch their PP will entrench them as outcasts even further. Speaking of views having negative consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:24 PM
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Men learn from experience that if you're the kind of guy she'll have casual sex with, you're going to be treated way better than the guy who's trying to commit to her. You know it's possible to be both of those things at the same time, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:17 PM
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Be the best version of yourself. If you're boring and kind of shitty, odds are you've been being "just yourself" all along and it hasn't worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:13 PM
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I've actually never heard that sentiment come from anyone reputable. Usually it's the people who are willing to do and say whatever they think they need to to get laid who act like it makes them good men. It's like the seedy, cutthroat businessmen claiming they're successful because good things happen to good people when in reality they had to do some pretty heinous shit to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 05:34 PM
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I mean, yeah, realistically. I don't think people realize striving to be a "good person" is multifaceted and sometimes hard work though. Some people need to tweak or unlearn certain behaviour and attitudes to turn over a new leaf while others have to turn over the whole tree. I know plenty of fat and/or ugly people that do just fine because they're pleasant to be around. People that are unpleasant and unattractive though? Well, they struggle. You also see the sentiment fairly often with people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 03:38 AM
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Fuck yeah, I'm loving your takes stranger. I had high hopes for some factions of the MRA movement in its infancy. Things like Men Going Their Own Way had pretty wholesome starts when it was basically a support group for men realizing they didn't need to base their self worth off of their "success" with women and should simply be human and love themselves. I suppose I had a bias from personal self discovery after shedding similar expectations. Unfortunately we all know how quickly that movement b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 05:56 AM
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That's basically on point with my understanding of the term, thank you. A lot of the one dimension stuff people described by red pillers as "blue pill" just sounds like bad advice or non-advice platitudes from the blind attempting to lead the blind. Suppose some people just don't like to admit they don't have any useful input when pressed for an answer, which to be fair I can imagine breeds frustration and possibly resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:36 AM
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Be yourself as in the best version of your genuine self is good advice but people don't take it that way and it usually isn't spelt out as you put it. I imagine it comes from their parents who have an idealized version of their sons/daughters in their minds and overlook their sometimes glaring flaws. I won't lie, society did press on us that you're supposed to have a nice car, beautiful wife, big house and good kids. If you didn't, you were less of a man or some kind of failure. Some of us can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 01:54 AM
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Shit like "be nice" is on par with "brush your teeth and wear deodorant." It's kind of a minimum and only really constitutes advice for people that aren't perceived as on par with what societal expectations. If that's advice you're being given it's less an any-pill and more that people think poorly of your people skills, mannerisms or self-care and aren't sure how to articulate that without putting you on the defensive. Even most douchebaggy guys are usually "nice" to the women they want (most o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 01:11 AM
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Which part? I always considered conventional normie dating wisdom to be the classic blue pill whereas the MLG, trying to break down the psychology of dating and min-maxing aspects of attraction to be redpill. "Just be yourself" when your self is a shut-in that spends his time playing vidya and gooning to anime porn and e-girls is non-advice. Just in case that empty platitude was about to come into play. "Advice" like that from someone like a relative who adores you is on par with "my grandma say…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:10 AM
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Women definitely have fetishes. You ever been with gals who mostly want their ass fucked, to call you daddy, want to be tied up, suck your fingers excessively during sex or get spat/pissed on? You also have women who fetishize people based on race the same way men do. The same way some men fetishize all Asian women as these quiet, traditional and submissive waifus you have women that fetishize black men to be these primal animals when they're realistically just dudes with melanin. That being sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:00 AM
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Sorry, I sacrificed meaning for the sake of simplicity and brevity. Women and what it means to be a woman have changed and evolved in the past 50 years but many men are resistant to the idea of this paradigm change. Women are in the workforce; most are self sufficient, statistically more successful than men and aren't looking for someone who is basically useless except for their capacity to pay bills. Essentially I meant that men who think they can do the absolute bare minimum (or less than) bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 11:07 PM
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Well hey, it's quite possible WW3 is right around the corner! ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 08:28 PM
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Hmm, ok. I always figured bluepill to be the old school life coach shit of "how to be what women are looking for" vs the redpill of "how to go and get women." Or "let it happen organically while you do stuff" vs "go out and deliberately make it happen" Passively vs actively seeking, I guess would be the simpler form, though passive doesn't imply complacency or lack of self care or ambition. I never would have thought there were people who took the "just be yourself" shit seriously. I'm also not …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 08:27 PM
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The cringe is off the charts lol A little later in it gets even worse. "So what made you pick me?" "Your boobs." The man's an adonis but conversationally it's like he got kicked in the head by a donkey. Looks are definitely a quality multiplier but in the end they won't save you if opening your mouth makes women drier than the Sahara.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 08:10 PM
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I've literally only heard that from people's parents/grandparents. They know what's good about you deep down but that's from knowing you your whole life. Nobody with a lick of sense of experience is going to tell you to keep doing the thing that isn't working. That's like the boomer advice of walking into an establishment and giving a firm handshake with eye contact to get hired. "Just be yourself" worked fine when people had to get married and weren't allowed to divorce. Grandpa pilled, more ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 07:52 PM
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From OP's admission he may have the social skills of a beached trout. Looks will often get you in the door but if your general charisma level is on par with someone with frontal lobe damage you're probably still gonna have a hard time. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=fN37z2aV8rI
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 07:45 PM
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Traditional self improvement is classic bluepill. "Talk to women" is also classic, but there's obviously a lot less how-to than traditional TRP content.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 07:33 PM
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Lol "just be yourself" is grandma advice. They love you too much to hurt your feelings but not enough to tell the hard truth if you do indeed suck and that's why you're lonely. "Work on yourself; be dateable" is closer to classic bluepill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 07:03 PM
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Those qualities are good if you want a gold digger but aren't what people who want a partner are necessarily looking for. If all you bring to the table is your success, you likely won't end up in a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Working on financial success != working on yourself. Both are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:59 PM
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Being seen as a "Chad" is pretty accessible. I know dudes that lack charisma and have a foot for a face but are wholesome and assertive; most are married and many would consider them top tier dudes. If you have a top tier wife, similarly you're not going to cheat on her with someone that's maybe more physically attractive unless you're a piece of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:29 PM
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I don't think it does. I love my wife and my wife loves me. We both had tons of options but chose each other. I think OP lives in a world where he can only see him dating someone else or someone dating him because there are no other options. It's kind of depressing, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:24 PM
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Hornier can also be attributed to having fewer options. I've known women through friend circles that were (to avoid being terribly unkind) relatively undesirable and they were possibly the most openly horny people I've ever met because it wasn't stigmatized behavior like it would be for a man. Have a bad day? Fighting with your gf? They'd be in your DMs to see if you wanted to go get drinks and "talk about it." Out with friends and getting a little drunk? Guess who's trying to help you get home …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 03:15 PM
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I feel like I sit within your parameters and have personally never experienced most of the situations that people here seem to consider an inherent part of being a man. I think it's a social skills thing though, definitely. When I was single and had nothing to do on a night off I'd head down to our entertainment district and find something to do. Generally I'd wander around by myself, talk to people sometimes become absorbed into someone else's group on their outing- it was fun. I'd chat up whom…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 03:41 PM
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Used to be a feral gym bro but now I have the dad-bod bearded lumberjack thing going. I personally don't feel nearly as attractive as before but I still get asked out and hit on enough that I'm probably doing alright for looks. My social skills have vastly improved now that I'm older and much less of a jacked-up, arrogant cunt. Same likes same, so while I had fun girlfriends back then, none of them were good partners. So yeah, I guess that's reasonably on point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:33 PM
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Bars and nightclubs apparently. Fucking hate nightclubs but I've gotten plenty of dates in bars I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:55 AM
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Some people like pussy, some people like the rest of the woman as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 08:53 PM
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I have a funny feeling that just makes the men who approach women even more successful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 05:40 PM
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Fair enough. Where I live it's simply a piece of fabric or otherwise material that sits upon the head. Sometimes with purpose and sometimes without.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:34 PM
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What an.. odd thing to care about. Men wear all kinds of hats indoors, hell, even cowboy hats. "Yup, just taking a break from my chores and cattle to go enjoy some breadsticks at Olive Garden." In the case of any hat, probably either a fashion thing or the presence of a hat on their head isn't bothering them. Also if you typically shave yourself bald it could be like how some women wear tights to avoid having to shave their legs as frequently. To hide the stubble I mean. I suppose it could also …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 06:29 PM
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One of my best friends from high school was a stay at home mom for a number of years. She was living her best NEET life that many Redditors would be envious about. Kid was well behaved so she spent her days playing video games and bingeing Netflix until he got hungry, sleepy or shit himself. I got to babysit a few times and it was basically like going over to a friend's house but the friend's a baby and just wants to have snacks, watch movies, show you his toys and have you deal with his poop. K…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 06:08 PM
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If you can arrange a paid maid it's not a horrible idea. Even to have someone come in and do a deep clean every month. I literally just pay the neighbour kid $50 to clean my apartment while I'm at work every Friday. She gets off of school early that day and I'm not home till around 7. It's nice to not have to worry about that shit but trying to trap someone into a relationship with you so you don't have to wash dishes or do laundry is pretty shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:53 PM
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Man, this is silly and probably not much of a problem if you meet people outside. If you're going off of a few pictures on the internet before you engage with someone for the first time it makes sense to list out some qualities you're looking for. Some people are shit, inexperienced and about half are a bit dumber than average so sometimes it looks like a job posting by a recruiter that doesn't know the industry or "single male looking for single female roommate to share a bed with." Expecting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:39 PM
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As someone who lives in the city, beautiful and relatively low maintenance women aren't uncommon lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:21 PM
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