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Because my ego is linked to how good I am at PIV sex, not at anal or at how much blowjobs I receive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:25 PM
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Day 86 of dailyposting (and a reminder that women don't want virgins). So they're firing my mom from her job at her school. I dunno why but this makes me anxious. Dad makes good money + they do own some real estate that they will rent out, so it's not like they're going to starve or anything. But still, it scares me. Anyway, what will you do today?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 05:14 PM
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I certainly wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:52 PM
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It's education. There is perfect correlation b/w how educated any class of women is, and the fertility rate of women of that class. This holds true for basically any country in the world except maybe North Korean and Afghanistan type places.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:49 PM
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Based as always.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:46 PM
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No, but I think youre gay
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:46 PM
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Oh they are high maintenance. The funniest bit was about how all of them wanted a HVM (read:rich) but also hot guy who would put her needs first. I suspect it's because most of them want to become mothers, so they want a rich hot guy to care for them and their eventual child.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:49 PM
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I tried to like the datingover30 sub but the women there were brutal to 30yo virgins. So I dislike that sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:13 PM
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I will inherit a lot of real estate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:07 PM
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Bro, try your luck on the bipolar ones. They're super horny. Only risk is they're guaranteed to cheat on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:06 PM
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Me irl
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:05 PM
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I have a confession to make. I used to read FDS, and I found a lot of stuff they said to be valid. Although some of it was just bonkers wrong. Like the time a woman said that men just have to pick up and put down heavy stuff and they'll get jacked and it was so easy. Lold so hard at that one. But still, I couldn't bring myself to hate the FDS gals. They were mostly alright, they all just seemed like they had some kind of dating trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:04 PM
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FDS has leaked into the real world for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:03 PM
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Is valid tbh. Most people aren't right for each other and are just settling. Better to break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:02 PM
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Obsessed with being the best at PIV.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:07 AM
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What
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:07 AM
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It does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:25 AM
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In the future there shall be shrines where women and men can go to and pray to reduce their n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:18 AM
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Wrong. See my other comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:15 AM
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It kinda shows that the whole spiel about being the best she’d ever had is nonsense No it isn't. It doesn't count with women is because they don't have a dick, and for a lot of us when we say the best, we mean the best at PIV sex. Using a dildo Or a strap on doesn't count because those are things any man can also use. It has to be real dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:15 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:33 PM
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Not that I'm a fan of USAID but this is somewhat disingenuous. What Americans (or really any people believe), is mostly ascertained by polls, and those are very vulnerable to how they are framed. For eg, I was watching the latest John Oliver episode and he talked about how more than half of Americans support mass deportations. BUT, in the poll if you explain what mass deportation entails, and juxtapose this with a policy that gives a pathway to citizenship, and explain what that entails, then mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:13 PM
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Washing them yes. But wtf moisturizes a dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:08 PM
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No I said a lot of men. I didn't say all men. In any case, what I mean is a large segment of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:07 PM
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I don't know. Maybe it's because they know that there's almost nothing they can do, since they're generally weaker than any man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:01 PM
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This is not true lol Oh it is. Trust me. In my country you have cases where men will kill a family member or who brings dishonor upon them, or even themselves. And there's an entire trope of humiliated man murders a woman in a fit of humiliation-triggered-anger in literature and media.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:59 PM
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That's fair, but I wasn't commenting upon any individual case, more in terms of what men are usually like. I don't think this can easily be changed. I do think it is changeable societally in the long term tbf, but the people who have been conditioned to be ego driven, can't turn that off.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:58 PM
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That is good. Sadly I see so many cases of women settling, when I search for it on Reddit. It scares me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:53 PM
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No, therapy won't help with this. I'm in therapy, and I'm telling you that it won't. The feelings arising from a bruised ego are far too strong, far too overwhelming, far too primal, for any kind of emotional regulation technique to be able to handle. It's like trying to contain the world's largest tsunami with primitive dam building techniques. Those techniques just won't be enough. The best you can do is to teach the man to immediately remove himself from the situation and withdraw from societ…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:52 PM
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Yeah if I ever do get angry enough to get into a street fight then I won't stop until I've really broken the opponent or killed him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:49 PM
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Ah. That's somewhat fair I guess. My only issue is that women who do want Chad should never ever date a beta guy. No growing older and then seeking out more steady relationships with relationship-minded beta guys. None kr that shit. Because that's settling, and it's as disrespectful and as demeaning as stabbing the guy in the gut.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:48 PM
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I'm sure some men talk like this, but most good dudes don't. I can guarantee this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:41 PM
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It's a CIA ploy to send agents across the world. Srs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:40 PM
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how they bully women into not lying about their preferences due to their own insecurities Explain this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:39 PM
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In reverse order, hopefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:38 PM
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lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:37 PM
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Yeah. Sleek titanium frames with Carl Zeiss lenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:37 PM
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Okay since there was a guy in the comments talking about an African proverb, I also want to talk about one. I'm not sure if it was Ursula LeGuin or Margaret Atwood who said that "men are afraid that women will laugh at them, but women are afraid that men will kill them". I've always felt this was incomplete. There should be an addendum that "because men would rather die than be laughed at". This is important. I'm not condoning male-on-female violence here, but trying to explain that a lot of men…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:36 PM
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Oh I got a new pair of glasses today. They're really nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:31 PM
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Even better, kill IMF and the World Bank. This is what they're aiming for. I'm ngl, I despise Trump and all he represents but killing the IMF and the WB would be such an unironically good move for the Third World. I'm slightly happy about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:31 PM
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Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:28 PM
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Day 85 of dailyposting (and a reminder to myself that women don't want virgins). I'm still recovering from my illness. What will you do today?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:18 PM
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Both I guess. But way more at my friend for ruining my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:13 PM
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You wouldn't post if you didn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:46 PM
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But why do women care ? Those men will just filter themselves out of your pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:13 PM
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Yeah that was me. Sorry bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:46 PM
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Based as always.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:44 PM
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Research programs do, but again the ones that matter aren't involved in DEI research. Yeah see my other thread. The way they're going about it leads to funding freeze for a lot of non-DEI things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:03 PM
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Uhh have you seen how they're going about it? They're looking for keywords. And the keyword list is huge. For eg one of the keywords is "bias". Which means RIP to a shitton of stats and data science papers and anything neural net.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:02 PM
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Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:01 PM
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Will they fund them though? I guess the Ivies will be fine, but what about public unis ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:59 PM
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Also afaik US Unis rely a lot on PhDs. So unless you think the Unis not functioning isn't a big deal, it's a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:50 PM
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Uhh, PhDs do a lot more than DEI projects you know. All modern technology comes because PhD allows scientists to be trained. That's RIP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:48 PM
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Yes but like how will the unis function? Afaik they rely a lot on PhDs working as TAs and shit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:47 PM
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Just what it says. US unis will be in crisis mode if they can't get the exploitable labor that is PhD and postdocs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:28 PM
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Lie to them that you want LDRs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:22 PM
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So I just realized something. Trump has basically killed all science grants. PhD students won't get funding. In which case most students will abandon their PhD and no new students will join, since the PhD won't be funded. What will happen to the unis then? Without PhD students working as TAs and maybe even postdocs (if they also get paid from the funding grants), how will a uni even function ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:19 PM
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Damn, my friends just sent me a report on how Musk et al are gutting science research funding. And damn, that's a self goal if I ever saw one. RIP to American science I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:11 PM
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I KNEW IT j/k
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:10 PM
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Also it isn't just marriage. You know how you were ranting about rich people having shit handed to them. Well this guy was rich and well connected so now he's pretty well off in his career. I'm still floundering. But fuck it. This year I'll work so fucking hard. Like this dude used to suck @ academics. He has barely ever read a book in his life. Meanwhile I'm literally tested 99%ile IQ CS-Maths whiz who likes to attempt Olympiad tier problems because I enjoy it. And I'm not as well off as him. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:49 PM
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If all you eat is home cooked food, and you don't live in the West, then it's bloody hard to even meet your protein requirements. I'm actually jealous of how cheap whey protein is for Americatards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:45 PM
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Yes. Ngl wish I would get a hot girl like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:43 PM
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Htf you happy about school closure and sad about it being senior year ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:38 PM
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And get Atul Subhash'ed?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:37 PM
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Another guy I knew got married. He used to lowkey bully me when I was a kid. Now he's married and moved to Switzerland. I hate how everyone has made progress in their life but me. I'm stuck. Stagnant. The only thing that keeps me going is when I tell myself that even though I feel stuck, I will peak higher than other people will. I'll make a lot of money and get those plastic surgeries and sculpt myself into a far more attractive man than the rest. And I'll get hotter women than they got.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:14 AM
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Zuck also said how Oculus would like totally revolutionize everything. Stop listening to tech CEOs (seriously). It's their incentive to have you believe that their tech will like totally take over everything. It's how they get funding from the gullible VCs (and VCs are some genuinely dumb motherfuckers istg). Also read this https://www.wheresyoured.at/godot-isnt-making-it/ the entire blog. You'll see the rot at the heart of the tech industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 06:59 PM
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All the women in my family do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:55 PM
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world peace solve the Riemann Hypothesis colonize the moon cure male pattern baldness (the loyl is balding)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:19 PM
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Sigh, alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:09 PM
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I just didn't check before posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:08 PM
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If I were a woman, life would suck (although not as much as it did now). Because I'd have big boobs, and Id be hot. But I'd be very intelligent, so it would be near impossible to find hot men who can match my intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:08 PM
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Yeah. I know I should. But even at this moment, I am procrastinating. Sigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:04 PM
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In ancient India, there was a rigid caste system. Every person was put into one of four categories - Scholar, Warrior, Merchant and Untouchable. The untouchable was the lowest of the low. Outcast. He was placed at the very margins of society, because he was inferior to the others and dirty. It was said that he was infectious, that touching him would transmit diseases. He was also said to be a complete fucking retard. In today's society, that role is played by the podcast bro. There is no one mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:03 PM
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Ew. Why do you want to be a podcast bro? That's the lowest of low, betaest of males.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:58 PM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:56 PM
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Give eli5 for us ootl peeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:56 PM
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Day is almost over. Was meh tbh. I feel like I'm addicted to my phone and mindless browsing. Need to set up appblock, but I procrastinate. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:55 PM
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Day 62 of dailyposting (and a reminder to myself that women don't want virgins) What will you do today?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:41 PM
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I think that's just as fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 07:42 AM
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I disagree with 3. It takes two people to have a sex life and he has every right to document things that happened TO him (including how frequently and why he got denied for sex). And I think if the woman doesn't like it then she can leave him. In fact the man should have published the list and divorced her at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 07:37 AM
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Lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 05:35 PM
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You see what you did there. You literally read and believed “something you read in the internet” to confirm your bias. In this particular case, tbvh, this is what formed the bias. This is many years ago, 13 or 14 probably. Back then I used to be afraid of women with high n-counts, and I wasn't sure why. But it used to bother me. Took me a lot of contemplation and introspection to realise that I'm jnsecure and compare against her exes and want to be the best. But once I did realise it, I stopped …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 01:52 PM
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Eh, sometimes they do find out though. Long ago I remember reading a post, I'm not sure if it was the girl or the guy who wrote it. But both were teenagers in a relationship, and he found out that she had had a couple one night stands where she met a guy at a club and took him home. And when this kid found out, he (prolly) got hit by a storm of emotion - atleast I suspect this is what happened, because in the post he basically just got super mad at her, called her a whore and all sorts of names …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 01:40 PM
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Her taking it slow isn't in his head though. That is his lived experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 01:25 PM
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Would you have dated him if he was a 26 year old virgin and you had had multiple partners and weren't religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 10:54 AM
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What's wrong with the sentiment he's expressing though. If she's taking it slow with you, then she don't lust after you like she lusts after the guys she doesn't make wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 10:52 AM
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It's also about those lacking experience being sad about potential rejection for lacking experience 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 10:50 AM
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Okay, what if the motive of the aliens was to get a large workforce of people to walk 8 hours a day on a treadmills that are used to generate power?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:31 PM
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They are duoliths.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:30 PM
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Oh okay. Tbh marriage IS a scam, but DBRs can happen in LTRs also, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:28 PM
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The Duality of Man <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:26 PM
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Why would those men complain about dead bedrooms? Weird
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:21 PM
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I don't think he's talking about the mentality, but about actual abundance. As in he's saying avg women still get tons of suitors.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:21 PM
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How is it inconsistent though? A man in a dead bedroom complains that his wife isn't attracted to him and only wants to sleep with Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:19 PM
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I've never played that game so idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:18 PM
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It IS one sided. Nobody knows the womans side. The reason he offed himself is because the judge was corrupt and asking for a bribe. This pissed him off enough and he did it to make a statement. The judicial system here is incredibly overloaded and slow, thanks to our inherited system of British bureaucracy (seriously, fuck the Brits 😤). Everybody hates it. Although I don't doubt that his ex wife prolly said some mean shit to him, which he mentioned in his letter. The people were sympathizing bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:13 PM
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I just saw this post and it gave me an idea for a TV series where aliens invade and try to enslave humans, and incels side with the aliens.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:06 PM
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Do you ever think that he doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:58 PM
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Have you ever come across a 10/10 yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:56 PM
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The (lingering) smell of shampoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:55 PM
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What about "future baby momma material"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:54 PM
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Yeah it's become a thing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:47 PM
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Nah he was too ugly for Stacy. Dude left a huge 1.5 hour video ranting against women, feminists, Marxists, and what not before he offed himself. Said wome deserved to be raped and worse. Maximum incel rhetoric. Dude left behind a 4 yo. RIP to that kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:35 PM
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Okay this is really funny but This dude in my country recently offed himself because he didn't want to pay alimony in a divorce case. The reason for the divorce - she wanted him to lick her armpits.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:27 PM
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I wish I had pasta. Everyday. Gimme your noodle bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:22 PM
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Bro feed me pasta daily and I'll be your gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:19 PM
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No, it's about count also after 25. If a man is hot but a virgin post 25, and the women know - they won't fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:13 PM
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You're missing out. But as you wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:08 PM
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Lol you have that gene too? Same. Here have cilantro free dosa.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:00 PM
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Ikr. It's p great for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:58 PM
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Wot?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:57 PM
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YES! Best food in the entire world.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:54 PM
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That thing is against the Geneva Convention.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:47 PM
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Since we are posting foods. Here's one of my favorites.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:44 PM
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I'll take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:43 PM
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Ugh. I'll take the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:37 PM
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Maybe we should limit it to one chatgpt argument per week.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:36 PM
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Tbvh, I'm not sure. Can only tell when I'm in that situation. Maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:33 PM
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What is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:28 PM
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I don't see that as judgement, I see it as normalisation. Acceptance. That's what should happen for the desire of wanting to be the best. There's nothing wrong with having it. And men shouldn't be treated as wrong for having it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:28 PM
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I'll always tell you when I'm posting ChatGPt content, dw.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:23 PM
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No, gay people aren't judged any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:22 PM
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Ooh I got ChatGPT to give a better response It’s frustrating to hear that because the answer is simple: I’m not putting this out there to be judged—I’m putting it out there because I want to be understood. I want people, especially women, to see where I’m coming from and maybe offer insight or empathy instead of jumping straight to judgment. Yes, I know not everyone will agree, and some will criticize, but the hope is that someone will get it. It’s exhausting to constantly feel like you’re being…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:22 PM
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I want to put my stuff out and not be judged. The same way gay people wanted to have sex with people of the same gender and not be judged.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:21 PM
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Nope. Loads of women on reddit saying they love their husband but the best sex was an abusive ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:20 PM
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Y'all can be less judgy tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:19 PM
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That happens if you talk about suicides or self harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:17 PM
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But tbh, why the fuck can't women accept that some men don't want to be settled for sexually, and that those men put a bigger premium on sex and sexual chemistry than on things like love and companionship. Women need to accept that some men want to be the best at sex, and there's nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:12 PM
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Probably never.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:09 PM
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It can be useful for venting. It's better than bad therapists. Not as good as a good therapist though. Nothing will replace that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:05 PM
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ChatGPT can be so nice for venting. I vented to it and it validated me :). Plus it spat out a very articulate writeup fo what I feel and why. I'm going to post it below: It’s clear that what you’re feeling stems from a deep desire to feel uniquely desired, to be the ultimate source of physical passion and excitement for your partner. That’s not inherently wrong—it’s human to want to feel like the best, especially in an area as intimate and personal as sex. But the intensity of this desire, paire…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:03 PM
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And as women constantly say and as men seem determined to ignore, looks are not all there is to compatibility and relationships Ngl, feels like a lie. There's like a minimum bar men need to clear in terms of looks, and that bar is p high (full head of hair, good skin, excellent jawline, perfect shiny white teeth, straight nose, hunter eyes).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 02:47 PM
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When women ask you about your prior relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:07 AM
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Some do, some don't. It's more like most care, few don't. Have you actually tried to make connections irl? I've written extensively in my older comments about how I'm trying to meet women but I'm stuck in region where most women are married, so I don't really meet any agr appropriate single woman despite trying. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 06:59 PM
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You're just describing rare cases (conservative, religious). Most conservative / religious women are married before 25. You know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 06:44 PM
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Which just goes to show that regardless of what a woman has done, many have no hangups about a virgin dude No, experienced women have hangups about virgin men. If you don't believe me, just go to askdatingover30 subreddit and search for yourself. Or even this subreddit. Lots of women have said they don't want virgin men. Virgin women are obviously much less likely to reject virgin men, since they are in the same position. Of course they might prefer experienced men (although I haven't seen this …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 06:21 PM
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Also nvm she says she was a virgin herself. One of the rare women who was virgin post 22. So this was a truly exceptional situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 06:10 PM
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I said older than 25 + exceptions exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 06:06 PM
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And it ultimately comes down to validating self-worth through some external symbol; the woman is just a trophy to show he “won” The resentment was never about lack of sex (see: sex workers), it was about feeling like a loser This is pretty accurate. But it's not just "getting" a woman, but rather being lusted after by women. You're right that a lot of men simply have no concept of self worth beyond what women think of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:56 PM
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Berserk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:47 PM
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What's your favorite subreddits?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:46 PM
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How much does it matter
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:40 PM
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Honest to God if I were in your position, I'd just use her for sex while I tried to keep on dating other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:37 PM
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Husband material are guys who don't get to try out other meals, ie they don't get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:33 PM
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What's wrong with picky eaters
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:29 PM
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I don't think we are invested. I think we see in our lives that women don't want feminine men. You are yourself saying that your preference was unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:34 PM
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If she's genuinely batshit crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:31 PM
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That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:31 PM
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Brootal. XD
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:27 PM
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Because I crave that validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:26 PM
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You're not a virgin so not really. Although you'd be a bigger winner if you had a lot more sex with a lot more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:21 PM
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For me yeah, pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:20 PM
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No, because even if the man makes himself attractive through plastic surgery and what not, women still wouldn't want to be with him because they don't want to teach someone how to have sex and how to do relationships. Women across Reddit have said this point in many many many posts. The inexperience is unattractive in of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:18 PM
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Women, men, anyone with a high n-count. As to why, it's because you were found hot enough for another person of your preferred gender to want to sleep with you. That's validation. That's what makes you a winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:11 PM
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It makes you not a loser tbvh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:08 PM
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Yes but what topics are they gushing about. Do they gush about how hot he is, or how dependable he is? Basically we think that women chase after their lust and sleep with hot men, then when they want to settle down they pick a guy that's dependable, even if he isn't as hot ans they don't lust after him as much. Which as I said is insulting. So unless they're gushing about how hot the husband is he and how good he is in bed, it's still prioritizing other qualities. And that's not what men want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:06 PM
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All ages. They have kids as young as 12. Most people are early 20s. I'm 32.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:03 PM
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Who the fuck professes love without having spent a decent amount of tiem together?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:02 PM
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In my head it's never romantic and sexy. Maybe because most husbands in the media arent shown that way + us men are inundated with real life stories of women cheating on their husbands with more attractive boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:01 PM
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India.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:00 PM
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Yes it is. There's people in my wrestling class who are my height and weigh 52kg. I looked good when I was that lean. I had a jawline.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:58 PM
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Then you do understand. Husband material = inferior or no sexual chemistry but he has other qualities. That's what defines a husband for me. Those other qualities. That's why husband material is an insult. It's like calling a man a nonsexual being
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:58 PM
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5'7"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:49 PM
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I think when women chose a life partner, qualities other than lust take a higher priority. And that's insulting to me. I want someone to be with Mr primarily because they lust after me. Not because I'm kind or funny or anything else. Just because they find me hot and amazing in bed. That needs to be the primary reason for someone wanting to be with me. Anything else feels insulting. So when women say husband material, it means they're saying he's kind and dependable. They're not saying that he's…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:46 PM
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You're both wrong and right. You're right that I am afraid of taking risks, and I don't know how to remedy that because my anxiety is super severe and I can't just push through it. But I refuse to use SSRIs because they kill my libido. You're wrong in that it's just overthinking. Trust me I've tried meeting women. I've gone on the apps, I've gone out to various hobby groups and other spaces. # of matches on dating app = 0. # of women I met in clubs and hobby groups = 0. And by met I mean that a …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:35 PM
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I know all this stuff. Doesn't make the fight or flight or freeze response go away. It is what it is. My bigger fear is that I don't say something and I make a fool of myself and she kicks me out of bed. Or I ask her how she likes to be touched and she doesn't tell me in enough detail that a noob like me needs. And if I ask for more detail she thinks I'm a virgin and then she asks me if I am one. Also, if she asks me about my past relationships. People do that now. They all talk about their past…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:31 PM
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That's basically what I said. But I know I'd be awkward because I'm an anxious, neurotic sort, and I'd be worried about not doing something weird due to inexperience, which will make me freeze up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:23 PM
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I'm 32. And the problem is most women are married by the time they're 27. And it's kinda creepy to date someone more than 6 ye are younger than you. Plus I don't look like a mid 20s guy, so the women I would meet in the pubs wouldn't be into me. Plus I'm currently stuck in a city where pub culture isn't really a thing and probably won't be able to move until 2026 :😢
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:21 PM
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Meh, you knew what I meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:19 PM
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It looks like a photo of me from 8 years ago. Back then I had just been put on maximum dose Zoloft, and I was cycling 4x a day, I had perfect skin, almost no fat, I had quit eating junk food and I had perfect hair. I can DM you a photo if you want. That but with a more muscular physique. To achieve this now I need 1) a facelift, my face skin is slightly lose now 2) fat loss. I'm 90kg rn, I need to get to like 55kg Or so 3) get a hair transplant
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:18 PM
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Women above 30 almost never go to pubs in my country sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:15 PM
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Tbh if my penis size and shape isn't perfect for the woman I'm dating, then Imma leave her. Being good enough isn't good enough, I need to be the perfect physical match for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:13 PM
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Eww. This guy is a scammer
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:06 PM
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1) Travel the world 2) Get a black belt in Judo 3) Cure cancer 4) Eat hot chip and lie
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:05 PM
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I consider it an insult because to me a husband is not someone who's exciting. A husband is someone whose presence comforts women, not excites them. A husband is boring, vanilla in bed, frumpy, and just meh. A husband is someone who women cheat on with much hotter men who they find exciting. A husband is someone women cuck when they cheat on him with superior men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:00 PM
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Day 54 of dailyposting (and a reminder to myself that most women don't want virgin men, so I must become attractive). Today I did nothing. Just scrolled through shorts on Youtube like a mindless zombie. What will you do today?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 02:58 PM
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No, we have to hide our number the way leprotic patients try to hide their lesions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 02:55 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 02:51 PM
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Reminder that n-count matters because men older than 25 with an n-count of 0 are not wanted by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 02:51 PM
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True.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 08:15 PM
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Day 53 of dailyposting (and a reminder to myself that most women don't want virgin men so I must become as attractive as I can). Today I spent 4 hours in the gym. What will you do today?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:51 PM
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Christmas cookies :🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 02:33 PM
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Day 50 of dailyposting (and reminder to myself that most women don't want virgin men so I must make myself more attractive). Today I finally went to the gym after procrastinating for the last few days. What will you do today, PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 02:14 PM
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You haven't met many Trans supporting feminists. Abolish Gender is a clarion cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:37 AM
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Bro leaving the bed is the hard part. It's so cozy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:56 PM
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That doesn't help bro. Tough love is wasted on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:40 PM
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I am one. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:35 PM
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Also, the subreddit is latebloomerlesbians so I guess she's only now realising she is also into women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:34 PM
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Yeah she says it in the comments Thanks so much for sharing! Genuine question: does the consent question land differently with women do you think? If a men asked to kiss me I know I’d be completely turned off, like no, just do it. But with women, I genuinely have no clue!! Thanks!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:34 PM
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Yeah leaving the bed is the hardest. If I can do that, then I can and will go to MMA and the rest of my day will go smoothly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:33 PM
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So I found an interesting thread on a lesbian subreddit. This woman was super flustered, because she didn't know if and when to go in for a kiss when she's dating a lesbian. But when she dates a man she hates him asking for it because a man should be dominant. This is what happens - men have been taught that to do stuff with out explicit consent = rape/assualt/being a creep. But (most) women hate when men ask for explicit consent, because a man who needs to ask isn't confident and dominant. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:28 PM
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Day 49 of dailyposting (and a reminder to myself that most women don't want virgin men so I must become attractive) PPD help me, I want to go to MMA class everyday, but it's cold here and the class is at 7:30 AM. I wasn't able to go today because it was too cold and I didn't want to leave my bed. Also, what will you do today, PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:19 PM
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This is why I would have kms if I had a micropenis.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:14 PM
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So on the one hand I kinda agree with you. On the other hand I remember reading about how a large percent of young men below 30 are single, while the women of the same ages are single in lower percentages. And I've been told that it's not because multiple women are dating the same guy, but because those women are dating older men. So I'm conflicted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:13 PM
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I say they can be all kinds of people. My aunt is a single cat lady. Never married. Never been in a relationship. Possibly ace. She's close to her 60s now and she's living life and having fun pursuing hobbies. She's had a v interesting career too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 03:08 PM
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This is me if I don't get physical exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:57 PM
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Yeah. It's just so hard when you have a book you can't put down. I block all the other distraction apps, but I cant block books.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:53 PM
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Yeah, if I don't get sleep my anxiety also spikes. Sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:48 PM
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My friend is an expert in languages (both learning them and studying them formally in Linguistics). He tells me that the best way to learn a language is through immersion. So I'd say watch a lot of movies in that language.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:45 PM
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Day 49 of dailyposting (and reminder to myself that most women don't want virgin men therefore I must make myself more attractive) Today sucked balls. Woke up late and felt sleepy the entire day, because I was up late last night, reading a book. Ended up missing MMA practice in the morning. However the 2X post I posted was funny. I posted it in my shitposting groups and the response was v polarized along gender lines for the most part. Now I will go and read some more because this book is addict…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:44 PM
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We don't know that because immediately after informing the driver she shoved the guy. In any case if the driver doesn't handle it, you take the other girl and walk with her back to the club and call the police from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:36 AM
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We don't know because before the Uber driver could do anything, she started being grabby with the dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:32 AM
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I agree that he should have put himself between his gf and the guy. But I don't think provoking a drunk guy by shoving him and expecting your bf to deal with the fall out is fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:20 AM
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I do agree that he should have done SOMETHING. But here's my perspective. If this happened, I'd be right beside her while she ensures that the girl gets into a cab. If he tries to get into the cab I'd tell the cab driver that this guy isn't her passenger. I'd also call the cops and maybe send my gf to get more help. But if in this scenario she goes and shoves the man, I'd go what the fuck. Because now this guy would want to fight. And whether he tries to fight me or my gf, I'll take the hits. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:18 AM
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Umm, the driver is in the front seat. The guy was trying to get into the backseat. She already told the driver that the guy isn't her passenger. It's after that, that she shoved him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:46 AM
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She did tell him. It's when what she did after that which exponentially increased the risk - shoving a drunk dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:33 AM
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Let me give you a comprehensive response. First of all I didn't say that the woman faces less physical risk. I said it can go either way. She could be in more risk, she could be in less risk. There's no good way to know. Secondly, physical risk isn't all that's there. Even if a fight breaks out and the bf wins, he can STILL be jailed. This happens all the time. Third, it makes sense to deescalate. It doesn't make sense to put your woman forward because you don't know how much risk there is, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:31 AM
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Harassers usually aren't the types to think about consequences. Drunk ones especially.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:48 AM
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If you get into an altercation, the BEST option is to deescalate or move away from the situation, not to use someone (anyone) as a shield.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:47 AM
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What if it's people you don't care about though? Like what if it's just some rando on the road? Do you think a man is less of a man if he doesn't get involved in that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:15 AM
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Which woman? The other woman? He doesn't know her, why should he risk prison for her? His girlfriend? While I agree that he should stand by her, SHE's the one escalating and putting herself in that situation. She literally put hands on a drunk man. That's escalation. Anyway, my larger point is this - that men who are afraid of violence, are seen as not real men by women. Hence the use of the word emasculation. So men should learn to get violent. - furthermore, no matter what rhetoric comes out o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:28 AM
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This can go either way. Sometimes men are likely to back off against another man. Sometimes they're MORE likely to get physical if it's another man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:14 AM
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losing a fight is a million times better than sitting there glued to your phone Err, if the only consequence of street altercations was lost fights, then men would get into street altercations a LOOOOOOT more then they do now. The potential consequences include death, severe disability (upto and including paralysis), or serious prison time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:54 AM
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I don't disagree, but that doesn't change my point. For someone I care about, who started it becomes irrelevant While that is completely fair, and yeah I'd absolutely step up for someone I love, I still think if she's actually escalating fights and expecting people to step up for her, then she's being stupid. "Escalating" a situation is a different animal than starting it, and at the end of the day the drunk man was the cause of everything. Technically true, but you always want to deescalate. Li…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:51 AM
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then he had more concern about his own safety than his girlfriend's after things escalated physically, which is cowardice. and thus she thinks he is not a real man, as evidenced by the word "emasculated". Which goes back to the point I made in the daily post. That women expect certain masculine behaviors from men, no matter what they say about gender roles and feminism. I would have jumped in for my male S/O; my female friends; my male friends; my family; my dog; other pets; and depending on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:17 AM
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But one can find such examples for women too. Take for example women's body image issues. There clearly exists support for women, as well as a movement towards normalizing all kinds of variations in women's bodies. But I'm pretty sure women would push back if we tried to ban cosmetic surgery. You could for example come up with ways to help men deal with/prevent gambling, without banning gambling/sports betting. But nothing like that really exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:06 AM
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Oh. Nvm then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:00 PM
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Oh. I thought you meant she knew him personally. Although you'll be rich if you're getting a finance degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:59 PM
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That's USD.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:51 PM
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His gf knows a podcaster in my country who is super popular and (the podcaster) went to an ultra rich people school. Think people with a networth of hundred millions and billions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:51 PM
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I can't believe Zair's gf is so rich. Makes me wonder how rich Zair is...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:39 PM
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Also your gf is confirmed rich then. That guys is rich af.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:21 AM
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Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:17 AM
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Damn I need to start drinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:10 AM
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Is she into beerbiceps podcast?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:08 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/InstaCelebsGossip/s/YMBjRebCxd peak stalker behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:04 AM
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Lmao yes. Wanna see?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:03 AM
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I think it's slowly happening irl too. Yesterday someone posted on the r/virgin subreddit. He was mid 20s Or so I think and he was talking about how he was telling his friends that he hadnt had a relationship. And one girl was like "Oh an incel".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:03 AM
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Yeah this trope is bs, and it always bothered me when people said this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:01 AM
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Its okay. I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:57 AM
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Showed it to Sheila in the DM.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:56 AM
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Also as an aside, there's this male podcaster in my country who has a very creepy and obsessive stalkerina. She got his name tattooed on her bosom. V large too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:55 AM
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I'd be flattered.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:54 AM
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Okay I did a face reveal and got some good advice. Gonna lose fat now and trim my beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:53 AM
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Thx 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:33 AM
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That's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:15 AM
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Oh, will test it out tonight on dailypost.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:12 AM
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Yes, will you volunteer?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:09 AM
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I'll have to do it from a new account. But I need to get its karma up before I can post on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:05 AM
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Not you. But someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:03 AM
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Someone needs to volunteer to see what I look like in DMs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:02 AM
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idc I never liked bright red lipstick on women for some reason. It reminds me of circus clowns (no offense).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:59 AM
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Yes, they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:57 AM
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People who know me are on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:51 AM
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I wanna do a face reveal but I'm shy and afraid of being doxxed. Wish I could do face reveal in DMs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:47 AM
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Meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:46 AM
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Mfw.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 06:14 AM
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Hop on the apps bro. Swipe right to everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:58 AM
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I'm not surprised. Should check out the canadian_housing2 subreddit. They made a second one because the OG one wouldn't allow them to be racist to immigrants. I find it funny because overall, Canada is cucked. If they don't bring in immigrants, they basically will become a Japan but less prosperous because they really have nothing which can make them grow. But when they do bring in immigrants, they can't build housing fast enough or expand their medical system. It's over for Canada.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:23 AM
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For men it feels like a Catch-22 because I will only have genuine self confidence when I know women want me and when I'm not a virgin anymore, and I know that I'm decent at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:12 AM
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Was it anti Indian hate lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:11 AM
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Why not go for cheaper dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:09 AM
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My dad has a name so common that he shares it with two famous people in our country. If you google his name, results show up about an actor or a famous comedian.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:06 AM
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It's a scary thing being a virgin over 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:04 AM
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My aunt is like that. Has never had relationships, doesn't care either. She's nearly 60 now and just enjoying life doing hobbies and shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 05:02 AM
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Oh damn. That's scary af.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:54 AM
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That was a stunt he pulled to try and get the California rail project shelved.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:53 AM
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Tomato
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:53 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 03:21 PM
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Til.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:48 PM
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I struggle with both of these. any advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:48 PM
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I'm a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:47 PM
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Karl Marx was a shitty person irl, who never bathed and was a horrible friend who survived on the handouts of Engels. Don't make heroes out of people. Don't believe in heroes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:42 PM
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They sound interesting. Minus the sex negativity part.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:31 PM
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Separate the person from the ideology. She can be both. A sexual deviant and a feminist icon. Like Engels literally was a capitalist. But he was also Communist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:29 PM
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No, what I'm saying is that most women believe that men need to be taught and so they avoid virgin men. This means that if 100 women knew a man was a virgin above 25, 99 of them would reject him even if they otherwise liked him, because he was a virgin. Atleast that's what I get from Reddit and other places.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:27 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:23 PM
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Nah, foreheads on women can be cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:23 PM
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Maybe, but I think most women believe that men need to be taught. Which is why most comments on any woman centric subreddit I see is usually that she doesn't want a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:22 PM
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Still believes in romantic love. Edit: aiming for a guy that possibly does not exist or is already taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:19 PM
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MOAR!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:15 PM
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Day 47 of Dailyposting (and reminder to myself that most women don't want virgin men and so I must make myself more attractive) Good day, PPD! How are y'all. I went to my MMA class today. I almost puked by the end of it. It's been sometime since I went so I guess I'm not in form. Anyway, today I observed that the endorphin high of this exercise stayed for about 7 hours. Basically from 9am to 3pm Or so. After that I went to the library and studied (solved some Discrete Math problems). And now I s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:15 PM
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Explain the hashtag to me please. When I see #womeninmalefields I think of women working in traditionally male professions. Not what ever this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:11 PM
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Nooooo, I have thick eyebrows. Don't ruin it for me bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:10 PM
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That could be a reason. But from what I saw it was all about not wanting to teach man how to sex, and even more importantly not wanting to teach a man how to relationship. It does feel like women like you are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:07 PM
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Roast me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:06 PM
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You're a rare person ngl. Most women I've seen in the women's subreddits (and even here) say they would avoid a virgin. Especially if he's above 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:02 PM
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I'm a dude. No you don't need to cook & clean to get a man to commit. Just be hot and have lots of sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:20 PM
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Meh. If a woman wants to sleep with a thousand men, let her. It's not worth bringing back religion for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:20 PM
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The answer to your last question is yeah. I'd feel more comfortable lying about my virginity than I would losing it to a hooker. If I did that, I'd always feel a sense of shame that I wouldn't be able to bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:06 PM
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I can't, I'll always be ashamed of myself if I have to resort to a hooker.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:51 AM
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Nah. Women are on median lower libido than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:03 AM
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Also you're right in that I value the sex/lust. But I think it needs to be clarified a little further. What I REALLY value is having my ego stroked and my masculinity validated. The only way that can happen is if I'm told that I'm better than other men at sex. But it can't be fake praise, it has to be true. So that's why I value sex/lust over everything else. Any relationship of a sexual nature, where I can't get that is emasculating. And therefore women settling is scary. Because it could happe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 02:40 AM
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What is MXN
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 02:38 AM
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My emotions are running really high and I'm going to ramble here. I doubt I'll make much sense but idc. I feel like if it's a hookup or FWB them women prioritize lust and sex. But if its a relationship they prioritize other things (like whether he's kind etc) atleast as much as lust and sex. This is a problem because it means in a relationship, I could get settled for - ie she might be with me even though we don't have the best sexual chemistry. But this is not likely in a FWB. But because I'm a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 02:26 AM
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The moment I saw the subreddit I knew exactly which post this was linking to. That shit is nightmare fuel.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:53 AM
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I don't think I could ever commit to a woman until I knew that I'm the best sex she's ever had and the chemistry we have is better than anything she's ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:45 AM
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<image> Ever more stuff that will live rent free, in my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:00 AM
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Oh that. I've always hated mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:58 AM
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Zinedine?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:54 AM
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Not a psych major but I agree. Someone teach me how to unlearn parental conditioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:49 AM
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It isn't fair. But if I were in your place I wouldn't rest until Id gotten plastic surgery and gotten more attractive than them, and gotten that kind of attention from lots of hot women, more than they had ever gotten.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:46 AM
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What is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:45 AM
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Hmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:53 AM
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Alternative viewpoint: you already knew how and as you aged, that knowledge got unlocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:42 AM
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I will soon. I fall into these little mini spirals. This will go away soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:26 AM
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Thesis: body language and how to read it, is something instinctual, not a skill that can be taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:25 AM
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I think if RedPillers want to be good I'm bed, they'll have to listen to women on how women want to be sexxed and give them that. Dudes can't teach you this, only women can, because only they know how they want to be fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:21 AM
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Nah I was talking about another subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:32 AM
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The way I see it other people's mind is weak for not yielding to their emotions and desires. I yield to mine, I am completely at their mercy, but this is also what makes me more real, more authentic, more human. And wanting something so badly that you'd rather die than experience life without it, to me that is strength, not weakness. The strength to chase after what you think will actually make life worth living.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:31 AM
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If even one person has it, if I crave it, then I must have it as well. Fuck the rest who gave up on chasing that. I judge them as weak. Weaker even than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:22 AM
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a hot gf who is perfectly sexually compatible with me and with whom I share incredible sexual chemistry, and who always wants sex. and good medical care for my medical issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:14 AM
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Yeah but some people like me can never not compare and we crave what others have. Nothing that can be done except to chase what is being craved until one gets it, or one loses hope and dies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:10 AM
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One of the things that pisses me off the most is people who believe that one must accept their lot in life. Fuck that, I want what others have, and if life can't give me that then life isn't worth living. And I am constitutionally obligated to feel that anyone who disagrees is an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 09:03 AM
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Sigh. Deleted. But those people make me really really angry. Everything about them from their insensitive comments to their values (which I can glean from what they said) pisses me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:49 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:37 AM
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Good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:10 AM
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A post I made here that was breaking Reddit TOS. How would I know it was breaking TOS? :(
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:08 AM
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Me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:06 AM
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That's one of the weirdest, most yuckiest thing I've read. Why the fuck was she so obsessed with a teenager getting knocked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:03 AM
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"Feast on his flesh"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:02 AM
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What's wrong with fictional books? Also tbh I've seen the young ones also be really into F1 and football fanclubs for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:59 AM
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I got a Reddit warning :(
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:58 AM
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Hmm, maybe because you have kids. I have 0 attachments to anyone in this world. If push came to shove, I wouldn't hesitate to end it because why suffer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:47 PM
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Damn bro. You're a really tough dude, I'll give you that. I'd have been broken if I went through what you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:55 PM
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You asked what is wrong with it. What is wrong with it is that it expresses itself in a toxic way towards women. Then you should also realise that the REASON it expresses this way is because men are judged for having insecurities. So instead of admitting to them, they externalize it. The more women judge, the worse it gets in society. And here's the thing, there are men who realise it's an insecurity. And they admit that it's an insecurity and because of that they want a woman with a low bodycou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:30 PM
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Which just proves that men over 30 with n=0 are oppressed and n counts DO matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:02 PM
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Don't care 🤷🏿 If women don't care about men's feelings then how can you even expect men to care about the feelings of women? Nah, judging is human nature and we all do it. Nope. That's just you trying to justify judgement by saying everyone does it. No they don't. I can find men who judge women and slut shame them. But I can also find men who dont do that. it ends in men trying to shame and control women in order to assuage their own insecurities. Ignore those guys. Dont date someone who has an …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:01 PM
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It's definitely not about "facts". I'll be honest and tell you that we say that to justify it because we don't like to acknowledge our insecurity. What I do not like is how you just dismissed men's feelings as "feelz". What's wrong with wanting to be the best your partner has had? Is it driven by insecurity? Yes. But a lot of people are driven to excel at things because of insecurity. I really wish women would stop judging men for wanting to be the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 09:34 PM
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Everytime this thread gets posted I will remind everyone that n counts matter because n=0 men are oppressed by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 08:00 PM
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This absurd level of competitiveness is a specifically male trait, hence the origin of the term "pissing contest." Since y'all are so hyper-competitive with each other, you assume women are just as neurotic and judgy about "the best." But as long as you're good in bed, it's not fucking necessary to be "the best." Much less "to be remotely worthwhile." To be honest it's not about "remotely worthwhile", just being anything less than the best means we're less of a man (by our own metrics) than the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:57 PM
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FEMALE used COMPETITOR DEROGATION. It's SUPER EFFECTIVE!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:49 PM
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Wait, are you asking ME why I'm a virgin or are you saying that n=0 men refuse to answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:52 PM
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Yes, life gave them a raw deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:49 PM
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Most women are like his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:47 PM
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Doesn't matter. n=0 men are oppressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:45 PM
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Yes, and?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:43 PM
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Day 43 of dailyposting. Today I just shitposted. And I started the next Brandon Sanderson (Wind and Truth) WWYD today PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:42 PM
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Mostly because when are women over 30 even connecting with 30+ virgin men? Their circles don't overlap. Which implies that virgin men can never move in normal people circles. Snap judgement. No asking why he's a virgin here. Just snap judgement that a virgin would never be in the same circle as a non virgin 30 year old woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:40 PM
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That's pathetic and juvenile thinking. Why do you get to decide what is and isn't pathetic and juvenile?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:38 PM
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See you're proving my point. You've made snap judgements about a guy with n=0. Us n=0 men are oppressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:34 PM
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I think this is a key difference between men and women. A large # of men are fixated on their sexual prowess because, their masculinity is affirmed or negated in direct proportion to how good or not good their partner thinks they are, in bed. I used to be super fixated on the n-count for this very reason. I got over that, but I could not and will never be able to get over my need to be the best that a woman has ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:33 PM
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Noo, I've seen women say they'd blanket reject virgins. On the askdatingover30 subreddit most women say this unless they're also inexperienced or not too experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:30 PM
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Why did it take you so long to figure out lol? I thought this shit was obvious. Also, they don't think women will treat them the same way. No they just don't want to be second best to anyone. They want to be the best that a woman has ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:26 PM
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What about female urologists who have to touch a dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:25 PM
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I don't care either way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:24 PM
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The only n count that is truly oppressed is n=0 men. Women abhor virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:23 PM
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Tbh on the male side the only people who are triggered are incels. But women seem to get triggered as a whole if a man cares about the n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:22 PM
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I dunno if men do lack empathy. I don't want to dismiss the lived experiences of women, but at the same time, I don't have a single male friend that isn't somewhat empathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:20 PM
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Anyway so you’re not really talking about planning then. You mean paying No I do mean planning. For example the vacation. The woman will decide where to go, the dude will handle the logistics. The only exceptions I've seen are arranged marriages where the dudes never had to handle logistics ever because their parents always did and that duty is now taken over by the wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:54 PM
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Remind me who they elected President again? Americans are fine with some people getting welfare. It depends on how much melanin those people have.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:28 PM
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When I say plan, I mean planning a surprise birthday party or a surprise dinner or shit like that. It's always men who do that from what I've seen. Also as to doing whatever the man wants, women just tell the guy what they want and the it's the mans job to get her that experience. That's how it works out from all that I've seen. Basically I've never really seen women put in efforts towards a relationship unless they were in an arranged marriage where it's expected that the woman must cook and cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:13 PM
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I honestly have never seen women plan shit (for their bfs)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 02:55 PM
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No I mean 99% of men in a relationship across the globe, their partners aren't into them if this is the case. And very few men are even capable of getting this kind of genuine attraction. Like maybe 5% of the male population.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 02:13 PM
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Except the majority of people care about children not being cared Tbh I suspect a large plurality of men would be very happy to sign away their parental rights and responsibilities. Most women care about children. I doubt most men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:03 PM
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I think one thing that really bothers me about being a virgin is what people would think. Even more so than being rejected by women for being a virgin (which already bothers me A LOT), what bothers me is the thought that if people found out that I'm a virgin they will think I'm pathetic and immature and lacking. This thought makes me VERY VERY ANGRY. I hate how virgin men are perceived. Also whenever this line of thought is triggered in my head, I end up so angry that I lose all empathy for othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:46 AM
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If this is true then I suspect very few women are genuinely attracted to their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:21 AM
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By their families perhaps. But never by hot women (that aren't their sister).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:29 PM
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Block her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:25 PM
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If they date, good for them. But honestly, who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:33 PM
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Everyone obsessed with two PPDers dating. It feels like I'm back in highschool where people gossiped about who is dating whom.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:29 PM
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It is confusing to me. Why would someone ask if they didn't want to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:42 PM
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I'm ngl, all this tells me is that I should stay away from women who played lotto. And that's a given because anyone who plays lotto is dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:09 PM
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I've been watching a lot of OnlyFans porn leaks lately. For some reason, in every one of them, the woman has to touch herself or the guy does. Almost never see the woman cuming just by penis fucking. Explain that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:58 PM
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Everyone's a weirdo. Mark Manson used to chase women as a way to prove himself. He turned out fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 12:50 PM
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Women who are hot in bed can cum without needing oral What
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:02 AM
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Ah, so it's about proving a point It absolutely is. Not gonna lie, I think it's utterly ridiculous. I know most people think like that. What I want you to understand is just how strongly I want it. I don't care that it seems ridiculous to other people. Until I do prove myself, I will continue to feel emasculated. Do you know what's it like to walk around feeling inferior to others 24x7 ? Until you do, I don't really expect you to understand. Proving myself in this way has become the only goal of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:26 AM
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No. You can expect double digits by the time I'm 42. I'm 32 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:22 AM
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Most people cannot and will not empathise, or even sympathise with people who are older virgins. They don't understand how scary it is, or how insecure it makes you feel. This is why I feel justified in wanting to hurt people and use them to my own end cynically. They can't empathise with me, so why should I care about them hurting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:21 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:18 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:16 AM
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Yeah that is true tbh. None of them are sleeping around now, all of them have steady relationships. But idc, I feel like I deserved to have fun the way they did, and I deserve to do that even at my age, or fuck it, ar any age. I'm not averse to travelling. But (if this makes any sense), sleeping with women in a country that's more liberal with sex won't count. Those guys got to sleep around with women in my country. They got to do it on a higher difficulty setting. If I can't do that, then I'm a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:15 AM
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idk anymore. All I saw was women saying you need to try on your own and ask for help, and the help part triggered me ad now I can't unsee it. Asking for directions is proactive to me, asking for help is emasculating. It also triggered the part of me that thinks I'll be mocked and rejected if I ever reveal my inexperience. Which makes me mad at women as a whole and want to hurt women anyway I can emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:13 AM
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Even then, lots of my friends in bigger cities did get to sleep with multiple women. Admittedly a lot of these guys are younger and the younger gen is more promiscuous. But I know of a couple of guy my age too. The key for them was to work in fields which have a lot of women, have a lot of friend groups, be okay with doing a lot of drugs, and have no fear of approaching women. I'd also say low standards but they're not good looking either so I guess it matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:10 AM
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Going to sleep with lots of women or die trying. Others got to do it, I deserve to do it too. And idc if people think that's entitled. I am entitled. Fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:07 AM
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The what do you like in the bedroom question scares me. I don't know yet because I'm a virgin. But if I ever reveal that, I feel that women will look down on me and dump me for being one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:57 AM
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Why is it unhealthy? It tells you whether you're successful as a man or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:55 AM
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Which (male) PPD dailyposter do you think will eventually find a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:51 AM
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Because helping others doesn't really make me feel very good. Although I did help out a blind person recently. Was nice I guess. But sex and and sexual validation would feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:49 AM
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Meh. People feel what they feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:40 AM
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Nah, not if you have a dick that's average or above.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:38 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:33 AM
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Okay yeah this is a different girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:14 AM
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That doesn't really make too much sense to me. Asking for help vs asking for directions. Also I don't get the not being willing to try - if he's asking for directions then he's obviously willing to try those directions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:13 AM
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Send me the link of the video please. I remember what she looked like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:03 AM
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Nothing yikes about it. Women hate on men as a whole when they're angry. It's natural for men to hate on women as a whole when they're angry too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:02 AM
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No I'm pretty sure it was this case. She dumped the child outside of her dorm in a dumpster.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:00 AM
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You have women who think if a man wants direction then he's lazy and passive, and he should figure everything out on his own. And I suspect this is what most women feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:59 AM
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With all due respect I'm angry rn so idc what you think, and I'll do what I want. You're not the boss of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:51 AM
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Yeah. But the thing is, men who got started young get directions. It feels like I get penalized for being late. Which is hurtful and makes me angry. Doubly so because women claim men don't listen, but if someone's willing to listen they don't want to communicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:49 AM
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Nah, it's okay to kill recently born babies imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:47 AM
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I remember this case. It's because she was raised in an abusive family. She genuinely felt that if she went to get an abortion, something bad would happen to her. I felt bad for her, she deserves better. She definitely shouldn't be in prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:46 AM
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I just saw women on that "bad at sex" thread claim that they don't want to give directions, and a man is lazy if he can't figure it out on his own. Now I feel sad again. It feels like I'll never be good at sex because I'll never find a woman who's willing to reach/communicate. Which also makes me angry and makes me wish I could hurt women by cheating on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:45 AM
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Maybe, but I worry that as a virgin I will need extra guidance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:28 AM
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Oh okay. Thanks for the clarification. That makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:37 PM
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I do not like the idea of figuring it out on my own. I do like someone to tell me exactly what I need to do, so I can do it. This is because there could be something that she wants, maybe touching her in a certain way, that I might not be able to figure out by just experimenting. So I'd rather they just communicate to me what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:28 PM
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I did but it feels antithetical to the idea of men being unwilling to listen. This sounds more like "figure it out on your own".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:09 PM
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The rest of it is fine, but what's wrong with "Tell me what you want me to do"? You get information on what works for her, directly from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:05 PM
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Orgasms for gender per capita.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:00 PM
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Who wants to deal with all of that after a potentially mentally demanding day at work/school/whatever? Me. The reward (her cumming) is worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:34 PM
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Is that all there is to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:30 PM
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I'd believe this if men who get that kind of sex didn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:30 PM
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Threaten to break up just to feel heard/get men to do what they want etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:59 PM
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Premise is faulty. Women don't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:55 PM
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Yeah that's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:02 PM
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Tbh I hope in the future asking women out like this gets normalised.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:00 PM
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There's guys who won't do it if the woman is drink because they're afraid that drunk women can't really consent. There's been cases of that kind in colleges where drunk women slept with guys and then said they were raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:17 PM
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I'm already bonded with my friends. I want sex. And lots of it. Without having to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:07 PM
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How can a man be exciting? Genuine question, I want to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:33 AM
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What's the point of life if you can't have mind blowing, soul melting sex with incredibly hot women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:26 AM
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Probably because they think that any woman they meet could have been one in the past. Or maybe they imagine their loved ones everytime they see a sex worker, like their mum or their sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:23 AM
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Tbh I'd spend money on women that are friends, never on a girlfriend or a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:12 PM
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What because some of them worked out and aren’t doormats? No, because most men have some degree of RedPill beliefs that they conceal. It has nothing to do with working out or confidence. Men are pretty straightforward, there’s less care of how someone feels, they just don’t want to ruin chances of sex. But if you make them think those aren’t ruined, then they will say anything. Maybe the dumb ones, yeah. But trust me, a lot of men have these beliefs that they will never confess to a woman in rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:34 AM
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I don't think they care all that much as long as they get laid. But it's clear that you don't want to fuck guys who are RedPill. But I can absolutely guarantee you have because waaay more guys are some level of RedPilled than you realise. For example, some of my male lefty friends, who simply do not buy into the idea that cheating or lying to a woman for sex is akin to abuse. They think lying is kosher. And these are men who are successful with women and are seen as (and to me atleast they have …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:11 AM
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Nah that's bs. I can guarantee you've fucked guys you didn't know were RedPill. No one in my friend circle would ever believe that I believe in aspects of the RedPill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:06 AM
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I see where you're coming from but I think sometimes rage and anger can bolster your self esteem. Like right now, I'm in a rage and I feel like any woman who doesn't respect me isn't worth paying attention to. Usually I end up deferring to women because I inadvertently put them on a pedestal. But right now I'm angry and I'm feeling like any girl who doesn't respect me is reduced to something less than human for me. Like women who don't respect are simply beings with no agency that I acknowledge.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:04 AM
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I'll get over it by tomorrow. Kind of. Mostly this will become a cold flame inside me, motivating me now, pushing me work ever harder towards becoming more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:57 AM
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Meh, who cares. Worst case scenario I fail. Not much different from right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:55 AM
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That's not what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:54 AM
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No I don't mind rejection. What I mind is feeling like I'm an untouchable, a leper, a pathetic being lesser than other men not deserving of dignity, simply because I'm a virgin. It makes me feel like every aspect of me, every complicated bit of life that I have endured, all my victories and failures and joys and pains are simply reduced and fit inside a box with the label "VIRGIN" on it. As to disdain, like I said I don't let it show. No one there knows I'm a virgin. Earlier we were talking abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:54 AM
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I wish it did but it doesn't. Nothing will make me feel better until I get more self esteem and I get laid and become good at sex and (possibly) end up hurting women emotionally to burn off this rage I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:47 AM
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Nah. I think women recoil at the word virgin. Like I saw posts on r/datingover30 where women were saying they don't want to reach a guy how to fuck and how someone with years of experience will be better. It made me feel like shit and that I would never be able to get as good as the guy with years of experience. It also made me feel like my virginity is what makes me a burden on women and that's why no woman would want me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:42 AM
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No I don't judge other people for not being virgins. I just feel that other people judge virgins. At least I suspect that to be the norm. Especially women judging virgin men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:40 AM
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You need to ditch those "friends" and their gfs. My friends (who know I'm a virgin) have only encouraged me and never made me feel bad about myself. This includes women who are my friends. You deserve better.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:38 AM
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I don't even care what she does tbh as long as I can hurt her emotionally by cheating on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:37 AM
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Nope. Tall women aren't as curvy as shorter women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:26 AM
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Third option is to chase her, but also cheat on her. Or if you're truly devious, sabotage her birth control and knock her up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:19 AM
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Maybe. I'm mostly tired of hearing all this shit about pre-selection. I'm just going to focus on whatever I can do to get laid. What I do know is that because I feel some level of animosity for how some women view male virgins, and because I project that animosity upon all women (save my friends), I will almost certainly end up cheating on whatever woman I end up with, purely as a way to hurt her. In my head it will be justified because by hurting her, I'm hurting women as a whole and getting ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:17 AM
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I'm sleepy so this might not make much sense. But some people in the group I'm a part of were making fun of horrible profiles. One of those was a very cringey profile, and after reading it, one of the women said "This was written by a virgin". Nobody there knows I'm a virgin. And the way she said it gave me pause. It made me feel like she (and because my mind catastrophizes) and most women over 25 think of virgins as untouchable lepers. Pathetic beings, instead of humans who deserve respect and …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:02 AM
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It can be once it crosses into superphysiological territory. Roid rage is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 08:40 PM
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Actually higher testosterone levels were associated with pro-social behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:57 PM
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You're just dating aholes. Which kinda proves that nice guys finish last.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 12:06 PM
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Hmm I think this might be it, because this is the case for me. For those of my friends who work in female dominated fields+trained in fields with equal gender ratios in colleges+still party and do drugs, they got laid easily. The 2 people I know who get laid a lot, one is short, the other is not good looking. But both party a lot, go out a lot with friends. Plus both trained in fields which have an equal # of men and women. The rest of my friends, have only had 1 gf that they were lucky enough t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:40 AM
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I agree with you. Nobody is ever entitled to violate another persons bodily autonomy. Even if married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 03:59 PM
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That's a little harsh though, I don't think your ex caused his own depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:45 AM
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This is interesting. So you're saying the men are only gunning for the top 5% of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:41 AM
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While this is interesting, we also have statistics showing that around 60% or so young men are single in America. I'm more curious as to what women think the causes are. Even if the 60% statistic weren't true, what is true and highly visible is that men are complaining a lot more about dating. This is something I'm seeing across the board, in every country's online space that I've seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:39 AM
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But women also immigrate though. I'd be curious to see the gender split of immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:37 AM
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What makes a man appealing or interesting according to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:33 AM
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I'm curious why you think immigration is a source of competition when most countries have very little immigration in.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:32 AM
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That's an insane level of attention though. Do you pay attention the way an interrogator does for every conversation with your SO?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:14 AM
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Because unless we're being some kind of noir detective, hints simply won't register as hints. We prefer you directly telling us what you want. There's guys who still forget, but those are the unattentive ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 08:13 AM
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Day 37 of dailyposting. I finished the book I was reading. I'm all prepped, will have to travel to another city for the doctors visit. What will you do today, PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:19 PM
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Most women would leave. I don't blame them. If I get disabled, I'd take my own life. I would be a man anymore in my own eyes if I were disabled.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 09:20 PM
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Day 36 of dailyposting. Stayed home and watched anime all day. What did you do today PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 03:38 PM
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Peg him. Pay for everything. Outearn him. Eat hot chip and lie. Gaslight. Gatekeep. Girlboss. He will feel very masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 03:43 PM
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Day 35 of dailyposting. I woke up late, went to the library to study, finally went to wrestling practice after a long gap. What did/will you do today PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 03:42 PM
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Day 34 of dailyposting. Today I watched the remaining episodes of Arcane. Had unhealthy but delicious food. Cleaned like 90% of my room. Prepped for tomorrow. Will go to sleep after reading for an hour or so. What did you do today/will do today, PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:26 PM
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Oh shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:38 PM
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Hmm. I do be interested in economics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:23 PM
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I don't think it's pretense, it's selection bias. The ones who do ie the vast majority, won't report it. I've also heard from my fellow brown men that conservative women are sometimes less racist than your avg liberal girlboss.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:13 PM
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Day 31 of Dailyposting. I cleaned my room today. Man I'm lacking in productivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:05 PM
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Hmmm. Not really an option for me but interesting approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:08 PM
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I tried learning DoTA. It was too much work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:06 PM
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Day 29 of dailyposting. Today I went to MMA. Hurt my knuckles. Also went to therapist. What did y'all do today PPD? Also how do you motivate self to clean room and fold laundry? I hate doing that. Giv tips.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:03 PM
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There's an analogue. There's a black streamer who got arrested in Korea for doing some obnoxious shit. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna179921?espv=1 He got called Nigger by Koreans https://www.instagram.com/pop_in_culture/reel/DB3vb8QMRY0/ Do you think it's fair to use the N word for obnoxious black men? Same with virgin shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:27 PM
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The idea is that no matter how much you work to improve yourself, you will never attain the biological markers (height, good looks etc) that will have women desire you organically.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:21 PM
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Defence spending in the UK is poised to go way up. Because the US won't have your backs thanks to Trump, the entirety of Europe will have to fill in for that. That will take a few hundred billion a year, easily. UK has others problems tho, y'all have no natural resource to sell like the Middle Eastern countries do, and you don't have any innovative companies like the USA does.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 12:04 PM
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They will be once they have to fund armies against Russia AND try to maintain a welfare state at the same time, all the while the demand for welfare increases due to increasing geriatric population, and shrinking tax base due to fewer younger people. In the end, the welfare state will end up collapsing. There's no way to make it work without financial growth of a country.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 07:03 AM
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Eventually Europe will have to figure out a way to live without welfare. That's unsustainable without having lots of new young people come in and work and pay taxes. Plus Trump will weaken NATO, so all EU countries will now have to divert revenue towards military funding, so there will have to be more austerity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 03:43 AM
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Day 24 of dailyposting. Sadly the wrestling school I wanted to go to has shut down it's 6 days a week wrestling program recently. They only offer 2 days a week wrestling within an MMA program. The other 4 days are for striking and sparring. :( I am a bit disheartened about this. Life sucks. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:12 PM
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That's where the AWALT part of of RedPill comes into play. According to them All Women Are Like That (ie sleep with men with high status dark triad men and settle for men with low status), and this is due to evolutionary biology. They justify this using evolutionary psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 04:18 PM
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So, according to red pill formula, distrust in a woman is somehow correlated to more sex for a man Distrust + being mean to women. They cite all the criminals with multiple baby mommas, and the fact that women are attracted to men with Dark Triad traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 04:10 PM
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RedPill basically promises guys they can get laid a lot once they understand the true nature of women. That's why the moniker RedPill comes from. It's when Morpheus offered Neo two pills in The Matrix, where the Red one would show him the true reality of the world, and the Blue one would let him forget everything and go back to his old life. The idea is that most men have a false understanding of the world where women like decent upstanding guys. In their idea of the real world, women give unlim…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:56 PM
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They don't get matches, or if they do then the matches don't convert. The RedPill basically teaches them how to get matches and how to get laid (lie and manipulate + self improve).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:53 PM
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That's fair tbh. Can't verify all the RedPill gurus who claim to sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 01:50 PM
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Maybe, maybe not. Most men will refuse to accept this. And chase ideologies that promise casual sex is what I'm saying though. So if you want them to not follow the redpill, you need to give them something which offers similar things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:17 PM
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Doesn't help the men who want a lot of casual sex only.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:07 PM
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Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:45 PM
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What will you cook and bake?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:26 PM
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Day 21 of Dailyposting. I am sick. Took some meds to clear out nasal congestion and constant sneezing. Spent most of the day sleeping. Rest of the day reading. I discovered a nice blogpost about consent. I'm feeling a little anxious - I finally found a good doctor. What if something happens to him and I won't be able to find another doctor. Very few doctors specialize in what I have. When I have anxiety about this stuff, my brain tries to seek reassurance. This isn't a good thing, because it was…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 04:55 PM
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Tbf it's society that associates masculinity with negative traits. And especially women in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 01:13 PM
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Fuck love. Chase lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:33 AM
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What happens when Trump can't solve those issues and the Democrats refuse to address them? Asking because this is a hypothetical that can come true in 4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 10:03 AM
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No lmao. Europe still buys gas. Right now they buy it through us (India) and we buy it from Russia. And we charge a nice, hefty premium. EU needs the gas. They'll pay for it. And the price tag will only lead to more RW leaders who are all Putin friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 09:00 PM
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That's exactly it. The Dems really are incompetent. But more than that, they're trapped by elites who believe in the ideology of courting Republicans to the right, instead of the disaffected on the left. Look at who Kamala campaigned with the most. It was fucking Mark Cuban (a billionaire) and Liz Cheney. They had momentum with Walz'es ("these people are weird"). They should have pushed on it. They should have talked about policies that will help people economically. Hell, Stephen Colbert gave K…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:59 PM
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Maybe, but what I'm telling you is that all the convincing that Adin Ross had to do, he had already done in 2020. There weren't many new Trump voters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:47 PM
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No you don't get it. If he doesn't supply the gas cheaply, what do you think happens to EU. Do you think there will be more Putin friendly leaders coming to power or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:45 PM
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Lol do you really think Putin will just give you cheap gas now? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:40 PM
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NO, no it was not. The first and most important issue for people was still the economy. And the economy (as in people's experience of it) is terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:37 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:36 PM
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It's okay bro, the Euros are about to find out what it feels like when America stops arming Ukraine against Russia. They're going to have to step up investing even more in arms and armies. Russia will be reintegrated back into the economy. And EU will have to do a lot more austerity because all that military funding has to come from somewhere. Bye bye parts of the EU welfare states.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:29 PM
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No, no they did not. Again, Trump got fewer votes than last time. It's just that Kamala got a lot fewer votes than Biden did. It's not like there was a horde of men who switched from Dem to Republican. It's just that the Dems stayed home. And do you really think the streams of Adin Ross convinced them to stay home?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:26 PM
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So….not even addressing the video I posted? I did say he was creepy So just one of them? I only saw the first approach in the video.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:23 PM
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I do think his opener was weird and creepy. But the video below it he walked up to a woman at a music festival and just said hi and introduced himself and started talking and she seems into it. So do you think that's also creepy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:32 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:37 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:34 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:28 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:25 AM
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I don't think so. I read abortion bans also got voted for overturning in Red states.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:13 PM
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Why are people concerned with whether her son will be Chad. Why aren't they focussing on becoming Chad themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:03 PM
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I volunteer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:00 PM
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My favorite food is potato. Who the fuck is allergic to potato? But no, I won't stop dating them. Sex >>> food.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:58 PM
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Good way to give some shady website your facial data.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:57 PM
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Nah this is bullshit. I don't really want a huge amount of women. Quality of quantity. And I just want our sexual chemistry to be incredible. Beyond anything either of us has experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:46 PM
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That's a really cool and awesome job.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:02 PM
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What do you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:31 PM
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Feels like it. I feel like anytime I flirt I'm imposing myself on other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:01 PM
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It's okay to try and flirt?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:58 PM
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How does one create sexual tension without being seen as a creep and a predator?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:45 PM
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Insane af case. I can't believe men agreed to participate in this. Degenerates.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:36 PM
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And now I'm madly querying chatgpt, trying to match symptoms. Overall, chatgps responses have been v encouraging. If I go by them, then I don't have what I'm afraid I might have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:39 PM
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Actually let me clarify. The doctor identified what seems to be an infection. This might be present in another area of the body and might be chronic. Isn't super likely, but is always possible. He has asked me to come back tomorrow for some tests. If the infection is present in the other area and is chronic, then my life just got more difficult. Sigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:38 PM
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Today was a shit day. I have to go get some medical tests done tomorrow. Life can be so shit sometimes. The world is truly an unfair place. Sorry if this is woe is me. I'm just having a bad time tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:35 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:49 PM
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Day 17 of dailyposting. Today is a difficult day. The doctor identified an infection that might be hard to treat and might cause complications in the surgery. If the infrction can't be treated I'll get the surgery anyway and if there are complications that ruin the outcome, then I'll just kill myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:29 PM
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Ignore all the jerks tbh. You're correct. For parents, their kids should come first, always.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:00 PM
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I actually agree with you. If you're going to have kids, they come first, always. If you want to fuck around, don't fucking have kids. A nonparent guy doing this is fine. A parent needs to save and give all his wealth to his kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:57 PM
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I know. Doesn't change how I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:59 AM
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idc, she can murder babies in her spare time and I'll still be validated if I can make her cum on my dick. The only thing that makes me lose attraction to hot women is if they have a shitty voice - think Gloria from Modern Family.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:04 AM
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Only the hot women. Honestly I feel like if I can make a hot woman cum, then my masculinity gets validated.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:01 AM
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This just makes me mad. She deserves better.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:33 AM
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<image> Women of PPD, is this true? Can men never relate to women's sexuality and love?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:31 AM
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No, I won't always feel that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:14 AM
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Prostitution sex is a lie. She doesn't really want you. Most FA men don't want prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:09 AM
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Thanks man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:04 AM
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Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:01 AM
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Booked an appointment for the doctor. I am nervous.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:56 AM
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Could be. But afaik most women want their bad boy to fuck them, not rot in prison. So she's rather exceptional.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:56 AM
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One could say the same about her trauma. People will share their vulnerabilities when they feel comfortable. Please stop judging people for that. I also dislike the framing of "make it completely about himself" as if his feelings of inadequacy simply don't matter at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:55 AM
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Yes but being jelly because her husband ISN'T in prison is something else. Imagine being happy that your husband is away and you can't fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:22 AM
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No. I hope abortions are legalized and available for free everywhere anytime. Like the Opera meme. You get an abortion, you get an abortion, everyone gets an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:15 AM
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While what you say is objectively true, Europe is racist af and I want to see it suffer. I probably will burn in hell tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:13 AM
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Me too, but lots of short people aren't. It's imperative that we help out the next generation of short men by not letting them be born.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:11 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:10 AM
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You know they won't even let me get a vasectomy in my country. Highest population in the world and govt be like have 2 kids and be 30+ years old and only them can you be allowed a vasectomy. Fuck it, Imma go to dubai and get it done.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:09 AM
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Short people should be spared existence because it's miserable for them. Same with autistic people, people with Downs, people for whom genetic diseases run in their family, etc etc. Once abortion is legal you can abort all the defective babies. The only men who exist will all be born with Chad genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:08 AM
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It will allow people to prevent short people from being born. Any short people it will be legal to abort. Do you care about the plight of short men? Ugly men? Men with Downs?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:05 AM
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Just DM it to everyone you trust, including me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:04 AM
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Old people really like the buttoned down neat good boi look. My mom is the same. She thinks anything except a side part in the hair = ladka bigad gaya.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:03 AM
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I suffer from me who has no understanding of fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:02 AM
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Beuh I need women like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:01 AM
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I agree with you. Please convince women to be hornier. I want a society where people be having sex all the time. Sex at work. Sex in the bus. Sex on the school playground. Just anywhere, anytime.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:01 AM
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Try it out for science and let me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:58 AM
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Okay, I found 2 studies. I think this should suffice. I will look for more studies after breakfast.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:58 AM
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Jaw surgery and hair implant lead to penis in vagina tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:35 AM
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Okay found one such study.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:31 AM
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I need penis inside vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:30 AM
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Is a secret for now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:13 AM
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Today I have 2 things to do. Book a hotel for my trip. Find the studies that will let me convince the doctor that I need surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:10 AM
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Virat Kohli, is that you ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:06 AM
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Me who's begun to swear off video games and has never touched weed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:04 AM
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Doesn't work unless you're rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:03 AM
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To the surprise of absolutely no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:02 AM
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That shit doesn't last beyond 25. LPT get a sport you actually enjoy playing and youll always be fit. Also I learnt this super recently, but apparently if you live in an area with clean air, your skin clears up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:00 AM
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Not Western. But I support Putin against Ukraine. Europe needs to be taught a lesson.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:58 AM
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What do you even shout on the pitch?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:56 AM
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Keeper as long as I find her hot and she loves my cock.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:55 AM
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The risk is that when your beliefs rupture instantaneously, some men can't handle it. I almost wanted to commit suicide when I first realised it. That shit hurts. Even 12 years later I remember when it happened and how it happened. I didn't eat for 3 days after that. I was so depressed. I legit wanted to die then.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:54 AM
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Are you a dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:51 AM
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I'd feel validated if women constantly compliment my looks and express their desire to want to sleep with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:50 AM
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I don't think this will ever apply to me because I never want kids. But man I am afraid that it will apply to the women I want to date and I won't get as much sex as I want. And that thought is depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:49 AM
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Ite not a self help book at all. It's more a cultural critique book. Of sorts. A second one I read many years ago was called Empire of Illusion by Chris Hedges. It's an easy read, and basically his thesis is that America sucks because people don't want to devote time to learning and reading. Instead they are distracted by media. He goes on a book length rant against the WWE, the porn industry, and LA culture. It was very funny to read, because he paints a fully doom and gloom picture of America.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:32 PM
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I always thought this was lame as a kid. Like okay, why couldn't they just talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:28 PM
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Someone already did that on YouTube - they did a gauntlet of Chad guy likes vs fatslob woman likes. The ratio was 100 something matches for Chad. 400 something matches for fatslob.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:26 PM
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Only one way to find out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:22 PM
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Oh I thought you were Indian.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:18 PM
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I do have friends doing PhD level research in social sciences. I'll tell you what my friend told me about Graeber. She found him uncritical af. She gave one example from his Utopia of Rules which is about bureaucracy. Early in the book there's some graph of productivity vs # of managers or somesuch. The important point is Graeber says "this is what I imagine the graph would look like" and draws a graph. She got mad at that. She was like why the fuck would you posit a hypothetical instead of goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:14 PM
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David Graeber is trash. All my friends who are social science researchers are like he's trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:08 PM
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I actually did read a very seemingly pretentious book last year. It's called Self Made by Tara Isabella Burton. It traces the idea of the self made man, where and how it originated from and how it leads to influencer culture. ETA: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/tara-isabella-burton/self-made/9781541789012/?lens=publicaffairs
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:07 PM
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Arendt is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:05 PM
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How to obtain without prescription?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:04 PM
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This is brutal truth. I'm lowkey sick of every other dude talking about how he's so into philosophy and then you ask them what kind and they're only into Stoicism and Marcus Aurelius
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:03 PM
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Mfw I'm a man and read both speculative fiction and non fiction
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:02 PM
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Dafuq does this do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:58 PM
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Tfw 6&7 are the hottest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:55 PM
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Boobies?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:54 PM
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I'm ngl I never got her appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:51 PM
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It's true bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:50 PM
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What song are you dancing to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:53 PM
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Okay sorry, that was rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:17 PM
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Ok, Ben Shapiro.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:16 PM
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You implied alldat
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:12 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:07 PM
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Younger Boss Babe. I don't want a tradwife, because they all want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:06 PM
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Oh lol, didn't see that. ETA: no wait she says "laddies", not ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:05 PM
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USPS ? NOAA ? Libraries? A dating site isn't hard to run in terms of the tech. It's a solved problem and the govt can easily hire ex Tinder employees.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 02:16 PM
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1) free plastic surgery for everyone 2) free therapy for everyone 3) research into teaching men how to flirt and approach women without being seen as creepy 4) government run dating sites 5) reinvigorating third places I won't do free childcare because single parents don't get to date 😙🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 02:02 PM
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Well then maybe I'd just have to prove it to him just how much he's actually way superior to the dredges of my past. If you can actually demonstrate that, then yeah you'll be golden. Just a tip but guys are afraid of being the stable relationship guy as opposed to the exciting bad boy. Make him feel that he's the latter for you and you'll have him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:59 PM
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Yes but my point was to demonstrate how men feel. Not what is correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:54 PM
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What men feel is that she's just saying that but she would break her rule if a man she found attractive was in the picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:45 PM
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I said it feels that way to the men. Because if they were that attractive she would have casual with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:38 PM
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The belief or the feeling is that change and growth = growing up = focussing on things that are more prudent and more about raising kids = finding partners who women don't find as exciting and as attractive but can be good fathers. So no matter what, it feels like the men in a woman's past who got casual sex, she was way more into.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:29 PM
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So face is a weird one because I have legit seen ugly women have attractive kids. It's like women who have masculine af features are ugly. But those features get passed on to their sons. And the son is born a Chad. Height is also weird because I've seen the same parents give birth to a guy who is 5'7" and another who is 6'. But overall, even if they do reproduce, it will only be with taller men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:02 PM
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No like they will produce sons who won't reproduce cuz we just banned shit genetic males from reproducing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 11:57 AM
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Okay yeah he did, you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 11:31 AM
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That's completely fair tbh. And you deserve someone who will accept and love the real you. It's just for a lot of men, even when they know rationally that you were not as into your casual sex partners, it won't stem the feeling they have that they're inferior to your ex partners. It's something I also struggle with. I've seen so many women here talk about how casual sex is just good enough man + horny + maybe alcohol. And yet I can't shake the feeling that casual sex only happens to the best loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:35 AM
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I mean if it's real then she's quite the exception. When women say they want bad boys, they don't say actually in prison rn. Like who would want to be her bf ? You go to prison and she fucks other guys while you're in there. Lol @ her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 10:22 AM
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Where
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:43 AM
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I don't know what you're talking about because OP never said "I don't share it willingly". He said that when he shares that hes only in it for the sex, the interest dries up. That's the opposite of dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:42 AM
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Hear me out. What if we had a govt mandated dick measuring center where all the dudes could go and get their dicks measured. Both length and girth. And then that data would be fed into a dating app account for them. That way you knew for sure that there was no lying whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:40 AM
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Telling short men who can't get a date because of their height to get over it is heightism. Y'all lack empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:29 AM
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The way they say "he's too short" and laugh. It really bothers me that if men did the opposite they would be seen as misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:27 AM
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Attractive and poor, but I get to be so attractive that horny neglected housewives approach me for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:18 AM
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Also I really want the source for this. Need to see the responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:16 AM
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Also I really want the source for this. Need to see the responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:16 AM
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She's jealous of the wives who go to visit their husband in prison. In prison. She's sad because her husband isn't a locked up criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:14 AM
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The average dude who doesn't get casual sex, if he learns about your past, will feel like those other men were uber hot which is why you had casual sex with them. But you find him hot which is why you don't want casual sex with him :/
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:07 AM
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This is dismissive af.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:04 AM
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Being a mormon sounds fun. Imagine having a literal harem of beautiful young white women. Constant nonstop sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:02 AM
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i hate to ask, but would it be possible for you to move to a new country? It is possible but either I move to the US where the waitlist for a green card is decades long for people from India. Or I go to a European country and have language issues because I can't speak German/French/Spanish/other inferior languages. I refuse to go to the UK because it's become a trash heap of a collapsing economy with high af crime rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:42 AM
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damn, I empathise with his friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:40 AM
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Plot twist: his friend borrowed his phone to search for engagement rings.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:36 AM
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There's too many damn mosquitoes here. I want to genocide mosquitoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:35 AM
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Not really. Or not to the extent they exist in the West. There are socioeconomic categories. But like 99% of people get married and have kids before they touch 30. From that point on their lives are about raising the kid and working 10+ hours a day to advance their careers. No hobbies. Nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:33 AM
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Oh you're the one who made the post about partyboys and having missed out. Yeah I felt you on that one. I too missed out on young relationships. Now I'm afraid anyone I meet won't be interested in doing young couple things. Although I do have some hope because I'm childfree so maybe I can find some wild soul willing to experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:25 AM
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I'm v glad for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:18 AM
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Was it a SquatUniversity video?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:14 AM
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If this counts then I have a hyuuge circle lol. Lots of really close friends separated by distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:08 AM
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Morality is meaningless. All moral sentiments are just emotions run amok. All morality is subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:07 AM
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Was going through old posts of mine. Saw an argument I had with a PPDer. She was giving me grief for my obsession with wanting to be the best sex partner for any woman I date. Went through her comments out of curiosity. Lo and behold, she's talking about how she had an FWB who was toxic but better than lovers before and after. It's like the memes write themselves, smh. Ladies who are reading this - some of us men want to be the best, and if we're not and there's nothing that can be done to chang…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 11:59 PM
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Oh wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:46 PM
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Thick is Natasha Nice. She used to be p curvy and then she gained some more weight and reached perfection.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:13 PM
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She's not thicc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:01 PM
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Short, or avg height. Thiccc. Chubby. Big boobs. Black hair. Cute face. Button nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:46 PM
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Yeah that makes sense. When someone says exploring the city, I imagine they've seen every damn landmark and semi famous spot and tried out every famous and semi famous food joint etc. Gone bar hopping across the city etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:45 PM
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Tough choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:34 PM
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Hmm. There's only one of that kind of spot in my city. Apart from that it's all restaurants and bars and shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:31 PM
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If you have a daughter and she reproduces and has a son, he will have hair loss and be sad. For the sake of preventing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:30 PM
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Imagine a boarding where bullies from every school get sent. It's a boarding school full of incredible violence, sexual abuse and rape and deprivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:27 PM
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Well if the men stop reproducing, then the women who carry those genes won't exist. The ones who do and reproduce, will only carry on for 1 generation more.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:24 PM
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how you don't know your city's/town's key spots relevant to going on dates Need to get dates for that first. Some men simply don't
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:19 PM
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Brutal af.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:17 PM
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I have thick eyebrows. Reading this makes me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:09 PM
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I do. Also men with a small dick. Or men with hair loss. Or men who have any kind of genetic disease. Also ugly men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:05 PM
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The point is I think most men are like me, even the perpetually forever alone ones. An AI gf won't solve their loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:31 PM
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I get that. I just feel like if I have to sell off what little self respect I have to get sex, then I'm better off just dying alone. Not saying I wouldn't work on a relationship issue, but I refuse to be desperate when I'm in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:21 PM
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Just be childfree. Kids are a burden. It even leaves you open to fuck hot single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:56 PM
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Heh, ngl I'm a 32 yo virgin, but even I have more self respect than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:53 PM
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I agree for the most part. Things get a little bit iffier if kids are involved. For me, if kids are involved then you owe it to them to stay unless your SO cheats. If you don't stick around for the kids then you're a shitty person who is and will always be a failure of a parent and a human being and you deserve to have your reproductive organs medically removed so you can never have kids again. But if you're childless, do whatever you need to feel happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:51 PM
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No they won't. I have 0 interest in an AI gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:10 AM
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what's the alternative though That's exactly the problem and the plight of neurodivergent men. There are NO good options. And with neurodivergent men outnumbering women by like 3 to 1 iirc, the life of neurodivergent men is a hellscape with no romance or sex. Not to mention masking causes low self esteem which is unattractive to women, so it might not even work. It works for women because men don't care about a woman having low self esteem that much. Women don't have to be the pursuers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:03 PM
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Maybe but my point is women DO get flak for their virginity. Not that many dudes prize it despite online rhetoric. Most of the ones who care that much are young guys. Women have an easier time losing it if they don't disclose it, since their role is passive. But society does treat them as weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:35 PM
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Check out askmen. Women ask about virginity. Loads of men are like eww no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:31 PM
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No I did not read wrong https://highlandhosp.com/what-does-masking-mean-in-mental-health/ https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/masking#:~:text=Masking%20is%20a%20strategy%20used,access%20to%20an%20autism%20diagnosis. <image> Nope. It's not. For a lot of men it is. We find women's positive sexual regard as validating. And we can't change what feels validating to us since the feelings generated to external stimulus are not under conscious control.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:22 PM
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Tbh virgin women DO get the same treatment. I've seen lots of posts of virgin women being rejected for being one. However they play a passive role in the act of sex and in pursuing people, so it's very easy for them to lose it if they don't say anything. For men that's not possible. And that sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:17 PM
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Masking is a skill that most people can learn From what I've read it's considered toxic and has negative effects on mental health. And for the love of God please decenter women..... This is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:09 PM
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Depends. I'd ask her how I compare and leave based on her response.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:00 PM
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Thank you. Where can I find this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:43 PM
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Yeah I really am not sure if I know how to flirt. I doubt I could do it if I was put on the spot. I just wish being straightforward wasn't stigmatized.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:36 PM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:22 PM
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That's what I think, but the doom part is that feminists think sexual harassment is any kind of sexual expression that us unwanted. This lends an aura of subjectivity to it. More importantly, asking a woman for sex or flirting with her in a more sexually uninhibited manner or giving her sexual compliments would also be deemed as harassment - BUT, those are things people do sometimes to establish consent. People don't ask people giving someone a sexual compliment. So it becomes that the things pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:12 PM
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On how we need a very clear definition of what is and what isn't sexual harassment. A definition that is not subjective, and is clear and precise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:06 PM
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Day 13 of DailyPosting After 3 days if no doomscrolling, I ended up doomscrolling all day today :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:02 PM
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Yeah well then that norm needs to be reset so that it's only harassment if and only if a clear NO is transgressed. I did forget to mention that yes the venue matters, a road or a mall where people congregate is not an acceptable venue for making an approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:09 AM
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it is perfectly acceptable to walk up to a strange woman and ask if you can fuck her in the ass. In the right venue, absolutely. Just not on a road or in a shopping mall or a cafe or a classroom. In any kind of sociable setting, a bar, a pub, a club etc I absolutely think it's okay to go up to a woman and ask her if you can fuck her in the ass. Not illegal. Not immoral. And I don't really believe in the idea of an objective or binding system of morality anyway. But I do believe in power and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:00 AM
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I believe the legal definition is all that should be, and I believe mine is perfectly sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:48 AM
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The U.S. department of Justice are feminists? Hah! That’s laughable. P sure the people who wrote the laws on what is sexual harassment ARE. If you don’t like the terms, how about go to university, get a PhD and start conducting publically funded research and the like, Funding and entire departments are controlled by feminists. It's like trying to be a Marxian economist in the UChicago department. They might have one token one, but nothing systemic will change because of the people who hold power…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:36 AM
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Well those experts are usually feminists, and I disagree with this feminist idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:23 AM
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There is not a cut and dried answer. You also have to distinguish between the harassment from the harassed's perspective from the harasser. Is a man approaching a woman for a date a harasser? Probably not. But is a woman is approached dozens of times by dozens of men being harassed? I would say so And this is where I disagree entirely with feminists. Harassment needs to have a perfectly clear cut definition with 0 scope for subjectivity and vagueness. A simple rule - harassment is if there is an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:06 AM
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Hmm, why make sexual violence such an umbrella term. The word violence has a lot more negative implications than something an unwanted advance warrants. A dude trying to flirt or asking someone out doesn't really deserve that categorisation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:18 AM
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Pretty much. I define need in the way drug addicts need their drug of choice. They would take their own life if they can't get the next fix. So that's a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:35 AM
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No, because otherwise Issac Newton would have died before he reached 30. Same with Nikola Tesla.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:14 AM
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That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:24 PM
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Maybe I do lack empathy on this issue because I'm not a woman, but honestly even in your example of the women who tried to take her own life, if the dude was just lying/cheating on her then I don't see why her attempt should be seen as his fault. Like some crazy women try to take their own lives if a guy leaves them, wouldn't blame the guy for that Or call it abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:24 PM
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Even if they wear condoms?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:06 PM
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I don't see it as exploiting a mental weakness. If they truly had a mental weakness, like they were medically deemed retarded then sure that would be predatory. But lying to a grown adult isn't really predatory to me in the context of sex and relationships, unless it's for stuff that will harm you like STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:03 PM
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I disagree. I think only the most extreme examples count as predatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:53 PM
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I don't think that's sexual violence or abuse. I just deem it as lying. Nothing that's punishable by jail (unlike sexual violence).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:50 PM
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I said some men, didn't I?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:49 PM
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But then, wouldn't she be violating consent if the man really wanted a "real" vagina as opposed to one that had to be created by a doctor?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:48 PM
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Although what if a man wants a (for a lack of a better term) "real" vagina only. Would she then be violating consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:44 PM
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From what I've heard transwomen who have had surgery have a vagina that is from the outside indistinguishable from a cis womans vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:42 PM
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By that logic a woman wearing a pushup bra does the same because some men only want to sleep with women with big boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:41 PM
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because they have tricked them into having a sexual contact they did not consent to By that logic a woman wearing a pushup bra does the same because some men only want to sleep with women with big boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:41 PM
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I've never watched it but I hate it because I envy those women. I want to be able to sleep with lots of women the way they sleep with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:35 PM
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I get the STD point and that's fair but how is a trans person not disclosing causing harm. At best it's wasting that persons time somewhat since they will see that she has a penis and walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:28 PM
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So a married guy pretending to be single would be tantamount to abuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:10 PM
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No my question is about all lying. The seed of the discussion was the China Mieville incident but my leftist friends were like lying about stuff is abuse in a relationship, and my normie friends we're like no it isn't. And tbh I agree with my normie friend that lying (which includes cheating) isn't abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:09 PM
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So if a transwoman lies about her transness then is she violating consent too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:01 PM
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So of a transwoman did that it would be sexual violence too?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:00 PM
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Tbh women saying they won't date virgins makes me want to become the guy who promises he wants a relationship with women but is really sleeping with loads of other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:00 PM
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Tbh I don't feel that it's abusive until a woman actually drugs a man and/or makes false accusations of rape like Cardi B did. Plain lying is something where if a man gets played I see it more as his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:56 PM
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So one of my non lefty friends argued that it wasn't a violation of consent, because if this were the case then transpeople who don't reveal their trans status are also violating consent. I'm curious what you would think of that argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:53 PM
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Nah, I'll just have a deadline after which I will give up. For me that's 10 years. What I need to do now is to start working everyday towards getting laid a lot by becoming the guy who gets a lot of sex. Try and spend every hour of every day working towards becoming that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:47 PM
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No, but lots of dudes lie to get women younger. Like think dudes in their early 30s pretending they're mid 20s to date women in their early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:43 PM
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Yeah no, none of that pedophile shit. What types of lies would count as abuse for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:42 PM
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Asking because some leftist friends were talking about this leftist author named China Mieville and how he was abusive. By the admission of the woman herself he lied to her about wanting her exclusively when he was really also dating/sleeping with other women. And I personally don't think that counts as abuse. Dbag behavior sure, but not abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:40 PM
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Fuck it. I won't give up so soon. I'll just lie if I get a lot of rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:34 PM
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The end goal is a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 05:31 PM
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From what I've seen on r/bald, a lot of men say they don't get much off of dating apps. It's something I'm worried about as I'm eventually going bald. Although I do plan to save up and get a hair transplant in the future. But sometimes even those hair fall out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 05:19 PM
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Okay no I misread your comments. I thought you meant the bottom 30%. To them the advice is to either become someone who women would only marry for their money, or MGTOW or suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 04:20 PM
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What advice will the pill community give to men who will never be a top % guy? The advice given is usually suicide or MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:51 PM
1

Must be white. White people have a different cachet in Asian countries purely due to skin color.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:18 PM
1

I'm in South Asia. What you've said isn't true for here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:12 PM
1

Which country.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:11 PM
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That's fair. Tbvh one part of it has to do with how guys are conditioned. Rare is the guy who will go even to Reddit and seek out advice. Or ask him female friends for advice. or like read a book lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:39 PM
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Do you honestly think it would make any difference to their response rate? Because I doubt it ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:50 PM
1

Yes, but what do they do about the pictures because unless they're The Rock, they won't look good in pictures, period. Women can get away with wigs, but men are mocked(by both men and women) for things like wigs, makeups and lift shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:43 PM
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Give tips on this. Also what should balding/bald men do, since they don't look good in photos no matter what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:31 PM
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I will say it depends on where you are and the demographics of that place. Where I live dating apps are saturated with men. It's like 9 men for every woman on an app. In that environment, even WITH good pictures, there's even odds that you won't even get a single match. So I don't think it's only putting in more effort that will solve this. Getting more women onto the apps is what will help.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:31 PM
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That all men want skinny women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:45 AM
1

I like being lazy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 10:57 AM
2

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:38 PM
3

Modern af.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 04:09 PM
1

Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 06:05 PM
1

I'm a reader first tbh, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 05:35 PM
1

The soundtrack is okayish tbh. P3s soundtrack was better imo. Also ngl disagree on the random playlists bit. I have OST playlist for when I read. Everytime thr music lines up with a good scene, it's frisson inducing. Happens more often than you'd expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 05:27 PM
2

I played some Persona 4 today. Couldn't really get into it. For some reason as I've gotten older, video games seem to have lost their charm. Not sure why. Maybe it's because a video game feels constrained. It gives you the illusion of choice, but most everything comes previsualised and preimagined. Not so the case with books. With books your mind does the imagining and it has no constraints on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 05:19 PM
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0 empathy for attractive people's dating struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 05:14 PM
0

Another reason to never consume caffeine ☺
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 05:11 PM
3

Discovered this absolute banger of a track in the Jujutsu Kaisen OST and now I can't stop listening. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8kRvGk4nL4 So good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 05:11 PM
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OP this varies from guy to guy but 150lbs at 5'4" isn't fat to me. Also some men atleast actively prefer fat women. Like there's no call to invest in a person in the hope that they will become more attractive. Those curvy women are at their most attractive to that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:19 PM
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OP, I know you've put in that edit but IQ really is a BS metric. Here, read this http://bactra.org/weblog/523.html
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 03:35 PM
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I did NOT waste all day doomscrolling on Reddit. This is a win I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 04:36 PM
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I'm sorry but it's v different for men & women. Because if a man who's older doesn't know how to flirt, and then goes and tries to, it will be awkward, he will be labelled as creepy and then women will treat him with hostility.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:29 PM
2

Tried it. Didn't help much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:41 PM
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I mean it's hard to take life seriously if you feel a dread in the pit of your stomach that every woman will react in disgust if she found out about your inexperience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:20 PM
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That's exactly it though. There's basically no path through which a late bloomer can learn the skills necessary to flirt and seduce women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 11:51 AM
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Yes but the frustration of those who didn't by that age is justified. They won't ever get any kind of romantic or sexual success because they can't get through the awkward phase that teenagers get to bumble through, because society won't give them any grace at that age. Also I originally responded to the commenter saying making friends and socializing is helpful. It's a counterpoint that socializing won't get you to learn how to flirt, so she's not correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:47 AM
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I've done this. Just got told to talk to women nicely. Nothing more. The thing is women don't usually do the approaching + their rejection rate for approaching is super low. So they don't really know what men go through. Thus it's hard for them give advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:34 AM
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Most women do care though. Especially once you reach your 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:30 AM
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Practice what? Flirting? Htf do you practice flirting with a platonic female friend? Plus telling her that I want to practice flirting on her feels weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:27 AM
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Depends on the man tbh. I tried this a couple months ago. Promised myself that I'd be as sociable as I can. Wouldn't spend a single minute inside the house if I could avoid it. I ended up joining a library to study and also joining a bunch of hobbies. I didn't meet a single woman who was single and age appropriate. Sometimes it's also the culture and demographics. If you're 30+ in an area where people settle down by 22, you're fucked even if you have the charisma of Will Smith.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:55 AM
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The problem is men who don't have a certain number of notches under their belt feel emasculated and less than, compared to their normal peers. It's impossible to relax in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:45 AM
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The problem is if you're beyond the teenages and you're awkward with this stuff then you get labelled a creep. That's a very high cost to try and practice
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:57 AM
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That's fair. But if someone already has those skills but doesn't know how to flirt or how to make a move, how does he learn those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:53 AM
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Tbh I'm not sure how becoming platonic friends will teach men how to read the signs and how to flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:52 AM
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I'm a childfree guy, which is why I made sure to specify "househusband" Instead of SAHD. Having no kids + living in a smaller living space (so I don't have much space to clean), would mean a relatively easy and responsibility free life. Like I just have to cook and clean. I can do laundrry once a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:18 PM
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Tbh people who criticize childfree people should be burdened with mandatory working as a child nanny or something in their spare time. If you like kids so much, you spend all your time caring for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:22 PM
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Childfree. Always.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:21 PM
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Nah, female friendships are amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:37 PM
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And people from ALL nationalities are this bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:36 PM
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I used to do this. Also have done 6AM MMA at different times. I always end up giving up when I get an anxiety episode. Sigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:36 PM
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The edge mellows down once you cross 27. It never completely goes away. Edgelords mature into more subtle humor. But they do remain edgy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:29 PM
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Enlighten those of us with 1 brain cell.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:28 PM
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Mfw what. Out of curiosity, what nationality are these people?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:27 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:25 PM
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B. Easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:24 PM
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This question is trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:24 PM
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Yikes. I'd have left. Man is a saint.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:23 PM
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I want a woman with a vagina. Does that mean I'm expected to have a vagina ? OP this is a very weird question.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:17 PM
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How do you break the ice. This is something I'm bad at. Complimenting something about them feels disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:16 PM
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So cold approach is meeting a woman who doesn't know you, and talking to her, and then getting her digits, and maybe asking her out on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:16 PM
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Nah. I'm okay with 1 & 2. 3 I'm slighly iffy because women taller than me are unlikely to have the mind of curvy big titty phusique that drives me wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:42 PM
1

Hmm. Well it would still be nice if she spoilt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:56 AM
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Yeah I think it works in those instances.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:28 AM
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No it isn't. My grandma was very lucky that she had an education. She was able to provide for my father as a single mom in a very conservative country.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:26 AM
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Tbh I wouldn't mind if somehow the norms switched so that it was women who were supposed to provide for the man. I'd just be a househusband and do all my hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:25 AM
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Yes. I want a hair transplant, chin and jaw implants, a facelift and maybe some chemical peels to improve my skin quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:22 AM
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This I agree with. The stigma of the word creep must end.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:14 AM
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Tbh shoot your shot I guess, but I think this works only in bars and club etc. Where inhibitions are lowered due to alcohol. I've heard of cold approaches working in other places, but I've never seen anyone irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:13 AM
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Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:11 AM
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OP the scenario you described of men trying to rizz up random girls they meet at the mall or the grocery store etc. What's the success rate of these men. Because afaik cold approach is a very low effectiveness approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:34 AM
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In what way does approaching any and every female with "ey bb want sum dik" not meet these guidelines of "indiscriminately sending the same unsolicited message?" But I literally talked about a different scenario. A guy has been talking to women in a new social circle for 4 months +. On the 5th month he asks out 3 women. Boom, labelled a creep. Yes, because - again - it's about the women being treated as interchangeable holes, and not individuals. How? Now he's actually talked to these women. Aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:47 PM
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Fine, I think there is something wrong with spam. BUT I don't equate approaching someone to spam. I don't think people coming up to me in malls to sell me shit = spamming me for eg. So I disagree with that framing entirely. Also man who approach multiple women in a short span of time in the same social circle after having some level of conversation (ie not 0 interest) STILL get labelled creep by women. Like if a man joins a hobby, goes there regularly for 4 months, in the 5th month he asks out 3…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:06 PM
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Do you answer spam calls? I certainly don't go around shaming spam callers. It's their job. They make money off of it. Can't blame them for that. What's wrong with spamming your dick to any and every woman you know, regardless of indicators of interest?" How about when the man ask, the woman can either reject or accept? If she accepts, thats an Indicator of Interest right there. Is "male sexuality" spamming your dick to anyone and everyone with the correct hole? Make sexuality (and dating for me…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:52 PM
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Noted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:20 PM
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Double agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:05 PM
1

You make a somewhat compelling case.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:29 PM
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Aah okay my bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:29 PM
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Would you want her then though? I wouldn't. It's clear that shes not really into ME then.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:27 PM
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Nah, lots of professors are dumb. Case in point is Richard Dawkins. An utter idiot of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:26 PM
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Partial Differential Equation lecture? Damn you severely calculus pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:25 PM
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But is loses attraction for you then why stay with her? Either change to be the one she's attracted to or leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:24 PM
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No no it isn't. There's a book I read by Clarisse Thorn about her experiences inflitrating the PUA community. She posted a survey she had about what women feel about men asking. Quite a few of the women HATED a man asking. I read one of the responses that said she'd drop the man because he clearly wasn't man enough :/
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:11 PM
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Ive read that women don't like it if men ask. That theyd rather the man just mindread and figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:53 PM
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Same. If she's not utterly into me then I don't want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:40 PM
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The sub is askwomenover30, so 30+
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:38 PM
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Yeah this bothers me too. What counts as pushy and what doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:37 PM
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Kek. Every time I read threads like these I feel my worst fears being confirmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:31 PM
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High Libido please. Sex is validating and that's why I want lots of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:14 PM
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Really need to learn how to stop being a nice boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:11 PM
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I agree. I used to be an absolute Ben Shapiro tard in my early 20s, always telling people how I am all about facts and logic and rationality. Life bitchslapped that delusion out of me. Truth is I am more emotional and experience more emotional turbulence than most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:31 PM
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It's social repercussions as well tbh. I've seen women make fun of guys because they asked lots of women out in the social circle. Some women say that's creepy, but why though? If a man wants sex, and he's politely asking women to see who would be into it, then what's wrong? So essentially male sexuality is demonized, made fun of and stigmatized. Men run the risk of social ostracisation if they ever make women feel awkward(even if they didn't do it on purpose). But if you think men don't try the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:24 PM
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Tbh Option 2 with more support for mental health for men including free therapy, community support, free plastic surgery as well as free and legal euthanasia.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:12 AM
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If the vaccine was accessible then yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:37 PM
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Like I said if an abortion is accessible, and she doesn't avail it, then 100% it's a choice to keep and have the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:30 PM
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Women don’t “choose” to bring children into the world. If she doesn't get an abortion despite it being accessible then she absolutely is choosing to bring a kid into this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:24 PM
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To be honest I never did think of it this way. But my issue is that why should men who actually took all the precautions and were unlucky be punished if the woman chose to keep the baby ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:14 PM
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Now that I think about it, there isn't any such incentive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:03 PM
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Oh so you're saying that the policy of men paying child support is an incentive to not impregnate women? Hmm, never thought of it this way ngl. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:01 PM
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Err in this scenario the man took the precautions, it just didn't work. Sometimes even if you get a vasectomy the woman ends up pregnant. Super rare but it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:54 PM
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I actually think we need to go beyond charity and financial aid into full blown state support. I just don't want the guy paying out of his pocket (except in taxes).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:30 PM
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The morality argument is something I'm not at all sympathetic to (to be very honest). I don't care what a woman's idea of morality is, having a baby means being able to care for the baby, and they absolutely should abort (assuming they have access) if they're not ready. Like I'm going to be harsh but if a woman didn't abort a child because of her own morals, then she has 0 sympathy or empathy from me when it comes to any issues she faces being a mother. She dug her own grave. I do agree that wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:11 PM
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Yeah it's not a simple issue I agree. What I'm talking about is the very specific case where he takes the necessary precautions, she still gets pregnant, he doesn't want a child, she decides she wants to keep the child, and she has access to free abortion (maybe she lives in Europe lol). Anything other than this, I'd say the man is on the hook. The problem is how does the legal system know that this was the case? So I'm mostly for letting the men pay. I DO however think that if she commits pater…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:48 PM
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I'm actually split on this. On the one hand, men should have to pay for their kids, and deadbeat dads deserve to get fucked over. On the other hand, what if you follow all the precautions and still get a woman pregnant and she wants to keep it? Suddenly you have to pay a big chunk of your paycheque. It's not your fault. You did everything right. You're still on the hook. I feel that's unfair as fuck. I go back and forth on this. All of that being said, something that bothers me is how you said t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:08 PM
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Yes true. But then you never know who will cheat on you. It's why I always want to be and remain the guy that a woman lusts over. Being the safe option is unsafe because it's the safe guys who get cheated on. As long as she's in lust with you I doubt she will cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:03 PM
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Nah, I've read enough of these posts. Lots of people who had affairs say they did it because it made them feel wanted etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:01 PM
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Having a twitter account is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:21 PM
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I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:27 PM
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I guess I'm just looking for comeuppance of sorts. My brain imagines me being cheated on and so I'm looking for cases where the cheater got hurt 10x how much they hurt their partner. That + it's morbid curiosity of sorts + my brain does this in a bid to try and protect me from future pain, by seeing all that is possible and figure out defense mechanisms (it's part of my Generalized Anxiety Disorder)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:26 PM
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Tbh I wish the person who did the affair suffered more, way more, and with no help Or outlet. I just feel so incredibly bad for the guy who got cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 10:33 AM
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You're right I have. I tried reading it, but since it talked a lot about men who already are in a relationship I stopped reading it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:44 AM
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Mfw now I have another thing to worry about with my demeanour not being good enough for BDSM :( Sometimes I wish I were born a stereotypical alpha male who doesn't give a fuck about other people. Sigh. In any case, being cheated on has lowkey been a fear of mine since I was a kid. So although yeah if it happened to me I WOULD feel emasculated, but I'd also cut the cheater off immediately. It's just, I feel like if I can BE the exciting option, and STAY the exciting option, then I won't get cheat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:35 AM
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Here's one from our country. Seems legit ngl https://np.reddit.com/r/SupportforWaywards/s/KMxiiK2vXL
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:29 AM
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Seem real to me tbh. Too much detail, v consistent posting. Plus it's a support group, not really like an offmychest thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:26 AM
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Yeah well thats going to happen. Reddit (or really most any place) isn't kind to infidels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:25 AM
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Tbh I've never really come across a believable story of the kinky sex with ex but regular sex with current SO. The only ones I find are the ones where the ex was abusive and they had no self esteem so they went along with it, but they didn't enjoy it. So those never bother me. After all if a woman does like kinky sex, she'll like in the confines of a relationship too. This post otoh was brutal. Guy wasn't an ex, guy was an affair partner. That's like 1000x more emasculating. And add to that she …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:14 AM
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I dunno about Chadsexual tbh. What I do know is that a married life with responsibilities scares me BECAUSE that's where passion dies. Wouldn't it be better to be in a relationship while there is passion and the moment the passion diminishes, leave. Would be better than being cheated on, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:11 AM
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B<anything> is the Betrayed partner. A<anything> is the affair partner. W<anything> is the spouse that was wayward.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:09 AM
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I discovered a new subreddit. r/SupportForWaywards It's a support group for people who cheat. I can't stop reading it, and at the same time I can feel myself being traumatised by it. Holy shit. It's like morbid curiosity. I can't stop reading. I don't even have a relationship and I've never even been in one, and yet reading those posts is making me have revenge fantasies. So many posts of women cheating, then lying about it, then regretting it, then admitting that they took their SO for granted …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:59 AM
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What the fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:47 AM
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I'm glad it exists and that it flourished, but I am not a feminist and I don't think I will ever be one because I don't think women can ever empathise with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:52 AM
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I'm glad it exists and that it flourished, but I am not a feminist and I don't think I will ever be one because I don't think women can ever empathise with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:52 AM
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are you all ESL for real? Technically, I am lol. it's not a crime to make some girl uncomfortable. creepy is a description of how someone else is making YOU feel, you know a guy is creepy when he creeps you out. It is literally him being ND that is making him come off creepy, do you think it's separate somehow? The designation of "creep" carries with it the feelings of pain and shame along with actual social ostracization. It's not being jailed I guess but for a lot of people it's incredibly pai…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:12 PM
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From what I've heard, masking has been described as toxic. That's why I thought these skills can never be learned by ND.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:33 PM
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Interesting. Seems like a bunch of prudes police everyones sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:50 PM
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Yo, a chubby chaser is someone who finds chubby women hot. That's not a male version of AFBBing. It's going after what you're into.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:49 PM
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what do people want to happen then? It's simple, instead of using the word 'creep' which shames men, just let them know they're making you uncomfortable, please stop. If they still continue then yeah they're creepy and they deserve to be jailed. But until then, I feel it's unfair since you don't know if the guy is creepy or just ND. Being direct doesn't hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:48 PM
2

I agree with this. Promiscuous women are the best. I wish a lot more women were more promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:46 PM
2

Link to that podcast.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:42 PM
3

There's degrees to NDness. You know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:41 PM
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Doesn't work for Neurodivergent people sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:34 PM
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Anytime you escalate your presence someone's physical or social bubble without invitation and beyond what you'd do for a random stranger that you're not attracted to...you're crossing a boundary. How does one flirt then? Serious q. Like do men have to wait for women's invitation to flirt?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:31 PM
3

What culture is this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:28 PM
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I think if women say that they're afraid of men because some men are violent towards men and they don't know which man could be violent, then yeah I think that's fair and justified and correct. The key is that instead of saying all men are violent you say any man could be violent and we don't know which (Schrodingers Rapist) and so I am afraid. Same shit with men and women cheating on them or what the Red pill calls Beta Bucking. A few women do this, but how can one ever know if the woman you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:04 PM
1

Got banned from offmychest for saying that women cheating on men is what pushes me towards the red pill, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:46 PM
1

I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:45 PM
1

Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:43 PM
2

I mean if he's okay with gold diggers then more power to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:31 AM
1

It makes no sense to attach a "should" to feelings because you don't control how you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:10 AM
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Yeah this shit is nightmare fuel. Scary af. It makes me feel like I'll always have one foot out the door if/when I get into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:01 AM
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Cucked by Modi.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:50 AM
3

But the question is - are they with him for him or his money?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:49 AM
3

India. And here they absolutely want to hookup with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:39 AM
2

Where I'm from, even conventionally unattractive women get a thousand plus matches on dating apps. So I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:29 AM
2

Hmm, what you say could be a possible explanation. I'll go re read the study tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:38 AM
5

I'm not assuming women can only like one thing. If most of the positive ratings went to 20% of the men, then it stands to reason that women prefer 20% of the men. If they truly had diverse tastes then those positive ratings would be dispersed far more evenly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:34 AM
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which is easily explained by women having narrow, but diverse tastes Doesn't compute. If the tastes were truly diverse, the ratings wouldn't have been concentrated on 20% of the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:29 AM
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For me it's more being the guy she lusts after the most. Doesn't matter if it's casual sex guy or relationship guy. And I've seen women say that having casual sex with a guy doesn't mean she had the maximum lust for him, more that she's just generally horny plus drunk and he's in the vicinity. But I still can't shake the feeling that women find their casual sex partners more exciting and lust after them. It's also why I lowkey doubt the studies which say women don't have good casual sex experien…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:09 AM
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Source? I consistently see this claim yet when you actually dig into it, you find that many women are only attracted to a small percentage of men, which is not the same as "women are all attracted to the same small percentage of men There was that OkCupid study iirc where 80% of men didn't get much, if any, attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:07 AM
0

Nah, I'm not sure this is socialization. If I feel disrespected, I'd just leave. If I feel she loved/listed after an ex more, I'd just leave. And I'm a virgin too. The one thing we are told is that it's okay to leave if you want as a man. That's pretty much the only power we have and the only card we can play.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:04 AM
1

I'm looking at it through the childs eyes. My dad went through this. Was better than staying together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:32 PM
1

Oh no I mean to get the surgeries once I have enough money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:52 PM
1

Cut one parent off forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:28 PM
2

Jaw implants, hair transplant, facelift
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:28 PM
2

Yes. Because attraction and lust is attraction and lust. I don't blame women. I just aim to try and become the alpha or die trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:14 PM
1

Ah okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:05 PM
0

Why is extremely extroverted a red flag? Asking as an introvert who wishes he was an extreme extrovert.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:34 AM
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Only if the parents love each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:06 AM
2

That's a good thing. Marriage is an anachronism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 07:54 AM
3

That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:09 AM
1

I wouldn't say "deserve". But I've lived with a woman who was abused (my cousin). I saw the dysfunction. I think most men should avoid such women for their own sanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:08 AM
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Minor correction. Some men are afraid of being "a safe option", because they associate it with a lack of sexual desire. I'd put it as associate it with a comparative lack of sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:05 AM
1

Depends on what you do in CS. If you're going to be your standard issue webdev/full stack engineer then it's completely saturated. But if you want to do something more technical then there's lots of space. Kernel devs, security researchers, computer graphics experts etc. Lots and lots of potential. But the low hanging fruit of web tech has been saturated thanks to bootcamps + lots of students in colleges.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:02 AM
3

Nah. I just think sometimes therapy doesn't work. Need to find a good therapist who empathizes plus who understands that sometimes therapy won't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:58 AM
1

Weird. I've never met anyone who had this problem in paying attention. Do you have ADHD?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 05:57 PM
2

Fair I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 04:05 PM
0

I mean dont women feel powerful in knowing that they command the attention of powerful men. Like p sure she could have told her vampire boyfriend to go kill anyone who bothered her. That's power isn't jt?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 03:02 PM
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So, books about plain jane girl who is luster after by 2 guys is not a power fantasy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:49 PM
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I don't think anyone can control who they are attracted to. The men who say women only want bad guys are just salty that they're not attractive. I know because I used to be one of those guys. Then I realised that this complaining won't get me anything, it's much better to work towards becoming more attractive via plastic surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:47 PM
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Yes that's why. If you completely deny your addictions they will resurface with a vengeance. You need to slowly titrate down. Make a goal that you won't use your phone for more than say 8 hours a day this week. Have the appblocker help. Next week make it 7. Do it this way, picking intervals you prefer (could be half an hour less every week). You'll cut it down to manageable in like 2 to 4 months. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:39 AM
1

Get an App Blocker.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:33 AM
1

Get an App Blocker. It's magic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:32 AM
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My problem is that a lot of these studies get disproven over time. Like I remember there was some study about how women on birth control preferred less masculine faces than control. And later they proved that wasn't the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:49 AM
1

Cardio is easier because it's more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:44 AM
1

I weirdly agree. Like if you're going to have a son, a woman with masculine aesthetics means the son would get the same big jawline sharp cheekbone aesthetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:38 AM
1

Where you from, where did you move to ? Also what degree did you want to pursue?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:38 AM
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I dunno. I don't think Id enjoy being a woman but that's because I've been socially conditioned into masculinity. So I guess if I were born a woman, I'd have been socially conditioned into femininity and wouldn't have cared. Tough question to answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:37 AM
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Probably a lot of them. This is the plot of every damn romance novel no? And so many of them are written by women. All of then feature some kind of ultra masculine male who could beat up all the other men. Dudes always tall with a chiseled jawline and a full head of hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:34 AM
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Happens bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:33 AM
1

Little weird but w/e.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 05:03 AM
2

The thing is, guys are mad that they don't get chased. If women aren't being chased then sure they can be mad. Iirc Taylor Swift wrote a song about this once.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:11 AM
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<image> I expected worse ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:09 AM
1

Depends on what your definition of winning is. Not being the guy women hookup with is being a loser to a lot of men(me included).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:22 PM
2

No. Mormons are scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:35 PM
2

I don't care either way. I'm 32M virgin if it matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:02 PM
5

It's over for 25+ virgins who like to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 01:04 PM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 08:11 AM
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This isn't a singular place at all. My friends are from all over. They all have the same opinion. In fact a female friend tested us on this once. She had a group photo from our college, she thought we'd pick the fairest girl. We all ended up picking the duskiest girl because she was the most beautiful by a good mile. As someone else said in this thread, it really is the facial features. Like how do you explain the popularity of Bipasha Basu? I've heard a lot about colorism but I have never seen …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 08:11 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 08:04 AM
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I doubt that. I've never met a guy who was into women because they were fair skinned. And bleach just makes people look faded af.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:55 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:33 AM
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Also I've made a post in the past about how much sexual validation matters to me. Without that Id be miserable 100% of the time. So it's like 100% miserable vs 93% miserable if we go by your scenarios. Why this particular question though? What kind of issues do women have that they can't have sex? I'm curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:52 AM
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Well 8 of those hours will be at work. The remaining hours will be split into morning and evening. And if I split the sex into 30 minutes twice a day. Then Id be feeling so high off the sex all the time that I wouldn't even care if she nags me. Hell I'd do whatever she nags me to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:50 AM
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Woman B. Sex is everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:42 AM
1

It's not a ritualistic sacrifice because in point 1 you talk about how sacrifice is done to appease. In point 2 abortion has no aspect of appeasement.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:41 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 01:51 AM
1

My cheekbones and my dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 01:42 AM
1

Hmm, ngl v unusual. With me and my friends, we all vent to each other. Nobody ever zones out. When people are venting, I give them my undivided attention. So whatever they're saying is what occupies me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:29 PM
2

Empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:04 PM
1

Wait why do you need to solve nomograms to not some out?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:58 PM
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If they're using it for arousal and gratification then isn't it the same as porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:02 PM
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What about reading smut? Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:51 PM
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It is from insecurity, but the question is - do you want her to suffer? (A lot of) women feel really hurt if you watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:48 PM
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Pay me billions of USD.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:29 PM
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1) it's transactional 2) divorce is really really hard 3) you never know for sure if they really like you or if they're being pressured by their family. 4) I didn't do anything to get that relationship. So I will always feel like I didn't deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:07 AM
1

That's some insane athleticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:48 AM
1

I'd rather get crucified than get an arranged marriage. Archaic anachronistic ass institution.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:45 AM
1

Where the fuck do you live that it's 2°C. The North Pole?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:44 AM
1

I've actually started this with wrestling. Although I haven't gone in two weeks cuz procrastinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:25 AM
1

This will eventually be solved with e-cars
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:24 AM
1

You know, I think people who were saying that sex is overrated were all people with kids. I think if you have a family and kids then your priorities change. But other than that, I think dudes will always be putting sex on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:22 AM
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Impossible to procure where I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 04:05 AM
2

How does one beat procrastination? I'm procrastinating so hard right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:46 AM
1

What is masculinity to you? Like what behaviors would be deemed masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:57 AM
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I just don't want a woman who is hypermasculine. I like to feel needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:52 AM
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Aka, they want you to listen to them vent and do nothing about i This can be useful. I let my friends vent to me for that reason. It frees up your mind temporarily so you can go do other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:28 AM
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I'm not sure to what extent this is true. Men also get told to "man up" by women a lot, when they are vulnerable. Which is a direct signal for "you are deviating from what your gender roles demands you to do and therefore you shall be shamed into compliance". ETA: also tbh I don't think this a man vs woman thing. Men definitely have fewer outlets for expressing their feelings. But I think it's more that a large subset of both men and women simply aren't all the empathetic and refuse to help anot…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 02:58 PM
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If we do have genuine feelings and we're still having sex at the same frequency then I won't leave. I will only leave if we're not having sex as often as Id like or it's not as fun anymore and she doesn't want to experiment to make it fun again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 01:16 AM
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Eh, I think I'll find one. I almost got someone that horny once. Plus I love love love thr idea of long slow extended foreplay, so I think even the ones who aren't constantly horny, I can make horny. But if she rejects sex with me all the time then yeah we'd break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:38 PM
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Lol I'm a virgin. But I know I will have that constant lust phase. I'm pretty certain I'm wired that way. I've been fantasising about this kind of stuff since I was like 7-8 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:35 PM
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I'm fine with that. My pleasure and validation is contingent on how well I can please her. So as long as she's being pleasured to the fullest, so am I. The only thing that would bother me is if the frequency of sex goes down. When I actually have chemistry with someone + I trust them and can be vulnerable with them, then I get horny. A lot. Just being around them would make me want to touch them, caress them, kiss them - all of which leads to sex. So we'd basically spend most of our time togethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:26 PM
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I don't think so. I'd find the woman with whom I share the most amount of chemistry, and then I'd just spend a long time (2-3 years) just exploring sex with her and getting really good at getting her off, doing all the kinks she likes etc. Only then will I even think of maybe finding someone else to sleep with. And that too is contingent on me being bored (lots of people say sex becomes boring once the honeymoon period is over). If that hasn't happened, I'll just stay with her wns enjoy her in e…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:19 PM
3

Lol. Yeah men don't take photos of each other all that much. Plus reading is such a solitary activity, that you'd need to ask someone to take a photo of you reading (if you're a dude)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 02:20 AM
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Wouldn't a photo of a man reading a book feel contrived af? Friends don't take photos of friends reading books, so it would have to be a contrived photo (as opposed to you being on vacation where it's the norm to click photos with each other).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:13 AM
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Yes but I don't care about pure thoughts. My point is that criticism exists for one thing and not the other (which is hypocritical) and that criticism has real life devastating consequences (which is unfair). Women and men should be allowed to date according to whatever criterion they want, and it should just be accepted that people will lie, and there's nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:03 AM
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Eh, I don't think that's true these days. There's a lot of things you can't say lest you get kicked out of your job, censured, ostracised etc. Not even racist things. I'm pretty sure that saying "it's okay to lie to women for sex" out loud will get you fired if a female colleague ever overhears you. In fact lying to get sex is even considered assault and rape. Something I find patently absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:56 AM
1

Thanks. As long as things are consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:48 AM
0

Alright fair, but then if I lie to women to get sex that's completely okay too. Women can complain all they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:42 AM
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Oh I know people are shallow. I'm okay with that. I just hope that when I do get my transplant, I won't have to use Finasteride anymore. I've looked at the MPB that's in mums side of the family and they didn't lose the front half of their hair fully until they reached 60. And if the hair transplant doesn't work out, then I'll just try other surgeries to make myself more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:47 AM
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Those guys deserve jail and worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:05 AM
1

Disagree. I come from a conservative society. Trust me, you guys don't know how good you have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:43 AM
1

Agreed that it is a damaging MESSAGE but a more important question is whether it's TRUE OR FALSE. I could tell you that most men don't want women with kids is a damaging message. Doesn't make it untrue, and you wouldn't want to tell people a lie because eventually they'll have to face the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:42 AM
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What does chase mean ? If it means trying to woo a woman who isn't interested, or is being hot and cold towards you, then yes. But if you mean not approaching women or not asking them out - then most men will never ever get asked out. That's just how it is. You could become Adonis and you'd still never get asked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:10 AM
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No. People are allowed to have whatever expectations they have. You cannot expect people to temper their expectations for some kind of communal good. Women have every right to seek out and chase after what they want. Men do too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:55 AM
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Meh. This old men dating younger women is mostly a fantasy anyway. Very few old men can pull it off, regardless of looks and stays, because very few young women actually want to date an older guy. He could get plastic surgery and look 22, but most young women still wouldn't date him (unless hes lying about his age). I don't know why you're obsessed with this OP, but irl it's a nonissue.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:50 AM
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Unless you're a good looking man. Which is why I'm saving up for plastic surgery, and I plan to lie to women about wanting a serious relationship just so I can get laid. I'm done pretending to be a nice guy. I'm slowly coming to accept that I'm a piece of shit person. And I'm okay with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:37 AM
1

Shallow things are acceptable in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:26 AM
-2

Oh okay, fair. Yeah I guess it's just one of those double standards. I will say this though, most men would only use a single mom for sex. Those who don't are simps and they deserve to be taken for every penny.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:14 AM
0

Ive said the same thing with the genders reversed, on Reddit. And some single moms got mad at me for wanting to be number one. They said I was egotistical.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:12 AM
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This is true. For men who don't want kids, the only reason he would date a single mom is for the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:09 AM
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No offence bro, but if I was somehow saddled with kids, I too would dump them just so I could improve my dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:08 AM
3

In that case when the Redpill weirdos judge a woman for being promiscuous she should not complain. Judging people for anything should be fair game. Women who leave a man for any reason should be open to judgement from society. Either everyone being judged for anything is okay, or no one is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:05 AM
1

Sure. But saying that sex with ex was passionate and exciting and then saying it's different with current SO does make it so that different and exciting are mutually exclusive. And by my metric if it's not as passionate or as exciting for the woman, then it's not the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:44 PM
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I will agree tbh. I wish there was some kind of service that would analyze each man and tell them what they need to do to become Chad. Like theyd tell you what plastic surgery to get, what clothes to wear, what hobbies to pursue, and how to fix specific gaps in your social skills. That way all men could be Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:39 PM
1

If that were the case they'd say the most passionate and exciting sex was with the guy they're in love with. They wouldn't say "it's different".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:35 PM
1

Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:34 PM
1

My implied question or statement was: How do you determine being the best? Is it an average of all sex instances you had, or is it "the single best one-time instance of sex", even if the other instances were worse? Or what other way of measuring this "best sex" do you apply? Single best, because if you ask people what their best sex was most people will tell you of a singular instance. Taboos are often what makes sex exciting and you can have taboos in a lot of ways. You can have sex with a marr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:09 PM
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In a long term relationship, you will have instances where it's among the best sex you ever had and among the worst sex you ever had. In this hypothetical you can NOT be the best. Also, leaving your thought experiment, why is there nothing you can change to match the ex's level of how exciting sex is? Because either the circumstances that made it the best can't be recreated (one woman on the opposing thread for women said that it was the best because she was sneaking around without her parents p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 12:36 PM
1

"Anything that goes against my preconceptions is a fabrication"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 02:00 AM
2

Yeah, I've asked a variant of this question many times, but I never get a specific example. It's depressing because the advice given to men is - just flirt. But when you ask what flirting is, what it looks like, how to do it, you get a blank. It's why I'm not surprised that men turn to PUAs, they seem to offer more concrete advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:58 AM
2

No, it's because everyone is an asshole. You, me, everyone. We are all selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:56 AM
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The fact that you continue to worry about why someone might find this behavior pathetic is pathetic. I absolutely disagree. If this is pathetic then every woman who has ever felt insecure or has sought validation is also pathetic. You’re chasing validation you’ll never receive and if that’s not pathetic I don’t know what is Why are men not allowed to chase validation? It's like society tells men "this is what you'll get and you'll stay happy with it, plebe". Why shouldn't they be allowed to chas…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:32 AM
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Not wrong. That's all. You can't tell me that the most passionate and exciting sex for you was with the guy you loved the most. Or that he gave you the most intense orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:31 PM
1

Then why even comment about the male loneliness epidemic. The real epidemic is that men can't get option 2
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:31 PM
1

It’s different, When women say "it's different" in this context, men read it as "it was not as passionate and not as physically pleasurable". Which are the metrics that matter to men. Not love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:15 PM
1

I mean if our only option is loneliness or option 1 then suicide is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:11 PM
2

Yeah but that's a movie, so I suspect the lines are all perfect there. I don't think I've ever really had a conversation that sparked the way they do in the movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 09:40 AM
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Yeah I'm not looking for pickup lines but more an example of what real (as in done by real people, not actors in a movie with perfectly scripted lines) looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 09:34 AM
0

It is difficult to give concrete examples without using personal anecdotes Those are fine as long as you don't mind sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 09:19 AM
3

What the fuck are you on about? Men will date and fuck older women. It's women who won't date and fuck men their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 08:30 AM
1

But what can you do? Personally I'm going to get plastic surgery. Only one life, not worth living it ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:16 AM
0

The whole men not finding older women attractive is nothing more than a cope from frustrated red pill men. The honest truth is, it's men who are unwanted as they age. Not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:14 AM
2

Oh okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:12 AM
3

It's hard to explain, That's why I was hoping to get concrete examples. Like think of an incident where a guy flirted with you and you loved it. What did he do that you liked? I'm curious to know how women experience flirting and what they like vs don't like. I know women are not a monolith etc, but would love to see trends and maybe figure out HOW to flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:04 AM
2

Lmao, brutal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:01 AM
3

No? Like y'all can just jump on a dating app and it's a buffet of men. Just pick a hot guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:55 AM
2

I mean even if we aren't lonely, we'd still want 2
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:53 AM
1

I don't think that's unrealistic. If a woman doesn't see a man as someone she lusts after, that won't change, because list requires physical attraction, which has to do with physical characteristics and facial attractiveness. Those are relatively immutable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:38 AM
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Okay what happens when this woman doesn't get choked? Does she crumble into a complete self-hating crisis? Leaves because unfulfilled. Which is what I'm saying for men. That's what's unhealthy, the reaction to not having the desire fulfilled. If you crumble completely when you don't get exactly what you want, you're a dysfunctional human being. Why do you get to define what counts as functional and what counts as dysfunctional. Hell, Michael Jordan was obsessed about winning in the same exact wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:12 AM
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I don't find the need to be the best at something to be a healthy or good ned By that logic one could argue that women needing to be choked during sex isn't a 'healthy' Or 'good' need. Who defines healthy, who defines good. And why do THEY get to define it? And again I'm not interested in being the best in everything for everyone. It's a highly narrow category of being the best in sex with one particular person. Don't see what's wrong with that. And it's fine if you don't want to be near a man l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:03 AM
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Tell her how it made you feel Fair, that's easy ask her why she feels that way She says it's because the other guys dick fit her perfectly and hit all the right spots at the same time, making her cum v hard. Can't be replicated with current guy because dick isn't the right size and shape. see what can be done to communicate about sex better, How will that make her have the same intense orgasms as with the previous guy? Communication won't change a mans dick size and using strap ons feels emascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:07 AM
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Well I don't want to be with anyone with that mentality, I think it's gross. Either a guy has to work his way out of that mind set, or I won't see him as a viable partner. Not wanting such a partner is fine, but deeming it "gross" bothers me. It's an emotional need. Just like women's need to feel emotionally safe in a relationship. Is that gross too? If not, then neither is my need to be the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:03 AM
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Also by respecting they mean never ever giving her a compliment or saying anything that could be misconstrued as sexual - because it is repeatedly drilled into men that their sexual desires are predatory and their sexual attention is not welcome and they are bad people for trying to make things sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:11 AM
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Tbh I wish advice was more honest. Like "you're short so you will never be as attractive or as sexually successful as the tall guy", and then let people figure out what they want to do. I also wish euthanasia was legalized for everyone who wants it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:09 AM
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So those of us who didn't learn young are doomed?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:07 AM
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I'm sorry, that's a fool. He's loved and found attractive. He's just not the best sex ever. And the best sex ever has some, but not enough to do with either love or attraction Honestly why the judgement? This bothers me. For some men being found the best is what gives them peace of mind. Being found attractive or being loved isn't enough for them. They shouldn't be judged for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:53 AM
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How would you work through it? Man can't grow a bigger dick and dick sleeves make men feel emasculated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:25 AM
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Err, no the point is what if you CAN'T become the best even when you are willing to try everything. Like maybe the chemistey isn't as intense. Or maybe it's due to situations that can't be recreated. Like someone said the best sex was the best because they were sneaking around their parents and so it was exciting. Can't really recreate that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:22 AM
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Who cares where he ranks, we chose to be together. So for me atleast, if I am with someone and I don't know if I am the best, then my brain will absolutely bombard me imagined images of my partner with her exes and how sex with them was much more passionate for her, more pleasurable, more exciting. Thus I will feel emasculated 24*7 while I am in the relationship. Ergo, just choosing to be together wont make me feel good, I also need the surety that sex with me is leagues better and more exciting…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:14 AM
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No, he's willing to improve but nothing can be done to make it as good as what was with an ex. Say if the ex had a bigger dick and could make you cum vaginally and the current guy has a smaller dick. Or maybe your best sex was the best because it was a toxic guy who left you anxious all the time and the anxiety translated to amazing sex, and that just can't be replicated. So the guy feels emasculated and wants to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:11 AM
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At the end of the day, if you feel loved by your partner why make up fantasies about their past? Well even if they do love me, the thought that I am not the best would torture me. My brain would imagine how when she had sex with other men she was more excited or it was more passionate and she had more intense orgasms. And I will feel emasculated under the sheer onslaught of these images which my brain will throw at me. So, just being loved won't save me from feeling emasculated 24*7 in that rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:09 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 05:11 PM
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That's not a rage bait. That's a woman sharing her experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 05:08 PM
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The way it works is that lots of women DO compare https://np.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/9wemzg/what_did_this_guy_do_to_me/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 05:04 PM
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Assume that it can't be worked upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 05:03 PM
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By the woman. She judges if her current SO is "better" in bed than her exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:13 PM
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That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:12 PM
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Indeed, the best of luck to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:50 PM
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I honestly don't believe those posters are fake. I mean there's one person in this post saying how angry toxic sex is crazy intense and amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:50 PM
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That's not what made the relationship worth it for you. For me and men like me, that's what does make the relationship worth it. It's not just that we are chosen - we want to be chosen because we're the best at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:37 PM
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I am aware that constant validation can get draining. Which is why I'll limit how often I do seek it. Although I would really love if this validation was part of sex itself in the form of dirty talk and her telling me how much better I am. I feel like that wouldn't be draining for her. If it is, I'll have to find someone for whom it isn't. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:36 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:24 PM
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Even if I did, this much I know for sure, if I can't become the best, I would feel asphyxiated. I need this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:18 PM
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I don't have experiences, yes. But I am 32, so not young. And this has plagued me since I was 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:15 PM
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Doesn't mean those posts weren't real.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:58 PM
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I don't think anyone should ever be coerced. But if a man gets into a relationship where he wants to experiment and she doesn't, he should leave. I think that's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:45 PM
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It matters because if I'm not the best my brain would constantly be imagining your past partners and telling me how they were better than me and making me feel emasculated. So for me it's not enough that Im chosen. It's also important that Im chosen because I am (or have the potential to be) the best sex she's had.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:35 PM
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So even if a man is told that he is the best, and legit is, he will never feel that he is. He will always feel insecure about that. He is the type of man that wants to marry a virgin not for religious or moral reasons but because he does not want her to have any man to compare him to, not knowing of course that even virgins know when sex is bad eventually. I disagree. I am insecure. I have 0 desire to be with a virgin, because with a virgin you're by default the "best". There's no comparison asp…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:27 PM
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Yes, on what basis ? On the basis of how passionate the sex is for her with him vid a vis her exes. How pleasurable. How intense the orgasms were.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:22 PM
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I don't care if someone rejects me, only that I'm not judged for expressing my needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:21 PM
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Sure. But Id rather be the best sex partner in the world than the best partner/husband. Love is a footnote to being the best sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:20 PM
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Tell that to the women who leave men with small dicks. Or women who leave men because they won't choke her etc. The thing is there are things people NEED in a relationship sexually, barring which they don't want to be in that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:06 PM
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Yeah, that's the point. If Im with a woman and I can't be her best because it would involve becoming abusive, then I shouldn't be made to feel bad for leaving the relationship and seeking out one where I can be the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:04 PM
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Just because a child feels a certain way doesn't mean an adult feeling that way makes the adult childish. And I told you I'm 32. And there's nothing wrong with having an insecurity. Adults have them too. And there's nothing wrong with leaving a relationship if you feel insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:02 PM
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Thank you for the reply. I'll be brutally honest. I don't think I'll ever stop chasing validation. Ever. Its like a drug to me. And Id rather die than not have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:57 PM
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I told you. HE decides that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:56 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:55 PM
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We are not talking about attraction. We are talking about dating and close personal relationships Yes dating has huge aspects to it that are shallow and there's nothing wrong with that. Fine fine we will accept you the way you are. No one is gonna wanna deal with that in a relationship though I'm ngl, I doubt that. But that's my headache anyway. I just want people to stop judging me for having a NEED. I don't mind being rejected because I'm insecure. What bothers me is people telling me that I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:55 PM
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Trust me. They exist. There are other posts like this on this very subreddit. Personally, the day I am unable to be good at sex due to disability is the day I apply for euthanasia.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:52 PM
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I disagree that it's immature but thank you for responding :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:51 PM
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You can absolutely get control of this, if you dont want to end up alone and being perceived as unattractive. 10 years of therapy, 6 different therapists, so many SSRIs. Nothing worked. Nothing will. Did you know that therapy doesn't always work. For what I am diagnosed for it only works for 80% of the patients. This stat is directly from the therapy workbook which was written by the leading doctors of the field. No, no I cannot get control of this. And maybe I will be percieved as unattractive.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:44 PM
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A) yes I am fragile B) there is no obligation for people to overcome their fragility before dating. No dating police exists. C) Again I said being settled for sexually, which literally means I'm not her best sex. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:35 PM
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No because here it's the dude who's deciding to leave you, so how much time depends on him. If he's tried for whatever time he feels is correct and it hasn't happened, he wants to bounce.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:33 PM
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Yes, thank you for that example! So basically, since your best can't be recreated, you wouldn't mind if a dude bounced because he can't be your best?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:32 PM
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There is no objectivity to this. Sorry. You're wrong on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:29 PM
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Masculinity getting validated is the childish and disappointing part No, women too crave validation. There is nothing wrong with craving validation and nothing childish about it. In fact the phrase "childish" Is very dismissive and used to try and make people feel bad for perfectly legitimate need for validation. It's an issue you have with other men in your own head. It has nothing to do with your SO or her actual past experiences. It's an issue in my head that can only be resolved by comparing…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:29 PM
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Thats shallow There is NOTHING WRONG with being shallow. Everybody is shallow. We are attracted to people who are physically attractive. Dont lie to people about loving them if all you want to do is validate your ego that youre the best they have ever had, thats really shitty. I'm not going to lie dw. Difference between having insecurities and being fragile. Difference between "i sense some insecurity" and reeking of it. Sure but even reeking of insecurity isn't something wrong. Especially if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:11 PM
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Fair. Thank you for the response.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:09 PM
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I don’t understand this level of deeply ingrained self sabotage. Its not self sabotage because sabotage is premeditated and consciously done. There is an element of control in sabotage. There is none here. I do not control my needs. No more than any other human controls their needs. also if a man doesn’t have a lot of sexual experience, how is he supposed to immediately be the best? t Nobody is. The idea is to be forthright about my need and to have the woman judge if we do have the kind of chem…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:07 PM
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because the best is not quantifiable, Not really, lots of women say it is. I can show you multiple Reddit posts of women talking about the best sex they had. Clearly they know what the best was and can pinpoint why. It means nothing, it achieves nothing, it doesn't garanty that your SO will love you more or stick with you in a LTR For some men, it means that their masculinity gets validated. They get to feel like they are more man than any other man. So it does mean a LOT to a lot of men. I mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:51 AM
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As I said in all fairness, guys ask stupid question, promise to not get mad, then get mad anyway. I mean I wouldn't get mad. I'd ask her what made it so good and whether I can become that good. And if she says that I can't, then I'd leave. No point being mad at her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:47 AM
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As u/nightsofthesunkissed said initially, if they werent no.1 right now, they wouldnt be dating. Obviously dont date people that got broken up with and still simp for their ex Here's the thing. I need to be the best at sex. And there's a lot of women who marry guys they feel safe and comfortable with, but whom they don't feel passionate about. There's women in this very thread saying that. And that scares me. I NEED to be the best at sex and I can't tolerate a woman settling for me, sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:42 AM
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What if your sexual chemistry is decent but not as intense as with her ex. Can't really change chemistry. Also lots of women say the best sex they had was with the dick that fit perfectly. Can't change dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:37 AM
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I mean read some of the responses. A couple women actually say they are offended. So you're wrong there. A lot of women aren't offended however and that makes me happy. And yes I do need validation of my masculinity via being the best at sex. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting validation. It's not something that needs to be sorted out, except by trying to find a partner with whom I share the best sexual chemistry. Again here's what you need to understand. Different people want different things …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:35 AM
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It's childish Why is it childish? Why shouldn't men be allowed to want to be the best?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:32 AM
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Yes it is a NEED. And it's a need like other sexual needs. Why does that make it fragile. You wouldn't judge a man who NEEDS blowjobs for not staying in a relationship where he couldn't get it. Or if you would then that should be condemned. People should not be judged for trying to fulfill their needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:31 AM
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Thank you for your response. I just want to say that I wish women like you realised that it's not enough to just be picked by a woman, but also the reasons behind being picked matter. And for some men, if the reasons don't include "the best in bed", then that relationship isn't worth staying in. Thank you for responding. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:29 AM
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Best at what? Sex specifically? Yeah. Especially PIV, but sex in general. And it has to be not just the most pleasurable, but also the most exciting and passionate. Im a guy and I love sex but even I have higher standards in a partner than just sex. Good for you, but why judge others for whom being the best at sex IS the standard. away just because youre not the literal best is so childish it REEKS of insecurity. Insecure yes, but everyone has insecurities. Men shouldn't be judged for seeking ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:19 AM
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Wait what? No, this has nothing to do with the number of past partners. Like I AM a virgin, and I still dgaf about how many previous people my future partner has slept with. The only thing I care about is that I can become the best she's ever had. And if we do sleep together and I realise that I can't be the best for whatever reason (say because I'm not dysfunctional, lots of women have been saying that the best sex is with dysfunctional men), then Id want to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:11 AM
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I feel strongly about it because I feel that men would be judged negatively for wanting to leave if they are not the best. Because there is an expectation that men should only care that she's enjoying sex with him, and not about his performance compared to other men. That if he does care then he's pathetic and wrong. It bothers me that men are judged for their desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:05 AM
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Because I personally want to only commit to a woman if I know I'm the best she's ever had. If I can't become that despite trying my hardest, then Id want to walk away. Also I'm not asking if you'd be upset but that you'd be offended at his desire(to either be the best Or leave)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:00 AM
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I said that harassers deserve to be jailed, not that they actually are. My only point is that men who have perfectly respectable intentions and will back off at the first no, don't end up feeling like creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:54 AM
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Yeah I don't think anyone can do anything to stop people from leaving. I just want to know how women would feel about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:52 AM
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I wish I could be that same way but it bothers me. You know how women get deeply offended (and rightly so) if men slut shame them for sleeping around. Same thing but applied to men. It really bothers me that men are shamed for wanting to be the best, and women who shame the men for that are as wrong as the men who slutshame women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:45 AM
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Oh wow, your response was illuminating. Thank you:)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:43 AM
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. It shouldn't matter because she chose you so you clearly are the best in things she puts more value in. That's according to the womans POV though. What about what the man wants? Should he just be happy that he's exactly what the woman wants, and is he simply not allowed to feel bad at the fact that HE's not getting what he wants (which is being the best she's ever had). I don't think that's fair. A man needs to be the best sex his SO has ever had. This is a need in a relationship, and should b…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:35 AM
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