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Thank you for this. I'm not OP but you touched someone's soul today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:37 AM
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Because we get to know each other over a series of dates. I don't label us as bf/gf unless things have been good for about 6 months. I am upfront about this from the get go. I'm honest that I am looking for a life partner. I also expect him to be honest with me, and if I present to him a deal breaker of some kind then it's best we both move on. Safety in a relationship comes with time, that's part of learning about one another and gaining/growing that trust and comfortability. I take someone get…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 05:22 PM
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The choking was assault over some petty argument. The feeding thing was also affecting us outside of the bedroom because he'd constantly try to get me to overeat. There were men who loved hiking and being outdoors, but that's not my thing. There was one who had some serious mommy issues and hoarding tendencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 05:13 PM
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Well you say they'll be demonized if they're not subtle about not liking fat chicks. I wish the guys I'd meet we're up front about it. They've waited until in the relationship to bring up their dissatisfaction with my former weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 05:07 PM
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It's the double standard that irks me. If I tried to initiate and he said no, it's disrespectful of me to get salty. But he tries and I say no, I got to put up with him being salty because I hurt his feelings. Like my feelings get hurt - suck it up. His? Be prepared for a whiny ass until I give in. Again, exes for a reason lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 03:40 PM
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I am going more for, your mom can support you without having to tie herself to a man. I don't want him seeing me put up with abuse just for financial security. I left his father because of abuse and I was the only one working at the time, why be with someone who hurts you? I hope that makes it a bit clearer. I love my son, but not like that. If I do it right he will be unaware of everything until he's an adult or older teen :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 03:32 PM
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Thanks!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 02:57 PM
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I've tried a few different things, usually they help. Sometimes I just need to curl up and do nothing for a bit tho. That's when I've run into the saltiness. I can laugh at the office so I must be faking so I'm not having sex to punish him. That's an actual train of thought I've gotten! Therefore, not meant to be haha I like the idea of making it a game, I'll give it a try. If it makes it easier for him to respect when I do have to decline, all the better!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 02:45 PM
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I meant an ease of communication, similar goals, similar likes (taste in music or television). As the connection. It's not all sexual. You keep going back to chubby chasers, but I've dated a few. One guy ended up being a feeder, not my thing. One guy tried to choke me, not my thing. These traits we're specific to the individual guy, not chubby chasers in general. Liking larger girls isn't a deal breaker on my end, but there's more to a person than their turn on. Also I'm looking for more than a …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 02:39 PM
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There's a difference between keeping your opinion on the down low so you're not attacked by militant feminists (who are fairly rare IRL) and criticizing your gf until she cries because come to find out you had a problem with her weight all along. Like, I have a kid. If someone I date doesn't want kids, ok cool we are meant to be with different people. No hard feelings. If someone strings me along until we're in love/engaged/what have you then tells me they don't want kids (something I can't back…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 02:27 PM
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I feel a lot better now I'll tell ya haha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 02:20 PM
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The guys that liked me before and still did, I went out with. A date, or two. But usually we we're incompatible for other reasons though. But I'm not heartless, the guys who are decent to me get an honest chance. Weight and looks and money are irrelevant if you have the right connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 02:19 PM
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Username checks out! Seriously this resonates with me deeply, I'm gonna screen shot it for when I'm feeling down :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:57 PM
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I've been making a concious effort to be nice to myself (and others) I still have a little voice in my head shouting hate and vitrol but part of me can just laugh that off. Sometimes I still get salty tho, who doesn't haha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:51 PM
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I haven't said anything about what type of men I like. And nitpicky was meant more as they're constantly saying little comments about it. Picking away at an issue rather than being upfront about it. I'd rather have a guy tell me they weren't attracted to me flat out then roll​ their eyes and sigh (or other passive agressive comments) whenever I have dessert or binge watch another tv show.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:47 PM
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It's about liking you as you are, but knowing you're taking care to be a person you like.. if that makes sense outside my head haha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:41 PM
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Cuz I feel gross, and it's usually accompanied by a migraine. I don't think I should risk passing out or puking when I'm usually an enthusiastic partner the other 25 days of the month. I've got exes that hated this, and would try to whole time to guilt me into it. The hypocricy came around when he'd have a cold. "Not today babe I'm too stuffed up" was to be respected. But me in a fetal position on the couch with an ice pack on my stomach and/or head was met with "jeez it can't be that bad, c'mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:39 PM
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That's the exact attitude I've tried to adopt. People like what they like, if someone tells me I'm hot I say thank you because lewed or not, I am now, so I take it as a compliment. My self confidence is way up too, and that in itself can be attractive. Some guys could have probably seen the cloud of self hate I had and that in itself is a turn off haha I think the heart of OPs post, for me anyhow, keeps coming back to standards. I don't believe in soul mates but I do believe there's a lock for e…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:16 PM
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I'm not sure if I would've fucked me then, but I don't like women like that so I don't really know. I think of it more about type. I wasn't their type, suddenly now I am. Usually these guys are also vetted for other reasons too, some as general as 'they're not my type'. It's all good, so long as you don't let yourself get salty about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:11 PM
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I was definitely fuck able 40lbs ago, but not to these guys. Usually those types get all nitpicky over even 5-10lbs and I just don't have the energy or self esteem to go through with someone like that again. I never intend to regain the weight, it's more their attitude about it. And I actually don't think less of them for it, I just know off the top that they're not my guy. People can't help what they like, and I respect that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 01:01 PM
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I can only speak personally about that, I don't feel stigma over flings or one night stands. And I'm a single mom so there is tons of shame and stigma ppl like to throw my way about the topic. I like to learn about my partner. The look he gets before he comes, the slight shaking of his hands or a tightened grip. Whoo I'm getting warm typing that haha Weirdly specific conversations about shows or books we like. Sometimes just being held by someone who really cares. I can't get these from a strang…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 12:39 PM
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A lot of what you say resonates with me, but I'm going to actually try to CMV this properly. I don't need a man in my life, but I want one. Primarily because I am attracted to them, wish to have sex, but I don't like sex with randos. I'd rather be in a relationship with him. That said, it's about standards. I recently lost 40lbs and hit my goal weight and am now 5'4 120lbs. Guys that gave me no mind before are suddenly banging at the door. They saw right through me before and 40lbs isn't that mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/17 12:27 PM
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I love answers like this because it is teaching me how not to treat a man. Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 04:15 PM
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I had a whole thing typed out, but honestly you aren't worth it. You deserve everything you get sir, good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 02:56 PM
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So, I became a single mom when my ex decided to beat the shit out of me at 31 weeks pregnant. I'm 25 125lbs at 5'4 and fairly attractive. Should I just.. die alone and unloved now? I respect that some people don't want a single mom, that's cool, but you make it seem like I should raise my son till he's 18 then kill myself..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 01:23 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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