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So just don’t?
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 11:45 PM
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They don’t really care if you see them, they just want you to pay. That’s the truth whether people like it or not. They don’t want your ex on the dole…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 09:27 PM
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Just be prepared for a judge to look for excuses to side with her. It may not happen to you, but if it does, you want your argument to be short and sweet and not in the weeds. E.g. I’ve paid in total 20k towards extracurriculars and she has paid 0, can we please set a monthly amount? Based on the expenses during our marriage (have that calculated) that amount can be X.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 06:30 PM
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You will go into court after your four failed mediations and she will say that YOU were the unreasonable one and that’s why it failed, and in fact you also yelled at her and maybe even pushed her! She doesn’t have the extra money for all these expensive activities, she can barely afford to survive as is and this is your play to get out of child support! She’s a struggling single mom! I’m not saying this is good or right, but start thinking about what she is going to say as opposed to what you ar…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 03:42 PM
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Id file in court that you want her to pay a set monthly amount for extracurriculars if she isn’t paying half now. You can see if they will offset it against CS. You should also file to amend the ROFR and get rid of it to the extent your lawyer thinks is possible. Mediation will be a waste of your $
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 11:26 PM
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Honestly dude I wouldn’t overthink it…. Just date diff kinds of people and see how it goes. You only need one win.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:41 AM
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I mean, I agree. Stepkids honestly suck (sorry), and the false allegations against random stepparents of both genders are completely out of control.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:40 AM
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Idk just date someone without kids if you’re not down? 12 and 14 are pretty old though, and I’m pretty sure a childless woman will be even less delighted about your financial situation than a single mom…. They will see you as being used up by your first wife. Feel like it’s easier with someone who already has kids to keep things separate based on you both already having kids.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 11:37 PM
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In general that is the way people are - men do this with women too in their own way. The trick is to join them in looking for what YOU want. If you need money because your ex screwed you, then you do need to filter for her having a good career (and she may not be a looker). If you need someone to take care of you in ailing health you should avoid fitness nuts and women who aren’t nurturing - maybe a shitty job is a benefit in this case. If you’re looking for someone hot and fun you may have to c…
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:43 AM
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Dude get a hobby and meet women that way, would also go a long way towards fixing this bad outlook you have. Your life can’t just be waiting for your kid to come back - he will grow up regardless and be gone. Dating sites are a mess and full of losers, but maybe be less of a snob about your career? Your ex had a good career and that didn’t work out. Having two high fliers tends to be a recipe for misery.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 12:20 AM
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Retire out of country
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 11:43 PM
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Not a good use of money. Get a new dog.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 04:44 PM
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St Lucia passport -> anywhere else
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 11:25 PM
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The biggest change I would make is removing judge discretion. Everything should be hard numbers all the time and things like imputed income should be standardized (e.g. for men average of last two years and then you can go back to get it adjusted if you’re not making that money anymore, for women college degree but no work experience x formula). The current system has way too much ‘discretion’ which leads to biased outcomes.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 04:59 PM
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Just had a friend go through this at the 10 year mark in CA. He had to give away a ton of money to settle it out of court and she made the SAME salary as him, just wanted the optionality to ask for it later down the line if ‘circumstances changed.’ Don’t let her do this to you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 08:05 PM
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Fyi in CA alimony is permanent at 10 years. That is her ‘scheme’ so it’s clearly time to get the ball rolling. Do NOT give her an opening to file there.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 07:45 PM
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Girl - what? Why are you doing this at all? Next time she brings the police around all you have to say is ‘officer, these aren’t my kids and I do not agree to take them.’ Don’t expect the courts to do anything, you’re going to have to manage this rodeo yourself. Fwiw if the kid was sick at school on moms time all you have to do is not pick them up. If it was on your time then she was right, it’s your (or more accurately your husband’s) responsibility.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 04:25 AM
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I’m rooting for you bro, but it will depend on a lot your judge. Watched a man hater UCLA judge wearing a mask in 2025 decimate an entire day’s worth of dudes at my friends CS hearing by backing into the outcomes she clearly wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 04:18 AM
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You won’t receive back pay. It will be from the time you filed.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 11:06 PM
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If they were married and it’s a community asset she’s allowed to ask for her half lol. You can’t just leave her with no home equity unless you give her something in return.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/26 04:23 AM
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Uh no? She makes more than you. You get 50-50 and she pays YOU. Don’t accept any agreement where she takes the kid and assets but sets CS at zero either, she can always go back to adjust that immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 07:07 AM
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It’s funny, I was the other woman for a man extremely similar to yourself. His wife was from a poor background in a foreign country, who had grinded her way into a great career. But the flipside is that she was a violent, abusive, extremist who was absolutely down to lose-lose. Things played out very similarly: her trying for 100% physical custody, running a social smear campaign, trying to get him fired from his high paying job, abuse accusations — all the same shit. I always thought this was s…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 04:57 AM
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The better the new guy is, the more he will resent playing stepdad. It’s a hollow victory.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 12:43 AM
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I heard in Cali they don’t care much about female on male violence. The whole DV thing is to protect women from men and not the other way around. Some guy posted here a few weeks ago saying he got his ex convicted of battery and she took a plea deal, but he still had to pay her alimony (something that’s not supposed to happen in CA).
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:36 PM
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No, she is not. You were married and made a joint investment and lost money.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 07:38 PM
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Need more details
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 03:15 PM
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