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What do you think of men who dont want kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 03:09 PM
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They want to date immature young women and then they complain all women are immature
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:00 PM
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“After this relationship I realized theres something wrong with me, I should go to therapy to know what part of me chose a relationship that wasnt good for me and work on it so it doesnt happens again” Why wouldnt you date someone who took accountability from her mistake?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 12:59 PM
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My prefereed body type on men is “you can tell he works out but you can also tell he doesnt say no to pizza”. Big muscles do nothing for me. Using steroids its stupid. If he went on a date shirtless I would cringe the second I saw him. Im not interested in dating an insecure guy with self image issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:27 PM
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Yes. But to be fair, i have also tolerated red flags from unattractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:09 AM
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I told him she was cheating on him with the guy she is wuth now like 3 years before they broke up and he never believed me, we didnt talk for years because of her. He reached out after they separated and we started rebuilding our relationship and admited that I was right about everything. He says he is okay with the life he has now but he wished he had someone to spend time with. We are currently traveling together and im now managing his money so everything turned out ok for me :) I still want …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:48 PM
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Right? When I was that age I was in a ltr with a guy that could easily be a model, I also went out with hot rich guys my age, I never gave a thought for older men, they were fat and balding
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:04 PM
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When my dad was 50 he started dating a 19 year old girl. She got pregnant shortly after. They never got married but they were together for 20 years. She left him for a guy her age when he was 70, kept the house and a couple millions. I was 18 when they got together and I told him she was after his money but he and everyone else said that I was jealous of her. Please explain how is my dad not a loser. Edit: Forgot to add that she cheated on him with men our age, two of them were my dad’s employee…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:57 PM
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Whats a simple relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:46 PM
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Ive never seen the fun in having casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:31 PM
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English isn’t my first language and I just woke up, so I’m using ChatGPT to translate this. It depends on the person’s level of autism and their ability to adapt. It’s not the same for someone with level 1 autism who’s high masking as it is for someone who’s level 2 and dysregulated. I was recently told I have level 1 high-masking autism. I’m well-adapted, I don’t need to be protected the way you mentioned in your post. I’ve noticed that all my partners have been ADHD. I told a friend of mine wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:26 PM
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Are you drunk?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 02:34 PM
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3-4 times a week My bf is my best friend. We have a lot of fun together even when we spend all day doing nothing. He is my biggest fan, he is extremely considerate with my needs, he listens to me and he does everything he can to make my life easier. He is a great man and i’ll never not appreciate him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 05:49 AM
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Backwards hat, white t shirt, gray sweatpants and adidas slides, oh dear
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 05:50 PM
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Ive said “is he hot or is he just wearing his hat backwards?” Bc i still have the same standards since I was 13 and into skaters. Its usually the hat btw I cant help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 04:03 PM
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Lol you just remind me of this guy I went to high school with, we werent close but we stayed in touch through msn after graduation, a couple years later (2010 I think) he blocked me overnight and I woke up to an email from him telling me he was done with me leading him on?? He never asked me out, I never flirted with him, we chatted like I chat with all my friends. A few years later he came back and apologized, then he blocked me again because he was super in love with me. In 2021 he contacted m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:55 AM
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I do those things with my friends. But I do show more interest to the guys I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 07:39 PM
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Im self employed because I cant stand having a boss lmao But on a serious note, I guess most women have bosses because they need to have a job. Hope that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:24 PM
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Are they 14? Why would an adult woman call a man gay for not sleeping with her and why would an adult man care if he is called gay for having boundaries?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:50 PM
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I look for sex when I have the time and I feel like it. Both things usually come together when we go to bed. However, we both respect when the other is tired and wants to sleep. You know you can say no, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 06:30 PM
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You sound like you would benefit from therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:48 PM
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oh I judge passport bros as well but I think its worse in women, horny young men are the easiest thing to get no matter where you are
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:10 PM
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There are younger men willing to sleep with older women in every country, if a woman has to travel to get someone to sleep with her...I think I judge her even harder than what I judge passport bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:09 PM
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Eww what kind of loser you have to be as a woman to need to go to another country to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:22 AM
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Im 41 and until very recently I thought they really wanted to be my friends :(
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:00 AM
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You sound young
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 04:20 PM
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The fact we still date men proves we dont choose our sexual orientation
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:28 PM
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I have a platonic friend with who I have dinner with about once a month. He makes more than double than what I make so our deal is that he pays for dinner and I pay for desert.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:46 AM
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I dont pay much attention to strangers tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:48 AM
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I call this the ugly-men-are-wonderful effect. Men here apparently dont know any ugly abusers
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:09 AM
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I did it for revenge bc he cheated on me first. I regret not breaking up with him instead but I was young and stupid. Only time ive cheated, Idont even have the mental capacity to be on talking stages with two guys at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:03 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:50 AM
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You can be attracted to whatever you like and have whatever non negotiable you have. If being ambitious is non negotiable to you then date ambitious women. If you stay or try to change her, resentment will build up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:46 PM
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My sister has ADHD and I believe shes actually in the spectrum. She has always wanted to have a close group of friends but always ends up ghosted, it breaks my heart. She is very blunt at saying things and stuff she says comes off as rude. Im used to it now but for a large part of my life I was hurt by her comments. She also doesnt understand sarcasm or get a lot of social cues so I think that when people end up ghosting her or being rude its because she didnt get more subtles signs. It sucks ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:33 PM
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On the upper limit of healthy weight, the type of body you can tell they work out but also cant say no to pizza
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 11:15 PM
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Same thing, I wouldnt give up a LTR for a stranger just because he is attractive and flirting with me. Actually, Ive never broken up with someone for someone else because in order for me to consider them an option, I would have to already have a bond with them and in my book that count as cheating. Im not a cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 06:53 PM
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Same. Im in the best relationship ive ever been, why on earth would I throw it away for a stranger?? Wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:39 PM
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I saw a TikTok about Henry Cavill the other day and there was a comment from a girl saying he was hot but she could never date someone that much older than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 01:49 AM
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Dude stop being creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:24 PM
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I lived with my ex from 24 to 30. Im about to turn 41 and im in talks with my current bf to move in together. Im jn no rush at all lol I love him a lot but I feel like I havent enjoyed living by myself enough
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:31 AM
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Who is making the world unsafe for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:11 PM
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Im 40 and never wanted kids. My bf (45) is childfree and never wanted kids, he already had a vasectomy. We are planning on moving in together soon and eventually getting married. ive had 5 relationships in my life, all of them long term with marriage in mind because we were in love. Ive never had a hook up as I dont see the fun in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:11 AM
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My bf used to be a huge slut. We were friends for years before we started dating so I know a lot of the girls he used to hook up with. Idgaf about anything he has done until we became official.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:29 AM
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I thought we were supposed to choose better?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:42 PM
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I’m an active extrovert who likes to be outdoors. Why would I date an introvert? We would both be miserable
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 02:59 AM
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I wasnt attracted to any of them at first. #2 and I were friends for years and I was never interested, He used to drink heavily and was very into partying. he went through some stuff two years ago, I offered support and I developed feelings for him when I knew him deeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 02:57 AM
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If I’m an active extrovert who likes to do a lot of outdorsy stuff why on earth would I date a guy who isnt compatible with my lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 02:53 AM
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I had two really good friends that were into me. #1’s only hobby is playing video games. He has his own business and makes good money but he refuses to move out of his mom’s house. He is a good guy in the sense that he is nice, polite and well edúcated. 2 isnt buffed but he does goes to the gym everyday. He is also an extrovert, he has a dark sense of humor and always says yes to any plan. He is a good guy, he is nice and polite and funny as fuck. I’m a gym rat with a dark sense of humor. Guess …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 02:26 AM
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From my experience as a woman in Mexico: As a childfree, in good shape woman, I still have plenty of good options. Theres no more games. People who just want to hook up explicitly say it. People don’t lie anymore to get what they want. Men who asked me on dates really wanted to get to know me. Im currently in a very happy and stable relationship. He having a vasectomy and me being more confident means our sex life is amazing. My bf and I have both had our share of unhealthy relationship when we …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 05:18 AM
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I’m not an introvert but I love staying in just as much as I like to go out. When my bf and I started dating I told him “I dont want you to ever feel like you need to entertain me”. A few days ago we were in bed, he was on his phone and I was reading and he told me he loved that we could just do that without any pressure. We are older now but ive done this in every relationship I’ve had. I’m responsible for my own entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:48 PM
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Because many guys hope that “cuddling” leads to sex. To be able to cuddle it means you are alone and physically close to the guy. Im not doing that with a man im just getting to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:14 PM
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What if they are both drunk?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:19 PM
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Because im a hypocrite
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:39 PM
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The only women I know who are ok with being good for sex arent in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:01 PM
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A satisfyer gets the job done in 2 minutes without reminding me he sees me as good for sex but not good for a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:49 PM
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While watching Joker I thought of that. Harley is insane, thats the kind of women who likes criminals. If a sane man doesnt like insane women he wont care what they do but these guys are bothered by crazy women not wanting them. Its like when men start telling women that they had hit the wall and that men prefer younger women and im like ok?? A man my age who only dates girls in their 20s is not my target market so I dont care what he does??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:44 PM
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Both. I want a stable relationship that isnt boring. However, the concept of “not boring” changes as you grow old.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:20 PM
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I find watching movies kinda boring and would rather do something else. I dont know the name of most actors and dont have a favorite ones. My bf almost always choses going to the movies when its his turn to pick our plans and I do it for him but Im mostly motivated by the caramel popcorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:30 PM
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You can take me out of catholic school but you cant take the catholic school out of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:41 AM
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Im not okay with sex work at any age
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:21 AM
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Sertraline stopped my overthinking and helped me have control of my emotions when I couldnt do it by myself. I really needed that back then, best thing ive ever done.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 03:20 PM
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You made me think of something. Women have been told for a long time that disney and romcoms are just fantasy. Maybe we should also tell that to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:23 PM
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We all like to feel special for our partners and be the ones they act differently for. I like the fact that im the first woman my bf has wanted to commit to but thats like an extra. If he had already had this level of commitment with his exes that would be normal, we all have a past life before our partners and its naive and childish to expect for someone to wait for us without even meeting us. Men: you have all the right in the world to have whatever standards you have regarding bodycount. Dont…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:13 PM
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Is your idea of romance staying in a dysfunctional relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:34 PM
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I had a very busy week and I'm behind on a few things, if my bf is home I get distracted so I wanted to take advantage of being alone to focus but it looks like that's not going to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:59 AM
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My bf went to a concert with his friends and I had plans of working until late but I made myself some sushi and im watching the simpsons halloween specials instead. Future me is going to be very pissed at present me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:38 AM
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He broke up with most of them, if he wanted to be with any them he would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:00 PM
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I had social anxiety and used to blush everytime I had to talk to strangers or do presentations (with everyone saying Look at her shes blushing!!). I got over my fear of talking in public by having to do 3 presentarions a week during grad school. Still, when I started seeing clients was so damn hard for me. What really helped me was working in customer support and as a waitress, I had no choice but to expose myself until my anxiety was reduced. I still get a bit nervous when Im seeing a new clie…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 04:47 PM
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I really hope its a generational issue and not an aging issue. Ive seen my mom reverse maturing with age and its like having an entitled preteen daughter. Ive promised myself not to become that when I get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:43 PM
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I dont keep anything from my exs, they are dead to me. My bf keeps stuff from his exes, specially photos bc he wants to keep memories when he is older. Is he a bitch widower?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 05:07 PM
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I dont do casual sex but I havent done anything with an ex that I wouldnt do with my current bf. Im not interested in threesomes but if I was, I wouldnt do it with my partner bc I would not want to see them with someone else, not because I would rather do it with a Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:38 PM
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It depends on the intensity and duration of your symptoms. If the paranoia is fleeting and doesn’t lead to severe disconnection from reality, it might just be a heightened state of anxiety. However, if you’re experiencing persistent delusions or hallucinations that significantly affect your perception of reality, it could be considered drug-induced psychosis. It’s not uncommon for anxiety and paranoia to overlap in these situations, so it’s all about the severity and how it impacts your daily li…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 05:49 AM
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Mental disorders can be divided into different categories, like anxiety disorders and psychotic disorders. Disorders like borderline personality disorder (BPD) and bipolar disorder aren’t exactly “in between” since they belong to different categories. For example, bipolar disorder is a mood disorder that can sometimes include psychotic episodes in extreme situations, while BPD involves emotional regulation issues but doesn’t include psychosis. Anxiety disorders involve changes in perception and …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 05:25 AM
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I dont like attention seekers in general
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:10 AM
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OP Could have made a post about something important like false accusations and decided to go through the most stupid take
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:28 PM
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Ive only had sex in LTRs and the best I remember were one with my ex and one with my current bf. Both times were the best because it was when I realized I was super duper in love with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:33 PM
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I have a friend who frequently cancelled plans last minute. One time she confessed that many times she would be outside the place and just couldnt get herself to get in. This was outings with friends, she was single for many years bc she just couldnt go on dates. She has been in a long distance relationship for 6 months but has seen him in person like 3-4 times and she says that this works for her bc takes of the constant anxiety she felt in other relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:02 PM
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Im good looking and in great shape, I like to look good most of the time. I love laughing and having fun. I have my own hobbies and like to spend time on my own, im not clingy and hate nagging. I have my own career and have my own money, I look for egalitarian relationships as I dont feel comfortable with men paying for my stuff (in every relationship I´ve had, the guy would pay for a date and I would pay for the next one). I love having a tidy and clean house. I love to cook for my bf. I enjoy …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 04:16 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1fqofh2/this_will_always_be_posts_with_affirmative_claims/lp74izz/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:44 PM
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Same. My bf and I both work from home and we are temporarily living together. We are in a 3 bd appartment so we have our bedroom and each of us have our own office. Its great, we both enjoy alone time so being almost all day in the appartment hasnt been difficult at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 09:07 PM
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Sounds like social anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 06:24 AM
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I cut contact with my former best friend because of the way she treats men after she got divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 12:03 AM
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I didnt downvote you but I think its bc the word selfish has a negative connotation. In my point of view, having kids is more selfish, you are bringing a whole new person to the world just because you want to fulfill a goal of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 03:07 PM
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I dont feel comfortable with new partners until the 4-5th time we have sex. Casual sex would be completely unsatisfying so why would I be part of it when my satysfyer could do the job in 2 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:33 AM
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I guess you can call it selfish but I dont view living life in my terms as something negative. I rather not have kids than having them so im not perceived as "selfish" and not taking proper care of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:20 AM
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I thought men knew improving themselves was just to increase their odds not that they thought women would instantly DM them lol That said, is hard for me to understand someone doesnt self improve for themselves, to feel better with themselves. I feel like I owe it to myself to do everything I can to be the best version of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:59 AM
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Same. I dont want to put someones needs above mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:53 PM
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Yes please!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 09:34 PM
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I work with trauma victims. Ive met couple young (16) girls who can only get off watching hardcore porn. They both started watching it very young. I know a gorgeous 22 year old who had to get divorced because how bad his husbands porn addiction was, he started watching it as a kid. I know a woman victim of trafficking whose story is worst than what you see in movies. See how retired pornstars talk about the industry. I don’t think it will ever be banned and im all for a more ethical production a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:54 PM
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Got my gallbladder removed yesterday so i’ll be homebound for a while, anyone has good documentaries/movies/shows to recommend me? I dont really watch tv and I dont like anything violent or that would make anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:33 PM
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I see his username and thank god my dating passport bros phase was short lived
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:56 AM
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Im getting my gallbladder removed next week and im fucking pissed I wont be able to go to the gym for two months but im in pain after every meal now so the sooner the better. I’ll be on a strict low fat diet for a month so everyone is telling me I should stuff my face with street food this weekend but the only things I’ll really miss will be cheese and avocado.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:31 PM
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What if she has slept with all the guys she has been on a first date
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:24 AM
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Eh, their boner was dead already 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:14 PM
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Not a big deal to me. It has happened with 2 of my bfs and both times Ive just hug them and asked them if they are ok and let it up to them if they want to give it another chance or call it a night. My bf’s ex acted like a complete bitch when it happened with her and he used to put a lot of pressure on himself whenever he had sex ever since then. I would never do anything to make him feel like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:22 PM
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I actually prefer fit men who can eat a lot without gaining weight bc they are active. If he wants to lose weight I would support him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:48 PM
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I dont take joy on him getting fat, I take joy on watching him eat. He is free to eat as little or as much as he wants and to work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:17 PM
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And he is the one who doesnt want to work out, we eat about the same (I eat a bit less bc im 5’1) but I havent gained any weight
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:14 PM
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How is he choosing to eat an extra portion in any way alarming and abusive? He is an adult responsible of his body. If he wants to eat extra thats his own choice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:03 PM
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We dont have food banks here. Also, its not like I make him eat tons of food, I just make like an extra portion everyday and he chooses to eat it instead of saving it for later.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:57 PM
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I like his belly a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:55 PM
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My men could complain about a lot of things about me but you will never hear a guy say he wasnt well fed while with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:55 PM
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I dont think he would let himself become obese. I do like his belly as it is now but if he gets serious about losing weight I would support him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:53 PM
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I never force feed him. I cook mostly healthy food and he is free to eat as much as he wants, its his choice to eat a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:50 PM
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I never force feed him, I just cook delicious food and watch him eat
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:48 PM
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Im currently living in Mexico city, and not in one of the safe touristy areas (its not that bad as other parts but it isnt the safest either). I walk 2km everyday to get to the gym at 7am. I leave the house with baggy clothes and my gym clothes in my backpack. I braid my hair and wear a baseball cap so no one can grab me by the hair. Everyday before I leave, I share my location with my bf (he doesnt have an iphone). I also share my location with my uncle that lives in the city and my mom and sis…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:41 PM
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Oversharing friday! I have a feeding fetish and my bf is complaining that he has gained 15lbs this year and is now in the bmi limit for overweight. I cook pretty healthy but I love seeing him eat a lot. He also complained that I stare at him when im done eating but I find it so hot Edit: I showed this thread to my bf and he said some reactions are over dramatic but he asked me to tell you that he promises the minute he has health issues or is uncomfortable with his body he will take action but t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:19 PM
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I roll my eyes whenever they say they’ll get “wife googles”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:01 PM
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My mom, aunts and both grandmas told me growing up not to depend economically on a man or you become his prisoner. Even the men in my family raised us to be independent (the same men who supported their wives). Alimony is not a thing where Im from so most sahms only keep the house at most and court mandated child support is often less than what it should be. They have to rejoin the workforce after years of not working so they cant get a good job. No thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:02 PM
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Im a trauma therapist and work with victims. I was in an abusive relationship with psychological and sexual abuse. I despise fake accusers and extremist feminists. All women should be heard, not all women should be believed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:49 PM
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sorry, non native speaker here too. She hugged him tightly and moved a little so he could felt up her boobs and other parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:10 PM
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We were at a crowded bar and they didnt notice I was next to him (I was looking to the opposite direction). She came over to say goodbye, her husband behind her. Her husband is a foreigner who doesn’t speak the language. She hugged him and he said “why are you rubbing me” and she said “you know why”, they laughed and she left. Later at the table he was telling the story to another friend of us (I was next to them but I was on my phone) and our friend said “well you’ve known for a long time she w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:10 PM
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We both have close friends from the opposite sex, some of his are ex fwbs. The day we talked about us being in a relationship I was very clear that I would trust him but that it was non negotiable that his dynamics with them had to have boundaries (I witnessed an inappropriate moment between him and one of his friends who is married a year before). So far it hasnt been a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 08:56 PM
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It has happened to me more times than I would like to admit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 10:39 PM
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I know a couple like that, theyve been married for like 10 years or more. Ive always thought he is gay but who knows, I ran into them and their kids a couple months ago and they seemed fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 10:24 PM
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We met through a mutual friend when our groups met at a bar, he added me on fb but neither had personal information. He thought I was 28 and I thought he was 28 but he was 20 and I was 32 🙃 i dont do casual sex and I wasnt going to take a kid seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:43 AM
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What kind of bitch talks about the type of men she likes on a second date with someone who doesn’t look like that. Im sorry this happened, that girl is either an asshole or an idiot. Or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:07 PM
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Im 40 and right now I can only think of two guys who have “gave me the tinkles”. I went out with one of them once but didn’t sleep with 8 years ago. The other one is a guy from my gym. Do I run into men that I think are attractive? Yes, but its only like “oh he is hot” and continue with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:52 PM
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Weve been together for just a bit over a year so its only been 1 birthday with him but I told him to choose any restaurant he wanted to have dinner and surprised him with a turntable he had only mentioned once months prior. Birthdays are a big thing in my family and I like to make it special for everyone I love. He isnt used to it and didnt know how to act he almost left when he saw what the surprise was lol he uses it almost daily with his dads old records (it was their thing before his dad pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:08 PM
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Im attracted to healthy weight men. If he has abs but still socializes in the same way as I do (going out for dinner is the main activity in my group and something I enjoy a lot) is a nice plus but not a requirement. I dont mind a belly but thats not a dads bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:59 PM
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Theres no such thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:39 PM
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Funny that you ask, I had a huge crush for years on this guy I know (canadian living in Mexico), last year I learned he was in jail for homicide lmao My bf looks like a criminal but im sure he isnt one
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:01 PM
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I like men who look like criminals, not men that are criminals
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:14 PM
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Im a white mexican
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:37 PM
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Nice guy = boring af
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:51 PM
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In spanish the word for 40 is cuarenta so we call ourselves cuarenteens lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:40 PM
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Thats how I pictured him haha
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:38 PM
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I lived in Tijuana for 6 years lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:37 PM
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I appreciate it a lot <3
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:37 PM
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It will never stop being funny how cool my bf tries ro pretend to be but its actually very protective of me. Today was my first day at the gym in Mexico City, its a 20min walk from our place. I like to leave everything ready the night before and my bf was like Yeah sure whatever. He usually wakes up around 10am but today he got up when I was getting ready at 630am and was all like Are you anxious about walking all the way there by yourself? DO NOT TRUST ANYBODY THIS ISNT YOUR HOMETOWN. If anythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:59 PM
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I never had the attention span to talk/date multiple men at a time when I was single. Even when I used dating apps, I would stop Swiping after getting a few matches bc too many conversations at once was overwhelming.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:42 PM
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They were delicious, i like them way more than krispy kreme or dunkin donuts. I had them in Calgary back in 2016 and felt like the ratatouille critic having flashbacks when I gave it the first bite.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:46 AM
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I had no idea there was a bit of Canada in Mexico city <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:19 AM
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Everytime I saw your previous one it made me think of setting mine as “your unfriendly PPD therapist”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:14 AM
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Im trying to but signal is intermittent bc of the rain
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:08 AM
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/u/Opie67 check out La casa de toño <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:39 AM
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Im so happy here <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 01:35 AM
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It actually made me want to give one to my bf but im not seeing him until saturday
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:46 PM
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A guy close to me was falsely accused by a (former) friend of his. The least I would expect from her is a public apology but she rather die than accept she was wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:41 PM
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My bf can do whatever he wants to his body. He already has some ugly ass tattoos and I havent said a word, some letters on his fingers are wont make that much of a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 10:37 PM
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My bf looks like a tough cholo but is a cutie patootie, even in public. I love that side of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 11:52 PM
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Whats up with men and thigh highs
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 04:47 PM
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Thats why they are so annoying, they just want mens attention for validation, any man. They dont want to sleep with them, they just want to know (and for other women to know) that they could have those men if they wanted. Its pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:30 AM
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And some women just want men’s attention, any man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 08:37 PM
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I like it a lot but I dont do casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 08:21 PM
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Maybe if they played pokemon they would 🤷‍♀️ one of the pick mes that I know always starts talking about anime and videogames whenever theres a man around
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 08:21 PM
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Guy on the right. He looks waaaaay more masculine and I like his idgaf confident attitude. He doesnt need all those props to get the job done.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 07:29 PM
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The pick mes I know irl just want men attention in general and like to feel superior to other women bc they get their attention
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 07:27 PM
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I could be very attracted to someone and want to sleep with them in the future but im not letting a stranger inside my body
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:12 PM
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This is the healthiest and safest relationship we both have had. It even feels kinda weird to trust they aren't going to hurt me. We have very similar personalities. Same sense of humor, we both have acts of service as our main love language so we are both always doing nice things for the other. We have very good communication (he more than me, im working on it). He protects me and I protect him. We truly are a team and I dont think Ive ever loved a partner this much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 11:57 PM
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40F, happily childfree. There's plenty of reasons why I dont want them the main one being that I dont want to put someone needs above mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:12 AM
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I didnt reply to her weight posts bc she was (is) in a hard place and anything you say to someone in that situation could trigger them into a crisis worse than what it was but she reminded me when I was her age and with a terrible ED. Forums like this one arent for everyone and shouldnt be taken seriously. Anyone in a vulnerable position can fall into a self loathing hole and become radicalized if everyday they are consuming content about how they will never be enough. Its like if you are listen…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:55 PM
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Same. I follow carnivoreaurelius on ig, I like some of his content but a lot of times he sounds unhinged (but in a funny way)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:39 PM
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Thats correct, ive said before that im a huge hypocrite bc I do judge women with high body counts but when its men it makes me curious on what do they have that that many women have slept with them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 10:31 PM
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He is 44 and has a belly now but ive seen pictures of him when he was younger and he was very skinny and average face. Inb4 anyone start pestering me, Im very attracted to him and im very much in love with him, im just being objective. His sense of humor is what made me want to know him better and we were good friends for years before getting together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:39 PM
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My bf isnt a chad but he has an n count in the 30s and he swears its bc he is funny. It worked with me too 🤷‍♀️ We even have a saying for that in mexico “entre risa y risa te entra la longaniza”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:27 PM
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Omg my ex of 9 years is a very attractive 6’3 blonde with blue eyes who is a legit psychopath. You just opened a can of worms holy fuck <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:42 PM
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Considering my dating history, that actually makes a lot of sense
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:28 PM
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I will never understand the “you are going to end up alone with your cats” threat because I mean look at him and tell me he isnt the most precious thing ever, why wouldnt I be happy waking up everyday to that <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:15 PM
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With the two women I mentioned, Ive been with them in women only groups and when theres men around and they both change personalities. The second woman literally doesnt talk about anything else but anime, manga and videogames if theres men around. She probably has them as genuine hobbies but the act of “look how cool I am with my hobbies im not like the other girls im one of the guys” is the annoying part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:06 PM
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I guess its cool if you dont care that they are doing it for attention and that they arent being genuine 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:02 PM
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A pick me is a woman that acts like “not like the other girls” to get men attention and validation. My former best friend became one after her divorce. She would act like the coolest girl in the world, would start talking about star wars and stuff men usually like and then in private she would tell me “you just need to tell men what they want to hear”. A close friend of mine recently confessed he slept with her once but that she acted like a pornstar and would say stuff like “omg its SO big!” th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:16 PM
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Wtf no
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:16 AM
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I dont think so, im very happy with my bf but I dont need a man in my life to be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:07 PM
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Desperate for romantic relationships or desperate for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:23 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:23 PM
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My bf had a bunch of fwbs when he was younger. I know a few of them, theres some girls that are 10s, like super hot insta models type. Im not ugly but I do not look like that (im a girl next door type). However, he never took them seriously. A few days ago he told me “I thought I had fallen in love before but with you I realize that wasnt love and this really is”. To me, that is way more valuable than not being the most attractive person he has slept with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:17 PM
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Finding someone so physically attractive you cant keep your hands off them also happens once you have developed feelings, hence demisexuality. Thats what happened with my and my bf, he isnt unattractive he just wasnt my type but I fell for him and now I find him extremely attractive and I want to jump on him everytime I see him. I dont find casual sex to be fun and I was never interested in having it. I dont see hot guys and get wet just by seeing them. I need to know them in able to feel comtor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:08 PM
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If he wants to fuckzone me im friendzoning him
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:52 PM
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Season 1 and 2 are really good, season 3 is kinda meh but next season will be the last one and I want to see how it ends
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:15 PM
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We plan to re watch Umbrella Academy all day (new season comes out on the 8th) and im making sushi for lunch
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:50 PM
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I find it ironic that in order to like when men “hawk tuah on that thang” she probably has a lot of experience and men keep telling women they dont like women with high n counts yet men are now saying she represents what most of them want. I have absolutely nothing against her, she is pretty and looks very fun but I do think her comment was trashy. I would be mortified if I became famous for making a sex joke like that and it going viral
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:06 AM
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I have a good friend who is 40 and owns his own business. He is tall and makes good money. He is also obese with health problems bc of it, spends all his money on toys and videogames and refuses to move out of his moms house. We have dinner about once a month and last time I saw him he told me he had cut off most of his friends. Ive tried to talk to him about getting therapy as I think he might be depressed but he says he is happy with things being the way they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:29 AM
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Your reply has nothing to do with his comment wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:05 PM
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Billionaires?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:02 PM
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Me too, I would slap some sense to myself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:50 PM
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I would rather have more people have food and housing instead of a few hoarding resources by selling stuff people dont need but sure
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:48 PM
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Saw it last night, had a lot of fun
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:46 PM
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People need to read the comics before getting outraged
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:45 PM
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I agree, if I was a guy I wouldn’t want to spend a lot of money in a stranger that is measuring how much I value them depending on how much Im willing to spend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:20 PM
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IME, the best thing about the 90s was the music, the toys (and the toys TV ads!!) and the cartoons. When I was 6 my parents took me to Disneyland and I still remember vividly stopping by a mall and getting this barbie <image> I also got a bunch of TMNT stuff. It was awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 04:53 PM
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RP: AWALT Also RP: not ALL women obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:58 PM
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You know what, you are completely right, your example of one woman allegedly losing mens attention represent the experience of all women. Im 40 and im still asked out. My mom is 65 and shes still asked out. Her friends are still getting in relationships. Hell, I went to the wedding of a 70 year old a couple years ago. But yeah, the article you shared completely negates our real life experiences, I guess its over for every single older woman in the world bc of that one example you gave.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:05 PM
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Women never lose men’s attention, you’ll be fine as long as you take care of yourself. Also, most men are less shallow as they age and look for women with the same values and other characteristics beyond their looks. Those who dont, well, I dont think thats the kind of men you would want for a partner anyway so its a non issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:12 AM
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When you don’t know any other dynamic, youre probably going to repeat it until you are aware of what you are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:26 PM
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Im glad my parents divorced but I wish they were mature enough to co parent. 30 years later, they still resent each other and cant be in the same room for long periods of time. Its exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:24 PM
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I have, they are so annoying. Theres one that is known in my social group bc whenever theres men around she only talks about anime, mangas and videogames. She is very pretty and makes good money, she doesnt need to act like a “cool” girl to get mens attention (friends that know her better than I do have the same opinion, shes another person when there arent men around)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:57 AM
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I really hate the phrase “getting your dick wet”. Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:09 PM
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I dont care if he watches porn as long as its legal
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:24 PM
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Thats right, thats why I said she messed up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:36 PM
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Like I said, she messed up about being that obvious, but we all look at attractive people, even when we are in relationships. If it bothers him that much he should break up with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:17 PM
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The girl messed up by being obvious about her response but dont act as if men dont look at attractive women when they are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 12:54 PM
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Whenever I read about men saying they get more attention from younger women once they were in their 30s-40s, I remember the time when I was like 18-19, I was at a bar and I ran into my mom’s friend’s husband (he was like 40). It was very crowded and he was blocking the way so I tapped him on the shoulder and said “hi, im my mom’s daughter, can you let us get through?”. He said yes and moved out of the way. That was our whole interaction. The next morning my mom woke me up asking me what happened…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:01 PM
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I dont like my name at all. I tolerate my first name and thats the one I use in professional settings. In my personal life im known by my nickname that was given to me on the day I was born
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:20 AM
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Long hair is an instant no for me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:53 PM
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Im 40 and I see most guys under 30 as babies. There's a few ones at the gym that I can recognize they are attractive but im not attracted to them, idk how to explain it. Like when I see an attractive woman I can say oh she's gorgeous but im not attracted to her bc im straight. Of the two guys I do feel attracted to one is in his late 30s and the other one is like 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:11 PM
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My bf and I were good friends for 5 years before we got together. We are part of the same group and we live nearby. Since we were both single, one would often pick up the other before functions or if we were both doing nothing we would go out for dinner or to watch a movie. He wasn't interested in a serious relationship and had a bunch of fwbs and hook ups, he used to tell me about them so I wasn't interested in him at all. He asked me if I wanted to hook up or be fwbs but I dont do casual sex s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:21 AM
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I was toxic AF when I was younger. I was in the popular crowd in school and was a mean girl. The three bfs I had were total chads and we had very toxic relationships, I was addicted to drama. I was pretty and from a well known family in my city. I loved getting my way and pissing people off. I made two guys break up with their gfs and then dumped them for being idiots. Karma got me in my 30s and after a couple years of severe depression I focused on healing and what I really wanted. I changed mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:12 AM
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Owww im an emily :(( minus the abortions this was very similar to my story. I spent most of my 30s single and celibate. Im in a happy and healthy relationship now but my priorities have changed a lot. I no longer dream with getting married but it stings a bit to feel that I was never chosen that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:59 PM
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owww I want to hug him and rock him like a baby
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:16 PM
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He looks great when he looks happy but he bums me out in the others, he looks depressed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:05 PM
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But thats a good thing isnt it? She rejecting a man bc he wont take her to an expensive place means they arent compatible. Idk, personally I love it when the trash takes itself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:00 AM
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I like my job but I wish I didn’t have to work
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:01 PM
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Im childfree so i will never be in the position but I dont see what the big deal is. I dont believe we should trust 100% in anyone so if I was a man I would like to be sure about such commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:57 PM
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I did for a while until I realized that 1) she is constantly looking for attention from men 2) she uses sex to get said attention 3) men only pump and dump her but she likes to believe that “she can get any man she wants” 4) my friends who had sex with her told me way different stories to what she told me. I cut ties with her over a year ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:26 PM
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I just downloaded Midnight library tonight, ive heard wonderful things about it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:25 AM
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Wtf USA
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:39 AM
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I would say that 95% of men under 35 look like babies to me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:11 AM
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Im 40 and ive been in the healthiest and happiest relationship of my life for a year. A few days ago a guy asked me for my number at the gym. Theres at least 5 guys that I know that if I was single they would date me in a second. Dont pay attention to what you read online, at 22 you are still very young.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:20 AM
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Ive been criticized a lot irl for being an antinatalist. Theres no reason to have kids that isnt selfish imo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:16 PM
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I dont care if im forgotten Do people really care about their legacy??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:24 PM
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Probably Jake but I would try to convince him to get healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:36 PM
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Not having empathy for a teenager that just lost his mother would classify as psychopathic behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:33 PM
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I dont want to dismiss your feelings but are you sure you arent projecting your feelings towards your aunt and grandma? For what you are saying they didnt say you needed to get it together or man up, its all what you felt through a phone call. And if they indeed thought less of you because of you crying because your mom passed then they are psychopaths, I wouldnt expect a 19 year old to hold it together when going though something that heavy wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:20 PM
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I went to disneyland in 2008 and there was this woman in her 30s throwing a tantrum on the floor while her husband held their baby and their girl was just playing around. I remember her vividly screaming “I’ll never be good enough for you” while shaking on the floor while we all watched in disbelief that a grown ass woman would behave that way. 16 years later I still remember how bizarre the whole scene was, I hope he divorced her and is living a happy life, if she does that in public can you im…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:12 PM
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Then dont date young women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:51 PM
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One thing is ugly crying. A whole different thing is "lying in the fetal position and rocking, going to pieces, being unable to function". If you know women who act like that every month they might have PMDD
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:03 PM
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The only woman Ive seen like that is my aunt with BPD. Like I said, im a therapist. A TRAUMA therapist. I see people crying everyday. Not once have I had a client lying in fetal position rocking themselves, being unable to function.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:01 PM
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You're not ready for ugly-crying, lying in the fetal position and rocking, going to pieces, being unable to function. You're not ready for horizonless grey depression that you can't 'cheer him up' to dispel. You're not ready for crippling anxiety. You're not ready for incoherent anger at everything and nothing for no reason. You're not ready for him to be lost and helpless and afraid, hanging out over the abyss with no way back. Im a woman and I´ve never been like that in front of anyone. Have I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:00 PM
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Q4A: Whats your BF% and what’s your BF% preference in a partner? Im around 25% and like men around 25%BF as well <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 02:51 AM
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Right? Ive had paid for friends meals when they were short on money and theyve done the same thing for me. I have a good friend that makes a lot more than I do. We have dinner once a month and he always pay for it and I pay for dessert. Sometimes I bring pizza to his place and we have dinner there. Thats how friendships are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 09:18 PM
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women that are relationship material are not the same women who would be attracted to a serial killer with stupid face tattoos
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 09:13 PM
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Every mexican immigrant that ive met have told me the same thing “its easy to make money in the US to live comfortably, its just that americans like to buy a lot of stuff”. Some of them dont even speak english.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 09:11 PM
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It was! I chopped the clams and mixed it with sun dried tomatoes, onions, bacon, butter and gouda, then put them on the grill for about 15min. Sooo good 10/10 I will do it again
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:46 AM
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My moms froms cdmx so Im used to spend the summers ther. Ever since I started to wfh in 2021 I move to mexico city from august to november, my bf has been doing the same thing since 2014, this is the first time we will be living together for those months. I love mexico city, theres always something to do and the weather is so nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:42 AM
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We go up to 48-49C in august-september, I move to Mexico City from august to november ever since I started to wfh, its no way to live to be stuck in the ac for a two months
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:36 AM
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I lied I dont really love my bf Im just with him bc he owns and appartment in Mexico city and we will be loving there for the hottest months <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:28 AM
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It was 43C today and freaking humid, it isnt even the hotter season I hate it here in the summer
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:26 AM
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Pinot grigio 👌👌 <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:14 AM
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Im drunk right now and this is so cute omg
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:24 AM
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First time I make grilled clams, my bf should wife me up asap <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:10 AM
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They divorced 30 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 11:16 PM
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He already had a gold digging whore for a wife for 20 years, Im not helping him get another one
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 10:55 PM
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These guys hate the “women are wonderful” narrative but do the exact same thing regarding non-chad men. A friend of mine divorced bc her ex husband turned violent after their 3rd kid was born. The reason why he turned violent was because money was tight so she had to get a job and she started doing great so he felt emasculated. When she asked for a divorce he told her that the kids will never hear from him again. After a long legal battle he started paying child support last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 10:53 PM
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My 73 year old dad just told me he is quitting trying to find a wife lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 10:35 PM
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Other than money, what else is a passport bro offering a woman that men from her own culture wouldnt?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:45 PM
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If Emma Stone or Keyra Knightly want to sleep with him I will be the one handing them the condoms
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 12:51 AM
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He has his own list, I guess im a beta too 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:58 PM
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He has his own list 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:57 PM
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This makes me so sad, he used to be on my “celebrities my bf would let me bang” list. I have a spot to fill now
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:46 PM
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Its called Trauma bonding✨
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:30 AM
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I hate everyone equally <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:28 AM
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Im 40 and im still asked out. My 65 year old mom still gets asked out. Dont let them get to your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:19 AM
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I rather have commitment before having sex. I care about n-counts and im not going to waste it in some guy who doesn't know if he likes me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 07:27 PM
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He isnt wrong tho
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 07:26 PM
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One of my gym mates trains for triathlons and has a very nice, muscular body. He is also in his 50s. You can do both.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 07:23 PM
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This is because of other Men who act like porn in 2024 is the same as porn in 1994 and feed the narrative that it's normal I like this narrative, 100% true
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 07:20 PM
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My first bf was very slim and my second bf was chubby. Cuddling chubby guy was way superior, I remember the first time I hugged him I loved how soft he was
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:41 AM
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I dont want to date a man who only eats chicken breast and broccoli because he cares that much for his appearance. I dont want a fatty either, i like “you can tell I work out but you can also tell I dont say no to pizza” bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:38 AM
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Is it intuition or is it pattern recognition 🤔🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:25 PM
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Im so grateful im childfree jfc
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:58 PM
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I had friendzoned my bf before we got together. He is a great guy but not my usual type and he was adamantly against commitment so I didnt even think about him more than a friend. He would tell me about all the girls he slept with and I wasnt planning to be another one. He says he used to tell our other friends that he wanted to hook up with me but that was about it. Last year he brought up about being fwbs and I said no. He went through some difficult stuff and I was the only one he confided in…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:55 PM
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I was celibate for years, my satisfyer was more than enough 👌👌
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 03:59 AM
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Nah, I just think “he’s hot” and thats it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:49 PM
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Ive been here for 11 years, I havent realized it yet
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:01 AM
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Great idea! We can make mezcalitas instead of margaritas, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 07:32 PM
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I appreciate your suggestions but considering that the age range of the atendees is 34-44, we are thinking more of a board games hard drugs-free kind of evening. Might go crazy and get different flavors of ice cream for dessert.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:56 PM
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Glad to hear 🙏🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:50 PM
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Bf and I are hosting a pool party tomorrow. So far we will have carne asada, corn and flour tortillas, sausages, guacamole, mac&cheese, beer and mezcal. Any other ideas?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:30 PM
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How are you doing? Have you been able to relax?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:26 PM
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I did! Ended up having a free morning so I stayed an extra hour at the gym, apparently after 10am it gets very quiet and nice 😌😌
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:12 PM
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Actual representation of today’s indoor cycling class <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 05:54 PM
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My bf takes a lot of mental load from me without asking. We dont live together and one time he stayed at my house he noticed my desk was kinda flimsy, a few days later he showed up with tools and screws to make it sturdier. I broke my iwatch a couple days ago and he told me he would take it to the shop bc he knew I didnt have time during the week to take it myself. He is very observant and he knows something is going on just by looking my eyes. I like to think we both go above and beyond for Eac…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:36 PM
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Its a movie about a writer who writes about his perfect woman and she becomes real
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:09 PM
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Everyone with a long list of requirements for a partner should watch Ruby Sparks
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:10 PM
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I usually believe that they only like me as a friend until they ask me out directly. Its a running joke in my friend group how dense I am. My bf and I were good friends for 5 years before we got together and when the rest of the group found out I got comments like “finally” or “we’ve seen It coming for years”. I honestly never thought he was interested in that way, I thought we were good friends that texted all day and went out for dinner or the movies by ourselves lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:42 PM
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One of my friends has bad trauma from being cheated on multiple times so she did tell her current bf that she wanted to be able to go through his phone when she felt like it. He agreed on it at first but then he started to get fed up whenever she did it. she got pregnant 3 months in and he doesnt want to leave (baby was born last month) but its a constant issue between them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:28 PM
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My bf likes to discuss the same topics but on twitter, we often share our povs. Funnily, he leans blue while I lean red.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:22 PM
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My bf and I know how to unlock each others phone but we only have done it in front of the other when we need something (like if my phone is connected to the speaker and he wants to change the music). It hasnt happened yet but I think we are mature enough to ask The other directly if we are feeling insecure about something. His ex went through his phone one night and got upset about his chat with my bff (they are friends and their chat is just dumb memes), she went into rage mode and ended up bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:00 PM
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I rarely notice when I have an “orbiter” bc I genuinely tend to believe that those men want to be my friends 🥲 The cases when I do notice its because its plain obvious and makes me very uncomfortable so I try to avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 01:51 PM
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The only unconditional love that exists is from parents to their children. We all get something from other types of relationships, either romantic or platonic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 01:14 PM
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I was in 3 relationships: 15 to 20, 20 to 21 and 21 to 30
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:15 PM
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Nope. I dont like casual sex, my satisfyer was more than enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:15 PM
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Yes, from 30 to 39 I only dated 2 guys for a couple of months each, one at 31 and the other at 38. In 2019 I decided to give apps a chance and had a lot of first dates but none of them evolved into more. I started dating my current bf at 39.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:57 PM
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All songs from that stupid genre are gross
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:57 PM
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You missed the part where I said its a case by case thing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:34 PM
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I had the same experience and most of my friends so she does represent some of us
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:04 PM
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I dont care if my partners looks at other women as long as he isnt being gross or too obvious about it. Just because we are on a diet doesn't mean we can't look at the menu.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:28 AM
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My issue with large age gap relationships is that, in my observations, are often not ones with healthy dynamics. Within the few I know of there was the transactional one (rich 50M and 19F), the guy who openly said he likes them young to mold them (40M and 20F), the immature guys who no woman their age wanted to date them (late 30sM)...On the other hand, a friend of mine (very pretty 39F, divorced, mother of a teenager) started a fwb relationship with a 26 year old guy, they fell in love and Ive …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:24 AM
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I think humor. It is very important to me that I can have fun with my partner
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:10 PM
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Humor and confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:30 PM
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Should I go out this hot sunday morning to get pork shank tacos for breakfast or should I just eat leftovers and go back to bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:05 PM
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Lazy free loading bums
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:25 PM
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I never pay attention to mens butts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:16 PM
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Millennials going insane when they hear just one piano key
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:39 PM
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Lmao the dude cant find one woman and is worried about his options
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:13 AM
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A guy with a high n count tells me he has game/the confidence to pull women and I find that attractive 🤷‍♀️ it also depends how high is high, I think I would find men with a >50 count disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:05 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:03 PM
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This is one of the topics that make me lean red. Call it internalized misogyny, I dont care. I havent met a promiscuous woman who doesnt do it to get a mans validation yet and I do not set men at the same standard. Im a big hypocrite bc of that, i don’t care about it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:48 PM
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Some men get very emotional when they realize that we rather be alone than giving them a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:43 PM
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Ive literally had guys my age tell me that they like to date women in their early 20s because “you can mold them your way”. Men like that want women without experience who will believe their bullshit. “Baggage” often means “previous experience that wont make them tolerate their bullshit”. Most older women arent jealous because we cant get such idiotic men. I actually like when they are that open about it, I love it when the trash takes itself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:54 PM
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The Pottermore test said I was a Ravenclaw but I decide to identify as a Slytherin
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:13 PM
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(I literally went to a HP themed coffee place last night, Slytherin ftw 🐍🐍)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:30 PM
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schadenfreude✨ im a big fan. I do not wish ill to people who have wronged me, I just ask the universe to let me know if something bad happens to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:05 PM
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Whats funny is that he isnt that attractive, he is one of those people who has a je ne sais quois. Some of the players are conventionally attractive but I find them kinda meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:21 PM
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So ive been lying to myself when I feel love for my bf?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:35 PM
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Local soccer team used to train at my gym around noon but they started going earlier last week. Pisses me off bc they hoard the whole weight area. My mom befriended them last year (they call her the team granny) and she asked me who of the playera I found the hottest. Turns out the only one I thought was hot is their physical therapist lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:29 PM
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Im sorry no woman has ever loved you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:51 PM
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I do warn my friends and relatives. They never listen 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:44 PM
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Its not bc we want those men, its because older men wanting to date girls <23 is creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:41 PM
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I would feel more comfortable with each having our own accounts but also having a joint account where we both put a percentage of our income to pay for bills and house stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:40 AM
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Right? “Many men your age would rather date a younger girl than you” “cool, I wouldnt want a guy who chases girls in their 20s anyway”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:20 PM
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Who said im owed a clean up anything? I do not have some crazy expectations nor 6-6-6 standards. My bf is far from being any of that and im happier with him than in all my previous relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:02 AM
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If I had married my first bf (15 to 20) we would have divorced or one of us would be dead, we were immature and toxic as fuck. Second bf (20 to 21) started doing meth so I would have left anyway bc I wouldnt stay with an addict, much less at 21. Third bf (21 to 30) I thought we would get married but he wanted to experiment with other women and instead of breaking up he cheated on me so we would have been divorced any way. Ive always been LTR oriented but it would have been a huge mistake marryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:26 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 05:28 PM
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No it doesn’t bother me because you have a biased opinion and have no idea how therapy works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 03:32 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 02:42 PM
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Its over the counter in Mexico, just go to Tijuana and buy a bunch of boxes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 02:03 AM
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Im so sorry and it makes my blood boil when I hear such cases. One of my friends that I referred to him told me he liked him bc he didnt talk about god and I was like “what? Other therapists do that??” One of the first things I was told in school was that we cant push our beliefs onto our clients
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 01:56 AM
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Im a therapist. I work online with Spanish speaking clients all over the world. Ive had over 100 clients in the last 3 years and maybe 10% of them have been men and less than half to those have been heterosexual men. Like Dj_crunch mentioned, therapy can help you with some aspects like anxiety, depression or trauma and even maybe to help you accept what you can't change regarding dating culture. Men are more practical, they usually go to therapy to deal with an specific issue while women usually…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 01:20 AM
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You are too cute
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:09 AM
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Im a huge fan of psychedelics, the research of their use on trauma treatment is fascinating but im also in favor of their recreational use
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:25 AM
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LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:21 AM
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Me when I get mad when someone says women my age are jaded but then I read the comments made by girls under 25 and realize that i am, in fact, jaded <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:15 PM
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Theres a lot of women who think that a man who will take you seriously will take you to a nice dinner/expensive date for the first time. Ive heard stuff like “ir he isnt making an effort from the first time you meet what can you expect for the rest of the relationship?”. I love going out to eat and try new restaurants but I was never comfortable the few times I did it with someone I just met. I noticed that I was way more comfortable in more relaxed places like a coffee place or having a beer. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:09 PM
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You would think
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:32 PM
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Coffee/walking first dates are perfectly ok - If someone isnt happy being single, they arent going to be happy in a relationship - People shouldn't make relationships their only source of happiness. People in LTRs should keep making an effort to look good and take care of their partners Everyone should question themselves why they want to get married or have kids Hypergamy happens in both genders but women have more options Edit: Changed my second point. Depending on someone else to be happy isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:30 PM
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I love everything self improvement bc I dont want to feel like I wasted my life not trying to be the best version of myself. In the case of men being told to self improve in order to get women, I dont think they mean it as a solution but to increase the odds of it happening. A guy in shape and with his shit together has better odds of getting women than an overweight NEET.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:56 PM
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I rather die of cancer than smell
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:34 AM
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Dont forget to tell them “you’re acting just like my ex” to let them know that you’ve seen such behavior before and know how to deal with it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:32 AM
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I think its a personal issue and one of the things couples should discuss if one of the partners isnt comfortable with it. I dont have an issue with my bf dancing with other women and he doesnt have an issue with me dancing with other men but if he asked me not to I would respect his view bc my relationship with him is more important to me than dancing with a random guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:49 PM
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At 6?? wow that must have been rough
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:38 PM
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What about a woman who wants a more stable relationship and also wants you for being you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:33 PM
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There was a ton fuck of PTSD on the golden generation and previous. Domestic violence was normalized because they didnt know how to deal with their emotions either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:00 PM
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I fell into the "The guy is an asshole but my love will change him and he will change for me because he loves me so much" fantasy lmao. And yes I was a dumb fuck. I blame rom coms and Disney lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:56 PM
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I fell into the fantasy of "The guy is an asshole but my love will change him and he will be nice to me because he loves me so much" lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:53 PM
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But Im 40 and I have cats :(
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:48 PM
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im a feminist but I dont agree with "women are perfect men are the devil". There are assholes on both sides (and also very valuable people on both sides). I lean red because I do agree with what the RP says about how women have it easier and a lot of the dynamics they describe. I do not agree with every woman being a whore when young and then look for a beta provider. Of course there are some but I dont think its the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:47 PM
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Because I was in relationships?????
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:42 PM
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Ok I'll bite because Im taking a class and im kinda bored Have you got the fun out of your system? If by suffering and getting cheated on repeatedly you call it fun, yes, its out of my system. Can i exepect to explore anything with you or is it always gonna be exactly what you want how much you want it? What do you mean with exploring? What is it gonna be what I want how much I want it? Is there anything in your heart left to have fun with me? I have plenty of fun with my boyfriend! We are laugh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:41 PM
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I think all young people are pretty stupid, not only women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:24 PM
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I think we are all pretty stupid in our early 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:24 PM
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You've never made a mistake in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:23 PM
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I dont believe that women mature faster than men, I think we are all idiots in our teens/early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:23 PM
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I feel like this generation is much worse off than managing their emotions than previous generations, and they just aren't as rough and tough mentally as prior generations. Represing their emotions doesn't mean they were tougher mentally. I mean, boomers aren't exactly the image of good mental health and are actually the reason why so many millennials and gen Zs are now in therapy. Trauma research is kinda recent and there's so much we dont know yet. We could be on the same car accident and I co…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:21 PM
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Men dont learn and grow up from their mistakes?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:45 PM
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Just 3 lol 5 year relationship from 15 to 20, 1 year relationship from 20-21, 9 year relationship from 21 to 30. I dont do casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:39 PM
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What about “I was an idiot in college and thought that I could change an asshole. Now that im older and I learnt the lesson, I see that its not worthy and I rather have something healthier with someone more aligned with what I look for in a serious relationship”?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:18 PM
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They still arent free 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:51 PM
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Nails cost money, getting your eyebrows done cost money, gym membership costs money, clothes cost money etc etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:54 PM
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Money pays for stuff that makes you look desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:05 PM
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Are you hispanic?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:43 AM
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I was thinking about this a few days ago bc its absolutely true but idk if its something we do unconsciously? I remembered this guy I had a crush on like 5 years ago. He is kinda cute and like 5’6 but very funny and had a lot of self confidence, he had something that attracted me but I couldnt say what. We used to hang out bc we had mutual friends but he stopped going out when his gf got pregnant. Anyway, to make a long story short, last year I found out he was 10 years in jail for homicide befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 04:19 AM
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Law of supply and demand. Unfortunately for them, dick is abundant
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 07:55 PM
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Did you find Hunter´s profile?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:10 AM
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dont worry, he grosses me out to no end. Specially bc im a year younger than her (my sister is 2 years older ). He just told me today that he is actively looking for a new partner so they can take care of him (He is a malignant narcissist, I dont expect much from him)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:09 AM
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Woman: Im attracted to my husband This guy: NO YOU JUST DONT KNOW YOU ARE SETTLING FOR HIM AND HATE HIM
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:48 PM
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idk he just posted that, I dont even remember his username.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:38 PM
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Dont have sex then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:24 PM
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I think it was on the daily thread of two days ago that a guy was complaining that some women on PPD talk about how much we love our bfs and that we are attracted to them even if they arent a Chad and he said that we shouldnt do that bc we are making guys who’ve never been loved to feel even worse. Some men really just want to hate on women not matter what we do uh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:22 PM
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Tattoos and glasses 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:12 PM
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You can pay for that 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:08 PM
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Not that I hate my country, but if I loved it more I still wouldnt make such a large sacrifice like birthing a child I dont want. It would make me miserable. I wouldnt go to war for my country either bc I dont support any war. I pay my taxes and I think im a good citizen. I constantly take pro bono patients who cant afford therapy, sacrificing my time, money and effort. That should be enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:06 PM
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In my group, we dont talk about intimate details about our partners. The only time a friend brought it up it was in private and she was looking for advice. Ive heard more about hookups and fwbs but it isnt detailed, its more like “it was very good” or “it was awful im not seeing him again”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:12 PM
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Ive never wanted kids and my country doesnt deserve such a sacrifice from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:03 PM
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I have no idea bc im 40 but im very into fitness and I take a lot of care of myself. I can tell you that my booty is a 10 tho
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:51 PM
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Two of my friends slept with a former friend of mine, they both said that she would say stuff like OMG ITS SO BIG I CANT BELIEVE IT and over do the moaning and screaming in bed, both said it was a turn off for them. I dont think she wanted commitment from them per se but she is someone who needs constant validation and likes to be told shes hot and that shes the best sex theyve had.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:30 PM
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Im childfree, I dont like kids and I barely drink lol life is so much more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:06 PM
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I really wish you can experience how is it to be fullfiled out of a romantic relationship once in your life. The concept you have about the role of a relationship in your life will only leave you bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:04 PM
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Dude, needing someone to be happy isnt healthy thats codependency. You should be your own complete person and your partner should bring you extra happiness, depending on someone else to be happy isnt a good thing. Im sorry for the person that you put such a huge responsabily on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:44 PM
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I was single from 30 to 39, celibate for most of those years. Im also childfree and ambivalent towards marriage so I was in no hurry to find a partner. Got into fitness and a lot of hobbies, I have an active social life and I have a very fulfilling career so I was very very happy with my life. Got together with my bf last year after being friends for 5 years bc we started to get closer and developed feelings. He brings me additional happiness but if we broke up im ok with staying single. On the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 08:52 PM
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I wish that was true
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:55 PM
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So you want to reduce mens dating pool even more
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:25 PM
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I dont feel bad for him, he had it coming lol im more pissed about my inheritance tbh He thought that she being so young he could “mold” her. He thought that by giving her everything she wouldnt leave and he was set for life. She cheated with his employees and a bus driver lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:05 PM
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My dad got together with a 20’year old when he was 50. She got pregnant less than one year in. My dad is loaded. He is 73 now, he learned a couple months ago that she has cheated on him for a long time, their kids (now in college) are a mess and he is living alone and desperate bc, although he is very healthy and active now, he knows this can change any minute. She kept their house, the cars and 40% of his money. My relationship with him got irreparably damaged because Ive always told him she wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:39 PM
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This. Plus, daddy issues✨
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:28 PM
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I wish that was the issue. Im a therapist, please see my other comment about what im talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:26 PM
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Im not talking about guys not having experiences with girls because of porn, im talking about the psychological consequences of porn from that young age. Im not talking about just boys either. Last year I had a patient, a 16 years old girl, who started watching porn at 10 and by 16 she can only get off watching super hardcore stuff. I had another case, very similar, but she was 20 when I met her. This year i worked with a 21 yo gorgeous christian girl whose husband has such a bad porn addiction …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:24 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:39 AM
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Right?? Its crazy how defensive they get and they don’t see they have a problem?? Im very worried about gen z and younger generations that were born with easy access to hardcore stuff very young. Ive had patients who started to watch porn when they were 8! That cant be healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:38 AM
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Although its not scientifically proven, I do think that it can help explain how people gets attached in relationships. For example, friend of mine gets super anxious when she likes someone. She wants things to move very quickly because formalizing a relationship makes her feel more secure. Shes constantly wondering if the guy is happy with her, if they are cheating on her. She has moved in with 4 different guys less than a month into dating. That would be called an anxious attatchment. Im what w…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:36 PM
1

Im ambivalent towards marriage and im anti-natalist so I dont care if they are legal or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 09:53 PM
1

Cool, dont get married nor reproduce then. Most people grow up and accept that we all have a past.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:54 PM
1

What part of my comment made you come to that conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:13 PM
1

Do you think the woman that initially chase the fantasy feel content when they settle down with Steve from accounting instead? Do they feel like they settled or were forced to settle? No, because you grow up and realize the fantasy doesn't exist and also finding someone hotter after you fall in love with them is something that does happen. Just because Steve from accounting isnt covered in tattoos means that he is boring and that its impossible to fall in love with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:51 PM
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What men dont seem to understand is that if a woman is only looking for a hookup shes going to look for the hottest guy she can find and shes going to sleep with him soon. If shes looking for a relationship she might delay sex until shes sure he got the relationship qualities shes looking for and will probably be more flexible with appearance. Hook ups are rarely fullfiling. if ive decided thats all I want why the hell would I waste it with an ugly guy. For a relationship im going to look for mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 02:11 PM
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I wouldnt care tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:31 AM
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I was talking to 3 of my guy friends (38, 43 & 44) about dating younger women. Only the 38yo finds women under 25 attractive. The other 2 said they see them as kids. The 38yo said he would only hook up with them and not a serious relationship bc of the cultural differences. Conversation got pretty interesting from that point, the other 2 said the same thing. They have met girls that age and by talking to them they feel like they live in 2 different worlds. They said that with age they have becom…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:29 PM
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There are so many women into homebrewing that they have their own association in my state. They also take trainings in both homebrewing and business marketing with men in the industry. I even know a 34 yo woman who left her dr husband for a guy she met at a homebrewing class (husband is very dull, beer guy is fun af)(shes a dr too btw).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:48 PM
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Ive never liked hook ups and ive never had a ons but if I were going to he would have to be way more attractive than the guy in the video 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 08:11 PM
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Guys do that too if given the option, again, young people are more shallow
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:32 PM
5

Everyone should try to looksmax. We all deserve to feel at our best at least once in our life. Not because of external validation but bc loving yourself is the best thing one can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:29 PM
1

He isnt attractive enough to let a stranger spend the night in my house wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:27 PM
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Young people are more shallow, shocking!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:34 PM
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Theres an ig semi popular woman in her 30s in my country who got fed up with apps and started organizing old school events like singles parties and speed dating events, they get sold put pretty quickly so i guess more of them would happen
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:14 PM
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Lmao at someone thinking a mexican guy is just faithfully waiting for her. Specially a famous guy. Source: im mexican.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:44 PM
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So is the train of thought that the mothers are coming home and doing housework while the fathers are doing nothing at all? This is the main argument causing point in most of the married couples I know. Both of them work but only women take care of the house chores and childcare (and if the husband does any housework they act as if they are doing the woman a favor).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 02:54 PM
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I do not agree with how he has handled his romantic life at all but he is a good person and he is making an effort to be better (he is in therapy, recently lost like 100 pounds, he is aware of his own issues and why he was dating only younger girls and working on it). I would not date him because of many reasons but he is a very good friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:10 PM
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I think its romantic if the guy surprises you with a nice picnic. Definitely not for a first date, more like with someone you´ve known for a while
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:43 AM
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maybe it has to do with the development of clitoral stimulation toys? Ive watched those videos while using my satisfyer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:02 AM
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I freaking love stephen colbert
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:18 AM
4

This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:12 AM
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Im 36 and I have dated guys 10 years younger and guys 10 years older than me. I’ve come to learn that age doesnt matter at all, fuckboys will become fuckmen as they age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:30 PM
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Living in a commune with my bffs is my retirement plan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:30 AM
1

Si de repente se intensean, yo solo tomo algunas cosas que si me parecen de HVW, no se debe de generalizar para todo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:49 AM
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A ver si entendi: Solo lo usabas por sexo por que es LVM y lo mandaste al diablo pero el si queria una relacion contigo y tu lo trataste mal? Ahora te vuelve a buscar y le enviaste ese gif? O sea en realidad no te hizo nada malo o que historia hay detras?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:40 PM
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I went through the same thing in 2007 and it has stopped me from doing so many things. Your comment made me feel way better about it, thank you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:35 PM
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Nah, I know guys in their 40s still pulling this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 09:03 PM
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And if the woman gets mad he calls her crazy because they werent serious so she shouldnt get upset 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 09:02 PM
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Why is it that so many men do this? I was going out with a guy 5 years older than me and after two months he told me he wasnt looking for anything serious?? I never slept with him so I was like ok this is over and stopped hanging out with him. Yesterday he stopped by at my work and while talking he told me he is very attracted to me?? Like dude im not going to sleep with you just shut up already. I mean, if they dont want a relationship then dont have one but they need to stop doing this shit an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:55 PM
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I own a restaurant so I get chef made meals everyday but I love to cook, I used to do it daily when I was living with my ex (before I had the restaurant etc). Making dinner for him was one of my favorite parts of the day. I really dislike the overgeneralization trp makes for some topics. I think most users are from the US and other first world countries where it is possible to eat out everyday but the only people I personally know that eat out that often are single guys. Cooking for yourself is …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 07:33 AM
1

it was 5 days
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 10:04 PM
1

Hamster went wild last week! Guy I've been seeing for 2 months went MIA on thursday. By Tuesday I thought I got ghosted and was pretty bummed and then on wednesday he texted me and casually told me that his grandfather has been in the hospital and he is spending all his free time with him. I felt so awful!!! There I was making it all about me and going through the grief stages because I thought I got ghosted lol. Lesson learned, thank god I STFU and just waited for him to reach out, the old me w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 05:29 PM
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Ive never been a big drinker but I cut back even more around two years ago. I think I had maybe 5 beers during all 2018. I do love my wax pen tho.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 03:33 AM
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TRP is a sexual strategy for men to get sex, most of the guys on the sub aren't looking for a relationship but they improve themselves to get sex. Meanwhile RPW is a strategy for improving yourself to get a high quality man in a LTR - you would like to look for someone who has both alpha and beta traits.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 04:12 PM
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He works M-F 2-7pm at one hospital and 7pm-7am at another hospital 2/3 nights a week. Because of his schedule, his sleep cycle is all messed up so even if he doesn't have to work he can't sleep much. I own my own business so I do office work 9am-12pm and then Im at the restaurant at 5pm until we close. From 12 to 5pm I go to the gym, have lunch and take a nap. you two plan to literally (not sexually) sleep together at night. We are both super lazy so just staying in bed is not that bad idea lol …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 03:09 AM
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We dont have nice parks where we live but we do have beautiful beaches!
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:14 AM
2

I´ve had Jaipur on my amazon wish list for a while, I think its about time to get it
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:12 AM
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Thank you for your reply! I think I saw a gingerbread house kit at sams last week, I´ll check if they still have some (we live in mexico where it isnt a tradition as it is in the US so its uncommon to find them here).
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:12 AM
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I actually go to the farmers market every saturday to get produce for the restaurant and he asked me to keep an eye for an specific type of zucchini. I was going to get it for him but I´ll ask him to go with me and have brunch together the next time he doesnt have a night shift on a friday. One of my favorite dates ever was when I was a lot younger and he and I grabbed Chinese takeout and ate at a coin op laundromat and acted like kids while we did our laundry. This sounds super fun! I much rath…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:09 AM
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Something about making a pizza is more fun than making say, spaghetti together. You don't do it every day. My restaurant is a pizza place, I cant do any more pizza lol! but you gave me a great idea, we can totally change it to sushi night. Do you have interest in sports? He is big into sports and used to play football. We have watched games at my restaurant but Im looking forward to staying in bed with him and spend all sunday watching tv (I do enjoy football too, we even like the same team).
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:05 AM
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Board games!! I love board games and he is pretty competitive, great idea thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 04:52 PM
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YES thank you
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:19 PM
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Women in their 30s are more inclined to be sexual, simply because our bodies know it's the "last call" before the fertility-ship sails I would also add that self confidence plays an important part on the women sexual peak. I feel way more confident now than when I was younger, now Im not ashamed for saying what I want or trying to do new things. men are deluding themselves that they're "most sexually desirable" in their 50´s I havent heard a woman say Tom Cruise is hot in the last 15 years lol. …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 05:19 AM
1

Going to the spa Doing an at home spa day (if I dont want to spend money) Getting my nails done Going to the gym Going to bed early and read until I fall sleep
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 04:20 PM
3

wat
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 06:11 PM
6

I own a restaurant in Mexico in an area with a heavy american and canadian population - I think numbers are around 1,000 foreigners with 90% of them being white guys in their 50s-70s. After four years of working with them I've only thought 1 man was hot. ONE. Many of them have showed me pictures from when they were younger and most of them used to be hot but did not age well at all.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 07:27 PM
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I never thought of that before, I think both issues are equally damaging. I had a 9 year relationship in my 20s with someone with not much experience (we were at the same level) so I thought that those kind of experiences were much rare than what they really are! The few guys I've dated in the last 4 years have all being in threesomes, orgies, and stuff like that and tbh im amazed at how common are young women that are into those kind of things with about anyone - My jaw drops when I hear their …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 07:31 AM
3

This is not what I meant at all
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 02:50 AM
1

He is like the poster boy for TRP. Only younger women date him because they are too naive to see through him. His ex told me that on their first date he got her favorite flowers (a specific flower and color not very common). Back then she thought that was the most impressive thing someone had done for her but now she looks back and think how super creepy it was that he got her investigated before they got together. I agree with your definition of an Alpha but I think that men consider an alpha a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:27 PM
1

A guy I know is the definition of an "alpha male" (36, loaded, important job, PR genius, manipulative af, very short of being a sociopath tbh) and he only dates girls around 10 years younger than him. Why? Because no woman his age would be caught dead near him. All the gals in my friend group hate him because of the misogynistic and idiotic stuff that comes out of his mouth. His ex girlfriend (26) is a 10, super nice girl from an important family in my city. She left him last year because she ou…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 02:04 AM
1

Whats up with parents doing that to their children? My mom did the same thing to me, maybe they just didn't want to see we were not kids anymore?
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 01:48 AM
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As you, I feel way more confident and attractive now at 34 than what I was in my 20s. Many people have told me that I look the same as when we were in high school but when I was younger I had zero self esteem and used to feel ugly. I remember when I was 19 and I was pretty damn stupid. I never had a date-older-guys phase but I remember those friends that did dated guys in their 30s and I can't comprehend how they put up with teenage girls. As I understand, men are biologically attracted to young…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 01:26 AM
3

Oh me too, I don't like using toys but if my options are sleeping around and taking care on my own hands I choose the later.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:34 AM
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Im over 30 and single and one of my friends was making fun of me because she finds it silly that I have to be in a relationship with someone in order to have sex - In 7 years she has slept with almost 30 guys while I've been with 7 my whole life (and I wish I could take back 2 of those, bad decisions on my part). Now they call needing to have a relationship in order to have sex being "demisexual", to me its just selling yourself for what you think you are worth. If you believe that you are not w…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/18 08:35 PM
1

I've never heard anyone talk about it irl either but I think that most guys do care. However, I live in a small town where everyone knows everyones business so we all know who sleeps around, no need to ask directly lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 05:15 AM
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Lol yes, and Im a nutritionist who owns a pizza place 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWives10/11/18 03:22 AM
1

oh yeah, im in no way condoning cheating and its not something I would ever do, but I think its a good example of why RP works
/r/RedPillWives10/10/18 02:32 PM
1

I love this. This year I went from "Treat yourself, ate that cake" to "Treat yourself, turn off your phone and go to sleep so you feel better in the morning". Its so important to see healthy behaviors as giving a gift to our body instead of being a punishment for having ate that cake.
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 05:43 AM
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When I first started lurking the RPW subs I was looking for advice on how to be more feminine and attract men. What I found was a bunch of young women who believe that being married is every women`s ultimate goal and that like to be mean to other women just because they feel better than them. What broke the camels back was a comment made by one of the mods saying that "we were guests at the RP house" so we couldn't criticise the RP theory. I realised that it was very cultish and that they were j…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/18 10:32 PM
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I get acrylics bc I tend to bite my nails. I get them short and the most natural looking they can be, I cant stand the super embelished designs with crystals and stuff. I have gotten compliments from guys bc of my nails so I think they work lol
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 11:38 PM
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If we are bitter I dont know what word I would use towards you. Good lord, take a chill pill.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/18 10:02 PM
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January goals reached: Myself: Lost 6 pounds, I deactivated my instagram and unfollowed a lot of people/pages on fb (its my main form of communication with friends who live in different cities so I don't want to delete it), finally went to the dr for an issue I´ve been putting aside (On saturday I will know if Im gonna need surgery), been working hard on going zero waste. Home: Konmarie´d my room and closet, I got this awesome power brush to clean the floor´s grout and now im obsessed with clean…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/18 05:23 AM
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I went through the same thing when I was with my ex. He understood what I was going through because it was more of "I don't feel like doing my makeup/Im too sad to get a shower/I don't have the energy to go out" than "Im not shaving my armpits for the patriarchy".
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 02:23 AM
1

What should I focus on for the next year?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 01:51 AM
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I have 2 close friends and the 3 of us are very open about our sexuality when the topic comes up - they being way more kinky and talkative about it than I am. I have never felt uncomfortable for something they have said, they have never forced me to see them naked or having sex and if it that was the case and I speak up im sure they would respect my choice not to know that much about their intimacy. If you dont feel comfortable asking them to lowering down a bit I would reevaluate the friendship…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 02:31 AM
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Lose weight - go back to crossfit, yoga and skating. Get more into minimalism/zero waste. Make my mom´s house a home - She is clinically depressed and I decided to stay longer at her place. Its a huge house with lots of potencial but she hasn't taken care of it for years so im working towards making a better environment for the both of us. Learn french Be positive and surround myself with people that brings more positivity into my life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 07:54 AM
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Not yet! I told him that we should meet up but im letting him take his time, I don't want him to feel pressured by me
/r/RedPillWives14/12/17 08:34 PM
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Oh Im totally aware of that, it almost as if we were starting from 0, we need to get to know each other again. His ex is not a nice person and for what I can tell he is pretty hurt (she used to date one of my closest friends)
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 01:08 AM
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I plan to!
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 01:07 AM
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Thank you for your reply. We have texted a few times but havent met in person yet. I told him that we shoud met up to chat and he said that he would like that but didnt set a date so im going to give him space until he is ready
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 01:07 AM
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Im not from the US but I do have a lot of american costumers. We are going to have turkey sandwiches with cranberry sauce for this weekend´s special dish. Although I love my traditions and culture, I really like the idea of having a holiday to be thankful.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/17 10:48 PM
1

You know what, im actually a ENFJ and am very interested on what the person you mentioned said to you, could you please explain further?? Thank you for your reply!
/r/RedPillWives21/10/17 07:50 PM
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I haven't discussed it with a doctor yet. I´ve been feeling like this for so long that I got used to it but im so done with feeling like this that I talked to my therapist on our last session, he believes that is related to anxiety. Thank you for your reply, I will talk about it with my psychiatrist on my next appointment.
/r/RedPillWives21/10/17 07:49 PM
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Thank you, I will try this. I´ve been thinking that maybe I need to explore my spirituality, maybe that is what im missing
/r/RedPillWives21/10/17 07:47 PM
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