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14

Seductive behavior is the absolute opposite of what you're describing
/r/seduction29/07/26 09:52 AM
1

I think it probably depends on your personality. I prefer being direct, it works better for me and I also much prefer directness when someone else is hitting on me
/r/seduction28/07/26 06:59 PM
3

This is honestly the element of first dates I dread the most lol. It's an objectively different experience when you're sitting side by side where you can touch her arm or leg, but sometimes it's logistically impossible. It's laughable how much of a difference this can make it in the outcome of an evening
/r/seduction28/07/26 06:57 AM
4

Exactly. His problem is not feeling comfortable expressing his true feelings and needs
/r/seduction28/07/26 01:57 AM
8

This is an incredible sentence 😂
/r/seduction28/07/26 01:57 AM
3

Yeah more or less lol I think once the modern brain developed some kind of rules of socializing developed not long after. Not the same ones we have, and clearly rape existed in war. But I don’t think peacetime interaction was the free-for-all portrayed in fiction
/r/seduction27/07/26 09:26 PM
4

I think that has been overstated greatly
/r/seduction27/07/26 08:25 PM
1

I can’t say if it’s salvageable at this point. In my experience women have a pretty low tolerance for inaction from a man they’re initially attracted to
/r/seduction27/07/26 01:06 AM
1

I mean we didn’t get to the point where she would flirt with them
/r/seduction27/07/26 12:59 AM
1

No, just from this happening several times and better observation. The next time I saw the signs of interest I capitalized quick lol and those always turned out to be the women who wanted to hop into bed immediately
/r/seduction27/07/26 12:44 AM
1

When this happened to me it was because she felt rejected by me, so she was going to feel better by getting attention from someone else. In her mind she made obvious signs of interest to me, and I didn’t reciprocate
/r/seduction27/07/26 12:34 AM
7

Man I’m so disappointed at myself that I didn’t see through this fiction lol
/r/seduction27/07/26 12:15 AM
9

I disagree. Last year my life was the most fulfilling it's ever been, I was extremely satisfied with the direction of my career and also getting all kinds of new opportunities for my own fine art projects. I also had lots of dating prospects and dated / hooked up with 10+ women in the prior year. But I met this girl who I immediately had this crazy connection with, more than anyone I'd met up to that point, and I was obsessed with her after the first date. It hasn't happened before or since, I d…
/r/seduction25/07/26 09:35 PM
5

Idk if it's just me but if she has a terrible personality, she doesn't even look visually good to me anymore. I mean facial expressions and gestures are a huge part of how we perceive people
/r/seduction24/07/26 08:56 PM
0

I don’t give a shit what’s on YouTube, what does that have to do with you filming women without asking them?
/r/seduction24/07/26 06:46 PM
5

Apps can be really effective but the difference is that not all women are on apps. I’ve noticed a lot of women I’ve met on apps just got out of a serious relationship and they see the app as a last resort to find someone
/r/seduction24/07/26 10:04 AM
1

Yes, using a “spycam” without consent is creepy
/r/seduction24/07/26 10:03 AM
1

I'm always pleasantly surprised by how healthy this subreddit is right now
/r/seduction23/07/26 08:21 PM
1

I'm the same way
/r/seduction23/07/26 08:19 PM
6

yeah this is true. In general you don't escalate to any particular sex act, you just go from making out to foreplay and then when she's ready she'll make it clear
/r/seduction23/07/26 06:56 PM
1

Don’t call so much just set up dates
/r/seduction22/07/26 07:41 PM
4

lol ok this is some great reality tv I want to know what happens next
/r/seduction22/07/26 12:03 AM
1

These are extremely antisocial viewpoints, I genuinely recommend that you speak to a therapist about this stuff
/r/seduction21/07/26 09:26 PM
14

wtf are you talking about? Please sort out these issues before interacting with other people irl
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:55 PM
1

yeah this is 100% "nice guy" vibes, not a good path to go down when you start thinking people owe you shit
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:29 PM
1

This isn't a gender war, and anyone who sees it that way is just lashing out due to their own trauma. Every person is an individual and should be treated with respect, until/unless they show they are undeserving of it, in which case you should still walk away. Also, that woman's message is extremely considerate, she even offered to pay for the reservation ffs. You gotta be pretty deranged to react poorly to such a polite rejection
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:25 PM
1

It's absolutely not true that women move on easier. They might get laid quicker after a breakup, but I've met many women who had unbreakable attachments to their ex. I was the ex in one of the cases
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:23 PM
5

The hard truth is that she wouldn't say that to someone she was crazy about. She wanted to have some fun with you, and you're making it not fun now, so just make your continued interest clear, and then give her some space
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:04 PM
3

People don't like feeling forgotten, and that might have happened when you were traveling and didn't text her. Making extreme gestures isn't going to help now though, just be normal and say you'd love to see her again when she has some time. And then move on
/r/seduction21/07/26 07:57 PM
30

This is what well-intentioned people mean when they say “just be yourself.” It turns out that being yourself with confidence is pretty difficult
/r/seduction21/07/26 03:24 AM
15

Actually the best advice, often women are flattered when they hear this, but after you do it a couple times you won’t even be nervous
/r/seduction16/07/26 03:46 PM
2

Yeah all of the things you mentioned really clean house with especially women in their late 20s+. It’s laughable how many American men still think they should be aloof and “manly” around women
/r/seduction13/07/26 03:48 AM
1

This is my question lol
/r/seduction10/07/26 01:25 AM
3

Really embodying the vulnerability part completely changed my dating life. Specifically saying things like “I’m feeling nervous” for example on a date. Which eventually led to no longer feeling nervous, and then I could be vulnerable about more attractive emotions. I still think it should be considered a side effect, but it kind of surprised me how many options I ended up with, and how beautiful the women were
/r/seduction09/07/26 12:36 AM
4

It's not about "effectiveness," it's about becoming the best, most truthful and confident version of yourself. And a side effect is that there's more potential for meaningful social interactions
/r/seduction08/07/26 10:15 PM
1

Every woman I've hooked up with more than once has eventually pushed for a relationship. Try to not make sweeping generalizations
/r/seduction07/07/26 07:35 PM
8

Yeah this is true but there’s a huge range within women I’m attracted to. They have to have a pretty unique beauty for me to feel butterflies for example, and those are the ones I tend to fall in love with
/r/seduction06/07/26 07:09 PM
40

You’re right, the most beautiful women I’ve dated were often the nicest and sometimes the shyest. They had issues, which became clear after getting to know them better, but I wouldn’t call any of them bitchy
/r/seduction05/07/26 04:31 PM
2

Yeah I agree, I think she saw that as a rejection
/r/seduction04/07/26 08:24 PM
1

this is much better, it's voicing desire rather than barking orders like you're in the military
/r/seduction03/07/26 11:38 PM
1

that's cringe, I'm sorry. True leaders don't have to bluster
/r/seduction03/07/26 11:37 PM
1

That troublemaker line makes me cringe so hard that I could never use it
/r/seduction01/07/26 06:16 AM
6

That’s because the sales pitch usually encourages that belief
/r/seduction30/06/26 02:50 AM
8

That’s such a good question to ask yourself in dating situations. Anyone who is really keen is going to be careful not to fuck things up
/r/seduction30/06/26 12:59 AM
2

That’s an awesome story lol and I’ve had the same experience. If anything, the richest ones cared the least about my income
/r/seduction30/06/26 12:09 AM
3

Some parents really just want to fuck their kids up for life, it’s sad. But you can get over this, force yourself into uncomfortable social situations and find a behavioral therapist to meet with once a week
/r/seduction28/06/26 06:04 PM
2

It’s possible you just didn’t have a good therapist too, they vary a ton and they also have different specialties. Talk therapy didn’t work for me, the therapist who helped me most specialized in behavioral therapy. And he was a man if that means anything lol it’s not a female coded profession
/r/seduction27/06/26 08:04 PM
3

You’re completely right, friends of mine that seem to have the most trouble dating are the ones who place so much burden on the women they meet to “make them feel like a man” or make them feel accepted, or whole. Being comfortable with your own identity makes you fun to be around
/r/seduction27/06/26 04:35 PM
7

Totally disagree on therapy. Learning to be comfortable with who I am (partly through therapy) made me so much better with women it was unbelievable. And I have several friends who clearly need therapy to work through insecurity issues that hold them back in dating
/r/seduction27/06/26 04:33 PM
7

Yeah man she’s insane lol and I’ve been there the sex was incredible. For some reason the insanity itself made the sex better too, it was like a break from the dullness of everyday life
/r/seduction25/06/26 05:08 AM
3

This isn’t exactly how women work in my experience. When they fall in love with a guy they don’t care about other options. But often they get into relationships with men they don’t love
/r/seduction25/06/26 02:33 AM
48

I doubt it’s about you, she was probably on the rebound or something. That would explain the intensity too, she was looking for something to fill a gap in her emotional life
/r/seduction25/06/26 02:31 AM
1

There are a lot of other potential factors here you're not considering. He might being giving off desperate or insecure energy, and women are way better than men at detecting that. You might be a really appealing alternative if you're just out to have a good time. Also you're not factoring in face, voice, etc.
/r/seduction22/06/26 02:08 AM
1

Are Istanbul women open to this? Seems like an odd choice
/r/seduction19/06/26 12:43 AM
1

ok just ghost her then and watch more clavicular
/r/seduction18/06/26 06:16 PM
1

There’s no need to hide stuff from your date you’re 33. Mention it’s your birthday during the date and don’t make a big deal about it, she’ll probably be happy and feel special that you chose to spend it with her
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:55 PM
1

Bruh stop being so insecure holy shit. You’re having a great time, enjoy it. This isn’t a comedy competition wtf
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:40 PM
3

A hand on the knee has never failed for me, especially when it’s unacknowledged. I put my hand on her knee and continued talking as normal, and she scooted closer. As we talked my hand gradually moved up her thigh, I was so bricked up lmao I had to cross my legs
/r/seduction18/06/26 07:31 AM
2

This is a hilarious statement on the face of it but I’m glad you made it there
/r/seduction15/06/26 07:12 PM
1

Yes but this wasn’t too long, this is a great post, it’s so true about the infinite complexity of real life. W e forget that the things we read online are always a narrative of some kind - one person’s oversimplification of the real world.
/r/seduction14/06/26 12:25 PM
1

No, they make themselves unattractive through their toxic beliefs and behaviors. Yes, certain women would never have been attracted to them based on looks. But they're now cutting out everyone else. I'm seeing a friend go through this right now, he used to do okay with women despite being insecure about his height. Now he's made bodybuilding his entire personality, and he's increasingly blackpilled about his beliefs in women. And women avoid him like the plague, despite his improved aesthetics.
/r/seduction12/06/26 11:56 PM
1

"give me a kiss" is not ideal, if you were already making deep eye contact you should have kissed her then
/r/seduction12/06/26 09:25 AM
1

This dynamic is why I hate the club scene. It’s so gross that the guy who gets laid in that environment is literally just the most stupidly persistent one willing to push all boundaries. Can’t count the number of times I’ve seen a woman pushed up against a wall looking extremely uncomfortable at a club
/r/seduction12/06/26 08:11 AM
1

I'm not on either side of this debate, I'm just enjoying it thoroughly lol it good to see some intelligent discussion on here
/r/seduction11/06/26 11:54 PM
2

Yeah I think even just a direct, immediate approach would be better than nonverbal nonsense. Because when does it end? Once she looks sufficiently disgusted? If he approaches immediately he could say something like "hey sorry to interrupt your workout, just wanted to say you're just my type and wondered if you'd like to grab a coffee sometime". That gives her the opportunity to shut it down right away, at which point he should obviously leave her alone completely. As a straight man, the only tim…
/r/seduction11/06/26 10:55 AM
5

I never thought of it that way, but I also never get shit tests when I’m completely authentic. Good observation
/r/seduction11/06/26 10:03 AM
5

Yeah women respond really well to plain honesty, even in cases where I told them “I’m nervous” on a first date, it went great
/r/seduction11/06/26 09:59 AM
12

Dude how long were you at this Starbucks
/r/seduction11/06/26 03:47 AM
67

Never take off your shirt before kissing lol, light touches / leaning against each other is the first step, then kissing. Never skip the kissing! And don't rush it either, she'll make it obvious when she's ready to move to the next step once you're making out
/r/seduction07/06/26 09:33 PM
1

That’s not hostile man they just weren’t interested
/r/seduction07/06/26 08:45 PM
0

Nah it was too much, it was uncalibrated. In my experience texts should just be friendly and enthusiastic at the beginning, save the bold stuff for in person where it’s easier to convey your intentions through body language
/r/seduction07/06/26 07:22 PM
1

He definitely doesn’t own a dog house
/r/seduction06/06/26 10:02 PM
1

this is very good haha
/r/seduction04/06/26 01:10 AM
3

This may sound strange, but every woman who asked me if I was gay wanted to fuck me. So take it as a compliment, women also really like guys who are secure and comfortable with having some feminine traits. In my experience, they usually asked this if I wasn't moving quickly enough with them, it was coming from them feeling insecure about being desirable.
/r/seduction04/06/26 01:08 AM
2

texting sucks so much, I think it's the only place where you have to follow rules like this. In person, being authentic solves pretty much everything
/r/seduction02/06/26 10:09 PM
3

I’ve experienced the same thing, and it happens on first dates from apps too. Oftentimes, less conventionally attractive women will act dismissive and judgmental until I make a move, and suddenly a switch is flipped. Suddenly she feels permission to show interest, and she’s all over me. It’s simple insecurity on their part, and fear of rejection. Men and women aren’t much different that way - my most insecure male friends have a hostile attitude toward women too
/r/seduction02/06/26 07:13 PM
13

I think the number 1 killer of attraction for women is that "not having fun" thing you mentioned. I swear they can smell that on you a mile away, and I'm currently seeing a friend go through this. The less success he has with women, the more bitter he gets about it, and this makes women avoid him more, and so on. Even when he smiles and jokes around they can still sense the bitterness underneath
/r/seduction30/05/26 08:39 AM
1

Wait so you say you have terrible exes, but then you say you’re friends with all your exes?
/r/seduction27/05/26 07:53 AM
2

It’s possible you’re trying too hard. Yes, there are skills to learn to have better conversations and dates, but ultimately women want to see who you really are. If you’re so focused on game they probably don’t feel like you’re behaving like a real person. Try opening up more. It might sound counterintuitive, but something that really helped me was just telling women if I was feeling nervous on the date, for example. The interaction was so much more genuine from that point on, and they really wa…
/r/seduction27/05/26 05:58 AM
6

If you don't have an issue with your ex it's a mental thing. Don't start with medicating the physical symptoms, treat the anxiety. The thing that helped me most was focusing on enjoying being naked with a woman, with no pressure on myself to perform at all. Paradoxically, that's when you relax and then you can peform
/r/seduction26/05/26 11:16 PM
2

Idk apps have been super successful for me recently. In California if that matters
/r/seduction25/05/26 11:00 PM
1

lol why do you think that
/r/seduction23/05/26 03:44 AM
12

This is great self-reflection, and I think you'd really benefit from therapy
/r/seduction22/05/26 08:20 AM
8

No, you're just insecure, we're not playing poker against these women lol we're trying to have a positive, upbeat interaction. I get great responses when I give women compliments (leading eventually to sex)
/r/seduction20/05/26 10:15 PM
1

If you ask them to eat with you, they know you're hitting on them. I think it's better to be direct, when I've been hit on by gay dudes I only felt creeped out by the ones who didn't make their intentions clear. One dude came up to me in a club and straight up asked if I wanted to make out, but he was so relaxed about it that it was 100% clear he'd be okay with a rejection. I said no and he was totally cool, proceeded to try to wingman for me with girls
/r/seduction19/05/26 08:00 PM
2

I think it really doesn't matter. Imagine a guy who has zero investment in this girl, would he care if an undelivered text ended up sent later? Or would you care if she did the same to you? These things are immaterial.
/r/seduction19/05/26 09:20 AM
8

just send another text with a question. Who cares if it's a "double text" that only matters if you're clearly oblivious to her disinterest
/r/seduction19/05/26 07:48 AM
1

There’s nothing wrong with having a crush, it’s one of the things that gives life meaning
/r/seduction18/05/26 08:47 AM
8

If you're saying your behavior over text has zero impact in how she feels about you, I disagree
/r/seduction18/05/26 04:24 AM
57

In my experience, if you don't text first after hooking up you're running a high risk she'll feel used, and auto-reject you
/r/seduction18/05/26 01:32 AM
5

Black pill nonsense
/r/seduction17/05/26 09:41 PM
5

Yeah the problem is this can often happen even if you’re completely explicit about your intentions. I told a girl I wasn’t looking for anything serious and just want to be on the same page before we go further (have sex). She said “absolutely, I feel the same way completely.” I get to her apartment and she has 1950s love songs playing and a bottle of wine ready, she wants to cuddle and hold hands on the couch lol
/r/seduction17/05/26 09:40 PM
10

man I'm exactly the same way, I think the other commenter is right, just focus on moving your feet. I had to do this when confronting my boss today as well, all I could think of was putting one foot in front of the other, and then the words came out automatically
/r/seduction14/05/26 09:16 AM
1

I'm the same way, but you gotta realize that once she's given you that "look", she's going to make the conversation as easy as possible. I've never been wrong the few times I've approached a woman after that look, they've always been eager to talk to me and give out their number
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:00 AM
2

This is totally right. Women like attention from men they find attractive, it’s as simple as that. So you confidently give them some attention and see how they respond, if it’s a no move on
/r/seduction12/05/26 11:51 PM
3

yeah man, it's a lesson I have to keep relearning as well haha. I hooked up with a women within 30 minutes of meeting at a bar last weekend. Got her number the next morning, set up a date for the next weekend. Then she canceled on me because she was pissed that I went silent after texting the date details lol
/r/seduction12/05/26 07:39 PM
-2

lol okay buddy
/r/seduction12/05/26 07:12 PM
1

Totally disagree, I've seen this proven time and time again. I suppose it could be differences in how women react to different men. I have RBF and I always strike out if I don't make an extra effort to show that I'm interested. But all women are sensitive to perceived rejection
/r/seduction12/05/26 06:53 PM
1

I don’t think it was about how much she liked him. Everyone forgets how sensitive women are to rejection too. In her mind, she approached him, she made an extra effort to make a connection, and then he valued her so little that he waited two whole days to reach out. To most women that’s a rejection and they absolutely hate it
/r/seduction12/05/26 06:37 PM
24

Nah, for me the more interested she is, the more likely she’ll be offended if I don’t pursue immediately
/r/seduction12/05/26 06:35 PM
11

You waited too long to text, in my experience even trying to set up a date via text at all is too late. The women I’ve met seem to think that unless you’re setting up a date for the same day, “she can do better” that is, she can find a guy who is more excited about her
/r/seduction12/05/26 06:34 PM
8

If she offered to drive you she wanted to leave the possibility for a kiss
/r/seduction11/05/26 11:11 AM
11

It's true that health is important in general, but I don't think it's realistic to look good only for yourself, unless your jacking it to the mirror
/r/seduction11/05/26 08:04 AM
10

It's pretty lame to have "image" and "results" as primary considerations in getting a tattoo. Women like tattoos that mean something to you, they're a part of who you are
/r/seduction10/05/26 05:02 AM
1

In my experience, the only women who reacted that way weren't into me. I'd move on, even shy women reciprocate eagerly if they like you
/r/seduction10/05/26 04:12 AM
6

stoicism is not the way to get women lol I got no women until I dropped that shit
/r/seduction09/05/26 02:51 AM
1

That’s a great metaphor
/r/seduction06/05/26 07:08 PM
4

Hot and cold works on people you’re already sleeping with, for better or worse. But talking about seduction, I’m speaking of women you just met, and in that case you need to give them a lot of attention
/r/seduction06/05/26 07:05 PM
19

I think you’re right in that it’s not possible to be 100% detached. But the more you shed insecurities, you can approach but never quite reach that ideal
/r/seduction06/05/26 11:10 AM
88

Not giving a fuck about the outcome. But also showing a lot of interest and giving a lot of your time to her
/r/seduction06/05/26 07:48 AM
1

There are two problems for me with this approach: I'm not a comedian, I don't know how to "entertain" a large group of people (especially not one that didn't invite me) It's inauthentic, because I have no interest in the other women, I just want to talk to her. Every time I've had success with women, it was through expressing interest authentically
/r/seduction06/05/26 03:52 AM
-1

Lol get real, nothing is a crime until you start pressuring someone to do something they don't want to. And people can change their minds. Yes, she probably intended to smash when she went home with him, but she has every right to change her mind once she gets there. Jesus you're giving me the creeps
/r/seduction05/05/26 10:21 PM
1

Personally, the cheating on the bf part would kill it for me, how is she even desirable?
/r/seduction05/05/26 09:14 PM
0

Don’t push women to do things they’re not comfortable with, wtf. People admitting to actual crimes online
/r/seduction05/05/26 07:43 PM
1

Oneitis as a form of insecurity is a real thing, but sometimes you meet a woman who’s actually way more interesting than any other option. Some people are singular, and falling in love with them / getting your heart broken is the source of great songs and poetry, it’s a real thing lol
/r/seduction05/05/26 07:38 PM
3

This is the strangest writing style but still entertaining when I skimmed it lol. The situation is very simple: she’s grieving and wanted a no-strings attached fling with you for a fun distraction. You made her uncomfortable by getting way too in your feelings before you’d even smashed
/r/seduction05/05/26 07:34 PM
2

“If you are paying attention to a woman, she is winning. You are validating the notion that she is important to you by giving her space in your mind“ This is what I was responding to, I don’t think it’s true. But I agree that giving attention on social media isn’t a good idea if you’re not also interacting with her in person
/r/seduction04/05/26 10:36 PM
1

Idk man, I used to believe this, but I realized I was missing so many opportunities because I was not giving enough attention, and they were offended. Like I’d get a girl’s number at a bar and then take my leave so she could hang out with her friends. Not the move lol she wants you to think she’s the hottest person you’ve seen all night
/r/seduction04/05/26 07:53 PM
7

The world is cooked if people are already asking this shit for deep personality advice
/r/seduction04/05/26 07:03 PM
1

it also really depends on how you're looking at them and the cadence of the conversation. It 100% does not have to be sexual to be flirting, but that's okay too when the conversation has progressed
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:51 AM
0

somehow I always thought women would want to set up the candles themselves though lol, they don't question why you have them as a man? I'd think it would come across either effeminate or performative
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:49 AM
3

Flirting can be as simple as asking questions to get to know more about her (where did you grow up, how did you like it there, etc) and then making playful observations about her personality on the basis of her answers. It doesn't have to be this scary difficult thing or immediately sexual
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:05 AM
15

what's the deal with using candles to get laid?
/r/seduction03/05/26 09:34 AM
12

You’ve identified a growth edge lol
/r/seduction03/05/26 08:10 AM
20

No, her comment is pretty straightforward. I feel the same way about women, even if they're conventionally attractive, if their personality is completely flat and there's nothing intriguing about their face, I have zero interest in putting in the effort to talk to them
/r/seduction02/05/26 11:23 PM
2

Nonsense, personality and social skills are equally as important as physical attractiveness
/r/seduction02/05/26 04:11 PM
7

I’m so sick of this ChatGPT formatting, way too many short partial sentences and periods
/r/seduction29/04/26 09:56 AM
2

When the tiktok popped up on their feed, 60k women felt that they agreed with the sentiment. Five minutes later, those same women could be thinking of Jacob Elordi and think "men are so hot." Don't take this stuff seriously, people will endorse generalizations of any kind based on the emotion of the moment.
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:58 AM
1

The weirdest thing is that this happens even when they're the one approaching me
/r/seduction28/04/26 02:27 AM
1

I don't think it's wrong for adults to get together, but I think teenagers being peak attraction for you may point to some of the issues that have left you a virgin at 29
/r/seduction28/04/26 01:12 AM
7

When you aren't specific, she doesn't know what she's agreeing to. For all she knows, you might be planning for her to show up to your sex dungeon on Friday, no date at all
/r/seduction27/04/26 10:23 PM
1

ngl wanting 18-21 year olds specifically is pretty creepy, that attitude will not help you
/r/seduction27/04/26 10:19 PM
22

Look at what you wrote and realize how silly it is: "I'm not even capable of approaching a girl or flirt at all". At a random club there are zero stakes. No one is going to call the police if you just try to talk to them, it doesn't matter how awkward it is. The only thing you're lacking is the balls to put your needs first, any conversational skills will come with practice
/r/seduction27/04/26 10:16 PM
1

I got tons of dates from apps and I’m definitely not a 10. I am 6’4 so that’s a factor, but I got poor results until I really improved my photos
/r/seduction26/04/26 10:04 PM
1

That’s not literally true about counseling
/r/seduction23/04/26 07:34 PM
1

no, you say what's on your mind. For example, "hey you look great, what's your name"
/r/seduction22/04/26 01:45 AM
5

Sometimes it’s also that she wants a guy who is extremely into her, because she is insecure about abandonment. But a no is always a no, you really have to have some good nonverbal communication skills to know when she’s just playing hard to get
/r/seduction21/04/26 11:26 PM
1

not necessary, ask where they're from, what it was like growing up there, why'd they move here, how do they like to spend their time, etc. There are literally infinite conversation options that are personal and engaging
/r/seduction21/04/26 05:50 AM
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Yes, I was getting dates like crazy from Hinge, but it started to feel really cynical. I completely lost all excitement for first dates with someone I met online, and I started to get the impression the women felt the same way, they seemed to think less of our connection since it started online. I deleted the apps about 4 months ago and I'm trying to learn how to approach women more in person. I've had some good convos but no dates yet, kind of hard to stay the path lol considering how much easi…
/r/seduction21/04/26 02:57 AM
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I don't think that's interest level, as much as just how sensitive any particular woman is to perceived rejection. Some women don't give a shit and will keep giving you more opportunities or even make a move themselves, but in my experience they tend to be the crazier ones
/r/seduction21/04/26 02:33 AM
1

This guy is correct. As guys it's wild how often we underestimate how horny women can be
/r/seduction21/04/26 01:33 AM
1

In the past I would say she's just not interested, but I've recently realized something - women absolutely hate to see low interest or friendzoning behavior from a guy. When you were talking at her car, you should have kissed her or invited her somewhere else (your place, or to a bar etc). Women who aren't interested just leave. Instead, she was lingering to give you a chance to do something, and when you didn't, she decided there was no spark
/r/seduction21/04/26 01:31 AM
1

Ghosting is always wrong, just explain the situation by text and don't see her again
/r/seduction20/04/26 09:57 PM
2

There doesn’t have to be anything performative about wild, rough sex
/r/seduction20/04/26 11:57 AM
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Yes it shows that you actually care about yourself and think you’re worth having a good life. It doesn’t matter so much how the interaction goes, it’s still self-affirming
/r/seduction20/04/26 08:07 AM
2

I've experienced this repeatedly on dates from apps. The conventionally less attractive women are very sensitive to any perceived disinterest or rejection from me
/r/seduction20/04/26 05:30 AM
3

tf are you talking about
/r/seduction18/04/26 12:41 PM
2

Idk man if you have decent conversation skills you can talk your way out of almost any introduction
/r/seduction18/04/26 12:22 PM
3

That's a silly take, an in-person interaction is always going to be way more important and relevant in her mind than random online matches. She probably wanted only something casual, or the date just didn't go as well as he thought
/r/seduction16/04/26 10:16 PM
10

She probably just wanted a hookup. I've experienced the same kind of intense interest from women I've met at bars, it totally evaporates the next day
/r/seduction16/04/26 10:12 PM
1

Yeah I’ve had the same experience. Ironically, I had my most success with women when I was unemployed, because I was able to put a lot more effort into communication and setting up dates
/r/seduction15/04/26 06:16 PM
1

Idk, sometimes this is true but I think far more often, women just want a guy who is attracted to them and will ask them out on dates. And the texting frequency doesn’t matter so much
/r/seduction15/04/26 06:12 PM
1

Confidence is a big one, but making the woman feel desired is also really important. That has always been my failing point, even just making one deliberately flirty compliment on first dates changed my results overnight. I don't think most of us realize how horny women want men to be, once rapport and safety have been established.
/r/seduction15/04/26 01:09 AM
1

Very good advice actually
/r/seduction13/04/26 11:39 PM
1

Do you use the word “confer” in your convos with women
/r/seduction13/04/26 11:37 PM
1

Yeah that’s absolutely correct. I lost my virginity in my early twenties and that girl became my gf, and she was so in love and extremely affectionate/physical. When I ended that relationship years later I had sex with a lot of different women, but at no point did I feel “more desirable” than I did with my first gf
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:52 PM
1

this is very true, you have to be comfortable with who you are, even if that's someone who's a bit awkward
/r/seduction11/01/26 07:30 AM
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I think if you're considering this you don't actually love your gf as much as you think. I don't say that to be harsh, just that I had this same thought of "missing out" frequently in an LTR, and I finally realized the relationship just wasn't working. In a later LTR I was absolutely crazy about her, and would never consider leaving for the sake of dicking around
/r/seduction07/01/26 11:37 AM
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asking for reassurance is generally a turnoff. But you also need to show a lot of enthusiasm to see them again, it's about positive energy instead of negative
/r/seduction07/01/26 09:44 AM
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