Quietly_Curious

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2	Wife says she has “Outgrown our Marriage” ….someone with a “growth mindset.” You're better off than someone holding this against you. My ex claimed we "grew apart," when in reality she had actually run off with someone else. She wants someone with a bank account that matches what she expects to be given to her. Early on I wasn't "pulling my weight" because I was working shitty jobs until she finished school. Then she decided that my growth afterwards wasn't enough for her and she started looking elsewhere, while loaning me out to help h…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/23 10:09 PM
2	Wife is the one who wants out, but is putting forth no effort to proceed with the divorce Glad to hear man, you're gonna get through to better days. The only other advice that I have is to write down everything and make note of every time she pulls some shit, ie bails/no-shows, gets caught lying, etc. This isn't the woman that you married, you can't trust her until she shows that she deserves it. Protect yourself with as much paper as possible.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/23 08:21 PM
3	Wife is the one who wants out, but is putting forth no effort to proceed with the divorce My STBXW pulled this, and while no kids, I wish I had taken the opportunity instead of trying to be nice and believing that she wanted to be amicable. Don't wait for her, do what you need to do for you and your kids. Should you have to do the leg work? Not the fuck at all, she wanted it and should be mature enough to understand the responsibilities that come with these types of adult-decisions. Should you do the work anyways? Absolutely. She isn't acting in good faith and until she can be an adu…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/23 07:45 PM
2	Just a quick rant. I’m going through a divorce… instead of communicating our issues with each other she was communicating/venting to other people and got validation or opinions from them on our relationship. Which is fine to some extent I have issues with emotional regulation, ADHD, so years ago I developed a habit of bouncing things off of the closest friends that I could because their heads weren't up my ass, unlike mine. I've always found it helpful to have others act as the sounding board where I could carve out if I had good reason to be…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/23 06:26 PM
2	Divorcing Wife Vocabulary Wow..	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/23 08:18 PM
2	Divorcing Wife Vocabulary “I’m scared of him” Replace him with "you," when I dedicated years to being less intimidating, and at no time did she take a breath and acknowledge my efforts by actually reciprocating. She manipulated me into thinking that my mental health was the problem and that I always had more self-work to do. “I want to keep this amicable” This didn't even last a week before she started lying to me and ghosting me. Hell, she even told me she had hoped we could be more than just civil, even after she outli…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/23 05:29 PM
1	How much did divorce cost you? She told me she thought it was best to seek legal counsel but wouldn't tell me if that meant to lawyer up, and since they know this shit better than me I went ahead. I'm not sure of the legality, not that this is the sub for it, but a friend of hers seems to be acting as her representation, even though said friend is not a lawyer. So far I put up the retainer but (hopefully) will be getting some of that back, plus part of her pension, so I should hopefully be in the green once all is said and do…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/07/23 08:20 PM
2	Pls help me not read too much into this She then went on to badmouth me to everyone she could find on social media She gaslit my family and friends about me She sold them more fables than Grimm I won't go into the list of everything she took when she sneaked out while I was at work, but suffice it to say it included the car, the cash in our shared bank accounts, most of the furniture, and our baby daughter. She then immediately put an order of protection against me with baseless accusations of various forms of abuse I read these... an…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/06/23 06:04 PM
1	Leftover pictures My heart goes out to you, brother. My STBXW did a 180° and is a completely different person from the woman I married. We were together for 9 years and had just "celebrated" our 4th anniversary a week earlier. I've since come to realize that that woman is going to be in some of my most precious memories - me graduating university, holding my niece hours after she was born and the birthdays that followed, the day my family had to put down our dog that we had had for 14 years, she had even performe…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/23 07:54 PM

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